October 4, 2022 • 45 mins
Becca and Hayley went house shopping! WHAT DOES IT MEAN?? We hear everything about their plans together and what happened after a visit to the piercing shop.
Tanya has set her goals for the month of October and you won’t believe what made the list!
And we get the real story on why Chrishell Stause from Selling Sunset posted a Tik Tok with Tanya!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Rap and I
Heart Radio Podcast. Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. It's
Monday Funday. It's wow, Monday Funday. That doesn't Sunday Funday. Well,
today's Monday Funday. Monday is Monday. It's Monday, Monday, Monday.
(00:28):
I don't I mean, that's how we all feel. I think,
I don't know. I feel like you and Mark are
people who are like, Monday, let's go, let's let's change
the world and get things done, because Monday's the start
of the week, and so Monday is when you set
the tone and you just bust it out because you're
gonna have a great week ahead. Although I will say
this Monday'm feeling kind of like that. Yeah, I was
(00:50):
gonna say, you just I tried to make it fun
Monday Funday and you poopoo that quick. So yeah, feels nice.
No contradicting. Oh well, I try. I'm like trying to
get I try to get it up most of the time.
I say, of the time on Mondays, I'm flying high,
But this Monday, I'm not flying so high. Okay, Well
(01:12):
that's fine. Not every day has to be flying high. Exactly.
In fact, I'm about start of my period, so I am.
I would not say I'm flying high. I would say
I'm flying low. Your period, I would say I'm hovering,
I'm flying It does my period of your period doesn't
have you, tony of My period absolutely slows me down mentally, physically, emotionally,
(01:38):
and any other way it could slow me down. It
slows me down. Don't let it take the power back.
You have the power over the period. I have to
deal with this. Let me be. Let me Actually, Saturday
is like um hang on Saturday is a period day,
National Period Awareness Day. As if I didn't know, and
already have balloons and flowers ordered for me. Yeah, yeah,
(02:02):
October eight, Baby, there's a day for everything. It's not
a period, it's an exclamation point. Exactly. That's beautiful menstruating.
We're telling you. Wouldn't you argue that if she eats
the right things and treats herself the right way during
the different stages of her mental cycles, she wouldn't be
(02:22):
slowed down. Yes, And I was actually having this conversation
with Ricky Lake because she was at this period event
that I was at last week. That up that made
me just drop, just gonna drop it like a top.
That was kind of a life moment meeting her, honestly.
But she we were talking about how like it is
crazy how because she made this um her first film
that she made. It was a documentary about home birth
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and just kind of like getting the power back and
like with all of this stuff like childbirth and all
these things that we just kind of go along with
what everybody does and says, when like in reality, if
you really do the work in the research, you can
kind of like take the power back and like figure
out your own body. And like really liesing and and
figuring out your own body is like such like a cool,
(03:04):
empowering feeling. Me and Rickey Lake, you know, just pioneers,
pioneers in the period world. Yeah, I don't know. To me,
like having to learn all that and do all the
work of like knowing what I'm supposed to eat when
I'm supposed to eat, it is like a lot of
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headspace that I don't want to to take up. So
it is a lot of headspace. Yeah, there's a lot
of space being taken up in this head. Let me
tell you this weekend, what didn't I do this week?
She was she was living the flare nostrils, which was
(03:47):
also part of last week's podcast. I hope Crystal doesn't
zoom in on those right right then because they got
quarter size. Those are a huge, were huge. Don't bother
me because I am living. Yeah, there's honestly can't remember.
I feel like this week, I feel like between our
(04:09):
San Francisco trip and then we went to Vegas for
my heart, I feel like it's been like a lot
going on. Um, but I feel like the this next
few weeks, I'm kind of just like chilling, which is
a nice place to be. You know, I'm gonna start
making my almond milk again, getting back into my routine. Great.
What about you? Oh, well, what did what did I do?
(04:30):
Instead of what didn't I do? What did I do?
I literally have no idea? Um, I went to in
and Out twice. I literally I'm continue the conversation with
something else because like I cannot remember what. Oh, yesterday
we went We went to like a bunch of open houses,
(04:51):
which was really fun because we went to you guys
looking for homes. Haley is looking for a house, but
more to Samantha anyways, where we were like, let's just
go to open houses. We were going to like these
really expensive homes and just like, oh yeah, so what
about this part of the house. And that is actually
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it was fun. I was like, this could be a
Sunday thing because I would love to just go into
open houses like this. Um, so that was really fun
yesterday in an unexpected way. And that's really it. We
kind of had a low key weekend. He's been working
like NonStop. So um, Saturday, shoot, we went and she
got her ears pierced. Four ear piercings at one time.
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I want to get my ears pierced, but it really
just sets me back because I can't sleep right and
you know me when I'm not sleeping, and it's not good. No,
not good. So they're gonna put a pin in the
getting my ears pierced. But you know what, I did
realize this weekend, So we we made our October goals
and actually we did it a few days before October one,
which I felt very good about because it was like,
we're kind of getting on top of our October goals.
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But I'm very over the like this notion of like
I need to lose five pounds constantly, like do you
know what I mean? It's always like I gotta lose weight,
I gotta tighten up, I gotta do this, I gotta
do that. It's like, I'm over this narrative. I'm over it.
I don't need to do it. I just need to
love my body the way she is, every curve, every
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little dimple, every little piece of cellulite, and like, live
my life, enjoy it. I've been enjoying my life, and
I'm over this narrative. I want to treat my body right,
but I don't need to be a certain thing. I
don't need And like I used to do this all
the time when I was single. I'd be like, oh,
I just want to lose a little weight or like
tone up and then I'll really start dating again. I'm like,
how like lame that I let that hinder me in
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my dating life, you know what I mean? Like I
have to do lose this to no more. I'm over it.
None of my goals are losing weight. Zero. Are there
other health related goals though? Is it? I want to
be stronger, I want to be faster, I want to
be in better, I want to be more fit. Um
one of them is I really want to figure my
Hashimoto situation. So I have a doctor's appointment. This what
(07:04):
what what what is this? Now? No, hashimotos is like
a disease, like a thyroid disease. Yeah, oh you have
a you have a hashimoto. My doctor said, I have it.
But I haven't gone to actually really gone to specials.
Haven't really Like I'm sorry. I thought there's like another like, um,
you know, like your love language, your Oh no, no,
(07:25):
this is like an actual thing. Yeah, I thought it's
a hashimoto. I thought it was one of those no no,
But they do say that like a lot of things
that you eat and the way that you like live
your life, like you should really need to get like
eight hours of sleep and stuff like that, and so
I really want to, like this month dive into that
and kind of like focus on So that is health related,
but it's not like weight related. I think it's okay.
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Like sometimes I think we go so far in the
other direction of like I need to love every part
of my body, the cellulite and everything, and it's like
I don't think we have to love it, but I
do think we there's a way of like going that's
not my favorite part of my body, but it's okay.
And I love my body because it takes care of me.
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Like I don't think it's like like for me personally.
I know it's not realistic for me to be like
I need to love every imperfection on me, but I
can accept every imperfection and not need to have to
change every single thing about me like one of Paltrow.
You know, I accept just like her. But my whole
thing is like being able to look at myself and
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not immediately just notice the negative things, be able to
like appreciate the things that I like about myself, and
and the things that I appreciate, and then be able
to be like and maybe that's not my favorite thing,
but I don't have to change it, or I don't
need to, like laser and focus on it and have
to change it, because I think it's just natural to
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to look at ourselves and have things that maybe we're
not like obsessed with about our bodies and stuff. I'm
over it. Over the narrative. It's like everyone my my
TikTok algorithm too, is like I want to lose some
quick five pounds, do this move, and I'm like, no,
I don't want to anymore. I don't want this narrative anymore.
I save all of them and then never go back
(09:12):
and look at them. They're simply saved, and I'll take that.
I'll take that tip, and I'll incorporate that move into
my like workouts, because I like to work out and
I just like to get my body moving and stuff.
But I'm like, I'm over this. You need to do this,
you need to do this to like be summer ready,
Like I'm over it. Thing. I do a lot. I'll
save the workout things or the diet tips I see
(09:35):
on on TikTok, and then when I finally go back
to do it, I'll look at the comments and it's
just flooded with people going, this doesn't work, this will
only hurt you. This guy doesn't know what he's talking about.
Like the comments are actually the most intriguing part of
TikTok for me, because that's where I really find I
get my knowledge about something. And I also will save
(09:56):
like all these recipes, like I have these amazing recipes, say,
ordered Chinese last night, Chinese? Uh, what else do we
we um? I will say I'm having a lot of
fun with Robbie in his car because he got this
Bronco and it's like a it's like an adult lego.
Like he spent the weekend taking the doors off, and look,
(10:19):
it's so fun. You just like and like the doors
come off so you're in like a real life Indiana
Jones car and like takes the panels off the roof
every other day and put them back on. And it's
like he's having so much fun, like working on this car.
Does he have to work on it? Because it's not
work on it, but like taking the doors off, putting
the doors back, putting the top off, top back on,
you know, like installing the stairs. I have to say,
(10:41):
I'm I'm proud of you for having fun with it
because I feel like you would be like encouraging you
all to wear like helmets and stuff in there. Oh yeah,
I do. I'm a little concerned about the safety aspect
of it. But the doors come back on. He does
it for like, you know, the day when it's sunny
and then the doors come back on. It's not like
permanently like that, but it is fun. Like I'm seeing
him in these like you know Facebook groups like Broncos,
(11:03):
Bronco Bros or whatever. I don't even know what it is.
It's so funny. I'm like, this is probably what it's
like for him, like when a Taylor Swift album comes out,
you know what I mean, talking with my friends about
it and like it's probably very similar vibes. Yeah, yeah,
y'all are just like, are you in Facebook groups about
Taylor Swift? No, but like I don't know, scrubbing in
Facebook group can kind of be like that sometimes. I
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love the scrubbing in Facebook group. By the way, this
is like he's so happy that he's in it now.
He's like this is the best thing. He's like, you
guys were right, this is the best thing. It's a
really good time. Yeah. Yeah, it keeps me inspired and entertained. Sure,
that's where he showed me. He was like, did you
see mind you? Everybody sent me that crushal stass TikTok
(11:44):
about her like listening to the morning show. So I've
seen it like a hundred times. And the next day
he goes, hey, am I just sent you this Cryshell
girls and TikTok. Did you do you know who she is?
And I was like, yes, I saw this like a
her time yesterday. Where did he goes? Somebody posted in
the Facebook group, I'm like, but you know, when it
(12:07):
makes a Facebook group serious business, serious business that was
scared by her TikTok. I was like, um, don't hate me. No,
I don't think she was, you know, coming to you.
I don't think it was a personal attack. I think
she was just saying, like people take things out of
context and always run with them. But if you read
that quote from him and you said and then it
says that this that that they that she fast forwards
(12:29):
his HBO shows when she's mad at him, you also
too would have an opinion like that seems like she
was responding to his quote rather than she was to you.
Yeah something. But also aside from I don't I think
what she cleared it up that she like would like
she was watching the same show and he was like,
what the heck you like messed up where I was
(12:50):
on the show. But um, you know everyone does weird
things after a breakup. So even if she did do
stuff like that, it's like, listen, sure, fine, but not
when you're in another relationship. Does that what the whole
thing was? Well, yeah, if you're like if I were
dating somebody, like if I were in a relationship with
somebody and they were still like doing this stuff with
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their ex. It would kind of piss me off. I'd
be like, why are you doing that? If they were
watching a show and they're account to mess with somebody
else's like Netflix killing friends though, that would piss you off.
I didn't say me. I'm saying they're all friends. Yeah,
and they all seem very like friendly and like open.
You know, it doesn't feel like tense or like nasty.
(13:34):
But that was China's point in the report, to which
Chrissell didn't respond to. Is I think you said in
that report that this is a sign that you still
have feelings for that person if you're still wasting time
doing stuff like this. Yeah, Oh, I don't think so.
I think they're friends and they've been working together more
like they worked together and they've been friends more than
they dated, longer than they dated. Okay, what that's fine.
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I just think it's weird if you're in a new
relationship to do stuff like I mean, clearly she didn't
do it so like at the end of the day,
like it was, it is what it is. But if
let's take that out of it, Like, if you are
doing that and you're in a new relationship, like you're
let's say you're like messing with Roberts like Netflix or whatever.
You don't think that's disrespectful to Haley. Yeah, I didn't
say I would do it. I said that I think
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if that was the case with them, which it isn't,
should clear the air. They're all friendly and open, So
I think it just depends on the situation. You and
I would not handle that well you did, it would
be a bad sign. That's saying yeah, yeah, regardless. It
was funny. And someone sends it to me because I'm,
you know, friends with Cris and I was like, oh, yeah,
(14:46):
send her our best. Yeah, I'm a crush fan. So
I was like, I'll send this to Tanya and tell
her she can't believe everything she reads. Well, no, because
Becca said it to me and I panicked that I like,
I misquoted somebody, do you know what I mean? Like
that's where my head when it's like I messed up
my report. So I was like panicking, and I was like, no,
(15:07):
I swear like I don't. I only use direct quotes
in those reports, Like I don't really go off gossip,
Like I don't do my reports off gossip for the
most part. Well I she was like, yeah. She was like,
I am lazy in the sense that I haven't logged
out of that TV because we don't use that TV much.
But I'm not petty. And I was like lazy, sure,
(15:31):
petty not so much. So that was the conversation. Well, yeah,
but he didn't. I will say he was misleading in
his quote because he made it seem yeah, like when
they fight, that's what she does. Now, that's a scary
thing because we do this morning show and there's lots
of people listening in celebrities that we talk about are listening,
and sometimes they don't love what we said, and so
(15:52):
that can be a real issue. And so people like
Ryan and before him, Rick Dives, they get kind of
gunshy sometimes because they'll get remember this long long time ago,
got confronted at a some restaurant or something by Kevin
Costner some some celebrity videos to something bad about like hey,
I heard you tell the air that's not cool man,
And after that it was no more so everybody talk
on the radio. He got so spooked by that. So
(16:15):
it happens, and you've got to be a little bit careful.
And we know that some of these people listen, but
we don't do the gossipy stuff. We just kind of say,
here's the story out there, and here's the conversation. You
can kind of make out of it. Yeah, I mean,
we get it. I'm so scary. I'm scared to have
an opinion on anything. You can't have an opinion on anything, well,
you can, because it's you're putting scare allowed to like
(16:35):
have an opinion about saying scary to talk about it.
And saw that she was talking about you on TikTok, yeah,
because I was like, yeah, oh no, I literally like
I got her from just Jared. It was on a carpet,
like because I think that you text me I was
in therapy, which is like the worst thing because I'm
like supposed to be in therapy focusing on like myself
(16:56):
and my her phone just like totally off when it
wasn't on my phone because I I do my therapy
on Zoom and so my text messages and I can
ignore them, like I'm not reading my text messages. But
like when you were like Crishell posted something, I was like,
oh no, I started spiraling, So I'm like I can't
see it. You know, I'm in the middle of therapy,
and then my mind's just like retracing where I got
the story from. And I was like, no, this is legit,
(17:18):
Like what did what happened? And then I saw it.
I was like, Okay, I mean you're You're not someone
who's like out to get anybody. So I think I
think you're good, but I want to make sure like
i'm you know us quotes. Yeah, you should go and
do not disturb for therapy my computer. I've never I've
never done how to do on my computer. Well, now
(17:39):
do you have an Apple computer? Now, when you go
on do not disturb on one, it goes to both,
it goes to all your devices. But I do not
disturbs only on at nighttime. You can put it on.
Oh you talk it on and off? Wow, let me
mess around that toggle. You should. You should look at
the settings your phone. There's a lot of cool things.
(18:00):
I'm going to toggle that toggle. By the way, look
at my new screensaver. It's Harry Styles. But Harry Styles
is your block screen? Yeah? There he is? Is that controversial?
I don't know another man to feel about that about
(18:20):
And Harry that's he says, that's the one thing that
he ever has gotten jealous about and now that instead
of Sonny on your lock screen, if he did that,
if he had another woman on his lock screen, the
absolute yeah, or like a hot girl in his background,
(18:40):
Tanya rad I guarantee you he's not going to care.
But maybe I should change it. I think you should
change it too, all right, fair enough. I just changed
it because Sam sent me this photo and I was like, wow,
that is it's like just like a gorgeous lock screen.
It's like just like kind of like chic, you know,
it's like chic girl vibes. I think that's you could
say it and look at it if you want to
(19:01):
feel inspired by that. But this is like, this is
the vibe I'm going for for our new rebrand of
scrubbing in photo shooting. Yeah, we're taking new photos soon,
so we're just you know, spitballing some ideas. I was
going with the scrubs, but you know, Becca thinks we
should be elevated. Well, I think there's a way to
do the scrubs elevated. I just maybe think it's like
(19:23):
just something different and like chic but still cohesive and
still brand our brand, you know. Yeah, So we're just
thinking some ideas, spitballing some ideas. We have a good
month before we have to do it, so and if
I know us, we'll be panicking the day before trying
to figure out what we're gonna wear. I hate that
(19:43):
about us. I hated it too. I don't know. We
gotta change it. Um, you want to talk about the
Hailey Biber interview and call her daddy? I did just
because I feel so like, okay, and not like I
feel bad for celebrities and it up, but I do
feel bad for her because it's just like she's been
married now for four years and she just like can't.
Let's talk about it when we come back for a break. Okay,
(20:20):
we are back, And yeah, I honestly agree with the
fact that Haley is still Hailey Bieber's still having to
answer questions about it's leaning on this. Yeah, Like I
like them both all obviously, I'm actually a fan of
both of them. I am too, But I'm just like
I feel and I go and I think about Alexander Cooper.
(20:41):
People her friends to call her alex I new they
started following her Instagram. She really got that follow for
me today because I was like putting myself in her shoes,
and I'm like, obviously she it's not a bad job
because it got some tons of pressed. I was everywhere
like that. Her podcast was like on everybody's everybody was
talking about it. But I'm like, if I put myself
in her shoes, would I go there with Haley Bieber?
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Absolutely not, because I just feel like there's a certain
point where it's just like she's been married, now she's
in this relationship, Like at what point is she going
to have to stop defending her relationship or like living
in the past. Well, maybe maybe this was it. Maybe
she was like, I'm gonna do this massive podcast. I mean,
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call her Daddy is huge, and that's going to be
the last I talked about it. Put it to rest
now and I'll see or is it going to open
the door to for more? I think they're all I mean,
I think Selena even did Alive and was basically like,
can you all just stop? Like if you're supporting me
and my company Rare, which is literally about kind words
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and how we treat people. You can't turn around and
be hateful to towards somebody else, So you cannot get
classier than Selena Gomez like that is just she literally
just rises above, Like she didn't need to come out
and do that live after, you know what I mean,
Like she could have just stayed under the radar, not
said a word, you know what I mean. And she
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comes out and she's just like, stop being mean. Where's Justin?
Why isn't he doing that? Why isn't he defending Haley.
He's probably tired of it too, He's probably just like, yeah,
but the girls having to rise above everything, well, thank
god the girls are have each other's backs. Ye, Devil's advocate.
Isn't this part of the territory when you married Justin Bieber? Like,
(22:28):
there's a lot of upside and there's a lot of downside. Right,
he's one of the most famous people in the world.
You're gonna have to deal with stuff like this. Yeah,
But I would say the downside is just like having
everybody like in your business. Yeah, that's what this is.
And I'm just thinking it's a part of the territory.
I just don't not many other celebrities deal with what
(22:49):
they've dealt with on this level though, of like a
relationship being done for however many years and then still
having to talk about it and rehash it. Yeah, it's painful.
It would just be like I'd be exhausted. If I
were her, I'd be like, I'm tired. I wouldn't do
I honestly would be such a recluse. Like I admire
the fact that she just like does her thing, goes
(23:10):
on a podcast. It's like here, here you go, and
then lives her life regardless of how hard and exhausting
must be. I'd be tired. I'd be like, Mama's trip
somewhere and then sunny snuggle because this is annoying. And
(23:32):
just like how many years has been Now they've been
married for four, so I imagine like four Wow, yes,
pretty good. Anyways, I think I think they're both very classy,
and I think that the way they've handled it has
been as gracious as you can in their situations. Totally yeah, um,
(23:57):
but I agree. I think alex Cooper asked a hard questions,
and as someone who like in her position like that,
I I have to say I admire what she does
and it's why she's probably one of the most successful
podcasts in the world because she almost goes to that
uncomfortable place that it's hard to get to, but you know,
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what we could be there too. We could be there too,
but if we had a Haley Bibron, we could evoke
some like thoughtful and inciting and invigorating conversations with her
that don't have to deal with another woman and her husband.
I'm just throwing it out there, but that's what people
(24:40):
tune in like. That is why it went viral and
why I was talking about you hit the nail on
the head. What that we feed the beast, and the
beast is being fed, but the beast needs to eat
from bad things. The beast likes bad food. The beast
likes bad food, like the negativity the beast is it
(25:00):
just it just feeds off the negativity and the drama
and the and we just feed the beast. We do
feed the beast. Let's starve the beast. Well, then entertainment's
out the door. Unfortunately, that's not It's what people I
listen to podcast that I'm not feeding the beast. I do.
(25:24):
Are you saying, oh, you're just talking about podcast in general.
I'm talking about her daddy. Yeah, I'm calling for oct No,
I'm not calling for a boycott, but I just I
think that I just think that we're different it doesn't
make us any any less than you know. Well, I
(25:45):
also I think that I I think also giving someone
a platform because realistically, if you think about it, Haley
Bieber has a whole team who is like paying attention
to what questions are being asked, and she's answering them
and if they didn't like something, I want to get released.
She has a lot of people looking out for her
(26:06):
in that way. So if she wanted that platform, then
there there was a lot of yesses that had to
be checked for her to do that podcast. So if
someone is going on a podcast that is known for
asking the hard questions, then technically they're expecting for that
to be a topic of conversation. True. But you know
(26:28):
what I also realized too, and it made me think
about our podcast. Those chairs that she has, it's like
just like an inviting space space, you know, like we're
talking to people on their computers. I think we need
a chair. I think we need a guest chair. She
was clearly very comfortable and really not focused on the
(26:49):
fact that she was on a podcast, because it feels
like she's in someone's living room. Yeah, Like her legs
were up, She's like chilling, like like you and I like,
we can get into conversations and we could just talk
for hours about like lord knows what like. So, but
what about our guests. We talked to our guests over zoom,
So how are they in a chair? We gotta get
him in. Let's create into your chair. Yeah, who cares.
(27:11):
I got the parking. I got a nice parking situation here.
Just pull right up to my apartment. Doors open. Let's
stop by the fridge and grab yourself a bevy and
just head on up to the to the studio room.
They like show up to do the podcast and they're like,
am I at the right spot? You can put a
nice cozy chair over there. I mean, I think it's time.
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Five years in, I think it's time we get a chair.
What if we got a studio like a studio space
and we're like sitting in it about it being your home,
that doesn't make it as a homie inviting for a
guest who's never met you before. I think my home
(27:56):
is rather But I'm saying like for some on who
has never met you to come in and feel comfortable,
it's not like a it's not like a space created
like an office where they just go in and they're like, okay,
this is this is their podcast, you know. Yeah, well
let's do it in here. Okay, that'll be our next
(28:18):
thing after our photo shoot. We have a lot of
us were what she say or she didn't say remodel.
She just said get a chair, an inviting chair, and
a mic set up in front of said chair. To
really just yes, you guys, this is so weird. I
would be like I think, I think not knowing us
(28:39):
and coming into her home and having to go through
her kitchen and living room and then up the stairs
is like not comfortable. I wouldn't feel comfortable. I would
be like, hey, I'm in this random person's home. We
can have hon Kom station her dumb stairs in my
(29:01):
pink chairs, so it's like not like a home, Like
she can be there and let's not make Hannity that
in my living room it's so cozy down there. Um,
it's something to talk about having a studio. I think
talking about having a studio in biting space changes the moon.
(29:22):
That's true. I agree with that. Yeah, the computer, a
comfy chair in the suede rock, sitting on the swede rock.
I gotta keep you awake, young, young, chicken. I'm just
I'm not a young chicken. I'm feeling old as hell today. Really,
let's talk about it. It's just my period. I'm just
(29:43):
my period makes me into a person. I don't like
an all morning. I've had to remind myself that it's
my period, it's not me, it's not real, because I've
had to just talk myself off of a ledge. You
know what's funny, I don't feel like myself either, and
I think it's my nails. Okay, well, guess what, tom
you go change your nails. All you have to do,
(30:04):
take off the polish, change the color. You'll be feeling good.
I unfortunately don't have that luxury. Okay, so might will
go away, probably by tomorrow or the next day. And
I just keep reminding myself of that. It is so weird,
what our periods, what our hormones due to our brains.
It's weird. It's also it's also think about think about
(30:27):
your period, like we just bleed, like we're bleeding every month,
like bleeding out of our bodies, and we just that's
just we're just that's just what we do. It's like
we just carry on with the day. We're just profusely
bleeding out of our resignas, and like it's a thing,
Like it's just such a weird thing to think about.
So you know, I mean, the guy was bleeding out
(30:48):
of his finger a week, he'd be like crying at
home all day. He just like suck it up and
we just like live our lives. It was so funny
when Haley was getting her ears pierce. The guy that
was piercing doing the piercing, he was, oh yeah, he
was like the people who pass out the most from
like seeing the needle or men. He was like, men
can't even watch their girlfriends or wives get pierced because
(31:10):
they have to sit down and they're going to pass off.
I have to give them like lollipops. Yeah. I'm like,
just don't get me started, just bleeding, just bleeding out.
All right, Well, we definitely know that what we do
tell me has let everybody know what happens to our
(31:30):
bodies while we're going through that, which is bleeding. I
haven't even started my free bleeding era, but that might happen,
so just watch out for that. Is that what is
the realizing sticking things up there is just I don't
know about it, right, now like tampons and yeah, Mark,
(31:51):
you know that squeamish face you're making right now, That's
why I talked about my period incessantly. That's why. Okay,
so I want to. I want to. There's like a
free bleeding people talk about their free bleeding eras where
they basically just like freely bleed. They either were like
period underwear or paths and they just free bleed. And
(32:12):
it's like really empowering. Apparently. I don't know why, but
I haven't tried it, so I'm wanna try it. I
I guess I look forward to hearing about that experience
for you. I'll let you know when I try it. Why.
I don't know, No, why why do you like? What's
(32:34):
the why not have some protection? Um? It's like unnatural
things up there with chemicals, things up there up there.
I don't know. Apparently it's empowering. I don't know why.
I just think that we do a lot of things,
(32:56):
Like I think you would do a lot of things
that are unnatural to like your bodies, like chewing like
xylotol gum sure, or like even bleaching your hair. Like
I think there's just things that we do for like
our beauty regime that aren't natural, but we do them
because they're available to us in modern in this modern world,
in society that we're in. No, I know, don't get
(33:17):
me started, because remember I had that whole thing about
like my that's why my nails are different, because I
was like, I having my nails haven't seen the light
of day in decades, and I'm like, that can't be good. Yeah,
we were getting stood and Tony goes, oh, my nails
look pretty healthy. I think I'm just gonna get polished
and not get acrylics put on, and she's she asked
the lady. She's like, are they healthy? And the ladies
(33:38):
just straight up like, no, they're not very much. Noty Okay.
I was having a good day and now I'm back
down here. Um, so yeah, I I I hear you
about the free bleeding. And also it's okay if you
want to contain you know, it's all okay, it's all good,
(34:01):
it's all good, it's all what you want to do,
but you know what I want to experience it all
all right, Well, we can't wait to hear about that.
We're gonna take another break and we'll be back with emails.
(34:23):
All right, we are back Mark, take it away, all right,
begga thank you. And this is from Shannie. It's a
little long, I'm gonna trim it down, but she says.
I've been dating my boyfriend a little over three years.
He's my first serious relationship. But I went into it
wanting to date seriously with marriage in mind, something we've
discussed and be on the same page about. He started
(34:43):
off this relationship strong, planning dates, surprising me, making me
happy all around. I'm still happy, but he doesn't really
plan dates anymore, or really do anything surprising. He never
brings me flowers or a dessert or anything like that.
I've asked him about it. He says he knows he's
he'd like to be a little more romantic, hasn't done
anything about it yet. Couples get comfortable. I realized that,
and a lot of effort is made early in the
(35:05):
relationship and it fades away. But we're close to an
engagement here and I feel like I'm still making the
effort and I surprised it with little gifts. He makes
me happy, and I do feel like he'll always take
care of me. But is this lack of effort a problem?
He's mentioned he's found a ring, and it's very sure
that I'm the one. Thank you for your help. I
(35:26):
don't think I personally don't think it's a deal breaker.
I think it's a conversation of like, hey, I want
to feel those same I want the same effort that
you put in. You know, I don't need flowers every
time we go on a date or every single day,
but just like little things here and there that let
me know that you're making the effort because I still
feel like I put in the same effort, and I
(35:47):
don't want it to feel one sided or get resentful.
But I don't know that it's a deal breaker. I
just think it's a conversation. And then if he's not
willing to meet you, then that's a bigger conversation. I
have to talk with me. He said, Like, I see
what you're saying, and I acknowledge that I would like
to be better, I'd like to be more romantic, but
he's still not doing anything about it. And now she's
(36:07):
worried that she's gonna He's never he's not going to
make her a priority even when they're married. Yeah, maybe
there's a conversation of like, hey, I know we've talked
about an engagement in the ring, but I want to
see effort from you before I commit to something like that,
Like I need to see that this is going to
be something that you're able to meet me halfway on
(36:30):
and not just be one sided forever, because I don't
want that. I also think too, that relationships kind of
evan flow, you know what I mean. Like it's not
you're not going to have that high intensity romance like
you do all the time, but I do think it
ebbs and flows, like I think it might go down
for a little bit and then it will come back,
and I think life happens and stuff happens, and like
(36:51):
not that you lose that connection, but like sometimes I think,
like you know, we actually were talking about this the
other day, like Robby and I haven't spent a loane
time just the two of us in a few weeks,
and you don't don't realize it because you're always like
with friends and people and work stuff, and you know,
you don't realize that you aren't together just the two
of you ever intentionally. And so it's like I think
(37:13):
that relationships kind of go in these things go in
these phases and i'd say, I mean, she did say
that she is taking her like rolling it seriously and
she's like doing these nice things for him and stuff.
So I think that is also a big like kind
of showing him the way that you want to be
treated um. But also it's like you can't change somebody,
(37:33):
So it's like if he's not, you can't force him
to to be a certain way. They force him to
be the way that you want him to be. Maybe
maybe there's an idea where like you do what Robbie
Antonia do, where you make goals for the month and
it's like, hey, we have to date nights, or we
you know, you do something and surprise me, or you
plan something and it just it's planned, but you it's
(37:57):
like a goal for that month without the press sure
of like feeling like you have to be naggy, because
I don't think you're being nagging wanting something in return,
But I do think that it might get to a
point where he feels that way and then push him away.
But I don't know. I'm with Tony in this, like
(38:18):
I don't think I don't think you commit to an
engagement or say yes to proposal if you're not seeing
progress in an area that's really important to you. It
sounds to me like she's all in on this guy.
I mean, that's the vibe I get from the email
is that I'm going to marry this guy. But should
I be concerned about this? And I think I think
it's thick little hints and stuff like that, and I
think it'll come back. I like the idea of you
(38:40):
saying to him, Hey, I Saturday night, should we go
do something? He said yeah, and then you could say
to him, Okay, here's what I would love. Could you
plan the whole thing start to finish. I would love
to not even be involved in the planning process and
just do you do the whole thing? And he might
he might respond well to that. I don't know that
he's gonna respond well to comming up with his goals
for the month, but I think he might respond to
planning a date night for you guys, And maybe that's enough.
(39:01):
Maybe if he plans a date a month or something,
maybe that's enough to kind of see him putting some
effort forth. And I don't think he'll take much on
his part for you to be happy. I will say,
though Robbie was not a fan. I don't want to
say not a fan. He wasn't like gung ho on
the goal setting when we first started doing it, and
now I think he's like kind of into it, you
(39:21):
know what I mean. Like, I think he's seen the
progress and seen things like move along as we've made
like goals and stuff. So I think now he's like
likes it more so I wouldn't poopoo it so much,
so quick mark, Yeah, alright. This is from anonymous. Anonymous
says I've been with my current boyfriend close to three years.
(39:42):
He's perfect and everything I've ever dreamed of. I know
he's the person I'm going to marry. Ever since we've
been talking about marriage, though, I've been having thoughts of
my ex. He was my best friend and we decided
to be together. It was a messy relationship, not always
the healthiest. He hurt me many times over the years,
but as my first love. Why am I still thinking
of him? It's impossible for me to know what he's
(40:05):
doing since he has no social media. I'm now nervous
that I'm not with the right person. I'm confused and torn.
Please help. Mm hmm, that's interesting. This feels bad. I
don't think so, but yeah, I was gonna say, I
think maybe as you're getting closer to seeing a future
with this person, you're looking back on your first love
(40:27):
and you're comparing something you're you're in a place of
security and stability and seeing like future plans with someone,
and you're there was probably something in you that was
in this like unhealthy, messy relationship with your first love
that felt invigorating, and um, I don't know, like sometimes
(40:50):
that toxic feeling is like highs and lows, and you're
remembering the highs of it. And I think if you
sit down and and look at your situation and you
realize you're with the right person, Like even in this email,
you immediately said, this is the man I'm going to
marry that's competent or perfect dreamed of. I think your
(41:11):
first love is just your first love. You know. I
don't know that you you'll never forget your first love,
but I don't think that you're thinking about it remembering
it makes your current love less than And also I
think it's a normal symptom of cold feet, which is
normal to happen as you're getting close to committing to
(41:33):
one person for the rest of your life. You're going
to get some some jitter, some cold feet, and this
is the kind of one of those symptoms. I think
you're fine. I think this will pass. Tanya's eyes are
like saucers right now, her nostrils. The nostrils are flair
because she says, why am I still thinking of him?
(41:53):
It's also impossible for me to know what he is
doing since he's I'm now nervous that I am not
with the right person. I'm so confused and torn. Confused
and torn are not just flip it. I'm thinking about
my act confused and torn. Please help? So what's your advice?
(42:16):
I don't know. This is to me. This is alarming,
Like if this were me, Like, I don't know, I
don't think about my first love ever, Like I haven't
thought about that guy in like years. Didn't we have
him on the radio show? Well that's a guy I
made out with. Yeah, my first kiss. That's very different
than your first love. Um, nor do I care what
(42:38):
he's doing? You know what I mean? So I think
that if you're feeling this way and you want to
check in on him, and you're feeling confused and torn,
I don't know, that's coming from a place of like
questioning your relationship a little bit. No, but it was
a bad relationship. It was messy, not the healthiest. He
(42:59):
hurt me many times over the years. I think this
is normal. I think it's just kind of a you're
getting nervous about marrying somebody. I get it. I think
it's fine. I do. I think you'll get through this.
You'd be very happy you did. I think maybe you
write down the things that you're thinking about and like
romanticizing about your first love, and write down the things
(43:20):
that made it messy and unhealthy and toxic, and then
like burn it or something. I think just writing it
down and getting those feelings out would really help your
because I think you have a lot of thoughts going
on just based on the different thoughts in this short email.
And I think just like like reminding yourself why it
didn't work with that person, why it was never going
(43:41):
to work, and why it's not healthy or wasn't healthy
would be very therapeutic for you. Yeah, that's a good callege,
just getting the thoughts on paper there out, Yeah, and
burn and then email us after that if you're still
burned onto the ground, Oh man, And that's tough. Mm hmm, Well,
(44:06):
relationships are hard. They're hard. They're not easy, They're hard,
and the you know, people are complex, we are we
are complex. People are flawed. We are flawed. We have
a lot of feelings and past experiences. One of the
(44:27):
feelings I'm having is excitement because we have a Lease
Myers on the podcast this Thursday, and I am so
excited and I love her and I can't wait for
you all to hear it. I can't be back with
the Thursday episode we have and how do we haven't
had a Thursday in a minute and we haven't secta
will be back without her period panties. Yes, I don't
(44:47):
have period panties. I met metaphorically. Okay, okay the food
you're in today? Yeah yeah, yeah, alright, well we will.
I also like it that it's not metaphorically like that
those exist now. They do exist. Yes, yes, we have
those now. So everyone, hope you have a wonderful week,
and we'll be back Thursday and we love you all.
(45:09):
See Thursday. Bye.
Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Rap and I
Heart Radio Podcast. Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. It's
Monday Funday. It's wow, Monday Funday. That doesn't Sunday Funday. Well,
today's Monday Funday. Monday is Monday. It's Monday, Monday, Monday.
(00:28):
I don't I mean, that's how we all feel. I think,
I don't know. I feel like you and Mark are
people who are like, Monday, let's go, let's let's change
the world and get things done, because Monday's the start
of the week, and so Monday is when you set
the tone and you just bust it out because you're
gonna have a great week ahead. Although I will say
this Monday'm feeling kind of like that. Yeah, I was
(00:50):
gonna say, you just I tried to make it fun
Monday Funday and you poopoo that quick. So yeah, feels nice.
No contradicting. Oh well, I try. I'm like trying to
get I try to get it up most of the time.
I say, of the time on Mondays, I'm flying high,
But this Monday, I'm not flying so high. Okay, Well
(01:12):
that's fine. Not every day has to be flying high. Exactly.
In fact, I'm about start of my period, so I am.
I would not say I'm flying high. I would say
I'm flying low. Your period, I would say I'm hovering,
I'm flying It does my period of your period doesn't
have you, tony of My period absolutely slows me down mentally, physically, emotionally,
(01:38):
and any other way it could slow me down. It
slows me down. Don't let it take the power back.
You have the power over the period. I have to
deal with this. Let me be. Let me Actually, Saturday
is like um hang on Saturday is a period day,
National Period Awareness Day. As if I didn't know, and
already have balloons and flowers ordered for me. Yeah, yeah,
(02:02):
October eight, Baby, there's a day for everything. It's not
a period, it's an exclamation point. Exactly. That's beautiful menstruating.
We're telling you. Wouldn't you argue that if she eats
the right things and treats herself the right way during
the different stages of her mental cycles, she wouldn't be
(02:22):
slowed down. Yes, And I was actually having this conversation
with Ricky Lake because she was at this period event
that I was at last week. That up that made
me just drop, just gonna drop it like a top.
That was kind of a life moment meeting her, honestly.
But she we were talking about how like it is
crazy how because she made this um her first film
that she made. It was a documentary about home birth
(02:44):
and just kind of like getting the power back and
like with all of this stuff like childbirth and all
these things that we just kind of go along with
what everybody does and says, when like in reality, if
you really do the work in the research, you can
kind of like take the power back and like figure
out your own body. And like really liesing and and
figuring out your own body is like such like a cool,
(03:04):
empowering feeling. Me and Rickey Lake, you know, just pioneers,
pioneers in the period world. Yeah, I don't know. To me,
like having to learn all that and do all the
work of like knowing what I'm supposed to eat when
I'm supposed to eat, it is like a lot of
(03:25):
headspace that I don't want to to take up. So
it is a lot of headspace. Yeah, there's a lot
of space being taken up in this head. Let me
tell you this weekend, what didn't I do this week?
She was she was living the flare nostrils, which was
(03:47):
also part of last week's podcast. I hope Crystal doesn't
zoom in on those right right then because they got
quarter size. Those are a huge, were huge. Don't bother
me because I am living. Yeah, there's honestly can't remember.
I feel like this week, I feel like between our
(04:09):
San Francisco trip and then we went to Vegas for
my heart, I feel like it's been like a lot
going on. Um, but I feel like the this next
few weeks, I'm kind of just like chilling, which is
a nice place to be. You know, I'm gonna start
making my almond milk again, getting back into my routine. Great.
What about you? Oh, well, what did what did I do?
(04:30):
Instead of what didn't I do? What did I do?
I literally have no idea? Um, I went to in
and Out twice. I literally I'm continue the conversation with
something else because like I cannot remember what. Oh, yesterday
we went We went to like a bunch of open houses,
(04:51):
which was really fun because we went to you guys
looking for homes. Haley is looking for a house, but
more to Samantha anyways, where we were like, let's just
go to open houses. We were going to like these
really expensive homes and just like, oh yeah, so what
about this part of the house. And that is actually
(05:13):
it was fun. I was like, this could be a
Sunday thing because I would love to just go into
open houses like this. Um, so that was really fun
yesterday in an unexpected way. And that's really it. We
kind of had a low key weekend. He's been working
like NonStop. So um, Saturday, shoot, we went and she
got her ears pierced. Four ear piercings at one time.
(05:35):
I want to get my ears pierced, but it really
just sets me back because I can't sleep right and
you know me when I'm not sleeping, and it's not good. No,
not good. So they're gonna put a pin in the
getting my ears pierced. But you know what, I did
realize this weekend, So we we made our October goals
and actually we did it a few days before October one,
which I felt very good about because it was like,
we're kind of getting on top of our October goals.
(05:56):
But I'm very over the like this notion of like
I need to lose five pounds constantly, like do you
know what I mean? It's always like I gotta lose weight,
I gotta tighten up, I gotta do this, I gotta
do that. It's like, I'm over this narrative. I'm over it.
I don't need to do it. I just need to
love my body the way she is, every curve, every
(06:19):
little dimple, every little piece of cellulite, and like, live
my life, enjoy it. I've been enjoying my life, and
I'm over this narrative. I want to treat my body right,
but I don't need to be a certain thing. I
don't need And like I used to do this all
the time when I was single. I'd be like, oh,
I just want to lose a little weight or like
tone up and then I'll really start dating again. I'm like,
how like lame that I let that hinder me in
(06:40):
my dating life, you know what I mean? Like I
have to do lose this to no more. I'm over it.
None of my goals are losing weight. Zero. Are there
other health related goals though? Is it? I want to
be stronger, I want to be faster, I want to
be in better, I want to be more fit. Um
one of them is I really want to figure my
Hashimoto situation. So I have a doctor's appointment. This what
(07:04):
what what what is this? Now? No, hashimotos is like
a disease, like a thyroid disease. Yeah, oh you have
a you have a hashimoto. My doctor said, I have it.
But I haven't gone to actually really gone to specials.
Haven't really Like I'm sorry. I thought there's like another like, um,
you know, like your love language, your Oh no, no,
(07:25):
this is like an actual thing. Yeah, I thought it's
a hashimoto. I thought it was one of those no no,
But they do say that like a lot of things
that you eat and the way that you like live
your life, like you should really need to get like
eight hours of sleep and stuff like that, and so
I really want to, like this month dive into that
and kind of like focus on So that is health related,
but it's not like weight related. I think it's okay.
(07:46):
Like sometimes I think we go so far in the
other direction of like I need to love every part
of my body, the cellulite and everything, and it's like
I don't think we have to love it, but I
do think we there's a way of like going that's
not my favorite part of my body, but it's okay.
And I love my body because it takes care of me.
(08:07):
Like I don't think it's like like for me personally.
I know it's not realistic for me to be like
I need to love every imperfection on me, but I
can accept every imperfection and not need to have to
change every single thing about me like one of Paltrow.
You know, I accept just like her. But my whole
thing is like being able to look at myself and
(08:27):
not immediately just notice the negative things, be able to
like appreciate the things that I like about myself, and
and the things that I appreciate, and then be able
to be like and maybe that's not my favorite thing,
but I don't have to change it, or I don't
need to, like laser and focus on it and have
to change it, because I think it's just natural to
(08:51):
to look at ourselves and have things that maybe we're
not like obsessed with about our bodies and stuff. I'm
over it. Over the narrative. It's like everyone my my
TikTok algorithm too, is like I want to lose some
quick five pounds, do this move, and I'm like, no,
I don't want to anymore. I don't want this narrative anymore.
I save all of them and then never go back
(09:12):
and look at them. They're simply saved, and I'll take that.
I'll take that tip, and I'll incorporate that move into
my like workouts, because I like to work out and
I just like to get my body moving and stuff.
But I'm like, I'm over this. You need to do this,
you need to do this to like be summer ready,
Like I'm over it. Thing. I do a lot. I'll
save the workout things or the diet tips I see
(09:35):
on on TikTok, and then when I finally go back
to do it, I'll look at the comments and it's
just flooded with people going, this doesn't work, this will
only hurt you. This guy doesn't know what he's talking about.
Like the comments are actually the most intriguing part of
TikTok for me, because that's where I really find I
get my knowledge about something. And I also will save
(09:56):
like all these recipes, like I have these amazing recipes, say,
ordered Chinese last night, Chinese? Uh, what else do we
we um? I will say I'm having a lot of
fun with Robbie in his car because he got this
Bronco and it's like a it's like an adult lego.
Like he spent the weekend taking the doors off, and look,
(10:19):
it's so fun. You just like and like the doors
come off so you're in like a real life Indiana
Jones car and like takes the panels off the roof
every other day and put them back on. And it's
like he's having so much fun, like working on this car.
Does he have to work on it? Because it's not
work on it, but like taking the doors off, putting
the doors back, putting the top off, top back on,
you know, like installing the stairs. I have to say,
(10:41):
I'm I'm proud of you for having fun with it
because I feel like you would be like encouraging you
all to wear like helmets and stuff in there. Oh yeah,
I do. I'm a little concerned about the safety aspect
of it. But the doors come back on. He does
it for like, you know, the day when it's sunny
and then the doors come back on. It's not like
permanently like that, but it is fun. Like I'm seeing
him in these like you know Facebook groups like Broncos,
(11:03):
Bronco Bros or whatever. I don't even know what it is.
It's so funny. I'm like, this is probably what it's
like for him, like when a Taylor Swift album comes out,
you know what I mean, talking with my friends about
it and like it's probably very similar vibes. Yeah, yeah,
y'all are just like, are you in Facebook groups about
Taylor Swift? No, but like I don't know, scrubbing in
Facebook group can kind of be like that sometimes. I
(11:24):
love the scrubbing in Facebook group. By the way, this
is like he's so happy that he's in it now.
He's like this is the best thing. He's like, you
guys were right, this is the best thing. It's a
really good time. Yeah. Yeah, it keeps me inspired and entertained. Sure,
that's where he showed me. He was like, did you
see mind you? Everybody sent me that crushal stass TikTok
(11:44):
about her like listening to the morning show. So I've
seen it like a hundred times. And the next day
he goes, hey, am I just sent you this Cryshell
girls and TikTok. Did you do you know who she is?
And I was like, yes, I saw this like a
her time yesterday. Where did he goes? Somebody posted in
the Facebook group, I'm like, but you know, when it
(12:07):
makes a Facebook group serious business, serious business that was
scared by her TikTok. I was like, um, don't hate me. No,
I don't think she was, you know, coming to you.
I don't think it was a personal attack. I think
she was just saying, like people take things out of
context and always run with them. But if you read
that quote from him and you said and then it
says that this that that they that she fast forwards
(12:29):
his HBO shows when she's mad at him, you also
too would have an opinion like that seems like she
was responding to his quote rather than she was to you.
Yeah something. But also aside from I don't I think
what she cleared it up that she like would like
she was watching the same show and he was like,
what the heck you like messed up where I was
(12:50):
on the show. But um, you know everyone does weird
things after a breakup. So even if she did do
stuff like that, it's like, listen, sure, fine, but not
when you're in another relationship. Does that what the whole
thing was? Well, yeah, if you're like if I were
dating somebody, like if I were in a relationship with
somebody and they were still like doing this stuff with
(13:11):
their ex. It would kind of piss me off. I'd
be like, why are you doing that? If they were
watching a show and they're account to mess with somebody
else's like Netflix killing friends though, that would piss you off.
I didn't say me. I'm saying they're all friends. Yeah,
and they all seem very like friendly and like open.
You know, it doesn't feel like tense or like nasty.
(13:34):
But that was China's point in the report, to which
Chrissell didn't respond to. Is I think you said in
that report that this is a sign that you still
have feelings for that person if you're still wasting time
doing stuff like this. Yeah, Oh, I don't think so.
I think they're friends and they've been working together more
like they worked together and they've been friends more than
they dated, longer than they dated. Okay, what that's fine.
(13:57):
I just think it's weird if you're in a new
relationship to do stuff like I mean, clearly she didn't
do it so like at the end of the day,
like it was, it is what it is. But if
let's take that out of it, Like, if you are
doing that and you're in a new relationship, like you're
let's say you're like messing with Roberts like Netflix or whatever.
You don't think that's disrespectful to Haley. Yeah, I didn't
say I would do it. I said that I think
(14:18):
if that was the case with them, which it isn't,
should clear the air. They're all friendly and open, So
I think it just depends on the situation. You and
I would not handle that well you did, it would
be a bad sign. That's saying yeah, yeah, regardless. It
was funny. And someone sends it to me because I'm,
you know, friends with Cris and I was like, oh, yeah,
(14:46):
send her our best. Yeah, I'm a crush fan. So
I was like, I'll send this to Tanya and tell
her she can't believe everything she reads. Well, no, because
Becca said it to me and I panicked that I like,
I misquoted somebody, do you know what I mean? Like
that's where my head when it's like I messed up
my report. So I was like panicking, and I was like, no,
(15:07):
I swear like I don't. I only use direct quotes
in those reports, Like I don't really go off gossip,
Like I don't do my reports off gossip for the
most part. Well I she was like, yeah. She was like,
I am lazy in the sense that I haven't logged
out of that TV because we don't use that TV much.
But I'm not petty. And I was like lazy, sure,
(15:31):
petty not so much. So that was the conversation. Well, yeah,
but he didn't. I will say he was misleading in
his quote because he made it seem yeah, like when
they fight, that's what she does. Now, that's a scary
thing because we do this morning show and there's lots
of people listening in celebrities that we talk about are listening,
and sometimes they don't love what we said, and so
(15:52):
that can be a real issue. And so people like
Ryan and before him, Rick Dives, they get kind of
gunshy sometimes because they'll get remember this long long time ago,
got confronted at a some restaurant or something by Kevin
Costner some some celebrity videos to something bad about like hey,
I heard you tell the air that's not cool man,
And after that it was no more so everybody talk
on the radio. He got so spooked by that. So
(16:15):
it happens, and you've got to be a little bit careful.
And we know that some of these people listen, but
we don't do the gossipy stuff. We just kind of say,
here's the story out there, and here's the conversation. You
can kind of make out of it. Yeah, I mean,
we get it. I'm so scary. I'm scared to have
an opinion on anything. You can't have an opinion on anything, well,
you can, because it's you're putting scare allowed to like
(16:35):
have an opinion about saying scary to talk about it.
And saw that she was talking about you on TikTok, yeah,
because I was like, yeah, oh no, I literally like
I got her from just Jared. It was on a carpet,
like because I think that you text me I was
in therapy, which is like the worst thing because I'm
like supposed to be in therapy focusing on like myself
(16:56):
and my her phone just like totally off when it
wasn't on my phone because I I do my therapy
on Zoom and so my text messages and I can
ignore them, like I'm not reading my text messages. But
like when you were like Crishell posted something, I was like,
oh no, I started spiraling, So I'm like I can't
see it. You know, I'm in the middle of therapy,
and then my mind's just like retracing where I got
the story from. And I was like, no, this is legit,
(17:18):
Like what did what happened? And then I saw it.
I was like, Okay, I mean you're You're not someone
who's like out to get anybody. So I think I
think you're good, but I want to make sure like
i'm you know us quotes. Yeah, you should go and
do not disturb for therapy my computer. I've never I've
never done how to do on my computer. Well, now
(17:39):
do you have an Apple computer? Now, when you go
on do not disturb on one, it goes to both,
it goes to all your devices. But I do not
disturbs only on at nighttime. You can put it on.
Oh you talk it on and off? Wow, let me
mess around that toggle. You should. You should look at
the settings your phone. There's a lot of cool things.
(18:00):
I'm going to toggle that toggle. By the way, look
at my new screensaver. It's Harry Styles. But Harry Styles
is your block screen? Yeah? There he is? Is that controversial?
I don't know another man to feel about that about
(18:20):
And Harry that's he says, that's the one thing that
he ever has gotten jealous about and now that instead
of Sonny on your lock screen, if he did that,
if he had another woman on his lock screen, the
absolute yeah, or like a hot girl in his background,
(18:40):
Tanya rad I guarantee you he's not going to care.
But maybe I should change it. I think you should
change it too, all right, fair enough. I just changed
it because Sam sent me this photo and I was like, wow,
that is it's like just like a gorgeous lock screen.
It's like just like kind of like chic, you know,
it's like chic girl vibes. I think that's you could
say it and look at it if you want to
(19:01):
feel inspired by that. But this is like, this is
the vibe I'm going for for our new rebrand of
scrubbing in photo shooting. Yeah, we're taking new photos soon,
so we're just you know, spitballing some ideas. I was
going with the scrubs, but you know, Becca thinks we
should be elevated. Well, I think there's a way to
do the scrubs elevated. I just maybe think it's like
(19:23):
just something different and like chic but still cohesive and
still brand our brand, you know. Yeah, So we're just
thinking some ideas, spitballing some ideas. We have a good
month before we have to do it, so and if
I know us, we'll be panicking the day before trying
to figure out what we're gonna wear. I hate that
(19:43):
about us. I hated it too. I don't know. We
gotta change it. Um, you want to talk about the
Hailey Biber interview and call her daddy? I did just
because I feel so like, okay, and not like I
feel bad for celebrities and it up, but I do
feel bad for her because it's just like she's been
married now for four years and she just like can't.
Let's talk about it when we come back for a break. Okay,
(20:20):
we are back, And yeah, I honestly agree with the
fact that Haley is still Hailey Bieber's still having to
answer questions about it's leaning on this. Yeah, Like I
like them both all obviously, I'm actually a fan of
both of them. I am too, But I'm just like
I feel and I go and I think about Alexander Cooper.
(20:41):
People her friends to call her alex I new they
started following her Instagram. She really got that follow for
me today because I was like putting myself in her shoes,
and I'm like, obviously she it's not a bad job
because it got some tons of pressed. I was everywhere
like that. Her podcast was like on everybody's everybody was
talking about it. But I'm like, if I put myself
in her shoes, would I go there with Haley Bieber?
(21:03):
Absolutely not, because I just feel like there's a certain
point where it's just like she's been married, now she's
in this relationship, Like at what point is she going
to have to stop defending her relationship or like living
in the past. Well, maybe maybe this was it. Maybe
she was like, I'm gonna do this massive podcast. I mean,
(21:23):
call her Daddy is huge, and that's going to be
the last I talked about it. Put it to rest
now and I'll see or is it going to open
the door to for more? I think they're all I mean,
I think Selena even did Alive and was basically like,
can you all just stop? Like if you're supporting me
and my company Rare, which is literally about kind words
(21:44):
and how we treat people. You can't turn around and
be hateful to towards somebody else, So you cannot get
classier than Selena Gomez like that is just she literally
just rises above, Like she didn't need to come out
and do that live after, you know what I mean,
Like she could have just stayed under the radar, not
said a word, you know what I mean. And she
(22:05):
comes out and she's just like, stop being mean. Where's Justin?
Why isn't he doing that? Why isn't he defending Haley.
He's probably tired of it too, He's probably just like, yeah,
but the girls having to rise above everything, well, thank
god the girls are have each other's backs. Ye, Devil's advocate.
Isn't this part of the territory when you married Justin Bieber? Like,
(22:28):
there's a lot of upside and there's a lot of downside. Right,
he's one of the most famous people in the world.
You're gonna have to deal with stuff like this. Yeah,
But I would say the downside is just like having
everybody like in your business. Yeah, that's what this is.
And I'm just thinking it's a part of the territory.
I just don't not many other celebrities deal with what
(22:49):
they've dealt with on this level though, of like a
relationship being done for however many years and then still
having to talk about it and rehash it. Yeah, it's painful.
It would just be like I'd be exhausted. If I
were her, I'd be like, I'm tired. I wouldn't do
I honestly would be such a recluse. Like I admire
the fact that she just like does her thing, goes
(23:10):
on a podcast. It's like here, here you go, and
then lives her life regardless of how hard and exhausting
must be. I'd be tired. I'd be like, Mama's trip
somewhere and then sunny snuggle because this is annoying. And
(23:32):
just like how many years has been Now they've been
married for four, so I imagine like four Wow, yes,
pretty good. Anyways, I think I think they're both very classy,
and I think that the way they've handled it has
been as gracious as you can in their situations. Totally yeah, um,
(23:57):
but I agree. I think alex Cooper asked a hard questions,
and as someone who like in her position like that,
I I have to say I admire what she does
and it's why she's probably one of the most successful
podcasts in the world because she almost goes to that
uncomfortable place that it's hard to get to, but you know,
(24:19):
what we could be there too. We could be there too,
but if we had a Haley Bibron, we could evoke
some like thoughtful and inciting and invigorating conversations with her
that don't have to deal with another woman and her husband.
I'm just throwing it out there, but that's what people
(24:40):
tune in like. That is why it went viral and
why I was talking about you hit the nail on
the head. What that we feed the beast, and the
beast is being fed, but the beast needs to eat
from bad things. The beast likes bad food. The beast
likes bad food, like the negativity the beast is it
(25:00):
just it just feeds off the negativity and the drama
and the and we just feed the beast. We do
feed the beast. Let's starve the beast. Well, then entertainment's
out the door. Unfortunately, that's not It's what people I
listen to podcast that I'm not feeding the beast. I do.
(25:24):
Are you saying, oh, you're just talking about podcast in general.
I'm talking about her daddy. Yeah, I'm calling for oct No,
I'm not calling for a boycott, but I just I
think that I just think that we're different it doesn't
make us any any less than you know. Well, I
(25:45):
also I think that I I think also giving someone
a platform because realistically, if you think about it, Haley
Bieber has a whole team who is like paying attention
to what questions are being asked, and she's answering them
and if they didn't like something, I want to get released.
She has a lot of people looking out for her
(26:06):
in that way. So if she wanted that platform, then
there there was a lot of yesses that had to
be checked for her to do that podcast. So if
someone is going on a podcast that is known for
asking the hard questions, then technically they're expecting for that
to be a topic of conversation. True. But you know
(26:28):
what I also realized too, and it made me think
about our podcast. Those chairs that she has, it's like
just like an inviting space space, you know, like we're
talking to people on their computers. I think we need
a chair. I think we need a guest chair. She
was clearly very comfortable and really not focused on the
(26:49):
fact that she was on a podcast, because it feels
like she's in someone's living room. Yeah, Like her legs
were up, She's like chilling, like like you and I like,
we can get into conversations and we could just talk
for hours about like lord knows what like. So, but
what about our guests. We talked to our guests over zoom,
So how are they in a chair? We gotta get
him in. Let's create into your chair. Yeah, who cares.
(27:11):
I got the parking. I got a nice parking situation here.
Just pull right up to my apartment. Doors open. Let's
stop by the fridge and grab yourself a bevy and
just head on up to the to the studio room.
They like show up to do the podcast and they're like,
am I at the right spot? You can put a
nice cozy chair over there. I mean, I think it's time.
(27:32):
Five years in, I think it's time we get a chair.
What if we got a studio like a studio space
and we're like sitting in it about it being your home,
that doesn't make it as a homie inviting for a
guest who's never met you before. I think my home
(27:56):
is rather But I'm saying like for some on who
has never met you to come in and feel comfortable,
it's not like a it's not like a space created
like an office where they just go in and they're like, okay,
this is this is their podcast, you know. Yeah, well
let's do it in here. Okay, that'll be our next
(28:18):
thing after our photo shoot. We have a lot of
us were what she say or she didn't say remodel.
She just said get a chair, an inviting chair, and
a mic set up in front of said chair. To
really just yes, you guys, this is so weird. I
would be like I think, I think not knowing us
(28:39):
and coming into her home and having to go through
her kitchen and living room and then up the stairs
is like not comfortable. I wouldn't feel comfortable. I would
be like, hey, I'm in this random person's home. We
can have hon Kom station her dumb stairs in my
(29:01):
pink chairs, so it's like not like a home, Like
she can be there and let's not make Hannity that
in my living room it's so cozy down there. Um,
it's something to talk about having a studio. I think
talking about having a studio in biting space changes the moon.
(29:22):
That's true. I agree with that. Yeah, the computer, a
comfy chair in the suede rock, sitting on the swede rock.
I gotta keep you awake, young, young, chicken. I'm just
I'm not a young chicken. I'm feeling old as hell today. Really,
let's talk about it. It's just my period. I'm just
(29:43):
my period makes me into a person. I don't like
an all morning. I've had to remind myself that it's
my period, it's not me, it's not real, because I've
had to just talk myself off of a ledge. You
know what's funny, I don't feel like myself either, and
I think it's my nails. Okay, well, guess what, tom
you go change your nails. All you have to do,
(30:04):
take off the polish, change the color. You'll be feeling good.
I unfortunately don't have that luxury. Okay, so might will
go away, probably by tomorrow or the next day. And
I just keep reminding myself of that. It is so weird,
what our periods, what our hormones due to our brains.
It's weird. It's also it's also think about think about
(30:27):
your period, like we just bleed, like we're bleeding every month,
like bleeding out of our bodies, and we just that's
just we're just that's just what we do. It's like
we just carry on with the day. We're just profusely
bleeding out of our resignas, and like it's a thing,
Like it's just such a weird thing to think about.
So you know, I mean, the guy was bleeding out
(30:48):
of his finger a week, he'd be like crying at
home all day. He just like suck it up and
we just like live our lives. It was so funny
when Haley was getting her ears pierce. The guy that
was piercing doing the piercing, he was, oh yeah, he
was like the people who pass out the most from
like seeing the needle or men. He was like, men
can't even watch their girlfriends or wives get pierced because
(31:10):
they have to sit down and they're going to pass off.
I have to give them like lollipops. Yeah. I'm like,
just don't get me started, just bleeding, just bleeding out.
All right, Well, we definitely know that what we do
tell me has let everybody know what happens to our
(31:30):
bodies while we're going through that, which is bleeding. I
haven't even started my free bleeding era, but that might happen,
so just watch out for that. Is that what is
the realizing sticking things up there is just I don't
know about it, right, now like tampons and yeah, Mark,
(31:51):
you know that squeamish face you're making right now, That's
why I talked about my period incessantly. That's why. Okay,
so I want to. I want to. There's like a
free bleeding people talk about their free bleeding eras where
they basically just like freely bleed. They either were like
period underwear or paths and they just free bleed. And
(32:12):
it's like really empowering. Apparently. I don't know why, but
I haven't tried it, so I'm wanna try it. I
I guess I look forward to hearing about that experience
for you. I'll let you know when I try it. Why.
I don't know, No, why why do you like? What's
(32:34):
the why not have some protection? Um? It's like unnatural
things up there with chemicals, things up there up there.
I don't know. Apparently it's empowering. I don't know why.
I just think that we do a lot of things,
(32:56):
Like I think you would do a lot of things
that are unnatural to like your bodies, like chewing like
xylotol gum sure, or like even bleaching your hair. Like
I think there's just things that we do for like
our beauty regime that aren't natural, but we do them
because they're available to us in modern in this modern world,
in society that we're in. No, I know, don't get
(33:17):
me started, because remember I had that whole thing about
like my that's why my nails are different, because I
was like, I having my nails haven't seen the light
of day in decades, and I'm like, that can't be good. Yeah,
we were getting stood and Tony goes, oh, my nails
look pretty healthy. I think I'm just gonna get polished
and not get acrylics put on, and she's she asked
the lady. She's like, are they healthy? And the ladies
(33:38):
just straight up like, no, they're not very much. Noty Okay.
I was having a good day and now I'm back
down here. Um, so yeah, I I I hear you
about the free bleeding. And also it's okay if you
want to contain you know, it's all okay, it's all good,
(34:01):
it's all good, it's all what you want to do,
but you know what I want to experience it all
all right, Well, we can't wait to hear about that.
We're gonna take another break and we'll be back with emails.
(34:23):
All right, we are back Mark, take it away, all right,
begga thank you. And this is from Shannie. It's a
little long, I'm gonna trim it down, but she says.
I've been dating my boyfriend a little over three years.
He's my first serious relationship. But I went into it
wanting to date seriously with marriage in mind, something we've
discussed and be on the same page about. He started
(34:43):
off this relationship strong, planning dates, surprising me, making me
happy all around. I'm still happy, but he doesn't really
plan dates anymore, or really do anything surprising. He never
brings me flowers or a dessert or anything like that.
I've asked him about it. He says he knows he's
he'd like to be a little more romantic, hasn't done
anything about it yet. Couples get comfortable. I realized that,
and a lot of effort is made early in the
(35:05):
relationship and it fades away. But we're close to an
engagement here and I feel like I'm still making the
effort and I surprised it with little gifts. He makes
me happy, and I do feel like he'll always take
care of me. But is this lack of effort a problem?
He's mentioned he's found a ring, and it's very sure
that I'm the one. Thank you for your help. I
(35:26):
don't think I personally don't think it's a deal breaker.
I think it's a conversation of like, hey, I want
to feel those same I want the same effort that
you put in. You know, I don't need flowers every
time we go on a date or every single day,
but just like little things here and there that let
me know that you're making the effort because I still
feel like I put in the same effort, and I
(35:47):
don't want it to feel one sided or get resentful.
But I don't know that it's a deal breaker. I
just think it's a conversation. And then if he's not
willing to meet you, then that's a bigger conversation. I
have to talk with me. He said, Like, I see
what you're saying, and I acknowledge that I would like
to be better, I'd like to be more romantic, but
he's still not doing anything about it. And now she's
(36:07):
worried that she's gonna He's never he's not going to
make her a priority even when they're married. Yeah, maybe
there's a conversation of like, hey, I know we've talked
about an engagement in the ring, but I want to
see effort from you before I commit to something like that,
Like I need to see that this is going to
be something that you're able to meet me halfway on
(36:30):
and not just be one sided forever, because I don't
want that. I also think too, that relationships kind of
evan flow, you know what I mean. Like it's not
you're not going to have that high intensity romance like
you do all the time, but I do think it
ebbs and flows, like I think it might go down
for a little bit and then it will come back,
and I think life happens and stuff happens, and like
(36:51):
not that you lose that connection, but like sometimes I think,
like you know, we actually were talking about this the
other day, like Robby and I haven't spent a loane
time just the two of us in a few weeks,
and you don't don't realize it because you're always like
with friends and people and work stuff, and you know,
you don't realize that you aren't together just the two
of you ever intentionally. And so it's like I think
(37:13):
that relationships kind of go in these things go in
these phases and i'd say, I mean, she did say
that she is taking her like rolling it seriously and
she's like doing these nice things for him and stuff.
So I think that is also a big like kind
of showing him the way that you want to be
treated um. But also it's like you can't change somebody,
(37:33):
So it's like if he's not, you can't force him
to to be a certain way. They force him to
be the way that you want him to be. Maybe
maybe there's an idea where like you do what Robbie
Antonia do, where you make goals for the month and
it's like, hey, we have to date nights, or we
you know, you do something and surprise me, or you
plan something and it just it's planned, but you it's
(37:57):
like a goal for that month without the press sure
of like feeling like you have to be naggy, because
I don't think you're being nagging wanting something in return,
But I do think that it might get to a
point where he feels that way and then push him away.
But I don't know. I'm with Tony in this, like
(38:18):
I don't think I don't think you commit to an
engagement or say yes to proposal if you're not seeing
progress in an area that's really important to you. It
sounds to me like she's all in on this guy.
I mean, that's the vibe I get from the email
is that I'm going to marry this guy. But should
I be concerned about this? And I think I think
it's thick little hints and stuff like that, and I
think it'll come back. I like the idea of you
(38:40):
saying to him, Hey, I Saturday night, should we go
do something? He said yeah, and then you could say
to him, Okay, here's what I would love. Could you
plan the whole thing start to finish. I would love
to not even be involved in the planning process and
just do you do the whole thing? And he might
he might respond well to that. I don't know that
he's gonna respond well to comming up with his goals
for the month, but I think he might respond to
planning a date night for you guys, And maybe that's enough.
(39:01):
Maybe if he plans a date a month or something,
maybe that's enough to kind of see him putting some
effort forth. And I don't think he'll take much on
his part for you to be happy. I will say,
though Robbie was not a fan. I don't want to
say not a fan. He wasn't like gung ho on
the goal setting when we first started doing it, and
now I think he's like kind of into it, you
(39:21):
know what I mean. Like, I think he's seen the
progress and seen things like move along as we've made
like goals and stuff. So I think now he's like
likes it more so I wouldn't poopoo it so much,
so quick mark, Yeah, alright. This is from anonymous. Anonymous
says I've been with my current boyfriend close to three years.
(39:42):
He's perfect and everything I've ever dreamed of. I know
he's the person I'm going to marry. Ever since we've
been talking about marriage, though, I've been having thoughts of
my ex. He was my best friend and we decided
to be together. It was a messy relationship, not always
the healthiest. He hurt me many times over the years,
but as my first love. Why am I still thinking
of him? It's impossible for me to know what he's
(40:05):
doing since he has no social media. I'm now nervous
that I'm not with the right person. I'm confused and torn.
Please help. Mm hmm, that's interesting. This feels bad. I
don't think so, but yeah, I was gonna say, I
think maybe as you're getting closer to seeing a future
with this person, you're looking back on your first love
(40:27):
and you're comparing something you're you're in a place of
security and stability and seeing like future plans with someone,
and you're there was probably something in you that was
in this like unhealthy, messy relationship with your first love
that felt invigorating, and um, I don't know, like sometimes
(40:50):
that toxic feeling is like highs and lows, and you're
remembering the highs of it. And I think if you
sit down and and look at your situation and you
realize you're with the right person, Like even in this email,
you immediately said, this is the man I'm going to
marry that's competent or perfect dreamed of. I think your
(41:11):
first love is just your first love. You know. I
don't know that you you'll never forget your first love,
but I don't think that you're thinking about it remembering
it makes your current love less than And also I
think it's a normal symptom of cold feet, which is
normal to happen as you're getting close to committing to
(41:33):
one person for the rest of your life. You're going
to get some some jitter, some cold feet, and this
is the kind of one of those symptoms. I think
you're fine. I think this will pass. Tanya's eyes are
like saucers right now, her nostrils. The nostrils are flair
because she says, why am I still thinking of him?
(41:53):
It's also impossible for me to know what he is
doing since he's I'm now nervous that I am not
with the right person. I'm so confused and torn. Confused
and torn are not just flip it. I'm thinking about
my act confused and torn. Please help? So what's your advice?
(42:16):
I don't know. This is to me. This is alarming,
Like if this were me, Like, I don't know, I
don't think about my first love ever, Like I haven't
thought about that guy in like years. Didn't we have
him on the radio show? Well that's a guy I
made out with. Yeah, my first kiss. That's very different
than your first love. Um, nor do I care what
(42:38):
he's doing? You know what I mean? So I think
that if you're feeling this way and you want to
check in on him, and you're feeling confused and torn,
I don't know, that's coming from a place of like
questioning your relationship a little bit. No, but it was
a bad relationship. It was messy, not the healthiest. He
(42:59):
hurt me many times over the years. I think this
is normal. I think it's just kind of a you're
getting nervous about marrying somebody. I get it. I think
it's fine. I do. I think you'll get through this.
You'd be very happy you did. I think maybe you
write down the things that you're thinking about and like
romanticizing about your first love, and write down the things
(43:20):
that made it messy and unhealthy and toxic, and then
like burn it or something. I think just writing it
down and getting those feelings out would really help your
because I think you have a lot of thoughts going
on just based on the different thoughts in this short email.
And I think just like like reminding yourself why it
didn't work with that person, why it was never going
(43:41):
to work, and why it's not healthy or wasn't healthy
would be very therapeutic for you. Yeah, that's a good callege,
just getting the thoughts on paper there out, Yeah, and
burn and then email us after that if you're still
burned onto the ground, Oh man, And that's tough. Mm hmm, Well,
(44:06):
relationships are hard. They're hard. They're not easy, They're hard,
and the you know, people are complex, we are we
are complex. People are flawed. We are flawed. We have
a lot of feelings and past experiences. One of the
(44:27):
feelings I'm having is excitement because we have a Lease
Myers on the podcast this Thursday, and I am so
excited and I love her and I can't wait for
you all to hear it. I can't be back with
the Thursday episode we have and how do we haven't
had a Thursday in a minute and we haven't secta
will be back without her period panties. Yes, I don't
(44:47):
have period panties. I met metaphorically. Okay, okay the food
you're in today? Yeah yeah, yeah, alright, well we will.
I also like it that it's not metaphorically like that
those exist now. They do exist. Yes, yes, we have
those now. So everyone, hope you have a wonderful week,
and we'll be back Thursday and we love you all.
(45:09):
See Thursday. Bye.
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