Episode 8: Behind Closed Doors: Shana James on Trust, Vulnerability, and Your Love Life

In this episode of the Evolved Caveman and Love Isn't Enough podcasts, Dr. John and Joree interview Shana James, a relationship coach with 20 years of experience who specializes in helping men with their love and sex lives. Shana discusses her work, including insights from her podcast, 'Man Alive,' and her book, 'Honest Sex.' Topics covered include the importance of vulnerability, relational healing, honest communication, and overcoming attachment wounds. The conversation also dives into how to build intimacy, the impact of social conditioning, the challenges of modern relationships, and practical tips for improving connection and trust within partnerships.

Timestamps:

03:22 Playing and Experimenting in Relationships

05:06 Honest Conversations and Deep Connection

08:23 Navigating Disappointment and Building Trust

09:33 Understanding and Healing Attachment Wounds

16:07 Practicing Vulnerability and Self-Awareness

24:55 Exploring Honest Sex

25:45 The Importance of Vulnerability in Sexual Relationships

26:46 Being Present During Intimacy

28:25 Communicating Desires and Needs

29:33 Mindfulness and Sexual Arousal

33:09 Redefining Intimacy Beyond Physical Acts

38:12 Building Trust and Security in Relationships

39:00 Practical Tips for Enhancing Intimacy

Our Guest, Shana James:

As a relationship coach for 20 years, Shana James has humbly discovered the causes of disconnection and distrust in relationships, as well as how to build trust and keep passion alive. She has specialized in supporting men who are frustrated with their love and sex lives, both in dating and long term relationships. Shana is the creator and host of the Man Alive podcast, with 300 episodes. She has a TEDx Talk, 'What 1000 Men's Tears Reveal About the Crisis Between Men and Women.' Her most recent book is: Honest Sex: A Passionate Path to Deepen Connection and Keep Relationships Alive. Shana has a Master’s in psychology. She has facilitated decades of workshops based on her training in communication, mindfulness, psychology and sensuality.