September 1, 2020 • 58 mins
There’s still a lot of mystery surrounding Becca and Tanya’s significant others so we let the Scrubbers take control.
We find out what caught Red Star’s eye on Tanya’s Hinge profile and 95P reveals how it felt when Becca took back an “I love you”!
Plus, Becca has a serious fangirl moment when she talks to THE coach Monica from “Cheer”!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing in with that Atilly and Tanya rad and I
Heart Radio and two time People's Choice Award winning podcast.
That was a thrill. We never hear the intro because
we haven't had it. No, that is the mojo I
needed today. Let me tell you, that is what I
needed in my life. It's Monday, another Monday with you
(00:24):
beautiful people. How's everyone doing. I'm about to get my period?
Mm hm, so so great, just wonderful over here, gassie
and bloated and tired. Just another Monday, Just another mendic Monday,
(00:44):
Eastern Easterns in the studio right now, behind the gold
mic that Mark has always sat at, and it just
there's something really comforting about seeing this someone behind the
gold mic. It feels good. It feels good to come
in here and do some work for another show, and
it's it's nice to be back in here. I haven't
(01:05):
been in here in weeks. But I'm like, just looking
at it makes me like salivated the mouth. That's intense. Mark,
do you feel jealous? I don't know if I'm jealous.
I don't love being there because that's work, but um,
I'm jealous that everyone's on mic except me. I'm on
my voice memo. That's a little jealousy. Why are we not?
(01:26):
Why hasn't anyone gotten you a professional last a few times?
But I'm way way down the list of priorities. But like,
getting you a micro I mean, getting you a microphone
doesn't seem that hard. Well apparently it is. That's weird. Um. Yeah,
on something that we can we maybe we can all
pitch in and get you a little mic from Amazon.
(01:48):
I feel like the one that Becca is using isn't
very high quality, but it's a mine, right right. Um,
So last week we did the podcast and so for
like an hour hour to hours or something, I stared
at something in your tooth. No, but not only that,
not only do we do a full one to our podcast.
And we went upstairs. You looked at my new office,
(02:10):
We like shot the shoot around, we uh like chit chatted.
So you're here for like a whole hour after that,
so three hours total. Yeah, And I have to be honest,
I kept going to say like, hey, there's something in
your teeth, But then a conversation with start and I'd
be like, okay, I'll tell her when we're done. And
(02:31):
there for some reason, I just never got around to
telling me, so I had to find out that I
had this giant thing in my tooth from Instagram. People
were d m ng me saying, I think you have
something large and you're stuck in your tooth. And I
literally was like, I have been with Becca for the
past three hours and she didn't say anything to me.
And then I was reading all my d m s
(02:52):
from that and people were like, that's such a nine
angiogram thing to do. I tell you, it's so funny
because I'm the person I'll meet someone for the first
time or something and if they have something in their
nose or in their teeth, I tell them. So I
don't know why that day, it just I think I
was on my period that day. I feel a little frisky.
I don't want to help his sister out. It was
(03:14):
so huge. It was like this giant cheese seed. But
the actually, the even more alarming part of that was
that I have cheesa seeds in my breakfast, so my
oat mill right, I had seen Red Star that day too,
so he must have seen this giant cheese seed in
my tooth too well. So we're both just we let
you down. But the thing that I think I felt
(03:35):
in the most confusion in is so you recorded an
Instagram story looking at yourself and you really like I
record things all the time. I don't look at myself.
I just record them and post it. No, we all
look at it ourselves and go like that's that, ain't it?
Or is that something? There's something like recording like a
(03:55):
long thing. Like I was like talking to people. I'm
sorry because one time I went to this event and
I had a big piece of like parsley or something
in my teeth and no one told me. And I
was just like chit chatting around, going around the table
saying hated him for people. Not one person told me.
So I know the feeling, and I apologize. I'd like
to hate having things in my teeth. It's like one
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of my major major um what's the word not fears
but no, yeah, like I'm always looking at my teeth
like them to be clean and pristine. Yeah, clean and
pristine is what you want. So and at least she
didn't leave the house. I was close to what I
was going to meet you for dinner, and that night
(04:38):
we actually had so much fun. We went and had
dinner and drinks with Kaitlin and Bristow because she just
got in town for Dancing of the Stars and it
was such a fun like girls night and the dinner
was amazing. You know, nothing makes me happier than like
that situation. Oral time, Oral time, yummy food. Rose. I
(04:59):
think I drank four days in a row. Like my
new thing in quarantine is just like drinking, Like yeah,
like I've never drank more in my entire life. And
I think I had come off of all weekend. I
had been drinking all weekend and then that was a Monday,
and I'm not going to drink today. And then show
up to dinner and there's a bottle of rose and
I was like, here we go. That rose was so
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good but it made me feel like. I got home
and nine was like, are you high? I was like, no,
I drink rose. And then Caitlin said that Jason thought
she was high too, and then yeah, I'm ready to party. Yeah.
I was like, I want to come back meet you
guys again. Yeah, no, no, we were. We were. It
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was fun like lights um. So this week we had
told you all that we were going to do a
questionnaire with our significant others, so we chose Mark correct
me if I'm wrong. But we chose the questions that
our listeners asked, right, Yes, these are all from listeners,
and I know who sent each one of them, and so, uh,
why don't you guys you can read the read each
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one and then I'll tell you what your significant other
responded with. Maybe you can predict what they were going
to say if you're nervous to hear what they're going
to say. Yeah, I have a bone to pick with
one person. I need to go back through and find
I have a bone to pick because I'm so scared
to hear his response. Oh that's the last one, I believe, right, Yeah,
(06:25):
well I want to save that. Don't give it away.
That was last for a reason. So no, we're not
gonna get to Kelly Hudgens. I'm gonna have a bone
to pick with you. Well, we'll have to get to
that one today then, because we're gonna do some this
week and some next week. Yeah, we're gonna divvy them
up because it just feels like too much, like I
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don't know if I can handle I don't know if
I can handle it all at once. All right, who's
going to go first? So Mark, you're gonna pick which
one's right. I don't know, So you're going to read
the question and then Mark's going to read the answer
the question for a moment. Okay, do you would you
like me to go from bottom to top? From top
to bottom? But we'll get that one in today. Do
(07:09):
you like how we don't know how things go like
bottom to top? Basic? Yeah, just basic rules of life. Okay,
start with Andy beck Elliott. Thank you, Andy beck Elliott.
What was your first impression of Tanya's hinge profile? Did
you know that? Did you know who she was before
you met? What was your first impression of Red stars
change profile? Um? My first impression was that, um, he
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had like, um, what I look for in a girl,
and the paragraph he wrote in that was like so me,
Like it literally described me to a t and so
I was like very interested in that aspect. And then
he made some joke about like dairy and I don't
eat dairy either, so I was like, oh, he's like
me um, And then he was really cute. And then
(07:53):
I remember he had like one like it wasn't a
bathing suit photo, it wasn't laying on a lounge. Yeah,
but it wasn't like douche, you know what I mean,
Like it was it wasn't douche in my opinion, Like
it was like him on a beach, uh, like just
being in a bathing suit. It was like him on
a lounge chair, like a candid shot. Yeah, it looked
like somebody else took it and he just put it
on there. And I saw the bob and was like
(08:15):
me out, Okay, well here's his first impression of your
Hinge profile. I thought. I thought she was beautiful for sure,
but mostly I was corrected to her positive energy that
clearly came through even on her profile. I didn't know
anything about her other than that she worked for I
Heart until a few hours before our first date when
I googled her and saw all the videos about former boyfriends,
(08:36):
et cetera. Made for interesting first date discussion. L O
L it's true, what did you see you in the snowboarder? No? No,
um my bio on hinge just at I heeart media.
So I didn't really say like what I did. But
then right before we were going to meet, um, I
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was like I said, texting him, and I was like,
I'm kind of nervous. I'd like stranger, danger and so
he sends me his Instagram, by the way, and which
is private, so I was like, this does nothing for me,
Thanks for the info, um, And then he started starts
sending me videos from the morning show. One of them
was like dr W and then the other one was, um,
(09:20):
I can't remember what the second one was, but one
of them was like the end of dr W. So
it was like, it's kind of sad. Um. And he goes,
we have a lot to talk about tonight, and I
was like, oh, but we didn't talk about it that much. Yeah,
many many years ago, Tiny went on a date with
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a snowboarder and we brought our cameras along. So if
you're board, look that up because that's fun. Honestly, that
was so fun because I've never been less interested in
a man like I was initially wanted to go out
with him, and then when I went out, when I
was on the date, I was like, this guy is
not a match for me at all. So it's actually
quite entertaining. I don't think I've seen that. He drove
(10:04):
up on what was one of those things called snowmobile. No,
like a vest butt or not a vest, but what
was that thing? Is it a scooter like like I
was like a bird, but before birds were like thing
whoa and the like like big wheels with two big
wheels And I was like, oh, and he was wearing
a hoodie. Yeah yeah, yeah, I thought those were only
(10:28):
like a big cities on tours. Yeah, babe, this guy
rolled up when a segue or funny? I have to
watch that. Alright, Becca, what is your first question here?
My first question is did you watch Becca on The Bachelor?
If so, what did you think about her? Then? Pro
to Angela hopgood for that question. Um, this is so
(10:52):
funny because we got in a huge well should I
let you read the response before I talk about it? Sure,
that's fine, okay, all right. I didn't want her to
know I had seen her on the show because I
didn't want her to think I was some weirdo. But yes,
definitely watched, and all I really remember is that she
was extremely charming, likable to all everyone on the show
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and the people watching really loved her, and she was
of course beautiful, So we gotten I remember this Actually nice,
that was a very nice response. Um, we did get
into a fight because, um ever, having seen my season
and then I found out that that was a lie,
(11:36):
and I just felt like, why lie about that? Because
to me, it wasn't like I mean, I was on
the I'm one of so many that have been on
the Bachelor, and everyone watches the Bachelor, so it was
not like a there was no reason. So then I
started questioningly because there anything else but are lying about? See?
I understand that a little bit because maybe, like I
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don't know, you want to get to know somebody in
your relationship, not like something that you see on television.
So I don't know. I feel like it was a
way of just being like, it's a clean slate. I
want to get to know you for you. But if
I already knew, I don't know. The denial of seeing
my season is where I was like when I knew
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that other seasons had been watched, I just it was like,
so I was just kind of like, Okay, what a
stupid thing to lie about. What are you lying about
anything else? It's dumb. I could see that correlation and
I would probably do the same. That wasn't a nice
response of redemption for today's answer. Yeah, alright, Tanya, give
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us the next question here, it's quickie. This one was
from Savannah Bowerman, What was your opening line? Slash your
bio on hinge meaning his does he remember? He does
because you and you actually referred to it early year today.
Oh about the what? What about like what he wants
(13:05):
in a girl? Oh that was his opening line? Well,
he said he took it as your bio. I think
I don't know, but he responded with dairy is for
baby cows, and you were drawn to that somehow. You
were drawn to that somehow. I was curious to see
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if he said who made the first move, because that's
something that we still argue about because in my mind
he made the first move because he is the first
one that wrote to me. In his mind, I made
the first move because I liked his photo. But you
have to mutually like somebody, so like you both have to.
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He's saying, you're swiping right. Is a is making the
first move? No, because you swipe right, you both mapped
or whatever, and then you can go in and like
like photos. So I liked one of his photos. So
he says, that's the first man. But he sent the
first message. Correct, I think he made the first move.
I think so too, Yeah, because nothing would have happened
(14:15):
if you all just kept liking each other shots. Yeah,
it's really the great debate. I think it's pretty settled. Surprisingly,
I think we just settled it alright, Becca, Okay. My
next question is from Chelsea Simon and it says, what
do you think of the percentage? Becca game? Do you agree?
(14:36):
And do you like that it has become your nickname
for the show? Oh wait, I am so excited about
this answer and he answer Mark, Yeah, no, No, these
answers are all very good. In fact, we talked about
one was too good and we're not going to read it. Uh,
this one is to be honest. I was a bit shocked,
but extremely relieved to know that we're on the same page.
(14:59):
I appreciate you are the number. I think it's pretty accurate.
And yes, I'm very pleased with my nickname. Ha ha. Yeah,
I mean we I've discussed this on the podcast, so
we've had the conversation together on the spot. It was
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the response. But I do love that it is the
nickname on the show. It's hilarious to me. That's my
personal that's my personal answer to the question. The nickname
is so good. Oh man, it's so good. Yeah, il
to know we're on the same day. That's not surprising
at all. Honestly, how does that make you feel? I'm
(15:48):
literally not talked at all. I feel pretty confident about
where peace dands. I just wanted to do. It's not
a hundred, I'm sure it is, but you know, I'm
the little skittish, so wow, skittish, Well, I'm saying would
(16:11):
make me skittish? Yeah, and you're but you're still and
that is defined as skittish. I feel like I established
that I'm more at like five. I think it's where
I said. Yeah, I feel like that he did. He
took it back after I'm good at taking things back. Okay,
but that was crazy because you all cannot understand the
(16:32):
pressure of answering that on the spot, knowing that the
fight that could be caused based on this number, and
on the spot I went with the higher option to
save myself. And then I found out that eighty five
would have been an acceptable answer too. So I do
have to say, I mean, but I give you a
(16:53):
little bit of credit because when we did the podcast
in Palm Springs and Red Star was literally just like
sitting right there on the couch next to us, and
I'm getting questions like, is he the one? I was like, Oh,
it's different when they're staring into your soul. Yeah, it's
different because it's like they could always listen, which is
(17:13):
whatever then, but yeah, but it's different when you actually
see them listening. That brings us beautifully to this next question. Tanya, okay, standby, okay,
this is Alison Elizabeth. Oh, when was the first time
you actually heard that Tanya was in love with you?
(17:34):
I think I know the answer. Did you want to
predict it? I think it was on the radio when
we were in the car driving back from Santa Monica.
I like fully remember it because we were listening to
Kiss Them at like seven pm. Lo and behold, Tanya
didn't know that. Like we play best of clips from
the morning show on whatever he listens to, and there's
(17:56):
a player playing like a ninety minute segment of us
talking about me. But it wasn't ninety minutes. It just
felt like it. I'm not sorry, I felt like ninety
minutes because I heard it and I remember the conversation
because it was when I realized I was in love
with him, but I hadn't told him, and so I
hear it and I just start like talking just like
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I wasn't even probably me. I was like, because we
just had a picnic. I was like, should we go
get dessert? Do you want to get dessert? Maybe we
can find some dairy dairy free ice cream. As a
man lewin right here, it's really close, like I'm just
like spitting out words to try and cover up like
what's happening on the radio. But I think that he
definitely heard it because we hear Sisney come in. I could.
I talked as long as I could, and then I
(18:39):
hear Sisney come in with I mean, I only met
him once, and I'm falling for him. I was like, well,
here is his response. The question is when was the
first time you actually heard Tanya was in love with you?
And he says randomly on the radio while driving in
my car, and then again when we were in the
car together and she tried to talk over it slightly awkward,
(19:03):
l O L. I need imagine that little I didn't
tell me that is so funny talks red right now
because from when I said it on the air till
(19:23):
when I said it in real life was literally probably
like a month and a half. Spante yeah, and like
every morning I felt like you were asked again, like
again and again on the podcast in the show, like
have you told him? Have you told him? God, that
is so funny. He heard it by himself and then
he heard it again and you were trying to talk
(19:44):
over it, but he had already heard it. And he's
such a little like he always says that he listens,
but his commute to word, like his commute from his
house to his office is so quick that he like,
here's maybe like ten minutes of the show. It's all
needs to hear. I gotta figure out what time. That
is so funny, alright, beck A Question number three. My
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next one is from Stephanie Howe, and the question is
is there anything you don't know about Becca that you
haven't asked but you want to know? This isn't I'm
interested to hear the answer to this. Well, the answer
is I'm pretty forward with everything, which forces Becca to
communicate with me. So I feel like if there was
something bothering me, I wouldn't hesitate. It's true, I was
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gonna I was gonna be surprised if there was anything
any like anything that we don't know about each other already. Really, yes,
not one thing you cannot even understand how uncomfortable I've
been the past two years of being forced to communicate
my feelings in this relationship. It's so uncomfortable for me,
(20:52):
but it's been so good. Like I was thinking, I
think I shared this with you. I look back on
my relationship with Robert, and it's so interesting the difference.
And I think the significant difference is the challenge of
me being forced to communicate my feelings, which I never
really had because you know, Robert didn't want to encroach
on me or like scare me, so he just let
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me be. And in this relationship I don't is like, no,
we're figuring it out right now, which is great, but
also just not my natural UM way of handling things.
See that's how I am. Like, if I have a thought,
I know I communicated almost too much, and I'm like, wow,
(21:35):
the amount of communication being had over here. No, but
that's the thing is that, um, I'm an under communicator
and is like an over communicator. See, I'm an over
communicator and Red Star is a I can'd say average communicator. Okay,
I'm not under communicator. I'm not over but like fair
(21:58):
talks a lot but does not feelings you mean her
emotions got it? All right, Let's go to Tanya. All right,
so we are gonna do Bryn Koger. Bryn Koger, Oh,
do you wish Tanya shared less about you on the podcast?
Have you ever thought about something she has shared? Do
you know the answer? I'd say you would probably say yes,
(22:21):
less about him on the podcast. Um, but and then
have you ever thought about something she has shared? I
don't think so. And here's the response. We've never thought
about anything specifically. But publicity has been something we've discussed
openly and honestly from the very beginning of our relationship.
I'm a very private person, and on top of that,
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I have kids, so I wanted and I still want
to be very intentional about what and how things are publicized.
On the other hand, Tanya is very public, especially about
her relationships, dating, etcetera, which I love and admire about
her in her career. So it's a balance that we
are trying to reach together. I also truly appreciate all
of your respect for our privacy. It's actually very accurate.
(23:08):
He's well, here's the thing that's so interesting is like
he is, he's very private, and um, it's not that
he's private because like I don't understand that, you know
what I mean, Like I'm like, why do you care?
And it's not that I think he's private because he
wants to like not be public. I think it's just
(23:30):
like he just that's how his life has been. He
hasn't really been does that make sense. So it's almost
just like it's not something that has come naturally to
him or come to him in a sense. So it's
like it's been I've been trying to communicate to him
that it's I try to like bigger picture it and
I'm like, it's not as scary as you think, you
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know what I mean, And like, especially when it comes
to social media, I think a lot of people get
nervous that people are going to be mean or like
negative or reach out and just be you know, mean,
And I like try to always show him like the
messages that I get and how positive and real encouraging
and like beautiful this community is um And so it
(24:12):
has it's been like this like fine dance of we
have to just like overly communicate because he also respects
what I do and like he loves it, you know,
I mean, he came to the live show and like
saw it in real life, and he has a lot
of respect for like my passion and my drive and
what and what comes naturally to me. So it's like,
I think we have to we overly communicate everything because
(24:36):
it's like uncharted territory, you know what I mean. And
so I mean, I think we've been doing a good
job alright, So I think what we'll do on this
because we're gonna save half of them for next week
and we have an even even well, I have one more, yeah,
(24:57):
one more, Rebecca, and then Tanya will do the one
you teased the earlier. Okay, okay, um. So this one's
from Shelby Johnson and the question is how did you
feel when Becca took back her I love you after
she first said it. I can imagine that didn't feel great.
But I came back within like a week and said it.
(25:19):
So I am curious to hear the response. Well it's
the response starts with a big laugh. Ha ha. That's
good that that eases things. I was very confused, to
be honest at first, but then I understood because she
wanted to say it on her own terms instead of
echoing me. Then I think she said it like a
week after or something, so we weren't too far off.
(25:40):
Ha ha, It's true. I said it and then panicked
because I was like, oh my gosh, I've never said
that before, and it was so soon into our relationship
that I felt like there's no way I should be
saying this so soon. Panicked and then um, I think
it literally was like a week or weekend half like
that would be the worst week ever for me, because yeah,
(26:05):
but I was very open about like, I've never said
this before, and I think my feelings are there, but
I want to make sure that I'm saying it at
my own time and not just because I feel pressure
because you said it. So I think it was understood
where I was coming from, and it wasn't so much
like I don't see myself getting there anytime soon. It
(26:26):
was just kind of like, I I need to do
this on my own terms without the pressure of saying
it back. When did you say at a Red Star
end of May? And as he said it to you, yeah,
he has I think this is new information, but it
wasn't like it's not really like a fun story because
(26:48):
we were like kind of in a fight. I love it.
It's kind of like a rom com. You know, you're
in a fight and it's like I love you, okay. Yeah.
It was like kind of like one of the yeah,
and then you're like, that's the first said yeah. And
I was like, and this isn't I wanted to hear it,
you know what I mean? But um, yes, he did
say it back. And the thing that I love about
(27:09):
it or I mean, I don't obviously whatever it happened,
the way that happened. But he's not one of those
people like I'm one of those people that say, like
whenever Beck and I hang up the phone, like I'm like,
I love you, Like I just say it, like I
spew it out like candy. I love saying it to people.
He's very intentional, Like he doesn't say it every night
now before we go to sleep, or you know what
I mean. Like he'll say it like randomly, we were
(27:32):
out to dinner and we're just I'm just talking to something.
He'll just like say it and it means so much more,
just like I love you and you're like you're the
sweet well yeah, because it just comes out of nowhere,
do you know what I mean. I don't know how
to explain it, but it's it's nice because you know
(27:53):
he's really meaning it when he says yeah, it's not
just like he doesn't spew it out like candy. Because
you said, Tobecca, oh, that would have been the worst
week ever for me. Well, you had months. I did.
I had months. But it's not like he said it
and then took it back. That's so different. It was
like and that those months were hard for me. I
(28:15):
was gonna say, I feel like even if I hadn't
said it back and just been like thank you, I
think that would have been equally as unfortunate. Yeah, I
mean it wasn't. It wasn't not hard, um, but it
was like I think if you said it and then
(28:37):
took it back, I would have been like, yeah, that
it stung a little deeper. Honestly. It was just like
I wanted to look out for myself and make sure
I was, you know, doing it all my time and
not feeling pressured to say it back just because it
was said to me, right, And I think that's what
(28:57):
I tried to do in my situation, Like I was like,
I don't want him to say it be just because
I said it, So I was just trying to play cool,
losey goosey, when in reality, I was like, what's happening here?
You're like anything anything you want to tell me today.
But you know what's funny, you know what, like you
(29:18):
think it's coming, like we're like having something like a
super romantic night, and then you're like, I like predicted
that he was gonna do it was like your birthday. Yeah, yeah,
I think I really say you up. That wasn't even
the only time. There were like other times where I
was like, oh, I think, like I think, I think,
(29:39):
I just feel it, like and here's the thing too,
I felt it from him for a lot longer before,
so I always felt it. But I was like, oh,
I think it's coming. I think it's coming, and then
it didn't happen, and I was like maybe tomorrow. Um, okay,
So Tony was gonna read one more question, Kelly Hudgens. Yeah,
(30:00):
I'm so scared to hear. Okay, So, Kelly Hudgens, this
is the question, have you ever heard Tanya fart on FaceTime?
Should we leave this as a tease for next week?
I'm fine with that, you know, I love my teasers.
I need to know. I'm stressed. I think, I think
I like this as a t I can't see him
tonight and not know what if we get Monica from
(30:22):
Cheron and then we do an email and then at
the very end of the episode, I reveal the answer. Okay,
that's fair, that's teasy enough for me. Um, I just
want you all to know. So I have been a
massive fan of coach Monica since chair came out, Like
I just think she's amazing, and I was so excited
(30:44):
to have her on the podcast Tanya. This was the
same day she had her pelvic floor but just missed
some big ones. I was busy, but um, I just
love her and my wife I went out right before
we were supposed to start, and I was so stressed
out because I thought I was not going to get
the opportunity to talk to her because she had like
interviews back to back and she's just the best. So
(31:06):
I hope you all enjoyed this interview. I tried to.
I was like fan girling. I was trying to ask
questions from the scrubbing in group too, so it was
a little chaotic because I was so excited but enjoying
this interne Alright, so we have a very exciting guest today. Um,
(31:40):
I have been a fan since it's like the beginning
of Quarantine. We have coach Monica here, and I just
want to say, when I found out that you followed
me on Instagram, it was like a highlight of my life.
And I followed you for a long time. Well I
went to look, you know, when did he here come out?
(32:01):
Was that in March January? Oh okay, wow, time doesn't
exist anymore. No. Um, when I went to look at
your page and it said follow back, I guessed. I
was like, you guys will not believe that. Um, but
(32:22):
I feel like life has just been an absolute whirlwind
for you. I would imagine it has. It's been, um
really crazy. I mean, had we not had the pandemic. Um,
I mean that was the only thing that slowed us down,
you know, and we're I'm used to fast pace. That's
what we do basically year round. It's we go, go go.
(32:42):
We have a thousand things we're doing. Um. But added
to that, you know the show coming out and the
success we were just you know, barely hanging a line
before the pandificate. Well, I was gonna say, because I
feel like there's a lot of shows that come out
on Netflix and then you they have a season, you
(33:03):
don't really hear about them, and then they're gone, And
yours couldn't have been more opposite. I mean, cheer was
every single person, and it happened. It kept rolling out
like a new wave of people would be watching it
all of a sudden, So it wasn't like it had
one moment and then people stopped talking. People are still
talking about it, and like you said, it's been out
(33:23):
since January. It's just kind of it has to be
one of those things because you get asked to do
a show on Netflix and you have no idea which
direction it's gonna go. Absolutely, and especially because it's about cheerleading. UM,
you know, we were just hoping that the cheerleading community
would watch it. We we really had no thought that um,
(33:43):
a really large audience would watch it, just because a
lot of people have stereotypes about cheerleading and I didn't
think that they would even be interested in and you know,
checking it out. But it literally was UM as soon
as it came out that day, you know, I was
my email, my d ms just exploded with people who
(34:04):
had binged watched it, and we were just all kind
of blown away. Well, there was something about I mean,
there's something about you that I feel like everyone just
it's the same thing as me sing that you followed me.
It was like this little like approval of coach Monica,
you know. And it's just funny because you're so humble,
(34:24):
you're so down to earth, you're a hard worker, You've
been doing this for so long, and it's like this
whole the whole world kind of fell in love with
you and this team and it's such a special It
really was just such a special show, like how you
connected with a lot of these kids who may not
have the support at home or you know, we're struggling
with school. It was just it was there was there's
(34:47):
just something about you that feels that like comforting, that
safe feeling. You're like the Southern Bell, but in the
best way. Well thank you. That's so sweet. Um. I
was gonna fan Girl for a little bit longer, but
I know we're short on time, and I wanted to.
I we have a very loyal and active Facebook group
for the podcast, and who wanted to ask some of
(35:11):
their questions because everyone I had over a hundred comments
of people wanting to ask you questions on the post
that I just posted, so, um, I wanted to get
to some of those. This is actually one of mine.
What was who was the coolest most shocking celebrity like
that you had a fan girl moment that when they
fan girl tover you Uh you know, it's it's really
(35:35):
strange because, like I said, since we weren't expecting this
really uh like when we anytime we saw anyone tweet
about it, we were all of us. We're kind of
fan girling. Um. You know when Chrissy Teagan you know,
was stretching and show did some throwback pictures and when
she cheered, um, and Reese witherspent just so many people
(35:58):
that you know, we've kind of uh followed and watched forever. Um,
you I was excited to you. Um Honestly, I think
the whole world saw me go crazy over j J.
What but that was us such a the Today's Show.
I'm just really pretty wonderful memories this This has been
(36:19):
a crazy, crazy experience. Has there been any um like
downsides to the excitement, because I know, you know, what
we all see is just like it's fun and you're
getting to do all this cool stuff. Has there been
any any moments where you're like, oh wow, I kind
of miss when I wasn't known around the world. Um, well,
(36:39):
you know, I mean yes, definitely, Um, things got weird.
You know, we had to cover the windows at the
gym that we practice in because people were video and
through the windows. We have people coming by to college
pretty much every day, Um, you know, looking for us
or just taking pictures, which is pretty cool, but um,
you know, I mean I've gotten some negative things and
(37:00):
you may have experienced experienced this as well. Being on
a reality show. Um, I was just surprised at how
many people, not not that it was a lot, but
just the some of the things people said that we're
you know, so far from who I am. Um, you know,
the d m s that were negative, or you know,
(37:21):
I've had some weird things happen as far as people
showing up that we're a little you know, just odd,
that we're a little scary. Um. So, I mean, you know,
and then just you know, I don't I think that's
the biggest downside, just that the comments, the negative stuff,
and I really honestly try not to read them because
(37:41):
I take everything very personal and you know, I want
to do better. If someone's you know, thinks a certain way,
I'm like, oh no, you don't even think that that
I would ever do something like that, you know. So
I've just tried to really just like just take the positive.
I know, I always telp because you know it, it
is weird when you have so much love flooding in
and then there's those few negative ones, and for some
(38:04):
reason we always hold onto those instead of all the love,
we like focus on the negative, and it's like we
feel this need to please these people who for some
reason don't like us based on this like tiny you
know show of like however many hours they've seen of
your life. It's like, I'm more than what you saw
on this Netflix show. Yeah, and then the way you
(38:26):
interpreted some things, you know, I'm like, I don't know
how you got that out of it. But okay, well
what's happening right now with the pandemic and like, are
y'all able to practice right now? Or what's happening? Well,
you know, we had a pretty devastating end to our
season because we were supposed to compete in April and
we were very you know, we were only a few
weeks away from competing. We had put a lot of
(38:48):
time into practice and UM had done a ton of
full out. We were really you know, I mean we
could have competed. We weren't, you know, obviously want to
clean some stuff up, but we were doing really well.
And everything happened so fast, like literally within four days,
we went from having this amazing last spring break practice
(39:09):
two the whole world kind of falling apart, and then
within those four days our our season was canceled, and
so it just hit us really fast, and we really
didn't get to prepare to tell each other goodbye or
I mean, you know, or anything. We just met again
and turned in uniforms and just had basically a cryfest. Um.
I have not had practice with a team or anything
(39:31):
since then. We were supposed to go to camp in
July with the new team, and that got canceled. So
they actually are moving in today. We have our first
tomorrow and our first practice next week. Wow. So what
are I mean are they making are they requiring you
to do certain things for the guidelines or how does
(39:51):
that work? Because I feel like there's a lot of
contact in Oh absolutely, yeah, I mean obviously things will
not look the same at all. All of our sports
got moved to the spring, so we're not even gonna
have any sports to cheer for right now. Uh, we're
gonna have them in two separate groups and then smaller
groups within the two separate groups to start off, and
(40:13):
we'll do you know, um, we'll have masks and stuff
within those small groups. But um, you know, we're just
grateful that we can even come back. So you know,
it's a small sacrifice to you know, practice this way
for a bigger picture later on. So you know, we're
just grateful for what for being able to come back, period.
(40:34):
So we're just gonna push through these weird times and
they being able to all be together or not being
able to come and practice like we normally would. But
you know, hopefully by the hopefully sooner than later, we'll
get there. I know, I know. It's like everyone's just
happy to have any sense of normalcy. Is like, we're
(40:56):
grateful for any capacity. What is your family, like, I
know you have kids and your husband. What if they
thought about all of this, Um, I mean they they've
been you know, excited, I mean kind of the same
as me, just kind of shocked at how it all
went down and everything happened so fast. They were you know,
(41:17):
every time something a new opportunity would come up, We're
all just kind of in disbelief, like, oh wow, I'm
flying to l A right now, and now I'm going
to New York. Now I'm doing an interview with this
person or that person is So it's just all, you know,
not a world that we're used to, but we're all,
you know, just enjoying it. So I know, I remember,
(41:40):
even just the short time I was on The Bachelor,
my family was like, this is the weirdest right. Um. Okay.
So one of the other questions that I liked was, um,
would you go on Dancing with the Stars if you
were approached? Um, that's a good question. I don't know.
(42:03):
I got I got the privilege of going to their
live show back in the spring before the pandemic kits,
so I got to meet val and and a lot
of the cast members and they were so nice, and uh,
it would definitely be completely out of my comfort zone.
But you know, I'm always up for any challenge. All right,
good to know, ABC. Did you hear that? Um? Um,
(42:28):
someone Crystal Lynn said if you could pick one person
that you were most proud of from the show as
far as how far they came during and after the show.
Who would it be, Oh goodness, well, I mean all
of the kids, but you know, probably someone like la
Darius he um. He and I have, uh, you know,
(42:48):
we have kind of a special bond because we're both
so hardheaded and we just kind of do this at
all times with each other. But he has come so far,
um just growing um and you know, really working on
himself to kind of overcome some of those past um
demons that he had, you know, that he was kind
(43:09):
of dealing with. And UM, I've just really really enjoyed
watching the growth that he has had and really you know,
letting go of that past and being able to um,
you know, work towards his future. And you know, he
graduated this year. He's just got so much going for him.
He's a really he's the most fun person to be around.
(43:30):
I love I mean, I felt like every single person,
I felt myself rooting for them. You know. I feel
like a lot of times when you have a cast
with so many different personalities, you kind of go, I
don't you know, I'm really rooting for this person. I
don't really like this person. I don't connect with them,
and I felt like there was something about every person
on the show where I felt like I wanted them
to do their best and I wanted them to succeed
(43:52):
and be able to do all their routines. Absolutely, and
you know that. I mean, that's just really truly who
they are there. And that was why one of the
reasons I was open to doing the show, because I'm
actually kind of a very private person. I like to
kind of stand to the back and whatnot, so this
was once again very much out of my comfort him.
But um, you know, I just felt like the kids
(44:13):
that come through this program are very special. Just the
work ethic that they have, the determination, the athleticism, you know,
it's something that a lot of people didn't realize that
happens in in cheerleading, and um, you know, I just
felt like it they're so special that it was worth,
you know, doing this documentary and showing the world. Yeah,
do you I know, was there supposed to be a
(44:35):
season two and then things shut down? Or is there
gonna be a season two? You know, we're just enjoying
season one and you know the ride that we're having
with season one, So yeah, I feel like that is
in non answer answer which gives me anything about UM.
(45:03):
So I have one more question than I'll let you
go because I know you you have like interviews back
to back. UM. I guess after all of this happened,
where you approached because Navar is a small school, it's
such a small community. Were you approached by bigger schools
and like bigger programs to come and coach No, I wasn't, UM.
(45:26):
I mean I had a lot of coaches reach out
to me, just um from other programs, just with the
whole women. Lots of different messages as far as just
like thank you for you know, showing the world you
know what athletes the kids really are, or just really
(45:47):
a lot of positive feedback from a bunch of different
coaches in the industry that you know, I was happy that,
you know, that they acknowledged that and that they were
happy with how it turned out. Because it's a scary
thing to do, as you well know, you don't know
how this show is gonna come. You don't know how
it's gonna turn out. You know, you're you know, you're
(46:08):
putting yourself out there in your filming, but you know,
at the end of the day, you don't know what's
gonna what the end result will be. Yeah, I mean
you just hope for the best bet it is in
your favor, right. Um. Oh wait, I have one more question.
There's a photo I think it's Morgan and she has
this it looks like a sports brawl and it says
F I O F M U and they want to
(46:30):
know what that stands for. Uh. Well, in in the
world of cheerleading, most teams have their own personal letters
that stand for something. And it's really just a team.
You have to be on the team obviously to know.
But it's um just an acronym, uh that like brings
the team together, like a unity top thing from years
(46:53):
and years past. So um just something you know, It's
just an acronym that makes us feel special and bring
our teams together from all years. Oh, I love it.
So it's almost like a it's like a sorority code
like that. Yeah. And and most your teams, you know,
and have some kind of letters that they called their own.
(47:13):
And we were surprised. It was so funny the things
that that come out, you know, like people were focused
on I mean we never mentioned that. It's just like
it was on our clothes and and stuff, and I
mean that was such a big topic of discussion on
social media. Everybody want to know people are selling clothes
with it. We're like, hold on a second, that's kind
(47:34):
of a like a the whole world gets to wear that,
you know. Yeah, everyone's like thinking that they're part of it.
So funny. Um, well, thank you. So, I mean I
could talk to you all day, but I know you're busy,
and I just love you. I think I'm just so
happy for all your success and everyone on the show
(47:57):
and hopefully moving forward to maybe another see reason. Um,
I just I think you're amazing. Thank you. I think
you're amazing too. Maybe when the pandemics ever, we can
we can hang out. Yes, when you're in l A
next time, if it's allowed, we're gonna do dinner or
something perfect. All right, thanks Monica, all right, bye bye,
(48:37):
all right, way to hold it down. I freaking love her.
I'm serious. If she comes to l A, we're going
dinner together. I appreciate you holding it down. I do
also have to say, um that I have gone to
my second peblic floor appointment, and she saw a lot
of progress in my pelvic floor. My second time around.
So all star student over here, and um, my pelvis
(49:02):
pelvic floor is getting looser by the minute. We love
to hear it. Thank you. Um We're going to do
an email and give some just great advice and wisdom,
and then we're going to get the answer to a
red star hearing if if he's ever heard tan your
part over face, which if you listen to podcast, you
know has happened. We just don't know if he heard
(49:24):
all right. This is from anonymous. She says, So, my
boyfriend and I have been dating for seven years and
recently we've been really struggling. The root of a lot
of our problems is Snapchat. I use Snapchat no more
than the next millennial to talk to my friends on
a regular basis. My boyfriend has this thing where he
looks at my Snapchat score and notices it goes up
a fair amount each day and thinks I'm snapchatting other boys.
(49:46):
I've given him the option to look at my Snapchat
and reassure him, but he doesn't want to be that boyfriend,
so he doesn't. He thinks the fact that I don't
just delete it is in considerate to his feelings, and
I care more about the app than I do him.
Obviously this isn't true. But I sold you Snapchat to
talk to my friends and I do not snapchat other guys.
What do you think I should do? This is so interesting.
(50:07):
I don't use Snapchat at all, so like, to me,
I'm like just to lead it if it's a problem.
But I know that would be like if Instagram was
a problem, and right right, I wouldn't like take Snapchat
out of it equated to something that you use regularly. Okay,
So let's say it's Instagram. Okay, but if I'm not
doing anything wrong, it's like there's just a trust I mean,
(50:29):
how do you how do you convince someone that you're
not doing anything? Like you know what I'm saying. I
don't really understand why. I guess my thing is, is
there another reason why he has a trust issue with this?
If they've been together for seven years? That was my
trigger here is like, it's not the Snapchat. There's obviously
(50:49):
something else to it, Like I love you? Was it anonymous?
I love you Anonymous? But I feel like we're not
getting the full story because if it was just the
Snapchat or whatever, I feel like he would want to
I don't know. I feel like we're missing something. I
think what you need to ask him is like, what
what is it about me or this score or whatever?
(51:11):
What like tangibly, what is it that is making you
upset or like making you question anything about me? And
then like, what can we actually do two ease that
fear or anxiety or whatever like tangibly? What can we
tangibly do? And if he says like nothing, then or
I mean I guess he is. He's saying delete it. Well, Look,
(51:33):
he has trust issues and there's a reason for either
he's been cheated on in the past, anonymous has done
something behind his back that we are not being made
aware of. Or three he just has deep seated insecurity
issues all of these or none of these, but some
of some combination of these. I think it's got to
be the issue here. So this is tough because it's
his issue to get over, it's not your issue to
(51:55):
guide him through it. You don't have to delete apps
off your phone. You don't have to only speak to
certain people, because if you do delete the snapchat, there's
going to be more stuff. He's not gonna like friends
with certain people because they're bad influencers. Or something like that,
you can't you can't give on this issue, or he's
going to take a mile. So he's got to get
over it somehow and he's got to figure that out,
or he's not the guy for you, I was gonna say,
(52:17):
Or or what if I mean sometimes you know, we
project what we're doing on to other people, Like what
if he's doing something that's sneaky and he's assuming that
that something's going on with you because of your Snapchat
score or whatever. But I agree, I think there must
there might be like an underlying issue that y'all need
to address or he needs to open up about, and
(52:38):
that way y'all can solve that. Because I agree Mark,
I think deleting Snapchat, he's going to find the insecurity
or the distrust somewhere else. Seven years to a long time.
I know, I'm confused. There's gotta be some trust issues
that he's had from either pastorallytionship or something. Yes, seven years,
(53:01):
you think he'd be in a better place with the
whole situation. Yeah, that sounds like a seven month issue.
I was reading about the the fallacy of what's it
called the fallacy? Have spent time. I think it is
isn't that when um isn't that like penis like felic
or a pallast. But no, that's not what I'm referring to.
(53:24):
It's the feeling of I should continue in this relationship
because I've spent seven years in it, and that's flawed.
Its flawed reasoning that time was already spent. So don't
that time is gone, that time's not coming back no
matter what. Are you happy now? Is this working for
you now and in the future, And that's what you
(53:44):
need to focus on. Same thing with money. While I
should keep going with this whatever it is, because I've
spent this much money on it doesn't matter that money's gone.
Deal with it now, deal with situation in hand. That's
a very good point I have. I've had a lot
of friends who have been in longer relationships where it's
kind of like, oh, the thought of starting over sounds horrible,
(54:05):
and it's like, but you have a lot of life,
Like I know that would mean too. That Like when
people are like, I wasted this many years, I'm like,
I don't think so, you wasted that. We've talked about that.
How Like I never view relationships as a waste of
time because like any any even friendships, Like, I never
consider them a waste of my time because I've grown
(54:25):
or learned something from that person that I wouldn't have
learned or grown not having them in my life at
a certain point, so I always get up like when
people are like, oh, you're wasting your time, It's like,
if you're happy and you're enjoying each other, then be together.
If you're not, don't be together. Like it's really more
simple than we make. It's called the fallacy of sunk
(54:45):
cough if anyone's interested in pon. Sometimes Becca just really
preaches the gospel. All right, here we go, ready for
his answer. Yeah, I don't. I don't know. So what
do we know? So far? We know that this it
happened while you're on FaceTime. The question is whether or
not he heard it, and so our dear friend, the listener,
(55:06):
Kelly Hudgens, scrubber extraordinaire, decided to just get to the
bottom of it and ask him. I know, because here's
the thing. So whatever his response is, okay, let's here's response. Okay,
she said, have you ever heard Tanya fart on FaceTime?
Red Star responded, L O L no, and as far
as I know, she never has. And then he put
(55:28):
a winky face cryptic that is so cryptic that winky
face has it could mean so many different means's so
many things. Do we think you hurt? What is the
(55:49):
winky face mean? Maybe the winky face is like I know,
but I'm gonna gentlemen, that's how I read it. I
was about to say, it's so anti climactic until the
winky face. Wow, I think you heard? Or yeah, So
(56:14):
now I have to have a conversation about it. Great,
that's why I want to take it up with Kelly Humphreys.
That's not what's her name, Kelly, Kelly Hudgins, Because now
it's going to be a conversation. What are you gonna say?
How do you bring? Like, I don't know. I haven't
(56:36):
talked to him. Since he can't we just leave it be.
You keep your dignity, that's what he's trying to do here.
Oh okay, so just keep being sexy. I think, allow
him to let him keep your dignity. Okay, fair enough,
No conversation to be had, And the fact that I
haven't farted in front of him is like so good.
(56:56):
I'm thrilled with the winky pace that that's exactly what
that was high that I needed. So next week we'll
finish the questions and Olivia Holt is going to be
on the show. Yeay, it's gonna be so fun. Um.
I can't wait to answer more questions. You are very
respectful about the questions that you asked and mark the
(57:18):
ones that you chose. It's like giving insight without being um,
you know, too invasive. Yeah, we were talking about that.
How nice it was the questions. It was like very
respectful to Yeah, Like I felt as though sending him
those questions, I was like, I think this might make
him feel like better, you know what I mean, saut
the whole thing. Um, okay, well we'll be back next
(57:40):
week and have a great week. Can't wait to hear
um the party happening on my street right now. I
just thought there was an earthquake. I just panics. So
I live on a busy street and cars drive by
blaring their music, so it's always fun. Never shook. I
felt like might wow. Um, anyways, we will see you
(58:03):
next week. We love you guys, and have a great day.
Love you bye. H
Scrubbing in with that Atilly and Tanya rad and I
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needed in my life. It's Monday, another Monday with you
(00:24):
beautiful people. How's everyone doing. I'm about to get my period?
Mm hm, so so great, just wonderful over here, gassie
and bloated and tired. Just another Monday, Just another mendic Monday,
(00:44):
Eastern Easterns in the studio right now, behind the gold
mic that Mark has always sat at, and it just
there's something really comforting about seeing this someone behind the
gold mic. It feels good. It feels good to come
in here and do some work for another show, and
it's it's nice to be back in here. I haven't
(01:05):
been in here in weeks. But I'm like, just looking
at it makes me like salivated the mouth. That's intense. Mark,
do you feel jealous? I don't know if I'm jealous.
I don't love being there because that's work, but um,
I'm jealous that everyone's on mic except me. I'm on
my voice memo. That's a little jealousy. Why are we not?
(01:26):
Why hasn't anyone gotten you a professional last a few times?
But I'm way way down the list of priorities. But like,
getting you a micro I mean, getting you a microphone
doesn't seem that hard. Well apparently it is. That's weird. Um. Yeah,
on something that we can we maybe we can all
pitch in and get you a little mic from Amazon.
(01:48):
I feel like the one that Becca is using isn't
very high quality, but it's a mine, right right. Um,
So last week we did the podcast and so for
like an hour hour to hours or something, I stared
at something in your tooth. No, but not only that,
not only do we do a full one to our podcast.
And we went upstairs. You looked at my new office,
(02:10):
We like shot the shoot around, we uh like chit chatted.
So you're here for like a whole hour after that,
so three hours total. Yeah, And I have to be honest,
I kept going to say like, hey, there's something in
your teeth, But then a conversation with start and I'd
be like, okay, I'll tell her when we're done. And
(02:31):
there for some reason, I just never got around to
telling me, so I had to find out that I
had this giant thing in my tooth from Instagram. People
were d m ng me saying, I think you have
something large and you're stuck in your tooth. And I
literally was like, I have been with Becca for the
past three hours and she didn't say anything to me.
And then I was reading all my d m s
(02:52):
from that and people were like, that's such a nine
angiogram thing to do. I tell you, it's so funny
because I'm the person I'll meet someone for the first
time or something and if they have something in their
nose or in their teeth, I tell them. So I
don't know why that day, it just I think I
was on my period that day. I feel a little frisky.
I don't want to help his sister out. It was
(03:14):
so huge. It was like this giant cheese seed. But
the actually, the even more alarming part of that was
that I have cheesa seeds in my breakfast, so my
oat mill right, I had seen Red Star that day too,
so he must have seen this giant cheese seed in
my tooth too well. So we're both just we let
you down. But the thing that I think I felt
(03:35):
in the most confusion in is so you recorded an
Instagram story looking at yourself and you really like I
record things all the time. I don't look at myself.
I just record them and post it. No, we all
look at it ourselves and go like that's that, ain't it?
Or is that something? There's something like recording like a
(03:55):
long thing. Like I was like talking to people. I'm
sorry because one time I went to this event and
I had a big piece of like parsley or something
in my teeth and no one told me. And I
was just like chit chatting around, going around the table
saying hated him for people. Not one person told me.
So I know the feeling, and I apologize. I'd like
to hate having things in my teeth. It's like one
(04:16):
of my major major um what's the word not fears
but no, yeah, like I'm always looking at my teeth
like them to be clean and pristine. Yeah, clean and
pristine is what you want. So and at least she
didn't leave the house. I was close to what I
was going to meet you for dinner, and that night
(04:38):
we actually had so much fun. We went and had
dinner and drinks with Kaitlin and Bristow because she just
got in town for Dancing of the Stars and it
was such a fun like girls night and the dinner
was amazing. You know, nothing makes me happier than like
that situation. Oral time, Oral time, yummy food. Rose. I
(04:59):
think I drank four days in a row. Like my
new thing in quarantine is just like drinking, Like yeah,
like I've never drank more in my entire life. And
I think I had come off of all weekend. I
had been drinking all weekend and then that was a Monday,
and I'm not going to drink today. And then show
up to dinner and there's a bottle of rose and
I was like, here we go. That rose was so
(05:20):
good but it made me feel like. I got home
and nine was like, are you high? I was like, no,
I drink rose. And then Caitlin said that Jason thought
she was high too, and then yeah, I'm ready to party. Yeah.
I was like, I want to come back meet you
guys again. Yeah, no, no, we were. We were. It
(05:42):
was fun like lights um. So this week we had
told you all that we were going to do a
questionnaire with our significant others, so we chose Mark correct
me if I'm wrong. But we chose the questions that
our listeners asked, right, Yes, these are all from listeners,
and I know who sent each one of them, and so, uh,
why don't you guys you can read the read each
(06:04):
one and then I'll tell you what your significant other
responded with. Maybe you can predict what they were going
to say if you're nervous to hear what they're going
to say. Yeah, I have a bone to pick with
one person. I need to go back through and find
I have a bone to pick because I'm so scared
to hear his response. Oh that's the last one, I believe, right, Yeah,
(06:25):
well I want to save that. Don't give it away.
That was last for a reason. So no, we're not
gonna get to Kelly Hudgens. I'm gonna have a bone
to pick with you. Well, we'll have to get to
that one today then, because we're gonna do some this
week and some next week. Yeah, we're gonna divvy them
up because it just feels like too much, like I
(06:45):
don't know if I can handle I don't know if
I can handle it all at once. All right, who's
going to go first? So Mark, you're gonna pick which
one's right. I don't know, So you're going to read
the question and then Mark's going to read the answer
the question for a moment. Okay, do you would you
like me to go from bottom to top? From top
to bottom? But we'll get that one in today. Do
(07:09):
you like how we don't know how things go like
bottom to top? Basic? Yeah, just basic rules of life. Okay,
start with Andy beck Elliott. Thank you, Andy beck Elliott.
What was your first impression of Tanya's hinge profile? Did
you know that? Did you know who she was before
you met? What was your first impression of Red stars
change profile? Um? My first impression was that, um, he
(07:31):
had like, um, what I look for in a girl,
and the paragraph he wrote in that was like so me,
Like it literally described me to a t and so
I was like very interested in that aspect. And then
he made some joke about like dairy and I don't
eat dairy either, so I was like, oh, he's like
me um, And then he was really cute. And then
(07:53):
I remember he had like one like it wasn't a
bathing suit photo, it wasn't laying on a lounge. Yeah,
but it wasn't like douche, you know what I mean,
Like it was it wasn't douche in my opinion, Like
it was like him on a beach, uh, like just
being in a bathing suit. It was like him on
a lounge chair, like a candid shot. Yeah, it looked
like somebody else took it and he just put it
on there. And I saw the bob and was like
(08:15):
me out, Okay, well here's his first impression of your
Hinge profile. I thought. I thought she was beautiful for sure,
but mostly I was corrected to her positive energy that
clearly came through even on her profile. I didn't know
anything about her other than that she worked for I
Heart until a few hours before our first date when
I googled her and saw all the videos about former boyfriends,
(08:36):
et cetera. Made for interesting first date discussion. L O
L it's true, what did you see you in the snowboarder? No? No,
um my bio on hinge just at I heeart media.
So I didn't really say like what I did. But
then right before we were going to meet, um, I
(08:58):
was like I said, texting him, and I was like,
I'm kind of nervous. I'd like stranger, danger and so
he sends me his Instagram, by the way, and which
is private, so I was like, this does nothing for me,
Thanks for the info, um, And then he started starts
sending me videos from the morning show. One of them
was like dr W and then the other one was, um,
(09:20):
I can't remember what the second one was, but one
of them was like the end of dr W. So
it was like, it's kind of sad. Um. And he goes,
we have a lot to talk about tonight, and I
was like, oh, but we didn't talk about it that much. Yeah,
many many years ago, Tiny went on a date with
(09:41):
a snowboarder and we brought our cameras along. So if
you're board, look that up because that's fun. Honestly, that
was so fun because I've never been less interested in
a man like I was initially wanted to go out
with him, and then when I went out, when I
was on the date, I was like, this guy is
not a match for me at all. So it's actually
quite entertaining. I don't think I've seen that. He drove
(10:04):
up on what was one of those things called snowmobile. No,
like a vest butt or not a vest, but what
was that thing? Is it a scooter like like I
was like a bird, but before birds were like thing
whoa and the like like big wheels with two big
wheels And I was like, oh, and he was wearing
a hoodie. Yeah yeah, yeah, I thought those were only
(10:28):
like a big cities on tours. Yeah, babe, this guy
rolled up when a segue or funny? I have to
watch that. Alright, Becca, what is your first question here?
My first question is did you watch Becca on The Bachelor?
If so, what did you think about her? Then? Pro
to Angela hopgood for that question. Um, this is so
(10:52):
funny because we got in a huge well should I
let you read the response before I talk about it? Sure,
that's fine, okay, all right. I didn't want her to
know I had seen her on the show because I
didn't want her to think I was some weirdo. But yes,
definitely watched, and all I really remember is that she
was extremely charming, likable to all everyone on the show
(11:14):
and the people watching really loved her, and she was
of course beautiful, So we gotten I remember this Actually nice,
that was a very nice response. Um, we did get
into a fight because, um ever, having seen my season
and then I found out that that was a lie,
(11:36):
and I just felt like, why lie about that? Because
to me, it wasn't like I mean, I was on
the I'm one of so many that have been on
the Bachelor, and everyone watches the Bachelor, so it was
not like a there was no reason. So then I
started questioningly because there anything else but are lying about? See?
I understand that a little bit because maybe, like I
(11:57):
don't know, you want to get to know somebody in
your relationship, not like something that you see on television.
So I don't know. I feel like it was a
way of just being like, it's a clean slate. I
want to get to know you for you. But if
I already knew, I don't know. The denial of seeing
my season is where I was like when I knew
(12:19):
that other seasons had been watched, I just it was like,
so I was just kind of like, Okay, what a
stupid thing to lie about. What are you lying about
anything else? It's dumb. I could see that correlation and
I would probably do the same. That wasn't a nice
response of redemption for today's answer. Yeah, alright, Tanya, give
(12:44):
us the next question here, it's quickie. This one was
from Savannah Bowerman, What was your opening line? Slash your
bio on hinge meaning his does he remember? He does
because you and you actually referred to it early year today.
Oh about the what? What about like what he wants
(13:05):
in a girl? Oh that was his opening line? Well,
he said he took it as your bio. I think
I don't know, but he responded with dairy is for
baby cows, and you were drawn to that somehow. You
were drawn to that somehow. I was curious to see
(13:30):
if he said who made the first move, because that's
something that we still argue about because in my mind
he made the first move because he is the first
one that wrote to me. In his mind, I made
the first move because I liked his photo. But you
have to mutually like somebody, so like you both have to.
(13:52):
He's saying, you're swiping right. Is a is making the
first move? No, because you swipe right, you both mapped
or whatever, and then you can go in and like
like photos. So I liked one of his photos. So
he says, that's the first man. But he sent the
first message. Correct, I think he made the first move.
I think so too, Yeah, because nothing would have happened
(14:15):
if you all just kept liking each other shots. Yeah,
it's really the great debate. I think it's pretty settled. Surprisingly,
I think we just settled it alright, Becca, Okay. My
next question is from Chelsea Simon and it says, what
do you think of the percentage? Becca game? Do you agree?
(14:36):
And do you like that it has become your nickname
for the show? Oh wait, I am so excited about
this answer and he answer Mark, Yeah, no, No, these
answers are all very good. In fact, we talked about
one was too good and we're not going to read it. Uh,
this one is to be honest. I was a bit shocked,
but extremely relieved to know that we're on the same page.
(14:59):
I appreciate you are the number. I think it's pretty accurate.
And yes, I'm very pleased with my nickname. Ha ha. Yeah,
I mean we I've discussed this on the podcast, so
we've had the conversation together on the spot. It was
(15:23):
the response. But I do love that it is the
nickname on the show. It's hilarious to me. That's my
personal that's my personal answer to the question. The nickname
is so good. Oh man, it's so good. Yeah, il
to know we're on the same day. That's not surprising
at all. Honestly, how does that make you feel? I'm
(15:48):
literally not talked at all. I feel pretty confident about
where peace dands. I just wanted to do. It's not
a hundred, I'm sure it is, but you know, I'm
the little skittish, so wow, skittish, Well, I'm saying would
(16:11):
make me skittish? Yeah, and you're but you're still and
that is defined as skittish. I feel like I established
that I'm more at like five. I think it's where
I said. Yeah, I feel like that he did. He
took it back after I'm good at taking things back. Okay,
but that was crazy because you all cannot understand the
(16:32):
pressure of answering that on the spot, knowing that the
fight that could be caused based on this number, and
on the spot I went with the higher option to
save myself. And then I found out that eighty five
would have been an acceptable answer too. So I do
have to say, I mean, but I give you a
(16:53):
little bit of credit because when we did the podcast
in Palm Springs and Red Star was literally just like
sitting right there on the couch next to us, and
I'm getting questions like, is he the one? I was like, Oh,
it's different when they're staring into your soul. Yeah, it's
different because it's like they could always listen, which is
(17:13):
whatever then, but yeah, but it's different when you actually
see them listening. That brings us beautifully to this next question. Tanya, okay, standby, okay,
this is Alison Elizabeth. Oh, when was the first time
you actually heard that Tanya was in love with you?
(17:34):
I think I know the answer. Did you want to
predict it? I think it was on the radio when
we were in the car driving back from Santa Monica.
I like fully remember it because we were listening to
Kiss Them at like seven pm. Lo and behold, Tanya
didn't know that. Like we play best of clips from
the morning show on whatever he listens to, and there's
(17:56):
a player playing like a ninety minute segment of us
talking about me. But it wasn't ninety minutes. It just
felt like it. I'm not sorry, I felt like ninety
minutes because I heard it and I remember the conversation
because it was when I realized I was in love
with him, but I hadn't told him, and so I
hear it and I just start like talking just like
(18:19):
I wasn't even probably me. I was like, because we
just had a picnic. I was like, should we go
get dessert? Do you want to get dessert? Maybe we
can find some dairy dairy free ice cream. As a
man lewin right here, it's really close, like I'm just
like spitting out words to try and cover up like
what's happening on the radio. But I think that he
definitely heard it because we hear Sisney come in. I could.
I talked as long as I could, and then I
(18:39):
hear Sisney come in with I mean, I only met
him once, and I'm falling for him. I was like, well,
here is his response. The question is when was the
first time you actually heard Tanya was in love with you?
And he says randomly on the radio while driving in
my car, and then again when we were in the
car together and she tried to talk over it slightly awkward,
(19:03):
l O L. I need imagine that little I didn't
tell me that is so funny talks red right now
because from when I said it on the air till
(19:23):
when I said it in real life was literally probably
like a month and a half. Spante yeah, and like
every morning I felt like you were asked again, like
again and again on the podcast in the show, like
have you told him? Have you told him? God, that
is so funny. He heard it by himself and then
he heard it again and you were trying to talk
(19:44):
over it, but he had already heard it. And he's
such a little like he always says that he listens,
but his commute to word, like his commute from his
house to his office is so quick that he like,
here's maybe like ten minutes of the show. It's all
needs to hear. I gotta figure out what time. That
is so funny, alright, beck A Question number three. My
(20:06):
next one is from Stephanie Howe, and the question is
is there anything you don't know about Becca that you
haven't asked but you want to know? This isn't I'm
interested to hear the answer to this. Well, the answer
is I'm pretty forward with everything, which forces Becca to
communicate with me. So I feel like if there was
something bothering me, I wouldn't hesitate. It's true, I was
(20:29):
gonna I was gonna be surprised if there was anything
any like anything that we don't know about each other already. Really, yes,
not one thing you cannot even understand how uncomfortable I've
been the past two years of being forced to communicate
my feelings in this relationship. It's so uncomfortable for me,
(20:52):
but it's been so good. Like I was thinking, I
think I shared this with you. I look back on
my relationship with Robert, and it's so interesting the difference.
And I think the significant difference is the challenge of
me being forced to communicate my feelings, which I never
really had because you know, Robert didn't want to encroach
on me or like scare me, so he just let
(21:14):
me be. And in this relationship I don't is like, no,
we're figuring it out right now, which is great, but
also just not my natural UM way of handling things.
See that's how I am. Like, if I have a thought,
I know I communicated almost too much, and I'm like, wow,
(21:35):
the amount of communication being had over here. No, but
that's the thing is that, um, I'm an under communicator
and is like an over communicator. See, I'm an over
communicator and Red Star is a I can'd say average communicator. Okay,
I'm not under communicator. I'm not over but like fair
(21:58):
talks a lot but does not feelings you mean her
emotions got it? All right, Let's go to Tanya. All right,
so we are gonna do Bryn Koger. Bryn Koger, Oh,
do you wish Tanya shared less about you on the podcast?
Have you ever thought about something she has shared? Do
you know the answer? I'd say you would probably say yes,
(22:21):
less about him on the podcast. Um, but and then
have you ever thought about something she has shared? I
don't think so. And here's the response. We've never thought
about anything specifically. But publicity has been something we've discussed
openly and honestly from the very beginning of our relationship.
I'm a very private person, and on top of that,
(22:43):
I have kids, so I wanted and I still want
to be very intentional about what and how things are publicized.
On the other hand, Tanya is very public, especially about
her relationships, dating, etcetera, which I love and admire about
her in her career. So it's a balance that we
are trying to reach together. I also truly appreciate all
of your respect for our privacy. It's actually very accurate.
(23:08):
He's well, here's the thing that's so interesting is like
he is, he's very private, and um, it's not that
he's private because like I don't understand that, you know
what I mean, Like I'm like, why do you care?
And it's not that I think he's private because he
wants to like not be public. I think it's just
(23:30):
like he just that's how his life has been. He
hasn't really been does that make sense. So it's almost
just like it's not something that has come naturally to
him or come to him in a sense. So it's
like it's been I've been trying to communicate to him
that it's I try to like bigger picture it and
I'm like, it's not as scary as you think, you
(23:51):
know what I mean, And like, especially when it comes
to social media, I think a lot of people get
nervous that people are going to be mean or like
negative or reach out and just be you know, mean,
And I like try to always show him like the
messages that I get and how positive and real encouraging
and like beautiful this community is um And so it
(24:12):
has it's been like this like fine dance of we
have to just like overly communicate because he also respects
what I do and like he loves it, you know,
I mean, he came to the live show and like
saw it in real life, and he has a lot
of respect for like my passion and my drive and
what and what comes naturally to me. So it's like,
I think we have to we overly communicate everything because
(24:36):
it's like uncharted territory, you know what I mean. And
so I mean, I think we've been doing a good
job alright, So I think what we'll do on this
because we're gonna save half of them for next week
and we have an even even well, I have one more, yeah,
(24:57):
one more, Rebecca, and then Tanya will do the one
you teased the earlier. Okay, okay, um. So this one's
from Shelby Johnson and the question is how did you
feel when Becca took back her I love you after
she first said it. I can imagine that didn't feel great.
But I came back within like a week and said it.
(25:19):
So I am curious to hear the response. Well it's
the response starts with a big laugh. Ha ha. That's
good that that eases things. I was very confused, to
be honest at first, but then I understood because she
wanted to say it on her own terms instead of
echoing me. Then I think she said it like a
week after or something, so we weren't too far off.
(25:40):
Ha ha, It's true. I said it and then panicked
because I was like, oh my gosh, I've never said
that before, and it was so soon into our relationship
that I felt like there's no way I should be
saying this so soon. Panicked and then um, I think
it literally was like a week or weekend half like
that would be the worst week ever for me, because yeah,
(26:05):
but I was very open about like, I've never said
this before, and I think my feelings are there, but
I want to make sure that I'm saying it at
my own time and not just because I feel pressure
because you said it. So I think it was understood
where I was coming from, and it wasn't so much
like I don't see myself getting there anytime soon. It
(26:26):
was just kind of like, I I need to do
this on my own terms without the pressure of saying
it back. When did you say at a Red Star
end of May? And as he said it to you, yeah,
he has I think this is new information, but it
wasn't like it's not really like a fun story because
(26:48):
we were like kind of in a fight. I love it.
It's kind of like a rom com. You know, you're
in a fight and it's like I love you, okay. Yeah.
It was like kind of like one of the yeah,
and then you're like, that's the first said yeah. And
I was like, and this isn't I wanted to hear it,
you know what I mean? But um, yes, he did
say it back. And the thing that I love about
(27:09):
it or I mean, I don't obviously whatever it happened,
the way that happened. But he's not one of those
people like I'm one of those people that say, like
whenever Beck and I hang up the phone, like I'm like,
I love you, Like I just say it, like I
spew it out like candy. I love saying it to people.
He's very intentional, Like he doesn't say it every night
now before we go to sleep, or you know what
I mean. Like he'll say it like randomly, we were
(27:32):
out to dinner and we're just I'm just talking to something.
He'll just like say it and it means so much more,
just like I love you and you're like you're the
sweet well yeah, because it just comes out of nowhere,
do you know what I mean. I don't know how
to explain it, but it's it's nice because you know
(27:53):
he's really meaning it when he says yeah, it's not
just like he doesn't spew it out like candy. Because
you said, Tobecca, oh, that would have been the worst
week ever for me. Well, you had months. I did.
I had months. But it's not like he said it
and then took it back. That's so different. It was
like and that those months were hard for me. I
(28:15):
was gonna say, I feel like even if I hadn't
said it back and just been like thank you, I
think that would have been equally as unfortunate. Yeah, I
mean it wasn't. It wasn't not hard, um, but it
was like I think if you said it and then
(28:37):
took it back, I would have been like, yeah, that
it stung a little deeper. Honestly. It was just like
I wanted to look out for myself and make sure
I was, you know, doing it all my time and
not feeling pressured to say it back just because it
was said to me, right, And I think that's what
(28:57):
I tried to do in my situation, Like I was like,
I don't want him to say it be just because
I said it, So I was just trying to play cool,
losey goosey, when in reality, I was like, what's happening here?
You're like anything anything you want to tell me today.
But you know what's funny, you know what, like you
(29:18):
think it's coming, like we're like having something like a
super romantic night, and then you're like, I like predicted
that he was gonna do it was like your birthday. Yeah, yeah,
I think I really say you up. That wasn't even
the only time. There were like other times where I
was like, oh, I think, like I think, I think,
(29:39):
I just feel it, like and here's the thing too,
I felt it from him for a lot longer before,
so I always felt it. But I was like, oh,
I think it's coming. I think it's coming, and then
it didn't happen, and I was like maybe tomorrow. Um, okay,
So Tony was gonna read one more question, Kelly Hudgens. Yeah,
(30:00):
I'm so scared to hear. Okay, So, Kelly Hudgens, this
is the question, have you ever heard Tanya fart on FaceTime?
Should we leave this as a tease for next week?
I'm fine with that, you know, I love my teasers.
I need to know. I'm stressed. I think, I think
I like this as a t I can't see him
tonight and not know what if we get Monica from
(30:22):
Cheron and then we do an email and then at
the very end of the episode, I reveal the answer. Okay,
that's fair, that's teasy enough for me. Um, I just
want you all to know. So I have been a
massive fan of coach Monica since chair came out, Like
I just think she's amazing, and I was so excited
(30:44):
to have her on the podcast Tanya. This was the
same day she had her pelvic floor but just missed
some big ones. I was busy, but um, I just
love her and my wife I went out right before
we were supposed to start, and I was so stressed
out because I thought I was not going to get
the opportunity to talk to her because she had like
interviews back to back and she's just the best. So
(31:06):
I hope you all enjoyed this interview. I tried to.
I was like fan girling. I was trying to ask
questions from the scrubbing in group too, so it was
a little chaotic because I was so excited but enjoying
this interne Alright, so we have a very exciting guest today. Um,
(31:40):
I have been a fan since it's like the beginning
of Quarantine. We have coach Monica here, and I just
want to say, when I found out that you followed
me on Instagram, it was like a highlight of my life.
And I followed you for a long time. Well I
went to look, you know, when did he here come out?
(32:01):
Was that in March January? Oh okay, wow, time doesn't
exist anymore. No. Um, when I went to look at
your page and it said follow back, I guessed. I
was like, you guys will not believe that. Um, but
(32:22):
I feel like life has just been an absolute whirlwind
for you. I would imagine it has. It's been, um
really crazy. I mean, had we not had the pandemic. Um,
I mean that was the only thing that slowed us down,
you know, and we're I'm used to fast pace. That's
what we do basically year round. It's we go, go go.
(32:42):
We have a thousand things we're doing. Um. But added
to that, you know the show coming out and the
success we were just you know, barely hanging a line
before the pandificate. Well, I was gonna say, because I
feel like there's a lot of shows that come out
on Netflix and then you they have a season, you
(33:03):
don't really hear about them, and then they're gone, And
yours couldn't have been more opposite. I mean, cheer was
every single person, and it happened. It kept rolling out
like a new wave of people would be watching it
all of a sudden, So it wasn't like it had
one moment and then people stopped talking. People are still
talking about it, and like you said, it's been out
(33:23):
since January. It's just kind of it has to be
one of those things because you get asked to do
a show on Netflix and you have no idea which
direction it's gonna go. Absolutely, and especially because it's about cheerleading. UM,
you know, we were just hoping that the cheerleading community
would watch it. We we really had no thought that um,
(33:43):
a really large audience would watch it, just because a
lot of people have stereotypes about cheerleading and I didn't
think that they would even be interested in and you know,
checking it out. But it literally was UM as soon
as it came out that day, you know, I was
my email, my d ms just exploded with people who
(34:04):
had binged watched it, and we were just all kind
of blown away. Well, there was something about I mean,
there's something about you that I feel like everyone just
it's the same thing as me sing that you followed me.
It was like this little like approval of coach Monica,
you know. And it's just funny because you're so humble,
(34:24):
you're so down to earth, you're a hard worker, You've
been doing this for so long, and it's like this
whole the whole world kind of fell in love with
you and this team and it's such a special It
really was just such a special show, like how you
connected with a lot of these kids who may not
have the support at home or you know, we're struggling
with school. It was just it was there was there's
(34:47):
just something about you that feels that like comforting, that
safe feeling. You're like the Southern Bell, but in the
best way. Well thank you. That's so sweet. Um. I
was gonna fan Girl for a little bit longer, but
I know we're short on time, and I wanted to.
I we have a very loyal and active Facebook group
for the podcast, and who wanted to ask some of
(35:11):
their questions because everyone I had over a hundred comments
of people wanting to ask you questions on the post
that I just posted, so, um, I wanted to get
to some of those. This is actually one of mine.
What was who was the coolest most shocking celebrity like
that you had a fan girl moment that when they
fan girl tover you Uh you know, it's it's really
(35:35):
strange because, like I said, since we weren't expecting this
really uh like when we anytime we saw anyone tweet
about it, we were all of us. We're kind of
fan girling. Um. You know when Chrissy Teagan you know,
was stretching and show did some throwback pictures and when
she cheered, um, and Reese witherspent just so many people
(35:58):
that you know, we've kind of uh followed and watched forever. Um,
you I was excited to you. Um Honestly, I think
the whole world saw me go crazy over j J.
What but that was us such a the Today's Show.
I'm just really pretty wonderful memories this This has been
(36:19):
a crazy, crazy experience. Has there been any um like
downsides to the excitement, because I know, you know, what
we all see is just like it's fun and you're
getting to do all this cool stuff. Has there been
any any moments where you're like, oh wow, I kind
of miss when I wasn't known around the world. Um, well,
(36:39):
you know, I mean yes, definitely, Um, things got weird.
You know, we had to cover the windows at the
gym that we practice in because people were video and
through the windows. We have people coming by to college
pretty much every day, Um, you know, looking for us
or just taking pictures, which is pretty cool, but um,
you know, I mean I've gotten some negative things and
(37:00):
you may have experienced experienced this as well. Being on
a reality show. Um, I was just surprised at how
many people, not not that it was a lot, but
just the some of the things people said that we're
you know, so far from who I am. Um, you know,
the d m s that were negative, or you know,
(37:21):
I've had some weird things happen as far as people
showing up that we're a little you know, just odd,
that we're a little scary. Um. So, I mean, you know,
and then just you know, I don't I think that's
the biggest downside, just that the comments, the negative stuff,
and I really honestly try not to read them because
(37:41):
I take everything very personal and you know, I want
to do better. If someone's you know, thinks a certain way,
I'm like, oh no, you don't even think that that
I would ever do something like that, you know. So
I've just tried to really just like just take the positive.
I know, I always telp because you know it, it
is weird when you have so much love flooding in
and then there's those few negative ones, and for some
(38:04):
reason we always hold onto those instead of all the love,
we like focus on the negative, and it's like we
feel this need to please these people who for some
reason don't like us based on this like tiny you
know show of like however many hours they've seen of
your life. It's like, I'm more than what you saw
on this Netflix show. Yeah, and then the way you
(38:26):
interpreted some things, you know, I'm like, I don't know
how you got that out of it. But okay, well
what's happening right now with the pandemic and like, are
y'all able to practice right now? Or what's happening? Well,
you know, we had a pretty devastating end to our
season because we were supposed to compete in April and
we were very you know, we were only a few
weeks away from competing. We had put a lot of
(38:48):
time into practice and UM had done a ton of
full out. We were really you know, I mean we
could have competed. We weren't, you know, obviously want to
clean some stuff up, but we were doing really well.
And everything happened so fast, like literally within four days,
we went from having this amazing last spring break practice
(39:09):
two the whole world kind of falling apart, and then
within those four days our our season was canceled, and
so it just hit us really fast, and we really
didn't get to prepare to tell each other goodbye or
I mean, you know, or anything. We just met again
and turned in uniforms and just had basically a cryfest. Um.
I have not had practice with a team or anything
(39:31):
since then. We were supposed to go to camp in
July with the new team, and that got canceled. So
they actually are moving in today. We have our first
tomorrow and our first practice next week. Wow. So what
are I mean are they making are they requiring you
to do certain things for the guidelines or how does
(39:51):
that work? Because I feel like there's a lot of
contact in Oh absolutely, yeah, I mean obviously things will
not look the same at all. All of our sports
got moved to the spring, so we're not even gonna
have any sports to cheer for right now. Uh, we're
gonna have them in two separate groups and then smaller
groups within the two separate groups to start off, and
(40:13):
we'll do you know, um, we'll have masks and stuff
within those small groups. But um, you know, we're just
grateful that we can even come back. So you know,
it's a small sacrifice to you know, practice this way
for a bigger picture later on. So you know, we're
just grateful for what for being able to come back, period.
(40:34):
So we're just gonna push through these weird times and
they being able to all be together or not being
able to come and practice like we normally would. But
you know, hopefully by the hopefully sooner than later, we'll
get there. I know, I know. It's like everyone's just
happy to have any sense of normalcy. Is like, we're
(40:56):
grateful for any capacity. What is your family, like, I
know you have kids and your husband. What if they
thought about all of this, Um, I mean they they've
been you know, excited, I mean kind of the same
as me, just kind of shocked at how it all
went down and everything happened so fast. They were you know,
(41:17):
every time something a new opportunity would come up, We're
all just kind of in disbelief, like, oh wow, I'm
flying to l A right now, and now I'm going
to New York. Now I'm doing an interview with this
person or that person is So it's just all, you know,
not a world that we're used to, but we're all,
you know, just enjoying it. So I know, I remember,
(41:40):
even just the short time I was on The Bachelor,
my family was like, this is the weirdest right. Um. Okay.
So one of the other questions that I liked was, um,
would you go on Dancing with the Stars if you
were approached? Um, that's a good question. I don't know.
(42:03):
I got I got the privilege of going to their
live show back in the spring before the pandemic kits,
so I got to meet val and and a lot
of the cast members and they were so nice, and uh,
it would definitely be completely out of my comfort zone.
But you know, I'm always up for any challenge. All right,
good to know, ABC. Did you hear that? Um? Um,
(42:28):
someone Crystal Lynn said if you could pick one person
that you were most proud of from the show as
far as how far they came during and after the show.
Who would it be, Oh goodness, well, I mean all
of the kids, but you know, probably someone like la
Darius he um. He and I have, uh, you know,
(42:48):
we have kind of a special bond because we're both
so hardheaded and we just kind of do this at
all times with each other. But he has come so far,
um just growing um and you know, really working on
himself to kind of overcome some of those past um
demons that he had, you know, that he was kind
(43:09):
of dealing with. And UM, I've just really really enjoyed
watching the growth that he has had and really you know,
letting go of that past and being able to um,
you know, work towards his future. And you know, he
graduated this year. He's just got so much going for him.
He's a really he's the most fun person to be around.
(43:30):
I love I mean, I felt like every single person,
I felt myself rooting for them. You know. I feel
like a lot of times when you have a cast
with so many different personalities, you kind of go, I
don't you know, I'm really rooting for this person. I
don't really like this person. I don't connect with them,
and I felt like there was something about every person
on the show where I felt like I wanted them
to do their best and I wanted them to succeed
(43:52):
and be able to do all their routines. Absolutely, and
you know that. I mean, that's just really truly who
they are there. And that was why one of the
reasons I was open to doing the show, because I'm
actually kind of a very private person. I like to
kind of stand to the back and whatnot, so this
was once again very much out of my comfort him.
But um, you know, I just felt like the kids
(44:13):
that come through this program are very special. Just the
work ethic that they have, the determination, the athleticism, you know,
it's something that a lot of people didn't realize that
happens in in cheerleading, and um, you know, I just
felt like it they're so special that it was worth,
you know, doing this documentary and showing the world. Yeah,
do you I know, was there supposed to be a
(44:35):
season two and then things shut down? Or is there
gonna be a season two? You know, we're just enjoying
season one and you know the ride that we're having
with season one, So yeah, I feel like that is
in non answer answer which gives me anything about UM.
(45:03):
So I have one more question than I'll let you
go because I know you you have like interviews back
to back. UM. I guess after all of this happened,
where you approached because Navar is a small school, it's
such a small community. Were you approached by bigger schools
and like bigger programs to come and coach No, I wasn't, UM.
(45:26):
I mean I had a lot of coaches reach out
to me, just um from other programs, just with the
whole women. Lots of different messages as far as just
like thank you for you know, showing the world you
know what athletes the kids really are, or just really
(45:47):
a lot of positive feedback from a bunch of different
coaches in the industry that you know, I was happy that,
you know, that they acknowledged that and that they were
happy with how it turned out. Because it's a scary
thing to do, as you well know, you don't know
how this show is gonna come. You don't know how
it's gonna turn out. You know, you're you know, you're
(46:08):
putting yourself out there in your filming, but you know,
at the end of the day, you don't know what's
gonna what the end result will be. Yeah, I mean
you just hope for the best bet it is in
your favor, right. Um. Oh wait, I have one more question.
There's a photo I think it's Morgan and she has
this it looks like a sports brawl and it says
F I O F M U and they want to
(46:30):
know what that stands for. Uh. Well, in in the
world of cheerleading, most teams have their own personal letters
that stand for something. And it's really just a team.
You have to be on the team obviously to know.
But it's um just an acronym, uh that like brings
the team together, like a unity top thing from years
(46:53):
and years past. So um just something you know, It's
just an acronym that makes us feel special and bring
our teams together from all years. Oh, I love it.
So it's almost like a it's like a sorority code
like that. Yeah. And and most your teams, you know,
and have some kind of letters that they called their own.
(47:13):
And we were surprised. It was so funny the things
that that come out, you know, like people were focused
on I mean we never mentioned that. It's just like
it was on our clothes and and stuff, and I
mean that was such a big topic of discussion on
social media. Everybody want to know people are selling clothes
with it. We're like, hold on a second, that's kind
(47:34):
of a like a the whole world gets to wear that,
you know. Yeah, everyone's like thinking that they're part of it.
So funny. Um, well, thank you. So, I mean I
could talk to you all day, but I know you're busy,
and I just love you. I think I'm just so
happy for all your success and everyone on the show
(47:57):
and hopefully moving forward to maybe another see reason. Um,
I just I think you're amazing. Thank you. I think
you're amazing too. Maybe when the pandemics ever, we can
we can hang out. Yes, when you're in l A
next time, if it's allowed, we're gonna do dinner or
something perfect. All right, thanks Monica, all right, bye bye,
(48:37):
all right, way to hold it down. I freaking love her.
I'm serious. If she comes to l A, we're going
dinner together. I appreciate you holding it down. I do
also have to say, um that I have gone to
my second peblic floor appointment, and she saw a lot
of progress in my pelvic floor. My second time around.
So all star student over here, and um, my pelvis
(49:02):
pelvic floor is getting looser by the minute. We love
to hear it. Thank you. Um We're going to do
an email and give some just great advice and wisdom,
and then we're going to get the answer to a
red star hearing if if he's ever heard tan your
part over face, which if you listen to podcast, you
know has happened. We just don't know if he heard
(49:24):
all right. This is from anonymous. She says, So, my
boyfriend and I have been dating for seven years and
recently we've been really struggling. The root of a lot
of our problems is Snapchat. I use Snapchat no more
than the next millennial to talk to my friends on
a regular basis. My boyfriend has this thing where he
looks at my Snapchat score and notices it goes up
a fair amount each day and thinks I'm snapchatting other boys.
(49:46):
I've given him the option to look at my Snapchat
and reassure him, but he doesn't want to be that boyfriend,
so he doesn't. He thinks the fact that I don't
just delete it is in considerate to his feelings, and
I care more about the app than I do him.
Obviously this isn't true. But I sold you Snapchat to
talk to my friends and I do not snapchat other guys.
What do you think I should do? This is so interesting.
(50:07):
I don't use Snapchat at all, so like, to me,
I'm like just to lead it if it's a problem.
But I know that would be like if Instagram was
a problem, and right right, I wouldn't like take Snapchat
out of it equated to something that you use regularly. Okay,
So let's say it's Instagram. Okay, but if I'm not
doing anything wrong, it's like there's just a trust I mean,
(50:29):
how do you how do you convince someone that you're
not doing anything? Like you know what I'm saying. I
don't really understand why. I guess my thing is, is
there another reason why he has a trust issue with this?
If they've been together for seven years? That was my
trigger here is like, it's not the Snapchat. There's obviously
(50:49):
something else to it, Like I love you? Was it anonymous?
I love you Anonymous? But I feel like we're not
getting the full story because if it was just the
Snapchat or whatever, I feel like he would want to
I don't know. I feel like we're missing something. I
think what you need to ask him is like, what
what is it about me or this score or whatever?
(51:11):
What like tangibly, what is it that is making you
upset or like making you question anything about me? And
then like, what can we actually do two ease that
fear or anxiety or whatever like tangibly? What can we
tangibly do? And if he says like nothing, then or
I mean I guess he is. He's saying delete it. Well, Look,
(51:33):
he has trust issues and there's a reason for either
he's been cheated on in the past, anonymous has done
something behind his back that we are not being made
aware of. Or three he just has deep seated insecurity
issues all of these or none of these, but some
of some combination of these. I think it's got to
be the issue here. So this is tough because it's
his issue to get over, it's not your issue to
(51:55):
guide him through it. You don't have to delete apps
off your phone. You don't have to only speak to
certain people, because if you do delete the snapchat, there's
going to be more stuff. He's not gonna like friends
with certain people because they're bad influencers. Or something like that,
you can't you can't give on this issue, or he's
going to take a mile. So he's got to get
over it somehow and he's got to figure that out,
or he's not the guy for you, I was gonna say,
(52:17):
Or or what if I mean sometimes you know, we
project what we're doing on to other people, Like what
if he's doing something that's sneaky and he's assuming that
that something's going on with you because of your Snapchat
score or whatever. But I agree, I think there must
there might be like an underlying issue that y'all need
to address or he needs to open up about, and
(52:38):
that way y'all can solve that. Because I agree Mark,
I think deleting Snapchat, he's going to find the insecurity
or the distrust somewhere else. Seven years to a long time.
I know, I'm confused. There's gotta be some trust issues
that he's had from either pastorallytionship or something. Yes, seven years,
(53:01):
you think he'd be in a better place with the
whole situation. Yeah, that sounds like a seven month issue.
I was reading about the the fallacy of what's it
called the fallacy? Have spent time. I think it is
isn't that when um isn't that like penis like felic
or a pallast. But no, that's not what I'm referring to.
(53:24):
It's the feeling of I should continue in this relationship
because I've spent seven years in it, and that's flawed.
Its flawed reasoning that time was already spent. So don't
that time is gone, that time's not coming back no
matter what. Are you happy now? Is this working for
you now and in the future, And that's what you
(53:44):
need to focus on. Same thing with money. While I
should keep going with this whatever it is, because I've
spent this much money on it doesn't matter that money's gone.
Deal with it now, deal with situation in hand. That's
a very good point I have. I've had a lot
of friends who have been in longer relationships where it's
kind of like, oh, the thought of starting over sounds horrible,
(54:05):
and it's like, but you have a lot of life,
Like I know that would mean too. That Like when
people are like, I wasted this many years, I'm like,
I don't think so, you wasted that. We've talked about that.
How Like I never view relationships as a waste of
time because like any any even friendships, Like, I never
consider them a waste of my time because I've grown
(54:25):
or learned something from that person that I wouldn't have
learned or grown not having them in my life at
a certain point, so I always get up like when
people are like, oh, you're wasting your time, It's like,
if you're happy and you're enjoying each other, then be together.
If you're not, don't be together. Like it's really more
simple than we make. It's called the fallacy of sunk
(54:45):
cough if anyone's interested in pon. Sometimes Becca just really
preaches the gospel. All right, here we go, ready for
his answer. Yeah, I don't. I don't know. So what
do we know? So far? We know that this it
happened while you're on FaceTime. The question is whether or
not he heard it, and so our dear friend, the listener,
(55:06):
Kelly Hudgens, scrubber extraordinaire, decided to just get to the
bottom of it and ask him. I know, because here's
the thing. So whatever his response is, okay, let's here's response. Okay,
she said, have you ever heard Tanya fart on FaceTime?
Red Star responded, L O L no, and as far
as I know, she never has. And then he put
(55:28):
a winky face cryptic that is so cryptic that winky
face has it could mean so many different means's so
many things. Do we think you hurt? What is the
(55:49):
winky face mean? Maybe the winky face is like I know,
but I'm gonna gentlemen, that's how I read it. I
was about to say, it's so anti climactic until the
winky face. Wow, I think you heard? Or yeah, So
(56:14):
now I have to have a conversation about it. Great,
that's why I want to take it up with Kelly Humphreys.
That's not what's her name, Kelly, Kelly Hudgins, Because now
it's going to be a conversation. What are you gonna say?
How do you bring? Like, I don't know. I haven't
(56:36):
talked to him. Since he can't we just leave it be.
You keep your dignity, that's what he's trying to do here.
Oh okay, so just keep being sexy. I think, allow
him to let him keep your dignity. Okay, fair enough,
No conversation to be had, And the fact that I
haven't farted in front of him is like so good.
(56:56):
I'm thrilled with the winky pace that that's exactly what
that was high that I needed. So next week we'll
finish the questions and Olivia Holt is going to be
on the show. Yeay, it's gonna be so fun. Um.
I can't wait to answer more questions. You are very
respectful about the questions that you asked and mark the
(57:18):
ones that you chose. It's like giving insight without being um,
you know, too invasive. Yeah, we were talking about that.
How nice it was the questions. It was like very
respectful to Yeah, Like I felt as though sending him
those questions, I was like, I think this might make
him feel like better, you know what I mean, saut
the whole thing. Um, okay, well we'll be back next
(57:40):
week and have a great week. Can't wait to hear
um the party happening on my street right now. I
just thought there was an earthquake. I just panics. So
I live on a busy street and cars drive by
blaring their music, so it's always fun. Never shook. I
felt like might wow. Um, anyways, we will see you
(58:03):
next week. We love you guys, and have a great day.
Love you bye. H
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