October 1, 2024 • 16 mins
One of our listeners says his BIGGEST relationship problem all started when he went to get a haircut… and when he got home… everything got weird...
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It's awkward.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
It's Tuesday. It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 3 (00:07):
When it comes to Brook, I'm pretty confident. I'm like
ninety nine percent sure she loves her husband.
Speaker 4 (00:15):
Yeah, it should be one. I love him so much.
We are on such a good moment too. Write in
our marriage right now. It's just going great.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Everybody brags about how good their relationship is going when
it's going that well.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Yeah, but if I'm being.
Speaker 3 (00:32):
Honest, I think Brooke can come off a little bit
clingy with him.
Speaker 4 (00:36):
With my own husband, I.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
Heard that after they got married, Brooke wanted to spend
the entire honeymoon with him.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Every day.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
You can sit next to him on the plane both ways.
Speaker 4 (00:49):
Well, since I was the one that booked the tickets,
you better believe that happens.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
I'm just saying, it's a little bit.
Speaker 4 (00:55):
Is that too much for you?
Speaker 1 (00:56):
It's like a barnacle on the side of the boat.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
And one of our listeners know a little bit about
having a girlfriend who's very, very attached, which is why
he's emailed the show for help. His name is Daniel,
So Daniel, welcome to the show.
Speaker 5 (01:09):
Hey, thanks for having me.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
Daniel.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
I was going to be on your side. But that
set up. Really he has set me off from Jeffrey.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Well we honestly, I don't know anything about your relationship.
You just said in your email. She's a little attached
to tell us about it.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (01:24):
So my girlfriend, Courtney, we've been together a little over
two months.
Speaker 4 (01:29):
Oh gosh, new new relationship, Yeah.
Speaker 5 (01:32):
Very new. I mean everything else is wonderful. She's very attentive,
like great communicator. It's just this like one specific thing
that I want to her to nip in the bud.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
It's the one bad.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
Thing, you know what he wants a perfect relationship. I'm
actually backing jose on that relation.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Well what's here? What is what is the one problem?
Speaker 6 (01:55):
Is it?
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Again? She cheats on me every day? What is it?
Speaker 5 (02:02):
The one thing is she's super jealous. Yeah, it's like
a little over the top kind of jealousy, Like you know,
if we're ever out in public and if I'm even
noticing another woman going down the way or whatever, like
she gets upset, she calls me out.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Jealousy is normal, but a lot is not.
Speaker 7 (02:30):
I don't know that you can fix that, Like, I
think only time fixes that, doesn't therapy y.
Speaker 5 (02:38):
Yeah, and I mean generally to a degree. I like it,
you like, it's just a little bit of possessiveness. We
sort of had this nightmare at the barber's the other week,
and and that's I sort of want to like.
Speaker 4 (02:50):
She went with you to the barbershop?
Speaker 5 (02:52):
No, no, she I told her I was getting the haircut,
and she said, who's cutting your hair? And I said,
I don't know, Like it's you know, there's one three
people there, and she's like, well, is it guy ors
a girl? And then she insisted she wanted me to
video chat the whole like haircut, and I'm like, all right, sure,
(03:12):
whatever is this?
Speaker 3 (03:14):
You video chat with your husband like all day long,
sometimes taking calls in the middle of our show just
to talk to him.
Speaker 7 (03:22):
Well, no, that's just because he can't find the kid's
backpack and the kids are fifteen minutes late for work.
Speaker 4 (03:27):
It's not because I'm worried about who he's with.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
But right, okay, sure it's his fault that you're answering
the phone with you. If someone's like, show me your phone,
where are you, it is easier to just be like,
I have nothing to hide, Go ahead, right, So I
feel you on that, bro.
Speaker 5 (03:43):
Like sure, yeah, yeah. So I'm like, it didn't seem
like it didn't put me out. I didn't care if
she watches me get a haircut. You know, it's like
you said, I got nothing to hide.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
It can be a good bonding experience, even.
Speaker 4 (03:54):
Not awkward for the barber at all.
Speaker 5 (03:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Yeah, okay, so what happened?
Speaker 5 (03:59):
So sit down at the haircut. She watched the whole thing.
I get home, and then she starts cussing me out,
saying like you were hitting on that style or you
were flirting with her, and you know which I was
not doing. It starts a whole big argument, and I'm
trying to explain, like, look, I had a normal conversation
with this person.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
Thought you said this was just a small thing you
wanted to nip in the butt. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
And by the way, at the French barbers, they do
make you kiss.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
She should know that.
Speaker 7 (04:29):
You said, you got home. You don't live together, do
you after only two months?
Speaker 4 (04:33):
No?
Speaker 5 (04:33):
No, no, she was just coming over for dinner that
night and we were going to hang out. That's all.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Okay, she has a key.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Okay, So the barber incident caused a huge fight between
you two. What's the status of the relationship right now.
Speaker 5 (04:46):
I mean, we're still together, but it's just a little
awkward right now because like it's this point of contention
and I'm trying to let her know that nothing was happening.
Speaker 7 (04:56):
Can you actually see a future with a person that
has this big issue assurance with jealousy?
Speaker 5 (05:03):
Yeah, it's like I said, everything else, I'm super happy with.
I just sort of want to deal with this.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Okay.
Speaker 7 (05:10):
So we have all been in relationships where we needed
to fix the person and that always turns.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
Out really well.
Speaker 5 (05:16):
It's like this one thing.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
Okay, you're not asking us to fix your entire relationship.
You're just asking us for help navigating through this one
particular fight that you're having with your girlfriend where she
got super jealous about you and the bar good question,
And are we calling the barber right now?
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Back off?
Speaker 5 (05:37):
I think trying to walk her through the fight, the
incident and like and just get her to understand, like
I wasn't doing anything.
Speaker 7 (05:45):
There's no like, So you want to call your girlfriend
and reassure her, give her confidence in your relationship.
Speaker 5 (05:52):
I mean it's really I just want to get closure
with the whole barber incident thing sort of keeps bringing up.
Speaker 4 (06:00):
You know, okay, justice barber fight. We wanted to how much.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
You want to bet she's going to be cutting his hair? Yeah,
that's solution. Orient about barber.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
We've already got a lot of killer ideas for you here,
so we're gonna come back and give you our golden
advice for how to squash this fight that you're having
with your jealous girlfriend when we continue your awkward Tuesday
phone call right after this.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
It's awkward Tuesday. It's awkward Tuesday phone call. Jealousy.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
Is it ever good in a relationship to be jealous?
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (06:44):
A little bit.
Speaker 4 (06:45):
No, I'm gonna go know.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Jose is right.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
According to Google, it's totally normal to feel a little
bit jealous when you're dating somebody or good. It can
become a hell fee if it's left unchecked for too long.
And that's where we come in today because we're giving
advice to our listener Daniel, since he is in a
two month relationship right now and his partner is an
(07:12):
extremely jealous type to the point where she actually had
him video chat during his haircut with a female stylist.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
When when he got home, a big.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
Fight ensued because she accused him of flirting with the stylist.
Speaker 7 (07:26):
Apparently there's a lot of cuss words flying around as well.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
The thing is, we need to give him some advice
to help him get past this lingering fight, because he
really really does like her and thinks this is actually
a great relationship. This is just the one tiny problem
that they have going on. So, Jose, what's your advice
to help him get past this fight. I've had disagreements
with jealous girlfriends before I tell her she's right.
Speaker 4 (07:50):
That's a good start, Jose. I always like to hear that, yeah,
she thinks he flirted, So say, yes, he did flirt.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Maybe if it helps you get out of this one situation.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
What do you think Daniel willing to fall on your
sword and just say you're right?
Speaker 5 (08:03):
Yeah? I guess that's like if you think that'll satisfy
he and then she'll drop it. I mean, die.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
I think it's very disarming when a woman hears that
you were right. They don't know how to respond. Even
Brooke and Alexis were taken aback by it. But Brook,
what's your advice.
Speaker 4 (08:20):
Here's the thing, this is like the canary in the mine.
Speaker 8 (08:23):
Right right, because like, sure, you think that this is
the one problem, one small problem.
Speaker 4 (08:33):
This is a huge issue.
Speaker 7 (08:35):
And it is going to keep coming up again and
again and again in your relationships.
Speaker 4 (08:39):
It's very hopeful, Brooke keep going.
Speaker 3 (08:41):
I just say, like Brooke, he's asking not how to
fix his entire relationship. This isn't a like relationship therapy says.
Speaker 7 (08:48):
They would send the canary in the mind to see
if there's poisonous gas down there, that the canary died,
then they shouldn't go in.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
Well, you got to go to the pet shop, apparently, Daniel,
buy a canary and go to a mine with your girlfriend.
Speaker 8 (08:59):
That sounds complicated, but yeah, I don't If anything else,
we can jump in and help to reason with her
some after your conversation.
Speaker 5 (09:07):
Yeah, that sounds like that'll help. Yeah. Cool.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Okay, we're all in your corner.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
Man, I'm gonna dial your girlfriend and let you make
your awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 5 (09:15):
This open the mind.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Gets here we go, Hello, hey babe, how are you doing?
Speaker 6 (09:35):
What do you want?
Speaker 5 (09:38):
I mean, I just I just want to see how
you doing, you know, because I mean, I know we
left the kind of weird last night. So okay, well
you made it weird. So look I saw more about
what you said. You know, I think maybe you know
you know you're right?
Speaker 6 (10:00):
What you admit you were flirting?
Speaker 5 (10:04):
Well it like it definitely wasn't on purpose, but like
maybe maybe across some kind of line I wasn't aware of,
Like I you know, I certainly didn't mean to do whatever.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
But I you know that you were faithful?
Speaker 5 (10:18):
What well wait? What?
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Like?
Speaker 5 (10:21):
No, I wasn't faithful?
Speaker 6 (10:23):
Like okay, okay, what what's this call even about? Like
you you let her touch your hair?
Speaker 5 (10:30):
But yeah, like that that's her job.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
She's a barber, babe, you didn't have to let her
do that.
Speaker 5 (10:36):
Wait what oh my god?
Speaker 2 (10:37):
Yeah you can request no touching?
Speaker 5 (10:41):
Wait how wait? Wait? How does she cut the hair
without touch I don't, like, I don't even know how
that would work. Like how do you?
Speaker 6 (10:48):
Oh my god, Like you don't have to Okay, from
now on, only guy, just only a male barber, Like
I don't trust her the second I saw her, I don't.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
I just don't.
Speaker 5 (11:00):
Yeah, I mean whatever, I'll I'll ask for a guy
to cut my hair. I don't care to touch my.
Speaker 6 (11:04):
Hair as long as and you know what you like
FaceTime and his flirt while I'm on the call like watching.
Speaker 5 (11:12):
No, like so weird, Like look, I said, like I
I might have flirted, but I didn't intended like I'm sorry,
I'm not like lapping at.
Speaker 6 (11:22):
Her and you were like saying you liked her hair,
and like you were like moaning when she was like
touching her head, like.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Like like whoa, whoa.
Speaker 5 (11:32):
I'm like shaking right now?
Speaker 6 (11:33):
Are you like some sort of like sick pervert whoa whoa.
Speaker 5 (11:39):
In front of you, like babe, look like sorry, it's
it's feeling more and more like I can't talk to
anyone without making you upset. And I don't like how
am I supposed to have a healthy relationship with you
if I can't talk to like any other person out
there in the world that isn't a guy.
Speaker 6 (11:59):
Oh okay, so you want another relationship with a healthier woman.
Speaker 5 (12:04):
No, that's not what I'm saying.
Speaker 6 (12:07):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (12:08):
Well, if you're okay, if you're so.
Speaker 6 (12:09):
Desperate for female attention and a companion, then like talk
to your mom, you know, but who knows you're probably
an according with her too because you're so.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Oh my god, mom. Well, I mean it can sometimes
border the line.
Speaker 4 (12:29):
This is so out of control.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Okay, what is this a courtney?
Speaker 6 (12:34):
Why do I hear a bunch of women's voices right now?
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Well, it's it's like.
Speaker 6 (12:40):
The way you're breaking up with me, because it's like
it's this guy.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
No, no, no, one's breaking up with anybody.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
You're on a very fun, lighthearted radio show called Brooke
and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
You know it had its moments.
Speaker 6 (12:54):
I don't want anything.
Speaker 5 (12:55):
Why am I part of this?
Speaker 4 (12:56):
Well, because you're a little difficult to talk to.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
Well, okay, it's true.
Speaker 6 (13:05):
You don't even know Daniel, Like you don't even know
what I've been going.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
Through with Daniel.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
We you are right, we don't know anything about you
and your relationship with Daniel.
Speaker 5 (13:13):
We know a little bit.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
Daniel came to us asking for a little bit of
help because he loves you.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
I don't well, sorry, that was the strong word. He
really values your relationship.
Speaker 4 (13:24):
He had like such lovely things to say about who
you were as a person.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
He really cares about you.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
And the fight that you guys were in about the
stylist at the barber shop has been very overwhelming.
Speaker 6 (13:35):
It's hard to play other than if you were like
if you were in my shoes with him and seeing
him when any girl gets in front of him. It's
it's really.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
It's because Daniel's a sexy man.
Speaker 3 (13:49):
Daniel is a very very sexy gentleman, and I'm sure
it's very difficult parading around with such a hunk all
the time.
Speaker 6 (13:56):
That's not even I mean, honestly, my grandma always said, like,
be careful if you start dating like a hot guy,
Like be careful.
Speaker 5 (14:04):
Because okay, so we all.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Agree the problem is Daniel's hot mess. I could just,
like somehow.
Speaker 5 (14:15):
Just stop going to the gym and start eating lots
of pizza and like maybe pull.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Out a few teeth. Yes you can.
Speaker 7 (14:23):
I think more importantly, you should say, oh my god,
this hot man chose me because I am worthy of that.
Speaker 5 (14:30):
That's that's all I'm trying to do. I just I
like I want you to like feel okay with that,
and like I'm doing everything I can to show you that.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
He literally called a radio show because the relationship is
that important. He's desperate to fix things with you and
get back to normal. And you want to hear this
and we're, yeah, we're that's radio. That's a very generous
estimation for us.
Speaker 6 (14:52):
So I think it's talk to me, like, I don't
understand why they just talk to me.
Speaker 5 (14:56):
Like we were talking and then like the fight happened.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Let's not go back to blaming. Who's the reason why
it was weird.
Speaker 6 (15:04):
Because you were like standing up for her.
Speaker 7 (15:06):
Yeah, but you just ended the last conversation you had
with him telling him that he's gonna flirt.
Speaker 4 (15:10):
With his mom.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
So it's not a bad idea.
Speaker 4 (15:16):
I mean, I don't know that you're hearing what he
needs to say, and so he needed with that.
Speaker 5 (15:21):
I just like this, Okay, do you have to go
back to the same barbershop?
Speaker 2 (15:24):
I don't He doesn't have to do that.
Speaker 5 (15:26):
Yeah, I don't care. I don't care about the part
work all right.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
So we're almost out of time, and we are getting
a lot of texts to seven eighty five nine two
that say this is not a healthy relationship, and I
think they're speaking about how Brook treats me on a
daily basis.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
But Courtney, honestly, if you could put.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
Yourself in Daniel's shoes for a second, it sounds like
he's scared to do anything right now because he just
doesn't want you to feel uncomfortable, and that puts a
lot of stress on him to constantly have to track
your feelings and your reactions. So if I were you,
I would just give him a little bit of grace,
just a little bit of freedom. And I think you'll
(16:06):
actually see he is very, very loyal, So I would
give it a chance. And Brook, do you have any
last words for the happy couple? Hopefully nothing related to
coal mine canaries.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
Give us a canary.
Speaker 4 (16:19):
Quote like the canary died a long time ago.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Yeah, okay, we've upgraded to a parent.
Speaker 4 (16:26):
Good luck had some therapy.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
Maybe keep us updatated. It's Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 4 (16:32):
Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.
It's awkward.
Speaker 2 (00:02):
It's Tuesday. It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 3 (00:07):
When it comes to Brook, I'm pretty confident. I'm like
ninety nine percent sure she loves her husband.
Speaker 4 (00:15):
Yeah, it should be one. I love him so much.
We are on such a good moment too. Write in
our marriage right now. It's just going great.
Speaker 3 (00:23):
Everybody brags about how good their relationship is going when
it's going that well.
Speaker 1 (00:28):
Yeah, but if I'm being.
Speaker 3 (00:32):
Honest, I think Brooke can come off a little bit
clingy with him.
Speaker 4 (00:36):
With my own husband, I.
Speaker 3 (00:38):
Heard that after they got married, Brooke wanted to spend
the entire honeymoon with him.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
Every day.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
You can sit next to him on the plane both ways.
Speaker 4 (00:49):
Well, since I was the one that booked the tickets,
you better believe that happens.
Speaker 1 (00:53):
I'm just saying, it's a little bit.
Speaker 4 (00:55):
Is that too much for you?
Speaker 1 (00:56):
It's like a barnacle on the side of the boat.
Speaker 3 (00:58):
And one of our listeners know a little bit about
having a girlfriend who's very, very attached, which is why
he's emailed the show for help. His name is Daniel,
So Daniel, welcome to the show.
Speaker 5 (01:09):
Hey, thanks for having me.
Speaker 2 (01:11):
Daniel.
Speaker 4 (01:11):
I was going to be on your side. But that
set up. Really he has set me off from Jeffrey.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Well we honestly, I don't know anything about your relationship.
You just said in your email. She's a little attached
to tell us about it.
Speaker 1 (01:23):
Yeah.
Speaker 5 (01:24):
So my girlfriend, Courtney, we've been together a little over
two months.
Speaker 4 (01:29):
Oh gosh, new new relationship, Yeah.
Speaker 5 (01:32):
Very new. I mean everything else is wonderful. She's very attentive,
like great communicator. It's just this like one specific thing
that I want to her to nip in the bud.
Speaker 1 (01:44):
It's the one bad.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
Thing, you know what he wants a perfect relationship. I'm
actually backing jose on that relation.
Speaker 1 (01:51):
Well what's here? What is what is the one problem?
Speaker 6 (01:55):
Is it?
Speaker 1 (01:56):
Again? She cheats on me every day? What is it?
Speaker 5 (02:02):
The one thing is she's super jealous. Yeah, it's like
a little over the top kind of jealousy, Like you know,
if we're ever out in public and if I'm even
noticing another woman going down the way or whatever, like
she gets upset, she calls me out.
Speaker 1 (02:27):
Jealousy is normal, but a lot is not.
Speaker 7 (02:30):
I don't know that you can fix that, Like, I
think only time fixes that, doesn't therapy y.
Speaker 5 (02:38):
Yeah, and I mean generally to a degree. I like it,
you like, it's just a little bit of possessiveness. We
sort of had this nightmare at the barber's the other week,
and and that's I sort of want to like.
Speaker 4 (02:50):
She went with you to the barbershop?
Speaker 5 (02:52):
No, no, she I told her I was getting the haircut,
and she said, who's cutting your hair? And I said,
I don't know, Like it's you know, there's one three
people there, and she's like, well, is it guy ors
a girl? And then she insisted she wanted me to
video chat the whole like haircut, and I'm like, all right, sure,
(03:12):
whatever is this?
Speaker 3 (03:14):
You video chat with your husband like all day long,
sometimes taking calls in the middle of our show just
to talk to him.
Speaker 7 (03:22):
Well, no, that's just because he can't find the kid's
backpack and the kids are fifteen minutes late for work.
Speaker 4 (03:27):
It's not because I'm worried about who he's with.
Speaker 3 (03:30):
But right, okay, sure it's his fault that you're answering
the phone with you. If someone's like, show me your phone,
where are you, it is easier to just be like,
I have nothing to hide, Go ahead, right, So I
feel you on that, bro.
Speaker 5 (03:43):
Like sure, yeah, yeah. So I'm like, it didn't seem
like it didn't put me out. I didn't care if
she watches me get a haircut. You know, it's like
you said, I got nothing to hide.
Speaker 1 (03:51):
It can be a good bonding experience, even.
Speaker 4 (03:54):
Not awkward for the barber at all.
Speaker 5 (03:55):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (03:56):
Yeah, okay, so what happened?
Speaker 5 (03:59):
So sit down at the haircut. She watched the whole thing.
I get home, and then she starts cussing me out,
saying like you were hitting on that style or you
were flirting with her, and you know which I was
not doing. It starts a whole big argument, and I'm
trying to explain, like, look, I had a normal conversation
with this person.
Speaker 4 (04:18):
Thought you said this was just a small thing you
wanted to nip in the butt. Yeah.
Speaker 3 (04:23):
And by the way, at the French barbers, they do
make you kiss.
Speaker 1 (04:28):
She should know that.
Speaker 7 (04:29):
You said, you got home. You don't live together, do
you after only two months?
Speaker 4 (04:33):
No?
Speaker 5 (04:33):
No, no, she was just coming over for dinner that
night and we were going to hang out. That's all.
Speaker 1 (04:37):
Okay, she has a key.
Speaker 3 (04:38):
Okay, So the barber incident caused a huge fight between
you two. What's the status of the relationship right now.
Speaker 5 (04:46):
I mean, we're still together, but it's just a little
awkward right now because like it's this point of contention
and I'm trying to let her know that nothing was happening.
Speaker 7 (04:56):
Can you actually see a future with a person that
has this big issue assurance with jealousy?
Speaker 5 (05:03):
Yeah, it's like I said, everything else, I'm super happy with.
I just sort of want to deal with this.
Speaker 1 (05:09):
Okay.
Speaker 7 (05:10):
So we have all been in relationships where we needed
to fix the person and that always turns.
Speaker 4 (05:14):
Out really well.
Speaker 5 (05:16):
It's like this one thing.
Speaker 3 (05:18):
Okay, you're not asking us to fix your entire relationship.
You're just asking us for help navigating through this one
particular fight that you're having with your girlfriend where she
got super jealous about you and the bar good question,
And are we calling the barber right now?
Speaker 1 (05:35):
Back off?
Speaker 5 (05:37):
I think trying to walk her through the fight, the
incident and like and just get her to understand, like
I wasn't doing anything.
Speaker 7 (05:45):
There's no like, So you want to call your girlfriend
and reassure her, give her confidence in your relationship.
Speaker 5 (05:52):
I mean it's really I just want to get closure
with the whole barber incident thing sort of keeps bringing up.
Speaker 4 (06:00):
You know, okay, justice barber fight. We wanted to how much.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
You want to bet she's going to be cutting his hair? Yeah,
that's solution. Orient about barber.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
We've already got a lot of killer ideas for you here,
so we're gonna come back and give you our golden
advice for how to squash this fight that you're having
with your jealous girlfriend when we continue your awkward Tuesday
phone call right after this.
Speaker 1 (06:32):
It's awkward Tuesday. It's awkward Tuesday phone call. Jealousy.
Speaker 3 (06:40):
Is it ever good in a relationship to be jealous?
Speaker 2 (06:44):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (06:44):
A little bit.
Speaker 4 (06:45):
No, I'm gonna go know.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Jose is right.
Speaker 3 (06:49):
According to Google, it's totally normal to feel a little
bit jealous when you're dating somebody or good. It can
become a hell fee if it's left unchecked for too long.
And that's where we come in today because we're giving
advice to our listener Daniel, since he is in a
two month relationship right now and his partner is an
(07:12):
extremely jealous type to the point where she actually had
him video chat during his haircut with a female stylist.
Speaker 2 (07:19):
Wow.
Speaker 1 (07:20):
When when he got home, a big.
Speaker 3 (07:22):
Fight ensued because she accused him of flirting with the stylist.
Speaker 7 (07:26):
Apparently there's a lot of cuss words flying around as well.
Speaker 3 (07:29):
The thing is, we need to give him some advice
to help him get past this lingering fight, because he
really really does like her and thinks this is actually
a great relationship. This is just the one tiny problem
that they have going on. So, Jose, what's your advice
to help him get past this fight. I've had disagreements
with jealous girlfriends before I tell her she's right.
Speaker 4 (07:50):
That's a good start, Jose. I always like to hear that, yeah,
she thinks he flirted, So say, yes, he did flirt.
Speaker 1 (07:56):
Maybe if it helps you get out of this one situation.
Speaker 3 (07:59):
What do you think Daniel willing to fall on your
sword and just say you're right?
Speaker 5 (08:03):
Yeah? I guess that's like if you think that'll satisfy
he and then she'll drop it. I mean, die.
Speaker 3 (08:12):
I think it's very disarming when a woman hears that
you were right. They don't know how to respond. Even
Brooke and Alexis were taken aback by it. But Brook,
what's your advice.
Speaker 4 (08:20):
Here's the thing, this is like the canary in the mine.
Speaker 8 (08:23):
Right right, because like, sure, you think that this is
the one problem, one small problem.
Speaker 4 (08:33):
This is a huge issue.
Speaker 7 (08:35):
And it is going to keep coming up again and
again and again in your relationships.
Speaker 4 (08:39):
It's very hopeful, Brooke keep going.
Speaker 3 (08:41):
I just say, like Brooke, he's asking not how to
fix his entire relationship. This isn't a like relationship therapy says.
Speaker 7 (08:48):
They would send the canary in the mind to see
if there's poisonous gas down there, that the canary died,
then they shouldn't go in.
Speaker 3 (08:54):
Well, you got to go to the pet shop, apparently, Daniel,
buy a canary and go to a mine with your girlfriend.
Speaker 8 (08:59):
That sounds complicated, but yeah, I don't If anything else,
we can jump in and help to reason with her
some after your conversation.
Speaker 5 (09:07):
Yeah, that sounds like that'll help. Yeah. Cool.
Speaker 1 (09:09):
Okay, we're all in your corner.
Speaker 3 (09:10):
Man, I'm gonna dial your girlfriend and let you make
your awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 5 (09:15):
This open the mind.
Speaker 2 (09:18):
Gets here we go, Hello, hey babe, how are you doing?
Speaker 6 (09:35):
What do you want?
Speaker 5 (09:38):
I mean, I just I just want to see how
you doing, you know, because I mean, I know we
left the kind of weird last night. So okay, well
you made it weird. So look I saw more about
what you said. You know, I think maybe you know
you know you're right?
Speaker 6 (10:00):
What you admit you were flirting?
Speaker 5 (10:04):
Well it like it definitely wasn't on purpose, but like
maybe maybe across some kind of line I wasn't aware of,
Like I you know, I certainly didn't mean to do whatever.
Speaker 2 (10:15):
But I you know that you were faithful?
Speaker 5 (10:18):
What well wait? What?
Speaker 2 (10:20):
Like?
Speaker 5 (10:21):
No, I wasn't faithful?
Speaker 6 (10:23):
Like okay, okay, what what's this call even about? Like
you you let her touch your hair?
Speaker 5 (10:30):
But yeah, like that that's her job.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
She's a barber, babe, you didn't have to let her
do that.
Speaker 5 (10:36):
Wait what oh my god?
Speaker 2 (10:37):
Yeah you can request no touching?
Speaker 5 (10:41):
Wait how wait? Wait? How does she cut the hair
without touch I don't, like, I don't even know how
that would work. Like how do you?
Speaker 6 (10:48):
Oh my god, Like you don't have to Okay, from
now on, only guy, just only a male barber, Like
I don't trust her the second I saw her, I don't.
Speaker 2 (10:59):
I just don't.
Speaker 5 (11:00):
Yeah, I mean whatever, I'll I'll ask for a guy
to cut my hair. I don't care to touch my.
Speaker 6 (11:04):
Hair as long as and you know what you like
FaceTime and his flirt while I'm on the call like watching.
Speaker 5 (11:12):
No, like so weird, Like look, I said, like I
I might have flirted, but I didn't intended like I'm sorry,
I'm not like lapping at.
Speaker 6 (11:22):
Her and you were like saying you liked her hair,
and like you were like moaning when she was like
touching her head, like.
Speaker 2 (11:30):
Like like whoa, whoa.
Speaker 5 (11:32):
I'm like shaking right now?
Speaker 6 (11:33):
Are you like some sort of like sick pervert whoa whoa.
Speaker 5 (11:39):
In front of you, like babe, look like sorry, it's
it's feeling more and more like I can't talk to
anyone without making you upset. And I don't like how
am I supposed to have a healthy relationship with you
if I can't talk to like any other person out
there in the world that isn't a guy.
Speaker 6 (11:59):
Oh okay, so you want another relationship with a healthier woman.
Speaker 5 (12:04):
No, that's not what I'm saying.
Speaker 6 (12:07):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (12:08):
Well, if you're okay, if you're so.
Speaker 6 (12:09):
Desperate for female attention and a companion, then like talk
to your mom, you know, but who knows you're probably
an according with her too because you're so.
Speaker 1 (12:23):
Oh my god, mom. Well, I mean it can sometimes
border the line.
Speaker 4 (12:29):
This is so out of control.
Speaker 1 (12:30):
Okay, what is this a courtney?
Speaker 6 (12:34):
Why do I hear a bunch of women's voices right now?
Speaker 2 (12:37):
Well, it's it's like.
Speaker 6 (12:40):
The way you're breaking up with me, because it's like
it's this guy.
Speaker 1 (12:42):
No, no, no, one's breaking up with anybody.
Speaker 3 (12:46):
You're on a very fun, lighthearted radio show called Brooke
and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 1 (12:52):
You know it had its moments.
Speaker 6 (12:54):
I don't want anything.
Speaker 5 (12:55):
Why am I part of this?
Speaker 4 (12:56):
Well, because you're a little difficult to talk to.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
Well, okay, it's true.
Speaker 6 (13:05):
You don't even know Daniel, Like you don't even know
what I've been going.
Speaker 2 (13:07):
Through with Daniel.
Speaker 3 (13:08):
We you are right, we don't know anything about you
and your relationship with Daniel.
Speaker 5 (13:13):
We know a little bit.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
Daniel came to us asking for a little bit of
help because he loves you.
Speaker 1 (13:18):
I don't well, sorry, that was the strong word. He
really values your relationship.
Speaker 4 (13:24):
He had like such lovely things to say about who
you were as a person.
Speaker 1 (13:28):
He really cares about you.
Speaker 3 (13:29):
And the fight that you guys were in about the
stylist at the barber shop has been very overwhelming.
Speaker 6 (13:35):
It's hard to play other than if you were like
if you were in my shoes with him and seeing
him when any girl gets in front of him. It's
it's really.
Speaker 1 (13:46):
It's because Daniel's a sexy man.
Speaker 3 (13:49):
Daniel is a very very sexy gentleman, and I'm sure
it's very difficult parading around with such a hunk all
the time.
Speaker 6 (13:56):
That's not even I mean, honestly, my grandma always said, like,
be careful if you start dating like a hot guy,
Like be careful.
Speaker 5 (14:04):
Because okay, so we all.
Speaker 1 (14:07):
Agree the problem is Daniel's hot mess. I could just,
like somehow.
Speaker 5 (14:15):
Just stop going to the gym and start eating lots
of pizza and like maybe pull.
Speaker 1 (14:19):
Out a few teeth. Yes you can.
Speaker 7 (14:23):
I think more importantly, you should say, oh my god,
this hot man chose me because I am worthy of that.
Speaker 5 (14:30):
That's that's all I'm trying to do. I just I
like I want you to like feel okay with that,
and like I'm doing everything I can to show you that.
Speaker 3 (14:38):
He literally called a radio show because the relationship is
that important. He's desperate to fix things with you and
get back to normal. And you want to hear this
and we're, yeah, we're that's radio. That's a very generous
estimation for us.
Speaker 6 (14:52):
So I think it's talk to me, like, I don't
understand why they just talk to me.
Speaker 5 (14:56):
Like we were talking and then like the fight happened.
Speaker 1 (15:00):
Let's not go back to blaming. Who's the reason why
it was weird.
Speaker 6 (15:04):
Because you were like standing up for her.
Speaker 7 (15:06):
Yeah, but you just ended the last conversation you had
with him telling him that he's gonna flirt.
Speaker 4 (15:10):
With his mom.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
So it's not a bad idea.
Speaker 4 (15:16):
I mean, I don't know that you're hearing what he
needs to say, and so he needed with that.
Speaker 5 (15:21):
I just like this, Okay, do you have to go
back to the same barbershop?
Speaker 2 (15:24):
I don't He doesn't have to do that.
Speaker 5 (15:26):
Yeah, I don't care. I don't care about the part
work all right.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
So we're almost out of time, and we are getting
a lot of texts to seven eighty five nine two
that say this is not a healthy relationship, and I
think they're speaking about how Brook treats me on a
daily basis.
Speaker 1 (15:44):
But Courtney, honestly, if you could put.
Speaker 3 (15:46):
Yourself in Daniel's shoes for a second, it sounds like
he's scared to do anything right now because he just
doesn't want you to feel uncomfortable, and that puts a
lot of stress on him to constantly have to track
your feelings and your reactions. So if I were you,
I would just give him a little bit of grace,
just a little bit of freedom. And I think you'll
(16:06):
actually see he is very, very loyal, So I would
give it a chance. And Brook, do you have any
last words for the happy couple? Hopefully nothing related to
coal mine canaries.
Speaker 1 (16:18):
Give us a canary.
Speaker 4 (16:19):
Quote like the canary died a long time ago.
Speaker 1 (16:21):
Yeah, okay, we've upgraded to a parent.
Speaker 4 (16:26):
Good luck had some therapy.
Speaker 1 (16:29):
Maybe keep us updatated. It's Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Speaker 4 (16:32):
Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.
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Brooke Fox
Jeffrey "Young Jeffrey" Dubow
Alexis Fuller
Jose Bolanos
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