May 16, 2025 • 33 mins
Today on “Golden Hour,” we’re back for another episode of diving into your questions! Love has been on the rocks this week for some of our listeners, and we’re ready to talk them through major relationship roadblocks. We kick off the episode with our question of the day: How do you navigate an argument with your s/o while you’re in public or around friends? Then, we dive into our questions: Is this groom-to-be’s request for his wedding day a red flag? Can you save a relationship when conversations fall flat? We’re dishing out our best advice for all these questions and more! Plus, we’re closing out today’s episode with a round of “Makeup or Breakup.” Would you try to make it work in these scenarios or are you outta here?! Tune in now and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode!
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Welcome back everybody to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Once again,
Kathy and I are joining you for some excitement, some questions,
some games.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
I mean, Susan, is this the best part of your day?
I'm telling you I enjoy it. I do if and
if you have any questions. We love to laugh, We
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(00:39):
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Speaker 2 (00:55):
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Speaker 1 (00:56):
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Speaker 2 (01:07):
Okay, Susan, are you ready? We're going to get into
the episode really because we have a lot to cover today,
lots of questions. Okay, let's start with our question of
the day. Okay, ready, what is the best way to
navigate having an argument with your significant other while you're
in public with friends. I can answer this for Susan.
(01:31):
She carries a mini baseball bat in her purse that extends.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
No.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
See what I don't like is my whole attitude change.
You could see it in my eyes on the face. Yeah,
but if the best way would be just shut your
mouth until you get out of here.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
So the way I the way I My husband and
I used to have a look like if we be
a code word. Well it wasn't even a code word.
It was like I would my eyes would get big
and I would look at him like, don't do this,
but not right now. Yeah, I would never say it.
I would just give him a look, and honestly, sometimes
(02:09):
it was a little strained, and then we'd have the argument.
But folks, if you're out there and you think it's
ever a good idea to argue, there is no navigating
an argument in public. Don't do it. It's bad form.
It will make your friends and everyone else feel uncomfortable.
And don't make me feel uncomfortable. Yeah, don't bring your
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problems into your friend's realm, right, I mean, do you agree.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Yes, I do agree. I don't think it's a time
or place to do it. But I also feel like
it ruins the night or the day, whatever you're doing.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
It's just ruined for everyone or just.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
You when it's happening and you're not having the argument
yet and you're trying to keep from having an argument.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
It's ruining it for me. Yes, But isn't that better
than ruin it for you know, all the agreement fight
in front of people? No, no, no, I'm saying, let's
just like when you and I were in Saint Martin.
Let's just say, I mean we're you know, you aren't
my significant other, but we're friends. Let's just say you
and I had a disagreement. Would you really when we're
(03:16):
with all our friends that we've made me Saint Martin,
would you have ever gotten into Never? We wouldn't do it.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Me talk about this when we get home.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Or I would give you my Kathy look, and you
know we know each other now, like right? Yeah? So
so people don't do it. It's never good form. It
ruins friendships. You know what else, Kathy, you've witnessed. I
know I have couples arguing good.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
I've been in the backseat of the car where I
won't mention their name too. Of my dear friends and
we're on our way to launch or dinner at a restaurant,
and they're going back and forth.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
I jump in, Yo, yes, because you know why you
jump in. You know why you do because exactly, and
you're trying to make it opathetic. You're trying to smooth
everything over, and of course that never works right.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
And then I feel the one that's picking on the
other one, and I'll call that the other.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Yeah, I don't like it. I don't like I actually
have been in those situations. You know what I do.
I leave, I say, you know what I'm telling you.
When you were as merritags as long as I was,
if that happened, and it did happen a few times
with us, I would look at my husband say, Darryl,
Oh my god, I just got a text. The babysitter
is sick. We gotta go. Oh yeah. I don't care
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if they knew I was lying or not, or I'm out.
I'm not doing it. Are you an Irish by girl?
I have become an Irish Scoby girl because I got
very sad same advice. It takes too long long? Well,
I told you We've had this conversation before. I am
always grateful to be invited to a party or a
wedding or whatever. So I always make sure I say
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thank you to the person, but I don't go around
table tap you know I'm leaving out. They I will
go up to the host and say thanks, I've got
to run, it's been wonderful, and then I make a
bee line for the door. I hear you, all right,
you want to get into a feeling questions for today, Susan,
please take the first one, and I'm going to take
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the first one.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
And it's from Marisa. She's twenty nine, and she writes, Hey,
golden ladies, I'm getting married in a few months and
I need some thoughts on if this situation with my
fiance is weird. We were going through our shot list
with our photographer and he wanted to make sure he
(05:36):
had a first look shot with his mom because she's
keeping her dress a surprise from him until the big day.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Wait Ah, sorry, sorry, I'm just I'm dying over this question.
Keep going. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
I am an only child, so I don't know what
boys relationships are like with their moms. But I know
you both have sons. Hoping you can help. I feel
like the first look should only be something that the
bride and groom do on our wedding day. Is it
weird he wants to do one with his mom? Or
(06:12):
is it sweet? Excited to hear your thoughts.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
I want to be I want to be that generous, loving,
can see things always person. But Marissa, no, this is
your wedding day, Mom, back off. I'm sorry. I really.
(06:38):
As I get older, Susan, you know we've talked about this,
I'm much more of a go along to get along girl,
So I wouldn't argue it a first look. No one's
going to see it, you know. I wouldn't make a
case believe they know it yet exactly only they know it,
So let it go. Do I think it's weird? That
was your question. I think it's very weird.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
Different, It is different. But also Mom must feel damn
good in that dress.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Yeah, that's right. Just it's it's on.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
He obviously has flattered her or complimented her along the way.
So let them have their moment.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Not first, your first, your first, Well, not only that,
I'm saying it's a moment, it's not the first dance.
It's it's let them you know, it's not like they're
doing in front of your wedding party and your and
your guest list. So let them have their first thing, you.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
Know, the mother son dance and all that that. She
deserves that too, right.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
I mean, I will tell you and as everyone knows
now my sol Wait, can I just say Kyle and
Candy's anniversary is Saturday, their first anniversary. So I'm giving
a shout out to them. Susan married them one year
ago today she was not today, but in Saturday it
(07:57):
was the officiant. So happynniversary to them. But I'm here
to tell you the thought never crossed my mind for
your first book. No, and I looked, I look great,
But you know what the day was all about Candy
and Kyle.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
It is about them. But if they have that, don't
make a fuss.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
No, don't make a fuss. But let me wait for it. Wait,
so you were just thought right out of my brain?
What if this is just the beginning, the harbinger of
the relationship you get yourself in today? So no, but so,
so what do you think about that? Like, you know
(08:35):
how that may be setting the setting the scene for
their lives. I think the bigger question, Marissa is is
are you in a threesome with his mother. I'm just saying,
you know, make She says, that's my point. It's I
just said, so is he going to say, Mom has
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to come for dinner every Sunday night. Mom wants to
go on vacation with us. I think the wedding picture.
I'm just saying, see, you know, pay attention to where
this is going. Let him do the Picture's sweet. It
is sweet. Okay, it is sweet, But I'm just saying,
wouldn't you want to kind of pay attention to theree
(09:18):
your eyes open, keep your eyes open. But she just
wants a first look for her song. No moment, Well,
he wants it. He wants the first look.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Anyway because she's holding she's not showing him the dress.
It's a surprise wait from him, wait a minute, first
look shot with his mom because she's keeping her dress
a surprise from him.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
And he wanted to make sure he had a first
look shot with his mom. He's doing it for his
mother because he loves his mom. Got momm He's overbearing sometimes.
I know I would take heat for this. I'm just saying,
take the photograph, let the mother have her moment in
the sun.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
We want to see the picture. I want to see
the dress.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
I want to see the picture, and just make sure
he knows Mom is not coming to dinner every Sunday
unless it's my son, and then Kyle, I'll be over
at six o'clock every Sunday. All right, let's move on, Okay,
let us know how the wedding goes. And by the way, congratulations,
hope you have a fabulous wedding. Okay, Hannah writes, Hi,
(10:33):
Kathy and Susan love your podcast. My name is Hannah
and I'm twenty seven years old. My fiance and I
have been together six years in January, and lately he's
mentioned how we don't interact with each other that much anymore.
We have lived together for almost four years now, so
we obviously spend a lot of time together, and I
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feel that's why we have lost a lot of interaction.
I don't get that we spend a lot of our
time together watching our TV shows. When we go out
to eat, we don't have much to talk about, so
we just sit on our phone. I don't want this
to break us up because I really do love him
and want to spend the rest of my life with him.
(11:15):
What can we do to get our interaction back to
what it used to be. What says you, Susan, this
is not good. Not good because it was just a
week ago.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
I was out and I was looking around, not on
my phone, and I was looking at this couple. They
were obviously on vacation together, and there was no conversation,
and I thought, how sad you got to talk about something.
I don't care if you're being annoying, talk about something because.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Well, wait, she says, what can we do to get
our interaction back to what it used to be? Let
me give you a couple one two threes. Put your
phones down, don't bring your phones, put them in your pocket,
and and say we're not having any phones. That would
be one idea. Another idea would be do something that
you don't typically do. Go hiking if you've never hiked before.
(12:10):
Put some spice breath, yeah, put some spice back into
your relationship. The fact that you said we don't we
obviously spend a lot of time together. You know what
you're missing there. You're saying quality time, quality time, Hannah,
what are you guys doing together? If you're taking each
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other for granted, that is not going to bode well
for a marriage. So I would encourage you in shock
value too.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
I would talk about something sexy or I bought something
way do you see it on me? Just get a
little rise and get his interest.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
It's everything always about sex with you.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
No, No, I said, do something fun first, go for
a hike. And when you're out of breath selling you
can't breathe. I mean that's conversation or you break your wrists.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
That that I'm just saying. I think that the red
flag here for me is she said. We obviously spend
a lot of time together, and I feel like that's
why we have lost a lot of interaction. Let me
say to you, Hannah, when you're married, it can you know?
You have things to do. You have kids to raise,
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jobs to do, houses to clean, laundry to do, but
you better be finding time for each other and making
each other feel special, or that relationship is doomed. Do
you agree? Isn't I totally agree with you? Again? We agreed.
I don't know what the hell? So what can you do? Spark?
(13:37):
Get your interaction, chant some spark, change jobs down, put
the phones down, take a weekend together.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
And think about what I just said. I was sitting
in the restaurant watching people and there was no interaction
and it was boring. And that's not who you want
to be. You need to put some kind of a
spark conversation. I don't care if you're talking about the
next door neighbor, but.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
Talk well, did you hear what? The one thing here
is he mentioned her fiance. Hannah's fiance. We don't interact
with each other that much anymore. And so if she's
saying that, that is he's giving you a warning their Hannah,
you better figure it out and figure it out together.
(14:24):
How are you gonna get that spice back? They watch
all those TV shows together? You could talk about the show,
I mean, or say, you know, I can think, just talk.
I mean, do you think watching TV every night together
is a good relationship? Not every night?
Speaker 1 (14:39):
But some people work hard, they come home, they eat,
they're tired, and they put on the TV till they
go to bed.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
Yea, and you know what they need to do, take
a ten minute walk together and talk about their day,
what was important to you? How are you feeling? Making
them feel special? These are things I've learned in my life.
And so Hannah, I get it. You're twenty seven and.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
Other people even so times you know, change it up,
have another couple join you.
Speaker 3 (15:04):
For what talk? Okay, just check, step up your game,
let us get yeah, yeah yeah, let us know how
it goes. We wish you the best. He sounds like
a good guy. You sound like a great girl. But
you gotta work relationships, take work, hand out.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
Nobody says that when you get married it's a job.
It's a job. It takes work. You got it. So
I hope that you, guys, regain and refined what brought
you together and rekindle that love and attraction that you
found and let us know. Please, let us know you
got this girl. Okay. The next one's from anonymous.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
Hi, ladies, I feel really embarrassed asking this, but I
really feel like you guys can help. I've been with
my boyfriend for six years and I love him so much. Lately,
our sex life has been slipping. I haven't been able
to work out due to some health issues I've been
dealing with, so I've gotten really insecure and down about
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my body. I also take antidepress and so my sex
drive is really low. Basically, I never want to have
sex and it's starting to affect my relationship. What do
you suggest I do to break out of this rut?
I'm still extremely attracted to my boyfriend. I don't know
what it is though when he goes to initiate, I
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just never want to. I miss having that form of
intimacy in my relationship. So any advice would be much appreciated.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
Thank you. I mean, it's so sad, but the first
thing that came to my brain was fake it till
you make it, have sex even if you're not interested.
But then I thought different too, though, do they know? Wow?
Oh man, seriously.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Happy talk to the doctor. Change the antidepressed. I don't
know how old you are, but hormones, there's there's.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
I would google it too. I don't think they she's
been with her boyfriend for six years. I don't think
that we're talking about it, and I don't think anonymous
as an older person, I don't.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Maybe, but try something different, like something that sex toys
that he can turn you on with, whether it's a
sex toy or something that's going to stimulate you differently
than how it's been.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
Yeah, I think sex drive comes and goes it does
you know you're not? But I also think antidepressants there's
certain medications. There's no question about it. We do sex drive,
there's no question. So I think Susan's right, go and
talk to your doctor. In the short term, you know,
sex is an intimate it's part of a relationship, and
(17:54):
it's I if he's if he's interested in having sex
and you're not, that is going to hurt your relationship.
From my right, yes it is.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
And you don't want a monotonous sex life either that
it's the same way every time.
Speaker 2 (18:08):
Yeah, change it up. Yeah, but here, but she's saying
she doesn't want to have sex when he initiates. And
that's so funny. You said that, Susan, because she said,
what do you suggest I do to break out of
this rut? You're not in the rut. You don't want
to have sex. Call it what it is. You don't
want to have sex. You need to get some help
about increasing your sex drive, how.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
To go back to the gym. And you're feeling really
insecure and down about your body. He's obviously not complaining
feel sexy in your own skin. I mean it's easy
to say, but start saying your affirmations in the mirror
at night, you know, put it out to the universe.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
I have a body. I have a sexy body. I
have a sexy I am.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
Worthy, I am wealthy, I am why all right?
Speaker 2 (19:01):
We you know I I listen, Anonymous. I think you've
got to get some medical help, maybe some therapist help.
You know, that's not our strong suit here, but I
think that you are right that it is starting to
affect your relationship. So go and talk to your doctor,
talk to a therapist, maybe a sex therapist. Maybe fake
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it till you make it, But you got to try
something different from what you're doing, because if you keep
doing what you've been doing, you're going to keep getting
what you've been getting. Okay, now, are you racism? It's
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called makeup or break up, and we're gonna we're gonna
play this, just you and me to get a girlfriend. Okay.
We're going to take turns reading hypotheticals and then we'll
say whether we would break up or try to make
it work. Okay, So I'm gonna get and here I'm
going to start us off. Your husband confesses that they
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or he secretly took out a thirty thousand dollars loan
before you moved in together and never told you you
only find out when debt collectors start calling. Asshole, tell
me what you're really you paid? Why are not paying
(20:28):
your bill? Well, I don't think. Let me just say
that ship has sailed, because now there is a debt collector.
So what do you do? Do you make up with
them or break up with them? You make up with
them if you love them. I mean, oh, you're gonna
pay that three You're gonna pay that three thousand dollar bill.
(20:49):
He can't. A debt collector is there?
Speaker 1 (20:51):
If he had the money, take over the finances and
make sure that payment is made.
Speaker 2 (20:59):
What about you? Well, if it's going to way to check,
it's over, let's not do this.
Speaker 1 (21:08):
Yes, like Kathy has thirty thousands, you're going to get
out spanking tonight.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
You said your husband if you weren't my I gotta
be honest. If you were my boyfriend and I was
living with him, he's out. I take marriage. I you
know very seriously. I'm with you. We would have a
very serious conversation about finances going forward, and I would
want to see check stubs or you know whatever. There
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would be an arrangement. I'm not divorcing him over that. However, However,
wait a minute. However, he's going to take another loan
of thirty thousand. You know why, He's going to buy
me a Philip petiitue diamond and crusted watch. No, man,
that's a hard one. Okay.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
Your partner admits they drunkenly kissed an ex at a wedding,
but swear it meant nothing and immediately regretted it. W
t fly kissed an ex?
Speaker 2 (22:08):
Kiss my butt? No, you're gonna break up? Oh no, listen, Susan,
the big talk or kiss my seriously seriously? Okay, okay,
takes two. I'm gonna go kiss one of my ex.
How do you feel? But it's not going to mean anything.
(22:28):
You're not really going to do that? No, I would,
I would? You know what. I gotta be honest. I always,
you know, I always look at words. I'm being honest.
You're gonna laugh at me, But I look at the
the fecissifty of the words. Your partner, I don't know.
If it's he been my partner for a week, he's
out of there. If he's been my partner for a year,
(22:50):
I'm gonna have a conversation with him. It really, to me,
would depend on how long he's been right.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
How would that conversation make you okay with this? What
would that conversation sound like?
Speaker 2 (23:00):
If I'd been with him long enough, I believe I
would know I just Kathy, I'm not saying all women.
I think I would know his intentions and I would
know his character. And would I like it that he
did it? Absolutely not. But I will tell you it
would make me on guard. I'd be wary, I'd be cautious,
(23:22):
I'd be looking to see and if it ever happened again,
if it ever happened again, he'd be out because you
know what I don't you know, Susan, We people in
Bachelor Nation, we talk about this stuff offline. Susan. How
many times have I said to you the man that
I'm going to be with, I'm going to trust him implicitly,
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and he could trust me implicitly. And if this happens, well,
that's what I'm saying, then I'm going to be wary.
And if I've been his partner for a month, a
month and a day, it's over. And you know what,
don't drink anymore if you can't help it. Well, alcohol
(24:03):
is an excuse I think for bad behavior. All Right,
here's the next one your partner refuses to post about
you on social media after two years together, saying they
like to keep their private life. They like to keep
their private life separate when you confront them, but they
(24:26):
frequently post about their friends, jobs and hobbies. So I
can tell you this happened to a very good friend
of mine. This actually and you know why he did.
He would post pictures. I mean, I bet this is
like this. It could be them. Yeah, it could be them,
but I'm gonna and I'm not going to mention their names,
but I will tell you the advice I gave her,
(24:48):
and I turned out I was right. You know why
he didn't post her He had a girlfriend in every
port Yep, he travels a lot. He had girlfriends in Europe,
girlfriends in Texas. And I said to her, if he weren't,
I remember we had this conversation. I said, if he
were not posting at all, that would be one thing.
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But he's posting. But he's posting pictures of his friends,
girls and guys. He's with you, like his two things, everything,
but not her. And I said, that's a red flag.
And when about six months later, guess what she found out?
And guess what it was. That's a break that's absolutely
(25:32):
a breakup, all right.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Your husband gets fired from their job for misconduct, and
by that she means flirting with coworkers, sending inappropriate emails.
They insist it was harmless and blown out of proportion.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
He got fired fired, You're oh done because they'll probably lie.
I mean again, I don't know. I don't want to
sound wishy washing got it, I'm turning I'm morphine into
use zon. I don't want to sound wishy wash it.
It would depend how long I've been married to this guy. Yeah,
(26:12):
you know I would go from I'd want more details,
you know what, Kay, I'm a jokester and say things.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
It might be I'm giving him the benefit that if
he shows her everything and she goes, oh, seriously, you know,
I get it, but you're stupid, don't ever do it again.
I could maybe not be a breakup that you would
make up depending on what was in the emails. That
would I would have to see the wording.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
What if he just yeah, but you know that's a
slippery slope too. Honestly for me, it would be again,
I'd look at what I thought his intentions were. You know,
if it's my husband. I know him pretty well, and
for me, I might not leave him right that minute,
but I think it would, really I would, and start.
It would cut a swath into our relationships. It would. Yes,
(27:04):
So it's a makeup and maybe breakup. We'll give it time.
That's a can I just say? I have turned into Susan.
Susan always says both. You can't have both, Susan, you
have to pick one of it. No, I don't, all right,
Kathy's now adopted that make up? Maybe break up? All right?
Go the next one.
Speaker 1 (27:25):
Your husband quits his job without telling you and he
has no plan.
Speaker 2 (27:31):
Babe, why did you do that?
Speaker 1 (27:35):
I don't think that's a breakup because there's obviously a reason, right.
I gotta get more facts. I need more facts.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Yeah, we need more facts. I would say, don't break
up over that. I don't know. It's just if your
man quits his job, you're going don't let the door
hit you in the ass. I'm gonna you know what,
How are we going to pay the AMEX bills? I
just bought myself a new Philip Patigue diamond and crustin watch.
(28:06):
How we paying for that one? I don't know? That's
that is again, it is not a breakup imminently, but
it might portend. I love that word. It might portendo, Yeah, exactly.
All right. Your partner lies about small things constantly, where
they are, who they're with, how much they spent, but
(28:27):
nothing major. Those are all major, red red red red,
don't crimson, crimson, crimson, don't lie to me, you know?
Can I tell you it's stupid? Okay? Wait, I have
a question with your husband. Were there any like I
can tell you what my NEGOI non negotiable was with
my husband. Did you have any non negotiables like you
(28:49):
do that and we're done? With your husband?
Speaker 1 (28:51):
Yeah, probably if you ever cheat or you know, lie, Sure,
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (28:56):
So with my husband, I said I can deal with
a lot, but if you ever cheat on me, I'm out.
And he said the same thing. That was my thing.
That was understand So we have to go back to
a little question. You're sending emails to other women, oway
you're out? All right? Oh okay.
Speaker 1 (29:18):
Your partner never takes your side when you're in public.
If you're having a disagreement with your friend, for example,
even about something silly, he never sides with you.
Speaker 2 (29:29):
I'm not breaking up with him, but I'm going to
tear him a new one. When what is your problem? Like?
Why can't you ever agree with me? Yeah? Yeah I would?
I mean would you? Would you do in public? Though?
Or would you wait? You got home?
Speaker 1 (29:44):
Well me, if it happens and he's doing it again,
I probably.
Speaker 2 (29:48):
Go why do you always do that? You never side
with me in public? You would say that? Yeah, but
would you get get home and get more angry? Oh,
I'd snip it in the butt? No, no, you think
that would nip it in the butt. He never ever
takes your side in public? Why? I want to know why?
(30:08):
And you're going to ask him around all the friends
that are well.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
On what you're saying and what the situation is. Not
every time now, but I would something. I would go
home and talk about you.
Speaker 2 (30:18):
Yeah, I'm not breaking up, No, but I want to
talk about it. Why I talk about it? And he's
going to have to buy me a very expensive make gives?
I get Wait, why does it? I mean, here's the
thing that worries me about us. You know me and
you know I'm joking, and that I don't need a
(30:39):
man who can buy me a thirty thousand dollars watch now,
if he wants to, I'd be you know, if somebody
wants to give me a red box that would be
Cardier or a blue box that would be Tiffany. I
would be like, thank you so much. But that would
that be enough for you for a guy? For what
to to give you gifts? I'm saying, would that be
(31:00):
enough for you to be interested in a guy? If
he showered you with expensive gifts, I need to like him?
Would you give the gifts back? No, Susan's vehemently shaking
her head. No, hell no, not just no, hell no.
And he wouldn't get those guys in my lifetime. I mean,
(31:20):
you know, I had a husband who bought me some
nice gifts. But I you know, I had a guy.
I had a guy I dated, I swear to god.
He bought me a set of mixing bowls. He bought
he bought me a steamer of frother for my coffee,
as like.
Speaker 1 (31:34):
Sweetest for a day, like a birthday or something or
just random gifts.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
No, for my birthday, No, just like Christmas. It was
like utilitarian, you know, you know, here's sit down. Can
I tell you what he gave me? For my birthday though,
that I still love because you know, everyone knows me.
I'm a voracious reader. He gave me a kindle, the
(32:01):
top of the line kindle, and you know what, can
I tell you how often I think of him when
I read on that kindle book. Oh my god, you
really do know me, don't you? All right, this was
so much fun. Again, I just hope that you guys,
your listeners love listening to us and hearing our advice
(32:24):
and just getting to know a little bit more about us,
because again, this friendship that started on the Golden Bachelor
is real, and we have so much fun together. And
we always wish that, you know, the people listening to
us have people in their lives too who care and lovely.
That's my wish for today.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
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Speaker 2 (33:36):
This was fun. Thanks for doing us. Have a great
week everybody. Yeah,
Welcome back everybody to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Once again,
Kathy and I are joining you for some excitement, some questions,
some games.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
I mean, Susan, is this the best part of your day?
I'm telling you I enjoy it. I do if and
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You can also dm us on Instagram at Bachelor Happy Hour.
Speaker 2 (01:07):
Okay, Susan, are you ready? We're going to get into
the episode really because we have a lot to cover today,
lots of questions. Okay, let's start with our question of
the day. Okay, ready, what is the best way to
navigate having an argument with your significant other while you're
in public with friends. I can answer this for Susan.
(01:31):
She carries a mini baseball bat in her purse that extends.
Speaker 3 (01:35):
No.
Speaker 1 (01:35):
See what I don't like is my whole attitude change.
You could see it in my eyes on the face. Yeah,
but if the best way would be just shut your
mouth until you get out of here.
Speaker 2 (01:47):
So the way I the way I My husband and
I used to have a look like if we be
a code word. Well it wasn't even a code word.
It was like I would my eyes would get big
and I would look at him like, don't do this,
but not right now. Yeah, I would never say it.
I would just give him a look, and honestly, sometimes
(02:09):
it was a little strained, and then we'd have the argument.
But folks, if you're out there and you think it's
ever a good idea to argue, there is no navigating
an argument in public. Don't do it. It's bad form.
It will make your friends and everyone else feel uncomfortable.
And don't make me feel uncomfortable. Yeah, don't bring your
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problems into your friend's realm, right, I mean, do you agree.
Speaker 1 (02:37):
Yes, I do agree. I don't think it's a time
or place to do it. But I also feel like
it ruins the night or the day, whatever you're doing.
Speaker 2 (02:45):
It's just ruined for everyone or just.
Speaker 1 (02:48):
You when it's happening and you're not having the argument
yet and you're trying to keep from having an argument.
Speaker 2 (02:56):
It's ruining it for me. Yes, But isn't that better
than ruin it for you know, all the agreement fight
in front of people? No, no, no, I'm saying, let's
just like when you and I were in Saint Martin.
Let's just say, I mean we're you know, you aren't
my significant other, but we're friends. Let's just say you
and I had a disagreement. Would you really when we're
(03:16):
with all our friends that we've made me Saint Martin,
would you have ever gotten into Never? We wouldn't do it.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
Me talk about this when we get home.
Speaker 2 (03:25):
Or I would give you my Kathy look, and you
know we know each other now, like right? Yeah? So
so people don't do it. It's never good form. It
ruins friendships. You know what else, Kathy, you've witnessed. I
know I have couples arguing good.
Speaker 1 (03:43):
I've been in the backseat of the car where I
won't mention their name too. Of my dear friends and
we're on our way to launch or dinner at a restaurant,
and they're going back and forth.
Speaker 2 (03:52):
I jump in, Yo, yes, because you know why you
jump in. You know why you do because exactly, and
you're trying to make it opathetic. You're trying to smooth
everything over, and of course that never works right.
Speaker 1 (04:06):
And then I feel the one that's picking on the
other one, and I'll call that the other.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Yeah, I don't like it. I don't like I actually
have been in those situations. You know what I do.
I leave, I say, you know what I'm telling you.
When you were as merritags as long as I was,
if that happened, and it did happen a few times
with us, I would look at my husband say, Darryl,
Oh my god, I just got a text. The babysitter
is sick. We gotta go. Oh yeah. I don't care
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if they knew I was lying or not, or I'm out.
I'm not doing it. Are you an Irish by girl?
I have become an Irish Scoby girl because I got
very sad same advice. It takes too long long? Well,
I told you We've had this conversation before. I am
always grateful to be invited to a party or a
wedding or whatever. So I always make sure I say
(04:54):
thank you to the person, but I don't go around
table tap you know I'm leaving out. They I will
go up to the host and say thanks, I've got
to run, it's been wonderful, and then I make a
bee line for the door. I hear you, all right,
you want to get into a feeling questions for today, Susan,
please take the first one, and I'm going to take
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the first one.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
And it's from Marisa. She's twenty nine, and she writes, Hey,
golden ladies, I'm getting married in a few months and
I need some thoughts on if this situation with my
fiance is weird. We were going through our shot list
with our photographer and he wanted to make sure he
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had a first look shot with his mom because she's
keeping her dress a surprise from him until the big day.
Speaker 2 (05:44):
Wait Ah, sorry, sorry, I'm just I'm dying over this question.
Keep going. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
I am an only child, so I don't know what
boys relationships are like with their moms. But I know
you both have sons. Hoping you can help. I feel
like the first look should only be something that the
bride and groom do on our wedding day. Is it
weird he wants to do one with his mom? Or
(06:12):
is it sweet? Excited to hear your thoughts.
Speaker 2 (06:18):
I want to be I want to be that generous, loving,
can see things always person. But Marissa, no, this is
your wedding day, Mom, back off. I'm sorry. I really.
(06:38):
As I get older, Susan, you know we've talked about this,
I'm much more of a go along to get along girl,
So I wouldn't argue it a first look. No one's
going to see it, you know. I wouldn't make a
case believe they know it yet exactly only they know it,
So let it go. Do I think it's weird? That
was your question. I think it's very weird.
Speaker 1 (06:59):
Different, It is different. But also Mom must feel damn
good in that dress.
Speaker 2 (07:06):
Yeah, that's right. Just it's it's on.
Speaker 1 (07:09):
He obviously has flattered her or complimented her along the way.
So let them have their moment.
Speaker 2 (07:16):
Not first, your first, your first, Well, not only that,
I'm saying it's a moment, it's not the first dance.
It's it's let them you know, it's not like they're
doing in front of your wedding party and your and
your guest list. So let them have their first thing, you.
Speaker 1 (07:31):
Know, the mother son dance and all that that. She
deserves that too, right.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
I mean, I will tell you and as everyone knows
now my sol Wait, can I just say Kyle and
Candy's anniversary is Saturday, their first anniversary. So I'm giving
a shout out to them. Susan married them one year
ago today she was not today, but in Saturday it
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was the officiant. So happynniversary to them. But I'm here
to tell you the thought never crossed my mind for
your first book. No, and I looked, I look great,
But you know what the day was all about Candy
and Kyle.
Speaker 1 (08:12):
It is about them. But if they have that, don't
make a fuss.
Speaker 2 (08:15):
No, don't make a fuss. But let me wait for it. Wait,
so you were just thought right out of my brain?
What if this is just the beginning, the harbinger of
the relationship you get yourself in today? So no, but so,
so what do you think about that? Like, you know
(08:35):
how that may be setting the setting the scene for
their lives. I think the bigger question, Marissa is is
are you in a threesome with his mother. I'm just saying,
you know, make She says, that's my point. It's I
just said, so is he going to say, Mom has
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to come for dinner every Sunday night. Mom wants to
go on vacation with us. I think the wedding picture.
I'm just saying, see, you know, pay attention to where
this is going. Let him do the Picture's sweet. It
is sweet. Okay, it is sweet, But I'm just saying,
wouldn't you want to kind of pay attention to theree
(09:18):
your eyes open, keep your eyes open. But she just
wants a first look for her song. No moment, Well,
he wants it. He wants the first look.
Speaker 1 (09:30):
Anyway because she's holding she's not showing him the dress.
It's a surprise wait from him, wait a minute, first
look shot with his mom because she's keeping her dress
a surprise from him.
Speaker 2 (09:43):
And he wanted to make sure he had a first
look shot with his mom. He's doing it for his
mother because he loves his mom. Got momm He's overbearing sometimes.
I know I would take heat for this. I'm just saying,
take the photograph, let the mother have her moment in
the sun.
Speaker 1 (10:02):
We want to see the picture. I want to see
the dress.
Speaker 2 (10:04):
I want to see the picture, and just make sure
he knows Mom is not coming to dinner every Sunday
unless it's my son, and then Kyle, I'll be over
at six o'clock every Sunday. All right, let's move on, Okay,
let us know how the wedding goes. And by the way, congratulations,
hope you have a fabulous wedding. Okay, Hannah writes, Hi,
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Kathy and Susan love your podcast. My name is Hannah
and I'm twenty seven years old. My fiance and I
have been together six years in January, and lately he's
mentioned how we don't interact with each other that much anymore.
We have lived together for almost four years now, so
we obviously spend a lot of time together, and I
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feel that's why we have lost a lot of interaction.
I don't get that we spend a lot of our
time together watching our TV shows. When we go out
to eat, we don't have much to talk about, so
we just sit on our phone. I don't want this
to break us up because I really do love him
and want to spend the rest of my life with him.
(11:15):
What can we do to get our interaction back to
what it used to be. What says you, Susan, this
is not good. Not good because it was just a
week ago.
Speaker 1 (11:25):
I was out and I was looking around, not on
my phone, and I was looking at this couple. They
were obviously on vacation together, and there was no conversation,
and I thought, how sad you got to talk about something.
I don't care if you're being annoying, talk about something because.
Speaker 2 (11:47):
Well, wait, she says, what can we do to get
our interaction back to what it used to be? Let
me give you a couple one two threes. Put your
phones down, don't bring your phones, put them in your pocket,
and and say we're not having any phones. That would
be one idea. Another idea would be do something that
you don't typically do. Go hiking if you've never hiked before.
(12:10):
Put some spice breath, yeah, put some spice back into
your relationship. The fact that you said we don't we
obviously spend a lot of time together. You know what
you're missing there. You're saying quality time, quality time, Hannah,
what are you guys doing together? If you're taking each
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other for granted, that is not going to bode well
for a marriage. So I would encourage you in shock
value too.
Speaker 1 (12:37):
I would talk about something sexy or I bought something
way do you see it on me? Just get a
little rise and get his interest.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
It's everything always about sex with you.
Speaker 1 (12:46):
No, No, I said, do something fun first, go for
a hike. And when you're out of breath selling you
can't breathe. I mean that's conversation or you break your wrists.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
That that I'm just saying. I think that the red
flag here for me is she said. We obviously spend
a lot of time together, and I feel like that's
why we have lost a lot of interaction. Let me
say to you, Hannah, when you're married, it can you know?
You have things to do. You have kids to raise,
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jobs to do, houses to clean, laundry to do, but
you better be finding time for each other and making
each other feel special, or that relationship is doomed. Do
you agree? Isn't I totally agree with you? Again? We agreed.
I don't know what the hell? So what can you do? Spark?
(13:37):
Get your interaction, chant some spark, change jobs down, put
the phones down, take a weekend together.
Speaker 1 (13:45):
And think about what I just said. I was sitting
in the restaurant watching people and there was no interaction
and it was boring. And that's not who you want
to be. You need to put some kind of a
spark conversation. I don't care if you're talking about the
next door neighbor, but.
Speaker 2 (14:02):
Talk well, did you hear what? The one thing here
is he mentioned her fiance. Hannah's fiance. We don't interact
with each other that much anymore. And so if she's
saying that, that is he's giving you a warning their Hannah,
you better figure it out and figure it out together.
(14:24):
How are you gonna get that spice back? They watch
all those TV shows together? You could talk about the show,
I mean, or say, you know, I can think, just talk.
I mean, do you think watching TV every night together
is a good relationship? Not every night?
Speaker 1 (14:39):
But some people work hard, they come home, they eat,
they're tired, and they put on the TV till they
go to bed.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
Yea, and you know what they need to do, take
a ten minute walk together and talk about their day,
what was important to you? How are you feeling? Making
them feel special? These are things I've learned in my life.
And so Hannah, I get it. You're twenty seven and.
Speaker 1 (14:58):
Other people even so times you know, change it up,
have another couple join you.
Speaker 3 (15:04):
For what talk? Okay, just check, step up your game,
let us get yeah, yeah yeah, let us know how
it goes. We wish you the best. He sounds like
a good guy. You sound like a great girl. But
you gotta work relationships, take work, hand out.
Speaker 2 (15:23):
Nobody says that when you get married it's a job.
It's a job. It takes work. You got it. So
I hope that you, guys, regain and refined what brought
you together and rekindle that love and attraction that you
found and let us know. Please, let us know you
got this girl. Okay. The next one's from anonymous.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
Hi, ladies, I feel really embarrassed asking this, but I
really feel like you guys can help. I've been with
my boyfriend for six years and I love him so much. Lately,
our sex life has been slipping. I haven't been able
to work out due to some health issues I've been
dealing with, so I've gotten really insecure and down about
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my body. I also take antidepress and so my sex
drive is really low. Basically, I never want to have
sex and it's starting to affect my relationship. What do
you suggest I do to break out of this rut?
I'm still extremely attracted to my boyfriend. I don't know
what it is though when he goes to initiate, I
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just never want to. I miss having that form of
intimacy in my relationship. So any advice would be much appreciated.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
Thank you. I mean, it's so sad, but the first
thing that came to my brain was fake it till
you make it, have sex even if you're not interested.
But then I thought different too, though, do they know? Wow?
Oh man, seriously.
Speaker 1 (16:56):
Happy talk to the doctor. Change the antidepressed. I don't
know how old you are, but hormones, there's there's.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
I would google it too. I don't think they she's
been with her boyfriend for six years. I don't think
that we're talking about it, and I don't think anonymous
as an older person, I don't.
Speaker 1 (17:14):
Maybe, but try something different, like something that sex toys
that he can turn you on with, whether it's a
sex toy or something that's going to stimulate you differently
than how it's been.
Speaker 2 (17:30):
Yeah, I think sex drive comes and goes it does
you know you're not? But I also think antidepressants there's
certain medications. There's no question about it. We do sex drive,
there's no question. So I think Susan's right, go and
talk to your doctor. In the short term, you know,
sex is an intimate it's part of a relationship, and
(17:54):
it's I if he's if he's interested in having sex
and you're not, that is going to hurt your relationship.
From my right, yes it is.
Speaker 1 (18:02):
And you don't want a monotonous sex life either that
it's the same way every time.
Speaker 2 (18:08):
Yeah, change it up. Yeah, but here, but she's saying
she doesn't want to have sex when he initiates. And
that's so funny. You said that, Susan, because she said,
what do you suggest I do to break out of
this rut? You're not in the rut. You don't want
to have sex. Call it what it is. You don't
want to have sex. You need to get some help
about increasing your sex drive, how.
Speaker 1 (18:30):
To go back to the gym. And you're feeling really
insecure and down about your body. He's obviously not complaining
feel sexy in your own skin. I mean it's easy
to say, but start saying your affirmations in the mirror
at night, you know, put it out to the universe.
Speaker 2 (18:52):
I have a body. I have a sexy body. I
have a sexy I am.
Speaker 1 (18:57):
Worthy, I am wealthy, I am why all right?
Speaker 2 (19:01):
We you know I I listen, Anonymous. I think you've
got to get some medical help, maybe some therapist help.
You know, that's not our strong suit here, but I
think that you are right that it is starting to
affect your relationship. So go and talk to your doctor,
talk to a therapist, maybe a sex therapist. Maybe fake
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it till you make it, But you got to try
something different from what you're doing, because if you keep
doing what you've been doing, you're going to keep getting
what you've been getting. Okay, now, are you racism? It's
(19:44):
called makeup or break up, and we're gonna we're gonna
play this, just you and me to get a girlfriend. Okay.
We're going to take turns reading hypotheticals and then we'll
say whether we would break up or try to make
it work. Okay, So I'm gonna get and here I'm
going to start us off. Your husband confesses that they
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or he secretly took out a thirty thousand dollars loan
before you moved in together and never told you you
only find out when debt collectors start calling. Asshole, tell
me what you're really you paid? Why are not paying
(20:28):
your bill? Well, I don't think. Let me just say
that ship has sailed, because now there is a debt collector.
So what do you do? Do you make up with
them or break up with them? You make up with
them if you love them. I mean, oh, you're gonna
pay that three You're gonna pay that three thousand dollar bill.
(20:49):
He can't. A debt collector is there?
Speaker 1 (20:51):
If he had the money, take over the finances and
make sure that payment is made.
Speaker 2 (20:59):
What about you? Well, if it's going to way to check,
it's over, let's not do this.
Speaker 1 (21:08):
Yes, like Kathy has thirty thousands, you're going to get
out spanking tonight.
Speaker 2 (21:13):
You said your husband if you weren't my I gotta
be honest. If you were my boyfriend and I was
living with him, he's out. I take marriage. I you
know very seriously. I'm with you. We would have a
very serious conversation about finances going forward, and I would
want to see check stubs or you know whatever. There
(21:36):
would be an arrangement. I'm not divorcing him over that. However, However,
wait a minute. However, he's going to take another loan
of thirty thousand. You know why, He's going to buy
me a Philip petiitue diamond and crusted watch. No, man,
that's a hard one. Okay.
Speaker 1 (21:53):
Your partner admits they drunkenly kissed an ex at a wedding,
but swear it meant nothing and immediately regretted it. W
t fly kissed an ex?
Speaker 2 (22:08):
Kiss my butt? No, you're gonna break up? Oh no, listen, Susan,
the big talk or kiss my seriously seriously? Okay, okay,
takes two. I'm gonna go kiss one of my ex.
How do you feel? But it's not going to mean anything.
(22:28):
You're not really going to do that? No, I would,
I would? You know what. I gotta be honest. I always,
you know, I always look at words. I'm being honest.
You're gonna laugh at me, But I look at the
the fecissifty of the words. Your partner, I don't know.
If it's he been my partner for a week, he's
out of there. If he's been my partner for a year,
(22:50):
I'm gonna have a conversation with him. It really, to me,
would depend on how long he's been right.
Speaker 1 (22:54):
How would that conversation make you okay with this? What
would that conversation sound like?
Speaker 2 (23:00):
If I'd been with him long enough, I believe I
would know I just Kathy, I'm not saying all women.
I think I would know his intentions and I would
know his character. And would I like it that he
did it? Absolutely not. But I will tell you it
would make me on guard. I'd be wary, I'd be cautious,
(23:22):
I'd be looking to see and if it ever happened again,
if it ever happened again, he'd be out because you
know what I don't you know, Susan, We people in
Bachelor Nation, we talk about this stuff offline. Susan. How
many times have I said to you the man that
I'm going to be with, I'm going to trust him implicitly,
(23:43):
and he could trust me implicitly. And if this happens, well,
that's what I'm saying, then I'm going to be wary.
And if I've been his partner for a month, a
month and a day, it's over. And you know what,
don't drink anymore if you can't help it. Well, alcohol
(24:03):
is an excuse I think for bad behavior. All Right,
here's the next one your partner refuses to post about
you on social media after two years together, saying they
like to keep their private life. They like to keep
their private life separate when you confront them, but they
(24:26):
frequently post about their friends, jobs and hobbies. So I
can tell you this happened to a very good friend
of mine. This actually and you know why he did.
He would post pictures. I mean, I bet this is
like this. It could be them. Yeah, it could be them,
but I'm gonna and I'm not going to mention their names,
but I will tell you the advice I gave her,
(24:48):
and I turned out I was right. You know why
he didn't post her He had a girlfriend in every
port Yep, he travels a lot. He had girlfriends in Europe,
girlfriends in Texas. And I said to her, if he weren't,
I remember we had this conversation. I said, if he
were not posting at all, that would be one thing.
(25:12):
But he's posting. But he's posting pictures of his friends,
girls and guys. He's with you, like his two things, everything,
but not her. And I said, that's a red flag.
And when about six months later, guess what she found out?
And guess what it was. That's a break that's absolutely
(25:32):
a breakup, all right.
Speaker 1 (25:33):
Your husband gets fired from their job for misconduct, and
by that she means flirting with coworkers, sending inappropriate emails.
They insist it was harmless and blown out of proportion.
Speaker 2 (25:49):
He got fired fired, You're oh done because they'll probably lie.
I mean again, I don't know. I don't want to
sound wishy washing got it, I'm turning I'm morphine into
use zon. I don't want to sound wishy wash it.
It would depend how long I've been married to this guy. Yeah,
(26:12):
you know I would go from I'd want more details,
you know what, Kay, I'm a jokester and say things.
Speaker 1 (26:18):
It might be I'm giving him the benefit that if
he shows her everything and she goes, oh, seriously, you know,
I get it, but you're stupid, don't ever do it again.
I could maybe not be a breakup that you would
make up depending on what was in the emails. That
would I would have to see the wording.
Speaker 2 (26:41):
What if he just yeah, but you know that's a
slippery slope too. Honestly for me, it would be again,
I'd look at what I thought his intentions were. You know,
if it's my husband. I know him pretty well, and
for me, I might not leave him right that minute,
but I think it would, really I would, and start.
It would cut a swath into our relationships. It would. Yes,
(27:04):
So it's a makeup and maybe breakup. We'll give it time.
That's a can I just say? I have turned into Susan.
Susan always says both. You can't have both, Susan, you
have to pick one of it. No, I don't, all right,
Kathy's now adopted that make up? Maybe break up? All right?
Go the next one.
Speaker 1 (27:25):
Your husband quits his job without telling you and he
has no plan.
Speaker 2 (27:31):
Babe, why did you do that?
Speaker 1 (27:35):
I don't think that's a breakup because there's obviously a reason, right.
I gotta get more facts. I need more facts.
Speaker 2 (27:44):
Yeah, we need more facts. I would say, don't break
up over that. I don't know. It's just if your
man quits his job, you're going don't let the door
hit you in the ass. I'm gonna you know what,
How are we going to pay the AMEX bills? I
just bought myself a new Philip Patigue diamond and crustin watch.
(28:06):
How we paying for that one? I don't know? That's
that is again, it is not a breakup imminently, but
it might portend. I love that word. It might portendo, Yeah, exactly.
All right. Your partner lies about small things constantly, where
they are, who they're with, how much they spent, but
(28:27):
nothing major. Those are all major, red red red red,
don't crimson, crimson, crimson, don't lie to me, you know?
Can I tell you it's stupid? Okay? Wait, I have
a question with your husband. Were there any like I
can tell you what my NEGOI non negotiable was with
my husband. Did you have any non negotiables like you
(28:49):
do that and we're done? With your husband?
Speaker 1 (28:51):
Yeah, probably if you ever cheat or you know, lie, Sure,
I don't know.
Speaker 2 (28:56):
So with my husband, I said I can deal with
a lot, but if you ever cheat on me, I'm out.
And he said the same thing. That was my thing.
That was understand So we have to go back to
a little question. You're sending emails to other women, oway
you're out? All right? Oh okay.
Speaker 1 (29:18):
Your partner never takes your side when you're in public.
If you're having a disagreement with your friend, for example,
even about something silly, he never sides with you.
Speaker 2 (29:29):
I'm not breaking up with him, but I'm going to
tear him a new one. When what is your problem? Like?
Why can't you ever agree with me? Yeah? Yeah I would?
I mean would you? Would you do in public? Though?
Or would you wait? You got home?
Speaker 1 (29:44):
Well me, if it happens and he's doing it again,
I probably.
Speaker 2 (29:48):
Go why do you always do that? You never side
with me in public? You would say that? Yeah, but
would you get get home and get more angry? Oh,
I'd snip it in the butt? No, no, you think
that would nip it in the butt. He never ever
takes your side in public? Why? I want to know why?
(30:08):
And you're going to ask him around all the friends
that are well.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
On what you're saying and what the situation is. Not
every time now, but I would something. I would go
home and talk about you.
Speaker 2 (30:18):
Yeah, I'm not breaking up, No, but I want to
talk about it. Why I talk about it? And he's
going to have to buy me a very expensive make gives?
I get Wait, why does it? I mean, here's the
thing that worries me about us. You know me and
you know I'm joking, and that I don't need a
(30:39):
man who can buy me a thirty thousand dollars watch now,
if he wants to, I'd be you know, if somebody
wants to give me a red box that would be
Cardier or a blue box that would be Tiffany. I
would be like, thank you so much. But that would
that be enough for you for a guy? For what
to to give you gifts? I'm saying, would that be
(31:00):
enough for you to be interested in a guy? If
he showered you with expensive gifts, I need to like him?
Would you give the gifts back? No, Susan's vehemently shaking
her head. No, hell no, not just no, hell no.
And he wouldn't get those guys in my lifetime. I mean,
(31:20):
you know, I had a husband who bought me some
nice gifts. But I you know, I had a guy.
I had a guy I dated, I swear to god.
He bought me a set of mixing bowls. He bought
he bought me a steamer of frother for my coffee,
as like.
Speaker 1 (31:34):
Sweetest for a day, like a birthday or something or
just random gifts.
Speaker 2 (31:39):
No, for my birthday, No, just like Christmas. It was
like utilitarian, you know, you know, here's sit down. Can
I tell you what he gave me? For my birthday though,
that I still love because you know, everyone knows me.
I'm a voracious reader. He gave me a kindle, the
(32:01):
top of the line kindle, and you know what, can
I tell you how often I think of him when
I read on that kindle book. Oh my god, you
really do know me, don't you? All right, this was
so much fun. Again, I just hope that you guys,
your listeners love listening to us and hearing our advice
(32:24):
and just getting to know a little bit more about us,
because again, this friendship that started on the Golden Bachelor
is real, and we have so much fun together. And
we always wish that, you know, the people listening to
us have people in their lives too who care and lovely.
That's my wish for today.
Speaker 1 (32:43):
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Speaker 2 (32:51):
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you wanted to be a question for me, they do
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