May 8, 2025 • 7 mins
When you and your partner take a break, do you need to share what you did while you were gone?!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the morning show.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
All Right, I asked you a question I did answer. So,
if you go on a break with someone not even
knowing you for everyone to go back, but you do
go back with them, must you confess to what happened
during the break? I know you have a pritting on this, Gandhi.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Yeah, I say no, it's not a must. And if
you guys do decide to talk about it, I don't
think either side should be angry about what happened during
that time.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Maybe best not to talk about it. Yeah, I wouldn't.
I don't think you should have to talk about it.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
I have a question.
Speaker 4 (00:32):
Does a break mean that you're broken up? Or it
does just mean that you're doing your own thing for
a little bit of time.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
It could be both.
Speaker 4 (00:41):
Okay, I think you have to have that discussion, because
if I have permission to hook up with other people
because we're on a break, then you don't need to.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Know that's not a break, is it? Is it a break?
If you have rules doing your own thing mean somebody
else doing your thing? Okay?
Speaker 5 (01:00):
But I think if you're gonna like have that conversation,
like maybe you don't tell everything, but each person has
to agree that once again, like gond he said, there's
no judging. You can't get mad, you can't put it
over their head.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
You were on a break, right This actually happened with
an ex boyfriend of mine.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Oh really, but it wasn't a break. We broke up.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
He moved, I moved.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
It was clearly a break, clearly a breakup.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
So I'm living my life, having a good time. And
then we started talking again a few months later, and
it just came out in conversation because I'm not thinking
I did anything wrong. You know, we're broken up.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
If you live your life bub of my life.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
This man lost his ever loving mind. And I was like,
you know, at the very least I got some closure
as to why this ended. So that's great, because what
you can't get mad? We were broken up up. It
wasn't a break.
Speaker 4 (01:47):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
I look at breaks like this, and I'm everyone looks
at it differently. But I'll tell you my philosophy of
a break. A break is you are too chicken to
break up.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Yeah, it's like a light like a diet.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Break up right now? If you need to, Hey, do
you mind if I go spend a week, you know,
on my own. That's that's different. But we need to
take a break. You're you just can't commit to a breakup,
is what you can't.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
I don't know. You guys, remember Friends Russ and Rachel.
That was one of the biggest episodes ever, the breakup
and Russ is like, way, we're on a break meaning
they shouldn't have been with other people. So, I don't know.
I think it depends on who you.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
Ask, right, You're right, it's different for everyone.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
I guess you have to be really, really really clear
about the terminology break or breakup and what that means.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
Okay, so here's what we're gonna do. You and I
have been with each other for a couple of years.
We're both obviously at a point where we're not getting
along when it comes to this, this and this. Maybe
we just need a little breather. So let's do that. Okay,
we'll do that. I think that's a good idea. But
let's just both agree that we can't see other people.
(02:54):
Rights agree we can't see other people? What do you
mean by see other people? Like? I gotta got outs
my eyes out, I can't see people, or I can't
like date someone. Hmmm, I don't know. I think a
break is for people who are just not able to
break up and don't have the guts to do it.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Yeah, you might be right.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
A breather is a breather and a break or two
different things.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Okay, what's a breather?
Speaker 2 (03:19):
A breather is like, can we just like I'm gonna
go to the Caribbean for a week, like you're bothering me?
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Just leave me alone for a week.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Yeah, that's a breather. Okay, I mean nah, what do
you mean? Nah, you're gonna go to the Caribbean for
a week. Yeah, yeah, that ain't working out. I could
easily go to the Caribbean by myself and not have
to diddle with anyone. I'm fire you you could, yes,
but would you sounds a little suss well no, Look look,
look you know't mean well enough. If if it's something
to break up, I will tell you flat out we're
(03:48):
done you. Yes, but you're different, you're not the norm.
Well you're asking me, we're giving our opinions, yes.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
Nate, So a breather means no diddling, But a break
is a breakup, and you can diddle.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
I think so so breather this okay, this is my opinion.
For me, our interest is coming from our persons. I
agree with you, especially like a longer term relationships. Maybe
you need a breather, just away from each other and
no diddling with other people. This text is interesting. I
see a break. It's like a break from your job.
(04:22):
You're not at your desk, but you're still employed by
the company and still held to company standards. Oh okay,
So like being furloughed. Yeah, it's a break. Is just
to step away from the every day and think on
your own. I think that's a breather.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
Okay. But using that analogy, if you are furloughed, you're
allowed to have a side hustle, aren't you.
Speaker 4 (04:46):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (04:46):
Absolutely, Okay. A furlough is different than paid time off.
If you're taking paid time off, yeah, you're gonna go
back to that thing that pays you, right, But a furlough,
they don't pay you.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
I say, you go diddle, then.
Speaker 5 (04:58):
Yeah, But while you're getting that paid time off, you're
still getting what matters, you're getting paid. While you're on
the break, you're not getting any of that.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Tell you what if you want a break from me
and you don't want me to cheat on you? Pay
me cash.
Speaker 5 (05:15):
Together?
Speaker 2 (05:15):
Don't you feel like a break though?
Speaker 3 (05:17):
It's more of an exploration and a discovery to see
if you will have missed the person while you're gone.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
It could be, because I think that's what it is.
It's an experiment almost like am I better off without
this person? Do I miss this person? So you get
to do all the things that you want to do
during a break. As I said, I mean, obviously we're
our definition of a break is coming from our specific
point of view, So yours could be that mine could
be mine, you know, okay? In this text, this text
(05:47):
says it all. Either you're together or you're not. Either
you're together or you're not. I just think taking a break,
what your breath is kicking a breather, maybe a breather.
I need I need some oxygen.
Speaker 4 (06:03):
Oh god, I think we all smell like that right now?
Speaker 2 (06:06):
If having the hot chick I don't stop talking near me.
Don't talk near me. The air is green. It's burning
my eyes. I can't see.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Your reactions whenever there's a scent that you don't like
are very hilarious.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Yes, I mean, I have been in a situation in
a relationship before where I we talk about what we
need to break and I was like, can't we just
agree that means we want to break up? Let me,
let's just be honest. Let's I think you're right, because
you know, if we're together, you know we should work
(06:42):
this out. If if that involves us like taking a
day or two, just like in a hotel somewhere by ourselves.
If that's different.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
Breaks feel like a way of people saying they want
like a sexual walk about, Like I'm going to go
explore the world and if i don't like what I
see out there, I'm gonna come back. Okay, it's another
way looking at it.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
I'm coming back.
Speaker 5 (07:04):
Yeah, I'm gonna go try all these other places and
if I don't like those, I'll come back to this one.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
That's what it sounds like. We do here. We got
a break, we gotta break. Can we take a break.
We're gonna take a breather. But we're not breaking up
with you. We're not breaking up. We're taking a breather.
We'll be back
Today's Daily Highlight from Elvis Duran in the morning show.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
All Right, I asked you a question I did answer. So,
if you go on a break with someone not even
knowing you for everyone to go back, but you do
go back with them, must you confess to what happened
during the break? I know you have a pritting on this, Gandhi.
Speaker 1 (00:19):
Yeah, I say no, it's not a must. And if
you guys do decide to talk about it, I don't
think either side should be angry about what happened during
that time.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Maybe best not to talk about it. Yeah, I wouldn't.
I don't think you should have to talk about it.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
I have a question.
Speaker 4 (00:32):
Does a break mean that you're broken up? Or it
does just mean that you're doing your own thing for
a little bit of time.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
It could be both.
Speaker 4 (00:41):
Okay, I think you have to have that discussion, because
if I have permission to hook up with other people
because we're on a break, then you don't need to.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Know that's not a break, is it? Is it a break?
If you have rules doing your own thing mean somebody
else doing your thing? Okay?
Speaker 5 (01:00):
But I think if you're gonna like have that conversation,
like maybe you don't tell everything, but each person has
to agree that once again, like gond he said, there's
no judging. You can't get mad, you can't put it
over their head.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
You were on a break, right This actually happened with
an ex boyfriend of mine.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Oh really, but it wasn't a break. We broke up.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
He moved, I moved.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
It was clearly a break, clearly a breakup.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
So I'm living my life, having a good time. And
then we started talking again a few months later, and
it just came out in conversation because I'm not thinking
I did anything wrong. You know, we're broken up.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
If you live your life bub of my life.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
This man lost his ever loving mind. And I was like,
you know, at the very least I got some closure
as to why this ended. So that's great, because what
you can't get mad? We were broken up up. It
wasn't a break.
Speaker 4 (01:47):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (01:48):
I look at breaks like this, and I'm everyone looks
at it differently. But I'll tell you my philosophy of
a break. A break is you are too chicken to
break up.
Speaker 1 (02:00):
Yeah, it's like a light like a diet.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Break up right now? If you need to, Hey, do
you mind if I go spend a week, you know,
on my own. That's that's different. But we need to
take a break. You're you just can't commit to a breakup,
is what you can't.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
I don't know. You guys, remember Friends Russ and Rachel.
That was one of the biggest episodes ever, the breakup
and Russ is like, way, we're on a break meaning
they shouldn't have been with other people. So, I don't know.
I think it depends on who you.
Speaker 2 (02:24):
Ask, right, You're right, it's different for everyone.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
I guess you have to be really, really really clear
about the terminology break or breakup and what that means.
Speaker 2 (02:32):
Okay, so here's what we're gonna do. You and I
have been with each other for a couple of years.
We're both obviously at a point where we're not getting
along when it comes to this, this and this. Maybe
we just need a little breather. So let's do that. Okay,
we'll do that. I think that's a good idea. But
let's just both agree that we can't see other people.
(02:54):
Rights agree we can't see other people? What do you
mean by see other people? Like? I gotta got outs
my eyes out, I can't see people, or I can't
like date someone. Hmmm, I don't know. I think a
break is for people who are just not able to
break up and don't have the guts to do it.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Yeah, you might be right.
Speaker 2 (03:14):
A breather is a breather and a break or two
different things.
Speaker 1 (03:18):
Okay, what's a breather?
Speaker 2 (03:19):
A breather is like, can we just like I'm gonna
go to the Caribbean for a week, like you're bothering me?
Speaker 1 (03:24):
Just leave me alone for a week.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Yeah, that's a breather. Okay, I mean nah, what do
you mean? Nah, you're gonna go to the Caribbean for
a week. Yeah, yeah, that ain't working out. I could
easily go to the Caribbean by myself and not have
to diddle with anyone. I'm fire you you could, yes,
but would you sounds a little suss well no, Look look,
look you know't mean well enough. If if it's something
to break up, I will tell you flat out we're
(03:48):
done you. Yes, but you're different, you're not the norm.
Well you're asking me, we're giving our opinions, yes.
Speaker 3 (03:54):
Nate, So a breather means no diddling, But a break
is a breakup, and you can diddle.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
I think so so breather this okay, this is my opinion.
For me, our interest is coming from our persons. I
agree with you, especially like a longer term relationships. Maybe
you need a breather, just away from each other and
no diddling with other people. This text is interesting. I
see a break. It's like a break from your job.
(04:22):
You're not at your desk, but you're still employed by
the company and still held to company standards. Oh okay,
So like being furloughed. Yeah, it's a break. Is just
to step away from the every day and think on
your own. I think that's a breather.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
Okay. But using that analogy, if you are furloughed, you're
allowed to have a side hustle, aren't you.
Speaker 4 (04:46):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (04:46):
Absolutely, Okay. A furlough is different than paid time off.
If you're taking paid time off, yeah, you're gonna go
back to that thing that pays you, right, But a furlough,
they don't pay you.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
I say, you go diddle, then.
Speaker 5 (04:58):
Yeah, But while you're getting that paid time off, you're
still getting what matters, you're getting paid. While you're on
the break, you're not getting any of that.
Speaker 2 (05:05):
Tell you what if you want a break from me
and you don't want me to cheat on you? Pay
me cash.
Speaker 5 (05:15):
Together?
Speaker 2 (05:15):
Don't you feel like a break though?
Speaker 3 (05:17):
It's more of an exploration and a discovery to see
if you will have missed the person while you're gone.
Speaker 2 (05:24):
It could be, because I think that's what it is.
It's an experiment almost like am I better off without
this person? Do I miss this person? So you get
to do all the things that you want to do
during a break. As I said, I mean, obviously we're
our definition of a break is coming from our specific
point of view, So yours could be that mine could
be mine, you know, okay? In this text, this text
(05:47):
says it all. Either you're together or you're not. Either
you're together or you're not. I just think taking a break,
what your breath is kicking a breather, maybe a breather.
I need I need some oxygen.
Speaker 4 (06:03):
Oh god, I think we all smell like that right now?
Speaker 2 (06:06):
If having the hot chick I don't stop talking near me.
Don't talk near me. The air is green. It's burning
my eyes. I can't see.
Speaker 1 (06:17):
Your reactions whenever there's a scent that you don't like
are very hilarious.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
Yes, I mean, I have been in a situation in
a relationship before where I we talk about what we
need to break and I was like, can't we just
agree that means we want to break up? Let me,
let's just be honest. Let's I think you're right, because
you know, if we're together, you know we should work
(06:42):
this out. If if that involves us like taking a
day or two, just like in a hotel somewhere by ourselves.
If that's different.
Speaker 1 (06:49):
Breaks feel like a way of people saying they want
like a sexual walk about, Like I'm going to go
explore the world and if i don't like what I
see out there, I'm gonna come back. Okay, it's another
way looking at it.
Speaker 4 (07:03):
I'm coming back.
Speaker 5 (07:04):
Yeah, I'm gonna go try all these other places and
if I don't like those, I'll come back to this one.
Speaker 2 (07:10):
That's what it sounds like. We do here. We got
a break, we gotta break. Can we take a break.
We're gonna take a breather. But we're not breaking up
with you. We're not breaking up. We're taking a breather.
We'll be back
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