September 12, 2025 • 30 mins
Angie Martinez and executive producer Brittany Ortiz recap the week including Angie’s interview with singer Keri Hilson and more. Later Angie invites the In Real Life podcast crew to answer the In Real Life bowl questions that the show’s guests regularly answer. Angie looks ahead at her upcoming interview with Cardi B.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
This episode of IRL podcast is powered by boost Mobile.
Hi Everybody, it is Asghebartinez IRL this week checking in
al what's been happening with us this week? We dropped
Carrie Hillston this week, which was lovely. Carrie has been
I don't know, away for over a decade, over a decade,
could you imagine? And of that decade, she's probably spent
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five years and that in a deep depression. I thought
that her conversation about depression was interesting because I don't know,
she just paint the picture so well of what that
feels like. I think depression is different for everybody, but
I don't know, I don't know. Something about the way
she described it to me, I could see her. I
could see her in that place in that time. You know,
sometimes people are just like, oh, yeah, I was depressed,
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And something about the way she said it, it's almost
like I could I could see it on her. And
the fact that she's able to get up from that
is is Uh.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
She seems like she's in in a good space right,
Like she's like super happy and good. Anyway, I hope
everybody else is there is good and I hope people
who maybe are having a hard time could see something
in that that maybe maybe makes you, I don't know,
just gives you hope that there's We are not encouraging
anybody to do mushrooms, which is one of the things carried.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Fed got around me. But hey, that's your choice. But
we had the IROL podcast Canno neither prefer nor deny
nor deny that it's helpfold for you or helpful in
any way. She did say she did therapy, she tapped
into her spirituality. She said she did a lot of
work aside from that. But she did think that the
mushrooms helped her with the depression, which was interesting. But
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there's a lot going on in the world right now.
What were we just talking about before we got on. Oh,
first of all, my nieces had a baby. The Marius
had the baby good time. His name is nas nas
se Her so New York. Oh my god, I love it.
It's so cute. Anyway, it made me think about something
and I've been using I keep seeing her little baby
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because she sent me the picture of the baby when
delivered it. And I keep thinking about this thing about
when you deliver a baby into the world, when you
cook a baby in your body for nine months, sometimes more.
And then you are introduced the baby to the world,
right and how you you know, you protect it and
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you want to give it the best everything possibility and
energy and all that stuff. And so we have a
friend who just launched a business and we and he
was like, he's like worried about all the details of
like the launch and this and that, and he was
stressed and this energy that he was having on him,
I was I was like, first of all, you are
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introducing something new to the world. I don't need you
to fix your energy and how you're putting something new
into the world so that it could be received in
the manner that you wanted to be received. And so
we had that little chat with a friend of ours.
But I honestly do the same thing. So I'm making
fun of him, but I honestly have done that. Sometimes
you you want something to do well, you're working on
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a project for a long time, or your whatever it is,
you're moving into a new home, or you're planning a
birthday party for a loved one, or you're shooting your
first short film, or you're shooting your first short film,
and so you get caught up in the work and
the nuance and the frustration of the things that you
know are hard and they're just hard, and sometimes you
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have to check yourself and make sure that the energy
that you're it's not just the energy you're putting into
whatever it is you're releasing or putting into the world.
It's also the energy that you're teaching everybody what type
of energy to put on your project or your thing.
Same way you bring a baby into the world, you
don't want to bring a baby into the world screaming
and yelling and rolling your eyes and the poor little
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baby's just getting started. He's looking at you, like, what
the hell, what is this? So anything you put in
the world, whether it's work or a new version of
yourself or how you show up, I just think to
be super mindful and careful about your energy because it
really is infectious. It really teaches people how to respond
(04:02):
to you. It teaches people how to respond to whatever
your offering is. And I just think that's something we
need to remind ourselves all the time, because it's very easy.
We do it too. We'll work especially on the short
and things weren't going exactly right. Yeah, yeah, I was
really mindful that day, Like I was even when we
were shooting, I was mindful, like, okay, even in frustration moments,
you shake it off, you go go, and then people
(04:24):
would be like, how did it go? Yeah, And I
was honest in the fact that they want kick my ass,
and I would say that they want kick my ass.
But it was great. You know what I'm saying. The energy,
you gotta still give it love energy, good energy. Even
you could be honest and be like, man, some stuff
was hard, but the energy you put on it, it
really is infectious. Imagine I will go around and people
be like, yo, how did it go, And I'm like, oh,
(04:45):
it wasn't bad. It was bad. It's even like and
everybody goes off and tells everybody, oh, she said it
was bad. You know what I'm saying. I'm just that's
an example of just anything you put out there, like
watch your energy. You know what I'm saying. It's a
real real thing.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
It's like you ever have those friends that are like
the life of the party, friends so or whenever you
see them, it's just that makes you happy.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
There's like people like that too. They want to be
around me. Yes, if you want to be around.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
I can't wait to look forward to see that one
frame because I know we're just going to have We're
going to bring good.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
And my friend Clark was like that recipieces J Clark
can't every time I saw Clark, I'd be I'd just
be happy immediately because he always gave me good energy.
He was always happy to see me, so his energy
towards me and made me feel happy to be like,
oh my god, you know what I mean, I would
feel like it's so it's the exact thing that we're
(05:37):
talking about. How somebody receives you is what you're going
to give back all the time, and even in like
work projects, especially if you're in school and you're doing
an essay or you got to read a speech, like
what energy are you giving off? It's so important. I
know it sounds cliche when they're like, yo, she had
good energy. He had good It's all about energy and vibes,
(06:01):
but also there is something real about it, like and
I'm really just trying to frame it in a way
that you could hear me, because it can be the
difference between something being successful and not successful, or somebody
liking you or not liking you. Not that we care
before everybody likes us, but like it could be the
difference in how somebody receives whatever you are bringing.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
It definitely being what's my I love the term personality
higher and being the person that brings the good vibes
is like it's a thing. Yes, it's a very valuable currency.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
There is no way we make a podcast like this
if every single person on this set had a bad
energy and a bad vibe, I couldn't. I couldn't talk
to people and people feel comfortable and people open up.
If when you walk in the door somebody's like, you
know what I'm saying, or like or whatever, stink like
any of that, it can't happen. It can't happen. I've
(06:56):
definitely removed people from probably good people, probably people who
are good at what their job. But if your energy
is off, I can't do it because it's not just
me fucking up. You're like fucking up system, the whole ecosystem.
It's really a real thing. So that is the message
for today. Fix your face, get your energy right, and
(07:17):
make sure that however you're presenting yourself, your business, your work,
your whatever your offering is how you show up for
your kids. Make sure you know we have long days,
we'd be tired. Sometimes your little kid comes home like
look what I did, mommy, And you're like what, think
about how that far?
Speaker 3 (07:33):
If you don't have kids, your partner at the end
and the day you're looking at you like and they're
like hey baby, You're like.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
Now, listen, we're all human. We don't get to write
every single one of the times. But I think being
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talking about the IRL team, I would like to thank
(08:46):
the IRL team because we did something interesting this week
in IRL and we made the team go in the bowl.
We should show you a little bts of our team
inside the IRL Bowl. We don't ask our guests to
do anything we don't do ourselves.
Speaker 4 (09:03):
Getting the bowl.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
We're getting the bowl. Have fun. I'm so nervous. There's
like some like more tame ones in there. There's more
tame ones. It's been a minute. Okay, oh interesting, Okay.
I didn't realize I was strong until the deep one. Well,
(09:28):
I think I guess the theory is right, Like there's
levels too strong. Okay. Fair. I would say fair.
Speaker 5 (09:34):
Because I think growing up as an athlete, I had
to learn pretty often early that I was strong because
a girl playing against boys, that whole thing I played,
I scould play tackle football.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
And when I was six, it wasn't like flag like,
it was like full tackle.
Speaker 5 (09:50):
Yeah, full tackle. So that was early one. But I
think like as a woman, as an adult, I would
say probably when I first started working in this industry
and realized what being an outsider would do to my
my progression, and how much harder and tougher I had
to be to compete against the folks I was competing
(10:12):
against mentally, mentally, emotionally. Don't let them see you cry.
They're gonna try to break you down, but you just
gotta keep keep keep rolling.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
M mm hmmm, mm hmm. This is this is me
going into the ball. Is this what I'm doing? Wow?
Speaker 4 (10:33):
Yeah, okay, we're getting into it.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
Sorry, I know this is our episode.
Speaker 6 (10:42):
M I.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
Oh God, give me something that I can eloquently answer.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
Okay, this one is.
Speaker 4 (10:53):
If you tell me to figure.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
About it, I'm gonna do what the yes do, which
is picking.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Pick until you like one. There's there's a specific what
I'm want because you know the bull, so what you're
looking for? I created the ball. Okay, this was the
first one I had. What is the fear that you're
actively working through? How dramatic? Oh my gosh, everybody says this.
(11:26):
It's not original, it's imposter syndrome.
Speaker 3 (11:29):
Yeah, when you're doing something for the first time, you're like,
can I just not completely ship the bed?
Speaker 1 (11:35):
Can I just? Can I not? Can I not just
face plant? But then I'm always like my own Devil's advocate,
and it's like if I do so what, I'll be
doing it next time. Yeah exactly. I woke up tomorrow
and be like, I'll try again.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
If I really liked it, I'll try it again and
again and again and again and again.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
That's my fear.
Speaker 5 (11:56):
Yeah, that's real though, re alternating.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Yeah, okay, can you stop a break? Oh this was long?
Speaker 5 (12:08):
Oh no, this was long to pick my own Okay,
what are two things you absolutely need in a partner
and why do they matter so much to you?
Speaker 1 (12:21):
I better? I better get this right or fiance is
gonna be mad at me.
Speaker 5 (12:27):
Let's see two things I absolutely needed a partner and
why do they matter so much?
Speaker 1 (12:32):
I would say the first one.
Speaker 5 (12:37):
Safe space, like you know, we gotta be tough sometimes,
we gotta be like we're saying the last one, we
gotta be tough sometimes. Yeah, And I can be every
version of myself with her, and that's what's up. So
I can be soft, that can be tough, I can
be whatever. So I would say that number one, and
then number two.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
Gotta make me laugh. We gotta have we gotta be
able to have fun.
Speaker 5 (12:56):
We gotta be able to be We gotta be able
to have fun because we can't always be.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
This life is too serious.
Speaker 5 (13:01):
So if I can't have fun with anybody, it's just
not gonna work.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
That's why you're getting married. That's what.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
Yeah, exactly, that's why you're getting married.
Speaker 4 (13:08):
It is.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
I want a light one my gosh, heavy day, yo.
Please can't you ask me who should pay first on
the first day? Like, oh sorry, I can't do that one.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
Not a parent, best parenting advice you've ever gotten, baby, Okay,
I'm not a parent, but whenever I would tell.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
My dad, me and my dad are Thinkest Steeves. There's
nobody closer than me and my dad. And he when
I would.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
As I got as you get older, your relationship with
your parents changes and you kind of like parent them
in a way. And I started telling my dad all
the stuff that I was like, you did.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
This wrong and I didn't appreciate this. Thinking, you know,
I'm become an adult.
Speaker 3 (13:51):
You start thinking you know everything, and he goes, he goes,
He shut me down like this, He goes.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
You know, there's no handbook to this, and I'm trying
the best.
Speaker 4 (14:00):
From what I got.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
And I was like, I'm tired you.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
So to my friends that have kids, I'm like, yo,
just do the best of what you've got.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Yeah, that's you love them, you love We'll tell the
iron bold gods. That does that mean? Does that mean
she has to do a third one? Is that this
is the graveyard here? Oh? Yeah, for sure, for sure
(14:32):
I can. Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 3 (14:36):
This was like, yay, finally, what do you do to
decompress after a long day?
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (14:50):
I went to Japan and in my I learned that
in the hotel room that I had, all of the
hotel rooms had these foot massages.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
So that's my new joint. Now whenever I get home,
I'd be like, pop them sneakers out.
Speaker 3 (15:01):
I must go right fifteen minutes in a little and
if it helps me get I might be like I'm
at home.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
I'm resetting at home.
Speaker 5 (15:09):
Especially down here on your feet all day.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
Fact. Fact, anybody down for a ball? You want to
get to switch the camera. Come give me the camera,
give me the camera, keep calling, well, no, come Ryan,
come in the ball, coming the ball coming ball.
Speaker 5 (15:27):
Yeah, come on, yeah, yeah, welcome, Welcome to the ball life.
Speaker 7 (15:35):
You know it's super early, right, so just go.
Speaker 4 (15:42):
Through it whatever you want. How are we looking?
Speaker 7 (15:49):
What is your biggest challenge in your life?
Speaker 1 (15:53):
The bulls hand hard, the bulls hand hard, but great.
Speaker 7 (16:01):
My biggest challenge in my life, I feel like trying
to find something that I'm very like drawn to, but
staying consistent with it, and then just trying to also
impress like like real relatives, like you know, trying to
show them that you know, I could put the effort
in and just to like you know, believe in me.
So yeah, not trying to let nobody down. I feel
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like that's like my biggest challenge.
Speaker 4 (16:24):
Wo.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Yeah, that's that's good though. That's good.
Speaker 4 (16:29):
That's good.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
No more, he's just getting warmed up. Now, you're just
getting warmed up.
Speaker 4 (16:35):
That was good, all right?
Speaker 6 (16:37):
Let me see.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
Yeah see I'm too sure about that that.
Speaker 7 (16:43):
I was definitely honest.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Oh okay.
Speaker 7 (16:47):
Is there a moment that made you believe in divine
toming divine Tommy?
Speaker 1 (16:55):
I feel like.
Speaker 7 (16:57):
When I got an opportunity to go to extreme University,
I feel like it kind of like opened my eyes
to like like being a camera man for like the
biggest content creator like right now for Casonet. That like
kind of opened my eyes on like, oh, You're finally
in like something you really wanted to do in your life.
So it like kind of pushes me to like keep
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going because it's like connections like networking. I love networking.
So it's like I feel like it really drove like
my passions to network even more. But like showing like
all the effort I put in, you know, it's worth
it right now. So it's like it made me really
feel like I'm in it and you know watching it
you know like on YouTube writing thing, I'm actually physically
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there now. So it's like now I'm seeing people like
do clips of me while I'm recording.
Speaker 4 (17:44):
So it's just funny.
Speaker 6 (17:46):
But let's go, let's go. I thank you. Actually it's
a little scarce.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
I was a little all right. I thought about for Brittany.
For Brittany, well, we're still recording. You have to get
well here you go. Thank you. Oh my uh.
Speaker 3 (18:21):
If God were to text you right now, what would
it say.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
Boy episodes You've never thought to you what I would Well,
it changes all the time the day or just what's
going on life?
Speaker 3 (18:37):
And lately it's changes every day lately, it changes every
day today.
Speaker 1 (18:45):
I don't remember going over right there? Yeah it is.
It is the text from God. What does it say?
Oh girl, you b I that?
Speaker 3 (19:02):
Yeah, cur By, it's gonna be fine.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
I like it.
Speaker 3 (19:08):
Whatever your brain is talking about, just just quiet, just
shut quieting down.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
It's a lot of thinking. Just just be just me.
So I was so good because we do another one
because Roger, who's behind the camera and doing Roger, will
you come to a bowl? Question whether Roger Roger rock?
No pressure?
Speaker 4 (19:33):
No pressure? So is this the microphone here?
Speaker 1 (19:37):
This is the microphone? Your lighting is okay, you feel.
Speaker 4 (19:41):
I actually feel really good about the lighting. So I
like your face. So I like your blue jacket today.
It just looks really awesome.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
So let's into the bowl for you, sir.
Speaker 4 (19:51):
Cool awesome bts so nervous.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
This is the behind the scenes crew.
Speaker 4 (19:57):
Oh okay, best apparenting you've ever gotten. A parent? I
am a parent of two kids. Yeah yeah, I have
a three year old girl named Islah and then a
boy who just turned one. Wow, So yeah, I got
to You.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
Never got to talk about your family because you're always
there quiet behind the camera.
Speaker 4 (20:15):
You know, I try to keep to myself and just
make sure things look good. Thank you.
Speaker 1 (20:19):
Oh, we appreciate your work.
Speaker 4 (20:20):
Yeah, thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
Okay, so what is the best parenting advice?
Speaker 4 (20:22):
Wow, I mean I'm trying to think. I don't know.
I don't I mean, I don't even know if I've
ever had anyone be like here here's some advice. But
I'm I'm sure I have gotten some good advice. I
mean maybe your wife is or yeah, I mean, oh yeah, actually,
actually my wife gives me advice all the time. I
(20:43):
mean probably just patience and listening is probably like the
best advice. Then not a thing, No, it's not. It
takes a lot of time and a lot of practice.
So yeah, I'm still working on it. Has that going
pretty good? Yeah, yea, yeah definitely, Because I mean my
kids are really young and they're doing their thing and
they're still figuring out the world. Then they might not
do something that you want them to do and you
(21:04):
just but you kind of just have to let it
go and be patient. And because they're figuring it out.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
Yeah, so yeah, good dash.
Speaker 4 (21:11):
Yeah, thank you, thank you, Rod appreciate it. Thank thank you.
We do.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
I don't know what's happening with the camera while you're
not here.
Speaker 4 (21:18):
I'm gonna get back.
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but you get a new one, all right? Fine? Oh rush,
oh okay, right, all right, so I'll finish out the
round with a bowl question today. I feel like this
is out of I RL this week. No, oh, absolutely not.
(22:52):
I have no offering for that. HM thinking what is
something that you used to be embarrassed about?
Speaker 3 (23:03):
I like this one for you that you now own.
I like this one for you. You do, Yeah, you
gotta think. I like when you gotta think, what was
I embarrassed about that I now own?
Speaker 1 (23:15):
I think I own a lot of my shit. So
that's hard for me, but doesn't mean you still don't
get embarrassed. It's like it goes back to what keeps
coming up as a theme lately for us on RURL,
it's like, uh, sometimes I would do things that I
didn't really want to do, you know what I mean.
And because I don't want people to think I'm a
bad person, I'm not a good friend, or I'm not
(23:37):
a or I'm not whatever. I just would have a
little bit of insecurity about having to prove that I
was whatever fill in the blank, you know, just like
I know I'm a good person. I do know that,
but you want other people to know it or think it,
And so I would be worried about letting people down.
I guess it's the better question where is now? But
(24:03):
that's different. That's not an embarrassment. That's just like I
think it's just a character shift that I've just recently had.
So it's like similar, like I less care about making
people think I'm a good person, so I get likes.
You have less anxiety about letting people down. Yes, so
it is a thing that I have let go of
in a weird way. That's why I said it's a
(24:24):
little complex. It's like an offshoot of embarrassment. It sounds
like a small thing, but it's such a big thing.
It really has lifted a load off of me, Like
I am lighter because of it, Like I feel actually
this big age, I actually feel lighter. And this just
happened like this past year. It's a new, brand new thing.
Speaker 3 (24:44):
Do you think, though you like people, it's better that
you went through the phase of like caring though, because
it's like when you learn how to drive, Like you
learn all the.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
Rules, so then you become a master at them and
then you can break them a little bit. I feel
like if you didn't even reverse just been massholes. Yeah,
I don't care about anybody. Yeah, you know, I care
people too much, and then you have to like pull
back and save yourself first, right now, excitingly probably right now,
it's ably right. And as much shit as I talk,
I still care for sure. I still be like, oh
(25:15):
I heard that person's feelings, so we make sure they understand.
I still do that type of stuff. But I'm just
a little freer about taking care of myself first. It's
a small shift, a little baby shift makes a big
difference in life. That makes a big difference. No, just
the weight you carry, yeah, like if you carry that
(25:35):
weight all day, if you just if I have to
carry this deck of cards everywhere I go, right. And
then this year I learned how to take away this
many after you walk ten miles, that shit feels different.
I never want those cards again. I'm just saying, even
the light a little bit of a low it goes
sometimes it could go a long way. So I don't
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know if that was too common. You know, this is
why I don't need to do. That's why I don't
need to be in the damn ball to when you
left with it. But you understand what I mean, guys. Anyway,
So in real life, what is the thing maybe you
could let go? Maybe there's the thing, What is the
thing that is weighing you down that if you just
take a little you don't have to o d and
lose it all? Like, what is the thing you can
(26:17):
just lighten the load on yourself a little bit about?
You know what I'm saying. Maybe that's something for you
guys to think about. What is something you could take
out of your backpack that you're carrying around all day
every day like that you don't need it. Shit you
don't need. I'm not saying get rid of stuff that
you need, responsibility, morality, things that you need in the backpack. Yes,
(26:39):
but maybe there's some things in that back like you
don't really need them and you could take it out
and enlighten your load. Maybe that's something that we could
think about. Got it this week?
Speaker 4 (26:46):
You know?
Speaker 1 (26:47):
You see what I did there? Cringing around town. I
love a promo. That was great for a promo. Sorry, go,
I'm trying to think of mine that I could something
I could take, but figure it out in around time.
Right now, in real life is something you could take
out of your backpack. I'm not gonna got a buffer
on that. I like that for you. Anything else happened
(27:09):
this week that we should review here? Oh no, I'm
excited about next week's episode. I will tell you that.
Who do we have? Next week? Cardi bus next week Carti?
I'm excited about for so many reasons. She's just such
a complicated little cookie. She's so like, there's so much
in that little tiny body of hers. There's like the
super funny. She's like Carol Burnette, funny, like funny. I
(27:31):
know that's a very old school reference. Well insert for
Ryan does not even know who Carol Burnett is. No,
he does not know. I've literally only learned from her, so,
you know, like Lucy Olleball. You know I love Lucy right, Yes,
it's like these are of that caliber of comedian I think. Yeah,
(27:53):
I think Cardi is funny like that to me, I
think so. But also she's small, art and complicated. Yeah,
and I don't know, has many facts I want to say,
like one foot in here and another foot here, but
it's like ten feet in different things and then different
(28:15):
personalities and in different worlds. You know, It's like, I
don't know how interesting she moves around such an interesting way.
The way she handled that core case was like different
than any other person that we would see in that
same situation. You know what I'm saying, Like nobody would
have handled that the way she did it with like
(28:35):
comedy but realness but wigs. No, I'm just being like,
you know what I'm saying, like all those levels like
why only Cardi is Cardi and so and yeah, so
I don't know what the I don't even haven't even
wrapped my brain around what we're going to get into
that week, but I think whatever it is, it'll be great.
And yeah, I'm excited. I'm excited for this season of
(28:58):
her life now where she's getting ready to put me
out and and she just seems like she's having fun
her on the sidewalk and Harlem or whatever, she was
selling seats in the street, like she's having fun. It's
like kind of like what we talked about. Oh my god.
This is a perfect example to bring a full circle
to the back to the beginning of this episode, and
she talk about how you deliver something and how you
roll something out, how it lands for people. Her energy
(29:21):
being out by my taste by everybody's like, oh go Cardi,
because it's fun and she's having fun and she's giving
it to us. This energy of that. If she was like, yeah,
my album, you know, trying to stress out the business
and the music industry, you know what I mean, it
ain't the same, and these two streams, you'd be like, Okay,
Cardi's albums coming out, cool, great, you would feel differently
(29:43):
about it. And the energy in which she has presented it,
the energy which she showed up in that court, just
it just draws you to her like she's she's really
to me, have I don't know, in a good space.
Her energy is like on that level. So hopefully we
can get into all that next week and yeah, you'll
meet us right back here. Oh and we did have
(30:04):
as we go out because we, like I said, we're
gonna be doing more of these, more of these, hopefully
with you guys. You can join us on these. We
did have a couple of people, a couple of I
r L fans. I don't want to call them the
fans listener, sounds crazy Iro family, Irol family that have
reached out and they went in the bowl. So we're
gonna leave you with that. On this week's Edge, Martina
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is in real life. Hey guys, thanks for watching. Make
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Hi Everybody, it is Asghebartinez IRL this week checking in
al what's been happening with us this week? We dropped
Carrie Hillston this week, which was lovely. Carrie has been
I don't know, away for over a decade, over a decade,
could you imagine? And of that decade, she's probably spent
(00:28):
five years and that in a deep depression. I thought
that her conversation about depression was interesting because I don't know,
she just paint the picture so well of what that
feels like. I think depression is different for everybody, but
I don't know, I don't know. Something about the way
she described it to me, I could see her. I
could see her in that place in that time. You know,
sometimes people are just like, oh, yeah, I was depressed,
(00:50):
And something about the way she said it, it's almost
like I could I could see it on her. And
the fact that she's able to get up from that
is is Uh.
Speaker 2 (01:01):
She seems like she's in in a good space right,
Like she's like super happy and good. Anyway, I hope
everybody else is there is good and I hope people
who maybe are having a hard time could see something
in that that maybe maybe makes you, I don't know,
just gives you hope that there's We are not encouraging
anybody to do mushrooms, which is one of the things carried.
Speaker 1 (01:18):
Fed got around me. But hey, that's your choice. But
we had the IROL podcast Canno neither prefer nor deny
nor deny that it's helpfold for you or helpful in
any way. She did say she did therapy, she tapped
into her spirituality. She said she did a lot of
work aside from that. But she did think that the
mushrooms helped her with the depression, which was interesting. But
(01:38):
there's a lot going on in the world right now.
What were we just talking about before we got on. Oh,
first of all, my nieces had a baby. The Marius
had the baby good time. His name is nas nas
se Her so New York. Oh my god, I love it.
It's so cute. Anyway, it made me think about something
and I've been using I keep seeing her little baby
(01:58):
because she sent me the picture of the baby when
delivered it. And I keep thinking about this thing about
when you deliver a baby into the world, when you
cook a baby in your body for nine months, sometimes more.
And then you are introduced the baby to the world,
right and how you you know, you protect it and
(02:19):
you want to give it the best everything possibility and
energy and all that stuff. And so we have a
friend who just launched a business and we and he
was like, he's like worried about all the details of
like the launch and this and that, and he was
stressed and this energy that he was having on him,
I was I was like, first of all, you are
(02:39):
introducing something new to the world. I don't need you
to fix your energy and how you're putting something new
into the world so that it could be received in
the manner that you wanted to be received. And so
we had that little chat with a friend of ours.
But I honestly do the same thing. So I'm making
fun of him, but I honestly have done that. Sometimes
you you want something to do well, you're working on
(02:59):
a project for a long time, or your whatever it is,
you're moving into a new home, or you're planning a
birthday party for a loved one, or you're shooting your
first short film, or you're shooting your first short film,
and so you get caught up in the work and
the nuance and the frustration of the things that you
know are hard and they're just hard, and sometimes you
(03:21):
have to check yourself and make sure that the energy
that you're it's not just the energy you're putting into
whatever it is you're releasing or putting into the world.
It's also the energy that you're teaching everybody what type
of energy to put on your project or your thing.
Same way you bring a baby into the world, you
don't want to bring a baby into the world screaming
and yelling and rolling your eyes and the poor little
(03:42):
baby's just getting started. He's looking at you, like, what
the hell, what is this? So anything you put in
the world, whether it's work or a new version of
yourself or how you show up, I just think to
be super mindful and careful about your energy because it
really is infectious. It really teaches people how to respond
(04:02):
to you. It teaches people how to respond to whatever
your offering is. And I just think that's something we
need to remind ourselves all the time, because it's very easy.
We do it too. We'll work especially on the short
and things weren't going exactly right. Yeah, yeah, I was
really mindful that day, Like I was even when we
were shooting, I was mindful, like, okay, even in frustration moments,
you shake it off, you go go, and then people
(04:24):
would be like, how did it go? Yeah, And I
was honest in the fact that they want kick my ass,
and I would say that they want kick my ass.
But it was great. You know what I'm saying. The energy,
you gotta still give it love energy, good energy. Even
you could be honest and be like, man, some stuff
was hard, but the energy you put on it, it
really is infectious. Imagine I will go around and people
be like, yo, how did it go, And I'm like, oh,
(04:45):
it wasn't bad. It was bad. It's even like and
everybody goes off and tells everybody, oh, she said it
was bad. You know what I'm saying. I'm just that's
an example of just anything you put out there, like
watch your energy. You know what I'm saying. It's a
real real thing.
Speaker 3 (05:02):
It's like you ever have those friends that are like
the life of the party, friends so or whenever you
see them, it's just that makes you happy.
Speaker 1 (05:08):
There's like people like that too. They want to be
around me. Yes, if you want to be around.
Speaker 3 (05:12):
I can't wait to look forward to see that one
frame because I know we're just going to have We're
going to bring good.
Speaker 1 (05:17):
And my friend Clark was like that recipieces J Clark
can't every time I saw Clark, I'd be I'd just
be happy immediately because he always gave me good energy.
He was always happy to see me, so his energy
towards me and made me feel happy to be like,
oh my god, you know what I mean, I would
feel like it's so it's the exact thing that we're
(05:37):
talking about. How somebody receives you is what you're going
to give back all the time, and even in like
work projects, especially if you're in school and you're doing
an essay or you got to read a speech, like
what energy are you giving off? It's so important. I
know it sounds cliche when they're like, yo, she had
good energy. He had good It's all about energy and vibes,
(06:01):
but also there is something real about it, like and
I'm really just trying to frame it in a way
that you could hear me, because it can be the
difference between something being successful and not successful, or somebody
liking you or not liking you. Not that we care
before everybody likes us, but like it could be the
difference in how somebody receives whatever you are bringing.
Speaker 3 (06:24):
It definitely being what's my I love the term personality
higher and being the person that brings the good vibes
is like it's a thing. Yes, it's a very valuable currency.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
There is no way we make a podcast like this
if every single person on this set had a bad
energy and a bad vibe, I couldn't. I couldn't talk
to people and people feel comfortable and people open up.
If when you walk in the door somebody's like, you
know what I'm saying, or like or whatever, stink like
any of that, it can't happen. It can't happen. I've
(06:56):
definitely removed people from probably good people, probably people who
are good at what their job. But if your energy
is off, I can't do it because it's not just
me fucking up. You're like fucking up system, the whole ecosystem.
It's really a real thing. So that is the message
for today. Fix your face, get your energy right, and
(07:17):
make sure that however you're presenting yourself, your business, your work,
your whatever your offering is how you show up for
your kids. Make sure you know we have long days,
we'd be tired. Sometimes your little kid comes home like
look what I did, mommy, And you're like what, think
about how that far?
Speaker 3 (07:33):
If you don't have kids, your partner at the end
and the day you're looking at you like and they're
like hey baby, You're like.
Speaker 1 (07:42):
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talking about the IRL team, I would like to thank
(08:46):
the IRL team because we did something interesting this week
in IRL and we made the team go in the bowl.
We should show you a little bts of our team
inside the IRL Bowl. We don't ask our guests to
do anything we don't do ourselves.
Speaker 4 (09:03):
Getting the bowl.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
We're getting the bowl. Have fun. I'm so nervous. There's
like some like more tame ones in there. There's more
tame ones. It's been a minute. Okay, oh interesting, Okay.
I didn't realize I was strong until the deep one. Well,
(09:28):
I think I guess the theory is right, Like there's
levels too strong. Okay. Fair. I would say fair.
Speaker 5 (09:34):
Because I think growing up as an athlete, I had
to learn pretty often early that I was strong because
a girl playing against boys, that whole thing I played,
I scould play tackle football.
Speaker 3 (09:43):
And when I was six, it wasn't like flag like,
it was like full tackle.
Speaker 5 (09:50):
Yeah, full tackle. So that was early one. But I
think like as a woman, as an adult, I would
say probably when I first started working in this industry
and realized what being an outsider would do to my
my progression, and how much harder and tougher I had
to be to compete against the folks I was competing
(10:12):
against mentally, mentally, emotionally. Don't let them see you cry.
They're gonna try to break you down, but you just
gotta keep keep keep rolling.
Speaker 1 (10:20):
M mm hmmm, mm hmm. This is this is me
going into the ball. Is this what I'm doing? Wow?
Speaker 4 (10:33):
Yeah, okay, we're getting into it.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
Sorry, I know this is our episode.
Speaker 6 (10:42):
M I.
Speaker 3 (10:43):
Oh God, give me something that I can eloquently answer.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
Okay, this one is.
Speaker 4 (10:53):
If you tell me to figure.
Speaker 3 (10:53):
About it, I'm gonna do what the yes do, which
is picking.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Pick until you like one. There's there's a specific what
I'm want because you know the bull, so what you're
looking for? I created the ball. Okay, this was the
first one I had. What is the fear that you're
actively working through? How dramatic? Oh my gosh, everybody says this.
(11:26):
It's not original, it's imposter syndrome.
Speaker 3 (11:29):
Yeah, when you're doing something for the first time, you're like,
can I just not completely ship the bed?
Speaker 1 (11:35):
Can I just? Can I not? Can I not just
face plant? But then I'm always like my own Devil's advocate,
and it's like if I do so what, I'll be
doing it next time. Yeah exactly. I woke up tomorrow
and be like, I'll try again.
Speaker 3 (11:51):
If I really liked it, I'll try it again and
again and again and again and again.
Speaker 1 (11:55):
That's my fear.
Speaker 5 (11:56):
Yeah, that's real though, re alternating.
Speaker 1 (12:01):
Yeah, okay, can you stop a break? Oh this was long?
Speaker 5 (12:08):
Oh no, this was long to pick my own Okay,
what are two things you absolutely need in a partner
and why do they matter so much to you?
Speaker 1 (12:21):
I better? I better get this right or fiance is
gonna be mad at me.
Speaker 5 (12:27):
Let's see two things I absolutely needed a partner and
why do they matter so much?
Speaker 1 (12:32):
I would say the first one.
Speaker 5 (12:37):
Safe space, like you know, we gotta be tough sometimes,
we gotta be like we're saying the last one, we
gotta be tough sometimes. Yeah, And I can be every
version of myself with her, and that's what's up. So
I can be soft, that can be tough, I can
be whatever. So I would say that number one, and
then number two.
Speaker 1 (12:54):
Gotta make me laugh. We gotta have we gotta be
able to have fun.
Speaker 5 (12:56):
We gotta be able to be We gotta be able
to have fun because we can't always be.
Speaker 1 (13:00):
This life is too serious.
Speaker 5 (13:01):
So if I can't have fun with anybody, it's just
not gonna work.
Speaker 1 (13:03):
That's why you're getting married. That's what.
Speaker 3 (13:05):
Yeah, exactly, that's why you're getting married.
Speaker 4 (13:08):
It is.
Speaker 1 (13:14):
I want a light one my gosh, heavy day, yo.
Please can't you ask me who should pay first on
the first day? Like, oh sorry, I can't do that one.
Speaker 3 (13:27):
Not a parent, best parenting advice you've ever gotten, baby, Okay,
I'm not a parent, but whenever I would tell.
Speaker 1 (13:34):
My dad, me and my dad are Thinkest Steeves. There's
nobody closer than me and my dad. And he when
I would.
Speaker 3 (13:41):
As I got as you get older, your relationship with
your parents changes and you kind of like parent them
in a way. And I started telling my dad all
the stuff that I was like, you did.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
This wrong and I didn't appreciate this. Thinking, you know,
I'm become an adult.
Speaker 3 (13:51):
You start thinking you know everything, and he goes, he goes,
He shut me down like this, He goes.
Speaker 1 (13:57):
You know, there's no handbook to this, and I'm trying
the best.
Speaker 4 (14:00):
From what I got.
Speaker 1 (14:01):
And I was like, I'm tired you.
Speaker 3 (14:06):
So to my friends that have kids, I'm like, yo,
just do the best of what you've got.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Yeah, that's you love them, you love We'll tell the
iron bold gods. That does that mean? Does that mean
she has to do a third one? Is that this
is the graveyard here? Oh? Yeah, for sure, for sure
(14:32):
I can. Okay, okay, okay.
Speaker 3 (14:36):
This was like, yay, finally, what do you do to
decompress after a long day?
Speaker 1 (14:49):
Oh?
Speaker 3 (14:50):
I went to Japan and in my I learned that
in the hotel room that I had, all of the
hotel rooms had these foot massages.
Speaker 1 (14:57):
So that's my new joint. Now whenever I get home,
I'd be like, pop them sneakers out.
Speaker 3 (15:01):
I must go right fifteen minutes in a little and
if it helps me get I might be like I'm
at home.
Speaker 1 (15:08):
I'm resetting at home.
Speaker 5 (15:09):
Especially down here on your feet all day.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
Fact. Fact, anybody down for a ball? You want to
get to switch the camera. Come give me the camera,
give me the camera, keep calling, well, no, come Ryan,
come in the ball, coming the ball coming ball.
Speaker 5 (15:27):
Yeah, come on, yeah, yeah, welcome, Welcome to the ball life.
Speaker 7 (15:35):
You know it's super early, right, so just go.
Speaker 4 (15:42):
Through it whatever you want. How are we looking?
Speaker 7 (15:49):
What is your biggest challenge in your life?
Speaker 1 (15:53):
The bulls hand hard, the bulls hand hard, but great.
Speaker 7 (16:01):
My biggest challenge in my life, I feel like trying
to find something that I'm very like drawn to, but
staying consistent with it, and then just trying to also
impress like like real relatives, like you know, trying to
show them that you know, I could put the effort
in and just to like you know, believe in me.
So yeah, not trying to let nobody down. I feel
(16:23):
like that's like my biggest challenge.
Speaker 4 (16:24):
Wo.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
Yeah, that's that's good though. That's good.
Speaker 4 (16:29):
That's good.
Speaker 1 (16:31):
No more, he's just getting warmed up. Now, you're just
getting warmed up.
Speaker 4 (16:35):
That was good, all right?
Speaker 6 (16:37):
Let me see.
Speaker 1 (16:39):
Yeah see I'm too sure about that that.
Speaker 7 (16:43):
I was definitely honest.
Speaker 1 (16:47):
Oh okay.
Speaker 7 (16:47):
Is there a moment that made you believe in divine
toming divine Tommy?
Speaker 1 (16:55):
I feel like.
Speaker 7 (16:57):
When I got an opportunity to go to extreme University,
I feel like it kind of like opened my eyes
to like like being a camera man for like the
biggest content creator like right now for Casonet. That like
kind of opened my eyes on like, oh, You're finally
in like something you really wanted to do in your life.
So it like kind of pushes me to like keep
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going because it's like connections like networking. I love networking.
So it's like I feel like it really drove like
my passions to network even more. But like showing like
all the effort I put in, you know, it's worth
it right now. So it's like it made me really
feel like I'm in it and you know watching it
you know like on YouTube writing thing, I'm actually physically
(17:40):
there now. So it's like now I'm seeing people like
do clips of me while I'm recording.
Speaker 4 (17:44):
So it's just funny.
Speaker 6 (17:46):
But let's go, let's go. I thank you. Actually it's
a little scarce.
Speaker 1 (18:05):
I was a little all right. I thought about for Brittany.
For Brittany, well, we're still recording. You have to get
well here you go. Thank you. Oh my uh.
Speaker 3 (18:21):
If God were to text you right now, what would
it say.
Speaker 1 (18:28):
Boy episodes You've never thought to you what I would Well,
it changes all the time the day or just what's
going on life?
Speaker 3 (18:37):
And lately it's changes every day lately, it changes every
day today.
Speaker 1 (18:45):
I don't remember going over right there? Yeah it is.
It is the text from God. What does it say?
Oh girl, you b I that?
Speaker 3 (19:02):
Yeah, cur By, it's gonna be fine.
Speaker 4 (19:08):
I like it.
Speaker 3 (19:08):
Whatever your brain is talking about, just just quiet, just
shut quieting down.
Speaker 1 (19:15):
It's a lot of thinking. Just just be just me.
So I was so good because we do another one
because Roger, who's behind the camera and doing Roger, will
you come to a bowl? Question whether Roger Roger rock?
No pressure?
Speaker 4 (19:33):
No pressure? So is this the microphone here?
Speaker 1 (19:37):
This is the microphone? Your lighting is okay, you feel.
Speaker 4 (19:41):
I actually feel really good about the lighting. So I
like your face. So I like your blue jacket today.
It just looks really awesome.
Speaker 1 (19:47):
So let's into the bowl for you, sir.
Speaker 4 (19:51):
Cool awesome bts so nervous.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
This is the behind the scenes crew.
Speaker 4 (19:57):
Oh okay, best apparenting you've ever gotten. A parent? I
am a parent of two kids. Yeah yeah, I have
a three year old girl named Islah and then a
boy who just turned one. Wow, So yeah, I got
to You.
Speaker 1 (20:11):
Never got to talk about your family because you're always
there quiet behind the camera.
Speaker 4 (20:15):
You know, I try to keep to myself and just
make sure things look good. Thank you.
Speaker 1 (20:19):
Oh, we appreciate your work.
Speaker 4 (20:20):
Yeah, thank you so much.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
Okay, so what is the best parenting advice?
Speaker 4 (20:22):
Wow, I mean I'm trying to think. I don't know.
I don't I mean, I don't even know if I've
ever had anyone be like here here's some advice. But
I'm I'm sure I have gotten some good advice. I
mean maybe your wife is or yeah, I mean, oh yeah, actually,
actually my wife gives me advice all the time. I
(20:43):
mean probably just patience and listening is probably like the
best advice. Then not a thing, No, it's not. It
takes a lot of time and a lot of practice.
So yeah, I'm still working on it. Has that going
pretty good? Yeah, yea, yeah definitely, Because I mean my
kids are really young and they're doing their thing and
they're still figuring out the world. Then they might not
do something that you want them to do and you
(21:04):
just but you kind of just have to let it
go and be patient. And because they're figuring it out.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
Yeah, so yeah, good dash.
Speaker 4 (21:11):
Yeah, thank you, thank you, Rod appreciate it. Thank thank you.
We do.
Speaker 1 (21:15):
I don't know what's happening with the camera while you're
not here.
Speaker 4 (21:18):
I'm gonna get back.
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do it, right. So now I've done the bawl though
me and the bowl is like not it's not exciting,
but you get a new one, all right? Fine? Oh rush,
oh okay, right, all right, so I'll finish out the
round with a bowl question today. I feel like this
is out of I RL this week. No, oh, absolutely not.
(22:52):
I have no offering for that. HM thinking what is
something that you used to be embarrassed about?
Speaker 3 (23:03):
I like this one for you that you now own.
I like this one for you. You do, Yeah, you
gotta think. I like when you gotta think, what was
I embarrassed about that I now own?
Speaker 1 (23:15):
I think I own a lot of my shit. So
that's hard for me, but doesn't mean you still don't
get embarrassed. It's like it goes back to what keeps
coming up as a theme lately for us on RURL,
it's like, uh, sometimes I would do things that I
didn't really want to do, you know what I mean.
And because I don't want people to think I'm a
bad person, I'm not a good friend, or I'm not
(23:37):
a or I'm not whatever. I just would have a
little bit of insecurity about having to prove that I
was whatever fill in the blank, you know, just like
I know I'm a good person. I do know that,
but you want other people to know it or think it,
And so I would be worried about letting people down.
I guess it's the better question where is now? But
(24:03):
that's different. That's not an embarrassment. That's just like I
think it's just a character shift that I've just recently had.
So it's like similar, like I less care about making
people think I'm a good person, so I get likes.
You have less anxiety about letting people down. Yes, so
it is a thing that I have let go of
in a weird way. That's why I said it's a
(24:24):
little complex. It's like an offshoot of embarrassment. It sounds
like a small thing, but it's such a big thing.
It really has lifted a load off of me, Like
I am lighter because of it, Like I feel actually
this big age, I actually feel lighter. And this just
happened like this past year. It's a new, brand new thing.
Speaker 3 (24:44):
Do you think, though you like people, it's better that
you went through the phase of like caring though, because
it's like when you learn how to drive, Like you
learn all the.
Speaker 1 (24:52):
Rules, so then you become a master at them and
then you can break them a little bit. I feel
like if you didn't even reverse just been massholes. Yeah,
I don't care about anybody. Yeah, you know, I care
people too much, and then you have to like pull
back and save yourself first, right now, excitingly probably right now,
it's ably right. And as much shit as I talk,
I still care for sure. I still be like, oh
(25:15):
I heard that person's feelings, so we make sure they understand.
I still do that type of stuff. But I'm just
a little freer about taking care of myself first. It's
a small shift, a little baby shift makes a big
difference in life. That makes a big difference. No, just
the weight you carry, yeah, like if you carry that
(25:35):
weight all day, if you just if I have to
carry this deck of cards everywhere I go, right. And
then this year I learned how to take away this
many after you walk ten miles, that shit feels different.
I never want those cards again. I'm just saying, even
the light a little bit of a low it goes
sometimes it could go a long way. So I don't
(25:56):
know if that was too common. You know, this is
why I don't need to do. That's why I don't
need to be in the damn ball to when you
left with it. But you understand what I mean, guys. Anyway,
So in real life, what is the thing maybe you
could let go? Maybe there's the thing, What is the
thing that is weighing you down that if you just
take a little you don't have to o d and
lose it all? Like, what is the thing you can
(26:17):
just lighten the load on yourself a little bit about?
You know what I'm saying. Maybe that's something for you
guys to think about. What is something you could take
out of your backpack that you're carrying around all day
every day like that you don't need it. Shit you
don't need. I'm not saying get rid of stuff that
you need, responsibility, morality, things that you need in the backpack. Yes,
(26:39):
but maybe there's some things in that back like you
don't really need them and you could take it out
and enlighten your load. Maybe that's something that we could
think about. Got it this week?
Speaker 4 (26:46):
You know?
Speaker 1 (26:47):
You see what I did there? Cringing around town. I
love a promo. That was great for a promo. Sorry, go,
I'm trying to think of mine that I could something
I could take, but figure it out in around time.
Right now, in real life is something you could take
out of your backpack. I'm not gonna got a buffer
on that. I like that for you. Anything else happened
(27:09):
this week that we should review here? Oh no, I'm
excited about next week's episode. I will tell you that.
Who do we have? Next week? Cardi bus next week Carti?
I'm excited about for so many reasons. She's just such
a complicated little cookie. She's so like, there's so much
in that little tiny body of hers. There's like the
super funny. She's like Carol Burnette, funny, like funny. I
(27:31):
know that's a very old school reference. Well insert for
Ryan does not even know who Carol Burnett is. No,
he does not know. I've literally only learned from her, so,
you know, like Lucy Olleball. You know I love Lucy right, Yes,
it's like these are of that caliber of comedian I think. Yeah,
(27:53):
I think Cardi is funny like that to me, I
think so. But also she's small, art and complicated. Yeah,
and I don't know, has many facts I want to say,
like one foot in here and another foot here, but
it's like ten feet in different things and then different
(28:15):
personalities and in different worlds. You know, It's like, I
don't know how interesting she moves around such an interesting way.
The way she handled that core case was like different
than any other person that we would see in that
same situation. You know what I'm saying, Like nobody would
have handled that the way she did it with like
(28:35):
comedy but realness but wigs. No, I'm just being like,
you know what I'm saying, like all those levels like
why only Cardi is Cardi and so and yeah, so
I don't know what the I don't even haven't even
wrapped my brain around what we're going to get into
that week, but I think whatever it is, it'll be great.
And yeah, I'm excited. I'm excited for this season of
(28:58):
her life now where she's getting ready to put me
out and and she just seems like she's having fun
her on the sidewalk and Harlem or whatever, she was
selling seats in the street, like she's having fun. It's
like kind of like what we talked about. Oh my god.
This is a perfect example to bring a full circle
to the back to the beginning of this episode, and
she talk about how you deliver something and how you
roll something out, how it lands for people. Her energy
(29:21):
being out by my taste by everybody's like, oh go Cardi,
because it's fun and she's having fun and she's giving
it to us. This energy of that. If she was like, yeah,
my album, you know, trying to stress out the business
and the music industry, you know what I mean, it
ain't the same, and these two streams, you'd be like, Okay,
Cardi's albums coming out, cool, great, you would feel differently
(29:43):
about it. And the energy in which she has presented it,
the energy which she showed up in that court, just
it just draws you to her like she's she's really
to me, have I don't know, in a good space.
Her energy is like on that level. So hopefully we
can get into all that next week and yeah, you'll
meet us right back here. Oh and we did have
(30:04):
as we go out because we, like I said, we're
gonna be doing more of these, more of these, hopefully
with you guys. You can join us on these. We
did have a couple of people, a couple of I
r L fans. I don't want to call them the
fans listener, sounds crazy Iro family, Irol family that have
reached out and they went in the bowl. So we're
gonna leave you with that. On this week's Edge, Martina
(30:25):
is in real life. Hey guys, thanks for watching. Make
sure you subscribe, like comments, and check out all of
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