November 2, 2025 • 23 mins
Angie Martinez is joined by producer Brittany Ortiz to honor the lives of D’Angelo, Diane Keaton, Prodigy, and more. They further discuss coping when losing loved ones. Angie breaks down her past episodes with rapper N.O.R.E. and comedian Leslie Jones. N.O.R.E. has found a passion for running and recently ran the New York City marathon. Angie further explains how important it is to find a life passion and hobby. Angie answers a fan’s voice memo asking how to make friends later in life.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
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Speaker 2 (00:09):
Hey, Irol family, what's up?
Speaker 1 (00:11):
Irol Family? We are back another episode of Edge Martinez
Irl Weekly. Your life has been lifing.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
I'm always really careful to say that, though it.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Doesn't mean it's bad lifing though sometimes right, but somebody
always got it worse. I was having a conversation with
a friend the other day. Someone always got it better too.
Somebody does always got it better. And your path is
your path. Some friends of mine had a little miscommunication
and both of them have came to me separately about it,
and I realized they both got a lot of shit
(00:44):
going on, and each side didn't realize how much the
other side had going on. And I just was like,
you know what, every single person has shit going on,
and sometimes you in turn like, damn, they're my friend,
they should know, Oh I need them in this time,
or you're thinking that way, so you feel about about
(01:05):
your friend, or everybody got shit. Everybody got they're battling
right now, and so I don't know what the fucking
point of this was, but like, life be lifing, and
why you don't say yeah, life with life, because then
all right, so then I'll have like a bad day
or a bad week. But then one of my friends
is like, damn they going through That makes your problem
(01:26):
not seeing that big, And number one, it makes your
problem not seem that big. And then number two it's
like I wasn't even thinking about what they were experiencing.
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and sometimes that helps right the fastest way to solve
your own problems, Like if you're in a rut, I
always remember this if like I'm in a rut or
I'm gonna woe is me, or a sad place or whatever.
The quickest way to make yourself feel better is to
do something for somebody else. It's like a quick fit.
(02:30):
It's almost like a cheat code, like if you're damn,
I can't figure this out, Damn, I can't believe this happened.
Damn me me, me, me, me, me, my, my, shit
my this. The fastest way to make yourself feel better
is to do something for somebody else. It's it's not
the all ending. You still have to get back to
yourself and heal whatever's going on. But if you're just
(02:51):
looking for a way to cheat that quickly relief. Quickly
relief is to do something for somebody else put you
in a better place.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
I gotta be careful with that type, though, because then
I'll just only do stuff for anybody.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
I cannot do that. No, No, that's not good. Then
I'm like, hmm, where's me? What about me?
Speaker 2 (03:08):
No, don't do that. That's only the extremes are never good.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Yeah, you can't be about everybody else, and you can't
be all about yourself all the time.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
There's got to be like a mid, a mid and
how do we get to this?
Speaker 1 (03:19):
This just came out of nowhere. This is in real life, happening,
real life, in real time. That's how life is lifing.
Life is fully lifing. We've had some really good episodes recently.
I really liked Leslie Jones. Leslie Jones. We haven't regrouped
since then. First of all, she gave me like a
whole fortune tele reading an episode. If you haven't watched
it yet, please go watch it.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
Well.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
Also, she was talking about her brother. You know, her
brother had passed and they were beefing before he died,
and she never really got to fix that, and he
called her. She didn't answer.
Speaker 5 (03:44):
I wish I had answered the phone.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
You didn't answer? Were you somebody that screens a lot?
Because I did that?
Speaker 5 (03:49):
It was how bad each other?
Speaker 6 (03:50):
He was doing some dumb shit anyway, and I didn't
feel like I was making a lot ofy ticket in Atlanta,
and I didn't feel like answered. I was like just whatever,
because he had already did something and somebody had said
he was in the hospital.
Speaker 5 (04:02):
But I was like, Oh, he's fine, I'll talk to
him later. That's the way.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Oh that's tough. How do you make peace with that?
Speaker 6 (04:09):
How do you make peace with that? Yeah, you continue
to tell yourself. Fuck you know, tell people to fucking
love their people while they're here. If your loved one
is you, if you mad at your mama, unless your
mama abused you or did something fucking offul go make
up with your mama. If your daddy is still here
and you he ain't, like, go make up with people.
Speaker 5 (04:31):
Stop that shit. It's too year. I promise they gone
in a fucking minute.
Speaker 6 (04:35):
And ain't nothing worse than the people that's close to
you dying and them not knowing that you loved him.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
She was telling everybody like, and we've heard this before,
like you never know when somebody's life is going to
be changed over you can or the removed. Everybody has
an expiration date, and you just never know when people's
expiration date is, so if you can, you know. It's
funny because some of the comments I saw people said, no,
thank you, not when they're toxic, not when they're this.
I mean yeah, but she said that too. I said that.
(05:05):
She was like, I'm not saying if somebody abuses you, you
should make right with them, but if there are things
that you can kind of let go, that's the best
to do it, because she has a lot of regret
about not being right with her brother when he passed.
And I know. So it's a lot of death lately too.
This week. We just lost di'angelo recently. I was having
a conversation about that yesterday, and I find it really
(05:26):
interesting how there's certain people that when they die, it
just hits different Yeah right, yeah, yeah, And it don't
even be the people necessarily that you're the closest with.
Sometimes people die and then you're like, yo, I really
I really like them. Well they really mattered to me,
and you don't really process it until they're gone. Some
(05:48):
people you do something you don't. But there's certain individuals
like D'Angelo just passed, and I'm seeing people talk about
his music and how much it meant, And I don't
remember seeing people talk about DiAngelo that much before. For
the same thing happened when Nipsey Hustle. When nip died,
everybody was affected by his life so deeply. People got
to learn who he was more. I think there's certain
(06:08):
people that after they die you kind of realize the
impact that they have on you. Like we just saw
that with the Angel. It's funny because we're Prodigy. Shout
out to Mob Deep. They just put an album out
where Prodigy died and Prodigy we weren't like we didn't
go No, we didn't go to them all together. We
was always cool. We had interviewed him a bunch of times.
He always showed love. He hopped one of my albums
(06:30):
back in the day, like show love cool, but like
we weren't besties. But something about when he died it
really hit me hard, and I realized not only that
I was sad personally because somebody I knew was always cool.
I respected him as an artist, it was also what
he represented. He represented an era, a time, a music,
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a purity about that craft, you know what I'm saying.
And it's like he represented something bigger than just his
personality or his specific contributions. What he represented I almost
felt was gone when he left. So it's like you
don't really realize people's impact until they're gone. Has it
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never happened to you or you haven't, you haven't had
that much experience with death.
Speaker 3 (07:17):
I'm actually terrified of when because I know, like as
you're getting older, like it's gonna come, and we talk
about that stuff. Like that so much on this pod,
I haven't even wrapped my brain.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Around like how I'm gonna respond. Yeah, it's hard, But
have you not known anybody who died you had?
Speaker 3 (07:35):
I have, but not someone who's like had such an
emotional impact on me. Like in high school we've had
I've had like a friend of a friend that.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Passed or Clark. We went through Clark. You got to
know Clark? Well, yeah I did.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
That one was tough, but even still like I got
to know him for a short period of time.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
But also sometimes some people represent something in your life,
like I have to talk about Prodigy represented this part
of him pop culture, or like even how Nip probably
really represented something to people. And I feel like D'Angelo
represented a music a shift in music, and you know
what I mean, what were you gonna say?
Speaker 3 (08:13):
This one is not as nearly as like important as
someone who's so big to the culture. But like the
first time someone passed was it was like my first boyfriend.
This sounds so to me, this sounds so low like silly,
but it was my first boyfriend. And I remember he
was like into skateboarding and hip hop and he was
(08:33):
like the first person that kind of like put me
onto a mob deep or like taught me what like
old school hip hop was. And I remember just thinking
he was so the cool cool, No, he was the
coolest person ever. He put me onto like Nike as
B's like I literally was like a lot of his
A lot of my current day interests started with him.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
And then even after we broke up.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
I remember when I was in college, the last year
of my college year, he he passed away, and I
remember being so I was really hurt by it, to
the point where I had dreams about Him'm like, I
haven't talked to this guy in years. Why am I
having dreams about him? But then it brought me back
to like all the things.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
That's the piece of your child like young adulthood.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
Yes, yes, but also like no, it's a perfect example
kind of how it helped mold my character to look
at the stuff I'm interested in.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Now what I'm doing.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
And I always used to hold his opinion so highly
when it came to like music, culture.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
And fashion and things.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
And I remember when I was leaving from school, I
was trying to decide what path for my career I
was going to take, and I had a dream with
him where he was like, just do the thing you
always talked about doing, and that's actually what helped me
move to New York.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
That's interesting as you're saying that, I'm thinking, first of all,
there's no different what you're talking about, what I'm saying
about Prodigy or di'angelo or Nipsey Hustle. It's the same thing.
It's like what somebody represents to you, it's even bigger.
It's not diminishing who they were or their personal connections,
their family, but it's even bigger than that. It's like
(10:06):
how their life impacted you, uh in a way. And
so maybe that's a way how Leslie was saying to
make peace with people or to appreciate people while they're here.
It's like maybe making note of that the people who
have influenced you and in the ways that they have.
It might be a way to honor people in that way.
Like we don't always think about that, no, like how
(10:26):
has that person changed my life? Or how has this
person being alive or doing that shifted my because even
like my mother, right, so Diane Keaton just passed, right,
my mom looks at her as, oh, my gosh, a
peer you haven't met that lady, she'll know her, but
to her, she's a woman that represents a time that
(10:46):
is important. To my mother, she's a woman, she's a
woman who represents women operating at a high level with
excellence and you know, talent and breaking through, you know,
and just the eight at any age, showing it's okay
to be fifty or sixty and have these big roles.
So I think that. So that struck my mother. Even
(11:08):
when we were talking about the other she was getting emotional.
I was like, oh, what about Tyank? How about Tyank
Kingan who she never met?
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Speaker 5 (12:57):
Man.
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I hope our podcast at some point does that for somebody.
That would be amazing. It's definitely done that. I mean
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Speaker 3 (13:12):
People who have even with this new Voice memo segment
that we have where someone someone called in, yes, well
the one when someone called in for you know, we
did the first one with Leslie and the young woman
who was like you made me feel like it was
okay to be an awkward black girl, Like.
Speaker 7 (13:28):
She has no idea the impact she has on other
black women who are going day to day with just
how unapologetically she shows up as herself and I love
her for that. I know they mistreat you because they're
on her mistreating us, Leslie, and you continue to go
and that is the inspiration I took away from your book,
(13:50):
from seeing you on TV, from watching your specials. I
love that you are so unapologetically yourself that it makes
it the norm. You're my aunt, You're my sister, You're
my mom, And I feel that I can show up
and continue to be myself unapoljectedly because you can either
take me or you cannot. I loved Leslie f n
Jones her book. I laughed and cried for seventeen hours straight.
(14:13):
Leslie Jones makes me feel like I can show up
as myself unapologetically every day as she does, and I
love her for that.
Speaker 5 (14:20):
That's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
That's all I'm trying to do.
Speaker 5 (14:22):
I'm trying to get the little girls that look like me.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
That's dope that in itself. Do we have a question today?
Speaker 5 (14:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (14:28):
The question is this is our segment.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
By the way, our boost mobile voice notes Tianjie.
Speaker 8 (14:35):
I'm fifty years old and I just moved to a
new city. I just needed something new, so I decided
to make a change. But I'm having a hard time
finding my community out here? How do I make friends
at this age?
Speaker 5 (14:46):
You know what?
Speaker 1 (14:47):
Shout out to Kalib because he really with no new friends,
he like ruined people. Oh, I felt cold on no
new friends. But it's also like you should always be
making new friends. We should always be by the way,
thank you for your voice. Note, Thank you so much.
What was her name by the way? Rebecca? Rebecca? Thank
you Rebecca for your voice. Note listen, I'm I'm with
(15:08):
call it in terms of like I don't need a
whole bunch of new friends just to have new friends,
like having a bunch of people around no thanks, are
consistently seeking out, have new roundaries, protect your piece. You
don't need a bunch of motherfuckers arounds or whatever. However,
the right people wherever and your stage in your life's changed.
(15:28):
So like who lifts you up, who motivates you, who
inspires you? That may change. You may need some new friends,
You may need some new inspiration or like your situation, Rebecca,
you're in a new city, You're gonna need people to
show you around. You're gonna need to see that place
through their eyes. So and it's an opportunity for you
to make a new crew. So what are you interested in?
And then go there and find those people like I
(15:50):
like the golf. I got a new batch of golf friends,
and so many I have golf friends many and some
of them are just there, like I see you at golf.
We golf, I don't ever talk to you again until
the next time. But while we're there, it's real, like
our connection to what we're doing is real. Then some
of them even after, like hey, by the way, we
were talking about this thing check out. You know, like
(16:11):
all of a sudden you become kind of cool. But
it opens the space for people that have similar interests.
So what are your interests? So in the last episode
we talked to Norri. He's running now right, He's got
the run club. In this past episode with Norri, that's
the thing for him.
Speaker 4 (16:26):
After the New York City Marathon on November second, you
are running it, I am running it.
Speaker 7 (16:30):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (16:31):
Second, I got my congratulations?
Speaker 1 (16:33):
Is this are you announcing this now? Is this the
first time you're selling I said it.
Speaker 9 (16:37):
But this is the first time I actually got the
actual email from the news. I want to say congratulations, sir,
We'll see you there. And they tell me that I'm
gonna be in the VIP section with Copo Choby. I
don't know if you know what Coco Chobe is. He's
a Michael Jordan of running.
Speaker 1 (16:53):
This is amazing Number number one, This is amazing. Congratulations.
You deserve to have something that is not work related
that you effort and you commit yourself too, because it really,
like I don't know, it fills you up right in
a different type of way and it makes you better
in your work. You're gonna kill this. By the way,
you got to find like mind of you. You got to
find other runners to show you where the paths are,
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the races are, to talk about man does your toe
her whatever it is to have the experience with you.
And so I think you have to start there right.
Go whatever you think at list your five things that
you like to do or that you want to be
happening in your life. I decided a couple of years
ago I wanted to shoot a short film. I made
some friends that are not that many, but a couple
(17:37):
that actually helped me, gave me great information. Shout out
to you, Shout out to Stephen, Bernie to Peck, Shout
out to Pack also coming into space using resources. It's
like surround yourself with people that help you to kind
of develop. And it doesn't have to be false like
I need this, so I'm gonna get, you know, because
that's the difference some people just take from people to
(18:01):
help them get The connection has to be genuine. It's
not don't be an opportunist and it's for networking or
anything like that, but just genuinely connecting with people on
something that you genuinely both have interest in. And that's
a great way to start new friendships. And it's an
(18:24):
opportunity for you to start something new. You're in a
new city, figure out what you want the next three
to five years of your life to look like, and
then go to the places where those people work, live, shop,
go to church, work out, and put yourself in that mix,
and I think you'll find like minded people there.
Speaker 3 (18:44):
I think Rebecca's halfway there, because you have to open
up yourself up and be vulnerable to a certain degree
to like make new friends. So being honest with yourself
like I want new friends is like.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
How comfortable it's vulnerable, Especially at the age of fifty,
you think, like, you know, which we get friends? You
don't have no friends?
Speaker 3 (19:03):
Yeah, like what you been doing this whole time, girl,
But some you know things, whatever things happen, life happens.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
That's one part of it.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
And then another part of it is too Like there's
this thing that I saw this clip. Actually, my friend
was on another podcast that she was talking about how
people are lacking in community because they put up too
many boundaries. Oh I'm too tired, I need this time
to myself. Oh I don't want to go to that
baby shower. I don't want to because I need to
go do my own thing. And it's like, also be
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aware that it takes real effort.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
Don't close yourself up. Yes, it takes real effort.
Speaker 3 (19:36):
You might be too tired to go to the housewarming
event or whatever, but you got to get up and
show up because that's how you build community.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
And you know, I think there are different types of
friendships mm hmm. There are friendships like that I have
with Nikki that we've been friends since we're eight years old,
and then if I'm in a project and I don't
talk to her barely all month, I love those. Those
are great friendships to have and mostly not everyone's gonna
be like that. They're lifelong friendships and lucky you if
you have one, wow, if you have two or three,
(20:07):
like that is like the blessing from wherever. But that
doesn't have to be your only type of friendship. You
can have cobby friendships, you can have mom friends. You
can have workout buddies or work friends people work friends
or season friends. If you're in a season of healing,
if you're going through a divorce, you might want to
(20:30):
you might want to talk to other people that have
been through that shit. Yeah, that's what support groups are
all about, is like finding those kind of people. And
so you know, maybe you're these friends will just be
your season friends while you're living in this city, and
that's totally cool, and maybe one of them will stick
and you'll be friends with twenty thirty years, which is
what I hope for Rebecca. But yeah, like Brittany said,
(20:50):
you gotta be open to shit. Great and thank you
to Boo's Mobile. That was our voice note, by the way,
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How do they? Where they go?
Speaker 3 (20:59):
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(21:28):
that type of thing. Anyway, Thanks for watching. Check out
the Leslie Jones episode. The Noriy episode, uh Nori was great.
It was great. A couple of things real quick about
nor number one. Find you a hobby, It changed change
your life at whatever age, something that you just love.
Find it, look, keep looking for it. You might not
find it year one, but you got to try different
(21:50):
ship till you find your thing you love working out.
It's amazing to me that you found that, but find
the thing you know, and Norrie talks a lot about
that in the episode, and he also talks about out,
which we didn't even get into, being a loyal husband,
A loyal husband, my fave, and how that has shaped
his life as of recent since they've been married.
Speaker 9 (22:12):
Even some certain rappers like I hang out with I
do judge you if you're not loyal to your to
your lady and It's not about like me knowing her
and you introducing me to her. It's about you actually
that because you're not actually cheating on her, you're cheating
on yourself.
Speaker 4 (22:25):
Like you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 9 (22:26):
If you can lay down and you can disrespect a
lady that you lay down with, who fees your kids,
who wakes you up.
Speaker 4 (22:32):
In the morning, and then what you're gonna do, You're
gonna cheat me?
Speaker 9 (22:35):
Like shit, Yeah, how the fuck can I be worth
something to you if the person that's worth the closest
to you you have no respect for?
Speaker 4 (22:43):
So I do judge people by that, you know what
I mean?
Speaker 1 (22:46):
Two things to learn from now what you would expect
from the drink Champ that those would be the two
things that were like the standout moments of our conversation.
That it would be about being a loyal husband and
finding your thing that's not work, that's joy, that's peace.
That's like, you know, finding your hobby or your passion. Anyway,
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Irl Weekly. Your life has been lifing.
Speaker 2 (00:18):
I'm always really careful to say that, though it.
Speaker 1 (00:20):
Doesn't mean it's bad lifing though sometimes right, but somebody
always got it worse. I was having a conversation with
a friend the other day. Someone always got it better too.
Somebody does always got it better. And your path is
your path. Some friends of mine had a little miscommunication
and both of them have came to me separately about it,
and I realized they both got a lot of shit
(00:44):
going on, and each side didn't realize how much the
other side had going on. And I just was like,
you know what, every single person has shit going on,
and sometimes you in turn like, damn, they're my friend,
they should know, Oh I need them in this time,
or you're thinking that way, so you feel about about
(01:05):
your friend, or everybody got shit. Everybody got they're battling
right now, and so I don't know what the fucking
point of this was, but like, life be lifing, and
why you don't say yeah, life with life, because then
all right, so then I'll have like a bad day
or a bad week. But then one of my friends
is like, damn they going through That makes your problem
(01:26):
not seeing that big, And number one, it makes your
problem not seem that big. And then number two it's
like I wasn't even thinking about what they were experiencing.
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and sometimes that helps right the fastest way to solve
your own problems, Like if you're in a rut, I
always remember this if like I'm in a rut or
I'm gonna woe is me, or a sad place or whatever.
The quickest way to make yourself feel better is to
do something for somebody else. It's like a quick fit.
(02:30):
It's almost like a cheat code, like if you're damn,
I can't figure this out, Damn, I can't believe this happened.
Damn me me, me, me, me, me, my, my, shit
my this. The fastest way to make yourself feel better
is to do something for somebody else. It's it's not
the all ending. You still have to get back to
yourself and heal whatever's going on. But if you're just
(02:51):
looking for a way to cheat that quickly relief. Quickly
relief is to do something for somebody else put you
in a better place.
Speaker 3 (02:57):
I gotta be careful with that type, though, because then
I'll just only do stuff for anybody.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
I cannot do that. No, No, that's not good. Then
I'm like, hmm, where's me? What about me?
Speaker 2 (03:08):
No, don't do that. That's only the extremes are never good.
Speaker 3 (03:11):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
Yeah, you can't be about everybody else, and you can't
be all about yourself all the time.
Speaker 2 (03:16):
There's got to be like a mid, a mid and
how do we get to this?
Speaker 1 (03:19):
This just came out of nowhere. This is in real life, happening,
real life, in real time. That's how life is lifing.
Life is fully lifing. We've had some really good episodes recently.
I really liked Leslie Jones. Leslie Jones. We haven't regrouped
since then. First of all, she gave me like a
whole fortune tele reading an episode. If you haven't watched
it yet, please go watch it.
Speaker 4 (03:37):
Well.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
Also, she was talking about her brother. You know, her
brother had passed and they were beefing before he died,
and she never really got to fix that, and he
called her. She didn't answer.
Speaker 5 (03:44):
I wish I had answered the phone.
Speaker 1 (03:46):
You didn't answer? Were you somebody that screens a lot?
Because I did that?
Speaker 5 (03:49):
It was how bad each other?
Speaker 6 (03:50):
He was doing some dumb shit anyway, and I didn't
feel like I was making a lot ofy ticket in Atlanta,
and I didn't feel like answered. I was like just whatever,
because he had already did something and somebody had said
he was in the hospital.
Speaker 5 (04:02):
But I was like, Oh, he's fine, I'll talk to
him later. That's the way.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
Oh that's tough. How do you make peace with that?
Speaker 6 (04:09):
How do you make peace with that? Yeah, you continue
to tell yourself. Fuck you know, tell people to fucking
love their people while they're here. If your loved one
is you, if you mad at your mama, unless your
mama abused you or did something fucking offul go make
up with your mama. If your daddy is still here
and you he ain't, like, go make up with people.
Speaker 5 (04:31):
Stop that shit. It's too year. I promise they gone
in a fucking minute.
Speaker 6 (04:35):
And ain't nothing worse than the people that's close to
you dying and them not knowing that you loved him.
Speaker 1 (04:42):
She was telling everybody like, and we've heard this before,
like you never know when somebody's life is going to
be changed over you can or the removed. Everybody has
an expiration date, and you just never know when people's
expiration date is, so if you can, you know. It's
funny because some of the comments I saw people said, no,
thank you, not when they're toxic, not when they're this.
I mean yeah, but she said that too. I said that.
(05:05):
She was like, I'm not saying if somebody abuses you, you
should make right with them, but if there are things
that you can kind of let go, that's the best
to do it, because she has a lot of regret
about not being right with her brother when he passed.
And I know. So it's a lot of death lately too.
This week. We just lost di'angelo recently. I was having
a conversation about that yesterday, and I find it really
(05:26):
interesting how there's certain people that when they die, it
just hits different Yeah right, yeah, yeah, And it don't
even be the people necessarily that you're the closest with.
Sometimes people die and then you're like, yo, I really
I really like them. Well they really mattered to me,
and you don't really process it until they're gone. Some
(05:48):
people you do something you don't. But there's certain individuals
like D'Angelo just passed, and I'm seeing people talk about
his music and how much it meant, And I don't
remember seeing people talk about DiAngelo that much before. For
the same thing happened when Nipsey Hustle. When nip died,
everybody was affected by his life so deeply. People got
to learn who he was more. I think there's certain
(06:08):
people that after they die you kind of realize the
impact that they have on you. Like we just saw
that with the Angel. It's funny because we're Prodigy. Shout
out to Mob Deep. They just put an album out
where Prodigy died and Prodigy we weren't like we didn't
go No, we didn't go to them all together. We
was always cool. We had interviewed him a bunch of times.
He always showed love. He hopped one of my albums
(06:30):
back in the day, like show love cool, but like
we weren't besties. But something about when he died it
really hit me hard, and I realized not only that
I was sad personally because somebody I knew was always cool.
I respected him as an artist, it was also what
he represented. He represented an era, a time, a music,
(06:51):
a purity about that craft, you know what I'm saying.
And it's like he represented something bigger than just his
personality or his specific contributions. What he represented I almost
felt was gone when he left. So it's like you
don't really realize people's impact until they're gone. Has it
(07:13):
never happened to you or you haven't, you haven't had
that much experience with death.
Speaker 3 (07:17):
I'm actually terrified of when because I know, like as
you're getting older, like it's gonna come, and we talk
about that stuff. Like that so much on this pod,
I haven't even wrapped my brain.
Speaker 1 (07:28):
Around like how I'm gonna respond. Yeah, it's hard, But
have you not known anybody who died you had?
Speaker 3 (07:35):
I have, but not someone who's like had such an
emotional impact on me. Like in high school we've had
I've had like a friend of a friend that.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
Passed or Clark. We went through Clark. You got to
know Clark? Well, yeah I did.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
That one was tough, but even still like I got
to know him for a short period of time.
Speaker 1 (07:53):
But also sometimes some people represent something in your life,
like I have to talk about Prodigy represented this part
of him pop culture, or like even how Nip probably
really represented something to people. And I feel like D'Angelo
represented a music a shift in music, and you know
what I mean, what were you gonna say?
Speaker 3 (08:13):
This one is not as nearly as like important as
someone who's so big to the culture. But like the
first time someone passed was it was like my first boyfriend.
This sounds so to me, this sounds so low like silly,
but it was my first boyfriend. And I remember he
was like into skateboarding and hip hop and he was
(08:33):
like the first person that kind of like put me
onto a mob deep or like taught me what like
old school hip hop was. And I remember just thinking
he was so the cool cool, No, he was the
coolest person ever. He put me onto like Nike as
B's like I literally was like a lot of his
A lot of my current day interests started with him.
Speaker 1 (08:55):
And then even after we broke up.
Speaker 3 (08:56):
I remember when I was in college, the last year
of my college year, he he passed away, and I
remember being so I was really hurt by it, to
the point where I had dreams about Him'm like, I
haven't talked to this guy in years. Why am I
having dreams about him? But then it brought me back
to like all the things.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
That's the piece of your child like young adulthood.
Speaker 3 (09:16):
Yes, yes, but also like no, it's a perfect example
kind of how it helped mold my character to look
at the stuff I'm interested in.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Now what I'm doing.
Speaker 3 (09:25):
And I always used to hold his opinion so highly
when it came to like music, culture.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
And fashion and things.
Speaker 3 (09:32):
And I remember when I was leaving from school, I
was trying to decide what path for my career I
was going to take, and I had a dream with
him where he was like, just do the thing you
always talked about doing, and that's actually what helped me
move to New York.
Speaker 1 (09:46):
That's interesting as you're saying that, I'm thinking, first of all,
there's no different what you're talking about, what I'm saying
about Prodigy or di'angelo or Nipsey Hustle. It's the same thing.
It's like what somebody represents to you, it's even bigger.
It's not diminishing who they were or their personal connections,
their family, but it's even bigger than that. It's like
(10:06):
how their life impacted you, uh in a way. And
so maybe that's a way how Leslie was saying to
make peace with people or to appreciate people while they're here.
It's like maybe making note of that the people who
have influenced you and in the ways that they have.
It might be a way to honor people in that way.
Like we don't always think about that, no, like how
(10:26):
has that person changed my life? Or how has this
person being alive or doing that shifted my because even
like my mother, right, so Diane Keaton just passed, right,
my mom looks at her as, oh, my gosh, a
peer you haven't met that lady, she'll know her, but
to her, she's a woman that represents a time that
(10:46):
is important. To my mother, she's a woman, she's a
woman who represents women operating at a high level with
excellence and you know, talent and breaking through, you know,
and just the eight at any age, showing it's okay
to be fifty or sixty and have these big roles.
So I think that. So that struck my mother. Even
(11:08):
when we were talking about the other she was getting emotional.
I was like, oh, what about Tyank? How about Tyank
Kingan who she never met?
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Speaker 5 (12:57):
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Speaker 1 (12:57):
I hope our podcast at some point does that for somebody.
That would be amazing. It's definitely done that. I mean
for me while we're in the room, all right, So
for nobody else at least, sorry out no, no, no.
There are plenty of comments on.
Speaker 3 (13:12):
People who have even with this new Voice memo segment
that we have where someone someone called in, yes, well
the one when someone called in for you know, we
did the first one with Leslie and the young woman
who was like you made me feel like it was
okay to be an awkward black girl, Like.
Speaker 7 (13:28):
She has no idea the impact she has on other
black women who are going day to day with just
how unapologetically she shows up as herself and I love
her for that. I know they mistreat you because they're
on her mistreating us, Leslie, and you continue to go
and that is the inspiration I took away from your book,
(13:50):
from seeing you on TV, from watching your specials. I
love that you are so unapologetically yourself that it makes
it the norm. You're my aunt, You're my sister, You're
my mom, And I feel that I can show up
and continue to be myself unapoljectedly because you can either
take me or you cannot. I loved Leslie f n
Jones her book. I laughed and cried for seventeen hours straight.
(14:13):
Leslie Jones makes me feel like I can show up
as myself unapologetically every day as she does, and I
love her for that.
Speaker 5 (14:20):
That's so sweet.
Speaker 1 (14:21):
That's all I'm trying to do.
Speaker 5 (14:22):
I'm trying to get the little girls that look like me.
Speaker 1 (14:25):
That's dope that in itself. Do we have a question today?
Speaker 5 (14:28):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (14:28):
The question is this is our segment.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
By the way, our boost mobile voice notes Tianjie.
Speaker 8 (14:35):
I'm fifty years old and I just moved to a
new city. I just needed something new, so I decided
to make a change. But I'm having a hard time
finding my community out here? How do I make friends
at this age?
Speaker 5 (14:46):
You know what?
Speaker 1 (14:47):
Shout out to Kalib because he really with no new friends,
he like ruined people. Oh, I felt cold on no
new friends. But it's also like you should always be
making new friends. We should always be by the way,
thank you for your voice. Note, Thank you so much.
What was her name by the way? Rebecca? Rebecca? Thank
you Rebecca for your voice. Note listen, I'm I'm with
(15:08):
call it in terms of like I don't need a
whole bunch of new friends just to have new friends,
like having a bunch of people around no thanks, are
consistently seeking out, have new roundaries, protect your piece. You
don't need a bunch of motherfuckers arounds or whatever. However,
the right people wherever and your stage in your life's changed.
(15:28):
So like who lifts you up, who motivates you, who
inspires you? That may change. You may need some new friends,
You may need some new inspiration or like your situation, Rebecca,
you're in a new city, You're gonna need people to
show you around. You're gonna need to see that place
through their eyes. So and it's an opportunity for you
to make a new crew. So what are you interested in?
And then go there and find those people like I
(15:50):
like the golf. I got a new batch of golf friends,
and so many I have golf friends many and some
of them are just there, like I see you at golf.
We golf, I don't ever talk to you again until
the next time. But while we're there, it's real, like
our connection to what we're doing is real. Then some
of them even after, like hey, by the way, we
were talking about this thing check out. You know, like
(16:11):
all of a sudden you become kind of cool. But
it opens the space for people that have similar interests.
So what are your interests? So in the last episode
we talked to Norri. He's running now right, He's got
the run club. In this past episode with Norri, that's
the thing for him.
Speaker 4 (16:26):
After the New York City Marathon on November second, you
are running it, I am running it.
Speaker 7 (16:30):
Wow.
Speaker 4 (16:31):
Second, I got my congratulations?
Speaker 1 (16:33):
Is this are you announcing this now? Is this the
first time you're selling I said it.
Speaker 9 (16:37):
But this is the first time I actually got the
actual email from the news. I want to say congratulations, sir,
We'll see you there. And they tell me that I'm
gonna be in the VIP section with Copo Choby. I
don't know if you know what Coco Chobe is. He's
a Michael Jordan of running.
Speaker 1 (16:53):
This is amazing Number number one, This is amazing. Congratulations.
You deserve to have something that is not work related
that you effort and you commit yourself too, because it really,
like I don't know, it fills you up right in
a different type of way and it makes you better
in your work. You're gonna kill this. By the way,
you got to find like mind of you. You got to
find other runners to show you where the paths are,
(17:15):
the races are, to talk about man does your toe
her whatever it is to have the experience with you.
And so I think you have to start there right.
Go whatever you think at list your five things that
you like to do or that you want to be
happening in your life. I decided a couple of years
ago I wanted to shoot a short film. I made
some friends that are not that many, but a couple
(17:37):
that actually helped me, gave me great information. Shout out
to you, Shout out to Stephen, Bernie to Peck, Shout
out to Pack also coming into space using resources. It's
like surround yourself with people that help you to kind
of develop. And it doesn't have to be false like
I need this, so I'm gonna get, you know, because
that's the difference some people just take from people to
(18:01):
help them get The connection has to be genuine. It's
not don't be an opportunist and it's for networking or
anything like that, but just genuinely connecting with people on
something that you genuinely both have interest in. And that's
a great way to start new friendships. And it's an
(18:24):
opportunity for you to start something new. You're in a
new city, figure out what you want the next three
to five years of your life to look like, and
then go to the places where those people work, live, shop,
go to church, work out, and put yourself in that mix,
and I think you'll find like minded people there.
Speaker 3 (18:44):
I think Rebecca's halfway there, because you have to open
up yourself up and be vulnerable to a certain degree
to like make new friends. So being honest with yourself
like I want new friends is like.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
How comfortable it's vulnerable, Especially at the age of fifty,
you think, like, you know, which we get friends? You
don't have no friends?
Speaker 3 (19:03):
Yeah, like what you been doing this whole time, girl,
But some you know things, whatever things happen, life happens.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
That's one part of it.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
And then another part of it is too Like there's
this thing that I saw this clip. Actually, my friend
was on another podcast that she was talking about how
people are lacking in community because they put up too
many boundaries. Oh I'm too tired, I need this time
to myself. Oh I don't want to go to that
baby shower. I don't want to because I need to
go do my own thing. And it's like, also be
(19:31):
aware that it takes real effort.
Speaker 1 (19:33):
Don't close yourself up. Yes, it takes real effort.
Speaker 3 (19:36):
You might be too tired to go to the housewarming
event or whatever, but you got to get up and
show up because that's how you build community.
Speaker 1 (19:45):
And you know, I think there are different types of
friendships mm hmm. There are friendships like that I have
with Nikki that we've been friends since we're eight years old,
and then if I'm in a project and I don't
talk to her barely all month, I love those. Those
are great friendships to have and mostly not everyone's gonna
be like that. They're lifelong friendships and lucky you if
you have one, wow, if you have two or three,
(20:07):
like that is like the blessing from wherever. But that
doesn't have to be your only type of friendship. You
can have cobby friendships, you can have mom friends. You
can have workout buddies or work friends people work friends
or season friends. If you're in a season of healing,
if you're going through a divorce, you might want to
(20:30):
you might want to talk to other people that have
been through that shit. Yeah, that's what support groups are
all about, is like finding those kind of people. And
so you know, maybe you're these friends will just be
your season friends while you're living in this city, and
that's totally cool, and maybe one of them will stick
and you'll be friends with twenty thirty years, which is
what I hope for Rebecca. But yeah, like Brittany said,
(20:50):
you gotta be open to shit. Great and thank you
to Boo's Mobile. That was our voice note, by the way,
our new voice note segment. How do people put those in?
How do they? Where they go?
Speaker 3 (20:59):
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Speaker 1 (21:04):
If oh DM, yep, yeah DM, Your voice notes great
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there questions, comments, concerns, no hate, but like critique is fine.
I'm cool with that. It's respectful. Don't be crazy block
you or suggestions you want to. I like suggestions. See
this guest, ask this guest this question. Yeah, for sure,
(21:28):
that type of thing. Anyway, Thanks for watching. Check out
the Leslie Jones episode. The Noriy episode, uh Nori was great.
It was great. A couple of things real quick about
nor number one. Find you a hobby, It changed change
your life at whatever age, something that you just love.
Find it, look, keep looking for it. You might not
find it year one, but you got to try different
(21:50):
ship till you find your thing you love working out.
It's amazing to me that you found that, but find
the thing you know, and Norrie talks a lot about
that in the episode, and he also talks about out,
which we didn't even get into, being a loyal husband,
A loyal husband, my fave, and how that has shaped
his life as of recent since they've been married.
Speaker 9 (22:12):
Even some certain rappers like I hang out with I
do judge you if you're not loyal to your to
your lady and It's not about like me knowing her
and you introducing me to her. It's about you actually
that because you're not actually cheating on her, you're cheating
on yourself.
Speaker 4 (22:25):
Like you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 9 (22:26):
If you can lay down and you can disrespect a
lady that you lay down with, who fees your kids,
who wakes you up.
Speaker 4 (22:32):
In the morning, and then what you're gonna do, You're
gonna cheat me?
Speaker 9 (22:35):
Like shit, Yeah, how the fuck can I be worth
something to you if the person that's worth the closest
to you you have no respect for?
Speaker 4 (22:43):
So I do judge people by that, you know what
I mean?
Speaker 1 (22:46):
Two things to learn from now what you would expect
from the drink Champ that those would be the two
things that were like the standout moments of our conversation.
That it would be about being a loyal husband and
finding your thing that's not work, that's joy, that's peace.
That's like, you know, finding your hobby or your passion. Anyway,
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