July 24, 2025 • 36 mins
We’re back to share some near-expert advice in another round of Dear Banya!
How can you rescue someone from the friendzone?? Can it be done??
We help a bride who is struggling with “acting bridal” and we have some summer book recs!
Plus, find out why “Daylight” might be Becca and Hayley’s engagement song and “Daisies” by Justin Bieber is the soundtrack to something Tanya and Roby should be doing in private.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing In with Becka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast Hello everyone.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
We are scrubbing in. No, it was like living living.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
How you doing doing great? How are you doing doing great?
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Thank you so much? So Okay, do you remember how
on the podcast you asked me my favorite Taylor Swift
song to describe where I'm at right now or like
our relationship, my relationship with Haley. It was after that.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
It was the yeah, yeah, yeah, I think it was
a Facebook question.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
Yeah, yeah, oh and I said daylight.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
M So there's this said we are in love? Yeah,
you are in love?
Speaker 2 (00:50):
And so there's this trend on TikTok where you just
pick a picture and then TikTok chooses the sound, so
you don't it just automatically chooses it. And I did
a picture of me and Haley to choose daylight.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
No way, can you do me?
Speaker 3 (01:04):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (01:05):
You let me see what it is. Yeah, do you
have a picture you want me to choose?
Speaker 1 (01:08):
Sure? Maybe our wedding or the one from from me
and Robbie.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
I was thinking one of the two of you might
be interesting to see what comes up.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
That would be Mark, you're a real thinker. One from
the podcast.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Use this one, Becca, use this one, and then which
one I'm sending you to you right now? And then
use wait this one.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
I literally was going to use that I have three
times in my phone because you sent it Robbie sent
it the photo's birthday Whoopsie.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
And then use that picture I sent you me and Robbie,
the one.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
Where you're licking him.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Yes, okay, I think it's gonna be a nice little
Oh I'm sorry, I didn't really just sent the other one,
meant the licking one this, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
I was like, okay, come on, okay, so this is
I'm going to do the one of me and you first,
and then so you pick as you just pick it,
and then it looks like.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
You're trying to get something out from in between his
teeth with your tongue.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
You know what, I would help anybody out.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Okay, So here's let's see what it picks.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Okay, Oh my gosh. Some people are just good people
and you can just feel it.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
And I don't know how to explain that, but there's
like this little sark they have in their monologue with
everyone just you feel safe and happy.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
Some people.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Wow, that's really cute it is.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
Do we know what that's from or anything?
Speaker 2 (02:32):
I think it's an Emma Chamberlain podcast. Oh sure, and
they've added some music over it.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Perfect. I feel like we lost our People's Choice Award
to her in twenty twenty. So that's really opera po popo.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
But you guys are giving off podcast vibes, which is interesting. Yeah, uh, okay,
here's licking him, yeah, Robbie. This is Robbie Tanya licking
Robbie's mouth.
Speaker 4 (02:58):
Time.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
I thought it was butterflies. Way you down in my head?
Speaker 3 (03:07):
What do you think daisies Daisy's beaver?
Speaker 1 (03:10):
I mean it's very viral right now, so I'll take it.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
Okay, good.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
I figured it would be something a little more like
the reason I picked that photo because raunchy. Yeah you
don't keeping it classy?
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Yeah yeah, they're classy that way.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
So yeah, that was exciting.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Well that was fun. Yeah yeah yeah, I love to
see it. Do you know what trend I want to try?
And I've been wanting to try for a week now.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Oh yes, my name is Pink, and I'm really nice
to know.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
I don't understand that one I woke up into a
new boogotty.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Oh yeah, I've intel done it, just like not a
lot of time. Oh, it should be pretty fast.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Yeah, I know we're not. Yeah, I know. I know.
You're right. It should be fast. I've been wanting to
do it for like a week.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Yeah. Just make sure you don't do it on carpet.
Do it on like wood, yeah, hardwood.
Speaker 5 (04:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
Yeah, I've seen some people tend to do it on carpet,
and I'm like, well, that's gonna be tough. Yeah. We
do have a dear Bonia episode today, so we should
jump right in.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Let's jump right in. Anonymous says, do I want to
date a friend that I friend zoned? No. I have
a guy friend of ten plus years, let's call him Brad,
who has always had a crush on me, and I've
always friend zoned him. However, he's exactly what I'm looking for.
He's cute, he's tall, he's the kindest person ever. He's funny,
he's smart. Faith is important to him. He has the
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best family and really good friends. When I go on dates,
I usually say, well, why would I date this random
guy when I could date Brad. He's a little meek
and doesn't have the most swag, which is what I
think is missing, and maybe the tingles. But if we
ended up together, I think I'd be like, Wow, I
have the best husband ever. I tend to want what
(05:00):
I can't have, and I feel like you're dating as
entertainment sometimes even though legitimately want a husband and family.
Do I give Brad a chance? Can he break out
of the friend zone? And if so, how or is
this a lost cause? Love you guys?
Speaker 2 (05:13):
You have Brad a chance?
Speaker 1 (05:15):
I think so, I say, no, why why the tingles?
Speaker 2 (05:19):
I think the the tingles can come?
Speaker 3 (05:22):
Can you earn the tingles?
Speaker 1 (05:24):
You can't earn the tingles? The tingles either tingle or
they don't.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
No, because you might see someone as a friend. For
I have someone who just had a friend for a
long time and then they started dating and she got
the dingles?
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Are you sure?
Speaker 3 (05:37):
Arry?
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Let's text her.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
And ask I don't need to text.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Because I think sometimes some people just settle. They're like, oh,
I'm waiting, like it's like, oh, we had a slow burn.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
But I'm like, my thing is give Brad a chance,
go on dates, open up a romantic relationship, and if
the tingles don't develop, then you tried. I don't see
the next She's.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Lost her friend Brad and also probably tortured him in
the process because he's into her her and now she's
giving him hope and then it doesn't come through and
he could be devastated by this.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
You'll say, I have I know we've only seen each
other as a friend, but I think you're amazing and
you have all the qualities I'm looking for in someone,
and I want to see if we can get out
of a friendship. And I don't. I don't want it
to forever. Here's the thing, Brad is gonna be around.
It sounds like Brad's gonna be in her life. So
maybe they have a chance. Maybe it's awkward for a
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little bit, but they'll get back to it.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
How about just kiss him, kiss him and see what happens.
Like you go out, you hang out, you go to
a movie, whatever you do, You go get dinner, and
then you go back to your place and you have
some wine or whatever. Just kiss him and see what happens.
Because maybe the tingles are just they're just being a
little bit. They're hiding right now. The tingles are there.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
The tingles come with kissing.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Yeah, how do you have tingles if you're not kissing
or like doing something physical.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Leg Grays can do it, I know.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
But it sounds like they're strictly friends, so I don't
think they've done anything very What does that mean to
the tingles? It's very little. For compare yourself on.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
The upper thigh. I can bring them, but they're not
doing that tight hug.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Yeah, they're not. My god, I think you kiss Brad
and I think you tight hug.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
And you can steal things. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
Well, okay, yes, but you do see more sensitive to
tingles than most people. They're a little bit repressed her tingles.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
Yes, yes, and especially around Brad because Brad has just
been a friend for tener, so she's there's no newness
to Brad in terms of just seeing him or hanging
out with him, but kissing him will bring newness.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
And maybe he's a great kisser. And then maybe he
goes to the bedroom and he's graded other things too,
and maybe he's got what.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Do you think he's good at?
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Maybe he's got swag in the.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Bedroom, like he can bake a cake, if you know
what I mean.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
She's hiding, sir, She's hiding her tingles, he's hiding his
swag and they're going to come together in beautiful way.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Yeah, I give him a chance. See where what if
not you? Who? Honestly, if not you, it's going to
be someone else and you're always going.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
To go, oh, he's such a friend.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
That a chance.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
She's got the best husband ever?
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Yes, and then you might do it? What if Brad's
like I thought I liked you, but I don't get
the tingles as possible. I mean, I'm just saying, got
to give it a chance.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
To give it a chance, and I really want to
know what happens with this one.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Yeah, please update us with Brad and good luck.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Give Brad.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Brad deserves it all right.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
Here's another anonymous Hi Mark, Tanya Easton and Becca ooh Becca, sorry, last,
it's not last. Where. I've been friends with someone for
six years and she started dating her current boyfriend about
six months ago. A mutual friend told me that not
only does her boyfriend use hard drugs, but she started
using them to Before this relationship. The most she ever
did was occasionally smoke weed. Alcoholism runs in her family,
(09:05):
and her boyfriend is a bartender who drinks a lot,
especially around her which she needs to be encouraging her
or drink more often. Now she drinks almost every day,
and it's become her go to anytime she's even a
little stressed. I'm not sure how to talk to her
about all of this. I can't tell her I know
about the drug use because she's been hiding it. I
wasn't supposed to find out. But I'm really concerned about
the relationship, the drinking, the family history. Any advice on
(09:27):
how to approach the conversation. We mean a lot. I
love the podcast. Everything you post brings me happiness.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
This is hard because you have to approach this in
a way that's not going to make her distance herself
from you, because I think that she seems to still
you still have a friendship with her. But I think
maybe you just approach it as in, I'm here for you.
I can't tell if I don't know if something's going on,
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but I'm here for you if you ever want to talk.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
I know. Stuff like this is really hard because it's
like you can't tell someone what to do. You can't
tell them like.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
The person they're dating is a bad influence.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Yeah, you can't remind them of the alcoholism and you
know what I mean, Like I feel I mean, you
can do all those things, but I just feel like
it's going to push her into more.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Of a whole you know what I mean with him?
Speaker 1 (10:21):
No, yeah, right, Like she's going to start pushing you
out as the friend. So I feel like you have
to be really careful about these things because but you
have the best intentions, you know, like you just want
your friend to be healthy. So I honestly don't even know.
I don't even know what you do.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
I almost wonder if you to say, hey, I've noticed
that you've been more stressed a little more anxious lately,
and I just want you to know that I'm here
for you if you ever want to talk, like, no judgment,
I don't know what's going on, but I love you
and I'm here because unfortunately, when people get into a
relationship like this, he's probably telling her, like he if
(11:04):
you tried to approach her and say, you know, confront
her about what's going on, he'd probably go she just
is trying to tear us apart and she doesn't like me,
and you know, try to make it seem like he's
the victim. And I think you you seem like a
good friend, and I think that she's going to need
you eventually, So I think you just set it up
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to where you're there for her and approaches in I
I know something. I can tell something's going on. You've
seemed a little off. If you want to talk about it,
I'm here.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
I think that's all you can do, right Otherwise you
just going to push her away.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Into him what you don't want.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
No, I'm sorry. Yeah, Yeah, Jessica, I'm a scrub a
dub dub from Spooner Wisconsin, Hey, Spooner way North like
darn near Canada or Minnesota, dare Hey. I fell in
love with backup from The Bachelor, Ben's and full in
(12:00):
love with Tanya on the Morning Show when she was
in the background of Demi's heart attack video. Wow, gosh,
I remember that day so clearly. The song had just
come out and you knew all the lyrics and Demi
was so impressed that you knew all the lyrics and
she was like singing it with you through the glass.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
Yeah, that was epic.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
That was epic. That was a long time ago.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
I also foun in love with Mark and Easton from
day one and listening to other podcasts. Background on me.
I'm thirty four, I'm single, having only recently gone on
one of my first few dates ever. I moved to
Wisconsin from Chicago because I wanted some change in my
life and to be closer to family. Since moving to
Wisconsin in October, I would have to say I'm happy
and I've been on four dates with different guys. Guy
one ended up being a huge player, Guy too genuinely
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think he's gay. Guy three we did it for a
couple of months. I lost my virginity with him. He
ended up being possessive and a huge liar. Guy four
just didn't work out. Part of me is saying these
experiences are making me grow and learn, But another part
of me is the scourage that I will never find
my ninety five P. I read Starbirs, my Amy or
my Allison. Do you guys have any advice? Thank you
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so much and love you so much.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Girl.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Guy four, I mean I went through like Guy forty four.
So you're just starting, Jessica. Don't feel discouraged yet, because
you've got you might have got some some triple quadruple
that number before you find your ninety five P.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
Right, Well, I think I think that's the thing. I
think it's different for everybody. Like, if you have listened
to the podcast from the beginning, you've heard Tanya go
through many of the types of men that she stated.
My experience was different because I was very just it'll
come when it comes, and you know, Haley was very
much a surprise for me. So I think that getting
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just you can't let yourself get discouraged because it is true,
like you are learning you're literally just listic qualities that
you don't want in someone, and that's what you're learning
as you're meeting these people. Yeah, Fortunately, it's like painful
and it's like, oh, why am I even trying? I
remember Tellanya having one of those moments of just like
(14:08):
why bother?
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Yeah, but at.
Speaker 4 (14:11):
Some point you're gonna meet what it's just exhausting, Like
I just think you get to points, and you'll maybe
get to many, many more points where it's just exhausting.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
Dating can be exhausting. Dating the wrong guys can be exhausting,
but it's a means to an end. So it might
be four more guys, it might be ten more guys.
It might be guy number five. For you, it might
be guy number fifty you just don't know and you
just have to like you literally just have to keep
going until you find it.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
But I also think you have to be in the
right head Like I feel like I would have to
be in the right headspace to even want to go
on date to meet No.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
You don't really need to, that's just an old wives tale.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
I feel like you were in a good headspace when
you met Robbie, like you were like ready to find someone.
But I think you went through something is where you're
just gonna like I'm so tired of doing this song
and dance.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
Yeah, I'm just going through the motions. Yeah, but it
just keeps them coming, come and go, they come and go, next, next, next.
Speaker 3 (15:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
I think if you're not like draining yourself going on
dates with people, I say, just go, like, yeah, you're
gonna meet people that you really like their qualities. You're
gonna meet people where you're just like exhausted by their
qualities and some might just be neutral.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
And don't be discouraged because I promise you, once you
do find that person, all of it is worthwhile. Like
the happiness that I have found in Robbie is worth
all the crying, the tears, the confusion, the whatever it
was that I was feeling.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
The misters, the doctors, the on the face, the.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
Signors, yeah, you name it. He was worth it.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
Yeah, So I would just throw this in there. I've
never I don't think I've been to Spooner, Wisconsin, but
there's like two thousand people in Spooner, Wisconsin. I'm a
little concerned that your pool is a little shallow. Yeah, Chicago,
that pools intimidatingly deep. I'm wondering if there's a happy medium,
like I don't know, Duluth, where there are more guys
to choose from, because I gotta believe that in Spooner
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it's not a lot of guys, and there's certain kind
of guys. So I don't know. Maybe I'm generalizing about Spooner, Wisconsin,
but small town Wisconsin's not a great place to meet
guys in my opinion.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
Small town in general is tough. You know, you might
need to head to the big city.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
Or at least a bigger city, or just open your
dating up mile range.
Speaker 3 (16:30):
Yes, at least a Hayward.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
But we're rooting for you, Yes we are, and we
need updates.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
We do need.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
Updates, and we love Updates. Next, we have someone who
doesn't want to act a bridle on their wedding day.
Speaker 3 (16:44):
But this is interesting.
Speaker 5 (16:50):
Oh crash, all right, we're back, Mark, take it away.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
This is Alison. She says, Hi beca Tanya Mark and Easton.
I am getting married in less than a month. I'm
excited to marry my fiance. We've been together six years
and he's one of the best people I know. Even
though I'm excited, I'm also nervous and anxious about the
wedding day. I'm thirty three, and I feel embarrassed to
act super bridal I'm too old, and everyone else has
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already had this moment and they've moved on to having
babies and buying homes. I keep trying to tell myself
to enjoy the moment and don't live by everyone else's timeline,
but I can't help it feel a little silly, and
I fear it's going to ruin my day because I
won't be able to just relax and enjoy the moment
with my fiance. Any advice, thank you.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
What does acting bridle mean being brided?
Speaker 2 (17:48):
Yeah, excited about being bright.
Speaker 3 (17:50):
I like a princess on that day. You're like the
center of attention. You know, you're like the star of
the show.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
Yeah, but I'm confused why you don't want to do
that because you feel silly that you're thirty three. Yes,
I did it at thirty seven, and I could not
have done it been more bridal. No, No, I because
it's the first time for you. It doesn't matter if
you didn't do it at twenty five. Who cares. I'm
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glad I didn't do it twenty five because my wedding
is exactly the way that I wanted it to be.
And I think had I gotten married at twenty seven
versus thirty seven, my wedding would have been way different
and not for the better.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
I hope that you have people around you who make
you feel excited for this, because I think sometimes if
we surround ourselves with people who make things that should
be exciting feel silly, it dims the freedom to get
to fully enjoy moments. You know, when people downplay moments.
So I hope that all of your friends are ready
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to celebrate you, and regardless of if they're if they
have kids, if they've been married for ten years, whatever
the reason, this is your day. Like they're all coming
to celebrate you, and you need to let yourself celebrate
yourself and be the most bridal version of you that's
ever been because when not, if not they've not at
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your wedding, when else will you ever be bred?
Speaker 1 (19:15):
But also it's like do what you want? Do you
know what I mean? Like, don't do stuff.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
If you don't have to perform it.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
Yeah, you don't perform. But like like the for a honeymoon,
I was like, why don't we get like the just married,
you know, sweatshirts or like whatever, And Robbie was like, well,
because we're not. We weren't. We're not just married, like
we've got married three months ago. And I'm like, I
don't care. I like it's I ended up thinking about
it too late and it was just I couldn't turn
it around in time. But like, let yourself be silly,
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let yourself do all the things like who cares?
Speaker 2 (19:44):
Yeah, I would say, I know, and I get it.
There's a social media thing too, where you compare yourself
to like what other people are doing at their weddings,
and if that's not you, you go, wait, should I
be doing that? Should I be like wanting to do
these things? As the bride, you don't have to do anything.
But also if you want to act a certain way,
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or you want to do certain things, or you want
to take certain pictures as the bride, do it.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
Yeah. I remember everybody kept sending me like all these magazines, right,
like the top four trends for you know, twenty twenty
five brides, and like the top whatever trends for wedding
trends of the whatever, and I would literally just like
trash all of them because I'm like, I'm doing my wedding.
I don't care what's trending. Yes, like, I'm doing what
I want for my wedding, and don't worry.
Speaker 3 (20:31):
About what other people think. Like I feel like that's
running through this email. She's worried that the other people
at the wedding are going to be judging her, Like,
oh here comes to yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
Hello thirty three year old.
Speaker 3 (20:41):
Yeah I know, but but don't you can't worry about
what other people think. But also, like you said, I
like the advice don't do anything you're not comfortable with.
All you have to do is show up on that day,
walk down the aisle, kiss your husband, dance with your
dad at the reception.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
Yeah, Like fun.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
It's not you. You're not over the top with anything thing.
You're just doing it. Yeah, and you're gonna love it.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
Think of it as a big party with all your
favorite people that are coming to celebrate your.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
Love and they're ready to do that. They're not going
to be judging you. They love you.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
And get some new friend alert.
Speaker 3 (21:17):
Caitlin, this is relatable. How do I find motivation to
do anything? Dear Easton, Mark, Becca, and Tanya. This is
alphabetical by last name.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
Oh yeah, oh.
Speaker 3 (21:31):
Yeah, yeah, welcome to do then yeah ouch. I work
at a high school as a counselor, so I'm currently
on summer break.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
Yay.
Speaker 3 (21:40):
However, I am struggling to find motivation to do literally
almost anything on these long days at home. I've watched
two whole seasons of Below Deck in the last two weeks.
I've finished a couple of audio books just sitting in
my house. I should be doing dishes or cleaning, or
going on walks or something, but I'm just not motivated.
I know that you all work kind of non traditional
hour jobs, but especially beca, so I'm wondering, if you
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don't have something scheduled, how do you find the motivation
to do the menial tasks around your house.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
The gram on Beca's face right now is A speaking
their language?
Speaker 3 (22:10):
Or limit yourself on screen time or if you don't,
how do you give yourself the grace at the end
of the day to not feel like you've wasted the
day completely? Love you all so much, Thank you for
the work you do what really does matter.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
This is just funny because I go through these way,
like these feelings when I'm lazy of like, oh my gosh,
I need to be getting up and doing something, And
I'm like why, why, Like, what do I need to
do unless it's for myself? Why do I need If
I'm enjoying sitting here and watch binging a show, why
do I need to get up? If I feel like
I've had too much screen time, I'll go on a
(22:44):
long walk, I'll go on a hike, I'll take Phoebe
and do something. Or I'll put in my earphones and
like listen to a pod something that's like keeping me
distracted while I clean because I can't just do it
in silence. But I also think you're a school counselor
and do like some of the hardest work. I think
there is being like a teacher and working in schools
(23:04):
right now. So you have summer break for a reason
to decompress and do the things that you want to do.
If it's if it's making you feel bad just because
you want to do more, then try and make a schedule,
have something where you're like checking off a list.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
But I wish I had a little bit of this
in me because I feel like, and I think I
realize it's called sunshine guilt. Yeah, if there's sun shining outside,
which is a lot in California, Yeah, I don't feel
like I can be in my home like I feel guilty,
just like watching TV in my house on like a
Saturday afternoon, like I have to be outside, whether it's
(23:40):
like having lunch outside or like running errands outside. I
just feel like I need to be like doing stuff.
Like even yesterday, yesterday, whatever day, the day after my
birthday party, Rob and I were exhausted, and he was like, babe,
like come put your feet up, just relax, and like
I was just washing and putting stuff away and he's
(24:01):
like we'll do this all on Monday, like give yourself
the day like we've had a long weekend. Just like
put your feet up. I put my feet up and
I close my eyes and I was like, wow, this
feels good.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
Yeah, no, I don't. I don't have that. I think
about it and then I quickly shut my thoughts down of.
Speaker 3 (24:17):
Wow, respect, I can't do it. I cannot watch TV.
If the sun's out, I can't. I don't know what
that is.
Speaker 2 (24:23):
But the thing is is like if the sun's out
and you want to be I think that's beautiful. I
think seizing the day and like doing enjoying it. But
I also think if you're if you're like I just
want to stay in and binge a show, I think
that's okay too. I don't think there. I do think
screen time can bring you down, Like I think if
you're constantly looking at your phone or like seeing news
(24:44):
and stuff, and like especially the rains of emotion, range
of emotions that social media causes. I think sometimes you
need to just go out and like be in nature
and like touch grass. But I've really noticed when we
were in Spain, nothing opens or starts to because people
are sleeping and just like resting and have their mornings
and then they just go do their thing all day.
(25:06):
But there's no like pressure around like hustle culture like
there is here in the United States, and I really
noticed it, and I feel like I should maybe live
in Spain because it really felt like my pace. But
it made me realize, like we prioritize like going and
doing so much here that like we do kind of
forget to just like it's okay to let your body
just rest and you're in summer break and that's why
(25:28):
it's called that, So do what you want. And also
if you don't feel healthy and your like mental state
isn't good, then go feel the sunshine. I don't know
where you live, but go buy some water, Go get
in the pool somewhere. Go get a resort pass and
go to the nice hotel and be outside. You know,
read a book. Sometimes just reading a book is nice.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
What it helps me is a schedule. And when I
was there was a stretch when I was unemployed and
I needed a schedule. Even though I had nothing to
do all day, I was from this time to this time,
I'm gonna I get to watch TV in this time
to this time. Then I'm gonna go for a hike,
then I get to do this. Then at lunch, then I'm
gonna do it. Then I'm gonna I'm gonna exercise from
this time and this time. I'm gonna read from this
time to this time, and that helps me so much.
(26:06):
And yeah, at the end of the day, I still
sometimes feel like I didn't do anything today, but the
schedule helps me throughout the day not feel like I'm
just a blob.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
Yeah, but here's the thing. When school starts back up,
you're gonna be going. I have no regrets for resting.
Speaker 3 (26:20):
And what I've earned this summer. Yeah, sure, we have
one more, but before that, there are some products and
services that you need to know.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
My gosh, please listen. All right, we are back with
(26:53):
an email from Tara.
Speaker 3 (26:55):
Tara could be Tara, could be Tara, I don't know,
but we're gonna read it. Hello, Scrubbing and fam Becca, Tanya, Mark,
and Easton. I'm a long time listener and I really
enjoy listening to you all banter about everything, like Tanya.
I'm a super fan of Traders and a bunch of
reality TV like Beca. It takes me a minute to
jump on board some of the shows. I enjoy listening
(27:15):
to the feedback and sometimes join the conversation as I'm
driving I love that. I love the idea that scrubbers
are in their car going good one. Tanya, you know
that sort of thing. I love that because I do
that sometimes, not with us but other shows. Anyway. I
have also loved hearing book recommendations in the past, and
wonder what books you have read this year or are
planning to read. I am trying to read the summer
(27:36):
I turn pretty, but oof, I feel as if all
belly does is wine. Becka, did you feel that way
when you read the book? For context? I'm forty eight.
My two kids are twenty six and twenty five, so
that could be why. Wow, you guys started early and
finished early. Anyway, Love you all so much. Thank you
for entertaining me when I bop around Cincinnati, Ohio running errands.
You really do bright in my days. Your friend Tara
(27:59):
and the Queen the City.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
Wow, I'm gonna tap out of this one because I
don't really read much. No so No, the book I'm
reading I took. I took a book on her honeymoon.
Maybe read like two pages.
Speaker 3 (28:10):
Well, you're a nonfiction type anyway, you always.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
Read My book was I think it's called like Limitless
and it was like all about.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
Yeah, the book I'm currently reading is Atmosphere by Taylor Drinkins,
read because she also wrote Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo,
which literally changed my life. And so that's what I'm
currently reading. And everyone who's read it said it competes
with that book. So I'm just getting into it. But
I've read really good reviews. I still feel like, if
(28:39):
you haven't read the Housemaid series, oh yeah, I feel
like that's a really good one. All her books they
are because of you. Yeah, the movie is being made.
Speaker 3 (28:49):
I think, yes, interesting casting.
Speaker 2 (28:51):
I thought, well, Amanda Seiffer, it's great.
Speaker 3 (28:54):
Always great, but she's like the Dowdy Older. Yeah mom,
which I thought was interesting. Sidney Sweeney, Oh.
Speaker 2 (29:02):
Yeah, really good in my opinion.
Speaker 3 (29:04):
I mean both great. I have a hard time picturing
the mom and that I pictured my head is not
Amanda Cipher. It as much as I love her, same.
Speaker 1 (29:11):
But give me, give me a we did it?
Speaker 2 (29:14):
Elizabeth what's her name from Handmaid's Tale?
Speaker 3 (29:17):
Oh Moss.
Speaker 2 (29:17):
Yeah, that's literally who I pictured as the wife. But yeah,
I'm excited for the movie and I I'm trying to
think if I've read anything before, then I'm kind of
in a self help I try to do like, if
I'm going to read, I try to do self help
books during the day or in the morning, and then
if I'm going to read it at night, I do
(29:38):
fiction because it like puts me asleep.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
Everything puts me asleep. Literally, anything puts me to sleep.
I cannot read a book sitting down or I will
be asleep.
Speaker 2 (29:49):
I started the Summer I Turned Pretty, and I think
I got through the first half of the book. I
don't even think I finished it because I couldn't. I
wasn't like super into it, and maybe that it's like
a I felt very disconnected from the youth, and I
was like, oh, this is cute, but like I just
since this the show made me like want to have
(30:09):
a summer fling with like the the you know our
best my mom's best friend's son, you know, like it
gives us like false sense of utopia as a kid.
But beyond that, I just don't really resonate with it.
It's just cute and good music.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
Right, I'm gonna suggest the four Agreements.
Speaker 2 (30:29):
That's not quick, that's very deep.
Speaker 3 (30:32):
Don't read that.
Speaker 1 (30:33):
This is Tanya's read for you.
Speaker 3 (30:38):
Go ahead, you give us a self help books that
everyone should read.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
The Four Agreements, What's the bridge one that I feel
like Untethered Soul?
Speaker 5 (30:48):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (30:48):
I started that.
Speaker 1 (30:51):
Hold on, what's the books?
Speaker 6 (30:53):
Apple's books, Very Body Mark, Come on Girls, Girls Like
Girls by One.
Speaker 2 (31:07):
Actually, my aunt called me yesterday and she was like,
I sat down and read Haley's book yesterday and finished
it all in a sitting. I was like, there you
go a testimonial.
Speaker 1 (31:18):
I think it's the Untethered Soul. I'm just trying to
google it something.
Speaker 3 (31:22):
While you google. My wife is currently reading Don't Let
Him In by Lisa Jewel and she is loving it.
So I recommend Don't Let Him In by Lisa Jewel.
And I just finished Listen for The Lie. Did we
talk about that on this show? I don't remember. Listen
for The Lie by Amy Tintera. It's great because, uh,
it's about there's it's about a podcast about a murder
(31:45):
that takes place, and it alternates in the building kind
of one chapter is the podcast, and then the next
chapter is the woman who is actually the suspect in
the killing and her story, and then it goes back
and forth the podcast piecing together the evidence and the
woman living her life and going back to her hometown
where the actual killing happened and help people react to
(32:05):
her and stuff. It's great. The audiobook is even better
because the podcast portions really sound like a podcast, and
you almost forget it's not a real podcast and it's
all fiction. Yeah, it's incredibly well made. And I read
the book, my wife listened to the audiobook. We both
loved it. So you're you're good either way, you know.
And I also loved Hail Mary, which is the new
(32:27):
movie coming out with Ryan Gosling about an astronaut. Maybe
not everyone's speed about that Hail marytt project. Hill Mary
was really really good.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
Back to you, Tanya, It's called The Untethered Soul.
Speaker 3 (32:36):
That's it.
Speaker 7 (32:36):
In order to recommend, Nope, some of the Shine Mine
that's that's a good devotional. Sunshine a nice little daily
devotional for your.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
The courage to be disliked, that's good, a good self
help for people pleasers. Yeah, those would be the ones
that I'd say. I have a original script of Heley's
upcoming book where There's Room for Us, but I can't
share that yet. Wow, it's a little bit about that.
Speaker 3 (33:08):
So impressed. Writing a book is so impressive. Yeah, same, Tanya.
I don't mean to take because what you did with
your book is very impressive.
Speaker 1 (33:15):
I know, but even mine was like bite size, right.
Speaker 3 (33:17):
The idea of a three hundred page narrative with characters
and subplots and all that stuff and all the dialogue,
I can't even imagine doing that.
Speaker 2 (33:26):
She let me tell you, she has what did you
call it? Sunshine guilt?
Speaker 1 (33:30):
Sunshine gill.
Speaker 2 (33:31):
Yeah, she doesn't rest, she doesn't sleep, like.
Speaker 1 (33:35):
Okay, over there by the way, sorry, hand a little
too caffeinated over there? That sellsia.
Speaker 2 (33:42):
No, no, no, my hands are shaking.
Speaker 3 (33:45):
Yes, well, you're very into her hands lately. What's going on?
Speaker 2 (33:48):
Because of the kind of weird it's like a maybe
you have a hand fetish.
Speaker 1 (33:51):
Maybe you do only only hands?
Speaker 2 (33:55):
Yeah, only are you like like someone's biggest only hands.
Speaker 3 (33:59):
I'm just saying I think Haley might be brilliant.
Speaker 2 (34:04):
She's she has a different brain than I.
Speaker 3 (34:07):
Yeah, to write music and to write books, I care
either one, and to direct she might be brilliant.
Speaker 2 (34:18):
But she does fall asleep playing wordle every night. Like
we'll get through Wordle and then we'll be on connection.
She's like, I'm all, let's at least get to the
mini cross words.
Speaker 3 (34:29):
How about the one the other day at the beginning
of the Ninja Turtles, Did you do that one?
Speaker 2 (34:33):
I was like, oh man, no, I haven't got I'm
behind all my connections, but I'll.
Speaker 3 (34:39):
Be for that one alright.
Speaker 2 (34:41):
Sometimes I'm like this is crazy.
Speaker 3 (34:44):
There's crazy topics. Sometimes I know.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
And I'm like, they're normally the crazy ones are my
default for like I've gotten the other three things, and
then like the last ones, I'm like, how do these
connect You get it?
Speaker 3 (34:55):
By default? Is not a New York Times.
Speaker 2 (34:58):
Who that would be fun for you and Robbie to
do together.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
Not about that? Oh yeah, he does wordle by himself.
He does oh everything. I make fun of him as well.
Speaker 2 (35:11):
Does he do connections and many crosswords?
Speaker 1 (35:13):
I don't know if he knows about that. You should
never have seen him do that.
Speaker 2 (35:17):
Connections is so fun. I love it, Okay, Yeah, so
it just stretches your mind to think bigger than.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
How do I need that one? I love Island on
my I know exactly.
Speaker 2 (35:28):
I always feel better after watching reality TV of going.
Speaker 1 (35:33):
Something like that. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (35:35):
Also, we started watching basically like it's called Making the
Band or something.
Speaker 1 (35:41):
Oh the one with the aj Yes and Liam Payne,
the late Lam Pain right right right, Yeah, it's really good.
Speaker 5 (35:48):
It is.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
It's like Love is Blind a band. Yeah yeah, it's
really cool and there's some like amazing singers on there.
Oh yeah, so that's a little bit about us. But Tara,
I hope that Tara, Tara, I hope that we gave
me some good back. I think she probably has read
all the ones we listed.
Speaker 3 (36:09):
Maybe if not, we can only do what we can do.
Speaker 2 (36:14):
That was a big yawn lost her. You know what
you gotta say, it's.
Speaker 3 (36:18):
Been a long week.
Speaker 1 (36:20):
Mama's gotta no.
Speaker 5 (36:23):
Like.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
We love you so much, love you
Scrubbing In with Becka Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio
and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast Hello everyone.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
We are scrubbing in. No, it was like living living.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
How you doing doing great? How are you doing doing great?
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Thank you so much? So Okay, do you remember how
on the podcast you asked me my favorite Taylor Swift
song to describe where I'm at right now or like
our relationship, my relationship with Haley. It was after that.
Speaker 3 (00:40):
It was the yeah, yeah, yeah, I think it was
a Facebook question.
Speaker 2 (00:43):
Yeah, yeah, oh and I said daylight.
Speaker 1 (00:45):
M So there's this said we are in love? Yeah,
you are in love?
Speaker 2 (00:50):
And so there's this trend on TikTok where you just
pick a picture and then TikTok chooses the sound, so
you don't it just automatically chooses it. And I did
a picture of me and Haley to choose daylight.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
No way, can you do me?
Speaker 3 (01:04):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (01:05):
You let me see what it is. Yeah, do you
have a picture you want me to choose?
Speaker 1 (01:08):
Sure? Maybe our wedding or the one from from me
and Robbie.
Speaker 3 (01:11):
I was thinking one of the two of you might
be interesting to see what comes up.
Speaker 2 (01:15):
That would be Mark, you're a real thinker. One from
the podcast.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Use this one, Becca, use this one, and then which
one I'm sending you to you right now? And then
use wait this one.
Speaker 2 (01:30):
I literally was going to use that I have three
times in my phone because you sent it Robbie sent
it the photo's birthday Whoopsie.
Speaker 1 (01:39):
And then use that picture I sent you me and Robbie,
the one.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
Where you're licking him.
Speaker 1 (01:43):
Yes, okay, I think it's gonna be a nice little
Oh I'm sorry, I didn't really just sent the other one,
meant the licking one this, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (01:50):
I was like, okay, come on, okay, so this is
I'm going to do the one of me and you first,
and then so you pick as you just pick it,
and then it looks like.
Speaker 3 (02:02):
You're trying to get something out from in between his
teeth with your tongue.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
You know what, I would help anybody out.
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Okay, So here's let's see what it picks.
Speaker 3 (02:12):
Okay, Oh my gosh. Some people are just good people
and you can just feel it.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
And I don't know how to explain that, but there's
like this little sark they have in their monologue with
everyone just you feel safe and happy.
Speaker 3 (02:27):
Some people.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Wow, that's really cute it is.
Speaker 3 (02:30):
Do we know what that's from or anything?
Speaker 2 (02:32):
I think it's an Emma Chamberlain podcast. Oh sure, and
they've added some music over it.
Speaker 1 (02:38):
Perfect. I feel like we lost our People's Choice Award
to her in twenty twenty. So that's really opera po popo.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
But you guys are giving off podcast vibes, which is interesting. Yeah, uh, okay,
here's licking him, yeah, Robbie. This is Robbie Tanya licking
Robbie's mouth.
Speaker 4 (02:58):
Time.
Speaker 1 (03:02):
I thought it was butterflies. Way you down in my head?
Speaker 3 (03:07):
What do you think daisies Daisy's beaver?
Speaker 1 (03:10):
I mean it's very viral right now, so I'll take it.
Speaker 3 (03:12):
Okay, good.
Speaker 1 (03:17):
I figured it would be something a little more like
the reason I picked that photo because raunchy. Yeah you
don't keeping it classy?
Speaker 2 (03:26):
Yeah yeah, they're classy that way.
Speaker 1 (03:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:29):
So yeah, that was exciting.
Speaker 1 (03:30):
Well that was fun. Yeah yeah yeah, I love to
see it. Do you know what trend I want to try?
And I've been wanting to try for a week now.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
Oh yes, my name is Pink, and I'm really nice
to know.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
I don't understand that one I woke up into a
new boogotty.
Speaker 2 (03:49):
Oh yeah, I've intel done it, just like not a
lot of time. Oh, it should be pretty fast.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Yeah, I know we're not. Yeah, I know. I know.
You're right. It should be fast. I've been wanting to
do it for like a week.
Speaker 2 (04:03):
Yeah. Just make sure you don't do it on carpet.
Do it on like wood, yeah, hardwood.
Speaker 5 (04:08):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (04:08):
Yeah, I've seen some people tend to do it on carpet,
and I'm like, well, that's gonna be tough. Yeah. We
do have a dear Bonia episode today, so we should
jump right in.
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Let's jump right in. Anonymous says, do I want to
date a friend that I friend zoned? No. I have
a guy friend of ten plus years, let's call him Brad,
who has always had a crush on me, and I've
always friend zoned him. However, he's exactly what I'm looking for.
He's cute, he's tall, he's the kindest person ever. He's funny,
he's smart. Faith is important to him. He has the
(04:39):
best family and really good friends. When I go on dates,
I usually say, well, why would I date this random
guy when I could date Brad. He's a little meek
and doesn't have the most swag, which is what I
think is missing, and maybe the tingles. But if we
ended up together, I think I'd be like, Wow, I
have the best husband ever. I tend to want what
(05:00):
I can't have, and I feel like you're dating as
entertainment sometimes even though legitimately want a husband and family.
Do I give Brad a chance? Can he break out
of the friend zone? And if so, how or is
this a lost cause? Love you guys?
Speaker 2 (05:13):
You have Brad a chance?
Speaker 1 (05:15):
I think so, I say, no, why why the tingles?
Speaker 2 (05:19):
I think the the tingles can come?
Speaker 3 (05:22):
Can you earn the tingles?
Speaker 1 (05:24):
You can't earn the tingles? The tingles either tingle or
they don't.
Speaker 2 (05:28):
No, because you might see someone as a friend. For
I have someone who just had a friend for a
long time and then they started dating and she got
the dingles?
Speaker 1 (05:36):
Are you sure?
Speaker 3 (05:37):
Arry?
Speaker 1 (05:38):
Let's text her.
Speaker 2 (05:38):
And ask I don't need to text.
Speaker 1 (05:40):
Because I think sometimes some people just settle. They're like, oh,
I'm waiting, like it's like, oh, we had a slow burn.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
But I'm like, my thing is give Brad a chance,
go on dates, open up a romantic relationship, and if
the tingles don't develop, then you tried. I don't see
the next She's.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Lost her friend Brad and also probably tortured him in
the process because he's into her her and now she's
giving him hope and then it doesn't come through and
he could be devastated by this.
Speaker 2 (06:04):
You'll say, I have I know we've only seen each
other as a friend, but I think you're amazing and
you have all the qualities I'm looking for in someone,
and I want to see if we can get out
of a friendship. And I don't. I don't want it
to forever. Here's the thing, Brad is gonna be around.
It sounds like Brad's gonna be in her life. So
maybe they have a chance. Maybe it's awkward for a
(06:26):
little bit, but they'll get back to it.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
How about just kiss him, kiss him and see what happens.
Like you go out, you hang out, you go to
a movie, whatever you do, You go get dinner, and
then you go back to your place and you have
some wine or whatever. Just kiss him and see what happens.
Because maybe the tingles are just they're just being a
little bit. They're hiding right now. The tingles are there.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
The tingles come with kissing.
Speaker 2 (06:47):
Yeah, how do you have tingles if you're not kissing
or like doing something physical.
Speaker 1 (06:53):
Leg Grays can do it, I know.
Speaker 2 (06:56):
But it sounds like they're strictly friends, so I don't
think they've done anything very What does that mean to
the tingles? It's very little. For compare yourself on.
Speaker 1 (07:08):
The upper thigh. I can bring them, but they're not
doing that tight hug.
Speaker 2 (07:13):
Yeah, they're not. My god, I think you kiss Brad
and I think you tight hug.
Speaker 1 (07:25):
And you can steal things. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
Well, okay, yes, but you do see more sensitive to
tingles than most people. They're a little bit repressed her tingles.
Speaker 2 (07:34):
Yes, yes, and especially around Brad because Brad has just
been a friend for tener, so she's there's no newness
to Brad in terms of just seeing him or hanging
out with him, but kissing him will bring newness.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
And maybe he's a great kisser. And then maybe he
goes to the bedroom and he's graded other things too,
and maybe he's got what.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
Do you think he's good at?
Speaker 2 (07:54):
Maybe he's got swag in the.
Speaker 1 (07:57):
Bedroom, like he can bake a cake, if you know
what I mean.
Speaker 3 (08:00):
She's hiding, sir, She's hiding her tingles, he's hiding his
swag and they're going to come together in beautiful way.
Speaker 2 (08:09):
Yeah, I give him a chance. See where what if
not you? Who? Honestly, if not you, it's going to
be someone else and you're always going.
Speaker 1 (08:17):
To go, oh, he's such a friend.
Speaker 2 (08:19):
That a chance.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
She's got the best husband ever?
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Yes, and then you might do it? What if Brad's
like I thought I liked you, but I don't get
the tingles as possible. I mean, I'm just saying, got
to give it a chance.
Speaker 3 (08:31):
To give it a chance, and I really want to
know what happens with this one.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Yeah, please update us with Brad and good luck.
Speaker 3 (08:36):
Give Brad.
Speaker 2 (08:40):
Brad deserves it all right.
Speaker 3 (08:42):
Here's another anonymous Hi Mark, Tanya Easton and Becca ooh Becca, sorry, last,
it's not last. Where. I've been friends with someone for
six years and she started dating her current boyfriend about
six months ago. A mutual friend told me that not
only does her boyfriend use hard drugs, but she started
using them to Before this relationship. The most she ever
did was occasionally smoke weed. Alcoholism runs in her family,
(09:05):
and her boyfriend is a bartender who drinks a lot,
especially around her which she needs to be encouraging her
or drink more often. Now she drinks almost every day,
and it's become her go to anytime she's even a
little stressed. I'm not sure how to talk to her
about all of this. I can't tell her I know
about the drug use because she's been hiding it. I
wasn't supposed to find out. But I'm really concerned about
the relationship, the drinking, the family history. Any advice on
(09:27):
how to approach the conversation. We mean a lot. I
love the podcast. Everything you post brings me happiness.
Speaker 2 (09:35):
This is hard because you have to approach this in
a way that's not going to make her distance herself
from you, because I think that she seems to still
you still have a friendship with her. But I think
maybe you just approach it as in, I'm here for you.
I can't tell if I don't know if something's going on,
(09:56):
but I'm here for you if you ever want to talk.
Speaker 1 (09:58):
I know. Stuff like this is really hard because it's
like you can't tell someone what to do. You can't
tell them like.
Speaker 2 (10:08):
The person they're dating is a bad influence.
Speaker 1 (10:11):
Yeah, you can't remind them of the alcoholism and you
know what I mean, Like I feel I mean, you
can do all those things, but I just feel like
it's going to push her into more.
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Of a whole you know what I mean with him?
Speaker 1 (10:21):
No, yeah, right, Like she's going to start pushing you
out as the friend. So I feel like you have
to be really careful about these things because but you
have the best intentions, you know, like you just want
your friend to be healthy. So I honestly don't even know.
I don't even know what you do.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
I almost wonder if you to say, hey, I've noticed
that you've been more stressed a little more anxious lately,
and I just want you to know that I'm here
for you if you ever want to talk, like, no judgment,
I don't know what's going on, but I love you
and I'm here because unfortunately, when people get into a
relationship like this, he's probably telling her, like he if
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you tried to approach her and say, you know, confront
her about what's going on, he'd probably go she just
is trying to tear us apart and she doesn't like me,
and you know, try to make it seem like he's
the victim. And I think you you seem like a
good friend, and I think that she's going to need
you eventually, So I think you just set it up
(11:25):
to where you're there for her and approaches in I
I know something. I can tell something's going on. You've
seemed a little off. If you want to talk about it,
I'm here.
Speaker 1 (11:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
I think that's all you can do, right Otherwise you
just going to push her away.
Speaker 2 (11:39):
Into him what you don't want.
Speaker 3 (11:40):
No, I'm sorry. Yeah, Yeah, Jessica, I'm a scrub a
dub dub from Spooner Wisconsin, Hey, Spooner way North like
darn near Canada or Minnesota, dare Hey. I fell in
love with backup from The Bachelor, Ben's and full in
(12:00):
love with Tanya on the Morning Show when she was
in the background of Demi's heart attack video. Wow, gosh,
I remember that day so clearly. The song had just
come out and you knew all the lyrics and Demi
was so impressed that you knew all the lyrics and
she was like singing it with you through the glass.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
Yeah, that was epic.
Speaker 3 (12:18):
That was epic. That was a long time ago.
Speaker 1 (12:20):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (12:20):
I also foun in love with Mark and Easton from
day one and listening to other podcasts. Background on me.
I'm thirty four, I'm single, having only recently gone on
one of my first few dates ever. I moved to
Wisconsin from Chicago because I wanted some change in my
life and to be closer to family. Since moving to
Wisconsin in October, I would have to say I'm happy
and I've been on four dates with different guys. Guy
one ended up being a huge player, Guy too genuinely
(12:43):
think he's gay. Guy three we did it for a
couple of months. I lost my virginity with him. He
ended up being possessive and a huge liar. Guy four
just didn't work out. Part of me is saying these
experiences are making me grow and learn, But another part
of me is the scourage that I will never find
my ninety five P. I read Starbirs, my Amy or
my Allison. Do you guys have any advice? Thank you
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so much and love you so much.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Girl.
Speaker 1 (13:09):
Guy four, I mean I went through like Guy forty four.
So you're just starting, Jessica. Don't feel discouraged yet, because
you've got you might have got some some triple quadruple
that number before you find your ninety five P.
Speaker 2 (13:24):
Right, Well, I think I think that's the thing. I
think it's different for everybody. Like, if you have listened
to the podcast from the beginning, you've heard Tanya go
through many of the types of men that she stated.
My experience was different because I was very just it'll
come when it comes, and you know, Haley was very
much a surprise for me. So I think that getting
(13:48):
just you can't let yourself get discouraged because it is true,
like you are learning you're literally just listic qualities that
you don't want in someone, and that's what you're learning
as you're meeting these people. Yeah, Fortunately, it's like painful
and it's like, oh, why am I even trying? I
remember Tellanya having one of those moments of just like
(14:08):
why bother?
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Yeah, but at.
Speaker 4 (14:11):
Some point you're gonna meet what it's just exhausting, Like
I just think you get to points, and you'll maybe
get to many, many more points where it's just exhausting.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
Dating can be exhausting. Dating the wrong guys can be exhausting,
but it's a means to an end. So it might
be four more guys, it might be ten more guys.
It might be guy number five. For you, it might
be guy number fifty you just don't know and you
just have to like you literally just have to keep
going until you find it.
Speaker 2 (14:41):
But I also think you have to be in the
right head Like I feel like I would have to
be in the right headspace to even want to go
on date to meet No.
Speaker 1 (14:49):
You don't really need to, that's just an old wives tale.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
I feel like you were in a good headspace when
you met Robbie, like you were like ready to find someone.
But I think you went through something is where you're
just gonna like I'm so tired of doing this song
and dance.
Speaker 1 (15:03):
Yeah, I'm just going through the motions. Yeah, but it
just keeps them coming, come and go, they come and go, next, next, next.
Speaker 3 (15:10):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (15:10):
I think if you're not like draining yourself going on
dates with people, I say, just go, like, yeah, you're
gonna meet people that you really like their qualities. You're
gonna meet people where you're just like exhausted by their
qualities and some might just be neutral.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
And don't be discouraged because I promise you, once you
do find that person, all of it is worthwhile. Like
the happiness that I have found in Robbie is worth
all the crying, the tears, the confusion, the whatever it
was that I was feeling.
Speaker 2 (15:42):
The misters, the doctors, the on the face, the.
Speaker 1 (15:46):
Signors, yeah, you name it. He was worth it.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
Yeah, So I would just throw this in there. I've
never I don't think I've been to Spooner, Wisconsin, but
there's like two thousand people in Spooner, Wisconsin. I'm a
little concerned that your pool is a little shallow. Yeah, Chicago,
that pools intimidatingly deep. I'm wondering if there's a happy medium,
like I don't know, Duluth, where there are more guys
to choose from, because I gotta believe that in Spooner
(16:10):
it's not a lot of guys, and there's certain kind
of guys. So I don't know. Maybe I'm generalizing about Spooner, Wisconsin,
but small town Wisconsin's not a great place to meet
guys in my opinion.
Speaker 2 (16:21):
Small town in general is tough. You know, you might
need to head to the big city.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
Or at least a bigger city, or just open your
dating up mile range.
Speaker 3 (16:30):
Yes, at least a Hayward.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
But we're rooting for you, Yes we are, and we
need updates.
Speaker 3 (16:37):
We do need.
Speaker 2 (16:38):
Updates, and we love Updates. Next, we have someone who
doesn't want to act a bridle on their wedding day.
Speaker 3 (16:44):
But this is interesting.
Speaker 5 (16:50):
Oh crash, all right, we're back, Mark, take it away.
Speaker 3 (17:06):
This is Alison. She says, Hi beca Tanya Mark and Easton.
I am getting married in less than a month. I'm
excited to marry my fiance. We've been together six years
and he's one of the best people I know. Even
though I'm excited, I'm also nervous and anxious about the
wedding day. I'm thirty three, and I feel embarrassed to
act super bridal I'm too old, and everyone else has
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already had this moment and they've moved on to having
babies and buying homes. I keep trying to tell myself
to enjoy the moment and don't live by everyone else's timeline,
but I can't help it feel a little silly, and
I fear it's going to ruin my day because I
won't be able to just relax and enjoy the moment
with my fiance. Any advice, thank you.
Speaker 1 (17:44):
What does acting bridle mean being brided?
Speaker 2 (17:48):
Yeah, excited about being bright.
Speaker 3 (17:50):
I like a princess on that day. You're like the
center of attention. You know, you're like the star of
the show.
Speaker 1 (17:57):
Yeah, but I'm confused why you don't want to do
that because you feel silly that you're thirty three. Yes,
I did it at thirty seven, and I could not
have done it been more bridal. No, No, I because
it's the first time for you. It doesn't matter if
you didn't do it at twenty five. Who cares. I'm
(18:17):
glad I didn't do it twenty five because my wedding
is exactly the way that I wanted it to be.
And I think had I gotten married at twenty seven
versus thirty seven, my wedding would have been way different
and not for the better.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
I hope that you have people around you who make
you feel excited for this, because I think sometimes if
we surround ourselves with people who make things that should
be exciting feel silly, it dims the freedom to get
to fully enjoy moments. You know, when people downplay moments.
So I hope that all of your friends are ready
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to celebrate you, and regardless of if they're if they
have kids, if they've been married for ten years, whatever
the reason, this is your day. Like they're all coming
to celebrate you, and you need to let yourself celebrate
yourself and be the most bridal version of you that's
ever been because when not, if not they've not at
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your wedding, when else will you ever be bred?
Speaker 1 (19:15):
But also it's like do what you want? Do you
know what I mean? Like, don't do stuff.
Speaker 2 (19:19):
If you don't have to perform it.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
Yeah, you don't perform. But like like the for a honeymoon,
I was like, why don't we get like the just married,
you know, sweatshirts or like whatever, And Robbie was like, well,
because we're not. We weren't. We're not just married, like
we've got married three months ago. And I'm like, I
don't care. I like it's I ended up thinking about
it too late and it was just I couldn't turn
it around in time. But like, let yourself be silly,
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let yourself do all the things like who cares?
Speaker 2 (19:44):
Yeah, I would say, I know, and I get it.
There's a social media thing too, where you compare yourself
to like what other people are doing at their weddings,
and if that's not you, you go, wait, should I
be doing that? Should I be like wanting to do
these things? As the bride, you don't have to do anything.
But also if you want to act a certain way,
(20:05):
or you want to do certain things, or you want
to take certain pictures as the bride, do it.
Speaker 1 (20:10):
Yeah. I remember everybody kept sending me like all these magazines, right,
like the top four trends for you know, twenty twenty
five brides, and like the top whatever trends for wedding
trends of the whatever, and I would literally just like
trash all of them because I'm like, I'm doing my wedding.
I don't care what's trending. Yes, like, I'm doing what
I want for my wedding, and don't worry.
Speaker 3 (20:31):
About what other people think. Like I feel like that's
running through this email. She's worried that the other people
at the wedding are going to be judging her, Like,
oh here comes to yeah.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
Hello thirty three year old.
Speaker 3 (20:41):
Yeah I know, but but don't you can't worry about
what other people think. But also, like you said, I
like the advice don't do anything you're not comfortable with.
All you have to do is show up on that day,
walk down the aisle, kiss your husband, dance with your
dad at the reception.
Speaker 1 (20:56):
Yeah, Like fun.
Speaker 3 (20:57):
It's not you. You're not over the top with anything thing.
You're just doing it. Yeah, and you're gonna love it.
Speaker 2 (21:02):
Think of it as a big party with all your
favorite people that are coming to celebrate your.
Speaker 3 (21:06):
Love and they're ready to do that. They're not going
to be judging you. They love you.
Speaker 2 (21:10):
And get some new friend alert.
Speaker 3 (21:17):
Caitlin, this is relatable. How do I find motivation to
do anything? Dear Easton, Mark, Becca, and Tanya. This is
alphabetical by last name.
Speaker 2 (21:29):
Oh yeah, oh.
Speaker 3 (21:31):
Yeah, yeah, welcome to do then yeah ouch. I work
at a high school as a counselor, so I'm currently
on summer break.
Speaker 2 (21:39):
Yay.
Speaker 3 (21:40):
However, I am struggling to find motivation to do literally
almost anything on these long days at home. I've watched
two whole seasons of Below Deck in the last two weeks.
I've finished a couple of audio books just sitting in
my house. I should be doing dishes or cleaning, or
going on walks or something, but I'm just not motivated.
I know that you all work kind of non traditional
hour jobs, but especially beca, so I'm wondering, if you
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don't have something scheduled, how do you find the motivation
to do the menial tasks around your house.
Speaker 1 (22:06):
The gram on Beca's face right now is A speaking
their language?
Speaker 3 (22:10):
Or limit yourself on screen time or if you don't,
how do you give yourself the grace at the end
of the day to not feel like you've wasted the
day completely? Love you all so much, Thank you for
the work you do what really does matter.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
This is just funny because I go through these way,
like these feelings when I'm lazy of like, oh my gosh,
I need to be getting up and doing something, And
I'm like why, why, Like, what do I need to
do unless it's for myself? Why do I need If
I'm enjoying sitting here and watch binging a show, why
do I need to get up? If I feel like
I've had too much screen time, I'll go on a
(22:44):
long walk, I'll go on a hike, I'll take Phoebe
and do something. Or I'll put in my earphones and
like listen to a pod something that's like keeping me
distracted while I clean because I can't just do it
in silence. But I also think you're a school counselor
and do like some of the hardest work. I think
there is being like a teacher and working in schools
(23:04):
right now. So you have summer break for a reason
to decompress and do the things that you want to do.
If it's if it's making you feel bad just because
you want to do more, then try and make a schedule,
have something where you're like checking off a list.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
But I wish I had a little bit of this
in me because I feel like, and I think I
realize it's called sunshine guilt. Yeah, if there's sun shining outside,
which is a lot in California, Yeah, I don't feel
like I can be in my home like I feel guilty,
just like watching TV in my house on like a
Saturday afternoon, like I have to be outside, whether it's
(23:40):
like having lunch outside or like running errands outside. I
just feel like I need to be like doing stuff.
Like even yesterday, yesterday, whatever day, the day after my
birthday party, Rob and I were exhausted, and he was like, babe,
like come put your feet up, just relax, and like
I was just washing and putting stuff away and he's
(24:01):
like we'll do this all on Monday, like give yourself
the day like we've had a long weekend. Just like
put your feet up. I put my feet up and
I close my eyes and I was like, wow, this
feels good.
Speaker 2 (24:12):
Yeah, no, I don't. I don't have that. I think
about it and then I quickly shut my thoughts down of.
Speaker 3 (24:17):
Wow, respect, I can't do it. I cannot watch TV.
If the sun's out, I can't. I don't know what
that is.
Speaker 2 (24:23):
But the thing is is like if the sun's out
and you want to be I think that's beautiful. I
think seizing the day and like doing enjoying it. But
I also think if you're if you're like I just
want to stay in and binge a show, I think
that's okay too. I don't think there. I do think
screen time can bring you down, Like I think if
you're constantly looking at your phone or like seeing news
(24:44):
and stuff, and like especially the rains of emotion, range
of emotions that social media causes. I think sometimes you
need to just go out and like be in nature
and like touch grass. But I've really noticed when we
were in Spain, nothing opens or starts to because people
are sleeping and just like resting and have their mornings
and then they just go do their thing all day.
(25:06):
But there's no like pressure around like hustle culture like
there is here in the United States, and I really
noticed it, and I feel like I should maybe live
in Spain because it really felt like my pace. But
it made me realize, like we prioritize like going and
doing so much here that like we do kind of
forget to just like it's okay to let your body
just rest and you're in summer break and that's why
(25:28):
it's called that, So do what you want. And also
if you don't feel healthy and your like mental state
isn't good, then go feel the sunshine. I don't know
where you live, but go buy some water, Go get
in the pool somewhere. Go get a resort pass and
go to the nice hotel and be outside. You know,
read a book. Sometimes just reading a book is nice.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
What it helps me is a schedule. And when I
was there was a stretch when I was unemployed and
I needed a schedule. Even though I had nothing to
do all day, I was from this time to this time,
I'm gonna I get to watch TV in this time
to this time. Then I'm gonna go for a hike,
then I get to do this. Then at lunch, then I'm
gonna do it. Then I'm gonna I'm gonna exercise from
this time and this time. I'm gonna read from this
time to this time, and that helps me so much.
(26:06):
And yeah, at the end of the day, I still
sometimes feel like I didn't do anything today, but the
schedule helps me throughout the day not feel like I'm
just a blob.
Speaker 2 (26:13):
Yeah, but here's the thing. When school starts back up,
you're gonna be going. I have no regrets for resting.
Speaker 3 (26:20):
And what I've earned this summer. Yeah, sure, we have
one more, but before that, there are some products and
services that you need to know.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
My gosh, please listen. All right, we are back with
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an email from Tara.
Speaker 3 (26:55):
Tara could be Tara, could be Tara, I don't know,
but we're gonna read it. Hello, Scrubbing and fam Becca, Tanya, Mark,
and Easton. I'm a long time listener and I really
enjoy listening to you all banter about everything, like Tanya.
I'm a super fan of Traders and a bunch of
reality TV like Beca. It takes me a minute to
jump on board some of the shows. I enjoy listening
(27:15):
to the feedback and sometimes join the conversation as I'm
driving I love that. I love the idea that scrubbers
are in their car going good one. Tanya, you know
that sort of thing. I love that because I do
that sometimes, not with us but other shows. Anyway. I
have also loved hearing book recommendations in the past, and
wonder what books you have read this year or are
planning to read. I am trying to read the summer
(27:36):
I turn pretty, but oof, I feel as if all
belly does is wine. Becka, did you feel that way
when you read the book? For context? I'm forty eight.
My two kids are twenty six and twenty five, so
that could be why. Wow, you guys started early and
finished early. Anyway, Love you all so much. Thank you
for entertaining me when I bop around Cincinnati, Ohio running errands.
You really do bright in my days. Your friend Tara
(27:59):
and the Queen the City.
Speaker 1 (28:00):
Wow, I'm gonna tap out of this one because I
don't really read much. No so No, the book I'm
reading I took. I took a book on her honeymoon.
Maybe read like two pages.
Speaker 3 (28:10):
Well, you're a nonfiction type anyway, you always.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
Read My book was I think it's called like Limitless
and it was like all about.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
Yeah, the book I'm currently reading is Atmosphere by Taylor Drinkins,
read because she also wrote Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo,
which literally changed my life. And so that's what I'm
currently reading. And everyone who's read it said it competes
with that book. So I'm just getting into it. But
I've read really good reviews. I still feel like, if
(28:39):
you haven't read the Housemaid series, oh yeah, I feel
like that's a really good one. All her books they
are because of you. Yeah, the movie is being made.
Speaker 3 (28:49):
I think, yes, interesting casting.
Speaker 2 (28:51):
I thought, well, Amanda Seiffer, it's great.
Speaker 3 (28:54):
Always great, but she's like the Dowdy Older. Yeah mom,
which I thought was interesting. Sidney Sweeney, Oh.
Speaker 2 (29:02):
Yeah, really good in my opinion.
Speaker 3 (29:04):
I mean both great. I have a hard time picturing
the mom and that I pictured my head is not
Amanda Cipher. It as much as I love her, same.
Speaker 1 (29:11):
But give me, give me a we did it?
Speaker 2 (29:14):
Elizabeth what's her name from Handmaid's Tale?
Speaker 3 (29:17):
Oh Moss.
Speaker 2 (29:17):
Yeah, that's literally who I pictured as the wife. But yeah,
I'm excited for the movie and I I'm trying to
think if I've read anything before, then I'm kind of
in a self help I try to do like, if
I'm going to read, I try to do self help
books during the day or in the morning, and then
if I'm going to read it at night, I do
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fiction because it like puts me asleep.
Speaker 1 (29:41):
Everything puts me asleep. Literally, anything puts me to sleep.
I cannot read a book sitting down or I will
be asleep.
Speaker 2 (29:49):
I started the Summer I Turned Pretty, and I think
I got through the first half of the book. I
don't even think I finished it because I couldn't. I
wasn't like super into it, and maybe that it's like
a I felt very disconnected from the youth, and I
was like, oh, this is cute, but like I just
since this the show made me like want to have
(30:09):
a summer fling with like the the you know our
best my mom's best friend's son, you know, like it
gives us like false sense of utopia as a kid.
But beyond that, I just don't really resonate with it.
It's just cute and good music.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
Right, I'm gonna suggest the four Agreements.
Speaker 2 (30:29):
That's not quick, that's very deep.
Speaker 3 (30:32):
Don't read that.
Speaker 1 (30:33):
This is Tanya's read for you.
Speaker 3 (30:38):
Go ahead, you give us a self help books that
everyone should read.
Speaker 1 (30:41):
The Four Agreements, What's the bridge one that I feel
like Untethered Soul?
Speaker 5 (30:48):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (30:48):
I started that.
Speaker 1 (30:51):
Hold on, what's the books?
Speaker 6 (30:53):
Apple's books, Very Body Mark, Come on Girls, Girls Like
Girls by One.
Speaker 2 (31:07):
Actually, my aunt called me yesterday and she was like,
I sat down and read Haley's book yesterday and finished
it all in a sitting. I was like, there you
go a testimonial.
Speaker 1 (31:18):
I think it's the Untethered Soul. I'm just trying to
google it something.
Speaker 3 (31:22):
While you google. My wife is currently reading Don't Let
Him In by Lisa Jewel and she is loving it.
So I recommend Don't Let Him In by Lisa Jewel.
And I just finished Listen for The Lie. Did we
talk about that on this show? I don't remember. Listen
for The Lie by Amy Tintera. It's great because, uh,
it's about there's it's about a podcast about a murder
(31:45):
that takes place, and it alternates in the building kind
of one chapter is the podcast, and then the next
chapter is the woman who is actually the suspect in
the killing and her story, and then it goes back
and forth the podcast piecing together the evidence and the
woman living her life and going back to her hometown
where the actual killing happened and help people react to
(32:05):
her and stuff. It's great. The audiobook is even better
because the podcast portions really sound like a podcast, and
you almost forget it's not a real podcast and it's
all fiction. Yeah, it's incredibly well made. And I read
the book, my wife listened to the audiobook. We both
loved it. So you're you're good either way, you know.
And I also loved Hail Mary, which is the new
(32:27):
movie coming out with Ryan Gosling about an astronaut. Maybe
not everyone's speed about that Hail marytt project. Hill Mary
was really really good.
Speaker 1 (32:34):
Back to you, Tanya, It's called The Untethered Soul.
Speaker 3 (32:36):
That's it.
Speaker 7 (32:36):
In order to recommend, Nope, some of the Shine Mine
that's that's a good devotional. Sunshine a nice little daily
devotional for your.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
The courage to be disliked, that's good, a good self
help for people pleasers. Yeah, those would be the ones
that I'd say. I have a original script of Heley's
upcoming book where There's Room for Us, but I can't
share that yet. Wow, it's a little bit about that.
Speaker 3 (33:08):
So impressed. Writing a book is so impressive. Yeah, same, Tanya.
I don't mean to take because what you did with
your book is very impressive.
Speaker 1 (33:15):
I know, but even mine was like bite size, right.
Speaker 3 (33:17):
The idea of a three hundred page narrative with characters
and subplots and all that stuff and all the dialogue,
I can't even imagine doing that.
Speaker 2 (33:26):
She let me tell you, she has what did you
call it? Sunshine guilt?
Speaker 1 (33:30):
Sunshine gill.
Speaker 2 (33:31):
Yeah, she doesn't rest, she doesn't sleep, like.
Speaker 1 (33:35):
Okay, over there by the way, sorry, hand a little
too caffeinated over there? That sellsia.
Speaker 2 (33:42):
No, no, no, my hands are shaking.
Speaker 3 (33:45):
Yes, well, you're very into her hands lately. What's going on?
Speaker 2 (33:48):
Because of the kind of weird it's like a maybe
you have a hand fetish.
Speaker 1 (33:51):
Maybe you do only only hands?
Speaker 2 (33:55):
Yeah, only are you like like someone's biggest only hands.
Speaker 3 (33:59):
I'm just saying I think Haley might be brilliant.
Speaker 2 (34:04):
She's she has a different brain than I.
Speaker 3 (34:07):
Yeah, to write music and to write books, I care
either one, and to direct she might be brilliant.
Speaker 2 (34:18):
But she does fall asleep playing wordle every night. Like
we'll get through Wordle and then we'll be on connection.
She's like, I'm all, let's at least get to the
mini cross words.
Speaker 3 (34:29):
How about the one the other day at the beginning
of the Ninja Turtles, Did you do that one?
Speaker 2 (34:33):
I was like, oh man, no, I haven't got I'm
behind all my connections, but I'll.
Speaker 3 (34:39):
Be for that one alright.
Speaker 2 (34:41):
Sometimes I'm like this is crazy.
Speaker 3 (34:44):
There's crazy topics. Sometimes I know.
Speaker 2 (34:46):
And I'm like, they're normally the crazy ones are my
default for like I've gotten the other three things, and
then like the last ones, I'm like, how do these
connect You get it?
Speaker 3 (34:55):
By default? Is not a New York Times.
Speaker 2 (34:58):
Who that would be fun for you and Robbie to
do together.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
Not about that? Oh yeah, he does wordle by himself.
He does oh everything. I make fun of him as well.
Speaker 2 (35:11):
Does he do connections and many crosswords?
Speaker 1 (35:13):
I don't know if he knows about that. You should
never have seen him do that.
Speaker 2 (35:17):
Connections is so fun. I love it, Okay, Yeah, so
it just stretches your mind to think bigger than.
Speaker 1 (35:25):
How do I need that one? I love Island on
my I know exactly.
Speaker 2 (35:28):
I always feel better after watching reality TV of going.
Speaker 1 (35:33):
Something like that. Yeah.
Speaker 2 (35:35):
Also, we started watching basically like it's called Making the
Band or something.
Speaker 1 (35:41):
Oh the one with the aj Yes and Liam Payne,
the late Lam Pain right right right, Yeah, it's really good.
Speaker 5 (35:48):
It is.
Speaker 2 (35:50):
It's like Love is Blind a band. Yeah yeah, it's
really cool and there's some like amazing singers on there.
Oh yeah, so that's a little bit about us. But Tara,
I hope that Tara, Tara, I hope that we gave
me some good back. I think she probably has read
all the ones we listed.
Speaker 3 (36:09):
Maybe if not, we can only do what we can do.
Speaker 2 (36:14):
That was a big yawn lost her. You know what
you gotta say, it's.
Speaker 3 (36:18):
Been a long week.
Speaker 1 (36:20):
Mama's gotta no.
Speaker 5 (36:23):
Like.
Speaker 2 (36:24):
We love you so much, love you
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