Bennifer & Birthdays

It seems like everyone cannot stop talking about the Bennifer split, and Amy and T.J. admit they are no different. 

They explain how they all celebrated T.J.’s recent birthday with a blast from the past in the form of a surprise card from Amy. 

And whose birthday did Amy forget?!

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hey, folks, it's ship birthday.

Speaker 2 (00:04):
That actually it was my birthday and Robock made it special,
but it might have come at the expense of Roboq's mom. Also,
we showed one of our birthday celebration selfies to a
friend last night and she started bawling, crying in the
middle of a restaurant. Also in this episode, just because
it is your birthday, that does not mean you're getting old.

(00:27):
Researchers now say aging is not gradual, it's sudden. There
are two particular birthdays in which we all age durstically.
And finally, I ask Robes two specific questions every single
morning before we get out of bed. I especially hated
her answer to one of those questions this morning, And

(00:49):
with that, everybody, welcome to this edition of Amy and TJ.
I love she has no idea about some of that.
That's why I always write the entry.

Speaker 1 (01:00):
I love it when you say we're going to talk
about things that I have no idea what you're going
to say, or that we were even going to talk
about that. So this is going to be fun for all.

Speaker 2 (01:09):
Oh no, no, no, you're now The one I did keep
from you for a reason is about the birthdays and
the research. There's research out there that shows we all
feel like we're getting older and we're aging, and it's
a slow process. There are two ages in particular that
research has now shown that you drop off and you
just age drastically. On two particular.

Speaker 1 (01:28):
Birthdays, fifty because I kind of felt it, you've hit one. Yep, fifty,
I felt you hit one.

Speaker 2 (01:36):
But I'll also tell you this, fifty is not one
of them. Oh okay, So if you you always don't
hit till fifty, then you've had you prolonged. You're doing
better than something that was the first time.

Speaker 1 (01:46):
Well like this year, I've really felt it more than
I ever have. So okay, I can't wait to hear
really okay.

Speaker 2 (01:53):
But the there are two questions I ask you every morning. Now.
The one is obvious and certainly it's we're in the
middle of our marathon training. So it's probably the most
annoying thing I say to you every single day, and
it's often the first thing I say.

Speaker 1 (02:06):
You say, are you ready to run? You don't say
good morning, you look beautiful in the morning. Hey sweetheart,
how did you sleep? No, are you ready to run?

Speaker 2 (02:14):
See you threw some things in that that made me
sound like a bad boyfriend. That was unnecessary. You don't
even ask you don't even ask me how I'm doing. No,
it's sweetheart, and you look beautiful. It's dark in here, sweetheart,
game see you. I assume you're beautiful because you were
last night. Hopefully nothing changed. But the other question I
have been asking for the past couple of months at least,

(02:36):
because I don't look at a lot of headlines. I
certainly don't read a lot of tabloid stuff. But it's
a guaranteed question I ask you every day, which.

Speaker 1 (02:43):
Is what's the latest with j low yep?

Speaker 2 (02:46):
Every single day, because I don't I just got into
the habit. I don't read tabloid stuff, so I ask you.
Oftentimes your answer is, well, I don't know. You give
me some minor update of some kind.

Speaker 1 (02:59):
Yes, I will either have seen it on Instagram or
seen it on my iPhone. Headlines and we you know,
we have said this. We don't believe the headline, so
it's not necessarily something like oh wow, Ben moved out,
Ben got a new home. All j Lo is vacationing
solo in Europe.

Speaker 3 (03:17):
You know.

Speaker 1 (03:17):
So I've told you all of those things like from
Instagram that she's actually posted, because that is the only
thing I actually can believe is something that she has posted.
And then still you have to infer you know why
she posted it or what the picture might mean, and
that's also up for absolute It's no one knows for
sure why her intent, why she decided to post something.

(03:38):
But that's my only update I've been able to get.

Speaker 2 (03:40):
Okay, I want to speak. I don't want to speak
for because you can confirm the entire time when you
when you have been giving me these updates, I roll
my eyes and say, well, yeah, I don't believe any
of it.

Speaker 1 (03:51):
Yeah, And I said it looks like they're headed for divorce,
and you said I don't believe it, and I said,
it looks like they're living apart. I don't know that
that's true. So and that's fair, and I think that's
a healthy mindset, especially with what we know from the
industry and also what we know based on what we've
been through. Yes, that they don't get it right a
lot of times, but this time it does look like
all of the rumors, all of the innuendo, all of

(04:14):
the insinuations have turned out to be true. We have
gotten word I was able to. Actually, I don't even
think I told you. I think you woke up and
saw it the headline.

Speaker 2 (04:25):
Oh yeah, I didn't know about it last night. We
were exhausted from trips and traveling and partying, and I
didn't know until I got up this morning. And you
know what I'm going to look, you texted me firs
thing because we ended up in two different places because
I was exhausted last night at eight pm and you
were going it was seven it was seven thirty.

Speaker 1 (04:43):
Actually you're right, it was seven thirty, but you were
up at midnight, so that's good.

Speaker 2 (04:48):
It's not but I was exhausted and I gotta I
said good morning. You'll the first thing, wow, it was
at three twenty two. Oh my god, is when I
messaged you.

Speaker 1 (04:58):
That's not famn unusual.

Speaker 2 (05:00):
It felt normal to me, though, well.

Speaker 1 (05:02):
They know what you know what because we have not
spent apart in like three months, and so this was
the first time you didn't actually like, hey, what do
you mean? So actually I appreciated the fact that I
didn't see it until my alarm went off at six am.

Speaker 2 (05:14):
So the at three twenty two I message you, good morning.
I am so sad. First thing on my phone is
about j Lo filing for divorce. That was the message.

Speaker 1 (05:27):
You have been invested, I am.

Speaker 2 (05:30):
I have, and this is awful and I haven't gone through.
And I was going to incorporate some of what people
are saying into this episode, but I couldn't even bring it,
bring myself to read through a bunch of stuff.

Speaker 1 (05:39):
Do you know what? This all goes back to you
and I and actually George Dephnopolis. We're all sitting on
the set of Good Morning America the day after j
Loo and Ben got married, and we you came in
and you're like, this is such a great story seventeen
years and then making you know they had loved each
other all this time, they lived different life and then

(06:00):
finally when the dust settles, they come back together, they
find that they were meant to be and they get married.
It is a fairy tale, a love story that we
all wanted to believe in. And I was right there
with you. We were excited, like genuinely happy for the
two of them. George Stephanopolis, however, rolled his eyes and said,
I give it six months or something to that effect.

(06:21):
I mean, it was it was probably the correct way
to look at it. But why he yeah, well why
why why? I know? And then and then we were
invested in watching her movies about how she loves love,
and you and I have both interviewed her and she
I believe that she believed like she is genuinely wanting
to find Prince Charming and wanting to find the love

(06:44):
of her life and live happily ever after, don't we all?
And I think unfortunately, when you want that so badly,
the reality of everything complicates that dream or what your
expectations are. I mean, that's just so it's tough to
see that all displayed and played out in a really
public way, especially because of the movies that she made,
the making of the movie, and then the movie itself,

(07:05):
and then the real story that's happening behind the scenes.
It's tough to watch it all unfold. And it's heartbreaking
there it is.

Speaker 2 (07:13):
It's heartbreaking in my that's all. It was just from
a human standpoint. The movie she put out and all that,
it was just from a human standpoint. Anybody who has
been married that many times, who has been who's had
that many relationships, who has gone through all that she's
having to do it publicly, But my heart goes out
to anybody who's doing that privately. I just happened to
see all of this because she's in the public eye,
and I just I don't know how it's being viewed.

(07:36):
We talk about everybody loves a love story, and they're
rooting for love, and they're rooting for people to be
in love. We say that, but then we have a
very difficult time being happy for people when they are
in love, right. That turns us off to see somebody
else so happy, and then we get so invested and
almost there's glee in someone else's demise, I think, and
that pain and somebody who would who said so, I'll

(07:58):
give it six months? I did A might be looking
how I told you? I told you that we can
sit back and say, ha ha. I hate that mindset.
We just don't treat each other like human beings sometimes
in a scenario like this, and I only saw this
as a human story, and it is heartbreaking. And we
always talk about j Lo. Why is the emphasis always
on her not him? I mean, I'm sure he's heartbroken.

(08:20):
What's going on with him? He's a couple of marriages
in and all this. It just sucks man, this was it.
This is one I could look at and go, you
know what, the timing wasn't right. They were committed in
some way for the two decades and not even together
and then finally the time is right and this is
it and this is going to work. Damn. I was

(08:42):
rooting for them.

Speaker 1 (08:42):
I know, I know you were, and I think you know,
for a lot of you know, we have some connections
in the sense that we've had multiple marriages, we've blended,
you know, we've been you know, the blending of the families,
watching them have their kids be invested in each other.
That all takes work and time, and you're and it's
obviously the most important part of the whole relationship is
that your kids are okay with it. So they spent

(09:05):
you know, time doing all of that, and it's just sad.
Then you have, ah, just having lived through that personally,
I know how painful it is. And no matter how
much you want it to work or how much you
hope it works, sadly sometimes it just doesn't. And it's
also said, when you know there's love there, but don't
we always say it's all about communication, and somehow that
just seems to always be what ends up unraveling even

(09:28):
people who really do love each other. It's it's not
enough often times, especially with public pressure.

Speaker 2 (09:34):
You know, the I'm going kind of off. It's not
really off subject here, but it'll make sense to you.
And and I say, Sabine. Yet people don't know. Sabine
is sitting in the room right now. We're recording this.
My daughter eleven year old, but she'll get it. Are
our latest fascination, happily ever after ninety day fiance, right,
I got it right. The scene we roll our eyes

(09:57):
and laugh and it's entertaining and ridiculous and all the
these things. But it got dark and it got sad,
and it's the saddest thing I've ever seen in a
ninety day fiance. The woman who was with the guy
from Benttonville, Arkansas, I can't remember his name, Ed Ed.
His dad is Ed. He dumps the woman who has
a nine year old daughter, I think it is. She's
in the car crying to a family member and she said,

(10:19):
if I'd have known, I never would have brought my
daughter into this. That hit Yep, that stings, and that sucks.
And this is kind of where my mind went in
part with the j Lo thing those kids. Nobody's who
knows what the future is going to look like in whole,
but you blend a family like that only to go, wow,
this didn't work either.

Speaker 1 (10:38):
It's the hardest thing to see your kids be in
pain based on decisions you've made, and I think you
know having been and walked that road, it is the
hardest part of a breakup and then having them trust
you again to say no, now this is the person
I love. No now this is going to work out,
and you worry about what that's going to do to

(10:59):
their viewpoint of how they view marriage or how they
view relationships, and yes, and all of that parental guilt
you take with you, and it's a part of all
of these messy relationship situations we see either on TV
shows or from celebrities or even people who we personally know.
You know, isn't just something to gawk at or to

(11:23):
have an opinion on, but maybe just to empathize or
at least sympathize with all the people who are involved,
but especially the kids.

Speaker 2 (11:31):
Well, how would you describe if somebody's described and say, hey,
what do you know about Jaylah? What's the first thing
they're going to say about her right.

Speaker 1 (11:37):
Oh my gosh, she can't stop getting married.

Speaker 2 (11:39):
Okay, Okay, here's the thing.

Speaker 1 (11:41):
I'm not saying that. I think that's what people would say.

Speaker 2 (11:43):
She's a superstar. She's a singer, she's an actress, she's
an icon, she's beautiful, she's a dancer, she's all these things.
How far do you go down before somebody says she's
a mom, she's a stepmom, she's a daughter, she's a
sister and aunt, she's all these things. We don't see
him as human beings. First being right now is is suffering.
A couple of human beings are suffering right now, So

(12:04):
that just sucks. I'll stop asking you for updates. But
about the kids, look we are said at the top here,
you showed a picture you went out to dinner last
night with he had a girl's night. That's why we
ended up. We weren't together last night, had a girl's night.
And there was a picture from a birthday celebration that
we just had for five six days my birthday it

(12:25):
was August nineteen. But there was a picture and one
of the people who was not at the celebration you
went out with Morgan that we've had on the podcast
a good friend of yours, so and you showed her
the picture? Please please explain because I wasn't there when
it happened, yes last night.

Speaker 1 (12:38):
So Morgan, who you all, hopefully any good or loyal
podcast listeners will remember her. She is mine, one of
my best friends, who is living with stage for metasatic
breast cancer. And she grasps life like nobody that I know,
and she feels and she shows emotion, and she's vulnerable,
and I just love her for all of those things.
But she has seen and watched me and my girls

(13:01):
over the last year and a half two years now
actually go through so many ups and downs with the
divorce and then our relationship being made public in away
we did not appreciate and which caused a lot of
harm to our children. And so she's seen just how
hard it's been for everybody to feel safe and peace

(13:22):
and love. And so she said, how did TJ's birthday
trip go? And we just got back yesterday, and I said, well,
here's the picture. And I showed her a selfie that
Annalise took and it had Annalise, my daughter Ava, and
their two girlfriends, Sabine and TJ and me. So it
was TJ surrounded by six girls, and she looked at

(13:45):
it and I just thought she'd say, oh, that's so cute.
She started crying, and Annalise was there with us, and
she said, why are you crying? And she's like, I'm
just this is just the most beautiful picture I have
ever seen, because I know how much work it's taken
to get to this picture, and this picture just says
it all. And I am so happy for you, and
it made me start to cry. And Annalie said it

(14:07):
really was a good trip and that that was everything
to me in that moment because it is so you know,
and my kids are older, but no matter how old
you are, it's still tumultuous. It's still it shakes your
your security in so many ways, and so to know
that our girls feel safe again is everything.

Speaker 2 (14:32):
Yeah, I don't after you told me the story, I
don't know if I want to look at the picture
again because I might start crying. I didn't put it
in that kind because we were in the moment and
just enjoying the moment when we took that picture. But
it does. It means everything. And there were times I
think we've talked about it here where you and I
and so being sa being we're not in the same
room together. No, we wouldn't do anything together. There were

(14:52):
times in me and you and Annalise and Eva weren't
in the same room. We spent holidays apart because we
were being respectful of what was going on with them.
There's never a single day that you've ever hung out
with Sabine that I didn't ask her first, is this okay?
And then it developed into a situation where I would say, hey, Sabine,

(15:12):
you want to hang out? She would say, hey, is
Amy going to be there? I say no, and she said, ah,
well I'll wait. Really it became a different thing, and
all that is we laugh about it now. But the
work it took to get there and to that picture
was I mean, we two years into a lot of
work to get to that point. And the picture was
even more special because you and I we were planning
to right, We're just gonna get a house on Long Island.

(15:35):
We're going to spend the time out there. We got
pool and all these bedrooms, We're gonna grill, We're gonna
hang I said, you know what, just ask the girls
see if they want to come fifteen seconds later, you
were like, hey, they're all in.

Speaker 1 (15:47):
They're all in, and they said can we bring friends?
And you know what was also cool about the August
nineteenth date is that was exactly one year ago where
I was and I would just say, reintroduced to Sabine
as your girlfriend, because I've known Sabine since she was
two probably, and my girls have babysat heirs since she

(16:08):
was that same age, so we all knew each other.
But now we all, you know, a year ago, met
as in different roles, you know, and that's a lot
for kids to take in and to take on, and
so it's pretty cool to see how far we've come
in one year.

Speaker 2 (16:22):
There was no awkwardness, There was no for us. It
wasn't a big deal like we went and hung out
as we didn't think, oh, this is special. Obviously we've
been hanging out plenty from graduations and birthdays and all
kinds of things, but this was one where they elected to, yes,
let's go celebrate TJ's birthday and all hang out together.
That was a that was a really really big deal

(16:44):
and it was a it was perfect. The birthday was perfect.
And that's weird to say because you think about birthdays
and said, what do you want? You want to party,
you want to go out, you want a nice restaurant,
you want an event, you want a trip, you want
to something. But the night of my August eighteenth, right,
it was just the three of us.

Speaker 1 (17:04):
Because everybody everybody had places to be, they came to.

Speaker 2 (17:08):
I went to bed that night, or fell asleep on
the couch. You were laying on me on one side,
and Sabine was on the couch on my other side,
kind of with her feet and her butt propped up
against me, and I'm still watching TV. And that's how
I went to sleep on or that's how my night

(17:29):
ended on August eighteenth. So you woke in the time
at midnight and say happy birthday to me. But then
we get in bed, and the bedroom we have has
a split situation where there's a fireplace that separates where
the bed is and then there's a sitting area on
the other side. So you get in bed and I
lay down in bed, and I was wondering what do
we do with Sabine because she was all asleep on

(17:49):
the couch in the bedroom essentially, and didn't want to
move her because I'd have to. You know, she's too
big now to just pick her up and carry downstairs,
so just leave her. But then throughout the night, and
it was a perfect thunderstorm.

Speaker 1 (18:02):
That night, such a good thunderstorm.

Speaker 2 (18:04):
But I could have my head on the pillow turned
one way, and I can see the love of my
life sitting laying next to me. And I turned my
head on the pillow the other way, and I can
see my little love sleeping on the couch. That is
how I went to bed on my birthday, and that's
how I woke up on my birthday. It was perfect.

Speaker 1 (18:22):
That's so cool. I didn't really realize that, but that
makes so much sense. I loved that.

Speaker 2 (18:26):
It was absolutely perfect. You know, all I want to
do is cook because I need to give me a grill.

Speaker 1 (18:39):
Let's do it because I love to eat. So that's
what we're made for each other.

Speaker 2 (18:43):
That could go badly in a few years.

Speaker 1 (18:47):
Don't worry. I'm going to keep running.

Speaker 2 (18:49):
But I keep but I grill. I don't feed you
bad stuff.

Speaker 1 (18:53):
That's true. That's very true.

Speaker 2 (18:57):
Now I see you looking at your notes.

Speaker 1 (18:59):
Because the cooking was so much fun. And while some
of the times we were cooking or cleaning up. The
girls kind of took to their own devices and started
playing games, and that was really fun to watch. There
were card games I don't know the names of, but
there were spoons. At one point they're slapping. There was
all the yes it means laughing, I don't know. We

(19:20):
didn't partake in that, but we ended up getting together
in on the on the game night, and that was
we played a game called Worst Case Scenario. I don't
know if anyone else has ever played it, but it
was hilarious and the perfect game for us.

Speaker 2 (19:32):
I meant to have. I meant to bring it so
we could give some scenarios.

Speaker 1 (19:36):
It's like the worst possible thing you could think of, right,
And whoever came up with these scenarios, I would love
to just I'd love to interview because they're sick. It's
twisted and you have to decide and rank which would
be the worst of the worst scenarios. It's hilarious.

Speaker 2 (19:52):
I'm trying to give me one. Go ahead and shout
it out to me under.

Speaker 1 (19:58):
A collapsed building, or stitch your own wound on your cha.

Speaker 2 (20:02):
Oh yeah, that's right. Was it a bullet wound? Yes,
your own bullet wood. There was one that was like
stitch an open wound on your own chest? Or would
you rather be stuck under a building? Would you rather
eat your best friend as you're stranded.

Speaker 1 (20:16):
On an island.

Speaker 2 (20:17):
There were all these weird things, but they they they
make you think you have to rank them, you have
to rank well. Anyway, we got really caught up in
that game. That was a blast, but it was a
perfect birthday. I didn't get the cake I wanted, but
I got a cake.

Speaker 1 (20:30):
Yes, So what did you request?

Speaker 2 (20:32):
I wanted a triple layer cake with three different flavors
on east layer. I didn't think that was that complicated.

Speaker 1 (20:38):
Well, Sabina and I made a two layer cake and
it was fun fetty.

Speaker 2 (20:43):
My point is why even ask I feel like that
was a compromise. It wasn't a compromise. I asked for
three layers, it's two. I asked her three flavors, and
it's something that a five year ol wouldn't even ask for.

Speaker 1 (20:56):
But it was festive. Okay, next year, I promise you
it will make you a three layer cake. And you
just but you didn't tell us like the flavors I did?
You did chocolate? Oh okay, so fine, Okay, we'll do that.
It'll be amazing and next year it's on.

Speaker 2 (21:18):
I can't thank you enough though you all. Look you,
all the effort you put in. You've been saying for
about a month now, which is a little a little arrogant.
It was a little annoying. She kept saying, yeah, I
nailed the birthday gifts. She was saying it for a
month and you did? You actually did? I don't want
to the main one, I won't tell until we actually
it's an experience.

Speaker 1 (21:38):
Yes, that was the big The big gift was an
experienced gift, which those are my favorite gifts to give
because you can't return them. They don't get broken or
lost or don't get scratches on it. You and you
remember it forever.

Speaker 2 (21:50):
This is a go and this was absolutely perfect. It's
one and we will talk about it when it comes,
and it's coming at the end of September, right, Yes,
so we will. We will do it as we get closer.
But there was other stuff. One of them was the
most one of the funniest things I've ever received. But
it goes back to when were we in LA and
it's happened.

Speaker 1 (22:08):
That was for the iHeart Radio Awards.

Speaker 2 (22:10):
Was that what month. Yes, so something happened in March
and you've delivered.

Speaker 1 (22:15):
He delivered, So we searched. I guess it was Hollywood.
Was it Rodeo Drive?

Speaker 2 (22:21):
No, no, no, no, we'd have found it on Rodeo.

Speaker 1 (22:23):
Yeah, right on Hollywood. We went to on Marshals because
TJ thought he needed to stop.

Speaker 2 (22:29):
Stop. Wait, wait, you're gonna say this is the wrong
way and get the wrong impression.

Speaker 1 (22:33):
I was just gonna say you needed a little extra
bling on your fit. I knew you you're gonna Okay,
how would you describe it?

Speaker 2 (22:41):
It's very simple. A lapel pen.

Speaker 1 (22:45):
That's it.

Speaker 2 (22:47):
Men, a lapel pen. It's not a it's not a
complicated thing. But men are often dressed in very basic way.
You know, I'm fairly conservative dresser. I'm not gonna wear
something just wow, very loud. So you just put a
hint of something, just a little lapel pen, a little flash.
You can have a little diamond in it. If it's

(23:07):
a metal even better. But you didn't call it that.
During an taping of a podcast in La And it
was the funniest thing.

Speaker 1 (23:14):
Up, I said that you were on the hunt for
a jeweled man broach that doesn't sound the same, and
it cracked us up. I was tremendously and so I remember,
like I think the next day or two, I put
I always keep a list, like gifts for DJ and
when things pop up during the year, which is a
good thing to do because you always forget, I'm like,

(23:34):
this would make a great gift. I was like, find
a jeweled man broach.

Speaker 2 (23:38):
You know, let's stop. Get this. This is your public
service announcement. Everybody's always stressed out about what to give
their significant other for their birthday or Christmas or anything.
It is so simple. All you gotta do is pay
attention to them three hundred and sixty four days out
of the year, and then when the birthday comes on,
you've nailed it. Just pay attention.

Speaker 1 (23:56):
I have a notes folder and it starts anew and
I write them down. And it has been amazing, Like
I knew something you really liked or someone you really
like to listen to, and so I thought checked to
see all of that stuff. And so it worked out.
And I will tell you it is hard to find
a man's like a man.

Speaker 2 (24:15):
Broach because they're not out there. They're called the elephants.
Do a different Google search.

Speaker 1 (24:23):
Probously. I did the other search and I'm just saying
this for fun, but they aren't that easy to find, actually,
a bejeweled one. I could have gotten this simple one. Anyway,
thank you, David Yeerman. I did find one.

Speaker 2 (24:39):
And it's nice. It's actually kind of perfect. And I
wore it out that day when we lunched and it
was so you nailed it absolutely. But then the ultimate
gift was very good. The experience and the card was awesome.

Speaker 1 (24:51):
Oh yes, can we talk about the card?

Speaker 2 (24:53):
What about the card?

Speaker 1 (24:54):
So last year I came over, I was all nervous.
I was gonna you know, ce Sabine. I was meeting
TJ's parents. Oh yeah, and I think in the fluster
of bringing his gifts over, I left the card at
the apartment at my apartment, and so I had to
give it to him the next day and he said, uh,
this is late. It's not my birthday, so it's just

(25:14):
gonna have to wait until next year when I open it.
So he is held on to this card for an
entire year, and then you forgot to bring it to
your birthday celebration.

Speaker 2 (25:24):
You know what. And I know this sounds petty, but
I am petty. But I'm fun petty. I'm not I
like like certain types of petty, but this is a
petty I like. Right, you didn't give me this gift
on my birthday, so why the next day? The next
So what if you had not given me my birthday gifts?
Somebody doesn't give you a birthday gift on your birthday

(25:44):
and they give it to you four days later, you're
going to think one of them.

Speaker 1 (25:48):
It's a belated birthday gift.

Speaker 2 (25:49):
It's a blated gift. So you missed my birthday. So
that's the way I feel about the card. So now
we have a tradition that I and my petty ways
have set up that every year she gives me a
card on my birthday, that card won't be opened till
the following year, so it's a delay. So the card
she gave me on the birthday this year I will

(26:10):
open August nineteenth of twenty twenty five.

Speaker 1 (26:14):
Did you open?

Speaker 2 (26:15):
I didn't?

Speaker 1 (26:16):
You didn't open the belated one?

Speaker 2 (26:18):
You know what I thought it was? You know, I
thought that this might be a good moment to do it. Sabine,
can you help me out, please? Baby Sabine has the
card that you gave me, Oh my god, for my
birthday in twenty twenty three. You can see it has
not been opening. It's sealed, says TJ, has got little
hearts on it. I have not seen this card.

Speaker 1 (26:40):
I don't know what it says.

Speaker 2 (26:42):
You don't remember.

Speaker 1 (26:42):
I have no idea where the card is. I have
no idea what it says.

Speaker 2 (26:45):
Do we want to commit now to whether or not
I should read it? You can, no matter what.

Speaker 1 (26:48):
I mean, going, No matter what I mean, it's something.
Oh my gosh, this is hilarious.

Speaker 2 (27:00):
Oh my god, there's a whole letter in here. All right,
let me just read what the card itself, whoever made it,
says on the front. It's tough being both handsome and humble,
and yet somehow you manage both. Happy birthday. Now, there's
a lot of stuff in here that you wrote version.

(27:21):
I see devilish sense of humor in here. Okay, deeper,
I fall in love with you the Yeah, I'm gonna
leave it there.

Speaker 1 (27:34):
I have no idea what I wrote. And you know
what's so funny. I knew obviously that you hadn't read
my card from last year, So as I was writing
your card for this year, I got deeply concerned that
maybe I would feel the same sentiments and write similar things,
and I thought he'll actually be able to compare them.
And I thought about that when I was writing, Okay,
this is you.

Speaker 2 (27:54):
Okay, I'm sorry, tradition is over. Okay, sorry you're writing something.
Thinking oh my god, No, I was.

Speaker 1 (28:01):
Just like, what if I said the same thing last year,
because I don't know, but I don't think it's true.

Speaker 2 (28:07):
Well, I won't know until next year, is the thing.

Speaker 1 (28:10):
So also, just to continue the tradition, you gave me
two cards for my birthday this year, one to open
now and one to open the next year. So I
have the card, and that's also stressful to make sure
you know where you put the card. To find the
card a year later, I know you have it.

Speaker 2 (28:28):
So I'm petty.

Speaker 1 (28:31):
And that you have a devilish sense of humor. Apparently
I was already.

Speaker 2 (28:35):
Aware of that. But no, I do thank you for
what that was. And again, Analyse and Ava and Montgomery
and Nive love those girls, and again the friends have
become a part of the family with me over the
past couple of years. And it was it was a perfect,
perfect birthday, and I enjoyed it, every bit of it.
I love that and you and to be made it

(28:57):
made it really really special. So thank you for that.
I don't feel older because I haven't hit a particular
age that they say I'm supposed to feel older. Right,

(29:17):
I mentioned that the research says that there are two
particular ages that you just drop off. It's not gradual.
We don't age gradually. We age suddenly. Seriously, it's not
a gradual getting older. They say, at a molecular level,
there are two particular birthdays and ages. They have pinpointed
the day the birthdays that you drop off to a

(29:40):
point that there's a severe And I didn't tell you
this on purpose because I want anything.

Speaker 1 (29:45):
Guess so obviously it's not fifty, because you've just told
me that. So I'm going to guess. I'm going to
guess thirty, and then my next guess is going to be.

Speaker 2 (29:57):
There are two ages, so thirty is one.

Speaker 1 (29:58):
Thirty is one for mine, and and the other one
would be I would say like seventy.

Speaker 2 (30:03):
Five, seventy five. A lot of people they've done research
on seventy five. That isn't what this research now. So
what would you say, Andy, Well, if the two ages
that research now shows people you drastically age at the
on a molecular level at these two particular ages. What
would you give.

Speaker 4 (30:20):
Feel like forty is a big one because you're finally
out of like young, I don't know this category, and
then maybe like seventy, well okay.

Speaker 2 (30:31):
He's closer. Okay, the two ages that they say you
drop off drastically in age forty four and sixty.

Speaker 1 (30:38):
Oh wow.

Speaker 2 (30:39):
Research was done. Some of these researchers were out at Stanford,
but they show on a molecular level that there is
a drastic drop off in the behavior of your molecules
at those two particular ages. This study was done luck
they used over one hundred people and follow them for years.
But they are particular molecules that actually have to do
with keeping tissue together. And at forty four and at sixty,

(31:02):
this now explains how your skin is different. There is
muscle loss, there is or become heart issues because of that.
And they absolutely say that you the researchers, that you're
supposed to give like particular emphasis at these times to
your health. You're not supposed to disregard it in your thirties, clearly,
but you need to be giving particular attention to how
you behave at those ages. Another thing, your ability to

(31:25):
metabolize caffeine and alcohol absolutely drop off at those two ages.

Speaker 1 (31:30):
Oh wow, wow, But isn't the thing we all don't?

Speaker 2 (31:35):
We all have somebody in our family. I can remember
my uncle Muhammed when I was a kid, saying no. No.
When I got old, I was in my thirties and
he said, man, how do you stay in shape? He said, Man,
when I hit forty just everything change. Oh yeah, how
don't you heart?

Speaker 1 (31:48):
People say that absolutely yes. I mean, I'm I feel
like I'm struggling running training for this marathon more than
I ever have before. And I ran my first marathon
at forty six. But I've no to shift. I'm like, WHOA,
I'm gonna have to do some things differently. I'm gonna
have to fuel differently. I'm gonna have to sleep differently.
I'm gonna have to make some changes because I'm not able.

(32:10):
I just don't think I'm able to physically do what
I could do even a few years ago. I have to.
It's not it's not huge, but it's enough for I've
noticed it.

Speaker 2 (32:17):
I'm glad I'm getting you now. On the upside here.

Speaker 1 (32:24):
Well, you've already hit one of those.

Speaker 2 (32:27):
I haven't. I haven't felt it yet.

Speaker 1 (32:29):
You haven't.

Speaker 2 (32:30):
I haven't felt that yet. But we were Ernie Hudson,
we were talking to not too long. The lack of
a better way to describe the black Okay, yes he
loves that, he said, seventy. But everybody can pinpoint when
I hit. He called it mister jiggles or something in
his stomach. Everybody has a thing when they hit. This
actually makes sense to a boom. It hits you at
one time instead of a gradual getting older.

Speaker 1 (32:52):
Well that's good to know. And that actually almost made
me forget what I forgot this past week. Oh you're
going there, okay, of course, all right. Just wanted to
make sure I didn't want to forget what I forgot.

Speaker 2 (33:04):
Why don't you just transition to it?

Speaker 1 (33:06):
You could have just you know, I'm horrible transition. It
is not my strength.

Speaker 2 (33:10):
So everybody's at fault here. About the birthdays, there were
so many talked about how much fun we had and
how much emphasis we put on the birthday, and so
much attention was on the cake that I had. That
wasn't what I asked for. But while she was so
busy doing all these things. What is it? You know,
a lot of Leo's. Your dad's birthday is August thirteenth,
your mom's the fifeenth, yes, fifteenth, right, and mine is

(33:34):
the nineteenth. I think we might be missing somebody. There
was a lot. Just that's a pretty good cluster people.

Speaker 1 (33:39):
And all my daughter's friends, like you know, Ava's roommate Raye,
his birthday's August twenty second. Her best friend Ava Cluoso
is August thirteenth. There's just August is filled with lots
of birthdays. So folks.

Speaker 2 (33:52):
On our trip out of town, while we were all
hanging out, having a good time, everybody's all smiles, family together,
taking pictures. It is a good sign. Oh my sweet Lord, baby,
baby Jesus. We forgot robots mom's birthday.

Speaker 1 (34:07):
It was gutting and I've never forgotten it. I mean,
I had sent gifts to their house, but they were
traveling for their birthdays. I facetimed my dad. I was
the first text he got that morning. I sent him
a happy birthday on mo Oji and just all Dad,
I'm gonna FaceTime you. And we did and it was lovely.

(34:28):
And my mom's birthday is two days later, so how
could I forget that? Well, we were all caught up
in the anticipation of celebrating DJ's birthday, and we were
all traveling in the girls. No, it's all my fault.
And yeah, the girls were coming on trains and we

(34:48):
had the car, and there was so much coordination and excitement,
and I went to bed feeling so happy that we
just had a great night. And then I woke up
in the morning and I saw that my mom at
texted me at night where they were. This resort they
were at were very kind and wrote happy birthday and
rose petals on her bed, and she's like, isn't this
so sweet? Look what the resort did for me, which

(35:11):
meant when I woke up the next morning that I
completely missed her birthday. In my mind, it was Friday,
not Thursday, so I had my days mixed up. It
was just, yeah, I didn't make a million excuses, but
I dropped the ball.

Speaker 2 (35:24):
You know, it didn't It fell to odd because you'd
been talking to her all day. It's not like you
just didn't speak to your mom during the day. I
don't even know if that makes it.

Speaker 1 (35:31):
Worse, it makes it worse. I was texting her and
I didn't say happy birthday, and I had done it
for my dad, so that it was just I and
then I just felt so bad. And then I was
texting her and I called her my dad. They were
in the middle of doing something and my dad the
first day, she said, was when he answered the phone,
and I thought, oh no, he dropped something, and I

(35:53):
like he was startled with the phone. He dropped anyway,
he said, I got to call you back, and so
that I had like thirty forty five minutes of feeling
total panic that I had just made them so upset.
I was just freaking out that I had forgotten her birthday.
But anyway, she was very lovely, very gracious, very kind.
She's like, all that matters is that you're calling me
now and I get to talk to you now, and
she was very sweet and forgiving. But I just that

(36:15):
feeling of someone forgetting your birthday as an awful feeling,
especially someone that close to you, and I hate that.
I possibly she claims I didn't, but I know it
had to sting, and I felt really awful about.

Speaker 2 (36:26):
She was great, and that's one of those things you
were never you would were not going to be okay
until you talk to your mom and she let you
know she was okay. That was a bad when we
had a rough hour or two anticipation because I think
you tried to facetimer once and she didn't answer.

Speaker 1 (36:40):
Didn't answer. Oh, and my mom always answers, And I
was like, oh, no, she's.

Speaker 2 (36:45):
Mad at me.

Speaker 1 (36:45):
She's not answering the FaceTime, and then Evan Anna both
looked at me and said, Mom, we forgot her birthday too.
So all of us did it, and we just felt awful,
like terrible.

Speaker 2 (36:55):
Yeah, hey, kid and grandkids forgot the birthday. We were
all here, sell it right, celebrating the new guy. We
forgot mom and grand Yogi.

Speaker 1 (37:05):
Yeah, I yes, but mom and dad both Happy birthday guys,
and I just I'll make it up next year. It's
going to be amazing.

Speaker 2 (37:13):
Have you forgotten one before? Can you remember forgetting somebody's
birthday that was a big deal?

Speaker 1 (37:19):
No, I really think that is the first time in
my life where I have forgotten. I mean my nephews.
Sometimes I'm scrambling at like nine pm to send them
an Amazon gift card because I have done that, but
I've I think I've always sneaked it in, and also
my mom has helped remind me. Sometimes I'll remind the girls.
But I was I was wishing that. My dad, oh yeah,

(37:39):
texted me and said, remember it's your.

Speaker 2 (37:42):
Mom's Okay, okay, Papa Robach, if you're listening your daughter
for about ten minutes turned her anger to you, like,
why didn't like you?

Speaker 1 (37:51):
You're genuinely made my dad not tell me like you
texted your mom today. It was not his fault, obviously,
I just would have been so grateful you done that.
That's all.

Speaker 2 (38:02):
Okay, that's well. You every once in a while we
forget a birthday. I don't think I forgot you know what, either,
I've messed up and like said, have a birthday on
the wrong day before, okay, but early, Okay, that's better.
It is better. But it wasn't a like I genuinely
forgot your birth date, right, but I got it in early,
so it wasn't a belated I've done that. But somebody

(38:23):
that close to me, I don't think I had, right.

Speaker 1 (38:24):
I mean, other people, I'm sure I have, but someone
that close to me, no, this is the first time.

Speaker 2 (38:29):
And dudes don't care either way. There's no friend, a
guy friend of mine ever cared. I'm Miss Trick's birthday
every year, you know what I'm saying. And he's never complained, right,
not one you get right, Hey cares.

Speaker 1 (38:40):
But like if you forgot your mom's birthday, how would
she react?

Speaker 2 (38:45):
I don't know because I would never do such a thing.

Speaker 1 (38:50):
I feel awful I do. I am going to make
it up. Next year. They're going to have an amazing
seventy second birthday. My mom is gonna whatever it is.

Speaker 2 (39:04):
But Andy's gonna help us out here, folks, whore gonna
rat with? I know everybody is messed up a birthday
in some way, form or fashion, and there's always pressure
around birthdays, and when you get older, it seems a
little ridiculous, like what are we supposed to do? How
are we supposed to celebrate? Who are we supposed to celebrate?
So our super producer here, Andy, that you all are
familiar with, he has a list a dozen dues and
don'ts for an adult birthday celebration. If you will, Andy, hell,

(39:28):
let's see if we screw these up for an adult
The dues and don'ts when you're celebrating an adult birthday.

Speaker 4 (39:34):
Yes, number one, do shift your birthday mindset from aging
to gratitude. Gratitude means having the privilege to age another year,
So I should feel happy that you're able to get
another year.

Speaker 2 (39:48):
You know what, a lot of people. I don't like
those folks who say it's my birthday, don't give me
anything that's not celebrat Oh I hate that.

Speaker 1 (39:57):
Oh I get actually angry. In fact, I think I
have made a dinner awkward. When someone complained about getting older,
I said, it's a privilege to get older. What's the
alternative if you can't celebrate that? My god? Like, just
rethink about what it means to get to your older
That is an amazing thing. You got another trip around
the sun and you have. I kind of look at

(40:17):
it as a reset too. You go, you reflect, and
then you say, what do I want this year? What
do I want to do better? You know that's it's
an opportunity instead of something being negative.

Speaker 2 (40:26):
We reset for new years, right. Everybody wants to start
a new and all fresh. What use your birthday that?

Speaker 1 (40:31):
I love it.

Speaker 2 (40:31):
I'm with you. That's a definite. Don't do it. Don't
that's all gratitude do have gratitudes.

Speaker 4 (40:38):
Don't is stressing over sending reciprocal birthday wishes. It's not
take a penny, give a penny, don't keep score.

Speaker 2 (40:45):
Oh I like that they sent me a birthday wish.
Now I have to send them up. That's a good one.

Speaker 1 (40:50):
I love that.

Speaker 2 (40:50):
That's a good one.

Speaker 1 (40:51):
Uh.

Speaker 4 (40:52):
This next one is do see if your office lets
you opt in or out of a birthday celebration, because many,
not all, may want to celebrate you, but if you
don't want to be celebrated, make that clear with your office.

Speaker 1 (41:04):
Yes, with the office cupcakes, and they make a big deal.
Some people get embarrassed by all the attention. I mean,
I personally don't love it when I get a big
sombrero put on my head and the band comes out
singing Happy Birthday. That's not something I like at all.
Do you like it when the restaurant comes with the
big song and the clapping hand you know me right,
and the firework for a candle?

Speaker 2 (41:25):
How many times in my life you think I would
have allowed that to happen?

Speaker 1 (41:28):
Zero?

Speaker 2 (41:29):
Okay, I will stop them at the kitchen door. Don't
even come out.

Speaker 1 (41:36):
I know when we went out to lunch one time,
I think it was maybe it was the day before
your birthday, and I thought, no, I'm not going to
do it.

Speaker 2 (41:43):
Oh, you crossed your mind.

Speaker 1 (41:44):
I laughed about how normally a lot of times I
would go to the waiter and say, hey, it's a birthday.

Speaker 2 (41:49):
Did you consult with the meme?

Speaker 1 (41:51):
I no, I knew you knew that.

Speaker 2 (41:52):
I didn't get that.

Speaker 1 (41:54):
I had a little thought pop in my head, and
I laughed, and then I thought, I actually think you'd
be mad. If I thought you would be like, you'd
laugh it off. But I thought, no, you would actually
be pissed mad. So I didn't.

Speaker 4 (42:04):
All right, the next one, and I actually did this
one recently. Keep track of the birthdays for key people
in your life. Mark special days on your iPhone or calendar. Yes,
I deleted my Facebook, but before I did, I went

(42:27):
through the whole Facebook birthday list and made sure to
put all the people that I actually would care to
write happy birthday, to make sure to put those in
my calendar as alert.

Speaker 1 (42:36):
That's amazing, And I don't know why mine did not
pop up. That's such a good point, because maybe I
don't have my mom's birthday in.

Speaker 2 (42:43):
My candy didn't tell you they didn't, you would need to.

Speaker 1 (42:46):
You know, I have a question. Do you know how
to take birthdays off of your calendar?

Speaker 2 (42:50):
It seems like you figured it out right now.

Speaker 1 (42:52):
I never put it off on. You know, when people
in and out of your life and then maybe you
don't want to have their birthday pop up?

Speaker 2 (42:59):
How do you get I don't have that though. I
couldn't what people don't come in and out of my life.
They're here or they're not. No, that's no, there's no
in and out right.

Speaker 1 (43:07):
But maybe at one point you wanted someone's birthday to
pop up on your calendar, and now you don't want
to see you show Okay, I actually genuinely need that direction.

Speaker 2 (43:15):
And give yourself a couple on the alerts. You know,
get an alert a week ahead of time, a few
days ahead of time. That's that's perfect, that's very good.

Speaker 4 (43:22):
The next one is don't ask people their age. It's
not polite. Don't do it period.

Speaker 1 (43:29):
When you do that, I think after the twenty first
birthday you should not ask the age. It's fun up
until twenty one, and then no one wants to tell you.
And what do you want to know?

Speaker 2 (43:39):
Damn? Okay, even to me, it was like that was strong.

Speaker 1 (43:49):
I'm sorry. I actually personally don't mind telling my age,
but I would.

Speaker 2 (43:55):
All the time anyway. That's why though, So you don't
care if anybody asks because you've put it out there, right, so.

Speaker 1 (44:01):
But I respect that someone might not want to you
were okay?

Speaker 2 (44:04):
But my issues people going off about like getting mad that.
So is it inappropriate and rude? Is my thing? Is
it actually rude or just I don't know.

Speaker 1 (44:16):
I think it's probably rude because I guess my question is,
why do you want to know?

Speaker 2 (44:20):
It's your birthday? What are you turning? That's a natural question.
I'm going to a concert tonight. Who are you saying?
That's kind of a natural follow up?

Speaker 4 (44:30):
That's really rude?

Speaker 2 (44:31):
Heading to a restaurant? Oh, where are you headed? What
kind of food?

Speaker 1 (44:34):
That's not a why do you want to know?

Speaker 2 (44:35):
Go into a movie?

Speaker 1 (44:37):
What are you saying?

Speaker 2 (44:38):
None of your business.

Speaker 1 (44:41):
Is not the same. Yeah, I think it's I think
it's mostly a female thing.

Speaker 2 (44:46):
There we go there it is, so we don't.

Speaker 1 (44:48):
Want anyone to view us through the lens of our age.

Speaker 2 (44:53):
Andy, do you care if somebody ask you your age?

Speaker 3 (44:56):
Not?

Speaker 2 (44:56):
Really? Okay?

Speaker 1 (44:57):
Yeah?

Speaker 2 (44:58):
Yeah, but how old are you thirty three? She just asked,
You just said, don't ask people.

Speaker 1 (45:04):
They I did that on purpose.

Speaker 2 (45:06):
Yea, it was hilarious. What you got next, Andy? I
mean thirty three year old Andy.

Speaker 4 (45:11):
The next one says, do make it clear who's paying
for the celebration. If you're going out to a bar
or throwing a birthday party, the organizer should always clearly
convey financial details before the party. Do not let it
go unsettled.

Speaker 1 (45:27):
So this has always been something where I have thrown
birthday parties, like for myself and in my opinion as
a grown ass woman, if I'm going out to a
bar whatever, I'm picking up the bill. That's how I
look at it.

Speaker 2 (45:43):
But if you're the organizer, if you should be.

Speaker 1 (45:45):
Correct, okay, correct, But if you're going out for a dinner,
you know a lot of times everybody will say you're
you're not throwing your credit card in? We got you
at your birthday and so yeah, but I don't know.
I just feel like, for me, the one rule is
if I'm throwing the party, I'm picking up the bill.

Speaker 2 (46:01):
And my one rule would be if we're all going
out to dinner, no matter who organizes the birthday boy,
the birthday girl does not pay correct fairly right, Yeah.

Speaker 4 (46:10):
The next one. Don't mention gifts on an invitation. Adult
birthdays do not or should not come with the obligation
of gifts, and you need to be aware that there
is no including a wish list.

Speaker 1 (46:23):
That's I yeah, I agree with that. I think like
what you're putting in a And by the way, if
you come, here's what I'd like.

Speaker 4 (46:30):
No, I've seen one or two people really like adults.

Speaker 2 (46:34):
Yeah, like how old?

Speaker 4 (46:36):
I mean three?

Speaker 1 (46:38):
Like a link to here's what I'd like you to buy.

Speaker 4 (46:41):
Me, kind of like a suggested wish list. If you're
thinking of ideas, here's what I'm thinking.

Speaker 1 (46:47):
Wow.

Speaker 2 (46:47):
Yeah, and all I wanted was a frickin cake and
I didn't get that.

Speaker 1 (46:52):
Got a cake.

Speaker 2 (46:53):
You're oh, don't all far me? Okay, yeah, see this
is why we don't have to There is no I
don't know anybody that's like me except for her.

Speaker 1 (47:08):
Oh, you guys are exactly like And I would say
Annaly's is similar to the two of you, But no,
the two of you are two peas in a pod.

Speaker 2 (47:16):
And that's why I don't like her. A lot of times.
Oh I love her I can't. I can't. I'm not
used to receiving what I'm used to.

Speaker 1 (47:23):
So she equips right back, that is, and I applaud it.

Speaker 4 (47:26):
Okay, go into the next one, don't or sorry, do
let the birthday girl or guy design the guest list.
So let your friend.

Speaker 1 (47:37):
Yeah, you should have a say as to who comes
to celebrate your birthday. Correct.

Speaker 4 (47:41):
Yes. I did have an issue with that with one
of my friends though, where they put us on a
group text and then left the group text. They're like,
this is who I want to invite, and then left
the group text and we're like you all planned from here?
Oh oh, which I don't know how I really felt
about it. I mean, it went fine, but it was
like kind of awkward in the moment because then everybody
was just awkwardly scrambling. You don't know half these people

(48:03):
who's taking lead. It's just kind of like, okay, why
is not.

Speaker 1 (48:07):
Oh I was going to say, you were at one
of my birthday parties. How about when someone who you
didn't invite and actually you said please, I only want
I don't want because if you invite this one person,
then it creates a whole other group of people who
feel like they got excluded. So how about when that
person comes to your birthday party uninvited? And TJ witnessed

(48:27):
this time. It was my forty third birthdays and I
still get hot thinking about it, thinking about it. Who
goes to a birthday party they weren't invited to.

Speaker 2 (48:40):
Please everybody, if any indication of not to do it.
This was eight years ago, and you heard her voice.
She's still hot. And I remember this other.

Speaker 1 (48:48):
Group of people who I didn't and I was again
I was paying for it. Oh I if I invited her,
then they all had to come to right because she
then I knew other people were going to find out
that she was at my birthday party.

Speaker 2 (49:02):
And then then they would say why wouldn't they?

Speaker 1 (49:05):
And then I just thought. And then the person who
said they were bringing her, I said no, please don't,
and they came anyway. Yeah, how about that?

Speaker 2 (49:12):
Okay, whoever's birthday it is should be in charge. They
should only have exactly who they want in the spot.
That's the bottom line. Okay.

Speaker 1 (49:18):
Yes.

Speaker 4 (49:19):
The next one is do tell people it's your birthday
if you want them to know. No one is a
mind reader. Remind people or put the big day on
your outlook calendar to subtly get the word out.

Speaker 2 (49:31):
So if it's your you need to remind people is
your birthday.

Speaker 4 (49:33):
They're saying that you can if you want to tell
people to feel confident if you think someone may forget
or kind of like when my mom text.

Speaker 1 (49:41):
Text with the look at how nice this resort was
to me, Yeah my birthday.

Speaker 2 (49:46):
Yeah, mama Robak, this is your fault.

Speaker 1 (49:49):
No, well, actually she did what you're supposed to do.
It's it's you gently remind me.

Speaker 2 (49:53):
It was like eleven o'clock at night. We need more
than that. I'm kidding. I was just out our fault.
But that's a weird one to remind people that's your birthday.

Speaker 1 (50:02):
If you want people to know what's your birthday, don't
expect them to remember, I guess is the point, right? Yeah?

Speaker 4 (50:08):
I think it helps with your clums not clumsy, but
maybe not as like mindful type like it's your birthday week.
It's it's just nice to like put the word out
in advance, like hey, it's my birthday this week or
what are we doing?

Speaker 1 (50:20):
Yeah, and it lets people know that it's important to you.

Speaker 2 (50:24):
Yeah.

Speaker 1 (50:26):
I can't imagine you doing that. Yeah, it would feel
it would feel sad, be like, it's my birthday today
and I just walking up the people's saying, you guys free,
anybody want to celebrate?

Speaker 2 (50:39):
I got you.

Speaker 4 (50:40):
But to that same point, I think it's kind of
weird if somebody did do that but they didn't tell you,
like a day or two and before, right, it'd be
weird if all of a sudden it was like your
birthday today, and I'd be like, oh, that's okay.

Speaker 2 (50:51):
You You should not have to send a text on
your own birthday. That should all be incoming.

Speaker 1 (50:55):
Yeah, yeah, that's true. You should be reading text not
sending them all right.

Speaker 4 (51:02):
The next one is don't assume how people plan to celebrate.
Not everybody wants to go crazy on their birthday, but
it's nice to check in to ask how the person
celebrating their birthday actually wants to celebrate.

Speaker 2 (51:14):
That's perfect because we would probably be the opposite. You
want a whole bunch of people around and jumping and
yelling and screaming and all this.

Speaker 1 (51:22):
So if it's that, it's more like music dancing.

Speaker 2 (51:24):
I just said jumping and yelling and screaming, that's what
music is.

Speaker 1 (51:27):
That's for white people.

Speaker 2 (51:29):
I didn't say that. I say you, I don't hang
out with any of other white people.

Speaker 1 (51:32):
Just not true.

Speaker 2 (51:35):
Well, all the white people you bring around, I'm kidding.

Speaker 1 (51:40):
There's no other way to dance to living on a
prayer other than to jump.

Speaker 2 (51:44):
That's actually true.

Speaker 1 (51:45):
Yeah, that's my favorite song.

Speaker 4 (51:57):
The next one is do own it if you forget
someone's birthday. Yep, you can apologize, but don't sweat it, okay, And.

Speaker 2 (52:06):
That's exactly what I told you. Yes, I said she's
going to be okay, that's nothing. There is no makeup there.
You can't no do good nor just let it be
what it is. I know you're upset, wait until you
talk to her, and it's going to be fine. Yeah,
that's true.

Speaker 4 (52:19):
And this last one is do think about how you
want to celebrate. If you're not a party animal, skip
the huge bash, think about what you want your ideal
day to look like, and then invite some friends along.

Speaker 2 (52:32):
That's it. I love that and I got that. That's
exactly exactly what I did. All I want to do
is be in the sun. I want to grill, I
want to cook. I want to have good drinks and
folks around me. I love. And that was it, but
just laid I don't like going out necessarily on my birthday.

Speaker 1 (52:48):
Yeah, well, I loved. I loved the week. I loved
the time we had with everyone, and I loved how
willing and happy you were surrounded by six girls. That
is a lot for most guys. So I applaud you
for I don't want to say tolerating it, but just
you know that that is that is but that is
a lot. That is a lot of women all in

(53:10):
one space around you. But you were It was a
blast from start to finish. It really was. And so
I loved what you requested because it just was perfect.
It was perfect like every like the girls were even
saying last night and they were just saying how much
fun they had and how great it was, and it
was just it was beautiful.

Speaker 2 (53:30):
So I thank you for it. I think it's being
that's sitting over there for and then Elise and Neva
and Montgomery and me for making a wonderful, wonderful trip.
So and it was it was another chapter and page
turner for us in this whole saga and relationship and
just family and life. It was a it was just
another marker of a moment. And so I thank you

(53:51):
for it. It was a great birthday. So thank you,
I love you. I love you too, baby, and thank
you Sabine. Wow, she just gave me deuces. She just
gave me deuces.

Speaker 1 (54:02):
I wonder where it's an attitude though, it's a way
of living. Yeah, it's just fun.

Speaker 2 (54:11):
Okay, folks, you know where to find us on our
official show page at Amy and TJ Podcast. We do
have something really special coming up. I think in a
couple of days. Our next episode is going to we
have Sabine in the room now because she's not necessarily
a guest on the show, even though she just wanted
to keep talking over there. But we have another very

(54:33):
special guest coming up on either tomorrow for our next
episode will feature a very special guest.

Speaker 1 (54:38):
Yes that's right, and stay tuned for that. But in
the meantime, you can find us on our official Instagram
page Amy and TJ Podcast.

Speaker 2 (54:45):
Just for Embasis, we wanted to say it again.

Speaker 3 (54:48):
All right, I'm going to stop now, have a great
day everyone.

Speaker 2 (55:00):
Do you think