Breakfast Bonus: Parenting coach Sheridan Eketone

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There's a lot to balance when raising kids - making sure they get enough exercise, spend time with friends, and enough downtime to rest. Today we chat with Sheridan Eketone from the parenting place about how we can find this balance

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
Becaase Breakfast Bonus podcast with Tony Jason Sam.

Speaker 2 (00:05):
Thanks for listening to our breakfast Bonus podcast. Today, we're
joined by Sheridan Eketony from the Parenting Place. She's a
parenting coach when it comes to coaches. What about sports coaches,
because some of the kids after school, some of the
grandkids are involved in way too much sport or is
it too much?

Speaker 3 (00:18):
Yeah? And some uninvolved in enough. So there has to
be a happy balance somewhere, and we need to know
how to strike back.

Speaker 4 (00:23):
That's right, natural play or scheduled sport.

Speaker 3 (00:26):
What's the answer here?

Speaker 2 (00:27):
And our kids getting too booned out in this day
and age, sheardan, what's changed?

Speaker 5 (00:31):
Oh, so many things, But I think because a balancing
act that needs to come into play. So our kids
are often either really too involved over as scheduled or
potentially even maybe not scheduled dinner.

Speaker 3 (00:46):
Yeah, so there is a happy medium in the middle.
I'm going to put my hand up right now and
say I am an over scheduler right and I know
that sometimes my kids are, but I feel like I
get it. I have a grip on when are too
tired or and then I'll just let them have a break.
But is there a formula that we should be following

(01:06):
so that we can try and reach the happy medium.

Speaker 5 (01:09):
Yeah, So let me just firstly say I'm with you, Tony.
I may be the theater mom that see yes to
three theater shows in a year.

Speaker 3 (01:19):
That's worse than me.

Speaker 5 (01:20):
Okay, I tell you three is too many. So I think, Tony,
what we often struggle with, I think it's fair to
say is we have these kids that are really passionate,
they love what they do. We want to say yes.
Often mums and dads have fomo like if we don't
do this now, they get another opportunity. Yeah, And I

(01:43):
think that we really do just need to slow it
down because I think often the price comes forward not
only the child at some point, but the parents because
we're often uber driving to the theater, maybe multiple times
in the day.

Speaker 3 (01:59):
Yeah, and I think we My husband and I definitely
hit a wall last week. I mean, we're in a
bit of a different situation. Matilda is taking so much
of our time up and if you want to have
kids that also play sport, that's you know, it's just
part and parcel of it. But I also think that
I would rather be the person that's got them involved

(02:19):
in a lot than them not do much at all.
And I do see kids that don't do much at all,
and I do look at them and think you're missing
out on friendships and experiences that you'll never get back.

Speaker 5 (02:29):
Development too, Yeah, yeah, And I think there is a
little bit of a risk to you know, especially pre
teens into teen years who are just at home. Often
the screen becomes their friend in the extra curricular activity.
So I do think there's a balancing act. I really
I heard the other day a really great little slide

(02:50):
of Brene Brown talking about, you know, with her family
when when they decide what's going to happen, they actually
sit down together and say what are we saying? Yes too?
And I think you know that that alludes to, you know,
our steed a month. What is it going to take
for us as a family to do three shows? Is
that realistic? So I think, you know, the end of

(03:12):
the term is often a good time to stop and
just go, hey, guys, what do we see us to
this term? How did it go? What could we maybe
peg back? And then equally, for those that may have
kids that are not super involved, what's one thing we
can do next to them that, you know, to try
something new. Yeah.

Speaker 4 (03:32):
Is there another side of this argument though, that we
are kind of we are doing too much and it
might be better to slow down and just focus on
one element as opposed to kind of threading them across
a number of things. I mean, you only have to
look at the success of some of the best golf
players or the best tennis players, and they have stuck
to the knitting.

Speaker 3 (03:50):
To be fair, Sam, all the research that's just come out,
the Novak Djokovic's of the world, they're saying what made
them different the fact that they did multiple sports when
they were young, And so I look at that and go, ah,
okay ski as well.

Speaker 2 (04:03):
What's a good strategy though, sharing?

Speaker 5 (04:05):
Yeah, you know, I think Tony alluded to it a
little bit before. But I think, you know, following our
kids a little bit is always a good thing. You know,
some kids have a capacity for a little bit more.
Some kids are actually more stressed out when you're adding
additional things to their week. If I had to say

(04:26):
what I feel overall seen in my coaching room with parents,
it actually less is probably more more often than not.
So I think it's one of those things in parenting,
it's always a balancing act, right, it's assessing was this
too much? Can we peg it back? But I think

(04:46):
a little bit of following what your child is really
passionate about, because we know that kids, when they are
growing and developing, when they can do something they really
love that is great for their mental health. It's great
for their brain building, and it makes them a happier
kid to be in our homes as well.

Speaker 2 (05:04):
Yeah, and that's what it's about, isn't it? You want
happy kids?

Speaker 1 (05:06):
Now?

Speaker 3 (05:06):
I love that because I reckon if you actually look
at your child and I actually fill this with theater
with mine, I see them come alive and I know
that that's what's really making them happy. But is it
a case perhaps of checking in and going, hey, are
you still enjoying your netball? Like you know, I know
that you've been playing it for four years? But do
you still like it? Because if you don't, you don't

(05:27):
have to keep playing. Maybe it's giving them that option.

Speaker 2 (05:29):
Again, sit around the table and have that group discussion,
isn't it what are we saying yesterday? What are we
going to say no to? And how are we going
to do that? I love that this is Coast.

Speaker 1 (05:35):
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