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I Suck at Dating with de Nungler and Jared Haven
and I Heard Radio podcast. Hello everyone, and welcome to
Thursday's special caller episode of Help I Suck at Dating.
We've had Caroline and the waiter room for three minutes already,
but we brought Serena back to GUS to guest co
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host this episode with us as well. Um, but like
I said, we've got Caroline waiting in the waiting room
and I feel bad because she's been sitting there for
a few minutes. So let's see if we can get
her in here. Welcome to the podcast. Thank you so
much for calling in. You got me Dean, Well, I'm
and there's Jared to help you answer whatever question you
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might have for us. We're here to help. So what
do you got for us? All right? So, basically a
couple of days ago, I woke up, you know, before
my boyfriend and realized my phone was downstairs. So I
reached for his phones to check the time, and I
saw a message on his home screen that he got
two AM from a woman saying thinking about you. Oh yeah,
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um about two years now? Two years? Yeah, that's pretty bad.
So what did you do next? What was your next
move when well before I was washing the blood off
my hands. No, I'm kidding. I was right there with you, Jared.
I didn't kill him. I didn't. Um. I actually didn't
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know what to do, so I just kind of left
for work and decided to talk to him about it
when I got home. And when I confronted him about it,
he said it was just as co worker who reached
out since she knew that he had like this big
presentation that morning. Oh man, please spare me. He honestly
said that. Yeah, And I didn't like ask him or
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anything to go through his messages. I'm just kind of
hoping that you know, he's telling the truth. Yeah, he's
never really lied to me before that I know of that.
You know of? Right? Well, Serena, what do you think
about this? I'm going to give you like the girl
finding the message versus I'd rather have a guy's opinion
on this, but I would literally be spiraling. I do
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you know? Do you know the name of the girl?
Have you met them all? No? I I haven't met
her. Her Her name is Emily, but like I don't know,
I don't really know a lot of his work friends. Well,
you need to get to know, Emily, like you need
to go there like sniff this out, Like, oh, hi, Emily,
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you're the one who texts my boyfriend two in the
two in the morning because you're very concerned about his
presentation the next day. That was so kind of you.
And if you reach out again, I will end you know, Um,
I don't know. I mean that's tough because it seems
it's sketched. It's totally sketch, even for a co worker.
Come on now too in the morning thinking of about you.
You're only thinking about somebody at two in the morning,
not because of their presentation, but for other reasons. So, uh,
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it sucks. I'm sorry that you have to go through this. Um,
but my advice would be not to put not to
just push it aside. It's like, oh, it was nothing.
I think it was definitely something, and I think it's
something you should really address and talk further with your boyfriend. Yeah. Unfortunately,
I feel like you're probably right, Yeah, right, definitely, Serena,
I got a question, what would you do if you
rolled over and saw that message on Jamie's phone? I
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would I would probably, Okay, So like the savage me
would like literally wake him up and be like who
is this and like, let me read that's going on.
But because I am a little bit more like timid
and like I like to have all the facts so
that when I shoot the gun, it's like ammo after
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ammo after am Like you can't find yourself out of
this situation. I would probably do my due diligence and
like smooth and like see who this girl is, what's
going on, and really get my facts in order so
that when I do approach him about the situation, either
it's this girl trying to get at him or it's
like a mutual they're like having a little thing behind
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my back and then take it from there. Yeah well, yeah, Caroline,
I agree with that too. You gotta get a little
bit more information, but definitely don't let it uh pass
by without any further I don't know, judgment or like research,
because it sounds like there might be something um going
on and that would necessarily like yeah, yeah, so keep
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keep that in mind. But we wish you the best.
And I'm sure, I mean, I'm hoping that it really
was just the work thing, but I would say just
using like the surface test, it might be a little
something more. But we hope you the best. Hope the
best for you. Thank you so much. You guys appreciate it.
Thank you, thank you. What's going on, Graham? Welcome to
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the podcast. How are you? I'm all right. How are
you guys doing? Thank you for going in. What's what
afflicks to you today? Uh? Well, I mean so I've
been with my girl for a bit over a year.
We just celebrated our year anniversary about two three weeks ago,
thank you. And about a week later, they had a
girl's trip out to Vegas. It was one of her
close friend's birthdays and they went out and um, which
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was great. You know, I got a little time to myself.
She went out with her girls. She comes back, but
and she shows me this new tattoo. I mean, I
love I love her. I just gotta tell you, I
love her. I think she is the one. I think
this is gonna work out, Like that's it for me.
I can't imagine my life without anybody else, which is great.
But in this tattoo, she's looking at me, and she's
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looking at me with this approval, and she's showing me
that she had my name tattooed on like really small
on her ribs. And I don't know. I don't know.
It's there's like like I just started feeling this pressure.
So she got Graham tattoo on her ribs in Las
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Vegas on a girl's trip. Yes, yes, I mean it
could have been worse. She could have been been like Graham. Look,
I got a tattoo of a guy named Mike on me.
What I'm saying, I feel like when girls go on
girls trips and their boyfriends are at home, they're just
assuming like all these bad things are happening. But if
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your girl came home with your name tattooed on her ribs,
that like wife her pressure there, she's got a bad
like serious about you. I agree. I think this is
all good things for your Graham and I like that.
I like that, but there's a bit of pressure, you
know what I mean? Like, I know, I feel like
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she's the one, But do I have to now like
propose in a week? Is this what that's meaning? Like
I suddenly feel like, oh do I things are moved?
Like do things have to move fast? Now? You know,
don't overthink it. I think she just got a tattoo
of you, which is really yeah, I mean forward, but
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are you guys been Dane for a while. I don't
see any reason why you think you should like fast
forward the proposal of the marriage now, becauseides all the
pressure is on her. I mean, if it doesn't work out,
she's the one who's get tattoo removed. Exactly true. And
I wouldn't say it's that so much pressure because I
feel like she did it spontaneously. She didn't like premeditate
saying like, oh, like the next step in my relationship
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is getting a tattoo of his name when I'm in
Vegas with the girls trip, you know, like it was
like a spur of the moment, like I love this
man or whatever, I'm going to get his name on me,
and I think he'll love it and it'll just be
like for Funzies and like, yeah, yeah, I agree. It's
a good point. I think a good way to get
rid of some of the pressure to Grammys, you could
just have her get Cracker on the other side of
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it as well, and that way she's just a big
fan of like Honey Grams or something like that. I'm
not gonna lie, I was saying the exact same thing,
and then so she could do one rib Graham the
other rib cracker and then on the lower back it
would say s'mores, or you could do chocolate and marshmallow,
like chocolate marshmallow on the back, and then you know
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she is a smore. There's there's options. But I do
agree with Storena. I think it's hot. I think it's great,
and I think that she loves to do and I
know the pressure is definitely there. Um, but just keep
in mind if it does end up going south at
any point, she does have a fallback and she can
just get a small tattooed on her lower back and
all will be well, man, it's crazy that I'm that
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easily replaceable by a delicious snack. No, you're not. It's
just it's if I would say she's using the tattoo
against you, saying like I got your name tattooed on me.
You need to do this, this, this, and this for me,
then I'd be like, I didn't ask you to do that,
Bute and Graham, I got news for you. I've been
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married for three years. We are very replaceable by a
delicious snack. If Ashley had to choose between myself or nachos,
I honestly don't know what you'd picked right now in
the moment, probably nachos thousand nachos. Um could always you
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could always butt and get a tattoo of your own
as well, just something something along the same lines as that.
I don't know that it might be more of a
commitment to ye talking about pressure, yeah really yeah yeah,
but Graham, thanks for calling, man. We appreciate it. Thank you,
luck with everything, and I mean you're in this for
life now, so about thanks man. You guys have a
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good one. Thanks a lot for everything. Appreciate it all right,
see you, buddy. Our third and final caller is Claire.
Welcome to what their pleasure it is to have you?
He thank you. What's going on in life of Claire today?
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Oh we're launching right in right, Yeah, that's how we
do it here. Um. So I've I've been with my
boyfriend for about five years, um, which is kind of
hard to believe. Um, and you know it's uh well
a little bit of a delicate subject. But um, we're
kind of lucky if we're able to have sex like
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once a week. Um that's you know, on a good week. Um.
So I wouldn't say that it like affects our relationship
or you know, you know, we're happy. It's just kind
of like is it normal? I mean, we're just kind
of like tired at the end of the day. I
am pretty much tend to just like watch Netflix and
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go to sleep. So I'm wondering if we should be
making more of an effort to like make the time. Yeah,
I mean five years is a long time. I think
once a week after five years, that's, uh, that's pretty
good in my book. I gotta say, what do you think? Yeah,
I mean when you said once a week, I was like,
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all right, hot and heavy, good job. And then you're like, oh,
that's a bad thing. Never mind, Okay, I gotta read
You're like, we're having too much sex. We're having sex
once a week. It's too much. I guess it's all relative, right,
I mean, yeah, I don't know. I think that's great.
I think if you guys can keep doing it once
a week, I think most people would agree that that's, uh,
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that's pretty good. I don't know. I'm I'm curious. So
Serena has been in a relationship for six months. We're
not gonna ask her to get into the nitty greedy
of your of her sex life, but what do you
think about once a week, Serena. Um. I just feel
like if both partners are equally initiating the sex, then
then it's a common understanding. But if one person is
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doing it more than the other, or the one person
is just you know, not there, then I feel like
there's a conversation that can be had. M h. Yeah,
that's a good that's a good bit of advice. I
saw this. I saw this video on TikTok the other
day about this exact scenario and the therapist, and she
was like a sex therapist. She was saying that rather
than talking about like giving pleasure to your partner whatever
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it is, make it seem like you guys are both
doing something like you're both like escaping into each other's
bodies for like a fun amount of time and essentially
like you're going on like a like a vacation of sorts,
you know what I mean. So I think I think
a lot of it has to do with like psychologically,
like just like making it seem less of like a
chore and more of like an adventure, you know. Yeah,
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especially in five years is a long time to be
in a relationship. I mean, Kaitlin and I have been
in a relationship for three years my girlfriend and I
mean we definitely have seen like a downtick in terms
of frequency, which I think is pretty standard. But um,
five years, once a week, I mean I'm impressed. I
think I think that's pretty good in my opinion. Okay, great.
I was worried to be like a red flag. It's
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a red flag, like Serena said, is if one of
you are not getting satisfaction with what you need. I
think that would be the only thing. If one of
you has more sexual needs than the other and you're
like once a week is not doing it for me,
and the other person is like, well I'm fine, then
that's a red flag because then you know, you've got
to make sure that you know you're happy in a
lot of different departments within a relationship and then includes sex.
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So yeah, definitely definitely. Well hopefully that helps Claire. Um yeah,
just uh, you know you're doing something right, so keep
doing it and best of luck moving forward. Hopefully our
advice doesn't lead you too far straight here. But thank
you so much for calling in. No, thank you. I
feel like we should get gold stars now. Everyone gets
a gold Star participation medal. Yeah, Thank you guys so much.
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I really appreciate it. Thank you for calling in. All right,
well that's gonna do it for our color segment, our
fifth color segment we've ever had, and they're just getting
better and better and better, especially with screena here giving
out the great advice. Um Trina, thank you for guests
co hosting with us this week. You really appreciate it.
Thank Yeah, it was a lot of fun. We are
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excited to see you and you're badass NFL agent boyfriend
to take over the world the distance, but I'm confident.
I mean I you talked pretty highly about them. I
could definitely say, Um, I had one more thing I
wanted to say, Oh yeah, best of luck on your
on your well you already moved to Miami, but best
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of luck, like you know, getting up to speed and
all that kind of stuff out there and challenge came
to you. I just looked up you guys, and congrats
when your kids gorgeous. Thank you and I appreciate it
and treating you well. Thank you. Traveling traveling more than
I have. But yeah, well I'm unemployed, so I all
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I have time to do is travel these days. But unemployed,
that's what we call it unemployed. I started telling people
I'm retired. I don't know, that's even better. It's even better.
They're like, wait, what you are I'm like, no, not really,
I just I'm sick of telling people I want to employed. Um, Jared,
I saw a Topic on the other day and it
was good. Kaylin wanted to see it really bad. We
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saw a top Gun and she said it was the
best movie she's ever seen. It's so freaking good. It's
just good. So it was good. Miles Teller is awesome.
There were a couple of things, a couple of scenes
where I was like, it's like super like over the top,
but generally overall I was I was. I was impressed.
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I like almost cried a couple of times. And I
don't even think I remember seeing the original Topic that.
I'm like, why am I so emotional watching this movie?
Do you need to see the original to see the
new one? I don't think so. I mean it helps.
Kylen watched the original the day before going to see
the second one, and she said it helped. But like
I said, I hadn't seen the first one in like
twenty years, and I was still getting emotional in the movie. Theater.
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So I just wanted to say that. I just want
to say, your boy did it, did it well? Um?
But three thanks again for joining us. We appreciate it.
We can't wait to check in with you again sometime soon. Yeah,
best of luck with everything. Travel safe. If you hit
some turbulence, just hold on for dear life. I guess
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I'm saying Jared was saying you always looked at the
flight attendants for approval, and like I literally made a
story on my aser about this. It's just like when
all the scared passengers are looking at me and I'm
just like terrified inside, but I have to smile. Okay,
so you are terrified on the inside or not? Calm great,
this is awesome. What a way to leave off. Can't
wait to fly again. You can start messing with people
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and just like looking terrified every time you hit a bump,
like I don't know, that'd be pretty funny, but that
would be so funny. The one time I did look scared,
like it was just fear, like fear, I was just
strict staring at If I saw the flight attendant look scared,
as I would die of a heart attack because I'd
be convinced we're going down. She they know something I don't.
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They know something I don't. The pilot's talking to them. Hey,
there's never been an accident do to turbulence. Just keep
that in mind next time. Um, but yeah, we gotta
we gotta wrap this step. So Serena, thanks again, best
luck with everything. Jared, I love you. I'll see you
next week, maybe when we stuck a little bit less.
Oh wait, actually you know what. I won't be here
next week. I'll be in Pakistan. So, um, maybe Jared'll
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suck a little bit less and next time you guys
hear from me, I'll suck a lot a bit less
because a couple of weeks. So don't don't suck in Pakistan, bro,
don't suck in Pakistan. Great, all right, we'll see you
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I Suck at Dating with de Nungler and Jared Haven
and I Heard Radio podcast. Hello everyone, and welcome to
Thursday's special caller episode of Help I Suck at Dating.
We've had Caroline and the waiter room for three minutes already,
but we brought Serena back to GUS to guest co
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host this episode with us as well. Um, but like
I said, we've got Caroline waiting in the waiting room
and I feel bad because she's been sitting there for
a few minutes. So let's see if we can get
her in here. Welcome to the podcast. Thank you so
much for calling in. You got me Dean, Well, I'm
and there's Jared to help you answer whatever question you
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might have for us. We're here to help. So what
do you got for us? All right? So, basically a
couple of days ago, I woke up, you know, before
my boyfriend and realized my phone was downstairs. So I
reached for his phones to check the time, and I
saw a message on his home screen that he got
two AM from a woman saying thinking about you. Oh yeah,
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um about two years now? Two years? Yeah, that's pretty bad.
So what did you do next? What was your next
move when well before I was washing the blood off
my hands. No, I'm kidding. I was right there with you, Jared.
I didn't kill him. I didn't. Um. I actually didn't
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know what to do, so I just kind of left
for work and decided to talk to him about it
when I got home. And when I confronted him about it,
he said it was just as co worker who reached
out since she knew that he had like this big
presentation that morning. Oh man, please spare me. He honestly
said that. Yeah, And I didn't like ask him or
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anything to go through his messages. I'm just kind of
hoping that you know, he's telling the truth. Yeah, he's
never really lied to me before that I know of that.
You know of? Right? Well, Serena, what do you think
about this? I'm going to give you like the girl
finding the message versus I'd rather have a guy's opinion
on this, but I would literally be spiraling. I do
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you know? Do you know the name of the girl?
Have you met them all? No? I I haven't met
her. Her Her name is Emily, but like I don't know,
I don't really know a lot of his work friends. Well,
you need to get to know, Emily, like you need
to go there like sniff this out, Like, oh, hi, Emily,
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you're the one who texts my boyfriend two in the
two in the morning because you're very concerned about his
presentation the next day. That was so kind of you.
And if you reach out again, I will end you know, Um,
I don't know. I mean that's tough because it seems
it's sketched. It's totally sketch, even for a co worker.
Come on now too in the morning thinking of about you.
You're only thinking about somebody at two in the morning,
not because of their presentation, but for other reasons. So, uh,
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it sucks. I'm sorry that you have to go through this. Um,
but my advice would be not to put not to
just push it aside. It's like, oh, it was nothing.
I think it was definitely something, and I think it's
something you should really address and talk further with your boyfriend. Yeah. Unfortunately,
I feel like you're probably right, Yeah, right, definitely, Serena,
I got a question, what would you do if you
rolled over and saw that message on Jamie's phone? I
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would I would probably, Okay, So like the savage me
would like literally wake him up and be like who
is this and like, let me read that's going on.
But because I am a little bit more like timid
and like I like to have all the facts so
that when I shoot the gun, it's like ammo after
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ammo after am Like you can't find yourself out of
this situation. I would probably do my due diligence and
like smooth and like see who this girl is, what's
going on, and really get my facts in order so
that when I do approach him about the situation, either
it's this girl trying to get at him or it's
like a mutual they're like having a little thing behind
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my back and then take it from there. Yeah well, yeah, Caroline,
I agree with that too. You gotta get a little
bit more information, but definitely don't let it uh pass
by without any further I don't know, judgment or like research,
because it sounds like there might be something um going
on and that would necessarily like yeah, yeah, so keep
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keep that in mind. But we wish you the best.
And I'm sure, I mean, I'm hoping that it really
was just the work thing, but I would say just
using like the surface test, it might be a little
something more. But we hope you the best. Hope the
best for you. Thank you so much. You guys appreciate it.
Thank you, thank you. What's going on, Graham? Welcome to
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the podcast. How are you? I'm all right. How are
you guys doing? Thank you for going in. What's what
afflicks to you today? Uh? Well, I mean so I've
been with my girl for a bit over a year.
We just celebrated our year anniversary about two three weeks ago,
thank you. And about a week later, they had a
girl's trip out to Vegas. It was one of her
close friend's birthdays and they went out and um, which
(05:25):
was great. You know, I got a little time to myself.
She went out with her girls. She comes back, but
and she shows me this new tattoo. I mean, I
love I love her. I just gotta tell you, I
love her. I think she is the one. I think
this is gonna work out, Like that's it for me.
I can't imagine my life without anybody else, which is great.
But in this tattoo, she's looking at me, and she's
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looking at me with this approval, and she's showing me
that she had my name tattooed on like really small
on her ribs. And I don't know. I don't know.
It's there's like like I just started feeling this pressure.
So she got Graham tattoo on her ribs in Las
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Vegas on a girl's trip. Yes, yes, I mean it
could have been worse. She could have been been like Graham. Look,
I got a tattoo of a guy named Mike on me.
What I'm saying, I feel like when girls go on
girls trips and their boyfriends are at home, they're just
assuming like all these bad things are happening. But if
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your girl came home with your name tattooed on her ribs,
that like wife her pressure there, she's got a bad
like serious about you. I agree. I think this is
all good things for your Graham and I like that.
I like that, but there's a bit of pressure, you
know what I mean? Like, I know, I feel like
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she's the one, But do I have to now like
propose in a week? Is this what that's meaning? Like
I suddenly feel like, oh do I things are moved?
Like do things have to move fast? Now? You know,
don't overthink it. I think she just got a tattoo
of you, which is really yeah, I mean forward, but
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are you guys been Dane for a while. I don't
see any reason why you think you should like fast
forward the proposal of the marriage now, becauseides all the
pressure is on her. I mean, if it doesn't work out,
she's the one who's get tattoo removed. Exactly true. And
I wouldn't say it's that so much pressure because I
feel like she did it spontaneously. She didn't like premeditate
saying like, oh, like the next step in my relationship
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is getting a tattoo of his name when I'm in
Vegas with the girls trip, you know, like it was
like a spur of the moment, like I love this
man or whatever, I'm going to get his name on me,
and I think he'll love it and it'll just be
like for Funzies and like, yeah, yeah, I agree. It's
a good point. I think a good way to get
rid of some of the pressure to Grammys, you could
just have her get Cracker on the other side of
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it as well, and that way she's just a big
fan of like Honey Grams or something like that. I'm
not gonna lie, I was saying the exact same thing,
and then so she could do one rib Graham the
other rib cracker and then on the lower back it
would say s'mores, or you could do chocolate and marshmallow,
like chocolate marshmallow on the back, and then you know
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she is a smore. There's there's options. But I do
agree with Storena. I think it's hot. I think it's great,
and I think that she loves to do and I
know the pressure is definitely there. Um, but just keep
in mind if it does end up going south at
any point, she does have a fallback and she can
just get a small tattooed on her lower back and
all will be well, man, it's crazy that I'm that
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easily replaceable by a delicious snack. No, you're not. It's
just it's if I would say she's using the tattoo
against you, saying like I got your name tattooed on me.
You need to do this, this, this, and this for me,
then I'd be like, I didn't ask you to do that,
Bute and Graham, I got news for you. I've been
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married for three years. We are very replaceable by a
delicious snack. If Ashley had to choose between myself or nachos,
I honestly don't know what you'd picked right now in
the moment, probably nachos thousand nachos. Um could always you
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could always butt and get a tattoo of your own
as well, just something something along the same lines as that.
I don't know that it might be more of a
commitment to ye talking about pressure, yeah really yeah yeah,
but Graham, thanks for calling, man. We appreciate it. Thank you,
luck with everything, and I mean you're in this for
life now, so about thanks man. You guys have a
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good one. Thanks a lot for everything. Appreciate it all right,
see you, buddy. Our third and final caller is Claire.
Welcome to what their pleasure it is to have you?
He thank you. What's going on in life of Claire today?
(10:03):
Oh we're launching right in right, Yeah, that's how we
do it here. Um. So I've I've been with my
boyfriend for about five years, um, which is kind of
hard to believe. Um, and you know it's uh well
a little bit of a delicate subject. But um, we're
kind of lucky if we're able to have sex like
(10:25):
once a week. Um that's you know, on a good week. Um.
So I wouldn't say that it like affects our relationship
or you know, you know, we're happy. It's just kind
of like is it normal? I mean, we're just kind
of like tired at the end of the day. I
am pretty much tend to just like watch Netflix and
(10:48):
go to sleep. So I'm wondering if we should be
making more of an effort to like make the time. Yeah,
I mean five years is a long time. I think
once a week after five years, that's, uh, that's pretty
good in my book. I gotta say, what do you think? Yeah,
I mean when you said once a week, I was like,
(11:08):
all right, hot and heavy, good job. And then you're like, oh,
that's a bad thing. Never mind, Okay, I gotta read
You're like, we're having too much sex. We're having sex
once a week. It's too much. I guess it's all relative, right,
I mean, yeah, I don't know. I think that's great.
I think if you guys can keep doing it once
a week, I think most people would agree that that's, uh,
(11:30):
that's pretty good. I don't know. I'm I'm curious. So
Serena has been in a relationship for six months. We're
not gonna ask her to get into the nitty greedy
of your of her sex life, but what do you
think about once a week, Serena. Um. I just feel
like if both partners are equally initiating the sex, then
then it's a common understanding. But if one person is
(11:52):
doing it more than the other, or the one person
is just you know, not there, then I feel like
there's a conversation that can be had. M h. Yeah,
that's a good that's a good bit of advice. I
saw this. I saw this video on TikTok the other
day about this exact scenario and the therapist, and she
was like a sex therapist. She was saying that rather
than talking about like giving pleasure to your partner whatever
(12:15):
it is, make it seem like you guys are both
doing something like you're both like escaping into each other's
bodies for like a fun amount of time and essentially
like you're going on like a like a vacation of sorts,
you know what I mean. So I think I think
a lot of it has to do with like psychologically,
like just like making it seem less of like a
chore and more of like an adventure, you know. Yeah,
(12:38):
especially in five years is a long time to be
in a relationship. I mean, Kaitlin and I have been
in a relationship for three years my girlfriend and I
mean we definitely have seen like a downtick in terms
of frequency, which I think is pretty standard. But um,
five years, once a week, I mean I'm impressed. I
think I think that's pretty good in my opinion. Okay, great.
I was worried to be like a red flag. It's
(13:03):
a red flag, like Serena said, is if one of
you are not getting satisfaction with what you need. I
think that would be the only thing. If one of
you has more sexual needs than the other and you're
like once a week is not doing it for me,
and the other person is like, well I'm fine, then
that's a red flag because then you know, you've got
to make sure that you know you're happy in a
lot of different departments within a relationship and then includes sex.
(13:26):
So yeah, definitely definitely. Well hopefully that helps Claire. Um yeah,
just uh, you know you're doing something right, so keep
doing it and best of luck moving forward. Hopefully our
advice doesn't lead you too far straight here. But thank
you so much for calling in. No, thank you. I
feel like we should get gold stars now. Everyone gets
a gold Star participation medal. Yeah, Thank you guys so much.
(13:49):
I really appreciate it. Thank you for calling in. All right,
well that's gonna do it for our color segment, our
fifth color segment we've ever had, and they're just getting
better and better and better, especially with screena here giving
out the great advice. Um Trina, thank you for guests
co hosting with us this week. You really appreciate it.
Thank Yeah, it was a lot of fun. We are
(14:10):
excited to see you and you're badass NFL agent boyfriend
to take over the world the distance, but I'm confident.
I mean I you talked pretty highly about them. I
could definitely say, Um, I had one more thing I
wanted to say, Oh yeah, best of luck on your
on your well you already moved to Miami, but best
(14:31):
of luck, like you know, getting up to speed and
all that kind of stuff out there and challenge came
to you. I just looked up you guys, and congrats
when your kids gorgeous. Thank you and I appreciate it
and treating you well. Thank you. Traveling traveling more than
I have. But yeah, well I'm unemployed, so I all
(14:52):
I have time to do is travel these days. But unemployed,
that's what we call it unemployed. I started telling people
I'm retired. I don't know, that's even better. It's even better.
They're like, wait, what you are I'm like, no, not really,
I just I'm sick of telling people I want to employed. Um, Jared,
I saw a Topic on the other day and it
was good. Kaylin wanted to see it really bad. We
(15:13):
saw a top Gun and she said it was the
best movie she's ever seen. It's so freaking good. It's
just good. So it was good. Miles Teller is awesome.
There were a couple of things, a couple of scenes
where I was like, it's like super like over the top,
but generally overall I was I was. I was impressed.
(15:33):
I like almost cried a couple of times. And I
don't even think I remember seeing the original Topic that.
I'm like, why am I so emotional watching this movie?
Do you need to see the original to see the
new one? I don't think so. I mean it helps.
Kylen watched the original the day before going to see
the second one, and she said it helped. But like
I said, I hadn't seen the first one in like
twenty years, and I was still getting emotional in the movie. Theater.
(15:53):
So I just wanted to say that. I just want
to say, your boy did it, did it well? Um?
But three thanks again for joining us. We appreciate it.
We can't wait to check in with you again sometime soon. Yeah,
best of luck with everything. Travel safe. If you hit
some turbulence, just hold on for dear life. I guess
(16:14):
I'm saying Jared was saying you always looked at the
flight attendants for approval, and like I literally made a
story on my aser about this. It's just like when
all the scared passengers are looking at me and I'm
just like terrified inside, but I have to smile. Okay,
so you are terrified on the inside or not? Calm great,
this is awesome. What a way to leave off. Can't
wait to fly again. You can start messing with people
(16:36):
and just like looking terrified every time you hit a bump,
like I don't know, that'd be pretty funny, but that
would be so funny. The one time I did look scared,
like it was just fear, like fear, I was just
strict staring at If I saw the flight attendant look scared,
as I would die of a heart attack because I'd
be convinced we're going down. She they know something I don't.
(17:00):
They know something I don't. The pilot's talking to them. Hey,
there's never been an accident do to turbulence. Just keep
that in mind next time. Um, but yeah, we gotta
we gotta wrap this step. So Serena, thanks again, best
luck with everything. Jared, I love you. I'll see you
next week, maybe when we stuck a little bit less.
Oh wait, actually you know what. I won't be here
next week. I'll be in Pakistan. So, um, maybe Jared'll
(17:23):
suck a little bit less and next time you guys
hear from me, I'll suck a lot a bit less
because a couple of weeks. So don't don't suck in Pakistan, bro,
don't suck in Pakistan. Great, all right, we'll see you
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