November 19, 2025 • 8 mins
We all have that friend with horrible taste in men, but should you burst your BFF’s bubble and tell them you don’t like their partner?
From dreaded double dates, and uncomfortable couples trips, when is it safe to tell your friend they’re dating a dud, not a stud?
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
I'm Heather Dubrow and I'm Terry Debrow, and we're going
to keep this between us.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Not at all, Not at all.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
Okay, let's discuss our friends.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
So it's hard to have friends who are couples who
you both get along with both of them. I mean,
that's a very rare thing. We're very lucky. We have
Mike and Nancy Bellow. We have Richard Marx and Daisy Fuentez.
We have several couples in our lives that we both
get along with and have a great time with. But
let's be honest, there are other couples that we really like,
(00:35):
but one of them is great and one not so.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Bueno, we have several of those.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Yeah, yes, So when it's early in the relationship, are
you honest with your partner but how you feel about
the other person? I will tell you I am not,
because we there is a couple in our lives where
the guy is great and the girl is in a
bueno for many many.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Years and I was like, what are we doing? I'm like,
she's great.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Well, the problem is, by the way, it always seems
like the guy's great. If there's one that's not going
to be cool, it's.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
The great God, he's such a mistake.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Can you think of one instance where the guy's a
douche and the girls great?
Speaker 3 (01:18):
I can, I can't. I'll tell you offline, all right, yes.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
But the problem is you like the guy, I like
the guy, we like going out with them, But you
say to me, what invariably, what do you say to
me and admonish me not to do?
Speaker 3 (01:33):
This? Is exactly what I say to Terry.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
I go, can you please include me in the conversation
because I don't want to be on a date with
the wife?
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Right? Yeah? And so that's snare right. So you know
what we end up doing. Let's be honest, we ended
up avoiding them.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
We do, we do.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
It's bummer.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
Well, we have had more than one couple in our
lives where okay, we can tolerate the one that we
have to tolerate, but there's more than one couple that
are so sexually inappropriate. Oh yeah, that I don't get
where they want to talk about, you know, their sex
life and blow jobs and things, and like, I'm not a.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
Prude, but do we have to hear about that?
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Well? I think a good rule of thumb is when
you're in a long term relationship with someone, and you
go out with another couple, it's verboten to talk about
your sex lives. We don't care, No one cares. No
one cares about married sex lies, right, don't care.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
And I always get on your gade.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
By the way, don't even care about you know, if
you're going out a dude or a girl who's dating
some guy. We don't want to hear about that either.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Well we're old now, but when you were younger, I'm sure, Oh.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
I'm sorry, go ahead, No, you want to hear about
another couple.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
Sexual, Well, what I'm saying is like maybe.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Two dudes, maybe two girls. I'm talking about two couples.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
No, no, no, forget the couples.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
What I'm saying is when you're younger and like girls
are talking to their friends or guys are talking to
their friends, they're like telling each other the day they.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
Went on the sex. I understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
When you're younger, you do that, you talk about your
exca bades and all the things. But like, you don't
do that when you're in a serious relationship or you're married.
You don't be like, oh, my wife and I the
other night I tap that or.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
What you don't do that that's disgusting.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
There's something sacred that happens once you're in a committed
relationship and then perhaps a marriage, that you stop talking
about that stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
I think once you couple up, we don't want to
hear about it.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
We don't want to know.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
Yeah, it gross bear me, and once your parents stop it.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
But anyway, going back to the original thing, it's a
real problem. I think the problem with us is we've
adored one of the people in the couple.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
Yeah, and the other one comes along once a year dinner.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Yeah. And by the way, you know, we've had friends
who we like the couple. Then they divorce, and of
course you go with one side.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
You never go with this side, right, so you there's
no handbook.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
You go with the one side, the one person, and
then you go out with their new person that they're
hanging out with, and invariably we don't like them. Why
is that?
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Sometimes we do? I'll tell you later.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
Then there's the vacation of it all.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
Now that's a whole separate subjection because vacationing with people
in general is very tricky, because you could actually love
a couple like, really love them, have dinner with them,
go to a party, you love them. But when you
travel it's different. I don't want to be on someone
else's schedule ever.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Right, they have to be very easy going. The key
thing is if that couple wants to do something in particular,
they should feel very comfortable just doing it. Letting you
know they're going to do it. You should be very
comfortable in allowing them to do it. In other words,
you're not dating the couple. So if you go on
vacation and in the middle of vacation, even though you
(05:09):
have planned activities together, that couple decides, now, we don't
want to do that thing we're going to do together.
We're going to do our own thing. Other couples get
very upset bob about it.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
We are not.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
No, you do exactly what you want to do.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
So here's how Maybe I've talked about this, but here's
how I plan a trip. I am a planner, we
know this.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
I'm very organized and I like to plan trips, but
I'm malleable.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
So I like a framework of trip.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Here are all the dinners, here's where we're going, here's
what we're doing.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
However, if no one's hungry. Screw it. If we hear
about a different restaurant that everyone wants to go, do great.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
If these four people don't want to go and they
want to go there, I'm totally fucined.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
It's amazing that you do that because no matter what,
you always have locked in plans to do something cool.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
Because that's the thing.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
I can't show up and have no plan because if
you can't get in anywhere, I don't want to sit
at a random, shitty.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
Place right that I don't want to do right. That
would bother me.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
So you know, essentially, if there's one part half of
the couple we don't like, we don't basically don't go out.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
We just don't go.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Life's too short.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
Yeah, we don't do that.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
So I've gotten so many comments about my YouTube channel
and she's back, baby.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
When did a YouTube channel get a gender? That's how
people talk about it.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
You know, lots of things are shees right, there's a
lot of she's out there. And he also didn't know
that snatched was a word.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
He thought it was new to me.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Snatch still sounds like a pornographic term.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
I understand because you think snatch snatch because you're from
the seventies, and you think snatch.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Because it was snatch, right?
Speaker 3 (06:44):
Snatch was That's why you right? A snatch? Wasn't that
a vagina? Right? That's why you're old?
Speaker 2 (06:52):
Oh maybe I'm just locked into ozambic Peenis you think snatch? You?
Speaker 3 (06:55):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (06:56):
So I've gotten hundreds of messages about my YouTube channel
because so many people were like, when are you ever
doing more YouTube content? So we posted the reveal what
re member of the living room in the penthouse that
I won't let you sit in?
Speaker 2 (07:13):
And oh, it's on YouTube.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
It's on YouTube, and I have some other really cool I.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Should watch that so I can enjoy that.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Yeah, because you can't either physically.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
And then some four other episodes that are so fun
that I think everyone is just really going to love.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
And I forgot why I was.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Going down in that YouTube channel for something very special
that we.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
Just, yes, we are. Do you want to explain that?
Speaker 2 (07:37):
So Heather and I call what particularly me called BS
and all these things that are about health and wellness.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
It's health, wellness and beauty. Is it snake oil or
is it.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
Really wild wild West of peptides, nad sperm, salmon servm
facials and things that may or may not work. There's
no sperm, all right. So we are starting a YouTube.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
Show based on our first book together.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
We've written three books together based on our first book,
which was Doctor and Missus Guinea Pig Present, And so
we are going out in the world of health, wellness
and beauty and testing everything on ourselves.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
And that starts in January, right.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
And it's going to be interesting. We're going to do
all those things that are so popular.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Resisting carbs, bad breath, all the things. Yeah, so stay
tuned for that. Yeah, it's and then we're going to
take your viewer questions right here on between us.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Yeah,
I'm Heather Dubrow and I'm Terry Debrow, and we're going
to keep this between us.
Speaker 2 (00:08):
Not at all, Not at all.
Speaker 3 (00:10):
Okay, let's discuss our friends.
Speaker 1 (00:13):
So it's hard to have friends who are couples who
you both get along with both of them. I mean,
that's a very rare thing. We're very lucky. We have
Mike and Nancy Bellow. We have Richard Marx and Daisy Fuentez.
We have several couples in our lives that we both
get along with and have a great time with. But
let's be honest, there are other couples that we really like,
(00:35):
but one of them is great and one not so.
Speaker 2 (00:40):
Bueno, we have several of those.
Speaker 1 (00:43):
Yeah, yes, So when it's early in the relationship, are
you honest with your partner but how you feel about
the other person? I will tell you I am not,
because we there is a couple in our lives where
the guy is great and the girl is in a
bueno for many many.
Speaker 3 (01:00):
Years and I was like, what are we doing? I'm like,
she's great.
Speaker 2 (01:06):
Well, the problem is, by the way, it always seems
like the guy's great. If there's one that's not going
to be cool, it's.
Speaker 3 (01:12):
The great God, he's such a mistake.
Speaker 2 (01:14):
Can you think of one instance where the guy's a
douche and the girls great?
Speaker 3 (01:18):
I can, I can't. I'll tell you offline, all right, yes.
Speaker 2 (01:22):
But the problem is you like the guy, I like
the guy, we like going out with them, But you
say to me, what invariably, what do you say to
me and admonish me not to do?
Speaker 3 (01:33):
This? Is exactly what I say to Terry.
Speaker 1 (01:34):
I go, can you please include me in the conversation
because I don't want to be on a date with
the wife?
Speaker 2 (01:40):
Right? Yeah? And so that's snare right. So you know
what we end up doing. Let's be honest, we ended
up avoiding them.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
We do, we do.
Speaker 2 (01:49):
It's bummer.
Speaker 1 (01:50):
Well, we have had more than one couple in our
lives where okay, we can tolerate the one that we
have to tolerate, but there's more than one couple that
are so sexually inappropriate. Oh yeah, that I don't get
where they want to talk about, you know, their sex
life and blow jobs and things, and like, I'm not a.
Speaker 3 (02:13):
Prude, but do we have to hear about that?
Speaker 2 (02:16):
Well? I think a good rule of thumb is when
you're in a long term relationship with someone, and you
go out with another couple, it's verboten to talk about
your sex lives. We don't care, No one cares. No
one cares about married sex lies, right, don't care.
Speaker 3 (02:32):
And I always get on your gade.
Speaker 2 (02:33):
By the way, don't even care about you know, if
you're going out a dude or a girl who's dating
some guy. We don't want to hear about that either.
Speaker 1 (02:40):
Well we're old now, but when you were younger, I'm sure, Oh.
Speaker 2 (02:44):
I'm sorry, go ahead, No, you want to hear about
another couple.
Speaker 3 (02:47):
Sexual, Well, what I'm saying is like maybe.
Speaker 2 (02:49):
Two dudes, maybe two girls. I'm talking about two couples.
Speaker 3 (02:52):
No, no, no, forget the couples.
Speaker 1 (02:53):
What I'm saying is when you're younger and like girls
are talking to their friends or guys are talking to
their friends, they're like telling each other the day they.
Speaker 3 (03:04):
Went on the sex. I understand what I'm saying.
Speaker 1 (03:07):
When you're younger, you do that, you talk about your
exca bades and all the things. But like, you don't
do that when you're in a serious relationship or you're married.
You don't be like, oh, my wife and I the
other night I tap that or.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
What you don't do that that's disgusting.
Speaker 1 (03:24):
There's something sacred that happens once you're in a committed
relationship and then perhaps a marriage, that you stop talking
about that stuff.
Speaker 2 (03:34):
I think once you couple up, we don't want to
hear about it.
Speaker 3 (03:37):
We don't want to know.
Speaker 1 (03:37):
Yeah, it gross bear me, and once your parents stop it.
Speaker 2 (03:41):
But anyway, going back to the original thing, it's a
real problem. I think the problem with us is we've
adored one of the people in the couple.
Speaker 3 (03:51):
Yeah, and the other one comes along once a year dinner.
Speaker 2 (03:54):
Yeah. And by the way, you know, we've had friends
who we like the couple. Then they divorce, and of
course you go with one side.
Speaker 3 (04:04):
You never go with this side, right, so you there's
no handbook.
Speaker 2 (04:07):
You go with the one side, the one person, and
then you go out with their new person that they're
hanging out with, and invariably we don't like them. Why
is that?
Speaker 3 (04:18):
Sometimes we do? I'll tell you later.
Speaker 2 (04:21):
Okay.
Speaker 3 (04:24):
Then there's the vacation of it all.
Speaker 1 (04:26):
Now that's a whole separate subjection because vacationing with people
in general is very tricky, because you could actually love
a couple like, really love them, have dinner with them,
go to a party, you love them. But when you
travel it's different. I don't want to be on someone
else's schedule ever.
Speaker 2 (04:47):
Right, they have to be very easy going. The key
thing is if that couple wants to do something in particular,
they should feel very comfortable just doing it. Letting you
know they're going to do it. You should be very
comfortable in allowing them to do it. In other words,
you're not dating the couple. So if you go on
vacation and in the middle of vacation, even though you
(05:09):
have planned activities together, that couple decides, now, we don't
want to do that thing we're going to do together.
We're going to do our own thing. Other couples get
very upset bob about it.
Speaker 3 (05:19):
We are not.
Speaker 2 (05:19):
No, you do exactly what you want to do.
Speaker 3 (05:23):
So here's how Maybe I've talked about this, but here's
how I plan a trip. I am a planner, we
know this.
Speaker 1 (05:28):
I'm very organized and I like to plan trips, but
I'm malleable.
Speaker 3 (05:33):
So I like a framework of trip.
Speaker 1 (05:37):
Here are all the dinners, here's where we're going, here's
what we're doing.
Speaker 3 (05:41):
However, if no one's hungry. Screw it. If we hear
about a different restaurant that everyone wants to go, do great.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
If these four people don't want to go and they
want to go there, I'm totally fucined.
Speaker 2 (05:50):
It's amazing that you do that because no matter what,
you always have locked in plans to do something cool.
Speaker 3 (05:55):
Because that's the thing.
Speaker 1 (05:56):
I can't show up and have no plan because if
you can't get in anywhere, I don't want to sit
at a random, shitty.
Speaker 3 (06:01):
Place right that I don't want to do right. That
would bother me.
Speaker 2 (06:06):
So you know, essentially, if there's one part half of
the couple we don't like, we don't basically don't go out.
Speaker 3 (06:12):
We just don't go.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Life's too short.
Speaker 3 (06:13):
Yeah, we don't do that.
Speaker 1 (06:15):
So I've gotten so many comments about my YouTube channel
and she's back, baby.
Speaker 2 (06:20):
When did a YouTube channel get a gender? That's how
people talk about it.
Speaker 1 (06:27):
You know, lots of things are shees right, there's a
lot of she's out there. And he also didn't know
that snatched was a word.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
He thought it was new to me.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Snatch still sounds like a pornographic term.
Speaker 1 (06:38):
I understand because you think snatch snatch because you're from
the seventies, and you think snatch.
Speaker 2 (06:43):
Because it was snatch, right?
Speaker 3 (06:44):
Snatch was That's why you right? A snatch? Wasn't that
a vagina? Right? That's why you're old?
Speaker 2 (06:52):
Oh maybe I'm just locked into ozambic Peenis you think snatch? You?
Speaker 3 (06:55):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (06:56):
So I've gotten hundreds of messages about my YouTube channel
because so many people were like, when are you ever
doing more YouTube content? So we posted the reveal what
re member of the living room in the penthouse that
I won't let you sit in?
Speaker 2 (07:13):
And oh, it's on YouTube.
Speaker 1 (07:14):
It's on YouTube, and I have some other really cool I.
Speaker 2 (07:18):
Should watch that so I can enjoy that.
Speaker 3 (07:20):
Yeah, because you can't either physically.
Speaker 1 (07:23):
And then some four other episodes that are so fun
that I think everyone is just really going to love.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
And I forgot why I was.
Speaker 2 (07:31):
Going down in that YouTube channel for something very special
that we.
Speaker 3 (07:34):
Just, yes, we are. Do you want to explain that?
Speaker 2 (07:37):
So Heather and I call what particularly me called BS
and all these things that are about health and wellness.
Speaker 3 (07:43):
It's health, wellness and beauty. Is it snake oil or
is it.
Speaker 2 (07:46):
Really wild wild West of peptides, nad sperm, salmon servm
facials and things that may or may not work. There's
no sperm, all right. So we are starting a YouTube.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
Show based on our first book together.
Speaker 1 (08:01):
We've written three books together based on our first book,
which was Doctor and Missus Guinea Pig Present, And so
we are going out in the world of health, wellness
and beauty and testing everything on ourselves.
Speaker 3 (08:13):
And that starts in January, right.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
And it's going to be interesting. We're going to do
all those things that are so popular.
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Resisting carbs, bad breath, all the things. Yeah, so stay
tuned for that. Yeah, it's and then we're going to
take your viewer questions right here on between us.
Speaker 2 (08:33):
Yeah,
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