Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley Teaser 2

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing in with Beca Tilly and I Heart Radio podcast. Okay,
so I want to talk about something that has happened
to me a few times recently that I have noticed
that friends have unfollowed me on social media. Um. It's
not that I have an app that tells me when
this happens. I just happened to randomly go to their

(00:21):
page and see, let's see if they're still following me,
and I've realized that they haven't. Um. You know, it
was a friend that I was really close with and
we um were at one point in my life, very
very close. And I have a lot of friends that,
you know, I would say that we are really close
at one point in time, and just as time has
gone on, you drift apart. Whether you don't live in

(00:43):
the same city or you're doing different things, your life's
going in different directions. And I've never thought that there
was anything bad enough to happen with a lot of
these people that it was enough for them to not
want to see my face on social media app. But
I have always wondered what's the motive for it. I
totally get in breakups when someone unfollows them because they're

(01:05):
trying to move on, and seeing that person's face or
seeing what they're doing is hurtful. But in a friendship,
I've wondered, what is the point or why would you
have to do that unless unless you had like a
blow up fight and it was very obvious. I was
totally oblivious to the situation. I think that's what made
my made it hurt my feeling so much, was because

(01:25):
I thought, what did I do to deserve the ultimate
punishment of being unfollowed? It hurts, and it makes me
feel like I'm in middle school, because why does that
pain feel so familiar. It's like, you know, I remember
being in fifth grade and I had my friend Sydney

(01:46):
and Leslie, And when Sydney and Leslie would have slumber
parties without me, it hurt my feelings because they didn't
invite me. And when I would have a slumber party
with Sydney and Leslie wasn't invited, Leslie's feelings got hurt.
It's all those same feelings, but just on a social
media app that's actually not real all the time. So

(02:07):
it's an interesting move because people make up stories based
on what they see in photos when they haven't really
spent time with that person or even had a conversation
with them in a while and decide that they don't
like it anymore. All right, so we are going to
talk to Emily from Maryland. Hi. Emily, Hi, how are
you good? How are you? I'm great? Um, let's get

(02:29):
down to business. So what what happened? Tell me more? Yeah, So, um,
my friend and I were having like a conversation on Twitter. Um. Well,
I mean, you know, you know how friends are in college,
like everyone's your friends total. It's the same in the
bachelor world. I get it. Yeah, so everyone's your friend.
We're having a conversation one night, um on Twitter and

(02:49):
just you know, to come back and forth. And then
I went back to you know, you always have to
tell your best friend. You're like, oh, I have this
great conversation and telling her like go to the profile
and of course the guys that makes like twenty times worse.
And um, so like follows you think is like not
there anymore? You know how it's like you follow each other. Um.

(03:15):
And it was like super awkward, um because you know,
we're just vibeing, having a good time. Um. And then
all of a sudden, I'm like showing my friend She's like, wait,
he doesn't even follow you, Like that's so weird, and
I'm private on Twitter. I'm a teacher. Oh wait, so wait,
so this guy is the person you are having the

(03:36):
good conversation with back and forth on Twitter. Yeah, and
he didn't follow you after he like unfollowed me after
the conversation. He unfollowed you. Yeah. Oh that's so awkward,
isn't it. So it was like, I mean since then,

(03:56):
we've like other and like, I'm one of those people
where I'm super awkward and I'll just bring it up
to your face. So I was like, yeah, you know,
like the subject came up that was similar to one.
I was like, yeah, I remember we had this great
conversation about it. Well, I'm not really sure if you do,
because you're like, I'm following me on Twitter. Oh what

(04:16):
did he say? He was just like, what, I don't
Twitter that much? And I was like, oh, yeah, I'm
sure you don't because you clearly stay up on your
followers there. Wow. So he didn't even He tried to
give the excuse that he doesn't use Twitter a lot,
and You're like, it takes effort to un follow with

(04:37):
someone that doesn't happen by accident, right, yeah, exactly. Well,
I'm sorry that happen, but you know what, I'm glad
we could talk about it and relate to it. Thank
you so much for calling in. Yeah definitely. I mean
you're like my favorite and I smiledge like your favorite.
You and Jojo? Oh well, thank you so much. Maybe
Jojo will be on here one day. All right, we'll

(04:59):
have to go on you two. Thanks. All right, now
we have is it Cassia in Pennsylvania? Cassia, Hello, I
I'm great. How are you. I'm good. I'm excited to
talk to you. I'm so excited to talk to you.
Thank you so much for calling in. Oh sure, Um, so,
what's the story here? Who I'm followed you? Well? Um,

(05:22):
it was on Facebook, so he unbefriended me. But UM,
I had been in a pretty serious relationship with someone
for about six months. Um. I hadn't met his family
or anything, but we hung out every night, and I
thought that we were gonna end up being official. So
we went to the beach and we've gotten I guess,

(05:46):
kind of an argument at the bar of the one night. Um,
we had just been drinking and I don't even really
remember what it was about. So I ended up leaving
the beach a day early with my friends, and when
I got home, I got on spoke to the creep arounds,
and I noticed that we weren't friends anymore. He just

(06:06):
unfriended to you and yeah, and so a couple of
days later he texted me about that. We didn't talk
for like a couple of days. He was at the beach,
and then he texted me and asked me a question,
but um, I forget what it was, but I was
feeling petty, and I said, oh, well, I just made
a Facebook post about that. If you want to know
the answer, be it there. And so he was like, oh,

(06:30):
come one. His reasoning was he said that he went
to another bar the next night and he ran into
somebody who he used to know from work, and she
tagged him on Facebook and he said that he didn't
want me to see that, but we were done after that.
Oh yeah, he seems shady, And I don't think that's petty. List.

(06:52):
I thought that was a genius that you called him out.
That's what I would do, So I don't think that's
petty at all. I don't know if my ex and
I don't even think we're I'll just say Robert because
most people know we I don't even think we're friends
on Facebook, so we never ran into that. I think
I followed his like public page, but that was the

(07:14):
seriousness of that. Um. But that is that's yeah. I
mean I think you. I think he did you a
favor on that one. Oh. I know, because you know
this feeling, it's like such a stucker punch when you
didn't get on your phone and you see it. It's
like your stomach drop stops, and it's just like really,
like this is this is how he's going to tell me.

(07:35):
It's it's like being invited. It's like everyone you know
being invited to a party and you're not getting the invite.
It's that same feeling. Oh my god. Yes, and it's
so immature, like we're grown people. We don't need to
be like that. We could easily he could have called
me and said, hey, I went out with somebody else.
You know, it would have been fine. Well, thank you
so much for calling in. I'm glad you're not with

(07:57):
that guy. I hope you're with someone better now. Oh
I am I'm getting married next to I love a
happy ending. A happy ending. Well, congratulations, thanks for calling in,
thank you for talking to me. Of course. Scrubbing In
with Becca Tilly and I Heart Radio podcast