September 18, 2024 • 6 mins
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In today's episode, Charlie is concerned for a friend who is just gotten into a new relationship. What do the girl think of the situation?
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
The Flavor Podcast Network. You're listening to Stacissa and Charlie's
Off the Record.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
You record, Welcome to Off the Record with Stacisara and Charlie.
Things come here, they didn't go on here. That's how
it works, Okay.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Right, I am baffled. I am confused because I have
a good friend, right, and and this is me being
a good friend. I'm quite concerned. But then I'm happy
for her as well. Last week she met this new
man's Oh, she met this new guy right, And this
is I would say, Thursday Friday. I think it was
(00:39):
like she.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Went on a date with this person. Well, she actually
just met.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Them, and she went out and she met this person.
But this person is quite young. Okay, we're young, how
much younger than maybe eight years eight years younger, So
I mean, likes still possible. Anyways, this is where my
concern leaves. I think it's a bit too soon because
(01:04):
now Thursday Friday they met in the club, Saturday, Sunday.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Tuesday exactly.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
But now she has kids, right, and her and this
her new partner, are picking the kids up.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
No, no, no, no, no, they're going out to dinner.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
No, she's hanging around all the friends.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
So you said this was last Thursday.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
That's this is why I'm concerned. Too fast?
Speaker 4 (01:28):
Right, Like are you is it ever last Thursday?
Speaker 2 (01:32):
I don't even think I would like introduce this stranger
that I meet in a club on a Thursday to
even my friends.
Speaker 4 (01:42):
No week later.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
But this is what I mean, Like, no, I would
say Friday, to be honest, let's say Friday.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
So even sooner it makes it worse.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
So she's got beautiful kids.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
How are the kids?
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Five?
Speaker 3 (01:54):
Three and two? But see, this is this is where
my concern. It's a bit too soon. But I don't
want to sound like a hater guys, you know, because
I want her to be happy. But at the same time,
I'm like, broke, you know, you're moving too fast. And
let's see this guy still young? Besides, I'm how old
is he in age?
Speaker 2 (02:16):
So we don't know said person, which is why we
were able to sort of remove ourselves from the situation
and speak. You know, I would assume quite honestly about
it and with a good level headed mind, whereas you've
put a lot of emotion into deciding how you feel.
It's just wrong.
Speaker 4 (02:34):
Bro She went straight there and said wrong, Okay, so
it's weird. I see my friends going through, you know,
second relationships after having kids, and it's hard dating with
kids and deciding when the kids are going to meet them.
It's hard, and I've seen various versions of it. And
then also I was the kid when my mom started
dating my dad. There was like bearing a crossover dead
(02:56):
so there was no you know, I just I met
his girlfriend really fast. But with mum it was different,
and I have more perspective on what it must have
been like for mom because I was a little cow.
By the way my mum introduced me to a boyfriend,
I was horrible. I literally kicked one guy in the
sin's real bad. I didn't even he did nothing. So
that's the thing about how kids react. And yeah, if
(03:19):
you don't know they're going to be around, then just
leave it so the kids don't know. But then I
know that I'm saying that, and you're saying that, Well,
we're happily married, and people look at us and go, well,
that's easy for you to say right now, isn't it.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
And That's what I'm saying kids. So yeah, I wanted
to be happy, like seriously, I wanted to be happy.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
I've thought about it a bit more. Can I say something, Yeah,
is if say the and I don't know, but to say,
if the father of the children aren't in their lives,
then she can't really just like palm off the kids
to then see this new fella anyway. So it's I
can understand why there might be some crossover, because you know,
if you want to start dating this person and you
really you've clicked with them instantly. I mean, people tell
(03:58):
stories all the time. I've read read stories on mine.
Actually quite a bit of people that yeah, I met
my now husband from the first day we met each other.
We pretty much spend every day together, or you know,
meet one week in a week later we moved in,
So some people do move fast and have different time scales.
I think the only reason that they put that sort
of like leans on and negativity on it is because
(04:19):
these kids involved. Because to me, introducing and DeRos, I
don't I don't want to make it about age, but
a twenty one year old tier three kids to me
is a little bit weird. But I do understand if
you were to take away the kids, people would just
be like, play on, do you know what I mean?
With how much it's cheer each other.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
You're right, you get being met about the age either,
mostly about the kids.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
I think I am a and not only just for
the kids, but for herself as well because the dad stolen.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
She doesn't want to get burnt. No, I don't want to.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
I don't want to get burned. But then I wanted
to be happy, you know what I mean. So obviously
I'm not in her shoes, so she knows what's you
know what I'm saying. So, but this is just me
for it.
Speaker 4 (04:55):
You can get swept up, you know, like exactly, it's
so exciting to have, you know, something new and all
of that, but it's just like how confusing is it
for the kids if they get to like someone knows
so and I know, like I remember my hearing my
nephew say and it was like months before I got
to meet my nephew. And it's not my husband's kids
or anything, but when we got together and I heard
(05:16):
him say, otside, the joy goes. It's not the old girlfriend.
It's a new one, you know, like they know yeah,
and you know.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
I mean like the other thing too, and this this,
this is to wrap it up, is that you know
the kids will get used to this person, and then
when they're no longer around, you know, you can't.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Say that though they might, they might actually end up
being around. And it's one of those things, right, that's life.
You literally cannot predict what's But.
Speaker 4 (05:39):
Some people say, they go, this is my hard rule.
It's going to be six months or a year before
the kids meet the new gardener.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
But that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
But now that the rule has been broken, you just
sort of you just go.
Speaker 4 (05:50):
You can always go breaks, breaks, breaks, put on the brakes.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Thanks for listening to Stay a Zora and Charlie's off
the record. Catch them live every weekday from six him
on Flavor
The Flavor Podcast Network. You're listening to Stacissa and Charlie's
Off the Record.
Speaker 2 (00:09):
You record, Welcome to Off the Record with Stacisara and Charlie.
Things come here, they didn't go on here. That's how
it works, Okay.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
Right, I am baffled. I am confused because I have
a good friend, right, and and this is me being
a good friend. I'm quite concerned. But then I'm happy
for her as well. Last week she met this new
man's Oh, she met this new guy right, And this
is I would say, Thursday Friday. I think it was
(00:39):
like she.
Speaker 2 (00:39):
Went on a date with this person. Well, she actually
just met.
Speaker 3 (00:42):
Them, and she went out and she met this person.
But this person is quite young. Okay, we're young, how
much younger than maybe eight years eight years younger, So
I mean, likes still possible. Anyways, this is where my
concern leaves. I think it's a bit too soon because
(01:04):
now Thursday Friday they met in the club, Saturday, Sunday.
Speaker 2 (01:09):
Tuesday exactly.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
But now she has kids, right, and her and this
her new partner, are picking the kids up.
Speaker 2 (01:19):
No, no, no, no, no, they're going out to dinner.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
No, she's hanging around all the friends.
Speaker 2 (01:23):
So you said this was last Thursday.
Speaker 3 (01:26):
That's this is why I'm concerned. Too fast?
Speaker 4 (01:28):
Right, Like are you is it ever last Thursday?
Speaker 2 (01:32):
I don't even think I would like introduce this stranger
that I meet in a club on a Thursday to
even my friends.
Speaker 4 (01:42):
No week later.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
But this is what I mean, Like, no, I would
say Friday, to be honest, let's say Friday.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
So even sooner it makes it worse.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
So she's got beautiful kids.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
How are the kids?
Speaker 1 (01:53):
Five?
Speaker 3 (01:54):
Three and two? But see, this is this is where
my concern. It's a bit too soon. But I don't
want to sound like a hater guys, you know, because
I want her to be happy. But at the same time,
I'm like, broke, you know, you're moving too fast. And
let's see this guy still young? Besides, I'm how old
is he in age?
Speaker 2 (02:16):
So we don't know said person, which is why we
were able to sort of remove ourselves from the situation
and speak. You know, I would assume quite honestly about
it and with a good level headed mind, whereas you've
put a lot of emotion into deciding how you feel.
It's just wrong.
Speaker 4 (02:34):
Bro She went straight there and said wrong, Okay, so
it's weird. I see my friends going through, you know,
second relationships after having kids, and it's hard dating with
kids and deciding when the kids are going to meet them.
It's hard, and I've seen various versions of it. And
then also I was the kid when my mom started
dating my dad. There was like bearing a crossover dead
(02:56):
so there was no you know, I just I met
his girlfriend really fast. But with mum it was different,
and I have more perspective on what it must have
been like for mom because I was a little cow.
By the way my mum introduced me to a boyfriend,
I was horrible. I literally kicked one guy in the
sin's real bad. I didn't even he did nothing. So
that's the thing about how kids react. And yeah, if
(03:19):
you don't know they're going to be around, then just
leave it so the kids don't know. But then I
know that I'm saying that, and you're saying that, Well,
we're happily married, and people look at us and go, well,
that's easy for you to say right now, isn't it.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
And That's what I'm saying kids. So yeah, I wanted
to be happy, like seriously, I wanted to be happy.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
I've thought about it a bit more. Can I say something, Yeah,
is if say the and I don't know, but to say,
if the father of the children aren't in their lives,
then she can't really just like palm off the kids
to then see this new fella anyway. So it's I
can understand why there might be some crossover, because you know,
if you want to start dating this person and you
really you've clicked with them instantly. I mean, people tell
(03:58):
stories all the time. I've read read stories on mine.
Actually quite a bit of people that yeah, I met
my now husband from the first day we met each other.
We pretty much spend every day together, or you know,
meet one week in a week later we moved in,
So some people do move fast and have different time scales.
I think the only reason that they put that sort
of like leans on and negativity on it is because
(04:19):
these kids involved. Because to me, introducing and DeRos, I
don't I don't want to make it about age, but
a twenty one year old tier three kids to me
is a little bit weird. But I do understand if
you were to take away the kids, people would just
be like, play on, do you know what I mean?
With how much it's cheer each other.
Speaker 4 (04:34):
You're right, you get being met about the age either,
mostly about the kids.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
I think I am a and not only just for
the kids, but for herself as well because the dad stolen.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
She doesn't want to get burnt. No, I don't want to.
Speaker 3 (04:46):
I don't want to get burned. But then I wanted
to be happy, you know what I mean. So obviously
I'm not in her shoes, so she knows what's you
know what I'm saying. So, but this is just me
for it.
Speaker 4 (04:55):
You can get swept up, you know, like exactly, it's
so exciting to have, you know, something new and all
of that, but it's just like how confusing is it
for the kids if they get to like someone knows
so and I know, like I remember my hearing my
nephew say and it was like months before I got
to meet my nephew. And it's not my husband's kids
or anything, but when we got together and I heard
(05:16):
him say, otside, the joy goes. It's not the old girlfriend.
It's a new one, you know, like they know yeah,
and you know.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
I mean like the other thing too, and this this,
this is to wrap it up, is that you know
the kids will get used to this person, and then
when they're no longer around, you know, you can't.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Say that though they might, they might actually end up
being around. And it's one of those things, right, that's life.
You literally cannot predict what's But.
Speaker 4 (05:39):
Some people say, they go, this is my hard rule.
It's going to be six months or a year before
the kids meet the new gardener.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
But that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (05:47):
But now that the rule has been broken, you just
sort of you just go.
Speaker 4 (05:50):
You can always go breaks, breaks, breaks, put on the brakes.
Speaker 1 (05:54):
Thanks for listening to Stay a Zora and Charlie's off
the record. Catch them live every weekday from six him
on Flavor
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