November 20, 2025 • 42 mins
It’s time for another round of Dear Banya! What should you do when your family member is having an affair? And when should you stay together… for the kids?
Plus, a Sabrina Carpenter date for Becca and Tanya, and Becca has a major revelation about her life!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
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Speaker 2 (00:09):
That's right, two times People's Choice Award winning podcast. Here, Hello, everybody, WHOA.
Speaker 3 (00:15):
We really throw the people off with that intro.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
That's why I could keep everybody on their toes like
a radio host, toesy news.
Speaker 4 (00:24):
Like a professional radio host. Intro was giving Ryan Seacrest.
That's right, Annie Seacrest, thank you.
Speaker 5 (00:29):
We got podcast right here for you, buddy.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
I was giving auctioneer nice. Sure, how you doing do
a great?
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Can't wait for a date night?
Speaker 4 (00:43):
Same, We're heading to the Subarina Carpenter concert tonight.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
That's right.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
Short and sweet, Short and sweet. She is so short
and sweet.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
She's like a pollypocket she is.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
It's so I wish that they did a live action pollpocket.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
They have to use her. I agree.
Speaker 6 (01:00):
Do you see the photos of her and Taylor out
in New York and she's.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Like the edits of it?
Speaker 4 (01:05):
Like I was having I can't remember what happened, but
I was just feeling down one day and I would
just go look at that picture and I'd bring me.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Back happiness and joy because.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
She's so cute, and Taylor looks so tall in that photo.
Speaker 6 (01:18):
I saw people posting this is lady Gita.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I don't get it.
Speaker 6 (01:23):
It's a tiny picture of lady.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
I don't get the Internet sometimes.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
Dona's response to things that's like, so it really is
just being chronically online and shold me that I don't
get it, and I'm.
Speaker 4 (01:35):
Like, go away, Yeah, let me just be silly, and
it doesn't need to be gotten.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
Clearly it needs to be gotten.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
No, it's just tiny little Sabrina being cute and polly
pocket and then Taylor.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
Being already tall and wearing the tallest deals.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
I didn't understand. I now do because you forced me
to go, like, understand, Julie is not.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
I didn't say anything. Yeah, so that's okay. Yeah, you
said I don't understand. I said that's okay.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
But it's not okay because then I feel left out.
Well I can't fix that.
Speaker 4 (02:14):
I can't fix that part because I wish I was a.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Little left out.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
Yeah, I wish I was kind of left out from
chronically online.
Speaker 4 (02:22):
You know.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
I'm actually, let's check back in January and see if
you actually do this, But because a lot of December,
I'm going to be taking off. I want to put
a time limit on my phone of like how much
I can be on social media a day. And I'm
going to give myself forty five minutes a day. WHOA,
(02:43):
that feels like nothing.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
It is nothing.
Speaker 4 (02:46):
One.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
That's one session for me.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
How many sessions a day do you have multiple?
Speaker 6 (02:52):
I have the thing on Instagram where like at an hour,
it says like that's enough for today, Oh wow, and
I hit fifteen more or forget it for the day.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
I need to get that. Is that an app?
Speaker 6 (03:03):
No, it's on your phone, the Instagram app.
Speaker 5 (03:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (03:07):
I had it just in my settings on my phone
and I hit ignore basically every it was like snooze.
I was snoozing my alert. Yeah, but you should get
the Brick. I've already told you about the Brick. It's
like a thing that you put on your phone and
it like locks it until it's just more.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
It's more.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
I want to be able to engage with my text messaging.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
Yeah you can.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
You can engage with your text messaging with the Brick.
You can choose what apps you want.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Okay, okay, yeah, so it's like your choice.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
If you're going, hey, I'm noticing I'm spending a lot
of time on Instagram. I'm going to put the brick
to where I have a certain set time for that.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
Got it?
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Okay? Yeah, yeah, So that's a little bit about my
goals for de summer. Thank Yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
You can do hard things.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Thank you? Well, can we all can? Oh? Yes, Well,
I was just thinking, like Thanksgiving is next week, and
then basically before you know, it's Hanuka, it's Christmas, it's
the new year. This is the time of year where
we start like vision boarding, picking our words of the year,
like all that stuff. Maybe we do that for the
(04:15):
podcast in December.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
Which is what we typically do.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Yeah, but it's now the time start thinking about it
in brainstorming.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
Thank you for the heads up.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
No problem.
Speaker 4 (04:25):
Haley has this thing where she goes, she if it's
in her calendar, she is like, I'm gonna do it.
So she'll go, you should just put that in your calendar,
and I go, that does not do anything for my
calendar's empty, because I'm like, what I'm just if it's
like She'll go, if I put a workout at a
certain time in my calendar, then I'll if it's in
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my calendar, I'll do it.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Yeah, same, yeah, and I'm like I just go, h, well,
the time.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Passed, Like if I there's like, let's say the weekend
goes by, and oh, there's a couple of emails that
I want to have, like her priority to me, like,
I'll put them in my calendar for Monday morning so
that I remember to like respond to these people Monday morning,
and I'll do it.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Yeah, you don't have that nothing. I don't know. I
need some meds or something. I don't know. Something's wrong,
something's not going on in here.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Interesting, Hayley tried to get me.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
I felt like a child whose parent was trying to
wrangle them yesterday because she was really trying to clear
out this junk room because when we moved everything from
the garage for the construction, I just went into this
I call it the chaos room, and she wanted to
clear it out, and I was all before yesterday. I
was like, yeah, let's do it on Sunday. And then
(05:43):
the time came and I was like I just don't
want to.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
I have more laying to do. I just it doesn't
feel right.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
And she was like, Babe, we have to get this
done and you have to go through things. I can't
do it on my own, so she had to wrangled me.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
You did it.
Speaker 4 (06:01):
I did it nice, but I got distracted and I
was like clearing out the air filter and then I
was folding laundry, so I was doing productive things. Just
I didn't want to do that. And I have this
thing about not wanting to be told what to do.
Speaker 5 (06:14):
Including your calendar telling you what to do.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
I think there's something I think what is that though?
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Is there maybe your whole life you were told what
to do and now you're like rebelling.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
Breaking free. Yeah, we're breaking free.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
Yeah. It was Soman fine.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
In There's not a sovereign Heaven that we cambreach.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
High School Musical, Ah, yes, I never watched it.
Speaker 6 (06:40):
That's the only song I know from it.
Speaker 5 (06:41):
I haven't seen.
Speaker 4 (06:43):
I would say, y'all are missing out. I would also
say high School Musical three is cinema.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
I feel like I passed the mark of it, do
you know what I mean? Like, I feel like I'm so.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
Far past No, you're not. Sometimes I'll just put it
on really. Yeah. That and the Hannah Montana.
Speaker 6 (06:58):
Movie, Oh We're Talking.
Speaker 4 (07:00):
And Lizzie McGuire movie, which, by the way, my initial
response to mature was just kind of like it's I
like it.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
It's fun boppy, but I'm really into.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
It now so good. It's like a certified bop.
Speaker 4 (07:14):
Maybe that's also something with controls. People telling me that
it's amazing, but I need to decide for myself.
Speaker 5 (07:20):
Yeah, you should talk.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
I think there's something there.
Speaker 5 (07:25):
The way Hilary Duff on it with Running Seacrest tomorrow
morning at o'clock.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
Thank you for that pluck.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Yeah, do you plug the scrubbing in podcast? I have owls.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
Oh, I'm gonna guess.
Speaker 5 (07:34):
No, I'm not on any other shows.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
We'll get all them.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
Yeah, well you're you know.
Speaker 4 (07:41):
I like to take responsibility in the fact that you
not not me personally, but scrubbing in.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
That people aren't.
Speaker 4 (07:48):
Your bands are scrubbing in people, and they follow you
wherever you go, like they listen to other podcasts that
you were on, but they're originally from scrubbing in.
Speaker 6 (07:57):
Every time I talk about Gilmore Girl's fashion on I
Am In, I talked about scrubbing in vas.
Speaker 4 (08:01):
Yeah for that, that's right, fashion, scrubbing in collabo styles.
Speaker 6 (08:08):
You want to hear talking about the fashion of Gilmore girls,
that's it? Why I don't know.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
Thank you for your service. I didn't know that was
a market that was missing.
Speaker 5 (08:17):
It's a market, baby, you gotta find the whole. And
you found it.
Speaker 6 (08:20):
Yeah, found your Nie place kicking and screaming into that hole.
Speaker 4 (08:28):
We do have some dear Bondia today real that is
for real.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Gilmore Girls Fashion podcast.
Speaker 6 (08:34):
It is a Gilmore Girl's fashion podcast host hosted by me.
You know who My guest is Nobody. I'm alone. I speak,
I love I hurry so much. I love this job,
but I speak uninterrupted for fifteen minutes.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
Why would you be the first to talk about Gilmore
Girls fashion respectfully?
Speaker 6 (08:52):
Well, I have a fashion background. I love Gilmore Girls.
There's many of the things that are not true.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
This is crazy, crazy information, really crazy.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
Every Thursday morning, did you watch Gilmore Girls.
Speaker 6 (09:09):
I'm watching it now.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
To recap the fashion, just the fashion.
Speaker 6 (09:14):
I watch the episode, I go through and I talk about.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Literally like me talking about a soprano's like cigar lines
every week or something like having a cigar podcast.
Speaker 5 (09:24):
Very like that is very very good.
Speaker 6 (09:28):
I'm gonna talk about this because I truly don the game.
Was listening to it so like, I don't think, but
it's so funny because I don't know anything about fashion.
I do not. I'm colorblind too. That's the other thing
I'm going through, going like, man, there's a part at
the town meeting Laura is She's wearing a brown shirt
and it looks cool.
Speaker 5 (09:49):
This is it? People text you and say, it's a
purple shirt.
Speaker 6 (09:53):
Actually, you know, because of this show, I got an
app that where I can point at my screen tells
me what color it is, because or because I'm sick
of asking Al's and what color the thing is. But
I also don't know how to talk about the fashion.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
I don't know fashion.
Speaker 6 (10:05):
I'm not a fashion guy. But I'm doing the damn
show and I've been doing it for a few months.
Speaker 5 (10:10):
That scrubbers. You gotta do it as a favorite. You
gotta go down the numbers skyrocket. It will be so funny.
Speaker 4 (10:18):
Is that the only time you're shouting out to grubbing
in is on that show.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
That's messed up.
Speaker 6 (10:25):
That's not the only time, but that's the most regular
time I am on the air.
Speaker 5 (10:29):
Go listen to that and just let it run on
a loop and put your phone away drawer just to
get his numbers up.
Speaker 6 (10:34):
Come on because I'm getting the same down as as
everyone else on that channel. I want to get.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
That number.
Speaker 5 (10:40):
Well, I should talk about that.
Speaker 6 (10:43):
They're in the many hundreds of thousand.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
Oh my gosh, that really was unexpected today.
Speaker 4 (10:49):
Yeah, so we get to let's decompress on that info.
Speaker 5 (10:54):
Well, let's take a break before the first one will
tease it? How about this? How about this for a tease?
How do I support my sister's affair but you don't?
Speaker 2 (11:04):
What are you gonna do? He's having an affair. We'll
talk about it, Okay, after this.
Speaker 4 (11:28):
All right, we are back after finding out that Easton
is a fashion podcast host.
Speaker 6 (11:35):
That's right. You know. Actually, if you are watching season
one of Gilmore Girls, episode ten where they go to
a Christmas party, Rory's wearing a vintage visiting that is
it pops up on deep hop and eBay from time
to time.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
They're also color blind, know what about you?
Speaker 1 (11:53):
A layer? I just don't.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
Honestly, that's such a smart act.
Speaker 6 (12:12):
It's called color blind pal in case anyone else out
there suffers from the same ailment.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
Honestly, Yeah, I'm not trying to make a joke. I
hope you know.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
I'm not trying to make a joke of your color
my disability. But like it's just so whoa, that's really cool.
Speaker 6 (12:28):
It uses your camera and like point you just point
out something and it'll tell you.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
This happened on your nose. Do you want to know
what it says? Faint orange? Shut up?
Speaker 2 (12:40):
That is not orange.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
I'm just a colored blind pal.
Speaker 6 (12:45):
Color blind pal says it's orange.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Oh man, I hope you know I'm not making fun
of you.
Speaker 6 (12:52):
I do not at all. Okay, this is I feel
the exact same way.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
Yeah, that's crazy. This is also crazy. Our first dear bonnet.
Speaker 5 (13:02):
Okay from anonymous Dear scrub squad Becatania Market, Eastern. That
seems to be the default order right there. I could
really use your advice. In late twenty twenty three, and
my sister went on a dating app even though she
was married. She ended up meeting a married guy and
they had an affair for about nine months till her
husband found out. My sister and her husband tried to
work things out. It did not last. They are almost divorced.
(13:24):
Recently she told me she and the guy she had
the affair with have reconnected. He's now recently divorced as well.
And they've started a real relationship. She is thirty five,
he is fifty six. Normally, age gaps don't bother me,
but with everything that's happened, this one really does. My
husband and I have two little kids, four and one,
and we're honestly struggling to process at all. We're worried
about what happens if things get serious she starts bringing
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them around. My sister also wants kids, but she's admitted
that if she stays with him, that's probably not going
to happen. What makes this even harder is that our
mom was cheated on and divorced our dads. It really
hurts all of us that my sister would do this
after see what our mom went through. I love my
sitters so much, but I'm torn. I'm scared that if
I don't support this, I'll lose her. But it's hard
to watch her make these choices. I wouldn't normally be
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won to write in for advice, but she's only told me,
my husband and our mom so far. I just don't
know what to do with all of it. How do
I support her without feeling like I'm agreeing to what
she's doing? Or do I just need to accept it
and hope for the best. Thank you all, and thanks
in advance Anonymous and Day one scrubber ps. Your podcast
has gotten me through so many rough newborn nights. Sending
baby dust to you. Tanya.
Speaker 4 (14:33):
This is interesting because the only thing she mentions about him,
aside from the fact that he also was married when
they had the affair, is that he's fifty six. But
she doesn't really talk about anything personality wise.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
So I'm trying to figure.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Out she doesn't like him because creepy. I think it's
his character that he also was cheating on his.
Speaker 4 (14:53):
Marriage, right, But I guess if you're fine with your
sister being around your kids and she did the same thing,
you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
I don't think she is. I don't think she I.
Speaker 4 (15:03):
Think she's fine with her sister. She doesn't want to
hit her bring somebody else. So without having context of
why she doesn't like him other than we just know
he's fifty six and she did on his wife. But
I the thing about this is that you don't have
to like what they did, and you don't have to
agree with what they did. But if you love your
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sister and you want a relationship with her, and this
is the choice that she's making, then I think that
you be around her. But if you're if there's something
that makes you feel weird about having him around your kids,
then just make sure he's super like make sure that
they're not alone with him, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
Yeah, again, without any context about the guy being like
creepy or anything like that. I feel that you can't
punish your sister for the choices she made. Like she's
in her she's living in her choices, you know what
I mean. Like she's already dealing with the backlash of
having an affair, breaking up her family, all the things.
So I feel like you can't really well, I mean,
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if you do anything.
Speaker 4 (16:06):
If you want to have a relationship with your sister,
I think you have to like get to a point
where you accept that that's the choice that she's making
and you don't have to agree with it.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
But she's she's saying it's super sensitive because her mom
got cheated on, so she suset and I understand all
those things, but also you can't.
Speaker 4 (16:25):
And I think it's if you and your sister are clothes,
I think it's even worth having a conversation being like,
I want to be there for you and I want
to support you in the choices you make, but I
am having a really hard time because we watched Mom
go through this and we know how hurtful it was,
and I'm I'm struggling to make sense of it and
accept it. And I just wanted to be upfront and
(16:46):
honest with you. But I love you, and I you
know you're my sister. Yeah, but I don't think that
you have to support her affair or you know, they're
both a divorce now so it's better now than it
was before or Yeah, and unless he's doing something that's
like super creepy or puts anyone in danger, I think
(17:08):
maybe you give give him a chance to see maybe
why your sister went through all that to be with him.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Yeah, Which I get it.
Speaker 3 (17:18):
It's hard, it's it's not like an easy thing.
Speaker 4 (17:20):
But I just I think you want to have a
relationship with your sister, and I also think that you
can't control what she does. And I think if you
say he's not invited, he's not welcome in our home,
you're gonna lose.
Speaker 3 (17:31):
Your relationship with your sister. So I guess am.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
Picking out choosing what is gonna, you know, be be
the best for you and your family. But also your
relationship with your sister is gonna you know, either it's
either gonna thrive and you're gonna learn to love her
in spite of her decisions, despite despite yeah I said
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despite despite.
Speaker 3 (17:57):
Her decisions, or you who don't have a close relationship with.
Speaker 5 (18:02):
Her agreed, and your kids are gonna be fine. That's
just who Auntie Louise is dating. Okay, so her boyfriend.
The kids don't care. Yeah, ah, this is from Demi
or perhaps to me. I don't know and never will know.
She's a very defeated scrubber, though she says, Hi friends,
Day one listener, and my love for you all grows
every episode. You're the only podcast I listened to religiously
(18:25):
every week the day it comes out. You hear it
all the time, but I feel like you are truly
my friends, all four of you. I'm thirty three. When
I was thirty one, I met someone who I really
thought was the one. For six months, things were amazing.
We were long distance, two and a half hours apart,
but it felt like we had found our home in
each other. And then things got rocky. Right around the
time I was thinking about ending it, I got pregnant,
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and it's been even more rocky. I said most of
my pregnancy depressed, wondering if I was making a mistake,
if I should do this as a single mom. When
I was seven months pregnant, he proposed. I said yes
because I loved him and I wanted to make a
family work, but also because I felt like I couldn't
say no. After my baby was born, I left my job,
which I loved, and moved to where he lives. I
uprooted everything, and now I'm not sure we should even
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be together. We have good days, but just as many
bad ones. Every time we hit a new stage, I
tell myself things will get better, and they never do.
I love him, but I don't know if I've ever
been in love with him. We're so different in our
love language, his attachment styles, how we communicate, what we prioritize.
He drinks a lot, even at home with our baby.
It makes me wonder if he's unhappy too. He says
he loves me, he wants us to work, but I
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feel alone even when he's right next to me. We
are not connecting. My baby is fourteen months old, and
I still don't know what to do. If a friend
told me this, I'd say, you only get one life.
You deserve to feel loved and excited every day. But
when you're a mom, you'll do anything to keep your
family together. And part of me thinks we could have
a good life. But when I hear the way Becket
talks about Haley or the way Tanya talks about Robbie,
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I've never felt that way about him. So I'm torn
between staying and hoping love grows, or leaving and starting over,
leaving me and shared custody, missing time with my baby,
splitting holidays, rebuilding from s Do I love my baby
enough to accept a relationship that doesn't feel like that big,
deep love right now? Can that kind of love grow
if you nurture it? I would love your input. Love
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to me or DEMI a very defeated scrubber boy. That
is a tough email.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
I'm gonna shoot it to you straight because I think
you said it already to yourself. If this was a
friend coming to me with this situation, I would tell
them to leave. And I think that that's what you
know deep down that you should do, because here's the thing. Yes,
you will have to split custody. So it does mean
missing time with your baby one hundred percent. It does
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mean splitting the holidays. It does mean rebuilding everything from scratch.
But you have so much life ahead of you, and
kids are so resilient. What you have control over is
if you split up, you can still make it doesn't
have to be a nasty split up. You can try
and make that as cordial and as good as you
possibly can, and then you can have a very happy
(21:02):
and loving home for that time that you do get
to have your baby with you, and you can also
have that love and that relationship and those experiences for
yourself too, because eventually your baby's gonna grow up. Your
baby's gonna turn eighteen. And I mean, I don't know,
but like probably want nothing to do with you, you know,
like not want nothing to do with you. But their
kids grow up, they build their own lives, they leave
(21:24):
the house, they leave the house, and then what you're
just left with this guy that you don't like.
Speaker 4 (21:30):
That's what I was gonna say the same thing too,
Like your child is gonna grow up and they're gonna
did he say?
Speaker 3 (21:36):
She hears?
Speaker 2 (21:37):
She she said baby. So I'm just gonna the baby.
Speaker 3 (21:39):
Is going to grow up and become an adult.
Speaker 4 (21:41):
And then, like, let's say you're still in the same
mindset that you're in now, and you go through eighteen
years of raising this child with this man that you're
just tolerating, and then the the baby leaves the house,
are you instantly gonna say, I'm gonna go live my
life and find the love that I've always wanted. Are
you going to wait eighteen years, seventeen years to go
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after the love and find the love and that you
deserve and have always wanted. Because I think if you're
having a tough time and you're in a relationship where
y'all are not connecting, you don't know each other's love languages,
you don't feel seen, the baby is going to become
a perceptive child who is going to feel the lack
of connection and love in the home. So I'm I'm
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all for keeping the family together and fighting through hard times,
but if it's just always hard.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Yeah, it seems fifty to fifty, which feels.
Speaker 3 (22:34):
Like, I mean, my thing is, can you nurture a relationship? Sure?
Speaker 4 (22:39):
I think so, I think you can nurture I think
you can go to couple therapy. I think you can
find ways to connect in levels that you don't connect on,
like maybe you find things that you have similar and
common interest in.
Speaker 3 (22:51):
But I also just don't think that if.
Speaker 4 (22:54):
Your whole life, like if your whole life of raising
this child, is you going, should I stay?
Speaker 3 (22:59):
Should I go?
Speaker 4 (23:00):
Like, you just have to make the decision. Either you're
going to commit and you're going to water the relationship
and nurture it, or you're gonna do what's best for
you and ultimately the baby right now and get out
of that relationship.
Speaker 3 (23:14):
Yeah, what do you think, Mark, I don't know.
Speaker 5 (23:18):
It's really difficult because you know a lot of women
stay in these situations because they can't imagine, you know,
say she splits up with this guy, this guy's going
to find someone else. Someday suddenly that new random woman's
going to have a maternal relationship with her baby. Like
that's one of those things that's very difficult. And I
get how difficult that is, But it seems to me
(23:41):
that you want to envision your life in five years.
You know, I've given that advice one hundred times on
this show, And imagine your life in five years with
him by your side and your baby now five six
years old, and without him, can you get your old
job back? Are you doing that? Are you making things happen?
You're a single mom doing it? Like you know, I
think that's sounds more appealing to you right now, and
(24:01):
so maybe you can get past that other stuff. I
don't know. I'm very torn on this when I go
back and forth, but I think you just got to
envision what your future is like with him and your
future without him, because you know, I'm We're an empty
nester fairly soon, and I'm very not excited about that
because it's going to be sad to see them go.
But that reconnection with my wife and that connection we
had before we had kids, I really am looking forward
(24:23):
to that. I'm looking forward to just being the two
of us and we can do whatever we want to do.
That's exciting. So if you don't have that excitement in
your mind, then yeah, maybe it's time to head back
to your old where you used to live.
Speaker 4 (24:34):
Yeah, Like if being alone once the baby is gone,
if being alone is more daunting than exciting, like the
thought of, like, oh, one day we're going to get
back to who we were before having a baby and
our connection. If that feels more like a horror film
then a romance rom com, I would just I.
Speaker 3 (24:56):
Would cut the cord now. Yeah, But then there's a
they're part of me that feels like she didn't say
it's all bad, right, and I feel like thirteen months
those are that's probably the hardest year. Yes, I hear
everyone say the.
Speaker 4 (25:10):
First year having a baby is like you're adjusting to
so much, and like your relationship goes through it because
this baby has entered and that becomes their whole world.
And I'm like, do you wait till you're out of
the thick of.
Speaker 3 (25:25):
Newborn?
Speaker 5 (25:26):
I think the couple's counseling idea is an interesting thought
because maybe there is something there that you guys can find. Yeah,
and maybe you give yourself a deadline.
Speaker 2 (25:33):
Let's try this for right, maybe by the time the
kid's three, and maybe you'd revisit the situation.
Speaker 3 (25:39):
And like put put like actual action items to work.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
It notunds like she does want to do that, But
it takes two to tango, so we don't know if
this guy is also down for the task.
Speaker 6 (25:48):
Yeah, sure, he's just right, Like he's.
Speaker 2 (25:51):
Just like I'm just going to live my life and
do what you want to do.
Speaker 5 (25:53):
You know.
Speaker 4 (25:53):
Well, yeah, I mean if he if she brings up
the idea of going to couples counseling and he's like,
I'm not doing that, then you have your answer. You
can't you can't force someone to want to work on things.
But if he's like, yeah, let's do it. I want
to be with you, then I think there's a way
of nurturing something and maybe finding something in each other
that that you are able to love him in the
way that you want to to love and be loved.
Speaker 3 (26:17):
But I'm sorry, that's really really challenged. H keep us
updated if you want.
Speaker 5 (26:24):
Yeah, we'd love that.
Speaker 3 (26:25):
Yeah. Yeah, I feel like we should take a break
and do We'll do a fun one, a fun one
when we return.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
We're back, Yes we are. Mark.
Speaker 3 (26:59):
I feel like I'm drunk, legitimately drunk on life.
Speaker 2 (27:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (27:07):
I thought we did this last one? Is that cool?
Speaker 3 (27:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (27:09):
Three set this in Hi, Tanya, Mark, Beca and Easton.
When you were playing Becca Trilvia and you read those
questions from the Bachelor interviews, it had me wondering what
all of your answers would be and what Becca's would
be today. Would love to hear everyone's answer. Sincerely, Brie,
a longtime listener, former Grays and Bachelor watcher Sunshine Mind Book.
(27:29):
A sign attendee at the Grove, enthusiastic listening to Mark's
advice and thankful for Easton's love of life and his
reminders to do the random things and enjoy the moments
we have. Wow, thanks for being part of my life
all these years. We love bre Love you, Bri. All right,
tattoos you have you had to? Now you have fewer
(27:50):
than two?
Speaker 3 (27:51):
Yeah, I don't have any zero zero.
Speaker 5 (27:53):
All right, Tanya zero Easton three. I also have zero,
So Easton, tell us about yours.
Speaker 6 (28:00):
They're all on my lower lower hemisphere. I got one
on my foot. It's the face from the Indiana Jones
ride at Disneyland, the big face you see that you're
not supposed to going to the eyes.
Speaker 5 (28:11):
Yeah, naturally, Mara common tattoo.
Speaker 6 (28:13):
And then on my shin I've got a big old
skeleton also from that ride where that shoots the darts
at you. And then on my upper thigh, I've got
a woman's face with spider legs coming out of it.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
I had a dragon. No on your leg.
Speaker 6 (28:27):
No, it's got flames on it. It's it's a skeleton.
Speaker 5 (28:29):
Oh yeah, the woman's face is that from? What is
that from?
Speaker 6 (28:33):
You know? It was Halloween and there's a sheet of
the pictures and I got it was thirty one dollars
and I got it.
Speaker 5 (28:39):
Wow.
Speaker 6 (28:40):
Yeah, it doesn't mean anything, just a impulse, tattoo impulse all.
You know, we went down there to get tattoos that
day it was gonna happen, but I didn't know when
I was getting util I got down.
Speaker 5 (28:48):
Wow. Crazy, I can't live without Becka. Originally, of course
said food, family, friends, Wi Fi, and Netflix. So crazy.
What would you put on that list? Now?
Speaker 3 (29:02):
I mean food? I feel little passionate about that.
Speaker 5 (29:05):
Water. Also, sure if you.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
Need not including people like, let's not include people Phoebe
or dogs?
Speaker 5 (29:13):
Oh so no mammals allowed this question?
Speaker 4 (29:17):
Okay, Well, I'm just gonna make it kind of silly
and lighthearted and I'm not going to go too deep
since you're taking away my essentials.
Speaker 3 (29:25):
Fine, Okay, I'm gonna.
Speaker 4 (29:27):
Say my silk pillow case, specifically my pillow because I
literally have to travel with it.
Speaker 3 (29:34):
I can't not travel with it. It's a huge, it's
a thing.
Speaker 4 (29:40):
I would say perfume, yeah, just like smell and nice.
Speaker 3 (29:47):
Unfortunately I say my phone, Yeah, I can't live without it?
About why would I? You know? And I would say
this is really hard. I'll let you've taken away my essentials.
Speaker 4 (30:00):
I'm gonna say soda, m yeah, I need it, love it, caffeine,
and my final.
Speaker 3 (30:07):
Pick would be.
Speaker 4 (30:14):
A dryer, washer and dryer because I don't like to
smell of outside. You have to wash your clothes.
Speaker 2 (30:24):
You you didn't even pick clothes, so you don't have clothes,
so you'd just be washing yourself close.
Speaker 3 (30:32):
You said I had I'm not picking food, but are people?
But I get to have that's not an essential?
Speaker 2 (30:37):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (30:39):
What what are my rules?
Speaker 2 (30:40):
Understand the question what.
Speaker 5 (30:42):
You couldn't live without? It's very simple. Doesn't have to
like we don't have to pick shelter, but we couldn't
live without it. Like there's certain things that are.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
Soda. I love food.
Speaker 5 (30:58):
I love to lay, so the couch would maybe be
an important thing.
Speaker 3 (31:03):
My skincare, I don't know what is yours mine?
Speaker 2 (31:06):
Simple, it's my orthotics.
Speaker 3 (31:08):
Just one do you shoes?
Speaker 2 (31:11):
Do you understand? These were the most uncomfortable shoes I'd
ever worn in my life. Okay, but you I put
my orthotics in these bad boys, and I felt like
I was on a cloud at the Sabrina Carpenter Show.
Speaker 6 (31:22):
They're inserts.
Speaker 1 (31:23):
Yes, wow, and.
Speaker 2 (31:24):
These ones aren't even like I can go to a
store where they mold them to my feet.
Speaker 3 (31:28):
It's not as good though. I don't like them when
these are not.
Speaker 2 (31:30):
These are just regular ones that I bomb. But I'm like,
I can't even imagine the orgasmic heaven that would be
if I got ones made for my feet, Like.
Speaker 5 (31:38):
Are you jelling?
Speaker 6 (31:39):
What are you jelling?
Speaker 2 (31:41):
No, they're they're not gel No, I don't think so.
I don't know, but that's really all I need. Okay,
so just your simple gal. Yeah, I don't need my phone.
I don't need a TV. I do need a washer
and dryer. Just my orthotics.
Speaker 6 (31:53):
Wow wow, and some flaws.
Speaker 5 (31:55):
I don't know. I love baseball so much. I'm going
baseball and TV and my.
Speaker 6 (32:00):
On yeah phone, popcorn? Uh uh. The eminem's character is
just to look at.
Speaker 4 (32:09):
Okay, next one, I mean when you when you're when
your baseline is food, family friends by a Netflix that
can only go up.
Speaker 5 (32:18):
Biggest Date fear. You had said having stomach issues and
clogging up a toilet like a dumb.
Speaker 4 (32:23):
And dumber this Actually, I don't think I would take
this back.
Speaker 3 (32:28):
I can't think of something worse.
Speaker 5 (32:29):
I'm with you on this, maybe pooping my pants even
with on a date night with my wife, if I
had crippling stomach issues and had to run to the bathroom,
like what a what a? What a mood kill.
Speaker 3 (32:42):
And your orthotic and.
Speaker 6 (32:44):
Before my athonic into my life, your mind was always like, uh,
if there's a problem by credit card or something like
it got locked out, or like, uh, yeah, I was
always afraid something like that. Even even when I knew
everything was fine, I still was always afraid, Like what
if it comes back declined? That's my problem?
Speaker 3 (33:01):
And you know that fear and comes from having being declined,
and I relate to that.
Speaker 6 (33:06):
Yeah, never gonna escape that.
Speaker 5 (33:08):
She could be any animal. What would you be? Beca
picked a dolphin? They're beautiful and supposed to the twenty
percent of their brains brilliant.
Speaker 2 (33:15):
It's just as me. My biggest date fear.
Speaker 5 (33:18):
Oh, I thought you were saying the stomach things.
Speaker 2 (33:20):
No, I said, that's happening me.
Speaker 5 (33:22):
Okay, it's not fear anymore.
Speaker 2 (33:25):
I was always afraid I was going to go up
to the wrong person because I never knew exactly what
the guys looked like. Yeah, I was always scared of Wow,
especially mister Wilsher, because the first time I met him
it was like in a park and I was like, oh, hell,
like a lot of park with a lot of people.
Speaker 3 (33:43):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (33:44):
I was like, if I don't get this right, it's
gonna be so embarrassing.
Speaker 3 (33:47):
And you all just met through a car window.
Speaker 5 (33:49):
Yes, yeah, all right, what animal would you be, Tanya?
Speaker 3 (33:51):
I'm glad you're alive. By the way, you had some
questionable to Totally.
Speaker 6 (33:56):
I think it's on the dude to approach to come
up to you during the day.
Speaker 2 (34:00):
They I was weirdly, I was always the second one there,
like the guys are always like seated.
Speaker 6 (34:06):
But still he should stand up and be like hello,
a tan yea.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
You know no, even Robbie didn't do that.
Speaker 6 (34:11):
Wow, it's this world coming too, And I was sure,
what do you look like?
Speaker 2 (34:14):
Either? If I could be any animal, I would be Sunny,
my dog. I just just to get into her head
and know what she's thinking about.
Speaker 3 (34:25):
I would stick with my original answer of a dolphin.
It's just the my.
Speaker 4 (34:29):
Little things at the end, dumb and dumber, brilliant. It's like,
why not just answer the question. You don't need these
little taglines. But I do stink with stick with dolphins
the hell free.
Speaker 5 (34:43):
Monkeys seem like they're having a good time. Yeah, i'd
be a monkey. Plus, they're awfully similar to us. Yeah
a monkey.
Speaker 6 (34:49):
I'd be a gorilla. Oh wow, very similar to my
body type.
Speaker 5 (34:53):
Yeah, you're a gorilla of them. Man, If you won
the lottery, what would you do with your winnings? You know,
I'll tell you I would do much. I'm very happy.
Speaker 6 (35:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (35:02):
I like my car, I like my house. We would
expand the collegiate options for my daughter if I won
the lottery. But I don't see us moving into a mansion.
I don't see buying a maserati. I don't see any
of that stuff. We would travel sooner and better, that's
what we would do. And I love my job, like
I need something to do. But I think we would
travel more and in a higher class of travel. That's good,
(35:28):
that's what we would do.
Speaker 3 (35:28):
Yeah, I would travel.
Speaker 4 (35:29):
I would buy a home in a couple of different
places sure, and then gives them away to Tanya mark Innistan.
Speaker 3 (35:38):
Yeah, my family, scrubbing in family.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
Yeah, I would definitely get houses for my family, Robbie's family,
Like make sure everybody's set up in a home, like
a nice home. Then I would do what mister Beast does.
Speaker 6 (35:53):
Open a theme park inside of your always.
Speaker 2 (35:56):
Yeah, the money money always. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (35:58):
My sister entered one. She goes, I have a feeling
I'm gonna win.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
So there's a couple of the other there's a couple
others of them that do it as well, but I
don't I don't know their names YouTubers, but yeah, like that.
Speaker 5 (36:13):
It would be cool.
Speaker 3 (36:14):
Yeah, it would be fun.
Speaker 6 (36:15):
Yeah yeah, Eastern uh yeah, traveled by people's houses.
Speaker 5 (36:20):
Blah blah, what's they really dorky stuff you would do
really dorky stuff. You buy cheesecake factory, franch eyes or that's.
Speaker 3 (36:28):
Hard though, you have to work hard to like maintain them.
Speaker 6 (36:30):
Yeah, yeah, I don't dream of that, but I do
you know a bed that looks.
Speaker 4 (36:36):
Like a croc What about Easton Eats and it's just
all your favorite foods as a restaurant.
Speaker 6 (36:41):
I mean that would be fun, but also that's a
lot of work to do. You know what I would do?
Speaker 4 (36:45):
The uh?
Speaker 6 (36:46):
In Back to the Future Part two, there's these nikes
that lace themselves, are called Nike Mags, and they made
them for real and they sell for like thirty grand.
If a pair of those backs wear them around, that's
a good purchase, actually, and they just invest the rest
or something like a go Greek machine.
Speaker 2 (37:01):
Just have it on tap at your house.
Speaker 6 (37:02):
That'd be great.
Speaker 5 (37:03):
Yeah, does They don't have a most embarrassing moment to share?
Becca had several this quiz. Once I was getting gassed
and the guy asked, what kind of gas do you like?
And I thought he asked what kind of guys do
you like? So I responded the tall, dark, and handsome,
and he stared at me and repeated the question.
Speaker 3 (37:21):
It's so cringe and also just funny, tall, doorcing handsome.
Speaker 4 (37:27):
That's just funny. Embarrassing moments in Helen, Yeah, you don't
get embarrassed, not part of your personality.
Speaker 3 (37:40):
Do y'all have any.
Speaker 5 (37:41):
Nothing comes to mind? Look like I tried out for
the high school baseball team and it went horribly wrong
and I was terrible. And I also like a like
a runny nose at the time, and I couldn't kind
of keep up with that, and it was just an
awful day. I remember that being an awful embarrassing day.
Speaker 6 (37:58):
I also don't get embarrassed it easily. But uh, a year,
many many years ago before we moved to La, I I
went to it. I didn't open mic at stand up.
I tried sam comedy. Wow, I didn't. I didn't tell
anyone about I just did it, went by myself. And
let me tell you, guys, I absolutely destroyed. I killed
and I was like, oh, this is it. I'm doing
this now, this is it. So I did. I came
back like a month later. I told my friends, and
(38:19):
oh my god, how poorly I did that second time?
So bad? Nobody laughed. It was terrible. I was like
fumbling around and I was so embarrassed. But that's every
stand up comic story it is. And I realized at
that point I was not built for that. So interesting,
so I never did it.
Speaker 5 (38:36):
Every other standup comedy realizes that they can endure that embarrassment,
yeah and get back up.
Speaker 3 (38:42):
You were.
Speaker 6 (38:42):
That's it for me, that's it for you know. I'm like,
there's gonna be more of these down the line. And
I don't think I'm I don't think I'm built for this.
Speaker 3 (38:49):
You trigger something in me.
Speaker 4 (38:51):
For my most embarrassing it was when Amy had me
fill in for k t LA the entertainment portion as
like I filled him for Sam Rubin.
Speaker 6 (39:00):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (39:00):
And I had no hosting a bit.
Speaker 4 (39:03):
I had no experience reading a prompter, and it was
so painfully bad. I was like, I will never When
people are like, would you want to host TV? She's like,
you should host, you should host, I'm like never, Wow,
shut me down.
Speaker 2 (39:18):
I remember that was as bad as she's making it's
pretty bad, but it wasn't that.
Speaker 5 (39:24):
That was bad.
Speaker 4 (39:25):
I interviewed Alie Simpson, Cody Simpson's sister. Yeah, she was
promoting something, but she was really sweet.
Speaker 2 (39:33):
But it wasn't as bad as you think. But I
could see the panic in her.
Speaker 3 (39:38):
Yeah, like you could tell it was very uncomfortable.
Speaker 6 (39:41):
Yeah, would you do it now?
Speaker 3 (39:42):
And I'm looking it up Mark, we're trying.
Speaker 6 (39:46):
No, you have so much more experience as a host now,
and you're so good.
Speaker 4 (39:51):
Well, you could host a comedy special and I also
have experience, and you could host a fashion show panel.
Speaker 5 (40:02):
You could, by the way, you're a color blind fashion commentator.
You can do anything.
Speaker 3 (40:08):
Literally, people believe in you.
Speaker 5 (40:13):
And finally, what is your greatest We get everybody on
that one. What is your greatest achievement to date? Becca
said at this date, staying at home, staying and living
alone in California, when my sister and brother in law
went back to Louisiana.
Speaker 3 (40:27):
I would say buying a house in California. I feel
very a.
Speaker 5 (40:29):
Major accomplishment, very achieved.
Speaker 3 (40:33):
We're doing that.
Speaker 5 (40:33):
We've asked this before and I've always said I and
I continue to say, my marriage of twenty three years,
thank you, thank you, and my daughters.
Speaker 2 (40:43):
Yes, I think Mine's my book.
Speaker 5 (40:49):
That's a good one.
Speaker 2 (40:50):
Really hard to do, and it was, Yeah, it was hard,
challenging in many ways.
Speaker 6 (40:57):
I have the Sunshine. Mine is on my bookcase in
my office at home, and sometimes I hold like I
pick it up and hold it in my hand and
I think about that, like you can pick up this
thing that Tanya creating and hold it in your hand,
and it's like, that's just such an incredible thing.
Speaker 2 (41:10):
It was so much time and effort, like more than
I put into I feel like anything.
Speaker 6 (41:16):
Yeah, yeah, and it comes through in the work.
Speaker 2 (41:19):
Thank you. So much.
Speaker 6 (41:20):
Uh, you know, I think sometimes I think about my marriage,
but that's not a really an achievement. That's like I
tricked somebody into it. But yeah, I guess I'll buy
a house in California that I was pretty I'm proud
of that.
Speaker 5 (41:32):
Yeah, in a classic house.
Speaker 6 (41:33):
Yeah yeah, a a historic home, one hundred year old
house that we've painsectly restored.
Speaker 3 (41:42):
Well, that was a really fun prompt.
Speaker 4 (41:44):
I mean, I hate revisiting that interview that I did,
but I'm grateful for redo.
Speaker 5 (41:48):
Thank you, Thank you, Bri.
Speaker 4 (41:50):
And if you ever want to submit dear Bonia questions, comments, concerns, games,
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Speaker 3 (42:03):
Everyone's going to go home and lay and we hope
you have a wonderful weekend. And we love you so much.
Speaker 4 (42:13):
You love you.
Speaker 2 (42:14):
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Speaker 3 (00:15):
We really throw the people off with that intro.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
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Speaker 4 (00:24):
Like a professional radio host. Intro was giving Ryan Seacrest.
That's right, Annie Seacrest, thank you.
Speaker 5 (00:29):
We got podcast right here for you, buddy.
Speaker 3 (00:35):
I was giving auctioneer nice. Sure, how you doing do
a great?
Speaker 2 (00:41):
Can't wait for a date night?
Speaker 4 (00:43):
Same, We're heading to the Subarina Carpenter concert tonight.
Speaker 2 (00:48):
That's right.
Speaker 3 (00:49):
Short and sweet, Short and sweet. She is so short
and sweet.
Speaker 2 (00:52):
She's like a pollypocket she is.
Speaker 3 (00:54):
It's so I wish that they did a live action pollpocket.
Speaker 2 (00:57):
They have to use her. I agree.
Speaker 6 (01:00):
Do you see the photos of her and Taylor out
in New York and she's.
Speaker 3 (01:02):
Like the edits of it?
Speaker 4 (01:05):
Like I was having I can't remember what happened, but
I was just feeling down one day and I would
just go look at that picture and I'd bring me.
Speaker 2 (01:12):
Back happiness and joy because.
Speaker 3 (01:14):
She's so cute, and Taylor looks so tall in that photo.
Speaker 6 (01:18):
I saw people posting this is lady Gita.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
I don't get it.
Speaker 6 (01:23):
It's a tiny picture of lady.
Speaker 2 (01:27):
I don't get the Internet sometimes.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
Dona's response to things that's like, so it really is
just being chronically online and shold me that I don't
get it, and I'm.
Speaker 4 (01:35):
Like, go away, Yeah, let me just be silly, and
it doesn't need to be gotten.
Speaker 2 (01:44):
Clearly it needs to be gotten.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
No, it's just tiny little Sabrina being cute and polly
pocket and then Taylor.
Speaker 3 (01:49):
Being already tall and wearing the tallest deals.
Speaker 2 (01:52):
I didn't understand. I now do because you forced me
to go, like, understand, Julie is not.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
I didn't say anything. Yeah, so that's okay. Yeah, you
said I don't understand. I said that's okay.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
But it's not okay because then I feel left out.
Well I can't fix that.
Speaker 4 (02:14):
I can't fix that part because I wish I was a.
Speaker 2 (02:17):
Little left out.
Speaker 3 (02:19):
Yeah, I wish I was kind of left out from
chronically online.
Speaker 4 (02:22):
You know.
Speaker 2 (02:22):
I'm actually, let's check back in January and see if
you actually do this, But because a lot of December,
I'm going to be taking off. I want to put
a time limit on my phone of like how much
I can be on social media a day. And I'm
going to give myself forty five minutes a day. WHOA,
(02:43):
that feels like nothing.
Speaker 3 (02:45):
It is nothing.
Speaker 4 (02:46):
One.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
That's one session for me.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
How many sessions a day do you have multiple?
Speaker 6 (02:52):
I have the thing on Instagram where like at an hour,
it says like that's enough for today, Oh wow, and
I hit fifteen more or forget it for the day.
Speaker 2 (03:01):
I need to get that. Is that an app?
Speaker 6 (03:03):
No, it's on your phone, the Instagram app.
Speaker 5 (03:06):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (03:07):
I had it just in my settings on my phone
and I hit ignore basically every it was like snooze.
I was snoozing my alert. Yeah, but you should get
the Brick. I've already told you about the Brick. It's
like a thing that you put on your phone and
it like locks it until it's just more.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
It's more.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
I want to be able to engage with my text messaging.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
Yeah you can.
Speaker 4 (03:29):
You can engage with your text messaging with the Brick.
You can choose what apps you want.
Speaker 3 (03:35):
Okay, okay, yeah, so it's like your choice.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
If you're going, hey, I'm noticing I'm spending a lot
of time on Instagram. I'm going to put the brick
to where I have a certain set time for that.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
Got it?
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Okay? Yeah, yeah, So that's a little bit about my
goals for de summer. Thank Yeah.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
You can do hard things.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
Thank you? Well, can we all can? Oh? Yes, Well,
I was just thinking, like Thanksgiving is next week, and
then basically before you know, it's Hanuka, it's Christmas, it's
the new year. This is the time of year where
we start like vision boarding, picking our words of the year,
like all that stuff. Maybe we do that for the
(04:15):
podcast in December.
Speaker 3 (04:17):
Which is what we typically do.
Speaker 2 (04:19):
Yeah, but it's now the time start thinking about it
in brainstorming.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
Thank you for the heads up.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
No problem.
Speaker 4 (04:25):
Haley has this thing where she goes, she if it's
in her calendar, she is like, I'm gonna do it.
So she'll go, you should just put that in your calendar,
and I go, that does not do anything for my
calendar's empty, because I'm like, what I'm just if it's
like She'll go, if I put a workout at a
certain time in my calendar, then I'll if it's in
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my calendar, I'll do it.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
Yeah, same, yeah, and I'm like I just go, h, well,
the time.
Speaker 2 (04:53):
Passed, Like if I there's like, let's say the weekend
goes by, and oh, there's a couple of emails that
I want to have, like her priority to me, like,
I'll put them in my calendar for Monday morning so
that I remember to like respond to these people Monday morning,
and I'll do it.
Speaker 3 (05:07):
Yeah, you don't have that nothing. I don't know. I
need some meds or something. I don't know. Something's wrong,
something's not going on in here.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Interesting, Hayley tried to get me.
Speaker 4 (05:22):
I felt like a child whose parent was trying to
wrangle them yesterday because she was really trying to clear
out this junk room because when we moved everything from
the garage for the construction, I just went into this
I call it the chaos room, and she wanted to
clear it out, and I was all before yesterday. I
was like, yeah, let's do it on Sunday. And then
(05:43):
the time came and I was like I just don't
want to.
Speaker 3 (05:46):
I have more laying to do. I just it doesn't
feel right.
Speaker 4 (05:51):
And she was like, Babe, we have to get this
done and you have to go through things. I can't
do it on my own, so she had to wrangled me.
Speaker 3 (06:00):
You did it.
Speaker 4 (06:01):
I did it nice, but I got distracted and I
was like clearing out the air filter and then I
was folding laundry, so I was doing productive things. Just
I didn't want to do that. And I have this
thing about not wanting to be told what to do.
Speaker 5 (06:14):
Including your calendar telling you what to do.
Speaker 3 (06:16):
I think there's something I think what is that though?
Speaker 2 (06:19):
Is there maybe your whole life you were told what
to do and now you're like rebelling.
Speaker 3 (06:22):
Breaking free. Yeah, we're breaking free.
Speaker 2 (06:25):
Yeah. It was Soman fine.
Speaker 3 (06:29):
In There's not a sovereign Heaven that we cambreach.
Speaker 2 (06:37):
High School Musical, Ah, yes, I never watched it.
Speaker 6 (06:40):
That's the only song I know from it.
Speaker 5 (06:41):
I haven't seen.
Speaker 4 (06:43):
I would say, y'all are missing out. I would also
say high School Musical three is cinema.
Speaker 2 (06:49):
I feel like I passed the mark of it, do
you know what I mean? Like, I feel like I'm so.
Speaker 3 (06:52):
Far past No, you're not. Sometimes I'll just put it
on really. Yeah. That and the Hannah Montana.
Speaker 6 (06:58):
Movie, Oh We're Talking.
Speaker 4 (07:00):
And Lizzie McGuire movie, which, by the way, my initial
response to mature was just kind of like it's I
like it.
Speaker 3 (07:09):
It's fun boppy, but I'm really into.
Speaker 2 (07:11):
It now so good. It's like a certified bop.
Speaker 4 (07:14):
Maybe that's also something with controls. People telling me that
it's amazing, but I need to decide for myself.
Speaker 5 (07:20):
Yeah, you should talk.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
I think there's something there.
Speaker 5 (07:25):
The way Hilary Duff on it with Running Seacrest tomorrow
morning at o'clock.
Speaker 3 (07:28):
Thank you for that pluck.
Speaker 2 (07:29):
Yeah, do you plug the scrubbing in podcast? I have owls.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
Oh, I'm gonna guess.
Speaker 5 (07:34):
No, I'm not on any other shows.
Speaker 2 (07:37):
We'll get all them.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
Yeah, well you're you know.
Speaker 4 (07:41):
I like to take responsibility in the fact that you
not not me personally, but scrubbing in.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
That people aren't.
Speaker 4 (07:48):
Your bands are scrubbing in people, and they follow you
wherever you go, like they listen to other podcasts that
you were on, but they're originally from scrubbing in.
Speaker 6 (07:57):
Every time I talk about Gilmore Girl's fashion on I
Am In, I talked about scrubbing in vas.
Speaker 4 (08:01):
Yeah for that, that's right, fashion, scrubbing in collabo styles.
Speaker 6 (08:08):
You want to hear talking about the fashion of Gilmore girls,
that's it? Why I don't know.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
Thank you for your service. I didn't know that was
a market that was missing.
Speaker 5 (08:17):
It's a market, baby, you gotta find the whole. And
you found it.
Speaker 6 (08:20):
Yeah, found your Nie place kicking and screaming into that hole.
Speaker 4 (08:28):
We do have some dear Bondia today real that is
for real.
Speaker 2 (08:32):
Gilmore Girls Fashion podcast.
Speaker 6 (08:34):
It is a Gilmore Girl's fashion podcast host hosted by me.
You know who My guest is Nobody. I'm alone. I speak,
I love I hurry so much. I love this job,
but I speak uninterrupted for fifteen minutes.
Speaker 2 (08:49):
Why would you be the first to talk about Gilmore
Girls fashion respectfully?
Speaker 6 (08:52):
Well, I have a fashion background. I love Gilmore Girls.
There's many of the things that are not true.
Speaker 3 (09:00):
This is crazy, crazy information, really crazy.
Speaker 4 (09:05):
Every Thursday morning, did you watch Gilmore Girls.
Speaker 6 (09:09):
I'm watching it now.
Speaker 3 (09:11):
To recap the fashion, just the fashion.
Speaker 6 (09:14):
I watch the episode, I go through and I talk about.
Speaker 2 (09:17):
Literally like me talking about a soprano's like cigar lines
every week or something like having a cigar podcast.
Speaker 5 (09:24):
Very like that is very very good.
Speaker 6 (09:28):
I'm gonna talk about this because I truly don the game.
Was listening to it so like, I don't think, but
it's so funny because I don't know anything about fashion.
I do not. I'm colorblind too. That's the other thing
I'm going through, going like, man, there's a part at
the town meeting Laura is She's wearing a brown shirt
and it looks cool.
Speaker 5 (09:49):
This is it? People text you and say, it's a
purple shirt.
Speaker 6 (09:53):
Actually, you know, because of this show, I got an
app that where I can point at my screen tells
me what color it is, because or because I'm sick
of asking Al's and what color the thing is. But
I also don't know how to talk about the fashion.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
I don't know fashion.
Speaker 6 (10:05):
I'm not a fashion guy. But I'm doing the damn
show and I've been doing it for a few months.
Speaker 5 (10:10):
That scrubbers. You gotta do it as a favorite. You
gotta go down the numbers skyrocket. It will be so funny.
Speaker 4 (10:18):
Is that the only time you're shouting out to grubbing
in is on that show.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
That's messed up.
Speaker 6 (10:25):
That's not the only time, but that's the most regular
time I am on the air.
Speaker 5 (10:29):
Go listen to that and just let it run on
a loop and put your phone away drawer just to
get his numbers up.
Speaker 6 (10:34):
Come on because I'm getting the same down as as
everyone else on that channel. I want to get.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
That number.
Speaker 5 (10:40):
Well, I should talk about that.
Speaker 6 (10:43):
They're in the many hundreds of thousand.
Speaker 2 (10:46):
Oh my gosh, that really was unexpected today.
Speaker 4 (10:49):
Yeah, so we get to let's decompress on that info.
Speaker 5 (10:54):
Well, let's take a break before the first one will
tease it? How about this? How about this for a tease?
How do I support my sister's affair but you don't?
Speaker 2 (11:04):
What are you gonna do? He's having an affair. We'll
talk about it, Okay, after this.
Speaker 4 (11:28):
All right, we are back after finding out that Easton
is a fashion podcast host.
Speaker 6 (11:35):
That's right. You know. Actually, if you are watching season
one of Gilmore Girls, episode ten where they go to
a Christmas party, Rory's wearing a vintage visiting that is
it pops up on deep hop and eBay from time
to time.
Speaker 2 (11:48):
They're also color blind, know what about you?
Speaker 1 (11:53):
A layer? I just don't.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
Honestly, that's such a smart act.
Speaker 6 (12:12):
It's called color blind pal in case anyone else out
there suffers from the same ailment.
Speaker 3 (12:16):
Honestly, Yeah, I'm not trying to make a joke. I
hope you know.
Speaker 2 (12:18):
I'm not trying to make a joke of your color
my disability. But like it's just so whoa, that's really cool.
Speaker 6 (12:28):
It uses your camera and like point you just point
out something and it'll tell you.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
This happened on your nose. Do you want to know
what it says? Faint orange? Shut up?
Speaker 2 (12:40):
That is not orange.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
I'm just a colored blind pal.
Speaker 6 (12:45):
Color blind pal says it's orange.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
Oh man, I hope you know I'm not making fun
of you.
Speaker 6 (12:52):
I do not at all. Okay, this is I feel
the exact same way.
Speaker 4 (12:58):
Yeah, that's crazy. This is also crazy. Our first dear bonnet.
Speaker 5 (13:02):
Okay from anonymous Dear scrub squad Becatania Market, Eastern. That
seems to be the default order right there. I could
really use your advice. In late twenty twenty three, and
my sister went on a dating app even though she
was married. She ended up meeting a married guy and
they had an affair for about nine months till her
husband found out. My sister and her husband tried to
work things out. It did not last. They are almost divorced.
(13:24):
Recently she told me she and the guy she had
the affair with have reconnected. He's now recently divorced as well.
And they've started a real relationship. She is thirty five,
he is fifty six. Normally, age gaps don't bother me,
but with everything that's happened, this one really does. My
husband and I have two little kids, four and one,
and we're honestly struggling to process at all. We're worried
about what happens if things get serious she starts bringing
(13:47):
them around. My sister also wants kids, but she's admitted
that if she stays with him, that's probably not going
to happen. What makes this even harder is that our
mom was cheated on and divorced our dads. It really
hurts all of us that my sister would do this
after see what our mom went through. I love my
sitters so much, but I'm torn. I'm scared that if
I don't support this, I'll lose her. But it's hard
to watch her make these choices. I wouldn't normally be
(14:08):
won to write in for advice, but she's only told me,
my husband and our mom so far. I just don't
know what to do with all of it. How do
I support her without feeling like I'm agreeing to what
she's doing? Or do I just need to accept it
and hope for the best. Thank you all, and thanks
in advance Anonymous and Day one scrubber ps. Your podcast
has gotten me through so many rough newborn nights. Sending
baby dust to you. Tanya.
Speaker 4 (14:33):
This is interesting because the only thing she mentions about him,
aside from the fact that he also was married when
they had the affair, is that he's fifty six. But
she doesn't really talk about anything personality wise.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
So I'm trying to figure.
Speaker 2 (14:46):
Out she doesn't like him because creepy. I think it's
his character that he also was cheating on his.
Speaker 4 (14:53):
Marriage, right, But I guess if you're fine with your
sister being around your kids and she did the same thing,
you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (15:01):
I don't think she is. I don't think she I.
Speaker 4 (15:03):
Think she's fine with her sister. She doesn't want to
hit her bring somebody else. So without having context of
why she doesn't like him other than we just know
he's fifty six and she did on his wife. But
I the thing about this is that you don't have
to like what they did, and you don't have to
agree with what they did. But if you love your
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sister and you want a relationship with her, and this
is the choice that she's making, then I think that
you be around her. But if you're if there's something
that makes you feel weird about having him around your kids,
then just make sure he's super like make sure that
they're not alone with him, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (15:41):
Yeah, again, without any context about the guy being like
creepy or anything like that. I feel that you can't
punish your sister for the choices she made. Like she's
in her she's living in her choices, you know what
I mean. Like she's already dealing with the backlash of
having an affair, breaking up her family, all the things.
So I feel like you can't really well, I mean,
(16:05):
if you do anything.
Speaker 4 (16:06):
If you want to have a relationship with your sister,
I think you have to like get to a point
where you accept that that's the choice that she's making
and you don't have to agree with it.
Speaker 2 (16:16):
But she's she's saying it's super sensitive because her mom
got cheated on, so she suset and I understand all
those things, but also you can't.
Speaker 4 (16:25):
And I think it's if you and your sister are clothes,
I think it's even worth having a conversation being like,
I want to be there for you and I want
to support you in the choices you make, but I
am having a really hard time because we watched Mom
go through this and we know how hurtful it was,
and I'm I'm struggling to make sense of it and
accept it. And I just wanted to be upfront and
(16:46):
honest with you. But I love you, and I you
know you're my sister. Yeah, but I don't think that
you have to support her affair or you know, they're
both a divorce now so it's better now than it
was before or Yeah, and unless he's doing something that's
like super creepy or puts anyone in danger, I think
(17:08):
maybe you give give him a chance to see maybe
why your sister went through all that to be with him.
Speaker 2 (17:16):
Yeah, Which I get it.
Speaker 3 (17:18):
It's hard, it's it's not like an easy thing.
Speaker 4 (17:20):
But I just I think you want to have a
relationship with your sister, and I also think that you
can't control what she does. And I think if you
say he's not invited, he's not welcome in our home,
you're gonna lose.
Speaker 3 (17:31):
Your relationship with your sister. So I guess am.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
Picking out choosing what is gonna, you know, be be
the best for you and your family. But also your
relationship with your sister is gonna you know, either it's
either gonna thrive and you're gonna learn to love her
in spite of her decisions, despite despite yeah I said
(17:56):
despite despite.
Speaker 3 (17:57):
Her decisions, or you who don't have a close relationship with.
Speaker 5 (18:02):
Her agreed, and your kids are gonna be fine. That's
just who Auntie Louise is dating. Okay, so her boyfriend.
The kids don't care. Yeah, ah, this is from Demi
or perhaps to me. I don't know and never will know.
She's a very defeated scrubber, though she says, Hi friends,
Day one listener, and my love for you all grows
every episode. You're the only podcast I listened to religiously
(18:25):
every week the day it comes out. You hear it
all the time, but I feel like you are truly
my friends, all four of you. I'm thirty three. When
I was thirty one, I met someone who I really
thought was the one. For six months, things were amazing.
We were long distance, two and a half hours apart,
but it felt like we had found our home in
each other. And then things got rocky. Right around the
time I was thinking about ending it, I got pregnant,
(18:45):
and it's been even more rocky. I said most of
my pregnancy depressed, wondering if I was making a mistake,
if I should do this as a single mom. When
I was seven months pregnant, he proposed. I said yes
because I loved him and I wanted to make a
family work, but also because I felt like I couldn't
say no. After my baby was born, I left my job,
which I loved, and moved to where he lives. I
uprooted everything, and now I'm not sure we should even
(19:07):
be together. We have good days, but just as many
bad ones. Every time we hit a new stage, I
tell myself things will get better, and they never do.
I love him, but I don't know if I've ever
been in love with him. We're so different in our
love language, his attachment styles, how we communicate, what we prioritize.
He drinks a lot, even at home with our baby.
It makes me wonder if he's unhappy too. He says
he loves me, he wants us to work, but I
(19:27):
feel alone even when he's right next to me. We
are not connecting. My baby is fourteen months old, and
I still don't know what to do. If a friend
told me this, I'd say, you only get one life.
You deserve to feel loved and excited every day. But
when you're a mom, you'll do anything to keep your
family together. And part of me thinks we could have
a good life. But when I hear the way Becket
talks about Haley or the way Tanya talks about Robbie,
(19:49):
I've never felt that way about him. So I'm torn
between staying and hoping love grows, or leaving and starting over,
leaving me and shared custody, missing time with my baby,
splitting holidays, rebuilding from s Do I love my baby
enough to accept a relationship that doesn't feel like that big,
deep love right now? Can that kind of love grow
if you nurture it? I would love your input. Love
(20:10):
to me or DEMI a very defeated scrubber boy. That
is a tough email.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
I'm gonna shoot it to you straight because I think
you said it already to yourself. If this was a
friend coming to me with this situation, I would tell
them to leave. And I think that that's what you
know deep down that you should do, because here's the thing. Yes,
you will have to split custody. So it does mean
missing time with your baby one hundred percent. It does
(20:40):
mean splitting the holidays. It does mean rebuilding everything from scratch.
But you have so much life ahead of you, and
kids are so resilient. What you have control over is
if you split up, you can still make it doesn't
have to be a nasty split up. You can try
and make that as cordial and as good as you
possibly can, and then you can have a very happy
(21:02):
and loving home for that time that you do get
to have your baby with you, and you can also
have that love and that relationship and those experiences for
yourself too, because eventually your baby's gonna grow up. Your
baby's gonna turn eighteen. And I mean, I don't know,
but like probably want nothing to do with you, you know,
like not want nothing to do with you. But their
kids grow up, they build their own lives, they leave
(21:24):
the house, they leave the house, and then what you're
just left with this guy that you don't like.
Speaker 4 (21:30):
That's what I was gonna say the same thing too,
Like your child is gonna grow up and they're gonna
did he say?
Speaker 3 (21:36):
She hears?
Speaker 2 (21:37):
She she said baby. So I'm just gonna the baby.
Speaker 3 (21:39):
Is going to grow up and become an adult.
Speaker 4 (21:41):
And then, like, let's say you're still in the same
mindset that you're in now, and you go through eighteen
years of raising this child with this man that you're
just tolerating, and then the the baby leaves the house,
are you instantly gonna say, I'm gonna go live my
life and find the love that I've always wanted. Are
you going to wait eighteen years, seventeen years to go
(22:05):
after the love and find the love and that you
deserve and have always wanted. Because I think if you're
having a tough time and you're in a relationship where
y'all are not connecting, you don't know each other's love languages,
you don't feel seen, the baby is going to become
a perceptive child who is going to feel the lack
of connection and love in the home. So I'm I'm
(22:26):
all for keeping the family together and fighting through hard times,
but if it's just always hard.
Speaker 2 (22:32):
Yeah, it seems fifty to fifty, which feels.
Speaker 3 (22:34):
Like, I mean, my thing is, can you nurture a relationship? Sure?
Speaker 4 (22:39):
I think so, I think you can nurture I think
you can go to couple therapy. I think you can
find ways to connect in levels that you don't connect on,
like maybe you find things that you have similar and
common interest in.
Speaker 3 (22:51):
But I also just don't think that if.
Speaker 4 (22:54):
Your whole life, like if your whole life of raising
this child, is you going, should I stay?
Speaker 3 (22:59):
Should I go?
Speaker 4 (23:00):
Like, you just have to make the decision. Either you're
going to commit and you're going to water the relationship
and nurture it, or you're gonna do what's best for
you and ultimately the baby right now and get out
of that relationship.
Speaker 3 (23:14):
Yeah, what do you think, Mark, I don't know.
Speaker 5 (23:18):
It's really difficult because you know a lot of women
stay in these situations because they can't imagine, you know,
say she splits up with this guy, this guy's going
to find someone else. Someday suddenly that new random woman's
going to have a maternal relationship with her baby. Like
that's one of those things that's very difficult. And I
get how difficult that is, But it seems to me
(23:41):
that you want to envision your life in five years.
You know, I've given that advice one hundred times on
this show, And imagine your life in five years with
him by your side and your baby now five six
years old, and without him, can you get your old
job back? Are you doing that? Are you making things happen?
You're a single mom doing it? Like you know, I
think that's sounds more appealing to you right now, and
(24:01):
so maybe you can get past that other stuff. I
don't know. I'm very torn on this when I go
back and forth, but I think you just got to
envision what your future is like with him and your
future without him, because you know, I'm We're an empty
nester fairly soon, and I'm very not excited about that
because it's going to be sad to see them go.
But that reconnection with my wife and that connection we
had before we had kids, I really am looking forward
(24:23):
to that. I'm looking forward to just being the two
of us and we can do whatever we want to do.
That's exciting. So if you don't have that excitement in
your mind, then yeah, maybe it's time to head back
to your old where you used to live.
Speaker 4 (24:34):
Yeah, Like if being alone once the baby is gone,
if being alone is more daunting than exciting, like the
thought of, like, oh, one day we're going to get
back to who we were before having a baby and
our connection. If that feels more like a horror film
then a romance rom com, I would just I.
Speaker 3 (24:56):
Would cut the cord now. Yeah, But then there's a
they're part of me that feels like she didn't say
it's all bad, right, and I feel like thirteen months
those are that's probably the hardest year. Yes, I hear
everyone say the.
Speaker 4 (25:10):
First year having a baby is like you're adjusting to
so much, and like your relationship goes through it because
this baby has entered and that becomes their whole world.
And I'm like, do you wait till you're out of
the thick of.
Speaker 3 (25:25):
Newborn?
Speaker 5 (25:26):
I think the couple's counseling idea is an interesting thought
because maybe there is something there that you guys can find. Yeah,
and maybe you give yourself a deadline.
Speaker 2 (25:33):
Let's try this for right, maybe by the time the
kid's three, and maybe you'd revisit the situation.
Speaker 3 (25:39):
And like put put like actual action items to work.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
It notunds like she does want to do that, But
it takes two to tango, so we don't know if
this guy is also down for the task.
Speaker 6 (25:48):
Yeah, sure, he's just right, Like he's.
Speaker 2 (25:51):
Just like I'm just going to live my life and
do what you want to do.
Speaker 5 (25:53):
You know.
Speaker 4 (25:53):
Well, yeah, I mean if he if she brings up
the idea of going to couples counseling and he's like,
I'm not doing that, then you have your answer. You
can't you can't force someone to want to work on things.
But if he's like, yeah, let's do it. I want
to be with you, then I think there's a way
of nurturing something and maybe finding something in each other
that that you are able to love him in the
way that you want to to love and be loved.
Speaker 3 (26:17):
But I'm sorry, that's really really challenged. H keep us
updated if you want.
Speaker 5 (26:24):
Yeah, we'd love that.
Speaker 3 (26:25):
Yeah. Yeah, I feel like we should take a break
and do We'll do a fun one, a fun one
when we return.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
We're back, Yes we are. Mark.
Speaker 3 (26:59):
I feel like I'm drunk, legitimately drunk on life.
Speaker 2 (27:07):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (27:07):
I thought we did this last one? Is that cool?
Speaker 3 (27:09):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (27:09):
Three set this in Hi, Tanya, Mark, Beca and Easton.
When you were playing Becca Trilvia and you read those
questions from the Bachelor interviews, it had me wondering what
all of your answers would be and what Becca's would
be today. Would love to hear everyone's answer. Sincerely, Brie,
a longtime listener, former Grays and Bachelor watcher Sunshine Mind Book.
(27:29):
A sign attendee at the Grove, enthusiastic listening to Mark's
advice and thankful for Easton's love of life and his
reminders to do the random things and enjoy the moments
we have. Wow, thanks for being part of my life
all these years. We love bre Love you, Bri. All right,
tattoos you have you had to? Now you have fewer
(27:50):
than two?
Speaker 3 (27:51):
Yeah, I don't have any zero zero.
Speaker 5 (27:53):
All right, Tanya zero Easton three. I also have zero,
So Easton, tell us about yours.
Speaker 6 (28:00):
They're all on my lower lower hemisphere. I got one
on my foot. It's the face from the Indiana Jones
ride at Disneyland, the big face you see that you're
not supposed to going to the eyes.
Speaker 5 (28:11):
Yeah, naturally, Mara common tattoo.
Speaker 6 (28:13):
And then on my shin I've got a big old
skeleton also from that ride where that shoots the darts
at you. And then on my upper thigh, I've got
a woman's face with spider legs coming out of it.
Speaker 2 (28:22):
I had a dragon. No on your leg.
Speaker 6 (28:27):
No, it's got flames on it. It's it's a skeleton.
Speaker 5 (28:29):
Oh yeah, the woman's face is that from? What is
that from?
Speaker 6 (28:33):
You know? It was Halloween and there's a sheet of
the pictures and I got it was thirty one dollars
and I got it.
Speaker 5 (28:39):
Wow.
Speaker 6 (28:40):
Yeah, it doesn't mean anything, just a impulse, tattoo impulse all.
You know, we went down there to get tattoos that
day it was gonna happen, but I didn't know when
I was getting util I got down.
Speaker 5 (28:48):
Wow. Crazy, I can't live without Becka. Originally, of course
said food, family, friends, Wi Fi, and Netflix. So crazy.
What would you put on that list? Now?
Speaker 3 (29:02):
I mean food? I feel little passionate about that.
Speaker 5 (29:05):
Water. Also, sure if you.
Speaker 2 (29:07):
Need not including people like, let's not include people Phoebe
or dogs?
Speaker 5 (29:13):
Oh so no mammals allowed this question?
Speaker 4 (29:17):
Okay, Well, I'm just gonna make it kind of silly
and lighthearted and I'm not going to go too deep
since you're taking away my essentials.
Speaker 3 (29:25):
Fine, Okay, I'm gonna.
Speaker 4 (29:27):
Say my silk pillow case, specifically my pillow because I
literally have to travel with it.
Speaker 3 (29:34):
I can't not travel with it. It's a huge, it's
a thing.
Speaker 4 (29:40):
I would say perfume, yeah, just like smell and nice.
Speaker 3 (29:47):
Unfortunately I say my phone, Yeah, I can't live without it?
About why would I? You know? And I would say
this is really hard. I'll let you've taken away my essentials.
Speaker 4 (30:00):
I'm gonna say soda, m yeah, I need it, love it, caffeine,
and my final.
Speaker 3 (30:07):
Pick would be.
Speaker 4 (30:14):
A dryer, washer and dryer because I don't like to
smell of outside. You have to wash your clothes.
Speaker 2 (30:24):
You you didn't even pick clothes, so you don't have clothes,
so you'd just be washing yourself close.
Speaker 3 (30:32):
You said I had I'm not picking food, but are people?
But I get to have that's not an essential?
Speaker 2 (30:37):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (30:39):
What what are my rules?
Speaker 2 (30:40):
Understand the question what.
Speaker 5 (30:42):
You couldn't live without? It's very simple. Doesn't have to
like we don't have to pick shelter, but we couldn't
live without it. Like there's certain things that are.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
Soda. I love food.
Speaker 5 (30:58):
I love to lay, so the couch would maybe be
an important thing.
Speaker 3 (31:03):
My skincare, I don't know what is yours mine?
Speaker 2 (31:06):
Simple, it's my orthotics.
Speaker 3 (31:08):
Just one do you shoes?
Speaker 2 (31:11):
Do you understand? These were the most uncomfortable shoes I'd
ever worn in my life. Okay, but you I put
my orthotics in these bad boys, and I felt like
I was on a cloud at the Sabrina Carpenter Show.
Speaker 6 (31:22):
They're inserts.
Speaker 1 (31:23):
Yes, wow, and.
Speaker 2 (31:24):
These ones aren't even like I can go to a
store where they mold them to my feet.
Speaker 3 (31:28):
It's not as good though. I don't like them when
these are not.
Speaker 2 (31:30):
These are just regular ones that I bomb. But I'm like,
I can't even imagine the orgasmic heaven that would be
if I got ones made for my feet, Like.
Speaker 5 (31:38):
Are you jelling?
Speaker 6 (31:39):
What are you jelling?
Speaker 2 (31:41):
No, they're they're not gel No, I don't think so.
I don't know, but that's really all I need. Okay,
so just your simple gal. Yeah, I don't need my phone.
I don't need a TV. I do need a washer
and dryer. Just my orthotics.
Speaker 6 (31:53):
Wow wow, and some flaws.
Speaker 5 (31:55):
I don't know. I love baseball so much. I'm going
baseball and TV and my.
Speaker 6 (32:00):
On yeah phone, popcorn? Uh uh. The eminem's character is
just to look at.
Speaker 4 (32:09):
Okay, next one, I mean when you when you're when
your baseline is food, family friends by a Netflix that
can only go up.
Speaker 5 (32:18):
Biggest Date fear. You had said having stomach issues and
clogging up a toilet like a dumb.
Speaker 4 (32:23):
And dumber this Actually, I don't think I would take
this back.
Speaker 3 (32:28):
I can't think of something worse.
Speaker 5 (32:29):
I'm with you on this, maybe pooping my pants even
with on a date night with my wife, if I
had crippling stomach issues and had to run to the bathroom,
like what a what a? What a mood kill.
Speaker 3 (32:42):
And your orthotic and.
Speaker 6 (32:44):
Before my athonic into my life, your mind was always like, uh,
if there's a problem by credit card or something like
it got locked out, or like, uh, yeah, I was
always afraid something like that. Even even when I knew
everything was fine, I still was always afraid, Like what
if it comes back declined? That's my problem?
Speaker 3 (33:01):
And you know that fear and comes from having being declined,
and I relate to that.
Speaker 6 (33:06):
Yeah, never gonna escape that.
Speaker 5 (33:08):
She could be any animal. What would you be? Beca
picked a dolphin? They're beautiful and supposed to the twenty
percent of their brains brilliant.
Speaker 2 (33:15):
It's just as me. My biggest date fear.
Speaker 5 (33:18):
Oh, I thought you were saying the stomach things.
Speaker 2 (33:20):
No, I said, that's happening me.
Speaker 5 (33:22):
Okay, it's not fear anymore.
Speaker 2 (33:25):
I was always afraid I was going to go up
to the wrong person because I never knew exactly what
the guys looked like. Yeah, I was always scared of Wow,
especially mister Wilsher, because the first time I met him
it was like in a park and I was like, oh, hell,
like a lot of park with a lot of people.
Speaker 3 (33:43):
Oh my god.
Speaker 2 (33:44):
I was like, if I don't get this right, it's
gonna be so embarrassing.
Speaker 3 (33:47):
And you all just met through a car window.
Speaker 5 (33:49):
Yes, yeah, all right, what animal would you be, Tanya?
Speaker 3 (33:51):
I'm glad you're alive. By the way, you had some
questionable to Totally.
Speaker 6 (33:56):
I think it's on the dude to approach to come
up to you during the day.
Speaker 2 (34:00):
They I was weirdly, I was always the second one there,
like the guys are always like seated.
Speaker 6 (34:06):
But still he should stand up and be like hello,
a tan yea.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
You know no, even Robbie didn't do that.
Speaker 6 (34:11):
Wow, it's this world coming too, And I was sure,
what do you look like?
Speaker 2 (34:14):
Either? If I could be any animal, I would be Sunny,
my dog. I just just to get into her head
and know what she's thinking about.
Speaker 3 (34:25):
I would stick with my original answer of a dolphin.
It's just the my.
Speaker 4 (34:29):
Little things at the end, dumb and dumber, brilliant. It's like,
why not just answer the question. You don't need these
little taglines. But I do stink with stick with dolphins
the hell free.
Speaker 5 (34:43):
Monkeys seem like they're having a good time. Yeah, i'd
be a monkey. Plus, they're awfully similar to us. Yeah
a monkey.
Speaker 6 (34:49):
I'd be a gorilla. Oh wow, very similar to my
body type.
Speaker 5 (34:53):
Yeah, you're a gorilla of them. Man, If you won
the lottery, what would you do with your winnings? You know,
I'll tell you I would do much. I'm very happy.
Speaker 6 (35:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (35:02):
I like my car, I like my house. We would
expand the collegiate options for my daughter if I won
the lottery. But I don't see us moving into a mansion.
I don't see buying a maserati. I don't see any
of that stuff. We would travel sooner and better, that's
what we would do. And I love my job, like
I need something to do. But I think we would
travel more and in a higher class of travel. That's good,
(35:28):
that's what we would do.
Speaker 3 (35:28):
Yeah, I would travel.
Speaker 4 (35:29):
I would buy a home in a couple of different
places sure, and then gives them away to Tanya mark Innistan.
Speaker 3 (35:38):
Yeah, my family, scrubbing in family.
Speaker 2 (35:41):
Yeah, I would definitely get houses for my family, Robbie's family,
Like make sure everybody's set up in a home, like
a nice home. Then I would do what mister Beast does.
Speaker 6 (35:53):
Open a theme park inside of your always.
Speaker 2 (35:56):
Yeah, the money money always. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (35:58):
My sister entered one. She goes, I have a feeling
I'm gonna win.
Speaker 2 (36:01):
So there's a couple of the other there's a couple
others of them that do it as well, but I
don't I don't know their names YouTubers, but yeah, like that.
Speaker 5 (36:13):
It would be cool.
Speaker 3 (36:14):
Yeah, it would be fun.
Speaker 6 (36:15):
Yeah yeah, Eastern uh yeah, traveled by people's houses.
Speaker 5 (36:20):
Blah blah, what's they really dorky stuff you would do
really dorky stuff. You buy cheesecake factory, franch eyes or that's.
Speaker 3 (36:28):
Hard though, you have to work hard to like maintain them.
Speaker 6 (36:30):
Yeah, yeah, I don't dream of that, but I do
you know a bed that looks.
Speaker 4 (36:36):
Like a croc What about Easton Eats and it's just
all your favorite foods as a restaurant.
Speaker 6 (36:41):
I mean that would be fun, but also that's a
lot of work to do. You know what I would do?
Speaker 4 (36:45):
The uh?
Speaker 6 (36:46):
In Back to the Future Part two, there's these nikes
that lace themselves, are called Nike Mags, and they made
them for real and they sell for like thirty grand.
If a pair of those backs wear them around, that's
a good purchase, actually, and they just invest the rest
or something like a go Greek machine.
Speaker 2 (37:01):
Just have it on tap at your house.
Speaker 6 (37:02):
That'd be great.
Speaker 5 (37:03):
Yeah, does They don't have a most embarrassing moment to share?
Becca had several this quiz. Once I was getting gassed
and the guy asked, what kind of gas do you like?
And I thought he asked what kind of guys do
you like? So I responded the tall, dark, and handsome,
and he stared at me and repeated the question.
Speaker 3 (37:21):
It's so cringe and also just funny, tall, doorcing handsome.
Speaker 4 (37:27):
That's just funny. Embarrassing moments in Helen, Yeah, you don't
get embarrassed, not part of your personality.
Speaker 3 (37:40):
Do y'all have any.
Speaker 5 (37:41):
Nothing comes to mind? Look like I tried out for
the high school baseball team and it went horribly wrong
and I was terrible. And I also like a like
a runny nose at the time, and I couldn't kind
of keep up with that, and it was just an
awful day. I remember that being an awful embarrassing day.
Speaker 6 (37:58):
I also don't get embarrassed it easily. But uh, a year,
many many years ago before we moved to La, I I
went to it. I didn't open mic at stand up.
I tried sam comedy. Wow, I didn't. I didn't tell
anyone about I just did it, went by myself. And
let me tell you, guys, I absolutely destroyed. I killed
and I was like, oh, this is it. I'm doing
this now, this is it. So I did. I came
back like a month later. I told my friends, and
(38:19):
oh my god, how poorly I did that second time?
So bad? Nobody laughed. It was terrible. I was like
fumbling around and I was so embarrassed. But that's every
stand up comic story it is. And I realized at
that point I was not built for that. So interesting,
so I never did it.
Speaker 5 (38:36):
Every other standup comedy realizes that they can endure that embarrassment,
yeah and get back up.
Speaker 3 (38:42):
You were.
Speaker 6 (38:42):
That's it for me, that's it for you know. I'm like,
there's gonna be more of these down the line. And
I don't think I'm I don't think I'm built for this.
Speaker 3 (38:49):
You trigger something in me.
Speaker 4 (38:51):
For my most embarrassing it was when Amy had me
fill in for k t LA the entertainment portion as
like I filled him for Sam Rubin.
Speaker 6 (39:00):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (39:00):
And I had no hosting a bit.
Speaker 4 (39:03):
I had no experience reading a prompter, and it was
so painfully bad. I was like, I will never When
people are like, would you want to host TV? She's like,
you should host, you should host, I'm like never, Wow,
shut me down.
Speaker 2 (39:18):
I remember that was as bad as she's making it's
pretty bad, but it wasn't that.
Speaker 5 (39:24):
That was bad.
Speaker 4 (39:25):
I interviewed Alie Simpson, Cody Simpson's sister. Yeah, she was
promoting something, but she was really sweet.
Speaker 2 (39:33):
But it wasn't as bad as you think. But I
could see the panic in her.
Speaker 3 (39:38):
Yeah, like you could tell it was very uncomfortable.
Speaker 6 (39:41):
Yeah, would you do it now?
Speaker 3 (39:42):
And I'm looking it up Mark, we're trying.
Speaker 6 (39:46):
No, you have so much more experience as a host now,
and you're so good.
Speaker 4 (39:51):
Well, you could host a comedy special and I also
have experience, and you could host a fashion show panel.
Speaker 5 (40:02):
You could, by the way, you're a color blind fashion commentator.
You can do anything.
Speaker 3 (40:08):
Literally, people believe in you.
Speaker 5 (40:13):
And finally, what is your greatest We get everybody on
that one. What is your greatest achievement to date? Becca
said at this date, staying at home, staying and living
alone in California, when my sister and brother in law
went back to Louisiana.
Speaker 3 (40:27):
I would say buying a house in California. I feel
very a.
Speaker 5 (40:29):
Major accomplishment, very achieved.
Speaker 3 (40:33):
We're doing that.
Speaker 5 (40:33):
We've asked this before and I've always said I and
I continue to say, my marriage of twenty three years,
thank you, thank you, and my daughters.
Speaker 2 (40:43):
Yes, I think Mine's my book.
Speaker 5 (40:49):
That's a good one.
Speaker 2 (40:50):
Really hard to do, and it was, Yeah, it was hard,
challenging in many ways.
Speaker 6 (40:57):
I have the Sunshine. Mine is on my bookcase in
my office at home, and sometimes I hold like I
pick it up and hold it in my hand and
I think about that, like you can pick up this
thing that Tanya creating and hold it in your hand,
and it's like, that's just such an incredible thing.
Speaker 2 (41:10):
It was so much time and effort, like more than
I put into I feel like anything.
Speaker 6 (41:16):
Yeah, yeah, and it comes through in the work.
Speaker 2 (41:19):
Thank you. So much.
Speaker 6 (41:20):
Uh, you know, I think sometimes I think about my marriage,
but that's not a really an achievement. That's like I
tricked somebody into it. But yeah, I guess I'll buy
a house in California that I was pretty I'm proud
of that.
Speaker 5 (41:32):
Yeah, in a classic house.
Speaker 6 (41:33):
Yeah yeah, a a historic home, one hundred year old
house that we've painsectly restored.
Speaker 3 (41:42):
Well, that was a really fun prompt.
Speaker 4 (41:44):
I mean, I hate revisiting that interview that I did,
but I'm grateful for redo.
Speaker 5 (41:48):
Thank you, Thank you, Bri.
Speaker 4 (41:50):
And if you ever want to submit dear Bonia questions, comments, concerns, games,
et cetera, please dms on Instagram at scrubbing in pot
or email tell us at scrubbing In at iHeartMedia dot com.
Speaker 3 (42:03):
Everyone's going to go home and lay and we hope
you have a wonderful weekend. And we love you so much.
Speaker 4 (42:13):
You love you.
Speaker 2 (42:14):
Bye bye
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Tanya Rad
Rebecca Tilley
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