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(00:01):
You thought you were going to betogether forever with your ex
and yet here you are broken up. However, you still feel like
you're meant to be. Maybe you feel that your ex is
your soulmate. Are there any signs that you and
your ex are meant to be? Why yes there are and I'm about
(00:22):
to give you 8 of them, so stay tuned.
Hi, this is Lucia with The Art of Love.
I'm a dating and relationship expert specializing in helping
you get your ex back or to get over your ex.
And welcome back my beautiful nocontact army.
Have you been a good little soldier?
If you have, then you've stated no contact and you've downloaded
(00:42):
my app Silencio to help you withthat task.
And if you 2 would like to join our army, all you have to do is
hit the subscribe button and thebell notification and you're in.
And to read our manual, go to nocontactsecrets.com where you
can read 2 free chapters before you purchase the book.
OK, let's get right into it. I'm sure you want to know.
(01:05):
So #1 is that your breakup was amicable and peaceful?
Yes, it is possible. I know, hard to believe there
wasn't a lot of damage done after the relationship.
So you haven't or they haven't burned the bridge forever.
Now keep in mind that sometimes if a breakup is amicable and
(01:26):
peaceful, it may be because one of the parties has a very low
interest level. So if they're not that
attracted, they're not going to have a negative reaction to the
breakup or make a big deal out of being dumped or being the
dumper. So you need to ask yourself, was
there enough attraction in the relationship or was the breakup
(01:48):
peaceful? Peaceful because your ex didn't
really care or maybe because youdon't really care.
The second sign is that the reason for the breakup was
timing. Maybe they just got out of a
long term relationship or marriage, and often someone like
that wants to be free for a period of time.
(02:10):
They either want to be alone andnot deal with any relationship
or they just want to date aroundeven if they have a great
relationship with you. I know it sucks because you
didn't do anything wrong and therelationship was great and it's
only because of timing. And one of my clients is
(02:31):
actually going through this right now and I constantly have
to talk her down off the ledge to make sure she doesn't reach
out and disrespect herself. However, if your bond was
strong, have faith that once they've dated around, they will
realize that you were the best choice.
(02:52):
The third sign is that your families like each other.
You were all very close and it was like you were married, just
without the ring. And this is really helpful
because it's difficult to have arelationship if their family
doesn't like you or your family doesn't like them or both
families don't like each other. When you marry someone, you're
(03:15):
also marrying into their family.People forget that.
They think, well, I just love him and who cares about the
family? Well, they're going to be
around. And you know, that's why we have
terms like sister-in-law, brother-in-law, etcetera.
Their family becomes your family.
Your family becomes their family.
The marriage doesn't exist in a vacuum.
(03:37):
So if both families like each other, it's possible that their
family will encourage them to patch things up and get back
together with you. They'll be rooting for you.
Yay. The next sign is that there's
mutual respect, appreciation, and understanding.
You have good communication. You can have a calm, respectful
(04:01):
conversation. You're not afraid to discuss the
breakup and you may even laugh about it.
So for the most part, the relationship was peaceful.
So you may be asking, well, if the relationship was that good,
why is there a breakup? Good, great question.
The breakup may have been because of circumstances or
(04:21):
timing as I mentioned earlier. And these are the most
frustrating breakups because youdidn't do anything wrong.
However, if the relationship wasreally good, as time goes by and
the circumstances or timing changes, there's a very good
chance you can get back together.
(04:44):
The next sign is just for women and this is that you had to
break up with your ex because hedidn't want to get married.
Yes, I know sometimes it's vice versa, but trust me, we all
know. Usually it's the guy that's
reluctant to get married and thewoman who has to quote UN quote
(05:04):
insist, which is actually ratherironic because data has shown
that actually men benefit more from marriage than women and men
who are married are happier and live longer.
But that's a whole other discussion.
So anyways, yes, many people whoare actually now happily married
(05:28):
broke up before they got marriedand then obviously got back
together. Two of my very good girlfriends
had that happen and they're still married decades later.
And even my sister and she has agreat marriage.
I've never seen them argue or fight and they're still very
polite with each other saying thank you and please.
(05:51):
And as I said, this often happens before the guy finally
wakes up and goes, Oh my God, what did I do?
I just lost the best person ever.
I I need to get them back. I'm being an idiot for not
wanting to commit. So if a woman respects herself,
she's not going to wait around pushing for a commitment.
(06:13):
She's going to have to leave andget on with her life and hope
that the guy realizes that she is the best person for him.
And then he'll come back and voila, you'll be getting
married. The next sign is you were the
best version of yourself with them and they were the best
(06:34):
version of themselves with you. It felt right when you were
together and you felt that you could take on the world.
Being together made each of yourlives better.
You were excited about what the future held for you as a couple.
You both had never felt this wayabout another person.
Time would stop when you were together and you wouldn't even
(06:56):
realize that hours and hours hadgone by.
You could be totally yourself without fear of being judged.
If this was your relationship, there's a very good chance that
you and your ex were meant to be.
Now, sometimes people break up for petty reasons or
misunderstandings. One of my clients, his wife
(07:16):
wanted a divorce and it was for a very petty reason which I
can't go into and she was going to move on with the divorce
until I came on the scene and did my thing with my client and
guess what? They're not getting divorced.
So sometimes it takes the personrealizing that you know what,
(07:38):
this is stupid. Like why did I break up with
that person? It was for a dumb reason.
There was really no reason to break up.
It's just my ego. So if that's your situation and
the relationship was really goodother than that issue, then
again, another sign you and yourex are meant to be.
And then the last one is that your ex had mental health issues
(08:03):
like depression and they were possibly on medication.
And people aren't themselves when they're depressed.
And often the medication that people take for depression can
alter their personality and makethem more apathetic.
And this may have caused them tobreak up with you.
So if they go off the medicationor they go off the medication
(08:26):
and their depression goes away another way, then there's a good
chance that they will realize the breakup was a mistake.
And actually, one of my clients went through this with with her
ex. And once he got off the
medication, he was himself againand they got back together.
So now I'm going to hear from you.
Do any of these 8 signs apply toyour situation and which one or
(08:50):
which ones? And in the meantime, if you
would like my help to get your ex back, you can contact me at
theartoflove.net/coaching and wewill send you the rates.
They're not on the website. And the direct link to that is
underneath every single video and podcast.
If you found this video helpful,please like, subscribe and
(09:11):
share. If you're listening to this as a
podcast and you'd like to help the show and please download
this episode. And finally, remember, love
inspires, empowers, uplifts and enlightens.
You thought you were going to betogether forever with your ex
and yet here you are broken up. However, you still feel like
you're meant to be. Maybe you feel that your ex is
your soulmate. Are there any signs that you and
your ex are meant to be? Why yes there are and I'm about
(00:22):
to give you 8 of them, so stay tuned.
Hi, this is Lucia with The Art of Love.
I'm a dating and relationship expert specializing in helping
you get your ex back or to get over your ex.
And welcome back my beautiful nocontact army.
Have you been a good little soldier?
If you have, then you've stated no contact and you've downloaded
(00:42):
my app Silencio to help you withthat task.
And if you 2 would like to join our army, all you have to do is
hit the subscribe button and thebell notification and you're in.
And to read our manual, go to nocontactsecrets.com where you
can read 2 free chapters before you purchase the book.
OK, let's get right into it. I'm sure you want to know.
(01:05):
So #1 is that your breakup was amicable and peaceful?
Yes, it is possible. I know, hard to believe there
wasn't a lot of damage done after the relationship.
So you haven't or they haven't burned the bridge forever.
Now keep in mind that sometimes if a breakup is amicable and
(01:26):
peaceful, it may be because one of the parties has a very low
interest level. So if they're not that
attracted, they're not going to have a negative reaction to the
breakup or make a big deal out of being dumped or being the
dumper. So you need to ask yourself, was
there enough attraction in the relationship or was the breakup
(01:48):
peaceful? Peaceful because your ex didn't
really care or maybe because youdon't really care.
The second sign is that the reason for the breakup was
timing. Maybe they just got out of a
long term relationship or marriage, and often someone like
that wants to be free for a period of time.
(02:10):
They either want to be alone andnot deal with any relationship
or they just want to date aroundeven if they have a great
relationship with you. I know it sucks because you
didn't do anything wrong and therelationship was great and it's
only because of timing. And one of my clients is
(02:31):
actually going through this right now and I constantly have
to talk her down off the ledge to make sure she doesn't reach
out and disrespect herself. However, if your bond was
strong, have faith that once they've dated around, they will
realize that you were the best choice.
(02:52):
The third sign is that your families like each other.
You were all very close and it was like you were married, just
without the ring. And this is really helpful
because it's difficult to have arelationship if their family
doesn't like you or your family doesn't like them or both
families don't like each other. When you marry someone, you're
(03:15):
also marrying into their family.People forget that.
They think, well, I just love him and who cares about the
family? Well, they're going to be
around. And you know, that's why we have
terms like sister-in-law, brother-in-law, etcetera.
Their family becomes your family.
Your family becomes their family.
The marriage doesn't exist in a vacuum.
(03:37):
So if both families like each other, it's possible that their
family will encourage them to patch things up and get back
together with you. They'll be rooting for you.
Yay. The next sign is that there's
mutual respect, appreciation, and understanding.
You have good communication. You can have a calm, respectful
(04:01):
conversation. You're not afraid to discuss the
breakup and you may even laugh about it.
So for the most part, the relationship was peaceful.
So you may be asking, well, if the relationship was that good,
why is there a breakup? Good, great question.
The breakup may have been because of circumstances or
(04:21):
timing as I mentioned earlier. And these are the most
frustrating breakups because youdidn't do anything wrong.
However, if the relationship wasreally good, as time goes by and
the circumstances or timing changes, there's a very good
chance you can get back together.
(04:44):
The next sign is just for women and this is that you had to
break up with your ex because hedidn't want to get married.
Yes, I know sometimes it's vice versa, but trust me, we all
know. Usually it's the guy that's
reluctant to get married and thewoman who has to quote UN quote
(05:04):
insist, which is actually ratherironic because data has shown
that actually men benefit more from marriage than women and men
who are married are happier and live longer.
But that's a whole other discussion.
So anyways, yes, many people whoare actually now happily married
(05:28):
broke up before they got marriedand then obviously got back
together. Two of my very good girlfriends
had that happen and they're still married decades later.
And even my sister and she has agreat marriage.
I've never seen them argue or fight and they're still very
polite with each other saying thank you and please.
(05:51):
And as I said, this often happens before the guy finally
wakes up and goes, Oh my God, what did I do?
I just lost the best person ever.
I I need to get them back. I'm being an idiot for not
wanting to commit. So if a woman respects herself,
she's not going to wait around pushing for a commitment.
(06:13):
She's going to have to leave andget on with her life and hope
that the guy realizes that she is the best person for him.
And then he'll come back and voila, you'll be getting
married. The next sign is you were the
best version of yourself with them and they were the best
(06:34):
version of themselves with you. It felt right when you were
together and you felt that you could take on the world.
Being together made each of yourlives better.
You were excited about what the future held for you as a couple.
You both had never felt this wayabout another person.
Time would stop when you were together and you wouldn't even
(06:56):
realize that hours and hours hadgone by.
You could be totally yourself without fear of being judged.
If this was your relationship, there's a very good chance that
you and your ex were meant to be.
Now, sometimes people break up for petty reasons or
misunderstandings. One of my clients, his wife
(07:16):
wanted a divorce and it was for a very petty reason which I
can't go into and she was going to move on with the divorce
until I came on the scene and did my thing with my client and
guess what? They're not getting divorced.
So sometimes it takes the personrealizing that you know what,
(07:38):
this is stupid. Like why did I break up with
that person? It was for a dumb reason.
There was really no reason to break up.
It's just my ego. So if that's your situation and
the relationship was really goodother than that issue, then
again, another sign you and yourex are meant to be.
And then the last one is that your ex had mental health issues
(08:03):
like depression and they were possibly on medication.
And people aren't themselves when they're depressed.
And often the medication that people take for depression can
alter their personality and makethem more apathetic.
And this may have caused them tobreak up with you.
So if they go off the medicationor they go off the medication
(08:26):
and their depression goes away another way, then there's a good
chance that they will realize the breakup was a mistake.
And actually, one of my clients went through this with with her
ex. And once he got off the
medication, he was himself againand they got back together.
So now I'm going to hear from you.
Do any of these 8 signs apply toyour situation and which one or
(08:50):
which ones? And in the meantime, if you
would like my help to get your ex back, you can contact me at
theartoflove.net/coaching and wewill send you the rates.
They're not on the website. And the direct link to that is
underneath every single video and podcast.
If you found this video helpful,please like, subscribe and
(09:11):
share. If you're listening to this as a
podcast and you'd like to help the show and please download
this episode. And finally, remember, love
inspires, empowers, uplifts and enlightens.
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