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August 23, 2022 58 mins

Jojo Fletcher is filling in for Tanya and we couldn’t BE more excited! We get a full rundown of her dream wedding and you’ll be shocked to hear about Jojo’s “Bridezilla” moment.
 
Jojo shares her reaction when she first learned about Becca’s relationship with Hayley and Becca opens up about the emotional impact she felt from Jojo’s response.
 
Plus, find out why Jojo and Jordan are planning on going to couple’s therapy!

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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Scrubbing In with Becca Tilly and Tanya Red and I
Heart Radio Podcast. Hello everybody, we are scrubbing in. As
you have probably seen on Instagram, Tanya is on a
romantic getaway to the Hamptons with Robbie and Sonny and
the children. So we had to bring in someone who

(00:22):
could hold her own on scrubbing in. Please welcome Joe
i'l Fletcher back. She's back. I like, I would see
your stories of you doing the hell stuff and I'd
be like, I don't know if I can ask her
to do this. She's so busy, And I was like,
you know it, just teld me no. If she can't
do it. You know, it's been touch and go today.

(00:43):
But I'm I'm here to support, here to feel in
some big shoes. Yeah, I saw the beam and I
almost responded because you said shattered and I was gonna
be like you and the beam, but that didn't feel
like the right time. So how are you You? You're
married to sawst time we talked to you, I think,
because well, I mean, you and I talked almost every

(01:04):
day on the past. She's married woman, what's like, have
there been any changes? Like husband, wifife, Honestly, we came
home to such chaos that I feel like we just
immediately jumped back into like just work mode. The honeymoon
was amazing. The wedding was like literally and I've told

(01:27):
you this back like it's the funnest It was the
funnest day of my life. So I feel good. I
had a great wedding, had a great honeymoon. But now
we're just like he's doing football season and I'm trying
to get this house done, and it's just you know,
back to normal, they must say old, but so basically
like the changes really because how long have we all

(01:47):
been together officially since the proposal? Six years was our
rehearsal dinner, Okay, six years? I mean yeah, so I
imagine aside from like switching um saying wife and husband
to from fiance, is is there anything like you've noticed?
You know, jord and I talked about this. For the

(02:07):
most part since we've we've lived together, we've like our
daily lives were intertwined since the day we got engaged.
But I will say one thing that I that we
both kind of felt was like, just after the wedding day,
you have this feeling. I mean, we had a feeling
of security, but it's a very kind of different feeling
of like no matter what, like this is my person

(02:28):
and you just kind of feel a little bit more.
I don't want to say we didn't have that before,
but you just do feel that different that safety. You
feel that like, I don't know, just more of a
stronger bond, I think. And it's nothing changed, but you
just feel like, Okay, we're in this together forever, which
is a cool feeling. Well, I've always thought that there
has to be something that shifts, like even if it's

(02:50):
so small, like even if it's not this like huge thing,
because everyone that like most people do it, you know,
like most people make that move after they've been together
for a long time. And it's like obviously you do
all the things that a married couple does, like you
live together, you work together. But um, in my mind,
I'm like, there has to be a something that that

(03:12):
changes when you when you switch over one said thing.
I can't even explain it, but it's like I remember,
like there are moments where like after the wedding would
be like do you feel any different, And it was
just kind of like just something feels different, like and
and I can't even tell you what that is, but yes,
that would that feeling, the unsaid feeling definitely shifts things.
But other than like daily life, I mean, nothing in

(03:35):
daily life has changed. So well, y'all went on like
a because y'all went on your honeymoon for like two
weeks and then you went on you went to Europe
for your brother Ben's wedding for how long was that?
Two weeks? Again two weeks. Y'all had a nice little
extensive vague after the wedding because the wedding leading up

(03:57):
to the wedding, I feel like you were not someone
I posted like a question box like questions for you,
and a lot of people are like bride Zilla moment,
and I was thinking, I don't think there was a
single moment where I felt like you were stressed or
Bride's like not stressed, but like obviously you had nerves
and excitement, but imber moment that I can think, go,

(04:19):
do you remember this the morning? No, I was totally good,
Like I felt like for two years of planning, I
was like, so just just chilling for somebody who's kind
of like a control freak when it comes to like
aspects of like things coming together. I thought it was
gonna be worse, but I was so chill. But I
remember there was one moment after we've been getting ready,

(04:42):
and you know, Becca, we had talked like we needed
it all be on time. My biggest thing was like
I just didn't want to like keep people waiting. I
didn't want to get off scheduled because we had to
be over with the wedding at ted BM because the
noise ordinance. So I just wanted to make sure everything
was like on time. And so a big part of
that was making sure like I was done getting ready,
you were you and the girls were done getting ready.

(05:03):
And I remember like right before we were about to
go out, I was already ready. They're putting on my
veil and I was walking forward and Catherine just stepped
on my veil and ripped it out of my hair,
and I was like, are you like one job? Says
my maid of honor. I couldn't even look her in
the eye because I was like, I'm gonna start laughing,
and this is not the time to laugh. Also, we

(05:25):
were in the middle of trying to film a TikTok,
because I was like, I it was like getting fodder
in the room. Yeah, but that's what Bride's all. I mean,
that was just like I would have reacted the exact
same as you know, someone stepped on my bed. Wasn't
Bride's all at all. But I literally sure, I was like,
just one job. It was just one job still, you know,

(05:46):
I was just joking with her. But that was the
only moment that I felt myself feel like really like
kind of anxious for a moment and I was like,
oh my god. But we got through it. We were good. Yeah,
that was like maybe a ten seconds span of you
feeling that way, so you really got through a quick
I feel feel good about the bounce back. Yeah, the
bounce back was quick. I mean it went from just

(06:06):
like the death stair to Katherine and then we were
back in action. So it was just short lived. Um.
People are asking like, did you have anything? Because I agree,
it was like one of the most fun weekends. I
would love to go back and relive that weekend. It
was so much fun. I don't know that I say
that about many weddings that I've been a part of,

(06:27):
just because sometimes there is a lot of stress involved.
But it was just fun, Like your wedding planners killed it.
You didn't have I don't even think I think that's
why you were able to relax because they handled everything, yeah,
like honestly, and I'm this same way. I was nervous because,
like I remember in college, like the Catherine and I I
were in college that we tried to throw a party

(06:47):
at our house in college, and I could not enjoy
that party. Anytime they went up party, I was so stressed,
like the drugs were getting stinks, windows are breaking. That
was so panicked the whole time. Everyone's having fun and
I'm just like strapped. So I was like, I don't
want that to be on my wedding. And I feel
like that's kind of sometimes a common feeling, like you're

(07:07):
just worried that everything is gonna go right. I I
had so much fun, did not care if the seats
weren't right, didn't care if whatever didn't show up. I
was just like, I have my best friends, my family,
We waited two years to do this and we're finally
doing it, and I I couldn't even tell you if

(07:28):
something was wrong. Apparently our shuttle didn't show up on time.
You had no clue. Didn't really bother me when I
did find out. So yeah, I was shocked. It was
the greatest day of my life. You're like, sounds like
y'ast problem, sorry about that. Good I'm busy. Um I did.
There was a memory that I mean, there's a bunch

(07:48):
of memories that stick out. Well, first of all, I
will never forget when because the whole lead up to
the wedding, Jordan was like, I don't know if I'm
gonna cry, Like, I don't. I feel like there's so
much pressure for the groom to cry when he sees
the bride. And he was all, I don't. I don't
know if I'm gonna cry. I don't think so. And
then y'all did the first look and you came back

(08:09):
and you're like, Jordan cried, and yeah, I was like,
oh my gosh, that's so cute. So in my mind
I was like, Okay, he already saw her. Maybe he's
maybe he actually won't cry when she comes walking on
the wedding or the aisle. I was like, eyes locked
on him for the first few seconds. He immediately his
eyes got watery, and I was like, oh no, I

(08:30):
was not ready for this, because that's I know. It
was so sweet and maybe emotional because in our relationship,
like I'm the I'm the one, and I'm not a
very sensitive person, like I feel like for the most part.
I mean, you're one of my best friends, you can
tell me. But I compared to like a lot of people,
I don't feel very sensitive. Obviously, I cry and I

(08:51):
have emotion, like in our relationship, though I am by
far the more emotional one. And so I was like,
I know I'm gonna be sobbing him my wedding day,
like there's no question. And it was like a running
joke for two years, like Jordan was going to cry
on our wedding day, and the roles were reversed, like
I came down on our first look and he's like
cheering up, but I'm like laughing, and I don't know

(09:13):
if I'm like it's like nervous or like in shock
that he's crying. But I was like, it's called crisis laughter, Joel.
It was so weird. So it was it was very sweet.
I couldn't believe that he was getting emotional. It was
really really sweet. And then you're the other movement that
it really sticks out that really got me. As your

(09:34):
dad's speech, it was like I was not prepared for it.
I was sobbing during that. I don't know if you
guys could see that, but I was like ugly crying
during most of that dance. Yeah, oh during the dance
like my dad, Oh yeah, I couldn't tell you were crying.
But when he gave a speech, I was like, WHOA,

(09:55):
we were not ready. Um, do you have any like
if people are getting my earned or planning a wedding, like,
did you have anything that you did or didn't do
that you wish you had done or you wish you
didn't do. Um. Well, one thing that we made sure
of last minute that we didn't have an original plan

(10:15):
is when we had guests arriving, we weren't going to
serve any cocktails until cocktail hour. And it was kind
of like a last minute decision. I thought, like, I
thought it was a great decision to make sure we
had like wine or something cocktail wise for when guests
did arrived. I just felt like, it's it gives some
people something to do before the ceremony actually starts, because

(10:36):
it was a ceremony, then you go to cocktail hour,
then you go into the wedding. And I just felt
like if people are arriving, a lot of people sometimes
get there early because they just want to be safe.
They didn't want people standing around for an hour or
not having a cocktail to being a list. So that
was the last minute decision we made. But otherwise, I
honestly had the best wedding planner and my only piece

(10:57):
of advice because I didn't have to stress about anything.
Everything was like kind of done and executed so well.
And the only reason that happened is because of the
wedding planner. So even if you are the most detail oriented,
perfect like party planner person, if it's your day, I
one thousand percent recommends still getting a wedding planner because

(11:20):
I think it's worth the money, it's worth not having
to think and stress about things like it just makes
a world of a difference. So there was something else
that y'all did, and I have questioned if I made
this up in my head. Did y'all cut the cake
privately or like by yourselves? So we did a cake

(11:41):
cutting privately, yes, because we decided that we weren't going
to serve that cake. We were going to have the
cake for Jordan I and do a cake cutting ourselves.
But we're going to serve dessert made by our chef.
Got it, because I personally always feel like it's a
weird moment when they like make everyone come over and

(12:01):
watch the cake cutting. So in my mind, I was like,
I appreciate that they didn't make that a thing at
their wedding. Yeah, So that was the reason why we
were like, this doesn't need to be a whole thing.
We have like speeches, we want to get through. We
want to get straight to the party. So like, let's
not prolong like the party, I guess. So yeah, quick, easy,
gotta keep photos. Tried the cake and mash on Great.

(12:24):
That's all we needed was a good photo, maybe a
video clip of it. That's all we needed. Efficiency was
top of mine. I mean, that's the most Joe Joe
quality I've ever heard. Efficiency at our wedding. Um. And
then one other thing about the wedding, So Jojo and
I like at one point in the night we were like,
we gotta do a conga line, and so we started,

(12:49):
and we feel like everyone has joined like at one
point I've ever been a part of it, Like they've
never seen a bigger cong line, and I at one
like rolled my ankle and I was like, I gotta
keep going, like I felt it happened, but I was like,
I gotta keep going because there's too many people behind
me for me to dip out. So all night I

(13:12):
was like, that was the most epic moment we started.
We just also talked about the fact that we started
this Congo line and we picked up Jordan's who was
like smoking a cigar and it was such an epic
moment because he had the cigar in his mouth, he
like jumped into the Congo line. I was like, this
is the moment. This is the moment that's going to

(13:33):
go down in history. And Haley's behind me, Tanya's behind
like it was like we did it, like in our minds,
we did it. And then we got footage of the
Congo line and we were about eleven people deep. Okay
before the footage, I'm telling we're recapping it the next

(13:53):
day Haley and I and she goes, there weren't that
many people, and I was like, yeah, there were. I
was like, basically a whole party was on that line,
and She's like, no, there was maybe maybe ten people.
So then I'm telling Jojo and Jordan's chimes in it
goes yeah, like I don't think there was that many people,
So Joejo and are devastated and we're like, there's no way,

(14:14):
and then we did. To be fair, there was maybe
I think actually there was exactly fifteen people. Also, somehow
in the night, I could have been the congo line.
I think I broke my foot. Oh yeah, I think
that picture is all Bruce. I had no clue what
happened to me. That's the power of a good cog

(14:39):
and a good time. I do feel like I when
people are asking any regrets, I'm like, she hasn't said anything,
so I don't know what if there's an answer to
that question. But I did feel like the main advice
is like getting a wedding planner, a good one. Yeah,
we did have a hiccup. We was just with their DJ.

(15:01):
I don't know if anyone remembers. Then again, I didn't
really care in the moment, but he like I literally
sent the DJ a full blown like playlist, Like he
really didn't have to do anything besides set up the equipment,
and like, em C M C right, I don't know
who they brought in from my wedding, but he had

(15:22):
no clue how to set up anything, like couldn't get
like the WiFi, and I'm like, for day of here,
we didn't we didn't test the equipment. UM, so that
was a little blit. But my wedding letter stepped in
and she was like, I'm djaying now. She got in
there and I don't know what she did, but she
got it working. So she handled it. She handled things

(15:43):
she did. But yeah, I don't even regrets. Yeah, it
was really fun. We should do like a yearly like
party to celebrate your anniversary. Well, I was thinking this, like,
you know, weddings are very expensive. I mean the way
we did it was expensive. It you know what, it
was worth it to us. But it's like a couple

(16:04):
of us all like every year, like we're just gonna
have a party. We're all gonna chip in and we're
just gonna have like when we get dressed up and
we have a bar and we just have a really
fun like celebration of friends. Would be so fun. I
am in full support of that. Um, how is the
house going? A lot of people asked, and I don't

(16:26):
want to stress you out, but I do think because
you're talking about it, it's important to ask what's like.
I don't think people realize that you and Jordan are
literally like on the property working, Like I don't You're
not just hiring I mean, obviously people doing specific jobs
that you can't do, but like y'all are very involved
in the process. Yes. So in we came to Puerto Rico,

(16:51):
my brothers or families, they've all lived here. We always
been vacation here. We loved it. We ended up finding
this house that was like for sale and at the time,
like the market was really good to buy, so we
bought and like, we're going to remodel his house and
this is gonna be our home here. That was We
are August two. It's been two years, um, and we

(17:14):
I think we still have a lot to go. Just
um when they say island time, it's it's island time.
Everything is harder logistically, materials, um. Just something just gonna
be able to show up has been difficult. But I
have heard that it's kind of the way that the
world has been for like the last two years. So

(17:35):
we're not the only ones. There's so many bigger problems
in the world, and that's the only thing that's kind
of kept me okay. It's like trying to put things
into perspective. But we've had I mean, I've done this,
I've remodeled so many different homes, and this by far
has tested me more than anything in my life. Yeah,
I've never seen i mean some of the things that
you've posted. I'm like, I've never seen this version of

(17:59):
you because you're I have to brag on you, Like
I'll text Jojo and it'll be like just a dumb
like I'm struggling with blah blah blah. It'll be something
very dumb, like you know what, we just have to
be so grateful, Like there's so many problems. I'm always like,
thank you, Like I needed that perspective shift. So when
I've seen you have a moment, I'm like, it's dark

(18:20):
over there, well and you know what's going And I
feel like there's like a balance that I struggle with
on Instagram and social media, trying to be true to
how I'm feeling and sharing those moments while also not
trying to be negative and like complain. And so I
kind of struggle with that because I've had a lot

(18:41):
of moments that i haven't shared where I've been really
just kind of down and there's been a lot of
hardships that have come along with this project. Financially, every everything,
you know, it's um And so when I started to
share the struggles, obviously there's people that are like, you know,
get a grip on reality, this is whatever, And I
at that, like I get that. So I'm careful with it.

(19:03):
But I also do think that it's important to, i mean,
make it known that not every day is perfect, because
every day I try to be positive and to share
that perspective. Um, but every day is great. But the
great thing about that is there's always tomorrow. And I
always try to check myself when things get tough. And
you and I do this with each other, like if
we're stressed, if we're having a hard time, it's like,

(19:23):
you know what, stay grateful. We are so blessed, We're
so lucky. We have healthy family, friends, a wonderful you know,
support system. So I think just learning to look at
the positive one positives, whatever that is. It doesn't have
to be in that situation. Just the positives in life,
honestly is what's kept me like feeling okay and good.

(19:45):
And it's just hard to train your mind. But I've
definitely been trying to do that more so I don't know,
but yes, you can struggle. I struggle sometimes with that mean,
like with the because I always am so hesitant to
share anything in the same way, like I don't ever
want to complain because I really don't have anything to

(20:07):
complain about. But when there is something that I'm struggling
with or I'm feeling a certain way, I don't think
me having a struggle or like vocalizing that struggle dismisses
the greater struggles going on in the world. It's just
like this one I'm going through. Maybe someone can relate
to it. But I always hate that expectation of like
like the people who message you and they're like, get

(20:28):
a grip. It's like, obviously, you know that you're blessed,
you know that you have a lot you in the
grand scheme of things. Sure, like it's gonna be fine,
But I don't. I hate the like it could be
worse somewhere. It can always be worse, Like we're always
going to be like it could be worse than what's
going on. So it is a delicate balance. Um, I'm

(20:49):
just laughing because some of these questions are funny. Someone
said oh, do you remember when you first saw not
about Haley and me and Haley. Yes, I remember exactly
when I found out. Okay, wait, we're going to take
a break and we'll be right back. Okay, we're back,

(21:18):
so Jojo says she thinks she remembers when she first
saw out about Haley. Yeah, I do. I remember. I
was in the kitchen of the first home that Jordan
I ever moved into together in Dallas, and you called me,
and I think all you said was I made out
with a girl. Yeah. I kept it short and sweet,
with no context to that. There was just so I

(21:41):
made out with a girl last night or whenever. I
think it was like the night before lad that week
something like that. Do you real with I want to say,
I texted you probably either the day after or like
it was. Yeah, I mean I called you. Sorry. I
called you like a couple of days or a day
after something. I was like, back up, like we need

(22:01):
a little bit of context here. I was like, this
is like we're having a fun night out you made
out with the chick, or this is like like like
I need some context. I totally remember that. Yeah, yeah,
And so then you were like what and then I
was like, yeah, I don't know, because this was also

(22:24):
right after you had gone on a date with somebody
that we I mean right, it was at the same time.
We've never I've never talked about it. I went on
a date, wasn't Yeah, a guy date with a guy
that's very well known. Yeah, we both always thought it
was like cute and anyways, it was kind of a
big moment. So then she you hit me with the
second big thing, which was then you made out with

(22:45):
this girl, and I'm like, we need we need to
check in, like where are we at in life? What's happening?
Where are we at in life? Yeah? And then I
think I sent you a video of Haley dancing and
you're like, oh, I get it. I thought she was
so swagging. Yeah, I didn't. Watching that video over and

(23:07):
over and over again, I was like, it's like mesmerized.
I UM. And then I will say, like everyone's always like,
what were your friends reactions? Like from that moment? You
never were like what are you doing? I will say
none of my friends really did that, but it was
just like cool, like and the thing about you, Becca

(23:28):
and like I I love you so much and like
all I want in Europe for you and your life
was to be happy and to find somebody, and like
we went through the journey of the Bachelor together, like
we're a big part of our at the beginning of
our relationship was trying to find that person, trying to
find love, trying to find and I know you struggled
with like you had dated, but like I always knew

(23:49):
that there was something always missing for you. And so
I remember when I heard this and the way that
you kind of talked about it, it immediately felt a
little different to me. Obviously we didn't know where it
was going to lead, but like I was just excited
that you were excited about somebody, because it takes you
a lot to be super excited about a relationship. And yeah,
it's very excited. Yeah, I know it was different. I

(24:12):
mean that was I think everyone knew it was different.
But yeah, I've been like having a really hard time
with Haley being gone. So I'm like overly emotional. So
I can't talk about it too much because I'll cry,
but I've I've always been just so grateful for your
reaction and the way you talk about Haley. And also
one of my favorite things is how much Jordan and
Haley so happy. They're like buds and like at the wedding,

(24:40):
Haley and obviously I know you and Haley love each
other like Haley loves you. I know she asked about
Jordan a lot, and I'm like, I mean, she was
just like, wow, Well she's always like Jojo is so
beautiful and she's so kind, and but she's at the wedding,
she's like Jordan's outfits. He just she like kept going
up to Jordan be like, I love you. Oh, I

(25:03):
love it. There each other, pype girls, hype men, hype man,
pipe bros. Um. So, yeah, that's I was curious because
since Hayley's gone right now, I feel like Jordan goes
out of like once football season starts, he's out of
town every one, like weekend or something every week. Yeah,

(25:23):
so he starts in two weeks. Do you ever get
like next week? Yeah? Do you strugg Like I guess
it's short increments of time. So it's like he's gone
and then he's back pretty soon. So it's not when
we first got together like I struggled with it. It
was like I was like, how we supposed to like
figure out this relationship and again our first year, like

(25:46):
it was like the roller poster of emotions and so
but I remember the first year it was a really
big struggle for me because I was like, how can
we continue to like further this relationship and understand each
other and to know each other and work through problems
or issues that we're having if like you're gone every
weekend and that's a big chunks, Like I like really
overthought it um and then I had to realize, like
this is his career, like this is his life, his livelihood,

(26:09):
and I'm supposed to be that support system, like you
you can't have your significant other or your partner create
more stress by just being like That's how I looked
at it, Like I'm supposed to be supportive of him.
I'm supposed to make sure that when he's on the road,
like he's like I can, I got my wife at
home or my girlfriend or whoever I am at the
time fiance at this time at home parting me encouraging

(26:32):
me to like go chase my dream. And so after
that first year in understanding and like kind of training
like this is what am I doing? Me complaining about
this all the time, it's like only hurting him, and
it's hurting our relationship. But it was really hard in
the beginning, and now it's kind of like it's our rhythm.
Like six months of the year we're together seven, work together,

(26:53):
live together, do everything together. So this is just and
he's only gone for like Thursday to Sunday. You really, Yeah,
but I think the situation is different, Yeah, but I
need it is different. However, I did need that. I
needed that shift right there. I think what happened is
like when we first met, she went on tour, so

(27:15):
like that was all we knew in the beginning was
like her being gone, and it was I mean, it
was hard because we were like falling in love and
also like not physically together. And then and then we
had like the pandemic in these couple of years where
it's been like four seven time together and now we're
you know, she's gone again. And I thought it would
be easier because I'm like, we've done this before, but

(27:37):
I am having like a really hard time and she's
navigating it like way better than I am. Of course
I'm the one who's like at home alone. But yeah,
I think the pandemic probably did that to a lot
of people because people got so used to being with
each other every single day, and then you hear about
how the pandemic either like strength and relationships or broke them, um,

(27:58):
And so people got so comfortable being with each other
every single day. And that's why though, like when the
pandemic happened, like it wasn't really different for Jordan, I
because on off season we were like that every single
day anyway half the year. But I do think the
biggest thing is, like when is just making sure you're
that support system because obviously, like Haley is missing you
just as much as you are, right like you said,

(28:20):
you're home, you're alone, she's busy. Um, They're just making
sure and I do this for Jordan and try to
It's like, you know what, I can be sad, I
can miss them, but like make sure that they know that,
like you're proud of them, that you're excited for them,
so that they can go on and like do what
they do. So I needed that and I'm gonna pass
that along to Hayley and say, Joe, Joe gave me

(28:43):
a perspective ship. I also know I'm seeing her this week,
so I think I'm on, Like I'm on like an
upward trajectory where I've been downward lately. But you know,
I just can I tell you to be honest. When
I would in the very beginning, when I would like
cry and be upset, be a like, well, you're always gone,
I'm not gonna see you this weekend. I could see

(29:03):
the toll it was starting to take on somebody who
was really trying to chase their dream. Um, and like
I realized that that was not going to be good
for a relationship in the long run, you know what
I mean. Yeah, because like because it's obviously they're doing
their best. I'm doing my best. I'm just not doing
a great job and doing my best. I'm doing my best,

(29:26):
but I'm not doing the best. And um, but eight weeks.
She's gone for eight weeks, right, Yeah, she's back September
twenty something. But you're seeing her just no, no, no,
So I'll see her a lot. So now this was
the longest stretch, the first like a little over two weeks,
and then I'm gonna see her like basically every week

(29:49):
after this, So I mean you could see you too.
Is it gonna be your first time seeing her perform perform? Yeah? Literally,
just flying in I know you're the best coming in
and out. It's gonna be a good time. Um okay.
Someone said, what's a song that immediately makes you think

(30:10):
of me? I have so many? I have so many.
I feel like Laney is a big one. Like a
lot of Laney songs, I think, do that for me?
Um Well, the one I have two that I think of,
I think of stitches because NonStop. When we were on

(30:31):
the bat, when I stuck my phone in like Joejo
and I think, you use my phone one time? Freaking
you have a phone, and I thought, I can't remember. Also,
it was a phone, but it didn't have cell service.
It was like an old phone, so I could only
use it if I had WiFi. But I would listen
to the producers. Well, I remember we were on a
plane ride going somewhere and I sat next the plane

(30:52):
and we were listening to ch Swift and I can't
was the Wildest Dreams or what was it that we
were There was some Taylor Shift song that I remember
we were listening to was late and I were all flying.
I don't remember what it was. It was probably nine
something from that album. Because it obsessed um or, I
don't know so stitches. And then the other one was

(31:13):
it reminds me of you Antonia, the Alessia Kara song yours.
Oh it was in Hawaii. We were oh no, that
that was, um, I want you to ruin my life
your Yeah, that one too. Yeah, I listened to him.
I'm like, oh, Becca, I know, I know. We have

(31:34):
a lot of those. Um. And then people also are curious,
I feel like you've talked about this, but what happened
to cash Pad? People are like a lot of people
were like, I love cash Pad? What happened first? So
do I like topless kinda kinda? But you can see
the one strap? So yeah, I'm not you guys cash bad?

(31:55):
Can I tell you it was the funniest, most amazing
thing that jorn I ever got to do to get there.
The show was incredible. I think what happened is that
CNBC just the they didn't pick it up for another season.
They were going to try and do this whole like reality.
They picked up a bunch of different shows. They wanted
to start breaking into the reality TV space Because CBC

(32:15):
it was just known for like the stock market business,
they were trying to broaden their audience. Um, and so
before Cash Fred even air, they had basically cut all
the other shows that they they made except for Cash Bad.
Um and Cash Bad actually did really well. Like our
ratings were not like obviously the best they had, but
they were definitely competitive. They just decided that they weren't

(32:38):
going to do this like Real Estate Thursday or whatever
thing they were trying to do. So ever since that
that hasn't been picked up, I've been like so sad,
and I'm just like, I hope at some point I
get the chance to do this for for some other,
like for anyone really like we do it. But it
was so fun to be able to do it, to

(32:59):
film it, show it, and the stuff we did I
thought was so cool. So long story short, they just
asked us. But what we're saying is we are manifesting
another company to pick it up because you y'all loved it.
You're What I'm saying is it was never y'all's decision
not to do it. It was network, and I just

(33:21):
think it was the wrong network. Like unfortunately, we were
trying to target um an audience that hadn't been in
that space before. We were definitely like a younger demographic.
We were trying to get into the reality um that
sort of home flipping space. And they had other shows
that they had slated like kind of like a million
dollar listing, but for there and those didn't even air,

(33:42):
so Cash I was the only one that aired. UM,
And yeah, I don't it's just sometimes just how the
cookie crumbles, I think with TV these days. Do you

(34:07):
all do you all have um? This was another question
and I you know, you and I have talked about this.
Are y'all talking about babies? Yet? No? This house is
the baby as of now. I came home the other night, um,
after a long day of the house, and I remember
joh and I were like sitting on the floor, just

(34:28):
like in silence, just like not saying anything. And I
just looked at him and I said, if I had
to come home and take care of my life, I'd
be in a dark place. I don't have anything. That's
how I felt in that moment, and I just I

(34:48):
don't know. It's tough. It's tough because I lost my
birth control. And I was like, I guess it's time.
Oh God, right, And then I got back on yesterday. Well,
so okay, so we can revisit this conversation once the
house is done and you're settled, and that's what it is.

(35:09):
That's what it is. Like I think that we're just
kind of waiting for that moment where we like wake
up and we both and that's what's gonna it's gonna be.
It's not like we're waiting really on anything. We just
want to make sure we're both Like we wake up
one morning, you're like it's time, Like let's do it. Yeah,
And I just I don't think. I don't think either
of us are there yet. Like he likes to joke

(35:30):
and pretend like he's ready, but I'm like, you're lying.
So I mean, I totally get it. We did a
full episode where I talked about we had just watched
Haley's niece and I was just like, I don't know,
I don't know if this is my future, but um

(35:52):
but I love babysitting, Like I watched ms baby like
multiple times the past couple of weeks because she's so cute.
But it's so there's the question that we want kids,
like we both are very excited to have kids, and
it was just kind of figuring out like when do
we want to start that journey and It's just hard
to know because I don't know if I'm going to

(36:14):
be the type of person that struggles getting pregnant and
have to go through that sort of pregnancy journey, if
it's going to be easy for me, Like you just
don't know. Um So, like if I could look into
a little glass ball and say, wow, I'm gonna start
this and then by then I'm going to have the
baby and then like because that's kind of how my
mind thinks, I try to like I don't know if

(36:34):
they plan it out, but like I like to think
through like, Okay, well, if I'm how old am I are?
We thirty two in November, That's what I start thinking about.
Like I'm like if I never want to kids and
I don't want to have them back to back, Like
how I can space this out? So I think in
the near future, Becca, I don't think it'll be like
five years. But I think we're just waiting for that

(36:55):
moment to like be excited to start trying. Yeah, I mean,
there's been so y'all have done. There's been so much
going on in your life. It's not like you've had
this like lull where you could even think about that.
I don't have a baby line now, which is so crazy, Like,
you know what you mean, Jojo, I thought i'd be
married to a man with two kids by so jokes

(37:18):
on all of us, I guess, But I you know,
things sometimes go in a different direction and are going
to happen how they're supposed to. I agree, But I
also think we both I mean, we were raised in
a very similar culture and homes, Like there is like
a pressure that you're supposed to have certain things accomplished

(37:43):
by a certain age. But then there's also science and
the fact that getting older does like you do have
to take these things into consideration. You know. What's like
the biggest thing I think for me that makes me
want to do it, Um, I think a little sooner
maybe I'm like ready for is like I look at
how amazing of grandparents my mom and dad are and

(38:05):
how active they are with my niece and my nephew,
and they still have this youth to them where they
can run around and go to the trampoline park, and
I just think, like, man, I really want that for
my kids, Like I want all of my kids to
be able to have Grandma and Grandpappy big parts of
your life. Because I didn't get that like my grandma, grandparents.
My grandparents passed away when I was pretty young, so

(38:26):
I never had that like strong like pull to my
grandparents the way I see Maverick having with my mom,
Like my mom is mavericks favorite person on this planet,
and I'm like that it seems so special to me. Yeah,
that's that makes sense. I mean I think that's very Um,

(38:48):
I think about their age where they think about my
age obviously, Like, yeah, you're like, I don't worry about myself,
but people are getting pregnant at all ages now, Like
I don't really like that doesn't scare me as much.
But again, like I don't know what that journey is
gonna be like for me. So right, Well, like you said,
I mean, everything happens in the time that it was

(39:08):
supposed to happen exactly, and that's something you can rest
your head easy on. That's right. Um, what's next career wise?
Do you want to do? Like every a lot of
people are like I love to fledge what happened to fledge?
And I mean everything manifesting? What are manifesting a clothing line? Well, no,

(39:34):
Fletch was a huge success and unfortunately it was a
situation with our business partners where that relationship was ended
sour and there was some stuff going on that I
didn't know about, and so that was like one of
those things that was completely out of my control. Um.
And it's been like a really hard thing to try
and pick back up and do totally on my own. Um.

(39:55):
But I mean my focus, you know, it's always been
like the house stuff. Like I feel like since I
was doing the remodeling stuff before I everyone on the show,
and like continuing with that, Um, I'm working on a
home to poor line which has been like two years
in the making, which is so fun for me. Is
that your own? Is that your own? I didn't know.

(40:15):
You didn't tell me anything. You just told me you
were coming to shoot photos. No, you told me. I
didn't know you were doing a whole thing on your own. Well, yeah,
it's the it's this is the person I've talked about
it a scrubbing an exclusive. You've heard it here first.
Are you allowed to say the name of it yet?
It's just uh Joe, I mean I don't even know

(40:38):
if we It's just Jode Fletcher home and and it'll
be sold in retail stores so it's mostly retail, focusing
on home goods. Homegoods the store, and we're still working
through all the stuff, but we just launched in Canada
at home since Yeah, so I'm supposed to do a
story on my Instagram, but now that we're talking about it,

(41:02):
you will just yeah, We'll save this clip for you
and then you can post it on your story and
that there you go. You know, It's just it's I
gonna be working on for a while and I'm really
excited about um. I think just having something in my
own like I remember with Fletch, Like I was so
proud because I was so involved and invested in the
creation of that line and I saw just how much
people loved it. So when that didn't continue, I was

(41:25):
so heartbroken about it. So I just did my focus to, like,
what's something that I love and do in my daily
life that I can pour this energy into. And obviously
the home stuff was like a baby for me. It's
like something that I love to do. So that is
what I've been working on and then just manifesting keeping
these shows going because I gotta tell you, like one
thing Jordan, I really love doing together, it's hosting. I

(41:48):
love hosting. I don't know why. I just love it
so much. So y'all are so y'all are so it's okay.
Here's the thing. Good host make it look easy to host.
But just for all of you listening ouf there, it
is not easy to naturally host something. And like you
can tell when someone's not comfortable doing it. Like if

(42:09):
you want to see an example, I remember the first
show I ever did. It's like not a comfortable thing
to do for the first time, Like I was so nervous. Yeah,
but you've always been natural. And then you and Jordan
are both so good together, which really works out for
both of you. You know, y'all are just like Barbie
and Ken, y'all are good. It's just honestly, it's something

(42:33):
that we love doing together. Like when we filmed The
Big Day, um, just all the shows we go toge there,
but it was just like, you know what, we're both
really hard workers, and we had thousands of lines and
stuff that we had to know, and we would stay
up all nine making sure we never had to resort
back to our cards or to prompt and it was
just one of those things where like we were exhausted,
we had been studying all these lines, and a lot

(42:55):
of the times you don't get your scripts and stuff
to like hours before, sometimes like minutes before. But at
the end of it, we were like, you know what,
like this is actually something that we really love doing together.
We have so much fun doing it. And then I
think just being a part of like production is really
cool for us, Like we like being on the other
side of it and kind of seeing how it all
goes down, and I don't know, it's just really cool.

(43:17):
We really love that. So truth truthfully, this is what
could happen. This is what we're putting out there. Jojo
and Jordan's create, produce direct their own show that they
start in flipping homes while they're wearing JoJo's clothing line
and using her home decor. Let's just manifest it all

(43:41):
that was my that was me doing that for you.
Thank you. What's the what's the decor? Like? What is
it like pillow? What is it? So we're starting, I
mean with the last couple of years, I mean we've
talked about it, just with like shipping logistics, manufacturing material.
That's been like tough and that's why this has taken
so long, because we had a full line sheet of
these products that ranged from like small tabletop accessories in

(44:04):
decor to bigger kind of bigger but smaller furniture like
exite tables or automatiums or benches, um, and just with
how difficult everything has been the last couple of years.
Materials have been so difficult, so we're started starting to
just like roll out as we come now. So right
now we have a lot of organizational pieces. We have

(44:25):
amazing baskets, like I'm a big basket lovers, so baskets, pillows,
we have some art um and then a lot of
cute just like tabletop decorum, and we're getting into other
things like every week we have a meeting of designing
and putting things up on our vision board, and so
it's just kind of an ongoing collaboration. Will you send

(44:48):
me the line sheets so I can see the benches.
I need a bench for the end of my bed.
I'm having a really hard time. I saw that. Well
you just come to like all I need is for
you to come and look at my space and be like,
order this, this and this, help me do that for you.
I can do that for you. I know you have
no free time, but like, I just need help. Try
to hire me the other day to decorate their home

(45:12):
and I and it's a friend of mine here, and
I was like, I like, can't even know. I love
you with the answers and no, okay, what if I
do say I need No, I can help you. I'm
just kiddy. This is the whole house. She was asking, Okay,
I just need a few things here and there, and
your house looks great. But yes, let's do it. No,

(45:34):
I'm I'm bored. I want to redo everything. Let's do it, says.
We have emails where we give the best advice we

(45:57):
can give to people who need it. So um, this
first one is from anonymous, and she said, I don't
know if it's as she they say. Should I reach
out to my childhood best friend Although she told me
the week of my wedding she wasn't coming, she was
a bridesmaid, we haven't spoken for months. Some background. We

(46:17):
have been best friends since we were twelve. I am
thirty two now. Three years ago, my best friend lost
her boyfriend unexpectedly to a heart disorder no one knew about.
She was distraught, as expected. I tried to be there
for her as much as possible, but I was pregnant
with my third and in my online master's program. My
new this was all happening while in the pandemic. She
slowly started pushing me away. She didn't come to my

(46:39):
gender reveal, my baby shower, and never met my baby girl.
She has one and a half now. I tried to
reach out so many times, but she always canceled our plans.
She also didn't make it to my bachelorette party or
bride'smaid dinner I hosted. She bought her dress and rs VP.
About three months before my wedding, she moved into her
sister's house to be closer to work. Soon after she moved,

(46:59):
she told me her sister's husband was sick and immuno compromise.
She never said anything about not attending my wedding until
the week of. She said she didn't want to put
him at risk and would not come at all, not
even to the ceremony. Mind you, she had been in
Vegas the week before. I could not handle it and
told her this would really affect our friendship and that
I was hurt. What should I do help? Please? Wow? Yeah,

(47:24):
I mean I do I go? First year before is yours?
I don't really know, because it seems like she's been trying.
I think it's that she hadn't just is their name.
Anonymous seels like Anonymous has tried for a while to
bridge that gap in their friendship, and I'm a you know,
there's only so much you can do, I think, to

(47:45):
to make things better. It definitely takes both people. But
I also, on the other hand, do you believe that
she might be going through something that's obviously really hurting her.
It's affecting her in a way. So my advice to
be if your heart is still pulling you to try
and like mend this friendship, and if you're asking should

(48:05):
you do it again? I'm the type of person that, like,
if my heart telling you do something, I'll do it.
But I also am a firm believer that, like, there's
only so much you can do, right, So I don't know,
that's what do you think? Well? I think grief is
a really complicated thing and it's not the same for everybody.
And like losing someone who is a romantic partner, I mean,

(48:29):
losing anyone that's close to you, it's you never know
how you're going to act or what it's going to
be like for you. And I think a lot of
these things that she's missed have been celebrating really happy moments,
and she might not have the capacity to to be that,
Like she might not have the capacity to bring to
be happy or be happy for other people because she's

(48:49):
grieving a huge loss. I don't think it makes it
right that she's missed all these things, but I'm just saying, like,
trying to understand like why she would miss these like
monumental things of her best sprunt since childhood. Is the
only thing I can say is that, like, grief can
hit in unexpected ways, and maybe she has anxiety about
these big events and especially a wedding. I imagine that's

(49:11):
probably really complicated to navigate her feelings. And sometimes, um,
I think sometimes grief makes people feel um selfish, but
not in a not in a way that's meant to
be manipulative or evil or I mean, it's just she

(49:32):
might be like I can't I don't think I can
handle watching you get to experience something was that I'll
never get to experience because my person is gone. Maybe
the conversation, though, is like you said, it's like, is
allow allow that to be her answer, like give her
the opportunity to say, Okay, maybe this is what you're
going through. I don't know. I just want you to

(49:53):
know how much I love you and I care about you,
and if this is something that you're going through, like
know that you can talk to me about it because
I miss you and I miss our frien. And that's
a good point. Yeah, I think it's having a conversation
and saying, like, you know, this is really hard to
hear that you're not going to be at this huge day.
I know that it's probably really complicated for you and

(50:14):
through your loss, but I love you. I want to
be there for you, like if you can let me,
I agree. So yeah, I would just have a conversation
and see how you feel, and also let her know
that you're there for her and you know that life
has moved on and it's hard and maybe like obviously
it's been a long time and she hasn't obviously given

(50:35):
anonymous like sort of that conversation that she's been needing.
But I always say this, like just give grace when
you can because you never know obviously what that person
is going through and it probably has nothing to do
with you. Yeah, give grace, be patient, be there. That's
really hard. I'm really sorry for everybody involved. It sounds complicated. Okay,

(50:58):
this is from Bianca I own previous podcasts. Becca share
she was going to couples counseling. If she's willing to share,
I want to get some more insights on what both
what got both of you to the point of going,
Like when do you determine a relationship is worth fighting
for to go to counseling. Some backstory. I've been with
my boyfriend for four years, and we both come from
backgrounds where counseling in general is not talked about enough.

(51:19):
I started to attend individual counseling to better myself, and
I think I'm at the point of exploring if couples
counseling is our next solution to saving our relationship. We
have problems with communicating and hearing each other out, and
we are both very stubborn people and can't seem to
come to a compromising arguments. I know I've talked about
this with you, Jojo, but Haley and I'm from the

(51:41):
moment we met realized we are very different people. We
argue differently, we communicate differently, and um, it just got
to a point where it felt the same, like, are
are we ever going to get to a place where
we can do this in a healthy and productive way?
And she I think actually Haley suggested like a couple

(52:04):
of therapy. In my mind, I was like, that sounds
like doomsday. Like that sounds like if we're on a
couple of therapy, that's the beginning of the end. And
it has been the greatest thing to happen, not only
to our relationship, but to every relationship I have, like
with my friends and my family, everybody, because it's helped
me learn how to communicate like my family, not my family,

(52:25):
helped me to communicate my needs, how I'm feeling and um,
So I think that it can be such a beautiful thing.
And also like sometimes maybe you go to a couple
of therapy and you can't work it out, and that's
just like, hey, we've done everything, you know, like that
at least will give you a sense of feeling like
you gave it your all. Um. But yeah, I think

(52:46):
there's like a weird uh stigma around it. I had
that stigma. So I say that from experience, um, where
it feels like, oh no, like we're going to couples counseling,
that's not good, but it really has just helped us
both like as individuals and as a couple. That's what
I was gonna say, because like I've only done a
couple of therapy ones and it was in with a

(53:09):
former boyfriend, which was a horrible relationship. Like this person
wasn't not who I was gonna be with. Like that
was doomsday. That should have been. Like however, um, you
know when you said that, like the communication thing, I
think no matter what whether you I mean are you
don't argue you have problems. Everyone is so different, right,

(53:30):
Like you communicate differently, you feel things differently. And the
one thing that you said, Becca is like you guys
go to a couple of therapy together, but you also
do individual sessions. And I feel like that is something.
And if you talk to Jordan about this just because
like we also handle stress differently, So whether that means
like he keeps it to himself but or I keep
mind to myself and whether or not we realize it,

(53:51):
sometimes that can come out in relationships and it has
nothing to do with you or with him, or with
y'all or with I'm talking about in your relationship. And
it's just like talking to somebody about how you can
better pay handle your stress, but I'll better handle conversations communication.
And I like the idea of a couple of therapy.

(54:12):
I mean, in general, I don't think it has to
be a last resort like I think. I think Jordan,
I've talked about this, like we want to do that
just because I think it's proactive. It's it's how you
create I think, a stronger relationship. We still haven't done
that because we don't feel like there's this like I
feel like there's so much has been going on and
there's not the sense of urgency like oh we're having trouble,
so we can go to therapy. But I hear how

(54:35):
much it's helped you and Haley, and I've used that
as an example of like, oh, this should be really
good because they give you different exercises and different things,
are different ways to look at things and how to
process your own emotions so that you can be like
the best version of yourself. Yeah, I was gonna say,
I even think it's like there's times where Haley and
I were great and like we go to a couple

(54:55):
of therapy and it's we don't really have anything to
talk about, but we get to re establish, like what
was something that you appreciated about each other this week?
And just like little check ins that I love that
they're like small, but they add up and they make
such a difference. So I say, if he's willing to
do it, sometimes that's the hard part. If both parties
aren't willing to do it. Um, you can't force somebody,

(55:19):
but I think just letting him know that you want
to kind of have the best relationship that y'all can
have and have the healthy relationship, and um, I've fully
support it. So to be honest, like, if that's something
that Bianca wants to do, she wants to do having
a partner that supports and that obviously means that they
want it just as badly. So I think that that's

(55:42):
it's a good thing to bring it up and see
how he responds. Yeah, I feel like for Exam it's
like not, then that's something to consider. It might be
a sign. Um, I felt like we gave excellent advice.
I don't know if we do anything helpful, but we
gave it are all. I really feel like that trying

(56:03):
to follow I'm more of a visual reader, like I
have to read things to full understand the situation. So
I hope it didn't miss anything. But just be you
and that that's the final advice. Just be you, be happy.

(56:24):
Oh wait, have you? Have you been tempted or has
anyone tried to convince you to download the app? Be Real?
Have you heard of this? What is that? Okay? So
it's just another app where basically you get a notification
and it's like like you have to take a picture
of whatever you're doing, but it takes a photo of

(56:45):
what you're looking at, and then it also snaps a
photo of your face, which I did not know the
first time, so that was a shocker. What if you're
on the toilet, you see you send it? I personally
don't get I don't get it. It stresses me out.
I get the notification and it gives me anxiety. So
I don't find it like enjoyable for me personally. But
it just made me laugh. When you said be you,

(57:05):
I was gonna say, be real. Yeah, we can just
eliminate that from the advice. He did give great advice
up until that point, so I think that's great advice.
My new motto is if I'm if I want to
do something, I'm not gonna not do it because I'm
worried about what other people are gonna think. That's great advice,

(57:25):
and it's also something that's hard to do, so it's
very hard. Yeah. Yeah, you know, we're not We're not
good at that. Um, Okay, I love you so much,
thanks for scrubbing in. I just loved scrubbing in with you,
and I love you, and I love everyone listening, and
hopefully I'll be back on a later date. That's right,
We'll see you soon, everybody. Um, we love you, buying,

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