May 29, 2025 • 32 mins
The Dear Banya letters are stacked up and we’re ready to answer! We help a Scrubber who’s going “on a break”, we get into embarrassing things that *shouldn’t* be embarrassing, and we have some advice on how to get over a guy.
Plus, Tanya reveals her latest fixation… and we should all be concerned for Becca.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing in with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
And two times People's Choice Award winning podcast.
Speaker 3 (00:11):
Hello everybody, we are scrubbing it.
Speaker 4 (00:17):
Oh well, stunning, thanks stunning for the eyes and ears
for us.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Thank you.
Speaker 5 (00:24):
You know we didn't talk about what that really gave
me the giggles last week. What Robbie being up on
the h my friend prank?
Speaker 2 (00:36):
It was not did it make me laugh.
Speaker 5 (00:38):
Like making that like when we called that, did the
calls like watching them in live action. I watched his
videos that he posted like multiple times.
Speaker 4 (00:45):
We were dying laughing that you showed me them, so
I had already seen them, and then I heard Haley rewatching,
so I started watching and we were both laughing. Haley
like this is so funny.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Upper register what oh my, it's so funny.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
I've watched all like, not just his, like the trend.
Speaker 5 (01:03):
I'm like literally once a day I find one on
Instagram to watch because I just find them so freaky.
Speaker 4 (01:09):
I actually didn't see that trend until I saw Robbie's.
Speaker 5 (01:13):
I tried to do it on you twice that stuff
you didn't answer, so it made it really tough.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
By the way, it's not out of character for you
to call someone in say good night. I know.
Speaker 5 (01:22):
And that's what Robbie said. He's like, it's not like
it's not gonna hit the same because you would do
that normally, so it would be like.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Okay, you know, like okay, good night.
Speaker 5 (01:32):
So I try to do it to Ali because like,
I feel like Ali, it's a perfect candidate. So I
call her to say good night. She doesn't answer. She
texts me, Hey, did you mean to call me? And
I said, yes, I call her back clearly she has
her phone, doesn't answer again.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
Oh are you freaking kidding me?
Speaker 5 (01:53):
So then I just texted it, thinking it'd be funny, said,
I was just calling say good night. And she's like,
I've seen that trend.
Speaker 4 (01:58):
Oh that's too bad.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Yeah. She's like, try me earlier. I'm pregnant.
Speaker 4 (02:03):
Yeah, it's like it's eight forty five. Yeah, she's like that,
she said, after five she is like zoned out.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Yeah, dang yeah, dang.
Speaker 5 (02:13):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
I also had a realization what.
Speaker 5 (02:17):
I I'm constantly asking you, like stuff about your engagement.
I commented, you were like Haley was wearing white in
a photo, and I was like engagement era and I
realized I'm becoming the person that I hated when I
was waiting to get engaged, and so I'm publicly apologizing
and I will not do it anymore for a.
Speaker 4 (02:37):
Future Who pointed that out to you, Robbie, Yeah, I
knew it. I was like, there's no way you realize
this on your own. Yes, No, well, Robbie. Robbie and
I areson Potico and I was like, you know what
she just I had to tell Haley, don't stress out.
She's just she she doesn't have a fixation right now,
like she already she had her wedding, like when she
gets pregnant, like that'll be her fixation.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
But I'm doing meet and greets with ob It's like
that is my new fixation. By the way.
Speaker 4 (03:03):
But and I told Tyl, I was like, we don't
feel pressure, so don't I know?
Speaker 5 (03:08):
But that's the again, I felt the same way like
before we got engaged, there.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
Was no pressure. I'm getting engaged.
Speaker 5 (03:16):
No, no, no, like I like the pressure had already been
like there was no Robbie's not rattled by outside.
Speaker 4 (03:22):
Right, right, and I'm not either, right. But I had
to explain. I was like, just don't, don't think too
much about Tanya's comments. She's like like, are you expecting,
like what are you saying on the podcast? I'm also like,
well you should listen. Yeah, why don't you listen to
the podcast?
Speaker 5 (03:39):
But no, but yeah, he pointed out, he was like,
remember like people would always be call like anytime you
post anything, there would be like ring ring ring, ring ring, And.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
I was like yes, and he's like you're that person
now and.
Speaker 4 (03:47):
I like no, it's oh yeah, that's tough, but no.
And the thing is is.
Speaker 5 (03:52):
Like there's anything I'll do is I'll admit when I'm wrong, Yes,
and I was wrong, and you will not be hearing
any more of that until we're actually engaged.
Speaker 4 (04:02):
Yeah, publicly, thank you. Yeah, I think that that is.
I think the thing is that we are so far
from it, like we are like, oh, like trying on
rings and seeing but we did the ADU like there's
been a lot going on, so we're so not even
in that era, which is so funny because now when
(04:22):
I'm posting people like I keep looking for a ring,
I keep seeing the y'all are engaged or I think
this is an engagement post and I'm like, you can
just rest easy, you do easy.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Feel pressure, and that's good. The two of you don't
feel any pressure, that's great. Do you in your mind
have any do you put any kind of time, Like
when I was getting ready to propose, it's like, well,
I like to do it by this time because I'd
like to be married before, you know, she starts these
college classes, or I'd like to be married before I
turned thirty or or whatever it is. Are there any
of that in your mind calendar wise?
Speaker 4 (04:53):
Okay, no, because and I think if we were like,
oh my gosh, we we know we want to have
a baby, like I'm I'm a aware of the biological
clock on that. Unfortunately, that's that's just what it is.
But we're also we're both every time we're around kids,
were like, what do we want?
Speaker 2 (05:14):
So we have my brother's baby because that baby is chill. Yeah,
she's around all weekend. I was like, there's a baby around, Mike. Well,
I love.
Speaker 4 (05:23):
That's the age. I love. It's when they start going
overwhelming two to six yeah, eight, yeah, But yeah, no,
I don't feel that at all. And the thing is
is like we could get engaged and then plan a
wedding for years or months, you know.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Yeah, the world is your oyster. It is, but it's
not coming from me anymore.
Speaker 5 (05:48):
Dang, I can assure you that publicly, well, privately, there's
a whole other story.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
There's a difference.
Speaker 4 (05:57):
No, No, she here's the thing. I can respect what
she's saying. She's saying. I'm not going to put the
public pressure on you. However, my private texts and conversations
may reflected differently. Correct and as a best friend, and
when you have a best friend like Tanya, you go,
you know it comes from a special place.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
Yeah, love, But she's.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Already told you that she's not gonna let you know beforehand,
which is.
Speaker 4 (06:21):
Not giving up.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
That's why my mind is racing. That's why when she
mentions a trip, I'm like, but.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
That might be time to let them, let her have
some freedom, just kind of not bring it up for
a while.
Speaker 4 (06:31):
But if I don't do it on a trip, though,
what if I do it in my newly renovated backyard.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
We put a lot of money into it.
Speaker 4 (06:41):
Right here? He goes, should we extend our trip? And
I was like, maybe we should just get our new place,
will be done and enjoy the fruits of our money
and labor.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Yeah, let's pop up vacations out there.
Speaker 4 (06:54):
I really during the renovation my front yard got like
all my grasses dead and all the stuff that to
redo it, and I kind of want to like learn
how to garden what you actual garden.
Speaker 5 (07:05):
Like like lettuces and and liked, by the way, that's
not a like a known term what gardening. Robbie sat
in the Facebook group. He took a screenshot because somebody
asked him if he was gardening, and he's like, what
does this mean?
Speaker 2 (07:22):
Not like a known term?
Speaker 4 (07:25):
I mean maybe just depends on your algorithm. You know
what you're doing when you're gardening. But no, I'm talking
them like planting.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Flowers, flowers, not like food.
Speaker 4 (07:34):
No Cool wants to like little.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Gems like some art chokes.
Speaker 4 (07:41):
Hailey really wants to have that one day. But I'm
mostly talking about like visual garden digging and soiling that I'm.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Not so interested in.
Speaker 5 (07:50):
But if you want to get some little gems and
art chokes in there, I'd be happy to help. Corn
My gosh, summer twenty six is only homegrown grilled WM.
Speaker 4 (08:02):
Well we're dumping ahead, yeah, okay, we have some dear bonia,
so you.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
Know, I will say not as many as usual those
kind of a light week people.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
That's okay, we can do a quickie.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Uh Instagram at scrubbing inpod. The email is scrubbing it
at iHeartMedia dot com. Keep the flow flowing. From anonymous. Hello,
everyone loved the podcast and the whole gang. I wanted
to reach out and get some advice. I've been with
my girlfriend for seven years, and she recently told me
she wants a break. She's in her mid twenties and
(08:33):
I'm in my early thirties. She has been wanting to
be more independent, try things on her own, and find herself.
She wants to go out on her own to events
and with friends. She says she feels guilty because I've
asked about going. It just feels crazy to think we
were talking about getting engaged and now she's saying she
needs a break. I don't know how long yet. We
will talk about it, but it hurts already, like a
pre breakup. I think I'm trying to prepare myself, But
(08:54):
what would you do during this grief?
Speaker 4 (08:58):
First of all, that's very hard, and I'm sorry that's
I can't. I cannot. I can't even imagine celebrating seven
years and then tell me she wants a break like
I would be devastated. So I'm really sorry, y'all you're
going through this. She's also in her mid twenties and
(09:18):
is probably going through a because mid twenties, so that
means y'all get together when she was pretty young.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
It seems eighteen if you're in math. If it's twenty five,
that is fast.
Speaker 4 (09:31):
And so I'm sure she's feeling a lot of realizing
she hasn't had her independent time as an adult on
her own. And I think it's very i personally, and
this is to each his own, but I think having
that time to yourself is so crucial. And I also
think that having a break doesn't necessarily mean a breakup.
But I do think how you handle what I do
(09:55):
think how you handle.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
Hot handle eyes and began taking all close off no,
because I mean, I'm.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Hot and sweaty and I'm pissed at this this email.
Speaker 4 (10:05):
Okay, why to me?
Speaker 5 (10:07):
It's so selfish? A break is basically this is what
a break is. It's I want to have fun and
do my own thing, but I know I have a
really great thing going. I don't want you to go
too far. It's selfish, and it's a cop out a break.
I can see after a year, maybe a year and
a half, after seven years with someone to say I
want to break No.
Speaker 4 (10:28):
I think when you're when you start dating at eighteen
and then your mid twenties and you realize you haven't
had your independence, especially.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
All break up.
Speaker 5 (10:35):
Also breakup your independence and do your own thing, and
then if you happen to come back together, then you can.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
But it's so celebration.
Speaker 4 (10:42):
Versus a divorce. It's like, you want to selfish. I
don't think it's. I then, in my opinion, it's okay
for her to be selfish. I think it's okay to
be selfish when you're trying to make sure that this
is the person you want to be with.
Speaker 5 (10:54):
Yeah, it's okay, and you're selfish for yourself, not in
a relationship.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
I think that's a compromise.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
I think, especially when it's two women, there's this assumption
that everyone goes to everything and there's not the separation
of like, hey, I'm going to go be with my friends.
Because when you when it's a girl thing, we're both women,
so we both really feel invited, and we're both normally
invited and so there has to be a separation of like,
these are my friends and I need time alone with
them without you, and that is.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
You can do that without going on a break.
Speaker 4 (11:25):
I'm saying, though it sounds like she's never had that,
and I think what she's looking for because they're talking
about getting engaged, she probably had a moment of being like,
I don't even know who I am without this person,
Like I need to be able to make sure that
this is what I want before I commit to an engagement.
I'd rather her be selfish, do what she needs to do,
have a break knowing that her person's amazing, but also
(11:46):
going I need to explore this for me, and then
seeing where she feels how things feel. But I think
anonymous for you, even though it's hurtful, I think you
give her the space to do it, and you also
do your own thing and and let her be. And
I think what's going to happen is she is going
to realize how wonderful you are. I remember, was it
(12:08):
you were Easton talking about how there was a moment
where it was like, what's the alternative of not being Yeah?
And it's like she might have that moment of going
this alternative, This alternate version of my life without you
is something I never want to experience. Or it might
be that, hey, I I'm older now, I've I'm figuring
out who I am, and I don't know if I
(12:28):
see us you being my person forever.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
But you would rather that.
Speaker 4 (12:34):
Than go through with getting engaged and then married and
then it happening.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
And also the engagement might have fired up a lot
of these thoughts that the engagement talk might have also
scared her a little bit, like, oh gosh, I've been
with this person my whole life, an independent Sorry, Tony
Beck is right.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
Person all it's gonna be true.
Speaker 5 (12:52):
Have you heard the new Jonah Joe Jonas album I'm
Getting to be.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
So we both can be right? Thank you very much.
Speaker 5 (13:01):
But to me, this is selfish. I don't like it.
I don't like what she's saying. I don't like it.
I don't like stringing someone along while you go out
and have your fun and have that person just waiting there.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
So I don't like it.
Speaker 4 (13:13):
I think if she didn't, I don't think she's stringing
her along. I think she's giving her too.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
I think she literally would.
Speaker 4 (13:21):
I think she's communicating what she needs right now before
they move to the next up of their relationship.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
And the happy ending still exists. Yeah, but you might
not want to put all your eggs in that basket
because you need to focus on yourself, have fun, on
your own yes, and explore who you are without them.
Speaker 4 (13:37):
I think this could be a beautiful moment where you
both discover an independence that probably has gotten lost in
the last seven years. And there's going to be hard moments.
But I also and I don't think that I agree.
I don't think break taking a break means that she
needs to go and sleep around and meet other people.
I think there needs to be clear communication on what
the worst.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
Anonymous should go out and hang around.
Speaker 4 (13:59):
And well, no, I'm saying I don't think that's what
she her girls.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
That's not what the girlfriend wants. She wants to have
her cake and eat it too.
Speaker 4 (14:06):
I'm saying, I don't think she's saying she wants to
go do that exactly.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
She wants to have her cake and eat it too.
Speaker 5 (14:13):
Does it have her independence but know that Anonymous is
going to be right there when she's ready to be
done with her independence.
Speaker 4 (14:18):
Well, I'm saying they should have clear boundaries on what
independence looks like.
Speaker 5 (14:23):
Or whatever anonymous should if it's going to be a break,
we are, we are breaking.
Speaker 4 (14:29):
Well that's what they need to have a conversation about.
Either you have a conversation and say I don't. I
need to know what the boundaries are for a break
versus a breakup, because those can get very fuzzy and
in the weeds, as we've seen on our beloved show
friends Ross and Rachel. And you don't want to hurt
(14:50):
get hurt or hurt her by not communicating that. So
I think you need to give her what she needs,
but also ask for clear communication on what that looks like.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
Sure, good advice.
Speaker 4 (15:02):
Wow, thank you so much. We do have a wait,
what's the update on the boudoir photos.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
Well, we're gonna find out.
Speaker 4 (15:11):
Oh we haven't. Someone wants an update on the boudoir photos.
Scare but we'll get to that one. We're back, all right.
Speaker 3 (15:42):
Mark Kaylee says I needed an update reaction from Tanya
telling Robbie the story of their son trying to connect
to the TV while they were looking at the Boudoir photos,
listening to old episodes and just roaring at this one
love a day one scrubber.
Speaker 5 (16:01):
I obviously when I gave him the photo album, I
can't remember. It probably wasn't our wedding dance. That was
probably one of the days after. But I told him
the story of how we were all up in the
room and had clouded it to the TV and I
told him how it said like connecting to his iPhone
or whatever, and he remembers it. So he remembers it vividly,
(16:23):
and he was like cracking up. Nothing actually happened. There
was no photos that were transferred over anywhere, so we
are in the clear.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
The coast is fine. But yeah, he got a good
giggle out of it.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
Nice. Yeah, And this is a good time to remind
everyone that iHeartRadio is still banned from using Dropbox because
of time. You're ad in a similar situation.
Speaker 4 (16:42):
Listen, she leaves her mark everywhere she goes.
Speaker 5 (16:46):
That's right, a legacy, She's a legend, indeed, Yes, no
qualms about it.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
No, no, Sierra says, I'm about to in twenty seven,
I would love nothing more than to find my person.
I've resonated with how Tanya felt over the years of
waiting to find her person and doing what what ever
it takes. To get there. So I'm taking a page
out of her book and putting myself out there. If
you guys know anyone in the New York area who
would be interested, let me know. I made a post
in the Facebook group two years ago seeing if anyone
had someone they think would be a good fit. Since
(17:12):
my mom used to be scared of me on dating apps,
she has sent warm to the idea, but she still
thinks I'm likely to find my person through a friend referral.
I figured you guys were great friends to ask love
you all lost a hopeless romantic scrub sister.
Speaker 5 (17:27):
So I guess what we need to do is if
anybody here that lives in the Greater New York area
and they have a single friend that is twenty seven
plus around twenty seven. She didn't say younger or older,
so around the age of twenty seven. Email I'm going
thirty three, twenty six to thirty three.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
I think thirty three is where she'd like to end.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
Up with someone. Thirty three.
Speaker 5 (17:50):
Yeah, Well we're not ages here, so we're going to
give a swinging.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
I've always said the guys don't really mature until they're
thirty three, six years older. It's very fast math sonya
thank you.
Speaker 4 (18:05):
I okay. So I was with one of my single
friends over the weekend and she was on her date.
She was on I think it was Hinge and I
haven't seen the app or I haven't looked at a
dating app in so long, and it's so interesting, like
the prompts now, like all the pictures and like the
question prompts and like you kind have a voice memo
on there. It was these people that are on dating
(18:29):
apps right now are in the trenches. She was like this,
this is what it's like. And I thought, I always
hear people talking about it, and I'm like they're being
a little dramatic, like it can't be that bad. It
sounded really bad from what the brief thing I heard.
So I am really rooting for you, Sierra that you
meet through a friend referral.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
But I know I love a dating app.
Speaker 4 (18:54):
Yeah, but that was nearly five years ago.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
Whatever.
Speaker 4 (18:58):
I think it's gotten bad, yeah, worse.
Speaker 5 (19:01):
I mean, here's the thing where her mom scared her
because she said she could be like chopped up or something.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
Oh why don't she say.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
Chopped us scared of her big un dating prefer for
her to meet someone through a.
Speaker 5 (19:12):
Frien to get chopped up, saying I'm going to get
chopped up, and she'd prefer I met, say right here
and next.
Speaker 1 (19:17):
Well, that's in the posto years.
Speaker 5 (19:19):
So I understand the scare because there's like weirdos out there.
But if you just have fine my tell everybody where
you're going, have your friends do life three sixty.
Speaker 4 (19:27):
I do think if you're the thing, if you're on
the dating apps, I do think if you're going on
dates regularly or going out, I do think life through
sixty might be the way to go.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
Thank you. And again, by the.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
Way, I was interviewing potential interns for the morning show
at Kiss and so it's a bunch of you know,
they're all nineteen twenty years old, and one of the
questions I asked them was about dating apps. Are you
on them? It wasn't contingent. I was just trying to
get an idea of their life, and most of them said,
I am on the dating apps more as a spectator
than an active participant, which that is interesting. It's almost
(19:58):
like when you're twenty, it's almost automatic that you would
have it and that you would have a profile on
it right insta Insta, but you don't really spend a
lot of time on it. You just kind of look
through it every once in a while. It doesn't seem
like people are really pursuing that, but it's kind of
standard to have it. Yeah, I thought that was interesting.
Speaker 4 (20:14):
They were saying, I've read somewhere that like it's just
so not normal, Like people will be sitting in a
doctor's office waiting to go at the waiting room and
just swiping on people, And how weird that is that
that's how you're to connect. I mean, yeah, that's it's
so easy and at your fingertips. But Sierra will.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
Be yeah, good luck. All right, this is anonymous. I'm
a little embarrassed to be writing this, but I know
what happens to girls all over. I need advice. I
am almost twenty nine years old. I am sitting on
my couch on Memorial Day weekend, sobbing over a man
who could not care less about me. This is a
wake up call and I need to move on, which
is easier said than done. What tips, tricks, ideas do
(20:56):
you have to help me move on? I want to
find myself again. Please don't suggest a girl night. I
have friends, but not a ton, and they're busy often,
so I really want ideas that I can do for
myself this summer. I'm a teacher and I only work
it up part time job doing the summer, so I
have time. Please help a broken hearted girl out. I
don't feel I don't want to feel like this anymore.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
I have a quick suggestion.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
Is it corn? Because I would go with you. It's
roasted corn.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
No, Mark, I'm.
Speaker 5 (21:21):
Taking this seriously for anonymous. All right, there's this like
TikTok trend right now that's like the ten ten ten whatever.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
I have been doing it, but I've been doing five
five five.
Speaker 4 (21:33):
What is it? Explain it to those who don't know.
Speaker 5 (21:35):
So for those that don't know, I'm up on the trends.
It's five things you're grateful for, five things that you
want to manifest in five affirmations. And I do it
every single day. And this like I got like a little.
Speaker 4 (21:46):
Wide for the five minute Journal.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
No, it's a journal.
Speaker 5 (21:49):
It's like a journal, like a why it's like a
it's a it's like a notebook you'd buy for school
for kids.
Speaker 4 (21:54):
I know that five minute journal. Those are the prompts.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
No, so this is not the five Minute Journal.
Speaker 4 (21:58):
It sounds like they just took it from the well there's.
Speaker 2 (22:01):
A ten ten ten.
Speaker 5 (22:02):
I just chopped it down because ten felt like a
lot for me. So I'm doing five, five, five, and
I've been doing it every single day. I think I
started May twenty first, and I had not let a
day go by without doing it. And I'm loving it.
I'm already feeling like a shift in my mood, a
shift in my spirit.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
I love it.
Speaker 5 (22:20):
I think it's something easy that you could do on
a daily basis to kind of get you into a
different headspace.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Five things you want to manifest every day. That seems
like a lot you can.
Speaker 5 (22:28):
Repeat, you know, to do five different things you want
to manifest, but different iterations of it. And like things
pop up daily that like when I do things I'm
grateful for, Like the day after we got our coffee machine,
I was so grateful for my new coffee machine, you
know what I mean? Yeah, Like things pop up daily.
Speaker 1 (22:41):
I when to get rid of it. You're gonna be
grateful to have the space.
Speaker 5 (22:43):
Pace back exactly exactly, but the grateful for you would
be surprised how many things you're grateful for when you're
doing five a day.
Speaker 4 (22:50):
I I feel like I was thinking about Becca Moore
because she has been very public in posting about her breakup,
and she really started leaning in because she was so sad,
and she started leaning into making herself better. So she
started going to like workout classes, and she she was
never someone who liked workout classes, so she was very
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intimidated by it at first. And so she started doing that,
and then she started taking acting classes, and because she
had always thought about wanting to do that and just
never felt inspired or like motivated enough to do it.
And it's something that she's just like love that's brought
so many new people into her life. So I was
gonna say, maybe find something that you've always wanted to
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do and lean into it. I was also I see
people like fostering dogs and cats, like just for the day,
taking them on walks and giving them a day out
of the what the foster?
Speaker 2 (23:43):
Yeah yeah yeah.
Speaker 4 (23:44):
And I also.
Speaker 5 (23:45):
Think decluttering and cleaning your house, like decluttering every single
corner of your house, making space, like cleaning out space
in your closet, leaving space for your future.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
Has been leaving space for your.
Speaker 5 (23:56):
Like leaving a drawer for them, like get like allowing
space in your place new love to come in that
could be very therapeutic.
Speaker 2 (24:02):
That really was therapeutic for me.
Speaker 4 (24:04):
But your email immediately made me think of Kate Winslet
in The Holiday when she loves the guy from work
and he just basically uses her to help him write
or do work stuff, and then she's having to get
over this person that never had love for her. And
then she goes and she does the house swap and
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does something totally out of her comfort zone and ends
up making like these lifelong friendships and whatever. But it
made me feel like how she had to do something
really uncomfortable to find like the best part of her life,
you know, the best season of her life. So just
to remind her that it might feel uncomfortable to do
new things and try new things, but it could lead
you to the best people or parts of your life
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that are to come.
Speaker 1 (24:51):
Amen, preach, all right, we have a fun one coming
up next.
Speaker 4 (25:19):
All right, we are back. We love to end with
a fun write in.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
This is from Annie. This is very funny. Hello, Becka, Tanya,
Mark and East and I saw this fun video where
they were talking about things that are embarrassing that really
shouldn't be embarrassing, and I thought it would be fun
to hear what you all find to be embarrassing that
shouldn't be. I feel like Becha will be able to
relate to this one. But I think Tanya owns everything
she does and doesn't get embarrassed. Mine is when my
windshield wipers are on high, especially if it's that rating
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too hard in my car only has two settings, super
slow and super fast, and I feel like an idiot.
Some others are being sung Happy Birthday too, trying to
find the bathroom in a restaurant hunt, turning around and
walking back in the direction you just came from, or
walking back to your seat after taking your turn. It bowling.
Speaker 4 (26:07):
I literally was gonna say the bowling one.
Speaker 6 (26:09):
I hate that feeling because it's like, even if you
get a strike, you turn around and everyone's either no
one's paying attention because everyone's talking to each other, or
they're like yeah, and it's.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
Just either way all chord.
Speaker 4 (26:23):
There's an awkward element to it. Also, like when you're
in a big group and you don't know where anyone parks,
so everyone says bye and then everyone starts walking the
same way. I'm just like we just did a whole
hug everyone. Do I hug them again?
Speaker 2 (26:41):
I don't find any of this embarrassing.
Speaker 4 (26:42):
Yeah, that's what she said. It's like you don't experience
this feeling.
Speaker 2 (26:46):
I don't think I do. I'm trying to think, like
on my daily.
Speaker 4 (26:49):
When people seeing happy birthday to me, I really feel
that too. I get that.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
Yeah, I don't mind that. I think tany and are
similar like that. Like I'm the one that doesn't care
what anybody thinks for my wife and my daughters very
much care with other people think as much as I
preach to them. How silly that is. But there is
something that happened this morning, and so we have a
couple of bathroom options here on this end of the hallway.
One of them is just a single bathroom, and I
prefer that one because I don't like to be in
a room with other people doing their business, right But
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that's not working right now. So I have to be
in the room with other people doing their business, and
there is always someone in there doing their business, and
it drives me crazy.
Speaker 4 (27:22):
It's crazy.
Speaker 1 (27:23):
It's crazy. I was this is this morning. I was
one hundred percent. Every time I went in there, somebody was.
Every time I'm in there to stand, someone else is
in there to sit, and you can hear everything and
it's so awkward. But here's what was awkward to me today.
I was washing my hands after standing, and the guy
that was sitting comes out of the bathroom and wants
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to talk to me, like, I don't want to talk
to you. I heard you doing those things. I am
so embarrassed right now, and I don't even know why
I'm not. You're doing the embarrassing thing I'm not, and
yet I am mortified. I don't want to be here
talking to you right now.
Speaker 4 (27:59):
I would feel absolutely uncomfortable myself. Tanya, unfortunately, would be
the one trying to talk after doing the things with Probably.
Speaker 5 (28:09):
True if somebody is in my stall and uh no, no, no,
if somebody's in my stall that I like to use
in the rest, even if they're even if they're doing
their business, I will wait for that stall to open
because it's my stall.
Speaker 1 (28:26):
How many stalls are in there, Sure they feel very
awkward standing there.
Speaker 4 (28:31):
You probably stare through the cracks like stare. They probably
just see her like one eye staring to the crowd. Also,
did you know other countries like people that come to America,
they say that the the space in our bathroom is
like so strange, like, but why do we have this?
Speaker 1 (28:48):
I don't know. They're right, it's ludicrous.
Speaker 4 (28:50):
And sometimes they're really wide. I'm like, I could see
someone's whole body show.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
Some airports don't even have doors on those things. Like,
it's really unpleasant.
Speaker 4 (29:01):
We the women's restaurant typically.
Speaker 1 (29:07):
There. But so wait a second. How many stalls are
in that bathroom? Four and the only one you will.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
Use unless yes, why it's my favorite?
Speaker 1 (29:16):
Is it the big one? Is it the big Handicaan stall?
Speaker 2 (29:18):
The very first one to the left.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
But what's wrong with the other ones?
Speaker 5 (29:24):
Usually the trash cans are like locked, or there's like
p on the seats. There's little trash cans in every
stall for us that there are tampons and feminine products
the way, thank you very much. A lot of them
are locked, so it's annoying. So it's like slide your
stuff through. It's very uncomfortable. I just like that one.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
But but wouldn't wouldn't it be more polite to just
use another one rather than stand there and the person
knows you're standing there waiting for them. I was in
the stall, be like, what is wrong with this person?
There are three other empty stalls. I'd be so annoyed.
Speaker 4 (29:56):
Oh, I thought of another one. Walking, you know in
your movie theaters is like you don't have a your
the exits on the other side, so you have to
walk in for the whole theater. I hate that.
Speaker 2 (30:08):
But you have to do it.
Speaker 1 (30:09):
Yeah, you do.
Speaker 4 (30:10):
And it's not cozy because.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
Like even when you have to get up and sneak
past people on an airplane, or.
Speaker 4 (30:18):
Like at a at a stadium where you're like need
to chair and you have to ask everyone and either
they have to stand up or turn to the side,
and then you have to decide am I going front
or back to their face?
Speaker 1 (30:30):
My jingles are my butt in your face? Which is
going to be yeah, but always but the.
Speaker 2 (30:35):
Rule, I think that's what I uctually do. I don't know.
Speaker 4 (30:41):
Yeah, I.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
Don't like being on elevators with people.
Speaker 4 (30:49):
Yeah, but that's awkward.
Speaker 1 (30:50):
It's awkward. Weird conversation or which is also awkward. It's
all awkward. If I get here in the morning and
I park and I see somebody else parking that I
know is on the fifth floor where we are, I
do everything I can to get to that elevator enough
before them that I don't have to hold the door
because they will head to the stairs. If they head
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to the elevator, I'll go to the stairs and I'll
sprint because I do not want to go off the elevator.
Speaker 4 (31:18):
With that, I think they're more like me and Nanny
than your Yeah, I like that, man. I could probably
think of a lot of those live we.
Speaker 2 (31:32):
Do live, try and live unapologetically.
Speaker 4 (31:35):
It's still unapologetically anyways. That's all for today, folks, but
we will be back on Monday, Monday Funday. We've had
a lot of Tuesday episodes lately, so don't you worry.
We will return on a Monday starting next week. Yes,
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we love you, somebody love you. Bye.
Scrubbing in with Beca Tilly and Tanya rad and iHeartRadio.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
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Speaker 3 (00:11):
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Speaker 4 (00:17):
Oh well, stunning, thanks stunning for the eyes and ears
for us.
Speaker 2 (00:21):
Thank you.
Speaker 5 (00:24):
You know we didn't talk about what that really gave
me the giggles last week. What Robbie being up on
the h my friend prank?
Speaker 2 (00:36):
It was not did it make me laugh.
Speaker 5 (00:38):
Like making that like when we called that, did the
calls like watching them in live action. I watched his
videos that he posted like multiple times.
Speaker 4 (00:45):
We were dying laughing that you showed me them, so
I had already seen them, and then I heard Haley rewatching,
so I started watching and we were both laughing. Haley
like this is so funny.
Speaker 1 (00:56):
Upper register what oh my, it's so funny.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
I've watched all like, not just his, like the trend.
Speaker 5 (01:03):
I'm like literally once a day I find one on
Instagram to watch because I just find them so freaky.
Speaker 4 (01:09):
I actually didn't see that trend until I saw Robbie's.
Speaker 5 (01:13):
I tried to do it on you twice that stuff
you didn't answer, so it made it really tough.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
By the way, it's not out of character for you
to call someone in say good night. I know.
Speaker 5 (01:22):
And that's what Robbie said. He's like, it's not like
it's not gonna hit the same because you would do
that normally, so it would be like.
Speaker 2 (01:29):
Okay, you know, like okay, good night.
Speaker 5 (01:32):
So I try to do it to Ali because like,
I feel like Ali, it's a perfect candidate. So I
call her to say good night. She doesn't answer. She
texts me, Hey, did you mean to call me? And
I said, yes, I call her back clearly she has
her phone, doesn't answer again.
Speaker 4 (01:51):
Oh are you freaking kidding me?
Speaker 5 (01:53):
So then I just texted it, thinking it'd be funny, said,
I was just calling say good night. And she's like,
I've seen that trend.
Speaker 4 (01:58):
Oh that's too bad.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
Yeah. She's like, try me earlier. I'm pregnant.
Speaker 4 (02:03):
Yeah, it's like it's eight forty five. Yeah, she's like that,
she said, after five she is like zoned out.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
Yeah, dang yeah, dang.
Speaker 5 (02:13):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (02:13):
I also had a realization what.
Speaker 5 (02:17):
I I'm constantly asking you, like stuff about your engagement.
I commented, you were like Haley was wearing white in
a photo, and I was like engagement era and I
realized I'm becoming the person that I hated when I
was waiting to get engaged, and so I'm publicly apologizing
and I will not do it anymore for a.
Speaker 4 (02:37):
Future Who pointed that out to you, Robbie, Yeah, I
knew it. I was like, there's no way you realize
this on your own. Yes, No, well, Robbie. Robbie and
I areson Potico and I was like, you know what
she just I had to tell Haley, don't stress out.
She's just she she doesn't have a fixation right now,
like she already she had her wedding, like when she
gets pregnant, like that'll be her fixation.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
But I'm doing meet and greets with ob It's like
that is my new fixation. By the way.
Speaker 4 (03:03):
But and I told Tyl, I was like, we don't
feel pressure, so don't I know?
Speaker 5 (03:08):
But that's the again, I felt the same way like
before we got engaged, there.
Speaker 4 (03:13):
Was no pressure. I'm getting engaged.
Speaker 5 (03:16):
No, no, no, like I like the pressure had already been
like there was no Robbie's not rattled by outside.
Speaker 4 (03:22):
Right, right, and I'm not either, right. But I had
to explain. I was like, just don't, don't think too
much about Tanya's comments. She's like like, are you expecting,
like what are you saying on the podcast? I'm also like,
well you should listen. Yeah, why don't you listen to
the podcast?
Speaker 5 (03:39):
But no, but yeah, he pointed out, he was like,
remember like people would always be call like anytime you
post anything, there would be like ring ring ring, ring ring, And.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
I was like yes, and he's like you're that person
now and.
Speaker 4 (03:47):
I like no, it's oh yeah, that's tough, but no.
And the thing is is.
Speaker 5 (03:52):
Like there's anything I'll do is I'll admit when I'm wrong, Yes,
and I was wrong, and you will not be hearing
any more of that until we're actually engaged.
Speaker 4 (04:02):
Yeah, publicly, thank you. Yeah, I think that that is.
I think the thing is that we are so far
from it, like we are like, oh, like trying on
rings and seeing but we did the ADU like there's
been a lot going on, so we're so not even
in that era, which is so funny because now when
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I'm posting people like I keep looking for a ring,
I keep seeing the y'all are engaged or I think
this is an engagement post and I'm like, you can
just rest easy, you do easy.
Speaker 1 (04:32):
Feel pressure, and that's good. The two of you don't
feel any pressure, that's great. Do you in your mind
have any do you put any kind of time, Like
when I was getting ready to propose, it's like, well,
I like to do it by this time because I'd
like to be married before, you know, she starts these
college classes, or I'd like to be married before I
turned thirty or or whatever it is. Are there any
of that in your mind calendar wise?
Speaker 4 (04:53):
Okay, no, because and I think if we were like,
oh my gosh, we we know we want to have
a baby, like I'm I'm a aware of the biological
clock on that. Unfortunately, that's that's just what it is.
But we're also we're both every time we're around kids,
were like, what do we want?
Speaker 2 (05:14):
So we have my brother's baby because that baby is chill. Yeah,
she's around all weekend. I was like, there's a baby around, Mike. Well,
I love.
Speaker 4 (05:23):
That's the age. I love. It's when they start going
overwhelming two to six yeah, eight, yeah, But yeah, no,
I don't feel that at all. And the thing is
is like we could get engaged and then plan a
wedding for years or months, you know.
Speaker 2 (05:41):
Yeah, the world is your oyster. It is, but it's
not coming from me anymore.
Speaker 5 (05:48):
Dang, I can assure you that publicly, well, privately, there's
a whole other story.
Speaker 2 (05:56):
There's a difference.
Speaker 4 (05:57):
No, No, she here's the thing. I can respect what
she's saying. She's saying. I'm not going to put the
public pressure on you. However, my private texts and conversations
may reflected differently. Correct and as a best friend, and
when you have a best friend like Tanya, you go,
you know it comes from a special place.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
Yeah, love, But she's.
Speaker 1 (06:18):
Already told you that she's not gonna let you know beforehand,
which is.
Speaker 4 (06:21):
Not giving up.
Speaker 2 (06:22):
That's why my mind is racing. That's why when she
mentions a trip, I'm like, but.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
That might be time to let them, let her have
some freedom, just kind of not bring it up for
a while.
Speaker 4 (06:31):
But if I don't do it on a trip, though,
what if I do it in my newly renovated backyard.
Speaker 2 (06:38):
We put a lot of money into it.
Speaker 4 (06:41):
Right here? He goes, should we extend our trip? And
I was like, maybe we should just get our new place,
will be done and enjoy the fruits of our money
and labor.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
Yeah, let's pop up vacations out there.
Speaker 4 (06:54):
I really during the renovation my front yard got like
all my grasses dead and all the stuff that to
redo it, and I kind of want to like learn
how to garden what you actual garden.
Speaker 5 (07:05):
Like like lettuces and and liked, by the way, that's
not a like a known term what gardening. Robbie sat
in the Facebook group. He took a screenshot because somebody
asked him if he was gardening, and he's like, what
does this mean?
Speaker 2 (07:22):
Not like a known term?
Speaker 4 (07:25):
I mean maybe just depends on your algorithm. You know
what you're doing when you're gardening. But no, I'm talking
them like planting.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Flowers, flowers, not like food.
Speaker 4 (07:34):
No Cool wants to like little.
Speaker 2 (07:38):
Gems like some art chokes.
Speaker 4 (07:41):
Hailey really wants to have that one day. But I'm
mostly talking about like visual garden digging and soiling that I'm.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Not so interested in.
Speaker 5 (07:50):
But if you want to get some little gems and
art chokes in there, I'd be happy to help. Corn
My gosh, summer twenty six is only homegrown grilled WM.
Speaker 4 (08:02):
Well we're dumping ahead, yeah, okay, we have some dear bonia,
so you.
Speaker 1 (08:07):
Know, I will say not as many as usual those
kind of a light week people.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
That's okay, we can do a quickie.
Speaker 1 (08:13):
Uh Instagram at scrubbing inpod. The email is scrubbing it
at iHeartMedia dot com. Keep the flow flowing. From anonymous. Hello,
everyone loved the podcast and the whole gang. I wanted
to reach out and get some advice. I've been with
my girlfriend for seven years, and she recently told me
she wants a break. She's in her mid twenties and
(08:33):
I'm in my early thirties. She has been wanting to
be more independent, try things on her own, and find herself.
She wants to go out on her own to events
and with friends. She says she feels guilty because I've
asked about going. It just feels crazy to think we
were talking about getting engaged and now she's saying she
needs a break. I don't know how long yet. We
will talk about it, but it hurts already, like a
pre breakup. I think I'm trying to prepare myself, But
(08:54):
what would you do during this grief?
Speaker 4 (08:58):
First of all, that's very hard, and I'm sorry that's
I can't. I cannot. I can't even imagine celebrating seven
years and then tell me she wants a break like
I would be devastated. So I'm really sorry, y'all you're
going through this. She's also in her mid twenties and
(09:18):
is probably going through a because mid twenties, so that
means y'all get together when she was pretty young.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
It seems eighteen if you're in math. If it's twenty five,
that is fast.
Speaker 4 (09:31):
And so I'm sure she's feeling a lot of realizing
she hasn't had her independent time as an adult on
her own. And I think it's very i personally, and
this is to each his own, but I think having
that time to yourself is so crucial. And I also
think that having a break doesn't necessarily mean a breakup.
But I do think how you handle what I do
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think how you handle.
Speaker 1 (09:57):
Hot handle eyes and began taking all close off no,
because I mean, I'm.
Speaker 2 (10:02):
Hot and sweaty and I'm pissed at this this email.
Speaker 4 (10:05):
Okay, why to me?
Speaker 5 (10:07):
It's so selfish? A break is basically this is what
a break is. It's I want to have fun and
do my own thing, but I know I have a
really great thing going. I don't want you to go
too far. It's selfish, and it's a cop out a break.
I can see after a year, maybe a year and
a half, after seven years with someone to say I
want to break No.
Speaker 4 (10:28):
I think when you're when you start dating at eighteen
and then your mid twenties and you realize you haven't
had your independence, especially.
Speaker 2 (10:34):
All break up.
Speaker 5 (10:35):
Also breakup your independence and do your own thing, and
then if you happen to come back together, then you can.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
But it's so celebration.
Speaker 4 (10:42):
Versus a divorce. It's like, you want to selfish. I
don't think it's. I then, in my opinion, it's okay
for her to be selfish. I think it's okay to
be selfish when you're trying to make sure that this
is the person you want to be with.
Speaker 5 (10:54):
Yeah, it's okay, and you're selfish for yourself, not in
a relationship.
Speaker 2 (10:58):
I think that's a compromise.
Speaker 4 (11:01):
I think, especially when it's two women, there's this assumption
that everyone goes to everything and there's not the separation
of like, hey, I'm going to go be with my friends.
Because when you when it's a girl thing, we're both women,
so we both really feel invited, and we're both normally
invited and so there has to be a separation of like,
these are my friends and I need time alone with
them without you, and that is.
Speaker 2 (11:23):
You can do that without going on a break.
Speaker 4 (11:25):
I'm saying, though it sounds like she's never had that,
and I think what she's looking for because they're talking
about getting engaged, she probably had a moment of being like,
I don't even know who I am without this person,
Like I need to be able to make sure that
this is what I want before I commit to an engagement.
I'd rather her be selfish, do what she needs to do,
have a break knowing that her person's amazing, but also
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going I need to explore this for me, and then
seeing where she feels how things feel. But I think
anonymous for you, even though it's hurtful, I think you
give her the space to do it, and you also
do your own thing and and let her be. And
I think what's going to happen is she is going
to realize how wonderful you are. I remember, was it
(12:08):
you were Easton talking about how there was a moment
where it was like, what's the alternative of not being Yeah?
And it's like she might have that moment of going
this alternative, This alternate version of my life without you
is something I never want to experience. Or it might
be that, hey, I I'm older now, I've I'm figuring
out who I am, and I don't know if I
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see us you being my person forever.
Speaker 2 (12:32):
But you would rather that.
Speaker 4 (12:34):
Than go through with getting engaged and then married and
then it happening.
Speaker 1 (12:38):
And also the engagement might have fired up a lot
of these thoughts that the engagement talk might have also
scared her a little bit, like, oh gosh, I've been
with this person my whole life, an independent Sorry, Tony
Beck is right.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
Person all it's gonna be true.
Speaker 5 (12:52):
Have you heard the new Jonah Joe Jonas album I'm
Getting to be.
Speaker 2 (12:59):
So we both can be right? Thank you very much.
Speaker 5 (13:01):
But to me, this is selfish. I don't like it.
I don't like what she's saying. I don't like it.
I don't like stringing someone along while you go out
and have your fun and have that person just waiting there.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
So I don't like it.
Speaker 4 (13:13):
I think if she didn't, I don't think she's stringing
her along. I think she's giving her too.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
I think she literally would.
Speaker 4 (13:21):
I think she's communicating what she needs right now before
they move to the next up of their relationship.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
And the happy ending still exists. Yeah, but you might
not want to put all your eggs in that basket
because you need to focus on yourself, have fun, on
your own yes, and explore who you are without them.
Speaker 4 (13:37):
I think this could be a beautiful moment where you
both discover an independence that probably has gotten lost in
the last seven years. And there's going to be hard moments.
But I also and I don't think that I agree.
I don't think break taking a break means that she
needs to go and sleep around and meet other people.
I think there needs to be clear communication on what
the worst.
Speaker 2 (13:57):
Anonymous should go out and hang around.
Speaker 4 (13:59):
And well, no, I'm saying I don't think that's what
she her girls.
Speaker 2 (14:03):
That's not what the girlfriend wants. She wants to have
her cake and eat it too.
Speaker 4 (14:06):
I'm saying, I don't think she's saying she wants to
go do that exactly.
Speaker 2 (14:10):
She wants to have her cake and eat it too.
Speaker 5 (14:13):
Does it have her independence but know that Anonymous is
going to be right there when she's ready to be
done with her independence.
Speaker 4 (14:18):
Well, I'm saying they should have clear boundaries on what
independence looks like.
Speaker 5 (14:23):
Or whatever anonymous should if it's going to be a break,
we are, we are breaking.
Speaker 4 (14:29):
Well that's what they need to have a conversation about.
Either you have a conversation and say I don't. I
need to know what the boundaries are for a break
versus a breakup, because those can get very fuzzy and
in the weeds, as we've seen on our beloved show
friends Ross and Rachel. And you don't want to hurt
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get hurt or hurt her by not communicating that. So
I think you need to give her what she needs,
but also ask for clear communication on what that looks like.
Speaker 1 (14:59):
Sure, good advice.
Speaker 4 (15:02):
Wow, thank you so much. We do have a wait,
what's the update on the boudoir photos.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
Well, we're gonna find out.
Speaker 4 (15:11):
Oh we haven't. Someone wants an update on the boudoir photos.
Scare but we'll get to that one. We're back, all right.
Speaker 3 (15:42):
Mark Kaylee says I needed an update reaction from Tanya
telling Robbie the story of their son trying to connect
to the TV while they were looking at the Boudoir photos,
listening to old episodes and just roaring at this one
love a day one scrubber.
Speaker 5 (16:01):
I obviously when I gave him the photo album, I
can't remember. It probably wasn't our wedding dance. That was
probably one of the days after. But I told him
the story of how we were all up in the
room and had clouded it to the TV and I
told him how it said like connecting to his iPhone
or whatever, and he remembers it. So he remembers it vividly,
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and he was like cracking up. Nothing actually happened. There
was no photos that were transferred over anywhere, so we
are in the clear.
Speaker 2 (16:31):
The coast is fine. But yeah, he got a good
giggle out of it.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
Nice. Yeah, And this is a good time to remind
everyone that iHeartRadio is still banned from using Dropbox because
of time. You're ad in a similar situation.
Speaker 4 (16:42):
Listen, she leaves her mark everywhere she goes.
Speaker 5 (16:46):
That's right, a legacy, She's a legend, indeed, Yes, no
qualms about it.
Speaker 1 (16:51):
No, no, Sierra says, I'm about to in twenty seven,
I would love nothing more than to find my person.
I've resonated with how Tanya felt over the years of
waiting to find her person and doing what what ever
it takes. To get there. So I'm taking a page
out of her book and putting myself out there. If
you guys know anyone in the New York area who
would be interested, let me know. I made a post
in the Facebook group two years ago seeing if anyone
had someone they think would be a good fit. Since
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my mom used to be scared of me on dating apps,
she has sent warm to the idea, but she still
thinks I'm likely to find my person through a friend referral.
I figured you guys were great friends to ask love
you all lost a hopeless romantic scrub sister.
Speaker 5 (17:27):
So I guess what we need to do is if
anybody here that lives in the Greater New York area
and they have a single friend that is twenty seven
plus around twenty seven. She didn't say younger or older,
so around the age of twenty seven. Email I'm going
thirty three, twenty six to thirty three.
Speaker 1 (17:47):
I think thirty three is where she'd like to end.
Speaker 2 (17:48):
Up with someone. Thirty three.
Speaker 5 (17:50):
Yeah, Well we're not ages here, so we're going to
give a swinging.
Speaker 1 (17:55):
I've always said the guys don't really mature until they're
thirty three, six years older. It's very fast math sonya
thank you.
Speaker 4 (18:05):
I okay. So I was with one of my single
friends over the weekend and she was on her date.
She was on I think it was Hinge and I
haven't seen the app or I haven't looked at a
dating app in so long, and it's so interesting, like
the prompts now, like all the pictures and like the
question prompts and like you kind have a voice memo
on there. It was these people that are on dating
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apps right now are in the trenches. She was like this,
this is what it's like. And I thought, I always
hear people talking about it, and I'm like they're being
a little dramatic, like it can't be that bad. It
sounded really bad from what the brief thing I heard.
So I am really rooting for you, Sierra that you
meet through a friend referral.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
But I know I love a dating app.
Speaker 4 (18:54):
Yeah, but that was nearly five years ago.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
Whatever.
Speaker 4 (18:58):
I think it's gotten bad, yeah, worse.
Speaker 5 (19:01):
I mean, here's the thing where her mom scared her
because she said she could be like chopped up or something.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
Oh why don't she say.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
Chopped us scared of her big un dating prefer for
her to meet someone through a.
Speaker 5 (19:12):
Frien to get chopped up, saying I'm going to get
chopped up, and she'd prefer I met, say right here
and next.
Speaker 1 (19:17):
Well, that's in the posto years.
Speaker 5 (19:19):
So I understand the scare because there's like weirdos out there.
But if you just have fine my tell everybody where
you're going, have your friends do life three sixty.
Speaker 4 (19:27):
I do think if you're the thing, if you're on
the dating apps, I do think if you're going on
dates regularly or going out, I do think life through
sixty might be the way to go.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
Thank you. And again, by the.
Speaker 1 (19:38):
Way, I was interviewing potential interns for the morning show
at Kiss and so it's a bunch of you know,
they're all nineteen twenty years old, and one of the
questions I asked them was about dating apps. Are you
on them? It wasn't contingent. I was just trying to
get an idea of their life, and most of them said,
I am on the dating apps more as a spectator
than an active participant, which that is interesting. It's almost
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like when you're twenty, it's almost automatic that you would
have it and that you would have a profile on
it right insta Insta, but you don't really spend a
lot of time on it. You just kind of look
through it every once in a while. It doesn't seem
like people are really pursuing that, but it's kind of
standard to have it. Yeah, I thought that was interesting.
Speaker 4 (20:14):
They were saying, I've read somewhere that like it's just
so not normal, Like people will be sitting in a
doctor's office waiting to go at the waiting room and
just swiping on people, And how weird that is that
that's how you're to connect. I mean, yeah, that's it's
so easy and at your fingertips. But Sierra will.
Speaker 1 (20:34):
Be yeah, good luck. All right, this is anonymous. I'm
a little embarrassed to be writing this, but I know
what happens to girls all over. I need advice. I
am almost twenty nine years old. I am sitting on
my couch on Memorial Day weekend, sobbing over a man
who could not care less about me. This is a
wake up call and I need to move on, which
is easier said than done. What tips, tricks, ideas do
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you have to help me move on? I want to
find myself again. Please don't suggest a girl night. I
have friends, but not a ton, and they're busy often,
so I really want ideas that I can do for
myself this summer. I'm a teacher and I only work
it up part time job doing the summer, so I
have time. Please help a broken hearted girl out. I
don't feel I don't want to feel like this anymore.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
I have a quick suggestion.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
Is it corn? Because I would go with you. It's
roasted corn.
Speaker 2 (21:20):
No, Mark, I'm.
Speaker 5 (21:21):
Taking this seriously for anonymous. All right, there's this like
TikTok trend right now that's like the ten ten ten whatever.
Speaker 2 (21:31):
I have been doing it, but I've been doing five
five five.
Speaker 4 (21:33):
What is it? Explain it to those who don't know.
Speaker 5 (21:35):
So for those that don't know, I'm up on the trends.
It's five things you're grateful for, five things that you
want to manifest in five affirmations. And I do it
every single day. And this like I got like a little.
Speaker 4 (21:46):
Wide for the five minute Journal.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
No, it's a journal.
Speaker 5 (21:49):
It's like a journal, like a why it's like a
it's a it's like a notebook you'd buy for school
for kids.
Speaker 4 (21:54):
I know that five minute journal. Those are the prompts.
Speaker 2 (21:56):
No, so this is not the five Minute Journal.
Speaker 4 (21:58):
It sounds like they just took it from the well there's.
Speaker 2 (22:01):
A ten ten ten.
Speaker 5 (22:02):
I just chopped it down because ten felt like a
lot for me. So I'm doing five, five, five, and
I've been doing it every single day. I think I
started May twenty first, and I had not let a
day go by without doing it. And I'm loving it.
I'm already feeling like a shift in my mood, a
shift in my spirit.
Speaker 2 (22:20):
I love it.
Speaker 5 (22:20):
I think it's something easy that you could do on
a daily basis to kind of get you into a
different headspace.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Five things you want to manifest every day. That seems
like a lot you can.
Speaker 5 (22:28):
Repeat, you know, to do five different things you want
to manifest, but different iterations of it. And like things
pop up daily that like when I do things I'm
grateful for, Like the day after we got our coffee machine,
I was so grateful for my new coffee machine, you
know what I mean? Yeah, Like things pop up daily.
Speaker 1 (22:41):
I when to get rid of it. You're gonna be
grateful to have the space.
Speaker 5 (22:43):
Pace back exactly exactly, but the grateful for you would
be surprised how many things you're grateful for when you're
doing five a day.
Speaker 4 (22:50):
I I feel like I was thinking about Becca Moore
because she has been very public in posting about her breakup,
and she really started leaning in because she was so sad,
and she started leaning into making herself better. So she
started going to like workout classes, and she she was
never someone who liked workout classes, so she was very
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intimidated by it at first. And so she started doing that,
and then she started taking acting classes, and because she
had always thought about wanting to do that and just
never felt inspired or like motivated enough to do it.
And it's something that she's just like love that's brought
so many new people into her life. So I was
gonna say, maybe find something that you've always wanted to
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do and lean into it. I was also I see
people like fostering dogs and cats, like just for the day,
taking them on walks and giving them a day out
of the what the foster?
Speaker 2 (23:43):
Yeah yeah yeah.
Speaker 4 (23:44):
And I also.
Speaker 5 (23:45):
Think decluttering and cleaning your house, like decluttering every single
corner of your house, making space, like cleaning out space
in your closet, leaving space for your future.
Speaker 2 (23:54):
Has been leaving space for your.
Speaker 5 (23:56):
Like leaving a drawer for them, like get like allowing
space in your place new love to come in that
could be very therapeutic.
Speaker 2 (24:02):
That really was therapeutic for me.
Speaker 4 (24:04):
But your email immediately made me think of Kate Winslet
in The Holiday when she loves the guy from work
and he just basically uses her to help him write
or do work stuff, and then she's having to get
over this person that never had love for her. And
then she goes and she does the house swap and
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does something totally out of her comfort zone and ends
up making like these lifelong friendships and whatever. But it
made me feel like how she had to do something
really uncomfortable to find like the best part of her life,
you know, the best season of her life. So just
to remind her that it might feel uncomfortable to do
new things and try new things, but it could lead
you to the best people or parts of your life
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that are to come.
Speaker 1 (24:51):
Amen, preach, all right, we have a fun one coming
up next.
Speaker 4 (25:19):
All right, we are back. We love to end with
a fun write in.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
This is from Annie. This is very funny. Hello, Becka, Tanya,
Mark and East and I saw this fun video where
they were talking about things that are embarrassing that really
shouldn't be embarrassing, and I thought it would be fun
to hear what you all find to be embarrassing that
shouldn't be. I feel like Becha will be able to
relate to this one. But I think Tanya owns everything
she does and doesn't get embarrassed. Mine is when my
windshield wipers are on high, especially if it's that rating
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too hard in my car only has two settings, super
slow and super fast, and I feel like an idiot.
Some others are being sung Happy Birthday too, trying to
find the bathroom in a restaurant hunt, turning around and
walking back in the direction you just came from, or
walking back to your seat after taking your turn. It bowling.
Speaker 4 (26:07):
I literally was gonna say the bowling one.
Speaker 6 (26:09):
I hate that feeling because it's like, even if you
get a strike, you turn around and everyone's either no
one's paying attention because everyone's talking to each other, or
they're like yeah, and it's.
Speaker 1 (26:21):
Just either way all chord.
Speaker 4 (26:23):
There's an awkward element to it. Also, like when you're
in a big group and you don't know where anyone parks,
so everyone says bye and then everyone starts walking the
same way. I'm just like we just did a whole
hug everyone. Do I hug them again?
Speaker 2 (26:41):
I don't find any of this embarrassing.
Speaker 4 (26:42):
Yeah, that's what she said. It's like you don't experience
this feeling.
Speaker 2 (26:46):
I don't think I do. I'm trying to think, like
on my daily.
Speaker 4 (26:49):
When people seeing happy birthday to me, I really feel
that too. I get that.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
Yeah, I don't mind that. I think tany and are
similar like that. Like I'm the one that doesn't care
what anybody thinks for my wife and my daughters very
much care with other people think as much as I
preach to them. How silly that is. But there is
something that happened this morning, and so we have a
couple of bathroom options here on this end of the hallway.
One of them is just a single bathroom, and I
prefer that one because I don't like to be in
a room with other people doing their business, right But
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that's not working right now. So I have to be
in the room with other people doing their business, and
there is always someone in there doing their business, and
it drives me crazy.
Speaker 4 (27:22):
It's crazy.
Speaker 1 (27:23):
It's crazy. I was this is this morning. I was
one hundred percent. Every time I went in there, somebody was.
Every time I'm in there to stand, someone else is
in there to sit, and you can hear everything and
it's so awkward. But here's what was awkward to me today.
I was washing my hands after standing, and the guy
that was sitting comes out of the bathroom and wants
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to talk to me, like, I don't want to talk
to you. I heard you doing those things. I am
so embarrassed right now, and I don't even know why
I'm not. You're doing the embarrassing thing I'm not, and
yet I am mortified. I don't want to be here
talking to you right now.
Speaker 4 (27:59):
I would feel absolutely uncomfortable myself. Tanya, unfortunately, would be
the one trying to talk after doing the things with Probably.
Speaker 5 (28:09):
True if somebody is in my stall and uh no, no, no,
if somebody's in my stall that I like to use
in the rest, even if they're even if they're doing
their business, I will wait for that stall to open
because it's my stall.
Speaker 1 (28:26):
How many stalls are in there, Sure they feel very
awkward standing there.
Speaker 4 (28:31):
You probably stare through the cracks like stare. They probably
just see her like one eye staring to the crowd. Also,
did you know other countries like people that come to America,
they say that the the space in our bathroom is
like so strange, like, but why do we have this?
Speaker 1 (28:48):
I don't know. They're right, it's ludicrous.
Speaker 4 (28:50):
And sometimes they're really wide. I'm like, I could see
someone's whole body show.
Speaker 1 (28:57):
Some airports don't even have doors on those things. Like,
it's really unpleasant.
Speaker 4 (29:01):
We the women's restaurant typically.
Speaker 1 (29:07):
There. But so wait a second. How many stalls are
in that bathroom? Four and the only one you will.
Speaker 2 (29:13):
Use unless yes, why it's my favorite?
Speaker 1 (29:16):
Is it the big one? Is it the big Handicaan stall?
Speaker 2 (29:18):
The very first one to the left.
Speaker 1 (29:20):
But what's wrong with the other ones?
Speaker 5 (29:24):
Usually the trash cans are like locked, or there's like
p on the seats. There's little trash cans in every
stall for us that there are tampons and feminine products
the way, thank you very much. A lot of them
are locked, so it's annoying. So it's like slide your
stuff through. It's very uncomfortable. I just like that one.
Speaker 1 (29:42):
But but wouldn't wouldn't it be more polite to just
use another one rather than stand there and the person
knows you're standing there waiting for them. I was in
the stall, be like, what is wrong with this person?
There are three other empty stalls. I'd be so annoyed.
Speaker 4 (29:56):
Oh, I thought of another one. Walking, you know in
your movie theaters is like you don't have a your
the exits on the other side, so you have to
walk in for the whole theater. I hate that.
Speaker 2 (30:08):
But you have to do it.
Speaker 1 (30:09):
Yeah, you do.
Speaker 4 (30:10):
And it's not cozy because.
Speaker 1 (30:13):
Like even when you have to get up and sneak
past people on an airplane, or.
Speaker 4 (30:18):
Like at a at a stadium where you're like need
to chair and you have to ask everyone and either
they have to stand up or turn to the side,
and then you have to decide am I going front
or back to their face?
Speaker 1 (30:30):
My jingles are my butt in your face? Which is
going to be yeah, but always but the.
Speaker 2 (30:35):
Rule, I think that's what I uctually do. I don't know.
Speaker 4 (30:41):
Yeah, I.
Speaker 1 (30:46):
Don't like being on elevators with people.
Speaker 4 (30:49):
Yeah, but that's awkward.
Speaker 1 (30:50):
It's awkward. Weird conversation or which is also awkward. It's
all awkward. If I get here in the morning and
I park and I see somebody else parking that I
know is on the fifth floor where we are, I
do everything I can to get to that elevator enough
before them that I don't have to hold the door
because they will head to the stairs. If they head
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to the elevator, I'll go to the stairs and I'll
sprint because I do not want to go off the elevator.
Speaker 4 (31:18):
With that, I think they're more like me and Nanny
than your Yeah, I like that, man. I could probably
think of a lot of those live we.
Speaker 2 (31:32):
Do live, try and live unapologetically.
Speaker 4 (31:35):
It's still unapologetically anyways. That's all for today, folks, but
we will be back on Monday, Monday Funday. We've had
a lot of Tuesday episodes lately, so don't you worry.
We will return on a Monday starting next week. Yes,
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we love you, somebody love you. Bye.
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