March 21, 2025 • 50 mins
Today on “Golden Hour,” we’re back for part two with Jared Freid! We kick off with Kathy’s thoughts on this week’s Fantasy Suites episode of “The Bachelor”! Then, we’re jumping right back in where we left off: What’s the best way to get a second date with Jared? We spend more time catching up with him and getting his thoughts on Golden dating as he helps dish out advice to our listeners. Between a nasty future sister-in-law and being wrong about your bestie and boyfriend cheating, Jared has a lot to say! Tune in now to hear all this and more and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode.
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Hello, ladies and gentlemen, Welcome to another episode of Golden Hour.
Before we pick back up with Jared Freed, I have
to jump in and talk about the Fantasy Suites. Susan
won't be able to do our recap today, but she'll
be with Jared and me today, so make sure you
stick around. Okay, I can't wait to get into this.
Let's go. So I'm going to start with Zoe. Even
(00:28):
though I know she was not the first one in
the Fantasy Suites, I just have to say I could
start falling in love. It's a tough situation. Let's have
a chance to talk about stuff like this is the
end of the show, folks. We're not going to talk
about having children and all of that. It's ridiculous at
(00:49):
this point. I mean, to me, it was so obvious
she was going home. I love, love, love that Rachel
showed up in support of Zoe. Rachel from Joey season,
that she is so supportive of women. I mean, that
made me feel great. Okay, let's move on. Grant he says,
you know we would, we could, folks. That means it's over.
(01:12):
I'm not feeling it. I get it, but you know,
here's the thing. If you're trying to see if you
have a relationship with somebody, or you're really trying to
decide whether this is the person to send home, you
know what you should do. You should have a date
with someone where neither one of you can talk, because
that's how you're really going to get to know each other.
(01:33):
I mean, I have to say I burst out laughing
when they went into this up into this yoga studio
and it said Cilencio. I was like, they gotta be kidding,
so no talking. That was like, here's your ticket out
of here. I felt really sorry for her. They both
were so uncomfortable. You know, they kept saying, oh, there's
(01:54):
not a lot of time left. I wanted to say, yeah,
you're just figuring that out now, you know, says like
we still have a lot to talk about. It felt
like a first date to me, not the end of
the road.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
So awkward.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
If you didn't get the drift watching it, all you
have to do is look at Grant's body language. I mean,
the conversation they had that night, you know, she said,
tell me about you. Literally almost died when he said, well,
you know, I have a mom and I have a dad,
and then we talked about his favorite color being blue.
(02:29):
I just wanted to get out my engagement ring and say,
you know what, I just need a guy who has
a mother and a father and likes the color blue.
I mean, really, this is this is the stuff of
how you decide if she's your future wife. His face,
it was painful, That's all I can say. You know,
he looked like he was about to get a dip.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
You know what is it?
Speaker 1 (02:50):
Dip theory, a typhoid vaccine. I mean, he was in pain.
So I think that for me, absolutely no surprise that
she went home. Sorry if I'm if you haven't watched
yet and I burst your bubble on that one. But
I've been calling this for a few weeks. I thought
(03:11):
it was really sad. And you know, I always look
at this from a mom's point of view when they're
both saying to each other that they could build a
better family than we had growing up. And you know,
I looked at the TV. I talked to my TV
a lot when I'm watching this. I said, that's not love.
We all hope to build a loving family with our
(03:31):
partner and a great family, but that's not love for
each other. That's just doing better than your parents did. Okay,
so that does it for Zoe. I feel sorry for
but I don't think it's coming as a surprise to
anyone that she went home last night. Okay, well, okay,
now let's get to Juliana. Daisy comes. Who who doesn't
(03:56):
love Daisy? Also from Joey season. I loved her advice saying,
you know, you know what you signed up for. You
need to open up. Juliana again, for everyone who hasn't
heard me say it a million times, is my hometown
girl from Newton, Massachusetts, which is where I'm from. And
(04:17):
I have to say spoiler alert for any of you.
I have been saying all along that it's going to
be Letia, But when we get to Latia, I'll tell
you why. I think maybe it's not going to be her,
and maybe it's going to be Juliana. Juliana clearly is
struggling with her past experience of being cheated on and
again as a mom who wants to see their daughter
(04:39):
so upset and crying because she still feels the emotions
of six or seven years ago, you know, from the past.
But I love her attitude. She's she's happy, and she
has a great personality. I did have a good laugh
when she said the four wheeler. She said, this is
(05:02):
what a crazy drive. It's such I love this side
of Grant. And I'm thinking, what side of Grant? Are
we talking about the fact that he can drive fast
and you know, not talk.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
I didn't get that. But I love that he wants
her to be herself. And again, can you see or
hear the envy in my voice? After they have the
ride on the four wheelers and she said, you know,
she's fixing her hair in her makeup, And I'm thinking
to myself, really, this is as bad as you look.
(05:33):
I mean, on my best day, I don't think I
ever looked as good as Juliana. She is a beautiful girl.
Here's the thing about Juliana. If you pick up on
the little subtle things, he cannot wipe the smile off
his face. It's like he got an a on a
test he cheated on and he never got caught. Like
(05:54):
this guy is happy. He wants her to open up.
He says she's gorgeous, you know, with or without makeup.
He thinks she's beautiful. That wide outfit. She looks like
a million Bucks. I think it was hard for her
to tell Grant that she'd been cheated on, although I
feel like she's talked about that a lot, but she
(06:15):
really did feel minimized by her ex. Again, I always
come back to being a mom. How hard that must be.
She said, she's still working on fixing herself. And you know,
as a mom, we all want our daughters to be
happy and find love. And as a mom, I would
struggle if my daughter was still struggling, you know how
(06:37):
many years later about being cheated on.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
I would wonder if in fact.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
She is ready or to get engaged, or in fact,
is she willing to trust him. I don't have the
answer to that, but we're going to find out, you know,
in the next week. I loved when Grant said, where
someone else screwed up, he sees treasure.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
I mean, this guy.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
If this doesn't work out, Grant, you need to get
a job writing cards for Hallmark, because you've got the words.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
I think they talked about making a good team. He
said he's falling in love with her. She feels seen
and supported, like let's just sign the wedding bands. Now
they seem like it's all there, They're comfortable with each other,
she feels heard, they both love to laugh together. Again,
I think she's struggling a little bit with the issue
(07:32):
of two other girls. You know, if I look like Juliana,
I wouldn't be worried, but I get that she is.
That just comes with youth, and I don't mean to
minimize that, because I'm sure if I were in that position.
I mean, I never got that far with Gary, thank god,
but if I had, I would have been worried about
(07:52):
you know, Teresa and Leslie.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
I could, I could see that.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
But I do love that these girls seemed to show
such affinity for each other and really care about each other.
Okay brings me to Letilla who Katie from Zach season,
who's engaged to Zack, who lives in my hometown, well,
(08:16):
my adopted hometown of Austin, Texas. I love Katie and Zach,
and I don't think I knew that Zack had slept
with another woman, and frankly, I don't care because he
got Katie and she's amazing. But I loved the advice
that Katie gave to Lytia. Believe what he says, focus
(08:39):
on the relationship and I think that's great advice. When
Grant said again that she would be a great wife
and mother and he's falling in love with her, and
I'm thinking I had to laugh because he said, again,
you got to pick up on the small things here, folks.
He said he wanted to see if she had a
(09:00):
sense of adventure. So let's put her on a zipline
in the d R and see if she can hold
on tightly. I mean, there's adventure and there's adventure. I
actually have ziplind and it's fun, but it is scary.
Lydia said, I'm not one for adventure. I thought, well,
that's one nail in the coffin for you. And you know,
(09:20):
is that foreshadowy en of what's to come? Is that
a good edit?
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Is that? Were they just dropping a hint that she
won't be the one? I don't know. Letia the biggest
thing about this this date.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
She said she's not ready for physical intimacy, and I
love that Katie supported her in that, And again I
had a little bit of a laugh.
Speaker 4 (09:44):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
You know, Grant seemed pretty nervous, not too smiley when
she said she was struggling with the other woman and
the other relationships and wasn't sure she was ready for
physical intimacy. Lydia, I give you great kudos. You know,
Joan did that on the Golden Bachelorette, and I think
(10:05):
you have to do what feels right to you, So
kudos to you. I did find it again maybe a
little bit of foreshadowing when she says she's thirty one
and she's ready to have kids and he's like, uh, well,
you know, I don't know kids. I mean, that seems
pretty fast to me, and I'm thinking, I don't know,
two years she's thirty three doesn't seem fast to me,
but whatever. I do have a lot of respect for
(10:29):
her though that she told him she didn't want to
hear about the other women, and I love the fact
that she and Katie talked about her telling Grant that
and she actually did it. So I love that she
said no sex. You know, it's it's it's simple. No
is a complete sentence. Grant took it well. I mean,
(10:51):
what's he going to do really at that point? What
can he say? But he tells Letilla he loves her,
which I don't know.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
I'm sure somebody can correct me on this. I'm not
sure that on air another Bachelor told a woman he
loves her before they're at the altar getting the final rows.
I could be wrong, but he earnestly told Letia that
he loved her. So I'm hearing I'm hearing something in
(11:24):
my ear saying that Ben Higgins did, so I stand corrected.
But it's not common. It's not common to have that happen. So,
you know, Letia says that she loves that he makes
her feel safe and supported, and she wants a husband
who where she feels safety and support and kindness and understanding,
(11:46):
and we love each other. I mean, that's what I heard,
and it feels like we're supposed to be together. Wow,
to me, that just sounded like a proposal. I'm like, okay, maybe,
you know, maybe this is Letia not Juliana. How whoever
did everyone pick up on the fact Grant starts back
and out of that whoe? You know, maybe I spoke
(12:07):
too soon, you know, got caught up in the moment,
you know, and I wanted to say to him, Grant,
you know, when you get caught up in the moment,
you put too much chocolate sauce on your ice cream
or too many sprinkles. You don't tell a woman you
love her and you can see a life with her
that to me, maybe have gone a bit far. Again,
(12:27):
though he seems so uncomfortable in this whole thing with Litia.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
I just don't know. But we know that Zoe and
Grant weren't in a place to get married. That comes
under duh. I think with Juliana and Letia, I think
he really is struggling. I think he really does love
(12:54):
both of them. You know, I should be so lucky
to have two guys fawning out for me, but I
see that it's a possibility.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
I love the fact that he spoke.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
With his parents, and you know, again, I hope people
didn't miss this fact. Again, as a mom and having children,
my husband's passed away, so I would not have this opportunity.
But the fact that his dad has been in rehab
and through the magic of production and television, his mother
and father are back together to talk to him, and
(13:30):
to me, that was a poignant scene that they were
together in support of their son. And again it kind
of makes me cry now. It's just I love that
that they are there to support their son because in
the end. You know, we created these kids, and we
need to love and support them whenever they need it.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Sometimes when they don't need it, we need to do it.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
But I think the fact that his mother said, you know,
maybe or hinted at in the promos, you know, don't
choose either one, I don't know. I don't see that happening,
but maybe it does. I really do feel like he
is torn between two women.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
So I think in.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Overall last night, Grant seems so uncomfortable to me, and
maybe just the reality of this is really coming down
to a proposal in two or three days. The only
time I thought he seemed really sure of himself was
when when Jesse said, do you know what you're going
to do tonight? And he said, yes, I do. I mean,
(14:34):
it was very emphatic yes. So again, I had made
several bets with my friends that Zoe was going home
and I was actually going to have to eat a
pile of dirt if I was wrong. So I'm really
glad I was right on that one. I don't know,
I've been saying it's letia. I want my hometown girl
Juliana to win. Putting Newton on the map. I don't
(14:55):
know at this point. I think it's a toss up.
I could see it going either way, and I can't wait.
I cannot wait to see where this goes. All in all,
it was a great night. Lots of drama, lots of happiness,
lots of sadness. Grant, I'm wishing you good luck. Okay, Well,
(15:16):
stay tuned for Grant's finale, And in the meantime, let's
get back to our good friend.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Jared Freed.
Speaker 4 (15:30):
We're back with part two with Jared Freed, so let's
dive right back in.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
Are you ready, Jared? I'm ready?
Speaker 3 (15:36):
Are you Guys asked me what makes a good first
date to get to a second date. I would say,
I've thought about this. If I have to ask what
are you up to this weekend, then we've had just
a fine first date, not a great one, cause that's
like my arrow in the quiver of like, let's have
something else to talk about.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Like, I think the quicker you're at what are you
doing this weekend?
Speaker 3 (15:59):
The worst the data is because like that means you're
not talking about nothing, which is a good first date.
Speaker 4 (16:05):
This week you want to see if you want to
see them again?
Speaker 3 (16:08):
Right?
Speaker 2 (16:08):
I think it would have to come at the end.
Speaker 3 (16:09):
If it's in the middle, I think if it happens quickly,
like if I'm asking that we've run out of things.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
To talk to me.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
If I ask you what kind of sneakers you have on,
we're done like you have on?
Speaker 2 (16:21):
If you get to like, you know.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
Like there's a question that if you feel you have
to ask it, you're on an okay date, not a
great date.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
R So how do you get the second day?
Speaker 4 (16:34):
I think if you're asking somebody what they're doing is
because you want to make sure you're involved in what
they're doing.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
Right, That's not where I'm more just like we got
to like fill the air here, you know, like I'm.
Speaker 4 (16:47):
We're never at a loss for words, really.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
You and I. That's why we got a second date.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
That's why I don't get a second date. That's why
I don't We just gotten second date. We got them
for a second episode.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
Yeah, this is.
Speaker 4 (17:01):
Not that's a filling. It's somewhat fulfilling.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
So wait, is there no girl in your life right now?
There's nobody.
Speaker 3 (17:08):
I I'm kind of Oh, I'm going I told you
I'm going to New Zealand tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
You going by yourself going by myself.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
I uh, well, but you know what, how quickly they
forget since and I swear in the last episode part invited.
Speaker 2 (17:20):
Me to come with him. Thanks lunch. You know what,
you got a memory issue here? What you better have?
You better have to get that live flat suit.
Speaker 4 (17:28):
So you're going to perform, are you?
Speaker 2 (17:30):
Yah?
Speaker 3 (17:30):
I'm doing six shows or seven shows, uh, all around
the country, New Zealand and Australia.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
So yeah, it's it's yeah, it's weird. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
I'm like I said it before, Like I'm like mixed emotions,
Like I remember being at my dad's fortieth birthday, Like
that's weird to me, And like, you know, it's hard.
I think that's the hardest part, the divide between like
maybe your generation of mine is like it's just different now,
like it's and and like you it's hard to not
judge yourself against your own childhood.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
You know.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
I think a lot of people in the dating world
deal with that, like they do the when my mom
was my age, when my dad was my age, and
you can't it's no.
Speaker 4 (18:09):
He's not a millennium were you you are? He's right
at the Yeah, let me tell you millennial. My daughter,
it's exactly the opposite. My daughter was like, Mom, I'm
never doing what you're doing. I'm never getting married when
i'm young. I'm not going to marry some guy from
upstate New York. Can I tell have you ever heard
(18:30):
of Auburn, New York?
Speaker 2 (18:32):
I've never heard of it.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
Exactly, that's where her husband's from. It's between Syracuse and Rancho.
She ended up doing the same, exactly right, she did.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
That's hilarious. Yeah, she doth protest too much. That's right.
She got married a little older than I did.
Speaker 3 (18:45):
But yeah, that's but even her saying you won't do
it is her comparing.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
You know, I love the version, loved it. Well.
Speaker 4 (18:52):
My daughter was like, it started about thirty seven and
she's raising kids, and the apologies they came in, Mom,
I am so I don't know how you dealt with us,
because she's dealing with teenagers now.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
It's not grandkids.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
Yes, unbelievable, Kathy, you no, I have a six year
old and a two year old granddaughter, two granddaughters.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
I have you guys have teen?
Speaker 4 (19:18):
Thirteen, twelve?
Speaker 3 (19:19):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (19:19):
Can I just tell you I hated my in laws.
I hated them. They would come over and give my
kids candy, and.
Speaker 4 (19:26):
They didn't like the steam.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
They didn't like me either, steam coming.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
Out of my can I tell you, I go from
my daughter's house, my granddaughter's name.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
I go over to say, Reese, what would you like?
I can't. My daughter goes nuts to say sorry, I
love being a grandmother. I spoiled Roddy. I'm starting to
hear that from my parents.
Speaker 3 (19:42):
They're like saying, and I never they never pushed us
to like get married. They never thought like it was
never like a topic. And now they're starting to be like,
we need grandkids. I'm like, when did this happen? You know?
Speaker 2 (19:53):
I think there's like do they have any grandkids at all?
Speaker 3 (19:56):
No, my brother got married almost a year ago and
he's four years younger.
Speaker 4 (20:01):
So to a Jewish woman.
Speaker 3 (20:04):
Jewish girl from Saint Louis, how'd they mean? It's actually
a crazy story. I went on a podcast called The
Latka Room, which is a Jewish sports podcast.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
It was during the pandemic. Great name it is two.
Speaker 3 (20:21):
It was like three Jewish guys who played pro Ish hockey.
Speaker 4 (20:25):
Great guys.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
This guy Johnny Lazarus.
Speaker 3 (20:26):
He's now like I think the podcast turned into a
good opportunity for them, Like he's now on you know
all this hockey shows?
Speaker 2 (20:33):
Yeah, And I went.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
On, and midway through I'm like, I'm not an athlete,
Like I don't know, maybe you should have known.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
Yeah, I was like.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
And so then my brother works in sports, so I
called him and I go, you got to listen to
this podcast. These idiots from Long Island have this like
dumb jewish podcast and and he I go, I think
you should maybe go on. He's like, I'm not going on,
but I was like, can you listen to see how
I sounded? And he goes and listens, and then the
next epic episode is his wife now wife. She goes
(21:04):
on and she's a sports uh sportscaster from Providence who
was moving to Miami to take on a big job
at the local NBC station.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
So she tells her whole story.
Speaker 3 (21:15):
She went to Michigan, she works in Providence, and she's,
you know, does sports. And my brother listens to the
whole episode, and then she goes moves to Miami and
they match on Hinge like within like a few out
and then they match and then he already knows everything
about her, and they go you know.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
Did he know did he know that it was the
same girl?
Speaker 3 (21:37):
Yeah, he knew every he knew her whole life story
because she just told it on this podcast.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
But no, I'm saying she knew she was did she know?
Not any no idea?
Speaker 3 (21:47):
So like he basically and I don't know how he
never really, I don't know how quickly he told her this,
but he kind of already knew about her.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
That is so cool.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
They had like a COVID day like on a bench,
and then within a year they're moving in together and
I'm moving out with my ax.
Speaker 2 (22:03):
Like we went in two different directions. So, oh, you
hold on, you lived with a woman. I lived with
a woman for a year. Did you put her? Did
you put your socks in the hamper? Is that why
you're asked? That's why she she dumped me because of
the socks that. I don't know how you knew that.
Speaker 4 (22:19):
Do you have a type, Jared, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
I have? You know, I definitely have a type.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
I like curvy, you know, dark hair women, that's like
my that's the look I generally. But I'll fuck anyone,
you know, Like I just want to make sure that
people know this, Like I'll have sex with.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
That's just pretty much any type of woman.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
But yeah, but what do you do when the next
morning they say, like they're on the Bachelor, I think
I've met my future husband.
Speaker 2 (22:47):
What do you say?
Speaker 4 (22:48):
Do you?
Speaker 1 (22:49):
Generally, I say, this guy's got a vase of roses
in the other room.
Speaker 2 (22:55):
He just brings it out in hands.
Speaker 3 (22:56):
About I'm like, here's you know, I'm like Derek Jeter,
you can give that the gift back. No, I see,
that's the thing. I'm not, like, I'm not a fuck
guy like I've been talking with this on stage a lot,
because like, I'm not like a guy who like goes
out and is like I gotta get with a woman tonight.
Like I'm more like a I gotta get with pizza
tonight like guy like I I so like, which is
(23:17):
like that's like, so I I generally am lazy when
it comes to dating, you know, and pursuing, which is
like something I don't like about myself because I wish
I was more like I wish I was like, you
don't have pursuing.
Speaker 2 (23:31):
I know, but I I just you know, so you know.
Speaker 3 (23:35):
Women don't DM me to like get with me like
they I get DM by the mom to like go
on a date with their daughter, like this happened. I'll
tell you this, this is crazy. The other night, I'm
at the comedy seller. I'm performing and I'm doing my
new material, which is like whatever, but it's about how
I went to Europe alone. So I'm talking about going
to Europe alone and how I hated it, like I
didn't fuck one woman in Europe, like it's a whole thing.
Speaker 2 (23:57):
And he knows he doesn't talk about the wine.
Speaker 4 (24:02):
Views wine on the train is fabulous and everything.
Speaker 3 (24:07):
I'm with you, Susan, I love everything about going to Europe,
don't get me wrong, except you know, the women don't
want to fuck me. So I I'm talking about this
and it's like my sad single story. Because sometimes when
you're working material, you go down a direction You're like, ah.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
This is how I want to sound, but this is
how I'm sounding.
Speaker 3 (24:22):
So then I get off stage and the host is
on stage and he's talking to me from on stage.
Suddenly a woman of the right she goes, Jared, Jared,
you got to meet my daughter. You got to meet
my daughter. I go, I go where is she? She
goes just right here and I go in the middle
of the room, like, and the host is like, Jared,
what's going on over there? I go, I think she's
trying to fix me up with her daughter. And she
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goes and he goes, what does she look like? I go,
I don't know, Like I'm like embarrassed. All of a sudden,
another girl comes up to me and is on my right,
and I look, and this new woman goes, you got
to meet my friend, And I go, is this happening?
Speaker 2 (24:55):
Twice? I go, where's your friend? She goes upstairs?
Speaker 3 (24:58):
I go, this is too awkward for me, Like I
feel uncomfortable, like I'm upstairs right, I know, And it's
like water, water everywhere, not a drop to drink, because
like this isn't like how I'm going to meet someone
like this is, and and like I this is why
no one wants to hear from single men. No one
wants to hear from single men, because like all these women,
they don't want to fuck me. They just want to go,
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let's go on a date and have a good time
and feel safe and then we'll see like.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
And it's got to be a good restaurant and all
those things.
Speaker 3 (25:29):
So now I'm getting asked to pay for them like
you know, like this is like so it's like I
can't afford it. I I don't have the time, I
don't have the energy. And I feel bad because like
they're not wrong, like it's I should be. I'm actually
like I'm I'm like, I'm I am truly like I
feel very flattered, like but they get this.
Speaker 4 (25:48):
Two pack right. You don't work when you leave so hard.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
I got two muscles in.
Speaker 4 (25:58):
There they're both working on.
Speaker 3 (26:00):
And you're a great audience member. I would have you
at any show. Kathy would be at the show the
whole time.
Speaker 2 (26:04):
What is he saying? What's going on? I got what
are you talking about?
Speaker 1 (26:11):
I hear every word you're saying. What the hell is
wrong with you talking about that? For you? I have
a question, Jared, this is a really important one.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
Sure you're the best. Do you say Jared or Jared.
Speaker 3 (26:27):
I've got I don't. I've never thought about it.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
If you're from Jared Jared, I would say Jared, and
you would say Carrie because.
Speaker 2 (26:36):
You carry, and I'd say rum instead of room.
Speaker 4 (26:39):
I said.
Speaker 2 (26:43):
North, Kathy, were you near South? Excuse me?
Speaker 1 (26:48):
I grew up in West Newton, right near Brayburn Country
Club and I'm so old. It wasn't North or South.
I went to Newton High School, which is now Newton North.
Speaker 3 (26:58):
Really my dad went to South. My uncles and aunts,
they were all they lived on it.
Speaker 2 (27:05):
You know Cynthia Road. Oh my god, that's right down
the road from where I grew up. Yeah, that's what
I know. Would I know them? Well, my last name's Free,
so well.
Speaker 1 (27:14):
That doesn't excuse me. It doesn't take excuse me. It
does not take an m b A to know that.
Just because your last name is Freed does not fair.
Speaker 3 (27:25):
But they were the Freeds, and like my my dad
has three siblings, so it's like they went up and
down the age range.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
But that's very cool. No, and your dad went to
Newton High I think Cynthia Road was just on the border.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
You're right, right, And because I lived by this wobbin
signed wobbin was Newton.
Speaker 3 (27:45):
South, I know exactly because we used to drive by
that other golf course where we'd go sledding all the time.
Yeah if that was Brayburn, the big Kill, Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
You know that you were not allowed to be on
that hill. You know that. You tell me you three
thousand people.
Speaker 4 (28:06):
Jarre believe it or not, We're going to ask you
to help. Just sh out some advice from These people
are fans that write in Okaya, I love.
Speaker 3 (28:16):
I love having impact on people's lives that are not
my own.
Speaker 4 (28:21):
Okay, so here we go. This one is from Linda.
So I think my boyfriend's sister hates my guts. What
do I do? I met his family for the first
time last week, and it was so awkward. Every time
I would try to talk during dinner with him, his
sister or his parents, his sister would bring something up
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that only they could talk about, like inside jokes from
the past family vacations, and would just say, oh, sorry,
you had to be there. She was constantly making snide
comments like I wish I had a silly little job
like yours. Being a nurse is so exhausting. I have
no idea what I could have done. My boyfriend apologized
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for his sister's behavior after we left, but said she's
just always been a little bit of a pret I
think it's a lot more than that, lol. She writes,
what does this mean? Why does she act like this
around me? Is she jealous? His parents allegedly like me,
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but they fed into everything his sister was doing at dinner.
So I'm a little put off. What do I do now?
And thank you?
Speaker 2 (29:34):
This is a tough situation for this one.
Speaker 4 (29:37):
See, she has to have your your vocab, your your
quickness and come back for something.
Speaker 2 (29:44):
I just think, like this sister stinks. She's a tough hang.
Speaker 3 (29:48):
I actually take the guy for his word, Like, I
think she's used to being with men.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
Like my I'm my.
Speaker 3 (29:57):
Brother and I okay, Like we have no sisters, so
my mom is the sister.
Speaker 2 (30:01):
My mom is the one woman in the house, so
like it is.
Speaker 3 (30:04):
But yeah, but then for any woman that tries to
come in, she's a big fucking pain in the ass.
And she and I talk about this on stage a lot,
like it's like and also if I don't date so weird,
this is weird. I'm admitting this is weird if I
don't date someone that if I date someone that my
mom is like, it's different from my mom. My mom
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takes that as an offense to her, like because I'm choosing,
it's it's as if I'm choosing, not against her. So
this is how out of their minds women are. So
like this is so like this sister, like she has
to not take it personally and also understand that her
brother or that her boyfriend has no clue how to
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handle this situation.
Speaker 4 (30:49):
All ten, how about her saying about her silly little
job like yours? Yeah right, I.
Speaker 3 (30:58):
Mean, I don't think this is anything new for this family,
Like when he says that, like, I think this is like,
like I actually think like to take this personally, like
is the mistake? She right, you have to trust your boyfriend,
and I would get more you know, curious with your boyfriend,
like I would get more curious as to the sister's story.
(31:20):
The more you hear about the sister story, the more
you're gonna understand why she sucks so much. She's gonna
be Oh, she can never keep a job, she could
never get a boyfriend, she can never she always had
issues in school, she never had like a big group
of friends. You're gonna and then the more you hear
about the more you're gonna feel bad.
Speaker 1 (31:33):
But she's so you should just be nice to her
and move on, right, Be nice to you got a
good boyfriend who cares.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
It's her problem, right.
Speaker 3 (31:41):
While she's doing this, just keep be a great listener,
Be a great listener, Great listeners are great talkers. So
the ked to good comedy is listening. And it's like,
I think, if she just listens to her boyfriend and
like the story of the sister, if the next time
they go over, she's just a listener.
Speaker 2 (32:01):
She's not trying to be it. You know, don't spar
with her.
Speaker 3 (32:04):
She's not worth sparring it because even the parents, even
the parents, she says, the parents, his parents allegedly like me,
but they fit into everything his sister was doing at dinner. Yeah, yeah,
the parents are like, I don't want to deal with
this either.
Speaker 2 (32:14):
She stinks.
Speaker 3 (32:16):
If the parents could tell you, they would be like,
we fucking hate her, but we have to deal with
her and just we pay the bills.
Speaker 2 (32:21):
So she shut the fuck up.
Speaker 4 (32:22):
And Linda's saying, why does she act like this around me?
It's not about you, Linda, it is it. Don't take
it personally. She's just wants to be the center of attention.
Speaker 2 (32:32):
Absolutely, it might not be us.
Speaker 4 (32:34):
What does she have to be jealous of her? That's
her brother right.
Speaker 3 (32:37):
Well, here's the even crazier part. This is the one
place she had ownership of where people couldn't leave her.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
It's her family. They have to deal with her so
like you've now entered, do they? But do they?
Speaker 3 (32:49):
Right? They do this dinner with her? Why is she
so free to meet her, you know, be at this
family dinner. She should be out with her own friends.
Speaker 4 (32:55):
Well, Linda is put off by this, and laugh at
her jokes and get through it and leave. You don't
have to do it constantly.
Speaker 3 (33:04):
My best advice to Linda is to laugh at it
with your boyfriend and not get personally.
Speaker 2 (33:08):
Offended by it. Laugh at it, laugh with him, include
him on the joke about her.
Speaker 3 (33:13):
But the only way you get there is to be
curious about her, ask about her life, care for her,
empathize with her.
Speaker 2 (33:18):
Position.
Speaker 1 (33:19):
God Jared's kindness, Jared, that's just so kind of you.
Speaker 5 (33:26):
Bless you now that means you don't say that, all right,
Moving on to the next one.
Speaker 1 (33:39):
Anonymous, good yeah, really good luck. Okay, Oh my god.
I really need you guys to help me. I have
been paranoid for the past two months that my boyfriend
of three years and my best friend of five years
are sleeping together. When I first sat down to write
into you, guys, I was going to ask for adviy
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some what to do next. Looking back, I really wish
I would have done that. I decided to take matters
into my own hands and confront them both. Well, turns
out I was definitely.
Speaker 2 (34:13):
Wrong best friend, that's the catch. She wished she was
right now.
Speaker 1 (34:18):
So I had my best friend come over and confronted
them both that I knew what was going on. Not
only did they each let me look through their phones
without flinching, but it also didn't take long for me
to realize that I was completely in the wrong.
Speaker 2 (34:34):
So how do I do damage control?
Speaker 1 (34:37):
My boyfriend asked for some space ha and we haven't
talked outside of good morning and good night. We lived together.
My best friend hasn't talked to me since the incident.
I totally went in accusing them, and I really don't
want to lose either of them, let alone both. Any
advice would be great, Please help me and thank you?
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What say you, Jared?
Speaker 3 (35:00):
This is like the worst case scenario, like because not
only like I don't want to scare her anymore, but
now the boyfriend is like, maybe I could have Rachel,
you know, like there's a little bit and I'm not listen,
I'm gonna get I'm gonna like I'm gonna give her
some like I think, like the one thing I will
(35:21):
let me just like let her not feel crazy something
is wrong in her relationship, Like I I think that's
the one thing she has to like be okay acknowledging
and like she she can't lose faith in her own feelings,
like you.
Speaker 2 (35:36):
She's not a crazy person, reason right.
Speaker 3 (35:39):
And I think it starts with her like seeking out
professional help and like going getting to the root of like.
Speaker 2 (35:45):
Jared just jumps right to it, she needs professional help
in men she does. I mean, you did your big
detective moment.
Speaker 3 (35:55):
Okay, I'm just saying, like I think she has to
start with like where does the jealous he come from?
Is it a personal issue or is the relationship off?
And she's trying to make this off relationship work. Whenever
you're in a relationship that like someone isn't trying and
you're trying, you're like, am I crazy? So it seems
like she's in this relationship where like I'm not trying
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to blame him now that she's done him. She did
her friend and him wrong, but like where did that
come from? Like I think she has to get to
the root of like why.
Speaker 1 (36:25):
Usually you know I always say, problems in a marriage,
problems in a relationship are often not what you're seeing.
It's usually a symbol or a sign of something deeper
that's going on, you know.
Speaker 3 (36:36):
Right, And she probably saw her best friend and him
enjoying each other's company in the way she's not enjoying
her company with him, and she's like, why are they
You know, I'm watching the relationship.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
I would want I should have gone to medical school
and been a psychiatrist.
Speaker 2 (36:53):
Well, ten years, ten years of how are you feeling today?
Talk to me about it? That's right.
Speaker 3 (37:00):
The U podcasts, you can get these pearls every week
twice a week on the UF podcast. I know, but
I will say it is her seeing them be this
like fun time. She's like, well, why don't we have fun?
And I think right, and it's like, so you have
to figure out And again that might mean a breakup,
That might mean that this is in the relation.
Speaker 2 (37:21):
But like I do think it is crazy.
Speaker 3 (37:25):
To like get that far be like ah and then
be like wait, wait, hold.
Speaker 4 (37:32):
It, hold it. I gotta be that other person. People
are really good at deleting messages, and it could have
happened and those two are.
Speaker 2 (37:41):
Going they were right. No, no, no, she believe them when
they were there, they.
Speaker 3 (37:45):
Were Susan, I actually think that's like there there is
a percentage chance that these two are Body and Clyde
and they are the greatest. Like to me, I don't
have the energy like right they I don't have the
energy to like go this, like why go this far?
Just break up and be together and like stop fucking
with this woman.
Speaker 2 (38:04):
But I good because I always.
Speaker 3 (38:06):
Like when I when I hear these questions, I always
lean on the side, like I believe in the bell
curve of life, like most of us are ten percent
away from each other. So like in my mind, I'd
be like, this is my chance to break up with her,
Like I I like, I don't want to be in
this relationship.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
He's only saying good night. I think this is what
he's gonna end up doing. And yeah, I think.
Speaker 4 (38:28):
This relationship him and says okay, I fucked up. Either
to hate me forever. I'm sorry if she loses him.
Speaker 1 (38:36):
You know what, Anonymous? You being serious? Now you learned
the lesson of your life. I hope, well I will
say this.
Speaker 3 (38:42):
I actually I care for this emailer because they're never
gonna like trust themselves again. But I do want to
encourage them that like something was off, so like if
there was end this and if you end this, like
if he doesn't end this and you guys try to
work this out, Okay, you have to get to the
root of where the jealousy comes from.
Speaker 2 (39:03):
But like if he's like, I'm out, you know.
Speaker 3 (39:05):
You accuse me of this and something, well, something that
was something he was looking to be dumped, and guys
love being dumped.
Speaker 2 (39:13):
Okay. Every man wants to be dumped, okay, because they
want to be the dump war and not the dumpy.
Speaker 3 (39:21):
They want to be the dumpy, dump me, dump me
to I don't want to be the evil one. I
don't want to be the one that waste your time.
I don't want to be the guy that like that
you go to your brunch table and you're like and
he said he doesn't like my grandmother, Like, I don't
want to be that person. I want to disappear, Like
it takes me in the future, right, it takes me
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for ever forever.
Speaker 4 (39:43):
Cat He's like, just tell.
Speaker 1 (39:46):
I can't do that, right because I actually do it
very recently, very real.
Speaker 2 (39:55):
What time is it?
Speaker 1 (39:56):
It's not all Right before we go, I was saying,
and I want to hear was it amazing?
Speaker 2 (40:02):
I want to go.
Speaker 4 (40:03):
We've replaced for a whole month. Next year, come next
year with us, Come with us for a month a month.
I'll come back in two weeks, do some things and
go right back.
Speaker 2 (40:12):
Is it like a timeshare type of things? Like it's
paid for? The ask? It's fabulous.
Speaker 1 (40:20):
Of the water, the people being serious, No, all humor aside.
The people there are the most kind, generous.
Speaker 2 (40:28):
Loving, warm. You just feel like family the minute you
get there. It's crazy. I love that. Good for you guys,
and we make friends.
Speaker 4 (40:34):
We're welcome back.
Speaker 1 (40:36):
We'll get you, we'll get your day coming, We'll get
your or we'll get you.
Speaker 2 (40:41):
Take your parents. But they're French to eat and.
Speaker 1 (40:45):
We stay on the side, not food outside. All right,
before we go there, we're gonna play a quick game
with you. Okay, oh boy, wait, we didn't ask. Do
you have any questions for us or advice for us?
Speaker 2 (40:58):
Do I have any questions? Yeah? Advice? Okay, anything you
want to know about us? No, not particular.
Speaker 4 (41:05):
No, you're that date that says we're ended it here.
Speaker 2 (41:12):
I'm going to Australia.
Speaker 3 (41:14):
What would you say I should do to like pick
up a woman while I'm in Australia? What what would
you guys want? How would I? How would you do it?
How would you want to be picked up?
Speaker 4 (41:24):
Wait a minute, did you not hear the question? Do
you have or advice for us?
Speaker 2 (41:30):
Us?
Speaker 4 (41:31):
Why is it about you? Derek? Yeah? You know stage.
Speaker 2 (41:42):
I will say one thing, I will answer a question.
Ask you for advice?
Speaker 1 (41:47):
Jared, you have a beautiful smile. Smile for woman and
say can I buy you?
Speaker 4 (41:51):
Look at that? Do not love that face?
Speaker 2 (41:53):
Thank you? All right? Now what's our advice?
Speaker 4 (41:55):
Do you want to have some coffee? Do you want
to listen to the kangaroos?
Speaker 2 (42:00):
Where's it? Sounds like she's gonna like kill a kangaroo?
You want to see a kangaroo? Watch what I do
to the kangaroo? Who owes me money? That pouch looks
a little thick kangaroo.
Speaker 4 (42:12):
I like the animals to stay over there.
Speaker 1 (42:15):
Yeah, okay, he's got no.
Speaker 3 (42:18):
Guys, keep doing what you're doing. I don't what you
guys gonna need my advice?
Speaker 2 (42:22):
You kidding?
Speaker 4 (42:23):
In love? In relationships?
Speaker 2 (42:25):
The hell? He doesn't know sh about love?
Speaker 4 (42:27):
Why are we asking him nothing really next.
Speaker 2 (42:31):
Yeah, you asked the question. All right, we're gonna play.
Here we go.
Speaker 1 (42:36):
We're gonna play a golden classic. Never have I ever
love it? Okay, So here we go. You're gonna fess up, Jared,
we're putting on the spot. All right, give us one.
Speaker 2 (42:52):
Do you want me to do one? Yeah?
Speaker 4 (42:54):
Never had I ever?
Speaker 3 (42:57):
Never have I ever eaten something out of the trash. Oh? Neither?
Speaker 2 (43:05):
Eh, it's right you Okay, I drank? I did I have?
It was on top of the trash. You did.
Speaker 4 (43:15):
You were pretty damn thirsty or drunk. Were in the desert,
a little drunk desert. He's drunk.
Speaker 2 (43:25):
I don't know. You put me on the spot.
Speaker 4 (43:27):
I can't really. I hate this game.
Speaker 2 (43:29):
Never have I ever, never ever ever sucked on someone's foot,
I Amy, you have you have? Well, they're Tyler's not
their foot.
Speaker 4 (43:41):
That's like a foot fetish thing or is it just
in the moment?
Speaker 2 (43:44):
It was definitely a foot fetish things in the moment.
It was in the moment. Said, really, what happened he
got clean nails? I mean, what happened?
Speaker 3 (43:58):
Well in the moment. Okay, Kathy, let me ask you
a serious question. You're in each other's arms.
Speaker 4 (44:03):
You can you don't understand she is straighter than straight.
She obeys the law, she follows.
Speaker 2 (44:14):
How many episodes have you've done? I finally got to
the good stuff with Kathy.
Speaker 3 (44:18):
Let me just say, I just know that, like, I'm
not a I'm not a foot guy like you know
you hear these foot love the feet?
Speaker 2 (44:25):
I you are you an asked guy? A boot guy?
Who are you? I bet your guy? I am an
asked guy.
Speaker 3 (44:33):
I like a big a, but no, I like curvy
women like I like, yeah, I asked, and titty.
Speaker 2 (44:40):
I'll take them both tits and for kids.
Speaker 3 (44:43):
I've never sucked on the toes, but I just don't
understand how it happens.
Speaker 1 (44:48):
Just no, I've actually I've never sucked on toes. I've
had my toes sucked. You've had so that guy has
he had that?
Speaker 2 (44:57):
I don't know. I didn't.
Speaker 3 (44:58):
I didn't say could we stop kissing down your body?
And then all of a sudden you're like, how low
are you gonna go? And you're like you're gonna kiss
my shin? And he's like, I'll keep going, and then
all of a sudden he's.
Speaker 2 (45:08):
Jared. You had to be there in the moment. You
know you had to be there. I think, I don't think.
I think I just want to I.
Speaker 1 (45:15):
Just want to address one thing here with Susan. She
talks about me following the rules. I don't know, Jared,
you tell me. We are on little Whining Roads in
Saint Martin and she's chip chatting with somebody on WhatsApp
in her hand while she's driving, hitting the corner.
Speaker 2 (45:31):
It's like we're playing bumper pool going and I'm like, Susan, stop,
what's all right? I know where I'm going. I'm like,
I see my life in front of my eyes. I
love that.
Speaker 3 (45:40):
Kathy's so mad that you said that she's a rule follower,
and she's like, no, I'll tell you I was feary.
Speaker 4 (45:46):
I am more.
Speaker 1 (45:47):
I will say I'm more of a rule follower than Susan.
I will say that. But you know what, you know what?
Speaker 6 (45:53):
What?
Speaker 4 (45:53):
Why are we talking about rules? We're talking about toes.
Speaker 2 (45:55):
I can't imagine.
Speaker 3 (45:57):
I can't imagine sucking on Kathy's toes.
Speaker 4 (46:04):
Toe.
Speaker 2 (46:04):
I think you're gonna wipe them off. You're gonna use
a paper towel.
Speaker 4 (46:07):
Just what if you were on barefoot on the beach.
Speaker 2 (46:09):
That what don't ruin here? It did? I got one yesterday.
We're all good.
Speaker 3 (46:16):
Now.
Speaker 4 (46:16):
I let somebody massage them. You can get the oils
and massage.
Speaker 1 (46:22):
There's so many things running through my head right now
that I can that. It's so not PG that I cannot.
Speaker 3 (46:27):
This is why it's This is why I.
Speaker 4 (46:31):
To think it's something that's not PEG. It's like she's
killing that, she's dying over there.
Speaker 2 (46:37):
I'm so happy.
Speaker 6 (46:38):
I went from eating out of the trash to you
know what, I never had the rules come out to
the rules so much that she answered, honestly to has
toes been in like you could just lie?
Speaker 2 (46:53):
I did? I said I had.
Speaker 4 (46:55):
I have never have I ever sucked toes?
Speaker 2 (47:01):
Oh that's that was creative? Can you do any better? Okay?
Speaker 1 (47:06):
Never have I ever hooked up with a guy in
a foreign country?
Speaker 2 (47:14):
I haven't I have? She has good for you, Susan.
What country?
Speaker 4 (47:20):
Italy?
Speaker 2 (47:22):
Italy?
Speaker 4 (47:23):
Italy in Florence.
Speaker 2 (47:25):
Actually I studied abroad in Florence.
Speaker 4 (47:28):
Where'd you go to school?
Speaker 2 (47:31):
Jared? Penn State? Penn State. You spoiled little child, that's right,
not Penn. This is what. No, she doesn't know.
Speaker 1 (47:42):
I was the education of the tongue. Yeah, you went
to the dumb one, the Ivy league. He went to
the one where people He went to the one where
people who can't go to the ivy leagues and want
to be in Pennsylvania.
Speaker 2 (47:54):
That's where they go.
Speaker 4 (47:55):
That's all. That's right, that's right. All right, end this game, okay,
because I don't like.
Speaker 2 (48:00):
All right, all right, we're done. All right, you know what.
I hate to do this, but we actually do have
to wrap. I know Jared's got to get out and
look for widness.
Speaker 1 (48:10):
I got to go to Australia. I gotta go to
Happy Happy, Happy birthday to you. Really truly, I appreciate it.
You know what pleasure talking with you guys. Say good
night and goodbye to your thirties. My last few hours
I got.
Speaker 4 (48:24):
Do you feel a certain way with the forties?
Speaker 3 (48:26):
I feel I get reflective on birthdays? I never like
think the year doesn't matter as much as the passing
of a year, like did I accomplish what I want?
Speaker 2 (48:34):
Did I?
Speaker 3 (48:35):
You know? Do I feel like I I've.
Speaker 2 (48:38):
Evolved And that's kind of tough for me to deal with.
Speaker 4 (48:43):
So on your team, we think you're Greatthday. I threw
a black tie event.
Speaker 2 (48:53):
That's wonderful.
Speaker 4 (48:54):
It was the people were leaving going this was better
than any wedding I've ever went to.
Speaker 2 (48:59):
Right because no ceremonies to get here, and I'm the.
Speaker 1 (49:04):
Weirdo who takes it a step further. I don't, I don't.
I can't tell you what I did on my fourith birthday,
my fiftieth birthday, I said, I don't care because to me,
I don't count the years. I just look at my life.
Am I being excuse to have a party?
Speaker 2 (49:19):
Cat, that's a different thing.
Speaker 3 (49:20):
You can have a question, udgy answer, Cathyty.
Speaker 4 (49:24):
You could know.
Speaker 2 (49:25):
I said, have a party. Whenever the fuck you want
to have a party, I said, I don't. I don't.
Speaker 4 (49:35):
On that note, we got to rock because we're gonna
get fired. I think I don't know.
Speaker 2 (49:40):
Don't get fired? All right, listen, Thank you guys.
Speaker 1 (49:44):
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Hello, ladies and gentlemen, Welcome to another episode of Golden Hour.
Before we pick back up with Jared Freed, I have
to jump in and talk about the Fantasy Suites. Susan
won't be able to do our recap today, but she'll
be with Jared and me today, so make sure you
stick around. Okay, I can't wait to get into this.
Let's go. So I'm going to start with Zoe. Even
(00:28):
though I know she was not the first one in
the Fantasy Suites, I just have to say I could
start falling in love. It's a tough situation. Let's have
a chance to talk about stuff like this is the
end of the show, folks. We're not going to talk
about having children and all of that. It's ridiculous at
(00:49):
this point. I mean, to me, it was so obvious
she was going home. I love, love, love that Rachel
showed up in support of Zoe. Rachel from Joey season,
that she is so supportive of women. I mean, that
made me feel great. Okay, let's move on. Grant he says,
you know we would, we could, folks. That means it's over.
(01:12):
I'm not feeling it. I get it, but you know,
here's the thing. If you're trying to see if you
have a relationship with somebody, or you're really trying to
decide whether this is the person to send home, you
know what you should do. You should have a date
with someone where neither one of you can talk, because
that's how you're really going to get to know each other.
(01:33):
I mean, I have to say I burst out laughing
when they went into this up into this yoga studio
and it said Cilencio. I was like, they gotta be kidding,
so no talking. That was like, here's your ticket out
of here. I felt really sorry for her. They both
were so uncomfortable. You know, they kept saying, oh, there's
(01:54):
not a lot of time left. I wanted to say, yeah,
you're just figuring that out now, you know, says like
we still have a lot to talk about. It felt
like a first date to me, not the end of
the road.
Speaker 2 (02:06):
So awkward.
Speaker 1 (02:08):
If you didn't get the drift watching it, all you
have to do is look at Grant's body language. I mean,
the conversation they had that night, you know, she said,
tell me about you. Literally almost died when he said, well,
you know, I have a mom and I have a dad,
and then we talked about his favorite color being blue.
(02:29):
I just wanted to get out my engagement ring and say,
you know what, I just need a guy who has
a mother and a father and likes the color blue.
I mean, really, this is this is the stuff of
how you decide if she's your future wife. His face,
it was painful, That's all I can say. You know,
he looked like he was about to get a dip.
Speaker 2 (02:50):
You know what is it?
Speaker 1 (02:50):
Dip theory, a typhoid vaccine. I mean, he was in pain.
So I think that for me, absolutely no surprise that
she went home. Sorry if I'm if you haven't watched
yet and I burst your bubble on that one. But
I've been calling this for a few weeks. I thought
(03:11):
it was really sad. And you know, I always look
at this from a mom's point of view when they're
both saying to each other that they could build a
better family than we had growing up. And you know,
I looked at the TV. I talked to my TV
a lot when I'm watching this. I said, that's not love.
We all hope to build a loving family with our
(03:31):
partner and a great family, but that's not love for
each other. That's just doing better than your parents did. Okay,
so that does it for Zoe. I feel sorry for
but I don't think it's coming as a surprise to
anyone that she went home last night. Okay, well, okay,
now let's get to Juliana. Daisy comes. Who who doesn't
(03:56):
love Daisy? Also from Joey season. I loved her advice saying,
you know, you know what you signed up for. You
need to open up. Juliana again, for everyone who hasn't
heard me say it a million times, is my hometown
girl from Newton, Massachusetts, which is where I'm from. And
(04:17):
I have to say spoiler alert for any of you.
I have been saying all along that it's going to
be Letia, But when we get to Latia, I'll tell
you why. I think maybe it's not going to be her,
and maybe it's going to be Juliana. Juliana clearly is
struggling with her past experience of being cheated on and
again as a mom who wants to see their daughter
(04:39):
so upset and crying because she still feels the emotions
of six or seven years ago, you know, from the past.
But I love her attitude. She's she's happy, and she
has a great personality. I did have a good laugh
when she said the four wheeler. She said, this is
(05:02):
what a crazy drive. It's such I love this side
of Grant. And I'm thinking, what side of Grant? Are
we talking about the fact that he can drive fast
and you know, not talk.
Speaker 2 (05:12):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
I didn't get that. But I love that he wants
her to be herself. And again, can you see or
hear the envy in my voice? After they have the
ride on the four wheelers and she said, you know,
she's fixing her hair in her makeup, And I'm thinking
to myself, really, this is as bad as you look.
(05:33):
I mean, on my best day, I don't think I
ever looked as good as Juliana. She is a beautiful girl.
Here's the thing about Juliana. If you pick up on
the little subtle things, he cannot wipe the smile off
his face. It's like he got an a on a
test he cheated on and he never got caught. Like
(05:54):
this guy is happy. He wants her to open up.
He says she's gorgeous, you know, with or without makeup.
He thinks she's beautiful. That wide outfit. She looks like
a million Bucks. I think it was hard for her
to tell Grant that she'd been cheated on, although I
feel like she's talked about that a lot, but she
(06:15):
really did feel minimized by her ex. Again, I always
come back to being a mom. How hard that must be.
She said, she's still working on fixing herself. And you know,
as a mom, we all want our daughters to be
happy and find love. And as a mom, I would
struggle if my daughter was still struggling, you know how
(06:37):
many years later about being cheated on.
Speaker 2 (06:40):
I would wonder if in fact.
Speaker 1 (06:42):
She is ready or to get engaged, or in fact,
is she willing to trust him. I don't have the
answer to that, but we're going to find out, you know,
in the next week. I loved when Grant said, where
someone else screwed up, he sees treasure.
Speaker 2 (07:00):
I mean, this guy.
Speaker 1 (07:01):
If this doesn't work out, Grant, you need to get
a job writing cards for Hallmark, because you've got the words.
Speaker 2 (07:08):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
I think they talked about making a good team. He
said he's falling in love with her. She feels seen
and supported, like let's just sign the wedding bands. Now
they seem like it's all there, They're comfortable with each other,
she feels heard, they both love to laugh together. Again,
I think she's struggling a little bit with the issue
(07:32):
of two other girls. You know, if I look like Juliana,
I wouldn't be worried, but I get that she is.
That just comes with youth, and I don't mean to
minimize that, because I'm sure if I were in that position.
I mean, I never got that far with Gary, thank god,
but if I had, I would have been worried about
(07:52):
you know, Teresa and Leslie.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
I could, I could see that.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
But I do love that these girls seemed to show
such affinity for each other and really care about each other.
Okay brings me to Letilla who Katie from Zach season,
who's engaged to Zack, who lives in my hometown, well,
(08:16):
my adopted hometown of Austin, Texas. I love Katie and Zach,
and I don't think I knew that Zack had slept
with another woman, and frankly, I don't care because he
got Katie and she's amazing. But I loved the advice
that Katie gave to Lytia. Believe what he says, focus
(08:39):
on the relationship and I think that's great advice. When
Grant said again that she would be a great wife
and mother and he's falling in love with her, and
I'm thinking I had to laugh because he said, again,
you got to pick up on the small things here, folks.
He said he wanted to see if she had a
(09:00):
sense of adventure. So let's put her on a zipline
in the d R and see if she can hold
on tightly. I mean, there's adventure and there's adventure. I
actually have ziplind and it's fun, but it is scary.
Lydia said, I'm not one for adventure. I thought, well,
that's one nail in the coffin for you. And you know,
(09:20):
is that foreshadowy en of what's to come? Is that
a good edit?
Speaker 2 (09:23):
Is that? Were they just dropping a hint that she
won't be the one? I don't know. Letia the biggest
thing about this this date.
Speaker 3 (09:33):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (09:33):
She said she's not ready for physical intimacy, and I
love that Katie supported her in that, And again I
had a little bit of a laugh.
Speaker 4 (09:44):
Uh.
Speaker 1 (09:45):
You know, Grant seemed pretty nervous, not too smiley when
she said she was struggling with the other woman and
the other relationships and wasn't sure she was ready for
physical intimacy. Lydia, I give you great kudos. You know,
Joan did that on the Golden Bachelorette, and I think
(10:05):
you have to do what feels right to you, So
kudos to you. I did find it again maybe a
little bit of foreshadowing when she says she's thirty one
and she's ready to have kids and he's like, uh, well,
you know, I don't know kids. I mean, that seems
pretty fast to me, and I'm thinking, I don't know,
two years she's thirty three doesn't seem fast to me,
but whatever. I do have a lot of respect for
(10:29):
her though that she told him she didn't want to
hear about the other women, and I love the fact
that she and Katie talked about her telling Grant that
and she actually did it. So I love that she
said no sex. You know, it's it's it's simple. No
is a complete sentence. Grant took it well. I mean,
(10:51):
what's he going to do really at that point? What
can he say? But he tells Letilla he loves her,
which I don't know.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (11:00):
I'm sure somebody can correct me on this. I'm not
sure that on air another Bachelor told a woman he
loves her before they're at the altar getting the final rows.
I could be wrong, but he earnestly told Letia that
he loved her. So I'm hearing I'm hearing something in
(11:24):
my ear saying that Ben Higgins did, so I stand corrected.
But it's not common. It's not common to have that happen. So,
you know, Letia says that she loves that he makes
her feel safe and supported, and she wants a husband
who where she feels safety and support and kindness and understanding,
(11:46):
and we love each other. I mean, that's what I heard,
and it feels like we're supposed to be together. Wow,
to me, that just sounded like a proposal. I'm like, okay, maybe,
you know, maybe this is Letia not Juliana. How whoever
did everyone pick up on the fact Grant starts back
and out of that whoe? You know, maybe I spoke
(12:07):
too soon, you know, got caught up in the moment,
you know, and I wanted to say to him, Grant,
you know, when you get caught up in the moment,
you put too much chocolate sauce on your ice cream
or too many sprinkles. You don't tell a woman you
love her and you can see a life with her
that to me, maybe have gone a bit far. Again,
(12:27):
though he seems so uncomfortable in this whole thing with Litia.
Speaker 2 (12:33):
I don't know.
Speaker 1 (12:33):
I just don't know. But we know that Zoe and
Grant weren't in a place to get married. That comes
under duh. I think with Juliana and Letia, I think
he really is struggling. I think he really does love
(12:54):
both of them. You know, I should be so lucky
to have two guys fawning out for me, but I
see that it's a possibility.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
I love the fact that he spoke.
Speaker 1 (13:06):
With his parents, and you know, again, I hope people
didn't miss this fact. Again, as a mom and having children,
my husband's passed away, so I would not have this opportunity.
But the fact that his dad has been in rehab
and through the magic of production and television, his mother
and father are back together to talk to him, and
(13:30):
to me, that was a poignant scene that they were
together in support of their son. And again it kind
of makes me cry now. It's just I love that
that they are there to support their son because in
the end. You know, we created these kids, and we
need to love and support them whenever they need it.
Speaker 2 (13:47):
Sometimes when they don't need it, we need to do it.
Speaker 1 (13:50):
But I think the fact that his mother said, you know,
maybe or hinted at in the promos, you know, don't
choose either one, I don't know. I don't see that happening,
but maybe it does. I really do feel like he
is torn between two women.
Speaker 2 (14:08):
So I think in.
Speaker 1 (14:11):
Overall last night, Grant seems so uncomfortable to me, and
maybe just the reality of this is really coming down
to a proposal in two or three days. The only
time I thought he seemed really sure of himself was
when when Jesse said, do you know what you're going
to do tonight? And he said, yes, I do. I mean,
(14:34):
it was very emphatic yes. So again, I had made
several bets with my friends that Zoe was going home
and I was actually going to have to eat a
pile of dirt if I was wrong. So I'm really
glad I was right on that one. I don't know,
I've been saying it's letia. I want my hometown girl
Juliana to win. Putting Newton on the map. I don't
(14:55):
know at this point. I think it's a toss up.
I could see it going either way, and I can't wait.
I cannot wait to see where this goes. All in all,
it was a great night. Lots of drama, lots of happiness,
lots of sadness. Grant, I'm wishing you good luck. Okay, Well,
(15:16):
stay tuned for Grant's finale, And in the meantime, let's
get back to our good friend.
Speaker 2 (15:21):
Jared Freed.
Speaker 4 (15:30):
We're back with part two with Jared Freed, so let's
dive right back in.
Speaker 2 (15:34):
Are you ready, Jared? I'm ready?
Speaker 3 (15:36):
Are you Guys asked me what makes a good first
date to get to a second date. I would say,
I've thought about this. If I have to ask what
are you up to this weekend, then we've had just
a fine first date, not a great one, cause that's
like my arrow in the quiver of like, let's have
something else to talk about.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
Like, I think the quicker you're at what are you
doing this weekend?
Speaker 3 (15:59):
The worst the data is because like that means you're
not talking about nothing, which is a good first date.
Speaker 4 (16:05):
This week you want to see if you want to
see them again?
Speaker 3 (16:08):
Right?
Speaker 2 (16:08):
I think it would have to come at the end.
Speaker 3 (16:09):
If it's in the middle, I think if it happens quickly,
like if I'm asking that we've run out of things.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
To talk to me.
Speaker 1 (16:15):
If I ask you what kind of sneakers you have on,
we're done like you have on?
Speaker 2 (16:21):
If you get to like, you know.
Speaker 3 (16:24):
Like there's a question that if you feel you have
to ask it, you're on an okay date, not a
great date.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
R So how do you get the second day?
Speaker 4 (16:34):
I think if you're asking somebody what they're doing is
because you want to make sure you're involved in what
they're doing.
Speaker 3 (16:41):
Right, That's not where I'm more just like we got
to like fill the air here, you know, like I'm.
Speaker 4 (16:47):
We're never at a loss for words, really.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
You and I. That's why we got a second date.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
That's why I don't get a second date. That's why
I don't We just gotten second date. We got them
for a second episode.
Speaker 2 (16:58):
Yeah, this is.
Speaker 4 (17:01):
Not that's a filling. It's somewhat fulfilling.
Speaker 2 (17:04):
So wait, is there no girl in your life right now?
There's nobody.
Speaker 3 (17:08):
I I'm kind of Oh, I'm going I told you
I'm going to New Zealand tomorrow.
Speaker 2 (17:11):
You going by yourself going by myself.
Speaker 1 (17:13):
I uh, well, but you know what, how quickly they
forget since and I swear in the last episode part invited.
Speaker 2 (17:20):
Me to come with him. Thanks lunch. You know what,
you got a memory issue here? What you better have?
You better have to get that live flat suit.
Speaker 4 (17:28):
So you're going to perform, are you?
Speaker 2 (17:30):
Yah?
Speaker 3 (17:30):
I'm doing six shows or seven shows, uh, all around
the country, New Zealand and Australia.
Speaker 2 (17:36):
So yeah, it's it's yeah, it's weird. I don't know.
Speaker 3 (17:40):
I'm like I said it before, Like I'm like mixed emotions,
Like I remember being at my dad's fortieth birthday, Like
that's weird to me, And like, you know, it's hard.
I think that's the hardest part, the divide between like
maybe your generation of mine is like it's just different now,
like it's and and like you it's hard to not
judge yourself against your own childhood.
Speaker 2 (17:59):
You know.
Speaker 3 (18:00):
I think a lot of people in the dating world
deal with that, like they do the when my mom
was my age, when my dad was my age, and
you can't it's no.
Speaker 4 (18:09):
He's not a millennium were you you are? He's right
at the Yeah, let me tell you millennial. My daughter,
it's exactly the opposite. My daughter was like, Mom, I'm
never doing what you're doing. I'm never getting married when
i'm young. I'm not going to marry some guy from
upstate New York. Can I tell have you ever heard
(18:30):
of Auburn, New York?
Speaker 2 (18:32):
I've never heard of it.
Speaker 1 (18:33):
Exactly, that's where her husband's from. It's between Syracuse and Rancho.
She ended up doing the same, exactly right, she did.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
That's hilarious. Yeah, she doth protest too much. That's right.
She got married a little older than I did.
Speaker 3 (18:45):
But yeah, that's but even her saying you won't do
it is her comparing.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
You know, I love the version, loved it. Well.
Speaker 4 (18:52):
My daughter was like, it started about thirty seven and
she's raising kids, and the apologies they came in, Mom,
I am so I don't know how you dealt with us,
because she's dealing with teenagers now.
Speaker 2 (19:06):
It's not grandkids.
Speaker 3 (19:09):
Yes, unbelievable, Kathy, you no, I have a six year
old and a two year old granddaughter, two granddaughters.
Speaker 2 (19:16):
I have you guys have teen?
Speaker 4 (19:18):
Thirteen, twelve?
Speaker 3 (19:19):
Oh?
Speaker 2 (19:19):
Can I just tell you I hated my in laws.
I hated them. They would come over and give my
kids candy, and.
Speaker 4 (19:26):
They didn't like the steam.
Speaker 2 (19:28):
They didn't like me either, steam coming.
Speaker 1 (19:29):
Out of my can I tell you, I go from
my daughter's house, my granddaughter's name.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
I go over to say, Reese, what would you like?
I can't. My daughter goes nuts to say sorry, I
love being a grandmother. I spoiled Roddy. I'm starting to
hear that from my parents.
Speaker 3 (19:42):
They're like saying, and I never they never pushed us
to like get married. They never thought like it was
never like a topic. And now they're starting to be like,
we need grandkids. I'm like, when did this happen? You know?
Speaker 2 (19:53):
I think there's like do they have any grandkids at all?
Speaker 3 (19:56):
No, my brother got married almost a year ago and
he's four years younger.
Speaker 4 (20:01):
So to a Jewish woman.
Speaker 3 (20:04):
Jewish girl from Saint Louis, how'd they mean? It's actually
a crazy story. I went on a podcast called The
Latka Room, which is a Jewish sports podcast.
Speaker 2 (20:17):
It was during the pandemic. Great name it is two.
Speaker 3 (20:21):
It was like three Jewish guys who played pro Ish hockey.
Speaker 4 (20:25):
Great guys.
Speaker 2 (20:25):
This guy Johnny Lazarus.
Speaker 3 (20:26):
He's now like I think the podcast turned into a
good opportunity for them, Like he's now on you know
all this hockey shows?
Speaker 2 (20:33):
Yeah, And I went.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
On, and midway through I'm like, I'm not an athlete,
Like I don't know, maybe you should have known.
Speaker 2 (20:41):
Yeah, I was like.
Speaker 3 (20:42):
And so then my brother works in sports, so I
called him and I go, you got to listen to
this podcast. These idiots from Long Island have this like
dumb jewish podcast and and he I go, I think
you should maybe go on. He's like, I'm not going on,
but I was like, can you listen to see how
I sounded? And he goes and listens, and then the
next epic episode is his wife now wife. She goes
(21:04):
on and she's a sports uh sportscaster from Providence who
was moving to Miami to take on a big job
at the local NBC station.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
So she tells her whole story.
Speaker 3 (21:15):
She went to Michigan, she works in Providence, and she's,
you know, does sports. And my brother listens to the
whole episode, and then she goes moves to Miami and
they match on Hinge like within like a few out
and then they match and then he already knows everything
about her, and they go you know.
Speaker 2 (21:33):
Did he know did he know that it was the
same girl?
Speaker 3 (21:37):
Yeah, he knew every he knew her whole life story
because she just told it on this podcast.
Speaker 2 (21:41):
But no, I'm saying she knew she was did she know?
Not any no idea?
Speaker 3 (21:47):
So like he basically and I don't know how he
never really, I don't know how quickly he told her this,
but he kind of already knew about her.
Speaker 2 (21:55):
That is so cool.
Speaker 3 (21:56):
They had like a COVID day like on a bench,
and then within a year they're moving in together and
I'm moving out with my ax.
Speaker 2 (22:03):
Like we went in two different directions. So, oh, you
hold on, you lived with a woman. I lived with
a woman for a year. Did you put her? Did
you put your socks in the hamper? Is that why
you're asked? That's why she she dumped me because of
the socks that. I don't know how you knew that.
Speaker 4 (22:19):
Do you have a type, Jared, Yeah.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
I have? You know, I definitely have a type.
Speaker 3 (22:25):
I like curvy, you know, dark hair women, that's like
my that's the look I generally. But I'll fuck anyone,
you know, Like I just want to make sure that
people know this, Like I'll have sex with.
Speaker 2 (22:38):
That's just pretty much any type of woman.
Speaker 1 (22:40):
But yeah, but what do you do when the next
morning they say, like they're on the Bachelor, I think
I've met my future husband.
Speaker 2 (22:47):
What do you say?
Speaker 4 (22:48):
Do you?
Speaker 1 (22:49):
Generally, I say, this guy's got a vase of roses
in the other room.
Speaker 2 (22:55):
He just brings it out in hands.
Speaker 3 (22:56):
About I'm like, here's you know, I'm like Derek Jeter,
you can give that the gift back. No, I see,
that's the thing. I'm not, like, I'm not a fuck
guy like I've been talking with this on stage a lot,
because like, I'm not like a guy who like goes
out and is like I gotta get with a woman tonight.
Like I'm more like a I gotta get with pizza
tonight like guy like I I so like, which is
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like that's like, so I I generally am lazy when
it comes to dating, you know, and pursuing, which is
like something I don't like about myself because I wish
I was more like I wish I was like, you
don't have pursuing.
Speaker 2 (23:31):
I know, but I I just you know, so you know.
Speaker 3 (23:35):
Women don't DM me to like get with me like
they I get DM by the mom to like go
on a date with their daughter, like this happened. I'll
tell you this, this is crazy. The other night, I'm
at the comedy seller. I'm performing and I'm doing my
new material, which is like whatever, but it's about how
I went to Europe alone. So I'm talking about going
to Europe alone and how I hated it, like I
didn't fuck one woman in Europe, like it's a whole thing.
Speaker 2 (23:57):
And he knows he doesn't talk about the wine.
Speaker 4 (24:02):
Views wine on the train is fabulous and everything.
Speaker 3 (24:07):
I'm with you, Susan, I love everything about going to Europe,
don't get me wrong, except you know, the women don't
want to fuck me. So I I'm talking about this
and it's like my sad single story. Because sometimes when
you're working material, you go down a direction You're like, ah.
Speaker 2 (24:19):
This is how I want to sound, but this is
how I'm sounding.
Speaker 3 (24:22):
So then I get off stage and the host is
on stage and he's talking to me from on stage.
Suddenly a woman of the right she goes, Jared, Jared,
you got to meet my daughter. You got to meet
my daughter. I go, I go where is she? She
goes just right here and I go in the middle
of the room, like, and the host is like, Jared,
what's going on over there? I go, I think she's
trying to fix me up with her daughter. And she
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goes and he goes, what does she look like? I go,
I don't know, Like I'm like embarrassed. All of a sudden,
another girl comes up to me and is on my right,
and I look, and this new woman goes, you got
to meet my friend, And I go, is this happening?
Speaker 2 (24:55):
Twice? I go, where's your friend? She goes upstairs?
Speaker 3 (24:58):
I go, this is too awkward for me, Like I
feel uncomfortable, like I'm upstairs right, I know, And it's
like water, water everywhere, not a drop to drink, because
like this isn't like how I'm going to meet someone
like this is, and and like I this is why
no one wants to hear from single men. No one
wants to hear from single men, because like all these women,
they don't want to fuck me. They just want to go,
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let's go on a date and have a good time
and feel safe and then we'll see like.
Speaker 1 (25:25):
And it's got to be a good restaurant and all
those things.
Speaker 3 (25:29):
So now I'm getting asked to pay for them like
you know, like this is like so it's like I
can't afford it. I I don't have the time, I
don't have the energy. And I feel bad because like
they're not wrong, like it's I should be. I'm actually
like I'm I'm like, I'm I am truly like I
feel very flattered, like but they get this.
Speaker 4 (25:48):
Two pack right. You don't work when you leave so hard.
Speaker 2 (25:56):
I got two muscles in.
Speaker 4 (25:58):
There they're both working on.
Speaker 3 (26:00):
And you're a great audience member. I would have you
at any show. Kathy would be at the show the
whole time.
Speaker 2 (26:04):
What is he saying? What's going on? I got what
are you talking about?
Speaker 1 (26:11):
I hear every word you're saying. What the hell is
wrong with you talking about that? For you? I have
a question, Jared, this is a really important one.
Speaker 2 (26:21):
Sure you're the best. Do you say Jared or Jared.
Speaker 3 (26:27):
I've got I don't. I've never thought about it.
Speaker 1 (26:32):
If you're from Jared Jared, I would say Jared, and
you would say Carrie because.
Speaker 2 (26:36):
You carry, and I'd say rum instead of room.
Speaker 4 (26:39):
I said.
Speaker 2 (26:43):
North, Kathy, were you near South? Excuse me?
Speaker 1 (26:48):
I grew up in West Newton, right near Brayburn Country
Club and I'm so old. It wasn't North or South.
I went to Newton High School, which is now Newton North.
Speaker 3 (26:58):
Really my dad went to South. My uncles and aunts,
they were all they lived on it.
Speaker 2 (27:05):
You know Cynthia Road. Oh my god, that's right down
the road from where I grew up. Yeah, that's what
I know. Would I know them? Well, my last name's Free,
so well.
Speaker 1 (27:14):
That doesn't excuse me. It doesn't take excuse me. It
does not take an m b A to know that.
Just because your last name is Freed does not fair.
Speaker 3 (27:25):
But they were the Freeds, and like my my dad
has three siblings, so it's like they went up and
down the age range.
Speaker 2 (27:30):
But that's very cool. No, and your dad went to
Newton High I think Cynthia Road was just on the border.
Speaker 1 (27:39):
You're right, right, And because I lived by this wobbin
signed wobbin was Newton.
Speaker 3 (27:45):
South, I know exactly because we used to drive by
that other golf course where we'd go sledding all the time.
Yeah if that was Brayburn, the big Kill, Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (27:58):
You know that you were not allowed to be on
that hill. You know that. You tell me you three
thousand people.
Speaker 4 (28:06):
Jarre believe it or not, We're going to ask you
to help. Just sh out some advice from These people
are fans that write in Okaya, I love.
Speaker 3 (28:16):
I love having impact on people's lives that are not
my own.
Speaker 4 (28:21):
Okay, so here we go. This one is from Linda.
So I think my boyfriend's sister hates my guts. What
do I do? I met his family for the first
time last week, and it was so awkward. Every time
I would try to talk during dinner with him, his
sister or his parents, his sister would bring something up
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that only they could talk about, like inside jokes from
the past family vacations, and would just say, oh, sorry,
you had to be there. She was constantly making snide
comments like I wish I had a silly little job
like yours. Being a nurse is so exhausting. I have
no idea what I could have done. My boyfriend apologized
(29:04):
for his sister's behavior after we left, but said she's
just always been a little bit of a pret I
think it's a lot more than that, lol. She writes,
what does this mean? Why does she act like this
around me? Is she jealous? His parents allegedly like me,
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but they fed into everything his sister was doing at dinner.
So I'm a little put off. What do I do now?
And thank you?
Speaker 2 (29:34):
This is a tough situation for this one.
Speaker 4 (29:37):
See, she has to have your your vocab, your your
quickness and come back for something.
Speaker 2 (29:44):
I just think, like this sister stinks. She's a tough hang.
Speaker 3 (29:48):
I actually take the guy for his word, Like, I
think she's used to being with men.
Speaker 2 (29:55):
Like my I'm my.
Speaker 3 (29:57):
Brother and I okay, Like we have no sisters, so
my mom is the sister.
Speaker 2 (30:01):
My mom is the one woman in the house, so
like it is.
Speaker 3 (30:04):
But yeah, but then for any woman that tries to
come in, she's a big fucking pain in the ass.
And she and I talk about this on stage a lot,
like it's like and also if I don't date so weird,
this is weird. I'm admitting this is weird if I
don't date someone that if I date someone that my
mom is like, it's different from my mom. My mom
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takes that as an offense to her, like because I'm choosing,
it's it's as if I'm choosing, not against her. So
this is how out of their minds women are. So
like this is so like this sister, like she has
to not take it personally and also understand that her
brother or that her boyfriend has no clue how to
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handle this situation.
Speaker 4 (30:49):
All ten, how about her saying about her silly little
job like yours? Yeah right, I.
Speaker 3 (30:58):
Mean, I don't think this is anything new for this family,
Like when he says that, like, I think this is like,
like I actually think like to take this personally, like
is the mistake? She right, you have to trust your boyfriend,
and I would get more you know, curious with your boyfriend,
like I would get more curious as to the sister's story.
(31:20):
The more you hear about the sister story, the more
you're gonna understand why she sucks so much. She's gonna
be Oh, she can never keep a job, she could
never get a boyfriend, she can never she always had
issues in school, she never had like a big group
of friends. You're gonna and then the more you hear
about the more you're gonna feel bad.
Speaker 1 (31:33):
But she's so you should just be nice to her
and move on, right, Be nice to you got a
good boyfriend who cares.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
It's her problem, right.
Speaker 3 (31:41):
While she's doing this, just keep be a great listener,
Be a great listener, Great listeners are great talkers. So
the ked to good comedy is listening. And it's like,
I think, if she just listens to her boyfriend and
like the story of the sister, if the next time
they go over, she's just a listener.
Speaker 2 (32:01):
She's not trying to be it. You know, don't spar
with her.
Speaker 3 (32:04):
She's not worth sparring it because even the parents, even
the parents, she says, the parents, his parents allegedly like me,
but they fit into everything his sister was doing at dinner. Yeah, yeah,
the parents are like, I don't want to deal with
this either.
Speaker 2 (32:14):
She stinks.
Speaker 3 (32:16):
If the parents could tell you, they would be like,
we fucking hate her, but we have to deal with
her and just we pay the bills.
Speaker 2 (32:21):
So she shut the fuck up.
Speaker 4 (32:22):
And Linda's saying, why does she act like this around me?
It's not about you, Linda, it is it. Don't take
it personally. She's just wants to be the center of attention.
Speaker 2 (32:32):
Absolutely, it might not be us.
Speaker 4 (32:34):
What does she have to be jealous of her? That's
her brother right.
Speaker 3 (32:37):
Well, here's the even crazier part. This is the one
place she had ownership of where people couldn't leave her.
Speaker 2 (32:43):
It's her family. They have to deal with her so
like you've now entered, do they? But do they?
Speaker 3 (32:49):
Right? They do this dinner with her? Why is she
so free to meet her, you know, be at this
family dinner. She should be out with her own friends.
Speaker 4 (32:55):
Well, Linda is put off by this, and laugh at
her jokes and get through it and leave. You don't
have to do it constantly.
Speaker 3 (33:04):
My best advice to Linda is to laugh at it
with your boyfriend and not get personally.
Speaker 2 (33:08):
Offended by it. Laugh at it, laugh with him, include
him on the joke about her.
Speaker 3 (33:13):
But the only way you get there is to be
curious about her, ask about her life, care for her,
empathize with her.
Speaker 2 (33:18):
Position.
Speaker 1 (33:19):
God Jared's kindness, Jared, that's just so kind of you.
Speaker 5 (33:26):
Bless you now that means you don't say that, all right,
Moving on to the next one.
Speaker 1 (33:39):
Anonymous, good yeah, really good luck. Okay, Oh my god.
I really need you guys to help me. I have
been paranoid for the past two months that my boyfriend
of three years and my best friend of five years
are sleeping together. When I first sat down to write
into you, guys, I was going to ask for adviy
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some what to do next. Looking back, I really wish
I would have done that. I decided to take matters
into my own hands and confront them both. Well, turns
out I was definitely.
Speaker 2 (34:13):
Wrong best friend, that's the catch. She wished she was
right now.
Speaker 1 (34:18):
So I had my best friend come over and confronted
them both that I knew what was going on. Not
only did they each let me look through their phones
without flinching, but it also didn't take long for me
to realize that I was completely in the wrong.
Speaker 2 (34:34):
So how do I do damage control?
Speaker 1 (34:37):
My boyfriend asked for some space ha and we haven't
talked outside of good morning and good night. We lived together.
My best friend hasn't talked to me since the incident.
I totally went in accusing them, and I really don't
want to lose either of them, let alone both. Any
advice would be great, Please help me and thank you?
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What say you, Jared?
Speaker 3 (35:00):
This is like the worst case scenario, like because not
only like I don't want to scare her anymore, but
now the boyfriend is like, maybe I could have Rachel,
you know, like there's a little bit and I'm not listen,
I'm gonna get I'm gonna like I'm gonna give her
some like I think, like the one thing I will
(35:21):
let me just like let her not feel crazy something
is wrong in her relationship, Like I I think that's
the one thing she has to like be okay acknowledging
and like she she can't lose faith in her own feelings,
like you.
Speaker 2 (35:36):
She's not a crazy person, reason right.
Speaker 3 (35:39):
And I think it starts with her like seeking out
professional help and like going getting to the root of like.
Speaker 2 (35:45):
Jared just jumps right to it, she needs professional help
in men she does. I mean, you did your big
detective moment.
Speaker 3 (35:55):
Okay, I'm just saying, like I think she has to
start with like where does the jealous he come from?
Is it a personal issue or is the relationship off?
And she's trying to make this off relationship work. Whenever
you're in a relationship that like someone isn't trying and
you're trying, you're like, am I crazy? So it seems
like she's in this relationship where like I'm not trying
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to blame him now that she's done him. She did
her friend and him wrong, but like where did that
come from? Like I think she has to get to
the root of like why.
Speaker 1 (36:25):
Usually you know I always say, problems in a marriage,
problems in a relationship are often not what you're seeing.
It's usually a symbol or a sign of something deeper
that's going on, you know.
Speaker 3 (36:36):
Right, And she probably saw her best friend and him
enjoying each other's company in the way she's not enjoying
her company with him, and she's like, why are they
You know, I'm watching the relationship.
Speaker 1 (36:48):
I would want I should have gone to medical school
and been a psychiatrist.
Speaker 2 (36:53):
Well, ten years, ten years of how are you feeling today?
Talk to me about it? That's right.
Speaker 3 (37:00):
The U podcasts, you can get these pearls every week
twice a week on the UF podcast. I know, but
I will say it is her seeing them be this
like fun time. She's like, well, why don't we have fun?
And I think right, and it's like, so you have
to figure out And again that might mean a breakup,
That might mean that this is in the relation.
Speaker 2 (37:21):
But like I do think it is crazy.
Speaker 3 (37:25):
To like get that far be like ah and then
be like wait, wait, hold.
Speaker 4 (37:32):
It, hold it. I gotta be that other person. People
are really good at deleting messages, and it could have
happened and those two are.
Speaker 2 (37:41):
Going they were right. No, no, no, she believe them when
they were there, they.
Speaker 3 (37:45):
Were Susan, I actually think that's like there there is
a percentage chance that these two are Body and Clyde
and they are the greatest. Like to me, I don't
have the energy like right they I don't have the
energy to like go this, like why go this far?
Just break up and be together and like stop fucking
with this woman.
Speaker 2 (38:04):
But I good because I always.
Speaker 3 (38:06):
Like when I when I hear these questions, I always
lean on the side, like I believe in the bell
curve of life, like most of us are ten percent
away from each other. So like in my mind, I'd
be like, this is my chance to break up with her,
Like I I like, I don't want to be in
this relationship.
Speaker 2 (38:20):
He's only saying good night. I think this is what
he's gonna end up doing. And yeah, I think.
Speaker 4 (38:28):
This relationship him and says okay, I fucked up. Either
to hate me forever. I'm sorry if she loses him.
Speaker 1 (38:36):
You know what, Anonymous? You being serious? Now you learned
the lesson of your life. I hope, well I will
say this.
Speaker 3 (38:42):
I actually I care for this emailer because they're never
gonna like trust themselves again. But I do want to
encourage them that like something was off, so like if
there was end this and if you end this, like
if he doesn't end this and you guys try to
work this out, Okay, you have to get to the
root of where the jealousy comes from.
Speaker 2 (39:03):
But like if he's like, I'm out, you know.
Speaker 3 (39:05):
You accuse me of this and something, well, something that
was something he was looking to be dumped, and guys
love being dumped.
Speaker 2 (39:13):
Okay. Every man wants to be dumped, okay, because they
want to be the dump war and not the dumpy.
Speaker 3 (39:21):
They want to be the dumpy, dump me, dump me
to I don't want to be the evil one. I
don't want to be the one that waste your time.
I don't want to be the guy that like that
you go to your brunch table and you're like and
he said he doesn't like my grandmother, Like, I don't
want to be that person. I want to disappear, Like
it takes me in the future, right, it takes me
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for ever forever.
Speaker 4 (39:43):
Cat He's like, just tell.
Speaker 1 (39:46):
I can't do that, right because I actually do it
very recently, very real.
Speaker 2 (39:55):
What time is it?
Speaker 1 (39:56):
It's not all Right before we go, I was saying,
and I want to hear was it amazing?
Speaker 2 (40:02):
I want to go.
Speaker 4 (40:03):
We've replaced for a whole month. Next year, come next
year with us, Come with us for a month a month.
I'll come back in two weeks, do some things and
go right back.
Speaker 2 (40:12):
Is it like a timeshare type of things? Like it's
paid for? The ask? It's fabulous.
Speaker 1 (40:20):
Of the water, the people being serious, No, all humor aside.
The people there are the most kind, generous.
Speaker 2 (40:28):
Loving, warm. You just feel like family the minute you
get there. It's crazy. I love that. Good for you guys,
and we make friends.
Speaker 4 (40:34):
We're welcome back.
Speaker 1 (40:36):
We'll get you, we'll get your day coming, We'll get
your or we'll get you.
Speaker 2 (40:41):
Take your parents. But they're French to eat and.
Speaker 1 (40:45):
We stay on the side, not food outside. All right,
before we go there, we're gonna play a quick game
with you. Okay, oh boy, wait, we didn't ask. Do
you have any questions for us or advice for us?
Speaker 2 (40:58):
Do I have any questions? Yeah? Advice? Okay, anything you
want to know about us? No, not particular.
Speaker 4 (41:05):
No, you're that date that says we're ended it here.
Speaker 2 (41:12):
I'm going to Australia.
Speaker 3 (41:14):
What would you say I should do to like pick
up a woman while I'm in Australia? What what would
you guys want? How would I? How would you do it?
How would you want to be picked up?
Speaker 4 (41:24):
Wait a minute, did you not hear the question? Do
you have or advice for us?
Speaker 2 (41:30):
Us?
Speaker 4 (41:31):
Why is it about you? Derek? Yeah? You know stage.
Speaker 2 (41:42):
I will say one thing, I will answer a question.
Ask you for advice?
Speaker 1 (41:47):
Jared, you have a beautiful smile. Smile for woman and
say can I buy you?
Speaker 4 (41:51):
Look at that? Do not love that face?
Speaker 2 (41:53):
Thank you? All right? Now what's our advice?
Speaker 4 (41:55):
Do you want to have some coffee? Do you want
to listen to the kangaroos?
Speaker 2 (42:00):
Where's it? Sounds like she's gonna like kill a kangaroo?
You want to see a kangaroo? Watch what I do
to the kangaroo? Who owes me money? That pouch looks
a little thick kangaroo.
Speaker 4 (42:12):
I like the animals to stay over there.
Speaker 1 (42:15):
Yeah, okay, he's got no.
Speaker 3 (42:18):
Guys, keep doing what you're doing. I don't what you
guys gonna need my advice?
Speaker 2 (42:22):
You kidding?
Speaker 4 (42:23):
In love? In relationships?
Speaker 2 (42:25):
The hell? He doesn't know sh about love?
Speaker 4 (42:27):
Why are we asking him nothing really next.
Speaker 2 (42:31):
Yeah, you asked the question. All right, we're gonna play.
Here we go.
Speaker 1 (42:36):
We're gonna play a golden classic. Never have I ever
love it? Okay, So here we go. You're gonna fess up, Jared,
we're putting on the spot. All right, give us one.
Speaker 2 (42:52):
Do you want me to do one? Yeah?
Speaker 4 (42:54):
Never had I ever?
Speaker 3 (42:57):
Never have I ever eaten something out of the trash. Oh? Neither?
Speaker 2 (43:05):
Eh, it's right you Okay, I drank? I did I have?
It was on top of the trash. You did.
Speaker 4 (43:15):
You were pretty damn thirsty or drunk. Were in the desert,
a little drunk desert. He's drunk.
Speaker 2 (43:25):
I don't know. You put me on the spot.
Speaker 4 (43:27):
I can't really. I hate this game.
Speaker 2 (43:29):
Never have I ever, never ever ever sucked on someone's foot,
I Amy, you have you have? Well, they're Tyler's not
their foot.
Speaker 4 (43:41):
That's like a foot fetish thing or is it just
in the moment?
Speaker 2 (43:44):
It was definitely a foot fetish things in the moment.
It was in the moment. Said, really, what happened he
got clean nails? I mean, what happened?
Speaker 3 (43:58):
Well in the moment. Okay, Kathy, let me ask you
a serious question. You're in each other's arms.
Speaker 4 (44:03):
You can you don't understand she is straighter than straight.
She obeys the law, she follows.
Speaker 2 (44:14):
How many episodes have you've done? I finally got to
the good stuff with Kathy.
Speaker 3 (44:18):
Let me just say, I just know that, like, I'm
not a I'm not a foot guy like you know
you hear these foot love the feet?
Speaker 2 (44:25):
I you are you an asked guy? A boot guy?
Who are you? I bet your guy? I am an
asked guy.
Speaker 3 (44:33):
I like a big a, but no, I like curvy
women like I like, yeah, I asked, and titty.
Speaker 2 (44:40):
I'll take them both tits and for kids.
Speaker 3 (44:43):
I've never sucked on the toes, but I just don't
understand how it happens.
Speaker 1 (44:48):
Just no, I've actually I've never sucked on toes. I've
had my toes sucked. You've had so that guy has
he had that?
Speaker 2 (44:57):
I don't know. I didn't.
Speaker 3 (44:58):
I didn't say could we stop kissing down your body?
And then all of a sudden you're like, how low
are you gonna go? And you're like you're gonna kiss
my shin? And he's like, I'll keep going, and then
all of a sudden he's.
Speaker 2 (45:08):
Jared. You had to be there in the moment. You
know you had to be there. I think, I don't think.
I think I just want to I.
Speaker 1 (45:15):
Just want to address one thing here with Susan. She
talks about me following the rules. I don't know, Jared,
you tell me. We are on little Whining Roads in
Saint Martin and she's chip chatting with somebody on WhatsApp
in her hand while she's driving, hitting the corner.
Speaker 2 (45:31):
It's like we're playing bumper pool going and I'm like, Susan, stop,
what's all right? I know where I'm going. I'm like,
I see my life in front of my eyes. I
love that.
Speaker 3 (45:40):
Kathy's so mad that you said that she's a rule follower,
and she's like, no, I'll tell you I was feary.
Speaker 4 (45:46):
I am more.
Speaker 1 (45:47):
I will say I'm more of a rule follower than Susan.
I will say that. But you know what, you know what?
Speaker 6 (45:53):
What?
Speaker 4 (45:53):
Why are we talking about rules? We're talking about toes.
Speaker 2 (45:55):
I can't imagine.
Speaker 3 (45:57):
I can't imagine sucking on Kathy's toes.
Speaker 4 (46:04):
Toe.
Speaker 2 (46:04):
I think you're gonna wipe them off. You're gonna use
a paper towel.
Speaker 4 (46:07):
Just what if you were on barefoot on the beach.
Speaker 2 (46:09):
That what don't ruin here? It did? I got one yesterday.
We're all good.
Speaker 3 (46:16):
Now.
Speaker 4 (46:16):
I let somebody massage them. You can get the oils
and massage.
Speaker 1 (46:22):
There's so many things running through my head right now
that I can that. It's so not PG that I cannot.
Speaker 3 (46:27):
This is why it's This is why I.
Speaker 4 (46:31):
To think it's something that's not PEG. It's like she's
killing that, she's dying over there.
Speaker 2 (46:37):
I'm so happy.
Speaker 6 (46:38):
I went from eating out of the trash to you
know what, I never had the rules come out to
the rules so much that she answered, honestly to has
toes been in like you could just lie?
Speaker 2 (46:53):
I did? I said I had.
Speaker 4 (46:55):
I have never have I ever sucked toes?
Speaker 2 (47:01):
Oh that's that was creative? Can you do any better? Okay?
Speaker 1 (47:06):
Never have I ever hooked up with a guy in
a foreign country?
Speaker 2 (47:14):
I haven't I have? She has good for you, Susan.
What country?
Speaker 4 (47:20):
Italy?
Speaker 2 (47:22):
Italy?
Speaker 4 (47:23):
Italy in Florence.
Speaker 2 (47:25):
Actually I studied abroad in Florence.
Speaker 4 (47:28):
Where'd you go to school?
Speaker 2 (47:31):
Jared? Penn State? Penn State. You spoiled little child, that's right,
not Penn. This is what. No, she doesn't know.
Speaker 1 (47:42):
I was the education of the tongue. Yeah, you went
to the dumb one, the Ivy league. He went to
the one where people He went to the one where
people who can't go to the ivy leagues and want
to be in Pennsylvania.
Speaker 2 (47:54):
That's where they go.
Speaker 4 (47:55):
That's all. That's right, that's right. All right, end this game, okay,
because I don't like.
Speaker 2 (48:00):
All right, all right, we're done. All right, you know what.
I hate to do this, but we actually do have
to wrap. I know Jared's got to get out and
look for widness.
Speaker 1 (48:10):
I got to go to Australia. I gotta go to
Happy Happy, Happy birthday to you. Really truly, I appreciate it.
You know what pleasure talking with you guys. Say good
night and goodbye to your thirties. My last few hours
I got.
Speaker 4 (48:24):
Do you feel a certain way with the forties?
Speaker 3 (48:26):
I feel I get reflective on birthdays? I never like
think the year doesn't matter as much as the passing
of a year, like did I accomplish what I want?
Speaker 2 (48:34):
Did I?
Speaker 3 (48:35):
You know? Do I feel like I I've.
Speaker 2 (48:38):
Evolved And that's kind of tough for me to deal with.
Speaker 4 (48:43):
So on your team, we think you're Greatthday. I threw
a black tie event.
Speaker 2 (48:53):
That's wonderful.
Speaker 4 (48:54):
It was the people were leaving going this was better
than any wedding I've ever went to.
Speaker 2 (48:59):
Right because no ceremonies to get here, and I'm the.
Speaker 1 (49:04):
Weirdo who takes it a step further. I don't, I don't.
I can't tell you what I did on my fourith birthday,
my fiftieth birthday, I said, I don't care because to me,
I don't count the years. I just look at my life.
Am I being excuse to have a party?
Speaker 2 (49:19):
Cat, that's a different thing.
Speaker 3 (49:20):
You can have a question, udgy answer, Cathyty.
Speaker 4 (49:24):
You could know.
Speaker 2 (49:25):
I said, have a party. Whenever the fuck you want
to have a party, I said, I don't. I don't.
Speaker 4 (49:35):
On that note, we got to rock because we're gonna
get fired. I think I don't know.
Speaker 2 (49:40):
Don't get fired? All right, listen, Thank you guys.
Speaker 1 (49:44):
Make sure you make sure to submit your questions to us.
Go to Bachelor nation dot com, flash Golden Hour, or
d m us on Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour.
Speaker 4 (49:56):
Thank you to our best guest ever, Jared. We hope
that somebody comes and wants to have a cup of coffee.
Speaker 1 (50:04):
With you while you're out, out of there. We want it.
In the meantime, Kim and Jerry, we love your son.
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