June 5, 2025 • 12 mins
Women are in shock that Life Coach & YouTuber The Wizard Liz was cheated on by her fiance Landon Nickerson, while she's 4 months pregnant.
Dating/relationship coach Lucia explains why this was preventable and what you can learn from it.
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(00:01):
Hi, this is Lucia with Yard of Love.
I'm a dating and relationship expert specializing in helping
you get your ex back or to get over your ex.
I don't usually comment on celebrity or influencer
breakups. However, the breakup between the
Wizard Liz and Landon has strucka nerve and it has scared, shall
(00:26):
we say, a lot of women. So I feel I need to talk about
this and what we can learn from the breakup.
This isn't going to be about victim blaming or bashing, but
rather how we can turn this seemingly negative situation
into a positive that we can all learn from.
(00:46):
So if you don't know the Wizard,Liz is an influencer who calls
herself a life coach with millions of followers on both
YouTube and TikTok. And her platform is built around
self respect. And Landon is an influencer.
So I'm going to explain what went wrong so that you don't end
(01:09):
up in this situation. But first, I'd like to welcome
back my beautiful no contact army.
Have you been a good little soldier?
Well, if you have, not only haveyou downloaded my app Silencio
to help you stay in no contact, but you've also left a review
and or a rating in the App Storeor the Google Play.
And if you would like to join our army, all you have to do is
(01:31):
hit the subscribe button and thebell notification and you're in.
And to read our manual, go to nocontactsecrets.com or you can
read 2 free chapters before you purchase the book.
OK, so there's a reason why there are certain dating rules,
just as there are no contact rules because the rules are more
(01:57):
likely to help you get your ex back when it comes to no
contact. And with dating, you're more
likely to have a successful partnership by following these
rules. This is wisdom that has come
down through the ages as people have made mistakes.
And we figured out, you know what, this is probably what you
(02:17):
should do in order to have a successful relationship.
And one of those rules is that you date someone for at least
two years before you even think about getting engaged, never
mind having a baby. And that's because in two years,
(02:38):
that gives you enough time to get to know who you're really
dealing with. If someone's wearing a mask,
they can't wear it for two years.
It's going to slip off at some point.
That way you allow the honeymoonstage to pass, the limerence,
the infatuation. You see them at their worst and
you decide, do I want to be here?
Is this the right person for me?And of course, vice versa for
(03:00):
them. So that was the first mistake
because they met August of 24. It's now June of 25.
They haven't even been together a year and she's already four
months pregnant, so you don't know who you're dealing with
(03:20):
until at least a good two years have gone by.
But a lot of people seem to be in a rush and she's in her mid
20s. It's not like she needed to have
a baby right away because the window opportunity was closing.
She's not 4545. OK, I can understand 25.
(03:40):
Plenty of time to have a baby. There's no need to rush into
anything. You know the person that you
choose to marry or to have a long term relationship with if
you don't want to get married, is going to be the most
important decision you will evermake.
It's going to determine your lifestyle, your health, your
(04:00):
mental health, your happiness, and your finances.
It's not a decision to be taken lightly, and it's certainly not
a decision to be made under the influence of infatuation or
limerance. If you're over 4550, OK, one
year, fine. You're older, you should be
(04:21):
wiser, you should be able to discern, be more discerning
about who you're dating. But anything under that, no, you
can't go wrong by following the two year rule.
No one ever regretted going too slow, but a lot of people have
regretted going too fast and jumping in too quickly and then
finding out who they were reallydealing with.
(04:42):
And I know there are probably going to be people in the
comments who are going to say, well, I know someone who was
married within three months, whowas married within six months,
and they're still together. Well, first of all, there's
always going to be an exception to the rule, but that doesn't
mean that just because it workedfor someone else, it's going to
(05:03):
work for you or for the majorityof people.
That's like saying, well, I knowsomeone who jumped off a bridge
and they lived. OK, well then go jump off a
bridge and let's see how that works out.
So don't use this excuse that you know someone who did not
follow the two year rule. And when did that happen?
(05:25):
Was it last year or was it 10 years ago?
20 years ago, 30 years ago? The dating landscape has changed
immensely in the last five years.
Even so, just because it worked in the past, it doesn't mean
it's still going to work today. Next, let's talk about love
bombing, because apparently Landon told Liz that he loved
(05:50):
her within 36 hours of meeting her in person.
So when you get love bombed, your ego wants to believe it
because your ego wants someone who will worship the ground you
walk on, who thinks that you're just the the most amazing person
in the world. And when someone says things
(06:12):
like I love you that early on, instead of being suspicious,
being concerned, and instead your ego's like, ah, yes,
finally, finally someone who sees the real me, someone who
sees how amazing I am, someone who sees how worthy I have, I am
of their love. No, when someone says I love you
(06:33):
that quickly, don't be flattered.
Beware. And the phrase I love you is not
something that rolls off the tongue easily for most men.
Most men are not dying to say I love you.
If anything, they're trying to hold off on saying it as long as
(06:56):
possible because they know things are going to change.
The dynamic is going to change once they say that.
So you have to be suspicious of someone who's able to say it in
36 hours or even 36 days. That's still too soon.
At least two to three months have to pass before someone even
goes there. And even if he can say, oh,
(07:18):
well, I was just joking, why would someone joke about
something like that? He wasn't joking.
He was love bombing. So how do we deal with a love
bomber? Well, there's a lot of responses
that you can give, and here's some of them.
You can say you're so cute when you lie, or you can say you're
(07:41):
so cute when you love bomb or get out of here.
Or you can just laugh. OK, Now if hearing those
responses scared you and you could never say any of those,
then you have an anxious attachment, attachment style and
you're going to get played by a love bomber slash narcissist.
(08:07):
Because if you say I love you tosomeone with an avoidant
attachment style, they're going to be looking for the nearest
exit. They're going to be like, get me
the hell out of here. So you're going to get sucked in
by the love bombing and you're not going to want to use any of
those phrases. And as I said, you're going to
(08:28):
end up playing yourself. Love bombing rarely works on
someone with an avoidant attachment style.
It mostly works on people who are anxious.
And then finally, you may be saying, OK, how can I protect
myself from someone like this inthe future?
How can I ever trust anyone? Well, the good news is you don't
(08:49):
have to trust anyone. You have to trust yourself, you
have to trust that if you work on yourself to have a secure
attachment style that when you see the red flags you'll leave
sooner rather than later. Also, your intuition was given
to you for a reason and not enough people are using it.
(09:10):
My intuition has helped me in somany cases and in fact I once
caught a guy cheating as a result of my intuition.
I was 21. I was dating this guy, and he
was out of town. And I started having these
thoughts. It was the same thought every
day, several times a day. Call Steve.
Call Steve. Now, this was the day before
(09:31):
cell phones, so he only had the landline at home, and I wasn't
gonna call him because he was out of town.
And yet I kept having this recurring thought.
Call Steve. Call Steve.
To the point where I finally said, fine, I'll call Steve just
to stop this thought from popping into my head all day
every day. And what do you know who was at
(09:54):
Steve's house? A girl named Sean, who I had
already suspected that somethingwas going on and who he claimed
was just a friend. Yeah.
So when he got back into town, Iwas supposed to take him out for
his birthday to a fancy restaurant because he had taken
me out for my birthday to a fancy restaurant.
And instead I took him to a coffee shop.
And I said, I know about Sean, so you got to make a choice.
(10:17):
It's either her or me, and you picked me.
So how do you develop your intuition?
The best way I know of is meditation.
Meditation helps to develop yourintuition by quieting the mind,
enhancing self-awareness, and improving your ability to tune
into subtle inner signals. You have to be tuned in in order
(10:43):
to catch them, but you can't be tuned in if you have a lot of
mental noise going on. So meditation helps to calm all
this chatter in your mind, and it makes it easier to recognize
intuitive insights that are often drowned out by
overthinking or external distractions.
(11:04):
Your intuition is your best friend and your best defense in
life and definitely in dating. So in closing, I want to use a
quote from Doctor Laura who saidchoose wisely, treat nicely.
So if you don't choose wisely, it doesn't matter who you are.
(11:26):
It doesn't matter if you're an influencer with millions of
followers who talks about self respect, it's not going to work
out. You need to lay your foundation
on rock, not sand. Otherwise it's eventually going
to come crumbling down. So now I want to hear from you.
What are your thoughts on this situation?
Do you think she should take himback and give him one more
(11:48):
chance since she's pregnant? And in the meantime, if you
would like my help to get your ex back, you can contact me at
theartoflove.net/coaching and wewill send you the rates and the
direct link to that is underneath every single video
and podcast. If you found this video helpful,
please like, subscribe and share.
(12:09):
If you're listening to this as apodcast, I would appreciate if
you would leave a rating and or a review.
And finally, remember, love inspires, empowers, uplifts and
enlightens.
Hi, this is Lucia with Yard of Love.
I'm a dating and relationship expert specializing in helping
you get your ex back or to get over your ex.
I don't usually comment on celebrity or influencer
breakups. However, the breakup between the
Wizard Liz and Landon has strucka nerve and it has scared, shall
(00:26):
we say, a lot of women. So I feel I need to talk about
this and what we can learn from the breakup.
This isn't going to be about victim blaming or bashing, but
rather how we can turn this seemingly negative situation
into a positive that we can all learn from.
(00:46):
So if you don't know the Wizard,Liz is an influencer who calls
herself a life coach with millions of followers on both
YouTube and TikTok. And her platform is built around
self respect. And Landon is an influencer.
So I'm going to explain what went wrong so that you don't end
(01:09):
up in this situation. But first, I'd like to welcome
back my beautiful no contact army.
Have you been a good little soldier?
Well, if you have, not only haveyou downloaded my app Silencio
to help you stay in no contact, but you've also left a review
and or a rating in the App Storeor the Google Play.
And if you would like to join our army, all you have to do is
(01:31):
hit the subscribe button and thebell notification and you're in.
And to read our manual, go to nocontactsecrets.com or you can
read 2 free chapters before you purchase the book.
OK, so there's a reason why there are certain dating rules,
just as there are no contact rules because the rules are more
(01:57):
likely to help you get your ex back when it comes to no
contact. And with dating, you're more
likely to have a successful partnership by following these
rules. This is wisdom that has come
down through the ages as people have made mistakes.
And we figured out, you know what, this is probably what you
(02:17):
should do in order to have a successful relationship.
And one of those rules is that you date someone for at least
two years before you even think about getting engaged, never
mind having a baby. And that's because in two years,
(02:38):
that gives you enough time to get to know who you're really
dealing with. If someone's wearing a mask,
they can't wear it for two years.
It's going to slip off at some point.
That way you allow the honeymoonstage to pass, the limerence,
the infatuation. You see them at their worst and
you decide, do I want to be here?
Is this the right person for me?And of course, vice versa for
(03:00):
them. So that was the first mistake
because they met August of 24. It's now June of 25.
They haven't even been together a year and she's already four
months pregnant, so you don't know who you're dealing with
(03:20):
until at least a good two years have gone by.
But a lot of people seem to be in a rush and she's in her mid
20s. It's not like she needed to have
a baby right away because the window opportunity was closing.
She's not 4545. OK, I can understand 25.
(03:40):
Plenty of time to have a baby. There's no need to rush into
anything. You know the person that you
choose to marry or to have a long term relationship with if
you don't want to get married, is going to be the most
important decision you will evermake.
It's going to determine your lifestyle, your health, your
(04:00):
mental health, your happiness, and your finances.
It's not a decision to be taken lightly, and it's certainly not
a decision to be made under the influence of infatuation or
limerance. If you're over 4550, OK, one
year, fine. You're older, you should be
(04:21):
wiser, you should be able to discern, be more discerning
about who you're dating. But anything under that, no, you
can't go wrong by following the two year rule.
No one ever regretted going too slow, but a lot of people have
regretted going too fast and jumping in too quickly and then
finding out who they were reallydealing with.
(04:42):
And I know there are probably going to be people in the
comments who are going to say, well, I know someone who was
married within three months, whowas married within six months,
and they're still together. Well, first of all, there's
always going to be an exception to the rule, but that doesn't
mean that just because it workedfor someone else, it's going to
(05:03):
work for you or for the majorityof people.
That's like saying, well, I knowsomeone who jumped off a bridge
and they lived. OK, well then go jump off a
bridge and let's see how that works out.
So don't use this excuse that you know someone who did not
follow the two year rule. And when did that happen?
(05:25):
Was it last year or was it 10 years ago?
20 years ago, 30 years ago? The dating landscape has changed
immensely in the last five years.
Even so, just because it worked in the past, it doesn't mean
it's still going to work today. Next, let's talk about love
bombing, because apparently Landon told Liz that he loved
(05:50):
her within 36 hours of meeting her in person.
So when you get love bombed, your ego wants to believe it
because your ego wants someone who will worship the ground you
walk on, who thinks that you're just the the most amazing person
in the world. And when someone says things
(06:12):
like I love you that early on, instead of being suspicious,
being concerned, and instead your ego's like, ah, yes,
finally, finally someone who sees the real me, someone who
sees how amazing I am, someone who sees how worthy I have, I am
of their love. No, when someone says I love you
(06:33):
that quickly, don't be flattered.
Beware. And the phrase I love you is not
something that rolls off the tongue easily for most men.
Most men are not dying to say I love you.
If anything, they're trying to hold off on saying it as long as
(06:56):
possible because they know things are going to change.
The dynamic is going to change once they say that.
So you have to be suspicious of someone who's able to say it in
36 hours or even 36 days. That's still too soon.
At least two to three months have to pass before someone even
goes there. And even if he can say, oh,
(07:18):
well, I was just joking, why would someone joke about
something like that? He wasn't joking.
He was love bombing. So how do we deal with a love
bomber? Well, there's a lot of responses
that you can give, and here's some of them.
You can say you're so cute when you lie, or you can say you're
(07:41):
so cute when you love bomb or get out of here.
Or you can just laugh. OK, Now if hearing those
responses scared you and you could never say any of those,
then you have an anxious attachment, attachment style and
you're going to get played by a love bomber slash narcissist.
(08:07):
Because if you say I love you tosomeone with an avoidant
attachment style, they're going to be looking for the nearest
exit. They're going to be like, get me
the hell out of here. So you're going to get sucked in
by the love bombing and you're not going to want to use any of
those phrases. And as I said, you're going to
(08:28):
end up playing yourself. Love bombing rarely works on
someone with an avoidant attachment style.
It mostly works on people who are anxious.
And then finally, you may be saying, OK, how can I protect
myself from someone like this inthe future?
How can I ever trust anyone? Well, the good news is you don't
(08:49):
have to trust anyone. You have to trust yourself, you
have to trust that if you work on yourself to have a secure
attachment style that when you see the red flags you'll leave
sooner rather than later. Also, your intuition was given
to you for a reason and not enough people are using it.
(09:10):
My intuition has helped me in somany cases and in fact I once
caught a guy cheating as a result of my intuition.
I was 21. I was dating this guy, and he
was out of town. And I started having these
thoughts. It was the same thought every
day, several times a day. Call Steve.
Call Steve. Now, this was the day before
(09:31):
cell phones, so he only had the landline at home, and I wasn't
gonna call him because he was out of town.
And yet I kept having this recurring thought.
Call Steve. Call Steve.
To the point where I finally said, fine, I'll call Steve just
to stop this thought from popping into my head all day
every day. And what do you know who was at
(09:54):
Steve's house? A girl named Sean, who I had
already suspected that somethingwas going on and who he claimed
was just a friend. Yeah.
So when he got back into town, Iwas supposed to take him out for
his birthday to a fancy restaurant because he had taken
me out for my birthday to a fancy restaurant.
And instead I took him to a coffee shop.
And I said, I know about Sean, so you got to make a choice.
(10:17):
It's either her or me, and you picked me.
So how do you develop your intuition?
The best way I know of is meditation.
Meditation helps to develop yourintuition by quieting the mind,
enhancing self-awareness, and improving your ability to tune
into subtle inner signals. You have to be tuned in in order
(10:43):
to catch them, but you can't be tuned in if you have a lot of
mental noise going on. So meditation helps to calm all
this chatter in your mind, and it makes it easier to recognize
intuitive insights that are often drowned out by
overthinking or external distractions.
(11:04):
Your intuition is your best friend and your best defense in
life and definitely in dating. So in closing, I want to use a
quote from Doctor Laura who saidchoose wisely, treat nicely.
So if you don't choose wisely, it doesn't matter who you are.
(11:26):
It doesn't matter if you're an influencer with millions of
followers who talks about self respect, it's not going to work
out. You need to lay your foundation
on rock, not sand. Otherwise it's eventually going
to come crumbling down. So now I want to hear from you.
What are your thoughts on this situation?
Do you think she should take himback and give him one more
(11:48):
chance since she's pregnant? And in the meantime, if you
would like my help to get your ex back, you can contact me at
theartoflove.net/coaching and wewill send you the rates and the
direct link to that is underneath every single video
and podcast. If you found this video helpful,
please like, subscribe and share.
(12:09):
If you're listening to this as apodcast, I would appreciate if
you would leave a rating and or a review.
And finally, remember, love inspires, empowers, uplifts and
enlightens.
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