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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing in with Becca Tilly and Tanya rad and I
Heart Radio and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast
Hello Everybody. We're screbbing screwb a dove dove in the tub,
Tub Tub. We're fresh off well not weird, but well

(00:25):
we all are, but mostly Tanya is fresh off of
the final award show of the season for Our Girl,
Thank You. It does feel weird, Like I was telling
back all day, like it's almost like the last day
of school. You know, like award season is this thing
where it was almost like this separate work family where

(00:46):
you have meetings and you know your team of people
that are helping you with each show and the people
that you're working with, and and then when it's the
last show, it's just like that's it, okay, so fun,
you're out. I don't know, it's like really sad in
a weird way. And like it was also like the
first awards show of the season that felt like an

(01:06):
actual red carpet with people walking around, and I don't know,
it just felt more back to normal than any award
show has felt. So that was like kind of electric. Yeah,
I was gonna say, and I feel like because this
like these events were kind of the first moments of
feeling normalcy for you, especially. It was like getting dressed up,

(01:28):
getting your hair and makeup done, being around people, and
now it's like kind of over. But on the flip side,
it seems like we're the world in general is moving
in a direction of normalcy. So and I almost feel
like because of that, because it was a sense of normalcy,
I kind of let my guard down in terms of
the way that I look, or like, you know, like
letting my team of people around me just do what

(01:50):
they want in terms of like hair and makeup and styling.
And it was been It's been really fun to just
kind of let loose and like I'm always very I've
always been very careful about like what I want, what
I like in terms of all of that kind of stuff.
And this year of just like let's do it. Who
cares like you only like Yolo. I really feel like
Yolo did this award season you did. I mean, you

(02:10):
had so many different fun looks that you have never
branched out and done before. Like who knows, next time
you guys see me, I might be in some snake
now o snake, like an actual snake as a snake
all right. That weirdly remind reminds me because right when

(02:31):
we got here, I got on Instagram and Courtney Kardashian
posted a photo of her and Travis Barker. I think
her the tiny bottoms that we're able to see. I
think they're in that phase of a new relationship where
you're just like wanting to be all over that person,
Like you can feel it through the photos. You're like,
WHOA like should I be? Should I be seeing this photo?

(02:55):
I know, but I like kind of love that I'm saying.
I mean, I don't know. I mean, you know, I
think being able to post that and while you're experiencing that,
like Electrician, there's nothing like that new failing when you
start dating someone, nothing truly. But can I also tell
you about my I think I mentioned this in the

(03:17):
last podcast about my new obsession with zam Ed, because yeah,
that was so cute. Um. So, I was watching these movies,
and if you haven't seen any of them, nobody else
has either, so you're good. But I was watching Sounded
Metal and I fell in love with the story. But
also rizam Ed, who was the main actor in the movie.
He just did such a phenomenal job. And then I

(03:39):
started like going into obviously digging into like him and
watching interviews and all this stuff. And he is just
so well spoken, very thoughtful, um but also so in
love with his now wife. And I don't know why
that just like really tugs at me because I just
think it's so you know, they are very confident in

(04:01):
in in their own lane in terms of like work
and career and whatever, but the love and the admiration
that they have for each other is just so special.
And last night on the carpet, he helped her with
her hair, like he moved out of her out of
the way for the photo, and like just the just
the way he looks at her. It's just melts my

(04:22):
heart because I think that we were saying the other
day about like the good ones, you know, like he's
a good one. He's so physically your type too. Let's
not ignore the fact of the matter, which is that
he is your type all around to a t. I know,
it's so funny because I was I when I ever
when I watched a movie or something that I'm really
moved by, I always message d M the actors, like

(04:44):
I just it's like my move every year, and so
I was telling everybody that I was d m rizimed.
But it's so not flirting in any way, do you
know what I mean? Like, it's very much like, oh
my gosh, this movie is fantastic. I hope you went.
All the awards are so good, like and I email
the director or DM the director and the you know, right,
So it's not just that. Uh. And actually got a
response from Herschela Ali a few years so it does work. Yeah,

(05:08):
I know that was a big one. I was like
Herchela Ali just responded with the praying hands of Oji
and I have never been the same relationship in my
Instagram bio. Um, but everybody's a Tanya. He's married, you
have to I'm like, no, it's not about that. I'm
just I just I don't know. I think I really
like them as a couple. I really like him as

(05:29):
an actor and as a husband, even though we know
nothing about his relationship. Yeah, I haven't was a movie good?
It was great, Okay, because there's a few movies that
I saw that are were nominated, and I was interested,
but I think the only one I actually watched was
Promising Young Woman. Yeah, I mean they're all it was

(05:50):
kind of they're all dark. You know. They also really
sad that we haven't watched almost any of them because
we're like, I don't want to cry, Let's just watch
Captain America. Yeah. Same, I'm like, um, let's she just
got that into you reruns of Grace Natomy. Oh, speaking
of Gray's Anatomy, I didn't see it. I know, I

(06:11):
was so immersed what we're doing this podcast, and you
have not seen the most recent episode of Gray's Anatomy.
I have not seen the most recent episode of Gray's Anatomy.
I have to am. I just expected not to talk.
I don't even talk about it. You can talk about it,
my gosh. So basically, you know, Meredith is on the

(06:33):
spoiler alert for everybody. I guess. Um, Meredith is still
on the beach and Derek's there and they're like walking
together and she's like I want to get you know,
she's basically I'm so tired. And he's like, it's not
your time yet, like you have to go. The kids
need you, and he basically was validating like everything that

(06:55):
she He's like, I don't want you to be alone,
Like I don't want you to not date the because
of me, like I don't want you to be alone,
and like basically is validating like giving her permission. Well,
just like everything that she needed to hear, I guess,
which I did not want her to move on. But
you know, what's done is done. You know, they gave

(07:15):
us the gift of seeing him again. So at the
end or kind of in the at the one point,
she's like, yeah, Zola has a drawing of us in wedding,
a wedding dress and a suit, and I tried to
show her the post it, but she hated it, like
she wants like she wanted a wedding and she's like,
I would give it to her if I wanted to.
And so then they showed there like in wedding attire,

(07:36):
and they're on the beach and he is still looking
at the same the same exact way where I felt
like the tingles all over my body, those tingles. He
looks down at her mouth and looks into her eyes,
and he has the exact same look he did in

(07:56):
season one. Their chemistry is actually it's a little shocking
to me because I feel like I read that there
was some like scuttle butts between I think there was well,
I don't know what the word is, but I do
think that there was something. But I think they've since rekindled.
They've since built a bridge and walked over. Yes, and wow.

(08:19):
And and even Crystal who runs Crystal Runs, are scrubbing
in social media. She's like one of the Facebook admins.
She posted about it was like wow. And I wrote
her and I was like the way he looks at her,
and she goes, I've never been a Derek fan, but
this this episode like really changed its fan. People think

(08:40):
that Derek Derek like didn't treat Meredith. Well, I mean
you've you've said that too right in the beginning. I
do I forget about those days because he really came around.
Oh my god, And and I was I did. I had, like,
I have one of those Sauna sweat bags you know
that you get in it's like in Bret Sanna, And
so I was laying in that while I was watching
the episode. I'm like drenched in sweat. And at the

(09:02):
end it was so emotional and I'm like sobbing, I'm sweating.
It was. It was a really emotional episode. So now
Derek's gone. He walked away, walked away. I did see that.
I saw some spoilers. I can't believe I forgot. I
should have watched it today. But I just can't believe
that Soga is over, Like I was kind of I

(09:23):
personally wanted it to last until the series and now
he's going to come back to life. Basically, she did,
she did? She woke up and Zola was that the
spoiler alert. Well, listen, we have a job here, and
I know because a journalist. Yeah, I did my journalist duty.

(09:44):
Yeah you did. I did not. I failed my journalistic
duties this week. I did. I did. But I I
was realizing. I was like, why did I not watch
on Thursday? But then I remember what I did daily pop. Yeah,
I mean, listen, you've been busy. I've been a working
girl in a working girl. Um so yeah. I was
just really emotional and now now I'm just concerned. Okay.

(10:07):
My theory was that they're putting Joe and Mick Widow together.
I keep feeling something happening interesting because you're so team
Joe Jackson. Oh yeah, yeah, I just want Joe with anyone.
That's cool, anyone Joe with anybody. But owen, Okay, I
see Joe and Mick widow happening. They're setting it up.

(10:31):
You know, she wants she wants kids, she wants to
be loved. I think that could happen. Jackson in the
preview shows up at April's house in the next episode.
I know, but remember April told April Sarah Drew told
us that she's only back for one episode. What if
he's gone, Like, what if he and her? Yeah, maybe

(10:51):
he's like, I want to be with you. Oh my gosh.
I don't know. I don't know how I feel about it, because,
like I'm I don't like the idea of a home wrecker.
So she was happily. My question to you, now that
I've missed one episode, should I wait until Thursday, watch
both together and make it like a full immersion Thursday,

(11:13):
or catch up tonight and then watch the next one
again Like a normal human, I would watch the most
recent one. Is that good? It's just like never in
never did I imagine that I would get new romantic
Derek Meredith scenes. And there's this oh my gosh, remember
when they were kind of broken up and he's so

(11:35):
tortured about like the Addison thing, and he's standing behind
her in the elevator and he's just like right here
and she's like letting him, but it doesn't want to
let him. He does that on the beach where he's
like staying behind and he's like you have to go,
like the kids need you, and he like kisses her hair.

(11:55):
Oh okay, all right, that's gonna be. That's gonna be
sometime on your time tonight with my what's that vibrator
called satisfy satisfator bro Oh fun Monday night for me. Yeah,
that's a good Monday night. Yeah, so enjoy that. Thank you. Anyways, Anyways,

(12:19):
if you guys are listening to this at nine pm tonight,
you know what I'll be doing, asking for like a
vibrated parties comfortable to Gray's Anatomy with a Ghost Derek. Yeah,

(12:40):
this took a dark turn, you know what, guys, I'm
running on some not a lot of sleep here, so
just bear with me. Alright. So you mentioned in not
last week I think the week before, that you have
someone who was in your past is back in your life, correct,
and you've been posting more about him then and you

(13:02):
ever did before, and thank you so much. It's like
free Brittany over here. Yeah, you're just like doing it. Yeah, yeah,
it's surprising. I mean his face is out there, you know,
how long do we get his address? Yeah? But but
the thing is is like we like in the past,
we only would get a hairy arm sighting every now

(13:23):
and then, and now we're like getting and we get
him like slicing tuna. Because you loved that. I still
watched that video regularly. Oh my god, with the satisfy um.
But yeah, it's like interesting to see and everyone's so curious.
Like I reposted a photo that you posted of the

(13:43):
three of us at the premiere that we did last week,
and everyone was like, oh my god, what is this?
What's going on? Are you're going to talk about this?
And so it's funny that they were. One of my
girlfriends saw that because I was talking her today and
I was kind of like keeping her kind of catching
her back up on like what's going on in my life?
And she's like, oh my gosh, what like he's back

(14:05):
and I was like yeah, I was like, I've been posting,
is you know his photo and stuff? And she goes,
you did, and I was like yes, I showed her
to the photo and she was, oh, I thought that
was just like some dude that like worked on your
podcast or something. I was like, oh, I just sneaking
him in there. See, just so you don't really know
what's happening. Our scrubbers know who's involved in the podcast.
They did not mistake him as someone one of our

(14:27):
producers or eastern remark. They knew. Yeah, no, she did
not know. Yeah, I definitely, Well, should we take a
break really fast? A great idea. Let's take a break
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(16:46):
So you're so tell us what's going on, because I'm
loving it. I'm living vicariously through the stories, the photos,
the French bracelets. Back. You're being open though, because I

(17:09):
get them in personal texts and like, I get all
that stuff, but I'm excited for it to be out
there for everybody else. Yeah, I think that um, you know,
it's I got a lot of questions too, because everybody's like, how,
like when, like what's going on? And I think that, um,
when we had so you weren't here, we had Lisa

(17:29):
vander Pump as my guest uh co host that day
when you were gone, and she asked me if I
was still with him, But like I didn't know what
to say, because it's like we did break up in
December and it's still really emotional, Like even if I tried,
even if I talked about it right now, i'd still cry.
Like I recently talked about it with someone of my
girl friends and I cried again. So it's like it
does trigger me in that way. You know, I still

(17:50):
get sad about it, But I wasn't ready to like
really share anything because I think that breakup was so
hard for me personally, uh, but then also having to
like talk about it, I couldn't figure. I couldn't do it,
Like I was just too emotional, And then I felt
like I felt inauthentic because I was like not able

(18:12):
to talk it through, you know what I mean. And
so that's why I've been kind of like when we
started dating and basically we're dating. I'm I'm dating, uh
dating again, And I used the cast analogy because it's
like I'm a little bit insecure about it still, you know,
like I'm not fully secure in that, and so um,

(18:35):
that's kind of where I'm at, Like I want to
I want to be authentic and real and transparent because
that's I think that's what connects all of us and
that's what makes this community so special. But at the
same time, it's like I'm not secure in it too
fully like leap out like I have before, you know,
And so I'm trying to kind of you know, ease

(18:55):
into it and you know, post him here and there
and like not make it a big thing because I
want to just I want to just make it feel
normal and right, you know. Yeah, well, I mean I
think the thing is with the I mean I think
going through heartbreak, whether it's a relationship or just like
anything in life, is all at your our personal consent

(19:19):
of like how we want to deal with it and
what makes us feel safe, you know. And I think
when you're hurting to process it is one thing. And
like even just being alone in or talking to your
friends about is hard enough, but then opening up that
part of your life and this heartbreak too, however many
people are listening is really challenging. And I guess you

(19:41):
did it at a at a like very like you
talked about it enough to where you share that you
were going through it and you were struggling, but also
you guarded your heart how you needed to. Yeah, And
I think the thing that's hard too. It's funny because
I feel like I've become this like now everybody's coming
to me and they're asking you, like, what do I
do like to get him back? No, No, do not

(20:04):
ask me, because like it wasn't I think the reason
is and I think why I couldn't articulate really what
happened is because it was nothing really in our relationship
between the two of us. It was external things and
so to kind of to to to be able to
express that without crying, and like I just couldn't do it,

(20:28):
you know, I just like I couldn't do it, and
so I just kind of had to pray. I was
just constantly praying that entire time and staying positive and
staying busy and and and you know, keeping people that
I love around and like eat, pray, loving it like
literally just like reading a ton and working out and
you know, doing things for me and I do actually
want to talk about. At some point, how we started
talking again and like what we did on our first

(20:49):
day back that was cute. Yeah. Yeah, So we decided
were we never we never stopped reaching out the whole time,
and then we finally started like talk again, and then
we decided to see each other and he was like,
I want to take you to the place where we
had our first date. Yeah. Yeah. And like me, as

(21:10):
she's telling me this, I'm like, well, every time he
would reach out, I would be like, he needs to
leave you alone. And she was like yeah, you know,
it was like being like overprotective, because you know that's
kind of as the best friend, you're kind of like
on guard for like all my friends were like on
guard for me. And I was just constantly praying the

(21:32):
whole time, like just the whole time through just kind
of praying for peace or clarity or to make make
it right, whatever is meant, like whatever supposed to be,
let that shine. Yeah, And I was like, nah, he
needs to leave me alone. But I never had like

(21:52):
it was never so much like I don't like him
or I don't think he's good for you. I was
just more so you're not going to be able to
heal if he's still reaching out to you, you know.
But she always, you know, you always were confident that
like maybe it wasn't fully over, like there was always
like something in your heart. I think that kept that
open for you. Whereas I was like, no, shut the

(22:14):
door shut it, I was like, that's not it's not
it's not not a door shut situation. So but I
also think that I got to this point to and
obviously not here, but like I didn't feel this here,
but I felt in other areas of my life that um,
for the last three months, I wasn't of any value

(22:34):
because I wasn't talking about my dating life like I
felt like that's all I was good for. And that
was a struggle for me too, because I'm like, I
have so much more to give and so much more
that I care about than dating and and a man
in my life, you know, like I love this man

(22:55):
so much and he makes me incredibly happy, and I
love sharing dating stories. I've been doing it forever because
I that's we all relate to those things, you know,
like we're all going through it and it's peaks and valleys,
and I loved sharing that, but I felt so much
like that was all I was good for, and that
was really hard for me to battle the last few
months because I just got really down. I was like,

(23:17):
is that all you see me? As, like, you know,
that's me for the past three years, Like am I
good for anything other than I mean, I think it's
hard because I came off the Bachelor, so that's what
people knew me for. It was like dating and being
like that finding love and then you know, my relationship
with Robert was very public, and then when that ended

(23:39):
and I started my relationship that I'm in now, it
was like you can't hide that from like you can't
not talk about that from us. And my whole thing
was a lot of you know, and I still get
message where they're like, you know, don't be a coward,
like come out and talk about your relationship, like quit hiding.
And I'm like, I'm not hiding as much as I'm
just not like it's private, but like all the people

(24:02):
in my life, no, it's not like we're not public,
but I always have that feeling. I'm like, do I
need to, Like it's the only thing that makes me
relevant my relationship or talking about it, and so for like,
for me, it's not I never have felt that in

(24:23):
a I've never felt that before because I love sharing
and I love talking about these things, you know what
I mean. It's like something that I really enjoy. But
I think I was at this point in my life
where I was really in a lot of pain and
like not dating or not wanting to go and like
wanting to just not be that for a minute. And
I felt like I wasn't able to do that and

(24:46):
that was really hard, not being able to be ready
to date or not being able to share, no, not
being not being seen as anything other than like my
dating life, and so that was really hard for me.
And I don't want im like I'm so much more
and that I think, and I think that might. I mean,
I do think people are interested in your love life,
but I think that's been something that people have followed

(25:07):
your journey for so long, so I think that's why
they are connected to you in that way. But like
our listener like I'm like I'm down with our Like
when the listeners went message, I message them right back
as um like yeah, I'm happy as a clam and like,
thank you so much. It's so sweet. Like that's the
reason why I love to share. It's like this community
that we have. It's like professionally, when I'm being made

(25:28):
to feel a certain way, it bothers me. Yeah, I
mean rightfully, so I think, and I think, yeah, I
guess from my perspective. And you weren't even talking about
the scrubbers because I'm like the scrubbers you relate to
so many people outside of dating. Oh yeah, it's like
we're the same, like literally the same. And I think

(25:49):
there's something beautiful in that, you know what I mean.
Like I think sometimes when you go through a breakup,
you know, you read all these books about how to
whatever or you know, be a bit and all these things,
and that's just not me. Like I just I can't
do that. Yeah, Like we tried to time, we tried.
We try a few of these games and things, and

(26:10):
they just it wasn't me. And I think it's important
for women to hear that that it's okay to Like
I even told him when we started talking again, I
was like, I was praying for you the entire time
we were broken up, And I think that was like
a shock to him, you know, because it's like, that's
not what you do and like you break up with somebody,
you know, Like, it's not like I didn't have that.

(26:31):
I didn't go down that path of negativity and I
don't know, there's a different way and a different approach
to things, and I think that it's hopeful and it's
beautiful and it's so so funny because we started talking again. Aaron,
my neighbor, Aaron Limb was was talking to him, and
she was just like, did you not pick up the

(26:52):
hints every time she saw a freaking butterfly that she
was trying to tell you that, like she was hopeful
that you were going to come back. And he was like, no, oh,
it's not that, Like you know, when you're the guy
in his mind, he's thinking that that's me being hopeful
for my future, whoever it is, you know what I mean.
I think it could have been both. It could have
involved but it's hard to say when you don't when

(27:12):
you're not confident in that you know, well, yeah, I mean,
when when you're the one who has made that decision,
you're assuming that the person I mean, rightfully so is
looking forward yea and little is you know that, Like
every time I see a butterfly, I'm like, this is him.
So are we calling him Red Star still or has

(27:35):
he been given a new name? What are we calling
him by his actual name? No, I don't know. I
guess we can call him Red Star. Yeah, welcome back
Red starl. Well that's exciting. It's exciting here at the
end of the day. Like, I'm very happy, I'm very
in love. Things are moving in a really great direction.

(27:58):
And I will share more as I feel more secure.
Do you feel like since y'all kind of had like
a restart, do you feel like y'all are back in
that like honeymoon phase of the like Travis and Courtney. Yeah,
I honestly don't feel like we ever got out of
that phase. But I was gonna say also that I

(28:20):
guess that was still It was almost a full year,
so it was a year over year oh that y'all had. Yeah, yeah,
so yeah, I guess that. I mean, Eastern Allison are
still in it. I'm still in it. Yes, Like the
other day I was driving home and I was like,
oh my god, I'm so excited. Really, yeah, that's so

(28:41):
see it or still at it too? What years since
this been three yeah, three years. It's so crazy. I
never thought I would be someone who first of all
was in a long term relationship like this and also
still like so sitting like a kid. Yeah, you know,

(29:01):
like it's just never been my personality, and so it's
it's funny. Every time I think about it, I'm always like,
this is funny, like so ironic that this is when
I get like needy or need attention. I'm always like,
get it together, Becca, It's not who you are, but
it is. Wait, so have you thought about anything like

(29:25):
do you want to always just keep like even if
you guys get married and have them. Well, I mean
it's something no. I've kind of been more so leaning
towards I get really torn about it because at first
it was for reasons that I don't have anymore, and
now it's more so like it's just kind of nice
that the pressure of it being public isn't present, even

(29:48):
though I think a lot of people kind of know.
I think there's something about it that feels comfortable that
it's not public. But on the flip side, it'd be
fun to share it, you know, because like I know,
it's like this happy it's like this, there's this happy
medium with all of it, because I think also for me,
you know, insane with Red Star and the reason why
we didn't post things in the beginning was for different reasons.

(30:11):
Now those reasons are no longer there, and so he
told me, he was like, you can, you know, post me,
do whatever you want. And I was like, okay, And
I'm like slowly starting to do it because I'm like,
it's that weird feeling of just kind of getting used
to it, you know, but it's like not wanting it
to be my whole thing, but you know, a little

(30:31):
cherry on top. And there was a moment and when
we were at the premiere for Cruel Summer and I
was doing a video and he like popped his head
into it and I was like, no, we just really
I can't post that, like you're both of them really
it's finding and posted And I was like, are you
all are you sure? Loud? You know? So I feel

(30:54):
that way too, But um, yeah, I think it's there
is like a balance and you you want to be
I think a lot of couples and I totally get
it because I think I did it with Robert, especially
towards the end where like there's this high you get
off of sharing your relationship and people validating it and
people liking and commenting and like expressing their happiness for you,

(31:18):
and there's this like high that comes with wanting that attention.
You know. Yeah, it's not even like it's not even
this high, I think for me, like I feel like
I finally found a man that for so long I
knew existed, Like I always knew that he existed, but

(31:39):
I would talk about it and I would I have
hope in my heart, but it's like until you actually
physically see that person, you there is a little like
question markt and you know what I mean. And so
it's like you finally find this man that's like so
wonderful and all of those things that you've been sharing
and talking about wanting, and so it's like you to

(32:00):
tell other people like these guys exist, like there are
people out there like this, and like it might take
you some johnpts around the block to find them, but
like once you do, it's so beautiful and like worth it.
I saw this TikTok and um this guy was like
he was showing him like doing all these realasue things,
and so it starts and he's like, my wife had

(32:21):
a dream that I cheated on her, and so it
was him. He went and got her flowers and got
made her breakfast and got her coffee and like a
card and rose pedals and lit a candle and like
had it all set up and was like, sorry about
your dream. That will never happen in real life. Yeah.

(32:43):
So I think that I think a lot of what
the lesson is here is that sometimes I mean, I
think there's certain instances were shutting the door and locking
the door and dead bolting the door is very necessary.
But I think I think you have kind of brought
hope to people who maybe it ended because of a

(33:06):
circumstance of timing. You know, maybe there was something that
was happening that wasn't working, but you still felt that hope.
And I think it was like assigned to you know,
like when you feel something in your gut and you
feel like you know something's right, don't shut the door,
unlock it forever, like be open to someone coming back

(33:28):
and proving their value in your life. Yeah. Yeah, And
it's I think too, it was never I mean, like
I'm one of those people were like, if you cheat
on me, You're you're dumb. The dead boats, they're the key,
throw it out the window. And it's not about the cheating,

(33:48):
it's it's the trust and the lack of character in
that person that I just, I just I don't want
that in my life, nor do I want that in
my life at all or forever. So if that was
the case, I have no problem shutting the door, walking
and throwing away the key. But I think that was
like the opposite of it. And I think it was
just it was a matter of me being in a a
certain place in my life that he wasn't necessarily at,

(34:11):
and so just kind of giving him that space too
to figure it out for himself. It's like it's like
a dutch door, right, Like he closed the bottom part
and the open the top part. You open that and
you let the breeze come in, and you you know,
it's inviting, Yeah, and and and and he can crawl
over it if he wants to be there, he'll make

(34:32):
the effort to get in the door and crawl over it. Yeah, exactly.
But like it has been so nice to just kind
of like, you know, we went on a double date
last week, and you know, I don't know like having
him around my friends again, and it's just it's it's
really nice and uh, it's going really well and I

(34:53):
am a smitten kitten too. We're supposed to play pain
pollen because he has been challenging me, but the two
times that he's had the ping pong table out and
has invited me over, I haven't been able to come.
So he thinks I'm scared, But I don't know how
the relationship is going to be once I once I
beat him, I want you to like nothing makes me happen.

(35:13):
We want to have like a game, like a whole
game night thing, or we like invite maybe like two
couples or something you do like ping pong attorney, Yeah,
like proseco pong. Uh, and then like there was one
that bought you ball, We got bought you ball and
like kind of just kind of rotate and do all
of these like just a Jenga how like a Jenga
there and just have everybody just like playing random games

(35:35):
all the time. How fun is that? That's really fun?
Actually loves games. Yeah, wait, but you know we should
do what at some point? What because I've been getting
a lot of messages about this as well. At some
point we need to do some sort of large podcast
with our significance. Well, yeah, I mean I would very

(36:00):
much like to listen to that. Yeah, like not like
not like I don't want to do like a newlywed
game where we just ask trivia questions. That's not it.
It's something It's something better almost like that when we
haven't felt those questionnaires. But just like in real life, well,
that will certainly expose my relationship. I have a feeling

(36:25):
back is how thrilled with this idea. It just I
think there would be steps that came in time. We
use a surrogate for back, like like we hire uh
like an actor to wear an earpiece and sit there,
and they're like, I feel like I might as well

(36:46):
just have ninety five p on at that point. Yeah,
I'm not opposed to it. I think it would be
really fun. I always said, like, once my relationship was
publican out there, that it would be fun to do
like a podcast. Yeah. Well, we're just like like even
if we did like our how we went to Palm Springs,

(37:09):
you know, like we like our probably took it took
we took scrubbing in on the road and we went
somewhere just like around and had some spicy marks and
recorded the podcast that night. I mean, yeah, we were
definitely Aeson Alison there because we need some some sort
of sobriety, I'm going to manage things. God, that was

(37:31):
absolutely When I think about that just block of time,
what my memory has is so chaotic, so chaotic. Red
Star in that tall your shirt that he's still wears.
First of all, it's the cutest thing ever. So for
our scrubbing in live when we did the show in

(37:52):
l a Um that shirt that Becca got, you know,
weach had our shirts and had our faces on them.
The company Gold Sheep right, yeah, yeah, sent extras of
my face and said this one's for your boyfriend. So
I gave it to him and he's like, this is
actually a really sick shirt. Like it's actually really cool.
And so whenever we go away for the weekend somewhere

(38:13):
like Palm Springs or you know, Santa Barbara, anywhere we
go on vacation, he brings it's like his vacation shirt
and he wears it every single time. It's like, okay,
here's the thing. I loved the I loved the shirt
for our event, like it was really cute. That shirt
is not sick. No, it is so every time you

(38:35):
sent me a photo of him in it, because he
always is dressed so well that like, when I see
that shirt, I just I want to I don't even know,
Like the gesture is cute, but the shirt cool? Tanya,
thank you? Does he wear it around like like if

(38:58):
you're going to go out to dinner or something, that's like,
come on, I'm gonna show you. So we were around
that's it's so the best thing ever because we'll be
like walking by people and they're like literally strangels. Will
people say, is that you? Is that? He's like, sure is?
I might get him like for something, either your birthday

(39:18):
or his birthday, get like a a new version maybe
in like a black or something like the pink is
kind of what's throwing you? I think? So, yeah, it
looks it looks cool? Does it does look cool? I
just love it because a lot of guys, you know,
that would be the shirt they sleep in or where
did the you know the workout? Probably not where mostly all. No.

(39:44):
I love, Like I'm so torn because in my mind
when I see it, I'm like, well, Tanya has just
met her match because who else maybe Eastern. Otherwise, I
don't know many people who would like publicly choose to
wear that. And then on the flip side, just like
the because I always see him and he's always dressed

(40:05):
really well. So when I see Tanya and like a
cute outfit and they send me a photo of the
two of them and he is in that ping sure,
it's usually like by a body of water. Like that's
why it's his vacation shirt. He's not wearing it to
a restaurant. I'm gonna I'm gonna work on a new one. Yeah,
maybe a hat. Your hats. He looks so cute in

(40:29):
a baseball hat. He looks cute and everything. Okay, well
you wear a brown sack and make it look chic. Yeah,
she sexy. Um. All right, we are gonna take another
break and then we'll be back with emails, which Easton
will be taking over today. What a thrill. Okay, we

(41:03):
are back. We have some hard hitting emails today, TikTok
theories and such. Um. Eastern take it away. Alright, this
this first one is from Sarah, as Taylor Swift stands,
I would love to hear your thoughts on the bazillion
of t swizzle theories out there. The Internet is truly
an exhausting and hilarious place when it comes to swift

(41:26):
easter eggs, so I think listeners would be thriough to
hear about these topics. Here a few examples. Harry Styles
being featured on the re record of Style the Rest.
She war has an extra sunflower the five cherries on
her shirt during an interview, the fact that they spoke
at the award show. Uh. That the re recorded albums
are coming out in certain months that can be easter
egged because of the photos released in Rolling Stone and

(41:49):
the third albums in the trilogy of Folklore Slash Evermore
is coming on August five, to be specific. Uh, Sarah
can't remember the reasons behind that one, but apparently that's
the theory. So what do we think about those? Okay,
so allegedly, what I've seen in certain social media apps
is that my my brain bandwidth today is not producive

(42:13):
to productive, No, not inducive, conducive, conducive to know I'd
get there, conducive to TikTok theories. So okay, we'll pretend
it's a Twitter theory then, or Patty sent it to
you or syson me. They yeah, OK, So apparently the

(42:33):
third album to the trilogy is called wood Veil. Yes,
I didn't know that. And there's at the end of
Um Cardigan, there's like a little jingle at the end
of the video. There's like a little jingle at the end,
and then it's actually the beginning of Willow goes into
the Willow video and then there's a little jingle at

(42:54):
the end of Willow and they think that's the beginning
of wood Veil or whatever the single is going to. Really,
the thing with these theories is that if they're not true,
then it's just sad because they're so genius that someone
people have come up with the whole plan that's not
even real I know. And here's the thing, because I

(43:15):
feel like there was an in one of the images
from Evermore you could see the word would veil, like
in the artwork, and so that's where I think the
name came from. But all the stuff with like the
they spoke at the Grammys, Her and Harry Styles and
then the cherries on the shirt and stuff like that,
Like sometimes the stretch of the Easter Eggs is so

(43:36):
much to ponder that it gets to be too much.
Oh see, I don't think that the Harry Styles thing
is a stretch at all. I think that's very possive.
Harry Styles right now, dating Olivia Wilde would re record
a song that Taylor Swift wrote about him in I

(44:00):
was like my brain went, um, yes, I do think
he would. Why in what way would that harm him?
All it does is do good? No chance he's finally
like coming out as this, like, uh, what's the word
solo artist? That's like really catching steam. No one's saying

(44:24):
he's not. But if she's the biggest, like one of,
if not the biggest artists in the world, asking him
to do her one of her re recordings during a
time where a lot of her songs were about him. Look,
I'm not saying I would love it. I was hoping
he'd do Out of the Woods. As a fan, I
would love it, and as a friend, as a foe

(44:46):
or what's I don't even know a poe is. But
as a realist, I just don't see it happening, And
I don't want to get my hopes up. I'm fine,
My hopes are already up for the third album, So
like I'm I'm already expecting that to be crushed, so like,
what might as well throw an Harry duet. I am
not ready for it, you know when she says are

(45:07):
you ready for it? No, we're not. Do we know
which one she's doing next? Which album has that been?
They think because the TikTok theory she has the band
with now, our Ginger Champ theory is that, um, she
did Fearless was because that was the first album she
won for Best Uh, she want a Grammy for Album

(45:28):
of the Year and that was the first one she wanted.
And they're thinking she's going to do the second album
of the Year that she won, which is nine Red
didn't win a Grammy, Nope, but did not. Wow. You
know what the thing is about Taylor Swift is that
I think, you know, the people who don't like her,
um like I can't relate to you. But um, I

(45:50):
posted a cover of this country artist singing All Too
Well the other day and I had so many people like,
oh my god, like, who is that? What is the song?
And I'm like, it's just the greatest Taylor Swift song
of all time? But they haven't even given it a
chance because Taylor Swift and I'm like, you just go

(46:11):
on read her lyrics. I have a girlfriend that's going
through a breakup and she literally just this weekend texted
me saying, thank God for the album that is read
because I'm going through all my emotions. This song speaks
to me. And I was like, girl, girl, let me
tell you a thing about that album and what I
have done to it the last two months. Can we

(46:33):
talk about the song Ivy because that one is so good.
It's so good and really doesn't get the true recognition
none like Ivy was from Evermore Right. Yeah, delicious, delicious
and nutritious. Um, all right, Well, so that answers that did.

(46:55):
Essentially we're thrilled and we're on the same page. Well,
I don't know about Tanya, but I am so hopeful
and excited for any of these theories to be true.
And if they're not, I hope she has ideas for
what she's going to do in the future. At the
very least. I love when people have really crazy theories
about this stuff and then it doesn't. I really do

(47:16):
like when it doesn't happen like this happens with Marvel
stuff all the time. Like people are these crazy they
see an Easter egg and these crazy theories and then
it doesn't happen, and I just find that very entertaining.
I have like a whole I can't remember what my theory.
I had a whole theory about Evermore before it came out,
and it just not no, not Evermore. It was I
think before folklore when she like was posting with the fences,
it was like a fence and there was like nine

(47:39):
pokes in the fences or I don't even know, remember
the palm tree. Yeah, that whole. I'm like, I'm not
one to search for the Easter eggs, but I enjoy
the other people who put them together for all of
us to make some Easter eggs. What is that in
your life? Yeah? Yeah, yeah, yeah, I don't know. That

(48:00):
means you'll see. We have one more email about about theories.
This is for Grays. Uh. This is from Grace about Grays.
I totally agree that lately the Grays episodes have been
a bit boring, but there's definitely a lull. But I
have two theories. One that makes me very sad and

(48:20):
one that gives me hope. Here's this sad one. The
Game of Thrown serious finale episode felt this way neutral,
just like this season, just like this season of grays
is feeling. My theory about the Game of Thrown serious
finale was that the directors did that to please the
average number of fans. There could have been many more
extreme ways the series could have ended to give fans
hope for a new season, but I think the directors
chose the middle neutral path so fans would not have

(48:42):
hope for a new season and the cast could choose
whether or not they wanted to continue. I'm worried and
sad that Krista is doing this to Graze. Here's the
hopeful theory. Krista is truly trying to replicate what the
pandemic has felt like to so many people, boring, exhausting,
and long. This means that it probably won't be the
last season. They're just trying to be as realistic as
possible about the pandemic. But I'm concerned this will deter

(49:04):
viewers about having less exciting episodes and keeping Meredith on
event Ventilate right. Uh. Maybe Chris Say is also trying
to see if the show could continue without Meredith as
a prominent cast member and gradually face her oute so
Ellen could try new things in her career. Well, this
was written before this most recent episode because Meredith spoiler
alert is off the event. I don't love the idea

(49:30):
of a I don't know. I'm so torn about the
Grays finale because I wanted it to end with Meredith
and Derek on the beach together. Oh so, so you
basically want Meredith to die. I want Meredith to be
with Derek. However that may happen. Whether that's just Derek

(49:54):
comes home he's dead, Well, it's like saying you Denny
to come back. That's not the same at all, Actually
exactly the same. They both are dead. I don't know.
I just like I enjoyed the idea of Meredith being
with like that being her ending with him, and I'm
not saying like, oh, she has to be. It was

(50:15):
just like after especially if you're seeing them together, and
I was like, oh my god, there's no way she'll
have this with anybody else while we're watching. So here's
my thought. If Meredith is alive, which it seems is
going to be the case, which I'm very happy for
because all her friends and colleagues and her children need her,

(50:37):
I don't necessarily need her to end up with in
a relationship. But then Derek was like gave her the
basically like go ahead, like I don't want you to
be lonely. So now I'm scared what I want Meredith
to be with somebody, but who she doesn't know. I
don't know. I don't know that person, but he's got
to be badass. But I would like her to end
up with somebody. I think I haven't seen her with
someone that made me feel excited about a relationship for her.

(51:00):
So I guess when I wish they could bring them
that back, that that would give me tingles in places
I don't know that I'll fill the tingles, but I
don't hate the thought of that being that direction because
it's smart. I like that throwback. Um. But yeah, I
could totally see them doing a neutral thing where people

(51:22):
are just like all right, I guess, so you know,
the good times to have happened and it's over. I
hate that dark, but you can watch. Once you watch
this most recent episode, I think you'll have a stronger opinion. Yeah,
you know, these emails were harder for me today because
I feel like my mental capacity is that A is

(51:44):
that not? It's greatest and the theories are really hard
for me to like sink my it's pretty It's really
not that deep. It's so funny is we were doing
the you know, the Oscar after party last night, and
I'm like talking about all this like deep, Like I'm
just going deep because at the end of the day,

(52:05):
I'm like, nobody really watched a lot of these movies,
like you know whatever. But at the end of the day,
there is so much about storytelling about movies that really
connects us. And it's like kind of putting yourself in
these characters shoes. And I was getting so deep last
night into these like life lessons and stuff, and everyone
was just like telling you what planet are you on?

(52:25):
I was like, Planet Happy. That's where I like to be.
You do love to be there. Catch me on Planet Happy.
It's right next to Pluto and Saturn. Wow, that's where
I will reside. Do you ever take edibles? No? But
are those mushrooms? Oh no, I'm not taking either of those.

(52:48):
But somebody's all mushrooms daily. Um No. But somebody the
other day was telling me that I like should try
mush rooms much be happy. I don't. I've never tried mushrooms,
but I mean it's a I think it's a psycho
isn't it like a psychedelic experience? Yeah, psilocybin mushrooms anyway,

(53:13):
but they have medical benefits I understand I've done. Are
those different than edibles? Yes, she's talking about marijuana. I
feel like you would be someone who would have some
like really out there creative thoughts because I feel like
a creative genius. Yeah, like I should get my phone
out and just write down the thoughts I have because

(53:35):
sometimes I'm like, am I just is my sober version
of myself just limiting me to the potential I can reach.
I don't know, I don't I don't take them as
often as I should. I guess if I'm going to
be with me about drugs, and I know it's not
I mean, it's legal and it is what it is,

(53:56):
But uh, I get And I wonder why I don't
feel this way about alcohol because it does the same
thing to you. But I don't like not being in control,
see I. And for some reason, with alcohol it's like
I can I guess maybe because I've been drinking for
so many years, I know how much I can drink
and still be in control, whereas drugs I've never done,
so I don't know that threshold. But I don't like

(54:19):
not being in control. Here's my thing. I prefer. Some
of my actions might contradict this statement. I prefer an
edible experience because I'm not hungover the next day. I
don't have any anxiety. Well, I don't get anxiety. A
lot of people can get anxiety from uh, marijuana. I

(54:40):
don't get that. But I just feel like I know.
I guess I've learned my limits, like I've taken too
much before, and I feel like I couldn't live my
arms up. But that would throw me into a but
I was so relaxed that I was just like, oh,
I can't like I feel like I can't love my arms.
The best time ever I was playing Mario kar I

(55:00):
was on Rainbow Road and I literally felt like I
was soaring, like I thought like I was on the road.
It was awesome. See, I don't think i'd like that. Well,
that's what I'm saying. I mean. But then, so I
haven't taken that much and it was like seven milligrams.
It was like nothing significant. But normally I know my
limit and I just know I'm going to be able

(55:20):
to be relaxed and chill and not and also not
have any of the negative effects that I sometimes get
from alcohol, which we've all seen in action. I don't know.
Maybe we can do it one night, maybe game night
when we're playing ping pong. Oh, but then, but then
I won't be good. You might be the best you've
ever been. You think so, I don't. You never know

(55:43):
it happens. I want. I want east and Allison too.
I try to get them to do one and um
palm springs. But I had other things happening that day,
so my plans got derailed. Next time, next time. Oh
my god, look who was joining is three minutes before

(56:04):
we end the podcast, Mark, Okay, Tanya didn't watch Grays
and Easton doesn't watch. I'm just here talking about it
by myself. Okay, I'm so glad I came. That was
a phenomenal episode. I finished that show. I like tears
in my eyes, goosebumps, and I was just like, this
is why I still love this show. I was sobbing,

(56:26):
I had chills. I was like, I never thought i'd
get fresh Derek and Meredith scenes, and they were as
intense and emotional as they always were. The way he
looks at her still. Yes, it was great top to bottom,
and I loved I even loved the little other medical
stuff that was going on throughout it. It was just

(56:48):
a classic episode of all right, So my plan still
stand tonight nine PMS, me and my satisfied pro because
we kind of that's brought into it. But becose you're
saying Derek was giving all those looks that'd like, give
us the tea. I mean, yeah, I mean like a

(57:10):
brownie or something. Back to the edibles. Here we go. No,
I'm not an edible brownie, just a regular brownie. Yeah,
that guy is trying to get me to take edibles.
I said, to be fun if we took an edible,
because I think Tanya would be like just a creative genius.
That's what I think. But she's scared, so it's fine.
I'm not gonna. I don't like peer pressure, so anyway,

(57:32):
I am a peer pressure you to watch Grazy Anatomy tonight,
because like Mark said, it's all the old fields. Yes,
it really is. It's just it's just wonderful. I didn't
watch it, didn't not watch it intentionally. I'm crazy. I
was like I did because I was wondering why earlier
in the week because it was Daily Pop that I
was prepping for before Oscars. I also, I'm feeling a

(57:56):
little worried and sad about Teddy she's going through. It's
not I'm a little worried what she's going to become unhinged.
It feels a little unhinged right now. But Owen's trying.
I mean, Owen was likable in this episode. He was,
But is he leading her on? Is he like trying

(58:16):
to make her think that things are going to be
okay again? No, because I think when he was comforting
her and she tried to kiss me, He's like, no,
like I'm trying to be BEA was like, who would
you want Meredith to be with? And I was like,
I don't know. I don't want Meredith to do with anybody.
Was Joe right, I was like, I don't want Joe
to do with anybody minus Oh, But I think Joe

(58:42):
is gonna be with I think they're setting up Joe
to be with Mick Widow. There's some scenes that like
make it I feel like there's something there, they're setting
it up. I feel like he's too old for her.
Is that weird? I don't think he looks because he's
me out. How old is he? I don't know. He
strikes me as very paternal. I find him to be

(59:04):
like Alex's age. Yeah, oh really, I think of him
as considerably older than that. But maybe I'm crazy. Maybe
it's just the bald head, you know. Do you know what, though,
do not judge a bald head by its bald cover,
because let me tell you, I have met some meal
mixes that were and losing their hair and they just

(59:26):
went went went and shaved it, and let me tell you,
made him even hotter. It is true. It's all about
how they carry it. It's how they carry it. He
carries it well, he carries it well. I would look
him up, but I don't know his I can't think
of his I don't know his name in real life,
but I would get his age because not we should
probably not. It's definitely not me all mix. But um, well,

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I'm so happy you joined us, just so I could
have someone to celebrate that with, because it was a
dagger in the heart. When Tony was like, I haven't
watched it yet. That is rough. Okay, here we go.
His name is Richard Flood. Oh, look at that. Uh
doing the math in my head. Here he's thirty eight.
Ye see, my bad. Sorry I thought he was like

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my age. No cover, Nope, clearly. I think that would
actually make him younger than than Alex No, but younger
than Justin Chambers because Justin Chanders is fifty. Justin Chanders
is actually my age. Wow, I'm not fifty, but you understand. Well, Yeah,

(01:00:40):
it was a great episode. I loved it. I'm excited
about episode. Grace is back. I mean, next week it
will probably suck again, but for one week it was back. Great.
Can't wait? Can't wait because May six, May six, this
Kapner's return. Have we talked about that? No, well, we
talked briefly, talked about that Jackson shows up in her house,
but we found out that she's all in one episode.

(01:01:00):
So it's like a little not that I'm thrilled. I
can't wait for the episode, but I'm a little bit
upset knowing that because now just like one and done,
unless Jackson goes with her, goes with her and then
we lose Jackson. But know that j April's together. I
don't know, I don't know. The fan theories in my

(01:01:21):
in my brain right now. It's like a lot. We
did Gray's, we did Taylor, we did That's all we did.
I missed. I missed so much seven, so they're almost
the exactly. So I don't know what's wrong with me.
You know, It's okay. We all have off days. It's fine.
Thank you off day two. Well Mark, it was so
great to see you for a second. Kanya, fantastic again

(01:01:45):
last night. Congratulations, thank you. I like weirdly emotional, like bricca, bricca, bricca,
but brought me these beautiful flowers in a card and
I got like really emotional. I've been like weirdly emotional
all day because it's like Awards seasons over, and you
kind of create this outside family of people that you

(01:02:05):
you know, we did three big shows together, so you know,
from like the producers and the writers and the Glam team,
you know, and then it's just kind of like, okay,
that ends absolutely because I'm like, can we talk about
the box of cards you got today? Today? I'm in
workout and I keep seeing my Tania texted me like

(01:02:27):
multiple which really doesn't alarm me when I get back
to back text from Tanya. But I was like, oh,
I wonder, what's what's happening. So I finished work out,
I checked my phone and she had sent me a
photo of this like box and it said to Tanya
with love Becca, and she was like, Becca, I'm so
emotional and I'm looking at it like I did not

(01:02:50):
send that, and so I'm panicking, thinking, okay, um, you know,
and my first thought was like, maybe it's something for
the podcast. So I called Danielle and she's like, I
don't know what that is. And I was like, okay.
So I get on Tanya's I get on Instagram and
I get tagged in stories from Tanya and she's like, Becca,

(01:03:14):
this is so emotional, all these notes about things that
you love about me. And she's like it's three clips
of like this gift. That box is like massive, and
I'm pulling these cards out and they're so beautiful, like
I'm and I'm I'm tired as hell today, so I'm
super hyper emotional and I'm crying like I'm reading these
and like actually crying because I was like, oh my god,

(01:03:36):
Like this is so not like Becca. Like whenever she
writes to me me a card for anything, like I get
emotional about it. And now there's like stacks of reasons
like why she loves me and what she admires about me,
and they're all so personal, like they were really good.
So and I'm still going. I'm going for thirty minutes
reading these things. Like I was like, I'm not weeping.

(01:03:57):
So I'm at my place hannicking. I'm calling Daniel. She
don't know. I call Ali, my manager, and I'm like,
is did this company like reach out to you about
this box? For Tanya? I was like, she's posting it
on her story. I did not send this to her,
and so then I'm creeped out and I'm like, oh
my god, Tanya has like a stalker who's like pretending

(01:04:18):
to send gifts for me, like writing her these like
personal letters. So finally I um am able to figure
out what the company was and I look it up
and I realized it's in one of our emails, and
so I messaged Becky and I was like, hey, did
you send this to Tanya? And thank God, She's like, yeah,

(01:04:39):
isn't it so cute? I guess. I guess really it's
for me because like I wrote them out and you
should be getting one from Tanya too, So it's the
cutest gift idea ever, like I know what to do
to really make Tanya's day. Now, my god, it was
like so special and I literally had these thoughts like
I can't believe Becca took the top. I'm to write

(01:05:01):
all the I mean, I'm telling you, it was like
a fat stack of like and they were thoughtful and
things that were like, oh my Becky, great job, because
I really I really took my time looking through the
qualities like this is tan yet never like I mean truly,
I have never felt I felt things in my heart
from that. I want to make sure you guys, you

(01:05:23):
both felt seen. But then you happen to make that
call because I was like, do I just play along?
Like what do I do at this point? Because she
is crying, She's posted on Instagram like I've had no
space to even tell my truth. What do I do?
And so I was like, Tanya some bad news and

(01:05:45):
I had to break it to her and it was
really sad. Yeah, it was really sad because I'm in
a fragile state right now. Yeah, And and that crushed me.
Yeah it wasn't. But anyways, a really cute idea if
you want to make someone say you didn't misread Becca
as Becky like Becca and made scent from them. I'm like,

(01:06:10):
that's what I'm saying. I'm like, we can't, like, we
can't even air this because it is so weird. It's
so good. It's just so good, danielso just fun to
talk about. I mean, I don't know, I've getting that
call was heartbreaking. Giving that call was heartbreaking, believe me.

(01:06:33):
But then oh, and then I was like, maybe this
is from her friend Becca that she met in Santa Barbara.
I thought that too. I thought it was Becca the
Dula too, but then I was like, and then I
was reading some of the notes and I was like, well,
this is personal if they just met whenever they met
like this, it was intense for Becca the Dulah. I
thought at first it might have been the Doulah, and
then I saw how many of their were else, like,

(01:06:54):
there's no way this is the Duelah. I met her
like two months ago. Yeah, this is years of friendship
right here. No. Still, no, There was one though, there
was one that said something about like, um, share more giggles,
and I was like, giggles. Giggles wasn't interesting word, never

(01:07:16):
the same. I was getting creative, but it's like, oh,
you know, there's probably a hundred in here. She probably
got tired. Yeah, the Giggles. I was like, that seems weird.
I'll never forget. I mean, my stomach dropped when she
sent me that text and I saw that box and
she was like, I'm so emotional. It was like me too,
for different reasons, because I didn't send that. Um Basically,

(01:07:39):
now I'm heartbroken and sad, but I have some beautiful
flowers from back. I did bring flowers, though, so I
felt like I felt like the notes really overshadowed my
flower gesture. But yeah, I mean, I'm not gonna lie.
This card compared to the box I got, is like,

(01:08:00):
I don't know it's gonna gonna stepping up. Becca, better
shape up because I need the best friend. What sit on? You?
Better shape up because I'm honestly not read that books
again because it's so true. Nothing love from but love

(01:08:24):
from me to you. You're the one that I wanted.
You are the best friend. Oh Becky, beck you really
showed up, minus the Giggles one, but honestly all arrest
of them. Spot on the Giggles was the only thing
that how did you kind of tilt in your head

(01:08:44):
a little bit. Yeah, well, not known. So this day
has been a journey. You know. It's peaks and valleys.
Sometimes sometimes you hit a peak in a valley in
a month. Sometimes you can hit him when ittes in
an hour. Yeah, I was gonna say span of an
hour in a peaky valley twenty four hours. I'm hoping

(01:09:04):
tonight you'll get some rest and feel better. Tomorrow it's
gonna be a peak. Yeah. After Derek and Meredith and
the satisfier. Um, all right, we love you all as always.
Have a great week. Um. Can't wait to see if
any of our theories come true this week. Thursday night
for Grace, Friday night maybe Taylor Swift music, I don't know. Um,

(01:09:27):
Haley Kiyoko has a new single coming out and it
is a bopa. You gotta sneak listen. Of course I did.
Connections is not funny? Oh connected? Oh my, just sit
my shin so hard. Um, all right on that note,

(01:09:48):
but just be kind. My sweatshirt says, just be kind,
Paula my lead. Send your friends all right, We'll see
you next week and we love you all. Love you mine,

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m