March 28, 2025 • 14 mins
Are you someone that "flood lights" on the first date? The 'Big Show' debates how much is too much to reveal when first meeting someone.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the Morning Show.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Anyone going up for a date this weekend? Maybe a
date with someone new?
Speaker 3 (00:10):
Does Coaster Boy Josh count No, okay, no, no.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
There's a new term. You must know what is flood
Lighting's okay, flood lighting on a date? Do you know
what that means? Is when you go out with someone
and you just give them everything about you, You say
everything about you, you, you, you, you, you, You give
them too much information. I so agree with all these
memes we see coming by. Stop telling people everything, have
(00:37):
some mystery. But flood lighting when you expose way too
much about yourself, way too soon.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Yep? Is that the same as verbal diarrhea?
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Or no, I think verbal diarrhea is floodlighting. Okay, you
know who brought this term up, Brene Brown, she said,
I love Brene Brown. By the way, a lot of
times we share too much information as a way to
protect us from vulnerability.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Okay, like putting all your cards on the table at once.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Exactly who wants to be on a date with someone
and the person you're across the table with is like,
oh my god, I'm an only child, I hate my dad,
I'm on a cleanse. Okay, Can I be honest though
I want ab lot of debt.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
I would love to know all of those things on
a first date. Give me all your red flags right
now so I can decide if this is something that
I actually want to deal with, Like debt is a
huge issue. Please tell me up front. They'll let me
find out later.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
When I love you, I know, But how about the
questions like you know, when's less than me cried or something?
You know, who do you love to have sex with?
I don't know anything, but I'm just you just start
spewing out all your stats. I'm like, okay, what else?
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Credit score, bank account, Please show me all of it.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
Yeah, Nate, Well, I was quick to pooh pooh this
as well, but I do agree with that, especially as
you get older, you kind of want the resume so
you don't have to go on four or five dates
to realize Oh wait, oh god.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
I mean you don't want that day one or night one.
Speaker 5 (01:58):
No.
Speaker 6 (01:58):
I'm kind of thinking, let's get this out of the way.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Okay. If you have information like why you're banned from Walmart,
I want to hear that. Yeah, hell, yeah, you know
what I'm saying. But I don't know, not everything.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
I just like, I don't I like wasting time. So
if there's something that you think would be a huge
issue down the road, maybe just tell me now and
let me decide.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Let me give you the big one though. Yes, if
I'm going to date with you and one of the
first things you say to me in the first half hour, huh,
I just want let you know right now. I don't
want to have children? Yes, oh yeah on your first date?
Speaker 3 (02:30):
Yes, because you know what if that is what you
want in your life. Yeah, don't waste your time here
because I don't want children.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Well maybe, but maybe I'm not dating you to marry.
I'm dating you to have fun.
Speaker 5 (02:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
But you know how many people have been with somebody
for a while and then they find out and then
they're like, oh damn.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
What do I do now, Daniel. I'm not saying for
a while. I'm just saying I'm talking first date. Well,
like dogs sniffing each other's butts, right.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
I think I would ask that question. I think I
would say, hey, do you want to have kids?
Speaker 2 (02:57):
One day?
Speaker 3 (02:57):
And I think for the most part, like I date
have fun, I'm not really trying to get married. Or
have kids or anything like that. But I think a
lot of people are dating to get married. So if
you are dating to get married, that's also something that
you should let people know up front and then bring
up the kid thing.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Okay, let me ask you this. Maybe an hour into
the date, you look at them and go, hey, what
is this and you point to them, point to your
point to them, like what is this so hilarious? I know,
but you're basically kind of saying that a little bit.
Where are you? I think you're knocking on that door
by talking about whether you want kids or not, because
you're basically if the kid's conversation comes up, unless it's
organically whatever or carefully planned and planted, I don't know.
(03:34):
It seems like you're kind of running in.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
I think if it's going to be in a dating profile,
you should be able to talk about those things on
a first date. And that isn't a lot of dating
profiles like kids are no kids, marriage, no marriage? Those
I think those are okay. I would I would love
a credit score. Please tell me.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
I'm in debt.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
You don't have to have a ton of money. I
just need to know your credit score because that does
state a lot.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Okay, I think it really depends on your age too.
If you're twenty four going on a date, who cares, right,
go on four.
Speaker 4 (04:00):
Or five dates and then you find out you know
somebody's political views or whatever. But if you're eighty five, oh,
you just got to have like, here's the will. Seriously,
you got to just jump right to the point. The
older you are, the more you have to get right
to the point as to why you're there and what
you want up here.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Let's okay, so let's say I got let me put
myself in some situation. Let's say that I'm single again,
and I'm getting older at your age. Yeah, yeah, I'm
getting older at my age. Thank you, thank you, thanks
for being there for me. He goes in. He's going
into that voice again. Hold on now, hear me out.
(04:39):
I'm on a date with someone. I'm like, okay, I
don't want to get married. I just want to hang out.
So I have to use I'm old, so I have
to start using the the extras. I'm loaded. I've got
so much money. I've got properties around the world. I
don't but you know, I'm trying to get them on
my hook. Yeah, for all the wrong reason. Who wants
(05:00):
to date someone like that? At this guy right here?
Really I was with a friend of the night and
she said, you know, I gotta find this ninety year
old guy in the hospital who's really loaded about to die.
What that's the relationship you want? Absolutely?
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Wow, she knows what she wants.
Speaker 6 (05:23):
You gotta put all the chips on the table. I mean,
if you don't have like your youth or your looks,
you gotta you gotta supplement that with something else.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
You don't don't.
Speaker 6 (05:32):
I got riches, I got boats, I got this. You
gotta you gotta hook him somehow, And I'll.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Go, oh yeah, you want him to want you for
that reason?
Speaker 6 (05:38):
Okay, Okay, who cares?
Speaker 2 (05:41):
There are people like that? Scary?
Speaker 1 (05:42):
What is a ninety five year old guy anyway gonna
do with like a twenty five year.
Speaker 6 (05:47):
Old best final days of his life?
Speaker 3 (05:49):
And I don't think so.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
At ninety five, you guy's gonna have the heart attack
right there and drop dead on the floor right away.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
His last words were he looked up at this guy
and said, I'm coming hit them mout.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Isn't there like a sports coach that's like ninety something?
Speaker 3 (06:06):
Bill Belichick he's a ninety something and how old is
this go for?
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Like?
Speaker 3 (06:12):
And how old is Bill Belichick? In the sixties or seventy? Yeah,
there's like a forty eight years.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
She's with him because she's you know, he's hot and
she's really attracted to him. And yeah, he's a nice guy.
That's the reason she's with him.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Come on, man, Okay, stupid Nate went through all the
phones and found one person that degrees with them. I
don't even know her name because you want a hold
of the sign. Okay, enough, Hello Beverly, Beverly Hory.
Speaker 5 (06:36):
Hello, I'm great.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
You hear you're hearing what we're talking about. What's your thought?
Speaker 5 (06:42):
I am scared to death and now this makes me
even more nervous, so I show her share.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Okay, so first date and how many years?
Speaker 5 (06:53):
Nine years?
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Okay, tell me is it tonight?
Speaker 5 (06:55):
When is it tonight? Yeap tonight? After? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (07:01):
You sound scared?
Speaker 5 (07:03):
I am. I'm I think I'm more nervous talking to y'all.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Okay, well, you know, let's get on with that. You've
got to get a grip on that, because we won't.
Speaker 5 (07:13):
I will.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Have a little sip, have some scissor and let's move
on with the conversation. So, yeah, what was the thought?
Help her out here?
Speaker 4 (07:24):
So Beverly is scared it's her first date in nine years,
but she also wants the date to get right to
the point, right because she's older.
Speaker 5 (07:31):
I'm I'm, I'm, I'm not here to waste time, and
I want to know what I'm getting into.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
So look, what are important questions that you would like
answered on this date?
Speaker 5 (07:43):
Well, start with the job of kids. How many times
have you been divorced? It's the basic stuff, pretty much,
I want to know. Yeah, okay, wait, hold, apparently I
cannot be a sugar mama.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
Someone's gonna sit across the table from you and you're
gonna ask them their credit score on our first date.
Speaker 5 (08:09):
No, but that's where the job comes in. I mean,
make sure they've got a good job going.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Maybe you could bring up credit troubles or arrest arrest
a record.
Speaker 5 (08:23):
Yeah, the horses will ruin a credit.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Score, so right, exactly.
Speaker 5 (08:29):
But yeah, I mean health problems. I don't want to
deal with anybody with health problems. I got my own
stuff to worry about. I understand that.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
But there are ways to get to the credit score
thing without asking about a credit score, like, if we
were to go get an apartment today, would you need
a coast line up?
Speaker 5 (08:43):
Yeah, I need to write this stuff down.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
You know you don't know. Yes, no, you don't. You're
gonna look across the table at me.
Speaker 5 (08:53):
I'm gonna have to yeah, go ahead, go ahead.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
No, I'm waiting near the question that you're gonna ask me. No, no, no,
oh no, the microphone got on blud. Okay, we might
have broken a microphone.
Speaker 5 (09:11):
At the hole.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
So he broke his microphone hot the water.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
God, here's my point.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
Yes, you.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Don't write this stuff down. It's all awful. No one's
gonna want to be with you if you start asking
these questions.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
I think she should write them down and hand them
to him with a pen and say, please fill this
out and see what.
Speaker 5 (09:34):
Oh that's a good idea and application.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
Yeah that park No it's not.
Speaker 5 (09:38):
Yes, good, I like that idea. All right, Well you
don't how all the girls agreed?
Speaker 2 (09:43):
Tell you what. I'm gonna go ahead and just bow
out because you know, honestly, I'm out numbered on this,
and maybe I'm the stupid one. I'm the one that
has no idea because I haven't dated in years.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
You know, wait, can I go back to one thing?
Speaker 2 (09:54):
Absolutely?
Speaker 1 (09:55):
So when she was saying, how you know you want
to know if the person's healthy? Yeah, because I don't
want take care. This is what my mom says now.
Because my mom is seventy something years old, so I
always say to her, are you going to date? And
she goes, Danny at my age, if I start getting
involved with somebody, they're gonna wind up getting sick or
one of us is going to want to get to
get sick. I don't want to take care of someone
that I don't have like a past with. Why would
(10:16):
I want to start taking care of somebody that I.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
I totally agree with you. I'm talking about a first date.
I've been very clear about that, haven't I first date,
I don't even know you. You're going to get to
the point where you may not even want to know
if they're healthy? Are going to live another three days?
Speaker 5 (10:32):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (10:34):
This first date.
Speaker 5 (10:35):
Honestly, I'm a single mom, so this is just a
night of fun for me.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
Well, not asking about if they're about to die.
Speaker 5 (10:43):
I won't, but like, we'll see how it goes. But
I am going to write Gandhi's questions now blame her, Beverly.
Speaker 6 (10:53):
Let us know how we'll have a second date if
you do that.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
This is making me mad, I know, but I think
can't everyone just have a different opinion on this? Like
that's how you would date. You would have a long time.
You take your time and enjoy yourself. Nate's like, no,
let's get to it, baby, Like, what's going on? That's
what makes the world go round.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
Do you think that someone's going to look at you
and go, I'm so happy that you're asking me all
of these questions about my mortality and my my Ira
Wroth account, and here on our first day. I'm so
glad you did that. I'm so happy because this is
exactly what I wanted you to do tonight.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
I think the person for me, they would be okay
with that.
Speaker 5 (11:30):
Okay, yeah right, aren't first dates like interviews anyways?
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Yeah, you have to be a little more sly, I think,
or scary and the scariest way. You got to find
a way to hook him.
Speaker 6 (11:42):
You take a beat and do all this stuff on
the second maybe give it a moment here you go
into the serious.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Yours first date is I make a lot of money.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
I'm a radio personality.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
I'm on the air. Yeah, no, she hooks them all.
We got a glimpse into scary. In the next five years,
he's going to be taking girls to Dubai. He's gonna
be that guy.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Best to look on your the best look on your
day tonight. Write all these questions down and make sure
you ask them.
Speaker 5 (12:07):
I appreciate it, y'all.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
Good luck for that. I don't know. Relationships are tough.
You're good luck finding anyone who's going to check off
all those boxes. And if you start making sure all
those boxes are checked, the dating pool, the people amount,
the amount of people that are going to be good
for you, is going to disappear. Absolutely because the relationships
are working, they still have issues with each other. I
(12:34):
may be in love with someone who may have the
worst credit score in the world, but I eliminated them
immediately on the first date because they have bad credit score.
I don't know. Good luck, Nate.
Speaker 6 (12:45):
I don't want to date anymore.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Now, go have fun. You hold people. You're the fun
one in here. Gandhi.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
Yeah, I want to have fun with someone else who
I can have fun with in the same ways. You
got to give to that stuff earlier. There's so many things.
So I was talking about this actually in one of
the episodes on my podcast. One person's ick is another
person's Oh that's my man. You know, like, there are
so many women who would say, oh, my god, socks
and sandals disgusting. I would never date a guy with
socks and sandals. Once you've been dating that guy for
(13:13):
a while and he bust out with the socks and sandals,
you think, oh, this is cute, How cute?
Speaker 2 (13:17):
You're so weirding for how long?
Speaker 3 (13:18):
Yeah, socks and so I understand that, But I do
think there are just certain big things I want to
have a problem with.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
Okay, yeah, someone just said, mm Elvis, you're living in
the past. This is twenty twenty five. Okay, I'm living
in the past. Sure.
Speaker 3 (13:35):
Why is everyone just not allowed to have their own opinion?
You feel like that? Why do you have to be
living in the past. You can't just feel like that
about now.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Oh I'm living in the past because I'm from an
era where no one else has allowed an opinion. I guess.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
Okay, off with your head.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
That's what it is here. You go, Well, good luck,
good luck to all you people out there in these interviews,
Tonight interview. Make sure they bring maybe they need to
print up their credit score and bring it to the table.
Speaker 6 (14:00):
Have it written.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
It's so funny you mentioned that I got it right here.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
How funny would that be if somebody sat down with
you and just said, all right, let's just get to
the chase.
Speaker 5 (14:07):
There you go.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
I have one word to you, first dater Equifax. I
need it right now.
Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the Morning Show.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Anyone going up for a date this weekend? Maybe a
date with someone new?
Speaker 3 (00:10):
Does Coaster Boy Josh count No, okay, no, no.
Speaker 2 (00:15):
There's a new term. You must know what is flood
Lighting's okay, flood lighting on a date? Do you know
what that means? Is when you go out with someone
and you just give them everything about you, You say
everything about you, you, you, you, you, you, You give
them too much information. I so agree with all these
memes we see coming by. Stop telling people everything, have
(00:37):
some mystery. But flood lighting when you expose way too
much about yourself, way too soon.
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Yep? Is that the same as verbal diarrhea?
Speaker 2 (00:45):
Or no, I think verbal diarrhea is floodlighting. Okay, you
know who brought this term up, Brene Brown, she said,
I love Brene Brown. By the way, a lot of
times we share too much information as a way to
protect us from vulnerability.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
Okay, like putting all your cards on the table at once.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Exactly who wants to be on a date with someone
and the person you're across the table with is like,
oh my god, I'm an only child, I hate my dad,
I'm on a cleanse. Okay, Can I be honest though
I want ab lot of debt.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
I would love to know all of those things on
a first date. Give me all your red flags right
now so I can decide if this is something that
I actually want to deal with, Like debt is a
huge issue. Please tell me up front. They'll let me
find out later.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
When I love you, I know, But how about the
questions like you know, when's less than me cried or something?
You know, who do you love to have sex with?
I don't know anything, but I'm just you just start
spewing out all your stats. I'm like, okay, what else?
Speaker 3 (01:43):
Credit score, bank account, Please show me all of it.
Speaker 4 (01:46):
Yeah, Nate, Well, I was quick to pooh pooh this
as well, but I do agree with that, especially as
you get older, you kind of want the resume so
you don't have to go on four or five dates
to realize Oh wait, oh god.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
I mean you don't want that day one or night one.
Speaker 5 (01:58):
No.
Speaker 6 (01:58):
I'm kind of thinking, let's get this out of the way.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Okay. If you have information like why you're banned from Walmart,
I want to hear that. Yeah, hell, yeah, you know
what I'm saying. But I don't know, not everything.
Speaker 3 (02:11):
I just like, I don't I like wasting time. So
if there's something that you think would be a huge
issue down the road, maybe just tell me now and
let me decide.
Speaker 2 (02:19):
Let me give you the big one though. Yes, if
I'm going to date with you and one of the
first things you say to me in the first half hour, huh,
I just want let you know right now. I don't
want to have children? Yes, oh yeah on your first date?
Speaker 3 (02:30):
Yes, because you know what if that is what you
want in your life. Yeah, don't waste your time here
because I don't want children.
Speaker 2 (02:35):
Well maybe, but maybe I'm not dating you to marry.
I'm dating you to have fun.
Speaker 5 (02:39):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (02:39):
But you know how many people have been with somebody
for a while and then they find out and then
they're like, oh damn.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
What do I do now, Daniel. I'm not saying for
a while. I'm just saying I'm talking first date. Well,
like dogs sniffing each other's butts, right.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
I think I would ask that question. I think I
would say, hey, do you want to have kids?
Speaker 2 (02:57):
One day?
Speaker 3 (02:57):
And I think for the most part, like I date
have fun, I'm not really trying to get married. Or
have kids or anything like that. But I think a
lot of people are dating to get married. So if
you are dating to get married, that's also something that
you should let people know up front and then bring
up the kid thing.
Speaker 2 (03:10):
Okay, let me ask you this. Maybe an hour into
the date, you look at them and go, hey, what
is this and you point to them, point to your
point to them, like what is this so hilarious? I know,
but you're basically kind of saying that a little bit.
Where are you? I think you're knocking on that door
by talking about whether you want kids or not, because
you're basically if the kid's conversation comes up, unless it's
organically whatever or carefully planned and planted, I don't know.
(03:34):
It seems like you're kind of running in.
Speaker 3 (03:36):
I think if it's going to be in a dating profile,
you should be able to talk about those things on
a first date. And that isn't a lot of dating
profiles like kids are no kids, marriage, no marriage? Those
I think those are okay. I would I would love
a credit score. Please tell me.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
I'm in debt.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
You don't have to have a ton of money. I
just need to know your credit score because that does
state a lot.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Okay, I think it really depends on your age too.
If you're twenty four going on a date, who cares, right,
go on four.
Speaker 4 (04:00):
Or five dates and then you find out you know
somebody's political views or whatever. But if you're eighty five, oh,
you just got to have like, here's the will. Seriously,
you got to just jump right to the point. The
older you are, the more you have to get right
to the point as to why you're there and what
you want up here.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Let's okay, so let's say I got let me put
myself in some situation. Let's say that I'm single again,
and I'm getting older at your age. Yeah, yeah, I'm
getting older at my age. Thank you, thank you, thanks
for being there for me. He goes in. He's going
into that voice again. Hold on now, hear me out.
(04:39):
I'm on a date with someone. I'm like, okay, I
don't want to get married. I just want to hang out.
So I have to use I'm old, so I have
to start using the the extras. I'm loaded. I've got
so much money. I've got properties around the world. I
don't but you know, I'm trying to get them on
my hook. Yeah, for all the wrong reason. Who wants
(05:00):
to date someone like that? At this guy right here?
Really I was with a friend of the night and
she said, you know, I gotta find this ninety year
old guy in the hospital who's really loaded about to die.
What that's the relationship you want? Absolutely?
Speaker 3 (05:21):
Wow, she knows what she wants.
Speaker 6 (05:23):
You gotta put all the chips on the table. I mean,
if you don't have like your youth or your looks,
you gotta you gotta supplement that with something else.
Speaker 2 (05:30):
You don't don't.
Speaker 6 (05:32):
I got riches, I got boats, I got this. You
gotta you gotta hook him somehow, And I'll.
Speaker 2 (05:36):
Go, oh yeah, you want him to want you for
that reason?
Speaker 6 (05:38):
Okay, Okay, who cares?
Speaker 2 (05:41):
There are people like that? Scary?
Speaker 1 (05:42):
What is a ninety five year old guy anyway gonna
do with like a twenty five year.
Speaker 6 (05:47):
Old best final days of his life?
Speaker 3 (05:49):
And I don't think so.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
At ninety five, you guy's gonna have the heart attack
right there and drop dead on the floor right away.
Speaker 2 (05:55):
His last words were he looked up at this guy
and said, I'm coming hit them mout.
Speaker 1 (06:02):
Isn't there like a sports coach that's like ninety something?
Speaker 3 (06:06):
Bill Belichick he's a ninety something and how old is
this go for?
Speaker 2 (06:10):
Like?
Speaker 3 (06:12):
And how old is Bill Belichick? In the sixties or seventy? Yeah,
there's like a forty eight years.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
She's with him because she's you know, he's hot and
she's really attracted to him. And yeah, he's a nice guy.
That's the reason she's with him.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
Come on, man, Okay, stupid Nate went through all the
phones and found one person that degrees with them. I
don't even know her name because you want a hold
of the sign. Okay, enough, Hello Beverly, Beverly Hory.
Speaker 5 (06:36):
Hello, I'm great.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
You hear you're hearing what we're talking about. What's your thought?
Speaker 5 (06:42):
I am scared to death and now this makes me
even more nervous, so I show her share.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
Okay, so first date and how many years?
Speaker 5 (06:53):
Nine years?
Speaker 2 (06:54):
Okay, tell me is it tonight?
Speaker 5 (06:55):
When is it tonight? Yeap tonight? After? Yeah?
Speaker 2 (07:01):
You sound scared?
Speaker 5 (07:03):
I am. I'm I think I'm more nervous talking to y'all.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Okay, well, you know, let's get on with that. You've
got to get a grip on that, because we won't.
Speaker 5 (07:13):
I will.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Have a little sip, have some scissor and let's move
on with the conversation. So, yeah, what was the thought?
Help her out here?
Speaker 4 (07:24):
So Beverly is scared it's her first date in nine years,
but she also wants the date to get right to
the point, right because she's older.
Speaker 5 (07:31):
I'm I'm, I'm, I'm not here to waste time, and
I want to know what I'm getting into.
Speaker 1 (07:38):
So look, what are important questions that you would like
answered on this date?
Speaker 5 (07:43):
Well, start with the job of kids. How many times
have you been divorced? It's the basic stuff, pretty much,
I want to know. Yeah, okay, wait, hold, apparently I
cannot be a sugar mama.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
Someone's gonna sit across the table from you and you're
gonna ask them their credit score on our first date.
Speaker 5 (08:09):
No, but that's where the job comes in. I mean,
make sure they've got a good job going.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Maybe you could bring up credit troubles or arrest arrest
a record.
Speaker 5 (08:23):
Yeah, the horses will ruin a credit.
Speaker 2 (08:25):
Score, so right, exactly.
Speaker 5 (08:29):
But yeah, I mean health problems. I don't want to
deal with anybody with health problems. I got my own
stuff to worry about. I understand that.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
But there are ways to get to the credit score
thing without asking about a credit score, like, if we
were to go get an apartment today, would you need
a coast line up?
Speaker 5 (08:43):
Yeah, I need to write this stuff down.
Speaker 2 (08:48):
You know you don't know. Yes, no, you don't. You're
gonna look across the table at me.
Speaker 5 (08:53):
I'm gonna have to yeah, go ahead, go ahead.
Speaker 3 (08:59):
No, I'm waiting near the question that you're gonna ask me. No, no, no,
oh no, the microphone got on blud. Okay, we might
have broken a microphone.
Speaker 5 (09:11):
At the hole.
Speaker 3 (09:12):
So he broke his microphone hot the water.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
God, here's my point.
Speaker 3 (09:20):
Yes, you.
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Don't write this stuff down. It's all awful. No one's
gonna want to be with you if you start asking
these questions.
Speaker 1 (09:28):
I think she should write them down and hand them
to him with a pen and say, please fill this
out and see what.
Speaker 5 (09:34):
Oh that's a good idea and application.
Speaker 2 (09:36):
Yeah that park No it's not.
Speaker 5 (09:38):
Yes, good, I like that idea. All right, Well you
don't how all the girls agreed?
Speaker 2 (09:43):
Tell you what. I'm gonna go ahead and just bow
out because you know, honestly, I'm out numbered on this,
and maybe I'm the stupid one. I'm the one that
has no idea because I haven't dated in years.
Speaker 1 (09:52):
You know, wait, can I go back to one thing?
Speaker 2 (09:54):
Absolutely?
Speaker 1 (09:55):
So when she was saying, how you know you want
to know if the person's healthy? Yeah, because I don't
want take care. This is what my mom says now.
Because my mom is seventy something years old, so I
always say to her, are you going to date? And
she goes, Danny at my age, if I start getting
involved with somebody, they're gonna wind up getting sick or
one of us is going to want to get to
get sick. I don't want to take care of someone
that I don't have like a past with. Why would
(10:16):
I want to start taking care of somebody that I.
Speaker 2 (10:19):
I totally agree with you. I'm talking about a first date.
I've been very clear about that, haven't I first date,
I don't even know you. You're going to get to
the point where you may not even want to know
if they're healthy? Are going to live another three days?
Speaker 5 (10:32):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (10:34):
This first date.
Speaker 5 (10:35):
Honestly, I'm a single mom, so this is just a
night of fun for me.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
Well, not asking about if they're about to die.
Speaker 5 (10:43):
I won't, but like, we'll see how it goes. But
I am going to write Gandhi's questions now blame her, Beverly.
Speaker 6 (10:53):
Let us know how we'll have a second date if
you do that.
Speaker 3 (10:58):
This is making me mad, I know, but I think
can't everyone just have a different opinion on this? Like
that's how you would date. You would have a long time.
You take your time and enjoy yourself. Nate's like, no,
let's get to it, baby, Like, what's going on? That's
what makes the world go round.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
Do you think that someone's going to look at you
and go, I'm so happy that you're asking me all
of these questions about my mortality and my my Ira
Wroth account, and here on our first day. I'm so
glad you did that. I'm so happy because this is
exactly what I wanted you to do tonight.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
I think the person for me, they would be okay
with that.
Speaker 5 (11:30):
Okay, yeah right, aren't first dates like interviews anyways?
Speaker 2 (11:34):
Yeah, you have to be a little more sly, I think,
or scary and the scariest way. You got to find
a way to hook him.
Speaker 6 (11:42):
You take a beat and do all this stuff on
the second maybe give it a moment here you go
into the serious.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Yours first date is I make a lot of money.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
I'm a radio personality.
Speaker 3 (11:52):
I'm on the air. Yeah, no, she hooks them all.
We got a glimpse into scary. In the next five years,
he's going to be taking girls to Dubai. He's gonna
be that guy.
Speaker 2 (12:02):
Best to look on your the best look on your
day tonight. Write all these questions down and make sure
you ask them.
Speaker 5 (12:07):
I appreciate it, y'all.
Speaker 2 (12:11):
Good luck for that. I don't know. Relationships are tough.
You're good luck finding anyone who's going to check off
all those boxes. And if you start making sure all
those boxes are checked, the dating pool, the people amount,
the amount of people that are going to be good
for you, is going to disappear. Absolutely because the relationships
are working, they still have issues with each other. I
(12:34):
may be in love with someone who may have the
worst credit score in the world, but I eliminated them
immediately on the first date because they have bad credit score.
I don't know. Good luck, Nate.
Speaker 6 (12:45):
I don't want to date anymore.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Now, go have fun. You hold people. You're the fun
one in here. Gandhi.
Speaker 3 (12:53):
Yeah, I want to have fun with someone else who
I can have fun with in the same ways. You
got to give to that stuff earlier. There's so many things.
So I was talking about this actually in one of
the episodes on my podcast. One person's ick is another
person's Oh that's my man. You know, like, there are
so many women who would say, oh, my god, socks
and sandals disgusting. I would never date a guy with
socks and sandals. Once you've been dating that guy for
(13:13):
a while and he bust out with the socks and sandals,
you think, oh, this is cute, How cute?
Speaker 2 (13:17):
You're so weirding for how long?
Speaker 3 (13:18):
Yeah, socks and so I understand that, But I do
think there are just certain big things I want to
have a problem with.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
Okay, yeah, someone just said, mm Elvis, you're living in
the past. This is twenty twenty five. Okay, I'm living
in the past. Sure.
Speaker 3 (13:35):
Why is everyone just not allowed to have their own opinion?
You feel like that? Why do you have to be
living in the past. You can't just feel like that
about now.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Oh I'm living in the past because I'm from an
era where no one else has allowed an opinion. I guess.
Speaker 3 (13:46):
Okay, off with your head.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
That's what it is here. You go, Well, good luck,
good luck to all you people out there in these interviews,
Tonight interview. Make sure they bring maybe they need to
print up their credit score and bring it to the table.
Speaker 6 (14:00):
Have it written.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
It's so funny you mentioned that I got it right here.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
How funny would that be if somebody sat down with
you and just said, all right, let's just get to
the chase.
Speaker 5 (14:07):
There you go.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
I have one word to you, first dater Equifax. I
need it right now.
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