January 1, 2025 • 34 mins
Today on “Golden Hour,” we’re getting into another round of fan questions! We kick off the episode with our question of the day: What are some things you wish you knew before having children? Then, we get into your questions. Where do you go when you’re stuck in a joyless, midlife work rut? How do you start dating after a finalized divorce? It’s a new year, a new you, and we’re here to help! Tune in now to hear all this and more, and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode.
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks so
much for joining us for another episode. How are you
doing today, Susan?
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Happy to be here in person, Like it's so much
more fun, y'all.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Don't understand. Normally we do this on the zone on
the computer, and it's like it's just not the same thing.
But now I can look at Susan. I can actually
she can give.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Me the look if she thinks I'm saying too much,
or I can see her suit, her shoes selling. Today
we're going to be answering more of your fan questions,
and you know the drill. If you do have a question,
where are they sending it? Kathy?
Speaker 1 (00:42):
You know when I can do this, I say my
sleep guys, it's really oh guys, that's women.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Now say it, Katy, go Bachelor too, Bachelor Nation Dot,
come slash Golden an Hour and send them right on in,
because we will talk and we want to hear from
you all right now that we've beaten that to a
dead horse them every time. Every time, we're gonna do
a Question of the day. Okay, cool, let's do it
all right.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
What are some of the things wish you wish you knew?
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Before having children, how bad it was gonna hurt.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
Does the word epidural mean anything to you?
Speaker 2 (01:23):
My daughter came, my water broke and she was born
four hours later. I was screaming for the epidural and
they were like, I'm sorry, Susan.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
Let me just say to you. When I got pregnant
with my first child, literally when I went for the
pregnancy test and I was positive, I asked for the
epidurol that day. Oh no, you think I'm kidding. I did.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
I went to all the lama's classes and all think
and I'm going to do it. And as soon as
that hurt, I was like, oh no, no, no, numb
me up, numb up. But that didn't help. No.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
And then let me just say, when I went in
to have my first child, they were like, I know,
the barometer had gone down to whatever the barometric pressure.
There were like ten of us in labor. And the
nurse comes into me and she says, you're you're getting
the up the doll right now?
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Who are you? I said, what do you mean? Who
am I? And so a patient?
Speaker 1 (02:07):
She said, well, there's like ten of you and the
doctor my doctor was doctor. When doctor Irwin said, give
you the first tap the door. I said, Oh, I'm
no one. He just knows how loud I can be.
And he didn't, you know, I'm going to come back
and home. What other things do you wish you knew?
Like they didn't come with the directions.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (02:27):
I mean, there's nothing better than having kids, right God, Yes,
But I will say to you it's you never they're
always your children are children. I have children in my
they're in their thirties, and I have a child in
his early forties. And you know what, you always have children.
You always worry about that.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
You wish you knew that.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
You always have them, that they don't grow up.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
You didn't realize that.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
I'm saying that you always. I should not say you.
I always still feel the need to care for them,
love them, court them.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
If that's not what I wish.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
I knew before having them that they were always going
to be I was always going to feel responsible for them.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
That's a brainer, having kids. They're yours.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Kidding me when I got pregnant, faught, you know, eighteen
out of college and they're gone.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
No, all right, Like what to do? Like I was
like guessing, did you have help?
Speaker 1 (03:26):
With your baby.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
My mom came for a couple of weeks because I
had Brittany and I was in Texas, so so.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
I yeah you, Brittany was born in Texas. All three
of my kids were born in Texas. No, I my
parents did not come when I first had my children.
But my next door neighbor, who is still a dear friend, Hazel,
if you're listening, hello, she is from Scotland and her
mother they had fostered like one hundred kids. I swear
(03:53):
my oldest son would be dead if she hadn't come
over and helped me. I didn't know what I was doing.
I had no idea, she I mean, really, I'm not,
none of us do.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
That's what I mean. They don't come with a set
of rules, you know what I mean? And then I
wish I knew in the back of my mind, I
might have known that I don't have to be their
friend because I enabled a lot when they were gave
in a lot. You know, I'm a mommy.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
I just love them and you know, you know, but
sometimes we're not doing them with any fair.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
No, No, we're not exactly grandkids. I give in all
the time. He's like, mom, seriously, you just said yes
to her. I, well, she's my granddaughter, of course.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
I I also, I also, I mean we're joking. Some
of these are serious and some of them aren't. But
I knew, I wish i'd don't. I was never going
to sleep through the night again.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
I was told that, but I couldn't imagine.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Yeah, well, are you sleeping through the night now?
Speaker 2 (04:49):
No? Probably not? Not? Yes, I do I pass out?
You sleep through the night, Yeah, well I get up
to pee maybe.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Yeah, Well that's not sleeping through the night. Let me
let me define sleeping through the night. Put you out
on the pillar and wake up the next day. I
don't know. There's nothing better.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
I know.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
We all love our children. You and I talk about
a lot, but I think the biggest thing you said
is the most important. No, well that too, But the
most important thing you said, in all honesty is sometimes no,
is that we are not their friends. We are parents,
and parenting is difficult, and you're going to make mistakes.
(05:27):
We made mistakes. But parenting is a serious job, and
take it seriously.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Because it is. It is, you know, God bless everybody
just starting. Do you want more children? Susan, absolutely not.
I'll take more grandchildren.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
All right, well, now it's time to get to some
of those listener questions. You're ready for those?
Speaker 2 (05:47):
I sure am Tanya, who's fifty five? She says, Hi, ladies,
I think I need some guidance right now, So I
thought I turned to my favorite internet friends. That's I'm
really exhausted by my career. I just don't find joy
in it, and I don't want to spend the rest
(06:07):
of my life miserable. My husband and I have done
well for ourselves, so I'm lucky to be financially able
to take a leap of faith right now. How should
I navigate jumping into a brand new career. I want
to chase my dreams, but I'm insecure doing so at
an older age. Any advice would be amazing. Thank you
(06:30):
so much. You know, it's funny she's telling me she's
fifty five, she's over it, she don't find joy. I
thought she was going to go travel and she wants
to jump into a brand new one. And I love it.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
And you know what my advice would be?
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Uh think you don't say, Tanya, what you're interested in doing.
I'd get out a piece of paper, pencil, or get
your computer out and write down what gives you joy?
What kinds of things is it? So maybe it's traveling,
So maybe you start blogging about trying, or you become
a travel agent, or write down you think about what
(07:05):
you want to do, and then take a risk because
you know, Susan and I never thought we would be
here having a podcast and doing the wonderful things that
we've gotten to do. Some of it's luck.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Life doesn't stop it.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
But life doesn't stop. So you know what, go chase
your dreams. You said that you're financially stable and you
can take a leap of faith, so you know what
you got to do, Tanya.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Do you take a leap? Makes you happy? You take
a leap of faith and that age of possibilities, anything
is possible. Don't feel like you're old at fifty five.
I'd like the trade place. I don't know, you know what,
I don't think she feels like she's old. I said,
she's exhausted from it all, from her career. She's shot
(07:45):
like she doesn't want to be miserable, right, But is
the leap of faith, especially because you do have a mistake.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
That's what I'm saying, Take a leap of faith, Tanya,
do go do it. Try something and you know what,
if the first thing you tried doesn't work out, it's okay,
try something else. That's the joy of life. We only
fail when we don't.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Try, right, Like you said, like Kathy said, bring down
your things that you love. And what kind of work
or career would be with the things we love? Like
like you said, travel and.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
It could be something that you've never thought of, so photography,
who knows. Think about the kinds of things you like doing.
If you like photography, maybe you end up being a
wedding photographer. Dream big, Tanya, because it's one life. We
only get one time around. Dream big and go after
your dream.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
Absolutely succeed and you're not loving it, try something else.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
And let us know, Tanya. We want to know.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
I do want to know it so much to you.
You can do it. You know what, if you believe
in yourself, everybody else will believe in you. So make
sure you let us know what it is because you
want to be curious now, Tanya. Yeah, and and thank
you thanks for writing it.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
By the way, should we remind again, Tanya if you
want to write in the letters.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
That come slash Golden our Yeah, okay, we've got it
down all right.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
Here's our second question. It's from Sherry and she's fifty.
Hi ladies, I really need your help right now. My
divorce was just finalized with my now ex husband and
I feel so lost. I was with him for thirty
years and now I just feel so lonely. We have
two adult children who live out of state and have
(09:33):
their own families. I visit them often and they visit
me as well, which is nice. But I need to
find some other fulfillment outside of them. How do I
start dating again? He's the only person I've been with
and we just grew apart. Thank you so much. I
love you both dearly. Can I can I just jump back?
We love you? Sherry. You had the answer in your question.
(10:00):
You have a family, you just got divorced, and you
know what you said, I need some fulfillment outside of them?
How do I start dating again? With your first question?
You know what, Sherry, I'm going to encourage you to not.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Date for a while.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
Go out and find out what will make you happy,
What kinds of activities, what kinds of groups might you join?
Expand your world, go find some joy in your life.
You have plenty of time to date and find that guy,
find out what makes you happy. I don't know what
would you add say, isn't I like it? I like
the sounds of it, getting yourself out there. But sometimes
(10:38):
when people get in that little rud it sounds like
she feels maybe her girlfriends are still married and you
don't have people to go out. Join some groups and all.
I did a couple of those two and it was awkward, okay,
but you got to keep going. I join some single group, Sherry.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
And then there's the dating sites for the adult ones
to watch. I mean, I'm a little wrong.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
Just finalized her ex husband for time, take a minute
for you, and you know what, it's okay to feel
law Harry, you feel that's a big change. Thirty years
of marriage, that's a big change.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
And I've read a couple of books about loving yourself,
you know, feeling good about yourself, and that helps too.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
I just I want you to explore yourself and the
possibilities for you before you jump into another relationship, and honor.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
Those qualities that you love about yourself, because someday somebody
else is going to see them and you might meet
the right one. Then yeah, maybe not.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
I just I just wish that. So many women I
talk to and friends of mine who are going through divorce,
you know, between forty and fifty, and they're rushing. Well
it does suck, but they're rushing right into dating. And
I always say to them, why are you rushing into Because.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
They need to feel like they're wanted again. Maybe and
usually it doesn't work out the first date and stuff,
but you just have to get yourself over that hull
and then maybe not date for a while.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
I guess my time, I guess my hope would be
that women would feel and learn that they are enough.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
That's easier said that, I know. But the way to
do it is do it right, jump it and try it.
Good luck, good luck, and let us know how things go.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
We wish you and.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Enjoy your family when you get timed, because it don't
be sad and your family will be there for you.
So okay. The next one's from Lonnie, Hi, Kathy, and Susan.
I was wondering what advice you have for me. I
graduated college in the spring and am now moving across
(12:41):
the country for my first full time job. It was
so hard for me to find a job and I'm
so grateful and excited, but the reality of my life
changing is starting to set in. What should I do
to acclimate to this new city. I won't know anyone
other than the people well I work with. Thank you.
(13:02):
It is scary and it's exciting. I hope you're going
to a fun city. She doesn't say where, right, No, Wow,
that's big, that's huge.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
First of all, Loney, congratulations on graduating college. Congratulations getting
a job, Congratulations on taking the risk that. Those are
all exciting things. I would say, you know what you're
going to do to acclimate to this new city. You're
going to get out and do things. You're gonna in
(13:31):
the city. You're gonna get out and go to bars
and restaurants and join clubs and find a gym to
work out at it. You're gonna go out with a church,
a synagogue. You're gonna keep.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
Find your worker, your coworkers.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
You're going to build a new a new family, if
you will, a work family, a fun family.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
You're going to build money. This might not happen immediately.
You might go through a little depressed time, like it's
when kids go off to college. Some kids are like
so homesick might go through that a little bit. Invite
a girlfriend now for vacation, to come stay with you
for a couple of days and explore the city. What
is that city known for? What is there? You know?
Speaker 1 (14:11):
I would say, Lonnie, I don't think I'm just gonna
say be proud of yourself. I don't think you're giving
yourself enough credit. The fact that you are going across
the country by yourself tells me that you have an adventurous,
adventurous spirit, and I think you are going to do
so fabulously.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
How do I acclimate? There's no set We can't tell
you the exact thing to do. Just do you.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
It happens over time. But Lonnie, you have to let
us know. A we want to know what your city,
and we want to know what you've done to acclimate.
I'll bet you know. By now, you're probably already well
on your way. Don't be scared. Embrace the adventure. You
were made for this, Lonnie, you were for me.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
My biggest fear like that, like she's saying, I went
to Europe for fifteen days by myself, my eat, prey
love trip when I got there, that she might go
through this as soon as you get there and she's unpacking,
I'm thinking, what the heck did I just do? What
am I going to do with myself? For fifteen and
it was the time of my life. So some of the.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Best times are those times when we put ourselves out
there to do something that feels so risky, but it's
where we grow and we learn so much about ourself. Ourselves,
you're going to grow and Liney, we want to know this.
I feel like I want to go now down.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
Okay, we have one.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
This last one is from anonymous anonymous. Okay, Hi, Kathy
and Susan. I just found out I'm pregnant. Yay, congrats,
and this is mine and my husband's first child. We're
really excited, but I'm already starting to get really nervous.
Well well from to parenthood. I'm not always the best
(15:54):
at communicating my needs, so I know I really need
to get better at this asap. How do you suggest
I go about talking to my husband about all things pregnancy?
How do I ask for help when I already struggle
to do so by nature and now have all these
pregnancy hormones. Do you have any suggestions on how to
handle a first time pregnancy in general, looking for literally
(16:18):
any advice. I trust you both sending lots of love
from texts. Well, call me, Anonymous, I'll help you. I'm
in Texas.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
I think the very first part is why. I mean,
you already struggle asking for things you need or tell
me maybe she shot, Yeah, well, there are books the
first trimester, the second trimester, the first time pregnant. I
would try that first. Maybe go to a lama's class
and talk to other pregnant moms, I mean, join girlfriend
(16:50):
join groups.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
A first, let me just say, Anonymous, everyone is scared
having their first child. Because you know, there was a
book when I was pregnant called called What to Expect
when You're Expecting, and the answer, you know, you could
have written one word terror. Everybody's afraid when they're pregnant
for the first time. Everybody's afraid about having a first child,
(17:13):
everything from the pregnancy to the labor and delivery.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
Also with your husband saying, Hon, I've never craved anything before.
It's weird that all of a sudden I want this,
or Hon, I have this. Weird it feels like gas
bubbles or something. Share everything that you're feeling with him.
That's going to be really tired the first three months.
Hopefully not nauseous, because that sucks when that happens. And
(17:37):
just share everything. Don't make it a complaint. But I
want you to feel what I feel. I want you
to understand what I'm feeling. I will say, I think
that's a great idea. A lot when you and I
were having kids, at least when I was having kids,
it was I, you know, it wasn't we're pregnant as
they say now, it was I was. And I can
(17:58):
assure you we did not liver. I did, But you
are doing the workus me.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
But let me just say I think partners are now
much more involved in pregnancy and raising children. So you
know what, the fact that you realize you struggle to communicate,
that's half the battle, Anonymous. Just take it a step
at a time and say, you know, whatever your partner's
name is, i'm afraid, I'm scared.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
And also, do your friends any of our friends have children,
you can talk to them.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
Yeah, but she's specifically asked about how to talk to
her husband. Yeah, And I'm saying, take it step by step,
but you know, talk about how you're feeling, talk about
your fears.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
See hormones are amazing.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
Yeah, and the fact that you admit and you know
that you struggle by nature to communicate, it's half the bag.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
You're going to do great.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
Let me say you're in for the ride of your life.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
Hopefully it's a nice pregnancy. I had good pregnancy, so
did I. But it's raising them that's the hard part.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
Yeah, just take it day by day and remember there's
no there is no how to manual for having children
and raging them.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
Pregnancies are alike, you can't compare.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
And literally I live in Texas. Find me on Instagram.
I'll be an answer any questions. I love babies. If
you're close, I'll come and help you take care of
that little munchkin. Oh, thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
And let us know how you make out, and don't
be shy. Just just say what you feel and share
what you're feeling and experiencing. All right, now, we're gonna
get to know Kathy and.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
Sus We know Kathy and Susan. We're going to let
Bachlor Nation get to know us more.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
So today instead of a game, we thought we'd answer
more questions so you guys can get to know us better.
We'll switch off reading them, but we'll both answer each
one and I'll start us off.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Wait, can I just say, can I just introject one
thing here? As you all know, Susan and I did
some facelifts, minor facelifts, some laser surgery. I should have
did a foil only got the bu here, probably should
have done THEOD. But can I just say, we are
I mean person doing this a podcast and we are
both sitting here. If you could see us, we're both
sitting or scratching our ears because we're itching' it's you know,
(20:13):
healing takes a long time. We're still itching, So be
lucky you can't see us because we're just sitting there
taking my scratch.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
So no, I don't all right? All right, let's compare
we were stranded on a desert island together, a deserted island,
A deserted island. Sorry, I was going to the desert,
I mean desert. We were stranded on a deserted island together.
What would our game plan be?
Speaker 1 (20:40):
Uh?
Speaker 2 (20:41):
I'd be crying looking for food. Should be asking me question,
what are we going to do? Now? Are we going
to get out of here? I wouldn't say build an arc?
Speaker 1 (20:51):
No, what I'd be doing is looking for stuff. I'd
be finding stones to.
Speaker 2 (20:56):
Put on the beach.
Speaker 1 (20:57):
Say help us, I'd find way to light a fire. Listen,
put me on Survivor. I'll make it. That's what my
game plan would be. How do we let people know
where we are and find it?
Speaker 2 (21:08):
What we do? We would panic, not the first if
I got let me just get hungry.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
Panic. Oh my god, I don't water.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
Where am I going bath?
Speaker 1 (21:20):
It's been an hour since she's had.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
Animals are gonna smell it. I'm scared.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
Okay, we're just going to move on to the next one.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
Wait, if you had to bring one thing, this isn't
one here to this is?
Speaker 1 (21:30):
Oh no, exactly if you can bring three things?
Speaker 2 (21:33):
Oh oh, I'm sorry. I was gonna yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:35):
Read that you could bring three things with you on
the deserted island. What would they bake? Go ahead, Well,
clearly it would be to rush your toothpaste.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
I would want.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
Water, water, fresh water. I would want a book, of course.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
I like what you're done. That book. You're gonna read
it fourteen times.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
I've read many books more than once. I'd probably you
know what, I would say, a phone or computer. But
they wouldn't work.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
We'd need to charge them. So any of our electronical.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
I don't know. I would I want maybe pictures of
my family. It would give me incentive to.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
Get off that brush. Food.
Speaker 1 (22:16):
So dear practice, I don't need the food.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
Get what I say, hidden talent that you have that
even I didn't know, Kathy, hidden tell that you have
that you have. I'm asking you, what is a hidden talent?
(22:39):
Moral quandary here? Ah, I do have a hidden talent
that I don't know about.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Well, not so much. I used to be able to
sing really well. Now I did.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
I can't sing at all. I could dance, but I can't.
All right, what's your nick I told you my talent
today that you didn't know about that I was a gymnast.
Oh yeah, I did not know that. All right?
Speaker 1 (23:05):
What is what's your favorite fun fact about yourself?
Speaker 2 (23:11):
I fun fact about my fun fat that I'm happy
and I make people smile. I have empathy. I don't
know that's fun? Is that fun?
Speaker 1 (23:21):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (23:21):
My fun fact is I like to have fun?
Speaker 1 (23:26):
We like to have fun. A shopper, Oh Jesus, people,
you just don't know, Susan shop. No, let me just
say to you, Susan, I've been together, traveling doing some
things lately. Susan walks into a store, it's I walk
into a store and I get overwhelmed.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
So I could tell you within three minutes of.
Speaker 1 (23:44):
Susan literally laser focuses on a on a on a
rack and she's picked out three things. I'm still trying
to find my socks.
Speaker 2 (23:53):
Having me walking in the store and with it, i'd
scope it out and this isn't well. I can do that, Yeah,
I mean I can do this. Nothing here.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
You all just if you ever want an experience, you
want to go shopping with Susan.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
That's all I can say.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
All right, what's your favorite one?
Speaker 2 (24:07):
For Gothy, your favorite local restaurant and why? And he
could care less.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
I don't know. That's not true. In Austin, I love
the restaurant Abba. I just plugged it. Why because they
have a beautiful outdoor. I'm about environment and feeling good.
They have it's trees and there's big fans and they
have great tequila drinks. I just but I can't answer that.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
I have a lot of favorites. I'm a foodie. I
visit a lot of rust see.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
I don't care about the food as much I care
about the ambiance.
Speaker 2 (24:41):
All right, all right, what's something you've always wanted to do? Wait? Wait?
Speaker 1 (24:44):
Do you think Abba will give me a free meal
next time I go in Austin, Texas?
Speaker 2 (24:47):
How many were?
Speaker 1 (24:48):
How many more times you have to say and Austin
on south converse?
Speaker 2 (24:52):
All right?
Speaker 1 (24:52):
Go ahead?
Speaker 2 (24:52):
What's something you've always wanted to do but haven't done yet?
And why not? I'll tell you to tell me what
you want? The airplane flying air?
Speaker 1 (25:03):
Well, you are close. You know what we've got.
Speaker 2 (25:05):
Wait, we're going to say this, Gabby, Yeah, give me something.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
You know what I want to do. I want to
jump out of an airplane. I did too, and now
I'm afraid that things will break. When I was interviewing
to be on The Golden Bachelor, I said I did too.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
I checked it off.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
I would jump. I still would do it. Yeah, So so.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
Why haven't we done it yet? Well, because I raised
kids said that now's the time I'm going to sign up.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
I'm scared to do it. I don't really care about flying,
as much as I'd like to be in the cockpit
and see the view, But I really would like to
jump out.
Speaker 2 (25:34):
With and I can fly the plane that you jump.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
Out of, only if there's someone flying it that's had
forty years of experience.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
All right.
Speaker 1 (25:42):
One was the last? Oh, I hate these questions. When
was the last time you did something for the first time?
I don't know. I can't answer that one.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
That's that's for the first time.
Speaker 1 (25:50):
It was the last time you did something for the
first time. I don't know when I did it?
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Next, what's an experience you had that change your perspective
on life? Going on Bachelor? That was easy?
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Okay? Looking back at when you were younger. What was
your silliest fear? The dark?
Speaker 1 (26:15):
No, listen true these questions? Was are you afraid of
the dark?
Speaker 2 (26:21):
You had a basement in our house and my mom
would send me and look.
Speaker 1 (26:24):
Behind the Bogeyman's going to get to my sister, my sister,
and I'm going to make her listen to this podcast.
My sister lives in Canada. Her name is Susan, my
favorite sister, Jess. I love Suisan's. She had a purple witch.
(26:44):
It was you know, those light and the dark things.
Speaker 2 (26:47):
We'd go to.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
We shared a room. She would put when I wasn't around.
She would put the witch up to the light bulb,
and then we'd go to bed and she would fly
that damn witch on her scared to death. What's your
current wallpaper on your phone? And why did you choose that?
Speaker 2 (27:06):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (27:06):
Well, you're gonna laugh when I tell you, Actually, this
is an answer you would give. I can't. I can't
choose one. I have a rolling scroll of all the
photos on my camera.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
I have my grand kids.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
I've got pictures of my husband. I've got pictures of
my kids, my grandkids places, I've been all right, you're next,
all right, way, what's your I'm one rogue, Susan. What's
the best date you've had since you got off the show?
Speaker 2 (27:39):
Really want to date?
Speaker 1 (27:43):
We've had some. You got a free dinner, give me something.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
So we're going to go back to Christmas. And my
favorite Christmas memory is when I torture my kids with clues.
Speaker 1 (27:56):
God.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
If you could bring back any fashion trend, oh God,
or old slang, what would it be? I have won
my kids? Still, Mom, don't feeling groovy. Don't say that anymore.
I still say banging.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
My food is good.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
It's banging. They're like, Mom, stopped.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
That is it doesn't bang it No, that's what you do.
That's what people do.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
Is you get No, that's a phrase.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
No, it's a phrase.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
I am banging.
Speaker 1 (28:26):
See she don't believe me.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
Hook No, it has nothing to get your mind out
of them telling you it's banging. It was amazing.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
Everybody right into bacheloration, these guys, because anyone ever heard
the expression of people banging.
Speaker 2 (28:40):
No, you don't say people banging. It was banging like.
Speaker 1 (28:44):
You say, it was banging. I don't care what they
move on. Wait a minute, I just can't even all right.
Speaker 2 (28:51):
What is your comfort movie or TV show? Well, my
comfort movie is Bridesmaids. That's a comfort yes, because I met.
Speaker 1 (29:01):
When she poops in the street with the wedding dress.
I still laugh every time I watch it. It always
makes me laugh.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
But you know, okay, how about the words? What about you? What? Hallmark?
I love my Hallmark Christmas away.
Speaker 1 (29:15):
Can I just tell you wait, I watched the other
night on Hallmark. I can't even believe I'm admitting to this.
I started to cry. I always do, know, you know,
not because of the movie, because it's always the same,
you know, girl meets boy in small town falls in love.
But this was girl meets Boy in Ireland, and I
(29:35):
was in Ireland last year and my husband always wanted
to go, so I say, and the scene it was
filmed in Ireland. So I just sat there crying watching.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Then there's a favorite movie and I don't remember the
name of it. Can you help me? It's when they
switch houses and she falls in love with the girl's
brother over in Ireland. I believe. I don't know. Oh,
come on, I can't think of it.
Speaker 1 (29:56):
But I like it. I want to watch it. I
want holiday.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
Holiday. Isn't that great? Yes? Thank you?
Speaker 1 (30:04):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
Last one, what's the worst piece of advice you've ever
been given?
Speaker 1 (30:09):
Go shopping with you?
Speaker 2 (30:12):
That's not advice?
Speaker 1 (30:13):
What's it?
Speaker 2 (30:13):
No, what's the worst advice you've ever been given? Don't
buy that car? I don't know that was good advice.
I don't know. I can't think of it.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
I don't know. You know what the difference is? You
and I look for the positive things. We make Lemons
make lemonade. I don't lemon It's like, what's the best advice?
Speaker 2 (30:36):
You know? That's what that's good advice? But I mean advice.
I don't know. Susan bet a thousand on that one casino.
That's bad advice, or.
Speaker 1 (30:47):
Worse yet, put another penny in that slot machine. You're
penny since.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
Called penny machines. However, the lowest bet is like eighty
eight cents. I mean, I don't know why I can
call pennies.
Speaker 1 (30:59):
I can't. I mean, I you were telling you to
day I enjoy that. Wait a second, I thought you
literally put money in and like pulled the crank.
Speaker 2 (31:08):
We used to quarters came out, and now you just
put out. A minute, I'm taking her a bag.
Speaker 1 (31:16):
I like to go into the Louis Vauton shop. You
can put the pennies and to.
Speaker 2 (31:19):
Spend it there too. You know, Cat, I can't believe it,
but we're having fun. First day of the new year.
Did you want to did you set any goals or
make any promises to yourself or something that you wish?
Speaker 1 (31:32):
Okay, So I never make New Year's resolutions because it's
sort of we've talked about this. It's sort of like
Valentine's Day for me. If if it's the person I love,
I want to show them every day of the year.
If I make a New Year's resolution, I want to
make that resolution any day of the year and make
it work the whole year. I don't ever choose a
day to you know, to acknowledge like, okay, starting today,
(31:55):
I don't do that. But I do think New Year
represents a time of newness of change. It can be.
But again, I like to look at the positive. For
me this past year. You know, we're just starting to
new year. The past year has been so great to
both of us. The friendships, the traveling, everything, you know,
(32:16):
our grandchildren, all the things that we've had this year.
I think for twenty twenty five, I would just like
to continue building the joy and the friendships and keeping health,
you know, my good health, and then you know, our world.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
I know I'm not going to say I'm going on
the diet and starting the gym. I did that last
year and I've gone four times my point. No, no, no,
I know, I'm just saying, but I mean I would
like to say that we both would be It's what
I'm looking forward to, right, Yeah, what are you looking
forward to? Our trip to Saint Martin's first, that's first?
Speaker 1 (32:52):
What else?
Speaker 2 (32:52):
Foremost? And I have a birthday?
Speaker 1 (32:56):
You look forward to birthdays? Really?
Speaker 2 (32:58):
But yeah, I usually sell a break somehow someway for
an entire month.
Speaker 1 (33:01):
You know what, I think it's going to be a
good year. And all of our listeners that have listened
to us in this first year of our podcast, thank you,
thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (33:09):
Gosh we get on like a golden paradise. Or they're
hoping for a new show. I'm looking forward to it
another exciting year. I am.
Speaker 1 (33:19):
I am too.
Speaker 2 (33:20):
I feel bless to be alive.
Speaker 1 (33:22):
So do I. But I do want to acknowledge all
the people that listen to our podcast, So thank you
to all of you, wishing you all the happiest and
health of new year. Healthy new year, and I hope
you've celebrated Familus.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
Without you guys, we wouldn't have dress and you know
you guys didn't love this, then we wouldn't be here.
So we're grateful for you very and hope.
Speaker 1 (33:43):
You're all recovering. If you celebrated last list night, I
hope you're recovering. Might ate too much anyway.
Speaker 2 (33:50):
Thanks. That's it for today, and happy healthy new Year
from Kathy and Susan. Happy happy New Year, and we'll
see you next time and we can't wait for them.
New Questions next year, right, should we say it one
more time? Okay, you guys are ready, Where are you
going to send you a little question?
Speaker 1 (34:06):
Wait? First, we want you to follow us hit that
follow button.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
Oh you always Bacheloration dot com slash Golden Hour and.
Speaker 1 (34:17):
You know what our New York's resolution is going to be.
But we're not going to say that anymore.
Speaker 2 (34:22):
People are just going to We might have to find
it up just when they're getting it. Okay, seriously happy
to hear you're everybody and listen to Bachelor Happy Hours,
Golden Hour and the iHeartRadio app or wherever you listen
to your podcast
Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks so
much for joining us for another episode. How are you
doing today, Susan?
Speaker 2 (00:15):
Happy to be here in person, Like it's so much
more fun, y'all.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
Don't understand. Normally we do this on the zone on
the computer, and it's like it's just not the same thing.
But now I can look at Susan. I can actually
she can give.
Speaker 2 (00:28):
Me the look if she thinks I'm saying too much,
or I can see her suit, her shoes selling. Today
we're going to be answering more of your fan questions,
and you know the drill. If you do have a question,
where are they sending it? Kathy?
Speaker 1 (00:42):
You know when I can do this, I say my
sleep guys, it's really oh guys, that's women.
Speaker 2 (00:49):
Now say it, Katy, go Bachelor too, Bachelor Nation Dot,
come slash Golden an Hour and send them right on in,
because we will talk and we want to hear from
you all right now that we've beaten that to a
dead horse them every time. Every time, we're gonna do
a Question of the day. Okay, cool, let's do it
all right.
Speaker 1 (01:10):
What are some of the things wish you wish you knew?
Speaker 2 (01:15):
Before having children, how bad it was gonna hurt.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
Does the word epidural mean anything to you?
Speaker 2 (01:23):
My daughter came, my water broke and she was born
four hours later. I was screaming for the epidural and
they were like, I'm sorry, Susan.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
Let me just say to you. When I got pregnant
with my first child, literally when I went for the
pregnancy test and I was positive, I asked for the
epidurol that day. Oh no, you think I'm kidding. I did.
Speaker 2 (01:42):
I went to all the lama's classes and all think
and I'm going to do it. And as soon as
that hurt, I was like, oh no, no, no, numb
me up, numb up. But that didn't help. No.
Speaker 1 (01:49):
And then let me just say, when I went in
to have my first child, they were like, I know,
the barometer had gone down to whatever the barometric pressure.
There were like ten of us in labor. And the
nurse comes into me and she says, you're you're getting
the up the doll right now?
Speaker 2 (02:04):
Who are you? I said, what do you mean? Who
am I? And so a patient?
Speaker 1 (02:07):
She said, well, there's like ten of you and the
doctor my doctor was doctor. When doctor Irwin said, give
you the first tap the door. I said, Oh, I'm
no one. He just knows how loud I can be.
And he didn't, you know, I'm going to come back
and home. What other things do you wish you knew?
Like they didn't come with the directions.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
You know what I mean?
Speaker 1 (02:27):
I mean, there's nothing better than having kids, right God, Yes,
But I will say to you it's you never they're
always your children are children. I have children in my
they're in their thirties, and I have a child in
his early forties. And you know what, you always have children.
You always worry about that.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
You wish you knew that.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
You always have them, that they don't grow up.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
You didn't realize that.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
I'm saying that you always. I should not say you.
I always still feel the need to care for them,
love them, court them.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
If that's not what I wish.
Speaker 1 (03:03):
I knew before having them that they were always going
to be I was always going to feel responsible for them.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
That's a brainer, having kids. They're yours.
Speaker 1 (03:13):
Kidding me when I got pregnant, faught, you know, eighteen
out of college and they're gone.
Speaker 2 (03:18):
No, all right, Like what to do? Like I was
like guessing, did you have help?
Speaker 1 (03:26):
With your baby.
Speaker 2 (03:26):
My mom came for a couple of weeks because I
had Brittany and I was in Texas, so so.
Speaker 1 (03:31):
I yeah you, Brittany was born in Texas. All three
of my kids were born in Texas. No, I my
parents did not come when I first had my children.
But my next door neighbor, who is still a dear friend, Hazel,
if you're listening, hello, she is from Scotland and her
mother they had fostered like one hundred kids. I swear
(03:53):
my oldest son would be dead if she hadn't come
over and helped me. I didn't know what I was doing.
I had no idea, she I mean, really, I'm not,
none of us do.
Speaker 2 (04:01):
That's what I mean. They don't come with a set
of rules, you know what I mean? And then I
wish I knew in the back of my mind, I
might have known that I don't have to be their
friend because I enabled a lot when they were gave
in a lot. You know, I'm a mommy.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
I just love them and you know, you know, but
sometimes we're not doing them with any fair.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
No, No, we're not exactly grandkids. I give in all
the time. He's like, mom, seriously, you just said yes
to her. I, well, she's my granddaughter, of course.
Speaker 1 (04:34):
I I also, I also, I mean we're joking. Some
of these are serious and some of them aren't. But
I knew, I wish i'd don't. I was never going
to sleep through the night again.
Speaker 2 (04:45):
I was told that, but I couldn't imagine.
Speaker 1 (04:47):
Yeah, well, are you sleeping through the night now?
Speaker 2 (04:49):
No? Probably not? Not? Yes, I do I pass out?
You sleep through the night, Yeah, well I get up
to pee maybe.
Speaker 1 (04:54):
Yeah, Well that's not sleeping through the night. Let me
let me define sleeping through the night. Put you out
on the pillar and wake up the next day. I
don't know. There's nothing better.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
I know.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
We all love our children. You and I talk about
a lot, but I think the biggest thing you said
is the most important. No, well that too, But the
most important thing you said, in all honesty is sometimes no,
is that we are not their friends. We are parents,
and parenting is difficult, and you're going to make mistakes.
(05:27):
We made mistakes. But parenting is a serious job, and
take it seriously.
Speaker 2 (05:32):
Because it is. It is, you know, God bless everybody
just starting. Do you want more children? Susan, absolutely not.
I'll take more grandchildren.
Speaker 1 (05:41):
All right, well, now it's time to get to some
of those listener questions. You're ready for those?
Speaker 2 (05:47):
I sure am Tanya, who's fifty five? She says, Hi, ladies,
I think I need some guidance right now, So I
thought I turned to my favorite internet friends. That's I'm
really exhausted by my career. I just don't find joy
in it, and I don't want to spend the rest
(06:07):
of my life miserable. My husband and I have done
well for ourselves, so I'm lucky to be financially able
to take a leap of faith right now. How should
I navigate jumping into a brand new career. I want
to chase my dreams, but I'm insecure doing so at
an older age. Any advice would be amazing. Thank you
(06:30):
so much. You know, it's funny she's telling me she's
fifty five, she's over it, she don't find joy. I
thought she was going to go travel and she wants
to jump into a brand new one. And I love it.
Speaker 1 (06:41):
And you know what my advice would be?
Speaker 2 (06:42):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (06:43):
Uh think you don't say, Tanya, what you're interested in doing.
I'd get out a piece of paper, pencil, or get
your computer out and write down what gives you joy?
What kinds of things is it? So maybe it's traveling,
So maybe you start blogging about trying, or you become
a travel agent, or write down you think about what
(07:05):
you want to do, and then take a risk because
you know, Susan and I never thought we would be
here having a podcast and doing the wonderful things that
we've gotten to do. Some of it's luck.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Life doesn't stop it.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
But life doesn't stop. So you know what, go chase
your dreams. You said that you're financially stable and you
can take a leap of faith, so you know what
you got to do, Tanya.
Speaker 2 (07:25):
Do you take a leap? Makes you happy? You take
a leap of faith and that age of possibilities, anything
is possible. Don't feel like you're old at fifty five.
I'd like the trade place. I don't know, you know what,
I don't think she feels like she's old. I said,
she's exhausted from it all, from her career. She's shot
(07:45):
like she doesn't want to be miserable, right, But is
the leap of faith, especially because you do have a mistake.
Speaker 1 (07:52):
That's what I'm saying, Take a leap of faith, Tanya,
do go do it. Try something and you know what,
if the first thing you tried doesn't work out, it's okay,
try something else. That's the joy of life. We only
fail when we don't.
Speaker 2 (08:07):
Try, right, Like you said, like Kathy said, bring down
your things that you love. And what kind of work
or career would be with the things we love? Like
like you said, travel and.
Speaker 1 (08:20):
It could be something that you've never thought of, so photography,
who knows. Think about the kinds of things you like doing.
If you like photography, maybe you end up being a
wedding photographer. Dream big, Tanya, because it's one life. We
only get one time around. Dream big and go after
your dream.
Speaker 2 (08:37):
Absolutely succeed and you're not loving it, try something else.
Speaker 1 (08:41):
And let us know, Tanya. We want to know.
Speaker 2 (08:43):
I do want to know it so much to you.
You can do it. You know what, if you believe
in yourself, everybody else will believe in you. So make
sure you let us know what it is because you
want to be curious now, Tanya. Yeah, and and thank
you thanks for writing it.
Speaker 1 (08:58):
By the way, should we remind again, Tanya if you
want to write in the letters.
Speaker 2 (09:03):
That come slash Golden our Yeah, okay, we've got it
down all right.
Speaker 1 (09:11):
Here's our second question. It's from Sherry and she's fifty.
Hi ladies, I really need your help right now. My
divorce was just finalized with my now ex husband and
I feel so lost. I was with him for thirty
years and now I just feel so lonely. We have
two adult children who live out of state and have
(09:33):
their own families. I visit them often and they visit
me as well, which is nice. But I need to
find some other fulfillment outside of them. How do I
start dating again? He's the only person I've been with
and we just grew apart. Thank you so much. I
love you both dearly. Can I can I just jump back?
We love you? Sherry. You had the answer in your question.
(10:00):
You have a family, you just got divorced, and you
know what you said, I need some fulfillment outside of them?
How do I start dating again? With your first question?
You know what, Sherry, I'm going to encourage you to not.
Speaker 2 (10:14):
Date for a while.
Speaker 1 (10:16):
Go out and find out what will make you happy,
What kinds of activities, what kinds of groups might you join?
Expand your world, go find some joy in your life.
You have plenty of time to date and find that guy,
find out what makes you happy. I don't know what
would you add say, isn't I like it? I like
the sounds of it, getting yourself out there. But sometimes
(10:38):
when people get in that little rud it sounds like
she feels maybe her girlfriends are still married and you
don't have people to go out. Join some groups and all.
I did a couple of those two and it was awkward, okay,
but you got to keep going. I join some single group, Sherry.
Speaker 2 (10:54):
And then there's the dating sites for the adult ones
to watch. I mean, I'm a little wrong.
Speaker 1 (10:59):
Just finalized her ex husband for time, take a minute
for you, and you know what, it's okay to feel
law Harry, you feel that's a big change. Thirty years
of marriage, that's a big change.
Speaker 2 (11:10):
And I've read a couple of books about loving yourself,
you know, feeling good about yourself, and that helps too.
Speaker 1 (11:18):
I just I want you to explore yourself and the
possibilities for you before you jump into another relationship, and honor.
Speaker 2 (11:26):
Those qualities that you love about yourself, because someday somebody
else is going to see them and you might meet
the right one. Then yeah, maybe not.
Speaker 1 (11:34):
I just I just wish that. So many women I
talk to and friends of mine who are going through divorce,
you know, between forty and fifty, and they're rushing. Well
it does suck, but they're rushing right into dating. And
I always say to them, why are you rushing into Because.
Speaker 2 (11:50):
They need to feel like they're wanted again. Maybe and
usually it doesn't work out the first date and stuff,
but you just have to get yourself over that hull
and then maybe not date for a while.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
I guess my time, I guess my hope would be
that women would feel and learn that they are enough.
Speaker 2 (12:08):
That's easier said that, I know. But the way to
do it is do it right, jump it and try it.
Good luck, good luck, and let us know how things go.
Speaker 1 (12:16):
We wish you and.
Speaker 2 (12:17):
Enjoy your family when you get timed, because it don't
be sad and your family will be there for you.
So okay. The next one's from Lonnie, Hi, Kathy, and Susan.
I was wondering what advice you have for me. I
graduated college in the spring and am now moving across
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the country for my first full time job. It was
so hard for me to find a job and I'm
so grateful and excited, but the reality of my life
changing is starting to set in. What should I do
to acclimate to this new city. I won't know anyone
other than the people well I work with. Thank you.
(13:02):
It is scary and it's exciting. I hope you're going
to a fun city. She doesn't say where, right, No, Wow,
that's big, that's huge.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
First of all, Loney, congratulations on graduating college. Congratulations getting
a job, Congratulations on taking the risk that. Those are
all exciting things. I would say, you know what you're
going to do to acclimate to this new city. You're
going to get out and do things. You're gonna in
(13:31):
the city. You're gonna get out and go to bars
and restaurants and join clubs and find a gym to
work out at it. You're gonna go out with a church,
a synagogue. You're gonna keep.
Speaker 2 (13:40):
Find your worker, your coworkers.
Speaker 1 (13:43):
You're going to build a new a new family, if
you will, a work family, a fun family.
Speaker 2 (13:50):
You're going to build money. This might not happen immediately.
You might go through a little depressed time, like it's
when kids go off to college. Some kids are like
so homesick might go through that a little bit. Invite
a girlfriend now for vacation, to come stay with you
for a couple of days and explore the city. What
is that city known for? What is there? You know?
Speaker 1 (14:11):
I would say, Lonnie, I don't think I'm just gonna
say be proud of yourself. I don't think you're giving
yourself enough credit. The fact that you are going across
the country by yourself tells me that you have an adventurous,
adventurous spirit, and I think you are going to do
so fabulously.
Speaker 2 (14:31):
How do I acclimate? There's no set We can't tell
you the exact thing to do. Just do you.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
It happens over time. But Lonnie, you have to let
us know. A we want to know what your city,
and we want to know what you've done to acclimate.
I'll bet you know. By now, you're probably already well
on your way. Don't be scared. Embrace the adventure. You
were made for this, Lonnie, you were for me.
Speaker 2 (14:56):
My biggest fear like that, like she's saying, I went
to Europe for fifteen days by myself, my eat, prey
love trip when I got there, that she might go
through this as soon as you get there and she's unpacking,
I'm thinking, what the heck did I just do? What
am I going to do with myself? For fifteen and
it was the time of my life. So some of the.
Speaker 1 (15:15):
Best times are those times when we put ourselves out
there to do something that feels so risky, but it's
where we grow and we learn so much about ourself. Ourselves,
you're going to grow and Liney, we want to know this.
I feel like I want to go now down.
Speaker 2 (15:32):
Okay, we have one.
Speaker 1 (15:33):
This last one is from anonymous anonymous. Okay, Hi, Kathy
and Susan. I just found out I'm pregnant. Yay, congrats,
and this is mine and my husband's first child. We're
really excited, but I'm already starting to get really nervous.
Well well from to parenthood. I'm not always the best
(15:54):
at communicating my needs, so I know I really need
to get better at this asap. How do you suggest
I go about talking to my husband about all things pregnancy?
How do I ask for help when I already struggle
to do so by nature and now have all these
pregnancy hormones. Do you have any suggestions on how to
handle a first time pregnancy in general, looking for literally
(16:18):
any advice. I trust you both sending lots of love
from texts. Well, call me, Anonymous, I'll help you. I'm
in Texas.
Speaker 2 (16:27):
I think the very first part is why. I mean,
you already struggle asking for things you need or tell
me maybe she shot, Yeah, well, there are books the
first trimester, the second trimester, the first time pregnant. I
would try that first. Maybe go to a lama's class
and talk to other pregnant moms, I mean, join girlfriend
(16:50):
join groups.
Speaker 1 (16:52):
A first, let me just say, Anonymous, everyone is scared
having their first child. Because you know, there was a
book when I was pregnant called called What to Expect
when You're Expecting, and the answer, you know, you could
have written one word terror. Everybody's afraid when they're pregnant
for the first time. Everybody's afraid about having a first child,
(17:13):
everything from the pregnancy to the labor and delivery.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
Also with your husband saying, Hon, I've never craved anything before.
It's weird that all of a sudden I want this,
or Hon, I have this. Weird it feels like gas
bubbles or something. Share everything that you're feeling with him.
That's going to be really tired the first three months.
Hopefully not nauseous, because that sucks when that happens. And
(17:37):
just share everything. Don't make it a complaint. But I
want you to feel what I feel. I want you
to understand what I'm feeling. I will say, I think
that's a great idea. A lot when you and I
were having kids, at least when I was having kids,
it was I, you know, it wasn't we're pregnant as
they say now, it was I was. And I can
(17:58):
assure you we did not liver. I did, But you
are doing the workus me.
Speaker 1 (18:03):
But let me just say I think partners are now
much more involved in pregnancy and raising children. So you
know what, the fact that you realize you struggle to communicate,
that's half the battle, Anonymous. Just take it a step
at a time and say, you know, whatever your partner's
name is, i'm afraid, I'm scared.
Speaker 2 (18:24):
And also, do your friends any of our friends have children,
you can talk to them.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
Yeah, but she's specifically asked about how to talk to
her husband. Yeah, And I'm saying, take it step by step,
but you know, talk about how you're feeling, talk about
your fears.
Speaker 2 (18:38):
See hormones are amazing.
Speaker 1 (18:40):
Yeah, and the fact that you admit and you know
that you struggle by nature to communicate, it's half the bag.
Speaker 2 (18:47):
You're going to do great.
Speaker 1 (18:49):
Let me say you're in for the ride of your life.
Speaker 2 (18:51):
Hopefully it's a nice pregnancy. I had good pregnancy, so
did I. But it's raising them that's the hard part.
Speaker 1 (18:58):
Yeah, just take it day by day and remember there's
no there is no how to manual for having children
and raging them.
Speaker 2 (19:07):
Pregnancies are alike, you can't compare.
Speaker 1 (19:10):
And literally I live in Texas. Find me on Instagram.
I'll be an answer any questions. I love babies. If
you're close, I'll come and help you take care of
that little munchkin. Oh, thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (19:20):
And let us know how you make out, and don't
be shy. Just just say what you feel and share
what you're feeling and experiencing. All right, now, we're gonna
get to know Kathy and.
Speaker 1 (19:31):
Sus We know Kathy and Susan. We're going to let
Bachlor Nation get to know us more.
Speaker 2 (19:36):
So today instead of a game, we thought we'd answer
more questions so you guys can get to know us better.
We'll switch off reading them, but we'll both answer each
one and I'll start us off.
Speaker 1 (19:49):
Wait, can I just say, can I just introject one
thing here? As you all know, Susan and I did
some facelifts, minor facelifts, some laser surgery. I should have
did a foil only got the bu here, probably should
have done THEOD. But can I just say, we are
I mean person doing this a podcast and we are
both sitting here. If you could see us, we're both
sitting or scratching our ears because we're itching' it's you know,
(20:13):
healing takes a long time. We're still itching, So be
lucky you can't see us because we're just sitting there
taking my scratch.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
So no, I don't all right? All right, let's compare
we were stranded on a desert island together, a deserted island,
A deserted island. Sorry, I was going to the desert,
I mean desert. We were stranded on a deserted island together.
What would our game plan be?
Speaker 1 (20:40):
Uh?
Speaker 2 (20:41):
I'd be crying looking for food. Should be asking me question,
what are we going to do? Now? Are we going
to get out of here? I wouldn't say build an arc?
Speaker 1 (20:51):
No, what I'd be doing is looking for stuff. I'd
be finding stones to.
Speaker 2 (20:56):
Put on the beach.
Speaker 1 (20:57):
Say help us, I'd find way to light a fire. Listen,
put me on Survivor. I'll make it. That's what my
game plan would be. How do we let people know
where we are and find it?
Speaker 2 (21:08):
What we do? We would panic, not the first if
I got let me just get hungry.
Speaker 1 (21:16):
Panic. Oh my god, I don't water.
Speaker 2 (21:19):
Where am I going bath?
Speaker 1 (21:20):
It's been an hour since she's had.
Speaker 2 (21:21):
Animals are gonna smell it. I'm scared.
Speaker 1 (21:25):
Okay, we're just going to move on to the next one.
Speaker 2 (21:26):
Wait, if you had to bring one thing, this isn't
one here to this is?
Speaker 1 (21:30):
Oh no, exactly if you can bring three things?
Speaker 2 (21:33):
Oh oh, I'm sorry. I was gonna yeah.
Speaker 1 (21:35):
Read that you could bring three things with you on
the deserted island. What would they bake? Go ahead, Well,
clearly it would be to rush your toothpaste.
Speaker 2 (21:48):
I would want.
Speaker 1 (21:49):
Water, water, fresh water. I would want a book, of course.
Speaker 2 (21:54):
I like what you're done. That book. You're gonna read
it fourteen times.
Speaker 1 (21:57):
I've read many books more than once. I'd probably you
know what, I would say, a phone or computer. But
they wouldn't work.
Speaker 2 (22:04):
We'd need to charge them. So any of our electronical.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
I don't know. I would I want maybe pictures of
my family. It would give me incentive to.
Speaker 2 (22:13):
Get off that brush. Food.
Speaker 1 (22:16):
So dear practice, I don't need the food.
Speaker 2 (22:19):
Get what I say, hidden talent that you have that
even I didn't know, Kathy, hidden tell that you have
that you have. I'm asking you, what is a hidden talent?
(22:39):
Moral quandary here? Ah, I do have a hidden talent
that I don't know about.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Well, not so much. I used to be able to
sing really well. Now I did.
Speaker 2 (22:53):
I can't sing at all. I could dance, but I can't.
All right, what's your nick I told you my talent
today that you didn't know about that I was a gymnast.
Oh yeah, I did not know that. All right?
Speaker 1 (23:05):
What is what's your favorite fun fact about yourself?
Speaker 2 (23:11):
I fun fact about my fun fat that I'm happy
and I make people smile. I have empathy. I don't
know that's fun? Is that fun?
Speaker 1 (23:21):
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (23:21):
My fun fact is I like to have fun?
Speaker 1 (23:26):
We like to have fun. A shopper, Oh Jesus, people,
you just don't know, Susan shop. No, let me just
say to you, Susan, I've been together, traveling doing some
things lately. Susan walks into a store, it's I walk
into a store and I get overwhelmed.
Speaker 2 (23:42):
So I could tell you within three minutes of.
Speaker 1 (23:44):
Susan literally laser focuses on a on a on a
rack and she's picked out three things. I'm still trying
to find my socks.
Speaker 2 (23:53):
Having me walking in the store and with it, i'd
scope it out and this isn't well. I can do that, Yeah,
I mean I can do this. Nothing here.
Speaker 1 (24:00):
You all just if you ever want an experience, you
want to go shopping with Susan.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
That's all I can say.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
All right, what's your favorite one?
Speaker 2 (24:07):
For Gothy, your favorite local restaurant and why? And he
could care less.
Speaker 1 (24:12):
I don't know. That's not true. In Austin, I love
the restaurant Abba. I just plugged it. Why because they
have a beautiful outdoor. I'm about environment and feeling good.
They have it's trees and there's big fans and they
have great tequila drinks. I just but I can't answer that.
Speaker 2 (24:33):
I have a lot of favorites. I'm a foodie. I
visit a lot of rust see.
Speaker 1 (24:36):
I don't care about the food as much I care
about the ambiance.
Speaker 2 (24:41):
All right, all right, what's something you've always wanted to do? Wait? Wait?
Speaker 1 (24:44):
Do you think Abba will give me a free meal
next time I go in Austin, Texas?
Speaker 2 (24:47):
How many were?
Speaker 1 (24:48):
How many more times you have to say and Austin
on south converse?
Speaker 2 (24:52):
All right?
Speaker 1 (24:52):
Go ahead?
Speaker 2 (24:52):
What's something you've always wanted to do but haven't done yet?
And why not? I'll tell you to tell me what
you want? The airplane flying air?
Speaker 1 (25:03):
Well, you are close. You know what we've got.
Speaker 2 (25:05):
Wait, we're going to say this, Gabby, Yeah, give me something.
Speaker 1 (25:09):
You know what I want to do. I want to
jump out of an airplane. I did too, and now
I'm afraid that things will break. When I was interviewing
to be on The Golden Bachelor, I said I did too.
Speaker 2 (25:18):
I checked it off.
Speaker 1 (25:18):
I would jump. I still would do it. Yeah, So so.
Speaker 2 (25:21):
Why haven't we done it yet? Well, because I raised
kids said that now's the time I'm going to sign up.
Speaker 1 (25:27):
I'm scared to do it. I don't really care about flying,
as much as I'd like to be in the cockpit
and see the view, But I really would like to
jump out.
Speaker 2 (25:34):
With and I can fly the plane that you jump.
Speaker 1 (25:36):
Out of, only if there's someone flying it that's had
forty years of experience.
Speaker 2 (25:41):
All right.
Speaker 1 (25:42):
One was the last? Oh, I hate these questions. When
was the last time you did something for the first time?
I don't know. I can't answer that one.
Speaker 2 (25:48):
That's that's for the first time.
Speaker 1 (25:50):
It was the last time you did something for the
first time. I don't know when I did it?
Speaker 2 (25:55):
Yeah, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (25:56):
Next, what's an experience you had that change your perspective
on life? Going on Bachelor? That was easy?
Speaker 2 (26:07):
Okay? Looking back at when you were younger. What was
your silliest fear? The dark?
Speaker 1 (26:15):
No, listen true these questions? Was are you afraid of
the dark?
Speaker 2 (26:21):
You had a basement in our house and my mom
would send me and look.
Speaker 1 (26:24):
Behind the Bogeyman's going to get to my sister, my sister,
and I'm going to make her listen to this podcast.
My sister lives in Canada. Her name is Susan, my
favorite sister, Jess. I love Suisan's. She had a purple witch.
(26:44):
It was you know, those light and the dark things.
Speaker 2 (26:47):
We'd go to.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
We shared a room. She would put when I wasn't around.
She would put the witch up to the light bulb,
and then we'd go to bed and she would fly
that damn witch on her scared to death. What's your
current wallpaper on your phone? And why did you choose that?
Speaker 2 (27:06):
Oh?
Speaker 1 (27:06):
Well, you're gonna laugh when I tell you, Actually, this
is an answer you would give. I can't. I can't
choose one. I have a rolling scroll of all the
photos on my camera.
Speaker 2 (27:18):
I have my grand kids.
Speaker 1 (27:21):
I've got pictures of my husband. I've got pictures of
my kids, my grandkids places, I've been all right, you're next,
all right, way, what's your I'm one rogue, Susan. What's
the best date you've had since you got off the show?
Speaker 2 (27:39):
Really want to date?
Speaker 1 (27:43):
We've had some. You got a free dinner, give me something.
Speaker 2 (27:48):
So we're going to go back to Christmas. And my
favorite Christmas memory is when I torture my kids with clues.
Speaker 1 (27:56):
God.
Speaker 2 (27:59):
If you could bring back any fashion trend, oh God,
or old slang, what would it be? I have won
my kids? Still, Mom, don't feeling groovy. Don't say that anymore.
I still say banging.
Speaker 1 (28:12):
My food is good.
Speaker 2 (28:12):
It's banging. They're like, Mom, stopped.
Speaker 1 (28:15):
That is it doesn't bang it No, that's what you do.
That's what people do.
Speaker 2 (28:19):
Is you get No, that's a phrase.
Speaker 1 (28:23):
No, it's a phrase.
Speaker 2 (28:25):
I am banging.
Speaker 1 (28:26):
See she don't believe me.
Speaker 2 (28:28):
Hook No, it has nothing to get your mind out
of them telling you it's banging. It was amazing.
Speaker 1 (28:34):
Everybody right into bacheloration, these guys, because anyone ever heard
the expression of people banging.
Speaker 2 (28:40):
No, you don't say people banging. It was banging like.
Speaker 1 (28:44):
You say, it was banging. I don't care what they
move on. Wait a minute, I just can't even all right.
Speaker 2 (28:51):
What is your comfort movie or TV show? Well, my
comfort movie is Bridesmaids. That's a comfort yes, because I met.
Speaker 1 (29:01):
When she poops in the street with the wedding dress.
I still laugh every time I watch it. It always
makes me laugh.
Speaker 2 (29:08):
But you know, okay, how about the words? What about you? What? Hallmark?
I love my Hallmark Christmas away.
Speaker 1 (29:15):
Can I just tell you wait, I watched the other
night on Hallmark. I can't even believe I'm admitting to this.
I started to cry. I always do, know, you know,
not because of the movie, because it's always the same,
you know, girl meets boy in small town falls in love.
But this was girl meets Boy in Ireland, and I
(29:35):
was in Ireland last year and my husband always wanted
to go, so I say, and the scene it was
filmed in Ireland. So I just sat there crying watching.
Speaker 2 (29:42):
Then there's a favorite movie and I don't remember the
name of it. Can you help me? It's when they
switch houses and she falls in love with the girl's
brother over in Ireland. I believe. I don't know. Oh,
come on, I can't think of it.
Speaker 1 (29:56):
But I like it. I want to watch it. I
want holiday.
Speaker 2 (30:00):
Holiday. Isn't that great? Yes? Thank you?
Speaker 1 (30:04):
I love it.
Speaker 2 (30:05):
Last one, what's the worst piece of advice you've ever
been given?
Speaker 1 (30:09):
Go shopping with you?
Speaker 2 (30:12):
That's not advice?
Speaker 1 (30:13):
What's it?
Speaker 2 (30:13):
No, what's the worst advice you've ever been given? Don't
buy that car? I don't know that was good advice.
I don't know. I can't think of it.
Speaker 1 (30:25):
I don't know. You know what the difference is? You
and I look for the positive things. We make Lemons
make lemonade. I don't lemon It's like, what's the best advice?
Speaker 2 (30:36):
You know? That's what that's good advice? But I mean advice.
I don't know. Susan bet a thousand on that one casino.
That's bad advice, or.
Speaker 1 (30:47):
Worse yet, put another penny in that slot machine. You're
penny since.
Speaker 2 (30:54):
Called penny machines. However, the lowest bet is like eighty
eight cents. I mean, I don't know why I can
call pennies.
Speaker 1 (30:59):
I can't. I mean, I you were telling you to
day I enjoy that. Wait a second, I thought you
literally put money in and like pulled the crank.
Speaker 2 (31:08):
We used to quarters came out, and now you just
put out. A minute, I'm taking her a bag.
Speaker 1 (31:16):
I like to go into the Louis Vauton shop. You
can put the pennies and to.
Speaker 2 (31:19):
Spend it there too. You know, Cat, I can't believe it,
but we're having fun. First day of the new year.
Did you want to did you set any goals or
make any promises to yourself or something that you wish?
Speaker 1 (31:32):
Okay, So I never make New Year's resolutions because it's
sort of we've talked about this. It's sort of like
Valentine's Day for me. If if it's the person I love,
I want to show them every day of the year.
If I make a New Year's resolution, I want to
make that resolution any day of the year and make
it work the whole year. I don't ever choose a
day to you know, to acknowledge like, okay, starting today,
(31:55):
I don't do that. But I do think New Year
represents a time of newness of change. It can be.
But again, I like to look at the positive. For
me this past year. You know, we're just starting to
new year. The past year has been so great to
both of us. The friendships, the traveling, everything, you know,
(32:16):
our grandchildren, all the things that we've had this year.
I think for twenty twenty five, I would just like
to continue building the joy and the friendships and keeping health,
you know, my good health, and then you know, our world.
Speaker 2 (32:33):
I know I'm not going to say I'm going on
the diet and starting the gym. I did that last
year and I've gone four times my point. No, no, no,
I know, I'm just saying, but I mean I would
like to say that we both would be It's what
I'm looking forward to, right, Yeah, what are you looking
forward to? Our trip to Saint Martin's first, that's first?
Speaker 1 (32:52):
What else?
Speaker 2 (32:52):
Foremost? And I have a birthday?
Speaker 1 (32:56):
You look forward to birthdays? Really?
Speaker 2 (32:58):
But yeah, I usually sell a break somehow someway for
an entire month.
Speaker 1 (33:01):
You know what, I think it's going to be a
good year. And all of our listeners that have listened
to us in this first year of our podcast, thank you,
thank you so much.
Speaker 2 (33:09):
Gosh we get on like a golden paradise. Or they're
hoping for a new show. I'm looking forward to it
another exciting year. I am.
Speaker 1 (33:19):
I am too.
Speaker 2 (33:20):
I feel bless to be alive.
Speaker 1 (33:22):
So do I. But I do want to acknowledge all
the people that listen to our podcast, So thank you
to all of you, wishing you all the happiest and
health of new year. Healthy new year, and I hope
you've celebrated Familus.
Speaker 2 (33:35):
Without you guys, we wouldn't have dress and you know
you guys didn't love this, then we wouldn't be here.
So we're grateful for you very and hope.
Speaker 1 (33:43):
You're all recovering. If you celebrated last list night, I
hope you're recovering. Might ate too much anyway.
Speaker 2 (33:50):
Thanks. That's it for today, and happy healthy new Year
from Kathy and Susan. Happy happy New Year, and we'll
see you next time and we can't wait for them.
New Questions next year, right, should we say it one
more time? Okay, you guys are ready, Where are you
going to send you a little question?
Speaker 1 (34:06):
Wait? First, we want you to follow us hit that
follow button.
Speaker 2 (34:09):
Oh you always Bacheloration dot com slash Golden Hour and.
Speaker 1 (34:17):
You know what our New York's resolution is going to be.
But we're not going to say that anymore.
Speaker 2 (34:22):
People are just going to We might have to find
it up just when they're getting it. Okay, seriously happy
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