Dating Advice from My Sisters - with Taylor Temaari Aiono, Sidney Lewis + Hallie Aiono

Dating is hard - but dating while you're the only boy in a family with three sisters is... something else entirely. Alex Aiono is joined by his three sisters Taylor Temaari Aiono, Sidney Lewis + Hallie Aiono, to talk about their dating experiences - from the romantic to the downright savage. They cover Alex's ghosts of exes past, which girlfriends Alex's sisters hated, which of his sisters got ghosted, and who was dating a guy for a year before she found out SHE was the side chick. Best of all, Alex's sisters answer YOUR dating questions. Download the episode and take a listen now!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:00):
My name is Alex and when I was in seventh grade,
my sisters tore up my Valentine's Day present from my Valentine. No, no,
it will be alright forever. No right, no, alright forever.

(00:25):
What's up? Everybody is alex IONO. Here this is my podcast.
Let's get into it where we talk about everything, including
my scarring past. But before we get there, I want
to talk about how cool my three sisters are. So
if you know anything about me, it's probably the first
thing you'll ever know about me is that I have
three sisters, no brothers. I was the only boy and
growing up a lot of people when they find out

(00:46):
that I have only three sisters, they're like, oh, did
you always wish you had a brother? Did you wish this?
Yead YadA? And I was like, no, not really honestly,
because I really won. I was always taught to treat
women with respect. Um. I was always taught to, you know,
take care of how I look. I was always taught to,
you know, have confidence when talking to women. All of
the all of the things that you get, and it's

(01:07):
like a great pro But there's a lot of things
that I that I think can be said not only
about me having three sisters and talking about my dating history,
but also how siblings can interact with each other. You know,
we've all been there for each other and you'll learn
in stories. Um, when times got tough and you're dating, uh,
and your siblings are always there for you. You have
siblings who are always there for you when you need
advice or what do I do is I've been on

(01:30):
both sides of a phone call where you're asking for
advice or needing advice. Um, And there's just so many things.
And also when I'm having a podcast and I'm talking
about all of the most important things that happened in
my life, how can I not have my three sisters on.
Luckily I got them all free at the same time
and we're all here now. So it got me thinking
dating when you got three sisters. It's kind of crazy,

(01:52):
But where would I be without them? No, welcome back
to Let's get into it. I'm like sion no, and
I'm so happy about and I'm sorry. I'm gonna apologize
to every guest I've had on this show before, including
my brother in law Josh. But I have the best
guests on earth here today, and it is my three sisters,
and let me introduce them to you, starting at Starting

(02:16):
at small forward, she's twenty nine years old. She is
the heart of gold and she is ready to let
her love unfold. Um. She is my most adventurous sister.
She's always down to go on an adventure with me. Um,
and I always turned to her for life advice in general.
My sister Taylor, I own no what's u Um. I'm

(02:39):
so excited for you to be on here. But you're
not alone. I have with my other sister. Starting at
very small point Guard. She's twenty seven years old. She
has the most beautiful angel of a daughter in the
whole world. And if anybody ever even looks at her
the wrong way, they're murdered. Uh. She is always honest
with me. She is always down to collaborate with me creatively.

(03:02):
She is my earliest singing partner and my earliest musical collaborator. Uh.
And she's married, so it's kind of like boring for
dating advice. But she's here and we are happy to
have her. Uh. Sydney, I also call her Squanto. I
also call her sid And she's also the one sibling.
I don't know if you guys have a sibling where
you just kind of will make up mean names and

(03:23):
then we just call them. We call each other that. So, Um, Sid,
how are you? Um? She does call me she fide,
and I think if you spell out the words she fide,
you'll figure out what it means. Um. I'm so happy
to have you as well. And we have one more
with us, starting at team captain. Apparently she's twenty two

(03:44):
years old. She is all of our baby sister. We
all call her baby. Um. She is always fun, She's
always making jokes. I call her anytime I need to laugh.
And she also is one of the very few people
sorry Sid and te who knows absolutely every fast it
about my life. Um. We we call her baby, we
call her how she's She's one of my best friends

(04:07):
in the whole world. Hall. Yeah, I oh know. How
are you? I'm doing great? Brother? How are you? Okay?
We already talked about this. We're not doing the Australian
accent for the whole episode, but UM, I'm glad that
you're here. Okay. Uh, I want to preface this whole
episode before we get started today. I want to mention um,
obviously my sisters are here. Uh I am here as well.

(04:28):
We all happened, to my knowledge, to be sis straight people.
So we're gonna be mentioning dating in the context of
girls and guys. But I want this advice to be
for any folks who find themselves in the dating world,
no matter who you want to date. If you've heard
this show before, you already know that we love, we accept,
we promote positivity, and are inclusive of absolutely everybody. And

(04:49):
if you haven't heard the show before, welcome you're here.
We have three awesome topics to get into. The first
is going to be just me roasting you guys about
how me and you were to my previous girlfriends. It's
called the Ghosts of is Past. After that, we're gonna
be talking about current events, where we all are now
and how we all feel now and how that changes
the way that we view these things. And then lastly,
I was actually on Instagram this morning. How He was

(05:11):
on Instagram as well, and I posted a story that
asked for anybody who's following me and How on Instagram
for dating advice that they need. So we're gonna kind
of just all three of us are gonna play Dr Phil.
All four of us are gonna play Dr phil and
and and give some give some dating advice from all
of our perspectives of life. But before we get into it,

(05:33):
before we get into the madness, I have one question
that I ask every single one of my guests, and
that question is what have you been doing this week
to improve yourself? I'm gonna go reverse order, Halle, what
do you have? What have you been doing this week
to improve yourself? A couple of things kind of mind,
I'd say Socially, I've been spending my time and energy

(05:53):
and the friends that deserve that time and energy, and
I've found that it's made me a lot happier. I'm
glad that that's something that you're doing. I'm glad that
you're giving your energy to people who reciprocate that same
and or better energy. Sydney, give it to us. Similar
to Hollie's, I've been really pushing myself and working on
balancing family life and work life and being a working mom,

(06:16):
also spending a lot of time with my husband and
my little one year old and making sure she's still
getting a good life with having both time with mom
and dad while we both work, and so so, what
we've been working on this last week. Sydney is a
stylist for those who you do not know. If you

(06:37):
ever see me wearing great outfits, it is solely because
of Sydney Lee Lewis. That being said, Taylor, give it
to us. What are you doing this week to improve yourself?
You just had a birthday, by the way, so we're
talking happy belated. What's going on? Yeah? Um? One of
my birthday resolutions was to show up for myself off

(07:00):
every day and meet myself wherever I'm at. So if
I'm sad, then I meet myself when I'm sad. If
I'm happy, then you know, just roll. And I'm not
working right now. I'm employed, but I'm not currently working
until January. So I have started having a routine where

(07:20):
I wake up naturally when my body wants to wake up,
and I start my morning by not looking at my
phone and going straight into reading and meditating and manifesting,
which is all new all three of you guys know,
right right. I also want to point out that when

(07:42):
Taylor says wake up when her body naturally wants to,
that means she wakes up at four am, goes back
to sleep at nine am, and wakes up at three pm,
so we're all here. I wake up at eight oh
six on the dot every single day. It's a sign.
You know what a plus six is four. You know
one us four is five, and you know what five
minus five is zero, which is how much time we

(08:04):
have lest for this bit. Manifesting is great. Reading is great.
It's also something I've been doing recently. And I'm not
good at reading. But um, I'm glad that you're doing that.
That joke really didn't go well. That joke just did
some negative energy. That's what happens when you have sisters. Dude.

(08:28):
Is a word that I don't know if that's a joke.
Is that thing that everybody uses. We are family uses
it to just make fun of somebody when they don't
make a good joke. And and there you have it. Um,
I'm gonna slap, slow clap. There we have Um. Let's
let's get into it. Let's get out of this and
let's get into something cooler. Segment number one. It is
called the Ghost of X's Past. Let's go all the

(08:49):
way back. I mean, let's go to seventh grade. I
think seventh grade is probably when we all started going
to the Sydney Taylor and I started going to the
same school, which inevitably Hallie ended up going to as well.
Seven feth grade. I'm I'm new kid in school, you know,
I'm I'm I got my sisters were popular. We're gonna
We're not even gonna just we're gonna call it what
it is. My sisters were popular in school, and uh,

(09:11):
and I get in there and I'm kind of doing
my thing, having my like seventh grade girlfriend, and we're
going to call this girl Valentine. We're gonna call her
Valentine because we, uh, we became a boyfriend and girlfriend.
I think the day before Valentine's Day, which is perfect
because this is exactly when the table was set when
I first realized that my sisters did. If they don't

(09:36):
like a girlfriend, it's bad news. This is the first lesson.
So Valentine's Day comes, I get a Valentine's Day present,
like full bag, stuffed animal you can see puffing out
like a card. It was a brown paper bag. It
wasn't a fancy but we're in seventh grade, guys, no budget,
we don't have a budget. Brown paper bag, stuffed animal
coming out of it. I think flowers as well. We

(09:57):
hold on before we preface this, what did you guys
not like about Was there anything you didn't like? Or
was this just the ship? She wasn't wait about you
or about her? About this girl? Okay, Valentine was such
a little brat, Like I'm not like she was a brat.
She had an older sister who was our age, who
also thought she was a brat. Now that we know

(10:21):
the store, now we know that the reasoning behind um,
let me tell you what happened. So we get to
the grocery store and my mom goes in. We as
the kids decide we're going to stay in the car.
I think this was there too. I don't know why
I feel like this was there. Okay, So my sister's
childhood best friend, Um, who has not been on but Mackenzie,
who has been on. Mackenzie's older sister. But we're at

(10:43):
the grocery store long story short, and my sister's notice
that I have this present and somehow convinced me to
get out of the car. No, no, no, no no, you
were Okay, here you tell the story. Okay, you had
your little gift, Taylor, and I did not have Valentine's
this year. I just want to clarify that we I mean,

(11:04):
we had probably like just friend Valentine's. Alex was sitting
in the backseat just opening everything and just being I
don't think, just a little ship arguable of just pulling
little stuff out like oh I got this, but being
a little ship about it, just throwing it in everyone's
faces in the car. So we said, hey, go find

(11:28):
mom in the grocery, tell our hurry. Alex goes to
go find mom. He comes back quickly, and we then
would not let him back in the car. Left his
gift in the car. I left the gift in the car.
They rolled the window down just enough to hear me
and just enough to hear them, and they, in front
of my eyes, ripped up the bag. Well that was.

(11:50):
That was after we would hold the ballot one side
of the car and make you run to that side
of the car, and right when you were about to
grab the bag, we'd pull it in and we put
on the other side of the car. And the crazy
thing is, I'm still grateful for the three of you
after all of that. In life in general, I'm grateful
for the three you broke. That being said, they did

(12:11):
save me from a brat. We don't need to spend
more time on this because there's more stories. Unfortunately, Uh,
that being said, they did save me from a brat.
That relationship, of which, by the way, extremely deep. Seventh
grade relationships are extremely deep. It ended fairly. Let's just
say Alex's reaction to when the gift was ripped and

(12:33):
the relationship ended was very cry so the relation. When
the relationship ended, I didn't cry, That wasn't a big deal.
But when I when they ripped up my presence, I was.
I was crying and they got in trouble. Mom yelled
at you got and not yelled, but we call it yelling. Um.
Mom gave you a sturn metaphor for your relationship. They

(12:53):
being ripped. That was your relationship. And it didn't even stop.
It didn't even stop there. The thing, the thing that's
unfortunate is that it didn't even stop there. They didn't
do anything as far as ripping things up anymore. But
it was nicknames that they would tell me. They would
point out, this is the biggest issue. They would point
out the flaws of the girls that I date like.

(13:15):
They would point them out, and then it's one of
those things, where as soon as they pointed out, even
if it's mean or or even if it's you know,
not true, it's all I see, like we're talking about
like like we're talking about Okay, we're not gonna say that,
we're talking about like just just just name calling and
teasing until I inevitably don't like that person anymore, and

(13:37):
then and then it's game over. Uh. Not being that
that's the reason I broke up in my most of
my relationships. Most of it's because it didn't work out.
But that didn't help. Ladies we've had, we've had quite
a history. So we went from we went from Valentine,
and then we had the long term one, which we'll
call her because we all know. Um, we had her
and her kind of lasted from like fourteen two six teen.

(14:00):
I think at that point Sidney and Taylor kind of
went off to college, so you guys were away for
a bit. Hallie still I had moved to Los Angeles,
Halle was still going to school in Arizona, so we're
a little bit distant from each other, so we didn't
have as much hands on kind of experience in each
other's dating lives. Um. But then we all rejoined. We
all rejoined in California, and I got more girlfriends. I

(14:25):
don't know if there's any real highlights, but none of
them worked. We we none of them had worked for
a while. And then at twenty three I met I
met Madison and guess what, guys know me, you will
believe it all like her? What yes, let me say
that one the time. We all love her well, because

(14:47):
there's also something that needs to be pointed out, which
is there were girlfriends that I had that you that like.
Each of you would like like, some of you would
like more, or some of you would really like even
two of you guys would like and then one of
you would kind of what kind of like convinced the others. Howie,
go ahead and got your hand out, thank you. Let
me just put this just plat out. If there was

(15:09):
ever a girl who one of your sisters liked or
two of your sisters liked, I was I was never
one of those. Haw. He is definitely the most the
most protective of me. I think that we grew up
in like Sidne like you're going to meet Sydney soon.
He's gonna be the hard one. But no, like I
really like with blanket. Are we all on the same page?

(15:31):
Blanket blanket? Right with blanket blanket, guys, are on the
same page. She was the first girl who you two
liked and I still was, like I was iffy on her.
I was, I liked her. I didn't like Alex with her,
but I liked her outside of their relationship. But you know, Alex,
I mean, I think we also just need to bring

(15:53):
up how Alex is when he first starts dating something
aside from Madison every time in the past, over the top, mushy,
gushy baby, bab I'm a I'm talking. This is like
the words are throwing out, hey baby, all of us

(16:16):
sisters are literally looking at each other like nasty grows,
he's this, and all over each other. Let's also mention
that makes us like not like the girl also because
they also react the same way, like they match that energy,
which in a relationship like should be but like when
you're around family, like that's when you like, I would

(16:40):
put that one on Alex. You know what. You know,
what's important, guys is that we don't have to worry
about that anymore. We don't have to worry about it.
I guess we'll never know, I think that we can
all agree that that Blanket because this is one of
the questions I have, But I don't think we need
to ask it. Of which of my relationships do did
you guys try the hardest to get me out of?
And I think we can Alla was Blanket I dated

(17:02):
from like twenty to just before I turned twenty one.
Other than to be Valentine, which was, you know, seventh
grade madness. Um, I feel like Blanket was probably other
than other than maybe one of the sisters, Blanket was
probably the most like, hey, don't date this girl anymore.
I feel like Seg. Yeah, yeah, it was pretty pretty,

(17:29):
but she didn't vibe with our family from day one. Yeah,
that's a true That's a true one. And when I
was dating Segue, that was about I met her when
I was like eighteen, and we dated off and on
until I was about nineteen ish. That's a true one.
And so as as much as Blanket did mesh better
with our family than see right, but I think Seg

(17:52):
it was more we were all kind of doing our
own things, so there was a lot of time where
we were both or we're all together all the time,
we're Blanket it we were all together all the time.
See also you were a lot younger, so I mean, yeah,
I was younger. You guys are both young, and you
weren't like talking future. It was just like like it
really was meaningless. It was yeah, it was just a

(18:15):
deep relationships but blanket. You guys kind of got pretty
serious and from sister's perspective, we just didn't see it
going well because we're a lot of issues obviously, right
right right. I think we can get down with that.
I think we can all agree that that's probably a
true statement and we can just move forward because we're

(18:38):
not there anymore, you know what I mean, Like were
we were there, but now we're not gone and that's nice. Um,
it's time to I think it's time to flip the
script because we're about to close out this segment. But
before we get to that, I want to go back
ghost of ghost of exits past. Um, what's it like?
What what do you guys feel like? It's like dating
with me as your brother? I think a lot of
people would think that a brother with sisters like that,

(18:59):
you know, you have your true additional you know, protective
and like no, like I won't allow it or or
any of those things. Hallie's got a story. But before
Halle gets to our story, I want to go to
I think the earliest boyfriend experience, which we're gonna call
Lord of the Ring and Lord of the Ring. I

(19:20):
think Sydney was dating when I was thirteen to almost fifteen. Uh,
Lord of the Ring, which was Sydney's boyfriend. Um. I
was hoping that this was Sydney's because it was like
the first boyfriend in our family. Right. Well, can we
just point out that that Taylor and Hallie did not
have boyfriends when we were younger. They trasually dated, so

(19:46):
Taylor was not allowed to date. I blazed the path
was the first boyfriend. If it makes you feel better toay,
Sydney also wasn't allowed to date. She just chose not
to listen. True, That's why I was a mix of
I wasn't allowed to date. Also, no one wanted to

(20:06):
date me. Not true, not true, inaccurate information, um, But
back to the point me as a brother. The only
thing I remember about Sydney's really like in detail, is
that I was always with them. I was always with
them when my parents finally settled with Okay, Sid's got
a little boyfriend. They were. The biggest rule was and

(20:29):
I think it was a pretty popular rule more so
in our like community and and and across the whole
Arizona Mormon UM religion was like you never are alone
with the person when you're when you're under eighteen, like
when you're you know, sixteen, seventeen or whatever have you,
Like you're not supposed to be alone. And so my parents,
I said, I always had to be with them, And
I was cool with that because I thought it was fun.
Like I actually thought that Lord of the Ring was

(20:52):
like cool when I was younger, Like I was just like, oh,
he's so rad and he's gotta well, yeah, as much
as you, I'd like to say that I have this
like protective brother, Like in reality, Alex has befriended the
people we've all dated. Um And for Lord of the

(21:12):
Rings was did we use Alex because he was the
most low key sibling that would just kind of chill
and hang out and still kind of leave us alone
and like whatnot. Yeah, that's why we chose Alex. He
was not the protective type. We'd go to the gas
station and they go, hey, go get some drinks and
like stay there for a big hang out. Get to

(21:33):
know the cashier joke, it's a joke. I spent a
lot of time with them. Taylor also, Taylor and I
had we would show it we'd switched shifts, which we'd
switch shifts, and that got in trou I'm the one

(21:54):
that got grounded when city got grounded. Yeah, it was
a weird kind of form of discipline that happened that.
You know. That's great, that was in the past. I mean,
I just think we want to focus on the prob
we want to focus on the future. Now, we want
to focus on the president. There, guys, I'm going to
move us along to the next segment. Let's go into Hallie.
Let's go into Halle because Halle has Hallie has some
thoughts on what it's like to have a brother, Uh,

(22:17):
a brother like me when you're dating. I just wanted
to say that I still to this day will tell
people I wish my brother was protective. I wish that
like I'd be like, hey, I'm talking to this guy
and he would be like, well, what's his name, Like
then let me meet him? Like oh, like when Alex
is in town and I'm like, hey, I gotta go.
I'm gonna go state boy, I like, you know, I

(22:39):
wish that he'd be like, well, is he gonna come
upstairs and meet meet like your family, you know kind
of movies, you know, but no, no, no no, it's
like girl, do what you want to do, like what
you gonna do though, but like what did you guys do?
Like it's it's more of just like um, more like

(23:01):
a best friend, you know, it doesn't necessarily agu on,
but just doesn't. Ever, It's never like that like protective.
I think it's just that I love love. You know,
I love love and that's okay. That's okay for some people.
That's okay for some people because I just love love
and that's okay. Do you have anything to add Let
me just say one thing that the great thing about
Alex not being protective is he does end up being

(23:23):
friends with your person like I earlier and so like
now Alex and my husband, I would say, are really
Josh and I are closer than any of the boyfriends
that when you guys end up potentially breaking up, I don't.
I'm not like a friend enough that I like stay
friends with and like one of your exes, like I'm
still loyal Okay, you told me I could. I know,

(23:50):
I know, I know, I know, I know. I'm not
I'm not sub tweeting any of my sisters for staying
friends with my axes. You you you made the decision
to cut times. Yes, no, that's a difference. You know
she needs you more, but I know your loyalty lies
with me. Yes, that's true, that's true. That's true. We

(24:11):
take I take that herself. And now we're not friends. Yes, um,
guess why. We're bigger and we're better. So I have
one last story that I want to point out, which
is probably my favorite, has nothing to do with dating. Um,
but the first time that I ever got caught making
out with a girl, it was actually and I don't

(24:34):
know if Taylor do you do you know that this
is basically what happened is there was like the school
like dance recital, and I used that dance recital as
an excuse to stay longer at school so I can
make out with soccer girl. Soccer soccer girl. You guys
know who soccer girl is with soccer girl? Uh? And

(24:55):
Taylor was actually supposed to pick me up and I
lost track of time and I had a if I
just got my cell phone. At this point, I was
so hyped and um, and I remember having text after
text after text after text of where are you? I'm here,
I'm waiting, I'm here, And I remember like making out
with soccer girl for like, I guess, way too long.
And then I saw my phone and I remember like

(25:18):
freaking out and running out to the car and trying
to come up with all these excuses. Tay, do you
even remember this? Oh gosh? And then I went and
then I got home and I just like, I don't
know what it was. I was such a goody good
back then, um, in terms of like getting scared about
getting in trouble that I got home and I just confessed,
I was like I was making I was by the way,
I was like thirteen at this time. I was making

(25:39):
out with soccer girl and I was like bawling my
eyes out, and my mom was like, go to go
to our room and wait for dad. And then she
just like, wait, I had to wait in the room
until dad got home from work. And then she's like
all I asked was how um? And and then my
dad came home and gave me the old I'm disappointed.
I'm not mad I'm just appointed talk and uh, and

(26:01):
we moved on to bigger and better. That was the
last story. I wanted to finish with that because I
forgot about that one. Um, but look, the good news is.
The good news is is that that's all in the past,
and we're here in the president. Actually we're hearing like
the more recent past slash present, because I want to
talk about, um, how we feel about dating now. But
we'll be right back. All right, we are back. This

(26:24):
is let's get into it. I'm here with my sisters
and we just talked about the past. It's time for
us to talk about I guess still sort of the past,
but more of like where we are now. Um, we're
in an interesting place, like we're growing up. We talked
about all of this kid's stuff, and I feel like
all of the past, whether it's horror stories or or
funny jokes or anything. Like we're all kids, we're all teenagers,
but now we're all over twenty one, Halle the youngest

(26:46):
being twenty two. Um, Sydney's married, I'm in a long
term relationship. Taylor and Halley are both in Utah, just
doing the full dating slang. UM, and I want to
go through each of those. So first, Taylor, I think
yours is probably the most interesting because, like you said,
you aren't working right now, but you are a flight attendant,

(27:07):
which means you travel across the whole United States. Um,
Taylor does have hose in every area code. Um and
you and like I remember, I remember so many conversations
where we're talking like, oh, I went on a date
with this guy in Portland, or I went on a
date with this guy in Boston, or I went on
a date with this guy here there. Um, what's your
what's what's that like? You know, being you know for

(27:30):
for the rest of the three of us. For the
most part, Um, even though I travel a lot, all
of my relationships have been from home, like where I
am at home? Um and and going on dates, it's
always like at home and the same I would say,
goes for sid and how um so you being the
odd one out in that situation? What's that like the
dating life? With your work life as transient as my job,

(27:50):
so is my dating life. I'd just say, like I'm
never in one place too long, I'm never talking to
one person for too long, and or my little caring heart,
that is really hard because I'll go on a date
with someone and I like, in my head, I know
full well I'm never going to see this person again,

(28:11):
but in my heart, like they'll be like, ah, yeah,
my mom's having surgery next week. And next week comes
and I'm like, I wonder how his mom is doing
to him. I'm like, no, no, no, no, no, that
was terrible. Do not do that. But my heart's like, oh,
his poor little mom. And I don't know his mom.
I don't know him. We went out one time, but

(28:33):
oh it hurts. It hurts. But then also I keep
doing it, so it's self inflicted. I think the only
person who could potentially love as hard as I do
in our whole family is Taylor. I think, like you're like,
I'm like, as much as you guys have already heard
in this episode that I go hard when I like
like somebody, Taylor is like a relentless day one. If

(28:54):
I love your energy, I love your spirit like you're
I'll give you, you know, as much energy as you need.
What would you say is like the last really good
date you went on? Like what they give it? Give
us some juicy detail? Can I give you the opposite? Yeah? Sure,
I mean you. Literally you showed me a model. You
showed me a male model, like somebody about you'd only
see in a magazine. And I was like, oh my gosh,

(29:16):
when you're going out and you're like, I don't know.
He asked if he would hang out on Wednesday. I
don't think I want to, And I was like, what
the heck. So I'm so curious as to either side
of this. Okay, two sides. Your sister can pull. But
also I got stood up five times in one week. Yeah,
so that's. Um, it's completely different right now dating because

(29:41):
you well, dating during a pandemic, you're using dating apps,
you're doing like virtual dates, or you're going out on dates,
and you're like, we can't like go out and like
have an activity that is in the public without being
in a pan damic. Dating online or through apps is

(30:03):
so inauthentic that it just does not go very well
of the time. That's why I can't really give you,
like a good date. I did have a guy bring
me taco bell. That's okay, there we go, That's what
I'm talking about. Bringing home. We're all in there. Um.

(30:25):
I love that, and and I think that, yeah, the
pandemic we already had the episode. If you haven't listened
to a dating in a pandemic, Um, so the listeners
and I also know how odd it is in a
time like this, UM. And to get some more insight,
let's have our other single sister up in here, Halle.
What's your dating life like? UM? We have some fun
stories to talk about a little bit later on, but

(30:46):
at first I want to kind of just get into
what your dating life is like. Now. My dating life
is not that exciting, honestly, UM. I live in Provo,
and before I moved here, I imagine the dating scene
to be like, oh, go ahead dates every night with
different guys and meeting so many different people. And I

(31:08):
don't go on dates. I don't know, I just don't
get asked out on dates. And I'm not trying to
do a little penny party for how I just don't
get asked on dates. So, like, my dating life is
not really that fun. I have a lot of friends,
and I feel like I've gotten so comfortable just being
friends with so many people, and now I'm on a
spot where I'm just like, Okay, I kind of wish

(31:29):
that I had like a guy who I'm interested in
or like guys who were interested in me and like
would actually shoot their shot. I don't know. I think
it's kind of different than the first time I ever
gotten got protective was just now when you said, like,
no guy asked me out. I'm like, I'm like anti protective,
where I'm like, hey, get asked, asked her out. She's awesome,

(31:49):
she's got a kind heart. Come on, Yeah, that's where
that's literally like the first time I've ever felt protective.
I was like, hey, well, if you live in Utah
and you listen to this podcast and you don't ask

(32:10):
my sister out, you're going to hell um so last
but not least um, last but not least um, Sydney,
you are out of the the dating dating game and
you're into the married dating game. How do you feel
about being the first member of our family to settle down?

(32:32):
Good about it? I got the first grand baby out,
which that girl is spoiled and loved more than any
person on this planet. I think everyone can agree, Yes, sir,
just wait for Christmas. Just wait for Christmas. Yes, sir um,
how do you feel? How do you feel about getting
married young? That's something I've never asked you, but you
got married in your one Yeah, I did, which is

(32:56):
so crazy because I think growing up in the like
church and being so used to people getting married young,
at first I didn't it generally phase me. But then
being in l A, working with and being friends with
a lot of people who have different backgrounds of religion
and beliefs is kind of was the first time I

(33:19):
was like, oh, dang, I did get married young, Like
twenty one is young, and for a lot of people
that could be really hard, and I'm not saying ours
wasn't ever hard, but I think what it came down
to for us because my husband's nine years older than me,
so he was single for a lot longer than I

(33:39):
was and lived a single life longer than I did.
For us, it was really just that I had to
be with someone who I could continue to grow and
learn with. And if you're not with someone like that
at a young age, I could see that being really
hard and a big struggle. But luckily I had someone

(34:01):
who while I'm still growing up and I'm still figuring
out what i want to do and I'm still chasing
my dreams and my goals, I have someone who is
like growing with me, if that makes sense, so yeah,
absolutely for me it worked out. I know, we're all crying.

(34:24):
I think the most important thing too, though, to note
is that, yes, in the community that we all were
raised in, like getting married to twenty one wasn't a
crazy thing. If anything, it was like, oh yeah, it's
the perfect age. But it's also like, the reason, the
reason why it worked out so well for you is
that you you just happened to come across the one
that early, you know what I mean, Like whether it

(34:45):
was because of what we were raised on before or
I think one of my earliest quotes from Dad was
like when you know, you know, and when you met Josh, Like,
obviously Josh and I are are not to bring it
to everybody else, but like Josh got in and in
with our family and like works so well. And he's
obviously been an episode. I've been on an episode of
the podcast where he's talked about his passions and he's

(35:06):
so driven, and I think that's something about our families
were always so driven and he just like fits and
so I think as much as the outside world or
even the rest of the three of us, I think
we can all agree that when we look back at
our being twenty one. The three of us are like,
no way I was getting I was ready to be
married to anybody. It just worked for you. And I
think that that's like the other thing about all three

(35:28):
of us is we're all in different places, or we'll
be in different places, or we'll be in the same place,
and regardless through all of that, we're always there for
each other and we love each other. That's fun. We're
all having fun. Is Taylor crying or what's going on?
Taylor's crying? Taylor gets that from our mom. I also,
I'm also Taylor is also known as the third member

(35:53):
of the relationship between Sid and Josh. Um. That being said,
you got married at but you're now twenty seven. You've
been married for six years, and we've had episodes already
with married couples who talk about how to keep their
um relationships you know, still hot and and and fun
and and everything like still feeling like you're in the
honeymoon phase all the time. UM a fun little anecdote.

(36:15):
I was playing video games with Josh last night and
all of a sudden, I he goes, what somebody just
knocked at the door? Sydney ordered dessert. I know she did,
and then he opens the door and there's a puzuki
from b J's um and he walks in and I
just hear I'm hearing it, and I literally my heart
like just laughed, and I was so happy because he
was just like, did you order pezuki? Could hear city
like yes, and he's like laughing. They're both just laughing,

(36:37):
and I was just one of those things where I
was just like, Damn, that's what you really want? Um, So,
is there any We're gonna get into advice later, but
is there any specific thing that you would um kind
of uh credit as what keeps you and Josh, you know,
excited about being with each other and still gives you
the butterflies and all of those things. Yeah, for sure.

(36:57):
I Mean the first damp pops into my mind is
that we are friends. So like we as cheesy as
it sounds, we are best friends. And it's funny because
we'll randomly say, like, you really are my best friend
is like someone who you just laugh with. I just

(37:17):
see Taylor crying and I just have to like, but
I'll just I would just say that we're friends. We
like genuinely enjoy spending time with each other and It's
not just in like an intimate romantic way. It's just
like like you would have a friend like you just
like being around each other. You just like talking about everything,

(37:39):
whether it's stupid stuff, whether it's about our daughter, whether
it's about work on either end, whether it's about our
show we're watching. We just genuinely have a solid friendship
and that makes us want to be around each other love.
Taylor just laughed. She was like, so I'm leaving, hey,

(38:03):
if you if you weren't saying things to make me cry,
I wouldn't be crying there. You go, look at that.
It's your fault. Let's get into something else as as
loving and as exciting as this is. I asked Hallie
for permission to talk about another story that didn't sway
the same way as sit in Joshi poo um, how

(38:24):
you recently had a pretty interesting dating situation. You've had
quite the traumatic experiences the past. Was it two years? Year? Oh?
Just one year? It's just one year, just one year.
You've had a pretty, um, pretty intense history. First, before
we get into seven, let's go into tree Boy. Because
tree Boy it's it's kind of not to say classic.

(38:46):
Do she cheating boyfriend. It's a classic story, correct me,
you tell tell us, give us the thirty second version
of what happened. Dated dated for about three to four months.
I don't even right, was staying with my parents because

(39:07):
I didn't work out of his house. And as I
was out of town and he was staying at my parents,
a girl messes me letting me know that he was
messaging her on Tinderchat trying to get trying to get nudes.
And we had to call his sister to go pick
him up because he was using a car. Things took

(39:29):
an ugly. He ended up in a tree, ladies. Yeah,
he ended up in a tree, and like in a
tree like um like hiding just to clear physically in
a tree, hiding in the snow like it's we're in Utah, guys,
December decem. This all happened. We don't need to give
time to that because honestly, that's just that's just classic

(39:51):
doche boy, This one takes it to the next seven,
takes it to the only wait, the only thing that
I will say to the ladies listening to this podcast
us never never did a guy who will only buy
flowers if you have to give them money, just saying
that I'm just gon ouch ouch ouch. You should never

(40:14):
give your boyfriend money to get and that is on
my good friend period. Um let's get into seven though,
because seven, I like to call this whole story side
check exception, because that we just gotta let's let's we
don't need to make it too long, but tell us
what happened with seven. I like, oh my gosh, I was.

(40:34):
I was star struck. Um, you tell us the story.
So Seven and I classic met over social media. We
lived in different countries, so the beginning and the end
of our whole relationship was not even relationship. Friendship and
just talking for a long time was over messaging and FaceTime. Um,

(41:00):
we did meet two times. I met him once for weekend,
Dad met him. I met him once, Dad met him
twice and we were both, oh my gosh, talk about
being not protective at all. We were both like, yes,
do you think he's such a great guy? Oh yeah, yeah.
And this was after tree. We were like just happy
she had found she had jumped right out of tree.

(41:21):
I mean, we're she jumped out the tree and got
straight into seven and it was awesome. Yeah, So I
was I think that that made me more into it also,
just because you and Dad were so like, he's such
a great guy. How like good job, um, but long story,

(41:41):
short message for a long time, and his friends followed me.
I followed his friends. Was on the close friends story
on Instagram, and I could see that he was getting
close with another girl. So like a respectful woman, I
cut communication off so that he could go and date

(42:02):
this girl, which he did. And then after I don't
know how long it was, maybe a couple of months
of them let me pausitively wait and let me pause
you really quick, because I want to point out one thing.
That is why I call it side exception is because
when you guys were like talking, I remember you being like, yo,
I think he might be talking to this other girl
while he was telling you, like like he was emotionally
with you. But then you'd see posts and stuff and

(42:24):
you'd be like, yo, I think that she's like I
think I'm being I think she's like his side chicken
he's and I'm just being like played, yes, so go back.
And it was all like I wanna move to America
for you, I want to marry you. I'm gonna you know,
I want the whole nine with you right then, after

(42:44):
multiple times of asking him about this girl, found out
that they've been dating since Funny nineteen the beginning twenty nineteen,
and his excuse to her about me was, Oh, she's
just a friend. But still would be like, ah Holle
so perfect, she's everything, Like she's way too good for

(43:06):
me to this girlfriend, he's very manipulative to her, would
make her feel crazy if she ever asked about me Boom.
Haven't talked to him since, haven't you know? I talked
to his X like more lately than I talked to him.
But that's what we call side chick exception. It's when
you think that they have a side chick, but you're

(43:26):
actually the side chick. That side exception, that is, it
was one of the crazy, it's one of the that
you could write a movie about that side exception. UM
copyrighting it here on this podcast. UM. I think the
thing that's like interesting about the four of us, and
we never even meant for it, is that we all
have our dating histories. All four of us are all

(43:47):
so wildly different, and we all teach each other something
like Sydney obviously is a great example of when you
know you know, and and not being afraid to pursue
your heart, um, even though I've said when you know
you know with about six girls and none of them
were true. And then I finally switched it up a

(44:08):
little bit and and met and met uh and met Madison. Um.
Holly is a great example of like of guess like
not rebounding, but like what's it called when you like
get back after like bad ship happens, like brush your
shoulders off and bounce back, bouncing back. Last night took
an out, last night wasn't a tree, but tonight we
bounced back. Last night was side check, but tonight we

(44:30):
bounced back. And I'm waiting for this bounce back. It's
gonna better than ever. If you live in Salt Lake City,
go and date my sisters, um. And then last but
not least, Taylor, who you have the most loving heart
as we've speak, we've we've talked about and you are
so willing to give yourself to h in terms of emotionally,
in terms of mentally, in terms of giving your energy
to people like you're so good at that, Um, Tony

(44:54):
physically give usself to somebody. Did Here's something did Taylor
did Taylor come home when she was at Buyu Whoaii
with some higgies on her neck. What nightnest. But no,
I think that Taylor is like you. We all teach
each other, and the biggest thing that Taylor teaches is
self love, because Taylor is the ultimate. As much as

(45:15):
she she can joke about how she's you know, she's
not good at this or she's not good at that,
she is the greatest person at listening to herself and
giving herself self love. And she's the only person that
I go to when I need to understand that sometimes
loving somebody else has to stop and loving yourself has
to start um And I think that that's the best part.
We all come from different walks of life, we all

(45:36):
have different sets of knowledge, which is why we're gonna
take a quick break, and this last segment is going
to be something we've never done on this podcast before,
answering fans questions about dating advice. Don't go anywhere, al Right,
we are back. This is my favorite episode, most likely
of of this podcast ever with my three sisters, and
we're talking about dating advice, and it's time that we

(45:58):
get into something we've never done before. But we probably
are going to do again because it seems pretty fun.
We I asked everybody on my Instagram story to comment
some questions that they have about dating advice and and
I figured, since all three of us, like I mentioned before,
have such a we can we combine for such a
well rounded dating experience. Um, we could probably give some

(46:19):
pretty good answers. Uh, let's get into this first question.
I have one. Um, is there a such thing as
right person, wrong time? Taylor, go for it? I don't
think so. Actually, I think that there isn't just one person.

(46:39):
Like I don't believe in soulmates, like or like that
you only have one soul mate. I think that it
would be unfair if we only had one shot with
one person, because we each get to choose who we
want to choose. So I think it might be the
right person to you, but if it's not reciprocated, then
you're not their right person. So it's not about timing
because if it, if you both are the right person

(47:03):
for each other, timing doesn't matter. Mm hmmm. So if
you're not, if it's right person, wrong time, they were
the right person for you, but you were the right
person for them, I think it's also to you times
a man made construct. So I actually think that it's all.
There's no such thing. What is time? You know what
I mean? Not true at all. I think time is great. Um, Sydney,

(47:27):
give us an answer. Um. The only reason I'm gonna
throw out a yes is because my husband met me
when I was seventeen. I was a little young. I
was obviously underaged, so we did not date till I
was twenty. So right the wrong time when I was seventeen, Okay, okay,

(47:49):
time when I was when. I also want to point out,
just because Josh is a Josh, Josh isn't here to
to correct something, not that it needs correcting. Josh dated
other girls. Josh did not wait for you while you
were seventeen to eighteen. That's a very strong detail that
needs to wait for Neither of you guys waited for

(48:12):
each other. You just happened to meet when you were younger,
and then you eventually ended up dating. Once it was there,
it was gone, it came back, it was a whole
new thing. I want to point that out because I
have to protect Josh because he's one of my best
friends in the whole world. Um, Hallie, do you have
a question for us that you got. Oh, sorry, I
forgot to point this out. Halle also did the questions things,
so we're bouncing back and forth in some good questions.
This one, actually I want you to answer, do you

(48:34):
think that girls should make the first move? If so,
what should the girl do to make the move? Oh,
this is a tough one because again, and I want
to I want to remind everybody that we are speaking
in the with the pronouns that are applied directly to
our own love lives and our own preferences. Um, but
this advice goes across the board for anybody of any
walk of life. That being said, in my own personal experience,

(48:59):
you know, mom and dad, Like, mom and dad were
always so traditional in the dating ways. You know, Dad
is always super like be chivalrous, and Mom is always
super like I have a chivalrous man um And so
I always loved like, I loved being the person to
ask and being the person to pay like. And that's
just something that was that honestly, I had to unlearn

(49:21):
in today's environment, like I had to unlearn and relearned
that if a girl approaches me and like, let me
take you out, that's like super cool. So I'm gonna
answer the question in that context and say I think
that girls should not be afraid to make the first move,
but should not feel obliged if a man isn't making
the first move, if that makes sense, And the same

(49:41):
for anybody. Any human should not feel obliged just because
they like somebody, because sometimes somebody else not reaching out
may mean that they're not interested, but also it may
not mean. So I always have the same lame go
back answer with follow your heart, um and and don't
be afraid of what that takes you to any anybody
have anything to add to that. If you have feelings
for someone, act on them, because what's the worst. They're

(50:04):
gonna say. No, you're getting a know whether you whether
you try or not. Let me tell you what the
worst is. Let me tell you what the worst is.
The worst is you confess your feelings for somebody. They
screenshot that text message they posted on social media. It
ends up on the Ellen Show. They end up on
the Ellen Show. They call you out by name. We've
been respectful on this show. They call you out by name.
They start making t shirts of you, calling you a weirdo.

(50:26):
You become the new kind of Jared from subway post
prison situation and you're just your life is ruined. Okay,
to you, to you, all right, here's a here's a
new question. Um, I'm catching feelings for one of my
closest friends and I don't know how to tell them. Okay,
I have a little kind of the opposite of that.

(50:49):
I got my best friend told me he's in love
with me, and his dodging talking about it with Okay,
so let's answer both sides. Who's got an answer for
each side said go for it? Okay. So well, I
wasn't ready to answer this. I was kind of like
doing a little I was inating. Yeah, I'm gonna throw
out answer off the top of my head. If you have,

(51:11):
like going on what Taylor said, if you have feelings
for your best friend, like you gotta approach that, you
got to talk about it. You've got to say something
like sitting there doing nothing is only going to probably
hurt you in the end, Like your feelings are going
to be recuper kate because you never put them out
on the table, or you'll never get a yes or
no answer if you don't talk about it. So my

(51:34):
answer would be for Alex's question, you should absolutely talk
about it and say it, and that kind of goes
with all he's too, because if he said how he feels,
but now he's not talking about it, like you have
to have that open communication either way and be honest.
What about being afraid though, like you know, I remember
remember my song that I wrote? What was it called? Um?

(51:57):
Which one no the what it's like? It? Can't be
afraid to try and see what's on the other side
when you know the graph is marina um. There's in
that line it says, and we both know how we
feel for one another, but we're too scared to tell
each other because if we cross the line and and
it isn't right, will it ruin every chance of being friends?
What about that thought? Because sometimes you might have a

(52:18):
feeling for somebody right, like man, I do wonder what
it's like like, or I wonder what would be like
to date that person? How do you balance how strong
that feeling is versus if you do say how you
feel and then like, as this is this might be
a hot take, but as much as people say, it's
not going to ruin your friendship if one of you
likes the other person, and that person says not I
don't like you back there, It's like there's no chance,

(52:41):
Like as much as you want to believe that that
both sides of the party can fully like flush out
those emotions and be like, yeah, we're just friends, I
just don't think that that's true. I feel like one
thing we do have in common is that we all
love hard, and so for us, like, I don't think
that's ever the case. It's to be like just friends
after you've like right, right right, there might be some

(53:04):
other people. There might be some other people. What do
you think to if you look at it in a
sense of Okay, I like my best friend as more
than just a friend, and weighing out like the options
of like I'm going to forever be pining over this person,
but he is my best friend, or I'm going to
tell him now risk losing him but also possibly gaining

(53:29):
exactly what I want the risk versus a reward. If
you're going to risk your friendship and you're like, the
reward is so much better than the alternative. Wouldn't you
rather get out of a friendship where that relationship is
never going to be reciprocated, then risk it and then
lose it. Yeah, you gotta do risk analysis across the board,

(53:52):
like you got to risk it for the biscuit exactly.
You should have just said that that makes sense. Okay,
that makes sense. How what do you got for us?
You have any other questions? My boy do asked how
to be persistent but not annoying? So I love like
communication is huge for me, So I love and I

(54:15):
love when like guys put an effort. So I think
that's very important to be persistent, But I can see
where it can come to a like to be an annoyance,
especially for certain girls. Comparing me and my best friend,
I definitely like more quality time and that's not as
important to her. So being persistent to me I love,

(54:36):
But to some people like I don't know, being persistent
or putting in a lot of effort could be a
lot to somebody. You know, Taylor, I think a better
word is consistent than persistent. If you are consistent, if
you come and you say, hey, I want to take
you on a date, if you enjoyed it, ask me

(54:58):
out on another date, or if you like, if you're
interested in someone and you're too afraid to like kind
of you know, have a dtr right after you, like
you had your first date. It's just being consistent of like, hey,
can I take you out again? If they say no,
be like would there be another time that I could
take you out and then go from there? Or if

(55:20):
they like cut you off from the get go, then
then you shut it down. But if you have someone
who is playing games like oh well maybe, then you
cut them off. There's no don't be consistent with someone
who can't reciprocate that interest. It's always something no matter

(55:41):
how cute or how attractive they are or how much
you think that they're going to be the love of
your life. Come off. That's a great that's great advice.
This next question is solely for Sydney because she's the
only one who has an answer. Um, it's a question
says I've been dating my girl for a few years now,
and I can't tell if I know she's the one

(56:01):
or not. I have obviously no experience in this answer. Um, Cinny,
how do you know when you know? Uh? This is
this is a hard question because I don't necessarily think
I agree with Taylor in the sense or when she's
talked about how I don't believe like everyone has one

(56:23):
soul mate out there, So I think you it's about
kind of choosing your path and if that person is
the path you want to go. Um, it's not necessarily
about like if they're the one, but like choosing them
and fully committing to them, and like it's a choice.
So whether he wants to be with or he doesn't,

(56:45):
he needs to figure that out and stick with his
decision and put all his effort into that decision of
like choosing her every day, choosing her for the next
few months, choosing her and seeing where that takes them.
Obviously marriage had been quick for me, but I don't
think that's necessarily should be anyone's goal. I think it's

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just about where your choices take you. And if you're
choosing her every day and it leads to that, then
there you a Taylor's crying again if actually, do you
see my face? No tears for me. When I met
Josh and we started talking marriage, uh, we kind of

(57:29):
had an interesting timeline, but we just kind of both
chose to choose each other and that led us to
wanting to get married and wanting to be together and
wanting to start a family and YadA YadA, Okay, someone asked,
how do I properly ghost someone? Oh? This is good.
I like this one. I like this one. What is
your guys? I need help. I need help in this

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because I think that sometimes I am very friendly upfront,
and then it's like, oh, make signals. People mistake your
kindness for interest. Yes, Taylor is nodding like she just
did this yesterday. No, No, I know. I'm just saying

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this is something that I've been working on actively because
I am actively dating, and like how I're saying, like
communication is key, Like don't be afraid to be the
person that has the bigger balls. It takes balls to
be a decent human being. It takes balls to have

(58:35):
like the confidence to say, hey, I'm really interested in you,
or hey, you are such a great person. But that's
just respecting someone at a like bottom bottom level. I
think it's very I think it's very easy to be
a douche bag and to be like, to disrespect whoever

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you're trying to ghost. I think that's the easy way out,
is to do it the wrong way or you know,
like the way that will hurt them the most. I
think that being like upfront, and I'm even still learning
this like being up front and being honest about like
your feelings is so much better on both ends because

(59:20):
when you learn and you you learn to you know,
to grow it and to make as you do it. Yeah, yeah,
exactly what works for you and what doesn't work. Obviously,
I've been out on a dating game, and when I
was in the dating game, like ghosting wasn't a thing
like it was. I mean, obviously there's more like dating

(59:41):
apps were really new when I was when I met Josh,
like I didn't really like I maybe is Tinder a
couple of times before, but like I think ghost so
I know that upon a time. I know that it's
different now. But to me and maybe this is like

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old fashioned. You guys are gonna realized. But I don't
really get it because, like Hallie's saying, I just don't
understand why it's that hard to just be like I'm sorry,
I'm not interested, or I'm sorry I just view you
as a friend, or like I'm actually seeing someone right now.
I don't get that. And so when people talk about ghosting,

(01:00:24):
I'm like, if anything, for my sisters, my single sisters,
if someone ghosted you, first of all, of course I'm
gonna say their loss. But also like, to me, that's
just such a turn off of someone who can't just
be upfront and own their feelings or own whatever their
situation is, whether they're dating someone or what. Like, it's

(01:00:50):
such a turn off I feel like because it's childish
and it's immature, and you don't want that anyways. I think,
I think in today's I think in today's climate of
where we are in the world, uh I I kind
of you ghosting is like ghosting in my opinion as
a definition, is one person's got to reach out at

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least twice with no response, like I think somebody like
if both of you guys just choose not to talk.
I think it's just like, yeah, it's the it's the
old traditional way of like neither you went on a
couple of dates even before dating apps or anything. So
you went on a couple of dates and you just
didn't go on any more dates after that. But I
think once you break over into that like hey hope
you're well. If you get the hey hope you're well

(01:01:33):
text and you don't respond back, I want you to
personally know from my mouth only you're a bit like
you're just a bit you're a Cina, you were a bit,
you are always going to be a bit. And Taylor,
Taylor's got her hand up and I know she's got
something to add. I feel like I'm in school, like
trying to like teacher, teacher calling me. I really just
think that it's people being too afraid to get hurt

(01:01:57):
because you know, you have your first relations and ship
and you're just open and you're here for it and
your love and you're like a puppy love of like
oh my gosh, like I love this person and you
get heartbroken, but whether like whenever it is, you get heartbroken,
and then you build up that wall and you build
up that wall and you're like, I'm never going to
fill this way again because I don't want to be heartbroken.
And ghosting is people wont playing games and like so

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that you're not in it enough. You're not in it
enough to get hurt, but you're still in it. And
also it's playing games, but it's people want to have
the upper hand. They want to have that prid of
like oh yeah I didn't text him back. Yes, people
want power. Yeah. When people tell me that, and like,
you know, you never wanted a relationship you wanted control.

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You wanted to control another person. You wanted someone who
was going to do things for you, like it was
never about a reciprocated relationship, whether it's friendship or a
romantic relationship. You want when Taylor's and if you're not,
if you are going to go someone, I'm saying like,

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if you go on one day and you just don't talk,
no one reaches out to another person whatever, clear slight,
move on to the next one. But if you are
talking to someone for longer than five days, if you've
gone on more than two dates, like, be upfront, be honest,
human being care. That's it. When Taylor's hands start making

(01:03:33):
when Taylor's hands get blurry on the screen because she's
moving that fast, and you know she's spitting heat. Like
when Taylor's hands are doing this one and you're like,
I can't even see where your hand actually look like doctor,
you look like doctor strange, that's when you know she's
spitting heat. I have one last question as we close
this out, and this one is going to be um
I want I want this one to be just like
a one sentence answer because I know that we can
get pretty heavy into this question. What is the one

(01:03:56):
piece of dating advice you wish you knew when you
were younger that you want other people to know. Um,
I'll go first, this one's mine. Hey, you're not in love. Okay, honestly, Holly,
go for it. I'm gonna going more cheesy. Okay, know

(01:04:18):
your work. Yes, that's a good one, Sydney, give it
to us. Okay, I'm gonna This is about working yourself.
It's just gonna be be who you want to love.
So whoever you're looking for, you need to be that
person to damn, we got heating. I don't know a family.

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I don't know Lewis family. Go crazy with the quotes, Taylor,
give us the saying, give us the solo dol final quo,
Loo I wrote, mine would be if I love me,
it doesn't matter who else loves me. If if I'm
secure within myself, you can let me even not compliment me,

(01:05:06):
don't love me. Take out my sentence and throw the
three of them into a on a on a card
and give it to every every person who gets heartbroken.
Like the three of those quotes, Mine started off and
it was true for me, Like bro, like I said,
I love you too. Too many women and it just
wasn't true. Like I like, it's insane. I could talk

(01:05:27):
for days about how like what real love feels like
and it's way cool and I wish I could take
it back. But the three of you guys quotes, I'd like,
I don't know if I want to cry or like
scream those quotes or go and tell Dylan because he
needs those as well. But those your those that's your
advice if you're listening to this, that is, don't listen
to mind because you probably you might be in love
with the person. I don't know. For me, it just

(01:05:49):
wasn't I say it too fast? Um, But no, your word.
There are a lot of girls out there that are
like Outsiono told me that he loved me. I know
you ever think about that? You ever think about that
that there's somebody that thinks you loved them, and that
just isn't fair to you because you didn't um that
being said. No, you're worth be who you want to

(01:06:10):
love and if you love you, it doesn't matter who
loves you. Oh I I'm in there of Sidney Taylor, Halle,
I love you, you already know I love you. Guys.
I'm gonna cry if I say too many things, but
I love you guys so much and I'm so happy
that you guys are here. You guys have always been
not only the biggest supporters and um and uh quality.

(01:06:34):
Um what's the word? Uh? When you when you equality?
Critique of for every fast in my life, not just
in dating, but in my whole career. And I would
never be where I am if it wasn't for every
single one of the three of you. Um. And that's
why right now we're doing my favorite part, and we're
doing it. We're doing it real, we're doing it big.
It's called not so shameless promo, where you oh, here

(01:06:56):
we go, coming in there. We are about a being
about a boom. We're doing half hearts for everybody. Um,
we're doing oh there we are. Um, this is not
so shameless promo. Oh yes, we're doing my mom and
my dad's favorite little hand signal to each other. This
is what we call not so shameless promo. You can
promote absolutely anything on earth, Hallie, give us your not

(01:07:18):
so shameless promo. Where can we find you? What are
you up to? What do you want people to get
excited about? Let's go all my socials are Hallie. No
TikTok guys, I'm super in TikTok. Follow me on tickto.
What's your TikTok name? My TikTok name is Hallie A
O no in my email guys, if you want to
hit my email, everything is Hallie. I don't know. Can

(01:07:41):
catch her on Omega because that's what I did. I
caught her on Omega, honestly, sometimes catcher on Omegel, right,
that was perfect. The other thing I want to highlight
is that Hallie is an incredible singer. So you need
to look out because I'm gonna start having her just
record and put out as an artist all of the
songs that that I wrote but I'm too afraid to
sing because they're two personal. Um, you got to look
out for that. Sydney, give us some not so shameless promo.

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Tell us where we can find you. Let us know
where we can shop the latest fashion. Let us know
where we can find some good good information on what
we should wear at sid dot lou uh is my
Instagram account. If you follow, just pretty prepared to um
see a lot of baby pictures. Yeah, any of us

(01:08:25):
I taught you guys to be excited for? Is that
I birthed. Dare I say the next fiance? Oh my gosh,
they're playing body Bye Bye Megan the Stallion for my
sweet one year old niece, and she's already up like
the don't even I'm upset. I don't even know if
I should be excited about it. It is bad. She's
shaking her butt and she's dancing NonStop. She's working, she's

(01:08:50):
working with her aunt, she's t working with her aunts
and singing. It's bad. It's bad news. She still is
an angel no matter what. She'll always be an angel.
But um, sometimes I swear her mom's trying to turn
her into a devil or is the next fiance? But okay,
I also want to shout out truly though, if you
are ever looking, if you're in Los Angeles and you're
looking for a stylist and you're sick of everybody wearing

(01:09:11):
the same ship, get yourself a Sydney Lewis to style
you up. She's the reason that I don't look like
a homeless man every single day. So that's where you
get it. You can you can know if I'm looking bad,
it's not sid. We need to come up with a
slogan like that, like if you're not dressed role, you're
not styled by me. Um. And last, but absolutely not

(01:09:33):
least Taylor, and you better be talking about taylored by
Taylor at Taylor. That's Taylor t A Y l O
R t E M A R I lots of owls.
But Alex was referring to is that I have a
jeler shop. If you've ever seen me, she's I've already

(01:09:53):
worn her jewelry. I've her jewelry has been featured on
Wonderland magazine across the board. In all of the photoshoot
I've done this year, I've been wearing my sister's jewelry,
so you know it is top tier. Um and uh.
And also want to point out if you're flying jet
Blue and and it's not in December, it's in January
or February or March, April or May. Uh, and you

(01:10:13):
see just some fine young man with Jamma and she's
walking down the aisles, it's my sister. So you better
say how handing out a drink, asking you, asking you
if there's anything else that she can get for you,
asking her if you're asking you if you need some
cheese it or some pretzels, or you're flying jet Blue
Mint and you get that little mint jewelip. Oh wait, no,
you don't do Mint. Um, so never mind. If you're

(01:10:33):
in Mint. If you're in Mint, you know what, it's
the one thing you're not getting out of it. And
this isn't a Jet Blue promo either. Um. You guys
know you go to the back. Yeah, if you're if
you go to Mint, walk back to the bathroom. Stay
what's up to Taylor? Uh? Um? You know you could
always find me at alex Iono. It's the best part
about having a weird last name. But please make sure

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