May 21, 2025 • 51 mins
Today on “Golden Hour,” we’re sitting down with Bailey from Grant’s season of “The Bachelor”! Right off the bat, we’re proving that friendships defy the bounds of age as these three jump right into their vacation plans! Bailey tells us all about her experiences traveling, including her adorable dog’s puppy passport! Then, we get into the loss of Bailey’s father from pancreatic cancer and the work she does to spread awareness about the disease. She also tells us about her experience on the show, the friendships she’s made, and, of course, whether she’d hit the beach if asked to go to “Paradise”! We also get advice from Bailey and today’s question is a BIG ONE! Our listener asks us: Is this friendship breakup-worthy? Tune in now to hear all this and more and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode!
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Welcome back everybody to Bachelor Happy Hours, Golden Hour. Thanks
again for joining us. We're really excited about today.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
We are we we always have fun together. Susan and
I've been talking about spring. Spring has sprung. My house
has been powerwashed. It's amazing the dirt you get up
with a powerwasher.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Just want to say that, Kathy here, you can't powerwash
before the pollen star.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Well the Pollen's we were in Texas sentence. Yeah, we're
you know, we're like everything else. We're okay. We want
to make sure that everyone is checking out our latest episodes.
We've been having so much fun answering your questions, talking
about dating, life, sex after you know, nineteen years ago, whatever,
(00:51):
we're talking about it all. So we love chatting with
our Bachelor Nation faiths and as we do.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
And today we have the most awesome guest. Not only
is she beautiful, but she might bring us on a
little break trip. Yeah, and we're gonna let her tell
you all about it. And she's from Grand Season and
this is Bailey Barely Welcome, Welcome Bailey.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Hi, guys, I'm so excited to be here.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
I'm so okay, guys, I just have to say baby Portugal.
We're getting to that. I just want to say, another
gorgeous girl, I'm from Grand Season. Like it's like that,
your smile, your your complexion, your dress, your hair, everything
about you is amazing. It's just amazing. Now you are
(01:39):
you are? You know.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
It was crazy, but I really realized that I needed
to just be myself on Grand Season because every single
girl was just beautiful and it's amazing and just accomplished.
I was like, Okay, it's really time for personality to
like do the work.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
Because oh, trust me, I know, just do you.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
But they're not going to be enough for this.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
So I want to know before Well, first you you
have a dog, and we saw your poodle and you
travel with this poodle, so you travel around. Just tell
us a little about that because i'mber getting too Portugal.
Speaker 4 (02:14):
Okay, So the poodle, she's actually sitting in the bed.
Otherwise I would bring crab. But my dog's name is Lisa.
She's four. She's a toy poodle. I think that was
like a little bit of confusion. She's not a toy animal.
She's like a toy classification of a poodle, and she's
like the best thing ever. She is a diva though,
so she does travel to and from Portugal. She has
a Portuguese pet passport, so she has a European pet passport.
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And I take her with me to Portugal when I
go for the month, and she lives her absolute best life.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
We take her everywhere in.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
She behaves when you take her.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Oh she's so well because she's you think she's a human.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
So wait, do you need a poodle puppy handler? Because
I'm available, rushing, So we want to go to Portugal.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
For people that want her. They're like please, My great
aunt's like, please drop her off. She's like anytime, anytime,
you can just sleep her.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
I think she missed it, Susan, we want to come
to Portugal with the puppy poodle.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
Oh yeah, come, we have a three bedroom. Everyone's welcome.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Who's we So my mom.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
And my sister live in Portugal, like majority of the time,
my little sister lives there.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
I'm the oldest, I have a younger brother and a younger.
Speaker 4 (03:23):
Sister, and my sister plays tennis, and so she's been
living in Portugal since she was almost like seventeen by herself. Wow,
my parents bought a place a few years ago. Like
right before my dad passed. My parents bought a place
in Portugal and we just finished renovating it, I think
last summer, and so it's like so nice, perfect.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Two years ago.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Really we're ready. Do you speak Portuguese, your mom?
Speaker 3 (03:49):
I'm actually relearning French right now. So I'm doing a
little bit of like a teer.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
I'm going to.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
Language really difficult time.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
You know, I have a.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Tutor on tomorrow morning, no, Wednesday morning.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
I want to join. I want to join it on
your lessons.
Speaker 4 (04:08):
I've been doing an audio book with like French lessons
because I took French for twelve years as a kid,
and so I have it in my head. But I'm like, oh,
I would really like to be able to speak an
other language, but.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
I would like to understand it.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
I want to be able to like be in Paris
and not have to like.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Wait a minute, guys, your mother and sister live in Portugal.
A why Portugal? And do they speak Portugueese?
Speaker 3 (04:33):
Little sisters?
Speaker 2 (04:34):
It's Portuguese. I know how to say yeah, no, but.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
You're saying it like the like authentic way.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
I guess you could say, my little sister takes Portuguese
lessons and she speaks a good amount of Portuguese. My
mom definitely understands. She has a business in Portugal, so
she owns a few laundromats, so she also understands based
on like, you know, what she can to interact. The
reason that we chose Portugal is because my sister she
has been playing international tournament and she met a coach
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out there she really loved. And then my mom was like,
all right, this is like, you know, doesn't she full
time play tennis? So like her goal is to be
like a professional tennis player. Wow, So she plays tournaments
in Europe, around the world.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Yeah, introduce her to our other home base.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Now, I know. So, so I read that you're and
I don't if you're not comfortable, we don't have to
talk about it. But I read that your dad passed
away from pancreatic cancer, and that's you know, that's a
tough one. Jones husband from you know from our season,
her husband passed away from that and that you do
the the pancreatic the walks for pancratic cancer.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
Yeah, so I feel like I'm actually very comfortable of
talking about it. I feel like it's really important to
talk about it.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
I don't think a lot of people.
Speaker 4 (05:49):
Realize how many people they know or how many people
actually have been like taken from us by paying credit there.
And so it's always been a big thing for me
and my family. Like, you know, we're not really about it.
We've been very blessed, and you know, being on the
journey with him was a really hard time. It was
really you know, I mean it's hard watching you know,
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your your rock go through something like this. And he
was just like the most amazing person. And also is
crazy because he was like the healthiest person. Like if
you could I like almost which I could show you
guys the photo of my dad, you'd be like, this is
the spitting image of like health, perfect health day.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
He was an NBA referee, so he literally was like
on his feet running.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
He was a what referee?
Speaker 3 (06:32):
An NBA referee?
Speaker 1 (06:34):
I just did how long did he pass?
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Two?
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Yeah? Well, I we're sorry for your loss. I just
saw I read that that you know, you walked in
the in Atlanta, you walk uh for cancer. You know,
this is a great way to use your platform to
make people aware. So thank you for doing that.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
Thank you. You know, you know everyone wants to cure.
Speaker 4 (07:00):
We all want to cure for cancer and what Yeah,
a cure takes a lot of research.
Speaker 2 (07:04):
Yeah, absolutely right.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
So we're going to ask a bunch of different questions
so we can let our fans get to know you more, okay,
as well as us.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Right now we know really well, we're going to Portugal
with he Susan, I.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
Am planning the Portugal trip.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
You do.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
I feel like September would be a really good time.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
I'm in I'm not kidding you. I'm not joking.
Speaker 4 (07:26):
Cold, it's like the perfect weather we can travel around.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Or Sptember, it's not too late. I'm taking my granddaughter
to Paris late September.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Oh you can.
Speaker 4 (07:36):
That's actually perfect because then you can just come over
after you know there's.
Speaker 5 (07:40):
And send my grains on her home by herself. I
love it. I really want to see it. I'm going, Susan,
if you have to get home with your grand child, fine, I'm.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Kindly September please. Okay, so let's get started our first question,
what made you apply to be on this?
Speaker 4 (08:00):
Okay, so I actually didn't apply to be on the show.
I had actually just gabbed out of a relationship. I
think I was like three months out. This was like
end of June early July, and I got a DM
on Instagram and at that point I hadn't actually gone
on any dates.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
I had just been single. I was like, I just
need to be alone.
Speaker 4 (08:22):
I've gotten Instagram DM and I was like, no, I'm
not gonna I'm not gonna answer it. Like I was like,
that would be kind of cool because actually in college,
when I was in college, a bunch of girls in
my sorority like submitted me for the Bachelor. So they
reached out to me in college and my mom was like, no,
you have to finish school. You have way too much
going on, like you cannot go. I was like okay,
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And then so that was kind of funny that it
like came back.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
All my friends were laughing. I'm so sorry. All my
friends were laughing, and it was just you know.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
Who was the DM from The DM.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
Was from a casting director and so I got the DM.
I ignored it, and then I got an email and
then like just take an introduction call. And I was like, okay,
I'll take an introduce.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Love it that they just found you know that they
saw me.
Speaker 4 (09:14):
And I literally loved the introduction call, like I felt
so comfortable talking to all the casting people and the process,
Like I think I did the first calls and then
I literally went to Europe for a month, so I
was like okay, and I told everyone. I was like,
I didn't really know that I was like going on
the show until two days before.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Wait, stop right there?
Speaker 1 (09:33):
Two days?
Speaker 2 (09:34):
How did you have enough close all that? How did
you pull that one off? Susan YouTube by the way,
are twinsies? Because when I was reading by you, Bailey,
you love to shop, and so did Susan to shop?
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Yeah, here we go.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
I'm there.
Speaker 4 (09:48):
It's a really bad habit. Everyone has their like vice
and mine is shopped. That's the only thing I really
indulge in.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
But love it.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
Seven shops, shops, Kathy Walks.
Speaker 3 (09:59):
You know what, we'll shop for you and then we
can all match. And I feel like that.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Bailey, don't don't say it again, because I will take
you up on it.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
A Portugal is really good. I do my shopping there,
so I don't. I'm trying to really like, did you
guys so looking for?
Speaker 2 (10:14):
I love it?
Speaker 1 (10:15):
So?
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Did you really love this shop? Number? Number?
Speaker 1 (10:20):
Change numbers?
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Wait, Bailey, did you seriously have the clothes in your
wardrobe to take so.
Speaker 4 (10:25):
Like, I don't know if you guys looked at my Instagram,
but I've been doing like yes, I had partnerships since
twenty seventeen, so I have like a mask and a
sane amount of clothing. I just buy a lot of
clothing because I do a lot of like fashion and
beauty content and so thankfully, I actually the only thing
I really bought beforehand was my Limo dress. I was like,
(10:47):
I had two options that I was like thousand percent.
But all the Rose Haary money dresses are I already
believe that?
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Do you wear those?
Speaker 4 (10:56):
Like yeah, like I've actually worn majority of them already
on my Instagra grand like fashion week events and.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Okay, listen, I need you to hook me up with
women with companies that want to advertise clothing for the
older ones.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
I have an email for it. I feel like I
have been so blessed.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
We're hooking up with this girl susan single company.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
No, I've like, put me to work.
Speaker 4 (11:17):
I'm like, you know, and you're going to be I'm
ready to be everyone's like manager. I'm like, no, don't
accept that, don't do that, Like, yes, you can do that, I.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
Mean, I just feel like you and I I'm really
not blowing hot air hair. You are absolutely spendingly gorgeous,
as are most of the women that were on Grant season. Yes,
but I feel like when you get to be Susan's
and my age, we are trying to break those barriers
of what it looks like to be over sixty and
and dressed differently. And you would think clothes manufacturers would
(11:48):
be into that.
Speaker 3 (11:50):
Agree.
Speaker 4 (11:50):
Honestly though, I feel like a lot of the brands
that I work with, like they do a good job
of trying to like really work with a broad perspective
because like, also for me, I don't always want to
see like some I want to see it on different
body type kids, on different ages. Like I feel like
that makes me feel connected because then I see a
big push of like including everyone, and like, what's the
(12:13):
point of be wearing this if it's not going to
be like exactly.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Okay, since and we're hiring.
Speaker 4 (12:19):
Know's email, it's time you guys.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
Oh no, I want you to do it for me.
I want you to I want you to be Yeah, I'm.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
Going to give media lessons to everyone.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
I love it. Okay, what if you could if you
could choose, because it sounds like it sounds like you've
had so much going on before Bachelor, But if you
could choose just one word to describe your experience on
the bachelort one word, what would it be? And why
(12:53):
I'm going to ask you why so you better?
Speaker 4 (12:55):
Yeah? Okay, one word to describe like my entire time
on the Bachelor, the whole experience.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
Oh, I would say eye opening.
Speaker 6 (13:06):
I know that's a weird word, allow it, Yeah.
Speaker 4 (13:11):
Tish words, But I would say eye opening because I
feel like I really came into it, you know, I
was like, I'm not going to cry, I'm not going
to do all these things, and then really I also
learned so much about myself in the process. I feel
like it was eye opening, just like how much I
enjoyed being around my friends, how much I enjoyed interacting
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with the girls, how much I learned about myself, and
like an emotional relationship standpoint, I've always been kind of
a person where like I am very protective of my
peace and my feelings, and so it takes me a
really long time to like be there with somebody, and
I feel like the process, like genuinely, you know, it's
it speeds it up for you. But I was like,
really I had to just like it opened so many
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things for me.
Speaker 3 (13:57):
I feel like just being like I have to let
myself go and just feel what I feel.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
But don't you I mean, you strike me as a
woman who is very self assured. Did it just affirm
what you already thought about yourself or was it really
a change of like, wow, I a be at safe and.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
More comfortable in your own skin at that point.
Speaker 4 (14:16):
Yeah, I think thankfully my parents really raised me to
be very confident, because I like modeled as a child.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
And then now we get into it.
Speaker 3 (14:25):
Yeah, I ended up modeling.
Speaker 4 (14:26):
I started modeling officially in twenty seventeen, and I joined
the agency that my mom was a part of when
she was a model. And my mom always told me,
she's like, I don't care about you want to be
a model. She's like, if you are not confident, you're
not going to be a model, because it's going.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
To break you down.
Speaker 4 (14:41):
So I think I've always had a really strong sense
of confidence, which sometimes you know come off wrongly. But
I know very sure of myself and I really don't
make decisions lightly, and so I think it affirmed me
in the sense of, like I even watching it back,
every single person and that I know was very proud
(15:03):
of me, and I was very proud that I was
like often to me myself. And I feel like that
was very reassuring for me because I was like, you
know what, like I was one thousand percent myself and
that's all I can do.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
You know what's Sowar Susan and I we were and
unapologetically yeah peoplegally like I don't want to not everyone's
going to love that, Bailey, but not everyone's gonna love it,
but you have to be okay with that.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
So, Bailey, if if you were stranded on a deserted
island and you can only bring three women from your
season with you, who would they be?
Speaker 2 (15:35):
Kathy Susan? Oh wait, we weren't on our season.
Speaker 3 (15:39):
You guys were in spirit.
Speaker 4 (15:40):
I felt I felt that energy really hard because there's
a lot of things that I don't do that I
feel like I would need to be more strategic about
picking people.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
Because number one, I cannot cook.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
Oh my god, it's my sister.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
It's so bad.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
We shopped together.
Speaker 4 (15:59):
But I'll do the cooking, you know, I need lessons
can I come to your house and yes, yeah, like
my mom said to like, she's like any future partner
that you get, I'm going to have to give have
them give me a list of what they like so
that I can teach you how to cook it. So
I feel like I'm like, you know, I'm gonna pick
really strategically, Okay, number one, I'm picking Sarapina because she
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and I literally love.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
I love her.
Speaker 4 (16:27):
We're the funniest human being ever, and I feel like
our energies together it just like explodes so purely, like
we're going to be on comedic relief. Also, we're like
seen and very similar, so like I don't think we
would be really fighting that much. Yeah, I'm gonna pick Zoe.
Zoe can throw down in the kitchen. She she's funny.
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We really got a chance to bond before I left,
and that I'm just so grateful for that, and I
honestly I'm really grateful for both of their friendships. And
this third one is hard because there's so many people
that I want to like, Yeah, is really.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
Not enough, Like I need you're deserted.
Speaker 4 (17:08):
I'm gonna bring Ella because Ella keeps me like very
grounded and grounded, and she's like very chill, and she's
just kind of you know.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
I can see that you need a little of the
ying a little ye need.
Speaker 4 (17:22):
I need my other half to just be like, hey,
you've got to relap, because I mean, who would you
if I'm deserted on the island, Like the worst case scenario.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
I'm bringing the I'm bringing these young gorgeous girls who
could check me out of dress and makeup? Are you
kidding me?
Speaker 4 (17:37):
I'm getting dressed up for dinner where I deserted island.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
Exactly, I'm gonna I'm gonna say, Bailey, I need a
dress for dinner. I got a hot date tonight. What
the hell do I wear?
Speaker 3 (17:46):
Just come to my closet. I have a ton of clothes.
Speaker 4 (17:50):
Like all my friends who don't go shopping, they just
come to my closet.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
I'm like, isn't that hard to pick out what to wear?
Like I'd have to being over my brain would be
like my open.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
Packing packing because I like choice. I know what I'm
going to want to wear. Do I want this?
Speaker 4 (18:05):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (18:05):
I love it? For the Bachelor, you know, you can
bring two suitcases. They want you to bring five thousand
pairs of shoes, you know, eight to ten.
Speaker 4 (18:13):
Your heels, and I'm like, no speakers. I bring it
to I bring two large suitcases for a three day
trip to give you an how often I'm changing clothes
like five times a day. So I was like, yeah,
I think you really get me on this, Like I was, Oh,
I get it.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
I just can't do it. I get it. But you
know what, Bally, I all iron for you. I love
to iron.
Speaker 3 (18:36):
Okay, listen, I'm a steamer. I'm an ironer. I'll iron.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
We can trade of Damn, I have no use to her.
I don't. Okay, So I want to know have you
been dating? I want to know? Wait's because you know
we were going to ask.
Speaker 3 (18:50):
Yeah, yeah, I figured the dating. I have been like
going on dates.
Speaker 4 (18:54):
I think the problem is also I am a very
busy person, so sometimes, like I think, me getting to
the initial date, it takes a lot for me to
get there because I'm also like a very selected person.
So when I do have free time and i'm home,
I kind of just want to see my friends, and
so I have I have been like going on dates.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
But you know, I think where are the dates coming from?
Are they dming you? Or you on a dating site
or people that you meet out and about.
Speaker 4 (19:23):
Or it's like a multitude of things I think I do.
Like I've been doing social media for a while, so
like as soon I don't know if like a light
went off on everyone's head as soon as I became single, everyone's.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
Like single, she came back.
Speaker 4 (19:39):
And I'm really bad with my d N attack. So
that's also another thing, Like I'm a really poor responder.
Speaker 2 (19:45):
But it's like, oh damn, I've got four thousand unanswered
dms and they're all dates have whatever.
Speaker 3 (19:51):
Oh no, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
You know what Bailey says. I'm going shopping. I don't
have time for this.
Speaker 3 (19:55):
I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
Like we would get along so well.
Speaker 4 (19:58):
So well I'm really I'm actually really excited part a
trip to Portugal.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
Now we're actually going to have a blore. No, we're
we're coming from everywhere.
Speaker 4 (20:07):
Like I've been on like a dating app like called
Riah for.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
A while and oh you're on Riot.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
They wouldn't they wouldn't accept me.
Speaker 3 (20:15):
Let's me do your application.
Speaker 4 (20:16):
I've been on it since twenty eighteen, twenty seventeen, so
I have for a long time.
Speaker 2 (20:23):
Yeah, yeah, it's okay, So wait, it doesn't think you're
dating anyone in particular, and it sounds like you're a
very busy lady, so you're going to make time. Are
you going to go on Bachelor in Paradise if you're asked.
Speaker 4 (20:34):
If I'm asked, I feel like I would love to
go on Paradise. I feel like it'd be like very
much my speed. I would love to be with my
friends again, love to make new friends.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
Okay, well they're going to have some golden dirt if
we get out.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Do you have anybody in mind that you would like
to be there?
Speaker 4 (20:51):
Oh? I think the hard part is like I actually,
like really haven't watched the show in a long time,
and I think that's a good thing if I'm like
asked to go Paradise, because I really easily get the ick,
and I really easily like you know, make I'm a
really big person like I unfortunately will look at someone
on social media and kind of have an idea of
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what they are like. Even when I was going in
the grand season, like I really tried to do like
minimal research on him.
Speaker 3 (21:17):
I just like saw him.
Speaker 4 (21:18):
I was like, okay, initially like I'm attracted, and then
I just read about him, and I was like, I
love these qualities. I love these like, you know, his
personality trait that I'm like reading about, and so I
think that's what I need to know. I feel like
if I go you know, no, I mean happy, and
I'm so happy for him, but I mean I want
to go into it with the same strategy.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
Of being like, Okay, you did a great job. That
Baily did a great job. Now who do you want
to see on Bachelor? Know?
Speaker 3 (21:45):
Okay, I'll tell you what kind of type I'm looking for.
Speaker 4 (21:48):
Okay, I actually I think all everyone that knows we
can contest contest to this. I do not have a type,
Like I do not have a physical type at all.
I would just ideally like for them to be taller
than me and I am like almost five eight.
Speaker 3 (22:03):
I'm five seven and a half, so keep that.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
I won't have to have dressers. I'm the same hype.
We won't have to have many dress.
Speaker 3 (22:09):
We won't have to have anything.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Okay, I used to shrinking.
Speaker 4 (22:15):
I sometimes I feel like I'm like randomly getting taller,
and then I don't know, maybe it's like the climate in.
Speaker 3 (22:19):
My bones, like I enjoy it.
Speaker 4 (22:22):
The personality that I'm looking for. I want someone that's
family oriented. I laugh a lot of humor, yes, God,
to have a sense of humor, you have to be
able to take a joke, like I genuinely love to
laugh at all moments. Laugh you'll cry, and I'm every
day I'm laughing, like a really positive person. I want
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someone that's also positive. I want someone that's gonna like
support me. I want to support them. I want a partnership.
I'd love to like find my best friend and somebody.
Speaker 2 (22:52):
I feel like I got to say everything that you're saying, Bailey.
When we've talked about this with other guests, it's it
and sends generations. It's what we're looking for. It's what
I'm looking for. Someone who's kind and generous, who's my
best friend, who will do things with me, who will
listen to me and I will listen to them, you know,
share our lives. It doesn't sound that complicated, doesn't.
Speaker 3 (23:14):
Hard, But that's like maybe it is.
Speaker 6 (23:16):
I don't know, you know.
Speaker 4 (23:17):
And like just like I was in the show, I'm like,
you know, you got to be able to take a
good picture, like we will get there like.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
That that was hysterical.
Speaker 4 (23:25):
That was but I was like people that know me
like they were. I'm like, it's supposed to be a joke,
Like I love a joke. I love a bit, like
I love anything that's going to like bring people.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
Yeah, like I got my bit. Mine was zip it
zip Like.
Speaker 3 (23:43):
Like people that get it, they're not going to take
it personal. They're going to realize, like you know, this
is like funny.
Speaker 2 (23:49):
Tell tell us your thoughts a little more serious out
here on the bats or finale because you think, you know,
what did you did you think it's going to go
that way?
Speaker 4 (23:58):
I mean, yeah, I was very grateful to be at
after the final rowse and I am friends with both
of them, Like I love both of them. I had
a separate relationship with both of them and Zoe included.
I honestly am very proud of each of them just
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being able to like fully articulate their feelings. And I
think that they're both in amazing places, Like I think
Juliana and Grant are like made for each other. I mean,
you know, I think when you're watching it back, you're
learning so.
Speaker 3 (24:35):
Much more about what you did fractions.
Speaker 4 (24:37):
Because really, I think we all just focused on our
relationships with each other, not really what I didn't really
worry about what one of my friends relationships was with Grant,
and so I think, you know, there's always gonna be
shocking twists, It's always going to be a moment where,
you know, I wasn't there, I don't know what was
filmed ex and I think most of any emotions I had,
I really just like I felt like I was taking
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on the emotions of the girls up there. I was
just like I felt sad, I felt happy, over joyed
for Zoe for going to Paradise, Like there was just
such inn a range of motions and I feel like
it was, oh really like you were sitting on the
edge of your seat the entire alley because I was there,
and I was just like, you know, I don't, I just.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
Which is definitely the sign of good TV, right yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
But I still there's no drama, but there was just
did you have a feeling that it was who it
was or were you torn too? You know?
Speaker 4 (25:31):
I mean obviously like you when you are there, you
have an idea of who it was like. And I
think a lot of people say this, like when we
were there, I totally like was like, I feel like
Litia is definitely a front runner and it made sense,
but she made it to Final two.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
I think also watching.
Speaker 4 (25:47):
Back, I saw the relationship that they each had with him,
so I think it it all made sense at the
end kind of you know, his relationship with each of them,
and I feel like, really, he just he chose with
his heart, you know, what was going to work best
for him. But I do feel like they're both in
the correct places, Like there's a plan for everyone, and
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you know, what's meant to happen is supposed to happen.
And I feel like that's what I really took away
from it. I was like, it wasn't meant to go
another way. It was literally meant to go this way
all things should be.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
And that's you know, that was a positive way to
look at it too, because there's you know, I hate
the expression one door shuts, the window opens or whatever,
but in some ways it's very true. You know, it's
very true, and they.
Speaker 1 (26:30):
At least expected you.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
Yeah, they're both lovely.
Speaker 4 (26:34):
I would have been able, honestly, like I think that
everybody had, like even just like who was left, Like
after I went home, I was just like, there's no
way to know what's going on. You're not really even
gonna get to know. I wish I could watch all
the footage of everything. You know, we will two hours.
Speaker 1 (26:52):
All the things they don't put in there.
Speaker 4 (26:54):
Yeah, like I only get two hours like everyone else is. Like,
I'm also learning things about my friends and about their
relationships with him, So I think that it was really
I really enjoyed watching it all back.
Speaker 2 (27:04):
Honestly, I'm well, they do seem very happy, so that
is Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (27:09):
They're being meant for each other, and I feel.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
Like they they are so cute.
Speaker 3 (27:14):
They're so cute.
Speaker 4 (27:14):
I feel like the way that they interact like they
were just you know, they were meant for each other,
and I really love that for them, and I'm just
so excited for them. I like, hope we all get
invited to the wedding.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
I do the wedding I knew.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
I knew, poor girl, Like you know, I'll be the commentator,
Yeah exactly.
Speaker 4 (27:35):
I'm like, you know, I'll help you guys, and I
love helping my friends play on their weddings. But I
just feel like everything happened how it was supposed to,
and I actually cannot.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Do you wait, do you see yourself getting married in
the next you know, pick a number of years and
having kids and a family and settling down.
Speaker 1 (27:52):
Is that your goal?
Speaker 4 (27:53):
Yes, Like I'm from the South, so you know that's
important to say because if you would have asked me,
I would have been married at twenty five. I would
have already like had a kid now. And majority of
my friends from where I'm from have children and they're married.
I think right now I would really like to get
married in the next like four ish years. I really
like love to take the time to like travel with
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my partner and you know, spend that time in Portugal together.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
And no, no, no, no, bab stop stop, you're traveling
with us, not.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Even if you marry them, we're coming anything.
Speaker 3 (28:26):
I'm like, okay, sorry, we have to put our vacation
on hold. The girls and we have guests.
Speaker 4 (28:32):
My dream husband, he would be like absolutely, he would
like more than girls Portugal. And that's what I feel
like I want, like I want a few years to
like be with my partner, to explore, to do things.
But I also I love kids, like I do feel
like one of my many purposes on this children the mother,
and so I am really excited to have kids. I
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love being an auntie to all my friends kids. It's
like the thing that keeps me going.
Speaker 3 (28:59):
I definitely go. We're bored on holidays. I cannot help it.
I do not care. You know.
Speaker 4 (29:04):
I'm like, I was meant, I'm like rich auntie. So
I'm like, I'm I'm bringing them clothes from everywhere.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
Isn't fun?
Speaker 2 (29:10):
It's so much fun. I have two granddaughters, and my
youngest granddaughter turns to this Sunday and we're doing a
everybuddy you know loves that's her birthday and we're gonna
I'm my daughter and I are going to make a
bunny birthday cake. And I'm just you know, it's just
the best dress.
Speaker 4 (29:29):
The two year old is iconic. I love that, like
I just birthdays. I love themes. I love anything.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
It's a whole thing.
Speaker 3 (29:36):
It's over overbearing parent for sure. If you can't tell.
Speaker 2 (29:39):
Yeah, my daughter loves the theme party and this is
going to be, you know, incredible with but I got
we shop for the dress for We got her the cutest,
of course, smock dress with Easter bunnies hopping across.
Speaker 4 (29:53):
It's like I actually can fully picture the dress. I
know exactly like what you're talking about that's.
Speaker 1 (29:59):
Absolute perfect, especially girls, they're so fun.
Speaker 3 (30:03):
Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
Since we're talking about dating, so we have the question
of the day that we're going to ask you. Okay,
do you think long distance relationships can work? And if yes,
what do you think it takes? So what if you
met somebody in Europe, not even in Portugal, France, wherever?
Speaker 3 (30:33):
How do you think really open to long distance?
Speaker 2 (30:36):
I are? Or not?
Speaker 3 (30:37):
Yes? I think long distance is a good thing.
Speaker 2 (30:41):
How's it work?
Speaker 4 (30:42):
Actually in my past too, like serious relationships, there were
moments where we've done long distance. And I think that
long distance can be good because it allows you to
like live your life. I don't, I you know, I'm
not like really that into codependent relationships. So I think
it's really important to still have of like your self individual.
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I think it should be two entities that come together
and like make a really good partnership. And I think
the key to like a successful long distance relationship is
that you spend the time like cultivating your relationship. You
spend the time communicating, you spend the time checking in,
you spend the time, you know, visiting each other. And
I also think that's kind of what makes it fun,
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Like do I think, do I want to be long
distance my entire relationship?
Speaker 3 (31:26):
No, of course not. There's moments where I want my
partner with me, but I don't. I think that people get.
Speaker 4 (31:31):
Really scared of long distance, and it's really not a
scary thing. It just takes effort and it just takes time.
When you really care about someone and you really love someone,
it's not even.
Speaker 1 (31:40):
A thought the time.
Speaker 3 (31:41):
I can't do this.
Speaker 4 (31:42):
Yeah, it's like whatever, Okay, I'll see you in three weeks,
like right, and I'll come out. And I'm an adult,
like I'm twenty eight, Like I can come and see
you for I mean, and thankfully I work for myself,
so like I can come spend a month with you
if you want, like I'm there for a month.
Speaker 3 (31:55):
Whatever.
Speaker 4 (31:55):
We can go on a trip, we can meet up,
we can you know, meet at my friend's wedding.
Speaker 2 (31:59):
Yeah. It was Ben Higgins who said that. Was it
Ben Higgins who said that when he started dating, they
were long distance and they never left without having the
next date, you know, the next time they're going to
meet each other. Yes, but I think it's hard to
start a date a relationship long distance. I mean, you
meet someone you got to spend some quality time with
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them in that initial stage to know you want to
do long distance.
Speaker 3 (32:24):
Right, Yeah, I mean I think it's hard.
Speaker 4 (32:26):
They'll also like I think we can all relate to this,
Like I think you'd be shocked how quickly your emotions
get involved, Like you know what I mean. Even just
being on the show, you're like, oh, I'm like really
into this person. So I feel like it's kind of
like a similar thing in that sense. And I also
think going on the show, you you really have to
be in the mindset that there's no you know, we're
all from all over, so there's.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
No way that we're going to be able to not
getting the guy next.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
Yeah we're not.
Speaker 1 (32:50):
We're not.
Speaker 3 (32:50):
I mean a miracle.
Speaker 4 (32:53):
They you guys lived in the same place, but nine
times out of ten that's just not the case. So
I think you have to go into it being a
okay with long distance. And I love the idea that
you would go ahead and plan your I'm a big planner,
so I you know, I'm totally into that.
Speaker 3 (33:08):
You always have something free dates.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
I want to date for Bailey, I want to date
you could get my life totally together.
Speaker 3 (33:14):
I'll come visit you I'll go to your closet.
Speaker 2 (33:17):
I'll free Oh you listen, you have no idea what
you are signing up for. People say to me, oh,
Kathy always looks so nice. You're put together. Do you
understand it is like ripping toenails off? I mean it
is so hard for me.
Speaker 3 (33:32):
Oh say my bed.
Speaker 4 (33:34):
So I'm like, I don't want to get up today,
Like I don't actually want to do anything. And then I,
you know, the me being a goal oriented person like
always gets me out of the bed.
Speaker 3 (33:43):
But I'm like, can I just like take a break.
Speaker 1 (33:45):
And say, we all have those dings we do?
Speaker 2 (33:48):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (33:49):
Now we also do advice. People right in to us
and they want our opinions and our advice. So we
would like you to give some advice today. Are you
okay with that?
Speaker 3 (33:59):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (33:59):
I actually love giving unsolicited and solicited advice. It's like
a thing being a Taurus.
Speaker 6 (34:05):
Like wait, I'm Taurus too, but your Taurus.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
I am my birthdays May ninth May?
Speaker 1 (34:12):
Okay?
Speaker 4 (34:13):
You know, like Tauruses, we find each other and I
feel like a lot I have a lot of friends
that are chorus is like it's team Taurus. And the
thing is we get along with everyone, So I think
that's also a really big thing.
Speaker 1 (34:24):
Is but what happened to the bowl?
Speaker 2 (34:26):
Like my my son in law's birthday is in May,
is in May, my sister's birthdays in May, my son's
birthdays in May. May is a great mind. And the
rest of my siblings are born in April. So we're
a bunch of Torreans here.
Speaker 4 (34:43):
Oh I love tourist season. I actually celebrate my birthday
all of April and all of tourist seasons.
Speaker 3 (34:49):
So it's behalf of May.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
When is yours? May?
Speaker 2 (34:52):
What mine's April twenty four?
Speaker 4 (34:56):
The whole month of April. I've already that's mine. And
then I also go into Taurus.
Speaker 2 (35:01):
I'm like, yeah, I would like you. I would like
to invite you. I would like you to invite celebrating April.
That's where we got March, April and mayhir.
Speaker 3 (35:09):
I mean, Kathy, you might be celebrating somewhere else.
Speaker 2 (35:11):
I know if I do and you're there, will you
help me pick out what to wear? Oh my god, Okay,
this is getting better all the time. All right, here
we go, We're gonna go uh with some advisor Ali asks, Hi, ladies,
I need your help I want to know if you
think this is friendship breakup worthy. Uh oh, I've been
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besties with my friend Nina since high school and we're
twenty six now. She's always been the peacekeeper type, so
getting her to cut someone off is impossible. For example,
if I was wronged by someone in our friend group,
she'd continue her friendship with them. I always just accepted
this about her because I never saw a problem with it.
But now I'm wondering if it's a red flag. I
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recently broke up with my boyfriend of four years because
I found out he was cheating on me with multiple women.
I've obviously been very angry and devastated by this, so
I vented to Nina. Last weekend. While I was at
home with bad cramps, I got a text from one
of the girls in our friend group. It was a
screenshot of my ex's Instagram story at a bar lo
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and behold, Nina was in the background taking shots with
him and his friends. I'm going to be seeing Nina
next week for a wine night AKA to bring it
up to her. She has no idea I know. Should
I even do this and confront her or just cut
her off? Am I being too harsh. What should I do?
Am I justified and feeling betrayed? Hey? Thanks, ladies, what
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do you think?
Speaker 3 (36:44):
Oh, that is such a doozy. That is really crazy.
Speaker 4 (36:48):
Okay, And I'm going to say this and maybe you
can relate happy because you're also a Taurus.
Speaker 3 (36:53):
Yep, I am.
Speaker 4 (36:54):
Quick to cut people off quick. I you know you're
a snip snip snip. Now, if you're my best friend
and you met my boyfriend or my ex boyfriend through me,
as soon as I cut ties with him, you also
cut ties with him. And I do have like very
a very harsh sense of like, you know, I feel
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like I give advice and I'm like, cut that person off.
I think it's a little bit different if they like
have known each other since high school. But still I
wouldn't feel comfortable hanging out with my friend's ex at
any moment, and I think just going in, I would first,
you know, bring that to her and be like, I
don't feel comfortable with you guys hanging out. You should
be my friend, you should be supporting me. Now, if
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they have been friends for like, I don't know, fifteen years,
there's there's another thing to had said. But also if
you're my best friend. There's just no reason why you are.
Speaker 1 (37:46):
What why would you be hanging out doing shots with
him when you know he just cheated on your best friends? Right?
Speaker 3 (37:52):
Wait I cheating the cheating.
Speaker 2 (37:54):
Okay, well but Bailey you just like but Bailey said
maybe if they've known each other since high school. I mean,
but should you bring it up? I think Ali, the
three of us are saying wholeheartedly, yes, you should bring
it up without a doubt.
Speaker 1 (38:10):
And you can make your choice to hang with him.
But you can't hang with me?
Speaker 3 (38:15):
Yeah, I think.
Speaker 4 (38:15):
I mean it's hard because you don't want to have
to pick side. Give you just ultimatum.
Speaker 3 (38:22):
Because I forgot that he.
Speaker 4 (38:23):
Cheated and that that's big, that's too much, Like I'm
not going to be friends with someone that's friends with
my cheating ex boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (38:30):
Like in another podcast, I just said to Susan my
three things that I that I would break up with
the guy over. My have three things. The first one
is cheating, the second one is cheating, and the third
one is lying. Now there's other ones in there too,
but cheating for me.
Speaker 4 (38:46):
Like that breaks the trust? Like and also how can
I trust you as a friend? Like what are you
saying to him there's a lot.
Speaker 1 (38:53):
Okay with it? I mean, how can you be okay
with that? You know, I'm not going to force you
to be mad at him. But I don't think she's
being harsh. I don't think she's been harsh. I think
she's probably upset emotionally, like, this is my friend, and
you think she's asking does she bring it up or
just ignore it?
Speaker 2 (39:10):
Like, so, of course you bring it up. You have
to tell your friend.
Speaker 1 (39:13):
You got to look her in the eye and say,
do you know how that feels? Put yourself in my shoes?
This is not okay with me?
Speaker 4 (39:20):
Yeah, this is I think this is definitely something she
needs to bring up it. Actually, I wouldn't feel comfortable
being friends with my best friend knowing that this would
be going on.
Speaker 3 (39:29):
I would called her up Melium and like.
Speaker 2 (39:31):
Yeah, I would I asked this question. I was going
to say, I would have made a wine date. Either
would be like what the hell are you doing? You
know what I would have done, Take a screenshot of
the screenshot, send it on her and say you want
to explain this, you got thirty seconds.
Speaker 4 (39:46):
I have done that so many times, Like I have
sent a screenshot and then sometimes I blocked.
Speaker 2 (39:52):
We areous raetorians.
Speaker 1 (39:54):
We don't go back and.
Speaker 3 (39:55):
Be like, okay, now you have the chance to respond.
Speaker 4 (39:58):
Now I've block you blocked that buttons so easy to
push my favorite button, like because.
Speaker 1 (40:05):
It gives me time to did you take it all in?
You know I don't yet.
Speaker 3 (40:11):
Now you can also take it in?
Speaker 4 (40:13):
And you know, unfortunately I'm a Taurus, like it's on
my time and I'm the one that I did it
for a reason.
Speaker 2 (40:20):
About me?
Speaker 3 (40:21):
Yeah, about like sorry, I deserve an answer when I'm
ready for one.
Speaker 2 (40:26):
That's right until then, until then, go counchy. All right,
So we have gotten to know you a little better.
We love you. We want to open the floor to you. Bailey.
Do you have questions for us, comments, thoughts, advice? What
do you got for us? Because you're a smart, talented woman.
Speaker 4 (40:43):
Love. I feel like I vibe with you guys so well,
and I would like genuinely love to know. I guess
as I'm getting into twenty eight, I'm so excited for thirties,
Like you know, what advice would you guys give to me?
You know, just about like navigating life, and I think
even navigating partnerships like going forward, Like you know, I
think I would really like take what you guys have
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to say to heart and don't for me.
Speaker 1 (41:07):
It's something I learned later, and I didn't take the
advice I heard the advice when you see a red flag,
it is a red flag. You're not going to change anybody.
And be true to yourself. Know what you want and
what makes you happy, and don't settle for anything less.
Speaker 3 (41:25):
That's so good.
Speaker 1 (41:26):
Don't give up your career for anybody, do you.
Speaker 2 (41:30):
Yeah, I think when you're you're clearly a smart, talented,
beautiful woman who's going to dress me so I look
like you and I can hardly wait. But as you're
looking for that perfect guy, first of all, there is
no perfect guy. There's always compromised people mistake perfection for
or lack of perfection for settling. They're not perfect for you,
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They're not that There's there's two different things are I
would say to you, You're you're busy and you're involved
in so many things. So Bailey, do the things that
you love and the right people will come into your life.
So that's it.
Speaker 1 (42:06):
Takes to your sixty eight. But I'm just say I.
Speaker 4 (42:09):
Mean I'm really wanting I want my marriage like I
want to get it right.
Speaker 3 (42:14):
So I'm really wait. I'm willing to wait if that's
what it takes.
Speaker 2 (42:17):
But you're going to compromise, compromises, not settling, Bailey. There
will be compromises in your and I don't think a
lot of people get that at any age. They if
you know, you're going to have to compromise, because that's
everyone does. The communication I think is the most important thing.
But again people mistake communication for listen to what I'm
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telling you. Well, no, it goes both ways. Listen to
what I'm telling you, and I'm going to listen to you,
and that's hard. Sometimes my marriage is hard work.
Speaker 1 (42:50):
When you were talking about the long distance relationship, I'm
just started one, and you had the perfect, perfect words
which were I was paying attention?
Speaker 2 (43:03):
Was paying?
Speaker 4 (43:04):
The long distance is like when you love someone, when
you see potential, it's okay, the lease of your worries.
Like you know, I also love traveling, so like I'm
open to like exploring new cities and learning new things
and I want to that also does that, you know.
Speaker 1 (43:20):
And for you, I think it will be even difficult
because you're so worldly I mean, you fly over here,
you're over here, You're in Florida, you're in Atlanta, and
a lot of the men your age haven't had this
worldly experience as of yet. You'll be able to show him.
Speaker 4 (43:37):
Yeah, I'm not expecting someone to like come to me
and be like yeah, I like I've lived here, I
live here. I'm like, yes, yes, the beauty is guess what,
I actually have a place that we can stay with me.
Speaker 3 (43:50):
I just want someone that wants to come with me.
Speaker 2 (43:52):
And I'm curious. Bailey. First of all, I wuldn't know what
your age ranges for, like how old and how young
will you go? Because usually when you ask that question,
people say how old they'll go? How old will you go?
But also how young will you go?
Speaker 4 (44:07):
Okay, so turning twenty eight, I think youngest I would
go is like twenty six, and I though I'm not
against it, I'm trying to keep an open mind. I
would rather not date younger. I would definitely rather date older.
I think just being the kind I've always been very mature,
as like an older sibling, and so I feel like
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I've always kind of wanted someone that's a little bit
older than me, as far as like oldest I'll go.
I mean I feel like I would go like ten
or twelve years about twenty eight. I'm not like, you know,
against anything. I just feel like because I don't really
have a type of person. I really don't know, you know,
(44:49):
I don't know how old they would be. I don't
know what my perfect match, what age they would be.
I feel like I don't want to like say no
when this person could really be someone that could bring
me a lot of smart this yeah, you know, I'm like,
I don't want to like just be like no because
he doesn't look like this or it's not this age,
Like I'm definitely not. The problem is, though I do
look really young, So I think a lot of times
(45:10):
younger guys come to me and they're like, no, like
it's fine that you're seven years older.
Speaker 6 (45:14):
I'm like yeah, and I do you ever get guys
saying to you because you are accomplished and Susan and
I've had this and actually it's it greats on me
because there's so much more to me than that.
Speaker 2 (45:31):
Do you ever have men say to you, Wow, you're
a lot, You're you're too strong, you're too competent, you're too.
Whatever do you ever have that men said it?
Speaker 3 (45:40):
Because I imagine guys really like me on paper.
Speaker 4 (45:43):
I think I present really well on paper, and so
I think that sometimes is really intimidating to them in
the sense of, like, I do have really high expectations.
I think my dad and my brother have sent a
lot of high expectations as to what I expect, like
the man in my the men in my life to
do for me and to interrupt me. And so I
think that can be really off putting to a lot
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of guys.
Speaker 2 (46:06):
I think that's that's the word off put. Off put.
Speaker 4 (46:08):
I'm not really into like younger because I think that
is really I mean, that's scary, Like how can I
expect a twenty seven year old to like come in
and you know, I don't know how.
Speaker 3 (46:16):
To do my car things?
Speaker 4 (46:17):
Like yeah, little brother, still my dad passed that job
was given to my little brother.
Speaker 2 (46:23):
You though you could do it, you have Okay. So
here's here's another piece of advice for you. If a
man tells you you are too much, it means they're
just not enough.
Speaker 4 (46:36):
Yeah, And I need to keep that in mind because
I feel like the person that's meant for me, I
won't be too much, you know, I will be like
exactly the completion of them. I will add what they're
missing or you know, little things like that. So I
feel like I alsum, Thats why I've been so selective
with dating in a sense, because I'm like, oh, you know,
(46:56):
I don't want to be disappointed. I want to, you know,
meet someone that's really going to like help me grow
and be there for.
Speaker 1 (47:03):
And loves you for you quirkiness or your spontaneouism and
your outgoing personality. There is somebody out there that appreciates that.
Speaker 2 (47:14):
I think there's more than one person out there. I
don't believe there's only one person in the world for us,
do you, Billy, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (47:21):
I think that you can be a love multiple times.
Speaker 2 (47:24):
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (47:25):
Absolutely, it's honestly.
Speaker 4 (47:27):
I mean, I think through the show we can all
see it's possible to be in love with multiple peep
in people, multiple people at the same time. And I
also think that there you know, people come in your
life for a reason and there's different Just because you've
like loved somebody, that doesn't mean that like you.
Speaker 3 (47:43):
Will never love again, Like.
Speaker 2 (47:44):
I I hope not.
Speaker 3 (47:47):
I can't be that. I'm like, I'm gonna need to
be in love again. Thank you, Like this is need,
this is need.
Speaker 1 (47:53):
I can't trust me you will.
Speaker 3 (47:55):
I'm not that worried about it.
Speaker 4 (47:56):
I think that there's different people that were put in
your life for different reason.
Speaker 1 (48:01):
Everybody comes into you, you know, it may be.
Speaker 4 (48:03):
That, like God decided that that person was there for
you to like be a shoulder, for you to lean
on them.
Speaker 3 (48:09):
There's a bigger place.
Speaker 1 (48:10):
Or teach you something or experience. Yes, yes, exactly. You
are so above your age.
Speaker 2 (48:18):
Since we talk about this, I'm sure we've had several
we've had several of the women from Grant season. All
of you are I said, you're all beautiful and talented
and successful, but you're also, in my mind wise beyond
your years.
Speaker 4 (48:34):
The girls I can't even express, like how amazing all
of them are.
Speaker 3 (48:39):
Like I think.
Speaker 4 (48:39):
People sometimes get They're like, no, way, you're friends with everyone.
I'm like, I'm not joking. Every single girl that I've
met from my season has genuinely taught me something or
inspired for you.
Speaker 1 (48:51):
Know, you learned something from I've learned something.
Speaker 4 (48:54):
From all of them, and they all are so beautiful,
so accomplished, so well spoken, Yeah, so I mean confident.
Just the energy and the aura that they all have,
it's like the craziest thing. And I feel like that
really allowed me to be myself and to just you know,
live authentically. And I feel like I'm just so proud
of all the girls in my season because really like
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they are so wise beyond.
Speaker 1 (49:16):
Their I was impressed by everything, like.
Speaker 4 (49:19):
Pressed, I was like, you know, the house was like,
I have got to wow, step up my game.
Speaker 3 (49:24):
This will not just be like.
Speaker 1 (49:26):
You did not your game.
Speaker 2 (49:28):
You were you did, you did just fine.
Speaker 3 (49:33):
Just what.
Speaker 1 (49:34):
I hope you find that man. I hope so too,
and he finds.
Speaker 3 (49:39):
You out there. He will, he will find you, know what.
Speaker 2 (49:42):
I hope you find all of them, and I hope
all of them find you till you find the perfect
one for you.
Speaker 3 (49:49):
I think the perfect one's out there. I'm not too worry.
Speaker 1 (49:52):
Absolutely, Billy, thank you so much for being with us today.
Do not leave this podcast without us exchanging numbers, because
we're going to continue.
Speaker 3 (50:01):
This number of instagrams. Everything Instagram.
Speaker 2 (50:05):
I mean, and if you if I show up on
Bachelor in Paradise and you show up on Bachelor in Paradise.
You're gonna be a very busy girl.
Speaker 3 (50:12):
Open.
Speaker 2 (50:13):
I'm gonna go, where's Bailey, And they're gonna go, oh
my god, she's with Kathy trying to.
Speaker 3 (50:19):
I want to be over there with you.
Speaker 4 (50:20):
I'm like, wait, I can't wait to, like, you know,
if I'm there, I'm so excited. I like want to
make new friends and like, I'm so excited to meet everyone.
I feel like I've been traveling so much, I haven't
really got to meet that many people from Bachelor Nations.
Speaker 2 (50:30):
So yeah, they're great people. Well, listen, we have loved
getting to chat with you you. Thank you all our
listeners for joining us. Be sure to follow Bachelor or
Happy Hour. We have new episodes every week, and if
you loved getting to know Bailey as we did, you
will want to tune in to hear more. Just like this,
(50:51):
she is an wonderful person.
Speaker 1 (50:53):
Going to be invited to Portico. I'm just saying.
Speaker 2 (50:56):
Yeah, yeah, by the way, not only yeah, Susan Ali.
We love getting to chat with Bailey. We got another
vacational plan.
Speaker 1 (51:05):
Road trip, and everybody makes sure that keeps submitting your
questions to us so that we can talk about them
and give you some advice or at least our opinion.
You can go to bachelornation dot com, slash Golden Hour,
or dm us on Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour.
Speaker 2 (51:20):
Listen to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on the iHeartRadio app,
or wherever you get your podcasts. Until next time, have
a great week.
Speaker 1 (51:28):
Yes,
Welcome back everybody to Bachelor Happy Hours, Golden Hour. Thanks
again for joining us. We're really excited about today.
Speaker 2 (00:14):
We are we we always have fun together. Susan and
I've been talking about spring. Spring has sprung. My house
has been powerwashed. It's amazing the dirt you get up
with a powerwasher.
Speaker 1 (00:24):
Just want to say that, Kathy here, you can't powerwash
before the pollen star.
Speaker 2 (00:29):
Well the Pollen's we were in Texas sentence. Yeah, we're
you know, we're like everything else. We're okay. We want
to make sure that everyone is checking out our latest episodes.
We've been having so much fun answering your questions, talking
about dating, life, sex after you know, nineteen years ago, whatever,
(00:51):
we're talking about it all. So we love chatting with
our Bachelor Nation faiths and as we do.
Speaker 1 (00:58):
And today we have the most awesome guest. Not only
is she beautiful, but she might bring us on a
little break trip. Yeah, and we're gonna let her tell
you all about it. And she's from Grand Season and
this is Bailey Barely Welcome, Welcome Bailey.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Hi, guys, I'm so excited to be here.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
I'm so okay, guys, I just have to say baby Portugal.
We're getting to that. I just want to say, another
gorgeous girl, I'm from Grand Season. Like it's like that,
your smile, your your complexion, your dress, your hair, everything
about you is amazing. It's just amazing. Now you are
(01:39):
you are? You know.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
It was crazy, but I really realized that I needed
to just be myself on Grand Season because every single
girl was just beautiful and it's amazing and just accomplished.
I was like, Okay, it's really time for personality to
like do the work.
Speaker 2 (01:54):
Because oh, trust me, I know, just do you.
Speaker 3 (01:57):
But they're not going to be enough for this.
Speaker 2 (02:01):
So I want to know before Well, first you you
have a dog, and we saw your poodle and you
travel with this poodle, so you travel around. Just tell
us a little about that because i'mber getting too Portugal.
Speaker 4 (02:14):
Okay, So the poodle, she's actually sitting in the bed.
Otherwise I would bring crab. But my dog's name is Lisa.
She's four. She's a toy poodle. I think that was
like a little bit of confusion. She's not a toy animal.
She's like a toy classification of a poodle, and she's
like the best thing ever. She is a diva though,
so she does travel to and from Portugal. She has
a Portuguese pet passport, so she has a European pet passport.
(02:37):
And I take her with me to Portugal when I
go for the month, and she lives her absolute best life.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
We take her everywhere in.
Speaker 1 (02:46):
She behaves when you take her.
Speaker 3 (02:48):
Oh she's so well because she's you think she's a human.
Speaker 2 (02:51):
So wait, do you need a poodle puppy handler? Because
I'm available, rushing, So we want to go to Portugal.
Speaker 3 (02:58):
For people that want her. They're like please, My great
aunt's like, please drop her off. She's like anytime, anytime,
you can just sleep her.
Speaker 2 (03:06):
I think she missed it, Susan, we want to come
to Portugal with the puppy poodle.
Speaker 3 (03:10):
Oh yeah, come, we have a three bedroom. Everyone's welcome.
Speaker 1 (03:14):
Who's we So my mom.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
And my sister live in Portugal, like majority of the time,
my little sister lives there.
Speaker 3 (03:20):
I'm the oldest, I have a younger brother and a younger.
Speaker 4 (03:23):
Sister, and my sister plays tennis, and so she's been
living in Portugal since she was almost like seventeen by herself. Wow,
my parents bought a place a few years ago. Like
right before my dad passed. My parents bought a place
in Portugal and we just finished renovating it, I think
last summer, and so it's like so nice, perfect.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
Two years ago.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Really we're ready. Do you speak Portuguese, your mom?
Speaker 3 (03:49):
I'm actually relearning French right now. So I'm doing a
little bit of like a teer.
Speaker 2 (03:53):
I'm going to.
Speaker 1 (03:58):
Language really difficult time.
Speaker 3 (04:01):
You know, I have a.
Speaker 1 (04:02):
Tutor on tomorrow morning, no, Wednesday morning.
Speaker 3 (04:06):
I want to join. I want to join it on
your lessons.
Speaker 4 (04:08):
I've been doing an audio book with like French lessons
because I took French for twelve years as a kid,
and so I have it in my head. But I'm like, oh,
I would really like to be able to speak an
other language, but.
Speaker 1 (04:19):
I would like to understand it.
Speaker 3 (04:21):
I want to be able to like be in Paris
and not have to like.
Speaker 2 (04:24):
Wait a minute, guys, your mother and sister live in Portugal.
A why Portugal? And do they speak Portugueese?
Speaker 3 (04:33):
Little sisters?
Speaker 2 (04:34):
It's Portuguese. I know how to say yeah, no, but.
Speaker 3 (04:36):
You're saying it like the like authentic way.
Speaker 4 (04:38):
I guess you could say, my little sister takes Portuguese
lessons and she speaks a good amount of Portuguese. My
mom definitely understands. She has a business in Portugal, so
she owns a few laundromats, so she also understands based
on like, you know, what she can to interact. The
reason that we chose Portugal is because my sister she
has been playing international tournament and she met a coach
(05:01):
out there she really loved. And then my mom was like,
all right, this is like, you know, doesn't she full
time play tennis? So like her goal is to be
like a professional tennis player. Wow, So she plays tournaments
in Europe, around the world.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Yeah, introduce her to our other home base.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
Now, I know. So, so I read that you're and
I don't if you're not comfortable, we don't have to
talk about it. But I read that your dad passed
away from pancreatic cancer, and that's you know, that's a
tough one. Jones husband from you know from our season,
her husband passed away from that and that you do
the the pancreatic the walks for pancratic cancer.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
Yeah, so I feel like I'm actually very comfortable of
talking about it. I feel like it's really important to
talk about it.
Speaker 3 (05:48):
I don't think a lot of people.
Speaker 4 (05:49):
Realize how many people they know or how many people
actually have been like taken from us by paying credit there.
And so it's always been a big thing for me
and my family. Like, you know, we're not really about it.
We've been very blessed, and you know, being on the
journey with him was a really hard time. It was
really you know, I mean it's hard watching you know,
(06:09):
your your rock go through something like this. And he
was just like the most amazing person. And also is
crazy because he was like the healthiest person. Like if
you could I like almost which I could show you
guys the photo of my dad, you'd be like, this is
the spitting image of like health, perfect health day.
Speaker 3 (06:26):
He was an NBA referee, so he literally was like
on his feet running.
Speaker 2 (06:30):
He was a what referee?
Speaker 3 (06:32):
An NBA referee?
Speaker 1 (06:34):
I just did how long did he pass?
Speaker 3 (06:37):
Two?
Speaker 2 (06:38):
Yeah? Well, I we're sorry for your loss. I just
saw I read that that you know, you walked in
the in Atlanta, you walk uh for cancer. You know,
this is a great way to use your platform to
make people aware. So thank you for doing that.
Speaker 3 (06:57):
Thank you. You know, you know everyone wants to cure.
Speaker 4 (07:00):
We all want to cure for cancer and what Yeah,
a cure takes a lot of research.
Speaker 2 (07:04):
Yeah, absolutely right.
Speaker 1 (07:05):
So we're going to ask a bunch of different questions
so we can let our fans get to know you more, okay,
as well as us.
Speaker 2 (07:14):
Right now we know really well, we're going to Portugal
with he Susan, I.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
Am planning the Portugal trip.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
You do.
Speaker 3 (07:21):
I feel like September would be a really good time.
Speaker 2 (07:23):
I'm in I'm not kidding you. I'm not joking.
Speaker 4 (07:26):
Cold, it's like the perfect weather we can travel around.
Speaker 1 (07:30):
Or Sptember, it's not too late. I'm taking my granddaughter
to Paris late September.
Speaker 2 (07:35):
Oh you can.
Speaker 4 (07:36):
That's actually perfect because then you can just come over
after you know there's.
Speaker 5 (07:40):
And send my grains on her home by herself. I
love it. I really want to see it. I'm going, Susan,
if you have to get home with your grand child, fine, I'm.
Speaker 1 (07:51):
Kindly September please. Okay, so let's get started our first question,
what made you apply to be on this?
Speaker 4 (08:00):
Okay, so I actually didn't apply to be on the show.
I had actually just gabbed out of a relationship. I
think I was like three months out. This was like
end of June early July, and I got a DM
on Instagram and at that point I hadn't actually gone
on any dates.
Speaker 3 (08:19):
I had just been single. I was like, I just
need to be alone.
Speaker 4 (08:22):
I've gotten Instagram DM and I was like, no, I'm
not gonna I'm not gonna answer it. Like I was like,
that would be kind of cool because actually in college,
when I was in college, a bunch of girls in
my sorority like submitted me for the Bachelor. So they
reached out to me in college and my mom was like, no,
you have to finish school. You have way too much
going on, like you cannot go. I was like okay,
(08:44):
And then so that was kind of funny that it
like came back.
Speaker 3 (08:46):
All my friends were laughing. I'm so sorry. All my
friends were laughing, and it was just you know.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
Who was the DM from The DM.
Speaker 4 (08:56):
Was from a casting director and so I got the DM.
I ignored it, and then I got an email and
then like just take an introduction call. And I was like, okay,
I'll take an introduce.
Speaker 2 (09:10):
Love it that they just found you know that they
saw me.
Speaker 4 (09:14):
And I literally loved the introduction call, like I felt
so comfortable talking to all the casting people and the process,
Like I think I did the first calls and then
I literally went to Europe for a month, so I
was like okay, and I told everyone. I was like,
I didn't really know that I was like going on
the show until two days before.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Wait, stop right there?
Speaker 1 (09:33):
Two days?
Speaker 2 (09:34):
How did you have enough close all that? How did
you pull that one off? Susan YouTube by the way,
are twinsies? Because when I was reading by you, Bailey,
you love to shop, and so did Susan to shop?
Speaker 1 (09:45):
Yeah, here we go.
Speaker 3 (09:47):
I'm there.
Speaker 4 (09:48):
It's a really bad habit. Everyone has their like vice
and mine is shopped. That's the only thing I really
indulge in.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
But love it.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
Seven shops, shops, Kathy Walks.
Speaker 3 (09:59):
You know what, we'll shop for you and then we
can all match. And I feel like that.
Speaker 2 (10:03):
Bailey, don't don't say it again, because I will take
you up on it.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
A Portugal is really good. I do my shopping there,
so I don't. I'm trying to really like, did you
guys so looking for?
Speaker 2 (10:14):
I love it?
Speaker 1 (10:15):
So?
Speaker 2 (10:15):
Did you really love this shop? Number? Number?
Speaker 1 (10:20):
Change numbers?
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Wait, Bailey, did you seriously have the clothes in your
wardrobe to take so.
Speaker 4 (10:25):
Like, I don't know if you guys looked at my Instagram,
but I've been doing like yes, I had partnerships since
twenty seventeen, so I have like a mask and a
sane amount of clothing. I just buy a lot of
clothing because I do a lot of like fashion and
beauty content and so thankfully, I actually the only thing
I really bought beforehand was my Limo dress. I was like,
(10:47):
I had two options that I was like thousand percent.
But all the Rose Haary money dresses are I already
believe that?
Speaker 1 (10:54):
Do you wear those?
Speaker 4 (10:56):
Like yeah, like I've actually worn majority of them already
on my Instagra grand like fashion week events and.
Speaker 2 (11:02):
Okay, listen, I need you to hook me up with
women with companies that want to advertise clothing for the
older ones.
Speaker 3 (11:09):
I have an email for it. I feel like I
have been so blessed.
Speaker 2 (11:13):
We're hooking up with this girl susan single company.
Speaker 3 (11:16):
No, I've like, put me to work.
Speaker 4 (11:17):
I'm like, you know, and you're going to be I'm
ready to be everyone's like manager. I'm like, no, don't
accept that, don't do that, Like, yes, you can do that, I.
Speaker 2 (11:25):
Mean, I just feel like you and I I'm really
not blowing hot air hair. You are absolutely spendingly gorgeous,
as are most of the women that were on Grant season. Yes,
but I feel like when you get to be Susan's
and my age, we are trying to break those barriers
of what it looks like to be over sixty and
and dressed differently. And you would think clothes manufacturers would
(11:48):
be into that.
Speaker 3 (11:50):
Agree.
Speaker 4 (11:50):
Honestly though, I feel like a lot of the brands
that I work with, like they do a good job
of trying to like really work with a broad perspective
because like, also for me, I don't always want to
see like some I want to see it on different
body type kids, on different ages. Like I feel like
that makes me feel connected because then I see a
big push of like including everyone, and like, what's the
(12:13):
point of be wearing this if it's not going to
be like exactly.
Speaker 2 (12:16):
Okay, since and we're hiring.
Speaker 4 (12:19):
Know's email, it's time you guys.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
Oh no, I want you to do it for me.
I want you to I want you to be Yeah, I'm.
Speaker 3 (12:26):
Going to give media lessons to everyone.
Speaker 2 (12:29):
I love it. Okay, what if you could if you
could choose, because it sounds like it sounds like you've
had so much going on before Bachelor, But if you
could choose just one word to describe your experience on
the bachelort one word, what would it be? And why
(12:53):
I'm going to ask you why so you better?
Speaker 4 (12:55):
Yeah? Okay, one word to describe like my entire time
on the Bachelor, the whole experience.
Speaker 3 (13:03):
Oh, I would say eye opening.
Speaker 6 (13:06):
I know that's a weird word, allow it, Yeah.
Speaker 4 (13:11):
Tish words, But I would say eye opening because I
feel like I really came into it, you know, I
was like, I'm not going to cry, I'm not going
to do all these things, and then really I also
learned so much about myself in the process. I feel
like it was eye opening, just like how much I
enjoyed being around my friends, how much I enjoyed interacting
(13:35):
with the girls, how much I learned about myself, and
like an emotional relationship standpoint, I've always been kind of
a person where like I am very protective of my
peace and my feelings, and so it takes me a
really long time to like be there with somebody, and
I feel like the process, like genuinely, you know, it's
it speeds it up for you. But I was like,
really I had to just like it opened so many
(13:56):
things for me.
Speaker 3 (13:57):
I feel like just being like I have to let
myself go and just feel what I feel.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
But don't you I mean, you strike me as a
woman who is very self assured. Did it just affirm
what you already thought about yourself or was it really
a change of like, wow, I a be at safe and.
Speaker 1 (14:13):
More comfortable in your own skin at that point.
Speaker 4 (14:16):
Yeah, I think thankfully my parents really raised me to
be very confident, because I like modeled as a child.
Speaker 2 (14:23):
And then now we get into it.
Speaker 3 (14:25):
Yeah, I ended up modeling.
Speaker 4 (14:26):
I started modeling officially in twenty seventeen, and I joined
the agency that my mom was a part of when
she was a model. And my mom always told me,
she's like, I don't care about you want to be
a model. She's like, if you are not confident, you're
not going to be a model, because it's going.
Speaker 3 (14:41):
To break you down.
Speaker 4 (14:41):
So I think I've always had a really strong sense
of confidence, which sometimes you know come off wrongly. But
I know very sure of myself and I really don't
make decisions lightly, and so I think it affirmed me
in the sense of, like I even watching it back,
every single person and that I know was very proud
(15:03):
of me, and I was very proud that I was
like often to me myself. And I feel like that
was very reassuring for me because I was like, you
know what, like I was one thousand percent myself and
that's all I can do.
Speaker 2 (15:13):
You know what's Sowar Susan and I we were and
unapologetically yeah peoplegally like I don't want to not everyone's
going to love that, Bailey, but not everyone's gonna love it,
but you have to be okay with that.
Speaker 1 (15:25):
So, Bailey, if if you were stranded on a deserted
island and you can only bring three women from your
season with you, who would they be?
Speaker 2 (15:35):
Kathy Susan? Oh wait, we weren't on our season.
Speaker 3 (15:39):
You guys were in spirit.
Speaker 4 (15:40):
I felt I felt that energy really hard because there's
a lot of things that I don't do that I
feel like I would need to be more strategic about
picking people.
Speaker 3 (15:50):
Because number one, I cannot cook.
Speaker 2 (15:53):
Oh my god, it's my sister.
Speaker 3 (15:56):
It's so bad.
Speaker 1 (15:58):
We shopped together.
Speaker 4 (15:59):
But I'll do the cooking, you know, I need lessons
can I come to your house and yes, yeah, like
my mom said to like, she's like any future partner
that you get, I'm going to have to give have
them give me a list of what they like so
that I can teach you how to cook it. So
I feel like I'm like, you know, I'm gonna pick
really strategically, Okay, number one, I'm picking Sarapina because she
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and I literally love.
Speaker 2 (16:26):
I love her.
Speaker 4 (16:27):
We're the funniest human being ever, and I feel like
our energies together it just like explodes so purely, like
we're going to be on comedic relief. Also, we're like
seen and very similar, so like I don't think we
would be really fighting that much. Yeah, I'm gonna pick Zoe.
Zoe can throw down in the kitchen. She she's funny.
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We really got a chance to bond before I left,
and that I'm just so grateful for that, and I
honestly I'm really grateful for both of their friendships. And
this third one is hard because there's so many people
that I want to like, Yeah, is really.
Speaker 1 (17:04):
Not enough, Like I need you're deserted.
Speaker 4 (17:08):
I'm gonna bring Ella because Ella keeps me like very
grounded and grounded, and she's like very chill, and she's
just kind of you know.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
I can see that you need a little of the
ying a little ye need.
Speaker 4 (17:22):
I need my other half to just be like, hey,
you've got to relap, because I mean, who would you
if I'm deserted on the island, Like the worst case scenario.
Speaker 2 (17:31):
I'm bringing the I'm bringing these young gorgeous girls who
could check me out of dress and makeup? Are you
kidding me?
Speaker 4 (17:37):
I'm getting dressed up for dinner where I deserted island.
Speaker 2 (17:40):
Exactly, I'm gonna I'm gonna say, Bailey, I need a
dress for dinner. I got a hot date tonight. What
the hell do I wear?
Speaker 3 (17:46):
Just come to my closet. I have a ton of clothes.
Speaker 4 (17:50):
Like all my friends who don't go shopping, they just
come to my closet.
Speaker 2 (17:54):
I'm like, isn't that hard to pick out what to wear?
Like I'd have to being over my brain would be
like my open.
Speaker 1 (18:00):
Packing packing because I like choice. I know what I'm
going to want to wear. Do I want this?
Speaker 4 (18:05):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (18:05):
I love it? For the Bachelor, you know, you can
bring two suitcases. They want you to bring five thousand
pairs of shoes, you know, eight to ten.
Speaker 4 (18:13):
Your heels, and I'm like, no speakers. I bring it
to I bring two large suitcases for a three day
trip to give you an how often I'm changing clothes
like five times a day. So I was like, yeah,
I think you really get me on this, Like I was, Oh,
I get it.
Speaker 2 (18:30):
I just can't do it. I get it. But you
know what, Bally, I all iron for you. I love
to iron.
Speaker 3 (18:36):
Okay, listen, I'm a steamer. I'm an ironer. I'll iron.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
We can trade of Damn, I have no use to her.
I don't. Okay, So I want to know have you
been dating? I want to know? Wait's because you know
we were going to ask.
Speaker 3 (18:50):
Yeah, yeah, I figured the dating. I have been like
going on dates.
Speaker 4 (18:54):
I think the problem is also I am a very
busy person, so sometimes, like I think, me getting to
the initial date, it takes a lot for me to
get there because I'm also like a very selected person.
So when I do have free time and i'm home,
I kind of just want to see my friends, and
so I have I have been like going on dates.
Speaker 1 (19:14):
But you know, I think where are the dates coming from?
Are they dming you? Or you on a dating site
or people that you meet out and about.
Speaker 4 (19:23):
Or it's like a multitude of things I think I do.
Like I've been doing social media for a while, so
like as soon I don't know if like a light
went off on everyone's head as soon as I became single, everyone's.
Speaker 1 (19:35):
Like single, she came back.
Speaker 4 (19:39):
And I'm really bad with my d N attack. So
that's also another thing, Like I'm a really poor responder.
Speaker 2 (19:45):
But it's like, oh damn, I've got four thousand unanswered
dms and they're all dates have whatever.
Speaker 3 (19:51):
Oh no, I'm sorry.
Speaker 2 (19:52):
You know what Bailey says. I'm going shopping. I don't
have time for this.
Speaker 3 (19:55):
I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
Like we would get along so well.
Speaker 4 (19:58):
So well I'm really I'm actually really excited part a
trip to Portugal.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
Now we're actually going to have a blore. No, we're
we're coming from everywhere.
Speaker 4 (20:07):
Like I've been on like a dating app like called
Riah for.
Speaker 2 (20:11):
A while and oh you're on Riot.
Speaker 1 (20:13):
They wouldn't they wouldn't accept me.
Speaker 3 (20:15):
Let's me do your application.
Speaker 4 (20:16):
I've been on it since twenty eighteen, twenty seventeen, so
I have for a long time.
Speaker 2 (20:23):
Yeah, yeah, it's okay, So wait, it doesn't think you're
dating anyone in particular, and it sounds like you're a
very busy lady, so you're going to make time. Are
you going to go on Bachelor in Paradise if you're asked.
Speaker 4 (20:34):
If I'm asked, I feel like I would love to
go on Paradise. I feel like it'd be like very
much my speed. I would love to be with my
friends again, love to make new friends.
Speaker 2 (20:44):
Okay, well they're going to have some golden dirt if
we get out.
Speaker 1 (20:48):
Do you have anybody in mind that you would like
to be there?
Speaker 4 (20:51):
Oh? I think the hard part is like I actually,
like really haven't watched the show in a long time,
and I think that's a good thing if I'm like
asked to go Paradise, because I really easily get the ick,
and I really easily like you know, make I'm a
really big person like I unfortunately will look at someone
on social media and kind of have an idea of
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what they are like. Even when I was going in
the grand season, like I really tried to do like
minimal research on him.
Speaker 3 (21:17):
I just like saw him.
Speaker 4 (21:18):
I was like, okay, initially like I'm attracted, and then
I just read about him, and I was like, I
love these qualities. I love these like, you know, his
personality trait that I'm like reading about, and so I
think that's what I need to know. I feel like
if I go you know, no, I mean happy, and
I'm so happy for him, but I mean I want
to go into it with the same strategy.
Speaker 2 (21:38):
Of being like, Okay, you did a great job. That
Baily did a great job. Now who do you want
to see on Bachelor? Know?
Speaker 3 (21:45):
Okay, I'll tell you what kind of type I'm looking for.
Speaker 4 (21:48):
Okay, I actually I think all everyone that knows we
can contest contest to this. I do not have a type,
Like I do not have a physical type at all.
I would just ideally like for them to be taller
than me and I am like almost five eight.
Speaker 3 (22:03):
I'm five seven and a half, so keep that.
Speaker 2 (22:06):
I won't have to have dressers. I'm the same hype.
We won't have to have many dress.
Speaker 3 (22:09):
We won't have to have anything.
Speaker 1 (22:11):
Okay, I used to shrinking.
Speaker 4 (22:15):
I sometimes I feel like I'm like randomly getting taller,
and then I don't know, maybe it's like the climate in.
Speaker 3 (22:19):
My bones, like I enjoy it.
Speaker 4 (22:22):
The personality that I'm looking for. I want someone that's
family oriented. I laugh a lot of humor, yes, God,
to have a sense of humor, you have to be
able to take a joke, like I genuinely love to
laugh at all moments. Laugh you'll cry, and I'm every
day I'm laughing, like a really positive person. I want
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someone that's also positive. I want someone that's gonna like
support me. I want to support them. I want a partnership.
I'd love to like find my best friend and somebody.
Speaker 2 (22:52):
I feel like I got to say everything that you're saying, Bailey.
When we've talked about this with other guests, it's it
and sends generations. It's what we're looking for. It's what
I'm looking for. Someone who's kind and generous, who's my
best friend, who will do things with me, who will
listen to me and I will listen to them, you know,
share our lives. It doesn't sound that complicated, doesn't.
Speaker 3 (23:14):
Hard, But that's like maybe it is.
Speaker 6 (23:16):
I don't know, you know.
Speaker 4 (23:17):
And like just like I was in the show, I'm like,
you know, you got to be able to take a
good picture, like we will get there like.
Speaker 2 (23:23):
That that was hysterical.
Speaker 4 (23:25):
That was but I was like people that know me
like they were. I'm like, it's supposed to be a joke,
Like I love a joke. I love a bit, like
I love anything that's going to like bring people.
Speaker 2 (23:36):
Yeah, like I got my bit. Mine was zip it
zip Like.
Speaker 3 (23:43):
Like people that get it, they're not going to take
it personal. They're going to realize, like you know, this
is like funny.
Speaker 2 (23:49):
Tell tell us your thoughts a little more serious out
here on the bats or finale because you think, you know,
what did you did you think it's going to go
that way?
Speaker 4 (23:58):
I mean, yeah, I was very grateful to be at
after the final rowse and I am friends with both
of them, Like I love both of them. I had
a separate relationship with both of them and Zoe included.
I honestly am very proud of each of them just
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being able to like fully articulate their feelings. And I
think that they're both in amazing places, Like I think
Juliana and Grant are like made for each other. I mean,
you know, I think when you're watching it back, you're
learning so.
Speaker 3 (24:35):
Much more about what you did fractions.
Speaker 4 (24:37):
Because really, I think we all just focused on our
relationships with each other, not really what I didn't really
worry about what one of my friends relationships was with Grant,
and so I think, you know, there's always gonna be
shocking twists, It's always going to be a moment where,
you know, I wasn't there, I don't know what was
filmed ex and I think most of any emotions I had,
I really just like I felt like I was taking
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on the emotions of the girls up there. I was
just like I felt sad, I felt happy, over joyed
for Zoe for going to Paradise, Like there was just
such inn a range of motions and I feel like
it was, oh really like you were sitting on the
edge of your seat the entire alley because I was there,
and I was just like, you know, I don't, I just.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
Which is definitely the sign of good TV, right yeah.
Speaker 1 (25:21):
But I still there's no drama, but there was just
did you have a feeling that it was who it
was or were you torn too? You know?
Speaker 4 (25:31):
I mean obviously like you when you are there, you
have an idea of who it was like. And I
think a lot of people say this, like when we
were there, I totally like was like, I feel like
Litia is definitely a front runner and it made sense,
but she made it to Final two.
Speaker 3 (25:46):
I think also watching.
Speaker 4 (25:47):
Back, I saw the relationship that they each had with him,
so I think it it all made sense at the
end kind of you know, his relationship with each of them,
and I feel like, really, he just he chose with
his heart, you know, what was going to work best
for him. But I do feel like they're both in
the correct places, Like there's a plan for everyone, and
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you know, what's meant to happen is supposed to happen.
And I feel like that's what I really took away
from it. I was like, it wasn't meant to go
another way. It was literally meant to go this way
all things should be.
Speaker 2 (26:18):
And that's you know, that was a positive way to
look at it too, because there's you know, I hate
the expression one door shuts, the window opens or whatever,
but in some ways it's very true. You know, it's
very true, and they.
Speaker 1 (26:30):
At least expected you.
Speaker 2 (26:31):
Yeah, they're both lovely.
Speaker 4 (26:34):
I would have been able, honestly, like I think that
everybody had, like even just like who was left, Like
after I went home, I was just like, there's no
way to know what's going on. You're not really even
gonna get to know. I wish I could watch all
the footage of everything. You know, we will two hours.
Speaker 1 (26:52):
All the things they don't put in there.
Speaker 4 (26:54):
Yeah, like I only get two hours like everyone else is. Like,
I'm also learning things about my friends and about their
relationships with him, So I think that it was really
I really enjoyed watching it all back.
Speaker 2 (27:04):
Honestly, I'm well, they do seem very happy, so that
is Oh my god.
Speaker 3 (27:09):
They're being meant for each other, and I feel.
Speaker 1 (27:11):
Like they they are so cute.
Speaker 3 (27:14):
They're so cute.
Speaker 4 (27:14):
I feel like the way that they interact like they
were just you know, they were meant for each other,
and I really love that for them, and I'm just
so excited for them. I like, hope we all get
invited to the wedding.
Speaker 1 (27:27):
I do the wedding I knew.
Speaker 2 (27:29):
I knew, poor girl, Like you know, I'll be the commentator,
Yeah exactly.
Speaker 4 (27:35):
I'm like, you know, I'll help you guys, and I
love helping my friends play on their weddings. But I
just feel like everything happened how it was supposed to,
and I actually cannot.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Do you wait, do you see yourself getting married in
the next you know, pick a number of years and
having kids and a family and settling down.
Speaker 1 (27:52):
Is that your goal?
Speaker 4 (27:53):
Yes, Like I'm from the South, so you know that's
important to say because if you would have asked me,
I would have been married at twenty five. I would
have already like had a kid now. And majority of
my friends from where I'm from have children and they're married.
I think right now I would really like to get
married in the next like four ish years. I really
like love to take the time to like travel with
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my partner and you know, spend that time in Portugal together.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
And no, no, no, no, bab stop stop, you're traveling
with us, not.
Speaker 1 (28:24):
Even if you marry them, we're coming anything.
Speaker 3 (28:26):
I'm like, okay, sorry, we have to put our vacation
on hold. The girls and we have guests.
Speaker 4 (28:32):
My dream husband, he would be like absolutely, he would
like more than girls Portugal. And that's what I feel
like I want, like I want a few years to
like be with my partner, to explore, to do things.
But I also I love kids, like I do feel
like one of my many purposes on this children the mother,
and so I am really excited to have kids. I
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love being an auntie to all my friends kids. It's
like the thing that keeps me going.
Speaker 3 (28:59):
I definitely go. We're bored on holidays. I cannot help it.
I do not care. You know.
Speaker 4 (29:04):
I'm like, I was meant, I'm like rich auntie. So
I'm like, I'm I'm bringing them clothes from everywhere.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
Isn't fun?
Speaker 2 (29:10):
It's so much fun. I have two granddaughters, and my
youngest granddaughter turns to this Sunday and we're doing a
everybuddy you know loves that's her birthday and we're gonna
I'm my daughter and I are going to make a
bunny birthday cake. And I'm just you know, it's just
the best dress.
Speaker 4 (29:29):
The two year old is iconic. I love that, like
I just birthdays. I love themes. I love anything.
Speaker 2 (29:35):
It's a whole thing.
Speaker 3 (29:36):
It's over overbearing parent for sure. If you can't tell.
Speaker 2 (29:39):
Yeah, my daughter loves the theme party and this is
going to be, you know, incredible with but I got
we shop for the dress for We got her the cutest,
of course, smock dress with Easter bunnies hopping across.
Speaker 4 (29:53):
It's like I actually can fully picture the dress. I
know exactly like what you're talking about that's.
Speaker 1 (29:59):
Absolute perfect, especially girls, they're so fun.
Speaker 3 (30:03):
Oh my god.
Speaker 1 (30:11):
Since we're talking about dating, so we have the question
of the day that we're going to ask you. Okay,
do you think long distance relationships can work? And if yes,
what do you think it takes? So what if you
met somebody in Europe, not even in Portugal, France, wherever?
Speaker 3 (30:33):
How do you think really open to long distance?
Speaker 2 (30:36):
I are? Or not?
Speaker 3 (30:37):
Yes? I think long distance is a good thing.
Speaker 2 (30:41):
How's it work?
Speaker 4 (30:42):
Actually in my past too, like serious relationships, there were
moments where we've done long distance. And I think that
long distance can be good because it allows you to
like live your life. I don't, I you know, I'm
not like really that into codependent relationships. So I think
it's really important to still have of like your self individual.
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I think it should be two entities that come together
and like make a really good partnership. And I think
the key to like a successful long distance relationship is
that you spend the time like cultivating your relationship. You
spend the time communicating, you spend the time checking in,
you spend the time, you know, visiting each other. And
I also think that's kind of what makes it fun,
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Like do I think, do I want to be long
distance my entire relationship?
Speaker 3 (31:26):
No, of course not. There's moments where I want my
partner with me, but I don't. I think that people get.
Speaker 4 (31:31):
Really scared of long distance, and it's really not a
scary thing. It just takes effort and it just takes time.
When you really care about someone and you really love someone,
it's not even.
Speaker 1 (31:40):
A thought the time.
Speaker 3 (31:41):
I can't do this.
Speaker 4 (31:42):
Yeah, it's like whatever, Okay, I'll see you in three weeks,
like right, and I'll come out. And I'm an adult,
like I'm twenty eight, Like I can come and see
you for I mean, and thankfully I work for myself,
so like I can come spend a month with you
if you want, like I'm there for a month.
Speaker 3 (31:55):
Whatever.
Speaker 4 (31:55):
We can go on a trip, we can meet up,
we can you know, meet at my friend's wedding.
Speaker 2 (31:59):
Yeah. It was Ben Higgins who said that. Was it
Ben Higgins who said that when he started dating, they
were long distance and they never left without having the
next date, you know, the next time they're going to
meet each other. Yes, but I think it's hard to
start a date a relationship long distance. I mean, you
meet someone you got to spend some quality time with
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them in that initial stage to know you want to
do long distance.
Speaker 3 (32:24):
Right, Yeah, I mean I think it's hard.
Speaker 4 (32:26):
They'll also like I think we can all relate to this,
Like I think you'd be shocked how quickly your emotions
get involved, Like you know what I mean. Even just
being on the show, you're like, oh, I'm like really
into this person. So I feel like it's kind of
like a similar thing in that sense. And I also
think going on the show, you you really have to
be in the mindset that there's no you know, we're
all from all over, so there's.
Speaker 1 (32:47):
No way that we're going to be able to not
getting the guy next.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
Yeah we're not.
Speaker 1 (32:50):
We're not.
Speaker 3 (32:50):
I mean a miracle.
Speaker 4 (32:53):
They you guys lived in the same place, but nine
times out of ten that's just not the case. So
I think you have to go into it being a
okay with long distance. And I love the idea that
you would go ahead and plan your I'm a big planner,
so I you know, I'm totally into that.
Speaker 3 (33:08):
You always have something free dates.
Speaker 2 (33:10):
I want to date for Bailey, I want to date
you could get my life totally together.
Speaker 3 (33:14):
I'll come visit you I'll go to your closet.
Speaker 2 (33:17):
I'll free Oh you listen, you have no idea what
you are signing up for. People say to me, oh,
Kathy always looks so nice. You're put together. Do you
understand it is like ripping toenails off? I mean it
is so hard for me.
Speaker 3 (33:32):
Oh say my bed.
Speaker 4 (33:34):
So I'm like, I don't want to get up today,
Like I don't actually want to do anything. And then I,
you know, the me being a goal oriented person like
always gets me out of the bed.
Speaker 3 (33:43):
But I'm like, can I just like take a break.
Speaker 1 (33:45):
And say, we all have those dings we do?
Speaker 2 (33:48):
Wow?
Speaker 1 (33:49):
Now we also do advice. People right in to us
and they want our opinions and our advice. So we
would like you to give some advice today. Are you
okay with that?
Speaker 3 (33:59):
Oh?
Speaker 4 (33:59):
I actually love giving unsolicited and solicited advice. It's like
a thing being a Taurus.
Speaker 6 (34:05):
Like wait, I'm Taurus too, but your Taurus.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
I am my birthdays May ninth May?
Speaker 1 (34:12):
Okay?
Speaker 4 (34:13):
You know, like Tauruses, we find each other and I
feel like a lot I have a lot of friends
that are chorus is like it's team Taurus. And the
thing is we get along with everyone, So I think
that's also a really big thing.
Speaker 1 (34:24):
Is but what happened to the bowl?
Speaker 2 (34:26):
Like my my son in law's birthday is in May,
is in May, my sister's birthdays in May, my son's
birthdays in May. May is a great mind. And the
rest of my siblings are born in April. So we're
a bunch of Torreans here.
Speaker 4 (34:43):
Oh I love tourist season. I actually celebrate my birthday
all of April and all of tourist seasons.
Speaker 3 (34:49):
So it's behalf of May.
Speaker 1 (34:51):
When is yours? May?
Speaker 2 (34:52):
What mine's April twenty four?
Speaker 4 (34:56):
The whole month of April. I've already that's mine. And
then I also go into Taurus.
Speaker 2 (35:01):
I'm like, yeah, I would like you. I would like
to invite you. I would like you to invite celebrating April.
That's where we got March, April and mayhir.
Speaker 3 (35:09):
I mean, Kathy, you might be celebrating somewhere else.
Speaker 2 (35:11):
I know if I do and you're there, will you
help me pick out what to wear? Oh my god, Okay,
this is getting better all the time. All right, here
we go, We're gonna go uh with some advisor Ali asks, Hi, ladies,
I need your help I want to know if you
think this is friendship breakup worthy. Uh oh, I've been
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besties with my friend Nina since high school and we're
twenty six now. She's always been the peacekeeper type, so
getting her to cut someone off is impossible. For example,
if I was wronged by someone in our friend group,
she'd continue her friendship with them. I always just accepted
this about her because I never saw a problem with it.
But now I'm wondering if it's a red flag. I
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recently broke up with my boyfriend of four years because
I found out he was cheating on me with multiple women.
I've obviously been very angry and devastated by this, so
I vented to Nina. Last weekend. While I was at
home with bad cramps, I got a text from one
of the girls in our friend group. It was a
screenshot of my ex's Instagram story at a bar lo
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and behold, Nina was in the background taking shots with
him and his friends. I'm going to be seeing Nina
next week for a wine night AKA to bring it
up to her. She has no idea I know. Should
I even do this and confront her or just cut
her off? Am I being too harsh. What should I do?
Am I justified and feeling betrayed? Hey? Thanks, ladies, what
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do you think?
Speaker 3 (36:44):
Oh, that is such a doozy. That is really crazy.
Speaker 4 (36:48):
Okay, And I'm going to say this and maybe you
can relate happy because you're also a Taurus.
Speaker 3 (36:53):
Yep, I am.
Speaker 4 (36:54):
Quick to cut people off quick. I you know you're
a snip snip snip. Now, if you're my best friend
and you met my boyfriend or my ex boyfriend through me,
as soon as I cut ties with him, you also
cut ties with him. And I do have like very
a very harsh sense of like, you know, I feel
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like I give advice and I'm like, cut that person off.
I think it's a little bit different if they like
have known each other since high school. But still I
wouldn't feel comfortable hanging out with my friend's ex at
any moment, and I think just going in, I would first,
you know, bring that to her and be like, I
don't feel comfortable with you guys hanging out. You should
be my friend, you should be supporting me. Now, if
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they have been friends for like, I don't know, fifteen years,
there's there's another thing to had said. But also if
you're my best friend. There's just no reason why you are.
Speaker 1 (37:46):
What why would you be hanging out doing shots with
him when you know he just cheated on your best friends? Right?
Speaker 3 (37:52):
Wait I cheating the cheating.
Speaker 2 (37:54):
Okay, well but Bailey you just like but Bailey said
maybe if they've known each other since high school. I mean,
but should you bring it up? I think Ali, the
three of us are saying wholeheartedly, yes, you should bring
it up without a doubt.
Speaker 1 (38:10):
And you can make your choice to hang with him.
But you can't hang with me?
Speaker 3 (38:15):
Yeah, I think.
Speaker 4 (38:15):
I mean it's hard because you don't want to have
to pick side. Give you just ultimatum.
Speaker 3 (38:22):
Because I forgot that he.
Speaker 4 (38:23):
Cheated and that that's big, that's too much, Like I'm
not going to be friends with someone that's friends with
my cheating ex boyfriend.
Speaker 2 (38:30):
Like in another podcast, I just said to Susan my
three things that I that I would break up with
the guy over. My have three things. The first one
is cheating, the second one is cheating, and the third
one is lying. Now there's other ones in there too,
but cheating for me.
Speaker 4 (38:46):
Like that breaks the trust? Like and also how can
I trust you as a friend? Like what are you
saying to him there's a lot.
Speaker 1 (38:53):
Okay with it? I mean, how can you be okay
with that? You know, I'm not going to force you
to be mad at him. But I don't think she's
being harsh. I don't think she's been harsh. I think
she's probably upset emotionally, like, this is my friend, and
you think she's asking does she bring it up or
just ignore it?
Speaker 2 (39:10):
Like, so, of course you bring it up. You have
to tell your friend.
Speaker 1 (39:13):
You got to look her in the eye and say,
do you know how that feels? Put yourself in my shoes?
This is not okay with me?
Speaker 4 (39:20):
Yeah, this is I think this is definitely something she
needs to bring up it. Actually, I wouldn't feel comfortable
being friends with my best friend knowing that this would
be going on.
Speaker 3 (39:29):
I would called her up Melium and like.
Speaker 2 (39:31):
Yeah, I would I asked this question. I was going
to say, I would have made a wine date. Either
would be like what the hell are you doing? You
know what I would have done, Take a screenshot of
the screenshot, send it on her and say you want
to explain this, you got thirty seconds.
Speaker 4 (39:46):
I have done that so many times, Like I have
sent a screenshot and then sometimes I blocked.
Speaker 2 (39:52):
We areous raetorians.
Speaker 1 (39:54):
We don't go back and.
Speaker 3 (39:55):
Be like, okay, now you have the chance to respond.
Speaker 4 (39:58):
Now I've block you blocked that buttons so easy to
push my favorite button, like because.
Speaker 1 (40:05):
It gives me time to did you take it all in?
You know I don't yet.
Speaker 3 (40:11):
Now you can also take it in?
Speaker 4 (40:13):
And you know, unfortunately I'm a Taurus, like it's on
my time and I'm the one that I did it
for a reason.
Speaker 2 (40:20):
About me?
Speaker 3 (40:21):
Yeah, about like sorry, I deserve an answer when I'm
ready for one.
Speaker 2 (40:26):
That's right until then, until then, go counchy. All right,
So we have gotten to know you a little better.
We love you. We want to open the floor to you. Bailey.
Do you have questions for us, comments, thoughts, advice? What
do you got for us? Because you're a smart, talented woman.
Speaker 4 (40:43):
Love. I feel like I vibe with you guys so well,
and I would like genuinely love to know. I guess
as I'm getting into twenty eight, I'm so excited for thirties,
Like you know, what advice would you guys give to me?
You know, just about like navigating life, and I think
even navigating partnerships like going forward, Like you know, I
think I would really like take what you guys have
(41:05):
to say to heart and don't for me.
Speaker 1 (41:07):
It's something I learned later, and I didn't take the
advice I heard the advice when you see a red flag,
it is a red flag. You're not going to change anybody.
And be true to yourself. Know what you want and
what makes you happy, and don't settle for anything less.
Speaker 3 (41:25):
That's so good.
Speaker 1 (41:26):
Don't give up your career for anybody, do you.
Speaker 2 (41:30):
Yeah, I think when you're you're clearly a smart, talented,
beautiful woman who's going to dress me so I look
like you and I can hardly wait. But as you're
looking for that perfect guy, first of all, there is
no perfect guy. There's always compromised people mistake perfection for
or lack of perfection for settling. They're not perfect for you,
(41:52):
They're not that There's there's two different things are I
would say to you, You're you're busy and you're involved
in so many things. So Bailey, do the things that
you love and the right people will come into your life.
So that's it.
Speaker 1 (42:06):
Takes to your sixty eight. But I'm just say I.
Speaker 4 (42:09):
Mean I'm really wanting I want my marriage like I
want to get it right.
Speaker 3 (42:14):
So I'm really wait. I'm willing to wait if that's
what it takes.
Speaker 2 (42:17):
But you're going to compromise, compromises, not settling, Bailey. There
will be compromises in your and I don't think a
lot of people get that at any age. They if
you know, you're going to have to compromise, because that's
everyone does. The communication I think is the most important thing.
But again people mistake communication for listen to what I'm
(42:40):
telling you. Well, no, it goes both ways. Listen to
what I'm telling you, and I'm going to listen to you,
and that's hard. Sometimes my marriage is hard work.
Speaker 1 (42:50):
When you were talking about the long distance relationship, I'm
just started one, and you had the perfect, perfect words
which were I was paying attention?
Speaker 2 (43:03):
Was paying?
Speaker 4 (43:04):
The long distance is like when you love someone, when
you see potential, it's okay, the lease of your worries.
Like you know, I also love traveling, so like I'm
open to like exploring new cities and learning new things
and I want to that also does that, you know.
Speaker 1 (43:20):
And for you, I think it will be even difficult
because you're so worldly I mean, you fly over here,
you're over here, You're in Florida, you're in Atlanta, and
a lot of the men your age haven't had this
worldly experience as of yet. You'll be able to show him.
Speaker 4 (43:37):
Yeah, I'm not expecting someone to like come to me
and be like yeah, I like I've lived here, I
live here. I'm like, yes, yes, the beauty is guess what,
I actually have a place that we can stay with me.
Speaker 3 (43:50):
I just want someone that wants to come with me.
Speaker 2 (43:52):
And I'm curious. Bailey. First of all, I wuldn't know what
your age ranges for, like how old and how young
will you go? Because usually when you ask that question,
people say how old they'll go? How old will you go?
But also how young will you go?
Speaker 4 (44:07):
Okay, so turning twenty eight, I think youngest I would
go is like twenty six, and I though I'm not
against it, I'm trying to keep an open mind. I
would rather not date younger. I would definitely rather date older.
I think just being the kind I've always been very mature,
as like an older sibling, and so I feel like
(44:28):
I've always kind of wanted someone that's a little bit
older than me, as far as like oldest I'll go.
I mean I feel like I would go like ten
or twelve years about twenty eight. I'm not like, you know,
against anything. I just feel like because I don't really
have a type of person. I really don't know, you know,
(44:49):
I don't know how old they would be. I don't
know what my perfect match, what age they would be.
I feel like I don't want to like say no
when this person could really be someone that could bring
me a lot of smart this yeah, you know, I'm like,
I don't want to like just be like no because
he doesn't look like this or it's not this age,
Like I'm definitely not. The problem is, though I do
look really young, So I think a lot of times
(45:10):
younger guys come to me and they're like, no, like
it's fine that you're seven years older.
Speaker 6 (45:14):
I'm like yeah, and I do you ever get guys
saying to you because you are accomplished and Susan and
I've had this and actually it's it greats on me
because there's so much more to me than that.
Speaker 2 (45:31):
Do you ever have men say to you, Wow, you're
a lot, You're you're too strong, you're too competent, you're too.
Whatever do you ever have that men said it?
Speaker 3 (45:40):
Because I imagine guys really like me on paper.
Speaker 4 (45:43):
I think I present really well on paper, and so
I think that sometimes is really intimidating to them in
the sense of, like, I do have really high expectations.
I think my dad and my brother have sent a
lot of high expectations as to what I expect, like
the man in my the men in my life to
do for me and to interrupt me. And so I
think that can be really off putting to a lot
(46:05):
of guys.
Speaker 2 (46:06):
I think that's that's the word off put. Off put.
Speaker 4 (46:08):
I'm not really into like younger because I think that
is really I mean, that's scary, Like how can I
expect a twenty seven year old to like come in
and you know, I don't know how.
Speaker 3 (46:16):
To do my car things?
Speaker 4 (46:17):
Like yeah, little brother, still my dad passed that job
was given to my little brother.
Speaker 2 (46:23):
You though you could do it, you have Okay. So
here's here's another piece of advice for you. If a
man tells you you are too much, it means they're
just not enough.
Speaker 4 (46:36):
Yeah, And I need to keep that in mind because
I feel like the person that's meant for me, I
won't be too much, you know, I will be like
exactly the completion of them. I will add what they're
missing or you know, little things like that. So I
feel like I alsum, Thats why I've been so selective
with dating in a sense, because I'm like, oh, you know,
(46:56):
I don't want to be disappointed. I want to, you know,
meet someone that's really going to like help me grow
and be there for.
Speaker 1 (47:03):
And loves you for you quirkiness or your spontaneouism and
your outgoing personality. There is somebody out there that appreciates that.
Speaker 2 (47:14):
I think there's more than one person out there. I
don't believe there's only one person in the world for us,
do you, Billy, I don't know.
Speaker 3 (47:21):
I think that you can be a love multiple times.
Speaker 2 (47:24):
That's what I'm saying.
Speaker 3 (47:25):
Absolutely, it's honestly.
Speaker 4 (47:27):
I mean, I think through the show we can all
see it's possible to be in love with multiple peep
in people, multiple people at the same time. And I
also think that there you know, people come in your
life for a reason and there's different Just because you've
like loved somebody, that doesn't mean that like you.
Speaker 3 (47:43):
Will never love again, Like.
Speaker 2 (47:44):
I I hope not.
Speaker 3 (47:47):
I can't be that. I'm like, I'm gonna need to
be in love again. Thank you, Like this is need,
this is need.
Speaker 1 (47:53):
I can't trust me you will.
Speaker 3 (47:55):
I'm not that worried about it.
Speaker 4 (47:56):
I think that there's different people that were put in
your life for different reason.
Speaker 1 (48:01):
Everybody comes into you, you know, it may be.
Speaker 4 (48:03):
That, like God decided that that person was there for
you to like be a shoulder, for you to lean
on them.
Speaker 3 (48:09):
There's a bigger place.
Speaker 1 (48:10):
Or teach you something or experience. Yes, yes, exactly. You
are so above your age.
Speaker 2 (48:18):
Since we talk about this, I'm sure we've had several
we've had several of the women from Grant season. All
of you are I said, you're all beautiful and talented
and successful, but you're also, in my mind wise beyond
your years.
Speaker 4 (48:34):
The girls I can't even express, like how amazing all
of them are.
Speaker 3 (48:39):
Like I think.
Speaker 4 (48:39):
People sometimes get They're like, no, way, you're friends with everyone.
I'm like, I'm not joking. Every single girl that I've
met from my season has genuinely taught me something or
inspired for you.
Speaker 1 (48:51):
Know, you learned something from I've learned something.
Speaker 4 (48:54):
From all of them, and they all are so beautiful,
so accomplished, so well spoken, Yeah, so I mean confident.
Just the energy and the aura that they all have,
it's like the craziest thing. And I feel like that
really allowed me to be myself and to just you know,
live authentically. And I feel like I'm just so proud
of all the girls in my season because really like
(49:14):
they are so wise beyond.
Speaker 1 (49:16):
Their I was impressed by everything, like.
Speaker 4 (49:19):
Pressed, I was like, you know, the house was like,
I have got to wow, step up my game.
Speaker 3 (49:24):
This will not just be like.
Speaker 1 (49:26):
You did not your game.
Speaker 2 (49:28):
You were you did, you did just fine.
Speaker 3 (49:33):
Just what.
Speaker 1 (49:34):
I hope you find that man. I hope so too,
and he finds.
Speaker 3 (49:39):
You out there. He will, he will find you, know what.
Speaker 2 (49:42):
I hope you find all of them, and I hope
all of them find you till you find the perfect
one for you.
Speaker 3 (49:49):
I think the perfect one's out there. I'm not too worry.
Speaker 1 (49:52):
Absolutely, Billy, thank you so much for being with us today.
Do not leave this podcast without us exchanging numbers, because
we're going to continue.
Speaker 3 (50:01):
This number of instagrams. Everything Instagram.
Speaker 2 (50:05):
I mean, and if you if I show up on
Bachelor in Paradise and you show up on Bachelor in Paradise.
You're gonna be a very busy girl.
Speaker 3 (50:12):
Open.
Speaker 2 (50:13):
I'm gonna go, where's Bailey, And they're gonna go, oh
my god, she's with Kathy trying to.
Speaker 3 (50:19):
I want to be over there with you.
Speaker 4 (50:20):
I'm like, wait, I can't wait to, like, you know,
if I'm there, I'm so excited. I like want to
make new friends and like, I'm so excited to meet everyone.
I feel like I've been traveling so much, I haven't
really got to meet that many people from Bachelor Nations.
Speaker 2 (50:30):
So yeah, they're great people. Well, listen, we have loved
getting to chat with you you. Thank you all our
listeners for joining us. Be sure to follow Bachelor or
Happy Hour. We have new episodes every week, and if
you loved getting to know Bailey as we did, you
will want to tune in to hear more. Just like this,
(50:51):
she is an wonderful person.
Speaker 1 (50:53):
Going to be invited to Portico. I'm just saying.
Speaker 2 (50:56):
Yeah, yeah, by the way, not only yeah, Susan Ali.
We love getting to chat with Bailey. We got another
vacational plan.
Speaker 1 (51:05):
Road trip, and everybody makes sure that keeps submitting your
questions to us so that we can talk about them
and give you some advice or at least our opinion.
You can go to bachelornation dot com, slash Golden Hour,
or dm us on Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour.
Speaker 2 (51:20):
Listen to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on the iHeartRadio app,
or wherever you get your podcasts. Until next time, have
a great week.
Speaker 1 (51:28):
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