February 11, 2025 • 16 mins
One of our listeners overheard their husband saying something VERY suspicious and now she’s wondering, is she being paranoid OR is something weird going on?
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It's awkward.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
It's Tuesday.
Speaker 1 (00:04):
It's awkward Tuesday. Phone call, ladies. If you're ever curious
about what your husband or boyfriend is doing when he's
not with you, Yeah, just slash his tires and offer
to give him a ride. Oh, tire slashing is one
of the pillars of a strong, healthy relationship, as long
as he doesn't find out you're the one doing it.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
If you have a shared bank account, that's really not wise.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Brook.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Your husband's cars are constantly in trouble and you're saying
you're not the one behind it. That's if you could
spend more time with him.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
That's just because I like to run the tires right
up against the curves.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
That's right. Our listener, Julia didn't go that far as
to slash her husband's tires, so you're disappointed. But she
did give him a ride recently and apparently found out
something very interesting, so interesting, she needs our help, So Julia,
welcome to the show.
Speaker 4 (00:58):
Hi, Thanks guys.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
How long are you even married? Julia?
Speaker 4 (01:03):
Three years?
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Tell us what's going on? Why'd you email us? Well?
Speaker 4 (01:06):
I'm not real sure what's going on. I witnessed something,
but I don't know fully what I saw or if
I'm gempt conclusion it.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Okay, I totally love this.
Speaker 5 (01:16):
You sound so sweet. It sounds like you're not upset,
like I can't tell.
Speaker 4 (01:21):
Well, I'm worried, but I'm also just trying to be rational.
I'm trying to not be like super reactionary, but I'm
I'm freaking out a little.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Okay, Okay, it is that was the voice that I didn't.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
And you're freaking out with something involving your husband. What's
his name?
Speaker 4 (01:36):
Yeah, okay, so his name is Harry, and a couple
of weeks ago, I took him to his hair appointment.
We normally have we have supperate cars, so normally I
wouldn't do that sort of thing, but his is in
the shop.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
I offered to drive him because I saw it was
on our calendar, and he was like, nah, I'll just
take an uber.
Speaker 5 (01:54):
I mean that would throw up a little bit of
a red flag for me, But did you agree.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
To let you drive him?
Speaker 4 (02:00):
Did? And when we got there, he was like we
had in a big hurry to get out of the car,
and I was like, no, I'm gonna go in with you.
I'm going to check and see if they have the
hairspray that I used. Okay, He's like, no, no, no,
you're playing you just let's take me up an hour.
Speaker 5 (02:11):
Because he like it's like an embarrassed junior high, you know,
not wanting his mom.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
To He says, that is what it was like, Okay,
objectively a little strange.
Speaker 4 (02:21):
So I'm going with him and I'm looking and then
call his name and then the stylist comes out, and
of course she is a gorgeous girl. I mean she's
just absolutely beautiful.
Speaker 5 (02:32):
I mean, isn't it a requirement to become a one
that isn't drop dead beautiful?
Speaker 1 (02:38):
That's what she wanted. Would feel good to have somebody
who's really really beautiful styling you. You don't want like
rumpel stillskin coming in.
Speaker 5 (02:46):
Bigger than mine.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
She's like, I don't do my own like a tree
hunchback troll comes from the back, So I don't have
a point.
Speaker 4 (02:55):
I would think.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
It's it's okay.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
I mean, it's it's normal, it's common.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (03:00):
Does that make you feel like a certain way?
Speaker 4 (03:03):
Well, it was just very obvious that this was not
the first time he's seen her, and they seemed very
friendly and familiar with each other.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Well, I mean it's a hairstylens.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
They're friendly.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
There's more So as soon as she showed up, he
was like, all right, you probably gotta get go in.
She's soon like literal really chewing me out of the door.
Oh yeah. And so then there's this petition, you know,
like you could come into the place and there's a
(03:37):
reception desk and then a petition, and then on the
other side is where all the chairs and all that drives.
I walk around the petition and I opened the door
and I didn't go out. I just closed the door
like made it sound like I left out there for
a minute behind the petition and listen.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
What'd you hear?
Speaker 4 (03:57):
And they were just laughing and giggling and flirting, and
he was laughing. I got moron everything she was saying.
And then she was going with him, and then she
starts complimenting and like, oh, your hair feels so good.
You've been doing so good and taking care of it.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Not to defend what they're doing at all, but sometimes
stylists will be extra friendly and extra nice in order
to get a better tip.
Speaker 5 (04:25):
That still doesn't like dismiss her husband's flirting back Yeah,
that doesn't.
Speaker 4 (04:30):
It's weird behavior. I don't know, Like I understand maybe
you have a little bit of a crush and there's
nothing wrong with that, but she has been trying to
get rid of me and not want me to come in.
I just feel like that behavior is kind of fun.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
It would have been nicer if he had been like, hey,
don't say nice things about me. I'm married, okays, cut
my hair and shut up.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
No, but no, Like normally, like a stylist.
Speaker 5 (04:54):
Relationship, that's the first thing you talk about is your
significant other.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
It's a saying that comes out. So that's not a
good sign that that's not what they were talking.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
About to me.
Speaker 4 (05:04):
Yeah, I just I've been thinking about it's been a
couple of weeks and it's just like I can't get
it out of my mind. I don't know how to
bring it up to him because I don't want to
come across as super jealous or defensive. But it's really
starting to eat at me and I'm kind of getting
scared about it.
Speaker 5 (05:20):
You obviously haven't told him that you heard stuff or
you were there.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Oh yeah, that she was sneaking around the partician and listening.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Is know before we help.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
It's a good point.
Speaker 4 (05:30):
No, I did not. I did not tell him that
I stayed and heard them flirting.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
So this is what we're doing. Have you booked an
appointment with that styleist? Just see if she's equally flirty
and touchy with you.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
Just talk about your husband the whole appliant.
Speaker 4 (05:43):
I could just book with her and then tell her
like some really bad hygiene.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Habit that you have, But that's going to be step
two in this process. Step one is getting our advice
in a few minutes here before we let you make
an awkward Tuesday phone call to your husband to ask
what is going on between him and the hairstylist.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Oh my god, is he just gonna tell you? It
just seems crazy. I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
I mean book that all depends on your advice and
if it's actually good for once.
Speaker 5 (06:14):
I just hope it's some innocent flirting that we're blowing
out of proportion. I mean, honestly, that's best case scenario.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
We'll find out when we call him and do your
awkward Tuesday phone call right after this. It's awkward. It's Tuesday.
It's awkward Tuesday phone call. After you get married, is
there anybody that you are still allowed to flirt with.
Brooke wanted me to ask that question.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
I'm not, Oh my god.
Speaker 5 (06:43):
I mean there's a difference so between innocent flirting like
flirting with a cash registered lady, or like there's something
else going on.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
When you get mad. If you caught your husband flirting
with your Alexa.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Oh my god, he has called her pretty twice.
Speaker 6 (07:00):
H'm saying the realization set some people may be okay,
definitely not with your hairstylist though, that needs to be
off limits, and especially.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
When he's shoeing her out the door. As soon as
she yes, he gets.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
There exactly, so you see your hairstylist a lot. Yeah,
and that's why our listener Julia has reached out because
she caught her husband flirting and laughing with the pretty
woman cutting his hair. Sent up some red flags first,
so she wants to confront him about it, but doesn't
want to get too weird and defensive. So before we
call Harry Jose, what's your advice for her? I feel
like the way to disarm him is to give the
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stylus a compliment.
Speaker 6 (07:38):
First, you guys are talking and you're like, by the
way your barber is super cute, Honey.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
I mean if I was you, I wouldn't have even
came home. Oh all right, Okay, then you just gauge
his reaction. What do you think, Julie, are you able
to give the hairstylist a compliment?
Speaker 4 (07:54):
I'm just trying to figure out, like how I would
have to work it into the conversation since it was
like two weeks ago.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
Do you think, see that's the way? Okay? Because the
thing is is if you accuse him, it's just not
gonna go. Well.
Speaker 5 (08:09):
I think you say, oh my god, it's been bugging
me for two weeks. Your hairstylist looks so familiar and
I couldn't place it, And I remember I know her?
Speaker 1 (08:20):
Whoa Where do you know her from?
Speaker 2 (08:22):
Could be anywhere? We're in a book club, we do
lie together. You guys have kids?
Speaker 5 (08:28):
Yet, like you could name anything honestly, because if he
freaks out that you have a connection to her, that's
not a good side.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
Brook does have the best lies to her significant anybody
that I know. She knows how to twist the truth.
Is that helpful to you? Julia? Are you comfortable lying
to your husband right now?
Speaker 4 (08:51):
But what if it's perfectly normal. And then he's like
wants to know where I know her from and tries
to follow through on that.
Speaker 5 (08:58):
But it's good if it's perfectly normal. I mean, sure,
you look like kind of a controlling jealousy is huge.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
You were confused, you you knew her. All you have
to do is tell him, Man, you're just so hot
it's hard for me to imagine.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Well, Julie, that's our best advice for you. Take whatever
you want from it. But I'm dialing your husband, Harry
right now. I'm gonna let you make your awkward Tuesday
phone call.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
Okay, Hello, hey babe, bang, how are you doing?
Speaker 1 (09:38):
Good?
Speaker 3 (09:39):
Good? Good?
Speaker 7 (09:40):
I didn't recoon have the number.
Speaker 4 (09:42):
What are you calling? Yeah? Sorry, No, I'm just at
work and I just had a question for you. I've
been thinking about it and it just keeps slipping my mind.
So I wanted to write it by what was in
my head.
Speaker 7 (09:53):
Oh good, go ahead.
Speaker 4 (09:55):
Yeah. So, a couple of weeks ago, when I took
you to the salon to get your hair cut, your
silist was so she was so nice, like she seemed
really really outgoing and personal, and I'm looking for a
new silist, and so I was kind of curious if
you know she's taking new clients.
Speaker 7 (10:18):
Okay, why don't you already have a silos?
Speaker 4 (10:25):
Well, you know, the last couple of times I was
with Jasmine, I don't know. I just felt like she
kind of dried my hair alow about the color and
talked to her about it, and she kind of got
annoyed at me, and it's so weird, and so I
didn't know if maybe you'd want to give me a referral.
Speaker 7 (10:42):
Uh, yeah, you know, I think I don't. I think
she mentioned she's like totally booked up, Like I barely
get into that, So, like, I don't know, i'd have
to talk to her. It might be a stretch to
get you in, to be honest with you.
Speaker 4 (10:58):
Cool Okay, Well that brings up another point that I
guess I need to get to. When I dropped you off,
I didn't actually leave the salon. I just kind of
like opened the door and then I like stayed and
hung out and I heard I heard the two of
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you talking and it was a lot flirting and giggling.
Speaker 7 (11:25):
And you say, I thought you said you were going
to get groceries.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
I did, I did, You're going to get the mecan see.
Speaker 4 (11:33):
I did, but you were acting with her like you
didn't want me to drop you off, and then you
didn't want me to come in, and then when she
came up, you were like trying to shoot me out
the door, and I was just really.
Speaker 7 (11:44):
Well, I just know you're busy. I just know you're
really busy. I don't want you to stress out.
Speaker 4 (11:49):
That's not what it felt like. It really felt like
you were trying to get rid of me and like
you didn't want me there, and that just flow up
the red flags and so I felt like I needed
to stay and just see what was going on. And
I mean, is there's something going on? Is there something
that you need to tell me?
Speaker 7 (12:02):
No?
Speaker 4 (12:03):
I mean what you hear I could hear you laughing.
I mean she would say something and you were like, oh,
you're so funny. I mean it was like it was weird.
It's not the way you laugh when we talk. I
just I'd never heard it, and it just I don't know,
it was just a weird energy. And she was so
flirty and so okay.
Speaker 7 (12:21):
But I got a consession. I didn't I wanted to
keep it for you, but I'm trying to get this
temperature discount from her, and the only way is that
if she thinks like I'm into her, so, but it's
really for you, It's.
Speaker 5 (12:30):
Really for us.
Speaker 4 (12:31):
Wait what how how does that work?
Speaker 7 (12:35):
Well, you know, I just tell her I'm single, because
so she thinks that she has a reason to give
me the discount. That's it, nobody.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
So she just gives discounts the single guys that she likes.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (12:45):
Wait, so how did she even believe that you're single though?
Because I walked in with you.
Speaker 7 (12:50):
Yeah, I mean she asked about you and everything, but
I just told her you and my aunt. What God,
who are those people? What's going on?
Speaker 2 (13:01):
Oh my god?
Speaker 4 (13:03):
Am I being punk?
Speaker 5 (13:05):
You're with an idiot?
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Well yeah, hey, Harry Man, tell me. I need to
let you know that you're on the radio right now
with a show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
This is called awkward Tuesday phone call. Oh my god,
Julia listens to us and asks for help today because
she saw that interaction between you and your hairstylist, which.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
She obviously read right, you were flirting with.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Her, but not it's not genuine flirting.
Speaker 5 (13:28):
No discounts for single hot guys that doesn't exist.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
I don't know. I could get behind that. What's this
hairstylist place that you go to, Harry, because I could
lay that on.
Speaker 7 (13:38):
I'll tell you later. We'll get off the phone.
Speaker 6 (13:41):
Okay, you believe him, Jeff.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
It doesn't really matter what I believe. It's what Julia.
This is her marriage.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Do you believe him a ten hot guy discount?
Speaker 4 (13:52):
I do believe him. He's not not a liar. He
doesn't lie to me. I mean, I think I think
he's very truthful. I just I think it's stupid and
I I think it's really incessive.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
Wait, stupid on his part or stupid on the hairstylist part. Well,
it is about business choice for her.
Speaker 7 (14:09):
Like I said before, this is a discount that I'm
getting for you or I. Look, I admit I probably
should have told you about it. That's my fault. Okay,
I promise I'm not up to anything fullish or adulterery
ish or anything like that.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
Okah, you will be no romantic interest in actually getting
together with the style.
Speaker 7 (14:28):
No, no, you would rather just.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
Pay the ten percent stopper?
Speaker 7 (14:33):
No?
Speaker 1 (14:33):
No, absolutely not.
Speaker 7 (14:35):
The economy is.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
Harry, your wife is clearly uncomfortable with this interaction, no
matter how much money it saves, she doesn't like it. So, Julia,
what would you like to see Harry do going forward?
Speaker 2 (14:48):
I mean that was that was almost marriage counselor is.
Speaker 1 (14:51):
Yeah, it's kind of like, what do you want from
him at this point?
Speaker 4 (14:56):
Well, I would say at the very least, it should
be honest with her.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
You don't want him to switch stylists. You're cool with
him still going to I'm.
Speaker 4 (15:04):
Just dishonesty and like where that leads. I mean, how
would you feel if I wore a miniskirt to the
dentist to try to get a discount.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
I actually believe it, Dennis giving discounts those guys are.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
I don't need anymore laughing gay anyway, Harry, carry are
you comfortable? Are you able to change ever so slightly
to make your wife happy?
Speaker 7 (15:29):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (15:30):
I will.
Speaker 7 (15:30):
I will definitely accommodate, Harry.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
Wow, women can change a man. I didn't realize that.
Speaker 5 (15:40):
Look at us at he's changing?
Speaker 3 (15:47):
Juli.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
All right, by the way, was so exultant you're talking
about that?
Speaker 7 (15:52):
All right?
Speaker 1 (15:52):
Well, you know what, I think we're in a better
place now than when we started this phone call. Good
luck to you to your marriage sounds perfec.
Speaker 4 (16:00):
Thank you all
Speaker 1 (16:03):
Looking Jeffrey in the morning.
It's awkward.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
It's Tuesday.
Speaker 1 (00:04):
It's awkward Tuesday. Phone call, ladies. If you're ever curious
about what your husband or boyfriend is doing when he's
not with you, Yeah, just slash his tires and offer
to give him a ride. Oh, tire slashing is one
of the pillars of a strong, healthy relationship, as long
as he doesn't find out you're the one doing it.
Speaker 2 (00:24):
If you have a shared bank account, that's really not wise.
Speaker 3 (00:29):
Brook.
Speaker 1 (00:29):
Your husband's cars are constantly in trouble and you're saying
you're not the one behind it. That's if you could
spend more time with him.
Speaker 2 (00:35):
That's just because I like to run the tires right
up against the curves.
Speaker 1 (00:40):
That's right. Our listener, Julia didn't go that far as
to slash her husband's tires, so you're disappointed. But she
did give him a ride recently and apparently found out
something very interesting, so interesting, she needs our help, So Julia,
welcome to the show.
Speaker 4 (00:58):
Hi, Thanks guys.
Speaker 2 (01:00):
How long are you even married? Julia?
Speaker 4 (01:03):
Three years?
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Okay?
Speaker 1 (01:04):
Tell us what's going on? Why'd you email us? Well?
Speaker 4 (01:06):
I'm not real sure what's going on. I witnessed something,
but I don't know fully what I saw or if
I'm gempt conclusion it.
Speaker 1 (01:13):
Okay, I totally love this.
Speaker 5 (01:16):
You sound so sweet. It sounds like you're not upset,
like I can't tell.
Speaker 4 (01:21):
Well, I'm worried, but I'm also just trying to be rational.
I'm trying to not be like super reactionary, but I'm
I'm freaking out a little.
Speaker 2 (01:28):
Okay, Okay, it is that was the voice that I didn't.
Speaker 1 (01:32):
And you're freaking out with something involving your husband. What's
his name?
Speaker 4 (01:36):
Yeah, okay, so his name is Harry, and a couple
of weeks ago, I took him to his hair appointment.
We normally have we have supperate cars, so normally I
wouldn't do that sort of thing, but his is in
the shop.
Speaker 3 (01:48):
Okay.
Speaker 4 (01:49):
I offered to drive him because I saw it was
on our calendar, and he was like, nah, I'll just
take an uber.
Speaker 5 (01:54):
I mean that would throw up a little bit of
a red flag for me, But did you agree.
Speaker 1 (01:58):
To let you drive him?
Speaker 4 (02:00):
Did? And when we got there, he was like we
had in a big hurry to get out of the car,
and I was like, no, I'm gonna go in with you.
I'm going to check and see if they have the
hairspray that I used. Okay, He's like, no, no, no,
you're playing you just let's take me up an hour.
Speaker 5 (02:11):
Because he like it's like an embarrassed junior high, you know,
not wanting his mom.
Speaker 1 (02:17):
To He says, that is what it was like, Okay,
objectively a little strange.
Speaker 4 (02:21):
So I'm going with him and I'm looking and then
call his name and then the stylist comes out, and
of course she is a gorgeous girl. I mean she's
just absolutely beautiful.
Speaker 5 (02:32):
I mean, isn't it a requirement to become a one
that isn't drop dead beautiful?
Speaker 1 (02:38):
That's what she wanted. Would feel good to have somebody
who's really really beautiful styling you. You don't want like
rumpel stillskin coming in.
Speaker 5 (02:46):
Bigger than mine.
Speaker 1 (02:47):
She's like, I don't do my own like a tree
hunchback troll comes from the back, So I don't have
a point.
Speaker 4 (02:55):
I would think.
Speaker 1 (02:56):
It's it's okay.
Speaker 2 (02:57):
I mean, it's it's normal, it's common.
Speaker 3 (02:59):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (03:00):
Does that make you feel like a certain way?
Speaker 4 (03:03):
Well, it was just very obvious that this was not
the first time he's seen her, and they seemed very
friendly and familiar with each other.
Speaker 2 (03:11):
Well, I mean it's a hairstylens.
Speaker 3 (03:13):
They're friendly.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
There's more So as soon as she showed up, he
was like, all right, you probably gotta get go in.
She's soon like literal really chewing me out of the door.
Oh yeah. And so then there's this petition, you know,
like you could come into the place and there's a
(03:37):
reception desk and then a petition, and then on the
other side is where all the chairs and all that drives.
I walk around the petition and I opened the door
and I didn't go out. I just closed the door
like made it sound like I left out there for
a minute behind the petition and listen.
Speaker 2 (03:56):
What'd you hear?
Speaker 4 (03:57):
And they were just laughing and giggling and flirting, and
he was laughing. I got moron everything she was saying.
And then she was going with him, and then she
starts complimenting and like, oh, your hair feels so good.
You've been doing so good and taking care of it.
Speaker 1 (04:17):
Not to defend what they're doing at all, but sometimes
stylists will be extra friendly and extra nice in order
to get a better tip.
Speaker 5 (04:25):
That still doesn't like dismiss her husband's flirting back Yeah,
that doesn't.
Speaker 4 (04:30):
It's weird behavior. I don't know, Like I understand maybe
you have a little bit of a crush and there's
nothing wrong with that, but she has been trying to
get rid of me and not want me to come in.
I just feel like that behavior is kind of fun.
Speaker 1 (04:45):
It would have been nicer if he had been like, hey,
don't say nice things about me. I'm married, okays, cut
my hair and shut up.
Speaker 2 (04:51):
No, but no, Like normally, like a stylist.
Speaker 5 (04:54):
Relationship, that's the first thing you talk about is your
significant other.
Speaker 2 (04:58):
It's a saying that comes out. So that's not a
good sign that that's not what they were talking.
Speaker 1 (05:03):
About to me.
Speaker 4 (05:04):
Yeah, I just I've been thinking about it's been a
couple of weeks and it's just like I can't get
it out of my mind. I don't know how to
bring it up to him because I don't want to
come across as super jealous or defensive. But it's really
starting to eat at me and I'm kind of getting
scared about it.
Speaker 5 (05:20):
You obviously haven't told him that you heard stuff or
you were there.
Speaker 2 (05:23):
Oh yeah, that she was sneaking around the partician and listening.
Speaker 1 (05:27):
Is know before we help.
Speaker 2 (05:29):
It's a good point.
Speaker 4 (05:30):
No, I did not. I did not tell him that
I stayed and heard them flirting.
Speaker 1 (05:33):
So this is what we're doing. Have you booked an
appointment with that styleist? Just see if she's equally flirty
and touchy with you.
Speaker 2 (05:40):
Just talk about your husband the whole appliant.
Speaker 4 (05:43):
I could just book with her and then tell her
like some really bad hygiene.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Habit that you have, But that's going to be step
two in this process. Step one is getting our advice
in a few minutes here before we let you make
an awkward Tuesday phone call to your husband to ask
what is going on between him and the hairstylist.
Speaker 2 (06:01):
Oh my god, is he just gonna tell you? It
just seems crazy. I mean, I don't know.
Speaker 1 (06:05):
I mean book that all depends on your advice and
if it's actually good for once.
Speaker 5 (06:14):
I just hope it's some innocent flirting that we're blowing
out of proportion. I mean, honestly, that's best case scenario.
Speaker 1 (06:20):
We'll find out when we call him and do your
awkward Tuesday phone call right after this. It's awkward. It's Tuesday.
It's awkward Tuesday phone call. After you get married, is
there anybody that you are still allowed to flirt with.
Brooke wanted me to ask that question.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
I'm not, Oh my god.
Speaker 5 (06:43):
I mean there's a difference so between innocent flirting like
flirting with a cash registered lady, or like there's something
else going on.
Speaker 1 (06:52):
When you get mad. If you caught your husband flirting
with your Alexa.
Speaker 2 (06:58):
Oh my god, he has called her pretty twice.
Speaker 6 (07:00):
H'm saying the realization set some people may be okay,
definitely not with your hairstylist though, that needs to be
off limits, and especially.
Speaker 2 (07:12):
When he's shoeing her out the door. As soon as
she yes, he gets.
Speaker 1 (07:16):
There exactly, so you see your hairstylist a lot. Yeah,
and that's why our listener Julia has reached out because
she caught her husband flirting and laughing with the pretty
woman cutting his hair. Sent up some red flags first,
so she wants to confront him about it, but doesn't
want to get too weird and defensive. So before we
call Harry Jose, what's your advice for her? I feel
like the way to disarm him is to give the
(07:37):
stylus a compliment.
Speaker 6 (07:38):
First, you guys are talking and you're like, by the
way your barber is super cute, Honey.
Speaker 1 (07:43):
I mean if I was you, I wouldn't have even
came home. Oh all right, Okay, then you just gauge
his reaction. What do you think, Julie, are you able
to give the hairstylist a compliment?
Speaker 4 (07:54):
I'm just trying to figure out, like how I would
have to work it into the conversation since it was
like two weeks ago.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
Do you think, see that's the way? Okay? Because the
thing is is if you accuse him, it's just not
gonna go. Well.
Speaker 5 (08:09):
I think you say, oh my god, it's been bugging
me for two weeks. Your hairstylist looks so familiar and
I couldn't place it, And I remember I know her?
Speaker 1 (08:20):
Whoa Where do you know her from?
Speaker 2 (08:22):
Could be anywhere? We're in a book club, we do
lie together. You guys have kids?
Speaker 5 (08:28):
Yet, like you could name anything honestly, because if he
freaks out that you have a connection to her, that's
not a good side.
Speaker 1 (08:39):
Brook does have the best lies to her significant anybody
that I know. She knows how to twist the truth.
Is that helpful to you? Julia? Are you comfortable lying
to your husband right now?
Speaker 4 (08:51):
But what if it's perfectly normal. And then he's like
wants to know where I know her from and tries
to follow through on that.
Speaker 5 (08:58):
But it's good if it's perfectly normal. I mean, sure,
you look like kind of a controlling jealousy is huge.
Speaker 2 (09:04):
You were confused, you you knew her. All you have
to do is tell him, Man, you're just so hot
it's hard for me to imagine.
Speaker 1 (09:13):
Well, Julie, that's our best advice for you. Take whatever
you want from it. But I'm dialing your husband, Harry
right now. I'm gonna let you make your awkward Tuesday
phone call.
Speaker 3 (09:21):
Okay, Hello, hey babe, bang, how are you doing?
Speaker 1 (09:38):
Good?
Speaker 3 (09:39):
Good? Good?
Speaker 7 (09:40):
I didn't recoon have the number.
Speaker 4 (09:42):
What are you calling? Yeah? Sorry, No, I'm just at
work and I just had a question for you. I've
been thinking about it and it just keeps slipping my mind.
So I wanted to write it by what was in
my head.
Speaker 7 (09:53):
Oh good, go ahead.
Speaker 4 (09:55):
Yeah. So, a couple of weeks ago, when I took
you to the salon to get your hair cut, your
silist was so she was so nice, like she seemed
really really outgoing and personal, and I'm looking for a
new silist, and so I was kind of curious if
you know she's taking new clients.
Speaker 7 (10:18):
Okay, why don't you already have a silos?
Speaker 4 (10:25):
Well, you know, the last couple of times I was
with Jasmine, I don't know. I just felt like she
kind of dried my hair alow about the color and
talked to her about it, and she kind of got
annoyed at me, and it's so weird, and so I
didn't know if maybe you'd want to give me a referral.
Speaker 7 (10:42):
Uh, yeah, you know, I think I don't. I think
she mentioned she's like totally booked up, Like I barely
get into that, So, like, I don't know, i'd have
to talk to her. It might be a stretch to
get you in, to be honest with you.
Speaker 4 (10:58):
Cool Okay, Well that brings up another point that I
guess I need to get to. When I dropped you off,
I didn't actually leave the salon. I just kind of
like opened the door and then I like stayed and
hung out and I heard I heard the two of
(11:20):
you talking and it was a lot flirting and giggling.
Speaker 7 (11:25):
And you say, I thought you said you were going
to get groceries.
Speaker 1 (11:30):
I did, I did, You're going to get the mecan see.
Speaker 4 (11:33):
I did, but you were acting with her like you
didn't want me to drop you off, and then you
didn't want me to come in, and then when she
came up, you were like trying to shoot me out
the door, and I was just really.
Speaker 7 (11:44):
Well, I just know you're busy. I just know you're
really busy. I don't want you to stress out.
Speaker 4 (11:49):
That's not what it felt like. It really felt like
you were trying to get rid of me and like
you didn't want me there, and that just flow up
the red flags and so I felt like I needed
to stay and just see what was going on. And
I mean, is there's something going on? Is there something
that you need to tell me?
Speaker 7 (12:02):
No?
Speaker 4 (12:03):
I mean what you hear I could hear you laughing.
I mean she would say something and you were like, oh,
you're so funny. I mean it was like it was weird.
It's not the way you laugh when we talk. I
just I'd never heard it, and it just I don't know,
it was just a weird energy. And she was so
flirty and so okay.
Speaker 7 (12:21):
But I got a consession. I didn't I wanted to
keep it for you, but I'm trying to get this
temperature discount from her, and the only way is that
if she thinks like I'm into her, so, but it's
really for you, It's.
Speaker 5 (12:30):
Really for us.
Speaker 4 (12:31):
Wait what how how does that work?
Speaker 7 (12:35):
Well, you know, I just tell her I'm single, because
so she thinks that she has a reason to give
me the discount. That's it, nobody.
Speaker 4 (12:41):
So she just gives discounts the single guys that she likes.
Speaker 3 (12:45):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (12:45):
Wait, so how did she even believe that you're single though?
Because I walked in with you.
Speaker 7 (12:50):
Yeah, I mean she asked about you and everything, but
I just told her you and my aunt. What God,
who are those people? What's going on?
Speaker 2 (13:01):
Oh my god?
Speaker 4 (13:03):
Am I being punk?
Speaker 5 (13:05):
You're with an idiot?
Speaker 1 (13:06):
Well yeah, hey, Harry Man, tell me. I need to
let you know that you're on the radio right now
with a show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
This is called awkward Tuesday phone call. Oh my god,
Julia listens to us and asks for help today because
she saw that interaction between you and your hairstylist, which.
Speaker 2 (13:23):
She obviously read right, you were flirting with.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
Her, but not it's not genuine flirting.
Speaker 5 (13:28):
No discounts for single hot guys that doesn't exist.
Speaker 1 (13:33):
I don't know. I could get behind that. What's this
hairstylist place that you go to, Harry, because I could
lay that on.
Speaker 7 (13:38):
I'll tell you later. We'll get off the phone.
Speaker 6 (13:41):
Okay, you believe him, Jeff.
Speaker 1 (13:44):
It doesn't really matter what I believe. It's what Julia.
This is her marriage.
Speaker 2 (13:48):
Do you believe him a ten hot guy discount?
Speaker 4 (13:52):
I do believe him. He's not not a liar. He
doesn't lie to me. I mean, I think I think
he's very truthful. I just I think it's stupid and
I I think it's really incessive.
Speaker 2 (14:01):
Wait, stupid on his part or stupid on the hairstylist part. Well,
it is about business choice for her.
Speaker 7 (14:09):
Like I said before, this is a discount that I'm
getting for you or I. Look, I admit I probably
should have told you about it. That's my fault. Okay,
I promise I'm not up to anything fullish or adulterery
ish or anything like that.
Speaker 1 (14:23):
Okah, you will be no romantic interest in actually getting
together with the style.
Speaker 7 (14:28):
No, no, you would rather just.
Speaker 2 (14:30):
Pay the ten percent stopper?
Speaker 7 (14:33):
No?
Speaker 1 (14:33):
No, absolutely not.
Speaker 7 (14:35):
The economy is.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
Harry, your wife is clearly uncomfortable with this interaction, no
matter how much money it saves, she doesn't like it. So, Julia,
what would you like to see Harry do going forward?
Speaker 2 (14:48):
I mean that was that was almost marriage counselor is.
Speaker 1 (14:51):
Yeah, it's kind of like, what do you want from
him at this point?
Speaker 4 (14:56):
Well, I would say at the very least, it should
be honest with her.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
You don't want him to switch stylists. You're cool with
him still going to I'm.
Speaker 4 (15:04):
Just dishonesty and like where that leads. I mean, how
would you feel if I wore a miniskirt to the
dentist to try to get a discount.
Speaker 2 (15:12):
I actually believe it, Dennis giving discounts those guys are.
Speaker 1 (15:19):
I don't need anymore laughing gay anyway, Harry, carry are
you comfortable? Are you able to change ever so slightly
to make your wife happy?
Speaker 7 (15:29):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (15:30):
I will.
Speaker 7 (15:30):
I will definitely accommodate, Harry.
Speaker 1 (15:35):
Wow, women can change a man. I didn't realize that.
Speaker 5 (15:40):
Look at us at he's changing?
Speaker 3 (15:47):
Juli.
Speaker 2 (15:48):
All right, by the way, was so exultant you're talking
about that?
Speaker 7 (15:52):
All right?
Speaker 1 (15:52):
Well, you know what, I think we're in a better
place now than when we started this phone call. Good
luck to you to your marriage sounds perfec.
Speaker 4 (16:00):
Thank you all
Speaker 1 (16:03):
Looking Jeffrey in the morning.
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