April 29, 2025 • 10 mins
You've been in no contact, haven't reached out to your ex and yet you still haven't heard from them. Does that mean no contact failed? Dating/relationship expert Lucia shares 2 actions you can take to get your ex to reach out.
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(00:00):
One of the top three questions my clients often ask me, besides
what you think my chances are ofgetting my ex back, is what else
can I do besides no contact? And this of course makes me
laugh because I'm giving you themost powerful tool in the X fact
(00:21):
toolbox and yet you still think it's not enough.
I understand it's because of your anxiety along with the
illusion of action. You're not used to doing
nothing, so you think that taking action is what's going to
get your ex back. So if you're in no contact and
it doesn't seem to be working, what else can you do?
(00:45):
Stay tuned and you'll find out. Hi, this is Lucia with the Art
of Love. I'm a dating and relationship
expert specializing in helping you get your ex back or to get
over your ex. And welcome back my beautiful no
contact Army. Have you been a good little
soldier? Well, if you have, then you have
not only downloaded my app Silencio, but you've given me
(01:07):
either a review or a rating or both and you just go to the App
Store or Google Play and it'll take you 30 seconds and I would
really appreciate it. And if you too would like to
join our no Contact Army, just hit the subscribe button and the
bell notification. And to read our no Contact Army
manual, go to nocontactsecrets.com where you
(01:30):
can read 2 free chapters before you purchase the book.
OK, so you're thinking that no contact didn't work because you
haven't heard from your ex. The first thing you need to ask
yourself is how long have you been in no contact?
I know that every day feels like100 days, but if you haven't
(01:50):
been in no contact long enough for it to work, then of course
it's going to look like it didn't work.
It didn't do its magic. And I see people in the comments
section all the time saying wellI've been in no contact and I
haven't heard from my ex. And then I say well how long
have you been in no contact? And they say 3 weeks.
(02:11):
That's way too soon. I've done a video on when you're
most likely to hear from your extitled the 60 day no contact
rule and I'll put the link in the upper right hand corner and
basically the majority of peoplewill hear from their ex between
days 45 to 60 after they start no contact.
(02:31):
So that's 6 to 8 weeks. Yes, I know that's a long time,
but that's just how long it takes.
So if it hasn't even been 60 days, then there's no way that
you can say that no contact didn't work.
And even then, if you're dealingwith an avoidant, or if this was
the second breakup, or if you kept breaking no contact, or so
(02:55):
many other variables, it will most likely take even longer
than 60 days. Also, are you even doing no
contact correctly? Do you keep breaking it?
Are you still looking at their stories?
Are you talking to mutual friends about how miserable you
are and that you want your ex back?
(03:16):
If you're doing any of those things, you're breaking no
contact, so of course it's not working.
No tool is going to work if you're not using it correctly.
So I suggest you check out my video on the rules of no contact
to make sure that you're doing it correctly.
And I'll put the link in the upper right hand corner on
(03:36):
YouTube in the videos because you're if you're on YouTube and
you're listening to the podcast version, there is no link as
someone asked. So you'll have to hop over to
the video section. Now keep in mind that they could
very well be thinking about you every day and missing you and
wanting to reach out, but something is stopping them.
(03:58):
Maybe it's because usually you were the chaser in the
relationship and they figure that at some point you're going
to reach out even though they dumped you.
Or maybe they're in a rebound right now.
And in that case, you'll have towait until that rebound is over
before they'll think about reaching out to you.
And of course, I did a video on rebounds and I'll put the link
(04:18):
in the upper right hand corner. Next we have to define what not
working means. So if as time goes by you become
stronger and you realize that actually you don't even want
your X back, that they weren't the right person for you, that
you deserve better than no contact, absolutely work.
(04:41):
It may not have worked to get your ex back, but it worked to
get you back. And that's more important.
Losing someone is difficult, butlosing yourself is even worse.
And when you get yourself back, you'll finally be able to
clearly see that they weren't the right person for you.
(05:01):
Possibly, and you're able to make a more rational decision
about whether you would even want to get back with them or
not. My client was in no contact for
seven months when his ex finallyreached out after not sending
even 1 little breadcrumb the entire seven months.
Now, unfortunately for his ex, he had met someone two weeks
(05:25):
earlier and he decided that he preferred her and they're
actually still together to this day and it looks like they're
going to get married. So in this case, in this case,
it's actually good that no contact didn't quote UN quote
work because it allowed him to move on and meet his future
wife. So no contact absolutely did
(05:48):
work because it kept his ex awayuntil he could meet someone who
was better suited for him. So if after listening to all
this, you're still one of those people who will not rest until
you absolutely do something besides no contact, OK, here are
two things you can do that will,let's say, motivate your ex to
(06:09):
reach out to you. The first one is to manifest a
text from your ex which I've done several videos on.
And for those who don't think it's possible, I want to show
you this screenshot from a non believer.
And he said either all of you are lying and he's talking to
(06:31):
the people who left comments underneath the video saying that
they had heard from their ex after doing the meditation.
Lying about getting the text or the chia is Kreskin.
I'm not Kreskin. And for those of you who are
wondering who the heck is Kreskin?
He was a mentalist similar to who David Blaine is today.
(06:52):
Well if you see below that comment, two days later he
writes Well well, well, I owe you an apology.
She texted me asking how I am. I just love it when people are
non believers and then they prove themselves wrong.
So why not try it? What do you have to lose?
(07:12):
So I'll put the link to the video on how to manifest a text
on the upper right hand corner on the YouTube video section,
not the podcast. And then the second meditation
is the one to call your energy back from your ex.
Whether you realize it or not, your ex can still feel your
energy and feel you hanging on. And often when you call your
(07:36):
power back, they feel it and they reach out.
No contact isn't just about cutting off communication, it's
also about shifting from a placeof waiting to a place of moving
on with your life. The minute you generally detach,
your energy instantly shifts, and quite often your ex will
(07:57):
feel that shift. This is why people often report
hearing from their ex when they finally let go and moved on.
But if you're not yet at the point where you can let go, you
can at least call your energy back with this meditation and
your ex will still feel it and will still feel like you are
(08:17):
moving on. And I have some screenshots of
that from some comments under the video.
And one said texted me a day later after almost 3 weeks.
And then the other one says, my ex reached out after two days,
two days after I did this meditation, after 106 days of no
(08:41):
contacts. So over three months, it can't
be a coincidence that all of a sudden she does this meditation
to let go and the X pops up. OK, so I'll put the link to that
video in the upper right hand corner.
And if you have my apps Silencio, both meditations are
available in the premium versionof the app.
(09:03):
And then finally, keep in mind that if you don't hear from them
at a certain point, you can reach out to them.
Yes, that's right. However, I suggest that you do
it under certain guidelines, which are either nine months
have gone by since you've been in contact or you're emotionally
(09:26):
not attached to the outcome. So you're not emotionally
attached, meaning if you reach out and you get back together,
great. And if you don't get back
together, that's fine too. You're neutral, you're
Switzerland. But don't lie to yourself about
being ready and not being emotionally attached to the
outcome just so you can reach out to them.
(09:48):
I will definitely not do it any sooner than six months.
However, if you're still emotionally attached, you can
try after nine months, but be prepared to possibly be
rejected. And I don't know if I can put
any more links to videos, but ifI can, then I will put the link
in the upper right hand corner. But otherwise you can search it.
(10:10):
It's called yes, you can break no contact.
So now I want to hear from you. How long have you been in no
contact? And do you feel like it's
working or not? And in the meantime, if you
would like my help to get your ex back, you can contact me at
theartoflove.net/coaching and wewill send you the rates.
(10:33):
They're not on the website. And the direct link to that is
underneath every single video and podcast.
If you found this video helpful,I would appreciate if you would
like subscribe and share. If you're listened to this as a
podcast and you want to help theshow, then just download this
episode. And then finally, remember, love
inspires and powers, uplifts andenlightens.
One of the top three questions my clients often ask me, besides
what you think my chances are ofgetting my ex back, is what else
can I do besides no contact? And this of course makes me
laugh because I'm giving you themost powerful tool in the X fact
(00:21):
toolbox and yet you still think it's not enough.
I understand it's because of your anxiety along with the
illusion of action. You're not used to doing
nothing, so you think that taking action is what's going to
get your ex back. So if you're in no contact and
it doesn't seem to be working, what else can you do?
(00:45):
Stay tuned and you'll find out. Hi, this is Lucia with the Art
of Love. I'm a dating and relationship
expert specializing in helping you get your ex back or to get
over your ex. And welcome back my beautiful no
contact Army. Have you been a good little
soldier? Well, if you have, then you have
not only downloaded my app Silencio, but you've given me
(01:07):
either a review or a rating or both and you just go to the App
Store or Google Play and it'll take you 30 seconds and I would
really appreciate it. And if you too would like to
join our no Contact Army, just hit the subscribe button and the
bell notification. And to read our no Contact Army
manual, go to nocontactsecrets.com where you
(01:30):
can read 2 free chapters before you purchase the book.
OK, so you're thinking that no contact didn't work because you
haven't heard from your ex. The first thing you need to ask
yourself is how long have you been in no contact?
I know that every day feels like100 days, but if you haven't
(01:50):
been in no contact long enough for it to work, then of course
it's going to look like it didn't work.
It didn't do its magic. And I see people in the comments
section all the time saying wellI've been in no contact and I
haven't heard from my ex. And then I say well how long
have you been in no contact? And they say 3 weeks.
(02:11):
That's way too soon. I've done a video on when you're
most likely to hear from your extitled the 60 day no contact
rule and I'll put the link in the upper right hand corner and
basically the majority of peoplewill hear from their ex between
days 45 to 60 after they start no contact.
(02:31):
So that's 6 to 8 weeks. Yes, I know that's a long time,
but that's just how long it takes.
So if it hasn't even been 60 days, then there's no way that
you can say that no contact didn't work.
And even then, if you're dealingwith an avoidant, or if this was
the second breakup, or if you kept breaking no contact, or so
(02:55):
many other variables, it will most likely take even longer
than 60 days. Also, are you even doing no
contact correctly? Do you keep breaking it?
Are you still looking at their stories?
Are you talking to mutual friends about how miserable you
are and that you want your ex back?
(03:16):
If you're doing any of those things, you're breaking no
contact, so of course it's not working.
No tool is going to work if you're not using it correctly.
So I suggest you check out my video on the rules of no contact
to make sure that you're doing it correctly.
And I'll put the link in the upper right hand corner on
(03:36):
YouTube in the videos because you're if you're on YouTube and
you're listening to the podcast version, there is no link as
someone asked. So you'll have to hop over to
the video section. Now keep in mind that they could
very well be thinking about you every day and missing you and
wanting to reach out, but something is stopping them.
(03:58):
Maybe it's because usually you were the chaser in the
relationship and they figure that at some point you're going
to reach out even though they dumped you.
Or maybe they're in a rebound right now.
And in that case, you'll have towait until that rebound is over
before they'll think about reaching out to you.
And of course, I did a video on rebounds and I'll put the link
(04:18):
in the upper right hand corner. Next we have to define what not
working means. So if as time goes by you become
stronger and you realize that actually you don't even want
your X back, that they weren't the right person for you, that
you deserve better than no contact, absolutely work.
(04:41):
It may not have worked to get your ex back, but it worked to
get you back. And that's more important.
Losing someone is difficult, butlosing yourself is even worse.
And when you get yourself back, you'll finally be able to
clearly see that they weren't the right person for you.
(05:01):
Possibly, and you're able to make a more rational decision
about whether you would even want to get back with them or
not. My client was in no contact for
seven months when his ex finallyreached out after not sending
even 1 little breadcrumb the entire seven months.
Now, unfortunately for his ex, he had met someone two weeks
(05:25):
earlier and he decided that he preferred her and they're
actually still together to this day and it looks like they're
going to get married. So in this case, in this case,
it's actually good that no contact didn't quote UN quote
work because it allowed him to move on and meet his future
wife. So no contact absolutely did
(05:48):
work because it kept his ex awayuntil he could meet someone who
was better suited for him. So if after listening to all
this, you're still one of those people who will not rest until
you absolutely do something besides no contact, OK, here are
two things you can do that will,let's say, motivate your ex to
(06:09):
reach out to you. The first one is to manifest a
text from your ex which I've done several videos on.
And for those who don't think it's possible, I want to show
you this screenshot from a non believer.
And he said either all of you are lying and he's talking to
(06:31):
the people who left comments underneath the video saying that
they had heard from their ex after doing the meditation.
Lying about getting the text or the chia is Kreskin.
I'm not Kreskin. And for those of you who are
wondering who the heck is Kreskin?
He was a mentalist similar to who David Blaine is today.
(06:52):
Well if you see below that comment, two days later he
writes Well well, well, I owe you an apology.
She texted me asking how I am. I just love it when people are
non believers and then they prove themselves wrong.
So why not try it? What do you have to lose?
(07:12):
So I'll put the link to the video on how to manifest a text
on the upper right hand corner on the YouTube video section,
not the podcast. And then the second meditation
is the one to call your energy back from your ex.
Whether you realize it or not, your ex can still feel your
energy and feel you hanging on. And often when you call your
(07:36):
power back, they feel it and they reach out.
No contact isn't just about cutting off communication, it's
also about shifting from a placeof waiting to a place of moving
on with your life. The minute you generally detach,
your energy instantly shifts, and quite often your ex will
(07:57):
feel that shift. This is why people often report
hearing from their ex when they finally let go and moved on.
But if you're not yet at the point where you can let go, you
can at least call your energy back with this meditation and
your ex will still feel it and will still feel like you are
(08:17):
moving on. And I have some screenshots of
that from some comments under the video.
And one said texted me a day later after almost 3 weeks.
And then the other one says, my ex reached out after two days,
two days after I did this meditation, after 106 days of no
(08:41):
contacts. So over three months, it can't
be a coincidence that all of a sudden she does this meditation
to let go and the X pops up. OK, so I'll put the link to that
video in the upper right hand corner.
And if you have my apps Silencio, both meditations are
available in the premium versionof the app.
(09:03):
And then finally, keep in mind that if you don't hear from them
at a certain point, you can reach out to them.
Yes, that's right. However, I suggest that you do
it under certain guidelines, which are either nine months
have gone by since you've been in contact or you're emotionally
(09:26):
not attached to the outcome. So you're not emotionally
attached, meaning if you reach out and you get back together,
great. And if you don't get back
together, that's fine too. You're neutral, you're
Switzerland. But don't lie to yourself about
being ready and not being emotionally attached to the
outcome just so you can reach out to them.
(09:48):
I will definitely not do it any sooner than six months.
However, if you're still emotionally attached, you can
try after nine months, but be prepared to possibly be
rejected. And I don't know if I can put
any more links to videos, but ifI can, then I will put the link
in the upper right hand corner. But otherwise you can search it.
(10:10):
It's called yes, you can break no contact.
So now I want to hear from you. How long have you been in no
contact? And do you feel like it's
working or not? And in the meantime, if you
would like my help to get your ex back, you can contact me at
theartoflove.net/coaching and wewill send you the rates.
(10:33):
They're not on the website. And the direct link to that is
underneath every single video and podcast.
If you found this video helpful,I would appreciate if you would
like subscribe and share. If you're listened to this as a
podcast and you want to help theshow, then just download this
episode. And then finally, remember, love
inspires and powers, uplifts andenlightens.
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