Dating Profile Tips That Give High Value Mate

Photo #1. YOUR SMILING FACE Your main profile photo will get the best results if it is a headshot or a waist-up shot – with no breast cleavage. This photo should show you smiling and looking directly at camera. Research shows that men find a friendly, smiling female face most sexually attractive.

Photo #2. THE WHOLE YOU Now that your smile tells him that you are safe and welcoming, and probably not a floozy. (I’m not slut-shaming, I tell you. I’m just reminding you about evolved male psychology.) he wants to know what your body is like. A full-length body-shot comes next. Before you now accuse me of body-shaming, I want you to know that there is a man out there for every BODY. He’s a guy who loves your body exactly as it is, as long as you do. Exhibiting confidence about your body through posture and strutting, is sexy.

Photo #3. WHAT YOU DO Here’s a chance to show him the hobby or work that you are most passionate about. This isn’t the thing you aspire to do more often, like those exotic travel shots or once-in-a lifetime photos. This is the photo that shows you in your milieu. It’s who you are when you are in your zone. Whatever it is, show him who you are.

Photo #4. SHY BATHING SUIT Coy. Demure. Subtle. Careful. Partial. These should be the words in your head when deciding which shot of you in a bathing suit to put on a profile. No full monte here, Ladies! Now I do want to say that, if you are a “woman of a certain age” do not put a picture of yourself in a bathing suit. No need to. That goes for men over 45 too. Really dudes? We do not want to see you shirtless in a bathroom selfie when you are past your physical prime. Here’s why older women should follow the same rule. You have so many more attributes than your physique. You are wise, smart, experienced, nurturing and connected. You may have raised kids, founded charities, managed offices, run church committees, and been CEO of your household. Your skills are valuable! And men want these things too. Resorting to the female mating strategies of a 25-year-old, sends one of the following messages:

1. I’m looking for sex, not commitment.
2. I’m stuck in the past and haven’t matured.

3. I’m insecure. I hope you think I’m hot because that’s all I think I have to offer.

Photo #5 – YOUR WILDCARD This is the shot to show a particular part of your personality or lifestyle that is important for him to know about. I want to remind you that if he finds this core thing about you to be a turn-off then you have been saved a whole lot of time. Please keep reminding yourself, you are not trying to mildly appeal to a lot of men. You are trying to enthusiastically appeal to one perfect guy. The one who says, “Wow. She’s the one for me!”

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