July 23, 2025 • 37 mins
Today on “Golden Hour,” Kathy and Susan are answering your questions about their cruise vacation! They’re diving into many topics, and we kick things off with the question of the day: What is it like intermixing age groups while on vacation? Then, we get into their cruise updates. We hear all about their adventures in Athens and what’s to come on this trip. Next, they get into your questions! From falling short in the bedroom to financial woes halting relationships, we’re here to help! Plus, we end this vacation episode with a round of “Icky or Picky.” Tune in now to hear all this and more and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode!
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Welcome back everybody, the Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. You
have no idea what Kathy and I've been up to.
We're so happy to be back, Katy say hello, oh
my goodness, hello hello. Today we're going to answer more
of your fan questions. Make sure you're submitting those. We
love reading them.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
All you have to do is go to bachelornation dot
com slash Golden Hour and submit all your questions, comments, everything.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
Yes, send us everything, because we're here for you and
you know, we talk about everything and we try to
give the best advice that we can. And you know
what else you can also dm us on Instagram at
Bachelor Happy Hour.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Okay, before we get into today's episode, we have to
give you guys updates on our crew. So far, Susan
and I are on a twelve day cruise to eleven
eleven okay, eleven, who's counting eleven days? We're doing Istanbul, Turkey.
(01:10):
We're starting in Athens, Greece, and oh my gosh, I
don't even know where to begin.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
You want to talk about Athens? Kathy was so impressed
with Athens. I mean we basically hiked and then hit
every store every restaurant. We only had twenty four hours.
But how about the hotel. We had a little boutique
hotel rate in the center of everything, and was such
a doll baby. We have a new friend, he was.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
So let me say, for all of you who don't know,
Susan loves to shop. So we shopped till we dropped
on the first day. And then I was going to
the Acropolis, come hell or high water. So I got
up the next morning really early, and I went up.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
You and I no, no, no, no no.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
We climbed up and we saw the videos out there,
saw the sunset. We did climb up. I wanted to
go in.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
I wanted to touch the bas because it was too late.
There's yes, so at a certain time whatever, whatever. But
the views, how about it? And the rooftop of our hotel.
We looked at the Acropolis. I mean, it's just phenomenal.
You were it was phenomenal. And they light the Acropolis
(02:31):
up and night with four flights. But then I could
not leave Athens Grease without going, so Susan wanted to
sleep in a little bit. So Pathy got up by
herself and trucked up to the Acropolis. Found a shortcut,
you know, climbed through these beautiful streets and got in
and there were no tickets available, and I am so
(02:52):
proud of myself. I talked my way in and I
bought a ticket, and I got to walk around and
see the arthan On and you know these thousands of
year old structures, said, are incredible. Yes, yes, Kathy, what
happened Kathy that you said? You actually pulled out? Your
(03:12):
friend said, I need the video of this. You we
were trying to get in somewhere or something like. What
was it? I don't know. I mean, that's amazing. When
I asked, so if.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Susan does we get right in what all that happened?
I don't know, but we But let me just tell
you if y'all have not been to Athens, Greeze, and
you have not, so many of these World UNESCO sites
are amazing. And I will tell you the acrop list
is not disappoint You get up there and you're walking
and you can just feel the Greek mythology. You can
(03:47):
feel the gods. They're talking to you, Athena, Apollo, all
those guys, they're all up there. It was an amazing day.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
And then what do we do feel, feel and taste
the food. It was unbelievable. I mean they know how
to cook. I enjoy food from every country. However, we
just got to Istanbul and we'll tell you about that later,
and that.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
We haven't a discoveredy yet, but we're going to do it. Yes,
we're getting ready to so An, it's cruise ship. Wait,
one more thing. I have to say. This cruise ship
is amazing. The food is to die for. There's more restaurants.
In fact, I think, Susan, I haven't said this to
you yet. I think I could live on a cruise ship.
(04:33):
I don't need a bigger bedroom than what I have. Wait,
did you food for you? Did you know that, senior citizen?
This isn't known fact.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
It's been printed that many retire women, older women book
back to back cruises, like all year round. That's all
they do is cruise and it's probably cheaper than paying rent.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
Well, you know that is an idea. And I will say,
the people we are so friendly. You and I have
made so many friends. We just got on this ship
a few days ago and we've made so many friends.
So I highly recommend it. I just think it's fabulous
food entertainment and someone comes in and makes my bed
every day.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
The service is impeccable. Our little room Stewarts, they're here
every day. You come in in the afternoon. There's always
fresh ice, fresh sparkling water or still water. Everything's pristine.
It's a nice way to go and we love sharing
all this stuff with you. We have a lot more
to come, so stay tuned and thank you for letting
us share.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
And let me just say, We've only been on this
ship a few days, but I get fresh towels, I
get something to make my bed. Susan, I hate to
tell you I may not ever get off this ship,
so just say, you know, we are.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Having a great time.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
All right, Let's get into the episode, and let's start
with the question of the day. What is it like
for you interacting with younger people when you're on vacation.
What are the dynamics of the cruise you're on now?
In terms of ages? Is it a lot of different ages?
You know, tell tell us what you think. What do
you think is isn't it?
Speaker 1 (06:11):
That is one of the most amazing things. I've been
on several several cruises and a lot with children. This
is adults only. It is totally different than any cruise
that I've been on. Actually, there's a mixture of ages.
There are some younger ones and much older, so everybody
kind of floats. There's short ones, tall ones, you know
(06:35):
what I mean. Here's what I there's a lot of
gay influence. There's a few, and the shows are fabulous.
But I don't have a problem dealing with We made
young friends. Kathy, the Charlie who don't stop texting us.
He likes to chat.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
We have found that if your whether you're sitting at
the pool, sitting at a restaurant, sitting at a bar,
people just lean over. It doesn't matter what their ages,
they just want to chat. They're friendly. Everybody starts a
conversation with where are you from? And everybody knows somebody
(07:10):
from your hometown. So it's like this sort of built in,
great little community. And every day you meet new people
and you sit with new people, and you just feel
like you have this great new group of friends. We've
already exchanged phone numbers.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
And don't you find, Kathy that everybody's happy, they're on vacation,
everybody's in a good mood. They want to know who's
next to you. And fortunately for us, they kind of
a lot of people have recognized us. So we get
to mingle and take pictures with these people and they
you know that they love that we're normal, well not normal,
(07:45):
but they love that we're social. And so many of
them have said to us, and I'll quit, I'm so
happy to see that you really are friends? Did you
remember that tat? How many times? Why do people think
that we're not? I don't know.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
I will say though, the other thing that the cruise
sets up that I don't think happens at other vacation spots.
There's bingo night, there's games night, there's karaoke nights. So
there's these fabulous set up plans for everybody, and it
doesn't matter what age you are.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
We were, you know.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
Clapping for a gentleman that was probably in his late
seventies singing at Brig Sinatru.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
I'm sorry, Kathy, I just jumped in there. I beg
your pardon. But how about that night you went to karaoke? Huh,
It's amazing. It's amazing.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
So I think I think that younger people and older
people on cruises had this unique opportunity to get to
know each other, make friends and really enjoy each other.
We've you know, I've shared pictures of my grandchildren and
my children, and people ask me all about Austin, Texas.
(08:55):
They want to come visit. It's really, you know, it's
it's sort of like COVID when you're on a ship
and you can't get off. You just start having these
great conversations. Nobody's on their phones. It's great.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
I recommend Lyley.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Now everybody's always happy. Yeah, it's a good time. It's
a good time. So what do you think cats? Should
we get into our fan questions?
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Absolutely, let's go for it.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Mel, Right, Hi, ladies, my friend and I adore your podcast.
I am curious about your thoughts on kids at weddings.
I'm getting married next year and I'm trying to decide
if there should be kids there or not. Also, any
other wedding planning advice you would have would be appreciated.
(09:53):
Thank you. Well, hey, you need to call me. Susan's
in efficient.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
But you know what my advice is, Mel run Off
and Elope, weddings are the most expensive thing on the planet.
The flowers are twice the price, the liquors twice the price.
Everything the musicians. I mean, but that isn't your question.
You asked if there should be kids or not, And
(10:19):
my thought is, talk to your fiance, see what she
or he would like to have, and if you guys,
come to a decision together. Because it is your day
and you get to do your wedding your way, and
that is my advice to you. I will say my
(10:40):
best wedding device is plan early, get it going early.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Because it's a lot to plan a wedding. Therefore, go
albe What about you, Susan, Yes, personally, it depends on
how formal your wedding is. There's some weddings that aren't
so formal, and I don't think it's a big deal
to have kids running around. However, if it were me
and you're asking me for my advice, absolutely no children
(11:05):
at a wedding. You want to enjoy yourself. The people
coming don't want to bring their kids unless you have
a babysitter upstairs in the hotel room. A wedding, I
think is for adults. If it's your own children, that's
a whole different story. Or if some the ring bearer
or maybe your niece or nephew, the bride, little flower
girl they stay for part of it and then go upstairs.
(11:27):
They shouldn't be there when the alcohol's being served and
so on. And Kathy, I'll second you on that start
early thing, because yeah, it is stressful, but if you
get things accomplished early on, then don't sweat the small
stuff because after all, well it's a wedding. Things are
(11:48):
going to go wrong. But just have fun.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
So two of the things I'm thinking about. One is
the little things that go wrong. Now, the only people
who are going to know are you? Are you, maybe
your fiance? No one else is going to notice, So
just have fun. No one's gonna notice. The other thing
I would say is, you guys have to work together
for this wedding, so really you've got to talk to
(12:13):
your fiance. You keep saying, I'm getting married, I want
to decide what to do. I think you really have
to plan it with your partner. And one thing I
said to my daughter when she got married, enjoy the
moment because you're not hopefully only doing this once. So
you know, hire a videographer, hire a photographer, do all that,
(12:36):
but try to enjoy the moment.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
If your wedding planning it, you're not enjoying it as
much as the moment. I agree. But you know what, Kathy,
just to remind you, man don't have a lot to
do with making the wedding plans. Do you agree or not.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
I think it depends on the age. I think it
totally depends on the age. That's true. That's true. And
we don't know how I yeah, we don't know how
old he is. But I think you know, I think
she had Times are changing, Susan, my daughter's husband.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
He helped plan the wedding.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
He had definite things he wanted at his wedding, and
that's why I say, I think it has to be
a combined effort.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
But Mal, don't forget to hire your officiant. Susan, were
you o boy? Well, I'm glad you wrote in. We
appreciate it and we wish you nothing but the best.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
Yeah, let us know, let us know how the wedding goes.
It said next year. But you know what, enjoyed the
time of your fiance because the wedding is going to
come a whole lot faster and you think it is.
And by the way, May suggests for a honeymoon, take
adult only cruise.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
You'll love it.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
It's so fun. There's lots of on our cruise. There
are lots of people who just got married.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
Yeah, he's going to have the cruise lines books solid
for the next ten years.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
It's not a bad way to go, Susan, not right,
Let's move on to the next one.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
This is from anonymous. Hi girls.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
First of all, I love you both and listen all
the time. I honestly catch myself refreshing Spotify just to
see if there's a new episode. Lately, though, I've been
feeling kind of sad and stuck. I've been with my
best friend and boyfriend for eight years. He truly is
my person. He's been by my side through thick and thin,
(14:32):
and I trust him with my whole heart, which is
a big deal for me. We're both twenty six and
trying our best, but we're struggling financially. He wants to
propose and get married, but says he won't feel right
doing that until he's financially stable, which I deeply respect.
But it's still hard. We don't live together yet, not
(14:53):
because we don't want to, but because life is so expensive.
We're both living at home trying to save, but no
matter how much we do. It never feels like enough.
Between student loans, car payments, and the cost of everything,
it feels impossible. We'd remove fine a house but be
happy with even a small apartment. Yet everything just feels
(15:14):
out of reach. I don't even know if I'm looking
for advice or just needing to vent, but lately life
just feels so heavy, especially when it seems like everyone
else is celebrating new beginnings while we're just treading water.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
Oh not, bless you know what, You're allowed to feel
these feelings. I mean, that's what makes us. But maybe
you need to sit down or hire somebody to help
you go on a specific kind of budget so that
you're saving X amount of dollars to achieve the goals
that you want. It is going to take some time,
(15:50):
and maybe you could have started this a while ago.
I get your staying you're surviving, but if you're living
at moms, then there is a way to be saving
some movie for starters.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Kathy, what do you yeah? I mean, I yeah, I
think this is tough. I mean, I don't know what
their jobs are. I don't know what you guys, I
don't know what you're doing. But student loans are really high,
the interest rates are high, car payments are high, insurance
is high. But if you're living at home and you
(16:22):
guys aren't able to save money, then I agree with Susan.
I think it's time to sort of reevaluate where your
money's going and set a budget because maybe you know,
you go out to dinner too much, maybe you buy
too many clothes, maybe one too many vacations. I don't
know what it is, but life can feel heavy when
(16:45):
the weight of financial pressure is on you. So Anonymous,
maybe get some advice on how to get on a
more stable footing with your with your partner. And if
you're feeling sad and stuck, maybe you've got some other
things going on in your life. I will say to you,
(17:05):
it doesn't matter what age you are. We all struggle.
We all have financial issues. It's about managing your money
and your time.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
And it does feel impossible that and the other trick
is it is going to take time. However, if you
are paying rent at home at first, I didn't think
you would be because your your parents student lines are
the worst. If you are and you're paying rent, then
maybe you could get a small apartment. Figure it out.
If you don't want to wait, you know that's a possibility,
(17:36):
but take a check, a self check on what you're
spending every week. Well, Kathy made me know it.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
And I was like, wow, I was going to say,
right down, I did this right down. You know, look
at where you're spending your money and write down every
dollar you spend for a month. And I think you
and your partner will see that you're probably spending money
in ways that you can cut and put towards a
(18:04):
savings for an apartment. So you know, do that first.
Try and give yourself you've heard of a fit check,
give yourself a budget check.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
And decide what you're going to save out of each paycheck.
And I don't care how short you are that week,
you save that amount that goes first. My dad taught
me that that was a little hard to do. It
really was. But we wish you luck and let us know,
let us know, don't get so depressed over it, because
it's life, it's part of it. Your want and need
(18:36):
for this should make you pull back a little bit
and make it happen. You can make it happen.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
Yeah, yes, you know what I learned a long time ago.
There is always more month than money always always.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
And on that note, anonymous, good luck.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
I'd let us know, let us far and be thankful,
and be thankful for February.
Speaker 1 (19:03):
It only has twenty eight days. Good luck. We wish
you the best. Thank you so much for writing again.
All right now we have an anonymous again. Hi, ladies,
I miss seeing you weekly.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Ah.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
Kathy's so excited to see you on Bachelor in Paradise.
We all are. We can't we can't wait. I'm having
some trouble in my new relationship. I really like him,
but he's having some trouble completing his tasks. If you
catch my ouch. He said he's had trouble with this before,
(19:45):
so I know it's not me. Well that's a good thing,
but I can't help thinking I could be doing more
and I just don't know what to do. Any advice
is appreciate it, thank you. Okay, what do you think
that means?
Speaker 2 (20:03):
Right?
Speaker 1 (20:03):
Guys? You know I want to say it like it is.
There's a few things you can do, and if I
get it, I don't how old you is. Some men
start that earlier than others. First, take a trip to
the doc and see if the magic pill. The Seattle
sort of viag or whatever is okay with his system.
And then if that doesn't work and you have a
(20:26):
good open communication line, then you would probably I would
introduce some toys that he could use with you to
help satisfy your needs. I don't think there's anything wrong
with that. What do you think? So wait, the first
trip is to the doctor. I would think, yeah, ceep,
he can get some help. Sometimes the little magic pill
(20:47):
helps a man. Sometimes.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
Let me just say, another benefit of being a cruise
ship man overboard. Oh just kidding, I'm sure. I mean
it's listen, can you do? I mean, I think he's
got to be What she or he does not say
(21:09):
is whether or not he's willing to get help.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
Anonymous rights.
Speaker 2 (21:17):
I can't help thinking I could be doing more and
that I don't like that for you to say that, anonymous,
because sometimes it has nothing to do with you. Well,
sometimes sometimes it's the other person's just chemical, you know,
chemistry chemical. So get him, get him her, whoever this is,
(21:40):
get him to talk about it and go to a
doctor and see if they can help. But for you
to say you could be doing morey, maybe.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
She's not an initiator. Maybe she's just feeling all this
and laying back and not doing anything. Maybe you could
initiate If that's the case, If you feel like you
could be doing more, maybe you could started up and
hold on?
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Are you seriously hold on, Susan? Are you seriously going
to tell me that a guy gets in bed with
a guy, a girl gets in bed with a girl,
a guy gets in bed with a girl, whatever the
situation is. Are you seriously going to tell me that
if one's interested and the other one isn't, that initiating
(22:23):
repeatedly is going to change.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
I think it gets things started when they get set
in their ways and they know they're they're having a
hard time to get an erection, so they stop trying.
You still try and let them know your needs. There's
nothing wrong with that.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
I agree, But this person says, I can't help thinking I.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Could be doing more. That's what I'm saying. If we
don't know how she is, maybe she's just laying next
to him feeling like maybe I should maybe, and she's
not doing anything. So he's just in a past watching
football and going to sleep. You know what I mean,
She's got to know him. You're not going to grind
and it means that I would be and I'd be
(23:09):
chatting about But men also would feel you don't want
to hurt their ego because you know that's very easily done,
and you just want to work with them. You know.
I know that he's told you he's had it in
the past, there's been an issue, and that's when you
start the conversation. Kathy and I both agree it's all
about communication. Don't feel embarrassed if you are comfortable with
(23:33):
each other.
Speaker 2 (23:34):
Yeah, don't be embarrassed. Talk to him about it or
her about whoever it is. You know, talk to your
partner about the issue, how you feel. You might find
out it has nothing to do with you. What a
shocker that would be. So let us know how it goes,
you know, have the conversation, get some medical advice, and
(23:55):
if it doesn't work, like I said, man overboard, my bad.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
I'm rereading. And she said she's having trouble in my
new relationship, so that communication may not be there at all.
Forget it. Yeah, I was talking about somebody that you know,
you've been with for a while, and I yeah, sorry,
I overlooked that that.
Speaker 2 (24:16):
I don't think Mutchy, it's a news if you're in
bed with someone, Susan, then if you're in bed with
him or her, whoever it is, you can have the
conversation if you're having if you're having intimacy, then you
can have.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
Any comfortable Yes, I agree.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
So I don't care it's a new relationship or forever anyway,
let us know, let us know we really do like him.
Speaker 1 (24:42):
If you really really do like him, then try to
work on it. Then talk about it with them. Let
him know your needs, because women have needs.
Speaker 2 (24:53):
Said Susan very emphatically.
Speaker 1 (24:56):
I guess if you're in recommendations on toys, just you know,
get shoot me an email.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
And here's Kathy turning red enough to match her dress
that she has on. Okay, happy one for her list.
All right, now it's time for a game. It's all right,
(25:26):
we're gonna play it.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
You're picky. We'll switch off for reading the it and
we'll say if we agree or disagree, or if we
think it's just picky.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
Right, Can I just remind you, Susan, Yeah, the way
I play this game, it's icky, picky or e.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
All right, here's the first one.
Speaker 2 (25:51):
He hits the air guitar move air guitar move all
the time, and it's his go to dance move.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
That's being picky. Let him go. I do listen sometimes,
very damn I think I'm a rock start.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
I mean, you know, I think it kind of depends
on the age, but I'm going to give that picky.
Speaker 1 (26:15):
Yeah, all right, he's never been able to successfully unhook
a brawl and you always end up having to do
it after he struggles with it for a little while.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
That's a sad Yeah, I say that.
Speaker 1 (26:30):
It's sad, it's picky.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
But you know what, the next time you're in that situation,
say we're first kind of a primer. I'm first going
to teach you how to undo the bra and then
you're never gonna have this problem again.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
That's what when you know you're about to go make out,
excuse yourself, use the ladies and take the damn roll off,
or be like Susan, don't wear them. This is true.
Oh gosh, how about today, Kathy? Can I just share so? Yes,
it's true. It's very high. I wear nice nipple shields.
They're a hole, right, I'm sweating. We went to uh,
(27:07):
what's the name of the place.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
It doesn't matter. We were walking around on our shore.
Speaker 1 (27:12):
Hell. I look down in my dress and I go,
oh no, I could feel it sliding from the sweat
and I and she goes, why are you putting your
hand inside your dress? I said, my nipple shield to
a slip, so I slide it back up. And then
we're walking and I go, oh, my god, I lost one.
The other side's going. Kathy turn around to take a
picture of me right now. She didn't even know why
I said that. She does. I go, now look at
(27:34):
the picture. Look at this nipple, and look at no
nipple here because it's covered. We were dial lapping. Mighty.
It was probably in the church that I lost my
nipple shield. Like, you can't make this up, you know.
Speaker 2 (27:49):
All I have to say is for most women, this
is not an issue. We wear over the shoulders, boulder holders,
and we don't have these issues all right here where
we go. He Oh, this happened to me before I
went on Bachelor in Paradise. Oh, this happened to me.
He constantly lies about his height by at least four
(28:13):
inches four inches inches. Ew yeah, I mean that is
that is not a that is not picky. That's called
a lie, and that it did happen to me though,
Susan did that's happened? You know what he was supposed
to be my height? I looked over his head.
Speaker 1 (28:37):
He exclusively uses a three and one shampoo conditioner body wash.
What's wrong with that business?
Speaker 2 (28:45):
On a lot of do what he wants? That's picky arry,
I would say, picky prime. That's way, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay,
this is disgusting and this is you and I'm out
the door. My new phrase this week, I'm using it.
Get throw him over board. He only has a fitted
sheet and one pillow on his bed. If he doesn't
(29:05):
have a pillow for me and clean sheets, particularly you know,
eight hundred count Egyptian cotton, I'm not getting in the
bed with him.
Speaker 1 (29:13):
So that is he's inviting you over to stay, or
you just noticed that's was his place that you're not staying,
you see that? Anyway, I would come with my own
set of sheets. You would not, No, if I'm would, Oh, Susan,
(29:36):
I've got ain't a lie? Am I like a certain thing?
I bought him down at my boyfriend's house. I brought
my whole set of sheets pillows. Why not.
Speaker 2 (29:46):
You brought your own sheets to his home?
Speaker 1 (29:48):
Not my own? I bought a set of sheets for him.
Obviously he didn't have sheet his house. Yes, of course
he did. I just liked the sheets there. It wasn't
that I didn't like him. So that's yet another different
Susan and me. I'm gonna say to the guy, if
you want me in that bed eight hundred count Egyptian cotton,
feather down pillows. Yes, okay. He always tries to vape indoors,
(30:16):
even if it's somewhere totally inappropriate. Oh, answer this one, Susan,
because boy, you're being picky. Let him alone.
Speaker 2 (30:26):
No, yeah, absolutely no. I think it's totally inappropriate. I
think it's rude. I think people don't like the smell.
I think it's embarrassing when people vape indoors. When it
says do not vape or smoke, I think it is inappropriate.
(30:46):
It isn't oo too, it's and you know what, I
won't date a guy who vapores, So really it's a
useless question for me.
Speaker 1 (30:54):
Okay, for me, I think it's just being picky. It's him.
It's reflect on you at all, because yeah, I did it. Okay,
he still drinks a tall glass of milk with dinner. God,
bless him. He's a healthy boy. He's on his bones,
he's got strong. What's wrong with that? Picky? All right?
Speaker 2 (31:13):
The only decor in his bedroom are a bunch of
different flags.
Speaker 1 (31:18):
What's wrong with that?
Speaker 2 (31:18):
It's nautical. He was maybe in the navy or whatever.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
Give college and college. I'd accept that, but not in
his own place.
Speaker 2 (31:27):
I mean, if he's living in a home and you
know what, he's probably taps out Morse code too when
he's bored.
Speaker 1 (31:34):
I mean, I just see the nautical the nautical flags.
What is it for you? Icky? Picky? I mean it
depends on the age I'm with you. I mean, let
me say to you.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
If it's me at my age and he's got nautifical
flags in his bedroom, I am sending out an s
O S.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
We're not even having a conversation. I'll just keep going, Okay,
he won't give up his jack it ever, when you're cold,
because he's cold too, that's kick him to the curb. Yes, yes,
if you know it's cold that you should have your
own jacket because you can't expect them to freeze. But
always a gentleman. Yes, I think that's if.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
I were really cold, It says he won't give his
jacket ever, So it's happened more than once. Bye bye,
see you lady should know to bring her damn coat.
Gentleman man overboard, Icky picky ooh, or man overboard. It's
between ikey and vicky for me, like I've oh no,
(32:38):
that's rude, no manners. He's out, he's outing. He asks
you not to wear heels to certain events because he
doesn't want to be the same height as you. I
thought men got over that a little time ago. That's
just picky for me. Oh seriously, Susan, you love your heels, Yes,
(32:59):
I come on, but it's a weird about it. If
he if he shared with me and asked me not
to wear them because he felt weird, that's.
Speaker 1 (33:06):
Okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (33:08):
So Susan is otherwise known as Amelda. If boats of
you were old enough to know Susan loves shoes, Amelda
Marcus loved her shoes. I'm going to give everyone Susan's address.
I'm giving everyone Susan's address over and helped yourself to
her shoes because apparently she doesn't care anymore.
Speaker 1 (33:25):
Ah, I want to see that happen to certain events.
That's all he just wants a feeling. That's all right,
all right? He brings up something you've done every time
you try to talk to him about something. Oh so
it's like ghosts. No no, no, no ghost no, no
(33:45):
ghostings when they don't freaking show up this When she's
trying to talk to him about something, he keeps.
Speaker 2 (33:53):
It's gas you did, it's gaslight?
Speaker 1 (33:56):
What is called? I'm just setting that's a man that
can't admit fall. So what are you gonna do with
them for something that that's itchy every time?
Speaker 2 (34:07):
Now? Is it you?
Speaker 1 (34:10):
No? To me, it's an ick. So it's not a
new who's not really in this? But who means it's over?
You're making up the rules, guys, you have you are
the rule following out follow the rules. Ear picky Gum?
Which one? I think.
Speaker 2 (34:29):
I think he'd be kicked to the curb. It's beyond
It's beyond it for me, he said, all right, he uh.
He always talks about it with his mouth full, and
sometimes food's.
Speaker 1 (34:46):
Happened to me. I was trying to get worked in
a little nibble of food.
Speaker 2 (34:51):
Fread ducks always it says, it always talks.
Speaker 1 (34:56):
It's dick. Yeah, it's a big dick. Yeah, not right,
all right? Oh god, that's one. He always wears ill
fitting clothes either way too big or too small. Honey,
he needs guidance. You need to dress him. How many
different boyfriends I've dressed I'm so exactly No, that's that's
(35:21):
it's picky, but he really does need to melp because
you don't want to be embarrassed, like, babe, that doesn't
fit you. Okay, that's like, do you want to dress
for them? Oh? Sure, I'll take him out shopping, showing
what looks best on him, what to look for you.
I did it for you, remember, Susan, I hate jopping.
(35:42):
You gotta do it now? What's I don't want because
you don't You're exactly right, don't clue. He didn't have
a fashionable mom. Probably I just.
Speaker 2 (35:54):
Don't want to raise any more kids, and I don't
want to buy clothes for him. Figure it out just now.
It's it's icky, okay, but you know what, Wait a minute.
If you'll sign on to take them shopping and you'll
buy them the clothes, then it's.
Speaker 1 (36:10):
Pretty not paid for the clothes, I said, I'll wardrobe him,
but he's good to have to pay. But I want
not just run out and buy everything. I would take
him with me and teach him what and what looks
best on him and Kathy. Like I said, being in
the fashion business, I've helped a lot of people understand
what looks best on them. I mean, you and I
have had that conversation many times. Remember, Oh God, that
(36:33):
was fun, wasn't the gaps? That's always fine with you,
always always? Oh. Thank you everybody for tuning in and
listening and joining with us today. We absolutely love you,
and we love Bachelor Nation and all the people that
write us both and tell us and share what they
thought about our podcast, and they get their two cents
(36:55):
and I love that. I love it. Sometimes they totally
agree with us and it's so cool.
Speaker 2 (37:01):
Well, we hope that we are giving you some good
advice and at least, if nothing else, entertaining you. In
the meantime, be sure to follow Bachelor Happy Hour because
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(37:24):
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Speaker 1 (37:39):
Or wherever you listen to podcasts. If next time sail away,
have a great week.
Welcome back everybody, the Bachelor Happy Hour's Golden Hour. You
have no idea what Kathy and I've been up to.
We're so happy to be back, Katy say hello, oh
my goodness, hello hello. Today we're going to answer more
of your fan questions. Make sure you're submitting those. We
love reading them.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
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com slash Golden Hour and submit all your questions, comments, everything.
Speaker 1 (00:35):
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you know, we talk about everything and we try to
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Bachelor Happy Hour.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
Okay, before we get into today's episode, we have to
give you guys updates on our crew. So far, Susan
and I are on a twelve day cruise to eleven
eleven okay, eleven, who's counting eleven days? We're doing Istanbul, Turkey.
(01:10):
We're starting in Athens, Greece, and oh my gosh, I
don't even know where to begin.
Speaker 1 (01:16):
You want to talk about Athens? Kathy was so impressed
with Athens. I mean we basically hiked and then hit
every store every restaurant. We only had twenty four hours.
But how about the hotel. We had a little boutique
hotel rate in the center of everything, and was such
a doll baby. We have a new friend, he was.
Speaker 2 (01:39):
So let me say, for all of you who don't know,
Susan loves to shop. So we shopped till we dropped
on the first day. And then I was going to
the Acropolis, come hell or high water. So I got
up the next morning really early, and I went up.
Speaker 1 (01:57):
You and I no, no, no, no no.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
We climbed up and we saw the videos out there,
saw the sunset. We did climb up. I wanted to
go in.
Speaker 1 (02:10):
I wanted to touch the bas because it was too late.
There's yes, so at a certain time whatever, whatever. But
the views, how about it? And the rooftop of our hotel.
We looked at the Acropolis. I mean, it's just phenomenal.
You were it was phenomenal. And they light the Acropolis
(02:31):
up and night with four flights. But then I could
not leave Athens Grease without going, so Susan wanted to
sleep in a little bit. So Pathy got up by
herself and trucked up to the Acropolis. Found a shortcut,
you know, climbed through these beautiful streets and got in
and there were no tickets available, and I am so
(02:52):
proud of myself. I talked my way in and I
bought a ticket, and I got to walk around and
see the arthan On and you know these thousands of
year old structures, said, are incredible. Yes, yes, Kathy, what
happened Kathy that you said? You actually pulled out? Your
(03:12):
friend said, I need the video of this. You we
were trying to get in somewhere or something like. What
was it? I don't know. I mean, that's amazing. When
I asked, so if.
Speaker 2 (03:24):
Susan does we get right in what all that happened?
I don't know, but we But let me just tell
you if y'all have not been to Athens, Greeze, and
you have not, so many of these World UNESCO sites
are amazing. And I will tell you the acrop list
is not disappoint You get up there and you're walking
and you can just feel the Greek mythology. You can
(03:47):
feel the gods. They're talking to you, Athena, Apollo, all
those guys, they're all up there. It was an amazing day.
Speaker 1 (03:55):
And then what do we do feel, feel and taste
the food. It was unbelievable. I mean they know how
to cook. I enjoy food from every country. However, we
just got to Istanbul and we'll tell you about that later,
and that.
Speaker 2 (04:12):
We haven't a discoveredy yet, but we're going to do it. Yes,
we're getting ready to so An, it's cruise ship. Wait,
one more thing. I have to say. This cruise ship
is amazing. The food is to die for. There's more restaurants.
In fact, I think, Susan, I haven't said this to
you yet. I think I could live on a cruise ship.
(04:33):
I don't need a bigger bedroom than what I have. Wait,
did you food for you? Did you know that, senior citizen?
This isn't known fact.
Speaker 1 (04:41):
It's been printed that many retire women, older women book
back to back cruises, like all year round. That's all
they do is cruise and it's probably cheaper than paying rent.
Speaker 2 (04:57):
Well, you know that is an idea. And I will say,
the people we are so friendly. You and I have
made so many friends. We just got on this ship
a few days ago and we've made so many friends.
So I highly recommend it. I just think it's fabulous
food entertainment and someone comes in and makes my bed
every day.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
The service is impeccable. Our little room Stewarts, they're here
every day. You come in in the afternoon. There's always
fresh ice, fresh sparkling water or still water. Everything's pristine.
It's a nice way to go and we love sharing
all this stuff with you. We have a lot more
to come, so stay tuned and thank you for letting
us share.
Speaker 2 (05:37):
And let me just say, We've only been on this
ship a few days, but I get fresh towels, I
get something to make my bed. Susan, I hate to
tell you I may not ever get off this ship,
so just say, you know, we are.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Having a great time.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
All right, Let's get into the episode, and let's start
with the question of the day. What is it like
for you interacting with younger people when you're on vacation.
What are the dynamics of the cruise you're on now?
In terms of ages? Is it a lot of different ages?
You know, tell tell us what you think. What do
you think is isn't it?
Speaker 1 (06:11):
That is one of the most amazing things. I've been
on several several cruises and a lot with children. This
is adults only. It is totally different than any cruise
that I've been on. Actually, there's a mixture of ages.
There are some younger ones and much older, so everybody
kind of floats. There's short ones, tall ones, you know
(06:35):
what I mean. Here's what I there's a lot of
gay influence. There's a few, and the shows are fabulous.
But I don't have a problem dealing with We made
young friends. Kathy, the Charlie who don't stop texting us.
He likes to chat.
Speaker 2 (06:50):
We have found that if your whether you're sitting at
the pool, sitting at a restaurant, sitting at a bar,
people just lean over. It doesn't matter what their ages,
they just want to chat. They're friendly. Everybody starts a
conversation with where are you from? And everybody knows somebody
(07:10):
from your hometown. So it's like this sort of built in,
great little community. And every day you meet new people
and you sit with new people, and you just feel
like you have this great new group of friends. We've
already exchanged phone numbers.
Speaker 1 (07:24):
And don't you find, Kathy that everybody's happy, they're on vacation,
everybody's in a good mood. They want to know who's
next to you. And fortunately for us, they kind of
a lot of people have recognized us. So we get
to mingle and take pictures with these people and they
you know that they love that we're normal, well not normal,
(07:45):
but they love that we're social. And so many of
them have said to us, and I'll quit, I'm so
happy to see that you really are friends? Did you
remember that tat? How many times? Why do people think
that we're not? I don't know.
Speaker 2 (08:00):
I will say though, the other thing that the cruise
sets up that I don't think happens at other vacation spots.
There's bingo night, there's games night, there's karaoke nights. So
there's these fabulous set up plans for everybody, and it
doesn't matter what age you are.
Speaker 1 (08:18):
We were, you know.
Speaker 2 (08:20):
Clapping for a gentleman that was probably in his late
seventies singing at Brig Sinatru.
Speaker 1 (08:25):
I'm sorry, Kathy, I just jumped in there. I beg
your pardon. But how about that night you went to karaoke? Huh,
It's amazing. It's amazing.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
So I think I think that younger people and older
people on cruises had this unique opportunity to get to
know each other, make friends and really enjoy each other.
We've you know, I've shared pictures of my grandchildren and
my children, and people ask me all about Austin, Texas.
(08:55):
They want to come visit. It's really, you know, it's
it's sort of like COVID when you're on a ship
and you can't get off. You just start having these
great conversations. Nobody's on their phones. It's great.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (09:08):
I recommend Lyley.
Speaker 1 (09:10):
Now everybody's always happy. Yeah, it's a good time. It's
a good time. So what do you think cats? Should
we get into our fan questions?
Speaker 2 (09:27):
Absolutely, let's go for it.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Mel, Right, Hi, ladies, my friend and I adore your podcast.
I am curious about your thoughts on kids at weddings.
I'm getting married next year and I'm trying to decide
if there should be kids there or not. Also, any
other wedding planning advice you would have would be appreciated.
(09:53):
Thank you. Well, hey, you need to call me. Susan's
in efficient.
Speaker 2 (09:58):
But you know what my advice is, Mel run Off
and Elope, weddings are the most expensive thing on the planet.
The flowers are twice the price, the liquors twice the price.
Everything the musicians. I mean, but that isn't your question.
You asked if there should be kids or not, And
(10:19):
my thought is, talk to your fiance, see what she
or he would like to have, and if you guys,
come to a decision together. Because it is your day
and you get to do your wedding your way, and
that is my advice to you. I will say my
(10:40):
best wedding device is plan early, get it going early.
Speaker 1 (10:44):
Because it's a lot to plan a wedding. Therefore, go
albe What about you, Susan, Yes, personally, it depends on
how formal your wedding is. There's some weddings that aren't
so formal, and I don't think it's a big deal
to have kids running around. However, if it were me
and you're asking me for my advice, absolutely no children
(11:05):
at a wedding. You want to enjoy yourself. The people
coming don't want to bring their kids unless you have
a babysitter upstairs in the hotel room. A wedding, I
think is for adults. If it's your own children, that's
a whole different story. Or if some the ring bearer
or maybe your niece or nephew, the bride, little flower
girl they stay for part of it and then go upstairs.
(11:27):
They shouldn't be there when the alcohol's being served and
so on. And Kathy, I'll second you on that start
early thing, because yeah, it is stressful, but if you
get things accomplished early on, then don't sweat the small
stuff because after all, well it's a wedding. Things are
(11:48):
going to go wrong. But just have fun.
Speaker 2 (11:51):
So two of the things I'm thinking about. One is
the little things that go wrong. Now, the only people
who are going to know are you? Are you, maybe
your fiance? No one else is going to notice, So
just have fun. No one's gonna notice. The other thing
I would say is, you guys have to work together
for this wedding, so really you've got to talk to
(12:13):
your fiance. You keep saying, I'm getting married, I want
to decide what to do. I think you really have
to plan it with your partner. And one thing I
said to my daughter when she got married, enjoy the
moment because you're not hopefully only doing this once. So
you know, hire a videographer, hire a photographer, do all that,
(12:36):
but try to enjoy the moment.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
If your wedding planning it, you're not enjoying it as
much as the moment. I agree. But you know what, Kathy,
just to remind you, man don't have a lot to
do with making the wedding plans. Do you agree or not.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
I think it depends on the age. I think it
totally depends on the age. That's true. That's true. And
we don't know how I yeah, we don't know how
old he is. But I think you know, I think
she had Times are changing, Susan, my daughter's husband.
Speaker 1 (13:11):
He helped plan the wedding.
Speaker 2 (13:12):
He had definite things he wanted at his wedding, and
that's why I say, I think it has to be
a combined effort.
Speaker 1 (13:19):
But Mal, don't forget to hire your officiant. Susan, were
you o boy? Well, I'm glad you wrote in. We
appreciate it and we wish you nothing but the best.
Speaker 2 (13:32):
Yeah, let us know, let us know how the wedding goes.
It said next year. But you know what, enjoyed the
time of your fiance because the wedding is going to
come a whole lot faster and you think it is.
And by the way, May suggests for a honeymoon, take
adult only cruise.
Speaker 1 (13:48):
You'll love it.
Speaker 2 (13:49):
It's so fun. There's lots of on our cruise. There
are lots of people who just got married.
Speaker 1 (13:54):
Yeah, he's going to have the cruise lines books solid
for the next ten years.
Speaker 2 (14:00):
It's not a bad way to go, Susan, not right,
Let's move on to the next one.
Speaker 1 (14:06):
This is from anonymous. Hi girls.
Speaker 2 (14:09):
First of all, I love you both and listen all
the time. I honestly catch myself refreshing Spotify just to
see if there's a new episode. Lately, though, I've been
feeling kind of sad and stuck. I've been with my
best friend and boyfriend for eight years. He truly is
my person. He's been by my side through thick and thin,
(14:32):
and I trust him with my whole heart, which is
a big deal for me. We're both twenty six and
trying our best, but we're struggling financially. He wants to
propose and get married, but says he won't feel right
doing that until he's financially stable, which I deeply respect.
But it's still hard. We don't live together yet, not
(14:53):
because we don't want to, but because life is so expensive.
We're both living at home trying to save, but no
matter how much we do. It never feels like enough.
Between student loans, car payments, and the cost of everything,
it feels impossible. We'd remove fine a house but be
happy with even a small apartment. Yet everything just feels
(15:14):
out of reach. I don't even know if I'm looking
for advice or just needing to vent, but lately life
just feels so heavy, especially when it seems like everyone
else is celebrating new beginnings while we're just treading water.
Speaker 1 (15:30):
Oh not, bless you know what, You're allowed to feel
these feelings. I mean, that's what makes us. But maybe
you need to sit down or hire somebody to help
you go on a specific kind of budget so that
you're saving X amount of dollars to achieve the goals
that you want. It is going to take some time,
(15:50):
and maybe you could have started this a while ago.
I get your staying you're surviving, but if you're living
at moms, then there is a way to be saving
some movie for starters.
Speaker 2 (16:02):
Kathy, what do you yeah? I mean, I yeah, I
think this is tough. I mean, I don't know what
their jobs are. I don't know what you guys, I
don't know what you're doing. But student loans are really high,
the interest rates are high, car payments are high, insurance
is high. But if you're living at home and you
(16:22):
guys aren't able to save money, then I agree with Susan.
I think it's time to sort of reevaluate where your
money's going and set a budget because maybe you know,
you go out to dinner too much, maybe you buy
too many clothes, maybe one too many vacations. I don't
know what it is, but life can feel heavy when
(16:45):
the weight of financial pressure is on you. So Anonymous,
maybe get some advice on how to get on a
more stable footing with your with your partner. And if
you're feeling sad and stuck, maybe you've got some other
things going on in your life. I will say to you,
(17:05):
it doesn't matter what age you are. We all struggle.
We all have financial issues. It's about managing your money
and your time.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
And it does feel impossible that and the other trick
is it is going to take time. However, if you
are paying rent at home at first, I didn't think
you would be because your your parents student lines are
the worst. If you are and you're paying rent, then
maybe you could get a small apartment. Figure it out.
If you don't want to wait, you know that's a possibility,
(17:36):
but take a check, a self check on what you're
spending every week. Well, Kathy made me know it.
Speaker 2 (17:41):
And I was like, wow, I was going to say,
right down, I did this right down. You know, look
at where you're spending your money and write down every
dollar you spend for a month. And I think you
and your partner will see that you're probably spending money
in ways that you can cut and put towards a
(18:04):
savings for an apartment. So you know, do that first.
Try and give yourself you've heard of a fit check,
give yourself a budget check.
Speaker 1 (18:13):
And decide what you're going to save out of each paycheck.
And I don't care how short you are that week,
you save that amount that goes first. My dad taught
me that that was a little hard to do. It
really was. But we wish you luck and let us know,
let us know, don't get so depressed over it, because
it's life, it's part of it. Your want and need
(18:36):
for this should make you pull back a little bit
and make it happen. You can make it happen.
Speaker 2 (18:42):
Yeah, yes, you know what I learned a long time ago.
There is always more month than money always always.
Speaker 1 (18:54):
And on that note, anonymous, good luck.
Speaker 2 (18:57):
I'd let us know, let us far and be thankful,
and be thankful for February.
Speaker 1 (19:03):
It only has twenty eight days. Good luck. We wish
you the best. Thank you so much for writing again.
All right now we have an anonymous again. Hi, ladies,
I miss seeing you weekly.
Speaker 2 (19:18):
Ah.
Speaker 1 (19:20):
Kathy's so excited to see you on Bachelor in Paradise.
We all are. We can't we can't wait. I'm having
some trouble in my new relationship. I really like him,
but he's having some trouble completing his tasks. If you
catch my ouch. He said he's had trouble with this before,
(19:45):
so I know it's not me. Well that's a good thing,
but I can't help thinking I could be doing more
and I just don't know what to do. Any advice
is appreciate it, thank you. Okay, what do you think
that means?
Speaker 2 (20:03):
Right?
Speaker 1 (20:03):
Guys? You know I want to say it like it is.
There's a few things you can do, and if I
get it, I don't how old you is. Some men
start that earlier than others. First, take a trip to
the doc and see if the magic pill. The Seattle
sort of viag or whatever is okay with his system.
And then if that doesn't work and you have a
(20:26):
good open communication line, then you would probably I would
introduce some toys that he could use with you to
help satisfy your needs. I don't think there's anything wrong
with that. What do you think? So wait, the first
trip is to the doctor. I would think, yeah, ceep,
he can get some help. Sometimes the little magic pill
(20:47):
helps a man. Sometimes.
Speaker 2 (20:49):
Let me just say, another benefit of being a cruise
ship man overboard. Oh just kidding, I'm sure. I mean
it's listen, can you do? I mean, I think he's
got to be What she or he does not say
(21:09):
is whether or not he's willing to get help.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
Anonymous rights.
Speaker 2 (21:17):
I can't help thinking I could be doing more and
that I don't like that for you to say that, anonymous,
because sometimes it has nothing to do with you. Well,
sometimes sometimes it's the other person's just chemical, you know,
chemistry chemical. So get him, get him her, whoever this is,
(21:40):
get him to talk about it and go to a
doctor and see if they can help. But for you
to say you could be doing morey, maybe.
Speaker 1 (21:47):
She's not an initiator. Maybe she's just feeling all this
and laying back and not doing anything. Maybe you could
initiate If that's the case, If you feel like you
could be doing more, maybe you could started up and
hold on?
Speaker 2 (22:02):
Are you seriously hold on, Susan? Are you seriously going
to tell me that a guy gets in bed with
a guy, a girl gets in bed with a girl,
a guy gets in bed with a girl, whatever the
situation is. Are you seriously going to tell me that
if one's interested and the other one isn't, that initiating
(22:23):
repeatedly is going to change.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
I think it gets things started when they get set
in their ways and they know they're they're having a
hard time to get an erection, so they stop trying.
You still try and let them know your needs. There's
nothing wrong with that.
Speaker 2 (22:44):
I agree, But this person says, I can't help thinking I.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Could be doing more. That's what I'm saying. If we
don't know how she is, maybe she's just laying next
to him feeling like maybe I should maybe, and she's
not doing anything. So he's just in a past watching
football and going to sleep. You know what I mean,
She's got to know him. You're not going to grind
and it means that I would be and I'd be
(23:09):
chatting about But men also would feel you don't want
to hurt their ego because you know that's very easily done,
and you just want to work with them. You know.
I know that he's told you he's had it in
the past, there's been an issue, and that's when you
start the conversation. Kathy and I both agree it's all
about communication. Don't feel embarrassed if you are comfortable with
(23:33):
each other.
Speaker 2 (23:34):
Yeah, don't be embarrassed. Talk to him about it or
her about whoever it is. You know, talk to your
partner about the issue, how you feel. You might find
out it has nothing to do with you. What a
shocker that would be. So let us know how it goes,
you know, have the conversation, get some medical advice, and
(23:55):
if it doesn't work, like I said, man overboard, my bad.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
I'm rereading. And she said she's having trouble in my
new relationship, so that communication may not be there at all.
Forget it. Yeah, I was talking about somebody that you know,
you've been with for a while, and I yeah, sorry,
I overlooked that that.
Speaker 2 (24:16):
I don't think Mutchy, it's a news if you're in
bed with someone, Susan, then if you're in bed with
him or her, whoever it is, you can have the
conversation if you're having if you're having intimacy, then you
can have.
Speaker 1 (24:31):
Any comfortable Yes, I agree.
Speaker 2 (24:34):
So I don't care it's a new relationship or forever anyway,
let us know, let us know we really do like him.
Speaker 1 (24:42):
If you really really do like him, then try to
work on it. Then talk about it with them. Let
him know your needs, because women have needs.
Speaker 2 (24:53):
Said Susan very emphatically.
Speaker 1 (24:56):
I guess if you're in recommendations on toys, just you know,
get shoot me an email.
Speaker 2 (25:02):
And here's Kathy turning red enough to match her dress
that she has on. Okay, happy one for her list.
All right, now it's time for a game. It's all right,
(25:26):
we're gonna play it.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
You're picky. We'll switch off for reading the it and
we'll say if we agree or disagree, or if we
think it's just picky.
Speaker 2 (25:38):
Right, Can I just remind you, Susan, Yeah, the way
I play this game, it's icky, picky or e.
Speaker 1 (25:48):
All right, here's the first one.
Speaker 2 (25:51):
He hits the air guitar move air guitar move all
the time, and it's his go to dance move.
Speaker 1 (26:01):
That's being picky. Let him go. I do listen sometimes,
very damn I think I'm a rock start.
Speaker 2 (26:10):
I mean, you know, I think it kind of depends
on the age, but I'm going to give that picky.
Speaker 1 (26:15):
Yeah, all right, he's never been able to successfully unhook
a brawl and you always end up having to do
it after he struggles with it for a little while.
Speaker 2 (26:27):
That's a sad Yeah, I say that.
Speaker 1 (26:30):
It's sad, it's picky.
Speaker 2 (26:32):
But you know what, the next time you're in that situation,
say we're first kind of a primer. I'm first going
to teach you how to undo the bra and then
you're never gonna have this problem again.
Speaker 1 (26:44):
That's what when you know you're about to go make out,
excuse yourself, use the ladies and take the damn roll off,
or be like Susan, don't wear them. This is true.
Oh gosh, how about today, Kathy? Can I just share so? Yes,
it's true. It's very high. I wear nice nipple shields.
They're a hole, right, I'm sweating. We went to uh,
(27:07):
what's the name of the place.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
It doesn't matter. We were walking around on our shore.
Speaker 1 (27:12):
Hell. I look down in my dress and I go,
oh no, I could feel it sliding from the sweat
and I and she goes, why are you putting your
hand inside your dress? I said, my nipple shield to
a slip, so I slide it back up. And then
we're walking and I go, oh, my god, I lost one.
The other side's going. Kathy turn around to take a
picture of me right now. She didn't even know why
I said that. She does. I go, now look at
(27:34):
the picture. Look at this nipple, and look at no
nipple here because it's covered. We were dial lapping. Mighty.
It was probably in the church that I lost my
nipple shield. Like, you can't make this up, you know.
Speaker 2 (27:49):
All I have to say is for most women, this
is not an issue. We wear over the shoulders, boulder holders,
and we don't have these issues all right here where
we go. He Oh, this happened to me before I
went on Bachelor in Paradise. Oh, this happened to me.
He constantly lies about his height by at least four
(28:13):
inches four inches inches. Ew yeah, I mean that is
that is not a that is not picky. That's called
a lie, and that it did happen to me though,
Susan did that's happened? You know what he was supposed
to be my height? I looked over his head.
Speaker 1 (28:37):
He exclusively uses a three and one shampoo conditioner body wash.
What's wrong with that business?
Speaker 2 (28:45):
On a lot of do what he wants? That's picky arry,
I would say, picky prime. That's way, yeah, yeah, yeah, okay,
this is disgusting and this is you and I'm out
the door. My new phrase this week, I'm using it.
Get throw him over board. He only has a fitted
sheet and one pillow on his bed. If he doesn't
(29:05):
have a pillow for me and clean sheets, particularly you know,
eight hundred count Egyptian cotton, I'm not getting in the
bed with him.
Speaker 1 (29:13):
So that is he's inviting you over to stay, or
you just noticed that's was his place that you're not staying,
you see that? Anyway, I would come with my own
set of sheets. You would not, No, if I'm would, Oh, Susan,
(29:36):
I've got ain't a lie? Am I like a certain thing?
I bought him down at my boyfriend's house. I brought
my whole set of sheets pillows. Why not.
Speaker 2 (29:46):
You brought your own sheets to his home?
Speaker 1 (29:48):
Not my own? I bought a set of sheets for him.
Obviously he didn't have sheet his house. Yes, of course
he did. I just liked the sheets there. It wasn't
that I didn't like him. So that's yet another different
Susan and me. I'm gonna say to the guy, if
you want me in that bed eight hundred count Egyptian cotton,
feather down pillows. Yes, okay. He always tries to vape indoors,
(30:16):
even if it's somewhere totally inappropriate. Oh, answer this one, Susan,
because boy, you're being picky. Let him alone.
Speaker 2 (30:26):
No, yeah, absolutely no. I think it's totally inappropriate. I
think it's rude. I think people don't like the smell.
I think it's embarrassing when people vape indoors. When it
says do not vape or smoke, I think it is inappropriate.
(30:46):
It isn't oo too, it's and you know what, I
won't date a guy who vapores, So really it's a
useless question for me.
Speaker 1 (30:54):
Okay, for me, I think it's just being picky. It's him.
It's reflect on you at all, because yeah, I did it. Okay,
he still drinks a tall glass of milk with dinner. God,
bless him. He's a healthy boy. He's on his bones,
he's got strong. What's wrong with that? Picky? All right?
Speaker 2 (31:13):
The only decor in his bedroom are a bunch of
different flags.
Speaker 1 (31:18):
What's wrong with that?
Speaker 2 (31:18):
It's nautical. He was maybe in the navy or whatever.
Speaker 1 (31:21):
Give college and college. I'd accept that, but not in
his own place.
Speaker 2 (31:27):
I mean, if he's living in a home and you
know what, he's probably taps out Morse code too when
he's bored.
Speaker 1 (31:34):
I mean, I just see the nautical the nautical flags.
What is it for you? Icky? Picky? I mean it
depends on the age I'm with you. I mean, let
me say to you.
Speaker 2 (31:46):
If it's me at my age and he's got nautifical
flags in his bedroom, I am sending out an s
O S.
Speaker 1 (31:54):
We're not even having a conversation. I'll just keep going, Okay,
he won't give up his jack it ever, when you're cold,
because he's cold too, that's kick him to the curb. Yes, yes,
if you know it's cold that you should have your
own jacket because you can't expect them to freeze. But
always a gentleman. Yes, I think that's if.
Speaker 2 (32:16):
I were really cold, It says he won't give his
jacket ever, So it's happened more than once. Bye bye,
see you lady should know to bring her damn coat.
Gentleman man overboard, Icky picky ooh, or man overboard. It's
between ikey and vicky for me, like I've oh no,
(32:38):
that's rude, no manners. He's out, he's outing. He asks
you not to wear heels to certain events because he
doesn't want to be the same height as you. I
thought men got over that a little time ago. That's
just picky for me. Oh seriously, Susan, you love your heels, Yes,
(32:59):
I come on, but it's a weird about it. If
he if he shared with me and asked me not
to wear them because he felt weird, that's.
Speaker 1 (33:06):
Okay, okay.
Speaker 2 (33:08):
So Susan is otherwise known as Amelda. If boats of
you were old enough to know Susan loves shoes, Amelda
Marcus loved her shoes. I'm going to give everyone Susan's address.
I'm giving everyone Susan's address over and helped yourself to
her shoes because apparently she doesn't care anymore.
Speaker 1 (33:25):
Ah, I want to see that happen to certain events.
That's all he just wants a feeling. That's all right,
all right? He brings up something you've done every time
you try to talk to him about something. Oh so
it's like ghosts. No no, no, no ghost no, no
(33:45):
ghostings when they don't freaking show up this When she's
trying to talk to him about something, he keeps.
Speaker 2 (33:53):
It's gas you did, it's gaslight?
Speaker 1 (33:56):
What is called? I'm just setting that's a man that
can't admit fall. So what are you gonna do with
them for something that that's itchy every time?
Speaker 2 (34:07):
Now? Is it you?
Speaker 1 (34:10):
No? To me, it's an ick. So it's not a
new who's not really in this? But who means it's over?
You're making up the rules, guys, you have you are
the rule following out follow the rules. Ear picky Gum?
Which one? I think.
Speaker 2 (34:29):
I think he'd be kicked to the curb. It's beyond
It's beyond it for me, he said, all right, he uh.
He always talks about it with his mouth full, and
sometimes food's.
Speaker 1 (34:46):
Happened to me. I was trying to get worked in
a little nibble of food.
Speaker 2 (34:51):
Fread ducks always it says, it always talks.
Speaker 1 (34:56):
It's dick. Yeah, it's a big dick. Yeah, not right,
all right? Oh god, that's one. He always wears ill
fitting clothes either way too big or too small. Honey,
he needs guidance. You need to dress him. How many
different boyfriends I've dressed I'm so exactly No, that's that's
(35:21):
it's picky, but he really does need to melp because
you don't want to be embarrassed, like, babe, that doesn't
fit you. Okay, that's like, do you want to dress
for them? Oh? Sure, I'll take him out shopping, showing
what looks best on him, what to look for you.
I did it for you, remember, Susan, I hate jopping.
(35:42):
You gotta do it now? What's I don't want because
you don't You're exactly right, don't clue. He didn't have
a fashionable mom. Probably I just.
Speaker 2 (35:54):
Don't want to raise any more kids, and I don't
want to buy clothes for him. Figure it out just now.
It's it's icky, okay, but you know what, Wait a minute.
If you'll sign on to take them shopping and you'll
buy them the clothes, then it's.
Speaker 1 (36:10):
Pretty not paid for the clothes, I said, I'll wardrobe him,
but he's good to have to pay. But I want
not just run out and buy everything. I would take
him with me and teach him what and what looks
best on him and Kathy. Like I said, being in
the fashion business, I've helped a lot of people understand
what looks best on them. I mean, you and I
have had that conversation many times. Remember, Oh God, that
(36:33):
was fun, wasn't the gaps? That's always fine with you,
always always? Oh. Thank you everybody for tuning in and
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(36:55):
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Speaker 2 (37:01):
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