Dear Megan Deep Dive!

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Speaker 1 (00:01):
With the John and Ben podcast.

Speaker 2 (00:03):
Cheers to Dilma making the world a better tea.

Speaker 3 (00:06):
Over to you, Meghan. Someone that some filthy animal has
been sliding, slippering and sliding into your DMS again.

Speaker 2 (00:11):
So, Dear Meghan, is a segment we do where you
can come to us with any issue you want us
to put to the listeners were we'll all judge you.

Speaker 3 (00:18):
Not legal issues, though we don't just that we we
had no expertise in that field.

Speaker 2 (00:23):
You can slide into my DMS or the Hits Breakfast dms.
This is one I'm keen to hear everyone's thoughts on.
Hey guys, could I put this story to your listeners
for a Dear Meghan, Yes you can. My friend of
about fifteen years has revealed to me that she's seeing
my dad. She's come to me now, I guess asking
for permission now that it's getting semi serious. First of all,

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it was a major shock. I had no idea, and
to be honest, I feel a little bit betrayed. I
don't like the idea of them being together, and I
definitely don't want to see any PDA from them. What
am I supposed to do? Of course, I want my
friend and my dad to be happy, and I wish
I could be cool with it, but I'm just so not.
What do you and your listeners think I should do?

Speaker 3 (01:07):
Spices? Wow, So she's being asked for her blessings, so
she can't. She is the option to say no, I'm
not happy with this a new friend was, or she's
just feeling like about it it.

Speaker 2 (01:20):
Seys she sees. I guess they're asking for my permission.
They have been seeing each other, it's just now that's
getting serious.

Speaker 3 (01:26):
But they're both willing to pull out if it's not
a Koshia with her.

Speaker 4 (01:31):
Maybe they're just hoping that it's going to be Kocier
with her. Now I'm guessing age wise, what are we
what are we thinking for?

Speaker 2 (01:36):
Well, we don't have ages, but like it's her dad,
so these an age get there.

Speaker 4 (01:42):
Not that that matters, but I think with the relationship,
what'd be guessing that they've been friends for fifteen years?

Speaker 3 (01:47):
I mean, so maybe thirty.

Speaker 4 (01:50):
That one because yeah, okay, so thirty dad, maybe in
this fifties?

Speaker 3 (01:54):
Yeah, okay, Well good on it for politely asking her friend.
I mean I've been I know when I asked you
if I could date Jenny Boyce, your mother. You had
an issue with it, and so did my warm turns
out and you said no, and I accepted that.

Speaker 2 (02:09):
But good on it.

Speaker 3 (02:10):
I guess acknowledging it is that would have been award
for the friend to have to come to her and
even have that conversation.

Speaker 2 (02:15):
Yeah, she's known her, like she's they've been from for
fifteen years, so she's known her dad for a long time. Yeah,
when did the dad meet her?

Speaker 4 (02:25):
But they are all adults and they're all now. Yeah, well, yeah,
it's an awkward one. But then if it's I guess
some people are going to be cool with that and
other people might be.

Speaker 2 (02:34):
A bit like I get what she's saying. She's like,
I want to be happy. You want your friend and
your dad to find love and be happy, but they
have to be with each other.

Speaker 3 (02:44):
I assume the dad has been so solo ranger for
a while. There's no mum in the picture. Okay, the
only sensible thing to do was for her to go
and sleep with her friends dead now, eye for an eye,
father for a father, All said and done, What would
you do in this situation? Your best friends come to
you and said, hey, I've been dating, your dad would

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love your blessings, your.

Speaker 4 (03:07):
Parents are separated for some time?

Speaker 5 (03:10):
No you.

Speaker 2 (03:13):
Nah, I'm not.

Speaker 3 (03:14):
Cay initially, but you go six months, you know, when
you start a new job or you started a new company,
and you're like worried to begin with and then within
a fortnight it's just the norm.

Speaker 2 (03:23):
I agree, Like are they coming to Christmas? And like
is she sitting on his lap?

Speaker 4 (03:27):
And okay, all right?

Speaker 1 (03:29):
The hits that JOHNA and Ben podcast in the middle of.

Speaker 4 (03:32):
Today is dem Meghan our DM today that someone's lead
into your DMS? Meghan?

Speaker 2 (03:37):
Yeah, So this is I guess a young woman where
she don't have a lot of details, which you can
probably understand why when I tell you it's her friend
getting together with her dad that been friends for about
fifteen years, and she's not okay with it. They've been
seeing each other for a little bit and now they're
kind of asking for permission. I guess now that it's
getting semi serious.

Speaker 3 (03:57):
I don't think any want to be completely okay with it, right,
But then it does time normalize things? That's my question.
I mean, initially, no one's good, No one's going to
be cool with that. No, the good thing is your
best friend will be your stepmother. The bad thing is
your best friend's bumping ugly's with your dad.

Speaker 2 (04:15):
Okay, it grossed out on behalf.

Speaker 4 (04:19):
Lots of messages on our Facebook page, Megan, and some
polarizing opinions.

Speaker 2 (04:23):
Sometimes yeah, so Parnier has said, that's a hard one.
The fact that it's your friend and your dad. They
both didn't tell your tool now, but being an adult
about it and not making it more than it is,
I'd find out if they really do have a connection,
if they want to be together. Sometimes in life you
can't help who you fall in love with. That's true,
It is true. Sorry, Sorry, Becky's polar opposite, She said, sorry,

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that's pretty crap on your dad's part. Never mind your mate.
I'd be pissed. How much time have they been spending
together behind your back? If they've been lying to you?
How serious is it? So many questions she's not okay.

Speaker 4 (04:58):
With So someone was okay with it, Paddy, it was okay, honey,
was okay, okay.

Speaker 3 (05:02):
Yeah, But the whole time you're thinking, how long have
you thought my dad was hopeful? I know you've got
a lot of questions. You go, you travel back through time,
don't you. We're going to get Tully on the phone. Welcome,
How are you Tully?

Speaker 4 (05:16):
How are you good?

Speaker 5 (05:18):
Thank you?

Speaker 6 (05:19):
Okay, I'm morning.

Speaker 5 (05:20):
Everyone wanting have you on this morning?

Speaker 3 (05:23):
Tully. What's your thoughts on this sticky situation?

Speaker 6 (05:26):
My thing is, I just believe love has no boundaries.
I mean, look at how many of us, we'll say,
are lucky to even find love if it is love,
you know, and it's not just some kind of game
that they're playing or to kick off the daughter or whatever.
But it sounds a little much more serious than that.
And look at how many of us we don't care

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about the age gap. I mean, what is an age gap?

Speaker 3 (05:49):
But it's nothing, Well it's sixteen. There's a law that
sort of sees loved us a boundaries sixteen on.

Speaker 4 (05:54):
Well, you're right in this situation, they're all adults. You
sound like they're in their futies in the fifties.

Speaker 6 (05:59):
Yeah, yeah, I mean, like I think the issue is
when she was growing up, that's with her dad, and
now she's going to kind of get out of that
and think about, yes, that is my dad. When I'm
not a little girl anymore, I can think outside the
square now and I can just let my dad be
happy for once. You know, there's nothing seeing your parents

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sufferre or vice versa seeing their children's suffer. You know,
it's been.

Speaker 3 (06:29):
Happy on top of her best friends stop.

Speaker 4 (06:31):
You know with the images you just said before that
everyone know how to be cool with that. Well, we've
got a couple people, very very adult of.

Speaker 3 (06:39):
You doally appreciate that, Sandy. What do you think you
want to chime in? Sandy? Oh, hi, lovely to have
you on your commute to work this morning. What do
you think is it okay for your best friend to
date your dad?

Speaker 7 (06:53):
No, I think it's weird.

Speaker 8 (06:55):
I thank you as they got married.

Speaker 9 (06:58):
Then you're best friend of your stepmom and also you've.

Speaker 7 (07:02):
Got to think about your mom's feelings as well.

Speaker 3 (07:07):
Thought about that, you're right, another person here, yeah, yeah, yeah, no,
that's a good point. Were infected in a mum or
where she is in the equation.

Speaker 4 (07:17):
So that's that's wrap things up, Megan. We'll like to
give a final bit of advice from all our pieces
of advice.

Speaker 2 (07:23):
I mean the immature child and me says, oh gross,
that's my dad. And again she's going to be you know,
potentially step mum, and you can't tell me what to do.
But I also think everyone deserves happiness and maybe it
won't work out. Maybe you can let your dad be
happy for now, have a conversation about your boundaries. I
don't want to see you doing stuff in front of me,
and maybe you can, like you say, John O, normalize

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it after a week.

Speaker 1 (07:46):
Whiles that jonaan Ben podcast Right, we have.

Speaker 2 (07:50):
Someone who slid into my DMS with a Dear Meghan,
you can do that too. If you've got a relationship
as you doesn't even have to be relationships. Any kind
of issue that you want to.

Speaker 3 (07:57):
Medical issues and I send your photos away from Okay.

Speaker 2 (08:01):
Please don't don't.

Speaker 3 (08:02):
Just want to know the boundaries, but if you want.

Speaker 2 (08:04):
Some external assistance, I mean, the country's going to weigh in,
so you never know what you're going to get. But
this is a message we've got today. Hi Megan, John
Oan Ben, I have a DM me again. Please keep
me anonymous. We always do. I've been married to my
husband for fifteen years now and everything is fine. We
are each other's best friend and I couldn't imagine life
without him. However, lately, I've been noticing every time we

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get intimate. He quickly gets up to make sure the
lights are turned off. It's even gotten to the point
now that if I'm getting changed out of my clothes
into my pajamas, he'll either step out of the room
or tell me to go to the bathroom to get changed.
I don't know if I'm overthinking things, but it's starting
to make me really upset. I'm beginning to feel quite
anxious about my parents. Do I bring this up with him?

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How do I even confront him about it?

Speaker 5 (08:53):
Oh?

Speaker 3 (08:53):
So s splicy.

Speaker 4 (08:55):
That is at the end of the b Oh maybe
you could justify until the through him going to the
bathroom get changed.

Speaker 3 (09:01):
Maybe he's just power conscious. Power's expensive electricity bills. Turn
the lights off.

Speaker 4 (09:09):
Yeah, I'm just trying to think of all maybe his
neighbors that have been around the area peeping in windows.
She should turn the lights off in case there.

Speaker 2 (09:17):
I just when she sees everything is fine, I'm like,
well no, but I'm like, maybe it must be like you.
There's no indication anywhere else that you guys aren't.

Speaker 3 (09:28):
Okay, call me crazy. She's connecting dots here, Yeah, spiraling
out of control in her head. How about just going
to ask him. Yeah, you know, so, hey, mate, what's
the issue with the lights? Why don't you want to
see my beats?

Speaker 2 (09:41):
There's the thing like in my relationship, I always catastrophized.
You go to the worst possible scenario and you're like,
oh my gosh. He thinks that's especially if it's happening
over and over, like he's turning the lights off. But
could it be that he's self conscious?

Speaker 4 (09:54):
Maybe well, yeah, you're right, and he's.

Speaker 2 (09:56):
Trying to turn the lights off, and he's like, maybe
I've got a dad bot or something and I'm feeling
self conscious.

Speaker 3 (10:01):
It's very if he's anything like me. Every time I
steer in the bathroom mirror, a single tear drips down
my cheek. So he might not be happy with his body.

Speaker 4 (10:10):
Yeah, you're right, Okay, so yeah, well that's this. Did
some help from the family right now, very very helpful
in these situations.

Speaker 3 (10:16):
Are you lights on or lights off? Is that too personal?

Speaker 4 (10:22):
Very it's a person.

Speaker 3 (10:26):
Always produce Taylor thumbs up and thumbs down. She's like,
I'm not answered thumbs ups on lights on?

Speaker 1 (10:34):
The hits that johonaan Ben podcast Dear Me.

Speaker 2 (10:37):
Again, someone slid into my DMS. This is really nice
that people trust us with these very personal topics, especially today.
These people have been married for fifteen years. She sees
everything is fine where best friends, but lately she's been
noticing that every time they get intimate, he gets up
to turn the lights off and asks her to go

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into the bathroom when she's getting chain.

Speaker 3 (11:00):
He's putting their love making on Stevie wonder mode. Now,
I guess is another thing. Maybe when the lights are on,
if you're looking around the bedroom, you can see all
the chores that need to be done. You know, it
can get distracted.

Speaker 2 (11:12):
Do you think he's thinking about that and.

Speaker 3 (11:16):
Trying to come up with an excuse? No, yeah, I'm reaching.
I'm like, oh, there's some clothes it needs to be
folded over there, you know, stuff like that. Because the
clincher is he's making a go to the bathroom. So
it's not hone. I still think.

Speaker 2 (11:27):
How many times did that happen? Was it once or twice?
And was it for another reason?

Speaker 4 (11:31):
Yeah, well that's the thing.

Speaker 2 (11:32):
Yeah, I don't know if.

Speaker 3 (11:33):
He's laying out rose petals on the bead or something.

Speaker 4 (11:35):
Not a nice situation for her, especially with her, you
know what it's doing to her mind, obviously thinking about
it once.

Speaker 2 (11:41):
Yeah. Yeah, So people are saying, look, how long has
this been happening? Is it a new thing? It sounds
as though he's just started doing it, even though they've
been married fifteen years. Tell the hobby to do the same,
and then ask him what his problem is. Yeah, I
wonder what would happen if she was like, no, go,
get changed in the bathroom.

Speaker 3 (11:59):
Reversing it, getting a dinner, turning down the light like
five am mode or something. Yeah, let's get clear on
what do you want to say? What do you want
to say? To our listeners, they're clear.

Speaker 10 (12:11):
Well, yeah, if I text an, I've been with my
partners for eight years and I've never seen him naked,
apart from when he's walking around house drunk, and that's
maybe been twice this whole time. But it's mainly because
he's self conscious. There's absolutely nothing wrong with his body
at all, but he's just that self conscious that even

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during broad daylight, even at nighttime, he will prefer to
be alone. And so I've I've never had a problem
with my body, but the longer I've been with him,
I'm now I'm not self conscious. But because I respect
his privacy. He respects mine as well, so he doesn't
walk in when I'm in the bathroom or if I'm
getting dressed, he'll get, you know, walk out. But also

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we have children, and at the moment we have a
nine months old, so we have the monitor on, so
when we are being intimate, I feel like I'm being watched,
even though drop that down or our cats slips in
their room. So sometimes, yeah, weird.

Speaker 9 (13:13):
But yeah, whether it is a new thing that is
very odd.

Speaker 10 (13:18):
Maybe maybe he hadn't got a cat.

Speaker 11 (13:19):
I don't know.

Speaker 3 (13:20):
Yeah, well, thank you being so open you she had
wonderful sharing their clar I feel like a teacher at
primary school called sharing clear. And yes, it is weird
of a cat steering you in the eyeballs when you're
doing that.

Speaker 2 (13:31):
Yeah, so well, thank you.

Speaker 3 (13:35):
That's that's clear's thoughts on it. We've got sues on
the phone. What do you want to say?

Speaker 9 (13:39):
Well, I was just thinking Meagan said that she thought
it could be him being self conscious with his body.
But honestly, the fact that he's asking her to move
into the bathroom when she's getting changed does sound like
it's a hymn problem. But it also sounds it sounds
like it's a hymn problem that she should approach him about.
I feel like it's something they definitely should discuss because

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otherwise she's just gonna it's going to be a stand.
She's going to think more and more into it, and
it's going to get worse and worse for her in
her head.

Speaker 2 (14:06):
Yeah, And I like, I just I'm hoping that she
is going to the worst case scenario. I'm kind of
hoping there's another reason why he's asking her to go,
and like, how many times did it happen? Did it
happened once? And maybe he was like, I don't want
the light on. I'm trying to do something. You know,
I have another reason for doubt because that would be
horrible if he was actually doing that.

Speaker 9 (14:26):
Yeah, no, I agree, So let's all hope for the best.
But I definitely think it's something that she needs to
discuss with him.

Speaker 3 (14:32):
Wonderful call, SUSI well spoken. Now the Johnny Price side pole,
lights on, lights off?

Speaker 2 (14:38):
She don't have to.

Speaker 3 (14:38):
Answer lights on?

Speaker 12 (14:40):
Okay?

Speaker 3 (14:40):
Yeah, good, okay, Well the lights on the case seventy
percent on leading the pole at the moment.

Speaker 4 (14:45):
Keep that rolling on.

Speaker 3 (14:46):
Rolling coverage so what would you say?

Speaker 4 (14:48):
Yeah, on Facebook, a lot of correspondence coming through, and
I guess the probably the message that's coming through most
of everyone feeling for this particular person, but most people
saying no point overthinking at co talk to her. Talk
to That seems to be the main thing that everyone's saying.
Because you don't know until you're backsit.

Speaker 2 (15:04):
You had that conversation, you can catastrophize it in your head.
It might be something really innocent. And if it's not,
you need to address it anyway because you're just gonna
it's gonna affect your mental health.

Speaker 3 (15:14):
They call them having courageous conversations when you're climbing up
the corporate letter in middle management, have a courageous conversation.

Speaker 2 (15:21):
That's what they're seeing an adult though, exactly.

Speaker 3 (15:25):
Tones And if people want a message Meghan DM dear Megan,
you can do.

Speaker 2 (15:28):
So Meghanloy's papers on Instagram.

Speaker 3 (15:30):
What did check your middle name in the Megan papers?

Speaker 1 (15:33):
Wasn't a bake the heads that jonaan Ben podcast.

Speaker 3 (15:37):
Someone slid into your dems again, Megan. And this is
a tricky one because you hand it over to you.

Speaker 2 (15:45):
All right, Well, I'll read it out and then we
can discuss This is the Dear Megan hire John Oban
and Meghan, I have an issue for your Dear Megan segment.
I am the cool auntie and my nephew often comes
to me with stuff in his life that he often
doesn't tell his parents. And he has told me that
he has Instagram and his parents don't know. He's only eleven,

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so he's not really supposed to have it, and his
parents are against him having social media until he's older.
His account is private and he only has one or
two posts, he says, he just uses it to follow
other people. Mostly. Now I know this information, what do
I do? Do I betray his trust because I feel
like it will be obvious that I told his parents,

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but also I feel like his parents would want to
know he help.

Speaker 3 (16:31):
Please, well tough you do? You want to hold your
street cred and your mantle is the cool auntie, don't you?

Speaker 4 (16:37):
Yeah? But then you're right. They're going to be like
if they find out, they're like, you knew you'd be like, yeah.

Speaker 3 (16:42):
No, but just go what No, But just to the
first I've heard of it, Sure.

Speaker 4 (16:48):
The kid would probably say something I'm told such and such.

Speaker 3 (16:51):
Give it a yeah, yeah, you don't want to lose
your street cred. It's not often as an adult you
get cool cool or thought of as cool. So the
longer you can hold onto that all funny, it's not
your place to dive in. They'll find out at some
point then they can deal with the parents.

Speaker 2 (17:05):
But also your are you kind of like setting yourself
up as the confident on in that area so you
can keep tabs on it a little bit? You know,
you can give them, But then would the parents want
you to be parenting in their way because it's not
your kid?

Speaker 3 (17:19):
Oh so you're saying you take the responsible role here.

Speaker 2 (17:22):
If you have any issues with social media, come and
chat to me about it, like you know.

Speaker 3 (17:28):
Or you set up a fake Instagram account and then
tag his mum and on and loop them together and
then you've done nothing, like that's a third party that
no one knows.

Speaker 2 (17:37):
Yeah, because do you think in reality, like if you
say you told the parents, and then the parents like
you can't have it, shut it down. He's gonna do
it anyway, and then he's not going to tell you
all the parents.

Speaker 4 (17:48):
And it's I mean, in the grand scheme of things,
it's not as bad as a lot of other things
that could be doing. It's not like he's ram rating
or vaping or you know, like something like that. And
when those instance, you're probably like, Okay, yeah, maybe I
would definitely trade the kids trust.

Speaker 3 (18:01):
Yeah, and tell you when it comes to ray.

Speaker 4 (18:07):
One hundred bucks from a dairy or something.

Speaker 3 (18:09):
Actually, okay, I mean one minute you're setting up sneaky
industry accounts, next minute you're human trafficking in Eastern Russia.
That's what I've always said. It's a gateway, isn't it.
So this is what we want to check over. And
knowing how the hits, what do you do? What does
this person do? Do they alert the parents, betray the trust,
or set up for fake Instagram account.

Speaker 4 (18:30):
Maybe you've had this situation happened to you. Maybe you've
had someone come to you and told you one thing
like this and you've gone, I've got to tell apparents.

Speaker 3 (18:38):
Or you've kept a secret, Megan, you're a secret keeper.
I am very loyal at keeping secrets.

Speaker 2 (18:43):
Yeah, which is why this one. I don't know what
I would do. I feel like I don't know.

Speaker 4 (18:49):
You're quite you are very loyal on the secret game, So.

Speaker 2 (18:51):
You I feel like I would keep the secret. I
feel like I would keep the secret.

Speaker 3 (18:56):
So leave it to them.

Speaker 2 (18:58):
Yeah, and just be like, hey, come to me, Just
come to me if you need me.

Speaker 4 (19:02):
You know, then the parents are gonna be plea more.

Speaker 1 (19:06):
Was it the parents perheads that johnaan Ben podcast.

Speaker 4 (19:10):
In the middle of today's de Meghan Meghan, someone has
slid into Meghan's DMS with a very very interesting dilemma
this morning, Meghan.

Speaker 2 (19:18):
So they are the cool Auntie. Their nephew has told
them they're eleven years old, that they have Instagram and
they're not supposed to do. Their parents wouldn't be down
for it. So now the aunties like, do I betray
his trust and tell the parents or do I keep
his confidence and keep his secret and maybe just monitor
him Being the call Auntie?

Speaker 3 (19:39):
Does she relinquish her title? Is the call Auntie? Or
now become the knacking Auntie? Those are the two options available.
A whole bunch of texts on this thank you for
all your texts and advice. On four four eighty seven,
someone suggesting quietly tell the parents check the kid's phone,
maybe leave the kids Instagram account open on the phone
and do it subtly yeah, that's that's a good one.

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Worst things he could be doing reads This is another
text So I was searching up big boobies on the
internet when I was eleven, So thank you for the
device there. And also don't tell the parents. As an
adult he needs he needs to trust an adult. Every
child needs to trust an adult.

Speaker 2 (20:17):
I know, I'm so torn.

Speaker 3 (20:19):
Another text saying blackmail the kid Jackie will get on
from Hamilton wants your advice for this, Lady Jackie, what's
your advice?

Speaker 2 (20:31):
Mate?

Speaker 13 (20:32):
I think that she should say to a child that
they need to decide whether they're going to tell the
parents about the Instagram or just get rid of it,
because I think she needs to help them maintain a
good relationship with his parents, and if she betrays her
more them, then he's not going to trust anyone and
they won't hear about things that happen. So I think

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you just put it back on home and say, come on, mate,
what do you think You know? Your mum and dad
don't want you to have it, So I'm going to
put that on you to tell them or you take
it off. I don't think it's your place to get
between the parents. You know what, I mean, I'm very
happy with my sister if she didn't quietly say to me,
look about but yeah, and then I'd tay to here, Yeah,

(21:14):
well I don't like it.

Speaker 14 (21:15):
So you're telling.

Speaker 13 (21:15):
Them, oh no, but I don't think that's a good
way to have a relationship with them.

Speaker 3 (21:22):
No, good on you, Jackie, thank you, Russell, Rusty, you're
chiming and what do you want to say about this?

Speaker 15 (21:29):
That's a tough spot. But if it was me, I
think i'd I think i'd tell the kid to get
rid of the Instagram account. Otherwise I'll tell their parents.

Speaker 3 (21:39):
Oh, the ultimatum.

Speaker 4 (21:40):
It's not a bad way of thing, because then you
haven't betrayed their trust.

Speaker 15 (21:45):
Exactly, and they've got an opportunity to maintain your trust,
and and you maintain your cool status. But they know
they're not supposed to have it, so they might just go,
oh yeah, I'd rather just get rid of it than
than then her tell my parents or something that I.

Speaker 2 (22:03):
Feel like you're gonna you're going to lose your cool
status by telling them to get rid of it.

Speaker 3 (22:07):
But then you start vaping in front of them, and
you and you regain your If you thought about vaping,
you see.

Speaker 4 (22:17):
I don't mind that idea though. That's that's kind of
keeping everyone kind of on your side in a way.

Speaker 15 (22:23):
Yeah, it is that with an opportunity to I think
both the other options that are lose lose. I think
this is the only kind of the stalemate, the middle
ground that might work.

Speaker 3 (22:32):
Your thoughtful thoughtful individual may appreciate your sharing this morning.
You don't have a wonderful day. Okay, okay, love your work, trash,
let's get into it, tresh, roll your sleeves up. What
do you what advice have you got?

Speaker 14 (22:45):
She should keep it secret, but she should talk the
boy into telling the parents.

Speaker 4 (22:50):
Ah, so she's not actually the one to go break his.

Speaker 14 (22:53):
Trust, No, because she she may need to have trust
from him. It's some stage of his life, and if
she breaks it, he's got nobody. Yeah, gently lead him
into telling his.

Speaker 3 (23:09):
Parents or the you tell your parents or I will
that got played on me and whit calls by an
undercover shopp or when I shoplifted ay Playboy magazine at
age twelve.

Speaker 14 (23:18):
Yeah, but you know what, you don't need to rely
on her later on in life.

Speaker 3 (23:22):
Right, No, but she never told my parents and I
she played you well and there was the lesson that
I learned that day.

Speaker 14 (23:29):
Honesty is the best policy at some stage, and an
eleven year old needs to have that honesty with the parents.

Speaker 3 (23:37):
Right.

Speaker 4 (23:38):
Well, thank you so much for your cause and texts
this morning to summarize. So what do you think is
the best advice yet, Meghan.

Speaker 2 (23:45):
Well, someone texted and see the way kids think nowadays.
If you don't keep the secret, the trust is lost
and kids have a very stubborn attitude these days. I
kind of agree, So I'm going to go with trash
and say keep the secret, but you know, encourage him
to tell his parents.

Speaker 4 (23:58):
Okay, Well, think we're appreciate everyone's calls and great talk,
great calls, great texts.

Speaker 1 (24:03):
The hits that johnaan Ben podcast.

Speaker 3 (24:05):
Megan, people slide into your dms, don't they meet with
a question here that we put out to the listeners.

Speaker 2 (24:13):
It's pretty brave, really, but it is anonymous. So if
you have a DM, you can slide into mine or
Hits Breakfast dms and we will put your conundrum out
to the listeners today though this is our dear Megan. Hey, guys,
what do you do if someone wants to be reinvited
to your wedding after they've rsvp' no. Here's the deal.

Speaker 1 (24:34):
We have a.

Speaker 2 (24:35):
Couple who have been We've been friends with for a while,
but they are notorious for breaking up. We were friends
with the girl first, so I feel like that's where
our loyalty lies. So when they broke up, she RSVPs
yes and he asks RSVP no. Obviously. Now fast forward
to a couple of weeks until the wedding and they've
gotten back together and she wants to bring him. I'm

(24:56):
well down the line of organizing everything, table settings and
everything into Be honest, I can't be sure they won't
break up again before the wedding. What do I do?
I want to say no to my friend, but how
and am I mean for doing so? Keen to hear whatever?
One thing?

Speaker 3 (25:12):
Oh so they wanting to reinvite, you could punish them
sitting with the kid's table or something. Here's a controversial opinion,
and this is surrounding wedding days. Is I believe some
brides and grooms are just ready to kick off and
just waiting for something to kick off at.

Speaker 4 (25:29):
You know, because you're a stressful thing for some.

Speaker 3 (25:31):
Of your special day is your special day, and so
you just feel like any slight inconvenience you have the
right to just fire up at and cause a scene
over it.

Speaker 2 (25:39):
It's so stressful and there's so many one other.

Speaker 4 (25:42):
Person check them on a table with every other person
is a cost, won't say that. So you can come,
but it's gonna cost you one hundred and fifty dollars
or whatever because that's the cost of the whatever.

Speaker 2 (25:51):
But she's probably already done, like you know how you
do the favors. Some people get things printed, like, I.

Speaker 3 (25:58):
Mean, she's half of people at our wedding. We don't.
We don't keep in touch with nowadays exactly What does
it matter. They're just a snapshot of time for people
who are in your life at that moment.

Speaker 4 (26:08):
Don't have them all right, So andrew the hats fourth freights.
Even watching you, maybe you've had the same situation. Happened
to you with your wedding.

Speaker 2 (26:16):
I've had two, and the first one it was like.

Speaker 3 (26:25):
We worked on the relationships, all right, That's when they
lasted me. Didn't just throw it in sim of marriage.

Speaker 2 (26:31):
The first one, you listen to everything, you do what
everyone else wants. Everyone is that what you did? Okay?

Speaker 1 (26:40):
Sure? The heads that johnaan Ben podcast.

Speaker 4 (26:43):
Right now, we're in the middle of this mean Today's
dem Megan. Someone has slid into Meghan's d MS with
a bit of a dilemma that we put to you
on Andrew the Hats.

Speaker 2 (26:52):
They're getting married in two weeks and they have a
couple of friends that break up, makeup, break up, makeup.
So he r SVP no because they've broken up, can you.

Speaker 3 (27:00):
Just deliver deliver this in a bit more of a
neutral time.

Speaker 2 (27:03):
They've gotten back together and now he wants to come
to the wedding, but it's two weeks away.

Speaker 4 (27:09):
And she'sstress it's not your wedding to organized.

Speaker 2 (27:13):
I've had too, and I was like, I feel traumatized.
I'm triggering my eyes to it.

Speaker 3 (27:17):
Would you do this to someone, to one of your
friends with her having a winning No, I wouldn't do.

Speaker 2 (27:21):
You know what, when it comes to weddings, whatever they
say goes. I'm just like cool, cool, no, kids, cool,
it's your it's your choice. You're spending so much money
on that day and you want it to be the
way you want it. That's cool.

Speaker 4 (27:33):
Probably depend the way you ask, though you could say, hey,
I know we are SVP no. But if anyone doesn't
come through, is it possible to you know, I'd like
to come now, would that be okay to ask and
say behave?

Speaker 2 (27:43):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (27:45):
Have they filled the slot? Has someone else come off
the roster? And then they put that in because that
person's going to be like, oh.

Speaker 2 (27:50):
Cool, imagine so yeah, yeah, that it wasn't.

Speaker 3 (27:55):
In the type group.

Speaker 4 (27:57):
It happens, though, I've been like that, that's fine. I don't
think if you should feel about that, because I know,
you know, you can't invite everyone you want to invite
to the wedding. So if you're in the next lot,
you're in the next lot.

Speaker 3 (28:05):
Part of you in the back of your mind there's
bitter people that wanted here that weren't.

Speaker 2 (28:10):
Without going on and on about having two winnings, but
I've had two winnings. First one, I had like one
hundred people. Second one, we had forty six and it
was way better.

Speaker 3 (28:17):
Okay, would we be invited to your third?

Speaker 2 (28:22):
Maybe maybe less less?

Speaker 4 (28:25):
All right, let's get to the calls and see what Yeah,
we should pass on through this them.

Speaker 3 (28:29):
What would your advice be?

Speaker 4 (28:30):
Yess yess.

Speaker 3 (28:36):
Yeah, we're here, man, you just started talking. That would
be bloody great radio.

Speaker 4 (28:40):
What do you reckon?

Speaker 16 (28:43):
I reckon it's really that important to them that they
asked her to pay for him, because that was our
wedding and someone that had a new boy friend, and
they were more than happy to pay for him, and
it just took that bit of pressure off of us.

Speaker 3 (28:58):
Oh so to find the finance burden you think that's
the problem.

Speaker 4 (29:01):
Could be quite expensive, but it does alleviate that. Right,
that's a good suggestion. I think I said something similar
before Megan shot me down.

Speaker 2 (29:10):
Anyway, more to do with like table settings. Those are
hard to do, making sure no one's gonna you know, haven't.

Speaker 3 (29:17):
Been on the way Jesus here been here trying to
solve problems. Make you're throwing more spinners in the money.

Speaker 4 (29:21):
I'm like your suggestions, all right, they's saying another one.

Speaker 3 (29:24):
Just sound a better coming out of Jesus mouth. Yeah,
we'll go wait a hundred the hits. We should go
to Sue. We'll go live to Sue. Thanks, Sue, chime
on in? What are they doing? Can they let this
person bring their partner?

Speaker 14 (29:36):
Good morning?

Speaker 3 (29:38):
Yes, Sue take it away?

Speaker 1 (29:41):
Oh yes, I feel like Sue.

Speaker 3 (29:45):
We've caught you at a week moment when you weren't
phoning up about this topic.

Speaker 17 (29:49):
Oh no, I've brung the wrong number, did you?

Speaker 4 (29:52):
So this gets super breakdown what she thinks? Just just
have a guess off the to of your head. What
do you think? I'm not even sure that's the winning
based on everything you know? Hung up?

Speaker 3 (30:04):
She had enough of your life bullying.

Speaker 4 (30:08):
I'm just curious to know what she'd come through.

Speaker 3 (30:10):
Here's a great he's a great sedition for friends. Invite
him to the the after party.

Speaker 2 (30:14):
That's a good idea. I mean, that's fine if he's
okay with it. People get a bit funny when they
only get invited to I don't know.

Speaker 4 (30:20):
All right, rap it up, wrap it up? What do
you want to say?

Speaker 2 (30:23):
I think by emailing us, I think she already knows
what she wants to do, and when it comes to winning,
I think you should do what feels right to you.
So it sounds like you don't want to invite.

Speaker 1 (30:32):
Them the heads that johnaan Ben podcast.

Speaker 2 (30:36):
Megan, all right, this is the message that someone slid
into my DMS with. If you've got something you'd like
us to put to the people, feel free to do
the same. We can keep it anonymous.

Speaker 3 (30:48):
We are slides into your DMS.

Speaker 2 (30:50):
Well we say this all the time, but it's just
like girls having bands. Someone asked me where my skirt
was from the other day.

Speaker 3 (30:57):
Yes, that's not really good radio content you put. You
definitely put the best of the options.

Speaker 2 (31:03):
All right, here we go, Dear me, Agan, this is
quite a heavy one. Sorry, but I'm really struggling with
what to do here?

Speaker 3 (31:10):
Where was your skirt from?

Speaker 2 (31:14):
You're gonna feel bad when I read this. My brother
passed away at the start of the year.

Speaker 3 (31:18):
Oh God, what do you have to do that?

Speaker 2 (31:19):
Yeah, and I was helping out his wife with clearing
up his admin. I went on his laptop going through
emails to clear up bill payments, et cetera. When I
discovered that he had emails from another woman. Without going
into too much information, it became clear he had been
having an affair for quite some time. He has been
married to his wife for six years. They have a

(31:40):
child together, and she is like my best friend. But
needless to say, she has no idea. What do I
do now? Do I tell her and blow up her world?
Or do I keep his dirty little secret and torment myself?
Because right now it's all I can think about when.

Speaker 3 (31:55):
I'm with her, Oh god, I look like a monster.
First and foremost we'll get out of the way. But secondly,
just don't say anything. That's my first in sync what
he's got. There's nothing he can do to repair it
or explain it, or.

Speaker 4 (32:12):
It's just going to it will tarnish the memory.

Speaker 2 (32:16):
You're checking in a grenade into her memory. Yeah, but
make a question everything. So when I think of it
as like a friend, I'm like, well, don't tell her
right then, When I if I'm her and I think.

Speaker 4 (32:29):
About it, would you want to know?

Speaker 2 (32:30):
I kind of think I would want to know.

Speaker 4 (32:33):
That's tough. That's why. That's why I saw this on
the end the other day, and I think it's great.
Just bury me with my phone and laptop.

Speaker 15 (32:38):
Yeah.

Speaker 2 (32:39):
Please, you were saying yesterday your phone knows you better
than anyone.

Speaker 3 (32:45):
There inside me.

Speaker 2 (32:47):
No, you have your clearing history friend right when.

Speaker 4 (32:49):
You die, trust that person at all.

Speaker 1 (32:52):
Bury me with.

Speaker 3 (32:55):
Releasing all the fun video.

Speaker 2 (32:59):
I'll do it.

Speaker 4 (32:59):
I'll clear it for you. I trust you.

Speaker 3 (33:03):
So she can tase for for eight seven What would
you do in this situation? What advice can you pass?

Speaker 2 (33:08):
She says that at the end It's hard because now
she every time she's with her and every time she
hears stories about her talking about her husband and stuff,
She's sitting there with that knowledge, the.

Speaker 3 (33:16):
Guilt of well, she can just hold on to it
when she sees him in the afterlife or whatever universe
we go into when we pass Punish them in the
in the shins.

Speaker 4 (33:26):
Yeah, yeah, kick them in the sh okay one hundred
the hats four for eight seven. It's a really, really
tough one and difficult one. We'd love your thoughts this morning,
and remember every caller that gets on the air gets
a Del Marti price back and one hundred dollars about
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us a call, we'll get back and hopefully we can
solve this.

Speaker 1 (33:43):
The hits that johnaan Ben podcast.

Speaker 4 (33:46):
In the middle of a heavy Megan Megan. Just to
recap quickly, someone slims your DMS Meghan with a bit
of a dilemma.

Speaker 2 (33:53):
Yeah. So their brother passed away at the start of
the year. They've been helping his wife clear up all
the admind bills and whatnot, and has discovered on his
laptop that he was cheating on his wife. She has
no idea. They're also very good friends. So now she's like, well,
do I drop that grenade and blow up all her memories?
Or do I hold onto a secret and torment myself

(34:15):
because she's talking to her friend every day about her brother,
and it's.

Speaker 3 (34:20):
I just feel like there's so much damage to be
done if you do. It's like, just don't say anything.
Like when one of us sneakly parks downstairs in the
client car parks, none of us say anything because you
know that it will cause poor Joe who runs the
building some unduced stress. Okay, we keep it amongst ourselves.

Speaker 4 (34:36):
No harm, no foul, just a grace. Was just saying, though,
if you did say, would it make it easier for
them to move on? Yeah, like in a lot of ways,
because they probably hold this image of that person and
then maybe go maybe it wasn't everything I thought the
person was.

Speaker 2 (34:50):
Yeah, maybe I didn't know him that well. I don't know.

Speaker 3 (34:52):
How do we know it was an affair? On the
email too, could have been a long lost sibling love
you love you too well?

Speaker 2 (34:58):
She said. It became quite clear on emails that he
had been having an affair who.

Speaker 3 (35:01):
Seems like old school baby was just one step away
from the fact. So let's get Sam on You're on.
What do you think here? Sam?

Speaker 12 (35:12):
Hey? A, So, speaking from experience, I would recommend the
person to keep it to themselves.

Speaker 3 (35:20):
What do you mean speaking from experience?

Speaker 12 (35:23):
So I've had a brother pass away. I actually got
to know their illegitimate son previously so that I could
keep them informed. And since that, the family really hasn't
spoken to me. I haven't had a relationship with his

(35:43):
kids anymore. And so let sleeping dogs lie. I kind
of believe. I know it's hard at the time to
deal with it, but you're just causing more pain for others.

Speaker 2 (35:57):
Really, So you told your family about his other life.

Speaker 18 (36:04):
Yeah, yeah, not not intentionally, but I thought the other
person had a right to know as well in case
they wanted to say goodbyes.

Speaker 4 (36:15):
And now you regret kind of doing it because it's
kind of fractured your relationship.

Speaker 3 (36:19):
Definitely, Definitely when you are just coming from it from
a genuine caring angle. Well, hey, thank you for your advice.
You're you're you just say stay tight lipped. Let's sleeping dogs.

Speaker 4 (36:31):
Lie, Kara, We'll hock you up with the del Martin
price pack.

Speaker 3 (36:34):
And one hundred International T Day today. Well done. Let's
get Cara on. What do you reckon? Dear Megan? Does
she tell or not?

Speaker 19 (36:41):
She definitely tells?

Speaker 3 (36:45):
Yeah, what do you say that.

Speaker 19 (36:48):
When somebody in a family passes away? A divide happens
in any case, you know, like it's a double edged sword. Yeah.
I think she's going to go around talking about this
wonderful husband she had, what a great father he is,
when essentially he's you know, his behavior has been pretty.

Speaker 2 (37:08):
Bad when you say it like that, if she someone
she's not that close to might be the one that
spills the beans out in public, you know, when maybe
it'd be better coming from someone she knows.

Speaker 3 (37:21):
That's a great option. Tell a third party who doesn't
know anyone out the door? Shall we take one more
quick one? Hayden, you're on welcome. What would you do
in the situation?

Speaker 15 (37:33):
Would one hundred percent tell the truth?

Speaker 20 (37:35):
It's so unfair for the friends to be holding on
to knowing the facts, So definitely tell the truth.

Speaker 2 (37:44):
I kind of feel like the truth always comes out
in the end, right.

Speaker 4 (37:46):
Oh yeah, but are you the person to do it
or not? Well? Yeah, that's the okay, So Megan we
need to something I don't want to everyone that called,
of course got on the egg wants to del Marte
price pack and one hundred dollars about you.

Speaker 2 (37:56):
Well, if you go by social media, they said, don't tell.
And then if you go by who we've had on, yeah,
they say do tell.

Speaker 3 (38:03):
Means tell.

Speaker 2 (38:05):
I don't know what when you wake up in the morning.
What are you compelled to do? Most keep the secret?
Will tell her. I think you've got to go with
your gut on this one.

Speaker 1 (38:12):
The hits that jonaan Ben podcast Meghan right now though
someone has slid into Meghan's DMS.

Speaker 4 (38:19):
We do this every week or when someone slides into
your DMS with a bit of a dilemma that we
can put to you and hopefully you can help them out.
On Oh Andrew the Hats, Yes.

Speaker 2 (38:27):
This week it reads, Hi, guys, I have a dear
Megan situation for you. My mum doesn't like my husband.
She tolerates him and is nice and polite to him always,
but we were planning to go away on holiday with
the whole family and stay together at an airbnb and
she has now told me she doesn't want to stay
in a house with him. She said she can't tolerate

(38:48):
being around him and staying with him twenty four to seven.
It's actually so upsetting for me because they are two
of the most important people in my life. And to
make it worse, he doesn't know she doesn't like him.
I can't tell him that she doesn't want to stay
because of him, but she says she won't come otherwise.
I feel like I'm going to end up upsetting one

(39:09):
of them, and I don't know. I don't want to
do that.

Speaker 3 (39:12):
What's he done? What's this guy done?

Speaker 2 (39:14):
Actually, I'm glad that was my first question, so I
actually asked a follow up questions. So he made a silly,
drunken comment at the family table at a wedding. So
he made like a joke that didn't go down well.

Speaker 3 (39:28):
And you always got to read the room when you're
delivering your comedy to straight to Fair. You know, extended
family liss.

Speaker 21 (39:34):
Don't you.

Speaker 2 (39:35):
It was obviously bad enough for the mom to be
like no h in that situation.

Speaker 3 (39:39):
You always hope that someone does something worse than you
at the wedding. You know, someone you know knocks Nanna
into the cake or something overshadows your terrible moment.

Speaker 4 (39:50):
So what do what do we want? We want some
advice for her. Yeah, and it's her how she navigates
this because obviously the mom does want to hang out
with him, and she doesn't want to.

Speaker 3 (39:59):
She's obviously doesn't want the confrontation or the conflict. Then
I get it, you don't want because then he's going
to feel awkward. She's the best thing. I don't know
much about family affairs, but the best thing I reckon
is to just suppress it, pretend it doesn't exist, let
it bubble away for a number of years, until it
explodes in a in a volcano of anger. It's like

(40:20):
my ankle's on a long hall flight.

Speaker 2 (40:22):
I don't know what I would do in that scenario.
You don't want to cancel the trap, but you don't
want to push her, your mum into it.

Speaker 4 (40:29):
Yeah, because normally I would say, you don't have to
hang out. You don't have to hang out. I mean,
obviously birthdays and Christmas is, but you're not in a relationship,
you know, mum, and your mom doesn't have to get
in the partner, don't have to hang out. No, they
can be civil, yeah, on the occasions. So going away
feels like a step too far. But you've already committed
to that.

Speaker 3 (40:46):
Why don't you just get a separate accommodation in your
own accommodation away from you know, then you just see
him pockets. She can kind of play guards. She can go, hey,
well let's not go over there, just to do some
other stuff.

Speaker 4 (40:57):
You know, she protected I'll hit one of your jokes,
but maybe don't talk to.

Speaker 2 (41:01):
Anyone and you can tell all your husbands because you're like, well,
I just want it to be asked.

Speaker 22 (41:06):
Just us.

Speaker 4 (41:06):
Imagine these people listening right now that have you know,
their relationships with where their partner does not get on
with the parents, and that's I mean, that's that happens,
that's natural, right, Yeah, I have to get on human behavior.
It makes a heart.

Speaker 3 (41:19):
We did speak to someone on this show actually a
few years ago, and she didn't get along with her
mother in law. On Christmas Day, she dropped her husband
off to have Christmas dinner. She sat at the end
of the driveway in the car for four hours.

Speaker 2 (41:33):
Are you tue? Does she not have anywhere else to go?

Speaker 3 (41:36):
Though?

Speaker 2 (41:37):
She said that.

Speaker 3 (41:39):
Would have been looking out the window and probably.

Speaker 15 (41:45):
There you go.

Speaker 3 (41:45):
So that's a solution.

Speaker 4 (41:46):
Yeah, Okay, the hats do you not maybe don't get
on or maybe had the situation happened with your relationship?

Speaker 3 (41:51):
How bad was the joke?

Speaker 2 (41:53):
To be pretty bad? Or mum's really sensitive?

Speaker 3 (41:57):
Maybe we should play the Netflix roast the Hey, look
at all these jokes?

Speaker 1 (42:02):
Yeah, the hats that Jonathan Ben podcast Meghan.

Speaker 2 (42:07):
So this comes from someone who is in a situation
between her husband and her mum. Basically, we did a
follow up question and found out that the husband made
an inappropriate joke, a drunken joke at a wedding, and
now her mom doesn't like her husband. They were planning
to go on a holiday together and all stay together
at an airbnb, but she's now told her she doesn't

(42:29):
want to stay in the same house with him. Also,
the husband is blissfully.

Speaker 3 (42:33):
Unaware, which I love.

Speaker 2 (42:34):
I just love that he's so he doesn't know that
the mom doesn't like it.

Speaker 3 (42:39):
How do you not know when someone's not vibing you?
You do know, don't you?

Speaker 1 (42:44):
Yeah?

Speaker 3 (42:45):
Maybe he's just like I hope he's been firing out
any more jokes since the initial piece of comedy. Here's
a potential solution. Could she put a mustache on him
in a wig challenge. Put on a German accent. You husband.
He might ask some questions as to why he's having
to do this.

Speaker 2 (43:03):
But every time you run my mum, just put on
that German exit.

Speaker 3 (43:06):
This is Hans Kruger.

Speaker 4 (43:08):
A lot of people weighing in on the Facebook page
and on texting, on calls. A lot of people are saying, well,
just sounds like the mother will be staying home. Then
don't let the mother be manipulating. Tell her to stay
home and not come at all. There's another person think
he said she said the same problem. My mother doesn't
like the partner for nineteen years ago. I don't give
her an ultimatum either make an effort or stay home.
Don't ruin the holiday. So that's pretty much the things

(43:30):
and I probably I would agree with them. It's kind
of like, well, don't come then if you don't want
to come and don't.

Speaker 3 (43:35):
Come, shares you you're the one who's got the problem
with that. He's the hardline from you, probably what I mean,
what you know, just I have to come.

Speaker 4 (43:42):
It's mean to be a holiday. It's not like it
has to be a family occasion.

Speaker 15 (43:44):
Everyone has to hang it.

Speaker 2 (43:45):
Over to.

Speaker 3 (43:48):
Shares you're on. Welcome your thoughts on this one. How
does how does she tackle this Fridley situation? Shares a.

Speaker 4 (43:58):
Hello, Yeah, we can mate.

Speaker 3 (44:01):
What do you think?

Speaker 17 (44:02):
Good morning team? Hey, look, I think this lady needs
to have a sit down with her mom and probably
her husband as well, and just say to mom, has
he ever offended you in any other way? Was it
the one source? And get over it? And she needs
to probably have a one on one with her husband
and say, listen, I heard that my mom was a
little bit offended by their joke. As you told when
you had a few. Maybe you should just say hey,

(44:24):
mommy and know I'm really sorry about that. If I
offended you, get over Once you live every day?

Speaker 3 (44:31):
What im saying?

Speaker 2 (44:32):
You sound like a real mature grown up. It seems
like a very realistic way to deal with things.

Speaker 3 (44:39):
I going to go down to the morning and get
that printed on a coffee cup or something. Yeah, die
once you live every day? Thank you. H has great
insight there this morning, deb you will get you offrom
Parmers the North. How do we navigate this one? This morning?

Speaker 8 (44:53):
Dead's I'm of the same thoughts as she has a
but in the sense that he may not even know
that he's offended her. So I think maybe they should
just be the wife should tell him that he's offended
her at a wedding or when wherever it was, and
then I don't know, maybe they go and speak to

(45:13):
the mother in law. But at the end of the day,
the mother in law needs to get over it.

Speaker 3 (45:17):
That's okay. It seems to be that the popular opinion.

Speaker 2 (45:20):
I know, but I hate these confrontational chats.

Speaker 3 (45:23):
Yeah, they're so confrontational.

Speaker 2 (45:24):
You're like, oh, oh god, can you just imagine mediating that.

Speaker 3 (45:29):
I always find the anticipation of those conversations are a
lot worse than once you get into them. Everyone's just
having open and happy dialogue works for a resolution. Victor
on welcome, how are you.

Speaker 18 (45:41):
Thank?

Speaker 3 (45:41):
Mother in law not happy with his low brow comedy
at the wedding, doesn't want to go on holiday with
her husband. What do you think?

Speaker 13 (45:48):
Oh?

Speaker 11 (45:48):
I think they shouldn't definition shouldn't try to hide it,
and I think that he should be made aware and
they should be having a conversation.

Speaker 7 (45:59):
And then you know it's you know, she chose her husband,
so she might need to make that decision with a
vay go on holiday.

Speaker 4 (46:09):
It's a clean sweep. With a clean sweep the message
to pass on, right, Meghan.

Speaker 2 (46:15):
Yeah, Well, it's giving me anxiety thinking about this conversation,
but luckily I don't have to do it. But it
seems like you should all just have a chat and
I agree, tell him and give him the chance to
make it up to your mum.

Speaker 3 (46:24):
Maybe it was the delivery of the maybe you get around.

Speaker 1 (46:30):
The hits that John and Ben podcast mean.

Speaker 2 (46:34):
This is where people slide into my dms with conundrums
in their life and we check it out to you
and we all get to judge and throw our two
cents in. But they've opted the information up there for
people to judge.

Speaker 3 (46:44):
I would like some follow up sometimes, you know, we've
handed out our vice no responsibility, and we'll get some
follow up on some of these what's Today's all? Right?

Speaker 2 (46:56):
This one? Hi, Meghan? I don't know if I'm being unreasonable.
I love it when they start like that, but my
friend means you are wow?

Speaker 1 (47:04):
Is she?

Speaker 2 (47:05):
My friend stayed with me and my husband over the weekend,
and she had a shower and then she came out
and sat with me and him on the couch and
her towel is that weird? I felt uncomfortable. My husband
also felt weird about it, Like she is naked under
the towel. We are good friends, but she can be
pretty free and easy when it comes to how she

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acts around our group's husbands. What do I do?

Speaker 1 (47:28):
What do you?

Speaker 2 (47:29):
What would you do?

Speaker 3 (47:31):
Well? If we look at a towel, I'm assuming wrapped
around underneath the armpit, it's just really an absorbent dress,
isn't it really when you put it in that fashion?

Speaker 2 (47:43):
But she was naked underneath.

Speaker 3 (47:45):
She's not wearing a flannel.

Speaker 4 (47:47):
The questions underneath wrapped around, naked underneath our clothes technically naked.

Speaker 2 (47:53):
Underneath it, that's not clothes aren't at risk of just
falling off? And also, like you imagine the towel short,
ain't she sitting down on the couch?

Speaker 3 (48:01):
What does she want to do?

Speaker 2 (48:02):
So get off my couch.

Speaker 3 (48:03):
If you've got a whig towel, you've got a damp towel,
that's not the issue here, making that that's the more
important issue. So she wanted to notice she confronts her
about Yeah, does she say, oh, you.

Speaker 2 (48:15):
Know, I guess next time? Oh god, that's an a
good conversation.

Speaker 3 (48:18):
The husband's definitely eyes up situation.

Speaker 2 (48:20):
Then no, yeah, the wife brings it up and he's like,
oh yeah, I was weird. Oh yeah, I didn't like it.

Speaker 3 (48:26):
I want to bring this to home. It's probably a
little bit awkward.

Speaker 4 (48:30):
Yeah, but I don't know. I don't know if it's
super awkward.

Speaker 3 (48:34):
What if you were swimming at the beach. Didn't she
be in a town?

Speaker 2 (48:36):
Your wife Amanda's friends comes over and stays. Then suddenly,
like after the shower comes out, sits on the couch
with you and the towel make it underneath. This is
the beginning of a movie people as your wife listening.

Speaker 4 (48:49):
Maybe maybe a little but I don't know.

Speaker 3 (48:52):
Okay.

Speaker 4 (48:52):
Would you need to bring it up straight out of
the shower, no towel and sat down that would be
all good? That's awkward. Or wading around the house with
no clothes on.

Speaker 3 (49:02):
Would you confront your friend she's toweling up a storm
again moistening up your couch, which is I'd.

Speaker 2 (49:09):
Probably be more annoyed about the moistening up the couch,
to be honest, like your couch is weird.

Speaker 4 (49:14):
I'd be more good if it was a bikini because
I feel like a towel covers up more. So I'm like,
you know, like there and I'd be like, you know,
like what look but you go to the beach with
you but you know, but right next to you know,
we're having conversation with you know, it's more real estate
covered with the towel.

Speaker 3 (49:29):
Okay, So does this lady confront her friend or does
she let it slow.

Speaker 1 (49:34):
The heads that jonaan Ben.

Speaker 2 (49:35):
Podcast me, this has divided everyone, which I thought it
would be more cut and dry. So a woman has
seated her friends, stayed over, her friends stayed over, had
a shower, came out, and a towel sat on the
couch with her and her husband and it made her
feel uncomfortable. Should you say something? What would you do?

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Is it appropriate?

Speaker 3 (49:57):
They were giving her a toweling down Ben, you don't
see anything wrong that you see. It's you know, covering
up eighty percent of a body.

Speaker 4 (50:03):
I tell I think I've got a huge issue with
it hasn't happened to me the situation, so maybe it
would be awkward in that moment, But I'm kind of like,
it's not like it's a flirtation, doesn't feel How.

Speaker 2 (50:13):
Can we set this up in Ben's house.

Speaker 1 (50:18):
What if.

Speaker 4 (50:21):
On a tail?

Speaker 3 (50:22):
I've seen more of you, Yeah, to be honest, and
a lot of great texts coming through. But we'll get
to the calls first. Casey, Uh, what are we doing
burning at the steak here? What's going on now?

Speaker 23 (50:34):
I sort of see it, as you know, like if
she wasn't sort of sitting there and showing things, then
I don't see the problem with it myself. And I
do feel like you definitely see worse things out and about,
even at the mall these days, you do.

Speaker 3 (50:50):
Some people are wanting round in pajamas out there, crazy stuff. Mate.
You know you're right, Casey, there we go. I appreciate
that great text here for for it to see. Would
you answer the door and a towel? Question?

Speaker 1 (51:02):
Mark?

Speaker 3 (51:02):
Go get dressed? Your floozy?

Speaker 2 (51:04):
Well people do, right?

Speaker 3 (51:09):
I love the word floozy. Paul, you're on welcome?

Speaker 5 (51:14):
How are you?

Speaker 1 (51:14):
Paul?

Speaker 3 (51:15):
Yeah? Here you go here, you're floozy. What's going on? Mate?

Speaker 21 (51:19):
It sounds to me like she doesn't make she trust
her husband. I would say, see more in a bikini
down on the beach. What's what's the issue?

Speaker 2 (51:30):
I don't see those I kind of took it that
she just kind of felt uncomfortable. But you're taking it
from like she was worried her husband. Was I balling
the situation?

Speaker 21 (51:40):
Yeah that sounds like what it is to me.

Speaker 3 (51:42):
Yeah, pause, trust into the when you sat dropping the
tea bombs, it's a bigger conversation text your four throats
even just comes through. What's the point of saying make
yourself at home if they don't feel comfortable to make
themselves feel at home?

Speaker 2 (51:56):
Do you know the main problem I had with it
as I wouldn't sit on my own couch in a
towel alone.

Speaker 3 (52:01):
Like coming back to this is the real crime.

Speaker 2 (52:04):
It's not about the but that you just wiped yourself with.
Can you get off you care?

Speaker 3 (52:10):
Yeah, tear me you're on? What are you doing? You're
you're sitting in your lounge. Your friend comes out in
a towel and starts having a conversation with you and
your partner.

Speaker 22 (52:19):
Well, it's pretty disrespectful to both the wife and husband.
I mean you'll often tell your husband or wife off
if they come in on your couch. Would no wonder
where it was the moisteness from, not their towels getting
all over your materialiss.

Speaker 3 (52:41):
Making us feel uncomfortable. But you're right, Timmy, and you
know it's disrespectful to the couch.

Speaker 4 (52:49):
People worry about the couch.

Speaker 24 (52:49):
The couch is like how may And it's micro flirting.

Speaker 18 (52:53):
Let's be honest.

Speaker 17 (52:56):
You think it's micro flurting.

Speaker 24 (52:58):
Who who would if you're respectful of your friends, male
or female, who would do that?

Speaker 2 (53:06):
I wouldn't sit on your couch on a towel, ben Like,
that's weird.

Speaker 3 (53:10):
It's weird that that is weird. You're right, that is weird.
That produce a tailor.

Speaker 4 (53:14):
Probably wouldn't stay the night though right out, you know,
actually have you know like all those things. You know,
this is obviously a free in a close personal friend.

Speaker 3 (53:26):
I'm not saying not be that relationship coming up to
that hypothetical Wed Taylor.

Speaker 24 (53:33):
Penty of good female friends that I would never do
that to. And for my particial life, I do coaching
and that as well, and when I talk to people.
Yet that's a that's crossing.

Speaker 22 (53:45):
Lots of people's boundaries.

Speaker 24 (53:46):
It's it's really ick for your friends.

Speaker 3 (53:50):
Both.

Speaker 2 (53:51):
I agree with.

Speaker 4 (53:52):
All your points.

Speaker 2 (53:55):
I don't want to be dramatic or speculate, but I
think she was putting the feelers out to see they
were in an open marriage and seeing if there was
any chance of hooking up with them.

Speaker 4 (54:05):
Yeah, you guys read lot into these situations.

Speaker 3 (54:07):
Maybe I don't. Someone in four four seven once answered
the door to scare off of naked Jehovah's witness the
tree there you go, that can't can.

Speaker 2 (54:16):
Be Jehovah's witness was naked? Or they answered the door naked.

Speaker 3 (54:21):
Jehovah's witness. That would you.

Speaker 4 (54:24):
Like to witness this?

Speaker 1 (54:26):
The Heads that johnaan Ben podcast.

Speaker 3 (54:29):
Meghan, Okay, Meghan. People slide into your DMS. They trust you,
they like you. They like to share your their dirty
laundry with you. Then you air out the laundry on
the radio. It's a full service. We get rid of
stained removals, folding, We do it all, don't we with
this dirty laundry? What's happening today? Mate?

Speaker 1 (54:46):
All right?

Speaker 2 (54:47):
So this one sticky it sees. Hey, your team, I
have a dear Meghan for you. I've found out that
my husband has sleept with one of his friends. It
was before we were together, but we hang out all
the time, and I always felt like she didn't like
me much. I feel like she he should have told me,
and he's been keeping it a secret.

Speaker 1 (55:09):
Now.

Speaker 2 (55:09):
I don't want them hanging out, especially because she isn't
nice to me. It makes me think that she still
has feelings for him, and that's where her hostility is
coming from. What do I do now? Please?

Speaker 3 (55:21):
I want to know who told her? Like it feels
like so much time has pasted it. He probably hasn't
told her because well, to be honest, he wanted to
avoid all the conversation.

Speaker 2 (55:31):
Yeah, someone in the friend group.

Speaker 3 (55:34):
Some loose li it nosey Parker.

Speaker 4 (55:39):
It's tough though. You can to see from his point
of view, like why he didn't want to say anything,
and then you'd probably leave it too long and then
you want to go, oh, I guess what. Yeah, by
the way this happens, so's I mean? Like, it does
feel like you put it in the nice to know
category in terms of information. It would have been nice
to know.

Speaker 3 (55:57):
So, like you say, you would have ripped the plaster
early on, go hey, we hang out with this person.
Might have smooched. We might have smooched back in the day.

Speaker 2 (56:05):
But hey, more than a smoke.

Speaker 3 (56:07):
Our rhythm was off, our timing was all out of
killed her and it just was never gonna work. Yeah,
and so maybe that's the reason, and she got a
partner now this new the friend group.

Speaker 2 (56:17):
Girl doesn't say it, doesn't say, but she's saying, I
think the bigger problem is that you could be fine
if they were just friends and she was nice to you,
But she's being unkind to her. So that makes you
think that you know, she's still got feeling for the husband.

Speaker 3 (56:33):
So the question is does she ban him from seeing
her yeah.

Speaker 16 (56:39):
Or not?

Speaker 3 (56:39):
Or is she chilled then yeah, and quietly fester away
over a number of years until she's.

Speaker 1 (56:45):
The hits that jonaan Ben podcast.

Speaker 4 (56:48):
Megan where we get someone sliding into Megan's tms and
we get to your thoughts on what they should do
with a bit of a dilemma.

Speaker 2 (56:56):
So the issue is this person found out their husband
has slept with one of their friends, that someone they
hang out with a lot, but it was before they
were together. But she sees she's always felt like she
didn't like her much, so there might be a bit
of beef there. And she said, because she doesn't like
her much, she said, maybe she still has feelings for him.

Speaker 3 (57:15):
What does she do now I only want to know
how she found out this information. Obviously there was something
from the husband, third party, trouble making busybody who launched
a grenade into the social battlegrounds and making this poor
lady feel very insecure about life. Yeah, we don't want
there being your advice to her.

Speaker 4 (57:33):
It's really hard, Like I kind of feel like the
situation like you'd probably best that she didn't know, like
and you know, like I understand why no one said anything,
but now it's out there, you kind of just have
to kind of you're in a relationship, you kind of
have to just kind of suck it up and move on. Really,
I mean, it does feel like it'd be quite a
big move to go, well, now you can't see each

(57:53):
other for something that you've only just discovered this happened,
but happened years ago.

Speaker 2 (57:57):
Yeah, I don't know.

Speaker 3 (57:58):
You can't do do the bumping ugliesa can you? The
uglies have been bumped, Denise, You're on are not referring
to this lady as and ugly either. I really found
myself in a bit of a trip out there. Sorry, Denique,
welcome your advice.

Speaker 7 (58:14):
So my advice would be there's two things. Guys often
don't mention exits because for them, it's done. They have
no relevance in terms of any to them, so he's
probably kept her as a friend because their social group
calls for that. However, she should address the behavior with
her husband so they can tackle it. In terms of

(58:37):
what she does with the friends, it's just they don't
have one on one time they go hang out because
I bet someone's told them because she's finding it really
hard seeing them being really happy and living the life
she probably wanted. So it's just fiteful. So she should
just go live her life, be with her husband, and
any behaviors that happen that are inappropriate, they should just

(59:00):
work it as a team. The point of telling someone
this information is to try and get them to not
be on the same page and cause a fight.

Speaker 3 (59:07):
So how much do we have to pay for this season?

Speaker 7 (59:15):
I'm not qualified, so I can't get paid for it.
But I'm just used to all the friends in their
kind of relationships. I've kind of seen when people mention
something far back in the past and it causes harm.
It's usually with an intention of causing, you know, the
two parties not to talk. For her to tell them

(59:37):
to not see her do all this and it takes
away actually what needs to be addressed, which is the behavior.
So as for example, she doesn't say hi, or say
nasty things, or like if they're doing a friends thing,
she tries to isolate. That's where the hubby can come
in and be like, don't me and her team, or no,

(59:58):
that's not cool if we're not going to do that,
or she's not invited. You know, we're not going to
come that.

Speaker 3 (01:00:04):
Denique, that is she's rock solid advice. Summed up, I
have really impressive. I appreciate you taking the time to
call this morning, Tony, you have a great day. We've
got an anonymous caller now wanting to chime in on this.
Ladies just discovered her husband did connect physically with someone
in the friend group, but years previous. She's only found

(01:00:26):
out about it. Now, what's your advice?

Speaker 12 (01:00:30):
It's me, that's you.

Speaker 3 (01:00:32):
It's hard, that's hard. Anonymous could be any one of
the anonymous people out there.

Speaker 5 (01:00:37):
Absolutely, I'm coming at up from the same point as
the last. Paula really like, why you don't want to
make something out of something that was of the past,
and ultimately it's the behavior exactly the behavior you want
to deal with between the parties, because I mean, you
want to be respectful to each other and a friendship.
So ultimately have won the man and you're untilready your husband,

(01:01:01):
so you know you can't change.

Speaker 7 (01:01:03):
You can't change.

Speaker 3 (01:01:04):
That's right. There's only someone on one person going home
to me every night. Take him for a good old date.
Thank you very much for be calls to there go
that's one hundred percent, and even the text and Facebook
messages as well, going what's in the past in the past,
have you got an issue? Talk with him?

Speaker 14 (01:01:20):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (01:01:21):
Or talk with the woman and be like, have you
got an issue with me?

Speaker 4 (01:01:24):
Just have Was she the one that brought anywhere? We
don't know who brought it up?

Speaker 2 (01:01:27):
As you say, we don't know that she's being mean
to her, so just have it up with her. It's
got nothing to do with you and your husband.

Speaker 1 (01:01:32):
The heads that johnaan Ben podcast.

Speaker 4 (01:01:36):
Someone has slid into Megan's the ms again with a
bit of uh well, but of help needed for some
advice that we hopefully we can put out to you
pre wedding.

Speaker 2 (01:01:45):
Yeah, and if you have something you'd like to ask
the team about in the nation, just slide into my DMS.

Speaker 3 (01:01:50):
We have no experience. We just say some stuff, but
usually the listeners come through with some great advice.

Speaker 2 (01:01:55):
Well, technically this is addressed to all of us, so
they kind of aren't asking you. Well, it says, hey,
John Obinier, Meghan.

Speaker 3 (01:02:02):
Dump him, dump him.

Speaker 2 (01:02:04):
Here is a dear Meghan, dilemma for you. Me and
my fiance to get married in six months. But there
is one thing we are disagreeing about, and it has
nothing to do with the wedding. I'm keen to join
bank accounts, but he really wants to keep secret accounts
and keep spending our own money. That just seems weird
to me. We are joining together in marriage. To me,

(01:02:25):
that means joining finances as well. All our bills become shared,
so why wouldn't our money. Does that mean he's hiding
something or is that a normal thing. Appreciate your guys help.

Speaker 3 (01:02:38):
It's interesting. I feel like he still is to keep
his financial freedom and not you not knowing what he
spends his money on. Maybe so yeah, he's hiding stuff.
Sometimes we like to go to Burger King, Burgerfield, McDonald's, Wendy's,
to go back to KFC all on Monday, and we
don't want the shame of that being exposed on our

(01:02:58):
bank accounts.

Speaker 4 (01:03:00):
Tricky one, because you know, I imagine there are some
people out there they are in a relationship for many
years that may have separate bank accounts, And that's why
we still have our own separate bank accounts, my wife
Amanda and I we've always had. But then you have
a sort of a joint account. Yeah, we're in the
same scenario.

Speaker 3 (01:03:13):
Yeah, I feel like once you're married, you married, Like
if they concern is ownership over how much how much
money or finance you bring into the relationship, well then
they're going to have half your stuff anyway, right, Yeah,
after a certain period of time. So if that's the concern,
then you kind of eliminate that by joining bank accounts.

Speaker 2 (01:03:31):
Because I've always found it weird when someone you have
like a joint account and everyone puts money in, like
you split the bills, because not everyone in a relationship
earns the same amount of money, right, So like that
might be quite hard for someone to pay half if
they're not earning as much as someone else.

Speaker 3 (01:03:47):
Yeah, automatically, I'm painting him as a villain in my head.
He ses holding his onto his cash for nefurious purposes.
It's not the case. No, No, you're right. Maybe it's
just genuine like, hey, it's definitely giving off. I don't
feel like this is going to last vibes, and I
want Les Edmond at the back end of it. But
what would you do? Andrew's like, hey, I reckon, we

(01:04:07):
should keep seperate bank accounts heading into this.

Speaker 4 (01:04:09):
But it can change though. You can have separate bank
accounts and a few months later you can go actually
merge them together.

Speaker 2 (01:04:16):
Why Yeah, I don't know. It's not weird. But I've
always been the bread winner in the relationship. So Andrew's
quite keen to like bank accounts.

Speaker 4 (01:04:25):
Because I know, you know, from time to time you
may make a purchase that you don't want Andrew to
know about what happens in those situations.

Speaker 3 (01:04:32):
Credit cards, my friend, r okay, credit cards packages you
have tuning up?

Speaker 2 (01:04:39):
Can we have a limit though, like you wouldn't spend
too much over like turn, you wouldn't spin over turndred
Bucks without But.

Speaker 3 (01:04:46):
Then Bing has said, well, sometimes you could buy something
for one nine nine and.

Speaker 4 (01:04:50):
Then again for another on the heads four four eight seven,
what should this person do? Should they be concerned about
by not wanting to split the.

Speaker 2 (01:05:03):
Well, does she fight her point or is it normal?
Is it okay?

Speaker 1 (01:05:08):
The Heads that John and Ben podcast.

Speaker 3 (01:05:11):
Damn Meghan, Now, Megan, you did such a bang up
job of explaining the scenario.

Speaker 2 (01:05:16):
Eloquently this time. Here is the scenario. They're getting married
in six months. But she wants to join accounts and
he does not want to. She wants to know if
this is weird. Does it mean he's hiding something or
is it a normal thing to have bred accounts?

Speaker 22 (01:05:34):
Oh?

Speaker 3 (01:05:34):
Money, It's just money at the end of the day,
isn't it. All you need it for is somewhere to live,
somewhere to eat, somewhere to put petrol in your car.
Part from that, it doesn't matter, you know, don't let
it a feat your relationship. Yeah.

Speaker 2 (01:05:46):
I think the less disagreements you can have about money,
the better. Like, just chuck it all together and that's
what you do. Better. Mean, I don't know any other way.

Speaker 4 (01:05:55):
Credit cards as well, which is not a bad solution
for this, right.

Speaker 3 (01:05:58):
Yeah, you still want a little bit of freedom, don't you.

Speaker 2 (01:06:03):
Other people are saying to be able to buy presents
and not have them stumble upon it on your statements.

Speaker 23 (01:06:09):
That's right.

Speaker 3 (01:06:09):
You want to be able to buy presents for your partner.
That's why you need a sup damn right, Megan, let's
get Joe on the advice here. Does this lady parsue
this issue any further or just leave it? What do
you think they're Joe?

Speaker 11 (01:06:23):
I don't think there's a massive issue with wanting separate money,
but like, you're together, so why not put all your
money together and then give each other like an allowance
for a fortnight or a week or something. But also
when they have kids, like if they choose to have kids,
and if she's staying at home and not working and
has no form of income, what's she going to do

(01:06:46):
for money? Like does she have to ask her partner
for yeah money?

Speaker 3 (01:06:51):
Then he's got weird full control. Yeah, I see what
you're saying. Someone's texting here for for seven Joe, don't
know how you feel about this. We have separate bank
accounts being together for twenty plus year years. The bills
and food, et cetera go into one one account. The
rest of what we earn is ours and it has
never caused any issues in our relationship.

Speaker 2 (01:07:08):
But then when one person is not earning. What happens
is what Joe's saying, right.

Speaker 3 (01:07:13):
Survival of the fittest.

Speaker 4 (01:07:15):
Sucks. I'm going out for dinner.

Speaker 3 (01:07:21):
With the supermarkets. Throw some stuff out of the bins
out back if you want to feed. Yeah, no, I
see what you mean, Joe. Well then maybe there needs
to be some sort of arrange where you're like, well,
obviously I'm going to look after you.

Speaker 4 (01:07:31):
That's right, that's what marriage is about.

Speaker 3 (01:07:32):
You know, Tony will get you on. What's your advice
for this list of this morning tone?

Speaker 20 (01:07:38):
Hey, guys, honestly, I think it is a graph a
little bit. You're getting married, like, it's a pretty massive step.
It's like another thing he could have passed trauma from
a past relationship. Joining money. It happened to me my
joining money, and I was a bit skeptical, but you

(01:07:59):
get past it. Trauma is the case. But you know
we've joined money. We have our spending money that we
have watches, you know, for gifts and our own things.
But yeah, you know, I think you're getting married. That's
a massive step.

Speaker 3 (01:08:13):
So you're right, And you know we mentioned before that
you know, after a certain time period, really married or
not married.

Speaker 4 (01:08:18):
I think three years, isn't it three years?

Speaker 2 (01:08:21):
They split up everything anyway.

Speaker 3 (01:08:23):
Yeah, So when you think about it like that, it's
not really and marriage is like you said, it's a
huge step. That's a joy. That's the join the account
situation there, Tony.

Speaker 4 (01:08:34):
What happened to you?

Speaker 3 (01:08:35):
Did you did the previous partner rip you off? Tony?

Speaker 15 (01:08:37):
Yeah?

Speaker 20 (01:08:38):
Yeah, just I think I was there. Karma my way
and you know, love and alone.

Speaker 15 (01:08:44):
Carry on.

Speaker 4 (01:08:45):
Well, good advice. Thank you. I appreciate your sharing it
with us and the nation this morning. Have a great day, man,
all right, Megan.

Speaker 2 (01:08:51):
To be honest, it's really split because a lot of
people commented on the Facebook as well, a lot of
people are doing separate accounts and it seems to work
for them. So I guess it's a common assation you
need to have. But if you have worries about it,
you definitely need to talk to them and clear the
ear that he's not hiding anything.

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