August 8, 2025 • 31 mins
Today on “Golden Hour,” we’re diving into more of your questions! We kick things off with this week’s spicy episode of “Paradise.” There have been some harsh words said about Goldens, and Kathy and Susan have a LOT to say about it! They give us their real thoughts on all the drama that’s gone down on the beach. Then, we get into our advice portion of the episode, starting with the question of the day: When you’re faced with an elephant in the room, how do you handle it? And, of course, we answer your questions! From being caught breastfeeding a child that wasn’t theirs to getting dirty texts from an in-law, our listeners need some serious advice! Plus, we end this episode with a Golden Spotlight: STIs on the rise for Goldens. Tune in now to hear all this and more, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode!
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks for
joining us. We're so excited to be back. Susan, how
are you doing there sweating up a storm in filling out?
Speaker 2 (00:16):
It's one hundred degrees and my pools sitting outside and
I'm too busy.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
To get in it is your pool?
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Is your pull of bathwater?
Speaker 3 (00:22):
Not yet?
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Not?
Speaker 3 (00:23):
That's August August.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Oh my god, I can't. I can't believe how hot
it is. I feel vindicated. Can I just say? Is
this freaking hot in Austin, Texas from June through September?
How does the rest of you like it? How are
you feeling this time?
Speaker 2 (00:39):
In the month of May, I had my air conditioner
on as well as my heater on. It was crazy.
And here it is June and it feels like August.
I mean, my plants are already dying.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
Goodness, my plants already dying like the central chice.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
I know, I know, I hear.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
It's crazy.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Today we are going to be answering all of the
fan questions and make sure you keep submitting those because
we love doing it. You know what to do, Just
go to Bachelor nation dot com, slash Golden Hour and
just keep submitting.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Yes, we love to hear from you. Send us everything.
We want to hear your questions, your updates. We'd like
to know how you're staying cool in this hotter than
hell weather. We're all having you.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Can also, I'm as a separate air conditioner with central air. Now,
who else out there has to put a separate air
conditioner in a room when you have central air conditions?
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Okay? Crazy? Well, well let me just say, Susan. We'll
get into our topics here in a second, but as
far as air conditioning goes, Look, you have a two
story home. Here is a novel idea for you. Put
in a second unit, one for the first floor.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
I think I'm going to get one of those mini splits.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
I really Yeah, they're good too. All right, so send
us everything, your questions, your updates. We want to hear
from you. Hope you're staying cool. You can also dm
us on Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
Absolutely yeah. Okay, time to get into the episode. Let's
start Kathy with the question of the day. Okay, today's
episode is all about addressing the elephant in the room.
When was a time where you were in a situation
where there was an elephant in the room, and how
(02:19):
did you navigate it? Are you someone that needs to
call these things out or do you prefer to avoid them?
Speaker 3 (02:27):
Oh? What a question for Kathy.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Oh no, I was going to say, what go for it.
You give me your answer. I want to hear what
you have to say.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
It just depends on what's happening. Do you believe it
or not, Kathy, believe it or not. Sometimes I prefer
to avoid it.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
I actually do believe that.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
And you know are times where I call it like
it is.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
Yeah, well I think we're both the same in there.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Yeah, it depends on the situation. I think.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Yeah, I mean, like give me a for instance, Well,
when I think about addressing the elephant the room, for me,
the thing that always comes to mind is rudeness. If
someone is rude, I don't tolerate that very well, really,
I don't tolerate it at all. And so for me,
(03:15):
if I'm sitting with a group of people and someone
does something rude, I'm likely to call them out the elephant.
Everyone's sort of looking around, you know, oh my god.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
I look right at them.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
And I'll often say you know that.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Yeah, But like I've said that before. Yeah, did you
really just say that?
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Yeah, I think the elephant in the room is a
is a big umbrella term for uncomfortable, and uncomfortable takes
so many different.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Forms and make others uncomfortable.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Yeah, I mean, yeah, you know, I think it can
be dating the elephant in the room. You know, are
you going to go to bed with the I mean
there's so many Are you going to go to bed
with the guy? You're going to go out with him? Again?
The elephant in the room be something about paying a bill,
like we talked about in another episode. You know who's
paying the bill? How are you going to? Well? Can
you give me an example?
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Well, like you said the rude this first of all,
I mean, I've been with my two best friends, my
two gay friends, and I'm in the back seat and excuse.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
Me, oh, excuse me, excuse me. My two best friends
wear are my chopliver all of a sudden.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
They're my gay best friends. You're not gay?
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Well, and I'll be in the back seat and one
of them does have a short not a short fuse,
but he can fight and his remarks and where the
other one and me are sensitive Sam's and we feel hurt.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
You know and not to feel the other one's pain.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
And I'll go, excuse me, that was not nice, and
then they'll say.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
See see even she agrees.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
But that's not really an elephant every but it is
like I called them out on it because we're friends.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
I don't keep something that made you uncomfortable, That's what
I'm saying. Elephant in the room is usually something that
people don't want to talk about or they don't want
to address because it's either going to make them uncomfortable
or make somebody else in the room uncomfortable.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
But if you walked into a room and I don't
know if this would be a situation where it would
be referred to as an elephant in the room, where
you walk into your room and you know they were
just talking about you.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
You feel it, it's intuition.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Well I would not, Well, I want to drive.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Ninety percent of the time you don't, but sometimes you
do not.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
But not, I would not address it in a front
of people or no, I mean I wouldn't do it
in an attacking way. I mean, you know me, I
might go, hey, I got quiet and here all of
a sudden, what y'all talking about? What was my zipper down.
You know I would make a joke of it, but
I'm not. I'm telling you we've talked about this on
air and between us. As as outgoing and as loud
(06:02):
and friendly as you and I both are to each
other and to others, we're you know, I don't really
like confrontation too much. I hate I really don't.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
But I've been in that situation where we walked in
and I know, I know, and you know what. It
embarrasses them. Oh do you want to finish just because
I'm here? You don't want to finish the sentence? Say
there's something you don't like about me? It's okay, you'll
say that, Yes, I have not, Will I have?
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (06:35):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (06:35):
And I felt more pain than they probably did.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
It was hard for me to do, but I thought,
I'll be damned if you think you're going to get
over on me.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Yeah, I think it, I really do. I hate sentence.
It sounds so wishy washy, but you know it's I
think you have to navigate it on a case by
case basis. Like, for example, you and I've talked about this,
We've taken trips with our kids, and I don't know
about you, but My children often think that I have
(07:04):
a money tree out in the backyard and I just
go out there and you know, pick a couple of
foul every morning. What you know, what can I help
you with today? Oh, he's like a new card. Let
me go out and get the money off the other.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Go to dinner.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
It's just like they assume your mother sixty eight now
picked up the tab people, I've been picking up for
sixty eight years.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
But what do you ever address it with your children,
because I'm guessing you don't. No, I do, of course
you don't.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
I My bust their balls a little bit after a day.
Once in a while. You could treat mom. I would
have treated, just say something, what am I supposed to do?
Say Chris, were you going to pay Nick? Or you
got this?
Speaker 1 (07:39):
But say that's the elephant in the room that you
know they're not going to pay, and you don't say it.
So like, for example, I am taking in fact, I
need to get my check book out. No, seriously, I've
got to get out right now. I am my daughter
and my son in law and my granddaughter. I told
them I would take them for a weekend down to
(08:00):
the beach in October because right now do I need
to say again in Texas another word for Texas the
time of year as hell. It's hotter than hell here.
And so we're going to go down down to the
shore in October. So I said, you know, my daughter's
great at planning to want.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
You, why didn't you suggest that we go together? We
are going together, paying taking them? Well, everybody go and well.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Because you know what I've said this to you before,
I would rather spend my money on my kids and
have experience and have experiences with my kids. Then you know,
then whatever and so, but my deal is I'm not complaining.
That is where I was going. Is the elephant in
the room for me is, hey, I'm going to pay
(08:46):
for this condo on the beach. But you know, last
time I look, you have to eat while you're alive.
So maybe you guys can pick up the groceries. Like
that's the elephant the room. Now, it's gonna be really
hard for me to say that, but I will.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
Else they won't do it automatically.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
Well, my daughter, they're they're pretty, they're getting better. And
my kids are a little bit older than yours. They're
getting Uh, well, I guess about to say, but they're
getting better, they're getting better about doing it. But the
elephant in the room for me is always translate equals uncomfortable.
Are you like me?
Speaker 2 (09:20):
When they do say no, Mom, we got I go No,
that's okay.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Well I will tell you I had Okay, here's.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
What kicking myself. You know, that's exactly what you're just
talking of. But it just felt good that they offered.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
I know, the other night, I had everybody, ten of us,
my family, the grandkids, everybody here for dinner. And as
everyone knows, Kathy cooks up a storm not and so Kate, wait,
I've reached an all time low. Susan, you're gonna use
this against me. I know you are. I So I
said to Caitlin, my daughter, Okay, she can order anything.
(09:54):
I swear to God. She single handedly keeps Amazon in business.
So I said, listen, if you order all the food,
I'll pay for it. She has my credit card, I said,
just or she ordered. I mean she didn't forget relish.
She had like tooth picks for the olives. I mean
it was ridiculous. Anyway, they roll in. Well, I realized
that we needed more ice cream, and there were a
(10:14):
couple of things that she didn't get. So I asked
Kyle if he would get it, and I said, you know,
I'm paying for dinner, so I'll venmo you for all that.
So he rolls in with, you know, the ice cream,
the few things, the gatorades and the ice cream. It
was probably thirty five dollars with the groceries. And I said, Kyle,
let me just venmo request just then moo me request
me and I'll pay you. And he goes, no, Mom,
it's okay. I said, no, Kyle, I'm paying for dinner.
(10:36):
I don't do this set often. I'm paying ven request me.
He goes, forget about it, and so you know what
I did. I forgot about it. Thank you, Kyle.
Speaker 3 (10:49):
Good job, good job.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
So you know, every once in a while I'll do that.
But again the elephant in the room, like are my
kids paying on my pain? Are you paying for my dinner?
You know? Am I paying for my dinner? I mean
it's you know, you broke my figurine. Are you're going
to offer to pay for it? Like it's sitting there
smashed on the floor. Who's paying for it? I mean,
it's always equals uncomfortable. So there it is. All right,
(11:18):
we're gonna get to our fan questions. Okay, here's the
first one. It's from Anonymous. Hi, ladies, I need an
outsider's perspective, knowing if this is weird. Well, can I
just say before I read this, if you think it's
weird Anonymous, it probably is. But let's find out. My
sister and I both had babies earlier this year, within
(11:40):
a month of each other. We spend most of our
days right now with just us and our babies, and
it's truly a dream. When one of us has to
run a quick errand or do something around the house,
the other one watches both babies. This led to us
breastfeeding each other's babies when needed. It isn't a super
regular thing, but if her baby is and she's running
(12:01):
to drop off a package, I just feed him. We
both have great milk supplies, and she's my sister and
he's my nephew. I didn't think it was weird. One
time her husband came home when I was breastfeeding their son,
and he lost it on me, saying how weird and
gross it was. Now I feel weird being around him
and being around my nephew. My sister and her husband
(12:23):
have since talked about it. He was just shocked and
confused and the whole situation was just uncomfortable. I guess
my question is, do you think it's weird to breastfeed
your sister's kids. We're all healthy and blood related. Let
me know where the weird ones or if my brother
in law is.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
No, I don't think it's weird at all. I think
he was shocked because why would you be doing that?
But it is she had milk and they are blood.
I mean, I know women I don't think personally that
feed babies their breast milk and they have nothing, They're
no relation.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Do you want to know why I'm laughing why?
Speaker 3 (13:03):
I don't know if I should tell you the situation.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
That's exactly. These are things that I admit to because
I think I had just me talking as Susan and
I tell her everything that I'm like, oh, no shit,
I just said this on the podcast. So when I
had my first child, my neighbor who lived three doors
down had her first son. This girl was so thin
it was painful to look at her. She had no
milk and her just I mean, scrawny, thin baby. And
(13:27):
literally I'm not joking. One day she can't. And I
had enough milk to feed half of a you know,
developing nation, and I donated milk to the milk bank
because I had very high fat content. They called me.
They nicknamed my stuff the Guernsey cow. I mean, I
fed my kids and donate tons of milk to the
milk bank. Okay, she comes and knocks on my door.
(13:49):
I'm laughing, but it wasn't funny at the time. Pale
crying holding her baby. He's screaming. She said, Kathy, I
can't And I said, give me that baby. I knew
what she wanted. I could just tell. And I fed
him and nursed him, and she took him home. And
it makes me now and it's just, you know, at
the time, I was just like, oh my god, let
(14:10):
me help you. She said, the baby slept six hours
because he was so hungry. He never slept, and so
you know, I did that for her.
Speaker 3 (14:18):
I there's nothing wrong with it.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
It's because you.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
Know what, brass, that's the husband walked.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
In and exactly and the thing is nursing.
Speaker 3 (14:26):
I feel uncomfortable about it at all.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Yeah, I don't either. I think that breasts are here's
something they're like duel, they're like you know, manual transmission,
automatic transmission. They're they're sexual, but they're also if you're
feeding a baby, that's what they're there for. They produce milk.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
My girlfriend, and this is going back, oh god, forty yeah,
maybe forty three years and he was my godchild. And
Debbie had to go out and I was watching the baby.
He screamed bloody. I always took him to the er,
(15:05):
like this child would not stop. And I had her
breast milk in a bottle. The whole bit, Kathy I was.
I was crying myself. I didn't know what to do.
And I'll be damned if I was going to ruin
her evening and call her. I was not a mother.
Speaker 3 (15:19):
Yet I whipped it out, put it in there. This
child sucked me so hard. I was like, this hurt.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
Told Michael wait a minute.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
He went to a sleep.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
When Debbie and Tom came home, I said, I had
this guilt written all over my face.
Speaker 3 (15:35):
She goes, it's everything already go. I did something she
wanted and I'm afraid to tell you. Her husband laughed
so hard he still laughs about it today.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
I said, I didn't know what to do. He would
not stop it. Huh, he wouldn't make it. He didn't
get anything from me, But it was just that I
was a little embarrassed.
Speaker 3 (16:00):
It took me a minute. I was by myself and.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
Listen, no one's listening to us. So I nursed the
neighbor's baby, and you nursed your friend with no I
mean no milk. It happen. It could happen to anyone.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
It sounds fine. I'm not it did.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
I was dying already. We got to move on to
the next question. The things that are running through my
mind are not publishable. Keep going.
Speaker 2 (16:20):
Okay, So yes, thank you for writing in, and don't
worry about it.
Speaker 3 (16:23):
Your sister's husband will get over it. At least the
sun was fed.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
And I love that you and your sister are so
close and you have kids the same age. It's great.
You're gonna have a great life together.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Yeah, okay, Kathy. The next one is from an anonymous ladies.
I really need your help. My husband's brother tried to
hook up with me, and I don't know what to do.
By the way, he's also married. For context, my brother
in law, Michael and his wife Melody hang out with
my husband and I all the time. We've gone on
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countless double dates, and the four of us have always
really gotten along. The boys have always been very close,
and Melody has become a very good friend of mine
in addition to becoming family. Recently, I found out that
they were having maritable problems. To my husband and I,
it just sounded like the typical growing pains of having
(17:17):
kids and life's inevitable strain on marriage. Just sounded like
they needed a little guidance to get back on track. Well,
last night I got a series of drunk texts from
Michael begging me to come over and straight up admitting
his fantasies about me.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
I'm disgusting.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
I will be telling my husband, that's for sure, but
I need help on how to do this so I
don't break this family apart. How do I go about
this and what do I do after I tell my
husband I didn't reply to the text message and don't
plan on it.
Speaker 3 (17:55):
Please help.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
Hey, Susan, you know we were talking about the elephant
in the room. Yeah, there's this is a stampede, this
is cattle like this is like you know.
Speaker 2 (18:08):
Girlfriend, don't want to break the family apart. Telling your
husband is being this so far to break in the family.
He's going to kick his ass as he should.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
It's not going to go well. First of all, we
have to say that the names Melody and Michael are
not their real names. Yes, so just in case Melody
and Michael, you're out there and you're screwing around on
your partner, we're not talking about you. It's a different
Melody than Michael. But here's the thing. It's if if
you tell your husband, which you should do, I think, well,
(18:43):
you know what, here's let me say one other thing.
I probably would have told my husband, but let's let's
try this more emphasize. I'm not sure I would do this.
But Susan, how about this? She calls Michael up and says.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Are you nuts?
Speaker 1 (18:57):
Don't ever do this again, because the next time you
do this, I'm telling your wife and my husband you
want to have a family. Don't ever do this to
me again.
Speaker 3 (19:05):
I'm starting with the benefit of the doubt right.
Speaker 1 (19:07):
That you are a drunk fool.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
Let you off the hook.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
What do I dare? What do I always say to you?
People use being drunk as an excuse. Nope, he used
drunk as an excuse to tell her what he really feels.
His fantasy is the truth. But he'll say, why didn't
mean it. I was just drunk. Yeah you did.
Speaker 3 (19:27):
He's obviously attracted to her. I wonder who's the bigger brother.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
I don't know, But would you tell the would you
do it not?
Speaker 3 (19:34):
What would?
Speaker 2 (19:34):
I wouldn't tell it first. I would do exactly what
we just said. Yeah, I would tell him. Look, this
is your warning. I don't want to break your whole
family relationship, because you know what happens sometimes, Kathy. She's
trying to do the right thing and he won't stop,
and she tells, and then they have this huge thing,
and then the mother in law's involved, and then everybody's
made at you for telling her.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
This is what italians, this is what Italians do. The
rest of us will sweep it under the car. But
if you don't want anyone to know, I don't know.
I think when she says, I'm going to tell me
I didn't respond to the text messages, I wouldn't respond
in text. I would call him on the phone and
I would speak very slowly, anonymous, very slowly, and very quietly.
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Listen and listen to me very carefully. I'm going to
let this one.
Speaker 3 (20:23):
Slide if you will say this once.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
Yeah, and I'm going to let it slide. And if
you ever so much as look at me the wrong
way again, our families will be toasted. You have problems
with your wife, go figure it out.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
You don't think she's going to feel uncomfortable. The four
of them together, it's not going to be the same
since he did that, and eventually the wife, Melody or
her husband are going to realize, what's what's up with you?
Speaker 1 (20:51):
I don't know. You don't think. You don't think. I
think if that happened, I think I could get over it.
I mean I didn't have.
Speaker 3 (20:58):
To make it and get over it. If you just
chills the freak out.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
Yeah, that's what I'm saying. But what's your language?
Speaker 2 (21:07):
Yes, when it comes to that, I gotta say it
like it is Ryer's wife.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
I know, I don't see. I don't care. If it's
the girlfriend of next door neighbor. That's called cheating any
way you want to put it. It's it's cheating. So
I would I would.
Speaker 3 (21:21):
Take a fantasy about I wonder what that.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Was like, Jesus Susan. Really, that's the question I want
Bachelor Nation, Harry, this is what Susan wants to know.
What are the fantasies We're down to it now say exactly, God, Susan,
Jesus stop reading these romantic novels and Lord, you know what.
(21:44):
We got to move on. We've got to move on, Anonymous,
let us know what happens. I really do think, I
do really think you need to call him and really
give some thought before you go to your husband on that,
because this can go sobbit talk.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
Okay, now we'll be doing a Golden Spotlight where we
discuss something that is impacting the golden community. Today's Golden
Spotlight is all about sti's and safe sex.
Speaker 1 (22:26):
Can I say? What's an STI? And what safe sex?
Just kidding?
Speaker 2 (22:30):
So right away this place comes to mind, and God
forgive me if anybody out there that lives there.
Speaker 3 (22:36):
Proved me wrong.
Speaker 2 (22:37):
But there's this place in Florida that's a really great
village to retire.
Speaker 3 (22:42):
Yes, and that's all I hear. That's a great place
to get an st STD What do they do down there?
Have orgies?
Speaker 1 (22:49):
I mean I don't know. I heard you have a
one way ticket down there, so you must want to
find well, there's still time, Okay.
Speaker 2 (22:59):
St I's for gold are on the rise. For instance,
per the American Medical Association, rate of siphless gonirihea and
chlamydia more than doubled among those fifty five or older
over the past ten years, but for those age sixty
five and older, clamtia cases more than tripled between twenty
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ten and twenty twenty three, GONNERIEA cases increased sixfold, and
syphless cases swored in numbers nearly tenfold.
Speaker 3 (23:30):
Why do you think that is?
Speaker 2 (23:32):
And what are the conversations regarding safe sex like for goldens.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Okay, let me just say I can't even believe I'm
admitting this. First of all, what you just read was
a quote from the American Medical Association. This is not
our opinion.
Speaker 3 (23:47):
That is not more.
Speaker 1 (23:48):
If you don't agree with those facts, take it up
with the American Medical Association. I would say that. I mean,
I don't, I don't. I think there's a lot of
you know, people having a lot of sex.
Speaker 2 (24:02):
A lot of people aren't married anymore. There's so many divorces,
and there's so many single people out there, and some
of them just need sex, or some of them just
need that companion friend with benefits, don't want anything more,
but they don't ask first.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
Well, excuse wait, Susan, I love you, did you you asked?
Speaker 2 (24:24):
You?
Speaker 1 (24:24):
Ask? You know what I get? I can get a
lab test. I will not sleep with the guy. I mean,
I don't. I don't. They have to be because that's.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
Why they're on the rise. People don't and I mean
they're getting spartners.
Speaker 3 (24:40):
That's how you know what.
Speaker 1 (24:41):
This is called the elephant in the room. Nobody wants
to ask, Hey, when was the last time you were
tested for sexually transmitted diseases or infection.
Speaker 3 (24:51):
Or tests that you don't have to spell at ABC?
Speaker 1 (24:54):
Well, no, I want to see the paper and I
want to see it dated. Yeah, yes I do. And
then I wonder why I'm not in bed with any men.
Guess they don't want to spend the money for the
lab test. Oh well, sucks to be you, and you
don't know what.
Speaker 3 (25:10):
No offense people in the villages.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
This happens everywhere, but that I think that's exactly why.
Because people are tired of being alone and they want
a partner to enjoy sex with and they're they're embarrassed or.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
But you don't care I guess.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
But you know what's funny is I know myself whether
I'm good or not because I keep.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
Myself tested. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
I go to the doctors every year. You get where
he was.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
You know, Susan, I have some very sad news to
break to you. The fact that you go every year
and get tested for STIs doesn't help you one wit.
Speaker 2 (25:53):
If the guy sleeps somebody that didn't. Yes, yeah, so
I really you know, That's what I'm saying. I know
I'm okay, but yeah, but that's can't trust the partner.
Speaker 3 (26:01):
You got to know that.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
You just said to me, you ask them.
Speaker 3 (26:04):
I have asking, definitely, Susan asking. Really Oh, I.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
Didn't ask for proof, so that's just as bad, I guess.
But at least I just want to have that conversation.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
I want proof. I could care less about the conversation.
I mean, it's not I'm just saying I do not.
First of all, I don't. I don't have indiscriminate sex.
Let's start there, or at least not yet. You know,
there's still time in my life, but right now I
don't do that. But I'm just saying I I have
(26:39):
girlfriends and I'm not mentioning any names because you know
that will bite me in there. You know what, But
I have girlfriends who have gotten sti's, who've had to
have some serious surgeries, who have had us.
Speaker 3 (26:54):
They's not a condom that's going to save them, you
know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
Well, I hate to tell you it helps, but some
of these women, I'll say, I'll ask them did you
because you know, I look at the elephant in the room.
I'll talk to the elephant about condoms. Did you use
a condom? And they'll look at me like, well, no,
he didn't want to. And I said, well, now, how
do you feel about it? Because now you've got war?
How you feeling? How you liking that? I mean, I
don't get it. It's a lifelong problem.
Speaker 3 (27:19):
Just stupidity, like you really, I.
Speaker 2 (27:23):
Remember when AIDS first start, you know, everybody was, oh,
it was only for gag.
Speaker 1 (27:28):
No, it wasn't.
Speaker 3 (27:29):
It was for any everybody.
Speaker 2 (27:31):
Now, thank god they have that down to you can
stay alive on medication.
Speaker 1 (27:36):
But it's because there's medication you're undetectable if you have
AIDS now, which.
Speaker 3 (27:41):
Is even because of stupidity of not keeping yourself in
check as well. As your partner. It's just safe.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
Well, listen to you. Safe sex means asking the guy.
Speaker 3 (27:53):
H written proof? Thank GOTM in a relationship?
Speaker 1 (27:57):
Huh? Thank did you get proof from him?
Speaker 2 (28:02):
Uh? With that being said, it's true, I can't believe
those numbers are that high, between sixty five and up.
Speaker 3 (28:10):
These people don't care anymore.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
Wait, I got to clarify something. I just misspoke. HIV
is now undetectable if you have AIDS. That's full blown
HIV is what is the virus that causes it? And
now people there's medication where they people can be it
can be undetectable, which is great because you know they won't.
Speaker 3 (28:29):
It's read exactly well you won't.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
Well yeah, but more importantly, you're not dying from it.
A lot of this is people died anyway.
Speaker 3 (28:37):
What an episode today was?
Speaker 1 (28:39):
Yeah, I don't know. I think I think I'm in
the minority because when I ask a guy, they uh,
they are shocked. I think I'm clean. I'm like, really,
because you can't thanks.
Speaker 3 (28:54):
Me for asking, because I really appreciate that. Who I
really appreciate that? Because who are we talking about?
Speaker 1 (29:00):
Fredrie?
Speaker 3 (29:01):
No, no, no one? A part somebody I had?
Speaker 2 (29:03):
Yeah, it's upon a time, And he said, I appreciate
that because I hate to have to ask that, but
I do as well.
Speaker 3 (29:09):
I said, well, good, we're on the same page.
Speaker 1 (29:12):
Yeah, I don't ask him. Doesn't do it for me.
I'm just being honest because and I don't know.
Speaker 3 (29:17):
Whether people, huh, I trust people's word, which is stupid.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
Sometimes I wonder if goldens think they're too old to get.
Speaker 3 (29:26):
To have an infection or a disease.
Speaker 1 (29:29):
Anybody, Well, I know that's the facts. I'm wondering if
goldens think, you know, they're they're sexually whatever. You know,
they can't have babies anymore.
Speaker 3 (29:39):
I think they their head anymore, and they want to
go out and have an orgasm. They don't care. It's
a wild epandemic.
Speaker 1 (29:48):
Holy smokes. Okay, you know this has been way too
much fun for me. Thank you to our listeners for
joining us. Hey, we hope you've learned all about elephants.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
And safe room and money.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
And make sure you follow us on Bachelor Happy Hours.
We have new episodes coming out constantly and you don't
want to miss this. I mean, after all, look.
Speaker 3 (30:09):
At the statistics that we showed you today. That's something
you probably did not know.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
Honestly, I would like people to write in. I'm being
very serious. I would like you know, write in anonymously,
tell us what is your experience been. Have you do
you ask for proof before you have Do you practice
safe sex which is either using condoms at a minimum
but having tests done to prove that they're cleaning. Do
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you do that? I'd be curious what people would answer.
And by the way, not just goldens, not just GoldenEye.
So you know, let us know. We'd love to We'd
love to hear from you on that, and make sure
you submit your questions to us about something other than
safe sex place.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
Please.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
All you got to do is go to Bachelor nation
dot com, slash Golden Hour, or dm us on Instagram
at Bachelor Happy Hour.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
And listen to the Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hours podcast
on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen to your
podcast until next time
Speaker 1 (31:12):
See you later.
Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks for
joining us. We're so excited to be back. Susan, how
are you doing there sweating up a storm in filling out?
Speaker 2 (00:16):
It's one hundred degrees and my pools sitting outside and
I'm too busy.
Speaker 3 (00:19):
To get in it is your pool?
Speaker 1 (00:21):
Is your pull of bathwater?
Speaker 3 (00:22):
Not yet?
Speaker 1 (00:23):
Not?
Speaker 3 (00:23):
That's August August.
Speaker 1 (00:25):
Oh my god, I can't. I can't believe how hot
it is. I feel vindicated. Can I just say? Is
this freaking hot in Austin, Texas from June through September?
How does the rest of you like it? How are
you feeling this time?
Speaker 2 (00:39):
In the month of May, I had my air conditioner
on as well as my heater on. It was crazy.
And here it is June and it feels like August.
I mean, my plants are already dying.
Speaker 1 (00:52):
Goodness, my plants already dying like the central chice.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
I know, I know, I hear.
Speaker 1 (00:57):
It's crazy.
Speaker 2 (00:58):
Today we are going to be answering all of the
fan questions and make sure you keep submitting those because
we love doing it. You know what to do, Just
go to Bachelor nation dot com, slash Golden Hour and
just keep submitting.
Speaker 1 (01:11):
Yes, we love to hear from you. Send us everything.
We want to hear your questions, your updates. We'd like
to know how you're staying cool in this hotter than
hell weather. We're all having you.
Speaker 2 (01:21):
Can also, I'm as a separate air conditioner with central air. Now,
who else out there has to put a separate air
conditioner in a room when you have central air conditions?
Speaker 1 (01:31):
Okay? Crazy? Well, well let me just say, Susan. We'll
get into our topics here in a second, but as
far as air conditioning goes, Look, you have a two
story home. Here is a novel idea for you. Put
in a second unit, one for the first floor.
Speaker 3 (01:46):
I think I'm going to get one of those mini splits.
Speaker 1 (01:48):
I really Yeah, they're good too. All right, so send
us everything, your questions, your updates. We want to hear
from you. Hope you're staying cool. You can also dm
us on Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
Absolutely yeah. Okay, time to get into the episode. Let's
start Kathy with the question of the day. Okay, today's
episode is all about addressing the elephant in the room.
When was a time where you were in a situation
where there was an elephant in the room, and how
(02:19):
did you navigate it? Are you someone that needs to
call these things out or do you prefer to avoid them?
Speaker 3 (02:27):
Oh? What a question for Kathy.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Oh no, I was going to say, what go for it.
You give me your answer. I want to hear what
you have to say.
Speaker 2 (02:34):
It just depends on what's happening. Do you believe it
or not, Kathy, believe it or not. Sometimes I prefer
to avoid it.
Speaker 1 (02:45):
I actually do believe that.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
And you know are times where I call it like
it is.
Speaker 1 (02:49):
Yeah, well I think we're both the same in there.
Speaker 3 (02:51):
Yeah, it depends on the situation. I think.
Speaker 1 (02:54):
Yeah, I mean, like give me a for instance, Well,
when I think about addressing the elephant the room, for me,
the thing that always comes to mind is rudeness. If
someone is rude, I don't tolerate that very well, really,
I don't tolerate it at all. And so for me,
(03:15):
if I'm sitting with a group of people and someone
does something rude, I'm likely to call them out the elephant.
Everyone's sort of looking around, you know, oh my god.
Speaker 3 (03:25):
I look right at them.
Speaker 1 (03:26):
And I'll often say you know that.
Speaker 3 (03:29):
Yeah, But like I've said that before. Yeah, did you
really just say that?
Speaker 1 (03:35):
Yeah, I think the elephant in the room is a
is a big umbrella term for uncomfortable, and uncomfortable takes
so many different.
Speaker 3 (03:45):
Forms and make others uncomfortable.
Speaker 1 (03:48):
Yeah, I mean, yeah, you know, I think it can
be dating the elephant in the room. You know, are
you going to go to bed with the I mean
there's so many Are you going to go to bed
with the guy? You're going to go out with him? Again?
The elephant in the room be something about paying a bill,
like we talked about in another episode. You know who's
paying the bill? How are you going to? Well? Can
you give me an example?
Speaker 2 (04:09):
Well, like you said the rude this first of all,
I mean, I've been with my two best friends, my
two gay friends, and I'm in the back seat and excuse.
Speaker 1 (04:16):
Me, oh, excuse me, excuse me. My two best friends
wear are my chopliver all of a sudden.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
They're my gay best friends. You're not gay?
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Well, and I'll be in the back seat and one
of them does have a short not a short fuse,
but he can fight and his remarks and where the
other one and me are sensitive Sam's and we feel hurt.
Speaker 3 (04:40):
You know and not to feel the other one's pain.
Speaker 2 (04:43):
And I'll go, excuse me, that was not nice, and
then they'll say.
Speaker 3 (04:48):
See see even she agrees.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
But that's not really an elephant every but it is
like I called them out on it because we're friends.
Speaker 1 (04:57):
I don't keep something that made you uncomfortable, That's what
I'm saying. Elephant in the room is usually something that
people don't want to talk about or they don't want
to address because it's either going to make them uncomfortable
or make somebody else in the room uncomfortable.
Speaker 2 (05:13):
But if you walked into a room and I don't
know if this would be a situation where it would
be referred to as an elephant in the room, where
you walk into your room and you know they were
just talking about you.
Speaker 3 (05:26):
You feel it, it's intuition.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
Well I would not, Well, I want to drive.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Ninety percent of the time you don't, but sometimes you
do not.
Speaker 1 (05:38):
But not, I would not address it in a front
of people or no, I mean I wouldn't do it
in an attacking way. I mean, you know me, I
might go, hey, I got quiet and here all of
a sudden, what y'all talking about? What was my zipper down.
You know I would make a joke of it, but
I'm not. I'm telling you we've talked about this on
air and between us. As as outgoing and as loud
(06:02):
and friendly as you and I both are to each
other and to others, we're you know, I don't really
like confrontation too much. I hate I really don't.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
But I've been in that situation where we walked in
and I know, I know, and you know what. It
embarrasses them. Oh do you want to finish just because
I'm here? You don't want to finish the sentence? Say
there's something you don't like about me? It's okay, you'll
say that, Yes, I have not, Will I have?
Speaker 1 (06:34):
Wow?
Speaker 3 (06:35):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (06:35):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (06:35):
And I felt more pain than they probably did.
Speaker 2 (06:39):
It was hard for me to do, but I thought,
I'll be damned if you think you're going to get
over on me.
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Yeah, I think it, I really do. I hate sentence.
It sounds so wishy washy, but you know it's I
think you have to navigate it on a case by
case basis. Like, for example, you and I've talked about this,
We've taken trips with our kids, and I don't know
about you, but My children often think that I have
(07:04):
a money tree out in the backyard and I just
go out there and you know, pick a couple of
foul every morning. What you know, what can I help
you with today? Oh, he's like a new card. Let
me go out and get the money off the other.
Speaker 3 (07:14):
Go to dinner.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
It's just like they assume your mother sixty eight now
picked up the tab people, I've been picking up for
sixty eight years.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
But what do you ever address it with your children,
because I'm guessing you don't. No, I do, of course
you don't.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
I My bust their balls a little bit after a day.
Once in a while. You could treat mom. I would
have treated, just say something, what am I supposed to do?
Say Chris, were you going to pay Nick? Or you
got this?
Speaker 1 (07:39):
But say that's the elephant in the room that you
know they're not going to pay, and you don't say it.
So like, for example, I am taking in fact, I
need to get my check book out. No, seriously, I've
got to get out right now. I am my daughter
and my son in law and my granddaughter. I told
them I would take them for a weekend down to
(08:00):
the beach in October because right now do I need
to say again in Texas another word for Texas the
time of year as hell. It's hotter than hell here.
And so we're going to go down down to the
shore in October. So I said, you know, my daughter's
great at planning to want.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
You, why didn't you suggest that we go together? We
are going together, paying taking them? Well, everybody go and well.
Speaker 1 (08:23):
Because you know what I've said this to you before,
I would rather spend my money on my kids and
have experience and have experiences with my kids. Then you know,
then whatever and so, but my deal is I'm not complaining.
That is where I was going. Is the elephant in
the room for me is, hey, I'm going to pay
(08:46):
for this condo on the beach. But you know, last
time I look, you have to eat while you're alive.
So maybe you guys can pick up the groceries. Like
that's the elephant the room. Now, it's gonna be really
hard for me to say that, but I will.
Speaker 3 (09:02):
Else they won't do it automatically.
Speaker 1 (09:04):
Well, my daughter, they're they're pretty, they're getting better. And
my kids are a little bit older than yours. They're
getting Uh, well, I guess about to say, but they're
getting better, they're getting better about doing it. But the
elephant in the room for me is always translate equals uncomfortable.
Are you like me?
Speaker 2 (09:20):
When they do say no, Mom, we got I go No,
that's okay.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
Well I will tell you I had Okay, here's.
Speaker 3 (09:27):
What kicking myself. You know, that's exactly what you're just
talking of. But it just felt good that they offered.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
I know, the other night, I had everybody, ten of us,
my family, the grandkids, everybody here for dinner. And as
everyone knows, Kathy cooks up a storm not and so Kate, wait,
I've reached an all time low. Susan, you're gonna use
this against me. I know you are. I So I
said to Caitlin, my daughter, Okay, she can order anything.
(09:54):
I swear to God. She single handedly keeps Amazon in business.
So I said, listen, if you order all the food,
I'll pay for it. She has my credit card, I said,
just or she ordered. I mean she didn't forget relish.
She had like tooth picks for the olives. I mean
it was ridiculous. Anyway, they roll in. Well, I realized
that we needed more ice cream, and there were a
(10:14):
couple of things that she didn't get. So I asked
Kyle if he would get it, and I said, you know,
I'm paying for dinner, so I'll venmo you for all that.
So he rolls in with, you know, the ice cream,
the few things, the gatorades and the ice cream. It
was probably thirty five dollars with the groceries. And I said, Kyle,
let me just venmo request just then moo me request
me and I'll pay you. And he goes, no, Mom,
it's okay. I said, no, Kyle, I'm paying for dinner.
(10:36):
I don't do this set often. I'm paying ven request me.
He goes, forget about it, and so you know what
I did. I forgot about it. Thank you, Kyle.
Speaker 3 (10:49):
Good job, good job.
Speaker 1 (10:50):
So you know, every once in a while I'll do that.
But again the elephant in the room, like are my
kids paying on my pain? Are you paying for my dinner?
You know? Am I paying for my dinner? I mean
it's you know, you broke my figurine. Are you're going
to offer to pay for it? Like it's sitting there
smashed on the floor. Who's paying for it? I mean,
it's always equals uncomfortable. So there it is. All right,
(11:18):
we're gonna get to our fan questions. Okay, here's the
first one. It's from Anonymous. Hi, ladies, I need an
outsider's perspective, knowing if this is weird. Well, can I
just say before I read this, if you think it's
weird Anonymous, it probably is. But let's find out. My
sister and I both had babies earlier this year, within
(11:40):
a month of each other. We spend most of our
days right now with just us and our babies, and
it's truly a dream. When one of us has to
run a quick errand or do something around the house,
the other one watches both babies. This led to us
breastfeeding each other's babies when needed. It isn't a super
regular thing, but if her baby is and she's running
(12:01):
to drop off a package, I just feed him. We
both have great milk supplies, and she's my sister and
he's my nephew. I didn't think it was weird. One
time her husband came home when I was breastfeeding their son,
and he lost it on me, saying how weird and
gross it was. Now I feel weird being around him
and being around my nephew. My sister and her husband
(12:23):
have since talked about it. He was just shocked and
confused and the whole situation was just uncomfortable. I guess
my question is, do you think it's weird to breastfeed
your sister's kids. We're all healthy and blood related. Let
me know where the weird ones or if my brother
in law is.
Speaker 2 (12:40):
No, I don't think it's weird at all. I think
he was shocked because why would you be doing that?
But it is she had milk and they are blood.
I mean, I know women I don't think personally that
feed babies their breast milk and they have nothing, They're
no relation.
Speaker 1 (12:58):
Do you want to know why I'm laughing why?
Speaker 3 (13:03):
I don't know if I should tell you the situation.
Speaker 1 (13:05):
That's exactly. These are things that I admit to because
I think I had just me talking as Susan and
I tell her everything that I'm like, oh, no shit,
I just said this on the podcast. So when I
had my first child, my neighbor who lived three doors
down had her first son. This girl was so thin
it was painful to look at her. She had no
milk and her just I mean, scrawny, thin baby. And
(13:27):
literally I'm not joking. One day she can't. And I
had enough milk to feed half of a you know,
developing nation, and I donated milk to the milk bank
because I had very high fat content. They called me.
They nicknamed my stuff the Guernsey cow. I mean, I
fed my kids and donate tons of milk to the
milk bank. Okay, she comes and knocks on my door.
(13:49):
I'm laughing, but it wasn't funny at the time. Pale
crying holding her baby. He's screaming. She said, Kathy, I
can't And I said, give me that baby. I knew
what she wanted. I could just tell. And I fed
him and nursed him, and she took him home. And
it makes me now and it's just, you know, at
the time, I was just like, oh my god, let
(14:10):
me help you. She said, the baby slept six hours
because he was so hungry. He never slept, and so
you know, I did that for her.
Speaker 3 (14:18):
I there's nothing wrong with it.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
It's because you.
Speaker 3 (14:20):
Know what, brass, that's the husband walked.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
In and exactly and the thing is nursing.
Speaker 3 (14:26):
I feel uncomfortable about it at all.
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Yeah, I don't either. I think that breasts are here's
something they're like duel, they're like you know, manual transmission,
automatic transmission. They're they're sexual, but they're also if you're
feeding a baby, that's what they're there for. They produce milk.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
My girlfriend, and this is going back, oh god, forty yeah,
maybe forty three years and he was my godchild. And
Debbie had to go out and I was watching the baby.
He screamed bloody. I always took him to the er,
(15:05):
like this child would not stop. And I had her
breast milk in a bottle. The whole bit, Kathy I was.
I was crying myself. I didn't know what to do.
And I'll be damned if I was going to ruin
her evening and call her. I was not a mother.
Speaker 3 (15:19):
Yet I whipped it out, put it in there. This
child sucked me so hard. I was like, this hurt.
Speaker 1 (15:27):
Told Michael wait a minute.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
He went to a sleep.
Speaker 2 (15:31):
When Debbie and Tom came home, I said, I had
this guilt written all over my face.
Speaker 3 (15:35):
She goes, it's everything already go. I did something she
wanted and I'm afraid to tell you. Her husband laughed
so hard he still laughs about it today.
Speaker 2 (15:46):
I said, I didn't know what to do. He would
not stop it. Huh, he wouldn't make it. He didn't
get anything from me, But it was just that I
was a little embarrassed.
Speaker 3 (16:00):
It took me a minute. I was by myself and.
Speaker 1 (16:03):
Listen, no one's listening to us. So I nursed the
neighbor's baby, and you nursed your friend with no I
mean no milk. It happen. It could happen to anyone.
Speaker 3 (16:10):
It sounds fine. I'm not it did.
Speaker 1 (16:11):
I was dying already. We got to move on to
the next question. The things that are running through my
mind are not publishable. Keep going.
Speaker 2 (16:20):
Okay, So yes, thank you for writing in, and don't
worry about it.
Speaker 3 (16:23):
Your sister's husband will get over it. At least the
sun was fed.
Speaker 1 (16:27):
And I love that you and your sister are so
close and you have kids the same age. It's great.
You're gonna have a great life together.
Speaker 2 (16:34):
Yeah, okay, Kathy. The next one is from an anonymous ladies.
I really need your help. My husband's brother tried to
hook up with me, and I don't know what to do.
By the way, he's also married. For context, my brother
in law, Michael and his wife Melody hang out with
my husband and I all the time. We've gone on
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countless double dates, and the four of us have always
really gotten along. The boys have always been very close,
and Melody has become a very good friend of mine
in addition to becoming family. Recently, I found out that
they were having maritable problems. To my husband and I,
it just sounded like the typical growing pains of having
(17:17):
kids and life's inevitable strain on marriage. Just sounded like
they needed a little guidance to get back on track. Well,
last night I got a series of drunk texts from
Michael begging me to come over and straight up admitting
his fantasies about me.
Speaker 3 (17:38):
I'm disgusting.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
I will be telling my husband, that's for sure, but
I need help on how to do this so I
don't break this family apart. How do I go about
this and what do I do after I tell my
husband I didn't reply to the text message and don't
plan on it.
Speaker 3 (17:55):
Please help.
Speaker 1 (17:56):
Hey, Susan, you know we were talking about the elephant
in the room. Yeah, there's this is a stampede, this
is cattle like this is like you know.
Speaker 2 (18:08):
Girlfriend, don't want to break the family apart. Telling your
husband is being this so far to break in the family.
He's going to kick his ass as he should.
Speaker 1 (18:20):
It's not going to go well. First of all, we
have to say that the names Melody and Michael are
not their real names. Yes, so just in case Melody
and Michael, you're out there and you're screwing around on
your partner, we're not talking about you. It's a different
Melody than Michael. But here's the thing. It's if if
you tell your husband, which you should do, I think, well,
(18:43):
you know what, here's let me say one other thing.
I probably would have told my husband, but let's let's
try this more emphasize. I'm not sure I would do this.
But Susan, how about this? She calls Michael up and says.
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Are you nuts?
Speaker 1 (18:57):
Don't ever do this again, because the next time you
do this, I'm telling your wife and my husband you
want to have a family. Don't ever do this to
me again.
Speaker 3 (19:05):
I'm starting with the benefit of the doubt right.
Speaker 1 (19:07):
That you are a drunk fool.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
Let you off the hook.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
What do I dare? What do I always say to you?
People use being drunk as an excuse. Nope, he used
drunk as an excuse to tell her what he really feels.
His fantasy is the truth. But he'll say, why didn't
mean it. I was just drunk. Yeah you did.
Speaker 3 (19:27):
He's obviously attracted to her. I wonder who's the bigger brother.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
I don't know, But would you tell the would you
do it not?
Speaker 3 (19:34):
What would?
Speaker 2 (19:34):
I wouldn't tell it first. I would do exactly what
we just said. Yeah, I would tell him. Look, this
is your warning. I don't want to break your whole
family relationship, because you know what happens sometimes, Kathy. She's
trying to do the right thing and he won't stop,
and she tells, and then they have this huge thing,
and then the mother in law's involved, and then everybody's
made at you for telling her.
Speaker 1 (19:55):
This is what italians, this is what Italians do. The
rest of us will sweep it under the car. But
if you don't want anyone to know, I don't know.
I think when she says, I'm going to tell me
I didn't respond to the text messages, I wouldn't respond
in text. I would call him on the phone and
I would speak very slowly, anonymous, very slowly, and very quietly.
(20:18):
Listen and listen to me very carefully. I'm going to
let this one.
Speaker 3 (20:23):
Slide if you will say this once.
Speaker 1 (20:26):
Yeah, and I'm going to let it slide. And if
you ever so much as look at me the wrong
way again, our families will be toasted. You have problems
with your wife, go figure it out.
Speaker 2 (20:39):
You don't think she's going to feel uncomfortable. The four
of them together, it's not going to be the same
since he did that, and eventually the wife, Melody or
her husband are going to realize, what's what's up with you?
Speaker 1 (20:51):
I don't know. You don't think. You don't think. I
think if that happened, I think I could get over it.
I mean I didn't have.
Speaker 3 (20:58):
To make it and get over it. If you just
chills the freak out.
Speaker 1 (21:01):
Yeah, that's what I'm saying. But what's your language?
Speaker 2 (21:07):
Yes, when it comes to that, I gotta say it
like it is Ryer's wife.
Speaker 1 (21:12):
I know, I don't see. I don't care. If it's
the girlfriend of next door neighbor. That's called cheating any
way you want to put it. It's it's cheating. So
I would I would.
Speaker 3 (21:21):
Take a fantasy about I wonder what that.
Speaker 1 (21:24):
Was like, Jesus Susan. Really, that's the question I want
Bachelor Nation, Harry, this is what Susan wants to know.
What are the fantasies We're down to it now say exactly, God, Susan,
Jesus stop reading these romantic novels and Lord, you know what.
(21:44):
We got to move on. We've got to move on, Anonymous,
let us know what happens. I really do think, I
do really think you need to call him and really
give some thought before you go to your husband on that,
because this can go sobbit talk.
Speaker 2 (22:09):
Okay, now we'll be doing a Golden Spotlight where we
discuss something that is impacting the golden community. Today's Golden
Spotlight is all about sti's and safe sex.
Speaker 1 (22:26):
Can I say? What's an STI? And what safe sex?
Just kidding?
Speaker 2 (22:30):
So right away this place comes to mind, and God
forgive me if anybody out there that lives there.
Speaker 3 (22:36):
Proved me wrong.
Speaker 2 (22:37):
But there's this place in Florida that's a really great
village to retire.
Speaker 3 (22:42):
Yes, and that's all I hear. That's a great place
to get an st STD What do they do down there?
Have orgies?
Speaker 1 (22:49):
I mean I don't know. I heard you have a
one way ticket down there, so you must want to
find well, there's still time, Okay.
Speaker 2 (22:59):
St I's for gold are on the rise. For instance,
per the American Medical Association, rate of siphless gonirihea and
chlamydia more than doubled among those fifty five or older
over the past ten years, but for those age sixty
five and older, clamtia cases more than tripled between twenty
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ten and twenty twenty three, GONNERIEA cases increased sixfold, and
syphless cases swored in numbers nearly tenfold.
Speaker 3 (23:30):
Why do you think that is?
Speaker 2 (23:32):
And what are the conversations regarding safe sex like for goldens.
Speaker 1 (23:37):
Okay, let me just say I can't even believe I'm
admitting this. First of all, what you just read was
a quote from the American Medical Association. This is not
our opinion.
Speaker 3 (23:47):
That is not more.
Speaker 1 (23:48):
If you don't agree with those facts, take it up
with the American Medical Association. I would say that. I mean,
I don't, I don't. I think there's a lot of
you know, people having a lot of sex.
Speaker 2 (24:02):
A lot of people aren't married anymore. There's so many divorces,
and there's so many single people out there, and some
of them just need sex, or some of them just
need that companion friend with benefits, don't want anything more,
but they don't ask first.
Speaker 1 (24:17):
Well, excuse wait, Susan, I love you, did you you asked?
Speaker 2 (24:24):
You?
Speaker 1 (24:24):
Ask? You know what I get? I can get a
lab test. I will not sleep with the guy. I mean,
I don't. I don't. They have to be because that's.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
Why they're on the rise. People don't and I mean
they're getting spartners.
Speaker 3 (24:40):
That's how you know what.
Speaker 1 (24:41):
This is called the elephant in the room. Nobody wants
to ask, Hey, when was the last time you were
tested for sexually transmitted diseases or infection.
Speaker 3 (24:51):
Or tests that you don't have to spell at ABC?
Speaker 1 (24:54):
Well, no, I want to see the paper and I
want to see it dated. Yeah, yes I do. And
then I wonder why I'm not in bed with any men.
Guess they don't want to spend the money for the
lab test. Oh well, sucks to be you, and you
don't know what.
Speaker 3 (25:10):
No offense people in the villages.
Speaker 2 (25:12):
This happens everywhere, but that I think that's exactly why.
Because people are tired of being alone and they want
a partner to enjoy sex with and they're they're embarrassed or.
Speaker 1 (25:23):
But you don't care I guess.
Speaker 2 (25:26):
But you know what's funny is I know myself whether
I'm good or not because I keep.
Speaker 3 (25:33):
Myself tested. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2 (25:35):
I go to the doctors every year. You get where
he was.
Speaker 1 (25:41):
You know, Susan, I have some very sad news to
break to you. The fact that you go every year
and get tested for STIs doesn't help you one wit.
Speaker 2 (25:53):
If the guy sleeps somebody that didn't. Yes, yeah, so
I really you know, That's what I'm saying. I know
I'm okay, but yeah, but that's can't trust the partner.
Speaker 3 (26:01):
You got to know that.
Speaker 1 (26:02):
You just said to me, you ask them.
Speaker 3 (26:04):
I have asking, definitely, Susan asking. Really Oh, I.
Speaker 2 (26:11):
Didn't ask for proof, so that's just as bad, I guess.
But at least I just want to have that conversation.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
I want proof. I could care less about the conversation.
I mean, it's not I'm just saying I do not.
First of all, I don't. I don't have indiscriminate sex.
Let's start there, or at least not yet. You know,
there's still time in my life, but right now I
don't do that. But I'm just saying I I have
(26:39):
girlfriends and I'm not mentioning any names because you know
that will bite me in there. You know what, But
I have girlfriends who have gotten sti's, who've had to
have some serious surgeries, who have had us.
Speaker 3 (26:54):
They's not a condom that's going to save them, you
know what I mean.
Speaker 1 (26:57):
Well, I hate to tell you it helps, but some
of these women, I'll say, I'll ask them did you
because you know, I look at the elephant in the room.
I'll talk to the elephant about condoms. Did you use
a condom? And they'll look at me like, well, no,
he didn't want to. And I said, well, now, how
do you feel about it? Because now you've got war?
How you feeling? How you liking that? I mean, I
don't get it. It's a lifelong problem.
Speaker 3 (27:19):
Just stupidity, like you really, I.
Speaker 2 (27:23):
Remember when AIDS first start, you know, everybody was, oh,
it was only for gag.
Speaker 1 (27:28):
No, it wasn't.
Speaker 3 (27:29):
It was for any everybody.
Speaker 2 (27:31):
Now, thank god they have that down to you can
stay alive on medication.
Speaker 1 (27:36):
But it's because there's medication you're undetectable if you have
AIDS now, which.
Speaker 3 (27:41):
Is even because of stupidity of not keeping yourself in
check as well. As your partner. It's just safe.
Speaker 1 (27:49):
Well, listen to you. Safe sex means asking the guy.
Speaker 3 (27:53):
H written proof? Thank GOTM in a relationship?
Speaker 1 (27:57):
Huh? Thank did you get proof from him?
Speaker 2 (28:02):
Uh? With that being said, it's true, I can't believe
those numbers are that high, between sixty five and up.
Speaker 3 (28:10):
These people don't care anymore.
Speaker 1 (28:11):
Wait, I got to clarify something. I just misspoke. HIV
is now undetectable if you have AIDS. That's full blown
HIV is what is the virus that causes it? And
now people there's medication where they people can be it
can be undetectable, which is great because you know they won't.
Speaker 3 (28:29):
It's read exactly well you won't.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
Well yeah, but more importantly, you're not dying from it.
A lot of this is people died anyway.
Speaker 3 (28:37):
What an episode today was?
Speaker 1 (28:39):
Yeah, I don't know. I think I think I'm in
the minority because when I ask a guy, they uh,
they are shocked. I think I'm clean. I'm like, really,
because you can't thanks.
Speaker 3 (28:54):
Me for asking, because I really appreciate that. Who I
really appreciate that? Because who are we talking about?
Speaker 1 (29:00):
Fredrie?
Speaker 3 (29:01):
No, no, no one? A part somebody I had?
Speaker 2 (29:03):
Yeah, it's upon a time, And he said, I appreciate
that because I hate to have to ask that, but
I do as well.
Speaker 3 (29:09):
I said, well, good, we're on the same page.
Speaker 1 (29:12):
Yeah, I don't ask him. Doesn't do it for me.
I'm just being honest because and I don't know.
Speaker 3 (29:17):
Whether people, huh, I trust people's word, which is stupid.
Speaker 1 (29:21):
Sometimes I wonder if goldens think they're too old to get.
Speaker 3 (29:26):
To have an infection or a disease.
Speaker 1 (29:29):
Anybody, Well, I know that's the facts. I'm wondering if
goldens think, you know, they're they're sexually whatever. You know,
they can't have babies anymore.
Speaker 3 (29:39):
I think they their head anymore, and they want to
go out and have an orgasm. They don't care. It's
a wild epandemic.
Speaker 1 (29:48):
Holy smokes. Okay, you know this has been way too
much fun for me. Thank you to our listeners for
joining us. Hey, we hope you've learned all about elephants.
Speaker 3 (29:58):
And safe room and money.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
And make sure you follow us on Bachelor Happy Hours.
We have new episodes coming out constantly and you don't
want to miss this. I mean, after all, look.
Speaker 3 (30:09):
At the statistics that we showed you today. That's something
you probably did not know.
Speaker 1 (30:14):
Honestly, I would like people to write in. I'm being
very serious. I would like you know, write in anonymously,
tell us what is your experience been. Have you do
you ask for proof before you have Do you practice
safe sex which is either using condoms at a minimum
but having tests done to prove that they're cleaning. Do
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you do that? I'd be curious what people would answer.
And by the way, not just goldens, not just GoldenEye.
So you know, let us know. We'd love to We'd
love to hear from you on that, and make sure
you submit your questions to us about something other than
safe sex place.
Speaker 3 (30:54):
Please.
Speaker 1 (30:55):
All you got to do is go to Bachelor nation
dot com, slash Golden Hour, or dm us on Instagram
at Bachelor Happy Hour.
Speaker 2 (31:02):
And listen to the Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hours podcast
on the iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen to your
podcast until next time
Speaker 1 (31:12):
See you later.
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