OFF THE RECORD: The birds and the bees

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In today's episode, its birds and the bees time for Charlie but why is he more awkward about it than his son. 

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:01):
The Flavor podcast Network. You're listening to stacis Zurr and
Charlie's Off the Records your record.

Speaker 2 (00:11):
Welcome to off the Record with Stacia and Charlie. This
is where we bring things they didn't go on the radio.
Maybe they should be on the radio, maybe they shouldn't be.

Speaker 1 (00:20):
All right, it has come to the conclusion my son Rob,
who is eleven, and I are having the Birds and
the Bees talks.

Speaker 3 (00:28):
Right, Yeah, that's their time, guys, And right, how are
you going with that?

Speaker 1 (00:32):
I don't know how to take this. You know, I've
always said to myself that, okay, we will just roll
with the punches. When the time comes, we'll just let
this flow. But now the time has come, and this
has come by so fast.

Speaker 3 (00:47):
Flow is not flowing.

Speaker 1 (00:48):
It's not blowing.

Speaker 3 (00:48):
So when you speak to him about this, what are
you kind of what were your hopes to be? You know,
like a dad who had what sort of you know,
approach to this.

Speaker 1 (00:58):
My approach to this was to be supportive, to give
you know, great advice around this whole thing, because you know,
we've we've lived that, we're in that area era once
upon a time. But I think my son is so
mature about this. This is the part that I'm confused about,
is that my son's mature about this whole situation. He's
able to come to me and sit me down and
we're able to have this chat. But I think I'm

(01:20):
the immature one.

Speaker 2 (01:21):
Like I'm like, oh, it's because he's gen z. Yeah,
you know what I mean. Like, they are just so
much more open and they're more open minded. They they're
more independent, they feel quite strongly about certain things, and
more and more you see things that used to be
taboo are not for them.

Speaker 3 (01:41):
Yeah. See, even like and I'm on a school board
and the students came in and talked about how Yeah,
and one of the initiatives we've got is bringing sanitary
products into the bathrooms and so there's tampons and there's pads,
and I'm like, when I was eleven, I would never
have seen those words in front of adults, let.

Speaker 2 (01:59):
Alone principle, it was hard to even tell you you
appearance that you were even yeah, well, just having that time.

Speaker 3 (02:06):
Exactly, and so like I'm holding my face like I
love it. It's so good. But it's like, wow, what
a generational change, So.

Speaker 1 (02:13):
Right, because I couldn't have that conversation with my dad,
you know, or to anyone that was a lot older
than me.

Speaker 2 (02:19):
You know what about your brothers, not because my older
brother Rob was like you really you really went into
the romantic side blood bro.

Speaker 1 (02:27):
So my older brother Rob was like my second dad.
So it was pretty awkward for us to even talk
about anything like that. So, like you go back to
the whole taboo thing. It was if we're to talk
about you know, six or just kissing a girl having
a crush, it was like, bro, they talk like that
in front of me. You know, I don't want to
hear it. There is this respecting. I don't know what

(02:48):
it is, whether it's cultural or what, but it was
I couldn't have that conversation with my dad. But now
I'm having this conversation with my son, and he is
so proper about this, like he wants to get a feeling.

Speaker 2 (03:01):
Well, he's he likes something, you like.

Speaker 1 (03:03):
Someone, and you know, if he feels this whole attraction
and you know things down there is really yeah yeah, yeah.

Speaker 3 (03:10):
So he's being really open really and I'm likely on
the inside, you know, like trying to correct your face
while on the inside you're going whoa whoa, whoa. I've
had those moments with my kids as well, and I
will say that one of the other changes is that
I'm speaking to them about it and Maudi and it
feels least awkward for some reason. But also I'm going
I'm so grateful, I'm so glad, and I'm like snapshotting

(03:33):
this and my brain because it's what I hope for.
But then a part of me is going, WHOA, I
would never have done that with my mom, and you know,
I was really close with her, but it's just so interesting.
And then there's some things that I would have done
with my mum that they won't do with me. So
you know, you're just learning more about your relationship every
time you come across something like that.

Speaker 2 (03:51):
I love that you guys are going through these experiences
because I also feel like it's probably healing a little
bit of that you had not being able to ask questions.
And that's the biggest thing, right, is like asking questions
because thinking back really to being in high school and
around that age about how much stupid crap other kids

(04:16):
told you isn't even what it ended up being. Yeah,
but that is the only people that would speak about
it with you, So you don't know anybody you believe
that to be fat because you know, especially because there's
no computers. The only computer I had access to was
the one in the school library that we got to
go to even now and again in class. And I'm
not about to look up some questions I've had.

Speaker 3 (04:36):
I mean, I could still see those big freaking slides
of sexual diseases.

Speaker 2 (04:45):
Bad.

Speaker 3 (04:49):
But yeah, no, I think it's really good the education
they do at school, and it's you know, testament to
your relationship as well, if you can have that conversation
with him. Yeah, I've got so different for every child,
Like talk to me, don't talk to me, and you're
gonna like take your options when you can.

Speaker 1 (05:05):
Man, Yeah, you find the window. Find the window.

Speaker 2 (05:08):
Thanks for listening to Stace, Azura and Charlie's Off the Record.

Speaker 1 (05:12):
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