Tea and Sympathy - and Penis Jokes

In this bodily-function-heavy episode, Lisa and Nick dive into the art of shutting the hell up when things get serious. From cemetery creepers and scary run-ins to the tragic comedy of people who can’t “leave a tender moment alone” (we’re lookin’ at you, Nick!), the duo unpack why deflecting with humor feels safer than actually sitting in the feels. Expect plenty of raw stories, trademark honesty, and way too many dick-and-balls references — because apparently, even funerals aren’t safe from punchlines.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Lisa Lampanelli is not a licensed therapist or life coach.
She is a meddling advice giving yana and know it all,
and her words come from her head, her heart, and
often out of her ass. This podcast should not be
misconstrued as therapy. I should be taking with a huge
strain of salt for entertainment purposes only.

Speaker 2 (00:16):
These You need help, you're the problems. Come on, come down,
go lamb, take a pill. I think you're insane. Do

(00:37):
what I said, dumb ass.

Speaker 3 (00:41):
Listen to me.

Speaker 2 (00:45):
You yeah, but you never stand up during the podcast before. Sorry, guys,
we have to put all that on the air because
she suddenly sell you our freaking quote unquote producer slash
glorified intern jumps up during the intro song throws me

(01:05):
off because she's like, oh, I gotta make sure it's recording. Listen.
If you are not recording this, I've wasted my morning.
I was so happy it was going well. We're driving
into Connecticut. I had taken a nice poop I'll say
before in the car, a pre show poop at my house.

(01:27):
Because sometimes with the timing, you get worried and you
gotta hold it through the whole show. You know, not
that anyone in this studio hasn't shipped a chair. Oh yeah,
trust me, there's been some shatting.

Speaker 3 (01:37):
I'm shitting right now. I don't know whose chair this is.

Speaker 2 (01:40):
Well, hope that yeah, I don't know whose shared is either.
Who is it? Oh it's a Nate at the guy,
another straight white guy who's ruining America. Speaking of straight
guys who are ruining America, welcome Nixco Paletti. This is,
by the way, shrike this with Lisa Labinelley. Im Lisa
labin Ali. You can find me on social nowhere. I

(02:02):
don't care. Okay, it's at Lisa Lampinelli. And then that's
on the Instagram Nick, and then there's the the TikTok,
which is at the real Lisa Lampinelli because somebody stole
my name. Really, yes, it was probably Kathy Griffin, now,
who I like and we're friends. Anyway, Nick Scopoletti, our

(02:23):
token white devil is here. Now this is a non
cursing podcast, So dare you Oh yeah, cunt yeah.

Speaker 3 (02:32):
Cut yeah.

Speaker 2 (02:33):
We had a cunt heavy episode a couple of weeks ago,
and you'd think I would be like, oh my goodness,
I was happy. I said, you know, sometimes cunts deserve
a place. And speaking of kunts who have a place,
Celia is here and she's pretending to look very studious
about our recording. And I've noticed that Celia has a

(02:55):
panic stricken look every time I mentioned her. Don't worry,
she's doing your job. Are you doing your job, Celia?

Speaker 4 (03:01):
I am.

Speaker 2 (03:02):
Is it recording?

Speaker 4 (03:03):
Yes?

Speaker 2 (03:03):
God, that would suck. If it didn't, we would have
lost all that magic.

Speaker 3 (03:07):
Oh, I wouldn't lost this, guys. You could follow me
at Nick.

Speaker 2 (03:12):
Such a dick. Nick. This is the thing, you guys
know that every time I bring up an issue on
the podcast, it's something I've gone through recently. And let
me tell you, what's your cock? What's your girlfriend here? Yeah?

(03:38):
Your dad? He sucks for one. Get it anyway, It's
always something somebody does to me. They victimize me in
some way, and I have to create an episode about it.
So a couple of weeks ago, Oh, Nick pissed me
off and he doesn't even know I'm going to talk
about this, and he has no idea what I'm gonna say,

(03:59):
because the subject of this episode is quote, leave a
tender moment alone, And that is of course the Billy
Joel song, which in which he was inspired by Christy Brinkley.
When they were dating, she noticed that every time they'd
have a serious moment or a little sweetness between them,

(04:19):
he would have to crack a joke just to deflect,
because feelings are difficult to feel. It's very hard if
you have a humor, a sense of humor, a humorous
bone in your body. And if there's ever a humorous bone,
it's nick you deflect with humor. But I've done it, obviously,
I still do it. But Nick pissed me off. Celia,
don't be reading your email right now. Listen up. We're

(04:43):
sitting there. And I had what I felt was a
very scary experience. I was on a Tuesday. I went
and now I don't view a cemetery as a necessarily
sad place. I've viewed as a place where you would go,
you know, you plant flowers for the people. It's kind nice,
you get a little like a little tenderness maybe, But

(05:03):
for the most part that Tuesday, I was there just
to water the flowers, make sure they didn't die on
my parents' graves and my grandparents. So there's an unwritten
rule that I think ninety nine percent of people would
agree with that. If someone's in the cemetery, you don't
fucking talk to them. They could be having an emotional moment,
they could be having something going on. I wasn't that day,

(05:26):
but in any case, this very How do you say
a guy who looked homeless and be politically correct? How
do you say that a guy looks like he was
like no, a guy no, no, a guy who looks no.
This is how they say it now, a man who
looked like he was experiencing homelessness because they try not
to ident I'm sorry, but that's politically correct that I'm

(05:48):
going to use the right terminology. So I go there,
and this guy who looks very disheveled, looks like he may,
at some point in the very near future, exit bearing's
homelessness or find his home in that cemetery above ground
in the woods recognize me, which, by the way, always
shocks me that I'm recognized anymore, because I look so

(06:11):
different than when I was doing comedy. And he makes
an insulting joke to me. First of all, I have
a hot button when unfunny people try to be funny.
When audience members used to in the old day's poke
at you, It's like, no, the reason I'm famous for
insulting people is because I'm good at it. I don't

(06:32):
mean it, and I can get away with it, and
I have a good heart. So Nick, you've experienced this
is of course after shows, people come up and try
to be broy and funny with you. Does that bug
the shit out of you as a comedian?

Speaker 3 (06:42):
It depends. It really depends on how all I could
say this. It depends if they're being like a douchey
about it, like you know that the least favorite thing.
This is my least favorite thing. Yeah, when they go,
you know, like I've been told I got like some oh.

Speaker 2 (06:59):
I've ended When I used to date, I ended a
date after twenty minutes because the guy goes, you know,
I've been told I'm funny. I said, check please, because
guess what. And I go, well, guess what you're not.
And you're implying it's easy. It's like me saying I
could have been a lawyer, like I probably couldn't. That
requires a intelligence I don't have. So I'm like, uh no,

(07:22):
So I always hated that. That's why I loved I
talked in the past about Canadian audiences, how they're the
best because they're so respectful and they're just like, oh,
I miss Lampinelli, and they would never joke with you.
So anyway, this chooch comes up to me at the
cemetery and I used to in the past joke about
having a big ass. Clearly I don't anymore because I'm
at forty pounds. Thank you. Was embic skin me. Yes,

(07:44):
he's so adsy, so he I used to to joke
about having a big ass. So he goes and he
looks very scruffy and rough. This guy, so you most
people would not want to banter with him anyway. So,
first of all, the boundary of being in a cemetery
didn't stop him. Second, the boundary of being like I
shouldn't probably approaching anyone who's female because I look like

(08:08):
this in the mirror. Ah, he looks scary. He comes
up and he goes, hey's that the big ass insult comic?
And I literally stopped watering the plant. I looked him
right in the eyes, and I go, that's really inappropriate.
Give him where we are. I don't think you should

(08:30):
insult anyone in a cemetery. And he goes, we have
like they start losing their fucking steam. You were a comic,
I go, I was, And then I go to eleven
and I'm very proud of myself because I have to
scare him off because he could you know, who knows

(08:51):
I'm a woman. He could like have something. No, he
could have like a knife or something or be nuts.
And so I gotta get loud because there's no when
else around. And I started yelling. I won't do volume here,
but I yelled, now shut up up and get the
fuck out here, but loud what I call the Gloria yell,
which Glorious was my mother and she had the loudest

(09:14):
yell ever, and it's very fucking scary. So I got
very My face was like a cloud. I was like,
he got so scared, he starts wheeling away, and I'm
like kind of scared. Oh he on his bike?

Speaker 5 (09:27):
Oh yeah, yeah, Oh no. I wish I wonder how
it would have gone if he was in a wheelchair,
because I probably would have been like move on, and
because I would, but I wouldn't have been physically scared.

Speaker 2 (09:44):
So I think any woman's physically scared when a guy
comes up to them. So I'm he he wheels away
on his bike, and I remember that I'm in a
small town. Anyone can look up where anyone lives. It's
not hard to look up anybody you want. And I remember,
and this has never happened before. I had left the
back door unlocked because my driveway was getting paved, and

(10:07):
I'm like, holy crap, if he goes over my house,
My dogs are in there. They're little. They certainly can't
defend me, because he'd have a piece of steak from
his fucking stolen meal and they suck a dick for that.
They wouldn't kill him. So I bump into a town
cop on the way, and they all know me because
my battle LIKEX mother used to work at the police

(10:28):
station and scare everybody with the l And I said,
you know, if you heard of this guy, and I
gave him a description, goes no, but you want us
to like follow the ear in a house, you know,
we might do a search of the house if you
want to go no, no, no, So I go in.
I search everything because I'm like a woman, I'm sorry,
like I'm tough, I'm formidable, but Jesus, you get scared.

(10:50):
So I'm so angry. I locked the doors. I never
have the doors locked it unless it's at night. I
freaking put on the alarm during the day, Are you
kidding me? So I feel like captive in this house.
So that night this is you know, I'm less mad
at the homeless guy than I got mad at Nick.
Because this Nick, God forbid, he would take anybody seriously

(11:15):
but his own damn self or a girl he wants
to fuck. So since I'm in neither of those categories
that I am with him at comedy class. So I
say to him this. I teach this little class to
adults who have very little talent on Wednesday night, just kidding.

(11:36):
Most of them are fine other than Nick. So I say, hey, man,
walk me to my car. Not like the guy could
have followed me there, but I just was like, just
come down in my car. I freaking tell Nick. I go, yeah,
I had a really scary experience in the And I'm
not laughing at all, Like I'm literally like, wow, I'm
really going to take a risk and tell this guy
what happened. And I go, man, I had a really

(11:56):
scary thing happened at the cemetery. I start telling him,
and I literally see the wheels turning in his head.
How he can make light of this. And again, I'm
smart enough as a human to know it's not because
he doesn't care. He just can't fucking handle anyone telling
him anything that requires empathy or sympathy when he's in

(12:20):
whatever fucking dumb mood he's in. So he's like, oh so,
and I'm just like I knew to short something very
deflective of like, hey man, like I said, Nick, it's
really serious. I had a Mason in the car and
you go, and then he goes, can you imagine, like
why don't you just get a gun? Can you imagine

(12:41):
if you had a gun, you'd like shoot everybody? And
I'm like, okay, Like, so whatever you're saying, it's not funny,
it'd be funny because I would shoot a lot of.

Speaker 4 (12:52):
Right.

Speaker 2 (12:53):
I can't even throw a punch. I throw a punch
like a girl. I like, I'm help me. So I
in my heart, I'm like, he does not get it.
He's not going to be able to handle right now
me saying to him, dude, all you had to do
is listen. I knew you couldn't hear that. But the
next time I was like, fuck this motherfucker. I know

(13:15):
we didn't mean it. He cannot leave a tender moment alone.
He cannot do what I need him to do in
this moment. I have to accept him for who he is.
I have to now view this as Nick cannot handle
me talking seriously to him, but I can handle him
talking seriously to me. So I have to readjust the

(13:36):
friendship in my mind. And you don't go to the
well that's dry for water. You know, Nick is a
dry She's dry as a fucking bone. Now I'm not
gonna get anything. See, I'm not going to get anything.
And that's why the subjects of this came up, because
there's so many of us who have used humor to deflect,
who are turning people off. But those people aren't as

(13:59):
kind as me. You still want to be friends with them,
they'll cut you off instead. I'm like, Oh, I just
who you tell these stories to? I feel you and
everyone in the universe other than true sociopaths or narcissists

(14:22):
do the best they can in any moment. That was
the best you could in that moment, And if it
was your like if you were dating somebody, if that
was them, they might get really pissed and be like
I can't trust you with my feelings, gobblinob But I
was like mad. But then I was like, well that's him,
Like what are you doing? So do you have anything

(14:45):
any input of what was going on? Do you even
remember this happening or did you blanket out as fucking
fast as it happened.

Speaker 3 (14:51):
Oh no, I'm remembering because I think you told me
because we were one on one on the at the
night before at the diner and you told me the
story about them. Oh I didn't, Yeah, the homeless guy
and the thing, and you're like, I was fucking nervous.
I got into my driveway and I remember like being
tender in that moment. I think the next night I
saw you at class and you're like, and I have
to have mace in the car. And then I was like, oh,

(15:11):
like I thought then it was okay because I was
serious the night before, Oh okay, made no jokes, which like, honestly,
it was like, Oh, that's fucking shitty that happens, especially
the cemetery. So I think that's all weird too, right,
the weirdest.

Speaker 2 (15:24):
Yeah, By the way, never go up to anyone in
a cemetery other than like, if you want to dig
up a body and get the jewelry, that you can do,
but don't be doing this. Who's burying anyone with jewelry?
Like I remember Goublesser when my mom died, the funeral
directors like, well, yeah, we take it. We would never
bury her with her wedding rings and stuff, like you.

Speaker 3 (15:46):
Just would do that too. Anyway, the technicalities of like
you have to dig six feet and then open a
box to get jewelry, like, no, there's other ways to
steal ship.

Speaker 2 (15:56):
That's for a future podcast, how Grave Rob Week It's insane,
but so so you felt that I had had my
share of upsetnists about this, and you, as the Great
grand Pooba, get to dictate, Hey, it's been twenty four hours,
this should be over it.

Speaker 3 (16:15):
Correct. Yeah, I guess I was like I was serious
last night. I didn't think I actually didn't think any
of this, right. I just remember you telling me the
night before at the diner, and then like you're saying
I joked Wednesday, And I was like, that's probably why
I did joke, because I was like, oh, because when
you said I don't know, I just you was a gun,
it would be the best.

Speaker 2 (16:29):
Okay, But but there's that old adage that Alan King
had said, comedy is tragedy plus time. So you felt
like you gave me enough time twenty four hours to
be scared and that's it.

Speaker 6 (16:43):
Yeah, okay, well thank you for telling me.

Speaker 3 (16:46):
Well, also, I'll kill anyone if you want me to.
I got you.

Speaker 2 (16:49):
I don't know if that's true. I don't trust you, okay, Okay,
do you. I don't think you would. I think you
easily say it. But if I was to call you
and say, hey, the man ex hearing houselessness is in
the cemetery right now, can you come over, I think
you'd be like, dude, I'm on my break at work.
I rarely get any time to myself.

Speaker 3 (17:10):
I mean, there'd be other people to call before me.

Speaker 2 (17:12):
But if there's one hundred and fifty people to call
before you, like the firemen, hot guys.

Speaker 3 (17:19):
But I'm saying, if like something, if you really needed something,
for sure, I brought meds to your house once or twice.

Speaker 2 (17:26):
I think, right, it's gotta be once because I don't
even remember there. Once you're sick as I remember, and
then once you also put together my outdoor patio furniture
with bo and which, by the way, it's always been
a little wonky. I have to be honest with you.
I feel like it's gonna fall. No, not Tod, but
so In does this again. I let it go because

(17:49):
I am a generous human who feels people do the
best they can, so I have to forgive. So probably
there's other people out there who are saying, oh, Lisa
is doing the best she can. I have to forgive.
So I let it go. But I think this is
a common problem with people. Yeah, this must happened to
you a lot. Well, no, it's definitely you do it
a lot. Yeah where I live. Yeah, so shut up.

(18:14):
What does that come from? Where do you think it
comes from? Because we all do it.

Speaker 3 (18:18):
I mean, I mean the word the buzzword is trauma, right,
but like just wanting everything to be okay and like
distracting with Like I actually told this story recently. I
was I was being a little self deprecating about something.
The person I was with was like, I don't like
when you do that, blah blah blah, and I was like,
I understand, Like I don't actually feel that way about myself,

(18:41):
Like I am confident. I just this is how I've
been my whole life. And I said example I gave
her was when I was in Kids still talk about this.
When I was in fifth grade, we went on like
a field trip to Washington, d C. For two days
and then Gettysburg. Right. I always grew up in areas
like Westchester County and Fairfield County, so I grew up
around tremendous wealth, and I was like not so much. Right.

(19:03):
So I remember being on the bus and we're all talking,
and all the kids are talking about like their dads
and what they do, and like, you know, these are
all at the time, it's you know, I was in Westchester,
so it's all like Wall Street guys and the amount
of money these kids have blah blah blah. And I
remember cracking a joke I found weirdly, I had cargo

(19:23):
shorts on and I found like a tube sock in
my car fifth grade and I was on my own,
so I didn't know how to pack it.

Speaker 2 (19:29):
Is that a tube sock.

Speaker 3 (19:32):
Me? So I literally I was like, oh shit, And
I put the tubesack out of my hand and I
pretended to talk with it, and I was like, my
dad puts cream cheese on bagels because he owned a
bagel shop. They all fucking died. But it was my
way of like being like, oh, my dad's not nearly
as successful, right, And I'm like I was like, if
your dad's need to eat, you're my dad's got like

(19:54):
fucked if my dad's like I was trying to like
make a joke and everyone laughed about it and they're
like remember that, and I'm thirty seven now, still be like, dude,
remember that on the bus?

Speaker 4 (20:01):
Right.

Speaker 2 (20:01):
So it's a way to connect. Humor's a way to
connect and make friends, but it's also a way to
like really alienate people and make enemies. Sure, because if
you're dating someone and they constantly every time it gets
like tender or sweet, those are really threatening emotions. It's
so hard to be like seen by someone emotionally. It's
really gonna like put a crimp in the relationship. Yeah,

(20:24):
I mean that's where the song comes from. You know.
Luckily Christy Brinkley hunting there as long as she could. Man,
you know, but it's just like, so, I mean I
remember dating, and you do feel really weird that you
either have to say something stupid or inappropriate. Or just
make them laugh because that's where we live, but there's
no growth in staying there.

Speaker 3 (20:44):
I think with the Billy Joel story too, what first
came to my mind was the fact that like, he
looks like how he looks, and she looks like how
she looks.

Speaker 2 (20:52):
Okay, if we're doing that, we're gonna talk about you
and dating because you got some hot chicks and look
at you.

Speaker 3 (20:57):
That's exactly I mean too. This is what I'm saying, yea,
is that if they're having a serious tender moment and
maybe he can't even accept that a woman that that's
good looking can be with him, and he's like, I
gotta be the funny guy or like right, like he
can't wrap his head around it and he has to
make a joke about it.

Speaker 2 (21:15):
So it's almost like we have to shift from the
identity of I'm the funny guy to I'm funny plus
these other things too, because sitting with someone's feelings is
so hard. Like literally, if I told you that cemetery
story and you just were like, even if it was
the next day and my time had elapsed on how

(21:37):
I'm supposed to feel, If I said to you, man,
I really feel like shit, because I gotta carry mace
around if you had just it's so uncomfortable for people,
including you and me to be like that sucks. Yeah,
and just silence because Brene Brown had a great story
where somebody was asking, like, oh, my kid it comes

(21:57):
home with heartbreak. My kid's all sad about not making
the team or whatever, and it's oh, I got chiv
shivers just thinking about it. She's like, she goes, what
should I do? And she goes, you sit in the
dark with your kid. Yeah, I mean you just present.
I hate the word presents it like it sounds like
it's not of her, but like you just are present
for it and you don't try to fix. Because that's

(22:19):
another thing we deflect with is well, here's what you
should do, Like some idiot would say you should get
a gun. Oh wait, you said that, you know what
I mean, So give her, give her a fixed this
bum goe fist Celia. Oh fisting Celia. That's a new
podcast we should do. Let's just fist her. So anyway,
we deflect with that too, of like, well, I'm uncomfortable

(22:43):
just being sad with that person, so let me fix them,
which I've gone to advice giving so many times, and
it's it's hard not to it's because you go humors
where you live. Advice giving was where I live. Then
it starts alienating people because it's kind of insulting to
always try to fix someone who isn't asking. But boy,
that that like you get that little cat nip off

(23:06):
of look at I'm making a joke. I get it
from ooh, they asked advice, which neither is the greatest.
How would just be in the presence of the sad
or hard feeling.

Speaker 3 (23:16):
Just be like a hot guy.

Speaker 6 (23:18):
See, you're absolutely right, But that that's what well, yes,
before that's what it came from.

Speaker 2 (23:28):
For me.

Speaker 3 (23:29):
It was just like making everything okay and being.

Speaker 2 (23:32):
Like, so do you think so you still thought my
statute of limitation said run out? You're like, okay, time
for her to get over it. Get over it? And
so it wasn't even like a thought in your head.
Let me deflect with humor. It's just a pattern and
a habit.

Speaker 3 (23:50):
Yeah, And then, honestly, quite frankly, I just thought you
would appreciate it because you're fun.

Speaker 2 (23:56):
I'm not a lot less fun than you think. I
don't you know, I'm a lot less fun.

Speaker 3 (24:01):
No, I get a kick out of trying to make
you laugh because I that is true.

Speaker 2 (24:04):
I am an icon. People do worship me.

Speaker 3 (24:07):
Wow, there's a dumb thing I used to do with
the diner all the time, when we would sit there
and we would like write and I would take like
little pieces of my notebook paper and I would write
like love cock, and I would fold it and slide
it across the table and right you would just start laughing,
and I would get a kick out of that because
I was like, yeah.

Speaker 2 (24:24):
But probably the I love cock or you sometimes just
draw dick and balls, which why it's never not funny.
I defy, like, I don't care how smart you are,
that's funny. But if someone's saying they just you know,
their mom's on life support, the cock being slid across
the table isn't the great.

Speaker 4 (24:47):
No.

Speaker 2 (24:48):
If if like grandma's dying, you probably and you're telling
the sad story, you probably don't want to see that
little note coming across. I know that that is true.
You've been so I think it's a lot of timing,
and usually your timing's pretty good. But yeah, Also, do
you ever have a friend who thinks they're funny, But
they're not.

Speaker 3 (25:09):
No, except probably wouldn't be friends with them.

Speaker 2 (25:12):
You can't tell me all your friends are funny.

Speaker 3 (25:14):
They are because they're not trying to be.

Speaker 2 (25:16):
Yeah, they're they're naturally humorous.

Speaker 3 (25:19):
My friend Anthony is just like naturally dry. It's just him.
He's a stressed out suburban dad who runs a business,
and he's just like, yeah, I can't with the fucking.

Speaker 2 (25:30):
Just the he's a character.

Speaker 3 (25:33):
Yeah, I left my ass off with him because he's
just so yeah, here it is.

Speaker 2 (25:37):
Do you think it's more common in men than women
to deflect with humor?

Speaker 1 (25:43):
Men?

Speaker 2 (25:43):
It's gotta be what do you think Celia got to be?

Speaker 3 (25:47):
Men?

Speaker 2 (25:48):
I mean, I think men are way I mean, just
as a stereotype, so much more uncomfortable with hard feelings
and sad feeling. They're really comfortable with anger. But again,
that's actually what I was gonna say.

Speaker 4 (25:58):
I think men deflect with anger so that they scare
off whoever is like trying to bother them and correct them.
They like get mad at least, like I've seen that
a lot in my friends' relationships and stuff.

Speaker 2 (26:11):
I mean, I'm very masculine in that because but see,
this was what bothered me with this guy in the cemetery.
I led with, hey, man, that's inappropriate. So it wasn't angry.
Then you fucking come back at me, and it went
to Gloria. There's scale zero to Gloria, and Gloria is like,

(26:34):
I will go away from the mic. I will do
it as loud as she did it.

Speaker 3 (26:37):
Okay.

Speaker 2 (26:37):
So Nick, you be the unhoused man and you say, uh,
is that the big Is that the biggest in sel comic?
Here's your lines? You're an actor? Is that the biggest
in cell comic? Then I'm going to respond, and then

(26:59):
you go, but you were insult comic? Okay, go.

Speaker 3 (27:04):
Hey, is that the big ass insult comic?

Speaker 2 (27:07):
Hey man, Like we're in a cemetery, that's inappropriate.

Speaker 3 (27:10):
Yeah, but you were the insult the comic.

Speaker 2 (27:13):
Yeah, it was. Now shut the fuck up and get
the fuck out it. Okay, that's the fucking vody.

Speaker 3 (27:23):
I was like three feet away from the microphone from
anyone listening.

Speaker 2 (27:25):
Yes, So he wheeled away in his wheelchair.

Speaker 3 (27:29):
She yelled at the house, just trying to have a
good times.

Speaker 2 (27:34):
A veteran of foreign wars, and is my dad to
my dad's bunk made in the bay and all we
came around. No, so uh yeah, I wonder how many
World War two guys are still around. Probably none? Yeah,
probably like three.

Speaker 3 (27:52):
I said, like one of the last ones.

Speaker 2 (28:03):
Damn Well, anyway, that guy wasn't he appeared a coward.

Speaker 3 (28:08):
Now he's dead because Lisa killed him. You know what's
weird because I already paid for the plot.

Speaker 2 (28:15):
My mom bought us plots for Christmas. I am an
extra jumping next to me, I think because I started
with hey, man, just that's not appropriate. I don't appreciate that.
Then I went to anger, so I was like, oh,
he can't be trusted with the more quiet feeling. He

(28:35):
has to get the man treatment. So I think men
sometimes do start at the bigger one first.

Speaker 3 (28:40):
Yeah, for sure. We I think we men absolutely are
the kings of deflecting. I can't even envision a woman
doing it.

Speaker 2 (28:51):
I don't even know how I've done it. And I'll
tell you you lose friends. No, not just in comedy.
I remember in college I had a college roommate, Stephanie,
who actually she's really nice, she's a really decent human,
And I just remember, because I had so uncomfortable being away,
I was so uncomfortable a college, just uncomfortable with feelings.

(29:12):
We weren't in our family, we didn't have feelings or
we weren't allowed to show them. So I was deflecting
with you Moor all the time. And she just finally
got fed up with it because she came in and
she had been dating this guy, Kevin something, and she
kept lamenting that like they weren't getting along or he was,

(29:34):
you know, not that interested. She got this feeling he
wasn't interest. I knew I had dadar back then, this
is the eighties or no, seventy nine, and I already
was like the guy as gay as the day is long.
The guy could sit on lollipop and guess the flavor.
So I was just like, okay, I just said to
her once, yeah, maybe it helped if if he wasn't

(29:56):
what would I say, something like if his chapstick wasn't
cock flavored or whatever I said, because like, I'm a
humorous person, and she shows so shut down. It'd been
like a year of this, like in this dorm and
she never spoke to me again. Can you imagine living
in the same room with someone as a roommate and
they just will not acknowledge you. So I literally lost

(30:17):
a friend. And when I did my last special, at
the end of the special idea roast of myself, and
part of it was where I might make then a
list of apologies to people who I really hurt. And
I said to my roommate Stephanie, who was hurting because
her boyfriend turned out to be gay. I said, dot

(30:39):
dot dot, And I was so glad because I go,
I really hurt her by doing that. So I think
it has hurt my relationships.

Speaker 3 (30:46):
Too, probably. I mean I've been pretty perfect. Think about it.

Speaker 2 (30:53):
I'm telling you, if you ever start dating anybody seriously,
they are not gonna like it. If they don't if
they are getting all mushi with you and you like
go like grab my dick.

Speaker 1 (31:03):
No, I.

Speaker 3 (31:06):
In those those moments, I don't do it as much.
It's it's more in social settings with like a bunch
of people. It's never like too much of like a
one on one, especially in a romantic sense. I wouldn't really.
It would depend heavily on the moment and what's being
said and where we are and like I hold, we're
home alone, and like it's like I'm not just gonna

(31:26):
interrupt and be like Mike, I don't know, really vulnerable dude,
because there's no no one to laugh at. It's just
the person. There's no like.

Speaker 2 (31:38):
All right, I think you're wrong. I think if you
should ever get a girlfriend, which I doubt because you're
not very appealing, I would like copious notes and a
phone number from her so that we can talk about
all the deflections.

Speaker 3 (31:54):
Letter number one. Yes, Lisa, my name is Kevin. I'm
twenty and live in whole broken New Jersey.

Speaker 2 (32:03):
Nice the Manzo's from Jersey Housewives pretty close. And also Carlos.
Remember Carlos Bakery.

Speaker 3 (32:10):
I used to date a girl live in Hope Boken.
It's a cool city.

Speaker 2 (32:13):
Wow. That is so adds nothing cut that out? Go ahead.

Speaker 3 (32:19):
Uh. I've always coped with I've always coped with humor,
but I recently took it too far and I cannot
stop thinking about it when I lay in bed at night. Hmm,
how is that my grandmother's funeral?

Speaker 4 (32:30):
Oh?

Speaker 2 (32:30):
But what is this a theme?

Speaker 4 (32:32):
Wow?

Speaker 3 (32:33):
And when my cousin started crying, I made him shook.
I love this already. I did to talk about how
my grandma would have hated the floor floral arrangements. Anyway,
my family laughed, except my aunt, who told me I
was emotionally tone deaf. Ever since, I have noticed that
I seem to have bad comedic timing. As the amazing

(32:54):
comedian you are me, I.

Speaker 2 (32:56):
Think he's asking you, Nick, as the amazing comedian.

Speaker 3 (32:59):
Kevin, what I would do.

Speaker 2 (33:03):
I think it's so funny funerals and those are like
and weddings anything that there's like a solemnity to it.
It's really hard to be cracking jokes obviously at a
wake or a funeral. A little diffusion of the humor
is nice, especially if this old broad is elderly. It's
a little more like, say, a woman dies when she's forty,

(33:25):
that's gonna be tougher to squeeze in your material. It's
like an older person. Sometimes it's okay, And maybe that
aunt was an aunt with a capital C, because sometimes
there's that clamion one.

Speaker 3 (33:39):
Of them spinn't find a man.

Speaker 2 (33:41):
Yeah, it happens, I know, kind of like Cynthia Nixon's
character on The Guilded Age. Ockay, but it doesn't. It
seem like there's always someone who's gonna take issue. It's
like the person in the audience, the one person not
laughing in the club or in the theater. So I
think with that, it's just like I think he's now

(34:03):
this poor guy second guessing all his jokes because what
did he say, something like, I'm noticing now my comedic
timing isn't good.

Speaker 3 (34:09):
Yeah, which it's fine.

Speaker 2 (34:11):
I mean maybe it is, maybe it's not. Maybe it
is a chance for him to reflect on deflecting like that.

Speaker 3 (34:17):
Or just know who to say it to.

Speaker 2 (34:18):
Yeah, you have to know your audience. Just like I
said with the emotionally unavailable Nick Scopoletti, I was like,
never tell Nick anything again that you want being held
safe and serious, have the surface level friendship that you
always knew he was capable of.

Speaker 3 (34:34):
Right, yes, pure sex, no, but dude, to defend this
man my dad, My dad made a joke like this once.
Now we've talked about it prior. But you know, my
mom died when I was six. She was thirty two
years old, So sucks at age now, right, But once

(34:57):
you've gone through that, it's kind of like, eh, right,
So when my grandmother died, his mother at the age
of ninety four, like didn't feel well, fell asleep, passed away,
Like best scenario you could have right warranted. At her funeral,
I remember, like they said, have family come up, pay
your last respects. I'm looking down the line and my
aunts and cousins and everyone they're crying blah blah blah.

(35:18):
And I'm looking down the line at them, and I'm like, yeah,
I'm not crying. I'm just like, yeah, this is you know,
it's sad, but you know obviously been through worse. And
I turn and look at my dad and this is
his mother in the casket. I turn to look at
my dad. My dad just goes, what are you gonna do?
You know? I mean, I was like, so that's where
he's at.

Speaker 2 (35:37):
His dad. Is your dad in general a deflector with humor?

Speaker 3 (35:42):
Probably not immediately. I mean I will say, like, obviously,
right when my mom died, he wasn't like.

Speaker 2 (35:47):
Hey, right, but just in life in general.

Speaker 3 (35:51):
No, I mean he can. I think he he feels
his emotions. Like I remember when my you know, obviously
my mom died. Took him years to make jokes. I
think it wasn't until I was like fourteen he started
to make jokes and it got us through it. It helped
us for sure. But even when his mother died. I
remember so vividly. He got the phone call. We were
leaving there, like Grandma's not doing well, got to come

(36:12):
to the hospital. He got the phone call, and I
saw him go like this when they told him, and
he like cried for a second. He pinched his eyes
and then he went hmm, okay, and then he wow,
and then he called because he knew every The funeral
home knows us very well, and he knows and he
planned everything dinner, and he was just flying. You could
tell that he was trying to distract, not with humor

(36:33):
but by being busy.

Speaker 2 (36:34):
Well, I was just going to say that, And I think,
I don't want you to publish this store if I cry.
But I remember. My father's sister died when he was
away on a trip with the grandkids. So my brother
and my dad went to Disney with the four boys, right,
they were really little. So we hear that my aunt,

(36:57):
poor thing had died. And she wasn't that hold those
maybe fifty and she had troubles anyway, So my mother goes,
let's we can't ruin dad's trip. He can't come home
only anyway, like, let's just hold it in for like
two days but when my mother, when my dad came home,

(37:19):
she sits him down, and she was the deflector with
busyness and talk. So it's all kindness in the moment,
but you go, oh, let him have his feelings. Like
that's sad, because I remember her saying, Lenny, we got
a call that Jean died, and you know, but don't
worry about anything went right, don't worry about anything. The
funerals this day and this day. And I got this

(37:41):
for the house and this kind of food, and we
got plates of this and that and the other. And
he goes because my father was way more present with
feeling than any of us, and he just like physically
shook his head and he just soa, wait, Jean's dead.
Like so, my poor mom was trying to, like with
you with humor or me hum or anything. She was

(38:02):
trying to like distract from him crying or feeling. And
you can never outrun the feeling. That's the whole problem.
We should have to let people have their feelings. So
I was like, oh, that's he was actually right. He
didn't get mad or anything, but he was like, wait
a minute, And so he had his little feeling about it,
and then whatever, he dealt with it later. But I'm like, man,

(38:24):
that poor woman, my mom trying to jump through hoops
to get him to not feel So it didn't come
from a bad place, not at all.

Speaker 3 (38:31):
That was probably her trying to take care of him
in a way. Yeah, and plus like kind of sucks
like he's on this trip with his grandkids, He's and
Disney having a fantastic time. So you guys got to
sit with this for two days and you're.

Speaker 2 (38:42):
Like, oh, well, how about this.

Speaker 3 (38:43):
I'm home and we got to tell him his fucking
sister died, like.

Speaker 2 (38:46):
I know, and you think you're doing all the right stuff.
I remember my uncle, who was really close with us,
died on Christmas Day and my mother he had been
sick for a long time. My mother dealt with it
by herself and pretended everything was okay till December twenty sixth,
so we wouldn't have a ruined Christmas, like I personally,

(39:07):
I mean, I probably would do that for a little kid,
because I'd be like, don't ruin the nieces or daughter's Christmas.
But that's strong, Like you gotta be a strong person
to then like disappear for like ten minutes and cry
or because the feelings don't disappear within you.

Speaker 3 (39:23):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (39:23):
So I think we're always just trying to do our best.
So now, thinking about my dad and my mom and
you know, all these things, I'm like, maybe I could
forgive Nick. And he's not such a piece of shit.

Speaker 3 (39:37):
Pretty perfect, no, but not.

Speaker 2 (39:40):
As disgusting horrible of a human being. If you just
say you're sorry, let's see if you've gotten any better
at that. Okay, are you sorry? Nick? I'm like, you suck.
You're gonna say it, but you're looking down, which means
you gonna really say it. I don't care, but can

(40:03):
I next? All right, shut the fuck on thet letter you. Okay,
by the way, dude with the fucking funeral and the
dig grandmother, sorry for your freaking loss. But let me
tell you, sometimes you gotta know your audience. That's all
I'm saying. I mean, Nick, you've like done comedy, get
a synagog You're not gonna yell about the Holocaust.

Speaker 3 (40:20):
It's my first open Okay.

Speaker 2 (40:22):
Oh that's true.

Speaker 3 (40:22):
Well you step on stage if it's funny.

Speaker 2 (40:24):
It's funny.

Speaker 3 (40:25):
Amen. All right, let her number two. My name is Carrie,
is it Carrie?

Speaker 2 (40:30):
Coon? From the guilded, Oh, shut up your gag. I
know she's a hot.

Speaker 3 (40:34):
Oh, she's so fucking hot. My name is Carrie, forty
six from Vermont. I've always used humor in tough conversations,
but recently it has affected my relationship with my teenage daughter.
If she brings up something serious like anxiety, dating, or college,
I crack a joke to make her laugh instead of
digging deeper. She recently told me it makes her feel
like I don't take her seriously. Am I sparing her?

(40:57):
Or am I just avoiding my own discomp Oh.

Speaker 2 (41:01):
If I didn't hate her already because she's from Vermont,
I hate her more now. She is teaching her daughter
to not feel her feelings, that her feelings are wrong,
that she's to be embarrassed by them. That daughter's gonna
end up an alcoholic anorexic because she's gonna have to
look to substances for fulfillment because mom's not doing it.

(41:22):
Correct this immediately. You gotta let kids have their feelings.
You got to sit in the dark with them, and,
by the way, get comfortable with your own feelings. Get
comfortable with the fact that you were touched as a child,
show us on the doll where he touched you, Carrie,
because she's deflecting. She's uncomfortable. I get it, but you
gotta let these kids especially. I like that the daughter,

(41:46):
by the way, had the presence of mind to say, Mom,
I feel like you're dismissing me.

Speaker 3 (41:49):
Kids nowadays are way smarter than we were.

Speaker 2 (41:51):
I know we couldn't have said that. No, I can't
imagine if I'd said to my mom, I think by
your constant like decimal ten, yelling really wouldn't be funny.
She'd be like, really, you don't.

Speaker 3 (42:08):
Say what if she just was like, oh, then throat
punched you just.

Speaker 2 (42:12):
I mean, that's like, yeah, I wouldn't blame her. But no,
with kids especially, I think it's important. And I have
a lot of younger friends, like people were in their thirties, Like,
can you imagine, like poor Bobby comes up to me
and he's all sad because he didn't get whatever part
in Rent that he wanted because he's yeah and doesn't
have an age yet. And I would be like, yeah, but

(42:34):
everybody in that show dies made at least you don't
have to die, And in his head he'd probably be like, geez,
I guess I can't trust her.

Speaker 3 (42:40):
With that, you know, I think too, like if you,
especially with like a girl like you gotta let them
feel their feelings because then next thing you know, they're
in their thirties and they're dating the guy like me.

Speaker 2 (42:52):
Well no, and also with a guy. I think it's
with a boy, it's just as important because you are
telling him to squash the feelings. Then he becomes an
inn cell. Then he gets guns. Then he decides to
shoot everybody, and he got.

Speaker 3 (43:04):
A shooting right, So you just need a little puss.

Speaker 2 (43:07):
So parents, let your kids have their feelings and get
comfortable with your own fucking feelings. I'm sick and tired
of all this yelling. Yeah, okay, go ahead.

Speaker 3 (43:25):
Next letter, letter number three, Dear Lisa, I'm a huge
fan and could really use your advice. My best friend
Amanda was engaged in the love of her life, but
he broke it off two weeks ago because he's gay.
That's not a month before their wedding. When I try
to talk to her about it, she keeps brushing it
off like he did me a favor and now I

(43:45):
don't have to listen to his loud chewing for the
rest of my life. Women with chewing.

Speaker 2 (43:50):
Oh, he didn't nerve.

Speaker 3 (43:53):
Lisa, you've been having dinner with me.

Speaker 2 (43:54):
If you do, not too loud, I'm going to thank you.

Speaker 3 (43:57):
Clip it, send it to me, Celia, thank you.

Speaker 2 (44:00):
No, honestly, I'm very aware of table manners. My father
was very like adamant about no elbows on the table,
No this, no that, no talk with your mouthful. You
don't have bad manners. You'll eat those four fucking eggs
in one bite.

Speaker 3 (44:16):
Yeah. But other than that, I gather every week for
like five years. You hear that people compars.

Speaker 2 (44:21):
Okay, okay, hot button.

Speaker 3 (44:24):
I know I don't have to listeners loud chewing the
rest of my life. I know inside she shattered. Should
I try to get her speak truthfully about her pain
or just let her deal with it anyway? She chooses.
Thanks Sam from Larch Mountain, New Law.

Speaker 2 (44:36):
I don't thank you. I can't. I don't think you
can like force her to be open. There's something she
doesn't feel safe about feeling herself, and this like deflecting
of one's own troubles, like when you're just you know,
you're hiding your feelings from yourselves and others. That's got

(45:00):
until it boils over and you can really say it.
All we can do on the receiving end is make
that friend feel like you're the safe one. So they say, like,
even in coaching, suppose somebody in suppose I hypothetically am
doing group coaching of a bunch of women and one
of them just will not share, will not cry, will

(45:21):
not open up. As long as you create space and
be like, we're here when you need us, We're all
here for each other, not target them and say, well,
you know, how are you feeling, then they're going to
eventually open up to someone. It might not be us,
it might not be the group, it might be five
years down the road. They'll feel, oh, I'm warmed up

(45:44):
to feel safe. So what she has to do for
her friend who broke the engagement is be like, give
the impression that she's there for her without almost saying it.
Because if you ever beg on receiving any of that
of like, well, if you ever want to talk here,
it's a little bit like now, am I really going
to talk to you? Because you're expecting it. So I

(46:04):
think you have to sort of just somehow be present
with it and be uncomfortable with the fact that she's deflecting.

Speaker 3 (46:12):
Yeah, there's nothing you can do. It's kind of like,
I think I've learned this from having so many comedy
friends in AA and NA, and they're like, like, you
just got to let someone have their their bottom and
their moment, like you can't. There a lot of you know,
I'm not let any names out here, but a lot
of guys I know they're at AA and NA. If
they're at a comedy show and there's a comic who's

(46:32):
drinking and a comic's like, you know, I always think
about quitting. They never are like, yeah, man, you fucking.

Speaker 2 (46:38):
Should, even though that's what they're thinking.

Speaker 3 (46:40):
Yeah, but they're like yeah, they just go oh yeah,
I mean, you know, if you want, that's cool. Why
you know, they's so non judgmental about it and like
the shit just comes out when it comes out.

Speaker 2 (46:50):
I know. I hate that. My friend Anthony always says,
it's hard enough to change when you want to. It's
it's impossible to change someone else. Oh yeah, or change
when and you don't want to. So you could easily
say to this girl, listen, I know you're deflecting with
jokes A lot. I know you probably are in pain inside.
She knows that you don't even have to say it,

(47:10):
you know, and if you ever want to talk, I'm here.
Is probably as far as it should be taken.

Speaker 3 (47:17):
Yeah, she wants to have fun for now, maybe three
four months from now. She's at dinner and she's like,
you know what, this shit is fucking me up? Can
we talk and be like okay?

Speaker 2 (47:24):
Right? Because the safety has been established and I think
we under value that, we forget that. That's all you
have to do is be there right and actually listen
and don't deflect yourself then because you're uncomfortable. So she
might be a little uncomfortable too watching her friend not
dig deeper, which I get really uncomfortable with that too.

(47:45):
I like when people dig as much as I dig
into myself, but they're not gonna No. We're all at
different stages. We can all handle different things.

Speaker 3 (47:53):
Setting yourself up for disappointment and that's the case.

Speaker 2 (47:56):
Yeah, And also, oh my god, guys and ladies, stop
accusing your partners of chewing loudly. Not many people do it.
I eat out almost every meal. I don't hear a
lot of chewing. I think what happens is you start
you're dating somebody, you get across the table from him,
you start looking for things to criticize. You start looking perfect,

(48:16):
and you're like, pick and pick and pick. Stop that.
But food on the face is a different story.

Speaker 3 (48:24):
You don't.

Speaker 2 (48:25):
We have a friend who does and we always have it.
How do you not? How do you not feel a
stalk of broccoli coming out of your face?

Speaker 3 (48:34):
Maybe you should have him on one day? And what's
wrong with you?

Speaker 2 (48:37):
Maybe he just has too much like dulled nerve endings
because of all the drinking and the cock see to
reflect with you one more real quick last one.

Speaker 3 (48:49):
Hurry up, Dear Lisa. I've been dating this guy for
three months and I think he's great. Break up with ups.

Speaker 2 (48:56):
By the way, we should do an episode on the
three month mark, because that's when everything starts to go wrong.

Speaker 3 (49:01):
That does. I've been dating this guy for three months
and thinks think he's great. The one thing that gets
me is his nervous laughing during a quiet moment or
when he meets new people like him. Should I call
him on it? Or except that everyone has.

Speaker 2 (49:20):
Flaws, dude, I have a button with the nervous laugh
and or tick. I cannot stand it. We were doing
I'm doing this coaching class and they showed us a
video of this master coach coaching a woman and she,

(49:42):
the client, had a nervous laugh after every fucking sentence.
So we're on this group zoom and she's like, well,
you know, sometimes I do overwork after every fucking sentence.
So we're doing this debrief and the he's like twenty
people on the zoom and I go, dude, Adam, I go,

(50:05):
did you not want to fucking murder her with that
nervous laugh? What did you say about the laugh? And
he goes, I took note of it, and I'll know
when to bring it up. Because it's like a first session.
She's not gonna want to hear did you notice by

(50:26):
the way that you laugh to deflect feeling anything, She's
not gonna want to hear it. Then she's working on
bigger things and then this is something for later. So
the nervous laugh. And by the way, half the clams
in this coaching program with me, they go, we didn't
even notice the laugh. I'm like, yeah, cause you probably
do it. You don't be twat Yeah, fuck you, I
hate that.

Speaker 3 (50:46):
Go right into the show.

Speaker 2 (50:47):
We don't want to help you, so I hate this.
So if a partner I had had a nervous tick, though,
there's I don't think there's a way you can bring
it up eventually and say honey, I love you, like
create some safety around and be like I love you.
Do you want feedback on something that you might want

(51:13):
to look at? It doesn't mean work on but you
have to word it so perfectly, which I clearly don't
know how to do. I notice that you laugh or
giggle after saying something uncomfortable. Have you noticed that about yourself?
And if he says no, I really haven't, doesn't bother me. Okay,
then you gotta live with the fact that this homo,

(51:34):
that this guy is gonna have a nervous laugh. And
then you got to reconcile with can I live with
that the rest of my life? Because you can never
mention it again after that. If he says he'll live
with it, then he'll freaking live with it. What do
you think I would die like it? By the way,
even if it's somebody bit their nails, even if someone
clicked their tongue, like even if some but he did

(51:55):
something that's just distracting nervous ticks. I cannot talk, right.

Speaker 3 (52:00):
Yeah, as long as he doesn't have a nervous dick,
I think he's all right. See I'm staying, but you're entertaining.

Speaker 2 (52:08):
That's fine.

Speaker 3 (52:08):
But yeah, I don't know. I think the way you
set it up is just like.

Speaker 2 (52:16):
Do you say anything if it's bothering it?

Speaker 3 (52:19):
Yeah, as someone who's currently learning.

Speaker 2 (52:22):
But if why does it? That's what we need to
look at. Why does it bother me so much? That
that woman had the nervous giggle? If I looked into
it more, it would probably be, oh, I've done that.
Like that used to be me. I used to have
to defy. Maybe it wasn't a giggle, Maybe it was
something else. Maybe it was a well timed fart, a

(52:43):
good old let's do one. Okay, go ahead, Nick, say
something and I'll do with my nervous tick. Go ahead.

Speaker 3 (52:51):
Yes. So I was talking to Celia out in the hallway.

Speaker 2 (52:54):
Oh I know, yeah, she say.

Speaker 3 (52:56):
She just was like, I'm so tired, and like I
live in New York.

Speaker 2 (53:00):
Oh I know.

Speaker 3 (53:01):
I feel it's like.

Speaker 2 (53:05):
I deflecting a nervous belt.

Speaker 3 (53:10):
That just flew up.

Speaker 4 (53:11):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (53:11):
Never, I'm good at it. I'm terrific at that. No,
but like that, I don't know if I could live
with somebody who did it. But also like, again, why
am I uncomfortable with anything anyone does? It's none of
my business.

Speaker 3 (53:24):
Yeah, it's it. That's a scene in Sopranos when to
PAULI goes, you think you got Tourette's you know the
heck he goes, I don't know, ye, or something like
he says, but something like, well, my.

Speaker 2 (53:38):
Dad used to have this thing where he would always
play with the back of his hair, like it's just
a nervous thing. And I noticed I inherited it, and
my brother inherited it, and we both shook it because
we noticed it. But I think it was something my
dad didn't even know and didn't bug me because I'm like,
it's not affecting me, somebody, it's a you know what
it is. It's a release of energy. So in this

(53:59):
code class, when I brought up the nervous laugh of
the client, the head of the coaching program said, yeah,
it's her way of releasing energy in that moment. So
that's what I take it to mean for today. I'll
have to watch if it continues to be distracting. I
was like, God, he's good. So maybe it's like that's
how they release energy. I release a nice energy with

(54:22):
that belt. It was terrific. Well time fartre quef same.
I know, it's really delightful if you nerve with you,
so I they from now on people discover why you're
uncomfortable and question that first. Try not to deflect or
devalue other people's feelings like Nick so brutally does to

(54:43):
me weak upon week, Try not to queef. If it's
something you can help. I haven't had one of those
in a long time. I haven't queen it a lot.
What's happening over there?

Speaker 3 (54:57):
Let's go, let's ing.

Speaker 4 (55:00):
I also am not a man.

Speaker 3 (55:01):
So what what do you say?

Speaker 2 (55:05):
King? I said, geez, that's insulting. Shut up, insulted by
for an apology. Let's see if you can do it apology.
Well that's really not asking. But okay, how about you? Nick?
You hurt my feelings by misgendering me.

Speaker 4 (55:26):
Nick, you hurt my feelings if I'm misgendering me.

Speaker 3 (55:29):
You know, I'm sorry.

Speaker 2 (55:30):
Well, thank you. Wow, he actually looked in your eyes.

Speaker 4 (55:34):
I forgive you.

Speaker 2 (55:35):
Wow. Is that a hot button for you that you
think you have been accused of having penis and testicles. No, okay, luckily,
I don't know. Is that lucky?

Speaker 4 (55:46):
I don't know what's PC these days, Like, I really don't. No,
I don't get misgendered. I think it's quite obvious that
I am a woman.

Speaker 2 (55:54):
I mean to some I have no idea. Hey, guess
what if you liked this episode, which is highly doubtful
you dad? Where can they find out more info about us? Nick? Guys,
I love this function foremost.

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