April 14, 2020 • 26 mins
Ashleigh and Tim discuss these uncertain times we're living in and how they're coping while trying to find the positivity.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey, this is Ashley and it's Tim and you are
listening to are you with me? And I don't know
if you're I'm with you. I was just gonna say,
like I really want to know if people are on
my level, like are you really with me right now?
I don't know what day it is quarantine day? What
I feel crazy like every day is a roller coaster.
(00:22):
It's something new we will share, like kind of what
why we've been silent for the past sixty days? Has
been sixty days. I think that was the last time.
I think it was in February that we did our
last episode. Everything is a blur, and so what happened
was so I think it was like mid February. We
were about to record our first episode with guests, and
(00:45):
literally we were supposed to tape in the afternoon and
then in the morning, like things fell through logistically with
where we were going to tape, So then it got
pushed two weeks to go to a new place that
we were going to tape at, which no problem. Well
then all of a sudden and that happened. It was
like March eleven or twelve, and we're like the beginning
of March. Yeah, this is weird. And then one of
(01:07):
the people that we were supposed to tape with was
MJ from Shaws of Sunset. She has a like not
even a one year old, and she was like, I'm
not coming to do your show, and we're like, obviously
we're not asking you to come to our show right now. Well,
and to be honest at that time too, this was Yeah,
I think it was like the second week in March,
we kind of felt weird about even doing it anyways,
(01:30):
um doing it with guests, with this being with people,
because at that point you and I had started to
kind of self isolate a little bit. Yeah, social distance
ourselves before social distancing was a term, we really did. Yeah,
I mean and I think it all worked out for
the best, to be honest, but it kind of felt
(01:50):
weird at first to be even doing a show together,
just us, with everything that was going on, because every
day felt like something new. We were learning something new
every single day about this new coronavirus or COVID nineteen,
and it just it just didn't feel right at first
to be even doing a show. I feel like every
(02:12):
day in March just felt like Groundhog's day, Like you
would wake up and check like Twitter or the news,
and it would be like, I don't know what, like
the world could be ending, and it wouldn't surprise me
for sure. I mean I remember even in the beginning, um,
we were shamed for not doing social functions or social
things because people weren't taking it seriously at first, or
(02:34):
as seriously as maybe we were. And then I mean
in the in the beginning to they were telling us
that people were making fun of people for wearing um
uh like masks and gloves and cover ups and things
like that in the beginning, and then it was like, oh, whoops,
actually everybody should be wearing a mask right now. It
kind of was just like a wreck a mess of
(02:56):
a situation. It was pretty much just like trial and
Air it really, and it's just been weird and we
felt weird. But now here we are, here, we are
so content coming at you. All we have is to
create content. All we have is time. All we have
is to create content and to consume content. Except me,
(03:18):
I was giving myself some self love. Well I mean,
you know, like I was thinking about and I was
just yeah, yeah, um, and I just because I feel
like with everything going on, I'm trying to keep myself
in like a physical and um positive mental state throughout
(03:40):
this process, because for me, it's kind of been a
roller coaster. Some days are great and then other days
are kind of funky and weird, and I need to
remove myself from the house and go for a drive
or go for a walk, or whatever that may be.
So I've also been trying to give myself some self
love and whatever that may be. Take a bath, or
do a face mask or whatever, go on a walk. Well,
(04:04):
this afternoon, I took a bath and immediately I turned
off the water. My bath was full. I was ready
to sit back, relax and just indulge in some Instagram stories,
some good old content, and I dropped my phone in
(04:24):
the bathtub, fully submerged, sunk to the bottom. I have
no phone. My life, as I know it is now over.
But it was fine because it was so on when
you brought it out to put it in the rice.
Yeah yah, yeah, I know. So I stripped it, I
wiped it off, I stripped it down, and I threw
it in rice and it's sitting in a window sill
(04:47):
right now. But all I've been doing this entire quarantine
is I've just been attached at the hip to my phone,
and whereas I probably do need to find some balance
in that, um, I'm now being forced to find balance
in that. And I just hope that my phone does
end up being okay, because the last thing that I
(05:08):
can't even do is I can't go to the Apple store.
I can't go to her eyes and I can't go
You have to order it online, then you have to
wait for it to ship, and everything shipping so delayed.
Right now you're gonna be without the phone for a week.
But it was it's going to be fine. I think
it's going to be fine too, And if it's not,
then you know what. It's fine. It's meant to be.
It just feels weird because I don't really have anyone's
phone numbers. I don't know people's phone numbers. I don't
(05:30):
have a landline. You just actually learned my number, I
did I know which I've had the same number since
two thousand and fourteen, and I mean, I don't even
think you knew the area code for the first year
that I had it well, And I think other than
your number, the only other person I know is my mom's.
I don't even know my dad my brothers. I don't
know anyone's number, literally, no one. Yeah, I only know
(05:54):
I know people's numbers who have had numbers as long,
like a long long time, back in the day when
we used to have to memorize phone I could like
call my parents house and I know it by heart.
I know my dad's because he's had the same number
since he got a cell phone in like two thousand.
But my mom's got a new number. I don't know
it right. My mom doesn't even her zip code doesn't
(06:15):
even mask where she lives. I mean, it's like, how
do you try sketchy. She's like quite the woman to
Speaking of self love, I popped to CBD gummy before
we started taping. I feel I don't feel it. I
don't really feel anything. Okay, I've never been more scared
to take a CEBD gummy in my life. Why. I
(06:38):
don't know. There's something that's just like unknown about it. Okay,
so let's let's talk almost nightly. O. I've smoked weed before,
and here we are. I mean, I can't pop a
gummy that has no THC in it. Okay, Well, so
you should be good, So what are you fin I know,
but like what are you nervous about? I have anxiety
right now? No, no, no, I did. I taking it
(07:01):
this whole time during quarantine. I was like, I'm gonna
experiment with the CBD. I'm gonna do CBD? Okay? Is that?
Is that? What this is? And I just haven't been
able to bring myself to do it, I think because
it's like an ingestible and the like with drinking, like
you take a sip a whiskey and you feel it,
you taste it, it goes down, like with the gummy.
(07:22):
It's like you're taking it, you're letting it go in
your body, and then it's like and you've never taken
these gummies before. I've never taken a gummy ever. I've
taken we last year, like I think, Ash and I
were at the farmer's market, a farmer's market, and we
did like a tincture like the and it tasted awful.
But also there was a farmer's market where you able
to drink, so we were drinking and taking and it's
(07:45):
like kind of sketchy that we just like randomly took some.
It was really stupid. I mean, it's fine, it's CBD.
Well we made it through I mean, we made it
to the other side, did But I mean, why you're
kind of stressing me out right now that you're stressed
out or that you were scared to even take this
because now is not the time. I mean, if something
were to go awry, what's kind of go wrong? Though?
(08:05):
I don't know, why are you so nervous about this
because I just don't really know, Like I don't know
how it's gonna how I'm gonna respond to it, how
your body will react to it. Well, that's not I mean,
now it's not the best time to experiment with new
things because we really can't go to the doctor, the hospital,
anything like that. Okay, I don't think I'm going to
go to the hospital for doing CBD. I don't think
(08:25):
you are either. This feels like I'm we're talking about
CBD with like my parents or my grandparents or something.
Why because I'm talking about doing CB. I mean, I
feel great. I'm so glad because everyone I've heard people
say that like they've replaced like no, sometimes at five
o'clock you have like a glass of wine or a
(08:46):
drink to take the edge off your day. A lot
of people like replace that with taking a CBD gummy
because it like just chills you out. So here we
are I'm trying to be chill. That's amazing. So is
this like your way of being healthier? Um? Yeah, because
the first like thirty days of this, I'll speak for
myself here on this, I wasn't. I was just like quarantine.
(09:09):
I've been just like eating any and everything in sight.
I have drinking like a fish. I mean, I'll have
a bottle of wine by myself. I don't know. Why
are you shaking your head? No, that's the truth. We
are on here to be honest, and you are not
drinking a bottle of wine at night. I didn't say
(09:31):
every night. I have been known to do that over
the past thirty days. Whether or not it's been daily,
I can't confirm. No, I can confirm that literally hasn't happened.
But like we've been having like we made Mohito's one night,
I had four of them. Like that's not normal for
me to do. I just it's kind of like it's
like half vacation half work mode right now. But like
(09:52):
to note, ashe and I work from home, So this
is like a thing that we've been used to for
years where I think where the differences is like we're
not going to the gym, we're not going to dinner,
we're not going to parties, we're not seeing friends. So
much so that ash and I spent over an hour
last night before we went to bed in bed on
Ashley's phone watching all of her Instagram stories from a
(10:16):
year ago on the archive, and it was just weird
to see how much, I mean, life was different back
when I had a working phone. How dare you bring
that up right now? I just got that stripped away
from me. But yeah, do not go into your Instagram
and watch your archives stories. You'll see all the fun
(10:37):
things that you were doing a year ago or even
just last six months. I know we were watching like
a year ago, we were able to go to dinner
with friends, we were able to go to a party,
we were traveling, we were going on vacation, we were
just I don't know, going to the gym. Like the
thought of going to the gym right now excites me
so much, and we can't and I don't think I'm
gonna go. If if the gym opens here in l
(10:58):
A County, we're actually than I are on I won't go.
It's not going to happen one anyway. I'm just trying
to be real with you. I want you to have
like a realistic view on all of this. I'm fine
with the whole gym thing right now because I've been
I've tried to be creative every week with like doing
(11:19):
something different, working out different ways and stuff, and we
did finally. This did push us to finally set up
our home gym, which was wonderful. And I just need
somebody to push me over the edge because I'm dying
to get a peloton um. But it's it's super easy,
not like to work out from home, and I always
thought that it wasn't And I just really enjoyed going
to the gym and taking classes and being told what
(11:42):
to do. Sometimes I just want to work out and
be mindless. But now I'm trying to look at this
as like glass half full and enjoy the process of
working out from home. Well, as we know from when
we recorded back in February, I was like on the
path to like losing my holiday weight. Oh my god,
that's right. You wanted everybody to compliment you at our party. Yeah,
(12:05):
and to note I wore a very tight shirt. Whoa
did you get any compliments at the party. I just
have to say we Tim and I threw a party
and it was literally the weekend before everything got weird
and people started like self isolating and all of that,
(12:26):
like we had the last party we did. Because I
don't think like when will we bounce back in terms
of like, Okay, we're gonna all go to a party,
We're gonna go to dinner, We're gonna go to the
Hollywood Bowl assuming it's open. I don't know what. I
don't know because I don't think I'm going to feel
comfortable right away. Even when like it's like, oh, it's fine,
we can start everyone can start acting doble again. Like
(12:50):
I don't think I'm going to just fall back into
it and jump back into it, and we don't need
to go too deep into because everybody has their own opinion.
Everybody's going to handle it differently. Um, But I've kind
of learned that, like I don't like talking about every
I don't like talking about the coronavirus with people. Why
are we doing it right now on the show? Then?
(13:10):
I don't know. But what I've realized is like when
you start talking about it with people, it turns into
like there's a kind of a snarky line that I've
noticed a lot of people use when talking about it,
and it's I'm not sure if you saw X, and
that X could be the press conference with Trump or
Gavin Newsom or Cuomo or whatever, and it's like kind
(13:32):
of like I'm watching the news. I don't know if
you're watching the news. Oh my god, don't. I'm not
going to name people, but pretty much any and everyone
that we've talked about Corona with, which is pretty much
everyone being spoken with in the past thirty days, they
all say that, I don't know if you saw this,
(13:53):
but and then they go in and then by the
end of the conversation you're you all have just, you know,
one up each other to where it's like the world's ending.
It's not a good place to be, it really, isn't.
I Like I'm not talking about it, No, I'm not now,
because like I've been working myself up and then I
try and bring myself back down to earth and like
(14:16):
work yourself up over what just different things, like just
this whole thing all of a sudden, like I'll give
myself mad anxiety for no reason or maybe it is
for a reason, And maybe it's because I feel am
I getting sick, Like I'll make myself hold my breath
for ten seconds. You made me hold my breath earlier
for ten second. Yeah exactly. But I have heartburn. It's
(14:39):
not like I said, it's external chest pain, which is
like heart It's like it's not having chest pain. I
just feel like everything lately is like triggering me, and
I just I don't need to CBD. Gummy, you need
to do CBD right now and take that edge off. No, No,
I'm fine with my sparkling water. I feel like we
(15:02):
need to have like a ship, not do that in
the mic. Please, what click with your tongue? Oh my god,
We're starting to lose it on each other here. I
just think that we need to have like a shift
of perspective here maybe or change it done talking about coronavirus.
We are, okay, how's everyone else doing? Being locked up
(15:28):
with someone else? Well, I don't want to hear about,
you know, press the press conference from today. I'm not
bringing up any press conference, Okay. I just want to know, like, like,
how are we changing perspective here? How are we looking
at things more positive? Like? What is the silver lining
in this, like, have you found anything positive throughout your
(15:51):
experience thus far with being I mean it's been over
thirty days, right, just about days that you and I
have been like on um quarantine. I guess I think so, yeah,
but I think every state's been different, but but for
for us. So, I mean, what's your silver lining? What
(16:11):
kind of positive things have you other than your CBD? Yeah,
I mean I'm popping, I'm doing CBT now. I don't know.
I don't have a silver lining yet, haven't found like
anything positive. I'm just happy that I am healthy and employed,
and that gives me as much silver lining as any
because there's a lot of people who are not healthy
(16:34):
or and or not employed. Those are two huge, beautiful gifts.
And so I think it's just being like aware of
when things in life around you get catastrophic, to be
like to still be aware of what you have absolutely
what's yours? I don't you know, I'm not sure. I
(16:54):
feel like I'm trying to this question. I'm trying to
just keep positive and keep like a really positive mental
place and space because it is easy at times like
this to spiral and to get go negative and to
kind of lose it a little bit and not really
take care of yourself in the mix of everything, which
(17:15):
then just makes it even worse. And so I'm just
trying to really be aware of my feelings and my
mental health. Can I ask you, like a clean question,
cleaning question? Why don't you wash your hair every day
during this crisis? Oh? My god? First of all, I
(17:36):
have so many answers for you. First of all, women
really shouldn't wash their hair very much because it strips
it of its natural oil. And I've heard you say
that before. Understood, are you grossed out or something by me? Well,
I mean you worked out on the treadmill for an
hour or so, it's like, and then you're you don't
wash your head. I'm not crossed out. I don't get
it because I couldn't do that. But it is in
(17:57):
a tight bun right now and it's kept like away
from everything. Yeah, but doesn't like your scalp still gets sweaty. Yeah,
but like I'm not. I wasn't like dripping and sweat
after my workout today. Okay, so when you drip and
sweat from my going to like, I don't know a
psychle class. Ve Gym was actually open, then I do
(18:18):
I have to wash. I do, But I'm also very
specific about like washing my hair, like I wouldn't wash
my hair before I go to a crazy cycle class
that I know I'm going to be like drenched after
or something like when I hopefully when I get the peloton,
I will then have to probably be washing my hair
way more. But I'm trying through this process to like
(18:39):
take care of my skin. Like I'm not trying to
wear makeup every day or at all. How many more makeup? Well,
I did wear it yesterday, yesterday was Easter, doesn't count.
But I'm trying to do certain things to like, you know,
beautify my skin or take care of my hair or whatever.
(19:00):
Is it's just like more like self care stuff. But
normally if I don't wash it, it's in like a
type bun or a braid or something to be kept
out of the way. But I'm trying to be you know,
it's it ain't easy being a woman. Okay, pain is beauty.
Pain is beauty. I thought beauty pain Oh is it
(19:20):
isn't it? Beauty is pain if like you're wearing like
high heels or like the thing like a crazy thing
in your hair yes, that is what they say. A
couple of weeks ago, Ashley and I had Zoom lunch
where we had a couple of people that we work
with on Zoom. It's my new favorite thing. Yeah, it's
my favorite and least favorite thing to do with Zoom.
(19:44):
Especially there's like a lot of feedback on microphones or
on speakers, so like when I'm talking to someone on
their computer, it's booming through their computer speaker and I
like hear my last word on on the zoom. Oh weird. Well,
maybe to pipe down a little bit. Well, no, I
think they turn it up because they're like kind of older,
so they don't have the best of hearing. So I
(20:05):
think they turned the volume up, which understood some of
us on this podcast don't have the best of hearing either. Okay,
you do not need to be right now. I can't
control my hearing. I was born this way. Okay. You
know that there's times when we are at a party,
actually I go to parties, or we're at a group conversation. God,
(20:27):
I can't believe you right now, and there we should
be building each other up at a time like that.
I'm just not tearing each other down. I'm letting people
know who you are. And there's times where it's like
maybe we're in allowed room or the person is talking
quietly or talking not like now she's direction and she
can't hear, and I just know from her mannerisms that
(20:47):
she is not following the conversation and it's just shaking
her head nodding. Uh huh. Well, it's like, why are
you telling me an elaborate story at a party where
it's loud or something. It's like people, it's like, don't
be so chatty. You can go to coffee if you
want to tell me from like a real big story.
(21:08):
But like if I need to be like reading your
lips because it's so loud and you're telling me too
long of a story, then you probably shouldn't be telling
it to me. Okay, we don't need to go that.
That's like a whole other episode apparently that it is
Ashley's Party Etiquette coming up next. We could do more
beauty topics too, if you want to do what more
(21:29):
beauty talk? No, no, no, that is not the platform
for this. Fine, moving on anyway. The feedback on Zoom
bugs because it ends up turning into a shouting match
or at least this lunch did where you're kind of
talking over each other, And there's when you talk over
each other, like in a conversation, you could still kind
(21:50):
of like pick up on what the other person is saying.
But when you're talking on a zoom and their audio
is coming through your computer, you really can't hear what
they're saying. You just see their lips. You either lips moving,
you hear rumbling from the speakers, but you're still talking.
And like when I get talking and I am talking
over someone, I can't stop myself. There is nothing I
(22:12):
hate more than a conference call. Those are the complete worst,
talking over each other. Nobody can like get there, who starts,
who's leading? I just that's the worst for me. So
I do actually kind of like a zoom a little
bit better. And at least the zoom like gives the
(22:33):
power or the mic if you will, to whoever is
like the floating screen, Yeah, which I love that. So
it's like you need to follow that. Yeah, but you
need to apply your party etiquette to your conference call etiquette,
which is you don't need to go into like how
is your weekend on a conference call? We don't need
(22:55):
to know, just say great. Don't even say Okay, I agree.
I mean, you don't need to tell me. I don't
go into details you've done things like you wish people
happy Friday and things like it kind of opens up
untalkable can of worms. I you know what, you just
(23:16):
seem really combative with me right now that I'm not.
I'm just I'm letting I'm letting it be known because
you're saying you're not. I would rather conference call than zoom.
Oh my, you're out of your mind. I love a
zoom and I've been loving facetiming lately, and I feel
like with everything going on, it's really like shifted into
talking on the phone more like what we never did
(23:37):
that before. And I love it. I like seeing people
and like, I don't know, there's something more to it
that's like more I get something out of people. Feel good.
You'll figure out who your real friends are after this,
Like have you heard people say that maybe not? I
just are you you are? So? Have you heard people
(23:58):
like you ever thought like, oh DPD how many milligrams
were those? I know? Okay, continue, there hasn't been a
point where you felt like, oh, people will come. I'll
figure out who my peeps are when I come out
of this. So you've decided that you are gonna finally,
(24:30):
at this stage in your life, you're going to find
out who your real friends are because of COVID nineteen.
I really hope that I'm at the top of your list.
A deciding factor is who answers my face times without warning.
A lot of now days, everybody needs to freaking answer
(24:50):
their facetimes. We know nobody has anything going on. Yeah,
so it's kind of a bitch lap in the face.
If someone doesn't, I disagree, if they if you, they don't.
If you don't answer and you face time them back,
that's fine. But if you just don't ever call me back,
that's messed up. Oh yeah, I actually have a couple
(25:12):
of friends that did that. Yeah, I know, but I
so are we writing them off? They're not our friends anymore.
I think I think you need to figure out you
guys know who you are. I think you need to
figure out you need to weigh the options. You know what.
I cannot wait for this episode to go up because
I am going to directly text it to those people. No,
(25:33):
I think you should add them in your story. Everyone
who's listening. Oh, my god, put them on blast on
social media. Oh wait, but my phone doesn't work. But
actually it's going to be out of it. You only
need to leave it in for twenty four hours. It's
just so weird. It's just such a weird feeling. It's like,
what if there was an emergency actually started barking out
people for me to text let them know that I
(25:55):
don't have my Okay, five o'clock. No one's going to
be getting anyone to get worried about where my we're abouts.
I mean, you don't seem too concerned because you're not
going anywhere. We're so we're social distancing together. If you
need to find me, just come over to my house. Okay,
I'll be here phoneless with my dog. No, don't come
(26:17):
over to our house, that's right, please? Oh my god,
I am so unreachable. I hate this. This is another
added level of anxiety added to the town. I think
we just have a We have a lot to cover
over the next few weeks until this all wraps up.
I think we need a phone and some friends because
(26:39):
we're getting wacky lucky lucky listeners more t n A
come in your way.
Hey, this is Ashley and it's Tim and you are
listening to are you with me? And I don't know
if you're I'm with you. I was just gonna say,
like I really want to know if people are on
my level, like are you really with me right now?
I don't know what day it is quarantine day? What
I feel crazy like every day is a roller coaster.
(00:22):
It's something new we will share, like kind of what
why we've been silent for the past sixty days? Has
been sixty days. I think that was the last time.
I think it was in February that we did our
last episode. Everything is a blur, and so what happened
was so I think it was like mid February. We
were about to record our first episode with guests, and
(00:45):
literally we were supposed to tape in the afternoon and
then in the morning, like things fell through logistically with
where we were going to tape, So then it got
pushed two weeks to go to a new place that
we were going to tape at, which no problem. Well
then all of a sudden and that happened. It was
like March eleven or twelve, and we're like the beginning
of March. Yeah, this is weird. And then one of
(01:07):
the people that we were supposed to tape with was
MJ from Shaws of Sunset. She has a like not
even a one year old, and she was like, I'm
not coming to do your show, and we're like, obviously
we're not asking you to come to our show right now. Well,
and to be honest at that time too, this was Yeah,
I think it was like the second week in March,
we kind of felt weird about even doing it anyways,
(01:30):
um doing it with guests, with this being with people,
because at that point you and I had started to
kind of self isolate a little bit. Yeah, social distance
ourselves before social distancing was a term, we really did. Yeah,
I mean and I think it all worked out for
the best, to be honest, but it kind of felt
(01:50):
weird at first to be even doing a show together,
just us, with everything that was going on, because every
day felt like something new. We were learning something new
every single day about this new coronavirus or COVID nineteen,
and it just it just didn't feel right at first
to be even doing a show. I feel like every
(02:12):
day in March just felt like Groundhog's day, Like you
would wake up and check like Twitter or the news,
and it would be like, I don't know what, like
the world could be ending, and it wouldn't surprise me
for sure. I mean I remember even in the beginning, um,
we were shamed for not doing social functions or social
things because people weren't taking it seriously at first, or
(02:34):
as seriously as maybe we were. And then I mean
in the in the beginning to they were telling us
that people were making fun of people for wearing um
uh like masks and gloves and cover ups and things
like that in the beginning, and then it was like, oh, whoops,
actually everybody should be wearing a mask right now. It
kind of was just like a wreck a mess of
(02:56):
a situation. It was pretty much just like trial and
Air it really, and it's just been weird and we
felt weird. But now here we are, here, we are
so content coming at you. All we have is to
create content. All we have is time. All we have
is to create content and to consume content. Except me,
(03:18):
I was giving myself some self love. Well I mean,
you know, like I was thinking about and I was
just yeah, yeah, um, and I just because I feel
like with everything going on, I'm trying to keep myself
in like a physical and um positive mental state throughout
(03:40):
this process, because for me, it's kind of been a
roller coaster. Some days are great and then other days
are kind of funky and weird, and I need to
remove myself from the house and go for a drive
or go for a walk, or whatever that may be.
So I've also been trying to give myself some self
love and whatever that may be. Take a bath, or
do a face mask or whatever, go on a walk. Well,
(04:04):
this afternoon, I took a bath and immediately I turned
off the water. My bath was full. I was ready
to sit back, relax and just indulge in some Instagram stories,
some good old content, and I dropped my phone in
(04:24):
the bathtub, fully submerged, sunk to the bottom. I have
no phone. My life, as I know it is now over.
But it was fine because it was so on when
you brought it out to put it in the rice.
Yeah yah, yeah, I know. So I stripped it, I
wiped it off, I stripped it down, and I threw
it in rice and it's sitting in a window sill
(04:47):
right now. But all I've been doing this entire quarantine
is I've just been attached at the hip to my phone,
and whereas I probably do need to find some balance
in that, um, I'm now being forced to find balance
in that. And I just hope that my phone does
end up being okay, because the last thing that I
(05:08):
can't even do is I can't go to the Apple store.
I can't go to her eyes and I can't go
You have to order it online, then you have to
wait for it to ship, and everything shipping so delayed.
Right now you're gonna be without the phone for a week.
But it was it's going to be fine. I think
it's going to be fine too, And if it's not,
then you know what. It's fine. It's meant to be.
It just feels weird because I don't really have anyone's
phone numbers. I don't know people's phone numbers. I don't
(05:30):
have a landline. You just actually learned my number, I
did I know which I've had the same number since
two thousand and fourteen, and I mean, I don't even
think you knew the area code for the first year
that I had it well, And I think other than
your number, the only other person I know is my mom's.
I don't even know my dad my brothers. I don't
know anyone's number, literally, no one. Yeah, I only know
(05:54):
I know people's numbers who have had numbers as long,
like a long long time, back in the day when
we used to have to memorize phone I could like
call my parents house and I know it by heart.
I know my dad's because he's had the same number
since he got a cell phone in like two thousand.
But my mom's got a new number. I don't know
it right. My mom doesn't even her zip code doesn't
(06:15):
even mask where she lives. I mean, it's like, how
do you try sketchy. She's like quite the woman to
Speaking of self love, I popped to CBD gummy before
we started taping. I feel I don't feel it. I
don't really feel anything. Okay, I've never been more scared
to take a CEBD gummy in my life. Why. I
(06:38):
don't know. There's something that's just like unknown about it. Okay,
so let's let's talk almost nightly. O. I've smoked weed before,
and here we are. I mean, I can't pop a
gummy that has no THC in it. Okay, Well, so
you should be good, So what are you fin I know,
but like what are you nervous about? I have anxiety
right now? No, no, no, I did. I taking it
(07:01):
this whole time during quarantine. I was like, I'm gonna
experiment with the CBD. I'm gonna do CBD? Okay? Is that?
Is that? What this is? And I just haven't been
able to bring myself to do it, I think because
it's like an ingestible and the like with drinking, like
you take a sip a whiskey and you feel it,
you taste it, it goes down, like with the gummy.
(07:22):
It's like you're taking it, you're letting it go in
your body, and then it's like and you've never taken
these gummies before. I've never taken a gummy ever. I've
taken we last year, like I think, Ash and I
were at the farmer's market, a farmer's market, and we
did like a tincture like the and it tasted awful.
But also there was a farmer's market where you able
to drink, so we were drinking and taking and it's
(07:45):
like kind of sketchy that we just like randomly took some.
It was really stupid. I mean, it's fine, it's CBD.
Well we made it through I mean, we made it
to the other side, did But I mean, why you're
kind of stressing me out right now that you're stressed
out or that you were scared to even take this
because now is not the time. I mean, if something
were to go awry, what's kind of go wrong? Though?
(08:05):
I don't know, why are you so nervous about this
because I just don't really know, Like I don't know
how it's gonna how I'm gonna respond to it, how
your body will react to it. Well, that's not I mean,
now it's not the best time to experiment with new
things because we really can't go to the doctor, the hospital,
anything like that. Okay, I don't think I'm going to
go to the hospital for doing CBD. I don't think
(08:25):
you are either. This feels like I'm we're talking about
CBD with like my parents or my grandparents or something.
Why because I'm talking about doing CB. I mean, I
feel great. I'm so glad because everyone I've heard people
say that like they've replaced like no, sometimes at five
o'clock you have like a glass of wine or a
(08:46):
drink to take the edge off your day. A lot
of people like replace that with taking a CBD gummy
because it like just chills you out. So here we
are I'm trying to be chill. That's amazing. So is
this like your way of being healthier? Um? Yeah, because
the first like thirty days of this, I'll speak for
myself here on this, I wasn't. I was just like quarantine.
(09:09):
I've been just like eating any and everything in sight.
I have drinking like a fish. I mean, I'll have
a bottle of wine by myself. I don't know. Why
are you shaking your head? No, that's the truth. We
are on here to be honest, and you are not
drinking a bottle of wine at night. I didn't say
(09:31):
every night. I have been known to do that over
the past thirty days. Whether or not it's been daily,
I can't confirm. No, I can confirm that literally hasn't happened.
But like we've been having like we made Mohito's one night,
I had four of them. Like that's not normal for
me to do. I just it's kind of like it's
like half vacation half work mode right now. But like
(09:52):
to note, ashe and I work from home, So this
is like a thing that we've been used to for
years where I think where the differences is like we're
not going to the gym, we're not going to dinner,
we're not going to parties, we're not seeing friends. So
much so that ash and I spent over an hour
last night before we went to bed in bed on
Ashley's phone watching all of her Instagram stories from a
(10:16):
year ago on the archive, and it was just weird
to see how much, I mean, life was different back
when I had a working phone. How dare you bring
that up right now? I just got that stripped away
from me. But yeah, do not go into your Instagram
and watch your archives stories. You'll see all the fun
(10:37):
things that you were doing a year ago or even
just last six months. I know we were watching like
a year ago, we were able to go to dinner
with friends, we were able to go to a party,
we were traveling, we were going on vacation, we were
just I don't know, going to the gym. Like the
thought of going to the gym right now excites me
so much, and we can't and I don't think I'm
gonna go. If if the gym opens here in l
(10:58):
A County, we're actually than I are on I won't go.
It's not going to happen one anyway. I'm just trying
to be real with you. I want you to have
like a realistic view on all of this. I'm fine
with the whole gym thing right now because I've been
I've tried to be creative every week with like doing
(11:19):
something different, working out different ways and stuff, and we
did finally. This did push us to finally set up
our home gym, which was wonderful. And I just need
somebody to push me over the edge because I'm dying
to get a peloton um. But it's it's super easy,
not like to work out from home, and I always
thought that it wasn't And I just really enjoyed going
to the gym and taking classes and being told what
(11:42):
to do. Sometimes I just want to work out and
be mindless. But now I'm trying to look at this
as like glass half full and enjoy the process of
working out from home. Well, as we know from when
we recorded back in February, I was like on the
path to like losing my holiday weight. Oh my god,
that's right. You wanted everybody to compliment you at our party. Yeah,
(12:05):
and to note I wore a very tight shirt. Whoa
did you get any compliments at the party. I just
have to say we Tim and I threw a party
and it was literally the weekend before everything got weird
and people started like self isolating and all of that,
(12:26):
like we had the last party we did. Because I
don't think like when will we bounce back in terms
of like, Okay, we're gonna all go to a party,
We're gonna go to dinner, We're gonna go to the
Hollywood Bowl assuming it's open. I don't know what. I
don't know because I don't think I'm going to feel
comfortable right away. Even when like it's like, oh, it's fine,
we can start everyone can start acting doble again. Like
(12:50):
I don't think I'm going to just fall back into
it and jump back into it, and we don't need
to go too deep into because everybody has their own opinion.
Everybody's going to handle it differently. Um, But I've kind
of learned that, like I don't like talking about every
I don't like talking about the coronavirus with people. Why
are we doing it right now on the show? Then?
(13:10):
I don't know. But what I've realized is like when
you start talking about it with people, it turns into
like there's a kind of a snarky line that I've
noticed a lot of people use when talking about it,
and it's I'm not sure if you saw X, and
that X could be the press conference with Trump or
Gavin Newsom or Cuomo or whatever, and it's like kind
(13:32):
of like I'm watching the news. I don't know if
you're watching the news. Oh my god, don't. I'm not
going to name people, but pretty much any and everyone
that we've talked about Corona with, which is pretty much
everyone being spoken with in the past thirty days, they
all say that, I don't know if you saw this,
(13:53):
but and then they go in and then by the
end of the conversation you're you all have just, you know,
one up each other to where it's like the world's ending.
It's not a good place to be, it really, isn't.
I Like I'm not talking about it, No, I'm not now,
because like I've been working myself up and then I
try and bring myself back down to earth and like
(14:16):
work yourself up over what just different things, like just
this whole thing all of a sudden, like I'll give
myself mad anxiety for no reason or maybe it is
for a reason, And maybe it's because I feel am
I getting sick, Like I'll make myself hold my breath
for ten seconds. You made me hold my breath earlier
for ten second. Yeah exactly. But I have heartburn. It's
(14:39):
not like I said, it's external chest pain, which is
like heart It's like it's not having chest pain. I
just feel like everything lately is like triggering me, and
I just I don't need to CBD. Gummy, you need
to do CBD right now and take that edge off. No, No,
I'm fine with my sparkling water. I feel like we
(15:02):
need to have like a ship, not do that in
the mic. Please, what click with your tongue? Oh my god,
We're starting to lose it on each other here. I
just think that we need to have like a shift
of perspective here maybe or change it done talking about coronavirus.
We are, okay, how's everyone else doing? Being locked up
(15:28):
with someone else? Well, I don't want to hear about,
you know, press the press conference from today. I'm not
bringing up any press conference, Okay. I just want to know, like, like,
how are we changing perspective here? How are we looking
at things more positive? Like? What is the silver lining
in this, like, have you found anything positive throughout your
(15:51):
experience thus far with being I mean it's been over
thirty days, right, just about days that you and I
have been like on um quarantine. I guess I think so, yeah,
but I think every state's been different, but but for
for us. So, I mean, what's your silver lining? What
(16:11):
kind of positive things have you other than your CBD? Yeah,
I mean I'm popping, I'm doing CBT now. I don't know.
I don't have a silver lining yet, haven't found like
anything positive. I'm just happy that I am healthy and employed,
and that gives me as much silver lining as any
because there's a lot of people who are not healthy
(16:34):
or and or not employed. Those are two huge, beautiful gifts.
And so I think it's just being like aware of
when things in life around you get catastrophic, to be
like to still be aware of what you have absolutely
what's yours? I don't you know, I'm not sure. I
(16:54):
feel like I'm trying to this question. I'm trying to
just keep positive and keep like a really positive mental
place and space because it is easy at times like
this to spiral and to get go negative and to
kind of lose it a little bit and not really
take care of yourself in the mix of everything, which
(17:15):
then just makes it even worse. And so I'm just
trying to really be aware of my feelings and my
mental health. Can I ask you, like a clean question,
cleaning question? Why don't you wash your hair every day
during this crisis? Oh? My god? First of all, I
(17:36):
have so many answers for you. First of all, women
really shouldn't wash their hair very much because it strips
it of its natural oil. And I've heard you say
that before. Understood, are you grossed out or something by me? Well,
I mean you worked out on the treadmill for an
hour or so, it's like, and then you're you don't
wash your head. I'm not crossed out. I don't get
it because I couldn't do that. But it is in
(17:57):
a tight bun right now and it's kept like away
from everything. Yeah, but doesn't like your scalp still gets sweaty. Yeah,
but like I'm not. I wasn't like dripping and sweat
after my workout today. Okay, so when you drip and
sweat from my going to like, I don't know a
psychle class. Ve Gym was actually open, then I do
(18:18):
I have to wash. I do, But I'm also very
specific about like washing my hair, like I wouldn't wash
my hair before I go to a crazy cycle class
that I know I'm going to be like drenched after
or something like when I hopefully when I get the peloton,
I will then have to probably be washing my hair
way more. But I'm trying through this process to like
(18:39):
take care of my skin. Like I'm not trying to
wear makeup every day or at all. How many more makeup? Well,
I did wear it yesterday, yesterday was Easter, doesn't count.
But I'm trying to do certain things to like, you know,
beautify my skin or take care of my hair or whatever.
(19:00):
Is it's just like more like self care stuff. But
normally if I don't wash it, it's in like a
type bun or a braid or something to be kept
out of the way. But I'm trying to be you know,
it's it ain't easy being a woman. Okay, pain is beauty.
Pain is beauty. I thought beauty pain Oh is it
(19:20):
isn't it? Beauty is pain if like you're wearing like
high heels or like the thing like a crazy thing
in your hair yes, that is what they say. A
couple of weeks ago, Ashley and I had Zoom lunch
where we had a couple of people that we work
with on Zoom. It's my new favorite thing. Yeah, it's
my favorite and least favorite thing to do with Zoom.
(19:44):
Especially there's like a lot of feedback on microphones or
on speakers, so like when I'm talking to someone on
their computer, it's booming through their computer speaker and I
like hear my last word on on the zoom. Oh weird. Well,
maybe to pipe down a little bit. Well, no, I
think they turn it up because they're like kind of older,
so they don't have the best of hearing. So I
(20:05):
think they turned the volume up, which understood some of
us on this podcast don't have the best of hearing either. Okay,
you do not need to be right now. I can't
control my hearing. I was born this way. Okay. You
know that there's times when we are at a party,
actually I go to parties, or we're at a group conversation. God,
(20:27):
I can't believe you right now, and there we should
be building each other up at a time like that.
I'm just not tearing each other down. I'm letting people
know who you are. And there's times where it's like
maybe we're in allowed room or the person is talking
quietly or talking not like now she's direction and she
can't hear, and I just know from her mannerisms that
(20:47):
she is not following the conversation and it's just shaking
her head nodding. Uh huh. Well, it's like, why are
you telling me an elaborate story at a party where
it's loud or something. It's like people, it's like, don't
be so chatty. You can go to coffee if you
want to tell me from like a real big story.
(21:08):
But like if I need to be like reading your
lips because it's so loud and you're telling me too
long of a story, then you probably shouldn't be telling
it to me. Okay, we don't need to go that.
That's like a whole other episode apparently that it is
Ashley's Party Etiquette coming up next. We could do more
beauty topics too, if you want to do what more
(21:29):
beauty talk? No, no, no, that is not the platform
for this. Fine, moving on anyway. The feedback on Zoom
bugs because it ends up turning into a shouting match
or at least this lunch did where you're kind of
talking over each other, And there's when you talk over
each other, like in a conversation, you could still kind
(21:50):
of like pick up on what the other person is saying.
But when you're talking on a zoom and their audio
is coming through your computer, you really can't hear what
they're saying. You just see their lips. You either lips moving,
you hear rumbling from the speakers, but you're still talking.
And like when I get talking and I am talking
over someone, I can't stop myself. There is nothing I
(22:12):
hate more than a conference call. Those are the complete worst,
talking over each other. Nobody can like get there, who starts,
who's leading? I just that's the worst for me. So
I do actually kind of like a zoom a little
bit better. And at least the zoom like gives the
(22:33):
power or the mic if you will, to whoever is
like the floating screen, Yeah, which I love that. So
it's like you need to follow that. Yeah, but you
need to apply your party etiquette to your conference call etiquette,
which is you don't need to go into like how
is your weekend on a conference call? We don't need
(22:55):
to know, just say great. Don't even say Okay, I agree.
I mean, you don't need to tell me. I don't
go into details you've done things like you wish people
happy Friday and things like it kind of opens up
untalkable can of worms. I you know what, you just
(23:16):
seem really combative with me right now that I'm not.
I'm just I'm letting I'm letting it be known because
you're saying you're not. I would rather conference call than zoom.
Oh my, you're out of your mind. I love a
zoom and I've been loving facetiming lately, and I feel
like with everything going on, it's really like shifted into
talking on the phone more like what we never did
(23:37):
that before. And I love it. I like seeing people
and like, I don't know, there's something more to it
that's like more I get something out of people. Feel good.
You'll figure out who your real friends are after this,
Like have you heard people say that maybe not? I
just are you you are? So? Have you heard people
(23:58):
like you ever thought like, oh DPD how many milligrams
were those? I know? Okay, continue, there hasn't been a
point where you felt like, oh, people will come. I'll
figure out who my peeps are when I come out
of this. So you've decided that you are gonna finally,
(24:30):
at this stage in your life, you're going to find
out who your real friends are because of COVID nineteen.
I really hope that I'm at the top of your list.
A deciding factor is who answers my face times without warning.
A lot of now days, everybody needs to freaking answer
(24:50):
their facetimes. We know nobody has anything going on. Yeah,
so it's kind of a bitch lap in the face.
If someone doesn't, I disagree, if they if you, they don't.
If you don't answer and you face time them back,
that's fine. But if you just don't ever call me back,
that's messed up. Oh yeah, I actually have a couple
(25:12):
of friends that did that. Yeah, I know, but I
so are we writing them off? They're not our friends anymore.
I think I think you need to figure out you
guys know who you are. I think you need to
figure out you need to weigh the options. You know what.
I cannot wait for this episode to go up because
I am going to directly text it to those people. No,
(25:33):
I think you should add them in your story. Everyone
who's listening. Oh, my god, put them on blast on
social media. Oh wait, but my phone doesn't work. But
actually it's going to be out of it. You only
need to leave it in for twenty four hours. It's
just so weird. It's just such a weird feeling. It's like,
what if there was an emergency actually started barking out
people for me to text let them know that I
(25:55):
don't have my Okay, five o'clock. No one's going to
be getting anyone to get worried about where my we're abouts.
I mean, you don't seem too concerned because you're not
going anywhere. We're so we're social distancing together. If you
need to find me, just come over to my house. Okay,
I'll be here phoneless with my dog. No, don't come
(26:17):
over to our house, that's right, please? Oh my god,
I am so unreachable. I hate this. This is another
added level of anxiety added to the town. I think
we just have a We have a lot to cover
over the next few weeks until this all wraps up.
I think we need a phone and some friends because
(26:39):
we're getting wacky lucky lucky listeners more t n A
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