December 18, 2025 • 22 mins
Trista and Daisy open the pages of their journals from their time in the Bachelor mansion!
From makeout kisses to night one jitters - the ladies are revealing their private inner thoughts!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
This is the Ben and Ashley I almost famous podcast
with iHeartRadio.
Speaker 2 (00:06):
HII everybody, It's Trista and I'm jumping in here for
an almost famous podcast. I'm so excited because I love
our guest today. She's a fan favorite, of course, and
she's one of my favorites too, Daisy Kent soon to
be soon to be Daisy? What what were you? Will
(00:26):
you change your last name?
Speaker 3 (00:28):
Yeah? What will it be here?
Speaker 2 (00:35):
How are you beautiful? It's so good to see you.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
I am so good. It's so good to talk to you.
I've missed you.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
I know I miss you too. So if you guys
don't know this, I'm sure you do because you are
almost famous fans. And all of our almost famous fans
know all about our like spinoff podcast, and Daisy has
one of those. It's called Dirty Rush. How are you
are you loving the podcast? Are you loving doing it?
Speaker 3 (01:02):
I am loving it. It's so much fun and it's
crazy hearing all of the stories. We just recorded one
where it was like completely anonymous, so we didn't even
talk to the people that are going to be on it.
So I'm excited to hear that because they wanted to
keep it like very anonymous. So it's interesting because everyone
on it is usually anonymous, and so they're saying all
(01:24):
this like very like all these things that in a
sorority you're like not supposed to talk about. So it's
been really cool.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Oh you see, I want to listen. Yes, I know
I've talked about We've talked about me being on it.
I did talk to Jen Fessler I don't know last
week and love her so much. Fun. You and Gia
and Jen are such a good trio. It makes me jealous,
(01:53):
Like I'm like, why didn't you guys ask me to
do it? I want to do it.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
We'll have to have you on.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Well, you know, and Blakesley will be graduating high school
next year.
Speaker 3 (02:06):
Yeah, is she going to be in a sorority?
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Well, I don't know, that's what I mean. So if
you're if you're still doing the podcast, which you will be,
I will definitely be having lots of feels and feelings
and thoughts about the sorority rush process.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
Yeah, sure, yeah, I will.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
I will. Okay. So Ben and Ashley recently read some
of their journals from their time in the mansion, and
this episode will be you and I reading from our journals.
Which is so funny. I don't. I know, I have
multiple journals, but I only I only looked for one
(02:48):
of them. It was this one. It is it was
actually what we gave guests at our wedding. So it's
a little picture of Brian and I and it says
dream on it.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
It's it's pink, of course, and it was like I
was like, oh, I love a journal. So we gave
everybody journals. Everyone else probably threw them away, but I
of course kept mine.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
Yeah, I love that. That's so cute. What a great idea.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
I mean, you know who doesn't love a journal? So
so I found mine and you found yours. Do you
have one or multiple? What was your journal experience like
on the show?
Speaker 3 (03:27):
I just have my one, and it's like, comeful, amazing.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
I mean that's what you want from a journal, right,
like they're actually this one. Well I do have more,
but there is another. I have another one of these.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
Yah know.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
I had a bunch left over that I kept stuff
about Max when he was a baby, and I filled
probably like ten pages. So it makes me sad because
I'm like it's all blank, you know, so filling up
your entire entire journal is very well done, girl, Yeah,
very well.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
I was like, because I feel like when you're on
the show, you don't. I mean, you have producers and
like the friend or like the girls that you make
friends with, but a lot of the times you're like
alone with your own thoughts. I used to journal all
the time, so the show actually got me back into journaling,
which is fun because like this whole crazy life experience
I've had since the show, I have it all journaled,
(04:23):
which is really fun to look back on it.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
And honestly, it's therapeutic for me. Like that's why I
journaled during the show when I was on the Bachelor,
and I'm pretty sure I journaled during the Bachelor too,
But it was very therapeutic to be able to just
write my thoughts down. And also, like, I wrote a book,
and I'm not bringing this up because I'm like, you know, saying,
go read my book. But in my book, I want.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
To read your book.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Oh thanks. It's about gratitude and and one of the
like scientific findings I found was that if you write
things down, if you're if you're having hard time with something,
if you write something down, and really if you throw
it away. But in this case, just the journal, just
writing it down and getting it off your mind so
you can actually focus on the present. I felt like
(05:13):
was very therapeutic for me in a way, for me
to like deal with my feelings and feel like I
was talking to someone even though I wasn't talking to
another sermon.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
But you know, I feel like it makes you like
comprehend things more.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
Yeah, I totally agree. I agree. Okay, do you want
to go first or do you want me to go first?
Speaker 3 (05:33):
I don't care.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
I can go first, Okay, go for it. So Daisy
is going to read her journal entry well else he
was on the Bachelor, So.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
I thought it'd be fun to read the first journal
entry that I did, because yep, I feel like everyone's
always wondering, like what's it like like when you first
show up? And I feel like this really shows it
and like what I was thinking. Okay, So this was
on September fifteenth, that's so two years ago. I think
I just have somethime, okkay, and I like titled each
(06:03):
of the journal entries and so I see it did yeah,
and so I said, and so it begins. That was
the title of this. Willie picked me up in a
black suv. The driver's name was Willy. He had a
lot of sacks and I ate butterscotch candies the whole
way there. The drive took four hours because there was
so much traffic in la. He told me about marrying
(06:25):
his wife and how it was so unexpected. We arrived
at the hotel and it was really fast. Everyone brought
my bags up and gave me some info and left.
They took my phone the second week gone inside, which
I wasn't expecting. I asked them if I could call
my mom, and so I called her and my dad
and said goodbye. But it was literally so fast I
thought I would have longer to talk to them. It
(06:46):
hit me then now that this process is really starting.
I met Steph, my producer, which made me feel a
lot more calm. And it's really cool because I'm still
like super super close to Steph. Tomorrow they said I
do promo shoots. I don't even know what that means
and I don't have a frim key. They let me
(07:07):
out in I can't go anywhere. I wonder what is
going through my family's minds and my friends. I have
a good feeling about this. I have a good feeling
about how this is going to go. But I just
wonder what they all think about me right now. I'm
feeling like I haven't caught my breath since I got here.
It's also crazy because I've never met this person before
(07:29):
and he could possibly be my husband. I want to
send pictures to my family about everything going on. It's
crazy and I won't be able to tell my family
and friends all of this until the end. But I
could just go home tomorrow. We don't really even know
it's day two tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
And wow.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Also, picking out outfits is really hard without all your friends.
I'm figuring out good night. I guess I'll let you
guys know how tomorrow goes.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
That's so cute. Oh my god, it's so true because
I feel like you. I mean, even if you've watched
the show, you really don't know like how it all
goes down. And those little moments are like you learning
about how, oh you think you're going to be able
to have this long journ up conversation with your parents
(08:17):
and say goodbye, and I'm you know you really just
basically they're like, Okay, here's the phone, Okay, say goodbye. Okay,
maybe now we need the phone. Back.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
It's literally like so fast and there's nothing like it too.
That's why I think a lot of times people don't
understand because you literally I remember when I was in
like at the finale and I had to turn on
my phone because they needed some like information from something,
(08:44):
and so I had to turn on my phone to
like get it. But they were like had it in
like the envelope sealed and then they open it handed
it to me and I turned it on and all
I saw was a text for my mom, and it
was like, I miss you so much, thinking about you
every day. I love you, and I'm remember just seeing
that I like popped up right when I needed it,
and I was like, oh my gosh. But besides that,
(09:05):
I didn't see my phone at all.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
So how are you feeling reading that back? Does it
put you back into that space?
Speaker 3 (09:14):
Honestly, it's like I just think about I had such
a positive experience. At times it was like really hard,
but I think like reading it it just makes me
think that like everything happened for a reason and kind
of just like validates it. And like last night I
was like going through like reading some of it and
I was like, oh my gosh, even all the stuff
that I haven't about, like learning about myself like a
(09:37):
ton I write how like all the producers and everyone
told me that I was like kind of pushing like
things that have happened to me in the past, whether
it was like medical or like in a relationship, like
pushing it aside and being like, oh, like this is
like totally okay that this happened. And they were all like,
it's not okay that that happened, Like you need to
start understanding that, like this doesn't normally happen to people.
(10:00):
And so I think they helped me like accept like
a lot of things and realize like the purpose kind
of behind like everything that had happened in my life.
So it is really cool to look back at that
part too.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
What would you say to her now that that younger Daisy,
if you had the.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Chance, I would tell her to feel everything. I think
I think I've well, I think I've always felt everything,
but I think I know I didn't. I think I
like numbed a lot of it. And I was like
I was like, this is okay that this happened, and
like it just happened to me because but then like
realizing like no, it's not okay like that certain things
happened and it's okay to be mad and angry about
(10:39):
them and like work through that.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
Totally feel everything, because you can only get better by
feeling it, you know, even the bad stuff. That's how
I think.
Speaker 3 (10:59):
Yeah, when I was reading my journal, I this fell
out of it and I was like, oh my gosh.
So my dad wrote me this and he like sealed
it with wax and he was like, open it like
when you really need it. And I remember I was.
I opened it right before I was like going in
(11:21):
and walking out of the limo because I was like
freaking out. I was like, okay, I'll probably read it
like later on. But I opened it and he just
said Daisy Bob because they called my dad calls me
Bopper because when I was like little, that was my nickname.
But he said, he said, Daisy Bob, you have all
you need with and all things are possible through love.
Thank cute.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
That is really sweet.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
Yeah, And I forgot about that until last night when
I like opened it up and I was like, whoa.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
Oh, that's a treasure you need to like hold on,
like frame it or yeah, you know right, that's such
a treasure. How have you changed since that moment, since
writing that passage.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
I think like so much. I'm definitely the thing that
the show helped me the most with, I think is confidence,
because not that I was very insecure before, but there
were definitely a lot of things like I was insecure
and like worried about, especially regarding all my medical things.
And I think the show, like it really helped me
(12:27):
like become confident and also showed me like to trust myself,
because I think so often when you're like in relationships
and when you're doing anything, you always look from validation
from like your family and your friends because they're the
people closest to you. But I think it really taught
me like more so to trust myself and understand myself more.
(12:48):
If that makes sense.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Yeah, completely, completely makes sense. And I love that you
that you experienced that because you should feel confident. You're
a beautiful, powerful woman, and yeah, you should feel all
of those feelings.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
Thank you. I can't wait to hear yours.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Oh boy. Okay, so this was and it says October
question mark. So we have no idea and this is
two thousand and two.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
I did a lot of writing and you know what's funny.
The title for this is the beginning of our love story.
I love that this was just I think I just
wrote about Ryan in this one. I might have even
if memory serves me right, I feel like I might
(13:42):
have taken the elements that I wrote in my other
journals and just like wrote one specific journal about me
and Ryan in this one.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
So that's cool.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
Okay, So this says my day with Ryan could not
have been better. We started at the firehouse, meeting his friends,
sliding down the poole, writing in the track and bucket,
then moved to the wedding deck at the top of
Veal Mountain for sunset, and onto his house to meet
Barb and Bob, my in laws now and Natasha, his
husky at the time the fire station started. The started
(14:13):
the kisses in the top of the bucket with Jake,
his friend Jake's verbal suggestion. And then at sunset and
Ryan met one of my number one criteria good kisser.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
That is key.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
That's day. We toasted at sunset. I said to a
beautiful day with a beautiful man, and he said to
living life and taking chances. And actually that so my mom.
I don't know if you've heard of sticks furniture, It's
like this furniture that you can get like like they
will put quotes into the wood, like burn it into
(14:54):
the wood and like kind of created. However, you it's
like kind of like whimsical and hand painted anyway, So
living life and taking chances is actually burned onto one
of the pieces of furniture. After we had our sip,
he wanted to risk something he had been dying all
day to kiss me, and they would kill him his
friends if he didn't. So we kissed our first real kiss.
(15:16):
Because at this point it was just like like a
peck or you know whatever.
Speaker 3 (15:20):
It wasn't like a kiss really, and you were at hometowns.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
We were at hometowns.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
And you would only like each other on the cheek.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
I mean, so he had kissed me like on the lips,
but it wasn't like it wasn't real, Like it wasn't
it was just like a not an afterthought. But I
feel like he felt like, oh, but you know, I
just have to do this, or I felt like, oh,
I'm coming in for a kiss, but he wasn't really ready,
and you know, laying the groundwork going into the show,
(15:55):
I was called every name in the book because I
was the girl like choosing the guys and the first
person who had done it, and so every you know,
I didn't want to look like a slut and like
going in and kissing all these guys, So I was
very conscientious about not kissing everybody. Yeah, okay, so and
(16:15):
at that moment everyone else disappeared. I didn't want it
to end, although I also didn't want to go too fast.
It was picture perfect, the stuff that dreams are made of,
and who could forget it was on the wedding deck
after our first After that moment, I bonded with the family,
including Natasha. What a beautiful dog. We joked in the
(16:38):
car that my pants looked similar to something he could
see his mom in. It couldn't have been a more
foreshadowing beat because we walked in and Barb and I
were practically twins. It was hilarious. They seemed genuinely impressed
and satisfied that Ryan was happy. But not until they
left it Ryan and I really get to connect. We
cuddled on the couch and the best part we had
our first passionate kiss.
Speaker 1 (17:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
I could have stayed in that moment forever. He was
the best kisser ever. Those lips, I can hardly stand it.
The day was absolute perfection, even without the note. Ryan
handed me a letter under the table, explaining his feelings
and telling me that he was falling in love. I
read it to Lisa, who was my exec producer. Yeah,
(17:27):
she cried the fact that he didn't watch the show
endears me to him even more. He asked me what
I would do with my last name after I got married,
and said, Trista Setter sounds pretty good, too cute.
Speaker 3 (17:39):
Oh my gosh, that's so cute. Do you still have
the letter he wrote you?
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Oh? Yes, Oh yes, that's in my safe.
Speaker 3 (17:50):
That is so special.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Yeah, have the letter. I have all of his poems,
I save everything. So yeah, yeah, I mean it just
brings back the best memory is like, you know, obviously
it was such a weird way to meet my husband,
and he is so not the person to be on
the Bachelorette. Yeah, so not the person. I love that though, Yeah,
(18:16):
totally so Like reading my words just takes me right
back to it. And I cherished this cherishing.
Speaker 3 (18:24):
I love that. That's so cool that you documented all
of it.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
I mean I tried it. Actually, it's funny because I'm
pretty sure that oh it's funny because I kept reading.
On November twenty second, I said, wow, has time passed?
The one moment in life when I should have recorded
every step is left to my memory. I'm like, damn it,
(18:51):
I didn't. You know, you get so busy as the
lead that you like it, you just don't have a
lot of time to write. Yeah, even though I wanted
to write all the time, I just I was bad
about it. So anyway, I love that I have. I
have that moment at least, you know.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
That is awesome. That's like so special.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Oh gosh, I mean really and and you know, like
looking back, it all worked out clearly and it always
does as it should. And I feel like I wish
because my biggest regret from the show is not telling
him when I was actually developing feelings because I didn't
(19:36):
want to show all my cards because of what had
happened to me on The Bachelor, Like I got to
the you know, the final rose ceremony, thought he was
legitimately going to propose and got my heart broken, and
so when I became the lead, I was like, well,
I don't want to show all my cards because what
if he says something that like is a total deal breaker,
like the last day. Because we've only known each other
(19:56):
for six weeks, you know, so I really were not
opening up as much. So I wish I if I
could go back and tell that Trista, that version of
myself and anything, it would be to just feel all
the feelings and express those feelings, especially to him.
Speaker 3 (20:15):
So anyway, that's so special. Well you can have you
like gone, But has he read your journals of like
what you wrote about him?
Speaker 2 (20:24):
I feel like possibly, maybe, but I don't know that
we've ever like sat down. Yeah, you know, yeah, maybe
he'll just watch this. He'll just listen to this podcast
and be like, oh I got to I got to read.
Speaker 3 (20:39):
Yeah, he just got Did he watch the show when
it was airing?
Speaker 2 (20:44):
He started to He had like viewing parties in bail
with like, you know, a bunch of people, and I
think the first episode he was like, Okay, I can't
do this. I can't watch her like with other guys.
You know, we were engaged at the time, so he
was like, I really don't need to watch this at all.
(21:06):
So he watched like I think maybe the first maybe
the second episode, and.
Speaker 3 (21:10):
Then yeah, he didn't watch the rest.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
Yeah, not necessary. I feel like there is something to
these journal entries. We need to do more of this,
like have more people come on the show. I would
love to do like a little spin off of just
having people come and really reconnect with the person that
they were on the show and like what they would
(21:35):
tell that person because I feel like people learn, you know,
from their experiences. That would be so cool to learn
about what everyone learned, you know, and what they, you know,
truly were feeling in the moment, because once you get
off the show, I feel like, you know, it kind
of gets jumbled up in your mind, like it gets
(21:57):
recreated because of what other people are telling you they
saw and you know that sort of thing. So I
love just getting into that moment with everybody. Anyway, thank
you so much for sharing your journal entry.
Speaker 3 (22:12):
It was so fun to hear yours too.
Speaker 2 (22:15):
Thank you. We love having you on. Daisy Please come
back and everyone continue to listen to Almost Famous. Thanks
for listening.
Speaker 1 (22:26):
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Speaker 2 (00:06):
HII everybody, It's Trista and I'm jumping in here for
an almost famous podcast. I'm so excited because I love
our guest today. She's a fan favorite, of course, and
she's one of my favorites too, Daisy Kent soon to
be soon to be Daisy? What what were you? Will
(00:26):
you change your last name?
Speaker 3 (00:28):
Yeah? What will it be here?
Speaker 2 (00:35):
How are you beautiful? It's so good to see you.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
I am so good. It's so good to talk to you.
I've missed you.
Speaker 2 (00:42):
I know I miss you too. So if you guys
don't know this, I'm sure you do because you are
almost famous fans. And all of our almost famous fans
know all about our like spinoff podcast, and Daisy has
one of those. It's called Dirty Rush. How are you
are you loving the podcast? Are you loving doing it?
Speaker 3 (01:02):
I am loving it. It's so much fun and it's
crazy hearing all of the stories. We just recorded one
where it was like completely anonymous, so we didn't even
talk to the people that are going to be on it.
So I'm excited to hear that because they wanted to
keep it like very anonymous. So it's interesting because everyone
on it is usually anonymous, and so they're saying all
(01:24):
this like very like all these things that in a
sorority you're like not supposed to talk about. So it's
been really cool.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Oh you see, I want to listen. Yes, I know
I've talked about We've talked about me being on it.
I did talk to Jen Fessler I don't know last
week and love her so much. Fun. You and Gia
and Jen are such a good trio. It makes me jealous,
(01:53):
Like I'm like, why didn't you guys ask me to
do it? I want to do it.
Speaker 3 (01:58):
We'll have to have you on.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
Well, you know, and Blakesley will be graduating high school
next year.
Speaker 3 (02:06):
Yeah, is she going to be in a sorority?
Speaker 2 (02:08):
Well, I don't know, that's what I mean. So if
you're if you're still doing the podcast, which you will be,
I will definitely be having lots of feels and feelings
and thoughts about the sorority rush process.
Speaker 3 (02:23):
Yeah, sure, yeah, I will.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
I will. Okay. So Ben and Ashley recently read some
of their journals from their time in the mansion, and
this episode will be you and I reading from our journals.
Which is so funny. I don't. I know, I have
multiple journals, but I only I only looked for one
(02:48):
of them. It was this one. It is it was
actually what we gave guests at our wedding. So it's
a little picture of Brian and I and it says
dream on it.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (02:59):
It's it's pink, of course, and it was like I
was like, oh, I love a journal. So we gave
everybody journals. Everyone else probably threw them away, but I
of course kept mine.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
Yeah, I love that. That's so cute. What a great idea.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
I mean, you know who doesn't love a journal? So
so I found mine and you found yours. Do you
have one or multiple? What was your journal experience like
on the show?
Speaker 3 (03:27):
I just have my one, and it's like, comeful, amazing.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
I mean that's what you want from a journal, right,
like they're actually this one. Well I do have more,
but there is another. I have another one of these.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
Yah know.
Speaker 2 (03:43):
I had a bunch left over that I kept stuff
about Max when he was a baby, and I filled
probably like ten pages. So it makes me sad because
I'm like it's all blank, you know, so filling up
your entire entire journal is very well done, girl, Yeah,
very well.
Speaker 3 (04:03):
I was like, because I feel like when you're on
the show, you don't. I mean, you have producers and
like the friend or like the girls that you make
friends with, but a lot of the times you're like
alone with your own thoughts. I used to journal all
the time, so the show actually got me back into journaling,
which is fun because like this whole crazy life experience
I've had since the show, I have it all journaled,
(04:23):
which is really fun to look back on it.
Speaker 2 (04:26):
And honestly, it's therapeutic for me. Like that's why I
journaled during the show when I was on the Bachelor,
and I'm pretty sure I journaled during the Bachelor too,
But it was very therapeutic to be able to just
write my thoughts down. And also, like, I wrote a book,
and I'm not bringing this up because I'm like, you know, saying,
go read my book. But in my book, I want.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
To read your book.
Speaker 2 (04:49):
Oh thanks. It's about gratitude and and one of the
like scientific findings I found was that if you write
things down, if you're if you're having hard time with something,
if you write something down, and really if you throw
it away. But in this case, just the journal, just
writing it down and getting it off your mind so
you can actually focus on the present. I felt like
(05:13):
was very therapeutic for me in a way, for me
to like deal with my feelings and feel like I
was talking to someone even though I wasn't talking to
another sermon.
Speaker 3 (05:22):
But you know, I feel like it makes you like
comprehend things more.
Speaker 2 (05:27):
Yeah, I totally agree. I agree. Okay, do you want
to go first or do you want me to go first?
Speaker 3 (05:33):
I don't care.
Speaker 2 (05:34):
I can go first, Okay, go for it. So Daisy
is going to read her journal entry well else he
was on the Bachelor, So.
Speaker 3 (05:42):
I thought it'd be fun to read the first journal
entry that I did, because yep, I feel like everyone's
always wondering, like what's it like like when you first
show up? And I feel like this really shows it
and like what I was thinking. Okay, So this was
on September fifteenth, that's so two years ago. I think
I just have somethime, okkay, and I like titled each
(06:03):
of the journal entries and so I see it did yeah,
and so I said, and so it begins. That was
the title of this. Willie picked me up in a
black suv. The driver's name was Willy. He had a
lot of sacks and I ate butterscotch candies the whole
way there. The drive took four hours because there was
so much traffic in la. He told me about marrying
(06:25):
his wife and how it was so unexpected. We arrived
at the hotel and it was really fast. Everyone brought
my bags up and gave me some info and left.
They took my phone the second week gone inside, which
I wasn't expecting. I asked them if I could call
my mom, and so I called her and my dad
and said goodbye. But it was literally so fast I
thought I would have longer to talk to them. It
(06:46):
hit me then now that this process is really starting.
I met Steph, my producer, which made me feel a
lot more calm. And it's really cool because I'm still
like super super close to Steph. Tomorrow they said I
do promo shoots. I don't even know what that means
and I don't have a frim key. They let me
(07:07):
out in I can't go anywhere. I wonder what is
going through my family's minds and my friends. I have
a good feeling about this. I have a good feeling
about how this is going to go. But I just
wonder what they all think about me right now. I'm
feeling like I haven't caught my breath since I got here.
It's also crazy because I've never met this person before
(07:29):
and he could possibly be my husband. I want to
send pictures to my family about everything going on. It's
crazy and I won't be able to tell my family
and friends all of this until the end. But I
could just go home tomorrow. We don't really even know
it's day two tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (07:45):
And wow.
Speaker 3 (07:47):
Also, picking out outfits is really hard without all your friends.
I'm figuring out good night. I guess I'll let you
guys know how tomorrow goes.
Speaker 2 (07:57):
That's so cute. Oh my god, it's so true because
I feel like you. I mean, even if you've watched
the show, you really don't know like how it all
goes down. And those little moments are like you learning
about how, oh you think you're going to be able
to have this long journ up conversation with your parents
(08:17):
and say goodbye, and I'm you know you really just
basically they're like, Okay, here's the phone, Okay, say goodbye. Okay,
maybe now we need the phone. Back.
Speaker 3 (08:24):
It's literally like so fast and there's nothing like it too.
That's why I think a lot of times people don't
understand because you literally I remember when I was in
like at the finale and I had to turn on
my phone because they needed some like information from something,
(08:44):
and so I had to turn on my phone to
like get it. But they were like had it in
like the envelope sealed and then they open it handed
it to me and I turned it on and all
I saw was a text for my mom, and it
was like, I miss you so much, thinking about you
every day. I love you, and I'm remember just seeing
that I like popped up right when I needed it,
and I was like, oh my gosh. But besides that,
(09:05):
I didn't see my phone at all.
Speaker 2 (09:07):
So how are you feeling reading that back? Does it
put you back into that space?
Speaker 3 (09:14):
Honestly, it's like I just think about I had such
a positive experience. At times it was like really hard,
but I think like reading it it just makes me
think that like everything happened for a reason and kind
of just like validates it. And like last night I
was like going through like reading some of it and
I was like, oh my gosh, even all the stuff
that I haven't about, like learning about myself like a
(09:37):
ton I write how like all the producers and everyone
told me that I was like kind of pushing like
things that have happened to me in the past, whether
it was like medical or like in a relationship, like
pushing it aside and being like, oh, like this is
like totally okay that this happened. And they were all like,
it's not okay that that happened, Like you need to
start understanding that, like this doesn't normally happen to people.
(10:00):
And so I think they helped me like accept like
a lot of things and realize like the purpose kind
of behind like everything that had happened in my life.
So it is really cool to look back at that
part too.
Speaker 2 (10:13):
What would you say to her now that that younger Daisy,
if you had the.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Chance, I would tell her to feel everything. I think
I think I've well, I think I've always felt everything,
but I think I know I didn't. I think I
like numbed a lot of it. And I was like
I was like, this is okay that this happened, and
like it just happened to me because but then like
realizing like no, it's not okay like that certain things
happened and it's okay to be mad and angry about
(10:39):
them and like work through that.
Speaker 2 (10:43):
Totally feel everything, because you can only get better by
feeling it, you know, even the bad stuff. That's how
I think.
Speaker 3 (10:59):
Yeah, when I was reading my journal, I this fell
out of it and I was like, oh my gosh.
So my dad wrote me this and he like sealed
it with wax and he was like, open it like
when you really need it. And I remember I was.
I opened it right before I was like going in
(11:21):
and walking out of the limo because I was like
freaking out. I was like, okay, I'll probably read it
like later on. But I opened it and he just
said Daisy Bob because they called my dad calls me
Bopper because when I was like little, that was my nickname.
But he said, he said, Daisy Bob, you have all
you need with and all things are possible through love.
Thank cute.
Speaker 2 (11:42):
That is really sweet.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
Yeah, And I forgot about that until last night when
I like opened it up and I was like, whoa.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
Oh, that's a treasure you need to like hold on,
like frame it or yeah, you know right, that's such
a treasure. How have you changed since that moment, since
writing that passage.
Speaker 3 (12:05):
I think like so much. I'm definitely the thing that
the show helped me the most with, I think is confidence,
because not that I was very insecure before, but there
were definitely a lot of things like I was insecure
and like worried about, especially regarding all my medical things.
And I think the show, like it really helped me
(12:27):
like become confident and also showed me like to trust myself,
because I think so often when you're like in relationships
and when you're doing anything, you always look from validation
from like your family and your friends because they're the
people closest to you. But I think it really taught
me like more so to trust myself and understand myself more.
(12:48):
If that makes sense.
Speaker 2 (12:49):
Yeah, completely, completely makes sense. And I love that you
that you experienced that because you should feel confident. You're
a beautiful, powerful woman, and yeah, you should feel all
of those feelings.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
Thank you. I can't wait to hear yours.
Speaker 2 (13:06):
Oh boy. Okay, so this was and it says October
question mark. So we have no idea and this is
two thousand and two.
Speaker 3 (13:19):
Okay.
Speaker 2 (13:20):
I did a lot of writing and you know what's funny.
The title for this is the beginning of our love story.
I love that this was just I think I just
wrote about Ryan in this one. I might have even
if memory serves me right, I feel like I might
(13:42):
have taken the elements that I wrote in my other
journals and just like wrote one specific journal about me
and Ryan in this one.
Speaker 3 (13:50):
So that's cool.
Speaker 2 (13:52):
Okay, So this says my day with Ryan could not
have been better. We started at the firehouse, meeting his friends,
sliding down the poole, writing in the track and bucket,
then moved to the wedding deck at the top of
Veal Mountain for sunset, and onto his house to meet
Barb and Bob, my in laws now and Natasha, his
husky at the time the fire station started. The started
(14:13):
the kisses in the top of the bucket with Jake,
his friend Jake's verbal suggestion. And then at sunset and
Ryan met one of my number one criteria good kisser.
Speaker 3 (14:28):
That is key.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
That's day. We toasted at sunset. I said to a
beautiful day with a beautiful man, and he said to
living life and taking chances. And actually that so my mom.
I don't know if you've heard of sticks furniture, It's
like this furniture that you can get like like they
will put quotes into the wood, like burn it into
(14:54):
the wood and like kind of created. However, you it's
like kind of like whimsical and hand painted anyway, So
living life and taking chances is actually burned onto one
of the pieces of furniture. After we had our sip,
he wanted to risk something he had been dying all
day to kiss me, and they would kill him his
friends if he didn't. So we kissed our first real kiss.
(15:16):
Because at this point it was just like like a
peck or you know whatever.
Speaker 3 (15:20):
It wasn't like a kiss really, and you were at hometowns.
Speaker 2 (15:25):
We were at hometowns.
Speaker 3 (15:27):
And you would only like each other on the cheek.
Speaker 2 (15:30):
I mean, so he had kissed me like on the lips,
but it wasn't like it wasn't real, Like it wasn't
it was just like a not an afterthought. But I
feel like he felt like, oh, but you know, I
just have to do this, or I felt like, oh,
I'm coming in for a kiss, but he wasn't really ready,
and you know, laying the groundwork going into the show,
(15:55):
I was called every name in the book because I
was the girl like choosing the guys and the first
person who had done it, and so every you know,
I didn't want to look like a slut and like
going in and kissing all these guys, So I was
very conscientious about not kissing everybody. Yeah, okay, so and
(16:15):
at that moment everyone else disappeared. I didn't want it
to end, although I also didn't want to go too fast.
It was picture perfect, the stuff that dreams are made of,
and who could forget it was on the wedding deck
after our first After that moment, I bonded with the family,
including Natasha. What a beautiful dog. We joked in the
(16:38):
car that my pants looked similar to something he could
see his mom in. It couldn't have been a more
foreshadowing beat because we walked in and Barb and I
were practically twins. It was hilarious. They seemed genuinely impressed
and satisfied that Ryan was happy. But not until they
left it Ryan and I really get to connect. We
cuddled on the couch and the best part we had
our first passionate kiss.
Speaker 1 (17:00):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (17:03):
I could have stayed in that moment forever. He was
the best kisser ever. Those lips, I can hardly stand it.
The day was absolute perfection, even without the note. Ryan
handed me a letter under the table, explaining his feelings
and telling me that he was falling in love. I
read it to Lisa, who was my exec producer. Yeah,
(17:27):
she cried the fact that he didn't watch the show
endears me to him even more. He asked me what
I would do with my last name after I got married,
and said, Trista Setter sounds pretty good, too cute.
Speaker 3 (17:39):
Oh my gosh, that's so cute. Do you still have
the letter he wrote you?
Speaker 2 (17:46):
Oh? Yes, Oh yes, that's in my safe.
Speaker 3 (17:50):
That is so special.
Speaker 2 (17:52):
Yeah, have the letter. I have all of his poems,
I save everything. So yeah, yeah, I mean it just
brings back the best memory is like, you know, obviously
it was such a weird way to meet my husband,
and he is so not the person to be on
the Bachelorette. Yeah, so not the person. I love that though, Yeah,
(18:16):
totally so Like reading my words just takes me right
back to it. And I cherished this cherishing.
Speaker 3 (18:24):
I love that. That's so cool that you documented all
of it.
Speaker 2 (18:29):
I mean I tried it. Actually, it's funny because I'm
pretty sure that oh it's funny because I kept reading.
On November twenty second, I said, wow, has time passed?
The one moment in life when I should have recorded
every step is left to my memory. I'm like, damn it,
(18:51):
I didn't. You know, you get so busy as the
lead that you like it, you just don't have a
lot of time to write. Yeah, even though I wanted
to write all the time, I just I was bad
about it. So anyway, I love that I have. I
have that moment at least, you know.
Speaker 3 (19:07):
That is awesome. That's like so special.
Speaker 2 (19:11):
Oh gosh, I mean really and and you know, like
looking back, it all worked out clearly and it always
does as it should. And I feel like I wish
because my biggest regret from the show is not telling
him when I was actually developing feelings because I didn't
(19:36):
want to show all my cards because of what had
happened to me on The Bachelor, Like I got to
the you know, the final rose ceremony, thought he was
legitimately going to propose and got my heart broken, and
so when I became the lead, I was like, well,
I don't want to show all my cards because what
if he says something that like is a total deal breaker,
like the last day. Because we've only known each other
(19:56):
for six weeks, you know, so I really were not
opening up as much. So I wish I if I
could go back and tell that Trista, that version of
myself and anything, it would be to just feel all
the feelings and express those feelings, especially to him.
Speaker 3 (20:15):
So anyway, that's so special. Well you can have you
like gone, But has he read your journals of like
what you wrote about him?
Speaker 2 (20:24):
I feel like possibly, maybe, but I don't know that
we've ever like sat down. Yeah, you know, yeah, maybe
he'll just watch this. He'll just listen to this podcast
and be like, oh I got to I got to read.
Speaker 3 (20:39):
Yeah, he just got Did he watch the show when
it was airing?
Speaker 2 (20:44):
He started to He had like viewing parties in bail
with like, you know, a bunch of people, and I
think the first episode he was like, Okay, I can't
do this. I can't watch her like with other guys.
You know, we were engaged at the time, so he
was like, I really don't need to watch this at all.
(21:06):
So he watched like I think maybe the first maybe
the second episode, and.
Speaker 3 (21:10):
Then yeah, he didn't watch the rest.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
Yeah, not necessary. I feel like there is something to
these journal entries. We need to do more of this,
like have more people come on the show. I would
love to do like a little spin off of just
having people come and really reconnect with the person that
they were on the show and like what they would
(21:35):
tell that person because I feel like people learn, you know,
from their experiences. That would be so cool to learn
about what everyone learned, you know, and what they, you know,
truly were feeling in the moment, because once you get
off the show, I feel like, you know, it kind
of gets jumbled up in your mind, like it gets
(21:57):
recreated because of what other people are telling you they
saw and you know that sort of thing. So I
love just getting into that moment with everybody. Anyway, thank
you so much for sharing your journal entry.
Speaker 3 (22:12):
It was so fun to hear yours too.
Speaker 2 (22:15):
Thank you. We love having you on. Daisy Please come
back and everyone continue to listen to Almost Famous. Thanks
for listening.
Speaker 1 (22:26):
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