December 29, 2025 • 27 mins
Lea is back and she’s officially in love! We’re reminiscing on “Paradise,” getting all the details on her boyfriend Ricky, hearing how they met, and where things are now. Is there a proposal on the horizon?! Lea also dishes out advice for anyone still single and reads YOUR anonymous confessions — and they’re juicy! Tune in now and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode!
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours, Golden Hour. Thanks so
much for joining us today. As always, we're so excited
to be here. How are you today, Susan?
Speaker 2 (00:16):
I am great. I'm ready to end this year, but
it was a fabulous one, so I'm not that much
in Harry, but hopefully the year to come is going
to be even better. And today we have a very
special guest, Kathy. She's special to you and me, I know.
Please welcome from Paradise, Leah. Hi, Leah, Welcome to Golden Hour.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
Hey, they are beautiful. How are you? Amazing?
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Thank you, Susan, so do you and we know we
know why you look so beautiful? Where are we speaking
to you today? We're going to get into things real quickly.
But where are you?
Speaker 4 (00:52):
I'm still here in La in my cute little apartment.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
That's a mile that won't stop is from.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Oh no, So we're going to get into So here's
the thing. There's everyone knows. I was in Paradise with Leah.
Love her to pieces. She taught me how to do makeup,
and the proof is if you could see her right now,
she looks absolutely gorgeous. So we're going to get started
right away. But I have to first say, in Paradise,
you did not find love.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
You.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
You got a little upset a few times because you
were trying to make silk out of a sow's ear
otherwise known as Jonathan.
Speaker 4 (01:30):
I love Jonathan knows better than anyone. She's many a tears.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
But I love you and I love Jonathan. But I
do know how ready you were to meet your man.
And so now you are going to please spill the tea.
Tell us all about I want the whole, all the deats,
as they.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Say, of your boyfriend Ricky, how did you meet him?
Tell us all.
Speaker 4 (01:55):
So.
Speaker 5 (01:56):
Ricky is from la He's a musician, and he's a
music director and a drummer.
Speaker 4 (02:00):
He plays the drums. And I was at a music festival.
I'm from Hawaii.
Speaker 5 (02:05):
I love reggae music, and he plays for a few
reggae artists. And I was backstage at a festival because
I know another band member shout out to Rebel willis
from Rebel Soldiers. But he got me tickets to like
get backstage. And then while I was backstage, I met Ricky.
(02:25):
And then it was actually really funny though, because when
I met him, he was with a friend of his
who like is lesbian, and she was like chopping it
up with me, and I think like she like low
key like took his like mojo, and he was like
super quiet.
Speaker 4 (02:42):
He's definitely more reserved.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
When you looked at each other. Was there a feeling?
So was there a feeling you know that that initial chemistry.
Is that what you had when you saw him? Or
did this come.
Speaker 5 (03:01):
I think that I definitely thought he was like very cute, okay,
but I think at the time I wasn't like super
like this was before Paradise actually, and I think before
Paradise I wasn't dating super seriously. I was kind of
just like, you know, enjoying my singleness, kind of like
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figure out who I was. And also I kind of
knew that Paradise was coming up, so I was kind
of just like, oh, like yeah, you know, I didn't
want to start anything too crazy, but so we kept
in touch and then I was actually talking on the
beach with Keith, and I was like, oh, Keith, like,
I'm so sad that Paradise panned out this way, but
(03:45):
like and we were kind of just like, oh, is
there anyone back home that like maybe you're interested in?
And I was kind of like, well, there's this one
guy that like I would love to like circle back with,
and he was like do it. And then I was like, okay,
I'll update you. And he's like I was like, what
about you, Keith?
Speaker 4 (03:59):
And he's like, yeah, there's this one lady.
Speaker 5 (04:00):
And I was like, okay, like let's make a pact.
We're going to reach out to these people.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Yeah. Well, I'm going to tell you.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
I'm going to give a little news flash here that
wasn't intended. It didn't work out for Keith, like so
carry on, but it did.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
Said did you what happened after Paradise? Did you go
to another concert?
Speaker 5 (04:17):
Or I just texted him and I was like, hey,
I'm back from that show. I said I was going
to film and then we got dinner and we've been
like so inseparable ever since.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
How was he different, Lea?
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Tell me, because I you and I had lots of
talks in Paradise about what you were looking for, So
tell me. Obviously it wasn't love at first sight because
you came to Paradise, but tell me, right, I mean, hey,
take true, there it is, But tell me what what
makes him different?
Speaker 4 (04:48):
Well?
Speaker 5 (04:49):
I think one I think like personally it was for me.
It was all my stage of readiness. I think he
was like such a wonderful human being, but one I
think I was finally ready.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
To like okay, like I paradise out of the way.
Speaker 5 (05:05):
I want to find my person like everyone did, all
my friends did, like, let's start dating seriously. And he
is someone who is so family oriented.
Speaker 4 (05:15):
That's so very special to me. And I've always.
Speaker 5 (05:18):
Wanted someone who values family the same way I do.
And he's very like kind, He's so gentle with me
and Kathy, you know me, I can be a handful,
So I've always said, like I need someone that's very patient,
and he's so patient with me. And I think that
is like the like we align on all of our
our big things. So like he's very family oriented, he's
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very kind, he's very patient. I think we approach life
in very similar ways. And I think we align on
so many of the big things in life, and I
think we approach life in the very similar way. I
think the biggest thing though, is he's very gentle and
very patient with me.
Speaker 4 (05:54):
I know I'm a big personality. I can be a
handful and.
Speaker 5 (06:01):
He's just someone who has accepted me one hundred percent
for who I am and encouraged me and kind of
like he's never dold my sparkle. I think he's just
brought it out even more and wow, yeah he's.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Wait, so let me tell you, since you align on
everything and he's made you the person you are and
you're sparkling even more, are you getting engaged in.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
The ring's coming in the future.
Speaker 4 (06:26):
I mean, that's.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
Definite, Leah, Leah, break the news, break the new.
Speaker 5 (06:32):
That's a little soon, guys, it's a little soon, But
I think that is the goal.
Speaker 4 (06:36):
He actually asked me.
Speaker 5 (06:37):
He was like, so, like, when do you want to
get engaged? And I was like, probably you can propose
next year, like early next.
Speaker 3 (06:43):
Year, twenty six I love this.
Speaker 4 (06:46):
No, twenty twenty seven, like one more year.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
We're how old is he, Leah?
Speaker 4 (06:53):
He is thirty?
Speaker 2 (06:54):
And tell me how is he different than any other
guy you dated?
Speaker 3 (06:57):
Well, she said, he's patient, he's.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Well not And now the guy wasn't patient?
Speaker 4 (07:03):
I think.
Speaker 5 (07:03):
I mean, I date in La which is always really rough.
I think dating anywhere can be rough. But I think
a lot of the guys that I've dated.
Speaker 4 (07:11):
Here have been like very superficial. Sometimes I think they
value things that you know are so fleeting.
Speaker 5 (07:21):
And I honestly truly have never met a guy in
LA who is as family oriented as him.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Yeah, and that says a lot.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
And you want kids, right? Yes?
Speaker 2 (07:32):
I want kids?
Speaker 4 (07:33):
I want them.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
Okay? Did I give you good advice on paradise?
Speaker 5 (07:37):
You gave the best advice, Kathy. I wish they aired
more versus together.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
So do I How old are you, Leah?
Speaker 5 (07:46):
I'm twenty five, about to be twenty six February.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Okay, all right, you can wait another year.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
I was just gonna say, you know, if you get
engaged a year plus for now, and then you got
to take a year or two to plan a wedding.
Speaker 5 (08:00):
You know.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
I'm I'm all about love, so is Susan. I say,
get engaged in twenty twenty six and see where it goes.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
Okay, I'll put you in.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
I want to know.
Speaker 3 (08:11):
Do you.
Speaker 5 (08:13):
The ring?
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Listen? Have him call me. I have a jeweler. I
got a guy. I'll take care of him.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Okay are you sharing this with all your followers?
Speaker 3 (08:25):
Oh? I haven't?
Speaker 4 (08:25):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (08:26):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Are you keeping private about it?
Speaker 4 (08:34):
I think I want to definitely share more. But to
be transparent.
Speaker 5 (08:38):
I just had this like really fun brand deal and
I wanted to like hard launch him with that and
it just went live.
Speaker 4 (08:43):
So I'll probably post more of him now.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Okay, got good?
Speaker 3 (08:48):
Wow, Well what about your TikTok followers.
Speaker 5 (08:53):
They're definitely more nosy. I think they love I think
they love it. I think they're very curious. I'll probably
do you like, I'll probably share a little bit more,
but I had to give you guys the first dips.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
Yes, we're the hard launch here.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Well, listen, here's what I'm saying. Can't you just get
engaged for the sake of our podcast and then you
can rethink it next week?
Speaker 2 (09:13):
You can do it on it. We'll have Ricky on
as well.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
Okay, he gets prepared.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
That would be so romand getting engaged on I can't
think of anything more.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Leave it to going to step behind you. We're gonna
know about it. We can figure out the scene shows.
Has he seen your Has he seen on either show
that you were on? He has watched it? After meeting
here he watched it or prior to meeting you.
Speaker 5 (09:52):
We watched a few, maybe like two episodes of Paradise together. Okay,
nothing for that he's I mean, he's I've shown him
like little clips that I thought were funny.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
But what if what a wait, what if Ricky had
been on the Bachelorette or Paradise?
Speaker 3 (10:09):
How would that tell me? How that would I want
to swooped him right up?
Speaker 4 (10:12):
Y'all would have got an engagement out of me?
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Sue, Like that would have been perfect.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Wait, so you're saying you would have swooped right in
on him.
Speaker 4 (10:22):
That's my husband, Kathy, Oh, I love.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
This, I love Wait?
Speaker 3 (10:26):
Could we say that again? For a cut for this?
Speaker 1 (10:28):
I would like I would like everyone in Bachelor Nation
to know Leah just said she has met her husband
and we are so happy for you, and I want
to come to the wedding.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
What is his greenest green flag? Like, what's the best part?
Just one word?
Speaker 3 (10:45):
What do you have?
Speaker 4 (10:48):
One word? Probably like just kind? He's very kind.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
I like this, like it.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
Tell me Lea, what was the moment? I mean, women
use this term all the time about feeling safe and
being seen. I actually needed to start using that terminology
for myself as soon as I meet the guy, because
I hear women say that all the time, that that's
why they fell in love. They felt seen and they
feel safe.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
For that person.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
So was there a moment that that happened for you?
I mean, you said he was climbing all that, but
what was Was there a moment?
Speaker 3 (11:24):
Tell me?
Speaker 4 (11:25):
Yeah, I think that there was.
Speaker 5 (11:27):
I think one time he was like, I wanted ice
cream and he was like, perfect, I'll pick you up
in a few minutes.
Speaker 4 (11:34):
Just be ready to go get some ice cream.
Speaker 5 (11:36):
And I put on a bald cap and a suit.
Speaker 4 (11:42):
And I was dressed up like Steve Harvey. And he
thought it was adorable where one might think it's weird.
Speaker 5 (11:49):
And that's how I knew he was the one because
he kissed me in a bald cap.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
You know what you're saying, because you didn't look beautiful, glamorous,
didn't have your makeup done.
Speaker 3 (11:57):
You were just kind of hanging loose. Is that what
you're saying.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
Yeah, I was just like I think he just I
love it when they get you. You know.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
What about your relationship might surprise your fans.
Speaker 4 (12:17):
Surprise them probably just the whole thing.
Speaker 5 (12:20):
I think that I've been such a man hater online.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
And now they're like, oh my gosh, so happy.
Speaker 5 (12:25):
And so I thinks, yeah, they're probably just like WHOA, Like,
who is this guy?
Speaker 4 (12:31):
I think they're just really curious, Leya.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
If any what advice would you give to your fans
who are still waiting to find their person?
Speaker 5 (12:40):
Definitely I would say be open date them all, because
I think that while you're in that exploratory phase of
like still finding.
Speaker 4 (12:50):
Someone, you're you need time.
Speaker 5 (12:53):
Like I always think about dating as like, I hate
to put it this way, but like a job interview,
you're not going to hire the person that you meet
off the street. Sometimes you got to interview a few people.
You gotta get to know, you gotta put yourself out there.
I think just being open and making sure that you're
finding the positives in the journey and the experience and
not being like, oh, this sucks, like I'm not finding anyone, like,
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instead be like, oh that day was wonderful because I
learned this about him or this about myself.
Speaker 4 (13:21):
Yes, or I got a nice dinner.
Speaker 5 (13:23):
Sometimes it's not always like yeah, I found my husband,
but like you can find you know, little puzzles along
the way.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
Yeah, well this is a new lay up from the
laya I knew in Parise.
Speaker 4 (13:36):
How do you how do you why do you mean that.
Speaker 3 (13:38):
What do I love this?
Speaker 5 (13:39):
Well?
Speaker 1 (13:39):
No, I just listen. I love how happy you are,
how happy you seem. I'm so glad you have found
your person that you're getting engaged on our podcast to
find out what ring you want. I just I'm so thrilled.
But listen today, not only are we celebrating your love,
but we're going to try something new on our podcast.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Okay, this is going to be funny.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
We asked our listeners to submit their confessions to us
anonymously online. We're going to read them, speculate, respond, you
name it. We're just going to talk about it. Are
you ready to join in on that with us?
Speaker 4 (14:16):
Let's do it.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
It's going to be I mean, who doesn't want to
tell their deepest, darkest secret anonymously?
Speaker 3 (14:23):
I mean I know I do. So you ready? Have
you ever done this? Just real quickly?
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Have you ever given a confession, deep dark confession to
anyone anonymously?
Speaker 4 (14:33):
I don't think so. I'm a pretty open book, though, all.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
Three of us. I think.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Here's the first one. My husband doesn't know. I hooked
up with a colleague on a work trip.
Speaker 3 (14:48):
What do you think?
Speaker 5 (14:50):
Oh my gosh, you dirty, dirty girl?
Speaker 2 (14:55):
Whoa I have? Questions.
Speaker 4 (14:57):
Yeah, I have a lot of ques hooked up.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
With a work colleague. Is it continuing or is it
just the one time thing?
Speaker 3 (15:06):
I'm sorry, does it matter?
Speaker 4 (15:09):
I mean it doesn't, It really doesn't.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
It does that, But there's a butt.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
What's the butt? I can hardly be Like some.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
People make a huge mistake, they drank too much or whatever,
and they kissed somebody and they're like, oh my god
the next day.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
I need to explain to you vernacular hooked up does
not mean a peck on the cheek. Leah, would you
explain this because I've tried millions penetration was there?
Speaker 4 (15:34):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (15:35):
To me, I mean it could happen to anybody ate
a chocolate bar and that it just happens.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
Again, my hooked up still means just kissing.
Speaker 3 (15:43):
Sorry, it doesn't hooked up.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
We're getting late.
Speaker 5 (15:45):
Yeah, I think, yeah, maybe we don't know what it means,
but I do think that your spouse deserves to know,
and maybe, like work, either work through.
Speaker 3 (15:51):
That or oh wait, that was my question.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
Say do you would tell your spouse you?
Speaker 3 (16:00):
Ricky? Ricky, I got to tell you something here.
Speaker 1 (16:02):
Leah hooked up with her boss last night at the
Christmas party.
Speaker 4 (16:07):
Are you feeling, Leah, I'm unemployed. I'm self employed. But no,
that's terrible. I would I don't.
Speaker 5 (16:16):
I don't ever condone cheating, and like if that happened
to me, I might go to jail.
Speaker 4 (16:22):
Like you know what I mean?
Speaker 5 (16:23):
Not?
Speaker 4 (16:24):
Okay, all right?
Speaker 2 (16:25):
How about this one? My husband thinks I've only been
with one other man besides him, but in reality it's ten.
Speaker 4 (16:34):
Oh period, queen.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
I mean, everybody has a past. Yeah, I don't think
that that's important that he has to know every single
person you were with.
Speaker 4 (16:44):
Well, yeah, I agree.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
Oh wait a minute, if if Ricky says to you,
aren't you glad we know Ricky? Now, if Ricky says
to you, darling, Leah, I'm buying you a five carrot
emerald and diamond. I'm having a handmade. Kathy's helping me
work this out, and I'm so glad to know I'm
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your first, oh first.
Speaker 5 (17:09):
Well, but here's the thing, I personally, my personal preference,
I wouldn't. I don't think I would be with a
man who who is so stuck on the past and
is like so like consumed by what happened before we met.
You know, I don't think that I think that's like
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an ego issue and a confidence issue.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
So wait, if Ricky, I can't poor Ricky, I keep
bringing him in this. But if a man that you're dating,
oh wait that happens to be Ricky, asks you, Hey, Leah,
how many guys have you slept with before?
Speaker 3 (17:44):
Would you say, well, I.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
Need my fingers, my toes, and my every strand of
hair to count them all?
Speaker 3 (17:49):
Or are you're going to make up some random number?
Speaker 5 (17:51):
No, I would just tell him and like, if you
are being weird about it, then that's an issue that
you have, because that has nothing to do with where.
Speaker 4 (17:59):
I'm at now, who I am now.
Speaker 5 (18:03):
Yeah, it's your past, and I don't think there's any
reason you need to bring it into your current.
Speaker 3 (18:07):
All Right, I like it.
Speaker 1 (18:08):
All right, here's one for you, girl writes, how about
this one for you? I take you know that engagement
ring you don't have yet? Okay, I want you to
pretend you have it on your hand. Okay, I take
my engagement ring off when I'm out with my friends.
Somebody confessed to this online. She takes her engagement ring
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off when I'm out with my friends.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
What do you think? Well?
Speaker 5 (18:32):
I think you just probably don't love your maybe and
you're still looking, And that's okay to still be looking.
Speaker 3 (18:40):
But if you're engaged, that's it.
Speaker 5 (18:43):
I think then you just have to unengage yourself because
clearly you're not.
Speaker 4 (18:47):
There's not there's someone you're taking.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
It off, somebody comes along. Is that the idea?
Speaker 4 (18:54):
So curious?
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Yeah, that's why the divorce rates so high.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
Boy, Okay, I read my boyfriend's text once a week
to see if he's talking about me to his friends
or family.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
Okay, so she reads her boyfriend's text once a week,
she's in that phone.
Speaker 3 (19:12):
What do you think?
Speaker 1 (19:12):
Ok.
Speaker 5 (19:13):
I think people need to meditate, and I think people
need to be more grounded, and I think people have
a lot of hurt that is unhealed. Because there's no
reason I've never gone through Ricky's phone, he's never gone
through mine. I think we're both just healed individuals that
trust each other very deeply.
Speaker 4 (19:32):
And I think that's like an inside issue.
Speaker 3 (19:35):
I love that answer. I was going to go with
a much simpler answer.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
Have a twenty four number password that she can't possibly memorize.
Speaker 2 (19:45):
You know, be careful what you wish for, Be careful
what you're looking for some things you don't want to know,
you know. Yeah, that could starts a huge problem.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
I say, delete what you don't want known all. Right
after I met my future husband at a party, I
kissed his best friend later that same night. We never
told anyone, and my husband still doesn't know to this day.
They weren't engaged yet they I mean, they may have
been engaged, but they weren't married. No, it says I
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met my future husband at a party, so they weren't engaged.
It was she ultimately married this guy, but she kissed
his best friend that same night. So she meets the
guy that night and kisses his best friend. I say,
this has much ado about nothing. But what do you say?
Speaker 4 (20:28):
Yeah, I think that's kind of funny and like iconic.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
Yeah that's cool.
Speaker 4 (20:32):
It's like, yeah funny, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
Yeah he cares.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
Okay, Oh my gosh, I told my boyfriend I was
pregnant so he would be nicer to me. Wait a minute,
was she making it up that she was I'm hoping
that she really was pregnant.
Speaker 4 (20:51):
No, I think she wasn't pregnant. She just wanted him
to be nicer.
Speaker 5 (20:56):
But I think you need to leave your boyfriend if
he's that much of an asshole.
Speaker 4 (21:00):
You shouldn't have Yeah, you shouldn't have to trick them
into be nice.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
Why would he be nicer if you're pregnant?
Speaker 1 (21:06):
I mean, if he doesn't want a baby's I mean,
I'm saying he's going to give you those plan?
Speaker 3 (21:14):
B have you said?
Speaker 1 (21:16):
What the hell are you thinking? I don't think that's
I don't mean I don't need that. One doesn't make sense.
Speaker 3 (21:20):
Let's move along.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
Oh boys, I never told my husband that I'm bisexual.
Speaker 5 (21:34):
I think you should share if you love that person
and you trust them, and you should be able to.
Speaker 4 (21:39):
Share openly like you're who you are and not be
ashamed of it.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
No, I mean that you're going to act on it.
Do you need it?
Speaker 4 (21:47):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (21:48):
But I think it makes me sad that they didn't
feel comfortable enough.
Speaker 2 (21:51):
Ye Okay, I want another baby, and my wife and
I agreed to only two kids, but I can't stop
thinking about having a third.
Speaker 5 (22:02):
Well, I think that's something you need to mutually agree on,
and a child is so much responsibility.
Speaker 2 (22:07):
Oh baby, you know how people think that's going to
save the marriage. They're just going to have a baby,
and when they're stilling their marriage and it doesn't it
really well.
Speaker 3 (22:14):
I wonder do you think he's talked to her about it?
He doesn't say.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
Here he said, I can't stop thinking about it. I
want another baby and they only agree to having too.
I want to know if he's talked to her about Maybe.
Speaker 4 (22:26):
Just ask Yeah, people are so weird, like just talk
about it.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
Just because they agreed on only too well they've had
the conversation.
Speaker 4 (22:35):
Maybe, yeah, just chat it up. People are too scared
to chat with each other. And I don't know why.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
Communication it's key. Oh wait, I get butterflies for my
assistant at work.
Speaker 4 (22:47):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
I mean you're not supposed to ship me sleep. But
if you're both single, who cares?
Speaker 2 (22:52):
But just getting butterflies is okay? But are they single?
Speaker 3 (22:57):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (22:58):
Oh, I mean you just might have to move departments.
Speaker 1 (23:02):
That's fine, Like get another job.
Speaker 3 (23:06):
I mean, I don't think I read some of these things.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
I'm like, if this is the worst confession you have,
go back and live life again.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
I know.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
Wait, I have to read this one because I think
the words she lives very strong.
Speaker 3 (23:24):
But I lived it. I lived it, Okay.
Speaker 1 (23:28):
Now I wouldn't use the word hate but close enough.
I hate my husband's mom and sister. They were mean
to me. So mean, what do you think about that, Leah?
Speaker 5 (23:42):
I think that's so tough because I've definitely experienced some
tough like in past relationships like in laws, and once again,
like I'm such a family girl, So that was very
very that was like honestly one of the things that
ended the relationship. But I think it's tough, and I
think you just need to work with your partner and.
Speaker 4 (24:02):
Be a unit and be a team.
Speaker 5 (24:03):
And and kind of unpack that and maybe like try
to get to the bottom of it, because ultimately, if
you marry that person, that's your family too.
Speaker 4 (24:11):
You don't marry the person, you marry their whole family.
Speaker 1 (24:14):
So well, I wait, whoa, whoa wait, I'm sorry not
get in trouble, but let what if the mom and
the sister are just downright mean to you. They're they're
just theys the they diss you, they're mean to you,
they don't hear you because you took their little boy away.
Speaker 4 (24:35):
Ew then like you have him, like you date him.
Speaker 1 (24:39):
Then like you're married, you love your husband, why did
you marry him? Well, because when I married my husband,
he loved me and made me his life. But his
well sister what he had two sisters. One sister is
just a mean cow.
Speaker 3 (24:54):
She still is. The other one is fine because my
husband was only son and he was her you know,
he was everything I got in the world.
Speaker 4 (25:06):
Your husband ever like set boundaries.
Speaker 3 (25:08):
Yes, his family, he tried.
Speaker 4 (25:11):
I think.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
His job.
Speaker 4 (25:15):
What's that?
Speaker 1 (25:17):
I know, I'm agreeing with it. It was his job. But
it's very difficult. And I hope for your sake, Leah,
that you never have a mother in law who's like that,
because I can tell you I have friends who are
living it right now, and it's not fun and it's
not easy, and it's hard on holidays and birthdays and
other family events. I want to take all these mother
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in law's, shake them to their teeth or false teeth
or dentures, rattle and.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
Say and on everyone anonymously that wrote in give us
a little more details that we could really give a
good opiniage. Some of them. I'm guessing like, we're ye,
get butterflies for your assistant at work? Are you married
and you're having butterflies for the other First, we'd like
your name and what Susan sane now I don't care.
(26:06):
Just give you a little more juice and keep writing,
keep sending them in because.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
The confessions we want, we want even juicier ones. We
know those you out there. We know that you've got
some juicy confessions to make. It is anonymous, it's.
Speaker 3 (26:21):
Like the I R S. We're not tracking your IP number.
Do it.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Let us know who you, let us know what you've done,
and we will talk about it, and we'll let you
know whether you were right or wrong, because you really
want to know that.
Speaker 2 (26:33):
But I think it's cute that the one girl said,
I met my future husband at a party, but I
kissed his best friend at the same thing. Like that's adorable.
She's honest, Like that's the worst you have.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
You're fine, baby, Yeah, that's what I want.
Speaker 5 (26:47):
It will always work out how it needs to, because
clearly you married your husband.
Speaker 3 (26:51):
Yes, yes, look at she's such an eternal optimist.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
Okay, well, I say that's going to do it for
today's episode, Leah, thank you for joining in us. Thank
you for sharing your wisdom, your beauty, your kindness, the
fact that you're going to get engaged on our podcast.
Speaker 5 (27:06):
All of these things, yeah, all these things, you guys
you both.
Speaker 3 (27:12):
We are so.
Speaker 2 (27:13):
Happy to have you one here and you you got us.
You're in our heart. Trust me. We wish you all
the very best and thanks to everybody else that's listening
out there, we wish you the best as well. Be
sure to follow Bachelor Happy Hour as we have new
episodes coming out every week that you do not want
to miss.
Speaker 1 (27:32):
Exactly and listen to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on
the iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen to your podcast.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
Until next time, have a great week.
Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours, Golden Hour. Thanks so
much for joining us today. As always, we're so excited
to be here. How are you today, Susan?
Speaker 2 (00:16):
I am great. I'm ready to end this year, but
it was a fabulous one, so I'm not that much
in Harry, but hopefully the year to come is going
to be even better. And today we have a very
special guest, Kathy. She's special to you and me, I know.
Please welcome from Paradise, Leah. Hi, Leah, Welcome to Golden Hour.
Speaker 3 (00:37):
Hey, they are beautiful. How are you? Amazing?
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Thank you, Susan, so do you and we know we
know why you look so beautiful? Where are we speaking
to you today? We're going to get into things real quickly.
But where are you?
Speaker 4 (00:52):
I'm still here in La in my cute little apartment.
Speaker 2 (00:56):
That's a mile that won't stop is from.
Speaker 1 (01:00):
Oh no, So we're going to get into So here's
the thing. There's everyone knows. I was in Paradise with Leah.
Love her to pieces. She taught me how to do makeup,
and the proof is if you could see her right now,
she looks absolutely gorgeous. So we're going to get started
right away. But I have to first say, in Paradise,
you did not find love.
Speaker 3 (01:21):
You.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
You got a little upset a few times because you
were trying to make silk out of a sow's ear
otherwise known as Jonathan.
Speaker 4 (01:30):
I love Jonathan knows better than anyone. She's many a tears.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
But I love you and I love Jonathan. But I
do know how ready you were to meet your man.
And so now you are going to please spill the tea.
Tell us all about I want the whole, all the deats,
as they.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
Say, of your boyfriend Ricky, how did you meet him?
Tell us all.
Speaker 4 (01:55):
So.
Speaker 5 (01:56):
Ricky is from la He's a musician, and he's a
music director and a drummer.
Speaker 4 (02:00):
He plays the drums. And I was at a music festival.
I'm from Hawaii.
Speaker 5 (02:05):
I love reggae music, and he plays for a few
reggae artists. And I was backstage at a festival because
I know another band member shout out to Rebel willis
from Rebel Soldiers. But he got me tickets to like
get backstage. And then while I was backstage, I met Ricky.
(02:25):
And then it was actually really funny though, because when
I met him, he was with a friend of his
who like is lesbian, and she was like chopping it
up with me, and I think like she like low
key like took his like mojo, and he was like
super quiet.
Speaker 4 (02:42):
He's definitely more reserved.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
When you looked at each other. Was there a feeling?
So was there a feeling you know that that initial chemistry.
Is that what you had when you saw him? Or
did this come.
Speaker 5 (03:01):
I think that I definitely thought he was like very cute, okay,
but I think at the time I wasn't like super
like this was before Paradise actually, and I think before
Paradise I wasn't dating super seriously. I was kind of
just like, you know, enjoying my singleness, kind of like
(03:23):
figure out who I was. And also I kind of
knew that Paradise was coming up, so I was kind
of just like, oh, like yeah, you know, I didn't
want to start anything too crazy, but so we kept
in touch and then I was actually talking on the
beach with Keith, and I was like, oh, Keith, like,
I'm so sad that Paradise panned out this way, but
(03:45):
like and we were kind of just like, oh, is
there anyone back home that like maybe you're interested in?
And I was kind of like, well, there's this one
guy that like I would love to like circle back with,
and he was like do it. And then I was like, okay,
I'll update you. And he's like I was like, what
about you, Keith?
Speaker 4 (03:59):
And he's like, yeah, there's this one lady.
Speaker 5 (04:00):
And I was like, okay, like let's make a pact.
We're going to reach out to these people.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
Yeah. Well, I'm going to tell you.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
I'm going to give a little news flash here that
wasn't intended. It didn't work out for Keith, like so
carry on, but it did.
Speaker 2 (04:13):
Said did you what happened after Paradise? Did you go
to another concert?
Speaker 5 (04:17):
Or I just texted him and I was like, hey,
I'm back from that show. I said I was going
to film and then we got dinner and we've been
like so inseparable ever since.
Speaker 3 (04:27):
How was he different, Lea?
Speaker 1 (04:29):
Tell me, because I you and I had lots of
talks in Paradise about what you were looking for, So
tell me. Obviously it wasn't love at first sight because
you came to Paradise, but tell me, right, I mean, hey,
take true, there it is, But tell me what what
makes him different?
Speaker 4 (04:48):
Well?
Speaker 5 (04:49):
I think one I think like personally it was for me.
It was all my stage of readiness. I think he
was like such a wonderful human being, but one I
think I was finally ready.
Speaker 4 (05:02):
To like okay, like I paradise out of the way.
Speaker 5 (05:05):
I want to find my person like everyone did, all
my friends did, like, let's start dating seriously. And he
is someone who is so family oriented.
Speaker 4 (05:15):
That's so very special to me. And I've always.
Speaker 5 (05:18):
Wanted someone who values family the same way I do.
And he's very like kind, He's so gentle with me
and Kathy, you know me, I can be a handful,
So I've always said, like I need someone that's very patient,
and he's so patient with me. And I think that
is like the like we align on all of our
our big things. So like he's very family oriented, he's
(05:39):
very kind, he's very patient. I think we approach life
in very similar ways. And I think we align on
so many of the big things in life, and I
think we approach life in the very similar way. I
think the biggest thing though, is he's very gentle and
very patient with me.
Speaker 4 (05:54):
I know I'm a big personality. I can be a
handful and.
Speaker 5 (06:01):
He's just someone who has accepted me one hundred percent
for who I am and encouraged me and kind of
like he's never dold my sparkle. I think he's just
brought it out even more and wow, yeah he's.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
Wait, so let me tell you, since you align on
everything and he's made you the person you are and
you're sparkling even more, are you getting engaged in.
Speaker 2 (06:23):
The ring's coming in the future.
Speaker 4 (06:26):
I mean, that's.
Speaker 3 (06:28):
Definite, Leah, Leah, break the news, break the new.
Speaker 5 (06:32):
That's a little soon, guys, it's a little soon, But
I think that is the goal.
Speaker 4 (06:36):
He actually asked me.
Speaker 5 (06:37):
He was like, so, like, when do you want to
get engaged? And I was like, probably you can propose
next year, like early next.
Speaker 3 (06:43):
Year, twenty six I love this.
Speaker 4 (06:46):
No, twenty twenty seven, like one more year.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
We're how old is he, Leah?
Speaker 4 (06:53):
He is thirty?
Speaker 2 (06:54):
And tell me how is he different than any other
guy you dated?
Speaker 3 (06:57):
Well, she said, he's patient, he's.
Speaker 2 (06:59):
Well not And now the guy wasn't patient?
Speaker 4 (07:03):
I think.
Speaker 5 (07:03):
I mean, I date in La which is always really rough.
I think dating anywhere can be rough. But I think
a lot of the guys that I've dated.
Speaker 4 (07:11):
Here have been like very superficial. Sometimes I think they
value things that you know are so fleeting.
Speaker 5 (07:21):
And I honestly truly have never met a guy in
LA who is as family oriented as him.
Speaker 2 (07:28):
Yeah, and that says a lot.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
And you want kids, right? Yes?
Speaker 2 (07:32):
I want kids?
Speaker 4 (07:33):
I want them.
Speaker 3 (07:33):
Okay? Did I give you good advice on paradise?
Speaker 5 (07:37):
You gave the best advice, Kathy. I wish they aired
more versus together.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
So do I How old are you, Leah?
Speaker 5 (07:46):
I'm twenty five, about to be twenty six February.
Speaker 3 (07:50):
Okay, all right, you can wait another year.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
I was just gonna say, you know, if you get
engaged a year plus for now, and then you got
to take a year or two to plan a wedding.
Speaker 5 (08:00):
You know.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
I'm I'm all about love, so is Susan. I say,
get engaged in twenty twenty six and see where it goes.
Speaker 4 (08:08):
Okay, I'll put you in.
Speaker 2 (08:10):
I want to know.
Speaker 3 (08:11):
Do you.
Speaker 5 (08:13):
The ring?
Speaker 3 (08:15):
Listen? Have him call me. I have a jeweler. I
got a guy. I'll take care of him.
Speaker 2 (08:21):
Okay are you sharing this with all your followers?
Speaker 3 (08:25):
Oh? I haven't?
Speaker 4 (08:25):
Yeah?
Speaker 3 (08:26):
Yes?
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Are you keeping private about it?
Speaker 4 (08:34):
I think I want to definitely share more. But to
be transparent.
Speaker 5 (08:38):
I just had this like really fun brand deal and
I wanted to like hard launch him with that and
it just went live.
Speaker 4 (08:43):
So I'll probably post more of him now.
Speaker 2 (08:46):
Okay, got good?
Speaker 3 (08:48):
Wow, Well what about your TikTok followers.
Speaker 5 (08:53):
They're definitely more nosy. I think they love I think
they love it. I think they're very curious. I'll probably
do you like, I'll probably share a little bit more,
but I had to give you guys the first dips.
Speaker 2 (09:05):
Yes, we're the hard launch here.
Speaker 1 (09:07):
Well, listen, here's what I'm saying. Can't you just get
engaged for the sake of our podcast and then you
can rethink it next week?
Speaker 2 (09:13):
You can do it on it. We'll have Ricky on
as well.
Speaker 3 (09:15):
Okay, he gets prepared.
Speaker 1 (09:24):
That would be so romand getting engaged on I can't
think of anything more.
Speaker 2 (09:31):
Leave it to going to step behind you. We're gonna
know about it. We can figure out the scene shows.
Has he seen your Has he seen on either show
that you were on? He has watched it? After meeting
here he watched it or prior to meeting you.
Speaker 5 (09:52):
We watched a few, maybe like two episodes of Paradise together. Okay,
nothing for that he's I mean, he's I've shown him
like little clips that I thought were funny.
Speaker 1 (10:03):
But what if what a wait, what if Ricky had
been on the Bachelorette or Paradise?
Speaker 3 (10:09):
How would that tell me? How that would I want
to swooped him right up?
Speaker 4 (10:12):
Y'all would have got an engagement out of me?
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Sue, Like that would have been perfect.
Speaker 3 (10:18):
Wait, so you're saying you would have swooped right in
on him.
Speaker 4 (10:22):
That's my husband, Kathy, Oh, I love.
Speaker 2 (10:24):
This, I love Wait?
Speaker 3 (10:26):
Could we say that again? For a cut for this?
Speaker 1 (10:28):
I would like I would like everyone in Bachelor Nation
to know Leah just said she has met her husband
and we are so happy for you, and I want
to come to the wedding.
Speaker 2 (10:39):
What is his greenest green flag? Like, what's the best part?
Just one word?
Speaker 3 (10:45):
What do you have?
Speaker 4 (10:48):
One word? Probably like just kind? He's very kind.
Speaker 2 (10:53):
I like this, like it.
Speaker 1 (10:56):
Tell me Lea, what was the moment? I mean, women
use this term all the time about feeling safe and
being seen. I actually needed to start using that terminology
for myself as soon as I meet the guy, because
I hear women say that all the time, that that's
why they fell in love. They felt seen and they
feel safe.
Speaker 3 (11:17):
For that person.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
So was there a moment that that happened for you?
I mean, you said he was climbing all that, but
what was Was there a moment?
Speaker 3 (11:24):
Tell me?
Speaker 4 (11:25):
Yeah, I think that there was.
Speaker 5 (11:27):
I think one time he was like, I wanted ice
cream and he was like, perfect, I'll pick you up
in a few minutes.
Speaker 4 (11:34):
Just be ready to go get some ice cream.
Speaker 5 (11:36):
And I put on a bald cap and a suit.
Speaker 4 (11:42):
And I was dressed up like Steve Harvey. And he
thought it was adorable where one might think it's weird.
Speaker 5 (11:49):
And that's how I knew he was the one because
he kissed me in a bald cap.
Speaker 1 (11:53):
You know what you're saying, because you didn't look beautiful, glamorous,
didn't have your makeup done.
Speaker 3 (11:57):
You were just kind of hanging loose. Is that what
you're saying.
Speaker 2 (12:00):
Yeah, I was just like I think he just I
love it when they get you. You know.
Speaker 1 (12:11):
What about your relationship might surprise your fans.
Speaker 4 (12:17):
Surprise them probably just the whole thing.
Speaker 5 (12:20):
I think that I've been such a man hater online.
Speaker 4 (12:23):
And now they're like, oh my gosh, so happy.
Speaker 5 (12:25):
And so I thinks, yeah, they're probably just like WHOA, Like,
who is this guy?
Speaker 4 (12:31):
I think they're just really curious, Leya.
Speaker 2 (12:34):
If any what advice would you give to your fans
who are still waiting to find their person?
Speaker 5 (12:40):
Definitely I would say be open date them all, because
I think that while you're in that exploratory phase of
like still finding.
Speaker 4 (12:50):
Someone, you're you need time.
Speaker 5 (12:53):
Like I always think about dating as like, I hate
to put it this way, but like a job interview,
you're not going to hire the person that you meet
off the street. Sometimes you got to interview a few people.
You gotta get to know, you gotta put yourself out there.
I think just being open and making sure that you're
finding the positives in the journey and the experience and
not being like, oh, this sucks, like I'm not finding anyone, like,
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instead be like, oh that day was wonderful because I
learned this about him or this about myself.
Speaker 4 (13:21):
Yes, or I got a nice dinner.
Speaker 5 (13:23):
Sometimes it's not always like yeah, I found my husband,
but like you can find you know, little puzzles along
the way.
Speaker 1 (13:30):
Yeah, well this is a new lay up from the
laya I knew in Parise.
Speaker 4 (13:36):
How do you how do you why do you mean that.
Speaker 3 (13:38):
What do I love this?
Speaker 5 (13:39):
Well?
Speaker 1 (13:39):
No, I just listen. I love how happy you are,
how happy you seem. I'm so glad you have found
your person that you're getting engaged on our podcast to
find out what ring you want. I just I'm so thrilled.
But listen today, not only are we celebrating your love,
but we're going to try something new on our podcast.
Speaker 3 (14:00):
Okay, this is going to be funny.
Speaker 1 (14:03):
We asked our listeners to submit their confessions to us
anonymously online. We're going to read them, speculate, respond, you
name it. We're just going to talk about it. Are
you ready to join in on that with us?
Speaker 4 (14:16):
Let's do it.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
It's going to be I mean, who doesn't want to
tell their deepest, darkest secret anonymously?
Speaker 3 (14:23):
I mean I know I do. So you ready? Have
you ever done this? Just real quickly?
Speaker 1 (14:29):
Have you ever given a confession, deep dark confession to
anyone anonymously?
Speaker 4 (14:33):
I don't think so. I'm a pretty open book, though, all.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
Three of us. I think.
Speaker 1 (14:39):
Here's the first one. My husband doesn't know. I hooked
up with a colleague on a work trip.
Speaker 3 (14:48):
What do you think?
Speaker 5 (14:50):
Oh my gosh, you dirty, dirty girl?
Speaker 2 (14:55):
Whoa I have? Questions.
Speaker 4 (14:57):
Yeah, I have a lot of ques hooked up.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
With a work colleague. Is it continuing or is it
just the one time thing?
Speaker 3 (15:06):
I'm sorry, does it matter?
Speaker 4 (15:09):
I mean it doesn't, It really doesn't.
Speaker 2 (15:11):
It does that, But there's a butt.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
What's the butt? I can hardly be Like some.
Speaker 2 (15:15):
People make a huge mistake, they drank too much or whatever,
and they kissed somebody and they're like, oh my god
the next day.
Speaker 1 (15:21):
I need to explain to you vernacular hooked up does
not mean a peck on the cheek. Leah, would you
explain this because I've tried millions penetration was there?
Speaker 4 (15:34):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (15:35):
To me, I mean it could happen to anybody ate
a chocolate bar and that it just happens.
Speaker 2 (15:40):
Again, my hooked up still means just kissing.
Speaker 3 (15:43):
Sorry, it doesn't hooked up.
Speaker 2 (15:45):
We're getting late.
Speaker 5 (15:45):
Yeah, I think, yeah, maybe we don't know what it means,
but I do think that your spouse deserves to know,
and maybe, like work, either work through.
Speaker 3 (15:51):
That or oh wait, that was my question.
Speaker 1 (15:54):
Say do you would tell your spouse you?
Speaker 3 (16:00):
Ricky? Ricky, I got to tell you something here.
Speaker 1 (16:02):
Leah hooked up with her boss last night at the
Christmas party.
Speaker 4 (16:07):
Are you feeling, Leah, I'm unemployed. I'm self employed. But no,
that's terrible. I would I don't.
Speaker 5 (16:16):
I don't ever condone cheating, and like if that happened
to me, I might go to jail.
Speaker 4 (16:22):
Like you know what I mean?
Speaker 5 (16:23):
Not?
Speaker 4 (16:24):
Okay, all right?
Speaker 2 (16:25):
How about this one? My husband thinks I've only been
with one other man besides him, but in reality it's ten.
Speaker 4 (16:34):
Oh period, queen.
Speaker 2 (16:36):
I mean, everybody has a past. Yeah, I don't think
that that's important that he has to know every single
person you were with.
Speaker 4 (16:44):
Well, yeah, I agree.
Speaker 1 (16:46):
Oh wait a minute, if if Ricky says to you,
aren't you glad we know Ricky? Now, if Ricky says
to you, darling, Leah, I'm buying you a five carrot
emerald and diamond. I'm having a handmade. Kathy's helping me
work this out, and I'm so glad to know I'm
(17:06):
your first, oh first.
Speaker 5 (17:09):
Well, but here's the thing, I personally, my personal preference,
I wouldn't. I don't think I would be with a
man who who is so stuck on the past and
is like so like consumed by what happened before we met.
You know, I don't think that I think that's like
(17:29):
an ego issue and a confidence issue.
Speaker 1 (17:32):
So wait, if Ricky, I can't poor Ricky, I keep
bringing him in this. But if a man that you're dating,
oh wait that happens to be Ricky, asks you, Hey, Leah,
how many guys have you slept with before?
Speaker 3 (17:44):
Would you say, well, I.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
Need my fingers, my toes, and my every strand of
hair to count them all?
Speaker 3 (17:49):
Or are you're going to make up some random number?
Speaker 5 (17:51):
No, I would just tell him and like, if you
are being weird about it, then that's an issue that
you have, because that has nothing to do with where.
Speaker 4 (17:59):
I'm at now, who I am now.
Speaker 5 (18:03):
Yeah, it's your past, and I don't think there's any
reason you need to bring it into your current.
Speaker 3 (18:07):
All Right, I like it.
Speaker 1 (18:08):
All right, here's one for you, girl writes, how about
this one for you? I take you know that engagement
ring you don't have yet? Okay, I want you to
pretend you have it on your hand. Okay, I take
my engagement ring off when I'm out with my friends.
Somebody confessed to this online. She takes her engagement ring
(18:29):
off when I'm out with my friends.
Speaker 3 (18:31):
What do you think? Well?
Speaker 5 (18:32):
I think you just probably don't love your maybe and
you're still looking, And that's okay to still be looking.
Speaker 3 (18:40):
But if you're engaged, that's it.
Speaker 5 (18:43):
I think then you just have to unengage yourself because
clearly you're not.
Speaker 4 (18:47):
There's not there's someone you're taking.
Speaker 2 (18:50):
It off, somebody comes along. Is that the idea?
Speaker 4 (18:54):
So curious?
Speaker 3 (18:55):
Yeah, that's why the divorce rates so high.
Speaker 2 (18:58):
Boy, Okay, I read my boyfriend's text once a week
to see if he's talking about me to his friends
or family.
Speaker 1 (19:08):
Okay, so she reads her boyfriend's text once a week,
she's in that phone.
Speaker 3 (19:12):
What do you think?
Speaker 1 (19:12):
Ok.
Speaker 5 (19:13):
I think people need to meditate, and I think people
need to be more grounded, and I think people have
a lot of hurt that is unhealed. Because there's no
reason I've never gone through Ricky's phone, he's never gone
through mine. I think we're both just healed individuals that
trust each other very deeply.
Speaker 4 (19:32):
And I think that's like an inside issue.
Speaker 3 (19:35):
I love that answer. I was going to go with
a much simpler answer.
Speaker 1 (19:39):
Have a twenty four number password that she can't possibly memorize.
Speaker 2 (19:45):
You know, be careful what you wish for, Be careful
what you're looking for some things you don't want to know,
you know. Yeah, that could starts a huge problem.
Speaker 1 (19:53):
I say, delete what you don't want known all. Right
after I met my future husband at a party, I
kissed his best friend later that same night. We never
told anyone, and my husband still doesn't know to this day.
They weren't engaged yet they I mean, they may have
been engaged, but they weren't married. No, it says I
(20:14):
met my future husband at a party, so they weren't engaged.
It was she ultimately married this guy, but she kissed
his best friend that same night. So she meets the
guy that night and kisses his best friend. I say,
this has much ado about nothing. But what do you say?
Speaker 4 (20:28):
Yeah, I think that's kind of funny and like iconic.
Speaker 2 (20:31):
Yeah that's cool.
Speaker 4 (20:32):
It's like, yeah funny, Yeah.
Speaker 3 (20:35):
Yeah he cares.
Speaker 2 (20:38):
Okay, Oh my gosh, I told my boyfriend I was
pregnant so he would be nicer to me. Wait a minute,
was she making it up that she was I'm hoping
that she really was pregnant.
Speaker 4 (20:51):
No, I think she wasn't pregnant. She just wanted him
to be nicer.
Speaker 5 (20:56):
But I think you need to leave your boyfriend if
he's that much of an asshole.
Speaker 4 (21:00):
You shouldn't have Yeah, you shouldn't have to trick them
into be nice.
Speaker 2 (21:04):
Why would he be nicer if you're pregnant?
Speaker 1 (21:06):
I mean, if he doesn't want a baby's I mean,
I'm saying he's going to give you those plan?
Speaker 3 (21:14):
B have you said?
Speaker 1 (21:16):
What the hell are you thinking? I don't think that's
I don't mean I don't need that. One doesn't make sense.
Speaker 3 (21:20):
Let's move along.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
Oh boys, I never told my husband that I'm bisexual.
Speaker 5 (21:34):
I think you should share if you love that person
and you trust them, and you should be able to.
Speaker 4 (21:39):
Share openly like you're who you are and not be
ashamed of it.
Speaker 2 (21:43):
No, I mean that you're going to act on it.
Do you need it?
Speaker 4 (21:47):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (21:48):
But I think it makes me sad that they didn't
feel comfortable enough.
Speaker 2 (21:51):
Ye Okay, I want another baby, and my wife and
I agreed to only two kids, but I can't stop
thinking about having a third.
Speaker 5 (22:02):
Well, I think that's something you need to mutually agree on,
and a child is so much responsibility.
Speaker 2 (22:07):
Oh baby, you know how people think that's going to
save the marriage. They're just going to have a baby,
and when they're stilling their marriage and it doesn't it
really well.
Speaker 3 (22:14):
I wonder do you think he's talked to her about it?
He doesn't say.
Speaker 1 (22:18):
Here he said, I can't stop thinking about it. I
want another baby and they only agree to having too.
I want to know if he's talked to her about Maybe.
Speaker 4 (22:26):
Just ask Yeah, people are so weird, like just talk
about it.
Speaker 2 (22:30):
Just because they agreed on only too well they've had
the conversation.
Speaker 4 (22:35):
Maybe, yeah, just chat it up. People are too scared
to chat with each other. And I don't know why.
Speaker 2 (22:40):
Communication it's key. Oh wait, I get butterflies for my
assistant at work.
Speaker 4 (22:47):
Oh my gosh.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
I mean you're not supposed to ship me sleep. But
if you're both single, who cares?
Speaker 2 (22:52):
But just getting butterflies is okay? But are they single?
Speaker 3 (22:57):
I don't know.
Speaker 4 (22:58):
Oh, I mean you just might have to move departments.
Speaker 1 (23:02):
That's fine, Like get another job.
Speaker 3 (23:06):
I mean, I don't think I read some of these things.
Speaker 1 (23:11):
I'm like, if this is the worst confession you have,
go back and live life again.
Speaker 2 (23:17):
I know.
Speaker 1 (23:19):
Wait, I have to read this one because I think
the words she lives very strong.
Speaker 3 (23:24):
But I lived it. I lived it, Okay.
Speaker 1 (23:28):
Now I wouldn't use the word hate but close enough.
I hate my husband's mom and sister. They were mean
to me. So mean, what do you think about that, Leah?
Speaker 5 (23:42):
I think that's so tough because I've definitely experienced some
tough like in past relationships like in laws, and once again,
like I'm such a family girl, So that was very
very that was like honestly one of the things that
ended the relationship. But I think it's tough, and I
think you just need to work with your partner and.
Speaker 4 (24:02):
Be a unit and be a team.
Speaker 5 (24:03):
And and kind of unpack that and maybe like try
to get to the bottom of it, because ultimately, if
you marry that person, that's your family too.
Speaker 4 (24:11):
You don't marry the person, you marry their whole family.
Speaker 1 (24:14):
So well, I wait, whoa, whoa wait, I'm sorry not
get in trouble, but let what if the mom and
the sister are just downright mean to you. They're they're
just theys the they diss you, they're mean to you,
they don't hear you because you took their little boy away.
Speaker 4 (24:35):
Ew then like you have him, like you date him.
Speaker 1 (24:39):
Then like you're married, you love your husband, why did
you marry him? Well, because when I married my husband,
he loved me and made me his life. But his
well sister what he had two sisters. One sister is
just a mean cow.
Speaker 3 (24:54):
She still is. The other one is fine because my
husband was only son and he was her you know,
he was everything I got in the world.
Speaker 4 (25:06):
Your husband ever like set boundaries.
Speaker 3 (25:08):
Yes, his family, he tried.
Speaker 4 (25:11):
I think.
Speaker 3 (25:13):
His job.
Speaker 4 (25:15):
What's that?
Speaker 1 (25:17):
I know, I'm agreeing with it. It was his job. But
it's very difficult. And I hope for your sake, Leah,
that you never have a mother in law who's like that,
because I can tell you I have friends who are
living it right now, and it's not fun and it's
not easy, and it's hard on holidays and birthdays and
other family events. I want to take all these mother
(25:37):
in law's, shake them to their teeth or false teeth
or dentures, rattle and.
Speaker 2 (25:43):
Say and on everyone anonymously that wrote in give us
a little more details that we could really give a
good opiniage. Some of them. I'm guessing like, we're ye,
get butterflies for your assistant at work? Are you married
and you're having butterflies for the other First, we'd like
your name and what Susan sane now I don't care.
(26:06):
Just give you a little more juice and keep writing,
keep sending them in because.
Speaker 1 (26:11):
The confessions we want, we want even juicier ones. We
know those you out there. We know that you've got
some juicy confessions to make. It is anonymous, it's.
Speaker 3 (26:21):
Like the I R S. We're not tracking your IP number.
Do it.
Speaker 1 (26:25):
Let us know who you, let us know what you've done,
and we will talk about it, and we'll let you
know whether you were right or wrong, because you really
want to know that.
Speaker 2 (26:33):
But I think it's cute that the one girl said,
I met my future husband at a party, but I
kissed his best friend at the same thing. Like that's adorable.
She's honest, Like that's the worst you have.
Speaker 1 (26:43):
You're fine, baby, Yeah, that's what I want.
Speaker 5 (26:47):
It will always work out how it needs to, because
clearly you married your husband.
Speaker 3 (26:51):
Yes, yes, look at she's such an eternal optimist.
Speaker 1 (26:54):
Okay, well, I say that's going to do it for
today's episode, Leah, thank you for joining in us. Thank
you for sharing your wisdom, your beauty, your kindness, the
fact that you're going to get engaged on our podcast.
Speaker 5 (27:06):
All of these things, yeah, all these things, you guys
you both.
Speaker 3 (27:12):
We are so.
Speaker 2 (27:13):
Happy to have you one here and you you got us.
You're in our heart. Trust me. We wish you all
the very best and thanks to everybody else that's listening
out there, we wish you the best as well. Be
sure to follow Bachelor Happy Hour as we have new
episodes coming out every week that you do not want
to miss.
Speaker 1 (27:32):
Exactly and listen to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour on
the iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen to your podcast.
Speaker 3 (27:40):
Until next time, have a great week.
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