April 12, 2023 • 20 mins
Taraji is back from Bali and she has found her joy!
On this special follow up episode, Taraji P. Henson sits with Angie to discuss how her month-long trip to Bali and how it changed her life. She shares her best takeaway, laughing meditation, and reflects on the incredible community of people she met on her trip. This is the follow up episode we ALL needed!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Angie Martinez in Real Life Podcast. This episode and conversation
is powered by I Do Say. Hey, guys, welcome to
another edition of the Angie Martinez Podcast IRL. This is
a special one today for a few reasons. We're about
to do a follow up on the Taragi episode. We
have Taraji. We talked to Taraji about her Bolly trip,
(00:22):
which this is actually requested by a lot of people
after that Taraji episode, people were like, we want to
hear from her when she gets back. We want to
know what the experience was like. So we have that
for you today. In a few minutes, I'm going to
share my conversation with Taraji and as she kind of
breaks down with the Bali trip was like for her
and how much happiness she has found from that experience.
(00:44):
But before we do that, I just wanted to get
first of all, thank you guys for rocking with us
through all the little I don't know pivots shifts. Change
of the podcast. Britney's Here with Me Show producer extraordinaire
HEYCP nominated Okay Podcast producer. Guess that my new LinkedIn
right there? You should absolutely put that on your profile,
(01:04):
your Instagram or something. Um, but So what I was
thinking was, today we will drop this episode as a
follow up to the Taraji p Henson conversation. I will
share this interview with Taraji with you. But then I
was we still have takeaways to do. We have to
take a moment to reflect on some of the past
episodes that we haven't done takeaways for, Like we really
have not talked about ever. The Kim Kardashian interview just
(01:27):
kind of came out. It was like a world wind
that just the energy was like borderline consuming for a
few days, and we really haven't done it. What else
are we missing for takeaways? Um? JT, my favor you
love Just people were just not expecting those things from
from her, And I'm so excited to see what she knows.
(01:48):
Who else love got from it? She loved it? Yeah,
that makes me so happy that she loved it the
way she did. But yes, we have to do a
JT takeaway episode And who else? Clarkson, Kelly clarks Ellie
Clarkson Man, Kelly Clarkson was like waving the flag for
anybody to have been through that that relationship. This the
(02:08):
trenches of post relationship failure. And she's so dope and
authentic and just loved her word. But there were some
interesting things about that episode that I would like to
share also. So anyway, so what I was thinking is
for the next few days, because we are going to
start up with new episodes. We have new interviews and
new video episodes that are going to start up at
(02:30):
the top of next week. We have a really good
one for you next week. I don't want to ruin
it and spoil it now, but someone that I'm excited
to talk to, so um, just be looking out for
that next week, and then after that we will be
back on regular podcast schedule. But yeah, so for the
next couple of days, we will drop a takeaway every
day to take us through next week. Does that sound right?
That sounds amazing. And then after that week, wait till
(02:53):
you see what we got coming. If you maybe maybe
we should drop a hint every takeaway coming up next thing,
we'll see. We'll play that one by here, I'm really sure.
But anyway, so yeah, so that's the plan. I can't
thank you guys enough just for rocking with us, just
with a response on these I you know, that's all.
I'm not going to get emotional and ridiculously over talk
(03:15):
this thing, but I do want to share my conversation
with Taraji p Henson. So if you miss the original interview,
of course, it's always on the YouTube page and you
can subscribe, please do that, but I'll give you a
tiny little just refresh on what we're about to get
to right now. So Taragi came on the podcast. She's
my friend. Sometimes when people are my friend, I don't
(03:36):
have a lot of planning because I know them so
well and we just kind of get in the chair
and talk like you know, me and Mary do and
Taraji and so I really didn't know what that day
was going to bring. I asked her the question I've
been asking a lot of people, how happy are you
going to scale a one to ten? And this is
what Taraji said. I don't know, to be quite honest,
(03:57):
why I thought I was happy. But the things that
I thought I'm gonna get emotional, I don't want to.
The things that I thought was making me happy, they don't.
They don't cut it anymore. And so I'm in a
place where what does that look like? And I'm kind
of spinning. And to be quite honest with you, Angie,
(04:18):
I haven't been happy like purely happy in a long time.
Give me your hand. I haven't. I'm sorry, I'm not
because it's just a wake up call. That was a
heavy v That was a heavy, heavy moment. I liked
that she said that because that's what That's what gave
(04:40):
hope in it. It was like, I'm not in a
good place and I'm sad and I'm but it wasn't.
She wasn't gonna stay there. She wanted to do something
about it. She was just being honest about where she
was and she actually had a plan as to what
she was gonna do to try to find her happiness again.
And here's a little clip where she kind of breaks
that down for you. You know, I'm about to go
(05:01):
to Bali for a month by myself. It's my own
spiritual journey. I love this for you tell me about this.
I gotta find my happiness. And it's not in my friends,
it's not in my mama, it's not in you know,
it's me. It's me and this is the work I
gotta do. Well. Taraji did the work. She went to
(05:23):
Bali for a month, and I know a lot of
people were invested in this episode, and we actually did
a Taraji takeaway episode with Nyla, and we were talking
about how great it would be to have a follow
up to that conversation with Taragi and so that's what
we're giving you today. And first of all, she looked amazing.
(05:44):
You look so good. I found my joy again, Angie.
I need Okay, the first thing I need to know
is how was Bali life changing? I literally go on
vacation and if seven days Max, that's sixth day I'm
at the airport, I'm the same. I literally did not
want to come back. I it took me all night
(06:06):
to pack. I was like, teary eyed. I didn't want
to leave. I need well, I need, I need to
hear all of that. But before you left, I mean
while you were there, did you did you get any
wind of like the reaction of the episode that we did. Well,
my phone was going nuts and body. I was like,
what is happening in the world? And then you know
people they kept tagging me and I was like, what
(06:27):
the hell did I say? Like, oh, no, nervous, Remember
I hit you that? I was like, should I have
said this? You was like, please don't do that to yourself.
It was so beautiful. Yeah, but did you feel that
it was almost like there was such a large group
of people that just needed somebody to say that. Yeah, exactly,
that's why did you feel that I did it did
and not so much genuine like grateful they were people
(06:49):
were grateful that you shared that and a lot of
that's why it's so important to talk, because you will
know you're not alone. There's no reason for people to
be suffering in silence because you trust me, there's too
many humans on this planet Earth for you to be alone.
And you're never alone in your feelings, in your mental state,
like there's always somebody out there that can identify. That's
(07:11):
why we need to share. Humans need humans. Yeah, and
there's nobody walking around that's good all the time, no,
never ever. Yeah. Yeah. So the fact that you were
like so honest in that moment um, and but it
was it was under a way where it was done
with hope. You weren't like, woe is me, I'm miserable.
You were like, I'm not happy, and I'm gonna figure
this out. And one of the things I'm gonna do
is go on this hopefully life changing trip to Bali
(07:34):
for what how long were you there for a month
a month, there for a whole month, and then you
get there and what happens. I got there and the
first thing I was able to do is sleep. I
slept for twelve hours. I needed it, and I did
the entire trip dry. I didn't have any alcohol. I
ate plant based food. UM. I prayed a lot UM.
(07:56):
I actually went on a three day prayer pilgrimage. UM.
They have a lot out of temples. There's like over
eleven thousand temples on the island. I stayed in Ubu,
which is the center of Bali, and that's the most
holy part of the land. There are touristy parts of
the island, but it was too stimulating and that's not
what I went for. I literally wore my Jesus shoes
(08:17):
and my linen and I was just free in the
rice field. It was just beautiful. I met the most amazing, beautiful,
loving community. They wrapped their arms around me. We had
the most beautiful, enlightening conversations. And it was so important
that I went by myself, because had I gone with
my girls or some friends, I wouldn't have never met
(08:38):
these people. You know. It forced me to be present
and in the moment and have conversations that I necessarily
wouldn't have. You know, no one cared about what I
did in Hollywood. They cared about me the human and
it was just beautiful. I still keep in touch with
that community. We have a thread on What's app and
we check in out and how do you take that
home with you? So you come home and I'm sure
the agents are calling, the managers are calling the everybody.
(09:00):
You know. I'm sure, like work, life is, life gets
back to life. When I had a different outlook on it,
I came back with more hope, you know what I mean,
and a different outlook. I wasn't as annoyed anymore. One
thing that I did was very interesting was laughing, yoga, laughing, meditation, UM.
And you just it freed me. It unlocked something in me, um,
(09:24):
because you you can't worry about how you look. I
laughed so hard that I cried, like ugly face cried,
and when I finished, I felt high. That's the only
way I can put it before, yes, before and literally
like you're being traffic and the urge for me to
be annoyed and snap turns into a laugh because what
(09:44):
are you gonna do? There's nothing you can do about it?
You snap, you breep your horn. Is that gonna make
traffic move faster? No? So what can you do? You
laugh so low? Does that work? Just tell me how
to I look it up because I've never heard of this.
It's laughing meditation, laughing yoga. Sit there in different positions
and you just laugh and you move your He tells
you what to do with your arms and your body,
and you just move the energy through your body. You
(10:07):
just move it out and whenever you feel like you
don't want to laugh, you just lean into it and
laugh hard. And I'm telling you, I laughed and I cried.
I really unlocked some emotions. I did acupuncture and for
the first time in my life, I felt the energy
moving through my body. Those people are healers because that's
all they don't They don't care about materialistic things. They
(10:27):
live in communities, in communes because their homes have been
in their family for centuries, so they never move out.
So the youngest son stays with their parents until they
die off, and then they take over the house and
it just stays. They have altars. They believe in cremation,
so all of their ancestors are on the altars. So
you're not going to buy their property from them. They're happy,
(10:49):
they're not they don't want or need for anything, and
they're just beautiful people. They make offerings every morning, they
pray over you if you're in their call, on the
back of their scooters. They're offerings everywhere, all along the sidewalk.
It's just beautiful. They don't allow you to come in
temples unless you have an offering, so you just can't
come and take pictures and be a tourist. You have
to participate. You have to be respectful. And I love it.
(11:12):
It was just beautiful. That sounds amazing. I feel better.
I didn't even type of way. It was just the
laughing yoga. Is there other people doing it with you,
so everybody's laughing at the same time. Actually, Ben Vereen
was there, wow and credible because we both had and
(11:34):
we talked. We got really close. I called him my
dad away from dad, you know, I lost my father
oh six, and he was like, you can be my daughter,
and he like actually adopted all of us as his children.
But um, he was just so loving and he would
you know, he saw me. We saw each other because
we got there the same night and we saw each
other and we kind of went through this um this
(11:56):
whole metamorphosis together. And I don't know if you follow him,
but the joy that he has my guy, he's performing again,
and it's just it was amazing. But we laughed and
cried and hugged and prayed for each other. I mean,
we still keep in touch. He gave me a laughing
Buddha to remember our um our moments and the you know,
(12:19):
laughing meditation, and I just I just can't stop talking
about the people that I met. I saw you, I
saw you since then. I saw you at super Bowl
and I could tell when I saw you like this,
like I don't know, your skin looks good, just look calm,
and like I don't know, I was still dry too,
(12:40):
I mean I still am. I just I know I
don't need any outside anything to are You're afraid to
mess up the energy? Well no I had. I did
have a drink um like about two weeks ago, but
I couldn't wait to get back on the wagon. Like
it's just I don't need anything to make me be
the life of the party or to feel comfortable in
(13:01):
my skin. I found that I found that again, like
that that childlike joy where I can laugh at the
most silliest shit. Laughter is definitely healing. I wonder if
you felt this, because that's what Brene Brown talking about
this about, like a hangover, like a vulnerability hangover, like
when you share, if you share, like for real deeply,
(13:25):
and you're like vulnerable in front of people that maybe
like how you said, like what did I say the
next day? If you feel But that's why I don't listen.
When I do it, I show up as me, I
give you me, and I walk away. I don't go
back because I know me. I know I'll get heavy
about it, and I know my heart. I'm a good
person and I'm very transparent, and I'm coming to you
hopefully my story will help somebody else. And that's how
(13:48):
I show up, so there's no need for me to
go back and listen to it again. I still don't
know everything I say it in the podcast. You know
when I was, and I don't because I just refuse
to live. First of all, I don't snake to myself.
Drives me crazy. It was I will let me tell
you that. Somebody who saw it a few times and
then people send me their favorite clips. It was absolutely beautiful.
(14:11):
Like it was so brave and like naked, like it
it was like naked there and then so sometimes people
when you share it, even me, sometimes if I share
it too much, sometimes I'll be like, I feel like
a little weird after I feel a little but I'll
shake it off because I know I did it with
intention and control of what I share. Um, But I
don't know. I just wondered that if you feel felt like,
(14:32):
if you ever feel like anything, I just think that.
I mean, I don't share everything, but that's what Mary
always says. Mary says, I gotta keep my bra and
pant exactly right, exactly, but um, because people could will
harm you. Everybody doesn't have good intentions either, so you
have to protect yourself. But at the same time, you know,
as an actor, I share a lot. So if I'm sharing,
(14:52):
you know, a character's pain or vulnerability, a little bit
of that is an insight to my pain and vulnerability,
you know. But I have a switch, I turn it
on it off. You know, I don't have to stay
the character. I'll be on the scene, I'll be crying
or your cut and I'd be like, yeah, girls, So anyway,
the shoes you have, I just you know, I know
how to turn it off. Yeah. Yeah, that's how I
(15:14):
keep my sanity because I can't take on a character's
issue and mine, Lord, I go crazy. And you love
working right, I love it again because when before body,
I was like, I don't even know if I want
to do this. You were tired, I was tired. Yeah,
it was amazing that you shared that moment. Yeah, it
really changed people. I know from seeing in conversation and
(15:35):
things that have been fed to me, like you lifted
people up, I hope. So yeah, I think the pod
is gonna and you're just a great interview or two. Thanks,
let's give you your fingers. It's weird though, it's like
doing a regular interview, like if you just come here
to talk about but elementary, I could do that interview
with you. But that to me wasn't even really an interview, right,
(15:55):
It just was really being h It was us like
they really saw me. And my girlfriend was that I
wasn an interviewing you at all. Yeah, I mean I
was asking I didn't feel like it. I was asking
you questions to try to understand what was going on
and what do you think? And then we were sharing
thoughts and ideas. It was really a conversation. It wasn't
even an interview. Okay, well, I have two in real
(16:17):
life question questions keep guarding your trip. Number one, what
is the biggest thing you gained from your trip? Oh?
My god, The biggest thing that I gained from my
trip to Bali was that I don't need anyone to
make me happy, Like that's in me. But I have
control of that happiness. It doesn't come from a man.
It can't come from your mind. I said this in
the beginning. That's why I was in search of tapping
(16:38):
back into my joy and my happiness on my own.
And that's the thing, like, I don't I don't need
anyone to make me happy. I could have people help
add to my happiness, but the happiness starts within. I
think that's important because not everybody we talked about this
was we all we do these takeaways after every episode
in the conversation was not everybody can go to Bally
(17:00):
for a month, right, But you can figure out something
that you need for you and do that. Maybe it's
a please telling you, calling your sister and telling the
police take the kids for the weekend, or going wherever,
going on a walking really being present, intentional, breathing. There's
so many things you can do, yeah, to gather yourself. Well,
I have to ask you this before I let you
(17:21):
go today post bally toag you today? Yes, how happy
are you on a scale of one to ten today?
A thousand yes? A thousand yes? And I get people
saying like you're glowing? What's going on? Like, well, I'm
not pregnant, but I'm telling you, I just I found
(17:46):
something in me again and I'm happy and I'm so
full of hope my biggest word. And my team even
said that we love this post Bolly tarag you because
my favorite words. I'm so annoyed. Goddamnit, I'm annoyed, but
I haven't been annoyed since I've been back. I laugh
at shit. Now I'll be like what, oh, we have
to keep it hold on to that. And my boy
(18:08):
family checks in there like are you holding on to
the piece you found and your happiness? And I'm like
I'm still there. I'm still in the pocket. Well, we
feel it. You shared it with us, so we got
a little You probably lifted everybody up today. Some people
might not be in a thousand, but if they were six,
maybe now there or seven after. It is better than
it was the day before. Absolutely, yeah, it's Roger p Has.
(18:31):
Thank you. If did we forget anything, subscribe Ah, yes,
very important, guys. Subscribe Edgie Martina's Irl, the podcast, um
the audio podcast on YouTube. Subscribe on YouTube, Edie Martina's Irl.
Subscribe on Instagram. That was an excellent call, Britney. Yeah, yeah, produce, sir,
(18:52):
you better produce. You should make that a clip, britat Oh,
that's gonna be my That's gonna be my opening. I'm
gonna start vlogging today and it's gonna be Taragi saying
you've better produced, and I'll be like the life of
a producer. Brittany Ortiz. Thankause. Everyone please start work out here. Man,
enough of us. We're done with this episode, but I
will tell you tomorrow we'll be back with a takeaway
(19:14):
episode again of Jtu. And if you didn't get a
chance to see her video, I'll play you a little
clip just to kind of refresh you of one of
the main takeaways or moments that has stuck with me
from that one. The Internet has painted me is like
this angry black girl. Yeah, like she always mad, she
(19:36):
always gotta attitude and it's flying. That really bothers you
because you've said that to me even before we started.
That really bothers me because it's flying. Y'all don't even
know me. We will talk about that clip and the
full JT episode tomorrow on Edge Martinez ir L Takeaways.
I feel like JT and Taragi would be friends. I
(19:58):
feel like they would be cool to each other. We
should do a party, invite all the I r L
guests to hang out together. We'll do the one big
live event because she already loves Lauren. You know what
I'm saying. I feel like they all mesh with each other. Right,
let's talk about this tomorrow. We're done here for tests
for today. By y'all tuning in BA
Angie Martinez in Real Life Podcast. This episode and conversation
is powered by I Do Say. Hey, guys, welcome to
another edition of the Angie Martinez Podcast IRL. This is
a special one today for a few reasons. We're about
to do a follow up on the Taragi episode. We
have Taraji. We talked to Taraji about her Bolly trip,
(00:22):
which this is actually requested by a lot of people
after that Taraji episode, people were like, we want to
hear from her when she gets back. We want to
know what the experience was like. So we have that
for you today. In a few minutes, I'm going to
share my conversation with Taraji and as she kind of
breaks down with the Bali trip was like for her
and how much happiness she has found from that experience.
(00:44):
But before we do that, I just wanted to get
first of all, thank you guys for rocking with us
through all the little I don't know pivots shifts. Change
of the podcast. Britney's Here with Me Show producer extraordinaire
HEYCP nominated Okay Podcast producer. Guess that my new LinkedIn
right there? You should absolutely put that on your profile,
(01:04):
your Instagram or something. Um, but So what I was
thinking was, today we will drop this episode as a
follow up to the Taraji p Henson conversation. I will
share this interview with Taraji with you. But then I
was we still have takeaways to do. We have to
take a moment to reflect on some of the past
episodes that we haven't done takeaways for, Like we really
have not talked about ever. The Kim Kardashian interview just
(01:27):
kind of came out. It was like a world wind
that just the energy was like borderline consuming for a
few days, and we really haven't done it. What else
are we missing for takeaways? Um? JT, my favor you
love Just people were just not expecting those things from
from her, And I'm so excited to see what she knows.
(01:48):
Who else love got from it? She loved it? Yeah,
that makes me so happy that she loved it the
way she did. But yes, we have to do a
JT takeaway episode And who else? Clarkson, Kelly clarks Ellie
Clarkson Man, Kelly Clarkson was like waving the flag for
anybody to have been through that that relationship. This the
(02:08):
trenches of post relationship failure. And she's so dope and
authentic and just loved her word. But there were some
interesting things about that episode that I would like to
share also. So anyway, so what I was thinking is
for the next few days, because we are going to
start up with new episodes. We have new interviews and
new video episodes that are going to start up at
(02:30):
the top of next week. We have a really good
one for you next week. I don't want to ruin
it and spoil it now, but someone that I'm excited
to talk to, so um, just be looking out for
that next week, and then after that we will be
back on regular podcast schedule. But yeah, so for the
next couple of days, we will drop a takeaway every
day to take us through next week. Does that sound right?
That sounds amazing. And then after that week, wait till
(02:53):
you see what we got coming. If you maybe maybe
we should drop a hint every takeaway coming up next thing,
we'll see. We'll play that one by here, I'm really sure.
But anyway, so yeah, so that's the plan. I can't
thank you guys enough just for rocking with us, just
with a response on these I you know, that's all.
I'm not going to get emotional and ridiculously over talk
(03:15):
this thing, but I do want to share my conversation
with Taraji p Henson. So if you miss the original interview,
of course, it's always on the YouTube page and you
can subscribe, please do that, but I'll give you a
tiny little just refresh on what we're about to get
to right now. So Taragi came on the podcast. She's
my friend. Sometimes when people are my friend, I don't
(03:36):
have a lot of planning because I know them so
well and we just kind of get in the chair
and talk like you know, me and Mary do and
Taraji and so I really didn't know what that day
was going to bring. I asked her the question I've
been asking a lot of people, how happy are you
going to scale a one to ten? And this is
what Taraji said. I don't know, to be quite honest,
(03:57):
why I thought I was happy. But the things that
I thought I'm gonna get emotional, I don't want to.
The things that I thought was making me happy, they don't.
They don't cut it anymore. And so I'm in a
place where what does that look like? And I'm kind
of spinning. And to be quite honest with you, Angie,
(04:18):
I haven't been happy like purely happy in a long time.
Give me your hand. I haven't. I'm sorry, I'm not
because it's just a wake up call. That was a
heavy v That was a heavy, heavy moment. I liked
that she said that because that's what That's what gave
(04:40):
hope in it. It was like, I'm not in a
good place and I'm sad and I'm but it wasn't.
She wasn't gonna stay there. She wanted to do something
about it. She was just being honest about where she
was and she actually had a plan as to what
she was gonna do to try to find her happiness again.
And here's a little clip where she kind of breaks
that down for you. You know, I'm about to go
(05:01):
to Bali for a month by myself. It's my own
spiritual journey. I love this for you tell me about this.
I gotta find my happiness. And it's not in my friends,
it's not in my mama, it's not in you know,
it's me. It's me and this is the work I
gotta do. Well. Taraji did the work. She went to
(05:23):
Bali for a month, and I know a lot of
people were invested in this episode, and we actually did
a Taraji takeaway episode with Nyla, and we were talking
about how great it would be to have a follow
up to that conversation with Taragi and so that's what
we're giving you today. And first of all, she looked amazing.
(05:44):
You look so good. I found my joy again, Angie.
I need Okay, the first thing I need to know
is how was Bali life changing? I literally go on
vacation and if seven days Max, that's sixth day I'm
at the airport, I'm the same. I literally did not
want to come back. I it took me all night
(06:06):
to pack. I was like, teary eyed. I didn't want
to leave. I need well, I need, I need to
hear all of that. But before you left, I mean
while you were there, did you did you get any
wind of like the reaction of the episode that we did. Well,
my phone was going nuts and body. I was like,
what is happening in the world? And then you know
people they kept tagging me and I was like, what
(06:27):
the hell did I say? Like, oh, no, nervous, Remember
I hit you that? I was like, should I have
said this? You was like, please don't do that to yourself.
It was so beautiful. Yeah, but did you feel that
it was almost like there was such a large group
of people that just needed somebody to say that. Yeah, exactly,
that's why did you feel that I did it did
and not so much genuine like grateful they were people
(06:49):
were grateful that you shared that and a lot of
that's why it's so important to talk, because you will
know you're not alone. There's no reason for people to
be suffering in silence because you trust me, there's too
many humans on this planet Earth for you to be alone.
And you're never alone in your feelings, in your mental state,
like there's always somebody out there that can identify. That's
(07:11):
why we need to share. Humans need humans. Yeah, and
there's nobody walking around that's good all the time, no,
never ever. Yeah. Yeah. So the fact that you were
like so honest in that moment um, and but it
was it was under a way where it was done
with hope. You weren't like, woe is me, I'm miserable.
You were like, I'm not happy, and I'm gonna figure
this out. And one of the things I'm gonna do
is go on this hopefully life changing trip to Bali
(07:34):
for what how long were you there for a month
a month, there for a whole month, and then you
get there and what happens. I got there and the
first thing I was able to do is sleep. I
slept for twelve hours. I needed it, and I did
the entire trip dry. I didn't have any alcohol. I
ate plant based food. UM. I prayed a lot UM.
(07:56):
I actually went on a three day prayer pilgrimage. UM.
They have a lot out of temples. There's like over
eleven thousand temples on the island. I stayed in Ubu,
which is the center of Bali, and that's the most
holy part of the land. There are touristy parts of
the island, but it was too stimulating and that's not
what I went for. I literally wore my Jesus shoes
(08:17):
and my linen and I was just free in the
rice field. It was just beautiful. I met the most amazing, beautiful,
loving community. They wrapped their arms around me. We had
the most beautiful, enlightening conversations. And it was so important
that I went by myself, because had I gone with
my girls or some friends, I wouldn't have never met
(08:38):
these people. You know. It forced me to be present
and in the moment and have conversations that I necessarily
wouldn't have. You know, no one cared about what I
did in Hollywood. They cared about me the human and
it was just beautiful. I still keep in touch with
that community. We have a thread on What's app and
we check in out and how do you take that
home with you? So you come home and I'm sure
the agents are calling, the managers are calling the everybody.
(09:00):
You know. I'm sure, like work, life is, life gets
back to life. When I had a different outlook on it,
I came back with more hope, you know what I mean,
and a different outlook. I wasn't as annoyed anymore. One
thing that I did was very interesting was laughing, yoga, laughing, meditation, UM.
And you just it freed me. It unlocked something in me, um,
(09:24):
because you you can't worry about how you look. I
laughed so hard that I cried, like ugly face cried,
and when I finished, I felt high. That's the only
way I can put it before, yes, before and literally
like you're being traffic and the urge for me to
be annoyed and snap turns into a laugh because what
(09:44):
are you gonna do? There's nothing you can do about it?
You snap, you breep your horn. Is that gonna make
traffic move faster? No? So what can you do? You
laugh so low? Does that work? Just tell me how
to I look it up because I've never heard of this.
It's laughing meditation, laughing yoga. Sit there in different positions
and you just laugh and you move your He tells
you what to do with your arms and your body,
and you just move the energy through your body. You
(10:07):
just move it out and whenever you feel like you
don't want to laugh, you just lean into it and
laugh hard. And I'm telling you, I laughed and I cried.
I really unlocked some emotions. I did acupuncture and for
the first time in my life, I felt the energy
moving through my body. Those people are healers because that's
all they don't They don't care about materialistic things. They
(10:27):
live in communities, in communes because their homes have been
in their family for centuries, so they never move out.
So the youngest son stays with their parents until they
die off, and then they take over the house and
it just stays. They have altars. They believe in cremation,
so all of their ancestors are on the altars. So
you're not going to buy their property from them. They're happy,
(10:49):
they're not they don't want or need for anything, and
they're just beautiful people. They make offerings every morning, they
pray over you if you're in their call, on the
back of their scooters. They're offerings everywhere, all along the sidewalk.
It's just beautiful. They don't allow you to come in
temples unless you have an offering, so you just can't
come and take pictures and be a tourist. You have
to participate. You have to be respectful. And I love it.
(11:12):
It was just beautiful. That sounds amazing. I feel better.
I didn't even type of way. It was just the
laughing yoga. Is there other people doing it with you,
so everybody's laughing at the same time. Actually, Ben Vereen
was there, wow and credible because we both had and
(11:34):
we talked. We got really close. I called him my
dad away from dad, you know, I lost my father
oh six, and he was like, you can be my daughter,
and he like actually adopted all of us as his children.
But um, he was just so loving and he would
you know, he saw me. We saw each other because
we got there the same night and we saw each
other and we kind of went through this um this
(11:56):
whole metamorphosis together. And I don't know if you follow him,
but the joy that he has my guy, he's performing again,
and it's just it was amazing. But we laughed and
cried and hugged and prayed for each other. I mean,
we still keep in touch. He gave me a laughing
Buddha to remember our um our moments and the you know,
(12:19):
laughing meditation, and I just I just can't stop talking
about the people that I met. I saw you, I
saw you since then. I saw you at super Bowl
and I could tell when I saw you like this,
like I don't know, your skin looks good, just look calm,
and like I don't know, I was still dry too,
(12:40):
I mean I still am. I just I know I
don't need any outside anything to are You're afraid to
mess up the energy? Well no I had. I did
have a drink um like about two weeks ago, but
I couldn't wait to get back on the wagon. Like
it's just I don't need anything to make me be
the life of the party or to feel comfortable in
(13:01):
my skin. I found that I found that again, like
that that childlike joy where I can laugh at the
most silliest shit. Laughter is definitely healing. I wonder if
you felt this, because that's what Brene Brown talking about
this about, like a hangover, like a vulnerability hangover, like
when you share, if you share, like for real deeply,
(13:25):
and you're like vulnerable in front of people that maybe
like how you said, like what did I say the
next day? If you feel But that's why I don't listen.
When I do it, I show up as me, I
give you me, and I walk away. I don't go
back because I know me. I know I'll get heavy
about it, and I know my heart. I'm a good
person and I'm very transparent, and I'm coming to you
hopefully my story will help somebody else. And that's how
(13:48):
I show up, so there's no need for me to
go back and listen to it again. I still don't
know everything I say it in the podcast. You know
when I was, and I don't because I just refuse
to live. First of all, I don't snake to myself.
Drives me crazy. It was I will let me tell
you that. Somebody who saw it a few times and
then people send me their favorite clips. It was absolutely beautiful.
(14:11):
Like it was so brave and like naked, like it
it was like naked there and then so sometimes people
when you share it, even me, sometimes if I share
it too much, sometimes I'll be like, I feel like
a little weird after I feel a little but I'll
shake it off because I know I did it with
intention and control of what I share. Um, But I
don't know. I just wondered that if you feel felt like,
(14:32):
if you ever feel like anything, I just think that.
I mean, I don't share everything, but that's what Mary
always says. Mary says, I gotta keep my bra and
pant exactly right, exactly, but um, because people could will
harm you. Everybody doesn't have good intentions either, so you
have to protect yourself. But at the same time, you know,
as an actor, I share a lot. So if I'm sharing,
(14:52):
you know, a character's pain or vulnerability, a little bit
of that is an insight to my pain and vulnerability,
you know. But I have a switch, I turn it
on it off. You know, I don't have to stay
the character. I'll be on the scene, I'll be crying
or your cut and I'd be like, yeah, girls, So anyway,
the shoes you have, I just you know, I know
how to turn it off. Yeah. Yeah, that's how I
(15:14):
keep my sanity because I can't take on a character's
issue and mine, Lord, I go crazy. And you love
working right, I love it again because when before body,
I was like, I don't even know if I want
to do this. You were tired, I was tired. Yeah,
it was amazing that you shared that moment. Yeah, it
really changed people. I know from seeing in conversation and
(15:35):
things that have been fed to me, like you lifted
people up, I hope. So yeah, I think the pod
is gonna and you're just a great interview or two. Thanks,
let's give you your fingers. It's weird though, it's like
doing a regular interview, like if you just come here
to talk about but elementary, I could do that interview
with you. But that to me wasn't even really an interview, right,
(15:55):
It just was really being h It was us like
they really saw me. And my girlfriend was that I
wasn an interviewing you at all. Yeah, I mean I
was asking I didn't feel like it. I was asking
you questions to try to understand what was going on
and what do you think? And then we were sharing
thoughts and ideas. It was really a conversation. It wasn't
even an interview. Okay, well, I have two in real
(16:17):
life question questions keep guarding your trip. Number one, what
is the biggest thing you gained from your trip? Oh?
My god, The biggest thing that I gained from my
trip to Bali was that I don't need anyone to
make me happy, Like that's in me. But I have
control of that happiness. It doesn't come from a man.
It can't come from your mind. I said this in
the beginning. That's why I was in search of tapping
(16:38):
back into my joy and my happiness on my own.
And that's the thing, like, I don't I don't need
anyone to make me happy. I could have people help
add to my happiness, but the happiness starts within. I
think that's important because not everybody we talked about this
was we all we do these takeaways after every episode
in the conversation was not everybody can go to Bally
(17:00):
for a month, right, But you can figure out something
that you need for you and do that. Maybe it's
a please telling you, calling your sister and telling the
police take the kids for the weekend, or going wherever,
going on a walking really being present, intentional, breathing. There's
so many things you can do, yeah, to gather yourself. Well,
I have to ask you this before I let you
(17:21):
go today post bally toag you today? Yes, how happy
are you on a scale of one to ten today?
A thousand yes? A thousand yes? And I get people
saying like you're glowing? What's going on? Like, well, I'm
not pregnant, but I'm telling you, I just I found
(17:46):
something in me again and I'm happy and I'm so
full of hope my biggest word. And my team even
said that we love this post Bolly tarag you because
my favorite words. I'm so annoyed. Goddamnit, I'm annoyed, but
I haven't been annoyed since I've been back. I laugh
at shit. Now I'll be like what, oh, we have
to keep it hold on to that. And my boy
(18:08):
family checks in there like are you holding on to
the piece you found and your happiness? And I'm like
I'm still there. I'm still in the pocket. Well, we
feel it. You shared it with us, so we got
a little You probably lifted everybody up today. Some people
might not be in a thousand, but if they were six,
maybe now there or seven after. It is better than
it was the day before. Absolutely, yeah, it's Roger p Has.
(18:31):
Thank you. If did we forget anything, subscribe Ah, yes,
very important, guys. Subscribe Edgie Martina's Irl, the podcast, um
the audio podcast on YouTube. Subscribe on YouTube, Edie Martina's Irl.
Subscribe on Instagram. That was an excellent call, Britney. Yeah, yeah, produce, sir,
(18:52):
you better produce. You should make that a clip, britat Oh,
that's gonna be my That's gonna be my opening. I'm
gonna start vlogging today and it's gonna be Taragi saying
you've better produced, and I'll be like the life of
a producer. Brittany Ortiz. Thankause. Everyone please start work out here. Man,
enough of us. We're done with this episode, but I
will tell you tomorrow we'll be back with a takeaway
(19:14):
episode again of Jtu. And if you didn't get a
chance to see her video, I'll play you a little
clip just to kind of refresh you of one of
the main takeaways or moments that has stuck with me
from that one. The Internet has painted me is like
this angry black girl. Yeah, like she always mad, she
(19:36):
always gotta attitude and it's flying. That really bothers you
because you've said that to me even before we started.
That really bothers me because it's flying. Y'all don't even
know me. We will talk about that clip and the
full JT episode tomorrow on Edge Martinez ir L Takeaways.
I feel like JT and Taragi would be friends. I
(19:58):
feel like they would be cool to each other. We
should do a party, invite all the I r L
guests to hang out together. We'll do the one big
live event because she already loves Lauren. You know what
I'm saying. I feel like they all mesh with each other. Right,
let's talk about this tomorrow. We're done here for tests
for today. By y'all tuning in BA
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