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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Lisa Lambinelli is not a licensed therapist or life coach.
She is a meddling advice giving yanta and know it
all and her words come from her head, her heart,
and often out of her ass. This podcast should not
be misconstrued as therapy. I should be taking with a
huge strain of salt for entertainment purposes only.
Speaker 2 (00:16):
These You need help, You're the problems.
Speaker 3 (00:24):
Come on, come on, go leab, take a pill. I
think you're insane.
Speaker 2 (00:37):
Do what I saved, dumb ass, listen to me.
Speaker 4 (00:45):
You Hey, everybody, it's Lisa Lambinelli on Shrink This with
Lisa Lambinelli on iHeart Podcast. Listen on your iHeart Radio app.
Wherever you get your podcasts, send your letters a shrink
This show at gmail dot com, at shrinth This Show
at gmail dot com.
Speaker 2 (01:04):
And we are here. We are queer. We take it
in the rear. The last two or one is not true.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
Anyway.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
We are back for another little tidbit to tide you
over from season one of shrinth This the season two,
which premierees in January. Every week we're taking one of
your questions that we've ignored per episode, and.
Speaker 4 (01:25):
We are going to talk about it.
Speaker 2 (01:26):
And possibly answer it, probably make fun of you, probably
not give you any useful advice, because that's the brand
here at shrink ficking me.
Speaker 4 (01:36):
Today.
Speaker 2 (01:36):
To help me do the heavy lifting is my good
friend and co professor emeritus at the Norwalk Conservatory of
or Fur and the Arts, Chris O'Neill. You can find Chris.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
At the no at what Chris Show?
Speaker 2 (01:53):
Chris, Oh short, mine, I think it is Chris. Are
you familiar with We are going to revisit a letter
that was written I think it was episode three. Episode
three was called new zip code, same old she which,
by the way, we put a little asterisk in the
eye and shit because I don't think iHeart enjoys the cursing.
(02:16):
Well fuck those cunts. So anyway, what we discussed was
the concept of geographic sobriety. Chris, are you familiar with
the concept of geographic sobriety?
Speaker 4 (02:25):
If not, you know you're not.
Speaker 5 (02:27):
I don't think so it's graphic sobriety, like I'm moving
here to get away from my problems.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
And now it's correct and now, and you never do
because wherever you go there you are. So basically, if
you have like a crazy friend, you notice always is
moving and you're like, oh, you've had twelve different zip codes,
some in other countries.
Speaker 4 (02:47):
What are you chasing?
Speaker 2 (02:48):
They're probably just trying to outrun some bullshit they don't
want to face.
Speaker 4 (02:52):
So we did a whole episode on that.
Speaker 2 (02:54):
We we didn't even name names of all the people
I know who do this, including myself. So I have
since settled down in one place, and I said, I
know this is going to be the place that I'm
going to live for the rest of my life, because
why have you ever done this where you just try
to outrun your problems, like, oh, grass is always greener,
it's gonna be better over there.
Speaker 5 (03:14):
I have a lot of friends that have done the
whole I'm going to LA now because there's opportunities out there.
And then they get out there and it's the same shit,
and they go, I gotta move back to New York.
And You're like, I think the problem lies within, sweetheart,
And I think that it's not the scenery as much
as it's it's you.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
Yeah, And you know they say too, like they always
make an excuse, which I get because I've done this. Well,
just the neighborhood's nicer, Yeah, you know, it's sunnier. Yeah,
I don't want to see Spanish writing because it means
I'm in the ghetto.
Speaker 4 (03:40):
Those are the racists. It's like, maybe you look.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Internally of why you don't like the Spanish writing. Maybe
look into why you need so much sunlight because you're
a dark and gloomy bitch.
Speaker 4 (03:52):
Well that could be a start. Do a little dissecting.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
Yes, and there's nothing wrong with moving to a better
climate if you have, say, I don't know, soriatic something.
I don't even know what that means, but it was
on a commercial for something.
Speaker 4 (04:09):
Sorry after rhuematory roth.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
Riders something, and you go, oh my god, my bones
literally will feel better in San Diego or in the
desert or Arizona.
Speaker 4 (04:19):
I get it.
Speaker 2 (04:20):
But come on, bitch, if you don't got sorriet againis
don't go.
Speaker 4 (04:28):
I already have. I'm ahead of you all the way.
Speaker 2 (04:31):
Also, people seem to do this when it comes to jobs.
I get that, we change jobs. I get that after
we have abused Celia for several years on this podcast,
she will move on due to our toxicity, but she
will have hung in there and worked on herself in
the meantime to have the self esteem to move on.
But if you just kind of make lateral moves all
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the time, sometimes it doesn't get better. It's something about you.
So let us revisit one of the letters from that
episode and see where you and I stand.
Speaker 4 (05:03):
Please read, mister Christopher, Dear Lisa.
Speaker 5 (05:06):
I just started a new job for a corporate law
firm after leaving my last one because my boss treated
me like absolute shit to the point that I began therapy.
My new boss seems nice, but the trauma from my
last one has left a horrible stanch with me, and
reporting to someone now makes me so angry. Maybe I
can't have a boss anymore? Or should I just shut
the fuck up and do the job and trust off.
(05:27):
Feel better in a few months. Thanks Melissa, New York,
New York.
Speaker 2 (05:31):
Oh Melissa, Oh Melissa, you cute little last Let me
tell you something about you.
Speaker 4 (05:36):
You think I gotta go out there.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
You're gonna be Christine Baranski and the good What is
a show? The Good Wife or the Good Life or
the Good Content?
Speaker 4 (05:45):
Start your own law firm. That's hilarious.
Speaker 2 (05:48):
You're a woman. Women should not work. They should be
in the home. They should sit there barefoot and pregnant. Chris,
that's how I like to picture my women.
Speaker 4 (05:57):
How about you? You just hear the door shut, run out.
I'm not getting.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
But it is really funny when people like so, I
guess I can't have a boss.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
So I guess I can't have a boss.
Speaker 5 (06:10):
I mean, we're in the age now where that seems
to be a thing. It's like, I'm gonna start a
foot channel and millions month.
Speaker 2 (06:16):
By the way, I was on someone put my feet
on Wiki feet.
Speaker 4 (06:21):
There's a Wiki feet. Oh wait to know that. I'm
skeeved my feet. I hate feet.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
But my niece has a very large podcast called Then
That's why we drink. So she said, oh my god,
I'm on Wiki feet and I only got a four.
Speaker 4 (06:34):
They from one to five zero Bible. Well, I hate
Let me look up. I bet I'm not on there.
Speaker 2 (06:41):
When they had a zoom in on a foot from
the Wendy Williams Show one of my appearances, Stop bragging, Lisa,
you were on Wendy Williams more than once. Yes, I
was students. So they zoomed in then the old foot
ski I got a five. So my feet are nicer
than my niece's, which I find Actually they're not there.
Speaker 4 (07:00):
I'll be a fully disclosed they're not.
Speaker 2 (07:02):
But anyway, the foot thing, if you're ingenious enough to
think of that.
Speaker 4 (07:07):
Yeah, but this bitch, what's her name? What's this clam?
Speaker 2 (07:10):
Stay is Melissa? He went to law school. You wanted
to follow those stench of the money. You wanted to
follow that green, that that that that that that.
Speaker 4 (07:22):
The evil devils tool of the dollar.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
And now it's coming back to reap its leather revenge
up on you.
Speaker 4 (07:30):
So we either go to school for something else.
Speaker 2 (07:32):
Well, you can't be your own boss, get your dad
to buy you a law firm that you could star
and beat Christine Baranski, or you suck it up and
you decide every boss has a little bit suckiness in them.
I'm gonna have to learn how to get resilient in myself,
because what Celia's gonna leave here and she's gonna buy
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somebody better than me. No, you have to figure out
how to be resilient through all the yelling and abuse
and learn how to handle it. And if it becomes
too toxic, you move on like she invariably will.
Speaker 5 (08:05):
Ye.
Speaker 4 (08:06):
Don't you think I'm right? I agree? You gotta be
resilient to a degree.
Speaker 5 (08:09):
But I mean if it starts affecting your mental health,
then you can look from a.
Speaker 6 (08:13):
Rage group with their mental health, my mental health. My day,
we didn't have mental element, did have stress balls. We
didn't have fidget spinners. We call the fidget spinner your
boss's hand on.
Speaker 4 (08:30):
Your assid fidget and you'd spin missy.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
So figure sh all this to say I'm jumping from
one job to another. Yes, in an extreme case, yes,
I would say. What you do is you see what
you can work on within yourself, see what your threshold is.
If it becomes too much, then you got to move on.
But I don't think you can jump straight to maybe
I can never have a boss again, because you ultimately
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will have a boss. You'll have other partners in the
law firm you start, you'll have I don't know, shareholders,
and when your your company goes public, there's always gonna
be someone breathing down your neck. Look at I was
self employed as a comic. I still had to answer
to managers, agents, theaters. You don't just suddenly have license
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to shut everybody else's opinion.
Speaker 4 (09:17):
Out and be a total asshole. Even though I got
away with it.
Speaker 5 (09:20):
And she's saying her new boss is actually nice, but
it's the boss from her past that's just.
Speaker 4 (09:25):
Haunting, just haunting her.
Speaker 2 (09:26):
It's like holding against a new husband what the first
shitty husband did.
Speaker 4 (09:31):
Yeah, you gotta shed that stuff. You can't. You can't
take that baggage with you.
Speaker 2 (09:34):
It's too no, because is this your first marriage, Chris,
this is my first?
Speaker 4 (09:38):
Oh, so you don't give dud do you have like ex'es?
Speaker 2 (09:41):
You compare your current wife too and go god, thank god,
she's so much better.
Speaker 4 (09:46):
Uh yeah, yes, yes, yeah, so you you didn't keep
the stench of the old clams they dated.
Speaker 5 (09:54):
That's kind of the healthy approach, I would think is
to kind of go ow, that didn't work out, And
I was also a piece of shit in this. You
got to move forward and fix that and started in
with this person. You can't, you can't bring the baggage.
Speaker 2 (10:05):
Well, it's also taking some accountability of what you might
even if it's a small amount. What did you contribute
to the last thing? Did you say yes when you
meant no? Because a lot of the times you just
let it pile up and let it pile up, and
then there's the big snap and now you have the
stench in your nose. By the way, she's pretty fucking dramatic.
I can't even tell you I didn't use that word stench.
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You know a friend of mine last night, we're at
the diner. He gets a text from his fiance. Well,
this clam is dramatic, and she's like, oh my god,
I just cut myself on a shard of glass.
Speaker 4 (10:43):
Have you ever typed.
Speaker 5 (10:44):
The word shard if I was bleeding, I wouldn't type
oh my god to fucking start the text.
Speaker 2 (10:51):
They have a flair for the dramatic this age group,
because they're about the same age. So I think sometimes
like her word stench is a bit of an indicator
that she might be being a little much. So to
blow your nose, take the stench out of your fucking nostrils,
figure out what your problem is, learn to be resilient,
and you know what, maybe rich daddy'll buy you a
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law firm. What do you think I think this is
a good plan.
Speaker 4 (11:17):
I think so.
Speaker 5 (11:17):
I mean, I like how she gave you the option
to just tell her to shut the fuck up and
do her job and trust that she'll feel better in
a few months.
Speaker 4 (11:24):
I don't know how long she's been in this new
job for it sounds like it's pretty new. Yeah, because
like that's the thing.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
You're not even opening yourself up to the new possibility
that it could be kind of nice here.
Speaker 5 (11:35):
Yeah, this guy seems nice and could be even worse
than your last boss.
Speaker 4 (11:40):
You never know, last is half empty.
Speaker 2 (11:41):
You might be fidget spinning on his pole, as they
say in the corporate world. Hey, I had a stench
about podcasts and then I did this one and the
stench got worse. No, I no, I really did have
a stench because I had a deal with a podcast
company years ago. And again, they weren't bad, there was
nothing wrong with them, but they did have this thing
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where if you didn't have a certain amount of downloads.
Speaker 4 (12:07):
You gotta go.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
Yeah, and I'm like, oh my god, I'm never doing
a podcast again.
Speaker 4 (12:12):
Well I did, I like this one.
Speaker 2 (12:14):
We don't have that rule here, thank god, because you know,
the three listeners we have aren't going to really size up.
So I said, you know what, if I'd have kept
the stench in my nostrils and cut myself on a
shard fucking clam.
Speaker 4 (12:27):
I would have never been over here at all, right, iHeart,
And you would have never been able to listen to
me on the.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
iHeart app or wherever you get heart fuck you get
your clammy shows.
Speaker 4 (12:40):
Cleanse yourself, girl, give it a shot. It doesn't work. Yah,
Hang in there, I melissas podcasting. You know what, Honestly,
you feel like your own boss, but you're not. You
come in here.
Speaker 2 (12:51):
You got a twenty two year old who's been in
therapy for fifty years telling you what to do.
Speaker 4 (12:57):
Start speaking now. Your time's up.
Speaker 2 (13:00):
Got the other one in the other room, head of podcasting.
He looks fourteen. Fucking fucking Jewfro looks like you fucked.
Speaker 4 (13:07):
I shouldn't. I'm sixty four years old.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
I'm answering to Jufro child out there trying to fix
my fucking machine so I could tape from home, so
I don't just slept my fucking twad into the city.
Speaker 4 (13:16):
Everything's an illusion.
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Everything is a compromise. We do what we do, usually
have to co host with brain dead Nick.
Speaker 4 (13:25):
I mean this, poor Nick, poor Lisa I gotta put
up with.
Speaker 2 (13:30):
In any case, we all make compromises. Melissa, figure your
part out in it and then you'll be fine. Right,
Just say right right and listen to us on the
iHeart app or wherever you get your podcasts, and mark
your calendars for some vague time in January when Season
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two of Shrink This arrives and you get a full
hour of this magic