March 11, 2025 • 15 mins
It’s one of our most DRAMATIC calls of the entire year and it all started at a BUILD-A-BEAR workshop and now it’s about getting justice on a NATIONAL SCALE.
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Speaker 1 (00:01):
It's awkward. It's Tuesday.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
Different radio shows excel at different types of content. Okay,
some shows are really good with health and wellness tips.
Other ones don't judge the other shows. Yeah yeah, other
ones focus more on true crime stories. But today we're
honing in on our wheelhouse children's birthday party drama. That's
(00:30):
where we thrive. And I bring it up because there's
a story that's actually been going viral on TikTok lately.
I'm not sure if you guys have heard about it yet,
but one of the people who was directly involved reached
out to us saying, hey, I could really really use
your help.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Interesting that children's birthdays aren't in my algorithm.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Jeffrey, Yeah, I don't know why. Let's talk to him though.
His name is Richard. Richard, welcome to the showy.
Speaker 4 (00:55):
Doing apparently better than you if you're viral on TikTok
for it.
Speaker 5 (00:59):
Ish Well, Okay, I'm not the one viral, but my
daughter was a part of it.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Oh, so's not as good as your daughter. Yeah, not
as bad as your daughter. Yeah, but it's not a
good slam yea. Yeah, we shouldn't be slamming our listeners
as soon as they ask us for help. Sorry about that, Richard,
tell us, what's going on? You were involved with this
birthday drama?
Speaker 5 (01:18):
How well, my daughter's seven years old and she was
invited to this birthday party. So basically I had to
drop her off with the mall, like in the food court.
And what I understood that the plan was they were
gonna go have lunch and do party activities and when
then the group was going to head over to build
a bear.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
Just a bunch of seven year olds freely roaming mall
figuring it out.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
Oh, it's like a build a bear party.
Speaker 5 (01:43):
The birthday girl's mom was taking care of.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
How don't you love that age when your kids finally
get to the drop off parties, you don't have to
stay any longer.
Speaker 5 (01:52):
Yeah, it was a great I'll be back in a
few hours. It's perfect.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Yeah, okay, sounds sounds like a good plan.
Speaker 5 (01:58):
Yeah. Yeah. So I go home and I come back
in a few hours and there's my daughter just in tears.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
What I feared she's crying.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Oh, no, pretty standard for post seven year old birthday.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
Party, though there's always one kid at the party.
Speaker 4 (02:11):
Yeah, I mean it sucks that it's yours.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
I get it.
Speaker 5 (02:15):
Well, it was more than my kid, it was other
kids too.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
They were all up all gone, Wow, what the heck happened?
Speaker 6 (02:21):
Did Jeff show up and do a parody song in
the middle of the party laughing?
Speaker 1 (02:25):
Then what happened?
Speaker 5 (02:28):
So I got her in the car and asked what happened?
She said that the mom forced all the girls to
give their build of bears to the birthday girl.
Speaker 4 (02:37):
No way, wait, what like they went to a party
and they made their own build a bear without knowing
it was for the birthday girl.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Thew's rude.
Speaker 6 (02:48):
I'm not even involved in the bear world or children's world,
and I want to fight everyone right now.
Speaker 4 (02:52):
Why would the little birthday girl need bear eleven stuffed animals?
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Like?
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Why would the mom do that?
Speaker 5 (02:59):
That's what I was asked to my So I contacted
another mom who was involved. Yeah, and she she couldn't
believe it either. She was really upset. Wow.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
See, okay, so this is like the normal reaction.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Everyone's agreed, blindsided all of the parents and the children
there obviously.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
I mean, what was the reason? Did you ever get
to the bottom of that?
Speaker 5 (03:18):
Well, what she said was that the mom wanted each
girl to build a bear so that like her daughter
would remember each one of them by the bear that
they built. They built for her.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
Was that was that laid out in like the invitation
that all the kids were going to be building a
bear for the birthday girl.
Speaker 5 (03:35):
No, no, my daughter thought she was getting the bear
to bring home. I mean, okay, we already gave a gift.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
That is so weird. Okay, I mean you didn't pay
for it, right, Like the mom.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Paid for that question expensive?
Speaker 3 (03:48):
The birthday mom paid for everybody to.
Speaker 5 (03:49):
Make these Yeah, she did pay for the build of bear. Period.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Well the birthday mom paid for the cake too, I'm assuming,
and she gave someone that away, so at least she's
kind of generous.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Okay, look, let me advocate really quick. Think about it.
From the birthday girl, every one of those bears. Every
night she goes to.
Speaker 6 (04:06):
Bed, it's like, this is Sarah's bear, this is Brooks bear,
this is just her friends.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
And that's just wanting to throw that out there.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
But how is a mother? Could you see all these
children crying? I like, this is the choice, this is
the choice I'm making.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
I'm just saying I see.
Speaker 5 (04:24):
Where maybe I think exactly what Brook thinks. All these
girls had to stand and wine, they to make each bear,
and then they were all the bears were ripped away
from them at the end.
Speaker 6 (04:35):
With a crying line of kids like here you it's
so ridiculous.
Speaker 5 (04:40):
Yeah, okay, So I have the lady's number. I want
to contact her.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
Are you gonna call?
Speaker 1 (04:47):
We want to call the mom of the birthday girl
who set this up.
Speaker 5 (04:50):
Yeah. I want to contact her and say it's not right,
it's not okay, Okay, give your bear back?
Speaker 3 (04:57):
I mean, is that what you're going to ask for
the bear bag?
Speaker 5 (05:00):
That would be a cherry on top. I don't expect it,
but I just need her to know what she did
was wrong.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (05:05):
So I don't know how to say it. I want
you guys to tell me what to say. Gotcha?
Speaker 1 (05:10):
So you want advice on how to call the mother
of the birthday girl after the birthday is over, to
tell her it's not cool that she made all of
the children at the party build build a bear's and
then give them all to her daughter at the very end.
Speaker 5 (05:24):
This is she's a build she's a build a bear thief.
I want it, Okay, not sure if.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
The name calling will work. But we'll have some ideas
for you when we come back.
Speaker 5 (05:34):
I'm calling you. I can't be trusted, all right.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
But remember when you're looking to call, when we'd come
back for your awkward Tuesday phone call. Build a Bear Edition.
Just let's try and calm down a little bit. We're
going to play a song and do it right after this.
Speaker 5 (05:46):
I'm not sure I can, but.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
I'll try.
Speaker 5 (05:49):
Hold on.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
It's awkward.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
I know. Brooke has said many times she loves it
when other parents call and tell her she's doing a
bad job of mothering.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Texts, emails, direct messages.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
All of us we do a whole segmentary tell Brooks
she's a bad mom.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Oh God.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
But the thing is not everybody is as receptive to
parental criticism as Brook is. That's why our listener Richard
needs our help today because he was upset after dropping
his seven year old daughter off at a bild a
Bear birthday party game, and when he picked her up,
his daughter was crying because the host mom made all
of the children give their bill of Bears to the
birthday girl as like a big, happy gift to remember everybody.
Speaker 4 (06:37):
Bad, but there was some type of logical I mean,
we talk about core memories.
Speaker 3 (06:41):
This is definitely right. Yeah, you're never going to forget.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
But Richard's not the only parent who was upset by
hearing this. He does want to be the one, though,
who calls up the mom and lets her know that
he thinks what she did wasn't really right. Yeah, so
how does he politely deliver that message so the mom
gets it? Let's go to our child's rearing expert, Josey.
What's your advice?
Speaker 6 (07:03):
Well, I would play vague here and just ask, hey,
have you heard from any other parents about the party,
because likely she's gonna say yeah, I have, And if not,
you can just be like I hear some of them
are upset.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
That is so passive aggression a group.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
I get what he's saying. That way, Richard doesn't have
to own all of the anger, for he can share
some of the blame with the parents. Richard, what do
you think about that bully her?
Speaker 5 (07:31):
Yes? Yeah, I mean what if she says I haven't
heard anything?
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Yeah, well, just then you can break the news I
heard from one other.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Yeah, there you go, Yeah I heard from so and so.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Good luck, beating that.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
Advice so honestly, Like, I know you heard from another
parent what this mom's intentions were, But I if you
want her to like understand what she did is wrong,
I think that you need to have her explain why,
like you haven't just asked her. I think you need
to come in with an open mind. Nobody ever changes
their mind.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
If they're attacked, right, Yeah, if you're.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
On the defense, you are never going to see somebody's
else's opinion.
Speaker 5 (08:11):
I feel like I see why she did it. She
wanted this special moment strictly for her daughter.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Okay, yeah, but maybe maybe if you just ask her
to say that, she'll realize how dumb it is coming
out of her own mouth. I do that all the time.
I'm starting to talk, I'm making a point, and I'm like, wow,
that is really stupid.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Well, you know what I'm I'm wrong. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
So you can choose either one of those pieces of
advice or none, Richard, either one. We're gonna be here
waiting to jump in if we feel like you need
a little bit of help. I think you got it, okay,
as long as you're you were pretty heated.
Speaker 4 (08:44):
Yeah, yeah, don't get so upset. I mean, in the end,
it's just a teddy bear. Those are nice, expensive bears.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
Bear, it's twelve teddy bears.
Speaker 5 (08:55):
It's so much more than Yeah, okay, stupid.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Yeah, we don't want to get you all excited again.
Stay calm. We're going to dial this mom for you.
Let you talk to her.
Speaker 5 (09:05):
Here we go. I'm gonna try to keep you going
to control.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
All right, you got this, bud?
Speaker 5 (09:10):
Here we go. Hello. Hi? This Megan?
Speaker 7 (09:24):
Yeah, who's this?
Speaker 5 (09:26):
Hi? This is Richard. I'm Vanessa's dad.
Speaker 7 (09:29):
Oh yeah, okay, Hi, how are you hi?
Speaker 5 (09:32):
Good? First off, I just wanted to thank you for
inviting my daughter to the birthday party.
Speaker 7 (09:38):
No, no problem, that's refreshing.
Speaker 5 (09:40):
Well, I will say she had a really good time,
but there was one little issue, and I'm just kind
of wondering if you had feedback from other parents.
Speaker 7 (09:51):
Yeah, I've already had some other whiny parents call about this,
So whatever you're about to say, just just save it.
Speaker 5 (09:59):
So I'm assuming what you're talking about is the build
a bear situation.
Speaker 7 (10:03):
Yeah, so I don't think any of you really understand
that it was my child's birthday party. So I get
to make the.
Speaker 5 (10:10):
Rules, right, You get to make the rules. Yeah, and
with no regard to the other children's feelings. That was
that one of the rules.
Speaker 7 (10:23):
You know, I paid for all the bears, right, I don't.
I didn't see your credit cards PLoP down on the
desk at Build a Bear.
Speaker 5 (10:29):
It was mine. So you bought every one of their tears,
is what you're saying, tears?
Speaker 7 (10:35):
Oh my gosh, give me a purchase.
Speaker 5 (10:37):
You purchased each was it was it build a teer.
Speaker 7 (10:42):
This was a birthday party, not a charity event to
give bears to the left event.
Speaker 5 (10:49):
It was it was a labor camp. I'm not the
only one who thinks this. All the parents are talking
and they all kind of think you're a jerk.
Speaker 7 (11:03):
Okay, great, go get together and report me to the
Build a Bear police. Who cares?
Speaker 5 (11:08):
Done well, you should have them make a build of
bear police bear and then just take that away too.
Speaker 7 (11:15):
Oh burn, thank you?
Speaker 5 (11:17):
Ow that hurts. You know what the truth is? You
know who else thinks you're a jerk? Everybody listening on
the radio right now because you're on Brook and Jeffrey
in the morning.
Speaker 7 (11:27):
What what the hell is going on?
Speaker 5 (11:30):
Yeah, you just got outed for being a first glance
jerk to the entire country.
Speaker 7 (11:37):
What the hell is that was?
Speaker 3 (11:39):
Wasn't it outer for being an ale?
Speaker 1 (11:42):
No color of labor camp.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
That was the funniest back and forth.
Speaker 3 (11:46):
Excuse me?
Speaker 7 (11:47):
Can anyone tell me what's going on?
Speaker 2 (11:48):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (11:49):
Yeah, so, Megan, he wasn't lying. You actually are on
the radio right now on Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
That's our show.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
It was for advice.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
We were trying to help the situation, not make it worse.
Speaker 7 (11:59):
What does this even?
Speaker 4 (12:01):
I don't know what's going on.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
Sorry, it's a healing segment that we do about bringing
parents together and kindly talking to each other.
Speaker 5 (12:10):
Richard.
Speaker 7 (12:10):
Did he get that memo?
Speaker 5 (12:11):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (12:12):
No, Well it's actually called an awkward Tuesday phone call
because we knew that this conversation wasn't going to be flawless.
I don't think anybody expected it to nosedive like it did.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
What happened, Richard? We told you to open I tried.
Speaker 5 (12:26):
I tried my best.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
That was your best.
Speaker 5 (12:30):
She was an a hole from the very beginning. She
called every whiny wrong.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
But also, yeah, you got to practice being the bigger
man in that situation, Richard. But I think it's too
late for that now, so listen, Megan. Maybe the message
didn't come across quite the way we wanted it to,
but do you understand the sentiment behind it that there's
a lot of parents that were upset by what happened
because their children were crying at the end of the party.
You must have noticed.
Speaker 7 (12:55):
Yeah, I'm sorry that they didn't teach their kids how
to grasp the concept of party.
Speaker 5 (12:59):
At a kid.
Speaker 7 (13:00):
It wasn't their birthdays.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
I know, well, I know, but I don't get it yet.
Speaker 4 (13:05):
And you said that you didn't tell the kids at
the beginning of the party that they were building a
bear for the birthday.
Speaker 5 (13:11):
Girl.
Speaker 7 (13:11):
They're seven years old. They want to ruin the damn surprise.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
Oh she does have a point a little bit there,
but it's it's still it's not fair.
Speaker 4 (13:22):
These people also already brought gifts, like they brought gifts already,
and that.
Speaker 3 (13:28):
Was something they put thought into of what your daughter
would like.
Speaker 7 (13:31):
God, you sound like one of the damn whiny parents
that call.
Speaker 4 (13:40):
Even if you still think you're right, which is fine,
Like you're gonna ruin your daughter's social life if you
keep down this line. That's a good she's not going
to get invited to birthday parties because of this.
Speaker 7 (13:52):
Good She doesn't want those kind of friends.
Speaker 4 (13:53):
Anyway, you guys, get off.
Speaker 7 (13:55):
I hope you're proud of yourself. We're trying to drag
a good mom down on live radio. We're trying to
make her daughter happy.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
Okay, let's not do apologist, tell her what a good
mom she.
Speaker 3 (14:09):
Don't know that.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
That's well, that doesn't matter. If you believe it, you
should say it.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
I mean, I think that you're trying to make your
daughter happy.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
You should try harder with this apology.
Speaker 3 (14:19):
That's what we all want for our children.
Speaker 4 (14:22):
I just think that maybe the lesson of looking at
others and putting others first is a good one too.
Speaker 7 (14:27):
Oh, thank you, thank you so much for all of
the tips of how to be a good mother. How
about I give you guys some advice, get real jobs.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
I'm trying.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
My mother gives me that same advice.
Speaker 7 (14:40):
A mom works on radio anymore?
Speaker 4 (14:44):
Nobody?
Speaker 2 (14:45):
Yeah, I mean, at the point.
Speaker 1 (14:48):
You keep lying down truth honest, I'm coming around.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
On everyone else. Feel bad.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
I want to work in your labor camp. Don't much
you set up? So give us a.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
I don't want to build it.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
I will cry.
Speaker 5 (15:01):
You know what, I don't care if she's a jerk.
Everyone heard how much of a jerk she is. I
kind of wish the girls could have given all the
food back too, and vomited all over.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
But you go to work on your slants because they
keep getting worse as the call goes on.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
I wouldn't call that.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
A bad that's also a bad parent. Brooking Jeffrey in
the morning,
It's awkward. It's Tuesday.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 1 (00:07):
Different radio shows excel at different types of content. Okay,
some shows are really good with health and wellness tips.
Other ones don't judge the other shows. Yeah yeah, other
ones focus more on true crime stories. But today we're
honing in on our wheelhouse children's birthday party drama. That's
(00:30):
where we thrive. And I bring it up because there's
a story that's actually been going viral on TikTok lately.
I'm not sure if you guys have heard about it yet,
but one of the people who was directly involved reached
out to us saying, hey, I could really really use
your help.
Speaker 3 (00:46):
Interesting that children's birthdays aren't in my algorithm.
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Jeffrey, Yeah, I don't know why. Let's talk to him though.
His name is Richard. Richard, welcome to the showy.
Speaker 4 (00:55):
Doing apparently better than you if you're viral on TikTok
for it.
Speaker 5 (00:59):
Ish Well, Okay, I'm not the one viral, but my
daughter was a part of it.
Speaker 1 (01:03):
Oh, so's not as good as your daughter. Yeah, not
as bad as your daughter. Yeah, but it's not a
good slam yea. Yeah, we shouldn't be slamming our listeners
as soon as they ask us for help. Sorry about that, Richard,
tell us, what's going on? You were involved with this
birthday drama?
Speaker 5 (01:18):
How well, my daughter's seven years old and she was
invited to this birthday party. So basically I had to
drop her off with the mall, like in the food court.
And what I understood that the plan was they were
gonna go have lunch and do party activities and when
then the group was going to head over to build
a bear.
Speaker 1 (01:37):
Just a bunch of seven year olds freely roaming mall
figuring it out.
Speaker 3 (01:41):
Oh, it's like a build a bear party.
Speaker 5 (01:43):
The birthday girl's mom was taking care of.
Speaker 4 (01:45):
How don't you love that age when your kids finally
get to the drop off parties, you don't have to
stay any longer.
Speaker 5 (01:52):
Yeah, it was a great I'll be back in a
few hours. It's perfect.
Speaker 1 (01:55):
Yeah, okay, sounds sounds like a good plan.
Speaker 5 (01:58):
Yeah. Yeah. So I go home and I come back
in a few hours and there's my daughter just in tears.
Speaker 2 (02:03):
What I feared she's crying.
Speaker 1 (02:05):
Oh, no, pretty standard for post seven year old birthday.
Speaker 3 (02:08):
Party, though there's always one kid at the party.
Speaker 4 (02:11):
Yeah, I mean it sucks that it's yours.
Speaker 3 (02:14):
I get it.
Speaker 5 (02:15):
Well, it was more than my kid, it was other
kids too.
Speaker 2 (02:16):
They were all up all gone, Wow, what the heck happened?
Speaker 6 (02:21):
Did Jeff show up and do a parody song in
the middle of the party laughing?
Speaker 1 (02:25):
Then what happened?
Speaker 5 (02:28):
So I got her in the car and asked what happened?
She said that the mom forced all the girls to
give their build of bears to the birthday girl.
Speaker 4 (02:37):
No way, wait, what like they went to a party
and they made their own build a bear without knowing
it was for the birthday girl.
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Thew's rude.
Speaker 6 (02:48):
I'm not even involved in the bear world or children's world,
and I want to fight everyone right now.
Speaker 4 (02:52):
Why would the little birthday girl need bear eleven stuffed animals?
Speaker 1 (02:57):
Like?
Speaker 3 (02:57):
Why would the mom do that?
Speaker 5 (02:59):
That's what I was asked to my So I contacted
another mom who was involved. Yeah, and she she couldn't
believe it either. She was really upset. Wow.
Speaker 2 (03:07):
See, okay, so this is like the normal reaction.
Speaker 1 (03:09):
Everyone's agreed, blindsided all of the parents and the children
there obviously.
Speaker 3 (03:15):
I mean, what was the reason? Did you ever get
to the bottom of that?
Speaker 5 (03:18):
Well, what she said was that the mom wanted each
girl to build a bear so that like her daughter
would remember each one of them by the bear that
they built. They built for her.
Speaker 1 (03:29):
Was that was that laid out in like the invitation
that all the kids were going to be building a
bear for the birthday girl.
Speaker 5 (03:35):
No, no, my daughter thought she was getting the bear
to bring home. I mean, okay, we already gave a gift.
Speaker 3 (03:41):
That is so weird. Okay, I mean you didn't pay
for it, right, Like the mom.
Speaker 2 (03:45):
Paid for that question expensive?
Speaker 3 (03:48):
The birthday mom paid for everybody to.
Speaker 5 (03:49):
Make these Yeah, she did pay for the build of bear. Period.
Speaker 1 (03:53):
Well the birthday mom paid for the cake too, I'm assuming,
and she gave someone that away, so at least she's
kind of generous.
Speaker 2 (03:58):
Okay, look, let me advocate really quick. Think about it.
From the birthday girl, every one of those bears. Every
night she goes to.
Speaker 6 (04:06):
Bed, it's like, this is Sarah's bear, this is Brooks bear,
this is just her friends.
Speaker 2 (04:11):
And that's just wanting to throw that out there.
Speaker 3 (04:15):
But how is a mother? Could you see all these
children crying? I like, this is the choice, this is
the choice I'm making.
Speaker 2 (04:23):
I'm just saying I see.
Speaker 5 (04:24):
Where maybe I think exactly what Brook thinks. All these
girls had to stand and wine, they to make each bear,
and then they were all the bears were ripped away
from them at the end.
Speaker 6 (04:35):
With a crying line of kids like here you it's
so ridiculous.
Speaker 5 (04:40):
Yeah, okay, So I have the lady's number. I want
to contact her.
Speaker 2 (04:46):
Are you gonna call?
Speaker 1 (04:47):
We want to call the mom of the birthday girl
who set this up.
Speaker 5 (04:50):
Yeah. I want to contact her and say it's not right,
it's not okay, Okay, give your bear back?
Speaker 3 (04:57):
I mean, is that what you're going to ask for
the bear bag?
Speaker 5 (05:00):
That would be a cherry on top. I don't expect it,
but I just need her to know what she did
was wrong.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Okay.
Speaker 5 (05:05):
So I don't know how to say it. I want
you guys to tell me what to say. Gotcha?
Speaker 1 (05:10):
So you want advice on how to call the mother
of the birthday girl after the birthday is over, to
tell her it's not cool that she made all of
the children at the party build build a bear's and
then give them all to her daughter at the very end.
Speaker 5 (05:24):
This is she's a build she's a build a bear thief.
I want it, Okay, not sure if.
Speaker 1 (05:30):
The name calling will work. But we'll have some ideas
for you when we come back.
Speaker 5 (05:34):
I'm calling you. I can't be trusted, all right.
Speaker 1 (05:36):
But remember when you're looking to call, when we'd come
back for your awkward Tuesday phone call. Build a Bear Edition.
Just let's try and calm down a little bit. We're
going to play a song and do it right after this.
Speaker 5 (05:46):
I'm not sure I can, but.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
I'll try.
Speaker 5 (05:49):
Hold on.
Speaker 1 (05:51):
It's awkward.
Speaker 2 (05:52):
It's awkward Tuesday phone call.
Speaker 1 (05:57):
I know. Brooke has said many times she loves it
when other parents call and tell her she's doing a
bad job of mothering.
Speaker 3 (06:04):
Texts, emails, direct messages.
Speaker 1 (06:07):
All of us we do a whole segmentary tell Brooks
she's a bad mom.
Speaker 2 (06:12):
Oh God.
Speaker 1 (06:12):
But the thing is not everybody is as receptive to
parental criticism as Brook is. That's why our listener Richard
needs our help today because he was upset after dropping
his seven year old daughter off at a bild a
Bear birthday party game, and when he picked her up,
his daughter was crying because the host mom made all
of the children give their bill of Bears to the
birthday girl as like a big, happy gift to remember everybody.
Speaker 4 (06:37):
Bad, but there was some type of logical I mean,
we talk about core memories.
Speaker 3 (06:41):
This is definitely right. Yeah, you're never going to forget.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
But Richard's not the only parent who was upset by
hearing this. He does want to be the one, though,
who calls up the mom and lets her know that
he thinks what she did wasn't really right. Yeah, so
how does he politely deliver that message so the mom
gets it? Let's go to our child's rearing expert, Josey.
What's your advice?
Speaker 6 (07:03):
Well, I would play vague here and just ask, hey,
have you heard from any other parents about the party,
because likely she's gonna say yeah, I have, And if not,
you can just be like I hear some of them
are upset.
Speaker 3 (07:18):
That is so passive aggression a group.
Speaker 1 (07:22):
I get what he's saying. That way, Richard doesn't have
to own all of the anger, for he can share
some of the blame with the parents. Richard, what do
you think about that bully her?
Speaker 5 (07:31):
Yes? Yeah, I mean what if she says I haven't
heard anything?
Speaker 1 (07:35):
Yeah, well, just then you can break the news I
heard from one other.
Speaker 2 (07:41):
Yeah, there you go, Yeah I heard from so and so.
Speaker 1 (07:45):
Good luck, beating that.
Speaker 4 (07:45):
Advice so honestly, Like, I know you heard from another
parent what this mom's intentions were, But I if you
want her to like understand what she did is wrong,
I think that you need to have her explain why,
like you haven't just asked her. I think you need
to come in with an open mind. Nobody ever changes
their mind.
Speaker 3 (08:05):
If they're attacked, right, Yeah, if you're.
Speaker 4 (08:07):
On the defense, you are never going to see somebody's
else's opinion.
Speaker 5 (08:11):
I feel like I see why she did it. She
wanted this special moment strictly for her daughter.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
Okay, yeah, but maybe maybe if you just ask her
to say that, she'll realize how dumb it is coming
out of her own mouth. I do that all the time.
I'm starting to talk, I'm making a point, and I'm like, wow,
that is really stupid.
Speaker 2 (08:29):
Well, you know what I'm I'm wrong. I'm sorry.
Speaker 1 (08:32):
So you can choose either one of those pieces of
advice or none, Richard, either one. We're gonna be here
waiting to jump in if we feel like you need
a little bit of help. I think you got it, okay,
as long as you're you were pretty heated.
Speaker 4 (08:44):
Yeah, yeah, don't get so upset. I mean, in the end,
it's just a teddy bear. Those are nice, expensive bears.
Speaker 1 (08:54):
Bear, it's twelve teddy bears.
Speaker 5 (08:55):
It's so much more than Yeah, okay, stupid.
Speaker 1 (09:00):
Yeah, we don't want to get you all excited again.
Stay calm. We're going to dial this mom for you.
Let you talk to her.
Speaker 5 (09:05):
Here we go. I'm gonna try to keep you going
to control.
Speaker 1 (09:08):
All right, you got this, bud?
Speaker 5 (09:10):
Here we go. Hello. Hi? This Megan?
Speaker 7 (09:24):
Yeah, who's this?
Speaker 5 (09:26):
Hi? This is Richard. I'm Vanessa's dad.
Speaker 7 (09:29):
Oh yeah, okay, Hi, how are you hi?
Speaker 5 (09:32):
Good? First off, I just wanted to thank you for
inviting my daughter to the birthday party.
Speaker 7 (09:38):
No, no problem, that's refreshing.
Speaker 5 (09:40):
Well, I will say she had a really good time,
but there was one little issue, and I'm just kind
of wondering if you had feedback from other parents.
Speaker 7 (09:51):
Yeah, I've already had some other whiny parents call about this,
So whatever you're about to say, just just save it.
Speaker 5 (09:59):
So I'm assuming what you're talking about is the build
a bear situation.
Speaker 7 (10:03):
Yeah, so I don't think any of you really understand
that it was my child's birthday party. So I get
to make the.
Speaker 5 (10:10):
Rules, right, You get to make the rules. Yeah, and
with no regard to the other children's feelings. That was
that one of the rules.
Speaker 7 (10:23):
You know, I paid for all the bears, right, I don't.
I didn't see your credit cards PLoP down on the
desk at Build a Bear.
Speaker 5 (10:29):
It was mine. So you bought every one of their tears,
is what you're saying, tears?
Speaker 7 (10:35):
Oh my gosh, give me a purchase.
Speaker 5 (10:37):
You purchased each was it was it build a teer.
Speaker 7 (10:42):
This was a birthday party, not a charity event to
give bears to the left event.
Speaker 5 (10:49):
It was it was a labor camp. I'm not the
only one who thinks this. All the parents are talking
and they all kind of think you're a jerk.
Speaker 7 (11:03):
Okay, great, go get together and report me to the
Build a Bear police. Who cares?
Speaker 5 (11:08):
Done well, you should have them make a build of
bear police bear and then just take that away too.
Speaker 7 (11:15):
Oh burn, thank you?
Speaker 5 (11:17):
Ow that hurts. You know what the truth is? You
know who else thinks you're a jerk? Everybody listening on
the radio right now because you're on Brook and Jeffrey
in the morning.
Speaker 7 (11:27):
What what the hell is going on?
Speaker 5 (11:30):
Yeah, you just got outed for being a first glance
jerk to the entire country.
Speaker 7 (11:37):
What the hell is that was?
Speaker 3 (11:39):
Wasn't it outer for being an ale?
Speaker 1 (11:42):
No color of labor camp.
Speaker 2 (11:44):
That was the funniest back and forth.
Speaker 3 (11:46):
Excuse me?
Speaker 7 (11:47):
Can anyone tell me what's going on?
Speaker 2 (11:48):
Yes?
Speaker 1 (11:49):
Yeah, so, Megan, he wasn't lying. You actually are on
the radio right now on Brook and Jeffrey in the morning.
That's our show.
Speaker 2 (11:55):
It was for advice.
Speaker 3 (11:56):
We were trying to help the situation, not make it worse.
Speaker 7 (11:59):
What does this even?
Speaker 4 (12:01):
I don't know what's going on.
Speaker 1 (12:02):
Sorry, it's a healing segment that we do about bringing
parents together and kindly talking to each other.
Speaker 5 (12:10):
Richard.
Speaker 7 (12:10):
Did he get that memo?
Speaker 5 (12:11):
Yeah?
Speaker 1 (12:12):
No, Well it's actually called an awkward Tuesday phone call
because we knew that this conversation wasn't going to be flawless.
I don't think anybody expected it to nosedive like it did.
Speaker 2 (12:22):
What happened, Richard? We told you to open I tried.
Speaker 5 (12:26):
I tried my best.
Speaker 3 (12:28):
That was your best.
Speaker 5 (12:30):
She was an a hole from the very beginning. She
called every whiny wrong.
Speaker 1 (12:35):
But also, yeah, you got to practice being the bigger
man in that situation, Richard. But I think it's too
late for that now, so listen, Megan. Maybe the message
didn't come across quite the way we wanted it to,
but do you understand the sentiment behind it that there's
a lot of parents that were upset by what happened
because their children were crying at the end of the party.
You must have noticed.
Speaker 7 (12:55):
Yeah, I'm sorry that they didn't teach their kids how
to grasp the concept of party.
Speaker 5 (12:59):
At a kid.
Speaker 7 (13:00):
It wasn't their birthdays.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
I know, well, I know, but I don't get it yet.
Speaker 4 (13:05):
And you said that you didn't tell the kids at
the beginning of the party that they were building a
bear for the birthday.
Speaker 5 (13:11):
Girl.
Speaker 7 (13:11):
They're seven years old. They want to ruin the damn surprise.
Speaker 1 (13:15):
Oh she does have a point a little bit there,
but it's it's still it's not fair.
Speaker 4 (13:22):
These people also already brought gifts, like they brought gifts already,
and that.
Speaker 3 (13:28):
Was something they put thought into of what your daughter
would like.
Speaker 7 (13:31):
God, you sound like one of the damn whiny parents
that call.
Speaker 4 (13:40):
Even if you still think you're right, which is fine,
Like you're gonna ruin your daughter's social life if you
keep down this line. That's a good she's not going
to get invited to birthday parties because of this.
Speaker 7 (13:52):
Good She doesn't want those kind of friends.
Speaker 4 (13:53):
Anyway, you guys, get off.
Speaker 7 (13:55):
I hope you're proud of yourself. We're trying to drag
a good mom down on live radio. We're trying to
make her daughter happy.
Speaker 1 (14:02):
Okay, let's not do apologist, tell her what a good
mom she.
Speaker 3 (14:09):
Don't know that.
Speaker 1 (14:10):
That's well, that doesn't matter. If you believe it, you
should say it.
Speaker 3 (14:13):
I mean, I think that you're trying to make your
daughter happy.
Speaker 1 (14:17):
You should try harder with this apology.
Speaker 3 (14:19):
That's what we all want for our children.
Speaker 4 (14:22):
I just think that maybe the lesson of looking at
others and putting others first is a good one too.
Speaker 7 (14:27):
Oh, thank you, thank you so much for all of
the tips of how to be a good mother. How
about I give you guys some advice, get real jobs.
Speaker 2 (14:37):
I'm trying.
Speaker 1 (14:38):
My mother gives me that same advice.
Speaker 7 (14:40):
A mom works on radio anymore?
Speaker 4 (14:44):
Nobody?
Speaker 2 (14:45):
Yeah, I mean, at the point.
Speaker 1 (14:48):
You keep lying down truth honest, I'm coming around.
Speaker 2 (14:51):
On everyone else. Feel bad.
Speaker 1 (14:54):
I want to work in your labor camp. Don't much
you set up? So give us a.
Speaker 2 (15:00):
I don't want to build it.
Speaker 1 (15:01):
I will cry.
Speaker 5 (15:01):
You know what, I don't care if she's a jerk.
Everyone heard how much of a jerk she is. I
kind of wish the girls could have given all the
food back too, and vomited all over.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
But you go to work on your slants because they
keep getting worse as the call goes on.
Speaker 2 (15:16):
I wouldn't call that.
Speaker 3 (15:17):
A bad that's also a bad parent. Brooking Jeffrey in
the morning,
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