August 9, 2023 • 22 mins
Our IN DEPTH conversation with Clare Crawley continues.
We get into her time as The Bachelorette, how she found love since leaving the show, and more on her IVF journey!
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
This is Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous in Depth.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Hello, Almost Famous listeners, Welcome back to part two of
our interview with Claire Crawley. We wanted to have an
episode dedicated just to talking about her future daughter. Make
sure if you haven't already listened to part one, it'll
give you a lot of context for what has led
Claire and Ryan to this point in their lives.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Ryan is now going to be a girl dad of three?
Right or right? He has two girls right now?
Speaker 3 (00:34):
Yep, he does.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
He's gonna be a girl dad of three. I don't
know Ryan, Well, I know my buddies. Well, I know
my buddies well who have two girls? There was a
lot of hope for a boy. Was he hoping for
a boy?
Speaker 3 (00:48):
Here?
Speaker 1 (00:48):
Is he really just happy to be a girl dad
of three? Is he like? Walk us through what Ryan
looks like as a girl dad?
Speaker 3 (00:56):
Oh? Okay, So I'll give you a little insight on
the IVF process. And as we went through IVF. In
IVF and when you're making embryos, you get the option
to know, because you create embryos the sex of the babies. Yeah,
(01:16):
And knowing that that was going to be an opportunity
or an option. I asked Ryan, And when we were
talking about it one night, I was like, would you
like a boy because you do have never had a boy,
or would you like a girl?
Speaker 4 (01:27):
If we should? I really want He.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
Was like, well what do you want? And I said,
I just want a baby. I'm happy with a baby.
Speaker 4 (01:38):
But Claire, you know you wanted to be a girl mom.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Well now you know what you said it literally you
said it best. Ashley. That like makes me cry because
I'm like, I was meant to be a girl mom.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
I was meant to be.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
A girl mom. But Ryan said the same thing. He
was like, if we could choose, I love my girls.
I love being a girl dad. I love of every
single thing that comes along with being a girl dad,
and I know how to do it. I would love
another girl. We ultimately came to the decision obviously we
don't want to choose, we just want. So we did
(02:13):
not choose the sex of our baby.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Okay, I was gonna ask you if I wasn't sure
there was two personal When when you cut that cake,
it's like it's gonna be pank, duh.
Speaker 4 (02:22):
She's definitely getting a girl.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
In my head, I was like, and if they went
through the whole process like she got to pick so,
but you didn't pick.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Wow, I didn't know it would be personal, like I
would have just has to hear as a follow up.
So I'm glad you saved me from embarrassing myself. Claire
things one step.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
Further and tell you, guys, so the funny thing this is,
this is one of my favorite parts of this story.
And I'll tell you a two part you guys, But basically,
as you do get to choose the sex, I was
we were literally on the phone with doctor Amy and
she's our embryo. I don't know what you but would
you use the egg whisper?
Speaker 4 (03:01):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (03:02):
Yea doctor. She's amazing. She's actually ten minutes from our house.
Speaker 4 (03:06):
It's okay.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
So we're on the phone and it was time for
the embryos. We were seeing which what grew, you know,
how it all was playing out, and she said, okay,
this is her last option because we'd already told her
we don't want to find out the sex of the baby.
You choose the healthiest embryo if one grew and became healthy.
And she said, okay, do you want to know those
(03:29):
sex of the baby or do you want to choose
the sex of the baby, and we said, we still
want to stick by it. I mean, obviously it was
dying to know by it. Please just as long as
long as the health there's it's a healthy baby, we're happy.
And she said, okay, because I will let you know.
You actually do not get to choose the sex of
the baby. They're all the same. There was.
Speaker 4 (03:51):
It was gonna be a girl.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
The whole time, but you still didn't know until you
cut the cake. That was a true gender review.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
We told we knew, we knew before we cut the cake.
That was just way because I am.
Speaker 4 (04:02):
Just your Instagram, Yeah, that would I.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
To share with you guys because I knew. I didn't
go on social for a minute because I was like,
if I even say anything about the baby, I'm gonna say, yeah,
like I about to give it away before we could
share with everybody. But it's just cool because literally, for
ten years, probably more than that, I've shared with my
friends and family, I've had so many dreams of my baby,
(04:26):
going to the hospital to pick up my baby girl,
and it's crazy how life has played out. Because that
is what is going to happen. I'm not carrying her
in my dreams, I'm not pregnant in my dreams.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
I was always grew.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
Up at the hospital. Yeah, and it was a little girl.
And I just like, this makes me so happy.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Oh my goodness.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Clear, that's really wildly, really incredible. Is that you had
dreams that, like, you've never had dreams that you're pregnant,
but you had dreams of picking up your little girl.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
Yeah. And it was always different dreams of like she's
she's here, and I would always be like, oh God,
I don't have her Carsia yet, I don't know how
am I going to bring her home? And we don't
have her Carci yet or what do we name her? Like,
it was always dreams, different dreams all the time. But
it was always going to pick her up at the
hospital and she's here and I'm not ready for it,
or she's here and I'm finally ready, or you know,
(05:21):
just a variety of different dreams.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
But it was.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
Always a little girl that we were going to pick up.
And like I said, I never have had dreams of
being pregnant ever.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
And I know that I've talked to you know, you
a little bit before we got on the mic, and
you told me that the whole process will be documented
and we will be able to know it all at
a certain point. So there's certain details that we can't
go into during this interview. But I do want to
ask you one thing that I think you might be
able to respond to because you alluded to it earlier.
(06:01):
You said that you were going through the IVF process.
Was that you just harvesting the eggs or was that
you trying to get pregnant yourself?
Speaker 3 (06:13):
So with me, it's a little different, and I know
everybody's story is very, very different and no two stories
are the same. For me, it was I'll tell you this,
I started the egg process prior to even knowing Ryan.
I am the person that I know. You guys know this.
I'm very very proactive with my health and I had
(06:38):
started back prior to right. I will say you can
do the math and the timeline on this. It was
late twenty twenty early twenty twenty one that I had
started the process of going and testing my eggs, seeing
if I have you know, FOLLA goals, and seeing what
I'm working with because there's so many things that back
(07:00):
her into it, my age, my health, after my breast.
So when I started going into doctor Amy, my breast
implants were still in and I was deeply, deeply suffering
with so much inflammation in my body, and my body
was fighting off so many infections because of the implants.
So going into doctor Amy, it was not looking good.
(07:22):
And that's why she was like, you need to stay
coming to me if if whatever this looks like, however
this plays out, if you want to be a mother,
I will help you become a mother. And I trusted
her ever since then. And so I knew going into
my relationship with Ryan what the circumstances were, and I
had done everything to prepare up until that. Even even
(07:44):
when Ryan and I were together, I didn't know in
the very beginning if he wanted another baby, wanted a
baby his own. Prior to Ryan, I had an after
my last relationship. Actually, in my last relationship, I was
going through all my appointments with doctor Amy alone. If
that shows you what kind of kind of relationship I
(08:05):
was in. I was going through the testing, all the
blood work, everything alone. Even though I was in a relationship,
I was going through it alone. So then when that
relationship ended, I still was still going through that the
all the and testing and follicle, all all the blood work,
everything I was going through all that, and to me,
(08:26):
I had gone into the relationship with Brian knowing what
my circumstances were and knowing what the odds were with
what I was working with. So I remember on one
of my first dates with Ryan, I was like, even
if we're just friends. We were at a baseball game
and I was like, even if we end up just
as friends and I adopt a baby, or you know,
I have my own baby, or would you you know,
(08:50):
want to hang out with me even if I had
my own baby, because I promised myself after my last relationship,
I was like, I will never let any man determine
my life goals, or like how I'm not going to
put my life on hold for any man anymore. Whatever
that looks like so long winded.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
But no love it at all. Thank you for sharing
all that.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
Yeah, it's just it's it's been a lot and I've
been somebody who is proactive with my health and so yeah,
there was a lot of things that were working against me.
But I don't really like the term infertile or infertility.
Like doctor Amy says, if you want to be a mother,
it might look different, but you can become a mother
(09:37):
in many different ways.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
Now, Sarah Herron is also working with the Whisper, and
she obviously had a tragic loss about six months ago.
Speaker 4 (09:46):
What's your relationship with Sarah like?
Speaker 2 (09:49):
Because I know you guys are friendly, but do you
have any sort of connection through doctor?
Speaker 4 (09:53):
Through your doctor?
Speaker 3 (09:55):
I love Sarah. I absolutely love Sarah. I don't think
she's she's in a different place than I am right now,
and I think it's I love her and I support
her deeply and knowing what she's gone through and knowing
what not even just her, but so many, so many
(10:17):
women go through to try to be a mom. It's
not easy and it's not something unless you go through
it you completely understand, just like I don't understand her
experience with loss, but doesn't mean my heart isn't deeply
with her. And I know the process of wanting a
baby and hoping for a baby and not having the
(10:39):
odds in your favor. I know that feeling. I have
had that, so it's not an easy thing to go
through and I just I support her always.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
So I've just been rooting for her to be a mom,
and I like told my mom as soon as you
posted that Instagram, I call her.
Speaker 4 (10:56):
I'm like, mom, Claire's having a baby. She's like yay.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
So like I don't know, it's just like something like
of everybody that I know that I really want to
be a mother, one day it was Claire's at the
top of the list, why do you think you're gonna
be a great mom?
Speaker 3 (11:15):
Because I just it's everything I've ever wanted. I know
everybody has always made fun of me for being like
babies for so long. I just I love the innocence
of children. I love how I just I've always loved children.
(11:39):
When I was younger, I was a nanny and a babysitter,
and I think I've been babysitting since I was twelve,
and like, who lets the twelve year old baby sit?
But I've just always loved becrown children. I have eleven
nieces and nephews, and for me, the childhood innocence is
just so beautiful. And I was blessed with two amazing
(12:02):
parents that just I don't know. I think having amazing
parents and being blessed with that, and just I want
that opportunity. I've always wanted that opportunity to be able
to instill my strengths and my beliefs and share with
them that and raise them. I don't know everything that
(12:24):
I've been raised with. And as far as love, I
think it's something beautiful and I don't know. I've just
always wanted it and have not, like I couldn't. It's
weird to say this, like I could never wait to
be a moment. I'm so excited. Always wanted it, but
I knew what happened when the time was right, and
it was never right until now.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Well, this is gonna be one very lucky baby to
have you two as parents. Now, you come from a
very family of a lot of girls. Yeah, you have
a girl name picked out out?
Speaker 3 (13:02):
I think so. I think so. I will never tell
anybody what it is, Yeah, but I do. We do
have I there's one that we absolutely love and one
of Ryan it's it's not a common name, and one
of Ryan's daughters. Actually, we were letting them throw out
(13:24):
names of like what they love and they're so excited
to be big sisters and so they're always talked about
names and what about this and what about that? And
it was funny because they each have very different personalities.
His daughters have very different personalities, and they kind of
like I want this name. No, I want this name,
and we're just always like that sounds great. You know,
those are really great names. We have really great ideas.
(13:44):
But one of them said one name, and the other
was like, I love that name, and it was the
name that Ryan and I have always loved. No right
when they said that, right and I looked at each
other and I'm like.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
That's it. Yeah, Wow, that's so special.
Speaker 2 (13:59):
All right. Well, Claire, this this has just been so
nice to hear from you, and you're just always so
vulnerable and emotional and it makes for just.
Speaker 4 (14:06):
A great communication.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Hey, Claire, you're a good communicator.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
Yeah, yes, she sure is. You should never have a
doubt about that.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
Yeah, you might have doubted in your life, but we
think here at the Almost Famous Podcast, you're a good
communicator and we appreciate you for doing that. Thanks for
coming on.
Speaker 3 (14:23):
Thank you guys for having me. I feel like I'm
a third host at this point. I've been on so much,
but I just love hanging out with you guys and
chatting with you guys.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
You're definitely one of our most frequent DID guests, and
it's because you are such a good just like a
good person to hear from.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
Don't make it the last time. Come back once this
baby's in the world and chat with us about all
the things motherhood. And we can't wait to keep in
touch with you. We wish you the best. We're super
happy for you and Ryan and the whole family wish
him the best. Thank you once.
Speaker 5 (14:59):
Again, will do I love you, guys, and thank you,
love you, Love you, So Ashley, big things happen this
week to me.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Okay, I am at my brother in law and sister
in law's baby shower. Okay, and I get a FaceTime
from Bennett, the executive producer of the Bachelor, And you
know what.
Speaker 4 (15:30):
I'm thinking, We love Bennett.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Yeah, I'm thinking, goodness, gracious, it's the time you're gonna be.
I freak out. I leave the room, I sit down
in bed, take a deep breath. Answer the FaceTime. Guys,
whose face it is, Well, it's Bennett's. No, it's Gary
the Golden Bachelor.
Speaker 4 (15:53):
And I'm thinking he's gonna personally ask.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Yeah. I'm thinking, holy holy cow, this is the best.
And so I'm like hello, Gary, and he goes, hey,
I know you just like any sweet old man says
and does. And I said, I know you too, Gary,
and I said, your face is everywhere right now. He goes,
this is our exact conversation. He goes, you know what,
(16:18):
Ben Gosh, dang it. He goes, I was in Worsaw,
Indiana last week, and I said, we.
Speaker 2 (16:23):
Really gay, oh boy, of all places in the whole country.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
Yeah, it's like, we're you really Gary. I was like,
what are you doing Warsaw? He said, I was at
stone Ine Country Club, which is my course that I
grew up on, because I was playing golf. And he goes,
you know what happened? I said, I don't. Gary. He said,
someone recognized me and I said yeah, and he goes,
I don't know how they recognize me. And I said, well, Gary,
(16:49):
you are the Golden Bachelor that is commercial has aired
on national television America. Such you might want to start
getting used to this. This could be your new normal
for a while. And he goes I and I said,
but you're gonna do great.
Speaker 4 (17:04):
He goes, yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
He goes, I'm the most popular person on my lake.
Now he goes, people are pulling around pointing out my house,
stopping by to say hi. On the pontoons. He goes,
I feel I feel like a celebrity, said well, Gary
kind of are so you should?
Speaker 4 (17:20):
I mean, sounds like a grandpa.
Speaker 1 (17:21):
Oh like the sweetest, the best, and he's so he's
so excited. So so at this point, I'm going, can
we get to the point, Gary?
Speaker 4 (17:30):
Can you can you? Can you ask me?
Speaker 1 (17:35):
It would be nice if you just like, you know,
asked me out, asked me to come hang out. And
I said, how are the guy's treating out there? And
he said this, And this is when Jessica walks into
the room. And Jessica has an infatuation with Grandpa. She
like loves her grandparents so much and just really loves
talking to Grandpa's especially because she had such a good
(17:56):
like they had such a good influence in her life.
And so she walks in. Here's Gary say this. He goes, well, Ben,
they're feeding and watering me really well like, and he's
he's sitting there eating like he's eating like a plate
of dinner and has like a cocktail next to him.
And I'm thinking, this dude is about to live his
best life. He has no clue what's about ahead of him.
(18:17):
He's gonna have a blast.
Speaker 2 (18:19):
He hadn't started shooting yet, right, has not started shooting
yet at this point. Okay, yeah, he's just He's like, Wow,
I am getting the royal treatment right now.
Speaker 4 (18:28):
These people are being so nice to me. My little
every ask is being tended to.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
Yeah. And then he says, Okay, nice to meet you, Ben,
and that's into the conversation.
Speaker 4 (18:38):
Too funny. And then you talked to Bennett and nothing, no,
just we just hung up, so weird your ear.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
Whole journey with the Golden Bachelor has been something.
Speaker 3 (18:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
I did say hi to Bennett on the phone. He
did kind of like move the phone at one point
and said hi, and he said uh. He said he
was excited to see how I could be a part
of the show, but then never one. He hasn't gone
any farther than that. That was about two weeks ago,
so I'm still not holding my breath. Anyways. The point
of the story actually is I am excited to see
Gary's journey. I think he is a very sweet person.
(19:14):
I think it is going to be more than ever
an incredible experience to watch on television. I think Gary
is in for the time of his life. But also
one of I will say this. Gary is not ready.
Speaker 4 (19:25):
For well, he's not. He seems very nice.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
Yeah, he's not ready if he can be recognized in
a town of forty five hundred people at the one
golf course in town, that he knew I've been a
member at my whole life, and that he was shocked
by that, Like there's a poster of me in that clubhouse.
Like if he's shocked that somebody there knew of him,
(19:49):
that poor man, he's gonna have a wild experience. But
I can't wait for him. I think it's gonna be
a great show. I think he's gonna do great. But
that was my big story. He gets talking to Gary
and uh, and that's where it ended. Have you just
found out how he got plucked from obscurity?
Speaker 4 (20:08):
No?
Speaker 1 (20:08):
I haven't yet. Actually, Uh, we're.
Speaker 4 (20:10):
Going to figure out who found him.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
I don't know if that's my story to tell anymore.
All Right, Yeah, we have a big announcement here with
Nick Vile. How about you break it down?
Speaker 4 (20:22):
All right, let's do it.
Speaker 2 (20:23):
So Nick and Natalie are pregnant. This has been Uh,
it's a dream. It is a dream for Nick. I have,
like Claire, I've been saying that Nick needs to be
a dad.
Speaker 4 (20:38):
He's gonna be.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
The best dad. Oh my gosh. I remember even like
two years ago, him saying something along the lines of like,
whether we're married first or we have a baby first,
I'm cool either way. You know. Hit babies have been
on his mind even before the wedding, So I was
(21:00):
not shocked when they texted us a few weeks ago
saying that the baby is on the way. Very happy
for them, the baby's gonna get here. I actually I'm
not going to reveal anything, to be honest, I know
a few things that is that they're not putting out
there yet. They posted just a joint picture to Instagram
(21:21):
beautiful photos, one of the two of them Natalie's bump
showing one sonogram, and then one of just their hands
on her belly, and it's just beautiful and the caption reads,
our biggest dream Come true. I will let Nick and
Natalie do the announcing of all the details themselves. I'm
(21:44):
sure it will be out on Nick's podcast any moment now, honestly,
but they are going to be great parents. Lucky lucky
baby come in our ways. For Claire and for Nick.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
This has been another episode of almost Famous podcast. Thank
you to clar for coming on Huge News, Congratulations to
Nick Vile and Natalie on their recent announcement, and also
we wish Gary still the best. He's a good dude. Anyways,
until next time, I've Been Ben, I've Been Ashley. HI
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Speaker 2 (00:05):
Hello, Almost Famous listeners, Welcome back to part two of
our interview with Claire Crawley. We wanted to have an
episode dedicated just to talking about her future daughter. Make
sure if you haven't already listened to part one, it'll
give you a lot of context for what has led
Claire and Ryan to this point in their lives.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Ryan is now going to be a girl dad of three?
Right or right? He has two girls right now?
Speaker 3 (00:34):
Yep, he does.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
He's gonna be a girl dad of three. I don't
know Ryan, Well, I know my buddies. Well, I know
my buddies well who have two girls? There was a
lot of hope for a boy. Was he hoping for
a boy?
Speaker 3 (00:48):
Here?
Speaker 1 (00:48):
Is he really just happy to be a girl dad
of three? Is he like? Walk us through what Ryan
looks like as a girl dad?
Speaker 3 (00:56):
Oh? Okay, So I'll give you a little insight on
the IVF process. And as we went through IVF. In
IVF and when you're making embryos, you get the option
to know, because you create embryos the sex of the babies. Yeah,
(01:16):
And knowing that that was going to be an opportunity
or an option. I asked Ryan, And when we were
talking about it one night, I was like, would you
like a boy because you do have never had a boy,
or would you like a girl?
Speaker 4 (01:27):
If we should? I really want He.
Speaker 3 (01:32):
Was like, well what do you want? And I said,
I just want a baby. I'm happy with a baby.
Speaker 4 (01:38):
But Claire, you know you wanted to be a girl mom.
Speaker 3 (01:42):
Well now you know what you said it literally you
said it best. Ashley. That like makes me cry because
I'm like, I was meant to be a girl mom.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
I was meant to be.
Speaker 3 (01:51):
A girl mom. But Ryan said the same thing. He
was like, if we could choose, I love my girls.
I love being a girl dad. I love of every
single thing that comes along with being a girl dad,
and I know how to do it. I would love
another girl. We ultimately came to the decision obviously we
don't want to choose, we just want. So we did
(02:13):
not choose the sex of our baby.
Speaker 2 (02:14):
Okay, I was gonna ask you if I wasn't sure
there was two personal When when you cut that cake,
it's like it's gonna be pank, duh.
Speaker 4 (02:22):
She's definitely getting a girl.
Speaker 2 (02:23):
In my head, I was like, and if they went
through the whole process like she got to pick so,
but you didn't pick.
Speaker 1 (02:29):
Wow, I didn't know it would be personal, like I
would have just has to hear as a follow up.
So I'm glad you saved me from embarrassing myself. Claire
things one step.
Speaker 3 (02:40):
Further and tell you, guys, so the funny thing this is,
this is one of my favorite parts of this story.
And I'll tell you a two part you guys, But basically,
as you do get to choose the sex, I was
we were literally on the phone with doctor Amy and
she's our embryo. I don't know what you but would
you use the egg whisper?
Speaker 4 (03:01):
Yes?
Speaker 3 (03:02):
Yea doctor. She's amazing. She's actually ten minutes from our house.
Speaker 4 (03:06):
It's okay.
Speaker 3 (03:06):
So we're on the phone and it was time for
the embryos. We were seeing which what grew, you know,
how it all was playing out, and she said, okay,
this is her last option because we'd already told her
we don't want to find out the sex of the baby.
You choose the healthiest embryo if one grew and became healthy.
And she said, okay, do you want to know those
(03:29):
sex of the baby or do you want to choose
the sex of the baby, and we said, we still
want to stick by it. I mean, obviously it was
dying to know by it. Please just as long as
long as the health there's it's a healthy baby, we're happy.
And she said, okay, because I will let you know.
You actually do not get to choose the sex of
the baby. They're all the same. There was.
Speaker 4 (03:51):
It was gonna be a girl.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
The whole time, but you still didn't know until you
cut the cake. That was a true gender review.
Speaker 3 (03:58):
We told we knew, we knew before we cut the cake.
That was just way because I am.
Speaker 4 (04:02):
Just your Instagram, Yeah, that would I.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
To share with you guys because I knew. I didn't
go on social for a minute because I was like,
if I even say anything about the baby, I'm gonna say, yeah,
like I about to give it away before we could
share with everybody. But it's just cool because literally, for
ten years, probably more than that, I've shared with my
friends and family, I've had so many dreams of my baby,
(04:26):
going to the hospital to pick up my baby girl,
and it's crazy how life has played out. Because that
is what is going to happen. I'm not carrying her
in my dreams, I'm not pregnant in my dreams.
Speaker 1 (04:38):
I was always grew.
Speaker 3 (04:39):
Up at the hospital. Yeah, and it was a little girl.
And I just like, this makes me so happy.
Speaker 2 (04:48):
Oh my goodness.
Speaker 1 (04:49):
Clear, that's really wildly, really incredible. Is that you had
dreams that, like, you've never had dreams that you're pregnant,
but you had dreams of picking up your little girl.
Speaker 3 (05:00):
Yeah. And it was always different dreams of like she's
she's here, and I would always be like, oh God,
I don't have her Carsia yet, I don't know how
am I going to bring her home? And we don't
have her Carci yet or what do we name her? Like,
it was always dreams, different dreams all the time. But
it was always going to pick her up at the
hospital and she's here and I'm not ready for it,
or she's here and I'm finally ready, or you know,
(05:21):
just a variety of different dreams.
Speaker 1 (05:22):
But it was.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
Always a little girl that we were going to pick up.
And like I said, I never have had dreams of
being pregnant ever.
Speaker 2 (05:39):
And I know that I've talked to you know, you
a little bit before we got on the mic, and
you told me that the whole process will be documented
and we will be able to know it all at
a certain point. So there's certain details that we can't
go into during this interview. But I do want to
ask you one thing that I think you might be
able to respond to because you alluded to it earlier.
(06:01):
You said that you were going through the IVF process.
Was that you just harvesting the eggs or was that
you trying to get pregnant yourself?
Speaker 3 (06:13):
So with me, it's a little different, and I know
everybody's story is very, very different and no two stories
are the same. For me, it was I'll tell you this,
I started the egg process prior to even knowing Ryan.
I am the person that I know. You guys know this.
I'm very very proactive with my health and I had
(06:38):
started back prior to right. I will say you can
do the math and the timeline on this. It was
late twenty twenty early twenty twenty one that I had
started the process of going and testing my eggs, seeing
if I have you know, FOLLA goals, and seeing what
I'm working with because there's so many things that back
(07:00):
her into it, my age, my health, after my breast.
So when I started going into doctor Amy, my breast
implants were still in and I was deeply, deeply suffering
with so much inflammation in my body, and my body
was fighting off so many infections because of the implants.
So going into doctor Amy, it was not looking good.
(07:22):
And that's why she was like, you need to stay
coming to me if if whatever this looks like, however
this plays out, if you want to be a mother,
I will help you become a mother. And I trusted
her ever since then. And so I knew going into
my relationship with Ryan what the circumstances were, and I
had done everything to prepare up until that. Even even
(07:44):
when Ryan and I were together, I didn't know in
the very beginning if he wanted another baby, wanted a
baby his own. Prior to Ryan, I had an after
my last relationship. Actually, in my last relationship, I was
going through all my appointments with doctor Amy alone. If
that shows you what kind of kind of relationship I
(08:05):
was in. I was going through the testing, all the
blood work, everything alone. Even though I was in a relationship,
I was going through it alone. So then when that
relationship ended, I still was still going through that the
all the and testing and follicle, all all the blood work,
everything I was going through all that, and to me,
(08:26):
I had gone into the relationship with Brian knowing what
my circumstances were and knowing what the odds were with
what I was working with. So I remember on one
of my first dates with Ryan, I was like, even
if we're just friends. We were at a baseball game
and I was like, even if we end up just
as friends and I adopt a baby, or you know,
I have my own baby, or would you you know,
(08:50):
want to hang out with me even if I had
my own baby, because I promised myself after my last relationship,
I was like, I will never let any man determine
my life goals, or like how I'm not going to
put my life on hold for any man anymore. Whatever
that looks like so long winded.
Speaker 4 (09:08):
But no love it at all. Thank you for sharing
all that.
Speaker 3 (09:14):
Yeah, it's just it's it's been a lot and I've
been somebody who is proactive with my health and so yeah,
there was a lot of things that were working against me.
But I don't really like the term infertile or infertility.
Like doctor Amy says, if you want to be a mother,
it might look different, but you can become a mother
(09:37):
in many different ways.
Speaker 2 (09:39):
Now, Sarah Herron is also working with the Whisper, and
she obviously had a tragic loss about six months ago.
Speaker 4 (09:46):
What's your relationship with Sarah like?
Speaker 2 (09:49):
Because I know you guys are friendly, but do you
have any sort of connection through doctor?
Speaker 4 (09:53):
Through your doctor?
Speaker 3 (09:55):
I love Sarah. I absolutely love Sarah. I don't think
she's she's in a different place than I am right now,
and I think it's I love her and I support
her deeply and knowing what she's gone through and knowing
what not even just her, but so many, so many
(10:17):
women go through to try to be a mom. It's
not easy and it's not something unless you go through
it you completely understand, just like I don't understand her
experience with loss, but doesn't mean my heart isn't deeply
with her. And I know the process of wanting a
baby and hoping for a baby and not having the
(10:39):
odds in your favor. I know that feeling. I have
had that, so it's not an easy thing to go
through and I just I support her always.
Speaker 2 (10:49):
So I've just been rooting for her to be a mom,
and I like told my mom as soon as you
posted that Instagram, I call her.
Speaker 4 (10:56):
I'm like, mom, Claire's having a baby. She's like yay.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
So like I don't know, it's just like something like
of everybody that I know that I really want to
be a mother, one day it was Claire's at the
top of the list, why do you think you're gonna
be a great mom?
Speaker 3 (11:15):
Because I just it's everything I've ever wanted. I know
everybody has always made fun of me for being like
babies for so long. I just I love the innocence
of children. I love how I just I've always loved children.
(11:39):
When I was younger, I was a nanny and a babysitter,
and I think I've been babysitting since I was twelve,
and like, who lets the twelve year old baby sit?
But I've just always loved becrown children. I have eleven
nieces and nephews, and for me, the childhood innocence is
just so beautiful. And I was blessed with two amazing
(12:02):
parents that just I don't know. I think having amazing
parents and being blessed with that, and just I want
that opportunity. I've always wanted that opportunity to be able
to instill my strengths and my beliefs and share with
them that and raise them. I don't know everything that
(12:24):
I've been raised with. And as far as love, I
think it's something beautiful and I don't know. I've just
always wanted it and have not, like I couldn't. It's
weird to say this, like I could never wait to
be a moment. I'm so excited. Always wanted it, but
I knew what happened when the time was right, and
it was never right until now.
Speaker 2 (12:46):
Well, this is gonna be one very lucky baby to
have you two as parents. Now, you come from a
very family of a lot of girls. Yeah, you have
a girl name picked out out?
Speaker 3 (13:02):
I think so. I think so. I will never tell
anybody what it is, Yeah, but I do. We do
have I there's one that we absolutely love and one
of Ryan it's it's not a common name, and one
of Ryan's daughters. Actually, we were letting them throw out
(13:24):
names of like what they love and they're so excited
to be big sisters and so they're always talked about
names and what about this and what about that? And
it was funny because they each have very different personalities.
His daughters have very different personalities, and they kind of
like I want this name. No, I want this name,
and we're just always like that sounds great. You know,
those are really great names. We have really great ideas.
(13:44):
But one of them said one name, and the other
was like, I love that name, and it was the
name that Ryan and I have always loved. No right
when they said that, right and I looked at each
other and I'm like.
Speaker 4 (13:55):
That's it. Yeah, Wow, that's so special.
Speaker 2 (13:59):
All right. Well, Claire, this this has just been so
nice to hear from you, and you're just always so
vulnerable and emotional and it makes for just.
Speaker 4 (14:06):
A great communication.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Hey, Claire, you're a good communicator.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
Yeah, yes, she sure is. You should never have a
doubt about that.
Speaker 1 (14:15):
Yeah, you might have doubted in your life, but we
think here at the Almost Famous Podcast, you're a good
communicator and we appreciate you for doing that. Thanks for
coming on.
Speaker 3 (14:23):
Thank you guys for having me. I feel like I'm
a third host at this point. I've been on so much,
but I just love hanging out with you guys and
chatting with you guys.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
You're definitely one of our most frequent DID guests, and
it's because you are such a good just like a
good person to hear from.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
Don't make it the last time. Come back once this
baby's in the world and chat with us about all
the things motherhood. And we can't wait to keep in
touch with you. We wish you the best. We're super
happy for you and Ryan and the whole family wish
him the best. Thank you once.
Speaker 5 (14:59):
Again, will do I love you, guys, and thank you,
love you, Love you, So Ashley, big things happen this
week to me.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
Okay, I am at my brother in law and sister
in law's baby shower. Okay, and I get a FaceTime
from Bennett, the executive producer of the Bachelor, And you
know what.
Speaker 4 (15:30):
I'm thinking, We love Bennett.
Speaker 1 (15:32):
Yeah, I'm thinking, goodness, gracious, it's the time you're gonna be.
I freak out. I leave the room, I sit down
in bed, take a deep breath. Answer the FaceTime. Guys,
whose face it is, Well, it's Bennett's. No, it's Gary
the Golden Bachelor.
Speaker 4 (15:53):
And I'm thinking he's gonna personally ask.
Speaker 1 (15:55):
Yeah. I'm thinking, holy holy cow, this is the best.
And so I'm like hello, Gary, and he goes, hey,
I know you just like any sweet old man says
and does. And I said, I know you too, Gary,
and I said, your face is everywhere right now. He goes,
this is our exact conversation. He goes, you know what,
(16:18):
Ben Gosh, dang it. He goes, I was in Worsaw,
Indiana last week, and I said, we.
Speaker 2 (16:23):
Really gay, oh boy, of all places in the whole country.
Speaker 1 (16:26):
Yeah, it's like, we're you really Gary. I was like,
what are you doing Warsaw? He said, I was at
stone Ine Country Club, which is my course that I
grew up on, because I was playing golf. And he goes,
you know what happened? I said, I don't. Gary. He said,
someone recognized me and I said yeah, and he goes,
I don't know how they recognize me. And I said, well, Gary,
(16:49):
you are the Golden Bachelor that is commercial has aired
on national television America. Such you might want to start
getting used to this. This could be your new normal
for a while. And he goes I and I said,
but you're gonna do great.
Speaker 4 (17:04):
He goes, yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:05):
He goes, I'm the most popular person on my lake.
Now he goes, people are pulling around pointing out my house,
stopping by to say hi. On the pontoons. He goes,
I feel I feel like a celebrity, said well, Gary
kind of are so you should?
Speaker 4 (17:20):
I mean, sounds like a grandpa.
Speaker 1 (17:21):
Oh like the sweetest, the best, and he's so he's
so excited. So so at this point, I'm going, can
we get to the point, Gary?
Speaker 4 (17:30):
Can you can you? Can you ask me?
Speaker 1 (17:35):
It would be nice if you just like, you know,
asked me out, asked me to come hang out. And
I said, how are the guy's treating out there? And
he said this, And this is when Jessica walks into
the room. And Jessica has an infatuation with Grandpa. She
like loves her grandparents so much and just really loves
talking to Grandpa's especially because she had such a good
(17:56):
like they had such a good influence in her life.
And so she walks in. Here's Gary say this. He goes, well, Ben,
they're feeding and watering me really well like, and he's
he's sitting there eating like he's eating like a plate
of dinner and has like a cocktail next to him.
And I'm thinking, this dude is about to live his
best life. He has no clue what's about ahead of him.
(18:17):
He's gonna have a blast.
Speaker 2 (18:19):
He hadn't started shooting yet, right, has not started shooting
yet at this point. Okay, yeah, he's just He's like, Wow,
I am getting the royal treatment right now.
Speaker 4 (18:28):
These people are being so nice to me. My little
every ask is being tended to.
Speaker 1 (18:32):
Yeah. And then he says, Okay, nice to meet you, Ben,
and that's into the conversation.
Speaker 4 (18:38):
Too funny. And then you talked to Bennett and nothing, no,
just we just hung up, so weird your ear.
Speaker 2 (18:48):
Whole journey with the Golden Bachelor has been something.
Speaker 3 (18:52):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (18:53):
I did say hi to Bennett on the phone. He
did kind of like move the phone at one point
and said hi, and he said uh. He said he
was excited to see how I could be a part
of the show, but then never one. He hasn't gone
any farther than that. That was about two weeks ago,
so I'm still not holding my breath. Anyways. The point
of the story actually is I am excited to see
Gary's journey. I think he is a very sweet person.
(19:14):
I think it is going to be more than ever
an incredible experience to watch on television. I think Gary
is in for the time of his life. But also
one of I will say this. Gary is not ready.
Speaker 4 (19:25):
For well, he's not. He seems very nice.
Speaker 1 (19:28):
Yeah, he's not ready if he can be recognized in
a town of forty five hundred people at the one
golf course in town, that he knew I've been a
member at my whole life, and that he was shocked
by that, Like there's a poster of me in that clubhouse.
Like if he's shocked that somebody there knew of him,
(19:49):
that poor man, he's gonna have a wild experience. But
I can't wait for him. I think it's gonna be
a great show. I think he's gonna do great. But
that was my big story. He gets talking to Gary
and uh, and that's where it ended. Have you just
found out how he got plucked from obscurity?
Speaker 4 (20:08):
No?
Speaker 1 (20:08):
I haven't yet. Actually, Uh, we're.
Speaker 4 (20:10):
Going to figure out who found him.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
I don't know if that's my story to tell anymore.
All Right, Yeah, we have a big announcement here with
Nick Vile. How about you break it down?
Speaker 4 (20:22):
All right, let's do it.
Speaker 2 (20:23):
So Nick and Natalie are pregnant. This has been Uh,
it's a dream. It is a dream for Nick. I have,
like Claire, I've been saying that Nick needs to be
a dad.
Speaker 4 (20:38):
He's gonna be.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
The best dad. Oh my gosh. I remember even like
two years ago, him saying something along the lines of like,
whether we're married first or we have a baby first,
I'm cool either way. You know. Hit babies have been
on his mind even before the wedding, So I was
(21:00):
not shocked when they texted us a few weeks ago
saying that the baby is on the way. Very happy
for them, the baby's gonna get here. I actually I'm
not going to reveal anything, to be honest, I know
a few things that is that they're not putting out
there yet. They posted just a joint picture to Instagram
(21:21):
beautiful photos, one of the two of them Natalie's bump
showing one sonogram, and then one of just their hands
on her belly, and it's just beautiful and the caption reads,
our biggest dream Come true. I will let Nick and
Natalie do the announcing of all the details themselves. I'm
(21:44):
sure it will be out on Nick's podcast any moment now, honestly,
but they are going to be great parents. Lucky lucky
baby come in our ways. For Claire and for Nick.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
This has been another episode of almost Famous podcast. Thank
you to clar for coming on Huge News, Congratulations to
Nick Vile and Natalie on their recent announcement, and also
we wish Gary still the best. He's a good dude. Anyways,
until next time, I've Been Ben, I've Been Ashley. HI
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