- After we pranked PJs husband yesterday, we ask businesses to call up and see if BJ could voice their adds
- People's Poll: Finishing food your friend has taken a bite out of?
- Group Therapy: Been with someone for 7 years, not married yet... but not sure if they want to be
- Matty throws PJ under the bus with an off-air chat...
- When did you get sent a message not meant for you?
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
The Hits Drive with Maddy and PJ. Thanks to Chimis
were House the Real House of Fragrances. Hello everyone, welcome
to the podcast. Coming up on the show today, we
talk about when you received a message that wasn't meant
to go to you. They got the wrong recipients or vices,
and maybe you're the one that sent it. I remember
(00:22):
a friend of mine. Actually i've more coworker the X.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Let's say, I love that you're tiptoeing around it. It's fine,
you can say his name. I'm not a jealous body.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
We had your ex colleague John Campbell and.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
The other day I'm jealous. That's fine, fine, No.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
But I was dating his friend for a period of time,
and I remember he went into my messages to see
my colleague, my mom and will work back Jackson.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
It's just sure, we've been so awkward. I know it, so.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
Doesn't need to be awkward. Anyway, Jason went onto my
phone and he went to text his mate. He was
just going to send a message and he went into history.
Well I didn't know was he was a very sultry photo,
like very revealing.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
I don't know what I was thinking, What do you
mean you don't know what you were thinking sending the
photo in the first place.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
I can't remember. I don't I can't even remember the context.
But the photo was like me and a bath.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
I can't seen the photo, seen the photo.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
I know.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
I haven't released like I did long distance for a
long time. I haven't sent many rescue photos. Yeah, I'm
too scared. I mean, oh yeah, no fast, not just
graz of course, lots of like lingerie.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
I told you about this though. When I recently sent
Ryan a photo, it was low level. Like it was
low level. I was just a topless photo mirror. I've
been for a run and I took my top half
once I got home because I was very sweaty, and
I thought, oh my my, like torso looks quite good
because it was kind of like glistening a little bit,
and I don't just worked out. I thought I want
(02:22):
to snap a little photo of this. And then I
took it and I thought, actually, this is quite good.
And I sent it to Ryan and he went, why
have you sent me this?
Speaker 1 (02:29):
And I was, no, it's not the response.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
No, no. I was really feeling myself and I was
hoping that I would get back.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
You get like the fire emoji, like that hot emoji
face like little drop.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
I go, I got, what's with the photo?
Speaker 1 (02:51):
I think I'm going to give a message tonight.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Nice.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
He loves when we touch.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Yeah, is he going to put the is he going
to put the ultra ultra pilot mask on?
Speaker 1 (03:02):
It's been a while I've been a bit selfish and
I've been running off with it. Sorry, I might put
it on him and then put it on it, you
know what I mean. So we definitely like it's funny
like sometimes you know, like work and like just always
so busy. You kind of get home and it's easy
to sometimes feel disconnected the fuck. As soon as we massage,
I put on some relaxing like I'll put the way
(03:31):
it's pure really session, May you live all the days
of your life? That's this is my little meditation it okay,
three hours a pure relaxationion. This is what I played on.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Are you quite good at messages as well?
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Yeah? I'm really good at messages. My dad used to
give me really good messages, and.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
I reckon I learned off her. So yeah, good rub
down Ryan Love's messages. I need to do that more. Actually,
it's nice. I haven't given them a good massage in
so long, so.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Good, rub, it's so underrated your partner message in your record.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Someone did text and we didn't read this on the
show about the wrong messages, sending it to the wrong person. Yeah,
they said. I sent a text that said, get the
wine out, get up those stairs, get naked, and if
I'm a little late, start without me. Thought it was
to my wife, but sent it to the goalkeeper of
my football team.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
It's so good, get the one up, get up, get
the one up, get upstairs. What's he going to do?
Speaker 2 (04:43):
I know, but imagine the goalkeeper was like, oh, I
always thought there was something between.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
The Y's dangerous coming up of the podcast. Oh, the
next installment of Bjay's Next Big War sober Gig. We
got New Zealand involved. If you have a business, we
wanted to get you on board. BJ can potentially be
policing your he This.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Has taken on a life of its own. I love it. Plus,
you were pretty desperate for me to do something for
you last week and I tried my best. I tried
my best. It didn't quite have the.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
I'm genuinely fucking mortified about this. I it's made it
worse it's made it so much worse that you said something.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
I shouldn't have said anything. Oh you didn't want me
to say anything. I I got the wrong mess I'm
so sorry. I got the wrong message. I'm so water. Anyway,
that plus about sending the wrong messages to you, there
was some funny calls there as well.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
Enjoy the podcast. Have a great night, everyone, love you,
I love you man the podcast. So yesterday on the show, Look,
there's been in the works for a few weeks. Behind
the scenes, hadn't it many You and I sort of
chatted about this. My husband Beja. He dropped a comment
(06:11):
a while back saying, why can you do voiceovers for
ads and not like your regular Joe Joe blogs, you know,
like do you have to have like a special voice
or do they do they talk? Do they take on
regular people? And I was like, well, I don't know.
I mean, I'm sure there's a market for like a
rough farmer, kind of.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Like unpolished someone that doesn't do this on the regular,
you know.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
No, And so I may or may not have planted
the seed and told him that I'd reached out to
a voicing urgency just to sort of get the feelers
out there, and yesterday we got one of our colleagues
from the office to give BJ a call and just
let him know that he could be on their radar.
Speaker 4 (06:56):
I work for Being Talent Agency. We recently worked with
poly voiceover campaign. She mentioned that you might be interested
in kind of exploring some work in that space. So
would that be something you're kind of interested in doing?
Speaker 2 (07:08):
Oh yeah, hey, I wouldn't be sure to give it
a go.
Speaker 4 (07:11):
I'd love to look at getting you in for kind
of like a proper voice test. But I wondered if
kind of for now would be able to get you
to repeat a couple of lines down the phone. Okay, yep,
spates prior to the South.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
Spats prior to the South.
Speaker 4 (07:23):
Can we try maybe bigger, better, bolder, bigger better, bolder,
made by men for men.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
Made by men?
Speaker 5 (07:32):
Up?
Speaker 2 (07:32):
Sorry, no, no, no, you're all good.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Give it another go.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Made by men for men.
Speaker 4 (07:38):
Awesome, awesome. Do you want to actually just kind of
like rack that up a bit and get a bit
more like umph into it?
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Made by men for men?
Speaker 1 (07:48):
Like laughing at and maybe it's really cruel, but oh
my god, all things coming up with ideas and things
I should do to you. Man, he did not see
this coming and he fell for the hot glide and
sinker and he was taking get so seriously.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
The beautiful thing is you know, like I feel like
you could hear it in his voice. There was a
moment where he went, this is this is my break,
like this is gonna be my next big career move.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
So New Zealand, this is where we need your help
now because poor Beage. You know, it was a little
humiliated yesterday and I don't want that to be the
end of his voice in Korea. No, we have an
opportunity for him. And this is where you come in.
I'll wait hundred the hits. If you are a business
and you think that Bejay's voice could be great at
(08:37):
voicing and add for you that will make up. It'll
be a special complimentary ad that will play out in
our show. Get in touch right now, oh waite, hundred
the hats. Now it could be a small business. The
smaller the better, you know, Like totally we want to
get to the grassroots of n ZT.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
But initially we were thinking, you know, it has to
be like a rough and ready, like masculine brand. Now
that I'm thinking about.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
No evil feminine, the better even I reckon.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
If BJ is having to promote sanitary products or something brilliant,
brilliant cupcake or cupcakes.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Oh my god. Okay, look at the phones that go on.
Oh wait, under the hats, New Zealand. If you have
a business and you would like my husband BJ, who
has no idea about this, to voice your commercial that
will play out in our show, get into that right now.
Oh wait, a hundred hurts.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
I was so much trouble.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Mary and PJ May and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
In the meantime, my dear husband BJ. He's a farmer
and the white ed upper and now potentially the biggest
new voice to be on the market.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Here's the thing. Both your husband and my husband have
gotten a little bit too big for their boots, I reckon,
in terms of how much they think they offered to
the show.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
Yeah, they always think they come up to be fair.
They do come up, they come up with but they
like think that they could do our job blindfolded today.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
So it's nice to bring them back done to earth
a little bit. And we did that yesterday by pranking
your husband BJ.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Yeah, so we had an agent calling him and he
did like an audition on the phone, ready to go.
He gave his best lines for some really manly brands,
and today I thought we could take it up another
level and actually throw it out to real businesses of
New Zealand. I wait one hundred the hits to call
the show. Do you have a business and do you
(10:34):
think Bjay's voice may suit your ad? As a voice
overread Travis, welcome to the show.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
Hey, a very hell Travis ahead.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
What's what's your business called? Give it a shout out?
So it's Henry's Family Pies and Altani and the Hook's
Bay and we just do some real good pies. BJ
loves a pie. You know, I think you'd get that
authentic a load of response from him?
Speaker 2 (11:00):
Nice me, did you did you did you have any
feedback from Bjay's voice Trevor's did you think?
Speaker 6 (11:08):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (11:08):
I reckon it was pretty solid. There was a few
good lines that was actually.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
Really good that made for men by men.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Got me ringing up truly.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
All right, Well, Trevis, thank you so much for your submission.
We may have to sort of go home and think
about the exact brand that we do end up locking them,
but we'll listen to Darryl's pitch first hits Hi, Daryl,
what's your business.
Speaker 5 (11:35):
House name?
Speaker 2 (11:35):
Very well, Darryl, Wow, Daryl, that's good.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
Hey.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
My business is called Megabytes Fishing Charter Limited and we
run from Auckland, West Tamen.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Yeah, this is this has got beja written all over.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
Honestly.
Speaker 5 (11:53):
If you want some fresh contact Megabytes, that's all okay.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
And any any sort of grunt that you'd like from BJ,
any direction that you need for the.
Speaker 5 (12:02):
Air get has got a grunty voice, all right. He
can do it, all right.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
So you just you just let the master do his magic,
right Darryl.
Speaker 5 (12:13):
Yeah, Well, I'm not going to teach teach how to
do his job.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
No, exactly, I cannot do.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
But you's going to die that a pie company and
he will be so honored. At least. Go to Monique
on a hundred. What's your business?
Speaker 8 (12:32):
I sell sicken hand wedding dresses.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
And what's your business called?
Speaker 8 (12:42):
It's called white Again Echo Gowns, and so we take
people with warn dresses and then we obviously so you
were used again.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
And why do you think that Pj's voice would be
perfects for your brand?
Speaker 8 (12:56):
I don't think I could give him a bit of
a challenge, you know, like after like we need something
like quite salt tree and something that appeals to women
in the in the wedding market. What's a bit of
a challenge.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Let me tell you, minniqu bj Is does appeal to
the women.
Speaker 9 (13:14):
Okay, and the podcast that the People's Poll, the People's Poll.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
Everybody comes together.
Speaker 3 (13:26):
It's the People's Poll.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
It's time for the People's Poll. We do this on
the show every day and we chuck it up on
our Instagram page, The Hats Drive with Maddi and PJ.
You can check out our story. Go vote on today's
People's Poll, which.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Is Matthew all about food and friends. I was chatting
to a friend of mine who lives overseas and she
was throwing like a little dinner party for some of
her friends overseas. So she thought, I'll get as a
little treat, I'll get some peanut slabs, you know from
New Zealand that I can give to the the people
at the dinner party. Is a little bit of a
(14:02):
New Zealand experience. You know.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
I was gonna say she didn't for the after dinner Man.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
Nineties, I love an after dinner man, so good after
dinner and yeah, yeah, but no. She went for the
peanuts labs and most people either ate it immediately or
took it with them as they went. But one of
her guests, one of her friends, had taken a small
little bite out of one corner of the peanuts lab
and then left it behind when she left. And so
(14:29):
when Chloe was we're my friend, top story, nice one
man the bus, my friend, let's call her, Chloe was
tidying up after dinner. She saw that this peanuts lab
(14:51):
had a small little bite out of it, and she
went and cut off the corner and then ate the
rest of it herself. And she said to me, is
that okay?
Speaker 1 (14:59):
Could I?
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Should I have done that? And I said fine, it's
totally fine. But then she was worried that for lots
of people, they said no, no, no, no, no, you cannot
eat something that a friend, even if they're a good friend,
has like already started to nibble on.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
No, she got above and beyond. In my eyes, I
would have probably gone nibble, neble, nebble, nibble, and I
might have nibbled around the bike, maybe just leaving a
millimeter or toe just between me and the bite.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
See see do you know what I would have done?
I'll just I'll.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Like how like with family? Yes, I did it straight
away the husband yet straight away. But if it's kind
of a friend, you don't know where your mouth has been.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
It's true, It's true.
Speaker 9 (15:47):
I feel like you need a little bit of a
gap between the other person's bike.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
But what are your thoughts? Takes four for seven is
that the question? You do you bite and just some food?
If your friend already bitten in to the same item.
We're hitting the hard issues today on the show with
the People's Poll. Text your thoughts through to four four
eight seven.
Speaker 10 (16:09):
May the podcast that the pe Pool's Poll, the People's Poll,
everybody comes together, it's the People's Poll.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
As often as today's pole is inspired by true events
by Meddie's friends who were calling Chloe definitely not a name,
absolutely not her name after an experience where she hosted
a dinner party.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
Yeah, and she gave our peanuts slabs to all of
her guests and one of her friends when she left
Chloe's house. Chloe, Chloe's house had taken one name, Maurice
Yes had taken a little butte of the corner and
then left the peanuts lay behind. So my friend thought, well,
can I just eat this peanuts slave even though my
friend has already bitten into it? And I said, absolutely
(16:56):
you can. But I wonder whether other people would have
an issue with us.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
I feel like because she literally sliced it off right,
she got a knife. I feel like there's so much
effort I would I would never around at most and
leave a slight gap, but that would only be if
it was like one of my groddy friends.
Speaker 2 (17:10):
Yeah, I would just eat the whole thing. But producer
Siah said, even if it's your mum, Siah, you would
still cut.
Speaker 1 (17:16):
Around the That wasn't meant for honest, you mean your friends.
Speaker 9 (17:22):
I just feel weird sometimes, like when you see the
little like the bite marks and the food and the
wits alive or something.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Looking at the text machine four four eighty seven one
hundred percent. Most of the people I work with shed
food all the time as well. But easily I'll finish
something a friend he has already eaten. Another one said,
I just eat the lot hi at zak yuck. What
if they take a bite and some pluck gets scraped
off onto the phone. Oh my god, when I first
read it, I thought it said in some plague kids
(17:52):
craped a I was like, that's quite extreme, Zark.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Friends, are you hanging out with someone? See depending on
how close of a friend they are, But hey, we're
all human and you're not going to die from taking
a buye are you?
Speaker 3 (18:07):
No?
Speaker 1 (18:07):
What is the overall percentage?
Speaker 2 (18:08):
To say, the overall percentage if we look and you
can always go and vote on the people's poll on
our Instagram page. The Hits drive go.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
Follow us sixty take you follow?
Speaker 2 (18:18):
Sixty percent said yeah, it's totally fine to bite into
a food that a friend's already been into. Forty percent though,
said absolutely not interesting.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
And I still think the major deciding fact that.
Speaker 10 (18:30):
Is yes before you Many and PJ the podcast's Many
and PJS group therapy.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
A problem shares is a problem halved. That is the
quote they say, and bosh is it exemplified on this
show every week Group therapy. It's where you can get
in touch with us four four eight seven. You can
text us or hnd us up at the Hits dot
co dot NZ's tell us a dilemma you're going through
and honestly, we will not judge. It can't be too big.
(19:05):
It can't be too small. Whatever is bothering you at
the moment you feel like you need a little bit
of advice, get in touch with us and Auntie PJ
and Uncle Maddie and the recivings. He will come to
the table and try and help you out with some advice.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
Yeah, I mean bless us. We don't really often offer March, but.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
Last week we did see you reckon. Last week we
really held our own friendship question.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
Last week we kind of nailed it. But I'm curious
to see what you have with this man's dilemma that
he's emailed in about. Hey, Maddie and PJ got a
bit of a relationship headache. Well headache might be strong,
but it's something I'm mulling over. I've been with my
amazing partner for about six years now. She's great and
we have a great relationship, but I've always been really
(19:46):
clear that marriage isn't huge in my priority list. I'm
not opposed to it, per se, but I'm also quite
happy with the solid relationship we already have. My partner
has always maintained that she feels similarly, but she's also
always been quick to ta tell me that if I
ever did ask, she would say yes. We obviously get
a lot of outside pressure from friends, family, colleagues, et cetera,
(20:07):
asking when I'm going to pop the question. So now
I'm in this situation, is there a switch that will
go off in my head when I know the timing
is right to propose? And also, is my partner being
serious when she says she doesn't care? Or do you
think that she's sitting there furious. I haven't dropped a
knee yet.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
There's a tough one. But I feel like when it
comes to marriage, like there are some things I'll say
to beach my husband. I'll be like, oh no, no, no,
it's fine, Like you don't have to do that. But
I feel like when it comes to proposing, that's one
of those things you would put it out there and
you would say, no, I actually really wanted to do that.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
Well, it's a pretty big life change, it's a pretty
big life event. You cannot keep your cards close to
your chest. First of all, that's not a particularly healthy relationship,
you know, if you're holding something back like that. Yeah,
and yeah, it's not telling your apartment No, I don't
like ice cream from the supermarket tonight, like this is
a much bigger life. It is.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
And I would say, as we always say, like communication
between you two is the most important thing. And the pressure,
the external pressure is so very real, particularly as you
head to the north of your twenties. You know, there's
so many friends that start sitting down you're married and
all that, but you truly are happy and yourself is
a couple and you don't need that. Then. I just
(21:27):
think you need to have that conversation again, and only
you two can be the ones that talk about it.
And it might be uncomfortable to the band aid off
and chat about it. But one of my brothers, he's
been with us part of the years, actually they to
just get married. But for years they weren't married, and
they was so happy and there was so much pressure
around them, and they were, you know, super super happy,
(21:49):
but everyone else was settling down and they maintained this
dance for so long.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
I was in a very similar situation with Ryan actually,
where Ryan was pretty adamant. He wasn't protect killy like
hungry to get married when we first got together, and
I always said to him, look, I would get married,
but it's not the bee or and end or for
me that like, what's more important to me is just
a nice, normal relationship. So as long as I've got that,
(22:14):
I'm happy. But I will say asked me the question,
You're like, Oh, thank god, this is the happiest girl
in the world.
Speaker 3 (22:26):
Maddy and PJ.
Speaker 10 (22:28):
Mady and PJ the podcast The Heads Many and Pj's
group therapy.
Speaker 1 (22:35):
All Right, Every week on the show, we have group
therapy where we attack one of your dilemmas. We try
share anyway, oh w eight hundred the hats to weigh
in on this week's dilemma, Maddy, can you quickly recap.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
This person said? I've been with my amazing partner for
six years now. She's great, we have a great relationship,
but I've always been really clear that marriage isn't huge
on my priority list. I'm not opposed to it per se,
but I'm also quite happy with the solid relationship we
already have. My partner has always maintained she feels similarly,
but she's also always been quick to tell me that
if I ever did ask, she would say yes. So,
(23:10):
now I'm in this situation, is there a switch that
will go off in my head when I know the
timing is right to propose. And also, is my partner
being serious when she says she doesn't care? Or do
you think she's sitting there furious. I haven't dropped a knee.
Speaker 1 (23:24):
Yet, do you reckon? Let quite soon into a relationship,
you know, if you want to marry the person.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
I think you know pretty soon whether you want to
be long term with that person. But marriage isn't necessarily
for everyone.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
That's true. That is true. I'm just I remember, probably
quite early on the relationship, I knew I want to
dea have babies with Bjay and first time I was like, Okay,
this is it. Here we go. But it's not the same.
Everyone is so different for what they look for in
a relationship, you know, how they want to identify as
a relationship. Some people just don't need that term. They
(24:02):
don't need the term of actually being husband and wife. Catherine,
what are your words of wisdom this week?
Speaker 6 (24:09):
Hi, I don't need to have the conversation if they've
been together for six years. Yeah, females may be in
the back of everybody's head. Probably females is that baby thing,
and it may be just that potentially she may have
changed her mind or she wants that for having kids.
Speaker 2 (24:29):
Yeah, right, So you think it's just like even if
you had a conversation earlier on in your relationship, it's
always good to just check back in and double check
how are you feeling, where do you stand on the
whole marriage thing, and just have a really open dialogue.
Speaker 7 (24:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (24:44):
And the other thing being that these days, with the
laws as they are, once you've been in a long
term relationship for what is it, three years, you're basically
under the law I legally married, assets and everything else,
So why not.
Speaker 1 (25:00):
Yeah, okay, well, yeah, it's a good point, and I
think I think the main thing is you're right, never
make assumptions, and it's really important to refresh those conversations
that you have regularly in the relationship.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
Totally, and dare I say it. For a lot of people,
I think what puts them off the idea of marriage
is actually the rigmarole of a wedding and money become
this crazy thing. But it doesn't have to be that. No,
it doesn't have to.
Speaker 3 (25:26):
Be that way.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
Alan is one hundred and hats Alan, what are your
thoughts on the whole situation?
Speaker 7 (25:33):
We actually had a very similar so my husband and
I backwards we bought a house first, and then had
a child and then got engaged.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
Right, love it.
Speaker 7 (25:47):
How long have you this for? Seven years before we
got engaged?
Speaker 6 (25:51):
Right?
Speaker 2 (25:52):
And what was that? Was that? Because you both had
discussed not getting married at all?
Speaker 7 (26:00):
He knew that at some point would we just it
was more hem, he was more his attent because he
honestly didn't see the point but.
Speaker 2 (26:16):
Cutting out a little bit.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Alan, but Allan, I'm so sorry we can't properly hear you.
But but now everything's all, it's all sort of worked out.
Happy days.
Speaker 7 (26:27):
So we we eloped last year just before Christmas. Didn't
tell anyone that was at Christmas present to everyone.
Speaker 2 (26:33):
Amazing, amazing. Yeah, Ellen did tax sessions. She said. We
got married last year, celebrated ten years together this year.
He knew I wanted to get married at some point,
but I was happy to wait until he was ready.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
Communication. Guys, that's same Wen. You just got to keep
having those tough conversations. You might think it's awkward, but
you're regridded if you don't have it, and don't make
assumptions because things can change over time.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
You're gonna have some that up perfectly summed it up.
Speaker 10 (26:58):
PREJ Many and PJ the podcast that you're.
Speaker 2 (27:07):
Very talented, Page, You're an amazing friend, you're a mum,
you're a podcast host.
Speaker 1 (27:15):
I don't like where this is going.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
A brilliant radio host. You're funny, you're caring. I'd call you,
do I say it? A joy bringer?
Speaker 1 (27:27):
Oh God, what have I done?
Speaker 2 (27:29):
And so last week you and I were having a
conversation and you said to me that you had noticed
that there was a website in New Zealand called Capsule
that we're asking for nominations no for female joy Bringers
(27:50):
in New Zealand Many.
Speaker 1 (27:52):
It was a throwaway comment. I was only taking the
mickey when I said that I wanted to be nominated.
I did not mean that I actually wanted to be nominated.
Speaker 2 (28:00):
I know you were quite serious about it. You said
to me, you would love for someone to nominate you
as a joy Bringer in the Capsule Awards ceremony that
they're hosting at the moment.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
So they're doing like this GB Awards and like all
of these amazing, strong, talented women in the community were
being nominated. And I saw this post and a lot
of the women were low broadcasters, and they hit the
most amazing write up. So I was like, Wow, there
would be nice, but I was kind of joking.
Speaker 2 (28:30):
No, you weren't. You asked me if I could nominate you. Yes,
you did me.
Speaker 1 (28:37):
It doesn't have the same pot thing if you go
and nominate me when I'm asked you.
Speaker 2 (28:42):
That's not how it works.
Speaker 1 (28:43):
I'd love to be nominators. So when you start telling
someone to nominate.
Speaker 2 (28:46):
So when you said to me, can you nominate me
for these awards? You weren't serious. You didn't actually want
me to nominate you.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
No, I just I mean like it would be so nice,
unprovoked to be nominated, do you know what I mean?
Oh my god, I'm dying. This is so emariti.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
So I reached out to my good friend Kelly, who
runs Capsule No, to ask her if it was too
late for me to nominate you. I said to her, Look,
PJ is desperate to be nominated. She's asked me, She's
asked me to.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
Throw This just removes all critics.
Speaker 2 (29:23):
She's asked me to throw her name in the hat
for the joy Bringer Awards that you're running at the moment.
Is it too late for me to nominate PJ? And
I got a message back today and she said, oh
that's so cute. I hate you.
Speaker 1 (29:43):
Look, I hate you.
Speaker 2 (29:45):
We have sorted out the nominees this year, but we've
been so blown away by the response that we already
have massive plans for next year. So maybe you can
nominate PJBN.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
This is so much worse and not nominating in the first.
Speaker 2 (30:03):
Way, So I'm so sorry. I know you desperately wanted
me to nominate you for this award. I did try
to nominate you, but unfortunately Peage this year, we were
just a little too late and we've we've missed the
cutoff dates. So I'm so sorry that I couldn't nominate you,
even though you desperately asked me to nominate you.
Speaker 1 (30:22):
Oh my god, imagine if they then did a post
of like the late to the past petty nominees. That's
what it feels like. I can't believe you messaged it.
Oh this God. What can I do to rectify the situation.
Speaker 2 (30:36):
I think we'd wait until next year, and we tried.
Speaker 3 (30:41):
Mary and Mary and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 2 (30:46):
So over the weekend I went up to far Today.
I told you about this, a little trip to Northland
and I arrived at this event. I was going up
for a food festival that they've got up there, and
I arrived the first event that I was going to,
which was like a long lunch, but my friends were
an hour late, so I had to make friends with
(31:06):
the people that were at the table with me.
Speaker 1 (31:09):
That's right, And you said they all loved.
Speaker 2 (31:10):
You and you are joke joke, Oh my god, I
was so. I was so funny. I was of the
table truly, and you can't fat check it, so you
just have to take my word for it.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
But anyway, had to track down one of your new friends.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
Well, one of my new friends was a woman called Stacy,
and Stacy was celebrating her fortieth birthday. So all the
gowls had gathered for for Stacy's birthday and and me.
So it was literally, of course, all of Stacy's friends
and this random guy that had shown up to this
restaurant by himself, but blessed them, they really like took
(31:46):
me in. And so then part way through the lunch,
we were celebrating Stacy and her birthday, and the friends
decided this is the perfect time to hand over the
joint birthday gift that we've gotten for Stacy. Oh, God,
and I have to join in, like, congratulations, happy birthday.
We put a lot of thought into this gift for Stacy, Yeah,
(32:07):
because I know you so well, really like really thought
about what you would appreciate.
Speaker 1 (32:12):
And then did they go on and share stories their
favorite men Stacy growing up, You're like, well, my favorite
memory is the.
Speaker 2 (32:21):
Two minutes that I've known Stacey for.
Speaker 3 (32:24):
No.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
But they gave her the gift and Stacey opened it
and blessed her. She went, oh my god, oh my god,
this is amazing. It was tickets to Symphony next year
in the Domain and an amazing festival gig and she
she went, oh my god, this is amazing. Wow. Then
time goes on and we're having a few more drinks
(32:45):
and we're having a having a few more laughs. And
after a few more drinks, Stacy gets a little bit
more loose lipped and she reveals that actually she knew
she was getting Symphony tickets for her birthday because when
the Gowls started the group chat to discuss what they
were going to get for Stacy's birthday, the person who
(33:06):
started the group chat accidentally added Stacy to the group chat.
Speaker 1 (33:13):
Ladies, you have one job, and that is keep Stacy
out of the group chat.
Speaker 2 (33:18):
And Stacey just blessed her sat in the group chat
quietly and didn't say anything because she said, I couldn't
you leave because it will say Stacy has left to
the group chat. So she just sat there patiently and
then put on her best Oscar worthy performance of surprise
feigned surprise when they gave her the gift that she
knew all along she was getting from these gals.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
I can't believe no one noticed the suppose it would
take a bit of extra admin to actually go into
the group members.
Speaker 2 (33:46):
True, yeah, yeah, yeah exactly. So it got me thinking
because this will have happened so many times in very
different scenarios. Right, you got a message accidentally that wasn't
meant for you for Stacy, was a methage saying this
is what we're getting Stacy for her birthday. But maybe
it was a little bit more scandalous than that. Maybe
you got to take me more. Maybe you've got a
(34:08):
text or a DM that wasn't meant for you, but
you got it anyway.
Speaker 3 (34:14):
Mary and PJ. Mary and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
That we just want to know, when did you receive
a message that was not actually for you, or maybe
you sent the message to someone and you got it wrong.
What happened to you?
Speaker 2 (34:29):
Mclaims this is so bad. I was eighteen, so I
was my first year at university. I was flatting and
my flatmate, you know, we just had petty flatmate drama.
Someone hadn't done the dishes or I can't even remember
what the what the issue was at the time, but
I went to text my best friend complaining about my flatmate,
(34:51):
and I was pretty like scathing in my review of
my flatmate.
Speaker 1 (34:57):
Donnie has left his sheets on the floor again, left
his Judy towel on the ground.
Speaker 2 (35:01):
He smells. I don't know. I can't remember what I said,
but I remember vividly sitting in my bedroom with the
door closed, and then I sent the text off to
my best friend. And then I got a knock on
my door.
Speaker 3 (35:15):
Oh no, and.
Speaker 2 (35:17):
I opened the door and it was said flatmate, and
they just held their phone out to me and showed
me the text that i'd accidentally just sent them.
Speaker 1 (35:27):
What did you say?
Speaker 2 (35:28):
What did you say? I just owned it because it's
all I could do, and we got over it and
it was fine. But yeah, it was such a good
reminder to check who you a tex stick.
Speaker 1 (35:39):
Because it's off in front of mind. The name right,
that's what. Let's got a pie here, and the lesson's
joining us. Hand to the hats. When did you receive
a message that wasn't for you?
Speaker 11 (35:51):
Oh?
Speaker 5 (35:51):
Man, I it was many years ago, but I remember
it very clearly. I got this picture message pop up
and I clicked on it, and it was a woman
ironing without wearing any clothes whatsoever. And I just went, oh,
that's that's not for me.
Speaker 2 (36:13):
Did you know yes? Did you know the woman?
Speaker 1 (36:17):
No?
Speaker 5 (36:18):
And I did not know this number, and so I
just replied back to the person and I said, look,
I'm pretty sure you have the wrong number. Never heard
anything else, but oh gosh.
Speaker 2 (36:31):
I was terrible. Look mine was bad enough. But if
you were sending out those kinds of photos, cheek to
the right number. I mean, good on them, Good on them,
melody and good.
Speaker 11 (36:49):
A being good thanks time.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
How you soud very well?
Speaker 1 (36:53):
Not too bad melody?
Speaker 2 (36:54):
All right?
Speaker 1 (36:55):
When did you receive a message that wasn't for you?
Speaker 11 (36:57):
Well, my husband was there, he was my boyfriend back then,
was doing the right thing and was asking my dad
for my hand in marriage and food Commas, but Dad
was overseas at the time, so my boyfriend thought he
would just get the email address from my email and
send it from there. So when Dad replied, it came
back into my own box.
Speaker 2 (37:19):
Oh my god, So you saw the whole chain. You
saw your boyfriend's email to your dad asking for his permission.
What are you doing? What are you doing that situation?
Speaker 11 (37:31):
Like you, Maddie. I ran my best friend and I
said what do I do? And we just agreed. I
had to just play it call not say anything. And
then it was in a few months where he popped
the question and that was pretty awesome. But that night
we had a few we'd had a few bubbles and
I told him and I really wish I hadn't.
Speaker 10 (37:49):
Kind of.
Speaker 11 (37:52):
We're celebrating twenty years marriage.
Speaker 2 (37:53):
EXU worked.
Speaker 3 (38:00):
PJ Merion PJ the podcast The Hits
Speaker 1 (38:07):
H
The Hits Drive with Maddy and PJ. Thanks to Chimis
were House the Real House of Fragrances. Hello everyone, welcome
to the podcast. Coming up on the show today, we
talk about when you received a message that wasn't meant
to go to you. They got the wrong recipients or vices,
and maybe you're the one that sent it. I remember
(00:22):
a friend of mine. Actually i've more coworker the X.
Speaker 2 (00:27):
Let's say, I love that you're tiptoeing around it. It's fine,
you can say his name. I'm not a jealous body.
Speaker 1 (00:36):
We had your ex colleague John Campbell and.
Speaker 2 (00:38):
The other day I'm jealous. That's fine, fine, No.
Speaker 1 (00:41):
But I was dating his friend for a period of time,
and I remember he went into my messages to see
my colleague, my mom and will work back Jackson.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
It's just sure, we've been so awkward. I know it, so.
Speaker 1 (01:02):
Doesn't need to be awkward. Anyway, Jason went onto my
phone and he went to text his mate. He was
just going to send a message and he went into history.
Well I didn't know was he was a very sultry photo,
like very revealing.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
I don't know what I was thinking, What do you
mean you don't know what you were thinking sending the
photo in the first place.
Speaker 1 (01:31):
I can't remember. I don't I can't even remember the context.
But the photo was like me and a bath.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
I can't seen the photo, seen the photo.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
I know.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
I haven't released like I did long distance for a
long time. I haven't sent many rescue photos. Yeah, I'm
too scared. I mean, oh yeah, no fast, not just
graz of course, lots of like lingerie.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
I told you about this though. When I recently sent
Ryan a photo, it was low level. Like it was
low level. I was just a topless photo mirror. I've
been for a run and I took my top half
once I got home because I was very sweaty, and
I thought, oh my my, like torso looks quite good
because it was kind of like glistening a little bit,
and I don't just worked out. I thought I want
(02:22):
to snap a little photo of this. And then I
took it and I thought, actually, this is quite good.
And I sent it to Ryan and he went, why
have you sent me this?
Speaker 1 (02:29):
And I was, no, it's not the response.
Speaker 2 (02:36):
No, no. I was really feeling myself and I was
hoping that I would get back.
Speaker 1 (02:42):
You get like the fire emoji, like that hot emoji
face like little drop.
Speaker 2 (02:48):
I go, I got, what's with the photo?
Speaker 1 (02:51):
I think I'm going to give a message tonight.
Speaker 2 (02:53):
Nice.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
He loves when we touch.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
Yeah, is he going to put the is he going
to put the ultra ultra pilot mask on?
Speaker 1 (03:02):
It's been a while I've been a bit selfish and
I've been running off with it. Sorry, I might put
it on him and then put it on it, you
know what I mean. So we definitely like it's funny
like sometimes you know, like work and like just always
so busy. You kind of get home and it's easy
to sometimes feel disconnected the fuck. As soon as we massage,
I put on some relaxing like I'll put the way
(03:31):
it's pure really session, May you live all the days
of your life? That's this is my little meditation it okay,
three hours a pure relaxationion. This is what I played on.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Are you quite good at messages as well?
Speaker 1 (03:51):
Yeah? I'm really good at messages. My dad used to
give me really good messages, and.
Speaker 2 (03:55):
I reckon I learned off her. So yeah, good rub
down Ryan Love's messages. I need to do that more. Actually,
it's nice. I haven't given them a good massage in
so long, so.
Speaker 1 (04:08):
Good, rub, it's so underrated your partner message in your record.
Speaker 2 (04:16):
Someone did text and we didn't read this on the
show about the wrong messages, sending it to the wrong person. Yeah,
they said. I sent a text that said, get the
wine out, get up those stairs, get naked, and if
I'm a little late, start without me. Thought it was
to my wife, but sent it to the goalkeeper of
my football team.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
It's so good, get the one up, get up, get
the one up, get upstairs. What's he going to do?
Speaker 2 (04:43):
I know, but imagine the goalkeeper was like, oh, I
always thought there was something between.
Speaker 1 (04:48):
The Y's dangerous coming up of the podcast. Oh, the
next installment of Bjay's Next Big War sober Gig. We
got New Zealand involved. If you have a business, we
wanted to get you on board. BJ can potentially be
policing your he This.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Has taken on a life of its own. I love it. Plus,
you were pretty desperate for me to do something for
you last week and I tried my best. I tried
my best. It didn't quite have the.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
I'm genuinely fucking mortified about this. I it's made it
worse it's made it so much worse that you said something.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
I shouldn't have said anything. Oh you didn't want me
to say anything. I I got the wrong mess I'm
so sorry. I got the wrong message. I'm so water. Anyway,
that plus about sending the wrong messages to you, there
was some funny calls there as well.
Speaker 1 (05:50):
Enjoy the podcast. Have a great night, everyone, love you,
I love you man the podcast. So yesterday on the show, Look,
there's been in the works for a few weeks. Behind
the scenes, hadn't it many You and I sort of
chatted about this. My husband Beja. He dropped a comment
(06:11):
a while back saying, why can you do voiceovers for
ads and not like your regular Joe Joe blogs, you know,
like do you have to have like a special voice
or do they do they talk? Do they take on
regular people? And I was like, well, I don't know.
I mean, I'm sure there's a market for like a
rough farmer, kind of.
Speaker 2 (06:32):
Like unpolished someone that doesn't do this on the regular,
you know.
Speaker 1 (06:35):
No, And so I may or may not have planted
the seed and told him that I'd reached out to
a voicing urgency just to sort of get the feelers
out there, and yesterday we got one of our colleagues
from the office to give BJ a call and just
let him know that he could be on their radar.
Speaker 4 (06:56):
I work for Being Talent Agency. We recently worked with
poly voiceover campaign. She mentioned that you might be interested
in kind of exploring some work in that space. So
would that be something you're kind of interested in doing?
Speaker 2 (07:08):
Oh yeah, hey, I wouldn't be sure to give it
a go.
Speaker 4 (07:11):
I'd love to look at getting you in for kind
of like a proper voice test. But I wondered if
kind of for now would be able to get you
to repeat a couple of lines down the phone. Okay, yep,
spates prior to the South.
Speaker 2 (07:21):
Spats prior to the South.
Speaker 4 (07:23):
Can we try maybe bigger, better, bolder, bigger better, bolder,
made by men for men.
Speaker 3 (07:31):
Made by men?
Speaker 5 (07:32):
Up?
Speaker 2 (07:32):
Sorry, no, no, no, you're all good.
Speaker 1 (07:34):
Give it another go.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Made by men for men.
Speaker 4 (07:38):
Awesome, awesome. Do you want to actually just kind of
like rack that up a bit and get a bit
more like umph into it?
Speaker 2 (07:44):
Made by men for men?
Speaker 1 (07:48):
Like laughing at and maybe it's really cruel, but oh
my god, all things coming up with ideas and things
I should do to you. Man, he did not see
this coming and he fell for the hot glide and
sinker and he was taking get so seriously.
Speaker 2 (08:01):
The beautiful thing is you know, like I feel like
you could hear it in his voice. There was a
moment where he went, this is this is my break,
like this is gonna be my next big career move.
Speaker 1 (08:14):
So New Zealand, this is where we need your help
now because poor Beage. You know, it was a little
humiliated yesterday and I don't want that to be the
end of his voice in Korea. No, we have an
opportunity for him. And this is where you come in.
I'll wait hundred the hits. If you are a business
and you think that Bejay's voice could be great at
(08:37):
voicing and add for you that will make up. It'll
be a special complimentary ad that will play out in
our show. Get in touch right now, oh waite, hundred
the hats. Now it could be a small business. The
smaller the better, you know, Like totally we want to
get to the grassroots of n ZT.
Speaker 2 (08:53):
But initially we were thinking, you know, it has to
be like a rough and ready, like masculine brand. Now
that I'm thinking about.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
No evil feminine, the better even I reckon.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
If BJ is having to promote sanitary products or something brilliant,
brilliant cupcake or cupcakes.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Oh my god. Okay, look at the phones that go on.
Oh wait, under the hats, New Zealand. If you have
a business and you would like my husband BJ, who
has no idea about this, to voice your commercial that
will play out in our show, get into that right now.
Oh wait, a hundred hurts.
Speaker 2 (09:30):
I was so much trouble.
Speaker 3 (09:34):
Mary and PJ May and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 1 (09:39):
In the meantime, my dear husband BJ. He's a farmer
and the white ed upper and now potentially the biggest
new voice to be on the market.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
Here's the thing. Both your husband and my husband have
gotten a little bit too big for their boots, I reckon,
in terms of how much they think they offered to
the show.
Speaker 1 (10:00):
Yeah, they always think they come up to be fair.
They do come up, they come up with but they
like think that they could do our job blindfolded today.
Speaker 2 (10:07):
So it's nice to bring them back done to earth
a little bit. And we did that yesterday by pranking
your husband BJ.
Speaker 1 (10:13):
Yeah, so we had an agent calling him and he
did like an audition on the phone, ready to go.
He gave his best lines for some really manly brands,
and today I thought we could take it up another
level and actually throw it out to real businesses of
New Zealand. I wait one hundred the hits to call
the show. Do you have a business and do you
(10:34):
think Bjay's voice may suit your ad? As a voice
overread Travis, welcome to the show.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
Hey, a very hell Travis ahead.
Speaker 1 (10:45):
What's what's your business called? Give it a shout out?
So it's Henry's Family Pies and Altani and the Hook's
Bay and we just do some real good pies. BJ
loves a pie. You know, I think you'd get that
authentic a load of response from him?
Speaker 2 (11:00):
Nice me, did you did you did you have any
feedback from Bjay's voice Trevor's did you think?
Speaker 6 (11:08):
Yeah?
Speaker 7 (11:08):
I reckon it was pretty solid. There was a few
good lines that was actually.
Speaker 1 (11:11):
Really good that made for men by men.
Speaker 2 (11:16):
Got me ringing up truly.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
All right, Well, Trevis, thank you so much for your submission.
We may have to sort of go home and think
about the exact brand that we do end up locking them,
but we'll listen to Darryl's pitch first hits Hi, Daryl,
what's your business.
Speaker 5 (11:35):
House name?
Speaker 2 (11:35):
Very well, Darryl, Wow, Daryl, that's good.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
Hey.
Speaker 1 (11:39):
My business is called Megabytes Fishing Charter Limited and we
run from Auckland, West Tamen.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Yeah, this is this has got beja written all over.
Speaker 1 (11:50):
Honestly.
Speaker 5 (11:53):
If you want some fresh contact Megabytes, that's all okay.
Speaker 1 (11:57):
And any any sort of grunt that you'd like from BJ,
any direction that you need for the.
Speaker 5 (12:02):
Air get has got a grunty voice, all right. He
can do it, all right.
Speaker 2 (12:09):
So you just you just let the master do his magic,
right Darryl.
Speaker 5 (12:13):
Yeah, Well, I'm not going to teach teach how to
do his job.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
No, exactly, I cannot do.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
But you's going to die that a pie company and
he will be so honored. At least. Go to Monique
on a hundred. What's your business?
Speaker 8 (12:32):
I sell sicken hand wedding dresses.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (12:39):
And what's your business called?
Speaker 8 (12:42):
It's called white Again Echo Gowns, and so we take
people with warn dresses and then we obviously so you
were used again.
Speaker 1 (12:50):
And why do you think that Pj's voice would be
perfects for your brand?
Speaker 8 (12:56):
I don't think I could give him a bit of
a challenge, you know, like after like we need something
like quite salt tree and something that appeals to women
in the in the wedding market. What's a bit of
a challenge.
Speaker 2 (13:09):
Let me tell you, minniqu bj Is does appeal to
the women.
Speaker 9 (13:14):
Okay, and the podcast that the People's Poll, the People's Poll.
Speaker 2 (13:25):
Everybody comes together.
Speaker 3 (13:26):
It's the People's Poll.
Speaker 1 (13:29):
It's time for the People's Poll. We do this on
the show every day and we chuck it up on
our Instagram page, The Hats Drive with Maddi and PJ.
You can check out our story. Go vote on today's
People's Poll, which.
Speaker 2 (13:41):
Is Matthew all about food and friends. I was chatting
to a friend of mine who lives overseas and she
was throwing like a little dinner party for some of
her friends overseas. So she thought, I'll get as a
little treat, I'll get some peanut slabs, you know from
New Zealand that I can give to the the people
at the dinner party. Is a little bit of a
(14:02):
New Zealand experience. You know.
Speaker 1 (14:04):
I was gonna say she didn't for the after dinner Man.
Speaker 2 (14:07):
Nineties, I love an after dinner man, so good after
dinner and yeah, yeah, but no. She went for the
peanuts labs and most people either ate it immediately or
took it with them as they went. But one of
her guests, one of her friends, had taken a small
little bite out of one corner of the peanuts lab
and then left it behind when she left. And so
(14:29):
when Chloe was we're my friend, top story, nice one
man the bus, my friend, let's call her, Chloe was
tidying up after dinner. She saw that this peanuts lab
(14:51):
had a small little bite out of it, and she
went and cut off the corner and then ate the
rest of it herself. And she said to me, is
that okay?
Speaker 1 (14:59):
Could I?
Speaker 2 (14:59):
Should I have done that? And I said fine, it's
totally fine. But then she was worried that for lots
of people, they said no, no, no, no, no, you cannot
eat something that a friend, even if they're a good friend,
has like already started to nibble on.
Speaker 1 (15:13):
No, she got above and beyond. In my eyes, I
would have probably gone nibble, neble, nebble, nibble, and I
might have nibbled around the bike, maybe just leaving a
millimeter or toe just between me and the bite.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
See see do you know what I would have done?
I'll just I'll.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Like how like with family? Yes, I did it straight
away the husband yet straight away. But if it's kind
of a friend, you don't know where your mouth has been.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
It's true, It's true.
Speaker 9 (15:47):
I feel like you need a little bit of a
gap between the other person's bike.
Speaker 1 (15:50):
But what are your thoughts? Takes four for seven is
that the question? You do you bite and just some food?
If your friend already bitten in to the same item.
We're hitting the hard issues today on the show with
the People's Poll. Text your thoughts through to four four
eight seven.
Speaker 10 (16:09):
May the podcast that the pe Pool's Poll, the People's Poll,
everybody comes together, it's the People's Poll.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
As often as today's pole is inspired by true events
by Meddie's friends who were calling Chloe definitely not a name,
absolutely not her name after an experience where she hosted
a dinner party.
Speaker 2 (16:33):
Yeah, and she gave our peanuts slabs to all of
her guests and one of her friends when she left
Chloe's house. Chloe, Chloe's house had taken one name, Maurice
Yes had taken a little butte of the corner and
then left the peanuts lay behind. So my friend thought, well,
can I just eat this peanuts slave even though my
friend has already bitten into it? And I said, absolutely
(16:56):
you can. But I wonder whether other people would have
an issue with us.
Speaker 1 (16:59):
I feel like because she literally sliced it off right,
she got a knife. I feel like there's so much
effort I would I would never around at most and
leave a slight gap, but that would only be if
it was like one of my groddy friends.
Speaker 2 (17:10):
Yeah, I would just eat the whole thing. But producer
Siah said, even if it's your mum, Siah, you would
still cut.
Speaker 1 (17:16):
Around the That wasn't meant for honest, you mean your friends.
Speaker 9 (17:22):
I just feel weird sometimes, like when you see the
little like the bite marks and the food and the
wits alive or something.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
Looking at the text machine four four eighty seven one
hundred percent. Most of the people I work with shed
food all the time as well. But easily I'll finish
something a friend he has already eaten. Another one said,
I just eat the lot hi at zak yuck. What
if they take a bite and some pluck gets scraped
off onto the phone. Oh my god, when I first
read it, I thought it said in some plague kids
(17:52):
craped a I was like, that's quite extreme, Zark.
Speaker 2 (17:57):
Friends, are you hanging out with someone? See depending on
how close of a friend they are, But hey, we're
all human and you're not going to die from taking
a buye are you?
Speaker 3 (18:07):
No?
Speaker 1 (18:07):
What is the overall percentage?
Speaker 2 (18:08):
To say, the overall percentage if we look and you
can always go and vote on the people's poll on
our Instagram page. The Hits drive go.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
Follow us sixty take you follow?
Speaker 2 (18:18):
Sixty percent said yeah, it's totally fine to bite into
a food that a friend's already been into. Forty percent though,
said absolutely not interesting.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
And I still think the major deciding fact that.
Speaker 10 (18:30):
Is yes before you Many and PJ the podcast's Many
and PJS group therapy.
Speaker 1 (18:44):
A problem shares is a problem halved. That is the
quote they say, and bosh is it exemplified on this
show every week Group therapy. It's where you can get
in touch with us four four eight seven. You can
text us or hnd us up at the Hits dot
co dot NZ's tell us a dilemma you're going through
and honestly, we will not judge. It can't be too big.
(19:05):
It can't be too small. Whatever is bothering you at
the moment you feel like you need a little bit
of advice, get in touch with us and Auntie PJ
and Uncle Maddie and the recivings. He will come to
the table and try and help you out with some advice.
Speaker 2 (19:17):
Yeah, I mean bless us. We don't really often offer March, but.
Speaker 1 (19:21):
Last week we did see you reckon. Last week we
really held our own friendship question.
Speaker 2 (19:25):
Last week we kind of nailed it. But I'm curious
to see what you have with this man's dilemma that
he's emailed in about. Hey, Maddie and PJ got a
bit of a relationship headache. Well headache might be strong,
but it's something I'm mulling over. I've been with my
amazing partner for about six years now. She's great and
we have a great relationship, but I've always been really
(19:46):
clear that marriage isn't huge in my priority list. I'm
not opposed to it, per se, but I'm also quite
happy with the solid relationship we already have. My partner
has always maintained that she feels similarly, but she's also
always been quick to ta tell me that if I
ever did ask, she would say yes. We obviously get
a lot of outside pressure from friends, family, colleagues, et cetera,
(20:07):
asking when I'm going to pop the question. So now
I'm in this situation, is there a switch that will
go off in my head when I know the timing
is right to propose? And also, is my partner being
serious when she says she doesn't care? Or do you
think that she's sitting there furious. I haven't dropped a
knee yet.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
There's a tough one. But I feel like when it
comes to marriage, like there are some things I'll say
to beach my husband. I'll be like, oh no, no, no,
it's fine, Like you don't have to do that. But
I feel like when it comes to proposing, that's one
of those things you would put it out there and
you would say, no, I actually really wanted to do that.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
Well, it's a pretty big life change, it's a pretty
big life event. You cannot keep your cards close to
your chest. First of all, that's not a particularly healthy relationship,
you know, if you're holding something back like that. Yeah,
and yeah, it's not telling your apartment No, I don't
like ice cream from the supermarket tonight, like this is
a much bigger life. It is.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
And I would say, as we always say, like communication
between you two is the most important thing. And the pressure,
the external pressure is so very real, particularly as you
head to the north of your twenties. You know, there's
so many friends that start sitting down you're married and
all that, but you truly are happy and yourself is
a couple and you don't need that. Then. I just
(21:27):
think you need to have that conversation again, and only
you two can be the ones that talk about it.
And it might be uncomfortable to the band aid off
and chat about it. But one of my brothers, he's
been with us part of the years, actually they to
just get married. But for years they weren't married, and
they was so happy and there was so much pressure
around them, and they were, you know, super super happy,
(21:49):
but everyone else was settling down and they maintained this
dance for so long.
Speaker 2 (21:53):
I was in a very similar situation with Ryan actually,
where Ryan was pretty adamant. He wasn't protect killy like
hungry to get married when we first got together, and
I always said to him, look, I would get married,
but it's not the bee or and end or for
me that like, what's more important to me is just
a nice, normal relationship. So as long as I've got that,
(22:14):
I'm happy. But I will say asked me the question,
You're like, Oh, thank god, this is the happiest girl
in the world.
Speaker 3 (22:26):
Maddy and PJ.
Speaker 10 (22:28):
Mady and PJ the podcast The Heads Many and Pj's
group therapy.
Speaker 1 (22:35):
All Right, Every week on the show, we have group
therapy where we attack one of your dilemmas. We try
share anyway, oh w eight hundred the hats to weigh
in on this week's dilemma, Maddy, can you quickly recap.
Speaker 2 (22:49):
This person said? I've been with my amazing partner for
six years now. She's great, we have a great relationship,
but I've always been really clear that marriage isn't huge
on my priority list. I'm not opposed to it per se,
but I'm also quite happy with the solid relationship we
already have. My partner has always maintained she feels similarly,
but she's also always been quick to tell me that
if I ever did ask, she would say yes. So,
(23:10):
now I'm in this situation, is there a switch that
will go off in my head when I know the
timing is right to propose. And also, is my partner
being serious when she says she doesn't care? Or do
you think she's sitting there furious. I haven't dropped a knee.
Speaker 1 (23:24):
Yet, do you reckon? Let quite soon into a relationship,
you know, if you want to marry the person.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
I think you know pretty soon whether you want to
be long term with that person. But marriage isn't necessarily
for everyone.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
That's true. That is true. I'm just I remember, probably
quite early on the relationship, I knew I want to
dea have babies with Bjay and first time I was like, Okay,
this is it. Here we go. But it's not the same.
Everyone is so different for what they look for in
a relationship, you know, how they want to identify as
a relationship. Some people just don't need that term. They
(24:02):
don't need the term of actually being husband and wife. Catherine,
what are your words of wisdom this week?
Speaker 6 (24:09):
Hi, I don't need to have the conversation if they've
been together for six years. Yeah, females may be in
the back of everybody's head. Probably females is that baby thing,
and it may be just that potentially she may have
changed her mind or she wants that for having kids.
Speaker 2 (24:29):
Yeah, right, So you think it's just like even if
you had a conversation earlier on in your relationship, it's
always good to just check back in and double check
how are you feeling, where do you stand on the
whole marriage thing, and just have a really open dialogue.
Speaker 7 (24:44):
Yeah.
Speaker 6 (24:44):
And the other thing being that these days, with the
laws as they are, once you've been in a long
term relationship for what is it, three years, you're basically
under the law I legally married, assets and everything else,
So why not.
Speaker 1 (25:00):
Yeah, okay, well, yeah, it's a good point, and I
think I think the main thing is you're right, never
make assumptions, and it's really important to refresh those conversations
that you have regularly in the relationship.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
Totally, and dare I say it. For a lot of people,
I think what puts them off the idea of marriage
is actually the rigmarole of a wedding and money become
this crazy thing. But it doesn't have to be that. No,
it doesn't have to.
Speaker 3 (25:26):
Be that way.
Speaker 1 (25:28):
Alan is one hundred and hats Alan, what are your
thoughts on the whole situation?
Speaker 7 (25:33):
We actually had a very similar so my husband and
I backwards we bought a house first, and then had
a child and then got engaged.
Speaker 2 (25:44):
Right, love it.
Speaker 7 (25:47):
How long have you this for? Seven years before we
got engaged?
Speaker 6 (25:51):
Right?
Speaker 2 (25:52):
And what was that? Was that? Because you both had
discussed not getting married at all?
Speaker 7 (26:00):
He knew that at some point would we just it
was more hem, he was more his attent because he
honestly didn't see the point but.
Speaker 2 (26:16):
Cutting out a little bit.
Speaker 1 (26:17):
Alan, but Allan, I'm so sorry we can't properly hear you.
But but now everything's all, it's all sort of worked out.
Happy days.
Speaker 7 (26:27):
So we we eloped last year just before Christmas. Didn't
tell anyone that was at Christmas present to everyone.
Speaker 2 (26:33):
Amazing, amazing. Yeah, Ellen did tax sessions. She said. We
got married last year, celebrated ten years together this year.
He knew I wanted to get married at some point,
but I was happy to wait until he was ready.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
Communication. Guys, that's same Wen. You just got to keep
having those tough conversations. You might think it's awkward, but
you're regridded if you don't have it, and don't make
assumptions because things can change over time.
Speaker 2 (26:56):
You're gonna have some that up perfectly summed it up.
Speaker 10 (26:58):
PREJ Many and PJ the podcast that you're.
Speaker 2 (27:07):
Very talented, Page, You're an amazing friend, you're a mum,
you're a podcast host.
Speaker 1 (27:15):
I don't like where this is going.
Speaker 2 (27:17):
A brilliant radio host. You're funny, you're caring. I'd call you,
do I say it? A joy bringer?
Speaker 1 (27:27):
Oh God, what have I done?
Speaker 2 (27:29):
And so last week you and I were having a
conversation and you said to me that you had noticed
that there was a website in New Zealand called Capsule
that we're asking for nominations no for female joy Bringers
(27:50):
in New Zealand Many.
Speaker 1 (27:52):
It was a throwaway comment. I was only taking the
mickey when I said that I wanted to be nominated.
I did not mean that I actually wanted to be nominated.
Speaker 2 (28:00):
I know you were quite serious about it. You said
to me, you would love for someone to nominate you
as a joy Bringer in the Capsule Awards ceremony that
they're hosting at the moment.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
So they're doing like this GB Awards and like all
of these amazing, strong, talented women in the community were
being nominated. And I saw this post and a lot
of the women were low broadcasters, and they hit the
most amazing write up. So I was like, Wow, there
would be nice, but I was kind of joking.
Speaker 2 (28:30):
No, you weren't. You asked me if I could nominate you. Yes,
you did me.
Speaker 1 (28:37):
It doesn't have the same pot thing if you go
and nominate me when I'm asked you.
Speaker 2 (28:42):
That's not how it works.
Speaker 1 (28:43):
I'd love to be nominators. So when you start telling
someone to nominate.
Speaker 2 (28:46):
So when you said to me, can you nominate me
for these awards? You weren't serious. You didn't actually want
me to nominate you.
Speaker 1 (28:54):
No, I just I mean like it would be so nice,
unprovoked to be nominated, do you know what I mean?
Oh my god, I'm dying. This is so emariti.
Speaker 2 (29:03):
So I reached out to my good friend Kelly, who
runs Capsule No, to ask her if it was too
late for me to nominate you. I said to her, Look,
PJ is desperate to be nominated. She's asked me, She's
asked me to.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
Throw This just removes all critics.
Speaker 2 (29:23):
She's asked me to throw her name in the hat
for the joy Bringer Awards that you're running at the moment.
Is it too late for me to nominate PJ? And
I got a message back today and she said, oh
that's so cute. I hate you.
Speaker 1 (29:43):
Look, I hate you.
Speaker 2 (29:45):
We have sorted out the nominees this year, but we've
been so blown away by the response that we already
have massive plans for next year. So maybe you can
nominate PJBN.
Speaker 1 (30:00):
This is so much worse and not nominating in the first.
Speaker 2 (30:03):
Way, So I'm so sorry. I know you desperately wanted
me to nominate you for this award. I did try
to nominate you, but unfortunately Peage this year, we were
just a little too late and we've we've missed the
cutoff dates. So I'm so sorry that I couldn't nominate you,
even though you desperately asked me to nominate you.
Speaker 1 (30:22):
Oh my god, imagine if they then did a post
of like the late to the past petty nominees. That's
what it feels like. I can't believe you messaged it.
Oh this God. What can I do to rectify the situation.
Speaker 2 (30:36):
I think we'd wait until next year, and we tried.
Speaker 3 (30:41):
Mary and Mary and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 2 (30:46):
So over the weekend I went up to far Today.
I told you about this, a little trip to Northland
and I arrived at this event. I was going up
for a food festival that they've got up there, and
I arrived the first event that I was going to,
which was like a long lunch, but my friends were
an hour late, so I had to make friends with
(31:06):
the people that were at the table with me.
Speaker 1 (31:09):
That's right, And you said they all loved.
Speaker 2 (31:10):
You and you are joke joke, Oh my god, I
was so. I was so funny. I was of the
table truly, and you can't fat check it, so you
just have to take my word for it.
Speaker 1 (31:22):
But anyway, had to track down one of your new friends.
Speaker 2 (31:25):
Well, one of my new friends was a woman called Stacy,
and Stacy was celebrating her fortieth birthday. So all the
gowls had gathered for for Stacy's birthday and and me.
So it was literally, of course, all of Stacy's friends
and this random guy that had shown up to this
restaurant by himself, but blessed them, they really like took
(31:46):
me in. And so then part way through the lunch,
we were celebrating Stacy and her birthday, and the friends
decided this is the perfect time to hand over the
joint birthday gift that we've gotten for Stacy. Oh, God,
and I have to join in, like, congratulations, happy birthday.
We put a lot of thought into this gift for Stacy, Yeah,
(32:07):
because I know you so well, really like really thought
about what you would appreciate.
Speaker 1 (32:12):
And then did they go on and share stories their
favorite men Stacy growing up, You're like, well, my favorite
memory is the.
Speaker 2 (32:21):
Two minutes that I've known Stacey for.
Speaker 3 (32:24):
No.
Speaker 2 (32:24):
But they gave her the gift and Stacey opened it
and blessed her. She went, oh my god, oh my god,
this is amazing. It was tickets to Symphony next year
in the Domain and an amazing festival gig and she
she went, oh my god, this is amazing. Wow. Then
time goes on and we're having a few more drinks
(32:45):
and we're having a having a few more laughs. And
after a few more drinks, Stacy gets a little bit
more loose lipped and she reveals that actually she knew
she was getting Symphony tickets for her birthday because when
the Gowls started the group chat to discuss what they
were going to get for Stacy's birthday, the person who
(33:06):
started the group chat accidentally added Stacy to the group chat.
Speaker 1 (33:13):
Ladies, you have one job, and that is keep Stacy
out of the group chat.
Speaker 2 (33:18):
And Stacey just blessed her sat in the group chat
quietly and didn't say anything because she said, I couldn't
you leave because it will say Stacy has left to
the group chat. So she just sat there patiently and
then put on her best Oscar worthy performance of surprise
feigned surprise when they gave her the gift that she
knew all along she was getting from these gals.
Speaker 1 (33:40):
I can't believe no one noticed the suppose it would
take a bit of extra admin to actually go into
the group members.
Speaker 2 (33:46):
True, yeah, yeah, yeah exactly. So it got me thinking
because this will have happened so many times in very
different scenarios. Right, you got a message accidentally that wasn't
meant for you for Stacy, was a methage saying this
is what we're getting Stacy for her birthday. But maybe
it was a little bit more scandalous than that. Maybe
you got to take me more. Maybe you've got a
(34:08):
text or a DM that wasn't meant for you, but
you got it anyway.
Speaker 3 (34:14):
Mary and PJ. Mary and PJ the podcast.
Speaker 1 (34:19):
That we just want to know, when did you receive
a message that was not actually for you, or maybe
you sent the message to someone and you got it wrong.
What happened to you?
Speaker 2 (34:29):
Mclaims this is so bad. I was eighteen, so I
was my first year at university. I was flatting and
my flatmate, you know, we just had petty flatmate drama.
Someone hadn't done the dishes or I can't even remember
what the what the issue was at the time, but
I went to text my best friend complaining about my flatmate,
(34:51):
and I was pretty like scathing in my review of
my flatmate.
Speaker 1 (34:57):
Donnie has left his sheets on the floor again, left
his Judy towel on the ground.
Speaker 2 (35:01):
He smells. I don't know. I can't remember what I said,
but I remember vividly sitting in my bedroom with the
door closed, and then I sent the text off to
my best friend. And then I got a knock on
my door.
Speaker 3 (35:15):
Oh no, and.
Speaker 2 (35:17):
I opened the door and it was said flatmate, and
they just held their phone out to me and showed
me the text that i'd accidentally just sent them.
Speaker 1 (35:27):
What did you say?
Speaker 2 (35:28):
What did you say? I just owned it because it's
all I could do, and we got over it and
it was fine. But yeah, it was such a good
reminder to check who you a tex stick.
Speaker 1 (35:39):
Because it's off in front of mind. The name right,
that's what. Let's got a pie here, and the lesson's
joining us. Hand to the hats. When did you receive
a message that wasn't for you?
Speaker 11 (35:51):
Oh?
Speaker 5 (35:51):
Man, I it was many years ago, but I remember
it very clearly. I got this picture message pop up
and I clicked on it, and it was a woman
ironing without wearing any clothes whatsoever. And I just went, oh,
that's that's not for me.
Speaker 2 (36:13):
Did you know yes? Did you know the woman?
Speaker 1 (36:17):
No?
Speaker 5 (36:18):
And I did not know this number, and so I
just replied back to the person and I said, look,
I'm pretty sure you have the wrong number. Never heard
anything else, but oh gosh.
Speaker 2 (36:31):
I was terrible. Look mine was bad enough. But if
you were sending out those kinds of photos, cheek to
the right number. I mean, good on them, Good on them,
melody and good.
Speaker 11 (36:49):
A being good thanks time.
Speaker 2 (36:51):
How you soud very well?
Speaker 1 (36:53):
Not too bad melody?
Speaker 2 (36:54):
All right?
Speaker 1 (36:55):
When did you receive a message that wasn't for you?
Speaker 11 (36:57):
Well, my husband was there, he was my boyfriend back then,
was doing the right thing and was asking my dad
for my hand in marriage and food Commas, but Dad
was overseas at the time, so my boyfriend thought he
would just get the email address from my email and
send it from there. So when Dad replied, it came
back into my own box.
Speaker 2 (37:19):
Oh my god, So you saw the whole chain. You
saw your boyfriend's email to your dad asking for his permission.
What are you doing? What are you doing that situation?
Speaker 11 (37:31):
Like you, Maddie. I ran my best friend and I
said what do I do? And we just agreed. I
had to just play it call not say anything. And
then it was in a few months where he popped
the question and that was pretty awesome. But that night
we had a few we'd had a few bubbles and
I told him and I really wish I hadn't.
Speaker 10 (37:49):
Kind of.
Speaker 11 (37:52):
We're celebrating twenty years marriage.
Speaker 2 (37:53):
EXU worked.
Speaker 3 (38:00):
PJ Merion PJ the podcast The Hits
Speaker 1 (38:07):
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