April 21, 2020 • 28 mins
Ashleigh and Tim open up about Birthday shoutouts, correcting the wrong name and what has been proven to be areas to improve.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hi, Hey, hello Tim, and I'm Ashley. Are you with me?
To let you know? She just was waving literally at me.
I wanted you to say hi back or say hello back.
I just wanted you to yes. And what I was saying,
I didn't know you were such a method podcaster you
are listening to Are you with me? And I don't
(00:22):
know if you've done so? Yeah, but you need to
follow Ashley and I on Instagram please yea and at
asht If you can't figure it out, just google it.
There you go. Um. So I've really been looking forward
to this. Also, there's no excuse nowadays all we do
is like social media stock each other. Nobody cannot not
(00:46):
find each other, you know what I mean, like people
know how to find each other. As creepy as that sounds,
it's true. We all know that we can breeze by this.
We don't have to talk to in depth about it,
especially because Tim is like Mr Instagram stalker. Oh you
go down deep dark rabbit holes, not because you shouldn't
(01:06):
be down, but like you are an investigator. Oh god,
this is probably a topic for another thing were talking about.
When you have topics for a whole show, I mean
This could totally be a whole show just me outing
you on how psycho you are. Thank you, but I
don't feel like we should really put that out there.
No thank you about your deep Okay, so this week
(01:30):
it's just Astley and I, but we're going to be
implementing guests. By the way, you should not have that
on the table. Remember, last time is getting mad at
me for not having a coaster. Guys, is this what
your quarantine has come to? Also, you getting mad at
each other for like stupid little reasons because I still
feel like a little hurt and like judged and seen.
(01:50):
But last week Tim brought up the fact that I
haven't been washing my hair very much, and it's just like,
that's so rude that you would put me on blast
like that, And I was so caught off guard and
I didn't really feel like I got to explain myself.
But I'm sorry. I just want everybody to know that
I'm coming to you this week with freshly washed hair.
(02:12):
It looks beautiful. It may not be styled because I'm
trying again, I'm not going down this rabbit hole. Like, Okay,
I am clean, and even when my hair is not,
my body is Okay, I took like an hour of notes.
So can we get to my first my first line
of business? Sure, Tim, take it away. Okay, So this
is it just action this week, but I'm pretty sure
(02:33):
that next week we're going to be live with someone else. Tim,
stop making promises. I don't know what's going to happen
next Okay, I'm really looking forward to that. And we've
been talking about like whether or not we're going to
do like I have a guest on but Zoom or
FaceTime or whatever, because we need a social distance. We
can't go to the dream Hollywood and drink bottles at
a table with friends of ours. Oh my god, remember
(02:55):
those days when we were able to do that. That
was really the best. But also it could be a
total fail. I mean, people could lose their personality via zoom.
I know. So here's so ash I we're talking about
the pros and cons of like whether or not we
should do this or just have it be us until
we could in the social distance. And then I got
PTSD and Ashley, I know you're gonna remember this vividly,
(03:18):
so like I want to say, it was like seven
or eight years ago when Ash I were doing a
whole different show, and we were doing a phone interview
with an actor named Shane. Oh my god, Shane West. No,
it wasn't Shane West. And I don't really know many
people named Shane, and for some reason, in my etsy
bitsy teeny meany mind, I just assumed it was Shane West,
(03:40):
as you did when I said Shane. I don't really
know that many Shanes personally or on talent wise. To you,
I mean like that's not like a common name. So anyway,
everyone I assumed it was Shane West from a walk
to remember, Well, it wasn't. And in the beginning he didn't.
I didn't know who he was, and he was kind
(04:01):
of playing it off. Do you remember that they remember this?
But I'm kind of hearing this for the first time.
And then I asked about Mandy Moore and ship hit
the fan really quickly, okay, and then the backstory on
how he was on our show. He was on a
press junket radio tour. So Shane whatever his name is,
sits down in a studio, calls into like a million
shows in two hours whatever. We were one of them.
(04:23):
It's like every seven or eight minute, so it's like
rapid fire. And I asked about the Mandy Moore thing,
and luckily we knew the producer who was booked who
booked Shane on our show, and she texted me and
she was like, Tim, this is not Shane West. This
is Shane you know, but which Shane was it? I
don't know. I was I was googling Shane actors and
(04:44):
only Shane West came up. This is so weird. So
we were asking him all the wrong questions. Yeah, but
then it made me think on the flip side of this,
when we had Cat Sadler on the show and she
called Ashley Michelle and backstory, backstory on this is pandamnit. Cat,
the on site contact at the Dream Hollywood r i
(05:05):
P Social gatherings was named Michelle. So when Michelle met Kate,
Kate met Kate at Valet, took her in, not Kate
took her in. And then Cat, I have to remind
myself met Ashley and I so it makes sense why
she Yeah, yeah, she just flubbed it up. But why
didn't you correct her? I didn't, No, you just I
(05:28):
mean we have audio of her being like, right, Michelle,
and you responded, but Shane, I mean Shane not West
didn't correct me. It was luckily the producer Emily, who texts,
how could you have like asked him a question about
Mandy Moore. I thought he did. I thought he called
you out. I thought he was like wrong, Shane, dude,
(05:49):
like I thought it got weird. It may have. I
may have blocked that part out. The thing though about
Kat is she knew my name, she knew our names,
she did already us. Yeah, she just flubbed it up,
and we had had her on the show before. It
was just that that's I think that's probably why I
didn't correct her, And especially in the middle of the show.
(06:09):
It's just like, let's breeze by it and our name flubs,
Like should you correct them? And are they acceptable? Usually yes,
I feel like you always should correct someone on what
and if you flub up someone's name, you should say,
oh my god, wait, your name's not Michelle, your name
is actually I'm sorry. I mean, normally, when you flub
it up, you don't even realize that you flupped it up.
But if somebody called your name called you the wrong name,
(06:32):
you need to be like, wait a minute, what did
you just call me? And you need to correct them.
Because if you don't, that's bizarre. Do you have a
problem with telling somebody that they're wrong, because I have
no problem telling people. Trust me. I know that you don't,
but I just feel like maybe there has to be
the time on the place for it, because if you're
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in a group setting and you're like, um, excuse me,
and you call the person out, it could go south.
I mean, I don't feel like this situation happens at
off and that it's like that big of an issue.
We've all done it before. But you need to correct
the person. I'm not going to go living my life
as someone else in someone else's mind. Oh there goes
Beverly again. No, my name is Ashley. Off the record, actually,
(07:15):
I have very strong views on birthday presents on Instagram.
I have strong views on birthdays altogether. So but go ahead,
we can start with you know, back in August of nineteen,
actually posted a Instagram post I think what was the
(07:37):
day after your birthday? Oh yeah, when I told everybody
that they're dead to me if I didn't hear from them.
But both you and I don't post happy birthday messages
to each Montages aren't really my style, and by the
way if you want to really do some deep lurking.
On my Instagram back in like two fourteen, I posted
(08:00):
about this, so I have had I have like deep
rooted six years feelings on this about birthday tributes. Birthday
tribute as in it's Ashley's birthday and Tim wishes you
a happy birthday, they're kind of goofy. Yes, yes, exactly,
so a birthday tribute as in I'm wishing you a
happy birthday on my Tim's Instagram page. They're kind of goofy.
(08:24):
But you know when it comes from like a positive
place and a place of love. So I don't know
why we have such or you have such a huge
problem with it. Yeah, well you go, you go even deep,
root even deeper, and you say that you don't like
it because it gives it away and the people forgot
about your birthday. Then it's kind of like tipping them off.
You did say that this past year on my Well
that's why, because I want to know who you know,
(08:45):
my real paps are. So it's kind of a test. Yeah,
this is a test every year, and not even just
once a year. I'm always testing my friends. They don't
even know it, but I am this I'm always testing
and judging you. The show has really become proof that
that's kind of all we're doing. Yeah with our lives. Yeah,
if you want to be my friend, it's not going
(09:06):
to be easy. I mean last week, I really I
thought COVID Night Team was going to define my friends.
Now you're saying that birthday post define your friends. No, no, no,
I'm not saying my birthday wishes. No, no, no. I
haven't explained my piece on birthdays and my views on
your views. I mean, I think like so, and I
kind of disagree with you. Whatever. Birthday montages. I think
they're like goofy, but they're sweet. They come from a
(09:28):
place of like celebration and love and whatever. Well, not
not my style. But now it's even scaled more, and
the recipient of this birthday message is now reposting every
post to their story so much that you can't even
count the amount of frames at the top of their scream.
I know, we get it. Your friends love you and
they're wishing you a happy birthday. At what point do
(09:49):
you skip through the story? Oh, I don't. I like
looking at it because it's a deeper dive into the
photos that like that the birthday. The birthday boy or
girl wouldn't necessarily post themselves, and it's their friends that
are in control of what they're posting, so normally it's
good content. I like it. I actually really do like it.
(10:09):
I think they're goofy. It's not my style. Wish a
happy birthday always, and my my go to line is
just hbd, Oh you're an hbda. Actually that's so insincere. Instagram, Okay,
you can be a little less sincere and extra. It's
(10:30):
not always like my super close friends. It's just like
somebody that I follow. I can be like, oh hbdh.
If you ever say HBD to me, we're through. I
cannot wait until January. I may just celebrate your half
birthday this year, just so I could say, well, what
are your views, since, like you said, your views are
different than my views. Okay, well, my issue with birthdays
(10:53):
is the whole like plotting and planning of this big,
grandiose thing, like I can't it. It's like, okay, fine,
if you want to celebrate like the milestones or something
like that, but like, what do you mean the milestones whatever?
The quote big every five years? Yeah yeah, no, no, no, no,
(11:13):
we're not doing every five years. Once you get to
a certain age, it's every five years. It's like after
like it's then it's thirty, then it's thirty five, then
it's forty. Hey, once you get to a certain age,
every five is not it every ten? Once you hit thirty.
I don't disagree with you. And then we'll hit the
five when you get sixty five, because that's when you
(11:35):
become like retiree. I do disagree with you, but we're
not celebrating in a big way. Please take note. Timmy
and I just went to a thirty fifth birthday party,
a big bash. Did Yeah, we did. Anyways, I just
kind of can't with people, and they're there ways that
they like to celebrate. Come celebrate me every year, take
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me out to dinner, Let's do this big whole thing,
hang out with all of my friends, none of which
you are friends with or even no maybe, and it's
just this like gaggle of rando's. I just kind of
think I really can't And like everybody that tries to
make a big, huge celebration of their birthday every year,
it's like, Okay, we're not children anymore. We don't need
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to be doing this. We are adults, and we should
be hosting really great parties. I'm fine with that. Throw
a big birthday party and have me come as a guest.
And I just don't feel like people know how to
throw parties anymore. I don't know. Have we been to
like a hosted birthday thing. Yeah, of course, we have
like a birthday dinner where someone else paid, because I
(12:42):
feel like every time it's like split and then there's
that one asshole in the group who's like, absolutely, we
have him because we have normal friends. But then there's
always that one out when the person isn't hosting. There's
that one person in the group that's like, oh no,
come on, it's out, she's birthday, she shouldn't need to
pay for herself. And then we're all splitting naturally. Tab
three ways. Do you know what I'm talking about? Yeah,
(13:05):
but that's like I don't know, I don't remember the
last time I listen to meal like that. We're all
adults here, guys, we can all pay for ourselves. Let's
change gears here for a second. I feel like now
with our whole new quarantine situation, it's kind of like
we don't have as much of a structure to our
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show as we used to. And that's really fine because
that you know, you have no structure to anything. So true.
I know, it's so nice. I love it. I mean,
I'm really thriving. This is going straight into exactly what
I wanted to talk about it. I'm so glad I'm
thriving in some really great ways right now. But I'm
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also like kind of dying very slow, painful death at
the same time death. Well, I feel like we need
to talk about the things that are killing us slowly,
but also the things that are giving us life in
this crazy quarantine, in this crazy time. So while you
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think about your things that are giving you life, something
that's giving you life, and something that's like totally killing
you during quarantine, I'll tell you some of mine. I
realized that every night I have a new obsession. Oh yeah,
that's kind of exciting. I love when my TV goes
to sleep mode and all of a sudden, the screensaver
(14:33):
on the TV comes up and it's like, yes, and
it's the jellyfish in the nation. Oh my god, it's
the best. And then it's like dolphins swimming in the water,
or it's different fish, or it's whatever. It is I
don't know, elk walking or like the California coastline. Oh yes,
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it's my new favorite thing. I almost prefer it sometimes
better than like when I'm actually watching on TV. It's
so relaxing. Try it, Try it the next time it
comes on. Just kind of like sit there and take
it all in and allow it to be like a
little zen zone for you, because that's what it is
for me. I truly. It gives me like all the
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good positive feels and it's relaxing. It's very soothing. It's
kind of like listening to like that like low volume
spaw music or something like that exactly, and to this
there is no sound, which is really nice, so it's
not off putting in any way. It's just like pure
eye candy that's very calming. And remember when we had
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the screensavers set as like my eye Cloud or something
that I think we had it playing and like your
family was over and things that like really dicey on
the screen with like photos of us doing god knows what,
Oh my god. Yeah, that's all of that used to
be a thing to do. It was a thing to do.
It still is, I mean not people don't do that anymore.
This was like two haven't seen so they do. It's bad.
(16:02):
I'm glad times have changed. Okay. So the thing that's
that's the thing that's just like giving me so much
life right now. And then one of the things that's
killing me. I really am excited to hear this because
you've been like miss positive this whole time of like
trying to really see silver lining. So I really am
ready for you to go dark right now. I feel
like this is that's how I am normally as a person.
(16:25):
I really do, like I do try and find the positive.
You do, but this is a situation where it's like
very isolated, so it's like everyone's kind of talking about
it all the time, whereas like you don't talk about that. Whatever.
Carry on, let's hear your negative. Do you agree with me?
I'm a really positive and I find the positive and
I don't really like sweet okay. Um. The thing that's
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killing me is like I can't with Android users, Like
I hate them, and like I don't know why we're
not like like they're literally the worst people to text with,
and why don't we give them a harder time about it?
And like why are they always so into what they do.
I just I'm on a group chat with too, with
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two people. It's bad. I don't like them. Well, what
I've learned is when you was trying text on Android
or you can't if you're on WiFi and you don't
have service, it doesn't go through because what's going through
as a text not really. Yeah, so I mean, I
hear you. It's bizarre. But it's just it's so annoying,
and they're always so strong in their opinion about their
stupid phone. But it's so like the other day, it
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was texting with one and they liked a photo or
like a meme or something that somebody sent in the
group chat, and it didn't even alert me as to
which one it liked. So it's just said, blah blah
blah liked a photo. Well, I don't even know what
photo that person like. Was it my meme? Was it
the photo above? Was it a different meme? I just
don't like. So you're crashing a brilliant on a person
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having a phone. Yeahs are usually like very passionate about
their love. They are like, I'm not passionate about an iPhone.
I just like it because of everything it offers. But
I wouldn't like go to death for it. Androiders would.
I know, they're so weird. So it's just like the
little things are really kind of getting to me. So
it's like that kind of stuff. Okay, Well, my my
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thrive and my struggle are kind of like intertwined. So
my thrive is I'm sleeping more like I would say
on average, we're going to bed between like ten thirty
and twelve thirty, and I'm waking up between like seven
thirty and eight fifteen, sometimes nine on the flip so
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I'm getting I'm getting eight hours asleep and guaranteed tonight,
So get in while you can. On the flip side
of that, while I am because prior you were going
to the gym, you were waking up at like, we
don't steal my slowly dying. So on the flip side
of that, why I'm not waking up early is because
I'm not going to the gym because I used to
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go to the gym. I'd wake up at six thirty
go to the gym by seven, So I would there's
no gym to go to, and we like cannot find
the dumbbells to have at our house for me to
do like one set of exercise. Cannot get dumbbells are
like the hottest commodity. It's like we can't find him.
It's awful. So I don't know what to do that. Well,
you got your resistant bands, yeah, but they I mean
(19:25):
it's like they've been in in pending mode for like,
but you did receive one pack of your resistance spans
and you still aren't working out. Yeah, I know. But see,
I'm what I've realized here is like I'm an all
or nothing kind of guy. You're just doing nothing right now. No. No,
it's hard for me to like get creative. I like
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to be I'm like more black and white. I want
to either go to the gym and work out or
I want to just go on a walk in the neighborhood.
I mean that's great at all, but that's not going
to cut it. You need to make some change. Trust me.
I know my body is getting jiggly. I mean I
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think I feel like all of ours are right now. Maybe,
but like I really wish I was the type of
person that could just be like I'm taking this time
to get so motivated and to come out of this quarantine,
just like evolved out of this quarantine as like a
butterfly and be just this like I don't know, like
total change body goals, but it is God's dreaming about. Instead,
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I'm eating like peanut butter brownies that you made the
other night. Those were good. Those were good. But I
struggle with being a gym person and not having a gym.
Like when you have a routine and we've been going
too the same gym for like eight years, where you
know where everything is, you know what to do, you know,
you know the setup, it's hard to like, oh yeah, sure.
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Like a fitness person that I followed post like seven
workouts you could do using your couch. It's like, I'm
never going to go out to our couch and put
my foot up in new squats and I'm just not
That's not me. It's kind of like an infomercial that
like Suzanne Summers was in in like the nineties. I
never like, get your thighs looking good. I never did that.
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I mean I was also seven and didn't need to
work on my thighs. But you catch my drift here,
I mean yes and no. I feel like you're just
like looking for an excuse to be honest, Like you
can go work out. I mean, even before quarantine happened,
you were running to like the local park or whatever,
and you were working out, like on the basketball court,
(21:36):
like you were doing your own thing. Yeah, but then
that park we saw a snake at and I'm backed off.
That's true, So I'm not going there. And the courts
are never available now because kids don't go to freaking
school anymore. So, I mean I'm competing with the thirteen
year old boys in the neighborhood. I know. But Tim,
we have a treadmill, and also you have two legs,
you can run on the streets. Well, I know, but
(21:57):
it's just been cold. Okay, they're going it's been cold,
excuse for too long. For so many areas of my life.
For like two or three weeks, you've been saying it's
too cold to work out. Has it not been No,
I think it's actually better to work out when it's cold.
You got warmed up in a second. No, wait, when
it's cold, I don't care because I just wear sweats
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and baggy clothes. When it's warm, I want to wear
like tank tops. It's like, oh, we gotta get these
little twigs at the gym. I mean, I ran four
miles today, you ran four miles or you walked four miles.
I walked in on you and you were walking. You
walked in on me on my cool down at the
end of my sixty minute run walk. It did not
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look like a run. Has there ever been something in
your life that you've really wanted and then it doesn't
happen and you realize how lucky you are that it
didn't happen. Oh my god. Yeah. This past week, actually
and I were presented with the opportunity to adopt another dog,
and it was a dog that was like essentially a
(23:00):
usin of our dog Nixon. If you don't know who
Nixon is, he is like the light of our life
on Instagram, the cutest little puppy in the world. And
he's a labordude all in these three and he's psycho.
But he's also really well behaved and we've raised him
to be a good boy. But he also has like
really bad flaws, which is kind of like all of us, right, yeah, totally.
I mean, like Nixon is really good with being alone
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and being like independent, but then we we like bring
my niece or nephew over and he wants to kill them,
like he's not good with kids, not good with kids.
He's also not good with other animals. But you know what,
he is thriving in this quarantine because he is great
alone and he's great with us. But he also doesn't
I mean, he has people around him all day every day,
so he's like living it up. Yeah, he's just not
(23:43):
used to little kids. But you know what, Nixon neither
am I Okay, So it's all good, right, and then
he goes on walks and he wants to kill do
So it's like there's a lot of negatives, but majority
positive with them. So I was I think on Thursday
that the opportunity fell into our lap and then it
fell through shortly thereafter. Yeah, it happened for the better. Well,
I think in the moment when we were presented with it,
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it's like us in my head at least, I start
racing through like this this like this is everything I
could do, I would do, I should do. I mean,
I know, you get so into it, you're like all
in like, oh my gosh, it's something that could potentially happen.
You're like it's happening, and this is how I'm going
to move forward with it. Oh yeah, I mean I
was already playing like our drive up to meet the person,
(24:26):
it was, it was planned. I know, I'm the more
realistic when but then Friday hit and we like decided
to paint this weekend and do other things around the house,
and we were just so thankful the whole time that
we didn't have another dog. Well yeah, and that we
had a really well behaved dog that was like not
getting into the trash can or needing to be let out,
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or not getting into the paint or just whatever. I
think there comes a point in life where you need
to like realize those moments because a lot of the time,
all to speak myself, I want things to happen, and
you're so like hell bent in your head of like
this this and this need to happen, and like this
is my plan of how the next three hours are
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going to go or the next three years, and it
never ends up going that way. And it's a good
reminder of like just like surrendering to that and knowing
that like you can't you're planning will never plan itself out.
I mean, look what is going on right now. If
two months ago in January someone would have said two
months ago was February, right, yeah, it's April. What day
(25:33):
is today? That we'd be all on shelter in policy,
no one would have believed it, but now here we are.
I know, it's a good thing to remember that we
aren't in control of everything, and sometimes what we really
expect to happen and what we want to happen, there
are other options of things that maybe even better for
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us if it don't happen. I know it's easier said
than done to be okay with something like that, but
it it was just a good reminder of like, okay,
we were really hell bent, or at least I was
on getting that dog. I mean I was not like
I knew it wasn't really going to happen. Oh I was.
I was gunning for I was texting that a thirteen
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year old like you were just like all in well,
it just really made sense. And the dog looked exactly
like Nixon, so it'll be like twins. I know he
was so cute, but it was a good thing. I mean,
could you imagine party training right now? Like, no, thank you,
he's why was he three? I thought he was a puppy.
He was three years old. See, I wasn't I wasn't
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all in and you weren't educated on it. You didn't,
did you. I don't know if you noticed. But I
was also trying to pawn it off on other people,
and I was trying to pawn it on, pawn it
off on us, trying to get my aunt to get it.
I was trying to get my mom to get it.
Oh my god, you were really selling this thing. I know.
I just wanted someone to have it, but I wasn't
ready to commit to the response stability of having another
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baby in my life. Well that's true. Oh my god,
well dog years. But you know what, labordoodles are puppies forever.
You know. It's great and all chatting with you, But
it's times like this that I really feel like our
show is interactive, interactive, and like we need a third person,
(27:22):
you know, just like that, like there was multiple people
or anyone else. I just I don't know the point.
This might be another low point. I go. I go
in waves every every couple of days. I just I
think I'm starting to miss people. I feel like whenever
we implemented guests, we're going to not let them hang
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the phone up, or can you stay with us while
we edit this please. I know it's so weird how
nice it is to like see people or even just
to like social distance from afar, you know, but it's
good to also see like new people, like running into
a next door neighbor that like, I've seen every day
this whole time. I don't really get the same excitement
over as like seeing someone I haven't seen in a month.
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How about the people that like it's like, oh, it's
actually kind of nice not having to see you. Yeah,
there's a few of them. Why did you just get nervous?
And I said that because I was. I started pacing
in my head of like, who haven't Okay, yeah there
is some. Yeah, there's quite a few. Um kind of
(28:27):
re evaluate. We're not going down this reevaluation road. God,
it's like last week we did this and all of
a sudden, I have seventeen face times the day. This
episode comes out from people that like are trying to overcompensate, right,
and then the couple that didn't. There are a few
that did not try and step up to the plate,
(28:48):
which I'm not looking to do that again. Well that's fine,
I've written them off. All y'all are dead to me.
Hi, Hey, hello Tim, and I'm Ashley. Are you with me?
To let you know? She just was waving literally at me.
I wanted you to say hi back or say hello back.
I just wanted you to yes. And what I was saying,
I didn't know you were such a method podcaster you
are listening to Are you with me? And I don't
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know if you've done so? Yeah, but you need to
follow Ashley and I on Instagram please yea and at
asht If you can't figure it out, just google it.
There you go. Um. So I've really been looking forward
to this. Also, there's no excuse nowadays all we do
is like social media stock each other. Nobody cannot not
(00:46):
find each other, you know what I mean, like people
know how to find each other. As creepy as that sounds,
it's true. We all know that we can breeze by this.
We don't have to talk to in depth about it,
especially because Tim is like Mr Instagram stalker. Oh you
go down deep dark rabbit holes, not because you shouldn't
(01:06):
be down, but like you are an investigator. Oh god,
this is probably a topic for another thing were talking about.
When you have topics for a whole show, I mean
This could totally be a whole show just me outing
you on how psycho you are. Thank you, but I
don't feel like we should really put that out there.
No thank you about your deep Okay, so this week
(01:30):
it's just Astley and I, but we're going to be
implementing guests. By the way, you should not have that
on the table. Remember, last time is getting mad at
me for not having a coaster. Guys, is this what
your quarantine has come to? Also, you getting mad at
each other for like stupid little reasons because I still
feel like a little hurt and like judged and seen.
(01:50):
But last week Tim brought up the fact that I
haven't been washing my hair very much, and it's just like,
that's so rude that you would put me on blast
like that, And I was so caught off guard and
I didn't really feel like I got to explain myself.
But I'm sorry. I just want everybody to know that
I'm coming to you this week with freshly washed hair.
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It looks beautiful. It may not be styled because I'm
trying again, I'm not going down this rabbit hole. Like, Okay,
I am clean, and even when my hair is not,
my body is Okay, I took like an hour of notes.
So can we get to my first my first line
of business? Sure, Tim, take it away. Okay, So this
is it just action this week, but I'm pretty sure
(02:33):
that next week we're going to be live with someone else. Tim,
stop making promises. I don't know what's going to happen
next Okay, I'm really looking forward to that. And we've
been talking about like whether or not we're going to
do like I have a guest on but Zoom or
FaceTime or whatever, because we need a social distance. We
can't go to the dream Hollywood and drink bottles at
a table with friends of ours. Oh my god, remember
(02:55):
those days when we were able to do that. That
was really the best. But also it could be a
total fail. I mean, people could lose their personality via zoom.
I know. So here's so ash I we're talking about
the pros and cons of like whether or not we
should do this or just have it be us until
we could in the social distance. And then I got
PTSD and Ashley, I know you're gonna remember this vividly,
(03:18):
so like I want to say, it was like seven
or eight years ago when Ash I were doing a
whole different show, and we were doing a phone interview
with an actor named Shane. Oh my god, Shane West. No,
it wasn't Shane West. And I don't really know many
people named Shane, and for some reason, in my etsy
bitsy teeny meany mind, I just assumed it was Shane West,
(03:40):
as you did when I said Shane. I don't really
know that many Shanes personally or on talent wise. To you,
I mean like that's not like a common name. So anyway,
everyone I assumed it was Shane West from a walk
to remember, Well, it wasn't. And in the beginning he didn't.
I didn't know who he was, and he was kind
(04:01):
of playing it off. Do you remember that they remember this?
But I'm kind of hearing this for the first time.
And then I asked about Mandy Moore and ship hit
the fan really quickly, okay, and then the backstory on
how he was on our show. He was on a
press junket radio tour. So Shane whatever his name is,
sits down in a studio, calls into like a million
shows in two hours whatever. We were one of them.
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It's like every seven or eight minute, so it's like
rapid fire. And I asked about the Mandy Moore thing,
and luckily we knew the producer who was booked who
booked Shane on our show, and she texted me and
she was like, Tim, this is not Shane West. This
is Shane you know, but which Shane was it? I
don't know. I was I was googling Shane actors and
(04:44):
only Shane West came up. This is so weird. So
we were asking him all the wrong questions. Yeah, but
then it made me think on the flip side of this,
when we had Cat Sadler on the show and she
called Ashley Michelle and backstory, backstory on this is pandamnit. Cat,
the on site contact at the Dream Hollywood r i
(05:05):
P Social gatherings was named Michelle. So when Michelle met Kate,
Kate met Kate at Valet, took her in, not Kate
took her in. And then Cat, I have to remind
myself met Ashley and I so it makes sense why
she Yeah, yeah, she just flubbed it up. But why
didn't you correct her? I didn't, No, you just I
(05:28):
mean we have audio of her being like, right, Michelle,
and you responded, but Shane, I mean Shane not West
didn't correct me. It was luckily the producer Emily, who texts,
how could you have like asked him a question about
Mandy Moore. I thought he did. I thought he called
you out. I thought he was like wrong, Shane, dude,
(05:49):
like I thought it got weird. It may have. I
may have blocked that part out. The thing though about
Kat is she knew my name, she knew our names,
she did already us. Yeah, she just flubbed it up,
and we had had her on the show before. It
was just that that's I think that's probably why I
didn't correct her, And especially in the middle of the show.
(06:09):
It's just like, let's breeze by it and our name flubs,
Like should you correct them? And are they acceptable? Usually yes,
I feel like you always should correct someone on what
and if you flub up someone's name, you should say,
oh my god, wait, your name's not Michelle, your name
is actually I'm sorry. I mean, normally, when you flub
it up, you don't even realize that you flupped it up.
But if somebody called your name called you the wrong name,
(06:32):
you need to be like, wait a minute, what did
you just call me? And you need to correct them.
Because if you don't, that's bizarre. Do you have a
problem with telling somebody that they're wrong, because I have
no problem telling people. Trust me. I know that you don't,
but I just feel like maybe there has to be
the time on the place for it, because if you're
(06:52):
in a group setting and you're like, um, excuse me,
and you call the person out, it could go south.
I mean, I don't feel like this situation happens at
off and that it's like that big of an issue.
We've all done it before. But you need to correct
the person. I'm not going to go living my life
as someone else in someone else's mind. Oh there goes
Beverly again. No, my name is Ashley. Off the record, actually,
(07:15):
I have very strong views on birthday presents on Instagram.
I have strong views on birthdays altogether. So but go ahead,
we can start with you know, back in August of nineteen,
actually posted a Instagram post I think what was the
(07:37):
day after your birthday? Oh yeah, when I told everybody
that they're dead to me if I didn't hear from them.
But both you and I don't post happy birthday messages
to each Montages aren't really my style, and by the
way if you want to really do some deep lurking.
On my Instagram back in like two fourteen, I posted
(08:00):
about this, so I have had I have like deep
rooted six years feelings on this about birthday tributes. Birthday
tribute as in it's Ashley's birthday and Tim wishes you
a happy birthday, they're kind of goofy. Yes, yes, exactly,
so a birthday tribute as in I'm wishing you a
happy birthday on my Tim's Instagram page. They're kind of goofy.
(08:24):
But you know when it comes from like a positive
place and a place of love. So I don't know
why we have such or you have such a huge
problem with it. Yeah, well you go, you go even deep,
root even deeper, and you say that you don't like
it because it gives it away and the people forgot
about your birthday. Then it's kind of like tipping them off.
You did say that this past year on my Well
that's why, because I want to know who you know,
(08:45):
my real paps are. So it's kind of a test. Yeah,
this is a test every year, and not even just
once a year. I'm always testing my friends. They don't
even know it, but I am this I'm always testing
and judging you. The show has really become proof that
that's kind of all we're doing. Yeah with our lives. Yeah,
if you want to be my friend, it's not going
(09:06):
to be easy. I mean last week, I really I
thought COVID Night Team was going to define my friends.
Now you're saying that birthday post define your friends. No, no, no,
I'm not saying my birthday wishes. No, no, no. I
haven't explained my piece on birthdays and my views on
your views. I mean, I think like so, and I
kind of disagree with you. Whatever. Birthday montages. I think
they're like goofy, but they're sweet. They come from a
(09:28):
place of like celebration and love and whatever. Well, not
not my style. But now it's even scaled more, and
the recipient of this birthday message is now reposting every
post to their story so much that you can't even
count the amount of frames at the top of their scream.
I know, we get it. Your friends love you and
they're wishing you a happy birthday. At what point do
(09:49):
you skip through the story? Oh, I don't. I like
looking at it because it's a deeper dive into the
photos that like that the birthday. The birthday boy or
girl wouldn't necessarily post themselves, and it's their friends that
are in control of what they're posting, so normally it's
good content. I like it. I actually really do like it.
(10:09):
I think they're goofy. It's not my style. Wish a
happy birthday always, and my my go to line is
just hbd, Oh you're an hbda. Actually that's so insincere. Instagram, Okay,
you can be a little less sincere and extra. It's
(10:30):
not always like my super close friends. It's just like
somebody that I follow. I can be like, oh hbdh.
If you ever say HBD to me, we're through. I
cannot wait until January. I may just celebrate your half
birthday this year, just so I could say, well, what
are your views, since, like you said, your views are
different than my views. Okay, well, my issue with birthdays
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is the whole like plotting and planning of this big,
grandiose thing, like I can't it. It's like, okay, fine,
if you want to celebrate like the milestones or something
like that, but like, what do you mean the milestones whatever?
The quote big every five years? Yeah yeah, no, no, no, no,
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we're not doing every five years. Once you get to
a certain age, it's every five years. It's like after
like it's then it's thirty, then it's thirty five, then
it's forty. Hey, once you get to a certain age,
every five is not it every ten? Once you hit thirty.
I don't disagree with you. And then we'll hit the
five when you get sixty five, because that's when you
(11:35):
become like retiree. I do disagree with you, but we're
not celebrating in a big way. Please take note. Timmy
and I just went to a thirty fifth birthday party,
a big bash. Did Yeah, we did. Anyways, I just
kind of can't with people, and they're there ways that
they like to celebrate. Come celebrate me every year, take
(11:57):
me out to dinner, Let's do this big whole thing,
hang out with all of my friends, none of which
you are friends with or even no maybe, and it's
just this like gaggle of rando's. I just kind of
think I really can't And like everybody that tries to
make a big, huge celebration of their birthday every year,
it's like, Okay, we're not children anymore. We don't need
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to be doing this. We are adults, and we should
be hosting really great parties. I'm fine with that. Throw
a big birthday party and have me come as a guest.
And I just don't feel like people know how to
throw parties anymore. I don't know. Have we been to
like a hosted birthday thing. Yeah, of course, we have
like a birthday dinner where someone else paid, because I
(12:42):
feel like every time it's like split and then there's
that one asshole in the group who's like, absolutely, we
have him because we have normal friends. But then there's
always that one out when the person isn't hosting. There's
that one person in the group that's like, oh no,
come on, it's out, she's birthday, she shouldn't need to
pay for herself. And then we're all splitting naturally. Tab
three ways. Do you know what I'm talking about? Yeah,
(13:05):
but that's like I don't know, I don't remember the
last time I listen to meal like that. We're all
adults here, guys, we can all pay for ourselves. Let's
change gears here for a second. I feel like now
with our whole new quarantine situation, it's kind of like
we don't have as much of a structure to our
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show as we used to. And that's really fine because
that you know, you have no structure to anything. So true.
I know, it's so nice. I love it. I mean,
I'm really thriving. This is going straight into exactly what
I wanted to talk about it. I'm so glad I'm
thriving in some really great ways right now. But I'm
(13:47):
also like kind of dying very slow, painful death at
the same time death. Well, I feel like we need
to talk about the things that are killing us slowly,
but also the things that are giving us life in
this crazy quarantine, in this crazy time. So while you
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think about your things that are giving you life, something
that's giving you life, and something that's like totally killing
you during quarantine, I'll tell you some of mine. I
realized that every night I have a new obsession. Oh yeah,
that's kind of exciting. I love when my TV goes
to sleep mode and all of a sudden, the screensaver
(14:33):
on the TV comes up and it's like, yes, and
it's the jellyfish in the nation. Oh my god, it's
the best. And then it's like dolphins swimming in the water,
or it's different fish, or it's whatever. It is I
don't know, elk walking or like the California coastline. Oh yes,
(14:53):
it's my new favorite thing. I almost prefer it sometimes
better than like when I'm actually watching on TV. It's
so relaxing. Try it, Try it the next time it
comes on. Just kind of like sit there and take
it all in and allow it to be like a
little zen zone for you, because that's what it is
for me. I truly. It gives me like all the
(15:14):
good positive feels and it's relaxing. It's very soothing. It's
kind of like listening to like that like low volume
spaw music or something like that exactly, and to this
there is no sound, which is really nice, so it's
not off putting in any way. It's just like pure
eye candy that's very calming. And remember when we had
(15:39):
the screensavers set as like my eye Cloud or something
that I think we had it playing and like your
family was over and things that like really dicey on
the screen with like photos of us doing god knows what,
Oh my god. Yeah, that's all of that used to
be a thing to do. It was a thing to do.
It still is, I mean not people don't do that anymore.
This was like two haven't seen so they do. It's bad.
(16:02):
I'm glad times have changed. Okay. So the thing that's
that's the thing that's just like giving me so much
life right now. And then one of the things that's
killing me. I really am excited to hear this because
you've been like miss positive this whole time of like
trying to really see silver lining. So I really am
ready for you to go dark right now. I feel
like this is that's how I am normally as a person.
(16:25):
I really do, like I do try and find the positive.
You do, but this is a situation where it's like
very isolated, so it's like everyone's kind of talking about
it all the time, whereas like you don't talk about that. Whatever.
Carry on, let's hear your negative. Do you agree with me?
I'm a really positive and I find the positive and
I don't really like sweet okay. Um. The thing that's
(16:48):
killing me is like I can't with Android users, Like
I hate them, and like I don't know why we're
not like like they're literally the worst people to text with,
and why don't we give them a harder time about it?
And like why are they always so into what they do.
I just I'm on a group chat with too, with
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two people. It's bad. I don't like them. Well, what
I've learned is when you was trying text on Android
or you can't if you're on WiFi and you don't
have service, it doesn't go through because what's going through
as a text not really. Yeah, so I mean, I
hear you. It's bizarre. But it's just it's so annoying,
and they're always so strong in their opinion about their
stupid phone. But it's so like the other day, it
(17:34):
was texting with one and they liked a photo or
like a meme or something that somebody sent in the
group chat, and it didn't even alert me as to
which one it liked. So it's just said, blah blah
blah liked a photo. Well, I don't even know what
photo that person like. Was it my meme? Was it
the photo above? Was it a different meme? I just
don't like. So you're crashing a brilliant on a person
(17:57):
having a phone. Yeahs are usually like very passionate about
their love. They are like, I'm not passionate about an iPhone.
I just like it because of everything it offers. But
I wouldn't like go to death for it. Androiders would.
I know, they're so weird. So it's just like the
little things are really kind of getting to me. So
it's like that kind of stuff. Okay, Well, my my
(18:17):
thrive and my struggle are kind of like intertwined. So
my thrive is I'm sleeping more like I would say
on average, we're going to bed between like ten thirty
and twelve thirty, and I'm waking up between like seven
thirty and eight fifteen, sometimes nine on the flip so
(18:43):
I'm getting I'm getting eight hours asleep and guaranteed tonight,
So get in while you can. On the flip side
of that, while I am because prior you were going
to the gym, you were waking up at like, we
don't steal my slowly dying. So on the flip side
of that, why I'm not waking up early is because
I'm not going to the gym because I used to
(19:03):
go to the gym. I'd wake up at six thirty
go to the gym by seven, So I would there's
no gym to go to, and we like cannot find
the dumbbells to have at our house for me to
do like one set of exercise. Cannot get dumbbells are
like the hottest commodity. It's like we can't find him.
It's awful. So I don't know what to do that. Well,
you got your resistant bands, yeah, but they I mean
(19:25):
it's like they've been in in pending mode for like,
but you did receive one pack of your resistance spans
and you still aren't working out. Yeah, I know. But see,
I'm what I've realized here is like I'm an all
or nothing kind of guy. You're just doing nothing right now. No. No,
it's hard for me to like get creative. I like
(19:47):
to be I'm like more black and white. I want
to either go to the gym and work out or
I want to just go on a walk in the neighborhood.
I mean that's great at all, but that's not going
to cut it. You need to make some change. Trust me.
I know my body is getting jiggly. I mean I
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think I feel like all of ours are right now. Maybe,
but like I really wish I was the type of
person that could just be like I'm taking this time
to get so motivated and to come out of this quarantine,
just like evolved out of this quarantine as like a
butterfly and be just this like I don't know, like
total change body goals, but it is God's dreaming about. Instead,
(20:32):
I'm eating like peanut butter brownies that you made the
other night. Those were good. Those were good. But I
struggle with being a gym person and not having a gym.
Like when you have a routine and we've been going
too the same gym for like eight years, where you
know where everything is, you know what to do, you know,
you know the setup, it's hard to like, oh yeah, sure.
(20:54):
Like a fitness person that I followed post like seven
workouts you could do using your couch. It's like, I'm
never going to go out to our couch and put
my foot up in new squats and I'm just not
That's not me. It's kind of like an infomercial that
like Suzanne Summers was in in like the nineties. I
never like, get your thighs looking good. I never did that.
(21:15):
I mean I was also seven and didn't need to
work on my thighs. But you catch my drift here,
I mean yes and no. I feel like you're just
like looking for an excuse to be honest, Like you
can go work out. I mean, even before quarantine happened,
you were running to like the local park or whatever,
and you were working out, like on the basketball court,
(21:36):
like you were doing your own thing. Yeah, but then
that park we saw a snake at and I'm backed off.
That's true, So I'm not going there. And the courts
are never available now because kids don't go to freaking
school anymore. So, I mean I'm competing with the thirteen
year old boys in the neighborhood. I know. But Tim,
we have a treadmill, and also you have two legs,
you can run on the streets. Well, I know, but
(21:57):
it's just been cold. Okay, they're going it's been cold,
excuse for too long. For so many areas of my life.
For like two or three weeks, you've been saying it's
too cold to work out. Has it not been No,
I think it's actually better to work out when it's cold.
You got warmed up in a second. No, wait, when
it's cold, I don't care because I just wear sweats
(22:18):
and baggy clothes. When it's warm, I want to wear
like tank tops. It's like, oh, we gotta get these
little twigs at the gym. I mean, I ran four
miles today, you ran four miles or you walked four miles.
I walked in on you and you were walking. You
walked in on me on my cool down at the
end of my sixty minute run walk. It did not
(22:39):
look like a run. Has there ever been something in
your life that you've really wanted and then it doesn't
happen and you realize how lucky you are that it
didn't happen. Oh my god. Yeah. This past week, actually
and I were presented with the opportunity to adopt another dog,
and it was a dog that was like essentially a
(23:00):
usin of our dog Nixon. If you don't know who
Nixon is, he is like the light of our life
on Instagram, the cutest little puppy in the world. And
he's a labordude all in these three and he's psycho.
But he's also really well behaved and we've raised him
to be a good boy. But he also has like
really bad flaws, which is kind of like all of us, right, yeah, totally.
I mean, like Nixon is really good with being alone
(23:22):
and being like independent, but then we we like bring
my niece or nephew over and he wants to kill them,
like he's not good with kids, not good with kids.
He's also not good with other animals. But you know what,
he is thriving in this quarantine because he is great
alone and he's great with us. But he also doesn't
I mean, he has people around him all day every day,
so he's like living it up. Yeah, he's just not
(23:43):
used to little kids. But you know what, Nixon neither
am I Okay, So it's all good, right, and then
he goes on walks and he wants to kill do
So it's like there's a lot of negatives, but majority
positive with them. So I was I think on Thursday
that the opportunity fell into our lap and then it
fell through shortly thereafter. Yeah, it happened for the better. Well,
I think in the moment when we were presented with it,
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it's like us in my head at least, I start
racing through like this this like this is everything I
could do, I would do, I should do. I mean,
I know, you get so into it, you're like all
in like, oh my gosh, it's something that could potentially happen.
You're like it's happening, and this is how I'm going
to move forward with it. Oh yeah, I mean I
was already playing like our drive up to meet the person,
(24:26):
it was, it was planned. I know, I'm the more
realistic when but then Friday hit and we like decided
to paint this weekend and do other things around the house,
and we were just so thankful the whole time that
we didn't have another dog. Well yeah, and that we
had a really well behaved dog that was like not
getting into the trash can or needing to be let out,
(24:47):
or not getting into the paint or just whatever. I
think there comes a point in life where you need
to like realize those moments because a lot of the time,
all to speak myself, I want things to happen, and
you're so like hell bent in your head of like
this this and this need to happen, and like this
is my plan of how the next three hours are
(25:10):
going to go or the next three years, and it
never ends up going that way. And it's a good
reminder of like just like surrendering to that and knowing
that like you can't you're planning will never plan itself out.
I mean, look what is going on right now. If
two months ago in January someone would have said two
months ago was February, right, yeah, it's April. What day
(25:33):
is today? That we'd be all on shelter in policy,
no one would have believed it, but now here we are.
I know, it's a good thing to remember that we
aren't in control of everything, and sometimes what we really
expect to happen and what we want to happen, there
are other options of things that maybe even better for
(25:55):
us if it don't happen. I know it's easier said
than done to be okay with something like that, but
it it was just a good reminder of like, okay,
we were really hell bent, or at least I was
on getting that dog. I mean I was not like
I knew it wasn't really going to happen. Oh I was.
I was gunning for I was texting that a thirteen
(26:16):
year old like you were just like all in well,
it just really made sense. And the dog looked exactly
like Nixon, so it'll be like twins. I know he
was so cute, but it was a good thing. I mean,
could you imagine party training right now? Like, no, thank you,
he's why was he three? I thought he was a puppy.
He was three years old. See, I wasn't I wasn't
(26:38):
all in and you weren't educated on it. You didn't,
did you. I don't know if you noticed. But I
was also trying to pawn it off on other people,
and I was trying to pawn it on, pawn it
off on us, trying to get my aunt to get it.
I was trying to get my mom to get it.
Oh my god, you were really selling this thing. I know.
I just wanted someone to have it, but I wasn't
ready to commit to the response stability of having another
(27:01):
baby in my life. Well that's true. Oh my god,
well dog years. But you know what, labordoodles are puppies forever.
You know. It's great and all chatting with you, But
it's times like this that I really feel like our
show is interactive, interactive, and like we need a third person,
(27:22):
you know, just like that, like there was multiple people
or anyone else. I just I don't know the point.
This might be another low point. I go. I go
in waves every every couple of days. I just I
think I'm starting to miss people. I feel like whenever
we implemented guests, we're going to not let them hang
(27:43):
the phone up, or can you stay with us while
we edit this please. I know it's so weird how
nice it is to like see people or even just
to like social distance from afar, you know, but it's
good to also see like new people, like running into
a next door neighbor that like, I've seen every day
this whole time. I don't really get the same excitement
over as like seeing someone I haven't seen in a month.
(28:05):
How about the people that like it's like, oh, it's
actually kind of nice not having to see you. Yeah,
there's a few of them. Why did you just get nervous?
And I said that because I was. I started pacing
in my head of like, who haven't Okay, yeah there
is some. Yeah, there's quite a few. Um kind of
(28:27):
re evaluate. We're not going down this reevaluation road. God,
it's like last week we did this and all of
a sudden, I have seventeen face times the day. This
episode comes out from people that like are trying to overcompensate, right,
and then the couple that didn't. There are a few
that did not try and step up to the plate,
(28:48):
which I'm not looking to do that again. Well that's fine,
I've written them off. All y'all are dead to me.
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