January 7, 2020 • 35 mins
Welcome to 2020 and to the new decade! (If you want to argue it's not a new decade, we're not going to play in that sandbox right now)
Dan is here to help you kick start the new year the right way! This week, he's giving you a look at how he's planning his year and how you can use the same tools to get in gear yourself! He's sharing with you the four keys to an EPIC 2020.
Get the notepad and pen. We're going to get this year off right!
Things discussed on the podcast include...
- The startling facts about how much time we waste on social media.
- Why it's important to embrace engagement and energy in the present moment.
- The difference between crushing the day and feeling the day.
- The power of being present
- How to see your potential in every aspect of life.
- Discovering what your intentions are.
- Creating your words of the year.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Episode eight eight four Keys to an Epic. My name
is Dan Mason. In I was overweight, getting divorced, battling depression,
and feeling trapped in a career where I was successful
but bored and unfulfilled. And it's actually the greatest gift
I've ever been given. I used my pain as a
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springboard to discover my life's purpose. Now I want to
share the same tools and strategies which helped transform my
life with you, so you can live life amplified. Welcome
to the new year. So good to be back with you.
It is an honor to serve you, and it's so
much gratitude for you for taking a few minutes out
of your week to spend them here with me. Welcome
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back to Life Amplified. You know it start of a
new year. I'm not gonna go there and say it's
the start of a new decade, because it seems like
that's a sticking point. On Facebook, I made a post
recently where I talked about the new decade, and then
I got like five or six of the negative Nancy's
who just liked to be confrarian, and they're like, the
need decade doesn't start until the first year. It's got
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to be a one dan for it to be gaining,
for it to begin a new decade. You know what,
it doesn't matter if here in one of those people
out there that likes to leave the crappy post on
someone's Facebook page, doesn't really matter. You can create change
on the fifth year of a decade as much as
the ninth or the first. You can create change in
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your life the first week of January just as easily
as you can the third week of August. You know
what we're talking about right now. It's symbolism, and it
is a metaphor. This is a clean slate. It is
a time to leave the past in the past. It's
a time to not future trip over what's going to
happen in the future. Here in the United States, it's
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a political year, so I know that there's a lot
of people who are already sort of panicked over how
that's going to play out with the election. One of
the things we're going to talk about in this epic
that we're going to build together is being in the present.
But what I'm a challenge is you and I making
an intention together today that we're going to go all in.
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This is a time, more than ever in the history
of the world, where we need people stepping into their purpose.
Because when you look on social media and you watch
the news, doesn't it ever seem to you like the
people who are speaking up the loudest, who are most
putting themselves out there, are the ones who seem to
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be doing the most damage to the world. You know,
where are the people with the purpose and the desire
to serve, and the desire to love and create and
you know, live from their hearts? Why are we the
ones who were most apt to step back and to
play small and hide. And you know there's actual legitimate
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psychological reasons for that. It's you know, many times trauma
gets in the way and old patterns from filthood, your attachment,
as we've discussed on this podcast. But I'm challenging myself
and there are two areas in in my life in
particular where I'm going all in. Number one, just in
terms of creation, twenty nineteen was a year where I
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fell off. Just even in the consistency of the podcast,
I felt creatively blocked a couple of times, you know,
as I was going through some other issues in my life,
it was hard to create the mental space to produce
the content that I'm used to producing. So this is
a year where I'm fully committed. I've got some you know,
weeks marked off on the calendar where I'm going to
be doing some traveling and some retreats. But forty six episodes.
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That is my commitment to you in I want to
be here with consistency. I want to give you the value.
I want to share with you everything that I'm learning
on my path, but also make sure that we're getting
you the best guests who are going to be here
to inspire you. That's a place where I'm going all in.
A place you've heard me talk in the past where
I've been all in and then I've been all out
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is Health Goals twenty team. When I was living in
New York, I got in the best shape of my
adult life. I look good, and then I moved here
to the beach, you know, and I fell off a
little bit. I became a beach bum. So this is
a place where I want to make sure that I
am nourishing my body just as much as my mind,
and that I am maintaining that balance between my emotional
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and my physical well being. What is it for you? Though,
where are the places where you want to go all in?
Is this the year you're really, for real this time
going to achieve that ever elusive life work balance. Is
this the year you're gonna stop playing small in your
career and you're gonna leave that steady paycheck but really
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take your purpose and bring it into the world. Maybe
you've got away just to live your purpose while you're
still collecting the corporate paycheck. That is fine too, you know.
Maybe it's it's more about your health goals or your finances.
I've seen so many of my clients over the past
year do all these things, you know, I want to
shout out. My client Gene every her thirty dollars in
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debt over the course of I am so proud of her.
And she's healed her relationship with her mom, she set
boundaries with work, She's doing all this, you know, these
amazing things moving forward. I think of you know, my
clients Shantal who we worked together, and she had sold
this company that she had owned for years and years
that had become a burden to her. But she's still
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an active woman. She's like, what do I do with
the next point of my life? And she almost felt
guilty for pursuing some of her creative passions in terms
of buying homes and redecorating them and flipping them. And
you know, she even picked up some Airbnb rental properties
that she redecorated. And long story short, I don't want
to get into you know, all of it here, but
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the home redecorating has led her into the wedding business.
She created a space that people now want to rent
out as an affordable option for weddings in Florida. And
she's so connected to this next vision for her. So
I've seen so many people just step up with courage
and with conviction. And that's the standard that I want
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you and I to set for this year, because the
secret to happiness can be summed up in one word.
It is about growth. If you are not growing, if
I am not growing together, my friend, we are dying.
And that was the interesting thing for me last year
is you know, I realized that everything I had I
had envisioned in my tenure plan, I had reached it
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in two and for all the exponential growth in tween,
last year was a year of where do I go
from here? What is the best way for me to
serve what is the value that I can give to
the world. But I couldn't sit back and just rest
on what I had built. And I think you've experienced
this right. There's so many people who were successful, but
they feel unfulfilled because no matter what your definition of
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success is or how far you've come in your life,
once you get there, you reach a goal. It feels
good for a week, a month, six months, maybe a year,
but then you really as there is always a next
level beyond that for you to grow into. Let's set
the intention. Yes, we want to grow in terms of
our career. That's what I do as a career in
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life transition coach, help people take their purpose and bring
it to life. But let's also grow in all areas.
Let's make this a year to focus holistically. Relationships, how
are you showing up there? There are so many people
who are crushing it in their career, but they're not
present when they come home. They don't even have the
energy to give. There are people who are crushing it.
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You know in one area. Maybe relationships are great, but
then you've got a little comfortable and you let your
health go. Let's take inventory of what it is that
you want to change, and let's remove the obstacles that
are going to get in the way as well. This is,
you know, the biggest thing when I'm working with my
clients one on one again, tell me where you want
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to go. I'll help you get there. But people sometimes
can be frustrated because we have to look at what
has previously stood in the way of you achieving the goal.
A lot of times it's distraction, at least on the
surface level. We distract ourselves because underneath it is the
fear of failure or sometimes the fear of success, the
fear that we're not enough. You know that somehow you
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know we're lacking or we're not worthy of the goals.
But what it manifests at the top level behavior is distraction.
You know so many people numbing out on social media.
This is a fascinating statistic. I saw it, by the way,
and on the surface, I thought this number was a
little bit low. But when you extrapolated out and do
the math, I think you're going to be amazed. The
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average person in North America right now spends thirty minutes
a day on Facebook. I actually would have thought that
that number is higher, but thirty minutes a day, which
in general probably didn't seem like too much. Well, you're like,
oh damn, that's my me time, that's my time just
to be connected to other people. By the way, isn't
it fascinating how we've used social media h is a
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way to stay connected rather than setting up coffee dates
or picking up a phone call like that is such
an irritation for me, and I've caught myself doing it
in the past, you know, substituting this surface level connection
for truly going deep with the people in our lives.
But let's think about that. If you were on Facebook
thirty minutes a day every day, that is twenty to
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eight hour work days over the course of a year
that you are giving to social media, think about that.
What could you accomplish in twenty to eight hour work days.
I'm not even telling you it has to be more
stuff for your career. But for all the times people
tell me down, I don't have time to get to
the gym, I don't have time to get out in date,
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I don't have time to write the book I've always
wanted to do, or launch my side hustle, thirty minutes
less on social media. And here's the thing. That's just
the average. I know you might be sitting there going
right now with God. Like I spent thirty minutes on Facebook,
another thirty on Instagram, another twenty minutes text messaging. So
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if you're spending sixty minutes a day in distraction on
social media or watching one Netflix episode per night, let's
take that sixty minutes. That is forty four eight hour
work days that you have cast aside that you could
be doing something that is bringing more joy into your life.
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I don't think social media. I've never met a person's like,
oh my god, social media brings me so much joy. Dan,
you know Netflix, maybe like you know, depending on the show. Look,
I loved me some House of Cards back in the day,
even when it sucked. In the last two seasons, I
wasted some time there too, but it always came with
a certain level of guilt. In Instagram and in Facebook.
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Is that really elevating your joy in your life? Most
of the time, for most people, it isn't. Because you're
comparing your life to other people, or you know why
you're not doing as well as this person. A lot
of times it brings us down, and you know, we
get so caught up in just numbing ourselves to mask
that fear or insecurity about chasing our next level, that
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we don't really pursue the things or invest our time
and the things that bring us to it. And like, look, literally,
that's just sixty minutes a day. Now, Let's think if
you're a person who is wasting ninety minutes two hours
screwing around on your cell phone playing games and apps
on your phone, you're literally, I mean we start working
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our way up into like three, four or five months
of time that is wasted, that is holding you back.
So this is a year to step back, to recommit
and to go all in, which means that you're gonna
need clarity of where it is you want to go.
It means you're gonna need mentorship to help you get there.
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Got to have people to check in to hold you accountable,
who can see the blind spots that you can't. So,
whether that's you working with me or having a mentor
somewhere else in your life that's further ahead then new,
You've got to make that happen. And I got to
have real social connection because having the base of encouragement
and support becomes everything. And when we talk here about
how to have an epic twenty. Each twenty I'm going
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to be hitting on a few of these topics. I
think that this is all going to tie in. I
think it's going to resonate. And what I would love
is you know, once we get through the podcast this week,
if you could screenshot this uploaded to Instagram or Twitter,
you can tag me at c sc Dan Mason. I'd
love to know which of these four concepts you're really
going to focus on in the first month of the year.
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I would love for you to share that you can
also join us in our life Amplified Power Tribe, which
is our private Facebook community. But I want to make
this an ongoing conversation and I want to make sure
that I'm giving you all the support you need and
you know, giving you opportunities to hold yourself accountable. So
in epic is really just an acronym, and I want
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to start out with the letter E. If you want
to elevate, if you want to have an epic ear,
you have to be emotionally present in the present moment.
There's so many of us and it's easy to do.
We are investing energy going back living in the past.
Have you ever caught yourself going down that road where
you start thinking about, you know, the X who scrooge
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you over, or the boss who was a giant a
hole in a jerk, and then you start planning out
in your head all the things you wish you would
have said, and all of a sudden, even though these
things were years ago, you recreate those emotions of the past,
and now you're not really living connected to the present moment.
You're replaying old emotions from the past, which, by the way,
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very rarely are ones that are empowering. It's usually anger, sadness, regret, shame, guilt.
And why is this so important? Well, because emotion is
what dictates the action that you're going to take or
not take. You know, you're not going to take courageous
action to step outside of your comfort zone if you're
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in a place of being in a shame spiral, or
if you're in a place of anger or sadness or
wanting revenge, it's not inspiring you to move forward. Likewise,
when you are in a place of creativity, of inspiration,
of love, of connection, you're going to create action steps
in your life more fruitfully and powerfully. So emotion is
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the name of the game, but many people living in
the past, or there are many of us who are
living in the future and creating the worst possible scenario
in our head and constantly looking for a threat. You know,
one of the best things I've ever heard. I don't
know who said this, maybe it was Oprah, but the
idea was, Hey, when you're in the shower in the morning,
are you really in the shower? Yes, physically you are there,
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but where are you? Mentally? Are you already thinking ahead
to that meeting at work that you're dreading? Are you
thinking ahead and obsessing over whether the person you went
on a date with is going to text you back?
Are thinking ahead and dreading? What are you gonna do?
You know? For people at the holidays, a lot of
my clients this was a big one. People were living
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in the future and dread of Oh my god, will
there be more drama at family Christmas dinner? So what
I want to challenge you to do is to emotionally
engage in the present moment. What can you be excited
about today? And I wanted to share with you something
from my life that I didn't even mention. Is a
takeaway on the Urine Review podcast that I did because
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this was a new revelation that just came up for
me in the past couple of days. But I wrote
in my journal about the huge difference between crushing the
day and feeling the day. You know, we live in
a culture. I sort of jokingly referred to it as
the Gary B culture. Like, if you've ever watched Gary
Bannerchuk's content, a lot of it is, Hey, you gotta
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work your eyeballs out, and you gotta go to work
eight to five, and then you gotta go home work
on your side hustle seven to midnight, and you know, yes,
we have to put in hard work to get to
our next double. But there's been this huge trend in
personal development, and I see people backing away from it,
even with Gary V, who I love his content and
that dude's heart is in the right place. I truly
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believe he has empathy, But I've seen him talking more
about feeling, and I've seen him talking less about doing
and more about how you're showing up with kindness with empathy.
And I think that this is going to be a
trend in the personal development space, and it's going to
have to be a trend in corporate America. Corporate America
traditionally has been run from a very masculine energy place
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about disconnecting from emotion, you know, analytical thinking, strategizing, striving, competing.
But why so many people are unhappy in their corporate
job is there is none of that feminine energy need
for connection and for creativity. There's a lot of people
going through the motions in a job where they don't
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think that their company cares about them. They don't feel
like they're important, they feel like they're a cog in
the machine. And how can you blame people for feeling
that way? Every year in the fourth quarter, we see
companies just start laying people off after you know, years
of good service, just because they were a number on
a spreadsheet, and in many instances they just made too
much money. In my old industry and media, that's happening
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all over the place, and I know that it's not
the only sector where that happens. So we can get
so caught up in the results and in the doing
that we're not in a place of feeling and the
quality of our life is in the emotional engagement with ourselves,
of giving ourselves credit and celebrating the small winds and
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celebrating the progress as we grow into this next version
of our life, but also emotionally engaging with the people
around us so important. Like I get it if I
had a dollar for every time over the past two
years that I see this in applications. I hear it
from my clients, I see it in listener emails. It's
one of the things where they say, I come home
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and I have no thing left to give my family.
You know, I'm short tempered, I'm grumpy. I'm at the
dinner table with them, but I'm not listening to anything
that my partner is saying because I don't have the
mental bandwidth to even show up emotional engagement in the
present moment. Here's a case from my life, just in
the past couple of weeks where I noticed I was
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not at all engaged. I was out walking my dog
and I live on the waterfront here in Lahoya, California,
and you know, when I moved here in January of
last year, I would stroll up and down that beach
front and awe. I truly believe that this is one
of the most beautiful places in the country. I thrive
when I'm on the water. It's not like this brown, greasy,
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dirty ocean, you know, when I lived in Florida and
get a lot of that, just like brown, disgusting ocean water.
But you'll look out and it's just this beautiful, turquoise ocean.
And every day I was in a sense of awe
and inspiration and happiness and gratitude about the fact that
I can wake up and look at this. But isn't
it funny how much the things were grateful for eventually
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just become an expectation and we take it for granted.
Gratitude turns into taken for granted very quickly. And you know,
then I was just out going through the motions you
don't buy November, walking my dog, but not really taken
in all this beauty around me. So I was coming
back from a walk and I noticed that there was
this woman on the other side of the street. He
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was just standing at the street corner and she was
staring I believe she was staring at me and my
dog while he was taking a poop. And I'm like,
what is this lady's deal? Like, why is she staring
me down? Like I was like, maybe she's just, you know,
maybe she's mentally off something weird, and she yelled across
the street, She's like, can you believe that behind you?
And I turned around and unbeknownst to me, I've been
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on the walk. I didn't even notice this because I
was so in my own world. It was the most beautiful, vibrant,
gorgeous rainbow I had ever seen. And it was also
it wasn't even like off in the distance. It felt
super close, like it like the end of that rainbow
was going right down into the water front at the ocean.
And it's the most beautiful rainbow I've ever seen. And
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I was completely not even aware I had missed it.
How often do we do that? How often do we
close ourselves off to observing the beauty in the world.
How how often do we shut ourselves down from even
observing the kindness observing the strangers around us? How many
times have we blocked ourselves from making a new relationship
because our head is down and more in our own world,
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thinking about that next thing that's going to make us happy,
when really the only place that we have the power
or the resources to feel anything is in the present moment.
So that is the first step that I would challenge
you for is to emotionally engage in the present. Emotional
presence is the E and having your epic Number two,
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let's move on to the P. Are you living your potential?
I heard Brendan Burchard recently on a training referred to
this is like activating your potential, and that can be
hard in the sense that most of us don't really
know what our highest potential is. We didn't create our
highest potential, you know. I believe our highest potential was
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created by whatever force or higher power you believe breathe
the life into you. And that's oftentimes the problem is
that we undersell ourselves of what we're capable of. We
actually played down to our own expectations, not realizing that
there is a universal force that is such a much
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bigger plan for our life. If it were up to me,
nothing that I've created in my life right now would
have happened until I thought I was on a ten
year plan. It all happened in two That had nothing
to do with I mean, yes, I showed up for
the goals, but it was also underselling myself, you know.
Tony Robbins once famously said that we overestimate what we
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can do in a year. We underestimate what we can
do in a decade. And that was a little bit
of the challenge for me in nine is where do
I go from here? And am I capable of more?
Do I have more to offer? And the answer is yes,
of course I do, and so do you. By the way,
we are creative beings. We are products of creation. It
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is our duty to go out and create. Now, my
highest potential might not look anything like yours because we're
here to do different things, and that's fine. But this
also again, this isn't about this masculine energy. Do do
do climb the top of the career ladder? You know? Yes,
we want our work to be an expression of our purpose.
I'm going to get to that in just a moment.
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But are you showing up as your highest self and
that your highest potential? In your relationships, where are you
at there? Are you really truly giving your partner your
best or are you giving them a bare minimum? Because
your partner has become like that rainbow in my life
and you just take it for granted. What about your children?
You know? What about your physical health? Are you settling
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in your finances and just trying to protect what you
have because you're too afraid to pursue that big idea
that you have that could generate five million dollars for you.
It's amazing how many times we can get so caught
up in trying to protect like fifty dollars in savings,
we don't do the thing that could generate five million.
And all it is is a mindset shift. One of
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my clients at the end of last year manifested half
a million dollars in ten days. We have so much
potential and creative ability in our life, but we misdirect
our energy. This is where we're getting into distraction, where
the person on social media, you know, wasting twenty eight
hour work days or more maybe twenty two weeks of it.
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And I'm not asking you to perfectly know what your
absolute highest potential of the universe is. I don't even
know mine. But what is the next thing in front
of you if you were truly showing up in an
amplified way at home, home, at work, and for your purpose,
what would be the next step? Once you lock in
on that, you are locked into your potential, which is
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the second step in creating an epic, because if you're
not tapped into your potential, it is very hard to
grow the third step. Let's talk about the eye in
your epic. It is all about intention. Now on some level,
you could also look at this as purpose, and I
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do believe, and it's one of my favorite things I
do with my clients. I just got a text message
from a new client who started working with me right
around Thanksgiving and we created her purpose statement, and I
got a text message from her that was just so
lit up because she finally felt like it was a
coming home to herself and she was clear on what
she's here to do, not just in terms of a
job title, but what she's here to feel and to
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give to others through her work. But I think that
there's an even more subtle elements underneath purpose, which is
an inten hip. It's not just what do I want
to do with my life, but the bigger question is
who do I want to be? Moment by moment and
by the way that can change day to day. You know,
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I always look at like your daily intentions. It's sort
of like you know, it's created internally. First of all,
most of us are chasing goals externally outside of ourselves.
We think, when I get that next job. When I
get the next pay raise, then I will have more value.
But the value is what you're bringing forward internally and
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who you are. Next week on the podcast, I'm going
to do a deep dive on this. We're gonna talk
about how to increase your own personal value in So
I want to save some of that content for then.
But your value is not in what you do. The
value is into who you are. So how do you
want to show up something I've done a little bit
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differently this year with my goal setting is rather than
setting some list of like fifteen external goal and another
carrot to chase. And the problem with that is when
you're constantly chasing a carrot, you're delaying your happiness a
lot of times into the future. You're saying, well, I'll
be happy when I get this next thing. I will
feel enough when I have more money or when I
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have the next relationship. And the problem with that is
you can't create externally what you're not already embodying internally.
This is why so many people stay stuck financially. They're
waiting for external evidence that they can make two hundred
thousand dollars a year before they allow themselves to feel
worthy and abundant and wealthy in the moment. So, you know,
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creating these intentions internally, it becomes your purpose today. It
is what is the thing in front of you. Some
of the key words for me that I'm aligned with
for this coming year our love. I want to focus
on putting more love out into the universe. And this
is also a year where I'm really ready to receive it,
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you know, I'm I'm ready to create that relationship to
complement everything that I've built in the career. So love
is a huge intention for me. Community community is such
a big one. It's one of the weird things about
my job. You know. The best thing about it is
I can work from anywhere via a laptop. You know,
I can usually work at home, and the worst part
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of my job is that I work from home from
a laptop, so it can be a disconnection. And I've
got so many amazing friends I've made through the Personal
Growth Space, and it's amazing how many of our podcast
guests to become very close friends of mine, but they
don't live here where I'm at. So finding that daily
community where the people just you know, and really focusing
on that, and I want to do that here too,
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like I want to create, you know, a better sense
of community for listeners of the podcast, We're gonna be
talking about ways that you can come join me and
do a retreat with me here in San Diego, you know.
And that's all on the planning stages. If it's something
that you'd like to get the inside word on, just
shoot me a d M on Instagram and I'll get
you on me in eider part of that, we'll talk
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about it. You can always find me on instant by
the way, at c SC Dan Mason. But community is
going to be a big focus for me this year.
Joy is another word, not just happiness. I'm talking about
unbridled joy, about creating that within myself, but also sharing that,
radiating that out into the world, be in the light,
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being the source of joy for other people. And another
word that I personally put for this year was ease.
I am done with the hustle and grind culture, and
I think that that's such a difficult thing for people
in the entrepreneurs space. It's been preached by most of
the influencers in the space. You gotta get out there,
you gotta hustle, you gotta work your eyeballs out. Well,
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if that's your model of the world, is the only
path to income. By the way, there's some people who
are doing this in corporate America as well. I was
actually talking with a friend of mine on New Year's Eve.
We were hanging out, and she had mentioned to me that, well,
you only get what you're willing to work hard for.
And yes, we want to show up and take action,
but this is a friend who was always perpetually stressed
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out and in a state of overwork. And if the
model of the world is the only way that I
can receive nice things is to overgive, it's a dangerous
place to be. So for me this year, I want
to create from a place of ease, you know, because
when I'm in a place of ease, I'm more creative.
You know, i can produce more content, and I'm in
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a flow state at that point, you know, where there's
no hard work about it. You know, I can be
in the process of creation in five hours, can go
by and feel like twenty minutes. So those are internal
tensions intentions for me this year, But what is yours?
You know, start living intentionally purposefully. If you're going into
work at a meeting, decide what the intention is for
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that meeting, you know, make sure people state that upfront.
One of the questions I've been asking a lot of
my clients of the past year at the start of
every session is what is your intention for the time today?
And it's remarkable that as they set the intention, a
lot of times at the end of the session, I'll
ask him how do you feel, and They'll repeat back
the word that they intended without even being aware of it.
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So you know, as your intention goes, that's where the
energy will flow. It is the number three key to
creating an epic life in and that brings us to
the fourth and final elements of your epic. The letter
C is for creation. If we consider intention to be
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what we're creating internally within ourselves, then the creation is
how that manifests outward. Another way that you could look
at this is passion. Are you making a daily commitment
to doing something that lights you up at a soul level,
even if it's just thirty minutes a day for you.
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It could be working out, it could be writing, it
could be singing, it could be thirty minutes a day
towards building your side hustle or creating that new blog
or website. But we've got to make it a daily intention.
I've used the analogy here before in the podcast. So
many people treating their purpose and their passion like it's
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the side chick, right, you know, they make thirty minutes
for it, and they sneak away for it a little
bit on Sunday when nobody's looking. This is a daily
commitment if you're gonna go all in making sure that
you are doing something that feeds you thirty minutes a day,
not in a numbing way. I'm not talking about more
social media and having a glass of wine because it's
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just convenient, but something that really makes you come alive,
because whatever you're here to create ultimately becomes your contribution
to the world. It's what you're here to give and
to share with others. You have that gift within you
that if you finally got it together, got out of
your own way, and let that gift be seen in
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the world, it's going to impact somebody, maybe even just
the people around you. You're you know, by you showing
up in the act of creation, it may very well
just to impact your family because you're in a better mood,
You're more lit up. You know you're not showing up
from a place of overwhelm and exhaustion and depletion. Know
that is you are creating. You are connected to yourself
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and whatever it is that manifest out of that is
a gift to your family, your community, and perhaps even
the world. So to recap your epic can be summed
up in four words or four phrases more accurately. Number
one emotional engagement with the present moment. Can you be
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grounded and centered, not living in the past, not future tripping,
but being vitally alive and connected to the present moment.
Number two, will you commit to living your potential? Will
you commit to that next level in your career and
your purpose? In your creativity, your mission, your relationships, your health,
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Let's go all in together. In the third one is intention,
not just what do you want to do? Who do
you want to be? And I go through this process,
by the way, on a morning by morning basis. Every
day I turned my intentions into I am statements for
the day. You know, I am love, I am community.
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I allow that to guide me. And it's funny I've
noticed this that you know, since I've recommitted to doing
that practice. What I put down on that paper becomes
my experience of the day, and I can change it
day by day. During the days where I'm feeling a
little tired, I don't want to go as hard. You know,
maybe that's not the day that I want to say,
I want to feel super accomplished. Now, that's not the
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day to squeeze seven more things onto the to do list.
But you can change it day by day. But really
connecting to that in turn compass and once you're connected
to yourself, then the fourth one becomes creation and what
are you bringing forward into the world, into your life,
into your family, your home, your friendships in the coming year.
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I would love to know which of these you're going
to be focused on. A big one for me is
emotional engagement in the presence. I know that that's my target.
I'd love to hear what yours is. You can go
to Instagram, screenshot the podcast, upload this tag me at
c sc Dan Mason, share your breakthrough and your commitment
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and you can always join us in the life Amplified
Power Tribe or private Facebook community. We have that link
for you on the show notes. Don't forget if you
need some mentorship and assistance. And by the way, that's
not if everybody needs mentorship and assistance, but if you
would like to work together to take these intentions, these goals,
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this epic blueprint for and make it your daily reality.
If you would like a career and a life with
more meaning, freedom and fulfillment, I have got you a
couple of spots open for V I P Coaching here
in the month of January. You can fill out an
application by going to my website, which is Creative Soul
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Coaching dot net. We have a link for that in
the show notes for you as well. I'll be back
next week. We're gonna talk about how to raise your
personal value. If self worth has ever gotten in the
way for you, I promise next week's episode is going
to be awesome. I'll talk to you in in the meantime.
Turn down the volume on your negativity, turn up the
volume on your purpose so you can live life amplified.
Episode eight eight four Keys to an Epic. My name
is Dan Mason. In I was overweight, getting divorced, battling depression,
and feeling trapped in a career where I was successful
but bored and unfulfilled. And it's actually the greatest gift
I've ever been given. I used my pain as a
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springboard to discover my life's purpose. Now I want to
share the same tools and strategies which helped transform my
life with you, so you can live life amplified. Welcome
to the new year. So good to be back with you.
It is an honor to serve you, and it's so
much gratitude for you for taking a few minutes out
of your week to spend them here with me. Welcome
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back to Life Amplified. You know it start of a
new year. I'm not gonna go there and say it's
the start of a new decade, because it seems like
that's a sticking point. On Facebook, I made a post
recently where I talked about the new decade, and then
I got like five or six of the negative Nancy's
who just liked to be confrarian, and they're like, the
need decade doesn't start until the first year. It's got
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to be a one dan for it to be gaining,
for it to begin a new decade. You know what,
it doesn't matter if here in one of those people
out there that likes to leave the crappy post on
someone's Facebook page, doesn't really matter. You can create change
on the fifth year of a decade as much as
the ninth or the first. You can create change in
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your life the first week of January just as easily
as you can the third week of August. You know
what we're talking about right now. It's symbolism, and it
is a metaphor. This is a clean slate. It is
a time to leave the past in the past. It's
a time to not future trip over what's going to
happen in the future. Here in the United States, it's
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a political year, so I know that there's a lot
of people who are already sort of panicked over how
that's going to play out with the election. One of
the things we're going to talk about in this epic
that we're going to build together is being in the present.
But what I'm a challenge is you and I making
an intention together today that we're going to go all in.
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This is a time, more than ever in the history
of the world, where we need people stepping into their purpose.
Because when you look on social media and you watch
the news, doesn't it ever seem to you like the
people who are speaking up the loudest, who are most
putting themselves out there, are the ones who seem to
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be doing the most damage to the world. You know,
where are the people with the purpose and the desire
to serve, and the desire to love and create and
you know, live from their hearts? Why are we the
ones who were most apt to step back and to
play small and hide. And you know there's actual legitimate
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psychological reasons for that. It's you know, many times trauma
gets in the way and old patterns from filthood, your attachment,
as we've discussed on this podcast. But I'm challenging myself
and there are two areas in in my life in
particular where I'm going all in. Number one, just in
terms of creation, twenty nineteen was a year where I
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fell off. Just even in the consistency of the podcast,
I felt creatively blocked a couple of times, you know,
as I was going through some other issues in my life,
it was hard to create the mental space to produce
the content that I'm used to producing. So this is
a year where I'm fully committed. I've got some you know,
weeks marked off on the calendar where I'm going to
be doing some traveling and some retreats. But forty six episodes.
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That is my commitment to you in I want to
be here with consistency. I want to give you the value.
I want to share with you everything that I'm learning
on my path, but also make sure that we're getting
you the best guests who are going to be here
to inspire you. That's a place where I'm going all in.
A place you've heard me talk in the past where
I've been all in and then I've been all out
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is Health Goals twenty team. When I was living in
New York, I got in the best shape of my
adult life. I look good, and then I moved here
to the beach, you know, and I fell off a
little bit. I became a beach bum. So this is
a place where I want to make sure that I
am nourishing my body just as much as my mind,
and that I am maintaining that balance between my emotional
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and my physical well being. What is it for you? Though,
where are the places where you want to go all in?
Is this the year you're really, for real this time
going to achieve that ever elusive life work balance. Is
this the year you're gonna stop playing small in your
career and you're gonna leave that steady paycheck but really
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take your purpose and bring it into the world. Maybe
you've got away just to live your purpose while you're
still collecting the corporate paycheck. That is fine too, you know.
Maybe it's it's more about your health goals or your finances.
I've seen so many of my clients over the past
year do all these things, you know, I want to
shout out. My client Gene every her thirty dollars in
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debt over the course of I am so proud of her.
And she's healed her relationship with her mom, she set
boundaries with work, She's doing all this, you know, these
amazing things moving forward. I think of you know, my
clients Shantal who we worked together, and she had sold
this company that she had owned for years and years
that had become a burden to her. But she's still
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an active woman. She's like, what do I do with
the next point of my life? And she almost felt
guilty for pursuing some of her creative passions in terms
of buying homes and redecorating them and flipping them. And
you know, she even picked up some Airbnb rental properties
that she redecorated. And long story short, I don't want
to get into you know, all of it here, but
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the home redecorating has led her into the wedding business.
She created a space that people now want to rent
out as an affordable option for weddings in Florida. And
she's so connected to this next vision for her. So
I've seen so many people just step up with courage
and with conviction. And that's the standard that I want
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you and I to set for this year, because the
secret to happiness can be summed up in one word.
It is about growth. If you are not growing, if
I am not growing together, my friend, we are dying.
And that was the interesting thing for me last year
is you know, I realized that everything I had I
had envisioned in my tenure plan, I had reached it
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in two and for all the exponential growth in tween,
last year was a year of where do I go
from here? What is the best way for me to
serve what is the value that I can give to
the world. But I couldn't sit back and just rest
on what I had built. And I think you've experienced
this right. There's so many people who were successful, but
they feel unfulfilled because no matter what your definition of
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success is or how far you've come in your life,
once you get there, you reach a goal. It feels
good for a week, a month, six months, maybe a year,
but then you really as there is always a next
level beyond that for you to grow into. Let's set
the intention. Yes, we want to grow in terms of
our career. That's what I do as a career in
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life transition coach, help people take their purpose and bring
it to life. But let's also grow in all areas.
Let's make this a year to focus holistically. Relationships, how
are you showing up there? There are so many people
who are crushing it in their career, but they're not
present when they come home. They don't even have the
energy to give. There are people who are crushing it.
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You know in one area. Maybe relationships are great, but
then you've got a little comfortable and you let your
health go. Let's take inventory of what it is that
you want to change, and let's remove the obstacles that
are going to get in the way as well. This is,
you know, the biggest thing when I'm working with my
clients one on one again, tell me where you want
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to go. I'll help you get there. But people sometimes
can be frustrated because we have to look at what
has previously stood in the way of you achieving the goal.
A lot of times it's distraction, at least on the
surface level. We distract ourselves because underneath it is the
fear of failure or sometimes the fear of success, the
fear that we're not enough. You know that somehow you
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know we're lacking or we're not worthy of the goals.
But what it manifests at the top level behavior is distraction.
You know so many people numbing out on social media.
This is a fascinating statistic. I saw it, by the way,
and on the surface, I thought this number was a
little bit low. But when you extrapolated out and do
the math, I think you're going to be amazed. The
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average person in North America right now spends thirty minutes
a day on Facebook. I actually would have thought that
that number is higher, but thirty minutes a day, which
in general probably didn't seem like too much. Well, you're like,
oh damn, that's my me time, that's my time just
to be connected to other people. By the way, isn't
it fascinating how we've used social media h is a
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way to stay connected rather than setting up coffee dates
or picking up a phone call like that is such
an irritation for me, and I've caught myself doing it
in the past, you know, substituting this surface level connection
for truly going deep with the people in our lives.
But let's think about that. If you were on Facebook
thirty minutes a day every day, that is twenty to
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eight hour work days over the course of a year
that you are giving to social media, think about that.
What could you accomplish in twenty to eight hour work days.
I'm not even telling you it has to be more
stuff for your career. But for all the times people
tell me down, I don't have time to get to
the gym, I don't have time to get out in date,
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I don't have time to write the book I've always
wanted to do, or launch my side hustle, thirty minutes
less on social media. And here's the thing. That's just
the average. I know you might be sitting there going
right now with God. Like I spent thirty minutes on Facebook,
another thirty on Instagram, another twenty minutes text messaging. So
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if you're spending sixty minutes a day in distraction on
social media or watching one Netflix episode per night, let's
take that sixty minutes. That is forty four eight hour
work days that you have cast aside that you could
be doing something that is bringing more joy into your life.
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I don't think social media. I've never met a person's like,
oh my god, social media brings me so much joy. Dan,
you know Netflix, maybe like you know, depending on the show. Look,
I loved me some House of Cards back in the day,
even when it sucked. In the last two seasons, I
wasted some time there too, but it always came with
a certain level of guilt. In Instagram and in Facebook.
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Is that really elevating your joy in your life? Most
of the time, for most people, it isn't. Because you're
comparing your life to other people, or you know why
you're not doing as well as this person. A lot
of times it brings us down, and you know, we
get so caught up in just numbing ourselves to mask
that fear or insecurity about chasing our next level, that
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we don't really pursue the things or invest our time
and the things that bring us to it. And like, look, literally,
that's just sixty minutes a day. Now, Let's think if
you're a person who is wasting ninety minutes two hours
screwing around on your cell phone playing games and apps
on your phone, you're literally, I mean we start working
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our way up into like three, four or five months
of time that is wasted, that is holding you back.
So this is a year to step back, to recommit
and to go all in, which means that you're gonna
need clarity of where it is you want to go.
It means you're gonna need mentorship to help you get there.
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Got to have people to check in to hold you accountable,
who can see the blind spots that you can't. So,
whether that's you working with me or having a mentor
somewhere else in your life that's further ahead then new,
You've got to make that happen. And I got to
have real social connection because having the base of encouragement
and support becomes everything. And when we talk here about
how to have an epic twenty. Each twenty I'm going
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to be hitting on a few of these topics. I
think that this is all going to tie in. I
think it's going to resonate. And what I would love
is you know, once we get through the podcast this week,
if you could screenshot this uploaded to Instagram or Twitter,
you can tag me at c sc Dan Mason. I'd
love to know which of these four concepts you're really
going to focus on in the first month of the year.
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I would love for you to share that you can
also join us in our life Amplified Power Tribe, which
is our private Facebook community. But I want to make
this an ongoing conversation and I want to make sure
that I'm giving you all the support you need and
you know, giving you opportunities to hold yourself accountable. So
in epic is really just an acronym, and I want
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to start out with the letter E. If you want
to elevate, if you want to have an epic ear,
you have to be emotionally present in the present moment.
There's so many of us and it's easy to do.
We are investing energy going back living in the past.
Have you ever caught yourself going down that road where
you start thinking about, you know, the X who scrooge
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you over, or the boss who was a giant a
hole in a jerk, and then you start planning out
in your head all the things you wish you would
have said, and all of a sudden, even though these
things were years ago, you recreate those emotions of the past,
and now you're not really living connected to the present moment.
You're replaying old emotions from the past, which, by the way,
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very rarely are ones that are empowering. It's usually anger, sadness, regret, shame, guilt.
And why is this so important? Well, because emotion is
what dictates the action that you're going to take or
not take. You know, you're not going to take courageous
action to step outside of your comfort zone if you're
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in a place of being in a shame spiral, or
if you're in a place of anger or sadness or
wanting revenge, it's not inspiring you to move forward. Likewise,
when you are in a place of creativity, of inspiration,
of love, of connection, you're going to create action steps
in your life more fruitfully and powerfully. So emotion is
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the name of the game, but many people living in
the past, or there are many of us who are
living in the future and creating the worst possible scenario
in our head and constantly looking for a threat. You know,
one of the best things I've ever heard. I don't
know who said this, maybe it was Oprah, but the
idea was, Hey, when you're in the shower in the morning,
are you really in the shower? Yes, physically you are there,
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but where are you? Mentally? Are you already thinking ahead
to that meeting at work that you're dreading? Are you
thinking ahead and obsessing over whether the person you went
on a date with is going to text you back?
Are thinking ahead and dreading? What are you gonna do?
You know? For people at the holidays, a lot of
my clients this was a big one. People were living
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in the future and dread of Oh my god, will
there be more drama at family Christmas dinner? So what
I want to challenge you to do is to emotionally
engage in the present moment. What can you be excited
about today? And I wanted to share with you something
from my life that I didn't even mention. Is a
takeaway on the Urine Review podcast that I did because
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this was a new revelation that just came up for
me in the past couple of days. But I wrote
in my journal about the huge difference between crushing the
day and feeling the day. You know, we live in
a culture. I sort of jokingly referred to it as
the Gary B culture. Like, if you've ever watched Gary
Bannerchuk's content, a lot of it is, Hey, you gotta
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work your eyeballs out, and you gotta go to work
eight to five, and then you gotta go home work
on your side hustle seven to midnight, and you know, yes,
we have to put in hard work to get to
our next double. But there's been this huge trend in
personal development, and I see people backing away from it,
even with Gary V, who I love his content and
that dude's heart is in the right place. I truly
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believe he has empathy, But I've seen him talking more
about feeling, and I've seen him talking less about doing
and more about how you're showing up with kindness with empathy.
And I think that this is going to be a
trend in the personal development space, and it's going to
have to be a trend in corporate America. Corporate America
traditionally has been run from a very masculine energy place
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about disconnecting from emotion, you know, analytical thinking, strategizing, striving, competing.
But why so many people are unhappy in their corporate
job is there is none of that feminine energy need
for connection and for creativity. There's a lot of people
going through the motions in a job where they don't
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think that their company cares about them. They don't feel
like they're important, they feel like they're a cog in
the machine. And how can you blame people for feeling
that way? Every year in the fourth quarter, we see
companies just start laying people off after you know, years
of good service, just because they were a number on
a spreadsheet, and in many instances they just made too
much money. In my old industry and media, that's happening
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all over the place, and I know that it's not
the only sector where that happens. So we can get
so caught up in the results and in the doing
that we're not in a place of feeling and the
quality of our life is in the emotional engagement with ourselves,
of giving ourselves credit and celebrating the small winds and
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celebrating the progress as we grow into this next version
of our life, but also emotionally engaging with the people
around us so important. Like I get it if I
had a dollar for every time over the past two
years that I see this in applications. I hear it
from my clients, I see it in listener emails. It's
one of the things where they say, I come home
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and I have no thing left to give my family.
You know, I'm short tempered, I'm grumpy. I'm at the
dinner table with them, but I'm not listening to anything
that my partner is saying because I don't have the
mental bandwidth to even show up emotional engagement in the
present moment. Here's a case from my life, just in
the past couple of weeks where I noticed I was
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not at all engaged. I was out walking my dog
and I live on the waterfront here in Lahoya, California,
and you know, when I moved here in January of
last year, I would stroll up and down that beach
front and awe. I truly believe that this is one
of the most beautiful places in the country. I thrive
when I'm on the water. It's not like this brown, greasy,
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dirty ocean, you know, when I lived in Florida and
get a lot of that, just like brown, disgusting ocean water.
But you'll look out and it's just this beautiful, turquoise ocean.
And every day I was in a sense of awe
and inspiration and happiness and gratitude about the fact that
I can wake up and look at this. But isn't
it funny how much the things were grateful for eventually
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just become an expectation and we take it for granted.
Gratitude turns into taken for granted very quickly. And you know,
then I was just out going through the motions you
don't buy November, walking my dog, but not really taken
in all this beauty around me. So I was coming
back from a walk and I noticed that there was
this woman on the other side of the street. He
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was just standing at the street corner and she was
staring I believe she was staring at me and my
dog while he was taking a poop. And I'm like,
what is this lady's deal? Like, why is she staring
me down? Like I was like, maybe she's just, you know,
maybe she's mentally off something weird, and she yelled across
the street, She's like, can you believe that behind you?
And I turned around and unbeknownst to me, I've been
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on the walk. I didn't even notice this because I
was so in my own world. It was the most beautiful, vibrant,
gorgeous rainbow I had ever seen. And it was also
it wasn't even like off in the distance. It felt
super close, like it like the end of that rainbow
was going right down into the water front at the ocean.
And it's the most beautiful rainbow I've ever seen. And
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I was completely not even aware I had missed it.
How often do we do that? How often do we
close ourselves off to observing the beauty in the world.
How how often do we shut ourselves down from even
observing the kindness observing the strangers around us? How many
times have we blocked ourselves from making a new relationship
because our head is down and more in our own world,
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thinking about that next thing that's going to make us happy,
when really the only place that we have the power
or the resources to feel anything is in the present moment.
So that is the first step that I would challenge
you for is to emotionally engage in the present. Emotional
presence is the E and having your epic Number two,
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let's move on to the P. Are you living your potential?
I heard Brendan Burchard recently on a training referred to
this is like activating your potential, and that can be
hard in the sense that most of us don't really
know what our highest potential is. We didn't create our
highest potential, you know. I believe our highest potential was
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created by whatever force or higher power you believe breathe
the life into you. And that's oftentimes the problem is
that we undersell ourselves of what we're capable of. We
actually played down to our own expectations, not realizing that
there is a universal force that is such a much
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bigger plan for our life. If it were up to me,
nothing that I've created in my life right now would
have happened until I thought I was on a ten
year plan. It all happened in two That had nothing
to do with I mean, yes, I showed up for
the goals, but it was also underselling myself, you know.
Tony Robbins once famously said that we overestimate what we
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can do in a year. We underestimate what we can
do in a decade. And that was a little bit
of the challenge for me in nine is where do
I go from here? And am I capable of more?
Do I have more to offer? And the answer is yes,
of course I do, and so do you. By the way,
we are creative beings. We are products of creation. It
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is our duty to go out and create. Now, my
highest potential might not look anything like yours because we're
here to do different things, and that's fine. But this
also again, this isn't about this masculine energy. Do do
do climb the top of the career ladder? You know? Yes,
we want our work to be an expression of our purpose.
I'm going to get to that in just a moment.
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But are you showing up as your highest self and
that your highest potential? In your relationships, where are you
at there? Are you really truly giving your partner your
best or are you giving them a bare minimum? Because
your partner has become like that rainbow in my life
and you just take it for granted. What about your children?
You know? What about your physical health? Are you settling
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in your finances and just trying to protect what you
have because you're too afraid to pursue that big idea
that you have that could generate five million dollars for you.
It's amazing how many times we can get so caught
up in trying to protect like fifty dollars in savings,
we don't do the thing that could generate five million.
And all it is is a mindset shift. One of
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my clients at the end of last year manifested half
a million dollars in ten days. We have so much
potential and creative ability in our life, but we misdirect
our energy. This is where we're getting into distraction, where
the person on social media, you know, wasting twenty eight
hour work days or more maybe twenty two weeks of it.
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And I'm not asking you to perfectly know what your
absolute highest potential of the universe is. I don't even
know mine. But what is the next thing in front
of you if you were truly showing up in an
amplified way at home, home, at work, and for your purpose,
what would be the next step? Once you lock in
on that, you are locked into your potential, which is
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the second step in creating an epic, because if you're
not tapped into your potential, it is very hard to
grow the third step. Let's talk about the eye in
your epic. It is all about intention. Now on some level,
you could also look at this as purpose, and I
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do believe, and it's one of my favorite things I
do with my clients. I just got a text message
from a new client who started working with me right
around Thanksgiving and we created her purpose statement, and I
got a text message from her that was just so
lit up because she finally felt like it was a
coming home to herself and she was clear on what
she's here to do, not just in terms of a
job title, but what she's here to feel and to
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give to others through her work. But I think that
there's an even more subtle elements underneath purpose, which is
an inten hip. It's not just what do I want
to do with my life, but the bigger question is
who do I want to be? Moment by moment and
by the way that can change day to day. You know,
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I always look at like your daily intentions. It's sort
of like you know, it's created internally. First of all,
most of us are chasing goals externally outside of ourselves.
We think, when I get that next job. When I
get the next pay raise, then I will have more value.
But the value is what you're bringing forward internally and
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who you are. Next week on the podcast, I'm going
to do a deep dive on this. We're gonna talk
about how to increase your own personal value in So
I want to save some of that content for then.
But your value is not in what you do. The
value is into who you are. So how do you
want to show up something I've done a little bit
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differently this year with my goal setting is rather than
setting some list of like fifteen external goal and another
carrot to chase. And the problem with that is when
you're constantly chasing a carrot, you're delaying your happiness a
lot of times into the future. You're saying, well, I'll
be happy when I get this next thing. I will
feel enough when I have more money or when I
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have the next relationship. And the problem with that is
you can't create externally what you're not already embodying internally.
This is why so many people stay stuck financially. They're
waiting for external evidence that they can make two hundred
thousand dollars a year before they allow themselves to feel
worthy and abundant and wealthy in the moment. So, you know,
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creating these intentions internally, it becomes your purpose today. It
is what is the thing in front of you. Some
of the key words for me that I'm aligned with
for this coming year our love. I want to focus
on putting more love out into the universe. And this
is also a year where I'm really ready to receive it,
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you know, I'm I'm ready to create that relationship to
complement everything that I've built in the career. So love
is a huge intention for me. Community community is such
a big one. It's one of the weird things about
my job. You know. The best thing about it is
I can work from anywhere via a laptop. You know,
I can usually work at home, and the worst part
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of my job is that I work from home from
a laptop, so it can be a disconnection. And I've
got so many amazing friends I've made through the Personal
Growth Space, and it's amazing how many of our podcast
guests to become very close friends of mine, but they
don't live here where I'm at. So finding that daily
community where the people just you know, and really focusing
on that, and I want to do that here too,
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like I want to create, you know, a better sense
of community for listeners of the podcast, We're gonna be
talking about ways that you can come join me and
do a retreat with me here in San Diego, you know.
And that's all on the planning stages. If it's something
that you'd like to get the inside word on, just
shoot me a d M on Instagram and I'll get
you on me in eider part of that, we'll talk
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about it. You can always find me on instant by
the way, at c SC Dan Mason. But community is
going to be a big focus for me this year.
Joy is another word, not just happiness. I'm talking about
unbridled joy, about creating that within myself, but also sharing that,
radiating that out into the world, be in the light,
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being the source of joy for other people. And another
word that I personally put for this year was ease.
I am done with the hustle and grind culture, and
I think that that's such a difficult thing for people
in the entrepreneurs space. It's been preached by most of
the influencers in the space. You gotta get out there,
you gotta hustle, you gotta work your eyeballs out. Well,
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if that's your model of the world, is the only
path to income. By the way, there's some people who
are doing this in corporate America as well. I was
actually talking with a friend of mine on New Year's Eve.
We were hanging out, and she had mentioned to me that, well,
you only get what you're willing to work hard for.
And yes, we want to show up and take action,
but this is a friend who was always perpetually stressed
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out and in a state of overwork. And if the
model of the world is the only way that I
can receive nice things is to overgive, it's a dangerous
place to be. So for me this year, I want
to create from a place of ease, you know, because
when I'm in a place of ease, I'm more creative.
You know, i can produce more content, and I'm in
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a flow state at that point, you know, where there's
no hard work about it. You know, I can be
in the process of creation in five hours, can go
by and feel like twenty minutes. So those are internal
tensions intentions for me this year, But what is yours?
You know, start living intentionally purposefully. If you're going into
work at a meeting, decide what the intention is for
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that meeting, you know, make sure people state that upfront.
One of the questions I've been asking a lot of
my clients of the past year at the start of
every session is what is your intention for the time today?
And it's remarkable that as they set the intention, a
lot of times at the end of the session, I'll
ask him how do you feel, and They'll repeat back
the word that they intended without even being aware of it.
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So you know, as your intention goes, that's where the
energy will flow. It is the number three key to
creating an epic life in and that brings us to
the fourth and final elements of your epic. The letter
C is for creation. If we consider intention to be
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what we're creating internally within ourselves, then the creation is
how that manifests outward. Another way that you could look
at this is passion. Are you making a daily commitment
to doing something that lights you up at a soul level,
even if it's just thirty minutes a day for you.
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It could be working out, it could be writing, it
could be singing, it could be thirty minutes a day
towards building your side hustle or creating that new blog
or website. But we've got to make it a daily intention.
I've used the analogy here before in the podcast. So
many people treating their purpose and their passion like it's
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the side chick, right, you know, they make thirty minutes
for it, and they sneak away for it a little
bit on Sunday when nobody's looking. This is a daily
commitment if you're gonna go all in making sure that
you are doing something that feeds you thirty minutes a day,
not in a numbing way. I'm not talking about more
social media and having a glass of wine because it's
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just convenient, but something that really makes you come alive,
because whatever you're here to create ultimately becomes your contribution
to the world. It's what you're here to give and
to share with others. You have that gift within you
that if you finally got it together, got out of
your own way, and let that gift be seen in
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the world, it's going to impact somebody, maybe even just
the people around you. You're you know, by you showing
up in the act of creation, it may very well
just to impact your family because you're in a better mood,
You're more lit up. You know you're not showing up
from a place of overwhelm and exhaustion and depletion. Know
that is you are creating. You are connected to yourself
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and whatever it is that manifest out of that is
a gift to your family, your community, and perhaps even
the world. So to recap your epic can be summed
up in four words or four phrases more accurately. Number
one emotional engagement with the present moment. Can you be
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grounded and centered, not living in the past, not future tripping,
but being vitally alive and connected to the present moment.
Number two, will you commit to living your potential? Will
you commit to that next level in your career and
your purpose? In your creativity, your mission, your relationships, your health,
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Let's go all in together. In the third one is intention,
not just what do you want to do? Who do
you want to be? And I go through this process,
by the way, on a morning by morning basis. Every
day I turned my intentions into I am statements for
the day. You know, I am love, I am community.
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I allow that to guide me. And it's funny I've
noticed this that you know, since I've recommitted to doing
that practice. What I put down on that paper becomes
my experience of the day, and I can change it
day by day. During the days where I'm feeling a
little tired, I don't want to go as hard. You know,
maybe that's not the day that I want to say,
I want to feel super accomplished. Now, that's not the
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day to squeeze seven more things onto the to do list.
But you can change it day by day. But really
connecting to that in turn compass and once you're connected
to yourself, then the fourth one becomes creation and what
are you bringing forward into the world, into your life,
into your family, your home, your friendships in the coming year.
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I would love to know which of these you're going
to be focused on. A big one for me is
emotional engagement in the presence. I know that that's my target.
I'd love to hear what yours is. You can go
to Instagram, screenshot the podcast, upload this tag me at
c sc Dan Mason, share your breakthrough and your commitment
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and you can always join us in the life Amplified
Power Tribe or private Facebook community. We have that link
for you on the show notes. Don't forget if you
need some mentorship and assistance. And by the way, that's
not if everybody needs mentorship and assistance, but if you
would like to work together to take these intentions, these goals,
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this epic blueprint for and make it your daily reality.
If you would like a career and a life with
more meaning, freedom and fulfillment, I have got you a
couple of spots open for V I P Coaching here
in the month of January. You can fill out an
application by going to my website, which is Creative Soul
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Coaching dot net. We have a link for that in
the show notes for you as well. I'll be back
next week. We're gonna talk about how to raise your
personal value. If self worth has ever gotten in the
way for you, I promise next week's episode is going
to be awesome. I'll talk to you in in the meantime.
Turn down the volume on your negativity, turn up the
volume on your purpose so you can live life amplified.
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