August 30, 2023 • 32 mins
One of the recent Bachelor Nation weddings we’re most excited about is Krystal Nielson’s! She’s joining Ben and Ashley for her FIRST interview since tying the knot!
Get to know Krystal’s new husband Miles and hear the honest truth about the differences between this marriage and her first wedding on Bachelor in Paradise.
And find out what happened when Krystal last heard from her ex-husband Chris Randone.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
with iHeartRadio.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Today we have a very very special episode, an exciting
episode for the Almost Famous podcast. We have a very
happy newlywed couple, one of which participated on the Bachelor
and Bachelor in Paradise. We also got to witness her
first wedding. Now this wedding comes a few years later, Ashley,
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somebody that you're a big fan of. I'm a big
fan of two we're a big fan of at the
Almost Famous podcast. But somebody that you really respect and
enjoy talking to.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
Yeah, let's surprise everyone and have on Crystal Nielsen and Myles.
Oh my god, what is your last name?
Speaker 4 (00:42):
Balls?
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Bowl bowls bowls as in bo w l e s.
Speaker 5 (00:49):
Correct that.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
First questions easy? Then Crystal, you're taking his last name.
Speaker 4 (00:55):
I've already taken it. Instagram official, babe.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Okay, there's one thing up on Instagram official and then
actually being the actual legal bowls. I am on Instagram haven.
But like you're telling me that you have a new license,
a new passport and stuff.
Speaker 4 (01:15):
So I've been planning I am planning on doing it.
I like signed over my marriage certificate with my new
name and I was like, when I come back from
the honeymoon, because that's just too much to handle before
the wedding.
Speaker 6 (01:26):
Like, I'll do all the legal stuff this.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
Week, So what inspired you to get it done so quickly?
Speaker 4 (01:33):
I just want to get it done because now that
I'm using I'm a type a personality kind of once
I get my mind to something, nothing will stop me.
But also like it's confusing because sometimes I'm using Crystal Bowl,
sometimes I'm using Crystal Nielsen, and I'm like, I just
need like one name and just do it all at
one time. And that was what the lady when we
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did our marriage license actually said. She's like, just do
it all at once, so it's done.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
Teach me how to do it. It's my license, my passport,
and then what else do I need to do to
make it official? Because I do want an official for
Dawson's sake. Even like when we go on planes now,
they'll be like, can I see your ID? Because like
the names don't match, and I know that, you know,
they're just like being extra careful and making sure I'm
not kidnapping him totally.
Speaker 4 (02:21):
Well, let me just say, like make sure he's always
put on your lap as an infant because we ran
into a situation where we forgot it at our daughter
and they literally thought.
Speaker 6 (02:30):
Miles's kidnapping her. She is a spitting image of her father.
Speaker 3 (02:35):
Yes, she is so cute?
Speaker 7 (02:38):
All right?
Speaker 3 (02:38):
So is that all I have to do?
Speaker 6 (02:40):
So you know what, I'm going to research it? I
can text. I'm gonna I'm gonna text you. I'm gonna
let you know how to do it, because I've heard
you can go to a website and they just do
it all do for you. Yeah, they do it all
for you.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
I think they can organize the plans for you, but
then you still have to go into all these offices. Anyway,
we're boring the people. We got to hear about your wedding.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Obviously, the two of you excitedly got married, married life
just off the bat.
Speaker 7 (03:05):
How is it treating you so far?
Speaker 5 (03:08):
That's great?
Speaker 8 (03:10):
It's fun because we've been i mean unofficially married for
like the last I guess three years now, but something
definitely feels different different. We got rings on our fingers now.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
So you just said you've been what officially married for
three and a half years? Is that what you said?
Unofficially married? So is that starting? Is the three and
a half years starting with when you first met or
is there a time period like this feels like we're
already married.
Speaker 5 (03:40):
I guess when we knew we were gonna have a kid.
Speaker 8 (03:45):
It's probably when things started to take a little more serious.
Speaker 7 (03:48):
Yeah, well that makes sense. Yeah, I get started.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
I said, So, okay, if we can flash back in
time and christ I know we've been able to talk
to you about this, I would love to hear both
of your thoughts. Really, Uh, if we can flash back
in time to when you found out that you were
going to have a child. Uh, you were not married
at the time. I'm was it planned? Unexpected? Was their shock?
Speaker 7 (04:11):
Was there?
Speaker 5 (04:12):
You know?
Speaker 2 (04:12):
What was the world like back then? And then I
will follow it up with what's life like now?
Speaker 9 (04:18):
Go ahead?
Speaker 6 (04:19):
Baby?
Speaker 8 (04:19):
Oh I'm taking this one. Okay, it was unexpected. We
talked about it a little bit, but it was definitely unexpected.
We were like six months into dating at that point.
Speaker 5 (04:32):
Three for three months into dating.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Uh so yeah, a little faster than some Yeah, I
mean that's fine.
Speaker 8 (04:40):
Yeah, and uh yeah, that was definitely we both had
to decide that that was something we want to move
forward with. And we had a pretty serious talk about commitment.
At that point, I'm going being all in. And that's
why I say, you know, we kind of started unofficially
being married from that point, uh, but this was when.
Speaker 5 (05:01):
We really.
Speaker 8 (05:03):
Made it official. And it does feel different and good
in a good way.
Speaker 6 (05:06):
Yeah, And I will say too.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
But like a week before we found out we were pregnant,
we talked like we went over our finances. Miles shared
me with me his four oh one K and like
our and I happened to show him I was going
to be ovulating on Christmas Eve, you know, like we
knew like.
Speaker 6 (05:21):
We were all in.
Speaker 4 (05:24):
And then a week later we found out we were pregnant,
so you know, we'd already really committed to each other.
And yeah, I was like shocking and exciting, and the
moment that, of course there was also like scary. There
was so much going on. We were like in COVID.
There was just so much uncertainty. And I remember Miles
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like came over one day with like a notebook or
his computer and he wrote out like twenty questions for
us to go over together and decide like if we
were all in, if we were like doing this, and
he just really stole my.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Heart see I hear this, and I think that might
be the most romantic thing anybody's ever done. I really like,
for me, romance is something important to me. You're not
I'm not building a picnic, but intentionality figuring out if
you're on the same page and if you are committing
to it and doing it well, I think is one
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of the most romantic gestures. So you had talked about
this was like shocking at the time, but not necessarily
something you were like, not something that like popped up
and you're like, oh my gosh, I don't know this person,
like this is this this could go really good or
really bad. You you had kind of walked into that phase.
Speaker 4 (06:40):
Yeah, we were solemn with each other and we were
planning on.
Speaker 6 (06:46):
Building our family.
Speaker 4 (06:47):
I just don't think we thought it would happen as
quickly as it did. But I mean, really like going
through that whole process, Miles really just taught me about
I mean he just kept saying like just trust me,
like have faith in us, like like we can do this.
I'm here, I'm not going anywhere, because I was like
all over the place, and he really just like tethered
me and pulled me in and just made me feel
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really safe and strong, and you know, I kind of
worked that into our first bouts, just how much it
meant to just have a good man that was raised
very very well to build my life with. And for me,
like I didn't really have the healthiest relationships like in
my past, and so when you are dating someone that's new,
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like you sometimes don't really recognize it. So for me,
it was a lot of an inner journey too, of
detangling things and patterns and the past and being willing
to step into a new life and a new way
of doing things, in a new way of loving. And
so that's really what our marriage is built on and
our foundation.
Speaker 6 (07:54):
And you know, this is my guy.
Speaker 7 (07:57):
This is my guy.
Speaker 10 (08:00):
So Christil, I have to ask, how did this planning
process compare to your first, Like did it feel like
it was your first real wedding because the other bachelor
did the other?
Speaker 4 (08:12):
Yeah, I mean like ABC produced everything and it really
was like on a set for a show, so I
didn't really have my hands in any of the planning.
It was very nice, you know, because I just sent
over some printer sport and spo and that everything else
was handled and I just really showed up so I
definitely felt more of like way more involved in the
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planning process and a little more of like the stress. However,
we had really really great wedding planners, which is what
I would tell any bride to do is get a
really good planning team, So I did feel more involved
in it.
Speaker 6 (08:47):
It did feel real, primarily.
Speaker 4 (08:49):
Because who we got to invite, Like it was all
people that we got to invite, because like the first
time around, combined, we could only bring thirty people, including
Idol party like to that ABC wedding, So it was
just a bunch of strangers that I didn't know, who
also weren't really invested in us, because again, they were
there on a TV show.
Speaker 7 (09:11):
I'm glad I got. I was a part of the thirty.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
I don't know where my invite come from came from,
but I'm going to assume it's just from you personally.
And it wasn't a part of the show that I
got the private invite.
Speaker 10 (09:21):
One of the thirty private invites.
Speaker 7 (09:23):
Yeah that's what I want.
Speaker 4 (09:26):
So yeah, that's just felt special, and it was like
all of our people that were there for us, and
there wasn't my girls crying in the bathroom, like taking
away from like the wedding. You know, it was our
weekend and that felt really special.
Speaker 7 (09:51):
You know, there's so much here, Miles. Obviously for you
to walk into my wife.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
Different circumstances, but similar in a lot of ways too.
You know, walked into a relationship with me while I'm
best known for a relationship with somebody else. Questions that
she gets even today in passing sometimes like hey, uh,
(10:18):
have you watched the show? You know the you know,
they ask about that experience and all that. Miles, I
would love to just.
Speaker 7 (10:26):
Hear your.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Journey now marrying somebody from the show who's also very
well known for relationship on the show.
Speaker 5 (10:37):
Yeah, it's interesting. I didn't. I didn't know that. You
shared that.
Speaker 6 (10:42):
Miles has never seen The Bachelor. He actually has no idea.
Speaker 7 (10:47):
I don't know what you're missing out.
Speaker 8 (10:49):
There were three episodes of the latest season. I think
this is a few years ago, but yeah, I haven't.
I didn't really follow The Bachelor, so I Christal was.
I think it was a good thing in the start
of our relationship because I didn't have that that background
to mess up our you know, authentic connection, and we've
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been set up through a friend and so okay for me,
there really none of that kind of filtered in until uh,
we were talking about and you know, when we got
a little more serious, when she was talking about announcing it.
That's when kind of the reality of like this is
a big deal, like Crystal is, you know, nervous to
announce it. That's when it kind of started to become
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a bigger deal. And I think I've largely avoided most
of the negative, I guess or more positive aspects of
it because I'm not very involved on social media, but
starting to get a little bit more involved.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
I think the positive it can even be a negative,
like just getting it brought up is odd, no matter
if it's even coming from a good place. It's it's
weird to think of the person that you love and
that you're committed to, and the person you know in
your love story that you know, there's a lot of
grit in depth there, like you guys have really had
to come together as a couple sooner and also stronger
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than most have to in their relationship, and so then
to hold you know, Crystal so tightly, and then also
to just even the positive of like, oh, Miles, you're
so much better than the last like that's just not
a great comment, but you get it, and then you
have to just kind of like be like, all right,
I get it, I'm done, I'll move on. Doesn't affect
my relationship, So I'm glad you've avoided it. I hope
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you continue to.
Speaker 8 (12:33):
Yeah, it truthfully hasn't been Uh, it hasn't played too
much a role in our relationship, only a positive one.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
I don't think it has because yeah, Miles isn't involved
in social media, so he's just not.
Speaker 10 (12:47):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (12:48):
And then we're a little more like home bodies as
opposed to like the previous life.
Speaker 6 (12:52):
I lived, you know. And so I will say, like
for me, it's it's always.
Speaker 4 (12:57):
Like, you know, like wanting to move forward, you know,
and then having old things like brought up or there's
like articles and it's like, oh, by the way, here's
we're linking all Crystal's previous wedding and all that stuff.
Speaker 6 (13:09):
I'm like, guys, let's move forward.
Speaker 4 (13:11):
But I guess we just have to understand like it's
just part of the part of the story and part
of the history and what makes our relationship so great.
Speaker 8 (13:17):
There's definitely been some cool, cool aspects of it. Getting
to meet Ashley and go on trips like that. That's
all been very cool and it's it is a surreal
experience to go from relative obscurity to being kind of
thrown into the front page of various articles and stuff.
Speaker 5 (13:42):
Yeah, it's a little weird, but it can be fun.
Speaker 8 (13:44):
It has been interesting and a little fun and.
Speaker 5 (13:49):
Exciting.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
I guess, well, this this weekend, you're getting those headlines.
You know, you're in the pictures with Crystal, you know
when E News and US Weekly are reporting it on Instagram.
So can we talk a little bit about wedding dats totally?
I hate that, I said. Dates. Okay, well speaking, you're
on cloud nine. You know, you just came back from
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your honeymoon last night. Where was it?
Speaker 6 (14:13):
We went to Combo Oh very nice.
Speaker 4 (14:16):
Okay, land by the pool for five straight days.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
So the plan was to have no plans there. Pretty much,
very nice.
Speaker 6 (14:30):
We were have dinner.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
I know that where the wedding took place was a
very special place for you guys, multiple things in your
relationship have happened there.
Speaker 5 (14:39):
Can you tell everyone it's where we first met.
Speaker 8 (14:44):
So, like I said, Crystal and I were introduced through
friend and she actually knows my mom or knew my
mom before we met, and so came over kind of
under that guys, and that's how we were first introduced,
and then we had our first date.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
There is this place.
Speaker 5 (15:01):
It's my parents house.
Speaker 6 (15:06):
D Yeah, but it's a very nice it's beautiful.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
Yeah, that's why I wasn't quite sure. Oh wait, I
thought it was a backyard, but it's actually I'll.
Speaker 5 (15:15):
Tell you what. That's how.
Speaker 8 (15:17):
That's why I knew Crystal I had something specials Uh.
That's all it took was to have a you know,
we could connect at my parents' house. We have to
go through all the fancy steps. It was pretty Uh,
sparks were flying right way.
Speaker 6 (15:32):
I think that was it.
Speaker 4 (15:33):
We weren't sure if we were like when we were
going to actually get married or because I've been like
wanting us to try for another baby, and I was
like what should come first, like baby number two or
the wedding because I don't want to be pregnant at
the wedding. And then his parents kind of offered up
their home to us, and it just felt it felt
really special because yeah, it was our first date where
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we met, where we did our gender reveal, my family
reunion like so many special omens, and it was very intimate.
It was like just under eighty people, so it was
like our closest closest family and friends and that it.
Speaker 6 (16:09):
Was just it was beautiful.
Speaker 4 (16:10):
And we were actually really concerned because there was a
hurricane like plotted for the weekend, so things got a
little I was a little stressed.
Speaker 5 (16:22):
I didn't even tell her.
Speaker 8 (16:23):
I saw the news like early in the week, and
the whole week I was checking the weather like every day.
Finally told her, and likeily, we didn't panic, although definitely
made I think the actual day a lot better because
all the anxiety going up, we had no backup plan.
Speaker 5 (16:41):
It would have been yeah.
Speaker 3 (16:43):
It wouldn't have been in the kitchen.
Speaker 5 (16:45):
It might be.
Speaker 4 (16:48):
I don't know if we would have gotten that people
exclusive with.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
No wait a second, how did you have your first
date in his backyard? If like, why did you have
your first day parents' house?
Speaker 6 (17:02):
Well, it was during COVID, that's right, okay.
Speaker 4 (17:04):
And we have been facetiming for like two weeks and
Miles told me his first job was making crapes.
Speaker 6 (17:10):
So his parents have.
Speaker 4 (17:11):
This whole like really cool outdoor space with this big grill,
you were of the big flat round ones, so I
wanted to make me crapes. And because like no restaurants
were open because it's during the pandemic.
Speaker 8 (17:24):
I think you were going on walks with my mom
pretty regularly, and so maybe it was after a walk
or before a walk.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
Now I think I just came over, so I don't
know this, and you might have shared like how did
you know his mom?
Speaker 6 (17:38):
You don't know this story?
Speaker 4 (17:39):
Then I feel like I have, so I okay, I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (17:44):
I think you may have just told me this when
we were together in Vegas.
Speaker 4 (17:48):
So I met Katie at a retreat in December twenty
nineteen and we were accountability partners. And the lady who
set it up, her name is Carrie Smith. She's my
high performance coach and she's really good family friends with
Miles as family.
Speaker 6 (18:05):
And when.
Speaker 4 (18:09):
The pandemic was going on, Carrie and I were doing
weekly coaching calls and she's like, the next guy you date,
I want to make sure like I get to approve him,
and I'm like, okay, of course said very much like
up to Carrie, and one week she was.
Speaker 6 (18:23):
Like, I have the perfect eye for you.
Speaker 4 (18:25):
It's Katie's son, my friend and accountability partner from there,
and I was like, this girl code, I can't date
her son like Kitty and her friends. So Carrie kind
of like worked along and was poking Katie to, you know,
invite me over and go on walk to just like
be more involved in my life. And so we just
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like kind of like connected through through that.
Speaker 9 (18:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:00):
So I mean, now that you're married and you have
a child together, did Katie ever you know, mention that Hey,
when we were sitting there at the retree, you know,
you were sharing your life with me and I was
sharing my life with you. In the back of my mind,
I was like, I've got a son that would be
perfect for you.
Speaker 6 (19:16):
I think, so really.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
Interesting.
Speaker 7 (19:22):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (19:22):
Okay, no, but I will tell you what she did say.
Speaker 4 (19:25):
She did tell Carrie that I reminded her of her
younger self so much. And I had told Carrie that
I was like, I feel like I'm going to be
like Katie when I'm older.
Speaker 3 (19:39):
So Miles, how's it feeling, mom.
Speaker 7 (19:43):
I think it's a compliment.
Speaker 3 (19:44):
I think it's normal to be honest.
Speaker 7 (19:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (19:48):
Yeah, we just felt this like this little connection, you know,
like Katie and I really connected.
Speaker 6 (19:55):
She's you know, and she had She's had like.
Speaker 4 (19:58):
Three boys, so I'm like the first daughter of the
family and then first grandchild and Dara, So yeah, we
just integrated really well.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
Is it weird for you? I mean, like, I'm very
close to my ind lass. I don't know what this
retreat was all about. I'm assuming there was a lot
of like vulnerable moments. Is it weird or is it
helpful that your mother in law now knows so much
about you?
Speaker 6 (20:27):
I mean, I'm an open book, so.
Speaker 8 (20:30):
You know, like, yeah, at least it seems like you
guys kicked it off.
Speaker 4 (20:36):
It was an awesome way for us to meet and
build like our friendship because like Katie and I can
get really deep and really vulnerable with each other and
just really have that support and we're both very, very
very similar.
Speaker 6 (20:52):
So it was perfect.
Speaker 4 (20:54):
And one thing just like at that retreat, like listening
to Katie because again you're at a retreat and of
all things, of all places that you can like talk
smack about people and family that frustrates you or.
Speaker 6 (21:06):
Whatever, she didn't do any of that. All she did.
Speaker 4 (21:10):
I remember just thinking, Wow, this woman has been married
for twenty six years and she only talks like so
lovingly about her husband, Like I want to be like
that when I'm older. I want to be married twenty
six years and be able to just only speak like
just like of her husband and family and like the
highest way. And yeah, I just really admired her and
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her family values. And so when Miles and I kind
of dated, maybe there was like a little bit of
weirdness at first, just a little bit, but we both
like got through it, and you know, now I have
the best in laws and I'm married like the best family,
and I have the best brother in laws, and it
just feels really special. And it's interesting because you think, like, Okay,
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we've been together three and a half years, like we
have a child together, but something over like the wedding weekend,
even like with your brothers, it just felt different. It
felt like we were all kind of seeing each other
in like a new light and there was a new
depth to our relationships. Things just feel closer and more bonded.
Speaker 3 (22:15):
Okay, you said you were an open book, so you're
gonna challenge me, all right, Okay, Oh, when was the
last time you heard from your ex husband?
Speaker 9 (22:28):
Oh?
Speaker 6 (22:30):
I think like definitely before we got engaged.
Speaker 3 (22:35):
Oh, okay, because I was. I was wondering if he's
ever said congratulations along the way of all those things.
Speaker 4 (22:39):
No, No, you know, and like I wish him so well,
and I wish him to find a relationship like Miles
than I found. And you know, we just knew it
wasn't going to be with each other. And so when
you know you're not in that right relationship, like it's
selfish to hold on and you got to let go
and make space for everyone to move forward and find
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their happiness.
Speaker 7 (23:04):
That was a good question. I thought it was gonna
be a lot harder to answer.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
Oh, really, did you come up with one? Did you?
Speaker 7 (23:11):
I didn't know where you're going with it.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
I thought it was gonna be a lot more about
like the honeymoon, if they're trying for that second now
or what.
Speaker 7 (23:16):
I didn't know what path you were going down, but
I like where you went.
Speaker 3 (23:19):
Honeymoon's second and Dara was your.
Speaker 4 (23:22):
Give me a look, like what are you?
Speaker 3 (23:28):
But she was your flower girl. That must have been
so emotional. Miles, were you more emotional seeing her go
down the aisle or Crystal?
Speaker 8 (23:36):
Well, Crystal didn't actually, So that was one of my
favorite parts about the whole wedding, and Crystal didn't get
to see it because and Dara came first.
Speaker 5 (23:44):
But she was so cute.
Speaker 8 (23:45):
I mean, when you have a daughter that's that age,
it could really go one of two ways.
Speaker 4 (23:50):
We didn't think it was gonna go the way we wanted.
Speaker 8 (23:54):
So and she was so cute the whole time. My dad'
kinda helped her. She walked out with my dad and
he helped her put dave her handfuls of flowers and
she tossed them and made sure they were evenly spread.
Speaker 6 (24:05):
And she did so good.
Speaker 5 (24:08):
She was great.
Speaker 3 (24:09):
That's adorable.
Speaker 6 (24:10):
So it was really sweet.
Speaker 4 (24:11):
And then I didn't get to see it because again,
like she walked before me, But I did see some
pictures and I cannot wait to see the video.
Speaker 6 (24:18):
But I think my most special.
Speaker 4 (24:19):
Part of the wedding was as soon as I came
down the aisle and met Miles and we went up
to the altar and we were holding hands and Dara goes,
mommy and daddy are so happy, and ran them up
and was hugging me and holding my legs. So we're
starting our vows with and Dara just like hugging me.
Speaker 6 (24:37):
Yeah, it was so special. You know, it felt special.
Speaker 4 (24:41):
Because everything like we've come through to come to that
point and like really uniting our family. And that's why
I felt I was really adamant about changing my name
and just going all in on this relationship and our
commitment to one another. And I just felt like sometimes
if there's like a foot in a foot out, you know,
and I'm like, I'm going all in. I'm committing to
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this one hundred percent Instagram official and.
Speaker 3 (25:05):
All aw And then Crystal, you were walked down the
aisle by your mom and your brother. Yeah, I think
that was I don't I don't I remember correctly. I
don't think that happened at your other wedding.
Speaker 6 (25:18):
No, I walk by myself.
Speaker 3 (25:20):
Yeah, that's what I thought.
Speaker 4 (25:21):
I did walk by myself because my dad isn't really
involved in my life. And this time around, it's like,
you know, when you get married for the second time,
you just have some experience, like anything in life, and
I just wanted to do things differently, and I wanted
my mom and I wanted my little brother to like
be right by my side. And I think at that
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time of my life, you know, years ago, when I
did get married, I felt really strongly about like how
far I'd come on my own and like.
Speaker 6 (25:51):
Really proud of that.
Speaker 4 (25:53):
But throughout our relationship and becoming a mother and just
going through this big life transition, I've understood that I'm
actually not like so proud of that. The walls and
the toughness and the armor that I built up to
like push through life.
Speaker 6 (26:07):
I actually want to take that off. I want to
get softer.
Speaker 4 (26:09):
I want to lean in and have a strong man
be my support me not trying to be the dominant one,
you know, in the relationship, Like I want to like
step into my femininity. I want to like step into
just like strength and faith. And so I just feel
so much experience has like led us to really come
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into this marriage in a really strong place.
Speaker 3 (26:34):
I love that answer.
Speaker 2 (26:36):
It's a there's a lot of beauty here for the
two of you, a lot of great things happening. I'm
really excited that we get to come on and talk
to the two of you after this beautiful day and
then obviously a beautiful honeymoon where you're both glowing.
Speaker 3 (26:51):
And some tan and some other things.
Speaker 6 (26:55):
Super crispy, you know, you look it.
Speaker 9 (26:58):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
In kind of closing with the two of you at Crystal.
You know, with that at last answer just reminded me
of all the work that you're doing with your platform
and your community to try to build people up and
to give them assets and tools to help make them
healthier both physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally.
Speaker 7 (27:17):
Speak to that for a little bit.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
Also, if you can tie in the podcast so people
can maybe tune in and listen if they're intrigued.
Speaker 6 (27:25):
Oh, thank you so much, Ben.
Speaker 9 (27:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (27:27):
I mean a lot of people know me as a
fitness coach, but becoming a mom really just changed my
perspective on the pressure women put on themselves along with society.
And my kind of rebrand has been called rein over
your Life, where it's fitness is a pillar, but it's
our mental health, it's our support unit, all these things
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that really come together to create a well balanced life.
And so I'm exploring all of that through my podcast,
rein of Your Life, where I'm really interviewing a lot
of experts in the field of transformation and healing and
trauma recovery because I'm on that journey and I just
want to invite people to come along with me so
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that they can start finding some answers and start finding
some freedom to go rein over their life.
Speaker 3 (28:16):
Let's wrap this with a question about the two of
you answering to each other. What is your favorite thing
about Miles and what was your favory thing about Crystal?
And then what is the thing that you're dreading on
having to deal with for the rest of your life?
Speaker 6 (28:33):
God, you go first.
Speaker 5 (28:37):
It's hard to narrow it down to one thing as always, but.
Speaker 8 (28:43):
Maybe the Crystal's got just an intense, like positive energy
around her all the time.
Speaker 5 (28:49):
It's hard not to get addicted to that.
Speaker 3 (28:51):
It's authentic too, you know what. First you're like, you,
I wonder what you're like behind closed doors, and then
you find out that's just how she is.
Speaker 8 (28:58):
Yeah, No, totally, and that's that's what really caused me
fall in love with her. And it's still like that
three years, three and a half years later, and yeah,
it's great. That's my favorite thing, along with many other things,
the thing I dread. I'm trying to think of something funny.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
What's the first thing that comes to mind, Miles. I've
said many times the shedding. The shedding is uh, but
you can't you can't use it now. I just said it.
But there's a when you live with somebody who has
long hair, the shedding is outrageous.
Speaker 4 (29:37):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (29:38):
And why I said this over and over again, Jess
Can I have both taken steps in our life to
make the shedding more palpable, like drain. No, like drain,
there's like drain stuff you can put on it so
the hair gets caught, it doesn't go down, and you
know you're not pulling out a varmit every like six
months out of the train. So Miles, Yeah, you got
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something in there.
Speaker 7 (30:01):
I know it.
Speaker 3 (30:02):
Yeah, we can come back to you if you want.
Speaker 6 (30:05):
We're going to say.
Speaker 4 (30:06):
One thing that I really love about you is that
you always want to find a way to like systematize things.
You always want to find and make things like more efficient.
So everything like how we grocery shop, how we like
plant our meals, Like we're always finding ways to improve
And I love it You're always wanting to do.
Speaker 6 (30:25):
That because I love to do it with you.
Speaker 4 (30:28):
And the thing I'm most writing is telling you to
make the bed because you were the last one out
of it every single.
Speaker 5 (30:34):
Day, all right, I thought of mine.
Speaker 8 (30:39):
Crystal has a funny habit of of buying way too
much produce. That's what I'd read is thrown away produce
that because too much.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
That's a good answer. That stresses me out.
Speaker 7 (30:57):
Yeah, good for you guys.
Speaker 3 (31:00):
Thank you so much for joining us straight off your honeymoon.
You guys are seriously the cutest couple and we can't
wait to see what comes.
Speaker 7 (31:07):
Yeah, super excited for the two of you. Thanks for
coming on here.
Speaker 6 (31:10):
Yeah, thanks so much, guys.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
We just had the opportunity to interview Crystal and Miles,
an incredible couple really looking forward to their future, bringing
light and happiness and cheer into this world. It is
great to see Crystal just so happy. You know, it's weird. Actually,
just correct me if I'm wrong and I'm off base here,
(31:37):
But you know, I said it a few weeks ago
where it feels like we had so many people that
we rooted for so hard here at the Almost Ans podcast,
and it seems like so recently those people have found love.
Like the players come to mind, and Crystal comes to
mind for me as well. Within that sentence, there's others,
but you know, Crystal was somebody really rooting for because
I know it was a very difficult process.
Speaker 3 (31:58):
Yeah, same, same, and she's just a ball of light
and energy. And I'm so happy that I think that
this makes her admit it even more.
Speaker 7 (32:07):
That's right.
Speaker 2 (32:07):
Well, until next time, I've been Ben, I've Been Ashley Cia.
Speaker 1 (32:12):
Follow the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcasts on
iHeartRadio or subscribe wherever you listen to podcasts.
This is the Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous podcast
with iHeartRadio.
Speaker 2 (00:05):
Today we have a very very special episode, an exciting
episode for the Almost Famous podcast. We have a very
happy newlywed couple, one of which participated on the Bachelor
and Bachelor in Paradise. We also got to witness her
first wedding. Now this wedding comes a few years later, Ashley,
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somebody that you're a big fan of. I'm a big
fan of two we're a big fan of at the
Almost Famous podcast. But somebody that you really respect and
enjoy talking to.
Speaker 3 (00:34):
Yeah, let's surprise everyone and have on Crystal Nielsen and Myles.
Oh my god, what is your last name?
Speaker 4 (00:42):
Balls?
Speaker 3 (00:43):
Bowl bowls bowls as in bo w l e s.
Speaker 5 (00:49):
Correct that.
Speaker 3 (00:51):
First questions easy? Then Crystal, you're taking his last name.
Speaker 4 (00:55):
I've already taken it. Instagram official, babe.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Okay, there's one thing up on Instagram official and then
actually being the actual legal bowls. I am on Instagram haven.
But like you're telling me that you have a new license,
a new passport and stuff.
Speaker 4 (01:15):
So I've been planning I am planning on doing it.
I like signed over my marriage certificate with my new
name and I was like, when I come back from
the honeymoon, because that's just too much to handle before
the wedding.
Speaker 6 (01:26):
Like, I'll do all the legal stuff this.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
Week, So what inspired you to get it done so quickly?
Speaker 4 (01:33):
I just want to get it done because now that
I'm using I'm a type a personality kind of once
I get my mind to something, nothing will stop me.
But also like it's confusing because sometimes I'm using Crystal Bowl,
sometimes I'm using Crystal Nielsen, and I'm like, I just
need like one name and just do it all at
one time. And that was what the lady when we
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did our marriage license actually said. She's like, just do
it all at once, so it's done.
Speaker 3 (02:00):
Teach me how to do it. It's my license, my passport,
and then what else do I need to do to
make it official? Because I do want an official for
Dawson's sake. Even like when we go on planes now,
they'll be like, can I see your ID? Because like
the names don't match, and I know that, you know,
they're just like being extra careful and making sure I'm
not kidnapping him totally.
Speaker 4 (02:21):
Well, let me just say, like make sure he's always
put on your lap as an infant because we ran
into a situation where we forgot it at our daughter
and they literally thought.
Speaker 6 (02:30):
Miles's kidnapping her. She is a spitting image of her father.
Speaker 3 (02:35):
Yes, she is so cute?
Speaker 7 (02:38):
All right?
Speaker 3 (02:38):
So is that all I have to do?
Speaker 6 (02:40):
So you know what, I'm going to research it? I
can text. I'm gonna I'm gonna text you. I'm gonna
let you know how to do it, because I've heard
you can go to a website and they just do
it all do for you. Yeah, they do it all
for you.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
I think they can organize the plans for you, but
then you still have to go into all these offices. Anyway,
we're boring the people. We got to hear about your wedding.
Speaker 2 (02:58):
Obviously, the two of you excitedly got married, married life
just off the bat.
Speaker 7 (03:05):
How is it treating you so far?
Speaker 5 (03:08):
That's great?
Speaker 8 (03:10):
It's fun because we've been i mean unofficially married for
like the last I guess three years now, but something
definitely feels different different. We got rings on our fingers now.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
So you just said you've been what officially married for
three and a half years? Is that what you said?
Unofficially married? So is that starting? Is the three and
a half years starting with when you first met or
is there a time period like this feels like we're
already married.
Speaker 5 (03:40):
I guess when we knew we were gonna have a kid.
Speaker 8 (03:45):
It's probably when things started to take a little more serious.
Speaker 7 (03:48):
Yeah, well that makes sense. Yeah, I get started.
Speaker 2 (03:51):
I said, So, okay, if we can flash back in
time and christ I know we've been able to talk
to you about this, I would love to hear both
of your thoughts. Really, Uh, if we can flash back
in time to when you found out that you were
going to have a child. Uh, you were not married
at the time. I'm was it planned? Unexpected? Was their shock?
Speaker 7 (04:11):
Was there?
Speaker 5 (04:12):
You know?
Speaker 2 (04:12):
What was the world like back then? And then I
will follow it up with what's life like now?
Speaker 9 (04:18):
Go ahead?
Speaker 6 (04:19):
Baby?
Speaker 8 (04:19):
Oh I'm taking this one. Okay, it was unexpected. We
talked about it a little bit, but it was definitely unexpected.
We were like six months into dating at that point.
Speaker 5 (04:32):
Three for three months into dating.
Speaker 2 (04:36):
Uh so yeah, a little faster than some Yeah, I
mean that's fine.
Speaker 8 (04:40):
Yeah, and uh yeah, that was definitely we both had
to decide that that was something we want to move
forward with. And we had a pretty serious talk about commitment.
At that point, I'm going being all in. And that's
why I say, you know, we kind of started unofficially
being married from that point, uh, but this was when.
Speaker 5 (05:01):
We really.
Speaker 8 (05:03):
Made it official. And it does feel different and good
in a good way.
Speaker 6 (05:06):
Yeah, And I will say too.
Speaker 4 (05:08):
But like a week before we found out we were pregnant,
we talked like we went over our finances. Miles shared
me with me his four oh one K and like
our and I happened to show him I was going
to be ovulating on Christmas Eve, you know, like we
knew like.
Speaker 6 (05:21):
We were all in.
Speaker 4 (05:24):
And then a week later we found out we were pregnant,
so you know, we'd already really committed to each other.
And yeah, I was like shocking and exciting, and the
moment that, of course there was also like scary. There
was so much going on. We were like in COVID.
There was just so much uncertainty. And I remember Miles
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like came over one day with like a notebook or
his computer and he wrote out like twenty questions for
us to go over together and decide like if we
were all in, if we were like doing this, and
he just really stole my.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
Heart see I hear this, and I think that might
be the most romantic thing anybody's ever done. I really like,
for me, romance is something important to me. You're not
I'm not building a picnic, but intentionality figuring out if
you're on the same page and if you are committing
to it and doing it well, I think is one
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of the most romantic gestures. So you had talked about
this was like shocking at the time, but not necessarily
something you were like, not something that like popped up
and you're like, oh my gosh, I don't know this person,
like this is this this could go really good or
really bad. You you had kind of walked into that phase.
Speaker 4 (06:40):
Yeah, we were solemn with each other and we were
planning on.
Speaker 6 (06:46):
Building our family.
Speaker 4 (06:47):
I just don't think we thought it would happen as
quickly as it did. But I mean, really like going
through that whole process, Miles really just taught me about
I mean he just kept saying like just trust me,
like have faith in us, like like we can do this.
I'm here, I'm not going anywhere, because I was like
all over the place, and he really just like tethered
me and pulled me in and just made me feel
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really safe and strong, and you know, I kind of
worked that into our first bouts, just how much it
meant to just have a good man that was raised
very very well to build my life with. And for me,
like I didn't really have the healthiest relationships like in
my past, and so when you are dating someone that's new,
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like you sometimes don't really recognize it. So for me,
it was a lot of an inner journey too, of
detangling things and patterns and the past and being willing
to step into a new life and a new way
of doing things, in a new way of loving. And
so that's really what our marriage is built on and
our foundation.
Speaker 6 (07:54):
And you know, this is my guy.
Speaker 7 (07:57):
This is my guy.
Speaker 10 (08:00):
So Christil, I have to ask, how did this planning
process compare to your first, Like did it feel like
it was your first real wedding because the other bachelor
did the other?
Speaker 4 (08:12):
Yeah, I mean like ABC produced everything and it really
was like on a set for a show, so I
didn't really have my hands in any of the planning.
It was very nice, you know, because I just sent
over some printer sport and spo and that everything else
was handled and I just really showed up so I
definitely felt more of like way more involved in the
(08:34):
planning process and a little more of like the stress. However,
we had really really great wedding planners, which is what
I would tell any bride to do is get a
really good planning team, So I did feel more involved
in it.
Speaker 6 (08:47):
It did feel real, primarily.
Speaker 4 (08:49):
Because who we got to invite, Like it was all
people that we got to invite, because like the first
time around, combined, we could only bring thirty people, including
Idol party like to that ABC wedding, So it was
just a bunch of strangers that I didn't know, who
also weren't really invested in us, because again, they were
there on a TV show.
Speaker 7 (09:11):
I'm glad I got. I was a part of the thirty.
Speaker 2 (09:13):
I don't know where my invite come from came from,
but I'm going to assume it's just from you personally.
And it wasn't a part of the show that I
got the private invite.
Speaker 10 (09:21):
One of the thirty private invites.
Speaker 7 (09:23):
Yeah that's what I want.
Speaker 4 (09:26):
So yeah, that's just felt special, and it was like
all of our people that were there for us, and
there wasn't my girls crying in the bathroom, like taking
away from like the wedding. You know, it was our
weekend and that felt really special.
Speaker 7 (09:51):
You know, there's so much here, Miles. Obviously for you
to walk into my wife.
Speaker 2 (09:57):
Different circumstances, but similar in a lot of ways too.
You know, walked into a relationship with me while I'm
best known for a relationship with somebody else. Questions that
she gets even today in passing sometimes like hey, uh,
(10:18):
have you watched the show? You know the you know,
they ask about that experience and all that. Miles, I
would love to just.
Speaker 7 (10:26):
Hear your.
Speaker 2 (10:29):
Journey now marrying somebody from the show who's also very
well known for relationship on the show.
Speaker 5 (10:37):
Yeah, it's interesting. I didn't. I didn't know that. You
shared that.
Speaker 6 (10:42):
Miles has never seen The Bachelor. He actually has no idea.
Speaker 7 (10:47):
I don't know what you're missing out.
Speaker 8 (10:49):
There were three episodes of the latest season. I think
this is a few years ago, but yeah, I haven't.
I didn't really follow The Bachelor, so I Christal was.
I think it was a good thing in the start
of our relationship because I didn't have that that background
to mess up our you know, authentic connection, and we've
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been set up through a friend and so okay for me,
there really none of that kind of filtered in until uh,
we were talking about and you know, when we got
a little more serious, when she was talking about announcing it.
That's when kind of the reality of like this is
a big deal, like Crystal is, you know, nervous to
announce it. That's when it kind of started to become
(11:31):
a bigger deal. And I think I've largely avoided most
of the negative, I guess or more positive aspects of
it because I'm not very involved on social media, but
starting to get a little bit more involved.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
I think the positive it can even be a negative,
like just getting it brought up is odd, no matter
if it's even coming from a good place. It's it's
weird to think of the person that you love and
that you're committed to, and the person you know in
your love story that you know, there's a lot of
grit in depth there, like you guys have really had
to come together as a couple sooner and also stronger
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than most have to in their relationship, and so then
to hold you know, Crystal so tightly, and then also
to just even the positive of like, oh, Miles, you're
so much better than the last like that's just not
a great comment, but you get it, and then you
have to just kind of like be like, all right,
I get it, I'm done, I'll move on. Doesn't affect
my relationship, So I'm glad you've avoided it. I hope
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you continue to.
Speaker 8 (12:33):
Yeah, it truthfully hasn't been Uh, it hasn't played too
much a role in our relationship, only a positive one.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
I don't think it has because yeah, Miles isn't involved
in social media, so he's just not.
Speaker 10 (12:47):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (12:48):
And then we're a little more like home bodies as
opposed to like the previous life.
Speaker 6 (12:52):
I lived, you know. And so I will say, like
for me, it's it's always.
Speaker 4 (12:57):
Like, you know, like wanting to move forward, you know,
and then having old things like brought up or there's
like articles and it's like, oh, by the way, here's
we're linking all Crystal's previous wedding and all that stuff.
Speaker 6 (13:09):
I'm like, guys, let's move forward.
Speaker 4 (13:11):
But I guess we just have to understand like it's
just part of the part of the story and part
of the history and what makes our relationship so great.
Speaker 8 (13:17):
There's definitely been some cool, cool aspects of it. Getting
to meet Ashley and go on trips like that. That's
all been very cool and it's it is a surreal
experience to go from relative obscurity to being kind of
thrown into the front page of various articles and stuff.
Speaker 5 (13:42):
Yeah, it's a little weird, but it can be fun.
Speaker 8 (13:44):
It has been interesting and a little fun and.
Speaker 5 (13:49):
Exciting.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
I guess, well, this this weekend, you're getting those headlines.
You know, you're in the pictures with Crystal, you know
when E News and US Weekly are reporting it on Instagram.
So can we talk a little bit about wedding dats totally?
I hate that, I said. Dates. Okay, well speaking, you're
on cloud nine. You know, you just came back from
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your honeymoon last night. Where was it?
Speaker 6 (14:13):
We went to Combo Oh very nice.
Speaker 4 (14:16):
Okay, land by the pool for five straight days.
Speaker 3 (14:22):
So the plan was to have no plans there. Pretty much,
very nice.
Speaker 6 (14:30):
We were have dinner.
Speaker 3 (14:32):
I know that where the wedding took place was a
very special place for you guys, multiple things in your
relationship have happened there.
Speaker 5 (14:39):
Can you tell everyone it's where we first met.
Speaker 8 (14:44):
So, like I said, Crystal and I were introduced through
friend and she actually knows my mom or knew my
mom before we met, and so came over kind of
under that guys, and that's how we were first introduced,
and then we had our first date.
Speaker 3 (14:58):
There is this place.
Speaker 5 (15:01):
It's my parents house.
Speaker 6 (15:06):
D Yeah, but it's a very nice it's beautiful.
Speaker 3 (15:09):
Yeah, that's why I wasn't quite sure. Oh wait, I
thought it was a backyard, but it's actually I'll.
Speaker 5 (15:15):
Tell you what. That's how.
Speaker 8 (15:17):
That's why I knew Crystal I had something specials Uh.
That's all it took was to have a you know,
we could connect at my parents' house. We have to
go through all the fancy steps. It was pretty Uh,
sparks were flying right way.
Speaker 6 (15:32):
I think that was it.
Speaker 4 (15:33):
We weren't sure if we were like when we were
going to actually get married or because I've been like
wanting us to try for another baby, and I was
like what should come first, like baby number two or
the wedding because I don't want to be pregnant at
the wedding. And then his parents kind of offered up
their home to us, and it just felt it felt
really special because yeah, it was our first date where
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we met, where we did our gender reveal, my family
reunion like so many special omens, and it was very intimate.
It was like just under eighty people, so it was
like our closest closest family and friends and that it.
Speaker 6 (16:09):
Was just it was beautiful.
Speaker 4 (16:10):
And we were actually really concerned because there was a
hurricane like plotted for the weekend, so things got a
little I was a little stressed.
Speaker 5 (16:22):
I didn't even tell her.
Speaker 8 (16:23):
I saw the news like early in the week, and
the whole week I was checking the weather like every day.
Finally told her, and likeily, we didn't panic, although definitely
made I think the actual day a lot better because
all the anxiety going up, we had no backup plan.
Speaker 5 (16:41):
It would have been yeah.
Speaker 3 (16:43):
It wouldn't have been in the kitchen.
Speaker 5 (16:45):
It might be.
Speaker 4 (16:48):
I don't know if we would have gotten that people
exclusive with.
Speaker 3 (16:53):
No wait a second, how did you have your first
date in his backyard? If like, why did you have
your first day parents' house?
Speaker 6 (17:02):
Well, it was during COVID, that's right, okay.
Speaker 4 (17:04):
And we have been facetiming for like two weeks and
Miles told me his first job was making crapes.
Speaker 6 (17:10):
So his parents have.
Speaker 4 (17:11):
This whole like really cool outdoor space with this big grill,
you were of the big flat round ones, so I
wanted to make me crapes. And because like no restaurants
were open because it's during the pandemic.
Speaker 8 (17:24):
I think you were going on walks with my mom
pretty regularly, and so maybe it was after a walk
or before a walk.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
Now I think I just came over, so I don't
know this, and you might have shared like how did
you know his mom?
Speaker 6 (17:38):
You don't know this story?
Speaker 4 (17:39):
Then I feel like I have, so I okay, I
don't know.
Speaker 3 (17:44):
I think you may have just told me this when
we were together in Vegas.
Speaker 4 (17:48):
So I met Katie at a retreat in December twenty
nineteen and we were accountability partners. And the lady who
set it up, her name is Carrie Smith. She's my
high performance coach and she's really good family friends with
Miles as family.
Speaker 6 (18:05):
And when.
Speaker 4 (18:09):
The pandemic was going on, Carrie and I were doing
weekly coaching calls and she's like, the next guy you date,
I want to make sure like I get to approve him,
and I'm like, okay, of course said very much like
up to Carrie, and one week she was.
Speaker 6 (18:23):
Like, I have the perfect eye for you.
Speaker 4 (18:25):
It's Katie's son, my friend and accountability partner from there,
and I was like, this girl code, I can't date
her son like Kitty and her friends. So Carrie kind
of like worked along and was poking Katie to, you know,
invite me over and go on walk to just like
be more involved in my life. And so we just
(18:45):
like kind of like connected through through that.
Speaker 9 (18:49):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (19:00):
So I mean, now that you're married and you have
a child together, did Katie ever you know, mention that Hey,
when we were sitting there at the retree, you know,
you were sharing your life with me and I was
sharing my life with you. In the back of my mind,
I was like, I've got a son that would be
perfect for you.
Speaker 6 (19:16):
I think, so really.
Speaker 3 (19:21):
Interesting.
Speaker 7 (19:22):
Wow.
Speaker 3 (19:22):
Okay, no, but I will tell you what she did say.
Speaker 4 (19:25):
She did tell Carrie that I reminded her of her
younger self so much. And I had told Carrie that
I was like, I feel like I'm going to be
like Katie when I'm older.
Speaker 3 (19:39):
So Miles, how's it feeling, mom.
Speaker 7 (19:43):
I think it's a compliment.
Speaker 3 (19:44):
I think it's normal to be honest.
Speaker 7 (19:46):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (19:48):
Yeah, we just felt this like this little connection, you know,
like Katie and I really connected.
Speaker 6 (19:55):
She's you know, and she had She's had like.
Speaker 4 (19:58):
Three boys, so I'm like the first daughter of the
family and then first grandchild and Dara, So yeah, we
just integrated really well.
Speaker 2 (20:08):
Is it weird for you? I mean, like, I'm very
close to my ind lass. I don't know what this
retreat was all about. I'm assuming there was a lot
of like vulnerable moments. Is it weird or is it
helpful that your mother in law now knows so much
about you?
Speaker 6 (20:27):
I mean, I'm an open book, so.
Speaker 8 (20:30):
You know, like, yeah, at least it seems like you
guys kicked it off.
Speaker 4 (20:36):
It was an awesome way for us to meet and
build like our friendship because like Katie and I can
get really deep and really vulnerable with each other and
just really have that support and we're both very, very
very similar.
Speaker 6 (20:52):
So it was perfect.
Speaker 4 (20:54):
And one thing just like at that retreat, like listening
to Katie because again you're at a retreat and of
all things, of all places that you can like talk
smack about people and family that frustrates you or.
Speaker 6 (21:06):
Whatever, she didn't do any of that. All she did.
Speaker 4 (21:10):
I remember just thinking, Wow, this woman has been married
for twenty six years and she only talks like so
lovingly about her husband, Like I want to be like
that when I'm older. I want to be married twenty
six years and be able to just only speak like
just like of her husband and family and like the
highest way. And yeah, I just really admired her and
(21:34):
her family values. And so when Miles and I kind
of dated, maybe there was like a little bit of
weirdness at first, just a little bit, but we both
like got through it, and you know, now I have
the best in laws and I'm married like the best family,
and I have the best brother in laws, and it
just feels really special. And it's interesting because you think, like, Okay,
(21:56):
we've been together three and a half years, like we
have a child together, but something over like the wedding weekend,
even like with your brothers, it just felt different. It
felt like we were all kind of seeing each other
in like a new light and there was a new
depth to our relationships. Things just feel closer and more bonded.
Speaker 3 (22:15):
Okay, you said you were an open book, so you're
gonna challenge me, all right, Okay, Oh, when was the
last time you heard from your ex husband?
Speaker 9 (22:28):
Oh?
Speaker 6 (22:30):
I think like definitely before we got engaged.
Speaker 3 (22:35):
Oh, okay, because I was. I was wondering if he's
ever said congratulations along the way of all those things.
Speaker 4 (22:39):
No, No, you know, and like I wish him so well,
and I wish him to find a relationship like Miles
than I found. And you know, we just knew it
wasn't going to be with each other. And so when
you know you're not in that right relationship, like it's
selfish to hold on and you got to let go
and make space for everyone to move forward and find
(23:02):
their happiness.
Speaker 7 (23:04):
That was a good question. I thought it was gonna
be a lot harder to answer.
Speaker 3 (23:07):
Oh, really, did you come up with one? Did you?
Speaker 7 (23:11):
I didn't know where you're going with it.
Speaker 2 (23:12):
I thought it was gonna be a lot more about
like the honeymoon, if they're trying for that second now
or what.
Speaker 7 (23:16):
I didn't know what path you were going down, but
I like where you went.
Speaker 3 (23:19):
Honeymoon's second and Dara was your.
Speaker 4 (23:22):
Give me a look, like what are you?
Speaker 3 (23:28):
But she was your flower girl. That must have been
so emotional. Miles, were you more emotional seeing her go
down the aisle or Crystal?
Speaker 8 (23:36):
Well, Crystal didn't actually, So that was one of my
favorite parts about the whole wedding, and Crystal didn't get
to see it because and Dara came first.
Speaker 5 (23:44):
But she was so cute.
Speaker 8 (23:45):
I mean, when you have a daughter that's that age,
it could really go one of two ways.
Speaker 4 (23:50):
We didn't think it was gonna go the way we wanted.
Speaker 8 (23:54):
So and she was so cute the whole time. My dad'
kinda helped her. She walked out with my dad and
he helped her put dave her handfuls of flowers and
she tossed them and made sure they were evenly spread.
Speaker 6 (24:05):
And she did so good.
Speaker 5 (24:08):
She was great.
Speaker 3 (24:09):
That's adorable.
Speaker 6 (24:10):
So it was really sweet.
Speaker 4 (24:11):
And then I didn't get to see it because again,
like she walked before me, But I did see some
pictures and I cannot wait to see the video.
Speaker 6 (24:18):
But I think my most special.
Speaker 4 (24:19):
Part of the wedding was as soon as I came
down the aisle and met Miles and we went up
to the altar and we were holding hands and Dara goes,
mommy and daddy are so happy, and ran them up
and was hugging me and holding my legs. So we're
starting our vows with and Dara just like hugging me.
Speaker 6 (24:37):
Yeah, it was so special. You know, it felt special.
Speaker 4 (24:41):
Because everything like we've come through to come to that
point and like really uniting our family. And that's why
I felt I was really adamant about changing my name
and just going all in on this relationship and our
commitment to one another. And I just felt like sometimes
if there's like a foot in a foot out, you know,
and I'm like, I'm going all in. I'm committing to
(25:02):
this one hundred percent Instagram official and.
Speaker 3 (25:05):
All aw And then Crystal, you were walked down the
aisle by your mom and your brother. Yeah, I think
that was I don't I don't I remember correctly. I
don't think that happened at your other wedding.
Speaker 6 (25:18):
No, I walk by myself.
Speaker 3 (25:20):
Yeah, that's what I thought.
Speaker 4 (25:21):
I did walk by myself because my dad isn't really
involved in my life. And this time around, it's like,
you know, when you get married for the second time,
you just have some experience, like anything in life, and
I just wanted to do things differently, and I wanted
my mom and I wanted my little brother to like
be right by my side. And I think at that
(25:42):
time of my life, you know, years ago, when I
did get married, I felt really strongly about like how
far I'd come on my own and like.
Speaker 6 (25:51):
Really proud of that.
Speaker 4 (25:53):
But throughout our relationship and becoming a mother and just
going through this big life transition, I've understood that I'm
actually not like so proud of that. The walls and
the toughness and the armor that I built up to
like push through life.
Speaker 6 (26:07):
I actually want to take that off. I want to
get softer.
Speaker 4 (26:09):
I want to lean in and have a strong man
be my support me not trying to be the dominant one,
you know, in the relationship, Like I want to like
step into my femininity. I want to like step into
just like strength and faith. And so I just feel
so much experience has like led us to really come
(26:31):
into this marriage in a really strong place.
Speaker 3 (26:34):
I love that answer.
Speaker 2 (26:36):
It's a there's a lot of beauty here for the
two of you, a lot of great things happening. I'm
really excited that we get to come on and talk
to the two of you after this beautiful day and
then obviously a beautiful honeymoon where you're both glowing.
Speaker 3 (26:51):
And some tan and some other things.
Speaker 6 (26:55):
Super crispy, you know, you look it.
Speaker 9 (26:58):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (26:58):
In kind of closing with the two of you at Crystal.
You know, with that at last answer just reminded me
of all the work that you're doing with your platform
and your community to try to build people up and
to give them assets and tools to help make them
healthier both physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally.
Speaker 7 (27:17):
Speak to that for a little bit.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
Also, if you can tie in the podcast so people
can maybe tune in and listen if they're intrigued.
Speaker 6 (27:25):
Oh, thank you so much, Ben.
Speaker 9 (27:27):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (27:27):
I mean a lot of people know me as a
fitness coach, but becoming a mom really just changed my
perspective on the pressure women put on themselves along with society.
And my kind of rebrand has been called rein over
your Life, where it's fitness is a pillar, but it's
our mental health, it's our support unit, all these things
(27:48):
that really come together to create a well balanced life.
And so I'm exploring all of that through my podcast,
rein of Your Life, where I'm really interviewing a lot
of experts in the field of transformation and healing and
trauma recovery because I'm on that journey and I just
want to invite people to come along with me so
(28:08):
that they can start finding some answers and start finding
some freedom to go rein over their life.
Speaker 3 (28:16):
Let's wrap this with a question about the two of
you answering to each other. What is your favorite thing
about Miles and what was your favory thing about Crystal?
And then what is the thing that you're dreading on
having to deal with for the rest of your life?
Speaker 6 (28:33):
God, you go first.
Speaker 5 (28:37):
It's hard to narrow it down to one thing as always, but.
Speaker 8 (28:43):
Maybe the Crystal's got just an intense, like positive energy
around her all the time.
Speaker 5 (28:49):
It's hard not to get addicted to that.
Speaker 3 (28:51):
It's authentic too, you know what. First you're like, you,
I wonder what you're like behind closed doors, and then
you find out that's just how she is.
Speaker 8 (28:58):
Yeah, No, totally, and that's that's what really caused me
fall in love with her. And it's still like that
three years, three and a half years later, and yeah,
it's great. That's my favorite thing, along with many other things,
the thing I dread. I'm trying to think of something funny.
Speaker 2 (29:20):
What's the first thing that comes to mind, Miles. I've
said many times the shedding. The shedding is uh, but
you can't you can't use it now. I just said it.
But there's a when you live with somebody who has
long hair, the shedding is outrageous.
Speaker 4 (29:37):
Uh.
Speaker 2 (29:38):
And why I said this over and over again, Jess
Can I have both taken steps in our life to
make the shedding more palpable, like drain. No, like drain,
there's like drain stuff you can put on it so
the hair gets caught, it doesn't go down, and you
know you're not pulling out a varmit every like six
months out of the train. So Miles, Yeah, you got
(30:00):
something in there.
Speaker 7 (30:01):
I know it.
Speaker 3 (30:02):
Yeah, we can come back to you if you want.
Speaker 6 (30:05):
We're going to say.
Speaker 4 (30:06):
One thing that I really love about you is that
you always want to find a way to like systematize things.
You always want to find and make things like more efficient.
So everything like how we grocery shop, how we like
plant our meals, Like we're always finding ways to improve
And I love it You're always wanting to do.
Speaker 6 (30:25):
That because I love to do it with you.
Speaker 4 (30:28):
And the thing I'm most writing is telling you to
make the bed because you were the last one out
of it every single.
Speaker 5 (30:34):
Day, all right, I thought of mine.
Speaker 8 (30:39):
Crystal has a funny habit of of buying way too
much produce. That's what I'd read is thrown away produce
that because too much.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
That's a good answer. That stresses me out.
Speaker 7 (30:57):
Yeah, good for you guys.
Speaker 3 (31:00):
Thank you so much for joining us straight off your honeymoon.
You guys are seriously the cutest couple and we can't
wait to see what comes.
Speaker 7 (31:07):
Yeah, super excited for the two of you. Thanks for
coming on here.
Speaker 6 (31:10):
Yeah, thanks so much, guys.
Speaker 2 (31:15):
We just had the opportunity to interview Crystal and Miles,
an incredible couple really looking forward to their future, bringing
light and happiness and cheer into this world. It is
great to see Crystal just so happy. You know, it's weird. Actually,
just correct me if I'm wrong and I'm off base here,
(31:37):
But you know, I said it a few weeks ago
where it feels like we had so many people that
we rooted for so hard here at the Almost Ans podcast,
and it seems like so recently those people have found love.
Like the players come to mind, and Crystal comes to
mind for me as well. Within that sentence, there's others,
but you know, Crystal was somebody really rooting for because
I know it was a very difficult process.
Speaker 3 (31:58):
Yeah, same, same, and she's just a ball of light
and energy. And I'm so happy that I think that
this makes her admit it even more.
Speaker 7 (32:07):
That's right.
Speaker 2 (32:07):
Well, until next time, I've been Ben, I've Been Ashley Cia.
Speaker 1 (32:12):
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