September 27, 2021 • 37 mins
Welcome to the fall equinox! There's a real spiritual significance to this season. It's about gratitude for this year's harvest, celebrating the progress you've made this year. It's also about celebrating change. Nature is showing it to you. Why do they do it? It's about letting go of anything that is going to suck up excess energy before winter. But it also clears the deck for something new to be born in spring.
What could YOU learn from this time of year for your own life? What can you do now to help you end 2021 on the right note?
This week, Dan shares with you the three things to let go of this fall season.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to the Fall Equinox, my friend, my personal favorite
season of the year because I love a comfortable hoodie
and I live for NFL football season on Sundays. But
on a non superficial level, there is a tremendous spiritual
significance to the Fall Equinox. First of all, it is
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about gratitude for this year's harvest. I mean that could
be the vegetables you planted in your garden, But on
a bigger level, it's about celebrating the harvest and the
progress you've made towards your goals and those seeds that
you planted with your intentions at the beginning of the year.
And the second one, it's a little more difficult for people.
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It's about celebrating change. I think of what's happening in nature.
The leaves are turning colors. The trees are going to
release those leaves all over your yard and make a
huge mess. But why do they do that. Well, it's
about conserving energy and letting go of anything that is
going to suck away excess energy before the death of
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the winter. But it's really just clearing the deck for
something new and beautiful to be born in the springtime.
And we love this in nature. We'll go out of
our way to post pictures on Facebook and the Fall
Foliage and go post our apple picking pictures for my
friends at least who live in the northeast of the
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United States. But how good are you at letting go
when it comes to your personal life? Are you hanging
onto a job or a relationship that doesn't serve you?
Are you hanging on to old egoic patterns, trying to
maintain some sense of control and clinging to that control
so tightly that you're actually out of control. Coming up
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this week on the Life Amplified podcast, I'm going to
give you the three things that you can let go
up this fall that will increase your inner peace, your abundance,
your prosperity, and your connection to the world. Welcome back
to Life Amplified. What is an amplified life. It's having
amplified relationships with people who support and encourage you to
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be your best. It's having amplified energy to conquer the
challenges of the day. And it's having an amplified career,
one that's meaningful to you, the world, and your bank accounts.
I'm Dan Mason, Life Reinvention coach, helping you discover your
calling and create an amplified life on your terms. This
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is the Life Amplified podcast. This week's episode brought to
you by the TV show ted Lasso. They are not
a paid sponsor, but it is a program that inspired
me to go back and revisit this topic we really
haven't talked about in probably close to three years. I
don't know if you've watched ted Lasso on Apple TV.
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By the way, what a charming show. It just want
of bunch of Emmy Awards the other night, and this
character of Ted Lasso, who was a college football coach
who gets hired and it's totally miscast overseas as a
European football coach trying to teach soccer. Every episode is
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like its own little personal development nugget in thirty minutes.
And Ted Lasso himself, he's like Buddha with a porn
mustache and a Southern accent. Jason sadik Is does a
brilliant job of portraying this character. But what the show
is really about at the end of the day is
all about letting go. And I've only binge watched maybe
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the first eight or nine episodes of season one. But
there's a lot of themes of about letting go of relationships,
letting go of old resentments for some characters, letting go
of the of clinging on to your youth or a
sense of vanity, and letting go of expectations for what
you believe life should be, or oftentimes the expect asians
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that we place upon others. You know, the truth is
most people who come and hire me, you do so
because you're trying to gain something in your life. You're
trying to gain a better relationship to yourself, You're trying
to gain a sense of purpose. Many people are trying
to gain a soulmate relationship. We actually manifested a couple
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of engagements in my client community over the course of
the past year. Many people are trying to gain more
financial wealth or prosperity and abundance, and that's wonderful, right.
We should have goals that we are reaching for, and
there is nothing wrong with wanting to acquire more in
your life. But one of the great paradox as a
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personal development is that any spiritual path is ultimately about
gaining all those things. Through letting go. In my life,
I could not gain a purpose, build coaching business and
gain this podcast without letting go of a high paying
corporate career that I had emotionally outgrown a good four
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to five years earlier. A lot of people are clinging
onto a toxic marriage or relationship that doesn't really meet
their needs because they're afraid nobody else will love them.
You know, It's something that I did before I ever
got on this path. Is one of the reasons I
ended up getting married to somebody who I knew was
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terrible and toxic and wrong for me. And as it
pertains to the conversation around money and abundance, you know,
as we've discussed on this podcast in the past, abundance
is the natural order of the universe. Everybody has access
to it. Money is just a frequency and a vibration
that we can tap into. But in order to get there,
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you have to let go of so much of the
conditioning and so many of the stories that you learned
about money or wealth or what it means to be
wealthy or what it means to not be wealthy in
order to get there. So the spiritual path, at the
end of the day, is less about gaining and more
about releasing the more that you can let go, the
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more you're actually going to gain the good things in
life that you really really want. I use the analogy
in the opening of the show of what happens in
nature this time of year, you know, where the trees
just very gracefully let go of the leaves. Trees don't
question it. You know, as far as I know, there's
no internal debate with the trees every October of oh
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my god, what if I let these go? I'm gonna
be bald the rest of my life. I'm going to
be ugly. Nobody will ever come and like sit underneath me.
Trees just trust that they can let go, and that
something new will be born. There will be new foliage
a few months later. Human beings, though, we have this
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thing called the ego, and it keeps it's trapped. We
start obsessing over well, you know, what will other people
think if I let this go? And will my needs
be supported? And will the universe be in my corners?
So you know, I want to dive in here into
just three very simple concepts, but places and areas of
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focus that I think can help you move forward in
the fastest way. Is we really head here into the
final ninety days and The first place that I want
to talk about is letting go with a habit of
assuming the worst. I think of a quote from Mark Twain,
who once famously said, I am an old man and
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have known a great many troubles, but most of them
never happened, and I would think about it. Are you
the person? You know? I always joke that web m
d is one of the worst things that's ever happened
on the Internet, because you know, in my case, I
can have a hangnail on my thumb and you can
look that up on web day and I'll be like, oh,
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you have hangnail cancer. You have cancer and the thumbnail right.
You know how many times do we do that? Oh,
I feel a little sick to my stomach. Oh my god,
what if I'm terminally ill? What will my children do
if I'm not around? Uh? People do this at work
all the time. If your boss calls you down to
their office or once you know, I guess a lot
of people still aren't back in the office right now.
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But you get that conference call request with your boss
at four thirty in the afternoon. In the back of
your mind, how much do you start tripping out about?
Oh my god, this is it. I'm gonna get fired?
What am I gonna do? Will I be able to
get unemployment? Will I be able to you know, pay
for the kids school supplies? Well, you know, are we
gonna die homeless and penniless behind a dumpster at the Walmart?
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Like what's gonna happen? We tend to catastrophize our life.
And also, I just want to say it is a
normal trauma response for a nervous system that is shaped
by trauma. One of the big effects on that is
hyper vigilance. You're always looking for an outside threat in
the environment. It's what creates that soul versus meat sack battle.
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You know, the soul it wants to expand and grow
and do all the things and have an epic love
affair and travel the world and write a book and
start a business. And yet here we are encased in
a meat suit that is a that is essentially a
threat detection device, and it will always feed your mind
with thoughts of well, here's all the reasons you can't
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do that, here's why you will legitimately die if you
follow your dreams. And so many people come to me,
they're like, oh, damn, well, I don't really have a
lot of trauma. I'm just I'm a careful person. You know,
we sort of take pride in that, in this identity
of playing it safe. But even if you don't perceive
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that you have trauma. I think this is one of
the reasons why so many people have just been more
on edge of the last eighteen months. We have literally
lived through collective trauma of the pandemic. You know, you're
on high alerts. You know, every time you step into
the grocery store and you see somebody call for sneees,
You're like, oh, you know what germs are these people spreading.
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You're on special high alerts when it comes to finances
and career right now because things have been so up
in the air. But the problem is is if you
really want to move forward in your life, you have
to let go of assuming the worst because that pattern
will block manifesting in abundance. You know, there are so
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many people that want to manifest more money, and you know,
they'll put a million dollars up on their vision board
or they'll repeat the affirmation. Yet they're going onto their
online banking app every day and carrying this energy of
oh my god, what if there's not enough, well, well
I have you know, I have enough to pay the
bills this month, but what will I do next month?
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And the whole energy, the vibration is lack, scarcity, fear,
And then they wonder, you know, from a law of
attraction standpoint, why did they tend to attract more situations
that showed them scarcity, lack and fear. We don't get
what we want in the law of attraction or even
what we think about. We sort of get our energetic frequency,
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this pattern of assuming the worst. You can sit there
and consciously repeat the affirmations that you want all the
good things in life. But if there's part of you
that is still living in there that hasn't learned to
regulate your nervous system and you're still living the trauma response,
it's very difficult to move forward. And I'll tell you
a story even in my life from just this past
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weekend on how this happened for me. You know, I
went into a total anxious response. I went down to
my mailbox in the mail room in my building, and
I had a notice from the post Office that there
was a letter since certified mail that I needed to
go and sign for it, and I'm like, well, that's odd,
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Like nobody's sending you a certified letter, at least in
my experience, unless it's bad news. In fact, the only
time I think I've ever had to sign for a
letter in my life when I was about years old,
I got in a bad car accident. I wasn't paying
attention and I rear ended somebody on the highway, and
sure enough, like it went through the insurance companies, but
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I got a letter in the mail that I was
being sued for this massive amount of money, and I
didn't understand at the point that you know, when this
is why you carry insurance, that these things would get settled.
So even though I was totally at fault in the accident,
like that, whole experience was so traumatic, especially at twenty
four and having to go give depositions to lawyers, and
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you know, the lawyers, the counsel for the other insurance company.
It was just really rude and the guy was kind
of ad dick to me, and it was it was
a really scary thing to go through in the moment,
And of course, where did my mind go when I
got this notice. Oh my god, what I'm going through
my mind? What could I have possibly done wrong? Is
there something being suoned for? Oh? God, what if? And
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then I started thinking, well, what if my accountant screwed
up on the taxes and I owe all this money?
And you know what, God, what would I do? How?
You know? Start thinking of like how can I generate
to pay this tax bill that doesn't even exist yet?
And it completely ruined my weekend because I went down
to the post office on Saturday before they closed, and
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I even tried to get my letter and they told me, no,
it hasn't actually come back here yet. You have to
come back on Monday that your delivery person hasn't even
returned yet. So I had a full forty eight hours
to obsess over it, and sure enough, I did some
client calls on Monday morning and rushed down to the
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post office and I was feeling anxious. But there was
something that I used to calm it. And I'm going
to know you how to work around this pattern of
assuming the worst in just a second. But a long
story short, I went and it wasn't even really a letter.
It was symptoms sort of a letter packaging, but it
was basically just some flat um stacking mini zen stones
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that I had bought to put in my office on
X on Etsy six weeks ago, and they were coming
from the Ukraine, and it took him forever to get here,
and I forgot that it was coming, and I was
in a two day trauma response over some miniatures in stones.
I'm looking at them right now and kind of giving
them the side I over sitting in my window sill.
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They look really beautiful. But I got to tell you,
for something that was supposed to be a Zen product,
it sure had cost me a lot of anxiety. And
you know, we can do this in relationships. You know
we can do this. How many times is your is
your significant others? Since you a text? Hey can we
talk tonight? In your already assuming that the relationships over
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you're going to be broken up with? You know, is
we let this pattern go? I want to give you
some strategies in some ways when you are in a trigger,
when you are catastrophizing your life, that you can really
work around it. Uh. The first one is just to
remind yourself, whatever worse possible scenario that you're creating, it's
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not happening right now. I mean, it's always possible in
any moment that a catastrophe could occur in our life.
You know, we we have no control of what's happening
in the external world. You have no control over a
natural disaster. I think of my friends who recently went
through the hurricane and New Orleans and down in the
Louisiana area. Um, catastrophes can certainly occur, But when you're
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a future tripping, just reminding yourself that in this moment,
your needs are met and you're safe can be a
way to kind of bring back to homeostasis. Also, a
second thing to remember is that whatever happens in your life,
I don't care who you are, where you're listening from today.
You are a person who has faced adversity at some
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point in your life, and it's not bad to go
back and remember that and remember that the ways that
you coped and overcame it that you have so many
inner resources and a determination and a will to rise
up and meet the challenges of life. And the third
mindset shift here when you are in the pattern of
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assuming the worst and catastrophizing, you know it comes from
the origins of the Buddha and the Four Noble truths,
But reminding yourself that you're causing your own suffering. You know,
when you're creating situations in your mind that haven't happened,
you're causing your own suffering. And you have a choice
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that you could stop, you know, and even asking yourself,
can I stop up? There's a lot of motivational studies
that suggest when you ask yourself a question, it's more
motivating than making a declarative statement, you know, because you
realize that you have a power of choice in that moment.
So rather than I can stop, it's could I stop?
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And you know, and it also releases you from the
shame or the guilty of Oh God, here I go again,
look at me, I'm so messed up. You know that
that happens a lot as well. That can keep people
in the shame cycle. But you know, once you know
that you could prepare and that you can react in
every event, it starts to give you some of your
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control back and it will help you release your anxiety.
But let's make an intention through the remainder of one
and in the next year stop assuming the worst. Another
thing just to remind yourself every morning when you get
out of your bed is something that I repeat a
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lot in my own life is I am in the
positive expectancy of good, that life is always working out
for me, and I just try to start my day
every day as soon as my feet hit the floor,
reminding myself that I am open to new opportunities, miracles,
that the universe is conspiring to help me meet the
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right people or get the right opportunity. Uh, that's going
to increase the good in my life and always and relationships,
in love, et cetera. The second thing that you want
to let go of in and really beyond his control.
And you know this is a double edged sword. I
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think a lot of times when we think of control,
we think of people who are type A control freaks.
You know, they're trying to control other people, and a
lot of times they're trying to manipulate other people to
get their needs met. Control is a neutral concept. It
is neither bad nor good. In fact, over in my
Amplified monthly membership training this month, we just did an
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awesome training on sort of like five pathways to build
unstoppable confidence. And one of the gateways in your life
to build more confidence is control. But not in the
way you think. It's not about controlling other people. It's
really just controlling yourself, you know, and if you think
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about the places where you don't feel control of your life,
it's probably nearly impossible for you to feel confidence if
you don't feel that you have any control over your
work day or the projects that you take on, or
that the work that you're doing are assigned. In your career,
if you have no ability or control to speak up
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to the powers that be to ask for what you want,
whether it's either you know, creative fulfillment financially, would you
feel confident in that job now? Of course not in
the relationships where you don't feel you have any control
to be yourself or to speak your mind or to
share what's true for you. Do you feel confident in
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those relationships? Probably not so. Control in many ways is
linked to confidence, but it's also in an internal locus
of control and not external. The idea of control is
one of the biggest things that I think keeps so
many heart centered people from stepping into living their purpose.
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This happens a lot with some of the people I
work with who want to become coaches or healers. They
are so freaked out that if they stepped into a
higher level of service to help others, they would have
no control whether the other person creates real change, and
if they don't, then somehow they've failed or they're a fraud.
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And it's really one of the big ways that control
gets in the way. It's the difference between serving people
in a purposeful way or trying to save people, which
is actually a trauma response. How many people do you know,
maybe it's you who is a fixer. That the way
that you learn to get love growing up as a
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child was to be the responsible one, either the parent
to your parents are having to be responsible to take
care of the family. Uh. You might have had some
parental figures who were unable to even manage their own affairs,
so in order to feel a sense of control and safety,
you had to start to manage them. And the problem
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is for that rescuer and dynamic. Uh, the belief that
manifest as an adult is my only value is whether
I can go out and save other people. And it
takes the focus away from you. You start to lose
connection to your own needs, your own desires, what you want,
and you just sort of like set yourself on fire
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in order to keep other people warm. So the things
that you want in your life, love, safe reciprocal relationships.
You're never gonna find that through trying to save people.
The amplified path to a purposeful life and career is
about serving. It's you know, my path is a coach.
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When you work with me, I am a path shower.
I show you the path to get the things that
you want. I show you the obstacles in the blind
spots that are keeping you from getting there. But at
some point you have to make the choice to take
courageous action. You have to walk the path. My most
successful clients are the ones who do that. There are
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other people who just want to gain the knowledge, but
they don't want to take the emotional ridsk right because
it's again they feel a loss of control, uh that
they can't control the outcome. And the end of results
on this is that it keeps people stuck. But I
also wanted to share. When you are able to give
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up that sense of controlling other people's opinions, there are
a few things that you're going to gain in the process.
Number one, you gain a sense of unconditional love. When
you stop trying to force people to be what you
need them or want them to be, you can fall
in love with people for who they really are, and
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that is intoxicating, and so many people never get there.
By the way, think about it in your life. How
many times and how many relationships do you feel just
out of alignment and no congruence because you have to
shape shift and be what somebody else wants, You have
to hold back, You can't be in full expression of yourself.
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You might not feel like you're even allowed to have needs.
That's really really tough. Think about how terrible that feels
for you. Yet we never really considered that we do
that to other people in our life, in relationships, within
family dynamics, romance, and even in business in many occasions.
You know, it's a tremendous gift, right you get to
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you get to build authentic relationships where you can love
and be loved for who each other really are. The
second thing, and the benefit that happens when you give
up control is you create more room for surprise and delights.
You know, we all want control, We all want to
know exactly what's gonna happen every day, and we want
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to know the outcome. But think about it, if you
got up every day and you knew exactly what was
going to happen, and your day was routine, and you
got up and you ate the same thing for breakfast,
and you drove the same way to work or got
on the same zoom calls with the same exact clients,
having the same conversations. You went to the same place
to go get lunch every day, drove home, had the
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same conversation with your spouse, watch the same show on TV,
and went to bed. What would that experience be like
for you? You would be bored as hell. There's no
room for the surprise and the delights and the miracles
that happened every day, you know. And I once heard
Caroline May's talk about this when she was giving a
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lecture on control. She was like, you know, go journal
and write down the five greatest things that have ever
happened to you. Think about like the experiences you've had, uh,
some of the miracles you've experienced, she goes, and really
get honest with yourself. How many of them had anything
to do with you. If you went to some exotic
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hiking location and you saw some majestic sunset and it's
one of your favorite memories, you just felt like totally
one with nature. I mean to some degree. Yes, you
put in the leg work to go on the hike
or to go on the trip, but that sunset was
happening with with or without you. You had nothing to
do with creating that in nature. If you think about
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some of the relationships in your life and maybe the
most fun connected moments when you were just laughing with
other people, where like milk would have shot out your
nose if you were drinking it because you were laughing
so hard, how much of that really was because you
were controlling the situation or did it just happen naturally?
Was it like this spontaneous moment of love and joy
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among friends. Let go of control, you'll create more surprise
and delight in your life. Also, when you let go
of control, you're making room for divine creativity. You know,
the universe always once more for you than you can
even imagine. And I see it so often where people
are so focused on trying to control and change a
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toxic partner and trying to force this relationship to be
something else, and yet once they actually make the decision
to surrender and to let go of that relationship, within
a year they end up meeting the like that twin
flame passionate soul mate. So many people who are just
you know, beating themselves up because they didn't get the
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job that had the fifteen thousand dollar pay raise and
fall into these stories about well, I'm not enough, nothing
works out for me, and yet three months later, here
comes a job with a thirty thousand dollar pay raise.
You know, the universe always has a better plan for you.
So a lot of times, you know, when you're trying
to control and you're frustrated because you're hearing no, that rejection,
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in many instances is divine protection. You're just being You're
being redirected to something new and better. Think about the
times in your life where things didn't work out the
way you wanted and it was actually the biggest blessing
of your life. I used to talk about it in
the old intro to this podcast that, you know, in
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when I was like forty pounds overweight, getting divorced, contemplating suicide,
battling depression. That was a really tough period in my life.
And yet I look back on that, you know, nine
ten years later, is the greatest gift I've ever been given.
Thank God, my marriage fell apart because I created things
with so much more value in my life than that
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relationship really had. So when we let go of control,
we're making room for divine creativity. So the first two
things that you can let go of this fall number
one the pattern of assuming the worst. The second one
is control. I believe the third one is actually you know,
all of these are useful, by the way, but this one,
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particularly for the time that we're living in, can be
the most powerful and be the fastest path to inner peace,
and that is letting go of resentments. I mentioned Ted
Lasso earlier in the podcast, and I don't want to
give away too many spoilers for people who haven't watched it,
but you know, there is somebody that Ted didn't realized
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in that show that was unknowingly betraying him and working
against his success early in the show, and there's a
big moment where that all gets confronted and he pretty
much instantaneously just gives this person forgiveness, which I think
is a little bit like moments like this, I always
realized what a good job I've done of curating good
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people in my world, like in my immediate life, but
also on social media, because all of my social media
friends are raving about Ted Lasso, but I didn't realize
there is this contingent of people who are really down
on it and just find the show so off putting.
That was news to me recently. I really I opened
up Twitter, which was mistake number one, and I recently
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found that and I can see why the show would
be triggering for people, and like, well, that's not how
life really works, and and to some degree that might
be true. Instant forgiveness can be hard to get to,
especially when we learn about a betrayal or somebody who's
lied to us in our life. But it is the
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path that gets you out of a victim mentality and
helps you transcend it to become the victor. And there
are relationships in my life where I've found tremendous forgiveness.
And there's still a couple that I can find myself
in the shower, like literally going back to and thinking
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about and getting angry in the shower because I think
of something that was said a year ago or five
years ago. And the thing is, we tend to hang
on to resentments in our life because we think that
we're punishing the person that did us wrong, and in fact,
all we're really doing is punishing ourselves. You know, most
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of the time, that person that you're still angry at,
that you haven't spoken to in years, they don't even
know that you're thinking about them. They're outliving their life.
Your anger, your hatred, your rage towards them, it's not
in their consciousness. They're just outliving and doing what they
always did, whether it be for good or bad. But
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that anger and rages in your consciousness and it weakens you.
It just pumps more stress hormones into your body. It
weakens your immune system. So when we talk about letting
go of resentments and we have this discussion about forgiveness,
it's not about giving a green light to the lie
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or the betrayal that happened to you in your life.
And it's not about releasing that person and telling them
that they're okay. It's actually about releasing yourself. It's about
giving yourself peace and the more that you can let
go and you can just send that person if you
can get there, to send them blessings and just release
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them from your life, one of two things is going
to happen. That not having that anger directed, it's going
to transform the situation and you can get to authentic healing,
or you're going to remove yourself from it and you'll
no longer be in the trigger anymore. And this idea
of forgiveness, I mean, look, we talked about it on
the podcast before, we've had this conversation, but right now
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more than ever, you know, when you think about the
last eighteen months, really when you and even before the pandemic,
you want to go back to when politics got really
nasty and divided in the United States. You know, in
that election cycle, there are so many resentments that we're
holding at other people. The people who don't share our
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dues on politics, they're not in the same party that
we are. The people who do not share our views
on vaccines are mask mandates. Like this is literally splitting
friendships and families apart. There was a study that just
came out that said one in six people have lost
a those friendship over the course of the pandemic because
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of differing views. And look, you know, there's times when
we do outgrow friendships, and there's times that we do
have to let people go. You know, I'm not telling
you that you have to keep your entire the entire
social circle comprised of people who don't share your values.
But it's more about the energy that you're carrying around.
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It is their anger, resentment, rage, hatred, even and if
you're being honest with yourself, if I'm being honest with myself,
there's some places where I have carried, you know, some
seriously low vibe emotions. That's really just about a difference
in values at the end of the day. So much
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like the trees that are gracefully releasing believes, they don't
do it resentfully. The trees aren't through grit teeth going gone,
damn it, gonna guess I'll let go of these leaves.
They just do it. They don't question it. How can
you gracefully release those relationships? How can you forgive? How
can you let go? And how can you create some
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more space for inner peace in your life while also
knowing that just sort of energetically and karmically, you're creating
more room to invite in the people that do online
with you. So those are the three tips for this
week for the Fall of Three things to let go
of assuming the worst control, particularly controlling other people, and
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number three resentment and anger. The universe doesn't like just
to operate in a vacuum right, whatever we're letting go of,
it's just like the emotional fung shway. You're doing the
Marie Condo approach. You're creating room for more love, more blessings,
more abundance, and more prosperity in your life. I hope
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this episode serves you. If it does, could you please
you just share it with friends. You can screenshot this podcast,
upload it to social media. You can tag me on
Instagram or Twitter. Not really active on the Twitter very much,
but you can find me on Instagram at c sc
Dan Mason and don't forget if you'd like some extra support.
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You know, I think that this is a time, you know,
when we think about how are you going to set
yourself up for an awesome two. It's not going to
be because you wrote down some New Year's resolutions on
January first. It's going to be because you're doing that
real work, that deep work to gain clarity on what
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you really want and not just what you fear, so
you stop catastrophizing and assuming the worst. It's about getting congruent.
It's about making sure that your actions, that your words,
that the way that you think is in alignment and congruent.
With the person that you want to be in the
world and the person that you want to be in
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your relationships. And that process doesn't start next year, it
begins right now. So if you'd like some extra support
around that, I invite you to go to my website,
Creative Soul Coaching dot net a couple different ways that
we can work together. I do have some limited spots
open for one on one coaching and also getting ready
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to roll out a new group mentorship program in two
We're making a lot of tweeks to the Amplified Monthly
membership to deliver more value, more community with like minded
badasses like you, and actually more access to me, more
direct mentorship. And you know, it's a great alternative for
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those who aren't necessarily ready to make a one on
one coaching investment. So reach out to me, fill out
that contact form, fill out an application on my website.
We'll talk about all that. Creative Soul Coaching dot net
is where you go. I love you, Thank you for listening,
and remember it's time to turn the volume down on
your negativity, turn up the volume on your purpose so
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you can live life amplified
Welcome to the Fall Equinox, my friend, my personal favorite
season of the year because I love a comfortable hoodie
and I live for NFL football season on Sundays. But
on a non superficial level, there is a tremendous spiritual
significance to the Fall Equinox. First of all, it is
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about gratitude for this year's harvest. I mean that could
be the vegetables you planted in your garden, But on
a bigger level, it's about celebrating the harvest and the
progress you've made towards your goals and those seeds that
you planted with your intentions at the beginning of the year.
And the second one, it's a little more difficult for people.
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It's about celebrating change. I think of what's happening in nature.
The leaves are turning colors. The trees are going to
release those leaves all over your yard and make a
huge mess. But why do they do that. Well, it's
about conserving energy and letting go of anything that is
going to suck away excess energy before the death of
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the winter. But it's really just clearing the deck for
something new and beautiful to be born in the springtime.
And we love this in nature. We'll go out of
our way to post pictures on Facebook and the Fall
Foliage and go post our apple picking pictures for my
friends at least who live in the northeast of the
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United States. But how good are you at letting go
when it comes to your personal life? Are you hanging
onto a job or a relationship that doesn't serve you?
Are you hanging on to old egoic patterns, trying to
maintain some sense of control and clinging to that control
so tightly that you're actually out of control. Coming up
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this week on the Life Amplified podcast, I'm going to
give you the three things that you can let go
up this fall that will increase your inner peace, your abundance,
your prosperity, and your connection to the world. Welcome back
to Life Amplified. What is an amplified life. It's having
amplified relationships with people who support and encourage you to
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be your best. It's having amplified energy to conquer the
challenges of the day. And it's having an amplified career,
one that's meaningful to you, the world, and your bank accounts.
I'm Dan Mason, Life Reinvention coach, helping you discover your
calling and create an amplified life on your terms. This
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is the Life Amplified podcast. This week's episode brought to
you by the TV show ted Lasso. They are not
a paid sponsor, but it is a program that inspired
me to go back and revisit this topic we really
haven't talked about in probably close to three years. I
don't know if you've watched ted Lasso on Apple TV.
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By the way, what a charming show. It just want
of bunch of Emmy Awards the other night, and this
character of Ted Lasso, who was a college football coach
who gets hired and it's totally miscast overseas as a
European football coach trying to teach soccer. Every episode is
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like its own little personal development nugget in thirty minutes.
And Ted Lasso himself, he's like Buddha with a porn
mustache and a Southern accent. Jason sadik Is does a
brilliant job of portraying this character. But what the show
is really about at the end of the day is
all about letting go. And I've only binge watched maybe
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the first eight or nine episodes of season one. But
there's a lot of themes of about letting go of relationships,
letting go of old resentments for some characters, letting go
of the of clinging on to your youth or a
sense of vanity, and letting go of expectations for what
you believe life should be, or oftentimes the expect asians
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that we place upon others. You know, the truth is
most people who come and hire me, you do so
because you're trying to gain something in your life. You're
trying to gain a better relationship to yourself, You're trying
to gain a sense of purpose. Many people are trying
to gain a soulmate relationship. We actually manifested a couple
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of engagements in my client community over the course of
the past year. Many people are trying to gain more
financial wealth or prosperity and abundance, and that's wonderful, right.
We should have goals that we are reaching for, and
there is nothing wrong with wanting to acquire more in
your life. But one of the great paradox as a
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personal development is that any spiritual path is ultimately about
gaining all those things. Through letting go. In my life,
I could not gain a purpose, build coaching business and
gain this podcast without letting go of a high paying
corporate career that I had emotionally outgrown a good four
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to five years earlier. A lot of people are clinging
onto a toxic marriage or relationship that doesn't really meet
their needs because they're afraid nobody else will love them.
You know, It's something that I did before I ever
got on this path. Is one of the reasons I
ended up getting married to somebody who I knew was
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terrible and toxic and wrong for me. And as it
pertains to the conversation around money and abundance, you know,
as we've discussed on this podcast in the past, abundance
is the natural order of the universe. Everybody has access
to it. Money is just a frequency and a vibration
that we can tap into. But in order to get there,
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you have to let go of so much of the
conditioning and so many of the stories that you learned
about money or wealth or what it means to be
wealthy or what it means to not be wealthy in
order to get there. So the spiritual path, at the
end of the day, is less about gaining and more
about releasing the more that you can let go, the
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more you're actually going to gain the good things in
life that you really really want. I use the analogy
in the opening of the show of what happens in
nature this time of year, you know, where the trees
just very gracefully let go of the leaves. Trees don't
question it. You know, as far as I know, there's
no internal debate with the trees every October of oh
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my god, what if I let these go? I'm gonna
be bald the rest of my life. I'm going to
be ugly. Nobody will ever come and like sit underneath me.
Trees just trust that they can let go, and that
something new will be born. There will be new foliage
a few months later. Human beings, though, we have this
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thing called the ego, and it keeps it's trapped. We
start obsessing over well, you know, what will other people
think if I let this go? And will my needs
be supported? And will the universe be in my corners?
So you know, I want to dive in here into
just three very simple concepts, but places and areas of
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focus that I think can help you move forward in
the fastest way. Is we really head here into the
final ninety days and The first place that I want
to talk about is letting go with a habit of
assuming the worst. I think of a quote from Mark Twain,
who once famously said, I am an old man and
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have known a great many troubles, but most of them
never happened, and I would think about it. Are you
the person? You know? I always joke that web m
d is one of the worst things that's ever happened
on the Internet, because you know, in my case, I
can have a hangnail on my thumb and you can
look that up on web day and I'll be like, oh,
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you have hangnail cancer. You have cancer and the thumbnail right.
You know how many times do we do that? Oh,
I feel a little sick to my stomach. Oh my god,
what if I'm terminally ill? What will my children do
if I'm not around? Uh? People do this at work
all the time. If your boss calls you down to
their office or once you know, I guess a lot
of people still aren't back in the office right now.
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But you get that conference call request with your boss
at four thirty in the afternoon. In the back of
your mind, how much do you start tripping out about?
Oh my god, this is it. I'm gonna get fired?
What am I gonna do? Will I be able to
get unemployment? Will I be able to you know, pay
for the kids school supplies? Well, you know, are we
gonna die homeless and penniless behind a dumpster at the Walmart?
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Like what's gonna happen? We tend to catastrophize our life.
And also, I just want to say it is a
normal trauma response for a nervous system that is shaped
by trauma. One of the big effects on that is
hyper vigilance. You're always looking for an outside threat in
the environment. It's what creates that soul versus meat sack battle.
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You know, the soul it wants to expand and grow
and do all the things and have an epic love
affair and travel the world and write a book and
start a business. And yet here we are encased in
a meat suit that is a that is essentially a
threat detection device, and it will always feed your mind
with thoughts of well, here's all the reasons you can't
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do that, here's why you will legitimately die if you
follow your dreams. And so many people come to me,
they're like, oh, damn, well, I don't really have a
lot of trauma. I'm just I'm a careful person. You know,
we sort of take pride in that, in this identity
of playing it safe. But even if you don't perceive
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that you have trauma. I think this is one of
the reasons why so many people have just been more
on edge of the last eighteen months. We have literally
lived through collective trauma of the pandemic. You know, you're
on high alerts. You know, every time you step into
the grocery store and you see somebody call for sneees,
You're like, oh, you know what germs are these people spreading.
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You're on special high alerts when it comes to finances
and career right now because things have been so up
in the air. But the problem is is if you
really want to move forward in your life, you have
to let go of assuming the worst because that pattern
will block manifesting in abundance. You know, there are so
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many people that want to manifest more money, and you know,
they'll put a million dollars up on their vision board
or they'll repeat the affirmation. Yet they're going onto their
online banking app every day and carrying this energy of
oh my god, what if there's not enough, well, well
I have you know, I have enough to pay the
bills this month, but what will I do next month?
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And the whole energy, the vibration is lack, scarcity, fear,
And then they wonder, you know, from a law of
attraction standpoint, why did they tend to attract more situations
that showed them scarcity, lack and fear. We don't get
what we want in the law of attraction or even
what we think about. We sort of get our energetic frequency,
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this pattern of assuming the worst. You can sit there
and consciously repeat the affirmations that you want all the
good things in life. But if there's part of you
that is still living in there that hasn't learned to
regulate your nervous system and you're still living the trauma response,
it's very difficult to move forward. And I'll tell you
a story even in my life from just this past
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weekend on how this happened for me. You know, I
went into a total anxious response. I went down to
my mailbox in the mail room in my building, and
I had a notice from the post Office that there
was a letter since certified mail that I needed to
go and sign for it, and I'm like, well, that's odd,
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Like nobody's sending you a certified letter, at least in
my experience, unless it's bad news. In fact, the only
time I think I've ever had to sign for a
letter in my life when I was about years old,
I got in a bad car accident. I wasn't paying
attention and I rear ended somebody on the highway, and
sure enough, like it went through the insurance companies, but
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I got a letter in the mail that I was
being sued for this massive amount of money, and I
didn't understand at the point that you know, when this
is why you carry insurance, that these things would get settled.
So even though I was totally at fault in the accident,
like that, whole experience was so traumatic, especially at twenty
four and having to go give depositions to lawyers, and
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you know, the lawyers, the counsel for the other insurance company.
It was just really rude and the guy was kind
of ad dick to me, and it was it was
a really scary thing to go through in the moment,
And of course, where did my mind go when I
got this notice. Oh my god, what I'm going through
my mind? What could I have possibly done wrong? Is
there something being suoned for? Oh? God, what if? And
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then I started thinking, well, what if my accountant screwed
up on the taxes and I owe all this money?
And you know what, God, what would I do? How?
You know? Start thinking of like how can I generate
to pay this tax bill that doesn't even exist yet?
And it completely ruined my weekend because I went down
to the post office on Saturday before they closed, and
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I even tried to get my letter and they told me, no,
it hasn't actually come back here yet. You have to
come back on Monday that your delivery person hasn't even
returned yet. So I had a full forty eight hours
to obsess over it, and sure enough, I did some
client calls on Monday morning and rushed down to the
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post office and I was feeling anxious. But there was
something that I used to calm it. And I'm going
to know you how to work around this pattern of
assuming the worst in just a second. But a long
story short, I went and it wasn't even really a letter.
It was symptoms sort of a letter packaging, but it
was basically just some flat um stacking mini zen stones
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that I had bought to put in my office on
X on Etsy six weeks ago, and they were coming
from the Ukraine, and it took him forever to get here,
and I forgot that it was coming, and I was
in a two day trauma response over some miniatures in stones.
I'm looking at them right now and kind of giving
them the side I over sitting in my window sill.
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They look really beautiful. But I got to tell you,
for something that was supposed to be a Zen product,
it sure had cost me a lot of anxiety. And
you know, we can do this in relationships. You know
we can do this. How many times is your is
your significant others? Since you a text? Hey can we
talk tonight? In your already assuming that the relationships over
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you're going to be broken up with? You know, is
we let this pattern go? I want to give you
some strategies in some ways when you are in a trigger,
when you are catastrophizing your life, that you can really
work around it. Uh. The first one is just to
remind yourself, whatever worse possible scenario that you're creating, it's
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not happening right now. I mean, it's always possible in
any moment that a catastrophe could occur in our life.
You know, we we have no control of what's happening
in the external world. You have no control over a
natural disaster. I think of my friends who recently went
through the hurricane and New Orleans and down in the
Louisiana area. Um, catastrophes can certainly occur, But when you're
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a future tripping, just reminding yourself that in this moment,
your needs are met and you're safe can be a
way to kind of bring back to homeostasis. Also, a
second thing to remember is that whatever happens in your life,
I don't care who you are, where you're listening from today.
You are a person who has faced adversity at some
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point in your life, and it's not bad to go
back and remember that and remember that the ways that
you coped and overcame it that you have so many
inner resources and a determination and a will to rise
up and meet the challenges of life. And the third
mindset shift here when you are in the pattern of
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assuming the worst and catastrophizing, you know it comes from
the origins of the Buddha and the Four Noble truths,
But reminding yourself that you're causing your own suffering. You know,
when you're creating situations in your mind that haven't happened,
you're causing your own suffering. And you have a choice
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that you could stop, you know, and even asking yourself,
can I stop up? There's a lot of motivational studies
that suggest when you ask yourself a question, it's more
motivating than making a declarative statement, you know, because you
realize that you have a power of choice in that moment.
So rather than I can stop, it's could I stop?
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And you know, and it also releases you from the
shame or the guilty of Oh God, here I go again,
look at me, I'm so messed up. You know that
that happens a lot as well. That can keep people
in the shame cycle. But you know, once you know
that you could prepare and that you can react in
every event, it starts to give you some of your
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control back and it will help you release your anxiety.
But let's make an intention through the remainder of one
and in the next year stop assuming the worst. Another
thing just to remind yourself every morning when you get
out of your bed is something that I repeat a
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lot in my own life is I am in the
positive expectancy of good, that life is always working out
for me, and I just try to start my day
every day as soon as my feet hit the floor,
reminding myself that I am open to new opportunities, miracles,
that the universe is conspiring to help me meet the
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right people or get the right opportunity. Uh, that's going
to increase the good in my life and always and relationships,
in love, et cetera. The second thing that you want
to let go of in and really beyond his control.
And you know this is a double edged sword. I
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think a lot of times when we think of control,
we think of people who are type A control freaks.
You know, they're trying to control other people, and a
lot of times they're trying to manipulate other people to
get their needs met. Control is a neutral concept. It
is neither bad nor good. In fact, over in my
Amplified monthly membership training this month, we just did an
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awesome training on sort of like five pathways to build
unstoppable confidence. And one of the gateways in your life
to build more confidence is control. But not in the
way you think. It's not about controlling other people. It's
really just controlling yourself, you know, and if you think
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about the places where you don't feel control of your life,
it's probably nearly impossible for you to feel confidence if
you don't feel that you have any control over your
work day or the projects that you take on, or
that the work that you're doing are assigned. In your career,
if you have no ability or control to speak up
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to the powers that be to ask for what you want,
whether it's either you know, creative fulfillment financially, would you
feel confident in that job now? Of course not in
the relationships where you don't feel you have any control
to be yourself or to speak your mind or to
share what's true for you. Do you feel confident in
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those relationships? Probably not so. Control in many ways is
linked to confidence, but it's also in an internal locus
of control and not external. The idea of control is
one of the biggest things that I think keeps so
many heart centered people from stepping into living their purpose.
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This happens a lot with some of the people I
work with who want to become coaches or healers. They
are so freaked out that if they stepped into a
higher level of service to help others, they would have
no control whether the other person creates real change, and
if they don't, then somehow they've failed or they're a fraud.
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And it's really one of the big ways that control
gets in the way. It's the difference between serving people
in a purposeful way or trying to save people, which
is actually a trauma response. How many people do you know,
maybe it's you who is a fixer. That the way
that you learn to get love growing up as a
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child was to be the responsible one, either the parent
to your parents are having to be responsible to take
care of the family. Uh. You might have had some
parental figures who were unable to even manage their own affairs,
so in order to feel a sense of control and safety,
you had to start to manage them. And the problem
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is for that rescuer and dynamic. Uh, the belief that
manifest as an adult is my only value is whether
I can go out and save other people. And it
takes the focus away from you. You start to lose
connection to your own needs, your own desires, what you want,
and you just sort of like set yourself on fire
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in order to keep other people warm. So the things
that you want in your life, love, safe reciprocal relationships.
You're never gonna find that through trying to save people.
The amplified path to a purposeful life and career is
about serving. It's you know, my path is a coach.
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When you work with me, I am a path shower.
I show you the path to get the things that
you want. I show you the obstacles in the blind
spots that are keeping you from getting there. But at
some point you have to make the choice to take
courageous action. You have to walk the path. My most
successful clients are the ones who do that. There are
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other people who just want to gain the knowledge, but
they don't want to take the emotional ridsk right because
it's again they feel a loss of control, uh that
they can't control the outcome. And the end of results
on this is that it keeps people stuck. But I
also wanted to share. When you are able to give
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up that sense of controlling other people's opinions, there are
a few things that you're going to gain in the process.
Number one, you gain a sense of unconditional love. When
you stop trying to force people to be what you
need them or want them to be, you can fall
in love with people for who they really are, and
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that is intoxicating, and so many people never get there.
By the way, think about it in your life. How
many times and how many relationships do you feel just
out of alignment and no congruence because you have to
shape shift and be what somebody else wants, You have
to hold back, You can't be in full expression of yourself.
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You might not feel like you're even allowed to have needs.
That's really really tough. Think about how terrible that feels
for you. Yet we never really considered that we do
that to other people in our life, in relationships, within
family dynamics, romance, and even in business in many occasions.
You know, it's a tremendous gift, right you get to
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you get to build authentic relationships where you can love
and be loved for who each other really are. The
second thing, and the benefit that happens when you give
up control is you create more room for surprise and delights.
You know, we all want control, We all want to
know exactly what's gonna happen every day, and we want
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to know the outcome. But think about it, if you
got up every day and you knew exactly what was
going to happen, and your day was routine, and you
got up and you ate the same thing for breakfast,
and you drove the same way to work or got
on the same zoom calls with the same exact clients,
having the same conversations. You went to the same place
to go get lunch every day, drove home, had the
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same conversation with your spouse, watch the same show on TV,
and went to bed. What would that experience be like
for you? You would be bored as hell. There's no
room for the surprise and the delights and the miracles
that happened every day, you know. And I once heard
Caroline May's talk about this when she was giving a
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lecture on control. She was like, you know, go journal
and write down the five greatest things that have ever
happened to you. Think about like the experiences you've had, uh,
some of the miracles you've experienced, she goes, and really
get honest with yourself. How many of them had anything
to do with you. If you went to some exotic
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hiking location and you saw some majestic sunset and it's
one of your favorite memories, you just felt like totally
one with nature. I mean to some degree. Yes, you
put in the leg work to go on the hike
or to go on the trip, but that sunset was
happening with with or without you. You had nothing to
do with creating that in nature. If you think about
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some of the relationships in your life and maybe the
most fun connected moments when you were just laughing with
other people, where like milk would have shot out your
nose if you were drinking it because you were laughing
so hard, how much of that really was because you
were controlling the situation or did it just happen naturally?
Was it like this spontaneous moment of love and joy
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among friends. Let go of control, you'll create more surprise
and delight in your life. Also, when you let go
of control, you're making room for divine creativity. You know,
the universe always once more for you than you can
even imagine. And I see it so often where people
are so focused on trying to control and change a
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toxic partner and trying to force this relationship to be
something else, and yet once they actually make the decision
to surrender and to let go of that relationship, within
a year they end up meeting the like that twin
flame passionate soul mate. So many people who are just
you know, beating themselves up because they didn't get the
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job that had the fifteen thousand dollar pay raise and
fall into these stories about well, I'm not enough, nothing
works out for me, and yet three months later, here
comes a job with a thirty thousand dollar pay raise.
You know, the universe always has a better plan for you.
So a lot of times, you know, when you're trying
to control and you're frustrated because you're hearing no, that rejection,
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in many instances is divine protection. You're just being You're
being redirected to something new and better. Think about the
times in your life where things didn't work out the
way you wanted and it was actually the biggest blessing
of your life. I used to talk about it in
the old intro to this podcast that, you know, in
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when I was like forty pounds overweight, getting divorced, contemplating suicide,
battling depression. That was a really tough period in my life.
And yet I look back on that, you know, nine
ten years later, is the greatest gift I've ever been given.
Thank God, my marriage fell apart because I created things
with so much more value in my life than that
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relationship really had. So when we let go of control,
we're making room for divine creativity. So the first two
things that you can let go of this fall number
one the pattern of assuming the worst. The second one
is control. I believe the third one is actually you know,
all of these are useful, by the way, but this one,
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particularly for the time that we're living in, can be
the most powerful and be the fastest path to inner peace,
and that is letting go of resentments. I mentioned Ted
Lasso earlier in the podcast, and I don't want to
give away too many spoilers for people who haven't watched it,
but you know, there is somebody that Ted didn't realized
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in that show that was unknowingly betraying him and working
against his success early in the show, and there's a
big moment where that all gets confronted and he pretty
much instantaneously just gives this person forgiveness, which I think
is a little bit like moments like this, I always
realized what a good job I've done of curating good
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people in my world, like in my immediate life, but
also on social media, because all of my social media
friends are raving about Ted Lasso, but I didn't realize
there is this contingent of people who are really down
on it and just find the show so off putting.
That was news to me recently. I really I opened
up Twitter, which was mistake number one, and I recently
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found that and I can see why the show would
be triggering for people, and like, well, that's not how
life really works, and and to some degree that might
be true. Instant forgiveness can be hard to get to,
especially when we learn about a betrayal or somebody who's
lied to us in our life. But it is the
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path that gets you out of a victim mentality and
helps you transcend it to become the victor. And there
are relationships in my life where I've found tremendous forgiveness.
And there's still a couple that I can find myself
in the shower, like literally going back to and thinking
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about and getting angry in the shower because I think
of something that was said a year ago or five
years ago. And the thing is, we tend to hang
on to resentments in our life because we think that
we're punishing the person that did us wrong, and in fact,
all we're really doing is punishing ourselves. You know, most
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of the time, that person that you're still angry at,
that you haven't spoken to in years, they don't even
know that you're thinking about them. They're outliving their life.
Your anger, your hatred, your rage towards them, it's not
in their consciousness. They're just outliving and doing what they
always did, whether it be for good or bad. But
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that anger and rages in your consciousness and it weakens you.
It just pumps more stress hormones into your body. It
weakens your immune system. So when we talk about letting
go of resentments and we have this discussion about forgiveness,
it's not about giving a green light to the lie
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or the betrayal that happened to you in your life.
And it's not about releasing that person and telling them
that they're okay. It's actually about releasing yourself. It's about
giving yourself peace and the more that you can let
go and you can just send that person if you
can get there, to send them blessings and just release
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them from your life, one of two things is going
to happen. That not having that anger directed, it's going
to transform the situation and you can get to authentic healing,
or you're going to remove yourself from it and you'll
no longer be in the trigger anymore. And this idea
of forgiveness, I mean, look, we talked about it on
the podcast before, we've had this conversation, but right now
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more than ever, you know, when you think about the
last eighteen months, really when you and even before the pandemic,
you want to go back to when politics got really
nasty and divided in the United States. You know, in
that election cycle, there are so many resentments that we're
holding at other people. The people who don't share our
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dues on politics, they're not in the same party that
we are. The people who do not share our views
on vaccines are mask mandates. Like this is literally splitting
friendships and families apart. There was a study that just
came out that said one in six people have lost
a those friendship over the course of the pandemic because
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of differing views. And look, you know, there's times when
we do outgrow friendships, and there's times that we do
have to let people go. You know, I'm not telling
you that you have to keep your entire the entire
social circle comprised of people who don't share your values.
But it's more about the energy that you're carrying around.
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It is their anger, resentment, rage, hatred, even and if
you're being honest with yourself, if I'm being honest with myself,
there's some places where I have carried, you know, some
seriously low vibe emotions. That's really just about a difference
in values at the end of the day. So much
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like the trees that are gracefully releasing believes, they don't
do it resentfully. The trees aren't through grit teeth going gone,
damn it, gonna guess I'll let go of these leaves.
They just do it. They don't question it. How can
you gracefully release those relationships? How can you forgive? How
can you let go? And how can you create some
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more space for inner peace in your life while also
knowing that just sort of energetically and karmically, you're creating
more room to invite in the people that do online
with you. So those are the three tips for this
week for the Fall of Three things to let go
of assuming the worst control, particularly controlling other people, and
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number three resentment and anger. The universe doesn't like just
to operate in a vacuum right, whatever we're letting go of,
it's just like the emotional fung shway. You're doing the
Marie Condo approach. You're creating room for more love, more blessings,
more abundance, and more prosperity in your life. I hope
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this episode serves you. If it does, could you please
you just share it with friends. You can screenshot this podcast,
upload it to social media. You can tag me on
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but you can find me on Instagram at c sc
Dan Mason and don't forget if you'd like some extra support.
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You know, I think that this is a time, you know,
when we think about how are you going to set
yourself up for an awesome two. It's not going to
be because you wrote down some New Year's resolutions on
January first. It's going to be because you're doing that
real work, that deep work to gain clarity on what
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you really want and not just what you fear, so
you stop catastrophizing and assuming the worst. It's about getting congruent.
It's about making sure that your actions, that your words,
that the way that you think is in alignment and congruent.
With the person that you want to be in the
world and the person that you want to be in
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your relationships. And that process doesn't start next year, it
begins right now. So if you'd like some extra support
around that, I invite you to go to my website,
Creative Soul Coaching dot net a couple different ways that
we can work together. I do have some limited spots
open for one on one coaching and also getting ready
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to roll out a new group mentorship program in two
We're making a lot of tweeks to the Amplified Monthly
membership to deliver more value, more community with like minded
badasses like you, and actually more access to me, more
direct mentorship. And you know, it's a great alternative for
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those who aren't necessarily ready to make a one on
one coaching investment. So reach out to me, fill out
that contact form, fill out an application on my website.
We'll talk about all that. Creative Soul Coaching dot net
is where you go. I love you, Thank you for listening,
and remember it's time to turn the volume down on
your negativity, turn up the volume on your purpose so
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you can live life amplified
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