August 1, 2025 • 32 mins
Today on “Golden Hour,” we’re diving into more of your questions! We kick things off by recapping this week’s episode of “Paradise.” Then, we begin our advice portion with the question of the day: What advice do you have for long-term couples who met really young and suddenly get the urge to explore? Next, we tackle your questions--are you allowed to bring up your bestie’s husband’s atrocious wedding vows? Can you ask your boyfriend to take better pictures of you without sounding like a diva? We end things with another Golden Spotlight, and today’s is all about ageism. Tune in now to hear all this and more and be sure to subscribe so you never miss an episode!
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Speaker 1 (00:07):
Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks so
much for joining us. We are so excited to be back.
How are you doing Today's is this?
Speaker 2 (00:15):
I'm doing fabulous at a house ful yesterday.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
I'm telling you, you know you entertained more than anyone
I know. Well I'm home, Yeah, well this is true.
And when I'm home I just want to sit in
front of the TV and watch Netflix a needle point.
I don't know, I don't know. I want to. I'm
getting ready to travel again. Do you want to travel
some more?
Speaker 2 (00:34):
I think I am. Actually yes, I'm going to be
traveling through September. It's been a great summer. Although I
hardly got to use the pool. I clean it. I
actually got in it this weekend with my granddaughter. But today,
of course, we're going to be answering more of our
fan questions and make sure you keep them coming because
we love this. You know what to do. Just go
(00:55):
to Bachelornation dot com slash Golden Hour and submit away
because that's what we're here for.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
I mean, you gotta have questions. Susan and I have
been traveling. We took cruises, Susan's had her mister wonderful
visiting her. You know, I'm off to Canada.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
I mean time Kathy in the United States.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
You know, come on, people, you must have questions or
comments about this, and since you do, we want you
to send them all to us. It's very easy. You
can either dm us on Instagram a Bachelor Happy Hour,
or you can go to Bachelor nation dot com. Let's go.
You can do it.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Good. Yes, we look forward to it. Okay, time to
get into the episode, and we're going to start with
the question of the day. What advice do you have
two people that have been in a long term relationship
since they were very young and are starting to wonder
if they need to explore.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Can I tell you what the operative word in that
question is relationship? Because you know, I was married out
of the cradle. You're a person, get the right person.
I was married. My birthday is May ninth, and I
was married May nineteenth, and I had my twentieth birthday,
so ten days after I turned twenty, I got married.
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And I was married for almost forty six years. So
were there times in my life that I thought, oh
my god, I was so young to get married. Yes,
but I believed in my marriage and loved my husband.
So you know, I you.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Were very very fortunate. I was. Relationships that start out
and they think they're getting married after college. They made
it through college, and a lot of times they don't.
As they mature, they find their separate ways. Unfortunately, you
are very very lucky today's world. I don't think as
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many that started very young making.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Yeah, I mean, I guess I agree with that. I
sometimes it can be aged, sometimes it can be other circumstances.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
But I do think with your advice to somebody young,
you know.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
You're asked you and I've actually talked about. Isn't it
funny that you and I that's how well we know
each other. We've talked about some of these things. When
young people tell me that they're moving in together to me,
and I know I'm going to sound old. When they
move in together, theoretically they're sharing the bills, they're sharing experiences,
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they're not dating other people. They're monogamous, or they've agreed
to not be monogamous, whatever it is. It's it's almost
like a committed marriage or a committed relationship.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Oh, it is.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
It is right.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Some people like to try before they take.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Don't you think it's just as hard to get out
of that relationship as it is to get out of
a marriage.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
I mean, probably yes, But a lot of people don't
agree with people living together before they get married. And
that's going back in time too. But I think it's
important that you see how they live while living together.
Some things might be deal breakers anybody.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
I think it's I agree, Susan. But I guess what
I'm asking you is I was married, So I can't
answer this question. I don't think and you were married.
I don't think you lived with anyone. But if you're
living with someone and let's just say you've lived them
for a year and a half, I think it would
be almost as difficult to get your friends together and say, hey,
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guess what, Johnny and I are splitting up. It's like
a breakup of a marriage. It's shooting a house. Who
gets the dog?
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Yeah, that's a big one too. But what there is
do they need to explore? Are we going to advise
people that have only been with one person to explore
before committing Yeah? I am, and you didn't.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
I didn't.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Why do you feel that way?
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Because I think you know hindsight's twenty twenty. I was
very lucky with Darryl. He was kind, he was a
smarty given.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
But you're advising.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Because I just said because I was very lucky. I
think people mature and change so much in their twenties.
You know, I used to be I used to work
in the middle school, and I used to say, of
the fifth gradeers that were trying to figure out a
high school for their kids, I said, listen, the kids
you have in fifth grade, you're not even going to
recognize that kid in eighth grade, because that's how much
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they change in middle school. It's the same thing I
feel about people they get into relationships in their twenties,
especially change.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
Men mature later than women.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
I think women change a lot too. They people, They
their career goals, their aspirations, their interests, their desire to travel,
the their desire to try on new personalities and new
ways of living. So much changes in the twenties. I
don't think people know who they are really until they're
close to thirty.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
But if they've already in a long term relationship since
they've been younger and starting to wonder if they need
their starting to wonder if somebody's starting to wonder if
she should explore more things prior to before this big
day comes that you say I do. Then if they're
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already thinking that, I would think, yes. Oh, you know
how some people go to college, Kathy, and they were
together all through high school and they separate through college.
They'll see each other when they come home, but they're
allowed to date other people. That's, you know, exploring. I
don't know that I could have handled that, but that's
when you find out is he really the one? You know?
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Yeah? I think you have to kiss a lot of frogs,
try it a lot outfits, you know, use any the
expression you want. I think it's very rare that someone
gets it right when they're twenty two years of age.
I think, you know, late twenties, twenty six, twenty seven,
twenty eight, you start to know who you are, but
not when you're twenty twenty one, twenty two.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
And don't you agree, nowadays it is much later than
it was when we were young.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
You know. And why do you think that is?
Speaker 2 (07:22):
They're smarter?
Speaker 1 (07:24):
Not?
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Probably because they're education so expensive you can't afford you
got to pay. You're still at your mother's at thirty
like that.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
I think that's partly it. I also think that people
have the resources to travel more, change jobs more. We're
just a much more mobile, more mobile society. You know,
you don't marry the guy from your hometown too much
anymore because you're out seeing the world. I think that
all of those things contribute to making a person not
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necessarily ready.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
My advice, I wouldn't want you to cheat on your man,
but you should have had other relationships and you compare
how they make you feel, how happy you are with
this one or this one. Just like our show when
we did The Bachelor, how does that person feel when
they're with this one or they're with this one and
coming down to that big decision might be the hardest
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thing they've ever had to do.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
You know, it's funny you said that. You're absolutely right.
It's funny you just said that, Susan, because there's actually
it's sort of like an equal equation people in their
early years, you know, let's call it twenty to thirty.
I think should try on a lot of different relationships
and a lot of different experiences. And you know what
I think, when you're dating, let's call it fifty five
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sixty and over the same thing. Don't jump into the
first relationship. If you're divorced or a widow or widower,
you know, try on, you've changed since you were in
that permanent relationship. Trying, I mean, that is the question
of the day. But it just made me think.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
Of things that were so important to you might have
changed for sure. That's right, you know, that's right.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
All right? Are you ready to get in some fan questions? Here?
Let's do it? All right, here we go. Here's the
first one. It's from anonymous ladies. I am so angry
right now. I don't know what to do. This past
weekend was my best friend's wedding, let's call her Amy.
As we were all standing there listening to Amy's vows,
there was not a dry eye in the place. It
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was so beautiful. Her now husband, however, Yeah, it was
the most crude, horrid thing I've ever heard of, making
sex jokes, talking about how we'll still love her even
when she quote goes downhill, et cetera. No one laughed
except for the groom's dad. Everyone else did that very
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uncomfortable laugh to fill the painful silence. Now she's married
and on her honeymoon. You guys know how weddings go.
She was so busy, we didn't have time to sit
and talk, so I have no idea how she feels.
Can I bring this up the next time I see her?
What do I do? I'm so angry for her. I've
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never seen this kind of behavior in him. Thanks, ladies.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
Well, first of all, I think she knew who she
was marrying. I mean, that wasn't the first time he
was sarcastic or crude or rude. And maybe she took
it funny. You know, he did say even when she
goes downhill that he'd still love her like that was
just his humor. I get it that the audience was
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not in favor of this, except for his father, who
shares the same humor.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
I guess, you know.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
As far as bringing it up, I don't know. I
don't know. If she wants to talk about it, then fine,
you can let her know.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
But Susan, wait, did you just hear that? What the
world just cracked? Why? Because we agreed? Oh? I absolutely?
I couldn't agree with you more. Seriously, I'm so angry
for her, sweetheart, Anonymous, you don't get to be angry
for her for her hermit, it's not her, it's her
(11:10):
If she's not angry mazel toks. Let her live her life,
you live yours. Don't worry about it. You know, if
Susan's exactly right, if she brings it up and says,
what the hell was wrong with that guy? You could say,
I know, wasn't it terrible? You can pour each other
a big glass of wine and commiserate that she married
this fool who speaks crassly to his wife, his now wife.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
I mean, obviously, if it were my friends, yeah, let's say,
were you okay with that? Like? I thought it was
funny because we know and love him, but.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
Okay, if the world just got to say together, if
you had to say something and it's your best friend, no,
that was pretty funny, make light of it.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
I would say, Susan, if you got married and your
now husband made a really crass thing, you know what,
I'd be sitting This is the thing people think.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
You know me, He wouldn't not because I would have
called him.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
On it right then and there. You're right, But but
just just in you know, generically a friend, let's say
I would I probably would feel very sorry for my
friend for the embarrassment that I would feel. But you
know what that would be the embarrassment I'm feeling, not
necessarily the embarrassment she's feeling. And if everyone in the
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room was embarrassed, so be it. The point is she's
now married. If she brings it up, if you, if
this happened to you or Nancy or Joan or anyone,
and they brought it up to me, then I shall say,
we talk about it, and I would take my lead
from them. If they were upset about it, you know,
then I.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
Was asking us, do I bring it up?
Speaker 1 (12:53):
No? You do not. Let's say it together, Susan.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
No, No, stay in your own lane, in your own girl.
I love it how you do say something, or or
if your best friend says something really curious to see.
And even the bride's mother, like I would love to
know her thoughts.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Because she used to the guy too.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
But when she comes back from her honeymoon, you know,
don't ask her about the sex and how many times
a day they had it. Wait for her to tell
you about the wedding, because if she was upset, she's
going to get down to it.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
Definitely, definitely send us to d M. Please, I mean,
even we want, don't do it on air. We're just curious.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Yeah we will. If you don't want us to report back,
we won't, but just we want to know for our
inquiring minds want to know. We do.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
And thanks for writing into us. That was really a
good one. All right, we have one more, Kathy Anonymous
rights ladies. I need your help. My boyfriend cannot get
a good picture of me to save his life. What
do I do? I really don't want to sound like
a diva when I talk to him, but.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
The picks he gets are policle. We have so many
trips lined up for the rest of the year and
I want those few picks.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
How can I get him to do this for me
without sounding annoying? He has little to no social media presence,
so he doesn't really get it. I'm not worried about
him judging me. I just feel a little weird bringing
this up. Lol. Thanks ladies, Well why do you feel
weird if he can't? What is he doing wrong with
the pictures? Like teach him, educate the man, or go
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buy a selfie stick.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
Okay, so you know what my answer to this is.
I knew that's where you're going to go. Because all
for those of you when Susan and I recently were
on a cruise. You know, we're sitting there, I'm studying
the acropolist. Susan's turning her head the perfect way to
get the perfect picture, and you know, angling her body. Whatever.
(15:08):
Here's my answer, I think you are making a huge mistake. Girlfriend.
Enjoy the time, live in the moment with your boyfriend.
Who cares if it's a perfect pick. Have the perfect
experience with your boyfriend. Those memories are going to live
in your heart and your mind a lot longer than
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the perfect angle standing in front cupping the sunset. You
know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (15:34):
I do, I do? But if she has a job
or something in her career that she needs these picks.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
Befo, she don't say that. I think she's a social
media like so many people today who live their lives
are what they depict of themselves on social.
Speaker 2 (15:52):
Seeing my social media pages, a lot of ugly picks
out there.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
I know. But you on our recent trips and you
took a c upload of pictures. People would Susan will say,
take another one, take another one. I'd say take one
and I'm done, Like I just want to right, You're like,
how do I stand? But for one picture. I don't
need a hundred pictures. But I think it's everyone to themselves,
each to them change to their.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Own I not having the pictures. I hear what she's saying.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
I do too, But I would encourage her to think
about enjoying the time with your boyfriend, making the memories
in person and lodging those in your brain. And I
know it's a thing now, everyone wants the perfect social
media pages and all that.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
I just what she's saying. Okay, she feels a little
weird about bringing it up. Obviously it is something to her.
So what she needs from us.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
She needs to teach them. You're right, Yes, you sit
there like like Susan will say to me, don't.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
Stand yourself in the square. You get the feet and
the head and center.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
And then tilt the camera. This one, you tilt the
You know what. He here's one for you. If he
has an iPhone, he can take a class at the
local Apple store in using his iPhone there. And I
want a new Apple phone for this advertisement. But seriously,
you can take free classes at your at an Apple
store and they'll tell you how to make the most
of your iPhone and how to take the best pictures.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
As you know, we had to film certain things. When
we do things and you get the new self it's
not just a selfie stick like back in the day.
There's so much out there. You set it up, you
get your pictures done, and then stop, get it over
with and then go enjoy your time with him.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
Yeah, but I think I'm just making the point. Some
people prefer to have the perfect pictures, and I'd prefer
to have the perfect experience. That's all. And so, but
I hear you, Anonymous, and I think you need to
teach him. He can research it online, he can google it,
he can there's all kinds of ways to learn to
be a better picture taker. But if he's like me,
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you know what he's going to say, Yeah, it's good enough.
And you know what, is it a deal breaker for you? Maybe?
I hope not, No, I hope, But you know, the
best trips with your boyfriend. I hope you have the
best trips. I envy those trips coming up.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
And Kathy, you know what, I you delete that one.
You're not going to put a bad one. You get it.
I mean, think about those things. She's wants a good picture.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
I get it. I get it. But I'm just trying
to get her to enjoy the trips.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
And I know, I know, but definitely to teach him
what he's doing wrong.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
Yeah that's all. Yeah, let us know, have fun on
those trips. Send us photographs, send us you know, we
want to hear all about those trips. Okay, we're going
to move into our Golden spotlight, where we just discuss
something that is affecting the Golden community. Today's Golden spotlight
is all about agism, something I know a lot about.
(18:51):
There are so many stereotypes and judgments that young people
knowingly and unknowingly throw at golden's. What are some of
those things that you pick up on? How do they
make you feel? How did you handle moments of agism now?
And what would you say to those that are ages?
I got to give one right off the bat. When
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I was filming Bachelor in Paradise. Constantly the young ones
they were like, you know, go whatever with me. They're like,
be careful, you know, if the deck is wet, be careful.
Can I help you into the pool, Like get your
hands off me. Uh. You know, it was constant, like
we have to be careful of the older ones, you know.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
Because I think that's a nice thing, though, because.
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Why are they looking out, Susan.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
Why because we're older.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
That's agism. You look out for everyone's safe.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
So you would prefer people not to the door for you.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
No, that's different. That's no. One is chivalry when you
if it. If the deck is slippery, and and you've
got young ones and old ones getting on a boat okay,
or walking through the bar, and it's been raining, so
the deck around the pool is slippery, it's wet. If
you have people holding your arm, be careful, Susan, it's slippery.
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Oh thanks, And the twenty four year old is right
behind you walking, No one's offering her hand.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
That is age to appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
It's not a matter whether you appreciate it. It's agism.
It's treating you differently because of your age, but in.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
A good way.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
Not to me.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
Well, not everybody's as strong and as healthy as you are,
so you keep an open mind with most people. I
don't feel like i'm that that old yet, but I
know from my grandmother and her people, Yes I went
out of my way to make sure they didn't trip
or fall or be.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
Okay, So give me some other stereotypes. What are some
other stereotypes that you think of for older people?
Speaker 2 (21:01):
They don't know what's going on today because of social
media and AI and so on something.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
In other words, you're saying young people or people think
that older people don't know how to use social media
because they're old.
Speaker 2 (21:17):
And a lot of times we don't a lot of
people don't.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
But it's ever okay. But the agism, let me just
be clear. Agism is when you make an assumption based
on someone's age. Age, So you make an assumption that
they can't walk on a slippery deck because they're older.
You make an assumption that they don't understand modern technology
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because they're older, they didn't grow up with it. That's agism,
and I hate it.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
You do, I see. I don't take it as an
offensive thing for some reason. I just don't. I think
it's nice that you were brought up well enough to
know that if I'm your elder, you're going to pause
and let me go first, or you're going to say
be careful, it's wet, or you're going to say, can
I hold the door for you to me? I'm not
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walking out, you know what.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
I want everyone to be safe, hold the door for everyone.
Tell everyone the deck is slippery. You're only doing it
for older people. That's agism.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
How does it make you feel?
Speaker 1 (22:25):
I don't like agism at all. I think you know
what other examples? How about not hiring you for a job. Oh,
you're sixty years old. You can't possibly Let me just
tell you again. On Bachelor in Paradise, I was out
there working out with Leslie. Leslie's a few years younger
than I am. We were on the beach doing pushups.
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Do you know how many young girls I saw out?
They're working out, and you know what the guys said.
Can I just talk about the bods on those guys,
but the girls, but the guys lifting weights? They all
said to Leslie and mey, wow, you guys are really fit.
I can't believe you can do full push ups. And
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you could add on to that at your age.
Speaker 2 (23:14):
That's ages age because they said that, because it's you're older,
they don't expect you to do what you used to
be able to do.
Speaker 1 (23:24):
And I know I can't, but it's it's having expectations
based on your age. You can't do a job.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
Susan, Yes, that part, I get that part hit tone
because some people are still like yourself, got that you're
better shape than some thirty year olds. I know, how
dare you assume that she won't be able to do
it because of the number that she.
Speaker 1 (23:48):
Is exactly one of the things we were doing, I'm
about There were lots of things we were doing, and
it was they were giving me a head start because
they thought I was stupid, because I thought I was older.
I left them in the dirt.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
I know this.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
I left them in there and they're like you to get.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
Them ahead start and still one.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
They were like, wow, you're a fast run uh huh, yes,
I am. Wow, you can swim, Yes, I can. Like
that to me is ages and people. That's why again
you see you get me this. This is hot literally
a hot topic for me. Men saying that they want
to date women who are, you know, between sixty and
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sixty three because of a number, Because of the number,
try me, you are judge me based on my calendar date.
I will outrun you, out swim you out anything you Uh,
I'll be You know, you might be ten years younger
than half are an exception to the rule. But I
mean it's still agism, Yes it is. Yes, it is,
(24:49):
and I hate it so and You're right, I realized
that not everyone is healthy. Uh, Susan Carr. Tell the
story about you dragging the suitcases through the through the airport.
Susan was dying. She had to have forty people help her.
I mean, and.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
Again, I also had three suitcases.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
Exactly. But I'm just saying people offered to help you
because of your.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
Age, and I'm so grateful. I was so grateful.
Speaker 1 (25:20):
And I'm going to take heat for this. Do you
remember what I said? What when I was when I
was getting crazy because I wanted to make sure we're
getting to the airport on time.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
Kathy, Wait, you gotta know, okay, no matter airport in
my mosque, she's forty feet ahead of me. She just
leaves you in the dust. She's on her way, like,
wait a minute, role now in the mosque.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
I took my time. You and I just got lost together.
But let me just say it is it is? Uh,
I said to Susan, because I got frustrated because she
could she couldn't keep up because she was.
Speaker 2 (25:58):
Mind you, how busy the Athens airport it is, but
so unorganized.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
We can't even go there. That's a whole other podcast.
But I said to Susan turned around and looked at
and I said, you know what, Susan, because Suan, let
me just say, Susan packs for you know, I might
wear this shoes or might wear those shoes. She has events,
she has options out out the ying, yank everything. What
did I tell you? I said, do not pack more
than you can carry the next time, because I'm not
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helping you. Next time, bring what you can carry. And
we're holding to that. We're holding to that. How do
we get off of agism?
Speaker 2 (26:34):
I don't know, you know, I took it like, not
as in the negative sense. But when you talk about
a job or they're judging because of your age, where
you won't get a job because of your age, then yes,
I feel or.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
Men won't date you because of your age. All those
ageism is.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Never what causes people to lie about their age.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
That's right, Susan. Just in my opinion. I mean, we
can you know, please let us know if I'm wrong.
Agism isn't it never a good thing? Agism always has
a pejorative meaning. It's never a good thing. If you
if you bring up the word agism, it's not good.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
Right, did you ever feel on the ship that we
were on. What would your answer be when they say, well,
how old were they? I would say from thirties. There
was a few younger, but most of the people were
mid thirties, forties our age and up.
Speaker 1 (27:28):
Oh yeah, I don't think. I don't think. I don't think.
I think we met one guy that was twenty nine.
Most people in their thirties. And do you remember what
they all speaking of agism? Do you remember they said, Wow,
you guys can really party, you can really hang Wait
woulch Did you ever hear them say that to another
thirty year old?
Speaker 2 (27:47):
No, I said, did they? Because they're young.
Speaker 1 (27:50):
That's called agism.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
They said it to us customer as a bad thing,
that we're surprised that we do as good as we do.
Speaker 1 (27:57):
That's right. I'm right, that's right, and I take it
upon myself daily to prove people wrong. And so do you, Susan.
You look and act younger than your age, and so
do I. And I'm proud of number.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
Do we not agree on that? It's just a number.
Not everybody ages the same. I know I can't do
what I used to do. And a lot of things,
you mean, like.
Speaker 1 (28:21):
Carry three pieces of luggage through the airport. I mean
like that.
Speaker 2 (28:24):
I probably never could do that, Bute. No, I'm smart.
I get my charge card out and I get the wheels,
you know, the big push card.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
Oh that's the other funny thing.
Speaker 2 (28:33):
Wait, have it When I had to go to the
bathroom and I was waiting on you, I had to
wait three and a half hours for her to land
after flying coach, mind you for nine and a half hours.
Then I have to wait in an airport for three
and a half hours and I had to go potty.
Here I am with this cart with my luggage. At
that point it was only two pieces and it wouldn't
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fit into the bathroom. And I was like, oh my god,
what am I going to do? I have to pee
this kind woman, I'm trying to get it in. I
was pushing. I waited in line. I'm pushing and she goes,
I don't think that's going to make it. I said,
I don't either, but I really have to go. She goes,
I will wait.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
So much wait, wait, we have we're running out of
time here, but we have so many bad We were
in the park in Istanbul, Do you remember that? And
Susan had the bathroom. That's what I'm talking about. Susan
had to go to the bathroom so badly. You have
to pay. It's just a small, you know, small coin.
It comes up to like five cents. Go to a dodge.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
They wouldn't accept it.
Speaker 1 (29:32):
So this guy comes up. Long story short, this guy
comes up, puts his card and you can use these
credit cards to go to the bathroom. And Susan goes in.
And there's two bathrooms and one if you fall us
on Instagram. By the way, it's on Instagram. I'm going
to repost it, Susan. It's so damn funny. I think
I'm gonna repost it today. There are two doors. One
has a picture of a toilet on it that's very clear.
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The other picture has it looks like an oval with
a hole in the middle.
Speaker 2 (29:59):
When you open the door, you're running in here. Now
keep in mind you think I'm looking at pictures on
the door. It was about to come down my legs. People.
I did not care. I would have went in public.
It's literally in the first door.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
Which is the hole in the ground. And she and
I go in the and I come out and I
said to and goes oh, my god, that was the
worst experience of what are you talking about? She goes,
I had to crouch down and pie in a hole.
I said, what are you taing? So, of course Kathy
astoct I looked at her like, didn't you us? So
I go back in and investigate, and I took a
(30:34):
video of it, and it's I'm putting it back up
Today's Susan on my Do you know what?
Speaker 2 (30:38):
I assumed you had the same because when I was
in Paris and Secular cur I'll never forget paying my
two coins to go to the bathroom and this was
a dirt hole. This one we went in a tile.
It was very.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
Clean, it was a whole people, It was hard, it was.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
Still a hole in the ground was beautiful on top.
The one in Paris not so much. It was dirt.
And I looked at my husband at the time, I said, Dicky,
do you know I just paid to pee on the ground.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
If you could have seen her face, We're gonna end
it with this one. If you could have seen Susan's
face when we came out of that bathroom, she goes,
I can't believe it was just like France had to
pee in a hole I said. I looked at I said,
what are you talking about? It was all said, I said,
I peed in a toy. She goes, no, you didn't.
This is the stuff that we get into when we're
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traveling as people as people, uh not up. Yeah, we
really had a plast all.
Speaker 2 (31:32):
Right, Okay, well that does it. And that was a
lot of fun. Yat just reminiscent. I'm still living. But
we thank all of our listeners for joining with us today.
We hope you enjoyed it as much as we enjoyed sharing.
Speaker 1 (31:46):
Oh and again, you haven't heard the last of our
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Welcome back to Bachelor Happy Hours Golden Hour. Thanks so
much for joining us. We are so excited to be back.
How are you doing Today's is this?
Speaker 2 (00:15):
I'm doing fabulous at a house ful yesterday.
Speaker 1 (00:18):
I'm telling you, you know you entertained more than anyone
I know. Well I'm home, Yeah, well this is true.
And when I'm home I just want to sit in
front of the TV and watch Netflix a needle point.
I don't know, I don't know. I want to. I'm
getting ready to travel again. Do you want to travel
some more?
Speaker 2 (00:34):
I think I am. Actually yes, I'm going to be
traveling through September. It's been a great summer. Although I
hardly got to use the pool. I clean it. I
actually got in it this weekend with my granddaughter. But today,
of course, we're going to be answering more of our
fan questions and make sure you keep them coming because
we love this. You know what to do. Just go
(00:55):
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because that's what we're here for.
Speaker 1 (01:01):
I mean, you gotta have questions. Susan and I have
been traveling. We took cruises, Susan's had her mister wonderful
visiting her. You know, I'm off to Canada.
Speaker 2 (01:13):
I mean time Kathy in the United States.
Speaker 1 (01:17):
You know, come on, people, you must have questions or
comments about this, and since you do, we want you
to send them all to us. It's very easy. You
can either dm us on Instagram a Bachelor Happy Hour,
or you can go to Bachelor nation dot com. Let's go.
You can do it.
Speaker 2 (01:32):
Good. Yes, we look forward to it. Okay, time to
get into the episode, and we're going to start with
the question of the day. What advice do you have
two people that have been in a long term relationship
since they were very young and are starting to wonder
if they need to explore.
Speaker 1 (01:54):
Can I tell you what the operative word in that
question is relationship? Because you know, I was married out
of the cradle. You're a person, get the right person.
I was married. My birthday is May ninth, and I
was married May nineteenth, and I had my twentieth birthday,
so ten days after I turned twenty, I got married.
(02:17):
And I was married for almost forty six years. So
were there times in my life that I thought, oh
my god, I was so young to get married. Yes,
but I believed in my marriage and loved my husband.
So you know, I you.
Speaker 2 (02:31):
Were very very fortunate. I was. Relationships that start out
and they think they're getting married after college. They made
it through college, and a lot of times they don't.
As they mature, they find their separate ways. Unfortunately, you
are very very lucky today's world. I don't think as
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many that started very young making.
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Yeah, I mean, I guess I agree with that. I
sometimes it can be aged, sometimes it can be other circumstances.
Speaker 2 (03:03):
But I do think with your advice to somebody young,
you know.
Speaker 1 (03:10):
You're asked you and I've actually talked about. Isn't it
funny that you and I that's how well we know
each other. We've talked about some of these things. When
young people tell me that they're moving in together to me,
and I know I'm going to sound old. When they
move in together, theoretically they're sharing the bills, they're sharing experiences,
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they're not dating other people. They're monogamous, or they've agreed
to not be monogamous, whatever it is. It's it's almost
like a committed marriage or a committed relationship.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
Oh, it is.
Speaker 1 (03:45):
It is right.
Speaker 2 (03:46):
Some people like to try before they take.
Speaker 1 (03:50):
Don't you think it's just as hard to get out
of that relationship as it is to get out of
a marriage.
Speaker 2 (03:57):
I mean, probably yes, But a lot of people don't
agree with people living together before they get married. And
that's going back in time too. But I think it's
important that you see how they live while living together.
Some things might be deal breakers anybody.
Speaker 1 (04:15):
I think it's I agree, Susan. But I guess what
I'm asking you is I was married, So I can't
answer this question. I don't think and you were married.
I don't think you lived with anyone. But if you're
living with someone and let's just say you've lived them
for a year and a half, I think it would
be almost as difficult to get your friends together and say, hey,
(04:35):
guess what, Johnny and I are splitting up. It's like
a breakup of a marriage. It's shooting a house. Who
gets the dog?
Speaker 2 (04:45):
Yeah, that's a big one too. But what there is
do they need to explore? Are we going to advise
people that have only been with one person to explore
before committing Yeah? I am, and you didn't.
Speaker 1 (05:02):
I didn't.
Speaker 2 (05:03):
Why do you feel that way?
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Because I think you know hindsight's twenty twenty. I was
very lucky with Darryl. He was kind, he was a
smarty given.
Speaker 2 (05:14):
But you're advising.
Speaker 1 (05:16):
Because I just said because I was very lucky. I
think people mature and change so much in their twenties.
You know, I used to be I used to work
in the middle school, and I used to say, of
the fifth gradeers that were trying to figure out a
high school for their kids, I said, listen, the kids
you have in fifth grade, you're not even going to
recognize that kid in eighth grade, because that's how much
(05:38):
they change in middle school. It's the same thing I
feel about people they get into relationships in their twenties,
especially change.
Speaker 2 (05:46):
Men mature later than women.
Speaker 1 (05:49):
I think women change a lot too. They people, They
their career goals, their aspirations, their interests, their desire to travel,
the their desire to try on new personalities and new
ways of living. So much changes in the twenties. I
don't think people know who they are really until they're
close to thirty.
Speaker 2 (06:09):
But if they've already in a long term relationship since
they've been younger and starting to wonder if they need
their starting to wonder if somebody's starting to wonder if
she should explore more things prior to before this big
day comes that you say I do. Then if they're
(06:32):
already thinking that, I would think, yes. Oh, you know
how some people go to college, Kathy, and they were
together all through high school and they separate through college.
They'll see each other when they come home, but they're
allowed to date other people. That's, you know, exploring. I
don't know that I could have handled that, but that's
when you find out is he really the one? You know?
Speaker 1 (06:54):
Yeah? I think you have to kiss a lot of frogs,
try it a lot outfits, you know, use any the
expression you want. I think it's very rare that someone
gets it right when they're twenty two years of age.
I think, you know, late twenties, twenty six, twenty seven,
twenty eight, you start to know who you are, but
not when you're twenty twenty one, twenty two.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
And don't you agree, nowadays it is much later than
it was when we were young.
Speaker 1 (07:21):
You know. And why do you think that is?
Speaker 2 (07:22):
They're smarter?
Speaker 1 (07:24):
Not?
Speaker 2 (07:24):
Probably because they're education so expensive you can't afford you
got to pay. You're still at your mother's at thirty
like that.
Speaker 1 (07:33):
I think that's partly it. I also think that people
have the resources to travel more, change jobs more. We're
just a much more mobile, more mobile society. You know,
you don't marry the guy from your hometown too much
anymore because you're out seeing the world. I think that
all of those things contribute to making a person not
(07:53):
necessarily ready.
Speaker 2 (07:54):
My advice, I wouldn't want you to cheat on your man,
but you should have had other relationships and you compare
how they make you feel, how happy you are with
this one or this one. Just like our show when
we did The Bachelor, how does that person feel when
they're with this one or they're with this one and
coming down to that big decision might be the hardest
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thing they've ever had to do.
Speaker 1 (08:19):
You know, it's funny you said that. You're absolutely right.
It's funny you just said that, Susan, because there's actually
it's sort of like an equal equation people in their
early years, you know, let's call it twenty to thirty.
I think should try on a lot of different relationships
and a lot of different experiences. And you know what
I think, when you're dating, let's call it fifty five
(08:41):
sixty and over the same thing. Don't jump into the
first relationship. If you're divorced or a widow or widower,
you know, try on, you've changed since you were in
that permanent relationship. Trying, I mean, that is the question
of the day. But it just made me think.
Speaker 2 (08:55):
Of things that were so important to you might have
changed for sure. That's right, you know, that's right.
Speaker 1 (09:02):
All right? Are you ready to get in some fan questions? Here?
Let's do it? All right, here we go. Here's the
first one. It's from anonymous ladies. I am so angry
right now. I don't know what to do. This past
weekend was my best friend's wedding, let's call her Amy.
As we were all standing there listening to Amy's vows,
there was not a dry eye in the place. It
(09:24):
was so beautiful. Her now husband, however, Yeah, it was
the most crude, horrid thing I've ever heard of, making
sex jokes, talking about how we'll still love her even
when she quote goes downhill, et cetera. No one laughed
except for the groom's dad. Everyone else did that very
(09:47):
uncomfortable laugh to fill the painful silence. Now she's married
and on her honeymoon. You guys know how weddings go.
She was so busy, we didn't have time to sit
and talk, so I have no idea how she feels.
Can I bring this up the next time I see her?
What do I do? I'm so angry for her. I've
(10:08):
never seen this kind of behavior in him. Thanks, ladies.
Speaker 2 (10:12):
Well, first of all, I think she knew who she
was marrying. I mean, that wasn't the first time he
was sarcastic or crude or rude. And maybe she took
it funny. You know, he did say even when she
goes downhill that he'd still love her like that was
just his humor. I get it that the audience was
(10:34):
not in favor of this, except for his father, who
shares the same humor.
Speaker 1 (10:38):
I guess, you know.
Speaker 2 (10:40):
As far as bringing it up, I don't know. I
don't know. If she wants to talk about it, then fine,
you can let her know.
Speaker 1 (10:49):
But Susan, wait, did you just hear that? What the
world just cracked? Why? Because we agreed? Oh? I absolutely?
I couldn't agree with you more. Seriously, I'm so angry
for her, sweetheart, Anonymous, you don't get to be angry
for her for her hermit, it's not her, it's her
(11:10):
If she's not angry mazel toks. Let her live her life,
you live yours. Don't worry about it. You know, if
Susan's exactly right, if she brings it up and says,
what the hell was wrong with that guy? You could say,
I know, wasn't it terrible? You can pour each other
a big glass of wine and commiserate that she married
this fool who speaks crassly to his wife, his now wife.
Speaker 2 (11:34):
I mean, obviously, if it were my friends, yeah, let's say,
were you okay with that? Like? I thought it was
funny because we know and love him, but.
Speaker 3 (11:44):
Okay, if the world just got to say together, if
you had to say something and it's your best friend, no,
that was pretty funny, make light of it.
Speaker 1 (11:56):
I would say, Susan, if you got married and your
now husband made a really crass thing, you know what,
I'd be sitting This is the thing people think.
Speaker 2 (12:07):
You know me, He wouldn't not because I would have
called him.
Speaker 1 (12:09):
On it right then and there. You're right, But but
just just in you know, generically a friend, let's say
I would I probably would feel very sorry for my
friend for the embarrassment that I would feel. But you
know what that would be the embarrassment I'm feeling, not
necessarily the embarrassment she's feeling. And if everyone in the
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room was embarrassed, so be it. The point is she's
now married. If she brings it up, if you, if
this happened to you or Nancy or Joan or anyone,
and they brought it up to me, then I shall say,
we talk about it, and I would take my lead
from them. If they were upset about it, you know,
then I.
Speaker 2 (12:50):
Was asking us, do I bring it up?
Speaker 1 (12:53):
No? You do not. Let's say it together, Susan.
Speaker 2 (12:57):
No, No, stay in your own lane, in your own girl.
I love it how you do say something, or or
if your best friend says something really curious to see.
And even the bride's mother, like I would love to
know her thoughts.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Do you know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (13:17):
Because she used to the guy too.
Speaker 1 (13:20):
But when she comes back from her honeymoon, you know,
don't ask her about the sex and how many times
a day they had it. Wait for her to tell
you about the wedding, because if she was upset, she's
going to get down to it.
Speaker 2 (13:31):
Definitely, definitely send us to d M. Please, I mean,
even we want, don't do it on air. We're just curious.
Speaker 1 (13:37):
Yeah we will. If you don't want us to report back,
we won't, but just we want to know for our
inquiring minds want to know. We do.
Speaker 2 (13:51):
And thanks for writing into us. That was really a
good one. All right, we have one more, Kathy Anonymous
rights ladies. I need your help. My boyfriend cannot get
a good picture of me to save his life. What
do I do? I really don't want to sound like
a diva when I talk to him, but.
Speaker 4 (14:10):
The picks he gets are policle. We have so many
trips lined up for the rest of the year and
I want those few picks.
Speaker 2 (14:21):
How can I get him to do this for me
without sounding annoying? He has little to no social media presence,
so he doesn't really get it. I'm not worried about
him judging me. I just feel a little weird bringing
this up. Lol. Thanks ladies, Well why do you feel
weird if he can't? What is he doing wrong with
the pictures? Like teach him, educate the man, or go
(14:44):
buy a selfie stick.
Speaker 1 (14:47):
Okay, so you know what my answer to this is.
I knew that's where you're going to go. Because all
for those of you when Susan and I recently were
on a cruise. You know, we're sitting there, I'm studying
the acropolist. Susan's turning her head the perfect way to
get the perfect picture, and you know, angling her body. Whatever.
(15:08):
Here's my answer, I think you are making a huge mistake. Girlfriend.
Enjoy the time, live in the moment with your boyfriend.
Who cares if it's a perfect pick. Have the perfect
experience with your boyfriend. Those memories are going to live
in your heart and your mind a lot longer than
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the perfect angle standing in front cupping the sunset. You
know what I mean?
Speaker 2 (15:34):
I do, I do? But if she has a job
or something in her career that she needs these picks.
Speaker 1 (15:39):
Befo, she don't say that. I think she's a social
media like so many people today who live their lives
are what they depict of themselves on social.
Speaker 2 (15:52):
Seeing my social media pages, a lot of ugly picks
out there.
Speaker 1 (15:56):
I know. But you on our recent trips and you
took a c upload of pictures. People would Susan will say,
take another one, take another one. I'd say take one
and I'm done, Like I just want to right, You're like,
how do I stand? But for one picture. I don't
need a hundred pictures. But I think it's everyone to themselves,
each to them change to their.
Speaker 2 (16:15):
Own I not having the pictures. I hear what she's saying.
Speaker 1 (16:19):
I do too, But I would encourage her to think
about enjoying the time with your boyfriend, making the memories
in person and lodging those in your brain. And I
know it's a thing now, everyone wants the perfect social
media pages and all that.
Speaker 2 (16:35):
I just what she's saying. Okay, she feels a little
weird about bringing it up. Obviously it is something to her.
So what she needs from us.
Speaker 1 (16:44):
She needs to teach them. You're right, Yes, you sit
there like like Susan will say to me, don't.
Speaker 2 (16:50):
Stand yourself in the square. You get the feet and
the head and center.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
And then tilt the camera. This one, you tilt the
You know what. He here's one for you. If he
has an iPhone, he can take a class at the
local Apple store in using his iPhone there. And I
want a new Apple phone for this advertisement. But seriously,
you can take free classes at your at an Apple
store and they'll tell you how to make the most
of your iPhone and how to take the best pictures.
Speaker 2 (17:17):
As you know, we had to film certain things. When
we do things and you get the new self it's
not just a selfie stick like back in the day.
There's so much out there. You set it up, you
get your pictures done, and then stop, get it over
with and then go enjoy your time with him.
Speaker 1 (17:33):
Yeah, but I think I'm just making the point. Some
people prefer to have the perfect pictures, and I'd prefer
to have the perfect experience. That's all. And so, but
I hear you, Anonymous, and I think you need to
teach him. He can research it online, he can google it,
he can there's all kinds of ways to learn to
be a better picture taker. But if he's like me,
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you know what he's going to say, Yeah, it's good enough.
And you know what, is it a deal breaker for you? Maybe?
I hope not, No, I hope, But you know, the
best trips with your boyfriend. I hope you have the
best trips. I envy those trips coming up.
Speaker 2 (18:11):
And Kathy, you know what, I you delete that one.
You're not going to put a bad one. You get it.
I mean, think about those things. She's wants a good picture.
Speaker 1 (18:21):
I get it. I get it. But I'm just trying
to get her to enjoy the trips.
Speaker 2 (18:25):
And I know, I know, but definitely to teach him
what he's doing wrong.
Speaker 1 (18:29):
Yeah that's all. Yeah, let us know, have fun on
those trips. Send us photographs, send us you know, we
want to hear all about those trips. Okay, we're going
to move into our Golden spotlight, where we just discuss
something that is affecting the Golden community. Today's Golden spotlight
is all about agism, something I know a lot about.
(18:51):
There are so many stereotypes and judgments that young people
knowingly and unknowingly throw at golden's. What are some of
those things that you pick up on? How do they
make you feel? How did you handle moments of agism now?
And what would you say to those that are ages?
I got to give one right off the bat. When
(19:11):
I was filming Bachelor in Paradise. Constantly the young ones
they were like, you know, go whatever with me. They're like,
be careful, you know, if the deck is wet, be careful.
Can I help you into the pool, Like get your
hands off me. Uh. You know, it was constant, like
we have to be careful of the older ones, you know.
Speaker 2 (19:33):
Because I think that's a nice thing, though, because.
Speaker 1 (19:37):
Why are they looking out, Susan.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
Why because we're older.
Speaker 1 (19:41):
That's agism. You look out for everyone's safe.
Speaker 2 (19:44):
So you would prefer people not to the door for you.
Speaker 1 (19:48):
No, that's different. That's no. One is chivalry when you
if it. If the deck is slippery, and and you've
got young ones and old ones getting on a boat okay,
or walking through the bar, and it's been raining, so
the deck around the pool is slippery, it's wet. If
you have people holding your arm, be careful, Susan, it's slippery.
(20:13):
Oh thanks, And the twenty four year old is right
behind you walking, No one's offering her hand.
Speaker 2 (20:19):
That is age to appreciate it.
Speaker 1 (20:21):
It's not a matter whether you appreciate it. It's agism.
It's treating you differently because of your age, but in.
Speaker 2 (20:29):
A good way.
Speaker 1 (20:31):
Not to me.
Speaker 2 (20:33):
Well, not everybody's as strong and as healthy as you are,
so you keep an open mind with most people. I
don't feel like i'm that that old yet, but I
know from my grandmother and her people, Yes I went
out of my way to make sure they didn't trip
or fall or be.
Speaker 1 (20:52):
Okay, So give me some other stereotypes. What are some
other stereotypes that you think of for older people?
Speaker 2 (21:01):
They don't know what's going on today because of social
media and AI and so on something.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
In other words, you're saying young people or people think
that older people don't know how to use social media
because they're old.
Speaker 2 (21:17):
And a lot of times we don't a lot of
people don't.
Speaker 1 (21:20):
But it's ever okay. But the agism, let me just
be clear. Agism is when you make an assumption based
on someone's age. Age, So you make an assumption that
they can't walk on a slippery deck because they're older.
You make an assumption that they don't understand modern technology
(21:40):
because they're older, they didn't grow up with it. That's agism,
and I hate it.
Speaker 2 (21:45):
You do, I see. I don't take it as an
offensive thing for some reason. I just don't. I think
it's nice that you were brought up well enough to
know that if I'm your elder, you're going to pause
and let me go first, or you're going to say
be careful, it's wet, or you're going to say, can
I hold the door for you to me? I'm not
(22:07):
walking out, you know what.
Speaker 1 (22:08):
I want everyone to be safe, hold the door for everyone.
Tell everyone the deck is slippery. You're only doing it
for older people. That's agism.
Speaker 2 (22:23):
How does it make you feel?
Speaker 1 (22:25):
I don't like agism at all. I think you know
what other examples? How about not hiring you for a job. Oh,
you're sixty years old. You can't possibly Let me just
tell you again. On Bachelor in Paradise, I was out
there working out with Leslie. Leslie's a few years younger
than I am. We were on the beach doing pushups.
(22:48):
Do you know how many young girls I saw out?
They're working out, and you know what the guys said.
Can I just talk about the bods on those guys,
but the girls, but the guys lifting weights? They all
said to Leslie and mey, wow, you guys are really fit.
I can't believe you can do full push ups. And
(23:12):
you could add on to that at your age.
Speaker 2 (23:14):
That's ages age because they said that, because it's you're older,
they don't expect you to do what you used to
be able to do.
Speaker 1 (23:24):
And I know I can't, but it's it's having expectations
based on your age. You can't do a job.
Speaker 2 (23:32):
Susan, Yes, that part, I get that part hit tone
because some people are still like yourself, got that you're
better shape than some thirty year olds. I know, how
dare you assume that she won't be able to do
it because of the number that she.
Speaker 1 (23:48):
Is exactly one of the things we were doing, I'm
about There were lots of things we were doing, and
it was they were giving me a head start because
they thought I was stupid, because I thought I was older.
I left them in the dirt.
Speaker 2 (24:03):
I know this.
Speaker 1 (24:04):
I left them in there and they're like you to get.
Speaker 2 (24:06):
Them ahead start and still one.
Speaker 1 (24:07):
They were like, wow, you're a fast run uh huh, yes,
I am. Wow, you can swim, Yes, I can. Like
that to me is ages and people. That's why again
you see you get me this. This is hot literally
a hot topic for me. Men saying that they want
to date women who are, you know, between sixty and
(24:28):
sixty three because of a number, Because of the number,
try me, you are judge me based on my calendar date.
I will outrun you, out swim you out anything you Uh,
I'll be You know, you might be ten years younger
than half are an exception to the rule. But I
mean it's still agism, Yes it is. Yes, it is,
(24:49):
and I hate it so and You're right, I realized
that not everyone is healthy. Uh, Susan Carr. Tell the
story about you dragging the suitcases through the through the airport.
Susan was dying. She had to have forty people help her.
I mean, and.
Speaker 2 (25:06):
Again, I also had three suitcases.
Speaker 1 (25:10):
Exactly. But I'm just saying people offered to help you
because of your.
Speaker 2 (25:15):
Age, and I'm so grateful. I was so grateful.
Speaker 1 (25:20):
And I'm going to take heat for this. Do you
remember what I said? What when I was when I
was getting crazy because I wanted to make sure we're
getting to the airport on time.
Speaker 2 (25:30):
Kathy, Wait, you gotta know, okay, no matter airport in
my mosque, she's forty feet ahead of me. She just
leaves you in the dust. She's on her way, like,
wait a minute, role now in the mosque.
Speaker 1 (25:46):
I took my time. You and I just got lost together.
But let me just say it is it is? Uh,
I said to Susan, because I got frustrated because she
could she couldn't keep up because she was.
Speaker 2 (25:58):
Mind you, how busy the Athens airport it is, but
so unorganized.
Speaker 1 (26:04):
We can't even go there. That's a whole other podcast.
But I said to Susan turned around and looked at
and I said, you know what, Susan, because Suan, let
me just say, Susan packs for you know, I might
wear this shoes or might wear those shoes. She has events,
she has options out out the ying, yank everything. What
did I tell you? I said, do not pack more
than you can carry the next time, because I'm not
(26:26):
helping you. Next time, bring what you can carry. And
we're holding to that. We're holding to that. How do
we get off of agism?
Speaker 2 (26:34):
I don't know, you know, I took it like, not
as in the negative sense. But when you talk about
a job or they're judging because of your age, where
you won't get a job because of your age, then yes,
I feel or.
Speaker 1 (26:47):
Men won't date you because of your age. All those
ageism is.
Speaker 2 (26:50):
Never what causes people to lie about their age.
Speaker 1 (26:53):
That's right, Susan. Just in my opinion. I mean, we
can you know, please let us know if I'm wrong.
Agism isn't it never a good thing? Agism always has
a pejorative meaning. It's never a good thing. If you
if you bring up the word agism, it's not good.
Speaker 2 (27:09):
Right, did you ever feel on the ship that we
were on. What would your answer be when they say, well,
how old were they? I would say from thirties. There
was a few younger, but most of the people were
mid thirties, forties our age and up.
Speaker 1 (27:28):
Oh yeah, I don't think. I don't think. I don't think.
I think we met one guy that was twenty nine.
Most people in their thirties. And do you remember what
they all speaking of agism? Do you remember they said, Wow,
you guys can really party, you can really hang Wait
woulch Did you ever hear them say that to another
thirty year old?
Speaker 2 (27:47):
No, I said, did they? Because they're young.
Speaker 1 (27:50):
That's called agism.
Speaker 2 (27:51):
They said it to us customer as a bad thing,
that we're surprised that we do as good as we do.
Speaker 1 (27:57):
That's right. I'm right, that's right, and I take it
upon myself daily to prove people wrong. And so do you, Susan.
You look and act younger than your age, and so
do I. And I'm proud of number.
Speaker 2 (28:10):
Do we not agree on that? It's just a number.
Not everybody ages the same. I know I can't do
what I used to do. And a lot of things,
you mean, like.
Speaker 1 (28:21):
Carry three pieces of luggage through the airport. I mean
like that.
Speaker 2 (28:24):
I probably never could do that, Bute. No, I'm smart.
I get my charge card out and I get the wheels,
you know, the big push card.
Speaker 1 (28:31):
Oh that's the other funny thing.
Speaker 2 (28:33):
Wait, have it When I had to go to the
bathroom and I was waiting on you, I had to
wait three and a half hours for her to land
after flying coach, mind you for nine and a half hours.
Then I have to wait in an airport for three
and a half hours and I had to go potty.
Here I am with this cart with my luggage. At
that point it was only two pieces and it wouldn't
(28:54):
fit into the bathroom. And I was like, oh my god,
what am I going to do? I have to pee
this kind woman, I'm trying to get it in. I
was pushing. I waited in line. I'm pushing and she goes,
I don't think that's going to make it. I said,
I don't either, but I really have to go. She goes,
I will wait.
Speaker 1 (29:10):
So much wait, wait, we have we're running out of
time here, but we have so many bad We were
in the park in Istanbul, Do you remember that? And
Susan had the bathroom. That's what I'm talking about. Susan
had to go to the bathroom so badly. You have
to pay. It's just a small, you know, small coin.
It comes up to like five cents. Go to a dodge.
Speaker 2 (29:31):
They wouldn't accept it.
Speaker 1 (29:32):
So this guy comes up. Long story short, this guy
comes up, puts his card and you can use these
credit cards to go to the bathroom. And Susan goes in.
And there's two bathrooms and one if you fall us
on Instagram. By the way, it's on Instagram. I'm going
to repost it, Susan. It's so damn funny. I think
I'm gonna repost it today. There are two doors. One
has a picture of a toilet on it that's very clear.
(29:55):
The other picture has it looks like an oval with
a hole in the middle.
Speaker 2 (29:59):
When you open the door, you're running in here. Now
keep in mind you think I'm looking at pictures on
the door. It was about to come down my legs. People.
I did not care. I would have went in public.
It's literally in the first door.
Speaker 1 (30:12):
Which is the hole in the ground. And she and
I go in the and I come out and I
said to and goes oh, my god, that was the
worst experience of what are you talking about? She goes,
I had to crouch down and pie in a hole.
I said, what are you taing? So, of course Kathy
astoct I looked at her like, didn't you us? So
I go back in and investigate, and I took a
(30:34):
video of it, and it's I'm putting it back up
Today's Susan on my Do you know what?
Speaker 2 (30:38):
I assumed you had the same because when I was
in Paris and Secular cur I'll never forget paying my
two coins to go to the bathroom and this was
a dirt hole. This one we went in a tile.
It was very.
Speaker 1 (30:49):
Clean, it was a whole people, It was hard, it was.
Speaker 2 (30:52):
Still a hole in the ground was beautiful on top.
The one in Paris not so much. It was dirt.
And I looked at my husband at the time, I said, Dicky,
do you know I just paid to pee on the ground.
Speaker 1 (31:04):
If you could have seen her face, We're gonna end
it with this one. If you could have seen Susan's
face when we came out of that bathroom, she goes,
I can't believe it was just like France had to
pee in a hole I said. I looked at I said,
what are you talking about? It was all said, I said,
I peed in a toy. She goes, no, you didn't.
This is the stuff that we get into when we're
(31:25):
traveling as people as people, uh not up. Yeah, we
really had a plast all.
Speaker 2 (31:32):
Right, Okay, well that does it. And that was a
lot of fun. Yat just reminiscent. I'm still living. But
we thank all of our listeners for joining with us today.
We hope you enjoyed it as much as we enjoyed sharing.
Speaker 1 (31:46):
Oh and again, you haven't heard the last of our
of our tales on our vacation. But in the meantime,
be sure to follow Bachelor Happy Hour. We have new
episodes coming out every week and you don't want to
miss even one.
Speaker 2 (31:59):
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You know what to do. Go to bachelornation dot com,
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Speaker 1 (32:12):
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