October 4, 2022 • 44 mins
Becca and Hayley went house shopping! WHAT DOES IT MEAN?? We hear everything about their plans together and what happened after a visit to the piercing shop.
Tanya has set her goals for the month of October and you won’t believe what made the list!
And we get the real story on why Chrishell Stause from Selling Sunset posted a Tik Tok with Tanya!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya rap An iHeartRadio podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:07):
Hello, everybody, we are scrubbing in. It's Monday Funday.
Speaker 3 (00:14):
It's wow, Monday Funday. That doesn't it's Sunday Funday.
Speaker 4 (00:19):
Well, today's Monday Funday.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
Monday is Monday.
Speaker 4 (00:24):
It's mundane Monday Monday. See, I don't I mean, that's
how we all feel. I think.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
I feel like you and Mark are people who are like, Monday,
let's go, let's let's change the world and get things out.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
Because Monday's is the start of the week, and so
Monday is when you set the tone and you just
bust it out because you're gonna have a great week ahead.
Although I will say this Monday, I'm feeling kind of
like that.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
I was gonna say, you just I tried to make
its Monday Funday and you papooed that quick.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
So yeah, feels nice.
Speaker 4 (01:00):
No contradicting.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
Oh oh well, I try. I'm like trying to get
I try to get it up. Most of the time.
I'd say ninety ninety percent of the time on Mondays,
I'm flying high, But this Monday, I'm not flying so high.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
Okay, Well, that's fine.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
Yeah, it's fair.
Speaker 4 (01:14):
Not every day has to be flying high.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
Exactly.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
In fact, I'm about start my period, so I am.
I would not say I'm flying high. I would say
I'm flying low.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Your period, I.
Speaker 4 (01:26):
Would say I'm hovering. I wouldn't say I'm flying it does.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
Your period doesn't have.
Speaker 4 (01:32):
You, tonya.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
My period absolutely slows me down mentally, physically, emotionally, and
any other way it could slow me down.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
It slows me down.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Don't let it take the power back.
Speaker 4 (01:43):
You have the power line over the period. I have
to deal with this. Let me be let me Oh.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
Actually Saturday is like hang on. Saturday is a period day,
National Period Awareness Day.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
As if I didn't know and already have balloons and
flowers ordered.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
Ready for me.
Speaker 4 (02:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
Yeah. October eighth, baby.
Speaker 4 (02:04):
There was a day for everything.
Speaker 5 (02:06):
It's not a period, it's an exclamation point exactly.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
That's beautiful.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
H We're telling you. Wouldn't you argue that if she
eats the right things and treats herself the right way
during the different stages of her mental cycles, she wouldn't
be slowed down. Yes.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
And I was actually having this conversation with Ricky Lake
because she was at this period event that I was
at last week.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Could pick up that name. We just dropped.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Yeah, Lake just gonna drop it like it's up. That
was kind of a life moment meeting her, honestly. But
she we were talking about how like it is crazy,
how you cause she made this her first film she made.
It was a documentary about home birth and just kind
of like getting the power back and like with all
of this stuff like childbirth and all these things that
we just kind of go along with what everybody does
(02:51):
and says, when like in reality, if you really do
the work and the research, you can kind of like
take the power back and like figure out your own body,
and like real and figuring out your own body is
like such like a cool empowering feeling.
Speaker 4 (03:06):
M hm.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
Me and Ricky Lake, you know, just.
Speaker 4 (03:09):
Pioneers, pioneers in the period world.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
To me, like having to learn all that and do
all the work of like knowing what I'm supposed to
eat when I'm supposed to eat.
Speaker 4 (03:20):
It is like a lot of headspace that I don't
want to take up.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
So it is a lot of headspace. Yeah, there's a
lot of space being taken up in this head. Let
me tell you, do you do this weekend? What didn't
I do this week?
Speaker 4 (03:36):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (03:37):
Well, she was she was living.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
The flair Nostrils, which was also part of last week's podcast.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
I hope that.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
Crystal doesn't zoom in on those right right then, because
they got quarter size.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Those were a huge They were huge.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Don't bother me because I am living. Yeah, honestly, can't
even remember. I feel like this week, I feel like
between our San Francisco trip and then we went to
Vegas for iHeart, I feel like it's been like a
lot going on. But I feel like this next few weeks,
I'm kind of just like chilling, which is a nice
place to be. You know, I'm gonna start making my
(04:21):
almond milk again, getting back into my routine.
Speaker 4 (04:23):
Great.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
What about you?
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Oh well, what did what did I do? Instead of
what didn't I do? What did I do? I literally
have no idea. I went to in and out twice? Wow,
I literally I'm continue the conversation with something else because
(04:46):
I cannot remember. Oh, yesterday we went we went to
like a bunch of open houses, which was really fun
because like we went.
Speaker 3 (04:53):
To, like, are you guys looking for homes?
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Haley's looking for a house, but more to Samantha anyways,
where we were like, let's just go to open houses.
We were going to like these really expensive homes and
just like, oh yeah, so what about this part of
the house, Like that is actually really it was fun.
I was like this could be a Sunday thing because
(05:16):
I would love to just go into open houses like this.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
So that was really fun yesterday in an unexpected way.
And that's really it. We kind of had a low
key weekend. Yeah, Heale's been working like NonStop. So Saturday
we went and she got her ears pierced for ear piercings.
At one time, I want to.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Get my ears pierced, but it really just sets me
back because I can't sleep right and you know me
when I'm not sleeping.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
And it's not good. No, not good.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
So I'm gonna put a pin in the getting my
ears pierced. But you know what, I did realize this weekend.
So we made our October goals and actually we did
it a few days before October first, which I felt
very good about because it was like we're kind of
getting on top of our October goals. But I'm very
over the this, like this notion of like I need
to lose five pounds constantly, like do you know what
(06:06):
I mean? It's always like I gotta lose weight, I
gotta tighten up, I gotta do this, I gotta do that.
It's like I'm over this sing narrative. I'm over it.
I don't need to do it. I just need to
love my body the way she is, every curve, every
little dimple, every little piece of cellula, and like live
my life, enjoy it. I've been enjoying my life, and
I'm over this narrative. I want to treat my body right,
(06:28):
but I don't need to be a certain thing. I
don't need. And like I used to do this all
the time when I was single. I'd be like, oh,
I just want to like lose a little weight or
like tone up and then I'll really start dating again.
I'm like, how like lame that I let that hinder
me in my dating life, you know what I mean?
Like I have to do lose this to da da
da No more. I'm over it. None of my goals
are losing weight zero amen.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Are there other health related goals though?
Speaker 3 (06:52):
Is it?
Speaker 1 (06:52):
I want to be stronger, I want to be faster.
I want to be in better, I want to be
more fit.
Speaker 3 (06:58):
One of them is I really want to figure out
my hashimoto situation. So I have a doctor's appointment.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
This what what what is this now?
Speaker 3 (07:07):
No, Hashimotos is like a disease, like a thorroid disease.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
Yeah, oh you have you have a hashimoto.
Speaker 3 (07:12):
My doctor said, I have it. But I haven't like
gone to actually really gone to specials. Haven't really liked.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Oh I'm sorry. I thought there's like another like you know,
like your love language.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
You're oh no, no, no, this is like an actual thing.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
An any agram. I thought it's a hashimoto. I thought
it was one of those.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
No, but they do say that like a lot of
the things that you eat and the way that you
like live your life, like you really need to get
like eight hours of sleep and stuff like that, and
so I really want to, like this month dive into
that and kind of like focus on So that is
health related, but it's not like weight related. M hmm.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
I think it's okay.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
Like sometimes I think we go so far in the
other direction of like I need to love every part
of my body, the cellulit and everything, and it's like
I don't think we have to love it, but I
do think we there's a way of like going that's
not my favorite part of my body, but it's okay,
And I love my body because it takes care of me,
(08:06):
you know, Like I don't think it's like like for
me personally. I know it's not realistic for me to
be like I need to love every imperfection on me,
but I can accept every imperfection and not need to
have to change every single thing about me.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Yeah, like Wyneth Paltrow, you know, I accept.
Speaker 4 (08:23):
Just like her.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
But my whole thing is like being able to look
at myself and not immediately just notice the negative things,
be able to like appreciate the things that I like
about myself and the things that I appreciate, and then
be able to be like and maybe that's not my
favorite thing, but I don't have to change it, or
I don't need to like laser and focus on it
(08:47):
and have to change it, because I think it's just
natural to look at ourselves and have things that maybe
we're not like obsessed with about our bodies and stuff.
Speaker 3 (08:55):
Yeah, I'm over it. I'm over the narrative. It's like
every like my TikTok algorithm too is like, I want
to lose some quick five pounds, do this move, and
I'm like, no, I don't want to anymore. I don't
want this narrative anymore.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
I save all of them and then never go back
and look at them. They're simply saved and never I'll
take that.
Speaker 3 (09:17):
I'll take that tip, and I'll incorporate that move into
my like workouts, because I like to work out and
I just like to get my body moving and stuff.
But I'm like, I'm over this. You need to do this,
you need to do this to like be summer ready.
I'm over it.
Speaker 4 (09:30):
Damn.
Speaker 5 (09:31):
I think I do a lot. I'll save the workout
things or the diet tips I see on on TikTok,
and I'm like, then when I finally go back to
do it, I'll look at the comments and it's just
flooded with people going this doesn't work, so this will
only hurt you. This guy doesn't know what he's talking about.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
Like before, the comments are actually the most intriguing part
of TikTok for me, because that's where I really find
I get my knowledge about something. And I also will
save like all these recipes like I have these amazing
recipes save Nay ordered Chinese last night.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Chinese, but else we we. I will say, I'm having
a lot of fun with Robbie in his car because
he got this Bronco and it's like a it's like
an adult Lego. Like he spent the weekend taking the
doors off and like he said, look, it's so fun.
You just like and like the doors come off, so
you're in like a real life Indiana Jones car and
like takes the panels off the roof every other day
(10:27):
and puts them back on, and it's like he's having
so much fun, like working on this car.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
Does he have to work on it because it's brand No, No.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
Not work on it, but like taking the doors off,
putting the doors back on, putting the top off, top
back on, you know, like installing the stairs.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
I have to say, I'm I'm proud of you for
having fun with it because I feel like you would
be like encouraging me to wear like helmets and stuff
in there.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
Yeah I do. I'm a little concerned about the safety
aspect of it, but the doors come back on. He
does it for like, you know, the day when it's
like sunny and then the doors come back on. It's
not like permanently like that, but it is fun Like
I'm seeing him in these like you know, Facebook groups
like Broncos, Broo Bros or whatever. I don't even know
what it is. It's so funny. I'm like, this is
probably what it's like for him, like when a Taylor
(11:10):
Swift album comes out, you know what I mean, talking
with my friends about it and like.
Speaker 4 (11:15):
It's probably very similar vibes.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Yeah, yeah, y'all are just like, are you in Facebook
groups spelled Taylor swuft.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
No, But like I don't know, scrubbing in Facebook group
can kind of be like that sometimes.
Speaker 4 (11:24):
I love the scrubbing in Facebook group.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
By the way, this is He's so happy that he's
in it now. He's like this is the best thing.
He's like, you guys were right, this is the best thing.
Speaker 4 (11:34):
It's a really good time.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (11:35):
Yeah. Keeps me inspired and entertained for sure.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
That's where he showed me. He's like, did you see
mind you Everybody sent me that Kryshelle Stace TikTok about
her like listening to the Morning show. So I've seen
it like a hundred times. And the next day he goes, hey, am,
I just sent you this Cryshelle Girls in a TikTok?
Did you do you know who she is? And I
was like, uh, yes, I saw this like a her
(12:00):
time yesterday where he goes somebody posted in the Facebook group,
oh my god.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
But you know when it makes a Facebook group serious business.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
Serious business that was scared by her TikTok. I was like, oh,
don't hate me.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
No, I don't think she was, you know, coming at you.
Speaker 4 (12:17):
I don't think it was a personal attack.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
I think she was just saying, like people take things
out of context and always run with them.
Speaker 3 (12:23):
But if you read that quote from him and you
said and then it says that this that they that
she fast forwards his HBO shows when she's mad at him,
you also too would have an opinion like that seems.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
I was like she was responding to his quote rather
than she was to you.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
Right, we're right yeah or something.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
But also, aside from I don't I think what she
cleared it up that she like would like she was
watching the same show and he was like, what the
heck you like messed up where I was on the show.
But you know, everyone does weird things after a breakup.
So even if she did do stuff like that, it's like, listen,
sure that's fine.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
But not when you're in another relationship.
Speaker 4 (13:04):
Is that what the whole thing was?
Speaker 3 (13:05):
Well, yeah, if you're like, if I were dating somebody, Like,
if I were in a relationship with somebody and they
were still like doing this stuff with their ex, it
would kind of piss me off. I'd be like, why
are you doing that?
Speaker 4 (13:15):
If they were watching a show on their account.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
To mess with somebody else's like Netflix kill Friends, So
that would piss you off.
Speaker 4 (13:23):
I didn't say me. I'm saying they're all friends.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
Yeah, no, and they all seem very like friendly and
like open, you know, it doesn't feel like tense or
like nasty.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
But that was Tanya's point in the report too, which
Krashelle didn't respond to. Is I think you said in
that report that this is a sign that you still
have feelings for that person, if you're still wasting time
doing stuff like this.
Speaker 4 (13:44):
Yeah, Oh I don't think so.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
I think they're friends and they've been working together more
like they work together and have been friends more than
they dated, longer than they dated.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
Okay, what that's fine. I just think it's weird if
you're in a new relationship to do stuff like I mean,
clearly she didn't do it, so like at the end
of the day, like it was, it is what it is.
But if let's take that out of it, like, if
you are doing that and you're in a new relationship
like you're let's say you're like messing with Roberts like
Netflix or whatever, you don't think that's like disrespectful to Haley.
Speaker 4 (14:15):
Yeah, I didn't say I would do it.
Speaker 2 (14:17):
I said that I think if that was the case
with them, which it isn't. She cleared the air. They're
all friendly and open. So I think it just depends
on the situation. You and I would not handle that well, right,
if you.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Did, it would be a bad sign.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Tanya's saying, yeah, yeah, regardless. It was funny. And someone
sends it to me because I'm, you know, friends with Kroshelle,
and I was like, oh.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Are you really?
Speaker 4 (14:40):
Yeah, oh, neat.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
I will.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
Send her our.
Speaker 2 (14:47):
Best Yeah, I'm a Kroschelle fan, So I was like,
I'll send this to Tanya and tell her she can't
believe everything she reads.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
Well, no, because Beca said it to me and I
panicked that I like I misquoted somebody, do you know
what I mean? Like, that's where my head went, is
like I messed up my reporter. So I was like panicking,
and I was like, no, I swear, I like, I don't.
I only use direct quotes in those reports, like I
don't really go off gossip, Like I don't do my
reports off gossip for the most part.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
Well, she was like yeah, she was like, I am
lazy in the sense that I haven't logged out of
that TV because we don't use that TV much. But
I'm not petty. And I was like lazy, sure, petty
not so much. So that was the conversation.
Speaker 3 (15:34):
Well, yeah, but he did. I will say he was
misleading in his quote because he made it seem yeah,
like when they fight, that's what she does.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
No, that's a scary thing because we do this morning
show and there's lots of people listening in celebrities that
we talk about are listening, and sometimes they don't love
what we said, and so that can be a real issue.
And so people like Ryan and before him, Rick De's
they get kind of gunshy sometimes because they'll get I
remember this long long time ago, got confronted at a
some restaurant or something by Kevin Costner, some celebrity that
(16:06):
had said to something bad about like hey, I heard
you sewn in the air. That's not cool, man, And
after that it was no more celebrity talk on the radio.
He got so spooked by that. So it happens, and
you got to be a little bit careful. And we
know that some of these people listen, but we don't
do the gossipy stuff. We just kind of say, here's
the story out there, and here's the conversation. You can
kind of make out of it.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
Yeah, I mean, we get it. I'm so scary. I'm
scared to have an opinion on anything. You can't have
an opinion on anything, well.
Speaker 3 (16:32):
You can, because it's your putting scarre lowed to like
have an opinion about It's scary to talk about it.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
When you saw that she was talking about you on TikTok, yeah,
because I.
Speaker 3 (16:44):
Was like yeah, oh no. I literally was like I
got it from just Jared. It was on a carpet,
like because I think you text me. I was in therapy,
which is like the worst thing because I'm like supposed
to be in therapy focusing on like myself and my way.
Speaker 4 (16:57):
Your phone just like totally off when.
Speaker 3 (16:59):
It wasn't on my because I do my therapy on
Zoom and so my text message up up and I
can ignore them, like I'm not reading my text messages.
But like when you were like Krashell posted something, I
was like, oh no, so I started spiraling souse. I'm like,
I can't see it, you know, I'm in the middle
of therapy. And then my mind's just like retracing where
I got the story from. And I was like, no,
this is legit, Like what did what happened? And then
(17:20):
I saw it.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
I was like, oh, okay, I mean you're You're not
someone who's like out to get anybody.
Speaker 4 (17:25):
So I think I think you're good.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
But I want to make sure, like i'm you know
us quotes.
Speaker 1 (17:31):
Yeah, you should go and do not disturb for therapy.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
Yeah, I'm my computer.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
I never I've never done how to do it on
my computer.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Well, now do you have an Apple computer?
Speaker 3 (17:40):
Huh?
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Now, when you go on do not Disturb on one,
it goes to both, it goes to all your devices, but.
Speaker 3 (17:46):
Do not disturb its only on a night time.
Speaker 4 (17:48):
You can put it on what.
Speaker 1 (17:50):
Oh you tockle it on and off.
Speaker 3 (17:53):
Wow, let me mess around with that toggle.
Speaker 4 (17:55):
Yeah you should. You should look at the settings on
your I phone. There's a lot of cool things.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
I'm going to toggle that toggle. By the way, look
at my new screensaver.
Speaker 4 (18:04):
So Harry Styles. Yeah, but I have Harry Styles is
your block screen?
Speaker 3 (18:09):
Yeah? There he is?
Speaker 4 (18:12):
Is that controversial?
Speaker 3 (18:14):
I don't know?
Speaker 4 (18:15):
Another man?
Speaker 1 (18:17):
How's Robie going to feel about that? Jokes about you
and Harry?
Speaker 2 (18:21):
He says, that's the one thing that he ever has
gotten jealous about.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
And now that instead of Sonny on your lock screen,
if he.
Speaker 4 (18:31):
Did that, if he had another woman on his lock screen.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
The absolutely yeah, or like a hot girl in his
background on your rad.
Speaker 3 (18:41):
I guarantee you he's not gonna care. But maybe I
should change it.
Speaker 1 (18:46):
I think you should change it.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
I do too, all right, fair enough. I just changed
it because Sam sent me this photo and I was like, wow,
that isn't it's like just like a gorgeous lock screen.
It's like just like kind of like chic, you know,
it's like che girl vibes.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
I think that's you could say it and look at
it if you want to feel inspired by that.
Speaker 3 (19:02):
But this is like this is the vibe I'm going
for for our new rebrand of scrubbing in photo shoot.
Speaker 4 (19:09):
Yeah, we're taking new photos soon.
Speaker 3 (19:11):
So we're just you know, spitballing some ideas. I was
going with the scrubs, but you know, Becka thinks we
should be elevated.
Speaker 4 (19:19):
Well, I think there's a way to do the scrubs elevated.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
I just maybe think it's like just something different in
like chic, but still cohesive and still brand our brand.
You know. Yeah, So we're just thinking some ideas, spitball
and some ideas. All she said, have a good month
before we have to do it. So and if I
know us, we'll be panicking the day before trying to
(19:41):
figure out what we're gonna wear.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
I hate that about us.
Speaker 4 (19:44):
I hated it too. I don't we gotta change it.
Speaker 2 (19:47):
You want to talk about the Hailey Biber interview and
call her daddy?
Speaker 3 (19:50):
I did just because I feel so like okay and
not like, oh I feel bad for celebrities, and but
I do feel bad for her because it's just like
she's been married now for four years and she just
like can't like.
Speaker 4 (20:02):
Let's talk about it when we come back from a break.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
Okay, we are back, and yeah, I honestly agree with
the fact that Haley is still Hailey Bieber still having
answer questions about Selena Gomess. Yeah, like I like them both, obviously,
I'm actually a fan of both of them.
Speaker 3 (20:37):
I am too, But I'm just like I feel and
I go and I think about Alexandra Cooper. People her
friends to call her alex I newly started following her
on Instagram. She really got that follow from me today
because I was like putting myself in her shoes and
I'm like, obviously, she it's not a bad job because
it got tons of press. It was everywhere like that.
Her podcast was like on everybody's Yeah, everybody was talking
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about it. But I'm like, if I put myself in
her shoes, would I go there with Hailey Bieber? Absolutely not,
because I just feel like there's a certain point where
it's just like she's been married, now she's in this relationship,
Like at what point is she going to have to
stop defending her relationship or like living in the past.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
Well, maybe this was it. Maybe she was like, I'm
gonna do this massive podcast. I mean, call her Daddy
is huge, and that's going to be the last I
talk about it, like put.
Speaker 3 (21:28):
It to rest now and I'll see or is it
going to open the door to for more?
Speaker 4 (21:33):
I think they're all.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
I mean, I think Selena even did a live and
was basically like, can y' all just stop? Like if
you're supporting me and my company Rare, which is literally
about kind words and how we treat people, you can't
turn around and be hateful towards somebody else, So.
Speaker 3 (21:51):
You cannot get classier than Selena Gomez. Like that is
just she literally just rises above Like she didn't need
to come out and do that live after, you know
what I mean, Like she could have just stayed under
the radar and not said a word, you know what
I mean? And she comes out and she's just like,
stop being mean.
Speaker 4 (22:10):
Where's Justin? Why isn't he doing that? Why isn't he
defending Haley.
Speaker 3 (22:13):
He's probably tired of it too. He's probably just like.
Speaker 4 (22:16):
Yeah, but why are the girls having to rise above everything?
Speaker 3 (22:19):
Well? Thank god the girls are. I they also have
each other's backs.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
Yeah, the devil's advocate. Isn't this part of the territory
when you marry Justin Bieber? Like there's a lot of
upside and there's a lot of downside. Right, he's one
of the most famous people in the world. You're gonna
have to deal with stuff like this.
Speaker 3 (22:33):
Yeah, but I would say the downside is just like
having everybody like in your business.
Speaker 1 (22:38):
Yeah, that's what this is. And I'm just thinking this
is part of the territory.
Speaker 2 (22:43):
I just don't not many other celebrities deal with what
they've dealt with on this level though, of like a
relationship being done for however many years and then still
having to talk about it and rehash it.
Speaker 4 (22:59):
Yeah, it's painful.
Speaker 3 (23:00):
It would just be like I'd be exhausted. If I
were her, I'd be like, I'm tired.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
I wouldn't do I honestly would be such a recluse,
Like I admire the fact that she just like does
her thing, goes on a podcast, it's like here, here
you go, and then lives her life regardless of how
hard and exhausting must be.
Speaker 3 (23:20):
I'd be tired. I'd be like, mama's Mama's gotta take
Mama needs a trip somewhere and a sunny snuggle because
this is annoying. I'm just like, how many years has
been now they've been married for four, so I imagine like.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
Yes, Anyways, I think I think they're both very classy,
and I think that the way they've handled it has
been as gracious as you can in their situation to them,
totally yeah, but I agree. I think Alex Cooper asked
some hard questions and as someone who like in her
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position like that, I I have to say I admire
what she does and it's why she's probably one of
the most successful podcasts in the world because she almost
goes to that uncomfortable place that it is hard to
get to.
Speaker 3 (24:19):
But you know what, we could be there too. We
could be there too, But if we had a Hailey
be Bron we could evoke some like thoughtful and inciting
and invigorating conversations with her that don't have to deal
with another woman and her husband. I'm just throwing it
out there.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
But that's what people tune in like. That is why
it went viral. And why was talking about.
Speaker 3 (24:46):
You hit the nail on the head? What that We
feed the beast, and the beast is being fed, but
the beast needs to eat from bad things.
Speaker 4 (24:54):
The beast likes bad food.
Speaker 3 (24:56):
The beast likes bad food like the negativity beast is
it just it just feeds off the negativity and the
drama and the and we just feed the beast.
Speaker 4 (25:06):
We do feed the beast.
Speaker 3 (25:08):
Let's starve the beast.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
Well, then entertainment's out the door. Unfortunately, that's not true.
It's what people I'm not.
Speaker 3 (25:19):
I'm not feeding the beast I do.
Speaker 4 (25:24):
Are you saying, Oh, you're just talking about podcasts in general.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
I'm talking about called her daddy.
Speaker 3 (25:31):
Yeah, calling for a boycott. No, I'm not calling for
a boycott. But I just I think that I just
think that we're different. It doesn't make us any any
less than you know.
Speaker 2 (25:45):
Well, I also I think that I I think also
giving someone a platform because realistically, if you think about it,
Hailey Bieber has a whole team who is like paying
attention to what questions are being asked and how she's
answering them, and if they didn't like something, it wouldn't
get released. She there's a lot of people looking out
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for her in that way. So if she wanted that platform,
then there was a lot of yesses that had.
Speaker 4 (26:12):
To be checked for her to do that podcast.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
True.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
So if someone is going on a podcast that is
known for asking the hard questions, then technically they're expecting
for that to be a topic of conversation.
Speaker 3 (26:27):
True, But you know what I also realized too, and
it made me think about our podcast. Those chairs that
she has, it's like just like an inviting space space,
you know, like we're talking to people on their computers.
I think we need a chair. I think we need
a guest chair.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
She was clearly very comfortable and really not focused on
the fact that she was on a podcast, because it
feels like she's in someone's living room.
Speaker 3 (26:52):
Yeah, Like her legs were up, She's like chilling, like
like you and I like we can get into conversations
and we could just talk for hours about like lord
knows what HM like.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
So, but what about our guests. We talked our guests
over zoom, So how are they in a chair?
Speaker 3 (27:08):
We gotta get him in. Let's create it into your chair. Yeah,
who cares. I got parking. I got a nice parking
situation here. Just pull right up to my apartment doors,
open's stop by the fridge and grab yourself a bevy
and just head on up to the to the studio room.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
They like show up to do the podcast and they're like,
am I at the right spot?
Speaker 3 (27:29):
We can put a nice cozy chair over there. I mean,
I think it's time. Five years in, I think it's
time we get a chair.
Speaker 4 (27:37):
What if we got a studio, like a studio space,
and we're.
Speaker 3 (27:43):
Like sitting in it your home.
Speaker 2 (27:47):
That doesn't make it as homie inviting for a guest
who's never met you before.
Speaker 3 (27:55):
I think my home is bather rather hoie.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
But I'm saying like, for someone who's never met you
to come in and feel comfortable, it's not like a
it's not like a space created like an office where
they just go in and they're like, Okay, this is
this is their podcast, you know.
Speaker 3 (28:12):
Yeah, well let's do it in here.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
Okay, that'll be our next thing after our photo shoot.
Speaker 1 (28:19):
We have a lot of umm.
Speaker 4 (28:22):
What she's saying, or she didn't say remodel, she just
said get a chair.
Speaker 3 (28:27):
And then biting chair and a mic set up in
front of said chair to really just.
Speaker 4 (28:32):
Yes, you guys, this is so weird.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
I would be like, I think, I think not knowing
us and coming into her home and having to go
like through her kitchen and living room and then up
the stairs is like not comfortable.
Speaker 4 (28:49):
I wouldn't feel comfortable.
Speaker 2 (28:51):
I would be like Okay, I'm in this random person's home.
Speaker 3 (28:57):
We could have Hanna Kam station her down stairs in
my pink chairs, so it's like not like a home,
like she can be there.
Speaker 4 (29:04):
And let's not make Hannity that in my living room.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
It's so cozy down there.
Speaker 4 (29:12):
It's something to talk about having a studio.
Speaker 2 (29:15):
I think talking about having abiding space changes the moon.
Speaker 1 (29:22):
That's true.
Speaker 4 (29:23):
I agree with that. Yeah, not on a comfy chair.
I'm in the Swede Rock. Sit on the Swede Rock.
Speaker 3 (29:33):
I gotta keep you.
Speaker 2 (29:33):
Awake, young, young chicken, I'm not a young chicken.
Speaker 4 (29:37):
I'm feeling old as hell today.
Speaker 3 (29:39):
Really, let's talk about it.
Speaker 4 (29:41):
It's just my period.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
I'm just my period makes me into a person I
don't like. And all morning I've had to remind myself
that it's my period, it's not me, it's not real,
because I've had to just talk myself off of a ledge.
Speaker 3 (29:55):
You know what's funny. I don't feel like myself either,
and I think it's my nails.
Speaker 2 (30:01):
Okay, well guess what, Tanya, go change your nails. Oh
you have to do pick off the polish, change the color.
You'll be feeling good. I unfortunately don't have that luxury. Okay,
so mine will go away probably by tomorrow or the
next day. And I just keep reminding myself of that.
It is so weird what our periods, what our hormones
do to our for sure brains.
Speaker 4 (30:23):
It's weird.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
And so.
Speaker 3 (30:25):
It's also also think about think about your period, Like
we just bleed, Like we're bleeding every month, like bleeding
out of our bodies, and we just that's just We're
just that's just what we do.
Speaker 4 (30:36):
It's like, yeah, we just carry on with the day.
Speaker 3 (30:38):
Yeah, we're just profusely bleeding out of our resignas, and
like it's a thing, Like it's just such a weird
thing to think about. So you know what I mean,
if the guy was bleeding out of his finger all
he'd be like crying home all day. He just like
suck it up and we just like live our lives.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
It was so funny when Haley was getting her ears pierced.
The guy that was piercing doing the piercing, he was like,
oh yeah, he was like the people who pass out
the most from like seeing the needle are men. He
was like, men can't even watch their girlfriends or wives
get pierced because they have to sit down or they're
gonna pass out.
Speaker 4 (31:12):
I'll have to give them like lollipops. Yeah, I'm like,
just don't get me started.
Speaker 3 (31:21):
We're just bleeding, just bleeding out, all right.
Speaker 4 (31:25):
Well, we definitely know that what we do.
Speaker 2 (31:28):
Donya has let everybody know what happens to our body
as while we're going through that, which is all bleeding leeding.
Speaker 3 (31:36):
I haven't even started my free bleeding era, but that
might happen, so just watch out for that.
Speaker 4 (31:42):
Is that what is the.
Speaker 3 (31:44):
Sum realizing sticking things up there is just I don't
know about it right now, like tampons and yeah, Mark,
you know that squeamish space you're making right now. That's
why I talk about my period incessantly. That's why.
Speaker 1 (31:58):
Okay, so I want to.
Speaker 3 (32:00):
I want to. There's like a free bleeding people talk
about their free bleeding eras where they basically just like
freely bleed. They either were like period underwear or paths
and they just free bleed and it's like really empowering.
Apparently I don't know why, but I haven't tried it,
so I want to try it.
Speaker 2 (32:19):
I I guess I look forward to hearing about that
experience for you.
Speaker 3 (32:26):
I'll let you know when I try it. Why.
Speaker 4 (32:31):
I don't know, No, why why do Like, what's the
why not have some protection?
Speaker 3 (32:38):
It's like unnatural things up there with chemicals, things up
there up there. I don't know. Apparently it's empowering. Yeah,
I don't know why.
Speaker 2 (32:54):
I just think that we do a lot of things,
Like I think you do a lot of things that
are unnatural.
Speaker 3 (32:59):
To like you're chewing like xylotol gum.
Speaker 2 (33:03):
Sure, or like even bleaching your hair. Like, I think
there's just things that we do for like our beauty regime,
that aren't natural, but we do them because they're available
to us in modern in this modern world, in society
that we're in.
Speaker 3 (33:16):
No, I know, don't get me started, because remember I
had that whole thing about like my that's why my
nails are different, because I was like, I have my
nails haven't seen the light of day in decades, and
I'm like, that can't be good.
Speaker 4 (33:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (33:28):
We were getting hen and Tanya goes, oh, my nails
look pretty healthy. I think I'm just gonna get polished
and not get acrylics put on. And she's she asked
the lady, She's like, are they healthy? And the lady's
just straight up like no, no, they're not.
Speaker 3 (33:42):
Very much. Not hell they Okay. I was having a
good day and now I'm back down here.
Speaker 4 (33:49):
So yeah, I hear you about the free bleeding.
Speaker 2 (33:53):
And also it's okay if you want to contain.
Speaker 3 (33:58):
Yeah, no, it's all okay, it's all okay, good, it's
all good. It's all what you want to do, but
you know what I want to experience it all?
Speaker 2 (34:04):
All right, Well, we can't wait to hear about that.
We're gonna take another break and we'll be back with emails.
Speaker 4 (34:23):
All right, we are back, Mark, take it away, all.
Speaker 1 (34:27):
Right, begga, thank you. And this is from Shannie. It's
a little long. I'm going to trim it down, but
she says, I've been dating my boyfriend a little over
three years. He's my first serious relationship. But I went
into it wanting to date seriously with marriage in mind,
something we've discussed. It's and be on the same page about.
He started off this relationship strong, planning dates, surprising me,
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making me happy all around. I'm still happy, but he
doesn't really plan dates anymore or really do anything surprising.
He never brings me flowers or a dessert or anything
like that. I've asked him about it. He says he
knows he'd like to be a little more romantic, hasn't
done anything about it yet. Couples get comfortable. I realize that,
and a lot of effort is made early in the
relationship and it fades away. But we're close to an
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engagement here, and I feel like I'm still making the
effort and I'm surprised you with little gifts. He makes
me happy, and I do feel like he'll always take
care of me. But is this lack of effort a problem.
He's mentioned he's found a ring and is very sure
that I'm the one thank you for your help.
Speaker 2 (35:26):
I don't think I personally don't think it's a deal breaker.
I think it's a conversation of like, hey, I want
to feel those same I want the same effort that
you put in. You know, I don't need flowers every
time we go on a date or every single day,
but just like little things here and there that let
me know that you're making the effort, because I still
feel like I put in the same effort, and I
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don't want it to feel one sided or get resentful.
Speaker 4 (35:49):
But I don't know that it's a deal breaker. I
just think it's a conversation.
Speaker 2 (35:54):
And then if he's not willing to meet you, then
that's a bigger conversation.
Speaker 1 (35:58):
I mean, she's had to talk with him and he said, like,
I see what you're saying, and I acknowledge that, and
I would like to be better. I'd like to be
more romantic. But he's still not doing anything about it,
and now she's worried that she's gonna he's never he's
not going to make her a priority even when they're married.
Speaker 2 (36:12):
Yeah, maybe there's a conversation of like, hey, I know
we've talked about an engagement in the ring, but I
want to see effort from you before I commit to
something like that, Like I need to see that this
is going to be something that you're able to meet
me halfway on and not just be one sided forever,
because I don't want that.
Speaker 3 (36:33):
I also think too, that relationships kind of ebb and flow,
you know what I mean. Like it's not you're not
going to have that high intensity romance like you do
all the time, but I do think it ebbs and flows,
Like I think it might go down for a little
bit and then it'll come back, and I think life
happens and stuff happens, and like not that you lose
that connection, but like sometimes I think, like, you know,
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we actually were talking about this the other day, like
Robbie and I haven't spent alone time just the two
of us in a few weeks, and you don't don't
realize it because you're always like with friends and people
and work stuff, and you know, you don't realize that
you aren't together just the two of you ever intentionally,
And so it's like, I think that relationships kind of
go in these things go in these phases. And i'd say,
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I mean, she did say that she is taking her
like roll in it seriously and she's like doing these
nice things for him and stuff. So I think that
is also a big like kind of showing him the
way that you want to be treated. But also it's
like you can't change somebody. So it's like if he's
not you can't force him to be a certain way.
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They force him to be the way that you want
him to be.
Speaker 2 (37:41):
Maybe maybe there's an idea where like you do what
Robbie and Tanya do, where you make goals for the
month and it's like, hey, we have two date nights,
or we you know, you do something and surprise me,
or you plan something and it just it's planned, but
you it's like a goal for that month without the
press sure of like feeling like you have to be naggy,
(38:04):
because I don't think you're being nagging wanting something in return.
But I do think that it might get to a
point where he feels that way and then push him away.
Speaker 4 (38:16):
But I don't know.
Speaker 2 (38:17):
I'm with Tanya in this, like, I don't think it.
I don't think you commit to an engagement or say
yes to proposal if you're not seeing progress in an
area that's really important to you.
Speaker 1 (38:29):
Sounds to me like she's all in on this guy.
I mean, that's the vibe I get from the email
is that I'm going to marry this guy. But should
I be concerned about this? And I think I think
it's thick little hints and stuff like that, and I
think it'll come back. I like the idea of you
saying to him, Hey, Saturday night, should we go do something?
He said yeah, and then you could say to him, Okay,
here's what I would love. Could you plan the whole
thing start to finish. I would love to not even
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be involved in the planning process and just do you
do the whole thing, And he might he might respond
well to that. I don't know that he's going to
respond well to comming up with his goals for the month,
but I think he might respond to planning a date
night for you guys, and maybe that's enough. Maybe if
he plans a day a month or something, maybe that's
enough to kind of see him putting some effort forth there.
And I don't think he'll take much on his part
for you to be happy.
Speaker 3 (39:08):
I will say though Robbie was not a fan, or
I won't say not a fan. He wasn't like dung
ho on the goal setting when we first started doing it.
And now I think he's like kind of into it,
you know what I mean. Like I think he's like
seen the progress and seeing things like move along as
we've made like goals and stuff. So I think now
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he's like likes it more. So I wouldn't poo poo
it so much, so quick mark.
Speaker 1 (39:35):
Fair enough? Yeah, all right, this is from anonymous. Anonymous
says I've been with my current boyfriend close to three years.
He's perfect and everything I've ever dreamed of. I know
he's the person I'm gonna marry. Ever since we've been
talking about marriage, though, I've been having thoughts of my ex.
He was my best friend and we decided to be together.
It was a mess of relationship, not always the healthiest.
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He hurt me many times over the years, but he
is my first love. Why am I still thinking of him?
It's impossible for me to know what he's doing since
he has no social media. I'm now nervous that I'm
not with the right person. I'm confused and torn. Please help.
Speaker 4 (40:14):
Hmm, that's interesting. This feels bad, But yeah, I was
gonna say.
Speaker 2 (40:19):
I think maybe as you're getting closer to seeing a
future with this person, you're looking back on your first
love and you're comparing some You're you're in a place
of security and stability and seeing like future plans with someone,
and you're there was probably something in you that was
in this like unhealthy, messy relationship with your first love
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that felt invigorating and.
Speaker 4 (40:48):
I don't know, like sometimes that toxic feeling.
Speaker 2 (40:50):
Is like highs and lows, and you're remembering the highs
of it, And I think, if you sit down and look.
Speaker 4 (40:57):
At your situation, you realize you're with the right person.
Speaker 2 (41:00):
Like even in this email, you immediately said, this is
the man I'm gonna marry.
Speaker 4 (41:04):
That's confident.
Speaker 1 (41:07):
I dreamed of.
Speaker 4 (41:09):
I think your first love is just your first love.
Speaker 2 (41:13):
You know. I don't know that you you'll never forget
your first love. But I don't think that you thinking
about it and remembering it makes your current love less.
Speaker 1 (41:25):
Than Tanya's eyes are like saucers right now.
Speaker 3 (41:31):
The fair because she says, why am I still thinking
of him? It's also impossible for me to know what
he is doing since he is I'm now nervous that
I am not with the right person. I'm so confused
and torn. Confused and torn are not just flip it.
(41:52):
I'm thinking about my ex confused and torn? Please help?
Speaker 4 (41:59):
So what's your advice?
Speaker 3 (42:01):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (42:01):
This is to me.
Speaker 3 (42:02):
This is alarming, Like if this were me, Like, I
don't know. I don't think about my first love ever,
Like I haven't thought about that guy in like years.
Speaker 1 (42:11):
Didn't we have him on the radio show.
Speaker 3 (42:13):
Oh that's a guy i'd made out with, Like oh okay, yeah,
my first kiss. That's very different than your first love.
Speaker 4 (42:18):
True, Nor do I care.
Speaker 3 (42:22):
What he's doing, you know what I mean. So I
think that if you're feeling this way and you want
to check in on him and you're feeling confused and torn,
I don't know that's coming from a place of like
questioning your relationship a little bit. No.
Speaker 2 (42:40):
I think maybe you write down the things that you're
thinking about and like romanticizing about your first love, and
write down the things that made it messy and unhealthy
and toxic, and then like burn it or something. I
think just writing it down and getting those feelings out
would really help your because I think you have a
lot of thoughts going on just based on the different
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thoughts in this short email, and I think just like
like reminding yourself why it didn't work with that person,
why it was never going to work, and why it's
not healthy or wasn't healthy would be very therapeutic for you.
Speaker 3 (43:16):
Yeah, that's a good call. Just getting the thoughts on
paper they're out.
Speaker 4 (43:20):
Yeah, and burn and then email us after that if
you're still.
Speaker 3 (43:25):
Burn them to the ground.
Speaker 4 (43:28):
Oh man, that's tough.
Speaker 3 (43:33):
Well, relationships are hard.
Speaker 4 (43:37):
They're hard.
Speaker 3 (43:39):
They're not easy, they're.
Speaker 4 (43:40):
Hard, and the you know.
Speaker 3 (43:43):
People are complex.
Speaker 4 (43:44):
We are we are complex.
Speaker 3 (43:47):
People are flawed.
Speaker 4 (43:49):
We are flawed.
Speaker 2 (43:50):
We have a lot of feelings and feelings, yeah, and
past experiences. One of the feelings I'm having is excitement
because we have a Lease Myers on the podcast this Thursday,
and I am so excited and I love her and
I can't wait for y'all to hear it.
Speaker 4 (44:07):
Can't be back with the Thursday episode.
Speaker 3 (44:08):
We haven't had we haven't had a Thursday and a
minute and we haven't And Becta will be back without
her period panties.
Speaker 4 (44:15):
Yes, I don't have period panties.
Speaker 3 (44:17):
I met metaphorically. Oh okay, okay, the mood you're in today, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4 (44:22):
Yeah, all right, well we will be back.
Speaker 3 (44:24):
I also like it that it's not metaphorically like that
those exist now.
Speaker 4 (44:29):
They do exist. Yes, yes, we have those now.
Speaker 2 (44:32):
So everyone, hope you have a wonderful week, and we'll
be back Thursday and we love you all.
Speaker 3 (44:39):
See Thursday.
Speaker 1 (44:39):
Bye.
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Speaker 2 (00:07):
Hello, everybody, we are scrubbing in. It's Monday Funday.
Speaker 3 (00:14):
It's wow, Monday Funday. That doesn't it's Sunday Funday.
Speaker 4 (00:19):
Well, today's Monday Funday.
Speaker 3 (00:21):
Monday is Monday.
Speaker 4 (00:24):
It's mundane Monday Monday. See, I don't I mean, that's
how we all feel. I think.
Speaker 3 (00:31):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (00:31):
I feel like you and Mark are people who are like, Monday,
let's go, let's let's change the world and get things out.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
Because Monday's is the start of the week, and so
Monday is when you set the tone and you just
bust it out because you're gonna have a great week ahead.
Although I will say this Monday, I'm feeling kind of
like that.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
I was gonna say, you just I tried to make
its Monday Funday and you papooed that quick.
Speaker 3 (00:55):
So yeah, feels nice.
Speaker 4 (01:00):
No contradicting.
Speaker 3 (01:01):
Oh oh well, I try. I'm like trying to get
I try to get it up. Most of the time.
I'd say ninety ninety percent of the time on Mondays,
I'm flying high, But this Monday, I'm not flying so high.
Speaker 4 (01:12):
Okay, Well, that's fine.
Speaker 3 (01:13):
Yeah, it's fair.
Speaker 4 (01:14):
Not every day has to be flying high.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
Exactly.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
In fact, I'm about start my period, so I am.
I would not say I'm flying high. I would say
I'm flying low.
Speaker 3 (01:25):
Your period, I.
Speaker 4 (01:26):
Would say I'm hovering. I wouldn't say I'm flying it does.
Speaker 3 (01:29):
Your period doesn't have.
Speaker 4 (01:32):
You, tonya.
Speaker 2 (01:33):
My period absolutely slows me down mentally, physically, emotionally, and
any other way it could slow me down.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
It slows me down.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Don't let it take the power back.
Speaker 4 (01:43):
You have the power line over the period. I have
to deal with this. Let me be let me Oh.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
Actually Saturday is like hang on. Saturday is a period day,
National Period Awareness Day.
Speaker 2 (01:56):
As if I didn't know and already have balloons and
flowers ordered.
Speaker 3 (01:59):
Ready for me.
Speaker 4 (02:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 3 (02:01):
Yeah. October eighth, baby.
Speaker 4 (02:04):
There was a day for everything.
Speaker 5 (02:06):
It's not a period, it's an exclamation point exactly.
Speaker 4 (02:12):
That's beautiful.
Speaker 1 (02:14):
H We're telling you. Wouldn't you argue that if she
eats the right things and treats herself the right way
during the different stages of her mental cycles, she wouldn't
be slowed down. Yes.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
And I was actually having this conversation with Ricky Lake
because she was at this period event that I was
at last week.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Could pick up that name. We just dropped.
Speaker 3 (02:31):
Yeah, Lake just gonna drop it like it's up. That
was kind of a life moment meeting her, honestly. But
she we were talking about how like it is crazy,
how you cause she made this her first film she made.
It was a documentary about home birth and just kind
of like getting the power back and like with all
of this stuff like childbirth and all these things that
we just kind of go along with what everybody does
(02:51):
and says, when like in reality, if you really do
the work and the research, you can kind of like
take the power back and like figure out your own body,
and like real and figuring out your own body is
like such like a cool empowering feeling.
Speaker 4 (03:06):
M hm.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
Me and Ricky Lake, you know, just.
Speaker 4 (03:09):
Pioneers, pioneers in the period world.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
To me, like having to learn all that and do
all the work of like knowing what I'm supposed to
eat when I'm supposed to eat.
Speaker 4 (03:20):
It is like a lot of headspace that I don't
want to take up.
Speaker 3 (03:28):
So it is a lot of headspace. Yeah, there's a
lot of space being taken up in this head. Let
me tell you, do you do this weekend? What didn't
I do this week?
Speaker 4 (03:36):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (03:37):
Well, she was she was living.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
The flair Nostrils, which was also part of last week's podcast.
Speaker 3 (03:52):
I hope that.
Speaker 4 (03:53):
Crystal doesn't zoom in on those right right then, because
they got quarter size.
Speaker 1 (03:59):
Those were a huge They were huge.
Speaker 3 (04:00):
Don't bother me because I am living. Yeah, honestly, can't
even remember. I feel like this week, I feel like
between our San Francisco trip and then we went to
Vegas for iHeart, I feel like it's been like a
lot going on. But I feel like this next few weeks,
I'm kind of just like chilling, which is a nice
place to be. You know, I'm gonna start making my
(04:21):
almond milk again, getting back into my routine.
Speaker 4 (04:23):
Great.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
What about you?
Speaker 2 (04:25):
Oh well, what did what did I do? Instead of
what didn't I do? What did I do? I literally
have no idea. I went to in and out twice? Wow,
I literally I'm continue the conversation with something else because
(04:46):
I cannot remember. Oh, yesterday we went we went to
like a bunch of open houses, which was really fun
because like we went.
Speaker 3 (04:53):
To, like, are you guys looking for homes?
Speaker 2 (04:55):
Haley's looking for a house, but more to Samantha anyways,
where we were like, let's just go to open houses.
We were going to like these really expensive homes and
just like, oh yeah, so what about this part of
the house, Like that is actually really it was fun.
I was like this could be a Sunday thing because
(05:16):
I would love to just go into open houses like this.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (05:20):
So that was really fun yesterday in an unexpected way.
And that's really it. We kind of had a low
key weekend. Yeah, Heale's been working like NonStop. So Saturday
we went and she got her ears pierced for ear piercings.
At one time, I want to.
Speaker 3 (05:35):
Get my ears pierced, but it really just sets me
back because I can't sleep right and you know me
when I'm not sleeping.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
And it's not good. No, not good.
Speaker 3 (05:44):
So I'm gonna put a pin in the getting my
ears pierced. But you know what, I did realize this weekend.
So we made our October goals and actually we did
it a few days before October first, which I felt
very good about because it was like we're kind of
getting on top of our October goals. But I'm very
over the this, like this notion of like I need
to lose five pounds constantly, like do you know what
(06:06):
I mean? It's always like I gotta lose weight, I
gotta tighten up, I gotta do this, I gotta do that.
It's like I'm over this sing narrative. I'm over it.
I don't need to do it. I just need to
love my body the way she is, every curve, every
little dimple, every little piece of cellula, and like live
my life, enjoy it. I've been enjoying my life, and
I'm over this narrative. I want to treat my body right,
(06:28):
but I don't need to be a certain thing. I
don't need. And like I used to do this all
the time when I was single. I'd be like, oh,
I just want to like lose a little weight or
like tone up and then I'll really start dating again.
I'm like, how like lame that I let that hinder
me in my dating life, you know what I mean?
Like I have to do lose this to da da
da No more. I'm over it. None of my goals
are losing weight zero amen.
Speaker 1 (06:50):
Are there other health related goals though?
Speaker 3 (06:52):
Is it?
Speaker 1 (06:52):
I want to be stronger, I want to be faster.
I want to be in better, I want to be
more fit.
Speaker 3 (06:58):
One of them is I really want to figure out
my hashimoto situation. So I have a doctor's appointment.
Speaker 1 (07:02):
This what what what is this now?
Speaker 3 (07:07):
No, Hashimotos is like a disease, like a thorroid disease.
Speaker 1 (07:10):
Yeah, oh you have you have a hashimoto.
Speaker 3 (07:12):
My doctor said, I have it. But I haven't like
gone to actually really gone to specials. Haven't really liked.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
Oh I'm sorry. I thought there's like another like you know,
like your love language.
Speaker 3 (07:23):
You're oh no, no, no, this is like an actual thing.
Speaker 1 (07:26):
An any agram. I thought it's a hashimoto. I thought
it was one of those.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
No, but they do say that like a lot of
the things that you eat and the way that you
like live your life, like you really need to get
like eight hours of sleep and stuff like that, and
so I really want to, like this month dive into
that and kind of like focus on So that is
health related, but it's not like weight related. M hmm.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
I think it's okay.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
Like sometimes I think we go so far in the
other direction of like I need to love every part
of my body, the cellulit and everything, and it's like
I don't think we have to love it, but I
do think we there's a way of like going that's
not my favorite part of my body, but it's okay,
And I love my body because it takes care of me,
(08:06):
you know, Like I don't think it's like like for
me personally. I know it's not realistic for me to
be like I need to love every imperfection on me,
but I can accept every imperfection and not need to
have to change every single thing about me.
Speaker 3 (08:20):
Yeah, like Wyneth Paltrow, you know, I accept.
Speaker 4 (08:23):
Just like her.
Speaker 2 (08:24):
But my whole thing is like being able to look
at myself and not immediately just notice the negative things,
be able to like appreciate the things that I like
about myself and the things that I appreciate, and then
be able to be like and maybe that's not my
favorite thing, but I don't have to change it, or
I don't need to like laser and focus on it
(08:47):
and have to change it, because I think it's just
natural to look at ourselves and have things that maybe
we're not like obsessed with about our bodies and stuff.
Speaker 3 (08:55):
Yeah, I'm over it. I'm over the narrative. It's like
every like my TikTok algorithm too is like, I want
to lose some quick five pounds, do this move, and
I'm like, no, I don't want to anymore. I don't
want this narrative anymore.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
I save all of them and then never go back
and look at them. They're simply saved and never I'll
take that.
Speaker 3 (09:17):
I'll take that tip, and I'll incorporate that move into
my like workouts, because I like to work out and
I just like to get my body moving and stuff.
But I'm like, I'm over this. You need to do this,
you need to do this to like be summer ready.
I'm over it.
Speaker 4 (09:30):
Damn.
Speaker 5 (09:31):
I think I do a lot. I'll save the workout
things or the diet tips I see on on TikTok,
and I'm like, then when I finally go back to
do it, I'll look at the comments and it's just
flooded with people going this doesn't work, so this will
only hurt you. This guy doesn't know what he's talking about.
Speaker 2 (09:44):
Like before, the comments are actually the most intriguing part
of TikTok for me, because that's where I really find
I get my knowledge about something. And I also will
save like all these recipes like I have these amazing
recipes save Nay ordered Chinese last night.
Speaker 3 (10:04):
Chinese, but else we we. I will say, I'm having
a lot of fun with Robbie in his car because
he got this Bronco and it's like a it's like
an adult Lego. Like he spent the weekend taking the
doors off and like he said, look, it's so fun.
You just like and like the doors come off, so
you're in like a real life Indiana Jones car and
like takes the panels off the roof every other day
(10:27):
and puts them back on, and it's like he's having
so much fun, like working on this car.
Speaker 4 (10:31):
Does he have to work on it because it's brand No, No.
Speaker 3 (10:34):
Not work on it, but like taking the doors off,
putting the doors back on, putting the top off, top
back on, you know, like installing the stairs.
Speaker 2 (10:41):
I have to say, I'm I'm proud of you for
having fun with it because I feel like you would
be like encouraging me to wear like helmets and stuff
in there.
Speaker 3 (10:48):
Yeah I do. I'm a little concerned about the safety
aspect of it, but the doors come back on. He
does it for like, you know, the day when it's
like sunny and then the doors come back on. It's
not like permanently like that, but it is fun Like
I'm seeing him in these like you know, Facebook groups
like Broncos, Broo Bros or whatever. I don't even know
what it is. It's so funny. I'm like, this is
probably what it's like for him, like when a Taylor
(11:10):
Swift album comes out, you know what I mean, talking
with my friends about it and like.
Speaker 4 (11:15):
It's probably very similar vibes.
Speaker 2 (11:17):
Yeah, yeah, y'all are just like, are you in Facebook
groups spelled Taylor swuft.
Speaker 3 (11:20):
No, But like I don't know, scrubbing in Facebook group
can kind of be like that sometimes.
Speaker 4 (11:24):
I love the scrubbing in Facebook group.
Speaker 3 (11:27):
By the way, this is He's so happy that he's
in it now. He's like this is the best thing.
He's like, you guys were right, this is the best thing.
Speaker 4 (11:34):
It's a really good time.
Speaker 3 (11:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (11:35):
Yeah. Keeps me inspired and entertained for sure.
Speaker 3 (11:39):
That's where he showed me. He's like, did you see
mind you Everybody sent me that Kryshelle Stace TikTok about
her like listening to the Morning show. So I've seen
it like a hundred times. And the next day he goes, hey, am,
I just sent you this Cryshelle Girls in a TikTok?
Did you do you know who she is? And I
was like, uh, yes, I saw this like a her
(12:00):
time yesterday where he goes somebody posted in the Facebook group,
oh my god.
Speaker 2 (12:06):
But you know when it makes a Facebook group serious business.
Speaker 3 (12:09):
Serious business that was scared by her TikTok. I was like, oh,
don't hate me.
Speaker 1 (12:15):
No, I don't think she was, you know, coming at you.
Speaker 4 (12:17):
I don't think it was a personal attack.
Speaker 2 (12:19):
I think she was just saying, like people take things
out of context and always run with them.
Speaker 3 (12:23):
But if you read that quote from him and you
said and then it says that this that they that
she fast forwards his HBO shows when she's mad at him,
you also too would have an opinion like that seems.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
I was like she was responding to his quote rather
than she was to you.
Speaker 3 (12:37):
Right, we're right yeah or something.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
But also, aside from I don't I think what she
cleared it up that she like would like she was
watching the same show and he was like, what the
heck you like messed up where I was on the show.
But you know, everyone does weird things after a breakup.
So even if she did do stuff like that, it's like, listen,
sure that's fine.
Speaker 3 (13:01):
But not when you're in another relationship.
Speaker 4 (13:04):
Is that what the whole thing was?
Speaker 3 (13:05):
Well, yeah, if you're like, if I were dating somebody, Like,
if I were in a relationship with somebody and they
were still like doing this stuff with their ex, it
would kind of piss me off. I'd be like, why
are you doing that?
Speaker 4 (13:15):
If they were watching a show on their account.
Speaker 3 (13:17):
To mess with somebody else's like Netflix kill Friends, So
that would piss you off.
Speaker 4 (13:23):
I didn't say me. I'm saying they're all friends.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
Yeah, no, and they all seem very like friendly and
like open, you know, it doesn't feel like tense or
like nasty.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
But that was Tanya's point in the report too, which
Krashelle didn't respond to. Is I think you said in
that report that this is a sign that you still
have feelings for that person, if you're still wasting time
doing stuff like this.
Speaker 4 (13:44):
Yeah, Oh I don't think so.
Speaker 2 (13:46):
I think they're friends and they've been working together more
like they work together and have been friends more than
they dated, longer than they dated.
Speaker 3 (13:54):
Okay, what that's fine. I just think it's weird if
you're in a new relationship to do stuff like I mean,
clearly she didn't do it, so like at the end
of the day, like it was, it is what it is.
But if let's take that out of it, like, if
you are doing that and you're in a new relationship
like you're let's say you're like messing with Roberts like
Netflix or whatever, you don't think that's like disrespectful to Haley.
Speaker 4 (14:15):
Yeah, I didn't say I would do it.
Speaker 2 (14:17):
I said that I think if that was the case
with them, which it isn't. She cleared the air. They're
all friendly and open. So I think it just depends
on the situation. You and I would not handle that well, right,
if you.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Did, it would be a bad sign.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
Tanya's saying, yeah, yeah, regardless. It was funny. And someone
sends it to me because I'm, you know, friends with Kroshelle,
and I was like, oh.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Are you really?
Speaker 4 (14:40):
Yeah, oh, neat.
Speaker 2 (14:44):
I will.
Speaker 3 (14:46):
Send her our.
Speaker 2 (14:47):
Best Yeah, I'm a Kroschelle fan, So I was like,
I'll send this to Tanya and tell her she can't
believe everything she reads.
Speaker 3 (14:57):
Well, no, because Beca said it to me and I
panicked that I like I misquoted somebody, do you know
what I mean? Like, that's where my head went, is
like I messed up my reporter. So I was like panicking,
and I was like, no, I swear, I like, I don't.
I only use direct quotes in those reports, like I
don't really go off gossip, Like I don't do my
reports off gossip for the most part.
Speaker 2 (15:17):
Well, she was like yeah, she was like, I am
lazy in the sense that I haven't logged out of
that TV because we don't use that TV much. But
I'm not petty. And I was like lazy, sure, petty
not so much. So that was the conversation.
Speaker 3 (15:34):
Well, yeah, but he did. I will say he was
misleading in his quote because he made it seem yeah,
like when they fight, that's what she does.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
No, that's a scary thing because we do this morning
show and there's lots of people listening in celebrities that
we talk about are listening, and sometimes they don't love
what we said, and so that can be a real issue.
And so people like Ryan and before him, Rick De's
they get kind of gunshy sometimes because they'll get I
remember this long long time ago, got confronted at a
some restaurant or something by Kevin Costner, some celebrity that
(16:06):
had said to something bad about like hey, I heard
you sewn in the air. That's not cool, man, And
after that it was no more celebrity talk on the radio.
He got so spooked by that. So it happens, and
you got to be a little bit careful. And we
know that some of these people listen, but we don't
do the gossipy stuff. We just kind of say, here's
the story out there, and here's the conversation. You can
kind of make out of it.
Speaker 2 (16:24):
Yeah, I mean, we get it. I'm so scary. I'm
scared to have an opinion on anything. You can't have
an opinion on anything, well.
Speaker 3 (16:32):
You can, because it's your putting scarre lowed to like
have an opinion about It's scary to talk about it.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
When you saw that she was talking about you on TikTok, yeah,
because I.
Speaker 3 (16:44):
Was like yeah, oh no. I literally was like I
got it from just Jared. It was on a carpet,
like because I think you text me. I was in therapy,
which is like the worst thing because I'm like supposed
to be in therapy focusing on like myself and my way.
Speaker 4 (16:57):
Your phone just like totally off when.
Speaker 3 (16:59):
It wasn't on my because I do my therapy on
Zoom and so my text message up up and I
can ignore them, like I'm not reading my text messages.
But like when you were like Krashell posted something, I
was like, oh no, so I started spiraling souse. I'm like,
I can't see it, you know, I'm in the middle
of therapy. And then my mind's just like retracing where
I got the story from. And I was like, no,
this is legit, Like what did what happened? And then
(17:20):
I saw it.
Speaker 2 (17:21):
I was like, oh, okay, I mean you're You're not
someone who's like out to get anybody.
Speaker 4 (17:25):
So I think I think you're good.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
But I want to make sure, like i'm you know
us quotes.
Speaker 1 (17:31):
Yeah, you should go and do not disturb for therapy.
Speaker 4 (17:33):
Yeah, I'm my computer.
Speaker 3 (17:35):
I never I've never done how to do it on
my computer.
Speaker 1 (17:38):
Well, now do you have an Apple computer?
Speaker 3 (17:40):
Huh?
Speaker 1 (17:40):
Now, when you go on do not Disturb on one,
it goes to both, it goes to all your devices, but.
Speaker 3 (17:46):
Do not disturb its only on a night time.
Speaker 4 (17:48):
You can put it on what.
Speaker 1 (17:50):
Oh you tockle it on and off.
Speaker 3 (17:53):
Wow, let me mess around with that toggle.
Speaker 4 (17:55):
Yeah you should. You should look at the settings on
your I phone. There's a lot of cool things.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
I'm going to toggle that toggle. By the way, look
at my new screensaver.
Speaker 4 (18:04):
So Harry Styles. Yeah, but I have Harry Styles is
your block screen?
Speaker 3 (18:09):
Yeah? There he is?
Speaker 4 (18:12):
Is that controversial?
Speaker 3 (18:14):
I don't know?
Speaker 4 (18:15):
Another man?
Speaker 1 (18:17):
How's Robie going to feel about that? Jokes about you
and Harry?
Speaker 2 (18:21):
He says, that's the one thing that he ever has
gotten jealous about.
Speaker 1 (18:27):
And now that instead of Sonny on your lock screen,
if he.
Speaker 4 (18:31):
Did that, if he had another woman on his lock screen.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
The absolutely yeah, or like a hot girl in his
background on your rad.
Speaker 3 (18:41):
I guarantee you he's not gonna care. But maybe I
should change it.
Speaker 1 (18:46):
I think you should change it.
Speaker 3 (18:47):
I do too, all right, fair enough. I just changed
it because Sam sent me this photo and I was like, wow,
that isn't it's like just like a gorgeous lock screen.
It's like just like kind of like chic, you know,
it's like che girl vibes.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
I think that's you could say it and look at
it if you want to feel inspired by that.
Speaker 3 (19:02):
But this is like this is the vibe I'm going
for for our new rebrand of scrubbing in photo shoot.
Speaker 4 (19:09):
Yeah, we're taking new photos soon.
Speaker 3 (19:11):
So we're just you know, spitballing some ideas. I was
going with the scrubs, but you know, Becka thinks we
should be elevated.
Speaker 4 (19:19):
Well, I think there's a way to do the scrubs elevated.
Speaker 2 (19:21):
I just maybe think it's like just something different in
like chic, but still cohesive and still brand our brand.
You know. Yeah, So we're just thinking some ideas, spitball
and some ideas. All she said, have a good month
before we have to do it. So and if I
know us, we'll be panicking the day before trying to
(19:41):
figure out what we're gonna wear.
Speaker 3 (19:43):
I hate that about us.
Speaker 4 (19:44):
I hated it too. I don't we gotta change it.
Speaker 2 (19:47):
You want to talk about the Hailey Biber interview and
call her daddy?
Speaker 3 (19:50):
I did just because I feel so like okay and
not like, oh I feel bad for celebrities, and but
I do feel bad for her because it's just like
she's been married now for four years and she just
like can't like.
Speaker 4 (20:02):
Let's talk about it when we come back from a break.
Speaker 2 (20:20):
Okay, we are back, and yeah, I honestly agree with
the fact that Haley is still Hailey Bieber still having
answer questions about Selena Gomess. Yeah, like I like them both, obviously,
I'm actually a fan of both of them.
Speaker 3 (20:37):
I am too, But I'm just like I feel and
I go and I think about Alexandra Cooper. People her
friends to call her alex I newly started following her
on Instagram. She really got that follow from me today
because I was like putting myself in her shoes and
I'm like, obviously, she it's not a bad job because
it got tons of press. It was everywhere like that.
Her podcast was like on everybody's Yeah, everybody was talking
(20:59):
about it. But I'm like, if I put myself in
her shoes, would I go there with Hailey Bieber? Absolutely not,
because I just feel like there's a certain point where
it's just like she's been married, now she's in this relationship,
Like at what point is she going to have to
stop defending her relationship or like living in the past.
Speaker 2 (21:18):
Well, maybe this was it. Maybe she was like, I'm
gonna do this massive podcast. I mean, call her Daddy
is huge, and that's going to be the last I
talk about it, like put.
Speaker 3 (21:28):
It to rest now and I'll see or is it
going to open the door to for more?
Speaker 4 (21:33):
I think they're all.
Speaker 2 (21:35):
I mean, I think Selena even did a live and
was basically like, can y' all just stop? Like if
you're supporting me and my company Rare, which is literally
about kind words and how we treat people, you can't
turn around and be hateful towards somebody else, So.
Speaker 3 (21:51):
You cannot get classier than Selena Gomez. Like that is
just she literally just rises above Like she didn't need
to come out and do that live after, you know
what I mean, Like she could have just stayed under
the radar and not said a word, you know what
I mean? And she comes out and she's just like,
stop being mean.
Speaker 4 (22:10):
Where's Justin? Why isn't he doing that? Why isn't he
defending Haley.
Speaker 3 (22:13):
He's probably tired of it too. He's probably just like.
Speaker 4 (22:16):
Yeah, but why are the girls having to rise above everything?
Speaker 3 (22:19):
Well? Thank god the girls are. I they also have
each other's backs.
Speaker 1 (22:23):
Yeah, the devil's advocate. Isn't this part of the territory
when you marry Justin Bieber? Like there's a lot of
upside and there's a lot of downside. Right, he's one
of the most famous people in the world. You're gonna
have to deal with stuff like this.
Speaker 3 (22:33):
Yeah, but I would say the downside is just like
having everybody like in your business.
Speaker 1 (22:38):
Yeah, that's what this is. And I'm just thinking this
is part of the territory.
Speaker 2 (22:43):
I just don't not many other celebrities deal with what
they've dealt with on this level though, of like a
relationship being done for however many years and then still
having to talk about it and rehash it.
Speaker 4 (22:59):
Yeah, it's painful.
Speaker 3 (23:00):
It would just be like I'd be exhausted. If I
were her, I'd be like, I'm tired.
Speaker 2 (23:04):
I wouldn't do I honestly would be such a recluse,
Like I admire the fact that she just like does
her thing, goes on a podcast, it's like here, here
you go, and then lives her life regardless of how
hard and exhausting must be.
Speaker 3 (23:20):
I'd be tired. I'd be like, mama's Mama's gotta take
Mama needs a trip somewhere and a sunny snuggle because
this is annoying. I'm just like, how many years has
been now they've been married for four, so I imagine like.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
Wow.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
Yes, Anyways, I think I think they're both very classy,
and I think that the way they've handled it has
been as gracious as you can in their situation to them,
totally yeah, but I agree. I think Alex Cooper asked
some hard questions and as someone who like in her
(24:03):
position like that, I I have to say I admire
what she does and it's why she's probably one of
the most successful podcasts in the world because she almost
goes to that uncomfortable place that it is hard to
get to.
Speaker 3 (24:19):
But you know what, we could be there too. We
could be there too, But if we had a Hailey
be Bron we could evoke some like thoughtful and inciting
and invigorating conversations with her that don't have to deal
with another woman and her husband. I'm just throwing it
out there.
Speaker 2 (24:38):
But that's what people tune in like. That is why
it went viral. And why was talking about.
Speaker 3 (24:46):
You hit the nail on the head? What that We
feed the beast, and the beast is being fed, but
the beast needs to eat from bad things.
Speaker 4 (24:54):
The beast likes bad food.
Speaker 3 (24:56):
The beast likes bad food like the negativity beast is
it just it just feeds off the negativity and the
drama and the and we just feed the beast.
Speaker 4 (25:06):
We do feed the beast.
Speaker 3 (25:08):
Let's starve the beast.
Speaker 2 (25:11):
Well, then entertainment's out the door. Unfortunately, that's not true.
It's what people I'm not.
Speaker 3 (25:19):
I'm not feeding the beast I do.
Speaker 4 (25:24):
Are you saying, Oh, you're just talking about podcasts in general.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
I'm talking about called her daddy.
Speaker 3 (25:31):
Yeah, calling for a boycott. No, I'm not calling for
a boycott. But I just I think that I just
think that we're different. It doesn't make us any any
less than you know.
Speaker 2 (25:45):
Well, I also I think that I I think also
giving someone a platform because realistically, if you think about it,
Hailey Bieber has a whole team who is like paying
attention to what questions are being asked and how she's
answering them, and if they didn't like something, it wouldn't
get released. She there's a lot of people looking out
(26:06):
for her in that way. So if she wanted that platform,
then there was a lot of yesses that had.
Speaker 4 (26:12):
To be checked for her to do that podcast.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
True.
Speaker 2 (26:15):
So if someone is going on a podcast that is
known for asking the hard questions, then technically they're expecting
for that to be a topic of conversation.
Speaker 3 (26:27):
True, But you know what I also realized too, and
it made me think about our podcast. Those chairs that
she has, it's like just like an inviting space space,
you know, like we're talking to people on their computers.
I think we need a chair. I think we need
a guest chair.
Speaker 1 (26:46):
She was clearly very comfortable and really not focused on
the fact that she was on a podcast, because it
feels like she's in someone's living room.
Speaker 3 (26:52):
Yeah, Like her legs were up, She's like chilling, like
like you and I like we can get into conversations
and we could just talk for hours about like lord
knows what HM like.
Speaker 2 (27:03):
So, but what about our guests. We talked our guests
over zoom, So how are they in a chair?
Speaker 3 (27:08):
We gotta get him in. Let's create it into your chair. Yeah,
who cares. I got parking. I got a nice parking
situation here. Just pull right up to my apartment doors,
open's stop by the fridge and grab yourself a bevy
and just head on up to the to the studio room.
Speaker 2 (27:24):
They like show up to do the podcast and they're like,
am I at the right spot?
Speaker 3 (27:29):
We can put a nice cozy chair over there. I mean,
I think it's time. Five years in, I think it's
time we get a chair.
Speaker 4 (27:37):
What if we got a studio, like a studio space,
and we're.
Speaker 3 (27:43):
Like sitting in it your home.
Speaker 2 (27:47):
That doesn't make it as homie inviting for a guest
who's never met you before.
Speaker 3 (27:55):
I think my home is bather rather hoie.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
But I'm saying like, for someone who's never met you
to come in and feel comfortable, it's not like a
it's not like a space created like an office where
they just go in and they're like, Okay, this is
this is their podcast, you know.
Speaker 3 (28:12):
Yeah, well let's do it in here.
Speaker 2 (28:16):
Okay, that'll be our next thing after our photo shoot.
Speaker 1 (28:19):
We have a lot of umm.
Speaker 4 (28:22):
What she's saying, or she didn't say remodel, she just
said get a chair.
Speaker 3 (28:27):
And then biting chair and a mic set up in
front of said chair to really just.
Speaker 4 (28:32):
Yes, you guys, this is so weird.
Speaker 2 (28:35):
I would be like, I think, I think not knowing
us and coming into her home and having to go
like through her kitchen and living room and then up
the stairs is like not comfortable.
Speaker 4 (28:49):
I wouldn't feel comfortable.
Speaker 2 (28:51):
I would be like Okay, I'm in this random person's home.
Speaker 3 (28:57):
We could have Hanna Kam station her down stairs in
my pink chairs, so it's like not like a home,
like she can be there.
Speaker 4 (29:04):
And let's not make Hannity that in my living room.
Speaker 3 (29:07):
It's so cozy down there.
Speaker 4 (29:12):
It's something to talk about having a studio.
Speaker 2 (29:15):
I think talking about having abiding space changes the moon.
Speaker 1 (29:22):
That's true.
Speaker 4 (29:23):
I agree with that. Yeah, not on a comfy chair.
I'm in the Swede Rock. Sit on the Swede Rock.
Speaker 3 (29:33):
I gotta keep you.
Speaker 2 (29:33):
Awake, young, young chicken, I'm not a young chicken.
Speaker 4 (29:37):
I'm feeling old as hell today.
Speaker 3 (29:39):
Really, let's talk about it.
Speaker 4 (29:41):
It's just my period.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
I'm just my period makes me into a person I
don't like. And all morning I've had to remind myself
that it's my period, it's not me, it's not real,
because I've had to just talk myself off of a ledge.
Speaker 3 (29:55):
You know what's funny. I don't feel like myself either,
and I think it's my nails.
Speaker 2 (30:01):
Okay, well guess what, Tanya, go change your nails. Oh
you have to do pick off the polish, change the color.
You'll be feeling good. I unfortunately don't have that luxury. Okay,
so mine will go away probably by tomorrow or the
next day. And I just keep reminding myself of that.
It is so weird what our periods, what our hormones
do to our for sure brains.
Speaker 4 (30:23):
It's weird.
Speaker 2 (30:23):
And so.
Speaker 3 (30:25):
It's also also think about think about your period, Like
we just bleed, Like we're bleeding every month, like bleeding
out of our bodies, and we just that's just We're
just that's just what we do.
Speaker 4 (30:36):
It's like, yeah, we just carry on with the day.
Speaker 3 (30:38):
Yeah, we're just profusely bleeding out of our resignas, and
like it's a thing, Like it's just such a weird
thing to think about. So you know what I mean,
if the guy was bleeding out of his finger all
he'd be like crying home all day. He just like
suck it up and we just like live our lives.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
It was so funny when Haley was getting her ears pierced.
The guy that was piercing doing the piercing, he was like,
oh yeah, he was like the people who pass out
the most from like seeing the needle are men. He
was like, men can't even watch their girlfriends or wives
get pierced because they have to sit down or they're
gonna pass out.
Speaker 4 (31:12):
I'll have to give them like lollipops. Yeah, I'm like,
just don't get me started.
Speaker 3 (31:21):
We're just bleeding, just bleeding out, all right.
Speaker 4 (31:25):
Well, we definitely know that what we do.
Speaker 2 (31:28):
Donya has let everybody know what happens to our body
as while we're going through that, which is all bleeding leeding.
Speaker 3 (31:36):
I haven't even started my free bleeding era, but that
might happen, so just watch out for that.
Speaker 4 (31:42):
Is that what is the.
Speaker 3 (31:44):
Sum realizing sticking things up there is just I don't
know about it right now, like tampons and yeah, Mark,
you know that squeamish space you're making right now. That's
why I talk about my period incessantly. That's why.
Speaker 1 (31:58):
Okay, so I want to.
Speaker 3 (32:00):
I want to. There's like a free bleeding people talk
about their free bleeding eras where they basically just like
freely bleed. They either were like period underwear or paths
and they just free bleed and it's like really empowering.
Apparently I don't know why, but I haven't tried it,
so I want to try it.
Speaker 2 (32:19):
I I guess I look forward to hearing about that
experience for you.
Speaker 3 (32:26):
I'll let you know when I try it. Why.
Speaker 4 (32:31):
I don't know, No, why why do Like, what's the
why not have some protection?
Speaker 3 (32:38):
It's like unnatural things up there with chemicals, things up
there up there. I don't know. Apparently it's empowering. Yeah,
I don't know why.
Speaker 2 (32:54):
I just think that we do a lot of things,
Like I think you do a lot of things that
are unnatural.
Speaker 3 (32:59):
To like you're chewing like xylotol gum.
Speaker 2 (33:03):
Sure, or like even bleaching your hair. Like, I think
there's just things that we do for like our beauty regime,
that aren't natural, but we do them because they're available
to us in modern in this modern world, in society
that we're in.
Speaker 3 (33:16):
No, I know, don't get me started, because remember I
had that whole thing about like my that's why my
nails are different, because I was like, I have my
nails haven't seen the light of day in decades, and
I'm like, that can't be good.
Speaker 4 (33:28):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (33:28):
We were getting hen and Tanya goes, oh, my nails
look pretty healthy. I think I'm just gonna get polished
and not get acrylics put on. And she's she asked
the lady, She's like, are they healthy? And the lady's
just straight up like no, no, they're not.
Speaker 3 (33:42):
Very much. Not hell they Okay. I was having a
good day and now I'm back down here.
Speaker 4 (33:49):
So yeah, I hear you about the free bleeding.
Speaker 2 (33:53):
And also it's okay if you want to contain.
Speaker 3 (33:58):
Yeah, no, it's all okay, it's all okay, good, it's
all good. It's all what you want to do, but
you know what I want to experience it all?
Speaker 2 (34:04):
All right, Well, we can't wait to hear about that.
We're gonna take another break and we'll be back with emails.
Speaker 4 (34:23):
All right, we are back, Mark, take it away, all.
Speaker 1 (34:27):
Right, begga, thank you. And this is from Shannie. It's
a little long. I'm going to trim it down, but
she says, I've been dating my boyfriend a little over
three years. He's my first serious relationship. But I went
into it wanting to date seriously with marriage in mind,
something we've discussed. It's and be on the same page about.
He started off this relationship strong, planning dates, surprising me,
(34:47):
making me happy all around. I'm still happy, but he
doesn't really plan dates anymore or really do anything surprising.
He never brings me flowers or a dessert or anything
like that. I've asked him about it. He says he
knows he'd like to be a little more romantic, hasn't
done anything about it yet. Couples get comfortable. I realize that,
and a lot of effort is made early in the
relationship and it fades away. But we're close to an
(35:08):
engagement here, and I feel like I'm still making the
effort and I'm surprised you with little gifts. He makes
me happy, and I do feel like he'll always take
care of me. But is this lack of effort a problem.
He's mentioned he's found a ring and is very sure
that I'm the one thank you for your help.
Speaker 2 (35:26):
I don't think I personally don't think it's a deal breaker.
I think it's a conversation of like, hey, I want
to feel those same I want the same effort that
you put in. You know, I don't need flowers every
time we go on a date or every single day,
but just like little things here and there that let
me know that you're making the effort, because I still
feel like I put in the same effort, and I
(35:47):
don't want it to feel one sided or get resentful.
Speaker 4 (35:49):
But I don't know that it's a deal breaker. I
just think it's a conversation.
Speaker 2 (35:54):
And then if he's not willing to meet you, then
that's a bigger conversation.
Speaker 1 (35:58):
I mean, she's had to talk with him and he said, like,
I see what you're saying, and I acknowledge that, and
I would like to be better. I'd like to be
more romantic. But he's still not doing anything about it,
and now she's worried that she's gonna he's never he's
not going to make her a priority even when they're married.
Speaker 2 (36:12):
Yeah, maybe there's a conversation of like, hey, I know
we've talked about an engagement in the ring, but I
want to see effort from you before I commit to
something like that, Like I need to see that this
is going to be something that you're able to meet
me halfway on and not just be one sided forever,
because I don't want that.
Speaker 3 (36:33):
I also think too, that relationships kind of ebb and flow,
you know what I mean. Like it's not you're not
going to have that high intensity romance like you do
all the time, but I do think it ebbs and flows,
Like I think it might go down for a little
bit and then it'll come back, and I think life
happens and stuff happens, and like not that you lose
that connection, but like sometimes I think, like, you know,
(36:55):
we actually were talking about this the other day, like
Robbie and I haven't spent alone time just the two
of us in a few weeks, and you don't don't
realize it because you're always like with friends and people
and work stuff, and you know, you don't realize that
you aren't together just the two of you ever intentionally,
And so it's like, I think that relationships kind of
go in these things go in these phases. And i'd say,
(37:17):
I mean, she did say that she is taking her
like roll in it seriously and she's like doing these
nice things for him and stuff. So I think that
is also a big like kind of showing him the
way that you want to be treated. But also it's
like you can't change somebody. So it's like if he's
not you can't force him to be a certain way.
(37:38):
They force him to be the way that you want
him to be.
Speaker 2 (37:41):
Maybe maybe there's an idea where like you do what
Robbie and Tanya do, where you make goals for the
month and it's like, hey, we have two date nights,
or we you know, you do something and surprise me,
or you plan something and it just it's planned, but
you it's like a goal for that month without the
press sure of like feeling like you have to be naggy,
(38:04):
because I don't think you're being nagging wanting something in return.
But I do think that it might get to a
point where he feels that way and then push him away.
Speaker 4 (38:16):
But I don't know.
Speaker 2 (38:17):
I'm with Tanya in this, like, I don't think it.
I don't think you commit to an engagement or say
yes to proposal if you're not seeing progress in an
area that's really important to you.
Speaker 1 (38:29):
Sounds to me like she's all in on this guy.
I mean, that's the vibe I get from the email
is that I'm going to marry this guy. But should
I be concerned about this? And I think I think
it's thick little hints and stuff like that, and I
think it'll come back. I like the idea of you
saying to him, Hey, Saturday night, should we go do something?
He said yeah, and then you could say to him, Okay,
here's what I would love. Could you plan the whole
thing start to finish. I would love to not even
(38:49):
be involved in the planning process and just do you
do the whole thing, And he might he might respond
well to that. I don't know that he's going to
respond well to comming up with his goals for the month,
but I think he might respond to planning a date
night for you guys, and maybe that's enough. Maybe if
he plans a day a month or something, maybe that's
enough to kind of see him putting some effort forth there.
And I don't think he'll take much on his part
for you to be happy.
Speaker 3 (39:08):
I will say though Robbie was not a fan, or
I won't say not a fan. He wasn't like dung
ho on the goal setting when we first started doing it.
And now I think he's like kind of into it,
you know what I mean. Like I think he's like
seen the progress and seeing things like move along as
we've made like goals and stuff. So I think now
(39:29):
he's like likes it more. So I wouldn't poo poo
it so much, so quick mark.
Speaker 1 (39:35):
Fair enough? Yeah, all right, this is from anonymous. Anonymous
says I've been with my current boyfriend close to three years.
He's perfect and everything I've ever dreamed of. I know
he's the person I'm gonna marry. Ever since we've been
talking about marriage, though, I've been having thoughts of my ex.
He was my best friend and we decided to be together.
It was a mess of relationship, not always the healthiest.
(39:58):
He hurt me many times over the years, but he
is my first love. Why am I still thinking of him?
It's impossible for me to know what he's doing since
he has no social media. I'm now nervous that I'm
not with the right person. I'm confused and torn. Please help.
Speaker 4 (40:14):
Hmm, that's interesting. This feels bad, But yeah, I was
gonna say.
Speaker 2 (40:19):
I think maybe as you're getting closer to seeing a
future with this person, you're looking back on your first
love and you're comparing some You're you're in a place
of security and stability and seeing like future plans with someone,
and you're there was probably something in you that was
in this like unhealthy, messy relationship with your first love
(40:42):
that felt invigorating and.
Speaker 4 (40:48):
I don't know, like sometimes that toxic feeling.
Speaker 2 (40:50):
Is like highs and lows, and you're remembering the highs
of it, And I think, if you sit down and look.
Speaker 4 (40:57):
At your situation, you realize you're with the right person.
Speaker 2 (41:00):
Like even in this email, you immediately said, this is
the man I'm gonna marry.
Speaker 4 (41:04):
That's confident.
Speaker 1 (41:07):
I dreamed of.
Speaker 4 (41:09):
I think your first love is just your first love.
Speaker 2 (41:13):
You know. I don't know that you you'll never forget
your first love. But I don't think that you thinking
about it and remembering it makes your current love less.
Speaker 1 (41:25):
Than Tanya's eyes are like saucers right now.
Speaker 3 (41:31):
The fair because she says, why am I still thinking
of him? It's also impossible for me to know what
he is doing since he is I'm now nervous that
I am not with the right person. I'm so confused
and torn. Confused and torn are not just flip it.
(41:52):
I'm thinking about my ex confused and torn? Please help?
Speaker 4 (41:59):
So what's your advice?
Speaker 3 (42:01):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (42:01):
This is to me.
Speaker 3 (42:02):
This is alarming, Like if this were me, Like, I
don't know. I don't think about my first love ever,
Like I haven't thought about that guy in like years.
Speaker 1 (42:11):
Didn't we have him on the radio show.
Speaker 3 (42:13):
Oh that's a guy i'd made out with, Like oh okay, yeah,
my first kiss. That's very different than your first love.
Speaker 4 (42:18):
True, Nor do I care.
Speaker 3 (42:22):
What he's doing, you know what I mean. So I
think that if you're feeling this way and you want
to check in on him and you're feeling confused and torn,
I don't know that's coming from a place of like
questioning your relationship a little bit. No.
Speaker 2 (42:40):
I think maybe you write down the things that you're
thinking about and like romanticizing about your first love, and
write down the things that made it messy and unhealthy
and toxic, and then like burn it or something. I
think just writing it down and getting those feelings out
would really help your because I think you have a
lot of thoughts going on just based on the different
(43:02):
thoughts in this short email, and I think just like
like reminding yourself why it didn't work with that person,
why it was never going to work, and why it's
not healthy or wasn't healthy would be very therapeutic for you.
Speaker 3 (43:16):
Yeah, that's a good call. Just getting the thoughts on
paper they're out.
Speaker 4 (43:20):
Yeah, and burn and then email us after that if
you're still.
Speaker 3 (43:25):
Burn them to the ground.
Speaker 4 (43:28):
Oh man, that's tough.
Speaker 3 (43:33):
Well, relationships are hard.
Speaker 4 (43:37):
They're hard.
Speaker 3 (43:39):
They're not easy, they're.
Speaker 4 (43:40):
Hard, and the you know.
Speaker 3 (43:43):
People are complex.
Speaker 4 (43:44):
We are we are complex.
Speaker 3 (43:47):
People are flawed.
Speaker 4 (43:49):
We are flawed.
Speaker 2 (43:50):
We have a lot of feelings and feelings, yeah, and
past experiences. One of the feelings I'm having is excitement
because we have a Lease Myers on the podcast this Thursday,
and I am so excited and I love her and
I can't wait for y'all to hear it.
Speaker 4 (44:07):
Can't be back with the Thursday episode.
Speaker 3 (44:08):
We haven't had we haven't had a Thursday and a
minute and we haven't And Becta will be back without
her period panties.
Speaker 4 (44:15):
Yes, I don't have period panties.
Speaker 3 (44:17):
I met metaphorically. Oh okay, okay, the mood you're in today, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 4 (44:22):
Yeah, all right, well we will be back.
Speaker 3 (44:24):
I also like it that it's not metaphorically like that
those exist now.
Speaker 4 (44:29):
They do exist. Yes, yes, we have those now.
Speaker 2 (44:32):
So everyone, hope you have a wonderful week, and we'll
be back Thursday and we love you all.
Speaker 3 (44:39):
See Thursday.
Speaker 1 (44:39):
Bye.
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