May 1, 2024 • 35 mins
Fellow Golden girl Nancy joins Susan and Kathy on “Golden Hour.” Nancy shares how she navigates dating while having a chronic health condition and why Daisy from Joey’s season helped her feel empowered to share her condition.
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Good morning and welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour.
Thank you so much for joining us again. We're so
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Kathy and I because as one of our very best
friends is here a special special thank you Nancy for
joining us today.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Nance.
Speaker 3 (01:08):
Hi, good morning, how are you good?
Speaker 4 (01:11):
Afternoon? Here?
Speaker 3 (01:14):
It's morning there, it's afternoon. It's all good.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
It's middle of the night for me.
Speaker 4 (01:19):
So goodness you girls.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
What's happening in your life right now? Nancy?
Speaker 4 (01:23):
Oh my gosh, well so much. I mean, since the
show ended, I have just signed up for a golf
like true golf camp.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
I'm excited.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Wait, you're going to learn to play golf.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
I'm going to learn how to play golf. My short
game is good, which I consider a putt putt. I
need professional help. And so me and a few of
my friends are going to go to North Carolina and
it's a week long golf instruction, intense golf instruction for
WHO camp.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
And it sounds that sounds fabulous. We might have to
go with you on that one, know.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
What I'm thinking of. It definitely a threesome.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
We're going to be playing and traveling the world playing golf.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
Now. I like it.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
I like it a lot. Okay, So nance speaking of trips,
we took a trip. Oh yes, we did, just Saint Martin,
and we did have a great time. But I want
to know, we want to know that's our nation wants
to know. Give us one of the best moments, funniest
moments from that trip.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
We could be here for a while because there was
a lot of them. I believe.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Oh, I can't even just what's the first thing that
pops in your head when we talk about our.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
Trip or just one of the fun things that we've
done together on our trip.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
Oh.
Speaker 4 (02:46):
I loved the going to Penel Island and you know,
picking out our lobster and eating it. But one of
the funniest was when Susan burned the toaster and they
had to get anew.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
It melted the cord weight and I still wanted to
use it. Remember I still needed toast and it burnt first.
But the funny, even funnier is when I went to
go tell on myself and Kathy was videoing.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
I didn't even know it, and then.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Tell you, I was just chronicling it for future generations.
So nance tell us though, I thought you were going
to talk about when we were driving in the dark.
Do you remember no, Oh, of.
Speaker 4 (03:28):
Course I do. Yeah, I was holding on for dear life.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
I have one.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
How about when I went shopping and you too, stopped
at the jewelry store and then I couldn't find you.
Three hours later, I come back to the store. They've
got diamond bracelets, one with my name on it. We
called they called them the friendship bracelets.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
You remember, we had so much fun.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
What's our next trip, Nancy? Where are we going next?
Speaker 4 (03:57):
I think Europe? I'm thinking there's a lot of guys
in Europe. I got to branch out. I think we've
got to branch out.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
Well, you want a guy with an accent.
Speaker 4 (04:08):
Nancy absolutely love that. Love that.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
So hell is the love life going? Have we dated
yet or no?
Speaker 4 (04:16):
Not really?
Speaker 3 (04:17):
I think you had one.
Speaker 4 (04:20):
I did, but nothing so to speak up as far
as nothing serious, and I don't know, I'm keeping my
options open open. My brother in law always said, well,
you know what you should do is get a job
at a golf course.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
It sounds like it sounds like you're on your way
with your golf trip coming up.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
What do you think I'm doing?
Speaker 2 (04:42):
I know, I think it's brilliant.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
Open.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
I'll take your shop and we'll get cute golf outfits.
Speaker 4 (04:48):
That's what I'm excited about.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
I love it.
Speaker 4 (04:51):
I think since the show, honestly, and the reason one
reason I told you all that is because I am
more open and more excited and you know, certainly refreshed
from the experience to go and do and try new
things and travel, et cetera. And the one thing you know,
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I've been a widow. I am a widow, but my
husband passed away. Now thirteen years ago, and you know,
as you know, and you've heard from other people, and
Kathy you know firsthand as well that once you go
through well, there's a poet, Naomi Shi Bob who wrote
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about sorrow and she says in her poem, like the
only thing you can do when you've gone through losing
a spouse is that you've gone through the deep sorrow
and now you do no kindness. You do you are kinder.
I think I'm a more compacts person then I used
to be.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
That's hard to believe, Nancy, you are pretty it's hard
to believe. You're one of the most compassionate people I know.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
Thank you no. And I'm saying I think that happens
for a lot of people that they've just gone through
it and now they're like, okay, like now we all
have it in perspective of what's important and what's not.
And so I'm looking forward to, you know, going on
this journey and hopefully meeting someone and if not, the
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true blessing from the whole experience of Golden Bachelor was
meeting you.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
So that so, so that is that brings up a
question for me. Nancy. You know you were married a
long time we both have three children. How what kind
of guy are you looking for now? How How is
the relationship you're looking for now going to look different
from your marriage?
Speaker 4 (06:55):
Well? I think I think it's different to start with
because when you meet someone new at our age, you know,
you don't have little children. You're not navigating schools and
preschools and college and all of those things. So I
think I'd like someone who has a sense of adventure,
someone who bottom line makes me laugh and I'm all in,
(07:21):
oh yeah, and is trustworthy and a gentleman. I'd really
I love a true gentleman.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
I agree, Yeah, yeah, it's well said.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
So Nancy, can I ask you what has your favorite
age of your life been so far? When did you
feel most confident, most like yourself?
Speaker 4 (07:43):
I think, well, it goes back in my probably in
my forties, when you know, my kids were growing up
and everything was good. That's when I felt the best.
Speaker 5 (07:54):
But Okay, now I think I've gained a lot of confidence.
I I assume you guys have too, from doing the show,
being exposed to different things, and you know, trying new things.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
And I think I think now I'm as confident as
I've ever been.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
Okay, So I want to bring up something here. Susan
and I were talking about, you know, how people can
be cruel on the internet. I have been told or
accused many times on the Internet and Instagram of having
had a facelift and cheek implants in the last six months.
That is not the case. You, Nancy, decided to go
(08:38):
rogue and put your face with your tooth missing on Instagram.
So all right, so props to you on that because
that speaks to confidence.
Speaker 3 (08:51):
I'll never forget the night in the mansion. We didn't
expect it. She popped up, like, no, I remember that
moment because I had the same moment.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
But Nancy, those kinds of things, like what are the
things in your life? I know you've had some health challenges,
what other things?
Speaker 6 (09:07):
You know?
Speaker 2 (09:08):
When you're young and in love and the young bachelor
and baucherettes, they're just gorgeous thin, you know, they seemingly
have the perfect life. But as we get older, we
have issues, and you know, if you're comfortable talking about
any of that, I would love to hear your thoughts.
Speaker 4 (09:23):
No, I am, thank you. A little known fact is
that I have diabetes. I have Type one diabetes. I
take insulin, and I mean the producers and people on
the show knew it, but I didn't really put it
out there on the show. And I have to say
(09:44):
that Daisy from the Joey season, she came out, you know,
with her cochlear implant, and it certainly gave me the
impetus to be more open about diabetes. I unfortunately had
someone who I dated very I mean three days, no
(10:06):
big deal, but he said, I'm not interested in dating
anyone who has chronic health issues.
Speaker 3 (10:12):
Wow, we don't even count that.
Speaker 4 (10:14):
Well, that's true. But what I'm my point to that is,
I think as we all get older. I'm sixty one,
and as we continue to get older, more things will happen,
more people have I have diabetes. Nothing I can do
about it, but I manage it. I can live a
great life. I can ski, I do pilates. I manage
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my diabetes. And Daisy from Joey Show, she manages her,
you know, having a cochlear ium plant and the things
that go along with that. And I think it's important,
just like I did with my missing tooth, that I'm
soon going to get my new one. If things happen,
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that's a life you can't do anything about it. All
you can do is manage what you have. But it
doesn't mean that you have to hide or stop. And
I was always afraid, right, I've been afraid to put
it out there. And it was truly Daisy who got me,
you know, kind of leave me the confidence to, you know,
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move forward and be open about having diabetes. And I'm
also because of her getting a small pomp that I'll
wear on my arm or somewhere on my leg, which
is no big deal, and it makes managing diabetes even easier.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
Much easier.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Yes, yes, because how many people in this world have it.
It's a very common yes.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
And the thing that I love, Nancy is, you know,
we talk a lot about being our age and beat
adventurous and getting up off the sofa and living our
best life. But you are absolutely proof positive that you
can be confident. It doesn't stop you. Nancy. You live
your life. And as people get older, I think sometimes
(12:09):
we look for excuses to not do things, and you
are looking for excuses to do things. You are not
making excuses. You are doing living your life to the fullest.
And I love that.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
Thank you for sharing that, because everybody that is listening
that have that same diabetes or any other thing just
goes to show you look at Nancy as beautiful as
she could.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
Be, and she's living life and loving life.
Speaker 4 (12:35):
Yeah, and yes I am.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
I know you have daughters, Nancy. I'm curious what do
you tell them about dating? You know, give us some
good dating advice, because you know it's I think people
out there want to know. I want to know.
Speaker 4 (13:00):
The one thing I've always told them and the one
thing I try to follow, although I haven't always done
it as well as I should have, is pay attention
to your gut. What's your gut tell you what's your
first gut feeling about this person? Or if there's any
red flags that pop up, don't avoid those, don't dismiss those.
(13:23):
Pay attention to the red flags. Secondly, I think that
if you sit and think about how does that person
make you feel, you're going to make that person feel.
How does that person make you feel when you're with
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your family, with your friends, just the two of you,
how do they make you feel? And if they don't
make you feel like, you know, five million bucks or
the best thing ever, and they don't adore you, you'll
find somebody down road, and that's what I'm.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
There and as our best friend. Right, do you have
any specific dating advice for us? Now, maybe it's not
the same for each of us, but what would you tell.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
Us we need help? Nancy, let me be more clear,
I need help.
Speaker 4 (14:16):
No, I would no, no, no, We're all in this together, right,
I wouldn't tell you. I mean truly, I think those
are really good.
Speaker 3 (14:23):
Same things.
Speaker 4 (14:24):
I think I would say the same thing. And again,
I know we've talked about you have to put yourself
out there. And even if you go out with somebody
on one date or three dates, you know you never know, right,
And I've also heard go out on three like just
one date you can't really get a good feeling, but
(14:46):
by the third date you have a good feeling like
if this should continue or you know, and don't waste
your time.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
You don't believe in loved first sight. I do.
Speaker 4 (14:59):
That happened actually with my husband, but my late husband,
but I'm not sure all the time it does.
Speaker 3 (15:04):
And so so you're saying give it a chance.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
I struggled with when I was much younger and dating,
and it would have to be that head over heels feeling.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
If not, I wouldn't bother.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
But there's so many men that I've met over my
lifetime that were friends that weren't I wasn't attracted to,
but I love them and their personality and they made
me feel special, but we weren't in that dating. I
wish it wasn't just a physical thing or first attraction.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
Well, I do think as you get older, you know, Nancy,
your kids are grown, you don't have grandchildren yet. But
I think, yeah, well I think, but I do think
you look, I do, I look for different things. You
were married to your to mark for a long time,
as you said, you raise kids, and I think it's
(15:56):
just a whole different thing at this stage of our lives.
And you're really active, so I know you want someone active.
Speaker 4 (16:04):
Yeah, And I think you know, there's all different pieces.
You know, then you meet somebody, do they live in
your hometown? Are you going to have to move? You know,
there's a lot more there's a lot of different things
at play than when we were younger, because now you
know they've got kids, you've got kids. You've got to
(16:24):
try to mess it, you've got to try to make
it work. And so I think, But but knowing you know,
you know that going in.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
Yeah, but I do think that's one of the most
difficult things it is.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
Can I ask a question in both of you, what
do you feel about dating a man that's never been
married or has no children.
Speaker 3 (16:42):
Don't you think that's a little bit different?
Speaker 2 (16:45):
What do you think?
Speaker 4 (16:45):
Answer to me, yes, has to be. I've never dated
anyone who who was like that and you didn't have children.
But for me, it's always been a red flag. Like
if I've had friends who've said, oh, he's never been married,
doesn't have kids, You're like, hmm, I don't know. I
(17:06):
don't know why it's a red flag. That's just my
gut feeling.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
Well, don't you think it's because we, as parents, adult
children or not, have responsibilities to our families and when
something important comes up, they might not understand.
Speaker 4 (17:22):
I think it's, as you know, parenting is such a
selfless job.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
I will say, it never ends.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
It never ends.
Speaker 4 (17:29):
Correctly, that person who we're talking about, who hasn't had
a selfless life right cannot help but be more self
centered or selfish because they haven't had to be.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
Self But isn't that ironic? You're absolutely right, Nancy, I
think I've dated a few men that have never been married,
And honestly, I won't do that again. But because exactly
what Nancy's saying incredibly selfish, and because that's what their
life has been. It's always been about them. But not
(18:03):
having children. You know, you never know there might be
a reason they didn't have children if they were married.
So that doesn't bother me as much. But I agree
with you, I won't do it.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
Would you compare it to like an only child? You
know some people I always know when I'm around somebody
that's an only child.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
I would have liked to have been an only child.
I was one of seven. I had to fight for breakfast.
Speaker 3 (18:27):
Oh you weren't one of the first. I was the
first of five, so the oldest. Yeah, yeah, so you
know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
I was the baby. You're supposed to be spoiled when
you're the.
Speaker 3 (18:37):
Baby so much now I'm sorry.
Speaker 4 (18:40):
I think, tell me you didn't get to be spoiled then,
but I think you're going to be spoiled in the
future with a great.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
I like Nancy, And can I just say that is
just one of a million reasons I love you.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
Can I say something Kathy that brings to mind that
book I'm reading. I did a wedding the other day
and I've never really cried like a baby at weddings.
This was a twenty five year val renewal and she
now lives in Hawaii. So her and her husband and
kids came up and her grandfather of eighty eight years
old his lady of eighty six years old had a
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commitment ceremony and he shared what it was like meeting her.
They're both have deceased partners. Long story short. She wrote
this book Aloha, and as I'm reading this book, it
brings all back. You remember the secret. It's all about
the power of positive thinking. And one of the phrases
I just read the other day, I shared it with.
Speaker 3 (19:39):
You this morning.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
Whenever in your vocabulary you say the word not or no,
just stop right there and go back. Everything has to
be in a positive vibe for the universe, because they
don't the universe doesn't get English, you know what I'm saying, Like,
we take it back, but something you just said to
Kathy about it is going to to come.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
You have to believe it's going to come. We have
to picture it and feel it, right.
Speaker 4 (20:06):
I Yeah, I've been picturing Colin Firth for my life,
my whole life after Mark Di I'm like, the only
guy who I would talk to is Colin Firth.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
I remember that.
Speaker 4 (20:23):
A tree somewhere in London. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (20:26):
Wait, is he married?
Speaker 4 (20:27):
No, he's divorced.
Speaker 3 (20:31):
Us out there, get on.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
It, Nancy, I make the first call, make the first call.
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (20:38):
I think it's not even on social media anyway.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
To have a question though. That what Susan just said,
did you ever think a year ago? I mean, we
talk about how our lives have changed a year ago.
That's how you really couldn't be.
Speaker 4 (20:55):
I'm cheering that.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
Why am I around?
Speaker 3 (20:59):
I cried like a baby when it all happened at
the wedding. Wit if I could just tell you the story,
I don't think we have enough time.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
And he shared how they met and this glow that
went through them and they were holding it.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
I was like bawling. Wait, I just want to say,
I'm to think it's me. I'm around Susan. She cries,
I'm around Nancy. Now she's crying.
Speaker 3 (21:18):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
Can we have a few laughs.
Speaker 3 (21:20):
She's crying because he didn't faller yet.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
What is the biggest Nancy, truly, what is the biggest
change in your life in the last year since the
Golden Bachelor.
Speaker 3 (21:32):
I could answer.
Speaker 6 (21:33):
That all of the friendships, all of the new friendships
and lovely and lasting friendships like with the two of you.
That's what I was good to say, and the other
Golden Ladies and the whole experience. Everybody I've met and
I know you feel the same, has been lovely and
(21:54):
I mean I never expected it to be like this and.
Speaker 4 (21:58):
I'm still hoping for more. So everybody needs to keep
their options open, right.
Speaker 3 (22:03):
You're never getting rid of us, baby.
Speaker 2 (22:05):
And do you know what she said? It's putting the
positivity out there. It's just believing it can happen and
putting that energy out there.
Speaker 3 (22:13):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
So what do you think?
Speaker 3 (22:24):
It's game time?
Speaker 2 (22:25):
We're going to play game, Nancy. You know we love
to play games.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
Okay, Nancy and everybody. We're going to play a little
relationship game. It's relationship Would you rather? Are you ready?
Speaker 2 (22:39):
All?
Speaker 3 (22:40):
Right?
Speaker 2 (22:40):
Here we go, Nancy. Here's the first one. Your date
buys you a gift or makes you a homemade gift,
Which would you rather?
Speaker 4 (22:52):
That's a tough one, Homide.
Speaker 1 (22:57):
If he's a builder, and he's going to build me
a house. I'd be good with the homemade one.
Speaker 3 (23:01):
If not, they buy me some.
Speaker 2 (23:02):
Come on, people, I want a piece of jewelry, preferably
diamonds and solid gold. Let's be honest here.
Speaker 1 (23:08):
Oh god, let's try another one. Date someone with an
unfortunate piercing or an unfortunate tattoo. Unfortunate like a piercing
and a bad place.
Speaker 2 (23:26):
Is that?
Speaker 4 (23:27):
Yes, that's yeah. I would say piercing because they could
always take it out.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
That's that's the logical man, I like it.
Speaker 3 (23:39):
I guess I would agree.
Speaker 2 (23:41):
I mean, I don't think a tattoo is unfortunate to me, and.
Speaker 4 (23:45):
Especially if it means something.
Speaker 1 (23:47):
So when I say I'm fortunate, the only first thing
comes to mind is.
Speaker 2 (23:51):
Where is it? And we're not going there? Okay, all right,
too early, all right, Nancy? Speaking of relationships, would you
rather date a snore or someone with bad breath?
Speaker 4 (24:04):
A snore?
Speaker 2 (24:06):
Why, they'll keep you up all night.
Speaker 3 (24:09):
Let's they could get their own.
Speaker 4 (24:10):
Round them a lot, and they smell bad, that's deal breaker.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
You give them a bottle, You give them some toothpaste
and a bottle of mouthwash.
Speaker 3 (24:18):
Sometimes bare breath comes from within it. It's like a thing.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
No, I would definitely agree with you. And at this
stage of the game, the house is big enough. He
can have his own room and I could have mine.
Oh now she's changing it.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
Uh.
Speaker 4 (24:30):
Wait, he's a builder, so he can't check.
Speaker 3 (24:33):
That's right.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
Do you enjoy watching TV shows together or perhaps movies together?
Speaker 4 (24:44):
Movies?
Speaker 2 (24:46):
I would agree with that. I like a nice romantic
movie series. You know what, I liked it.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
How many adult people told us that they watched The
Bachelor together Golden Bachelor and their husbands were involved.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
That's like new. But wait, Nancy, I want to go back.
You said a series. I want to know why a
series instead of a TV show? Is this to keep
the guy on the couch or one come back every night?
Speaker 4 (25:11):
It's always about that.
Speaker 2 (25:14):
I'm kidding, all right, what do you think? All right,
here's one more dance date someone who has a lot
of female friends or no friends at all?
Speaker 4 (25:28):
A lot of friends? I think?
Speaker 2 (25:31):
Wait, a lot of friends or a lot of female friends.
Speaker 4 (25:33):
Oh, female friends? Sorry, a lot of friends.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
Yeah, I don't think that would bother me.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Wait, I wait, I want to get why not female friends?
Do you not trust him. Nancy.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
No, so if he had a lot of female friends,
I would be their friends. I'd get new girlfriends. That
would be fine, Okay, I think go with it.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
I'd be jealous. I I just know me. I mean,
you guys sound so pure, and I'm gonna when you
date that guy and he's got fifteen girlfriends calling him
to go offer pizza on Friday, I'm going to see
how you feel that.
Speaker 4 (26:10):
I would not like that. I agree.
Speaker 3 (26:11):
Oh yes, this is my favorite one.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Get flowers from your partner every week, or diamonds once
a year.
Speaker 3 (26:23):
I want a little one.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
Okay, I'm gonna surprise you guys. Willy, are you going
with the diamonds? Nancy, yeah, you two.
Speaker 3 (26:31):
Susan No, I like flowers. They make me happy.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
Okay, so you know what I you know, I'm going
with the flowers because well, no, because this where I'm
sort of a little romantic that way sentimental. If someone
thing takes enough time to order flowers for me once
a week, he knows the flowers, I like he's thinking
about me. Diamonds you know, you call up a jeweler
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and say, hey, it doesn't take as much thought if
you will.
Speaker 4 (27:01):
But I think you know, Mark and I used to
do this thing. We would leave each other. He started it.
We would leave each other on a torn out piece
of paper, a little note. Not every day, maybe once
a week ish, but you I'd find it somewhere in
my car, in my and he would say. He would say,
I'll miss you, or I loved our dinner last night,
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or just a little thing. It meant so much to me.
It does, and I thought, kind of like what you
were saying about the flower. It is. It is nice
to be thought of and loved. And you know, even
when during all of our busy lives, just to have
a little note or some flowers, I mean, that is nice.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
I know. Okay, I've got I've got a better idea.
I'd like Nancy Dancy.
Speaker 3 (27:48):
Yes, I agree.
Speaker 2 (27:49):
Here's what we do. We tell the guy we love flowers,
and then oh, a couple of times a year he
winds a diamond bracelet or necklace in the floor.
Speaker 3 (28:02):
I like the way you think. I like the way
you thinks.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
All right, so let me share something that I've done
over the years being single, because flowers do make me happy.
Once a week I would go and buy a bunch
of flowers and go home, and it would take my
whole Friday night of arranging them and my vases around
the house, having fresh flowers.
Speaker 2 (28:24):
Wait, did I just hear you spent your whole Friday night? Yes,
you need to get a life.
Speaker 1 (28:30):
Yes, I went to produce Junction and bought gathers and
lots and lots of flowers and I made bakes this
and they were beautiful.
Speaker 3 (28:36):
And they make me happy.
Speaker 1 (28:38):
Okay, So if nobody is buying them for you, we
could either a buy them for each other when you
put a diamond brace, putting the diamonds in there, maybe
Cubics or Connia.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
All right, Nancy, we know the world doesn't but we
know that you have a fabulous dog named Max who
is your best bud and we love Max. You. But
now I'm going to put you forward. You're dating someone.
Would you date someone who doesn't like pets? Or wait
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a minute, wait, the alternative is much better, Nancy, Or
date someone with ten pets?
Speaker 3 (29:18):
Red flag?
Speaker 1 (29:18):
I see the red flag flag.
Speaker 3 (29:22):
The first thing that comes to mind is hair all
over the house.
Speaker 4 (29:26):
Of course it does.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
So let me give you, ladies, the solution. You date
a guy with no pets and you get data guy
with no pets, and then if it turns into something,
you get the pet you want and he has to
learn to deal.
Speaker 3 (29:41):
But he says it doesn't like Sorry who asked what?
Speaker 2 (29:45):
It doesn't matter what he likes, not when it comes
to pets. If you want a pet in charge, you're
in charge, right you know what? He can do the
cooking and the cleaning. While we're at it. Gee, I
wonder why I'm not dating.
Speaker 1 (29:58):
You will clean the dis I'll do the cooking. Nancy,
I'll do the cooking.
Speaker 3 (30:02):
That you have to do.
Speaker 2 (30:03):
The Nancy is going to be all busy walking Max.
Speaker 4 (30:05):
I'm and looking for Colin wherever he is.
Speaker 2 (30:10):
Oh God, bless so Nancy. Question for you. I have
to be honest. I have not been on a dating
site since The Golden Bachelor. Are you wonder you're not
on dating sites and not? What about what about your
d ms? Are they blowing up since the show?
Speaker 4 (30:27):
Well?
Speaker 3 (30:29):
Oh, du see, come.
Speaker 4 (30:31):
On, it is different than I thought it would be.
I thought, oh, just you know, unfortunately Gary and I
you know, didn't make it right.
Speaker 3 (30:44):
Friend zone.
Speaker 4 (30:46):
We're in the friend zone. But I was I thought,
you know, the exposure would be great and I'm you know,
I'm sure people will reach out. So I've had people
who are much older than me.
Speaker 5 (31:00):
I e eighty.
Speaker 4 (31:02):
And I've had most mostly older men. And then I
had this one guy. He sent a picture and he said,
I would love to be your golden bachelor, but I'm
not golden. He was born.
Speaker 2 (31:21):
So did you wait a minute? Wait a minute? Would
you do it? Would you go out with it?
Speaker 4 (31:24):
I wouldn't. I would date with someone younger, but not
that much younger.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
Do you have a gap, like, do you have a
specific amount of years or just.
Speaker 2 (31:32):
Because let me just say to Susan ahe does matter.
So Nancy talk convince her.
Speaker 4 (31:40):
I wouldn't have to have I think I don't know,
five years younger, maybe three years younger.
Speaker 3 (31:48):
Well, you know what I think. The problem is feel
like that.
Speaker 1 (31:50):
But I do go in too young because you can't
even relate about life, you know, things that already happened
for you, especially when you get into fifteen. Your gap,
you know what I mean? The music you listen to
is not the same. Everything is different, right, Nancy.
Speaker 4 (32:06):
That's what I've heard about the older men, like men
who are you know, seventy or seventy five, and then
want to date a thirty year old. Well after the
honeymoon part of the relationship. They don't have anything in common.
They haven't experienced the thirty year old hasn't lived any life.
How can that work?
Speaker 3 (32:25):
Don't don't you think it's a arm candy?
Speaker 1 (32:28):
Like they just want a nice, young looking, nice hard
body woman on their arm.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
You know what, go buy them a rubber doll.
Speaker 4 (32:35):
I mean, come on, here's my arm candy.
Speaker 1 (32:38):
Oh yeah, do those pilates golfriend?
Speaker 2 (32:41):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (32:43):
Oh, guys, I have such a good time talking to you.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
Guys.
Speaker 4 (32:46):
I'm missing guys. I can't wait to see you.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
Well, we're going to be on that golf trip.
Speaker 3 (32:51):
Well that's not untill September. We're going to see her
before that.
Speaker 2 (32:54):
Wait, we're letting everyone know now we are going back
to Saint Martin.
Speaker 1 (32:59):
Yes, yes, only this time. We're staying two weeks. Right,
one week I don't think was enough.
Speaker 4 (33:05):
No, because once you get in the groove, and we
went to different beaches, but we didn't get to all
of them, I think. And we were only at the
jewelry store one day and.
Speaker 1 (33:15):
The whole day, may I add the whole will then
I was spending one thousand bucks.
Speaker 4 (33:20):
Well, and you have to tell everybody that we you know,
of course we'd befriended the owner who loves all of
us and you can make any jewelry you want, and
so we need to go back and hang out with him.
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (33:34):
Wait, Nancy, that's a great idea. We'll bring the flowers
and tell him to put the diamond in the flowers
and we'll see him once a year.
Speaker 1 (33:43):
It's a parfect write that down, Cathy, because I may forget.
Speaker 4 (33:46):
Goy friend, just one. I'm not greedy, just one good one,
and then they can go to Saint Martin with us
and meet our friend.
Speaker 2 (33:56):
That's a great idea, Nancy. But since you'll be the
woman with the boyfriend, could you ask if he has
an older brother for me? Susan can get her own.
Speaker 3 (34:05):
Oh thanks, These are my friends. You hear that, everybody,
These are my friends. They're throwing me to the wolves.
Speaker 4 (34:11):
Now you'll just find Susan.
Speaker 3 (34:13):
Well.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
That does it for this episode of Bachelor Happy Hour's
Golden Hour. And I can't thank you enough for our
beautiful Nancy joining us today, and we'll have you back again.
Speaker 3 (34:23):
Nancy.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
We love you Nancy, and we can't wait to have
you back again. Thank you all for joining us, and
please be sure to follow Bachelor Happy Hour as we
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Speaker 1 (34:48):
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it the other day and they were fabulous questions, by
the way, and Kathy and I were on opposite ends
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Speaker 3 (35:01):
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Speaker 1 (35:02):
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Speaker 3 (35:12):
I look forward to hearing from you.
Speaker 2 (35:14):
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Good morning and welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour.
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Kathy and I because as one of our very best
friends is here a special special thank you Nancy for
joining us today.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Nance.
Speaker 3 (01:08):
Hi, good morning, how are you good?
Speaker 4 (01:11):
Afternoon? Here?
Speaker 3 (01:14):
It's morning there, it's afternoon. It's all good.
Speaker 2 (01:16):
It's middle of the night for me.
Speaker 4 (01:19):
So goodness you girls.
Speaker 3 (01:20):
What's happening in your life right now? Nancy?
Speaker 4 (01:23):
Oh my gosh, well so much. I mean, since the
show ended, I have just signed up for a golf
like true golf camp.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
I'm excited.
Speaker 2 (01:38):
Wait, you're going to learn to play golf.
Speaker 4 (01:40):
I'm going to learn how to play golf. My short
game is good, which I consider a putt putt. I
need professional help. And so me and a few of
my friends are going to go to North Carolina and
it's a week long golf instruction, intense golf instruction for
WHO camp.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
And it sounds that sounds fabulous. We might have to
go with you on that one, know.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
What I'm thinking of. It definitely a threesome.
Speaker 1 (02:07):
We're going to be playing and traveling the world playing golf.
Speaker 3 (02:10):
Now. I like it.
Speaker 2 (02:11):
I like it a lot. Okay, So nance speaking of trips,
we took a trip. Oh yes, we did, just Saint Martin,
and we did have a great time. But I want
to know, we want to know that's our nation wants
to know. Give us one of the best moments, funniest
moments from that trip.
Speaker 3 (02:29):
We could be here for a while because there was
a lot of them. I believe.
Speaker 1 (02:33):
Oh, I can't even just what's the first thing that
pops in your head when we talk about our.
Speaker 2 (02:39):
Trip or just one of the fun things that we've
done together on our trip.
Speaker 3 (02:46):
Oh.
Speaker 4 (02:46):
I loved the going to Penel Island and you know,
picking out our lobster and eating it. But one of
the funniest was when Susan burned the toaster and they
had to get anew.
Speaker 1 (03:01):
It melted the cord weight and I still wanted to
use it. Remember I still needed toast and it burnt first.
But the funny, even funnier is when I went to
go tell on myself and Kathy was videoing.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
I didn't even know it, and then.
Speaker 2 (03:15):
Tell you, I was just chronicling it for future generations.
So nance tell us though, I thought you were going
to talk about when we were driving in the dark.
Do you remember no, Oh, of.
Speaker 4 (03:28):
Course I do. Yeah, I was holding on for dear life.
Speaker 3 (03:34):
I have one.
Speaker 1 (03:35):
How about when I went shopping and you too, stopped
at the jewelry store and then I couldn't find you.
Three hours later, I come back to the store. They've
got diamond bracelets, one with my name on it. We
called they called them the friendship bracelets.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
You remember, we had so much fun.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
What's our next trip, Nancy? Where are we going next?
Speaker 4 (03:57):
I think Europe? I'm thinking there's a lot of guys
in Europe. I got to branch out. I think we've
got to branch out.
Speaker 2 (04:06):
Well, you want a guy with an accent.
Speaker 4 (04:08):
Nancy absolutely love that. Love that.
Speaker 1 (04:11):
So hell is the love life going? Have we dated
yet or no?
Speaker 4 (04:16):
Not really?
Speaker 3 (04:17):
I think you had one.
Speaker 4 (04:20):
I did, but nothing so to speak up as far
as nothing serious, and I don't know, I'm keeping my
options open open. My brother in law always said, well,
you know what you should do is get a job
at a golf course.
Speaker 2 (04:37):
It sounds like it sounds like you're on your way
with your golf trip coming up.
Speaker 4 (04:41):
What do you think I'm doing?
Speaker 2 (04:42):
I know, I think it's brilliant.
Speaker 4 (04:44):
Open.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
I'll take your shop and we'll get cute golf outfits.
Speaker 4 (04:48):
That's what I'm excited about.
Speaker 2 (04:50):
I love it.
Speaker 4 (04:51):
I think since the show, honestly, and the reason one
reason I told you all that is because I am
more open and more excited and you know, certainly refreshed
from the experience to go and do and try new
things and travel, et cetera. And the one thing you know,
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I've been a widow. I am a widow, but my
husband passed away. Now thirteen years ago, and you know,
as you know, and you've heard from other people, and
Kathy you know firsthand as well that once you go
through well, there's a poet, Naomi Shi Bob who wrote
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about sorrow and she says in her poem, like the
only thing you can do when you've gone through losing
a spouse is that you've gone through the deep sorrow
and now you do no kindness. You do you are kinder.
I think I'm a more compacts person then I used
to be.
Speaker 2 (06:02):
That's hard to believe, Nancy, you are pretty it's hard
to believe. You're one of the most compassionate people I know.
Speaker 4 (06:08):
Thank you no. And I'm saying I think that happens
for a lot of people that they've just gone through
it and now they're like, okay, like now we all
have it in perspective of what's important and what's not.
And so I'm looking forward to, you know, going on
this journey and hopefully meeting someone and if not, the
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true blessing from the whole experience of Golden Bachelor was
meeting you.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
So that so, so that is that brings up a
question for me. Nancy. You know you were married a
long time we both have three children. How what kind
of guy are you looking for now? How How is
the relationship you're looking for now going to look different
from your marriage?
Speaker 4 (06:55):
Well? I think I think it's different to start with
because when you meet someone new at our age, you know,
you don't have little children. You're not navigating schools and
preschools and college and all of those things. So I
think I'd like someone who has a sense of adventure,
someone who bottom line makes me laugh and I'm all in,
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oh yeah, and is trustworthy and a gentleman. I'd really
I love a true gentleman.
Speaker 3 (07:27):
I agree, Yeah, yeah, it's well said.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
So Nancy, can I ask you what has your favorite
age of your life been so far? When did you
feel most confident, most like yourself?
Speaker 4 (07:43):
I think, well, it goes back in my probably in
my forties, when you know, my kids were growing up
and everything was good. That's when I felt the best.
Speaker 5 (07:54):
But Okay, now I think I've gained a lot of confidence.
I I assume you guys have too, from doing the show,
being exposed to different things, and you know, trying new things.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
And I think I think now I'm as confident as
I've ever been.
Speaker 2 (08:13):
Okay, So I want to bring up something here. Susan
and I were talking about, you know, how people can
be cruel on the internet. I have been told or
accused many times on the Internet and Instagram of having
had a facelift and cheek implants in the last six months.
That is not the case. You, Nancy, decided to go
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rogue and put your face with your tooth missing on Instagram.
So all right, so props to you on that because
that speaks to confidence.
Speaker 3 (08:51):
I'll never forget the night in the mansion. We didn't
expect it. She popped up, like, no, I remember that
moment because I had the same moment.
Speaker 2 (09:01):
But Nancy, those kinds of things, like what are the
things in your life? I know you've had some health challenges,
what other things?
Speaker 6 (09:07):
You know?
Speaker 2 (09:08):
When you're young and in love and the young bachelor
and baucherettes, they're just gorgeous thin, you know, they seemingly
have the perfect life. But as we get older, we
have issues, and you know, if you're comfortable talking about
any of that, I would love to hear your thoughts.
Speaker 4 (09:23):
No, I am, thank you. A little known fact is
that I have diabetes. I have Type one diabetes. I
take insulin, and I mean the producers and people on
the show knew it, but I didn't really put it
out there on the show. And I have to say
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that Daisy from the Joey season, she came out, you know,
with her cochlear implant, and it certainly gave me the
impetus to be more open about diabetes. I unfortunately had
someone who I dated very I mean three days, no
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big deal, but he said, I'm not interested in dating
anyone who has chronic health issues.
Speaker 3 (10:12):
Wow, we don't even count that.
Speaker 4 (10:14):
Well, that's true. But what I'm my point to that is,
I think as we all get older. I'm sixty one,
and as we continue to get older, more things will happen,
more people have I have diabetes. Nothing I can do
about it, but I manage it. I can live a
great life. I can ski, I do pilates. I manage
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my diabetes. And Daisy from Joey Show, she manages her,
you know, having a cochlear ium plant and the things
that go along with that. And I think it's important,
just like I did with my missing tooth, that I'm
soon going to get my new one. If things happen,
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that's a life you can't do anything about it. All
you can do is manage what you have. But it
doesn't mean that you have to hide or stop. And
I was always afraid, right, I've been afraid to put
it out there. And it was truly Daisy who got me,
you know, kind of leave me the confidence to, you know,
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move forward and be open about having diabetes. And I'm
also because of her getting a small pomp that I'll
wear on my arm or somewhere on my leg, which
is no big deal, and it makes managing diabetes even easier.
Speaker 3 (11:38):
Much easier.
Speaker 1 (11:38):
Yes, yes, because how many people in this world have it.
It's a very common yes.
Speaker 3 (11:45):
Yes.
Speaker 2 (11:45):
And the thing that I love, Nancy is, you know,
we talk a lot about being our age and beat
adventurous and getting up off the sofa and living our
best life. But you are absolutely proof positive that you
can be confident. It doesn't stop you. Nancy. You live
your life. And as people get older, I think sometimes
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we look for excuses to not do things, and you
are looking for excuses to do things. You are not
making excuses. You are doing living your life to the fullest.
And I love that.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
Thank you for sharing that, because everybody that is listening
that have that same diabetes or any other thing just
goes to show you look at Nancy as beautiful as
she could.
Speaker 3 (12:32):
Be, and she's living life and loving life.
Speaker 4 (12:35):
Yeah, and yes I am.
Speaker 2 (12:48):
I know you have daughters, Nancy. I'm curious what do
you tell them about dating? You know, give us some
good dating advice, because you know it's I think people
out there want to know. I want to know.
Speaker 4 (13:00):
The one thing I've always told them and the one
thing I try to follow, although I haven't always done
it as well as I should have, is pay attention
to your gut. What's your gut tell you what's your
first gut feeling about this person? Or if there's any
red flags that pop up, don't avoid those, don't dismiss those.
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Pay attention to the red flags. Secondly, I think that
if you sit and think about how does that person
make you feel, you're going to make that person feel.
How does that person make you feel when you're with
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your family, with your friends, just the two of you,
how do they make you feel? And if they don't
make you feel like, you know, five million bucks or
the best thing ever, and they don't adore you, you'll
find somebody down road, and that's what I'm.
Speaker 1 (13:59):
There and as our best friend. Right, do you have
any specific dating advice for us? Now, maybe it's not
the same for each of us, but what would you tell.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
Us we need help? Nancy, let me be more clear,
I need help.
Speaker 4 (14:16):
No, I would no, no, no, We're all in this together, right,
I wouldn't tell you. I mean truly, I think those
are really good.
Speaker 3 (14:23):
Same things.
Speaker 4 (14:24):
I think I would say the same thing. And again,
I know we've talked about you have to put yourself
out there. And even if you go out with somebody
on one date or three dates, you know you never know, right,
And I've also heard go out on three like just
one date you can't really get a good feeling, but
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by the third date you have a good feeling like
if this should continue or you know, and don't waste
your time.
Speaker 2 (14:54):
You don't believe in loved first sight. I do.
Speaker 4 (14:59):
That happened actually with my husband, but my late husband,
but I'm not sure all the time it does.
Speaker 3 (15:04):
And so so you're saying give it a chance.
Speaker 1 (15:07):
I struggled with when I was much younger and dating,
and it would have to be that head over heels feeling.
Speaker 3 (15:14):
If not, I wouldn't bother.
Speaker 1 (15:16):
But there's so many men that I've met over my
lifetime that were friends that weren't I wasn't attracted to,
but I love them and their personality and they made
me feel special, but we weren't in that dating. I
wish it wasn't just a physical thing or first attraction.
Speaker 2 (15:36):
Well, I do think as you get older, you know, Nancy,
your kids are grown, you don't have grandchildren yet. But
I think, yeah, well I think, but I do think
you look, I do, I look for different things. You
were married to your to mark for a long time,
as you said, you raise kids, and I think it's
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just a whole different thing at this stage of our lives.
And you're really active, so I know you want someone active.
Speaker 4 (16:04):
Yeah, And I think you know, there's all different pieces.
You know, then you meet somebody, do they live in
your hometown? Are you going to have to move? You know,
there's a lot more there's a lot of different things
at play than when we were younger, because now you
know they've got kids, you've got kids. You've got to
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try to mess it, you've got to try to make
it work. And so I think, But but knowing you know,
you know that going in.
Speaker 2 (16:32):
Yeah, but I do think that's one of the most
difficult things it is.
Speaker 1 (16:35):
Can I ask a question in both of you, what
do you feel about dating a man that's never been
married or has no children.
Speaker 3 (16:42):
Don't you think that's a little bit different?
Speaker 2 (16:45):
What do you think?
Speaker 4 (16:45):
Answer to me, yes, has to be. I've never dated
anyone who who was like that and you didn't have children.
But for me, it's always been a red flag. Like
if I've had friends who've said, oh, he's never been married,
doesn't have kids, You're like, hmm, I don't know. I
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don't know why it's a red flag. That's just my
gut feeling.
Speaker 1 (17:09):
Well, don't you think it's because we, as parents, adult
children or not, have responsibilities to our families and when
something important comes up, they might not understand.
Speaker 4 (17:22):
I think it's, as you know, parenting is such a
selfless job.
Speaker 2 (17:26):
I will say, it never ends.
Speaker 3 (17:28):
It never ends.
Speaker 4 (17:29):
Correctly, that person who we're talking about, who hasn't had
a selfless life right cannot help but be more self
centered or selfish because they haven't had to be.
Speaker 2 (17:42):
Self But isn't that ironic? You're absolutely right, Nancy, I
think I've dated a few men that have never been married,
And honestly, I won't do that again. But because exactly
what Nancy's saying incredibly selfish, and because that's what their
life has been. It's always been about them. But not
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having children. You know, you never know there might be
a reason they didn't have children if they were married.
So that doesn't bother me as much. But I agree
with you, I won't do it.
Speaker 1 (18:14):
Would you compare it to like an only child? You
know some people I always know when I'm around somebody
that's an only child.
Speaker 2 (18:21):
I would have liked to have been an only child.
I was one of seven. I had to fight for breakfast.
Speaker 3 (18:27):
Oh you weren't one of the first. I was the
first of five, so the oldest. Yeah, yeah, so you
know what I mean.
Speaker 2 (18:34):
I was the baby. You're supposed to be spoiled when
you're the.
Speaker 3 (18:37):
Baby so much now I'm sorry.
Speaker 4 (18:40):
I think, tell me you didn't get to be spoiled then,
but I think you're going to be spoiled in the
future with a great.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
I like Nancy, And can I just say that is
just one of a million reasons I love you.
Speaker 1 (18:55):
Can I say something Kathy that brings to mind that
book I'm reading. I did a wedding the other day
and I've never really cried like a baby at weddings.
This was a twenty five year val renewal and she
now lives in Hawaii. So her and her husband and
kids came up and her grandfather of eighty eight years
old his lady of eighty six years old had a
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commitment ceremony and he shared what it was like meeting her.
They're both have deceased partners. Long story short. She wrote
this book Aloha, and as I'm reading this book, it
brings all back. You remember the secret. It's all about
the power of positive thinking. And one of the phrases
I just read the other day, I shared it with.
Speaker 3 (19:39):
You this morning.
Speaker 1 (19:40):
Whenever in your vocabulary you say the word not or no,
just stop right there and go back. Everything has to
be in a positive vibe for the universe, because they
don't the universe doesn't get English, you know what I'm saying, Like,
we take it back, but something you just said to
Kathy about it is going to to come.
Speaker 3 (20:01):
You have to believe it's going to come. We have
to picture it and feel it, right.
Speaker 4 (20:06):
I Yeah, I've been picturing Colin Firth for my life,
my whole life after Mark Di I'm like, the only
guy who I would talk to is Colin Firth.
Speaker 2 (20:18):
I remember that.
Speaker 4 (20:23):
A tree somewhere in London. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (20:26):
Wait, is he married?
Speaker 4 (20:27):
No, he's divorced.
Speaker 3 (20:31):
Us out there, get on.
Speaker 2 (20:32):
It, Nancy, I make the first call, make the first call.
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (20:38):
I think it's not even on social media anyway.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
To have a question though. That what Susan just said,
did you ever think a year ago? I mean, we
talk about how our lives have changed a year ago.
That's how you really couldn't be.
Speaker 4 (20:55):
I'm cheering that.
Speaker 2 (20:58):
Why am I around?
Speaker 3 (20:59):
I cried like a baby when it all happened at
the wedding. Wit if I could just tell you the story,
I don't think we have enough time.
Speaker 1 (21:05):
And he shared how they met and this glow that
went through them and they were holding it.
Speaker 2 (21:09):
I was like bawling. Wait, I just want to say,
I'm to think it's me. I'm around Susan. She cries,
I'm around Nancy. Now she's crying.
Speaker 3 (21:18):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
Can we have a few laughs.
Speaker 3 (21:20):
She's crying because he didn't faller yet.
Speaker 2 (21:25):
What is the biggest Nancy, truly, what is the biggest
change in your life in the last year since the
Golden Bachelor.
Speaker 3 (21:32):
I could answer.
Speaker 6 (21:33):
That all of the friendships, all of the new friendships
and lovely and lasting friendships like with the two of you.
That's what I was good to say, and the other
Golden Ladies and the whole experience. Everybody I've met and
I know you feel the same, has been lovely and
(21:54):
I mean I never expected it to be like this and.
Speaker 4 (21:58):
I'm still hoping for more. So everybody needs to keep
their options open, right.
Speaker 3 (22:03):
You're never getting rid of us, baby.
Speaker 2 (22:05):
And do you know what she said? It's putting the
positivity out there. It's just believing it can happen and
putting that energy out there.
Speaker 3 (22:13):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (22:24):
So what do you think?
Speaker 3 (22:24):
It's game time?
Speaker 2 (22:25):
We're going to play game, Nancy. You know we love
to play games.
Speaker 1 (22:30):
Okay, Nancy and everybody. We're going to play a little
relationship game. It's relationship Would you rather? Are you ready?
Speaker 2 (22:39):
All?
Speaker 3 (22:40):
Right?
Speaker 2 (22:40):
Here we go, Nancy. Here's the first one. Your date
buys you a gift or makes you a homemade gift,
Which would you rather?
Speaker 4 (22:52):
That's a tough one, Homide.
Speaker 1 (22:57):
If he's a builder, and he's going to build me
a house. I'd be good with the homemade one.
Speaker 3 (23:01):
If not, they buy me some.
Speaker 2 (23:02):
Come on, people, I want a piece of jewelry, preferably
diamonds and solid gold. Let's be honest here.
Speaker 1 (23:08):
Oh god, let's try another one. Date someone with an
unfortunate piercing or an unfortunate tattoo. Unfortunate like a piercing
and a bad place.
Speaker 2 (23:26):
Is that?
Speaker 4 (23:27):
Yes, that's yeah. I would say piercing because they could
always take it out.
Speaker 2 (23:35):
That's that's the logical man, I like it.
Speaker 3 (23:39):
I guess I would agree.
Speaker 2 (23:41):
I mean, I don't think a tattoo is unfortunate to me, and.
Speaker 4 (23:45):
Especially if it means something.
Speaker 1 (23:47):
So when I say I'm fortunate, the only first thing
comes to mind is.
Speaker 2 (23:51):
Where is it? And we're not going there? Okay, all right,
too early, all right, Nancy? Speaking of relationships, would you
rather date a snore or someone with bad breath?
Speaker 4 (24:04):
A snore?
Speaker 2 (24:06):
Why, they'll keep you up all night.
Speaker 3 (24:09):
Let's they could get their own.
Speaker 4 (24:10):
Round them a lot, and they smell bad, that's deal breaker.
Speaker 2 (24:14):
You give them a bottle, You give them some toothpaste
and a bottle of mouthwash.
Speaker 3 (24:18):
Sometimes bare breath comes from within it. It's like a thing.
Speaker 1 (24:21):
No, I would definitely agree with you. And at this
stage of the game, the house is big enough. He
can have his own room and I could have mine.
Oh now she's changing it.
Speaker 3 (24:29):
Uh.
Speaker 4 (24:30):
Wait, he's a builder, so he can't check.
Speaker 3 (24:33):
That's right.
Speaker 1 (24:37):
Do you enjoy watching TV shows together or perhaps movies together?
Speaker 4 (24:44):
Movies?
Speaker 2 (24:46):
I would agree with that. I like a nice romantic
movie series. You know what, I liked it.
Speaker 1 (24:53):
How many adult people told us that they watched The
Bachelor together Golden Bachelor and their husbands were involved.
Speaker 2 (25:00):
That's like new. But wait, Nancy, I want to go back.
You said a series. I want to know why a
series instead of a TV show? Is this to keep
the guy on the couch or one come back every night?
Speaker 4 (25:11):
It's always about that.
Speaker 2 (25:14):
I'm kidding, all right, what do you think? All right,
here's one more dance date someone who has a lot
of female friends or no friends at all?
Speaker 4 (25:28):
A lot of friends? I think?
Speaker 2 (25:31):
Wait, a lot of friends or a lot of female friends.
Speaker 4 (25:33):
Oh, female friends? Sorry, a lot of friends.
Speaker 3 (25:38):
Yeah, I don't think that would bother me.
Speaker 2 (25:40):
Wait, I wait, I want to get why not female friends?
Do you not trust him. Nancy.
Speaker 1 (25:45):
No, so if he had a lot of female friends,
I would be their friends. I'd get new girlfriends. That
would be fine, Okay, I think go with it.
Speaker 2 (25:57):
I'd be jealous. I I just know me. I mean,
you guys sound so pure, and I'm gonna when you
date that guy and he's got fifteen girlfriends calling him
to go offer pizza on Friday, I'm going to see
how you feel that.
Speaker 4 (26:10):
I would not like that. I agree.
Speaker 3 (26:11):
Oh yes, this is my favorite one.
Speaker 1 (26:14):
Get flowers from your partner every week, or diamonds once
a year.
Speaker 3 (26:23):
I want a little one.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
Okay, I'm gonna surprise you guys. Willy, are you going
with the diamonds? Nancy, yeah, you two.
Speaker 3 (26:31):
Susan No, I like flowers. They make me happy.
Speaker 2 (26:34):
Okay, so you know what I you know, I'm going
with the flowers because well, no, because this where I'm
sort of a little romantic that way sentimental. If someone
thing takes enough time to order flowers for me once
a week, he knows the flowers, I like he's thinking
about me. Diamonds you know, you call up a jeweler
(26:56):
and say, hey, it doesn't take as much thought if
you will.
Speaker 4 (27:01):
But I think you know, Mark and I used to
do this thing. We would leave each other. He started it.
We would leave each other on a torn out piece
of paper, a little note. Not every day, maybe once
a week ish, but you I'd find it somewhere in
my car, in my and he would say. He would say,
I'll miss you, or I loved our dinner last night,
(27:24):
or just a little thing. It meant so much to me.
It does, and I thought, kind of like what you
were saying about the flower. It is. It is nice
to be thought of and loved. And you know, even
when during all of our busy lives, just to have
a little note or some flowers, I mean, that is nice.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
I know. Okay, I've got I've got a better idea.
I'd like Nancy Dancy.
Speaker 3 (27:48):
Yes, I agree.
Speaker 2 (27:49):
Here's what we do. We tell the guy we love flowers,
and then oh, a couple of times a year he
winds a diamond bracelet or necklace in the floor.
Speaker 3 (28:02):
I like the way you think. I like the way
you thinks.
Speaker 1 (28:07):
All right, so let me share something that I've done
over the years being single, because flowers do make me happy.
Once a week I would go and buy a bunch
of flowers and go home, and it would take my
whole Friday night of arranging them and my vases around
the house, having fresh flowers.
Speaker 2 (28:24):
Wait, did I just hear you spent your whole Friday night? Yes,
you need to get a life.
Speaker 1 (28:30):
Yes, I went to produce Junction and bought gathers and
lots and lots of flowers and I made bakes this
and they were beautiful.
Speaker 3 (28:36):
And they make me happy.
Speaker 1 (28:38):
Okay, So if nobody is buying them for you, we
could either a buy them for each other when you
put a diamond brace, putting the diamonds in there, maybe
Cubics or Connia.
Speaker 2 (28:49):
All right, Nancy, we know the world doesn't but we
know that you have a fabulous dog named Max who
is your best bud and we love Max. You. But
now I'm going to put you forward. You're dating someone.
Would you date someone who doesn't like pets? Or wait
(29:10):
a minute, wait, the alternative is much better, Nancy, Or
date someone with ten pets?
Speaker 3 (29:18):
Red flag?
Speaker 1 (29:18):
I see the red flag flag.
Speaker 3 (29:22):
The first thing that comes to mind is hair all
over the house.
Speaker 4 (29:26):
Of course it does.
Speaker 2 (29:28):
So let me give you, ladies, the solution. You date
a guy with no pets and you get data guy
with no pets, and then if it turns into something,
you get the pet you want and he has to
learn to deal.
Speaker 3 (29:41):
But he says it doesn't like Sorry who asked what?
Speaker 2 (29:45):
It doesn't matter what he likes, not when it comes
to pets. If you want a pet in charge, you're
in charge, right you know what? He can do the
cooking and the cleaning. While we're at it. Gee, I
wonder why I'm not dating.
Speaker 1 (29:58):
You will clean the dis I'll do the cooking. Nancy,
I'll do the cooking.
Speaker 3 (30:02):
That you have to do.
Speaker 2 (30:03):
The Nancy is going to be all busy walking Max.
Speaker 4 (30:05):
I'm and looking for Colin wherever he is.
Speaker 2 (30:10):
Oh God, bless so Nancy. Question for you. I have
to be honest. I have not been on a dating
site since The Golden Bachelor. Are you wonder you're not
on dating sites and not? What about what about your
d ms? Are they blowing up since the show?
Speaker 4 (30:27):
Well?
Speaker 3 (30:29):
Oh, du see, come.
Speaker 4 (30:31):
On, it is different than I thought it would be.
I thought, oh, just you know, unfortunately Gary and I
you know, didn't make it right.
Speaker 3 (30:44):
Friend zone.
Speaker 4 (30:46):
We're in the friend zone. But I was I thought,
you know, the exposure would be great and I'm you know,
I'm sure people will reach out. So I've had people
who are much older than me.
Speaker 5 (31:00):
I e eighty.
Speaker 4 (31:02):
And I've had most mostly older men. And then I
had this one guy. He sent a picture and he said,
I would love to be your golden bachelor, but I'm
not golden. He was born.
Speaker 2 (31:21):
So did you wait a minute? Wait a minute? Would
you do it? Would you go out with it?
Speaker 4 (31:24):
I wouldn't. I would date with someone younger, but not
that much younger.
Speaker 1 (31:28):
Do you have a gap, like, do you have a
specific amount of years or just.
Speaker 2 (31:32):
Because let me just say to Susan ahe does matter.
So Nancy talk convince her.
Speaker 4 (31:40):
I wouldn't have to have I think I don't know,
five years younger, maybe three years younger.
Speaker 3 (31:48):
Well, you know what I think. The problem is feel
like that.
Speaker 1 (31:50):
But I do go in too young because you can't
even relate about life, you know, things that already happened
for you, especially when you get into fifteen. Your gap,
you know what I mean? The music you listen to
is not the same. Everything is different, right, Nancy.
Speaker 4 (32:06):
That's what I've heard about the older men, like men
who are you know, seventy or seventy five, and then
want to date a thirty year old. Well after the
honeymoon part of the relationship. They don't have anything in common.
They haven't experienced the thirty year old hasn't lived any life.
How can that work?
Speaker 3 (32:25):
Don't don't you think it's a arm candy?
Speaker 1 (32:28):
Like they just want a nice, young looking, nice hard
body woman on their arm.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
You know what, go buy them a rubber doll.
Speaker 4 (32:35):
I mean, come on, here's my arm candy.
Speaker 1 (32:38):
Oh yeah, do those pilates golfriend?
Speaker 2 (32:41):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (32:43):
Oh, guys, I have such a good time talking to you.
Speaker 2 (32:46):
Guys.
Speaker 4 (32:46):
I'm missing guys. I can't wait to see you.
Speaker 2 (32:49):
Well, we're going to be on that golf trip.
Speaker 3 (32:51):
Well that's not untill September. We're going to see her
before that.
Speaker 2 (32:54):
Wait, we're letting everyone know now we are going back
to Saint Martin.
Speaker 1 (32:59):
Yes, yes, only this time. We're staying two weeks. Right,
one week I don't think was enough.
Speaker 4 (33:05):
No, because once you get in the groove, and we
went to different beaches, but we didn't get to all
of them, I think. And we were only at the
jewelry store one day and.
Speaker 1 (33:15):
The whole day, may I add the whole will then
I was spending one thousand bucks.
Speaker 4 (33:20):
Well, and you have to tell everybody that we you know,
of course we'd befriended the owner who loves all of
us and you can make any jewelry you want, and
so we need to go back and hang out with him.
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (33:34):
Wait, Nancy, that's a great idea. We'll bring the flowers
and tell him to put the diamond in the flowers
and we'll see him once a year.
Speaker 1 (33:43):
It's a parfect write that down, Cathy, because I may forget.
Speaker 4 (33:46):
Goy friend, just one. I'm not greedy, just one good one,
and then they can go to Saint Martin with us
and meet our friend.
Speaker 2 (33:56):
That's a great idea, Nancy. But since you'll be the
woman with the boyfriend, could you ask if he has
an older brother for me? Susan can get her own.
Speaker 3 (34:05):
Oh thanks, These are my friends. You hear that, everybody,
These are my friends. They're throwing me to the wolves.
Speaker 4 (34:11):
Now you'll just find Susan.
Speaker 3 (34:13):
Well.
Speaker 1 (34:13):
That does it for this episode of Bachelor Happy Hour's
Golden Hour. And I can't thank you enough for our
beautiful Nancy joining us today, and we'll have you back again.
Speaker 3 (34:23):
Nancy.
Speaker 2 (34:25):
We love you Nancy, and we can't wait to have
you back again. Thank you all for joining us, and
please be sure to follow Bachelor Happy Hour as we
have new episodes coming out every week. Remember go to
Bachelor Happy Hour and then search for the show Golden
(34:46):
Hour and that's where you'll find us.
Speaker 1 (34:48):
And make sure to submit your questions. I'm dying to
answer some real questions. We did just a touch of
it the other day and they were fabulous questions, by
the way, and Kathy and I were on opposite ends
of the spectrum for some of them and.
Speaker 3 (35:01):
Others we agreed with.
Speaker 1 (35:02):
But just go to bachelornation dot com, forward slash Golden Hour,
hit us up on social Bachelor Happy Hour.
Speaker 3 (35:12):
I look forward to hearing from you.
Speaker 2 (35:14):
That is absolutely true. We can't wait to hear from you.
But in the meantime, please listen to Bachelor Happy Hours
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