November 24, 2025 • 18 mins
One of our listeners said he made a restaurant faux pas RIGHT AWAY on his date before he even put down the menu. We’ll talk to him and see if it derailed his chances in your Second Date Update!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Welcome to your second Day podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
It's Brook and Jeffrey in the morning, and I know
someone who has a lot of opinions about restaurants.
Speaker 1 (00:06):
In this room, I'm looking at them.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
No, no, no, I mean, would someone screwing up at
a restaurant be a huge red flag for you?
Speaker 3 (00:19):
What do you mean by that?
Speaker 4 (00:20):
Hold on?
Speaker 5 (00:20):
Well, like screwing up?
Speaker 3 (00:22):
Like, what do you mean the order?
Speaker 4 (00:23):
I can't tell you exactly because it's coming up in
the second.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
It's gonna happen while he's still holding the menu at
the beginning.
Speaker 6 (00:29):
Okay, well, you should know how to go on to
date at a restaurant, so obviously this would.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Be a red flag.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Okay, Jose's not dating you, but you know what, I
don't think that's what he's asking for. Anyway, you're gonna
hear what's going on in this second date. But we
love to start with your comments because you mean so
much to us.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
That's true, that's true. We're thankful for you. We we
are and marriage in comments a lot. But I like
this one.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
They said, I might be weird, but I like spoilers
or teasers, so I read the comments before I listen.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
I actually know someone like wait you do that? Movies
are like, yeah, she loves this.
Speaker 7 (01:03):
I know.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
And I skipped to the end of the books first,
and I read what happens at the end before I
go I.
Speaker 4 (01:07):
Want to do it.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Somebody around in my life does this too?
Speaker 1 (01:11):
What is wrong with you?
Speaker 2 (01:12):
I need to know what happens that I can read
in peace or watch in peace.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
So you relate to marriagin Yere's.
Speaker 4 (01:20):
Well anyway, thanks leaving the comment and how alexis?
Speaker 1 (01:24):
I love it? Your second date starts right now.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
The second date up date. The results are in. It's
broken Jeffrey in the morning. Because recent studies have shown
about fifty percent of couples now meet online compared to
just twenty two percent only five years ago.
Speaker 4 (01:44):
That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
That's a huge jump. It's like the pandemic, like super Yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
It made a really normal, really quick Yeah. So now
going forward, Brook, if you want to spice up the
relationship with your husband, you're going to have to make
him a dating profile.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
Oh okay, I think I could make him a really
good one.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
I mean to be honest, Well, I think joke's on you.
He already has one. Wait, you're looking for a third
right now? According to him, and we're not going to
go into that because I want to talk right now
to Jordy, the listener who wrote into our show because
apparently he met a girl out in real life, bucking
all of the latest trends.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
You're the minority now r L.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
Jeordy, good work, Welcome to the show.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Hey guys, So where'd you meet this woman?
Speaker 8 (02:32):
So?
Speaker 6 (02:32):
I met Harper at this German bar? Actually?
Speaker 9 (02:35):
Uh, you know, I was playing BOXI ball.
Speaker 6 (02:37):
Do you guys know what that is?
Speaker 1 (02:40):
You have boy ball on my rooftop of my apartment.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
It's like he tossed big, these like big colorful balls
onto like a field, and then you try to toss
other balls towards the ball.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
It's an Italian game playing at a German bar.
Speaker 10 (02:52):
But what happened?
Speaker 3 (02:54):
Yeah, yeah, okay, So you said her name was Harper? Yeah?
Speaker 9 (02:59):
Yeah, she was actually a waitress there.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Oh oh. I assumed that she was gonna be like
playing in the stall next year or something like that.
Speaker 6 (03:05):
Right, No, no, no, no, no. She was super cute,
and I mean she was super helpful too, because I
actually had to have this like long cop with her
to tell her to cut off one of my drunk friends.
Speaker 4 (03:18):
Yeah, cut off your friend.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
You had to do it like nicely, Like I told you.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
I'm sure that's happened to you and you just don't
if you have.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
Good friends, if anything, probably makes you look kind of
good to her because you seem like a responsible guy.
Speaker 9 (03:32):
Exactly.
Speaker 6 (03:32):
It's like watching Jerry Fringer. It's like you look better
than those people.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Oh can I ask real quick? Was there an indication
that she was interested in you? Because cute waitresses get
hit on all the time.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
And they smile and there everyone thinks they're getting tries
to get them to be the third in her relationship.
Speaker 8 (03:50):
Harper.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
I mean, Harper is a hot name.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
But again, sorry, that is a conversation for another day.
Tell us, how did you work Harper? It's not the
right way, Jack. How did you get Harper to agree
to a date?
Speaker 1 (04:06):
There?
Speaker 7 (04:06):
It is?
Speaker 6 (04:06):
Well, I just simply asked her on the way out.
I was like, look, are you single?
Speaker 10 (04:11):
And she said he was asking and I said I
am good. Yeah, And I just said I'd love to
take you out sometime, and she actually gave me her number.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Oh okay, dude, if we done this and it's our
loser line, is.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
That your only meet up or did you guys actually.
Speaker 8 (04:33):
Have a date.
Speaker 6 (04:34):
No, No, we had a date.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Okay, so it is her number because we all, she
probably gave you a number to get ready.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
So what did you do?
Speaker 6 (04:42):
We went out for drinks, little food. You know, she
looked amazing, I mean when she was like out of
her waiter outfits.
Speaker 8 (04:49):
Second party.
Speaker 6 (04:53):
I mean I did have one embarrassing moment on the date.
We tried to order some keyshe Lorraine, and I said, quickie, Lorraine,
you know I didn't take French in high school, Like
excuse me.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Yeah, well, you're.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Also clashing with a batchy ball in the Germans.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Don't want to be elitist by being able to say, Keisha,
it's a.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
Tough wor what was her reaction?
Speaker 9 (05:15):
She totally laughed it off.
Speaker 6 (05:17):
It was a little embarrassing, but after that, like I
think you kind of lightened the mood a little bit.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
And from there, especially if you can be self deprecating
about it, you know what I mean, Like it could
almost even turn into like your inside joke together.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Yeah, the next thing, I speak German and then you.
Speaker 9 (05:32):
Just ruin it.
Speaker 10 (05:33):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 6 (05:35):
So we actually like kissed at the end of the day,
So that was nice. And she was the one who
texted me that night saying that she got home safe
and that.
Speaker 9 (05:44):
She certain wait to see me. So whoa Like, it
seems super clear, right.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Are you sure you didn't read that wrong too?
Speaker 3 (05:50):
There's no way.
Speaker 6 (05:53):
I was in English?
Speaker 8 (05:54):
I think.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Okay, so you've you've had a solid first date. You
kissed her at the end of it, she's the one
saying I can't wait to hang out again.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
And how long has it been?
Speaker 6 (06:06):
It's been like ten days or so.
Speaker 11 (06:08):
Well, something must have happened in her life, Like I
already have a feeling this is not your fault.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Oh, I could see that where I don't know, maybe
work got crazy or there's a family emergency.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
She kindled something and was just oh yeah, but what's
happened in those ten days? That's a long time. Have
you asked her like what have you done?
Speaker 9 (06:25):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (06:25):
I mean there was one time where I thought one
date was gonna work, but then she asked about a
different date, So.
Speaker 4 (06:30):
I don't know, See, a hot bosball player came into.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
Her work, might be okay, Well, we can reach out
to Harper for you and see if she agrees to
going out with you one more time. If not, then
you might have a backup often because Brooke and her husband.
Speaker 6 (06:46):
You know, but.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Jeffy is not online.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
Oh that's right.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
Yeah, we only like the online one.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Able to keep some distance. Yeah, sorry, but you know what,
We'll work on Harper first and try and get you
your second date update. Right after this second date update,
we're in the middle of a second date update with
our listener, Jordie. And Jordie likes cute waitresses at German
baci ball bars. He likes to mispronounce Keish Lorraine just
(07:17):
to seem vulnerable and flawed.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
How did he say something?
Speaker 3 (07:21):
Yeah, he said, you said quickly? What did you say, Jordie?
Speaker 11 (07:25):
I said, And he really likes to receive texts saying
I can't wait to see you again, because that's exactly
what is dade, Harper said to him after they went out.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
So why is she not jumping at the chance to
hang out again?
Speaker 4 (07:44):
Yeah, she's the one that said she wanted to Jordy.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
You think there's another guy who mispronounces French words even
worse than you do. Maybe that's her thing?
Speaker 9 (07:52):
Yeah, maybe.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
Yeah, he tried to order me a quabarnet gone. Oh,
Oh yeah, that's hot.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
I don't even know how you have mispronounced.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
So much pronounced.
Speaker 9 (08:06):
I mean, look, Harper is a really cute waitress.
Speaker 6 (08:09):
She probably has a lot of guys asking her out.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
Oh my god, I bet she's saying no fifty times
a day, every other table.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
It's so annoying.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
But that's why you're so special is that she said
yes to you and you guys had.
Speaker 4 (08:20):
A great day issue she said you yeah.
Speaker 6 (08:23):
But like, look, guys, if that's it, if that's the
thing where she has another guy, like, just convince her
that I'm a good guy.
Speaker 4 (08:32):
You know what, in the five minutes so we've spent
with you.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Totally will vouch for you. Thank you, You're welcome like
a good guy.
Speaker 3 (08:39):
I honestly not even kidding. Yeah, a lot of good
guys insist how good they are. So we're just gonna
trust you on that, and we're gonna call Harper. Let's
see if she answers. Okay, all right, I don't know you.
I mean you seem nice from a little bit be spoken. Okay,
you just stay where you're at, though, buddy, we don't
know you that.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Let's get her on the phone.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
Hello, Hey, is this Harper.
Speaker 8 (09:11):
Yeah, who's calling?
Speaker 3 (09:12):
We're a radio show calling called Brook and Jeffrey in
the morning. Good morning, Hi Harper. That half of the
room isn't very excited to talk to you, obviously, but
I don't think she talked to us.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
This half of the room, I just don't want to
come into jeff what are you calling for?
Speaker 7 (09:26):
See?
Speaker 3 (09:27):
Yeah, we're working. This is this is something we do
call the second Date Update. And one of our listeners
named Jordi, asked us to reach out to you.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
Were you going anything else?
Speaker 8 (09:37):
I said, what do you want me to say?
Speaker 1 (09:42):
You remember?
Speaker 3 (09:43):
Okay, We're just trying to help him out because according
to Jeordi, he says he's been putting in a lot
of effort trying to figure out a good time that
would work for you to meet up, just because he
felt like you guys bonded connected.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
Is it just something where the schedules aren't aligning.
Speaker 8 (09:59):
No, there was just like a lot of effort. That's
kind of a problem too much.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
What do you mean, Yeah, can you elaborate?
Speaker 12 (10:08):
I mean, like on the surface, when I met him,
like I was working and then we went and hung
out and like he.
Speaker 8 (10:16):
Was a good guy and well, that's not like what
I was looking for.
Speaker 4 (10:19):
Yeah, like he's what you were looking for.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
I mean, like I thought, so okay, so what changed?
Speaker 8 (10:26):
So we hung out and it It wasn't until after
that I realized something was off. What Like I had
every intention to go out again.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
Okay, okay, what's the problem. Is it something about him?
Speaker 8 (10:40):
Yeah?
Speaker 12 (10:41):
He gave me three options to hang out, all in
a row, like Friday, Saturday, Sunday.
Speaker 8 (10:47):
Like, why is he so available?
Speaker 3 (10:50):
Wait?
Speaker 9 (10:50):
What do you hold on?
Speaker 3 (10:51):
Did he want a three day date or he was
just like pick a day and we can do that one.
Speaker 8 (10:55):
No, he was like, these are all the days that
I'm available, And I have to believe me and my
friends do that. There's a guy between the age twenty
four and thirty two ish. If they have that much
time to hang out, it really means that he's a loser.
Speaker 5 (11:11):
Oh oh wait wait a loser ikes Wow, you're calling
him a loser because he gave you multiple options of
times where he wants to hang out because he likes you.
Speaker 12 (11:24):
Yeah, because like they're all in a row, and it's like, okay,
he should be grinding away planning for his future. Wait,
maybe not working or like working on a promotion or
getting somewhere.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
He may maybe he is like, in my mind, you're
a waitress, so he's probably just trying to give you
options because it's probably hard to align schedules, Like he
probably figures you work on the weekends.
Speaker 8 (11:49):
I mean that sounds like an excuse he'd use.
Speaker 7 (11:51):
I guess, well, it sounds like he's doing it for you,
because nowadays we hear from a lot of women who
tell us guys don't put in enough effort, they want
the easy thing, they don't really care.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
Jordy sounds like the total opposite, Like he's willing to
do whatever just to see you make.
Speaker 4 (12:07):
Plans the other days that you say you can't.
Speaker 8 (12:10):
Yeah, but he didn't say that. He was like, I'm
wide open, and I'm like, well, what else are you
doing with your life? Just pursuing me?
Speaker 6 (12:18):
Okay, Okay, Sadly this makes sense, but doesn't mean we
agree with it.
Speaker 4 (12:24):
I don't know that it does make sense to me.
He's not a loser.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
Like you liked him. You liked everything about him. You
said that he checked all your boxes basically.
Speaker 8 (12:35):
Yeah, I mean he did. He actually had decent hygiene, which.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
See Okay, but but he's too available for you.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Maybe that's why it's hygiene is so good. He has
got time for it. I mean again, you don't whatt
a dcentone.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Who wants to hang out every single day sometimes like
they need to have a life.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
Well sure, oh god.
Speaker 8 (12:53):
And especially in the beginning getting to know who they are,
and it just seems like he's just wide open to
do whatever. Okay, we're trying to build who we are
as people.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
What would you want his response to be when you say, hey,
I can't wait to see you again.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
What should he have written.
Speaker 6 (13:10):
Back to you.
Speaker 8 (13:10):
He shouldn't have. He should have just let me hang
for a bit.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
That was a red flag.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Okay, well it was cutting like a game.
Speaker 3 (13:18):
I don't I don't want to tell you this because
it's not that he's like super available to talk to
you any That's not what this is.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
He was so busy. It's like we had to call
him so many times.
Speaker 3 (13:30):
Just in the middle of his extremely hectic day. He's
taken a little bit of time to jump on the
phone right now to talk to you because Jordie's there.
Speaker 8 (13:38):
Hey, Harper, Oh so you've been on the phone.
Speaker 11 (13:41):
Just a little bit like barely.
Speaker 6 (13:45):
I heard you call me a loser who has too
much time on his hands.
Speaker 8 (13:49):
Well, yeah, they asked me to be honest, and I
was honest.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
She didn't ask me what.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
I mean. That's what Jordie wanted.
Speaker 6 (13:58):
He wanted to know you think I'm a loser because
I want to go out a second time? Like that
part doesn't make any sense.
Speaker 8 (14:06):
It's just it's just a little red flaggy to be
able to hang out three nights in a row, and like,
my perfect guy would never do that. He shouldn't have
all the time in the world for me.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
You know, I'm sorry, my perfect guy shouldn't have all the.
Speaker 6 (14:22):
To be totally clear, I didn't want to hang out
with you three nights, and I gave you three options.
Speaker 8 (14:25):
Okay, you're just being a little way too chill at
this time in your life. You know. Now the time
is to work hard and we're going to chill later.
Speaker 3 (14:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (14:33):
Well, well, your servant Stein's in a German bar like.
Speaker 5 (14:36):
That means she probably makes more than I do here.
Speaker 7 (14:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:44):
Well, it's just like, what are you doing to do
the same thing.
Speaker 8 (14:47):
Well, you don't even know me, so how about you
shut your mouth?
Speaker 3 (14:50):
Yeah, your mouth? Who are you complaining about the people
bringing you alcohol?
Speaker 1 (14:55):
I think being a server is a great job.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
But she's like expecting him to like do all these
big great things, like what are you doing to plan
for your future?
Speaker 3 (15:04):
You stay in your lane and keep not tipping people after.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
I just like, I hate when people do that.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
This is about Jordie. Jordie, she's concerned that you're too
free and you're too available. Prove to her that that's
not true. And how much you got going on?
Speaker 1 (15:22):
You don't want to date?
Speaker 6 (15:23):
Yeah, I mean it sounds like that would be more
attractive to you. I mean, I just don't erstand why
you want to play these games.
Speaker 9 (15:27):
Like we met in real life. I thought you were
a good person.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
Okay, that's actually a point. I mean, how busy are
you right now?
Speaker 9 (15:34):
I mean I'm kind of busy. I'm not totally busy.
I mean.
Speaker 3 (15:39):
He's super busy, right slam?
Speaker 9 (15:41):
Okay, Like, look, I'm looking to get busier.
Speaker 4 (15:46):
All right, God, sounds like a nice guy.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
That's what she wants. She doesn't want that, but you
did want it that night.
Speaker 9 (15:57):
Look, look, Harper, let's rewind. Pretend I didn't call you
for the week.
Speaker 6 (16:00):
Are you turned on now weeks.
Speaker 12 (16:03):
It's only been ten days imagining.
Speaker 8 (16:09):
I mean, the reality is you sent me a lot
of freaking texts with like a lot of freaking dates,
and now you have me on a radio show.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
It does look bad. It's pretty bad. You know what
the thing is, We made him do it. Yeah, we
got all the time in the world. He didn't even
want to be here, he didn't have time to know,
but he was kind enough to take a little bit
of time out to do this with us, just so
that I could ask you if you would like to
see Jordi one more time, and we would pay for
that date. I don't even know if he's free. Honestly, Jordy,
(16:39):
are you even free?
Speaker 9 (16:41):
Not anymore? I'm all booked up.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
I'm sorry. She's like, so, I'll see you next weekend.
Speaker 8 (16:50):
I mean, I'm not really into these games that he's
playing with me, and I'm not going to follow.
Speaker 9 (16:57):
Sweetie.
Speaker 3 (16:58):
Oh God, that was talking like brook Now, this is
not okay. This is going back looking Jeffrey in the morning,
got a text into seventy eight five nine to two
that says, with that outlook, I hope she's ready to
die alone.
Speaker 2 (17:20):
I mean, honestly, I think she just doesn't actually want
a boyfriend.
Speaker 3 (17:23):
Yeah, you know, like anybody's.
Speaker 2 (17:24):
Saying that she's like looking. She says she's looking for something,
but she found it because.
Speaker 3 (17:29):
What she just wants to be wanted. And the outlook
that I think they're referring to is the theory that
if a guy says he's available to hang out with
you multiple nights in a row, that means he's a
loser and must have absolutely nothing going on.
Speaker 6 (17:42):
Is not correct that because when girls try to hang
out with me and I tell him I'm sorry, I
got two jobs.
Speaker 3 (17:46):
I'm streaming video games every single night, it also deters. Yes,
it also matters what you're busy doing.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
Ye got my D and D club on Friday on
Saturday night, so I can't hang out. Sorry, but I.
Speaker 3 (18:02):
Make tons of money. Hello, Hello, Hello, you guys, just
give up. There's going to be easier to be just
quick because actually they're gonna feel more attracted to you
that you've given up on that.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
Based on her, I mean.
Speaker 3 (18:16):
Just too late. She speaks for all women.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Hey, I just cancel on my two guys.
Speaker 3 (18:26):
Who saw that coming. But you know what, if you
need help with your dating life, go ahead, email the show.
We'll call that person who isn't calling you back, and
go check out all of our podcasts. We are the
home of the Second Date Update. Wherever you get yours
at Brooke and Jeffrey Brook
Speaker 8 (18:40):
And Jeffrey in the Morning
Welcome to your second Day podcast.
Speaker 2 (00:01):
It's Brook and Jeffrey in the morning, and I know
someone who has a lot of opinions about restaurants.
Speaker 1 (00:06):
In this room, I'm looking at them.
Speaker 2 (00:12):
No, no, no, I mean, would someone screwing up at
a restaurant be a huge red flag for you?
Speaker 3 (00:19):
What do you mean by that?
Speaker 4 (00:20):
Hold on?
Speaker 5 (00:20):
Well, like screwing up?
Speaker 3 (00:22):
Like, what do you mean the order?
Speaker 4 (00:23):
I can't tell you exactly because it's coming up in
the second.
Speaker 2 (00:26):
It's gonna happen while he's still holding the menu at
the beginning.
Speaker 6 (00:29):
Okay, well, you should know how to go on to
date at a restaurant, so obviously this would.
Speaker 3 (00:33):
Be a red flag.
Speaker 2 (00:34):
Okay, Jose's not dating you, but you know what, I
don't think that's what he's asking for. Anyway, you're gonna
hear what's going on in this second date. But we
love to start with your comments because you mean so
much to us.
Speaker 1 (00:44):
That's true, that's true. We're thankful for you. We we
are and marriage in comments a lot. But I like
this one.
Speaker 2 (00:50):
They said, I might be weird, but I like spoilers
or teasers, so I read the comments before I listen.
Speaker 3 (00:56):
I actually know someone like wait you do that? Movies
are like, yeah, she loves this.
Speaker 7 (01:03):
I know.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
And I skipped to the end of the books first,
and I read what happens at the end before I
go I.
Speaker 4 (01:07):
Want to do it.
Speaker 3 (01:09):
Somebody around in my life does this too?
Speaker 1 (01:11):
What is wrong with you?
Speaker 2 (01:12):
I need to know what happens that I can read
in peace or watch in peace.
Speaker 3 (01:17):
So you relate to marriagin Yere's.
Speaker 4 (01:20):
Well anyway, thanks leaving the comment and how alexis?
Speaker 1 (01:24):
I love it? Your second date starts right now.
Speaker 3 (01:28):
The second date up date. The results are in. It's
broken Jeffrey in the morning. Because recent studies have shown
about fifty percent of couples now meet online compared to
just twenty two percent only five years ago.
Speaker 4 (01:44):
That's crazy.
Speaker 1 (01:45):
That's a huge jump. It's like the pandemic, like super Yeah.
Speaker 3 (01:50):
It made a really normal, really quick Yeah. So now
going forward, Brook, if you want to spice up the
relationship with your husband, you're going to have to make
him a dating profile.
Speaker 2 (01:59):
Oh okay, I think I could make him a really
good one.
Speaker 3 (02:04):
I mean to be honest, Well, I think joke's on you.
He already has one. Wait, you're looking for a third
right now? According to him, and we're not going to
go into that because I want to talk right now
to Jordy, the listener who wrote into our show because
apparently he met a girl out in real life, bucking
all of the latest trends.
Speaker 1 (02:24):
You're the minority now r L.
Speaker 3 (02:26):
Jeordy, good work, Welcome to the show.
Speaker 1 (02:28):
Hey guys, So where'd you meet this woman?
Speaker 8 (02:32):
So?
Speaker 6 (02:32):
I met Harper at this German bar? Actually?
Speaker 9 (02:35):
Uh, you know, I was playing BOXI ball.
Speaker 6 (02:37):
Do you guys know what that is?
Speaker 1 (02:40):
You have boy ball on my rooftop of my apartment.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
It's like he tossed big, these like big colorful balls
onto like a field, and then you try to toss
other balls towards the ball.
Speaker 1 (02:50):
It's an Italian game playing at a German bar.
Speaker 10 (02:52):
But what happened?
Speaker 3 (02:54):
Yeah, yeah, okay, So you said her name was Harper? Yeah?
Speaker 9 (02:59):
Yeah, she was actually a waitress there.
Speaker 3 (03:01):
Oh oh. I assumed that she was gonna be like
playing in the stall next year or something like that.
Speaker 6 (03:05):
Right, No, no, no, no, no. She was super cute,
and I mean she was super helpful too, because I
actually had to have this like long cop with her
to tell her to cut off one of my drunk friends.
Speaker 4 (03:18):
Yeah, cut off your friend.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
You had to do it like nicely, Like I told you.
Speaker 1 (03:23):
I'm sure that's happened to you and you just don't
if you have.
Speaker 3 (03:27):
Good friends, if anything, probably makes you look kind of
good to her because you seem like a responsible guy.
Speaker 9 (03:32):
Exactly.
Speaker 6 (03:32):
It's like watching Jerry Fringer. It's like you look better
than those people.
Speaker 2 (03:35):
Oh can I ask real quick? Was there an indication
that she was interested in you? Because cute waitresses get
hit on all the time.
Speaker 3 (03:43):
And they smile and there everyone thinks they're getting tries
to get them to be the third in her relationship.
Speaker 8 (03:50):
Harper.
Speaker 1 (03:52):
I mean, Harper is a hot name.
Speaker 3 (03:53):
But again, sorry, that is a conversation for another day.
Tell us, how did you work Harper? It's not the
right way, Jack. How did you get Harper to agree
to a date?
Speaker 1 (04:06):
There?
Speaker 7 (04:06):
It is?
Speaker 6 (04:06):
Well, I just simply asked her on the way out.
I was like, look, are you single?
Speaker 10 (04:11):
And she said he was asking and I said I
am good. Yeah, And I just said I'd love to
take you out sometime, and she actually gave me her number.
Speaker 2 (04:22):
Oh okay, dude, if we done this and it's our
loser line, is.
Speaker 3 (04:31):
That your only meet up or did you guys actually.
Speaker 8 (04:33):
Have a date.
Speaker 6 (04:34):
No, No, we had a date.
Speaker 3 (04:35):
Okay, so it is her number because we all, she
probably gave you a number to get ready.
Speaker 1 (04:40):
So what did you do?
Speaker 6 (04:42):
We went out for drinks, little food. You know, she
looked amazing, I mean when she was like out of
her waiter outfits.
Speaker 8 (04:49):
Second party.
Speaker 6 (04:53):
I mean I did have one embarrassing moment on the date.
We tried to order some keyshe Lorraine, and I said, quickie, Lorraine,
you know I didn't take French in high school, Like
excuse me.
Speaker 1 (05:04):
Yeah, well, you're.
Speaker 3 (05:05):
Also clashing with a batchy ball in the Germans.
Speaker 2 (05:08):
Don't want to be elitist by being able to say, Keisha,
it's a.
Speaker 3 (05:13):
Tough wor what was her reaction?
Speaker 9 (05:15):
She totally laughed it off.
Speaker 6 (05:17):
It was a little embarrassing, but after that, like I
think you kind of lightened the mood a little bit.
Speaker 2 (05:21):
And from there, especially if you can be self deprecating
about it, you know what I mean, Like it could
almost even turn into like your inside joke together.
Speaker 3 (05:30):
Yeah, the next thing, I speak German and then you.
Speaker 9 (05:32):
Just ruin it.
Speaker 10 (05:33):
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
Speaker 6 (05:35):
So we actually like kissed at the end of the day,
So that was nice. And she was the one who
texted me that night saying that she got home safe
and that.
Speaker 9 (05:44):
She certain wait to see me. So whoa Like, it
seems super clear, right.
Speaker 1 (05:48):
Are you sure you didn't read that wrong too?
Speaker 3 (05:50):
There's no way.
Speaker 6 (05:53):
I was in English?
Speaker 8 (05:54):
I think.
Speaker 3 (05:56):
Okay, so you've you've had a solid first date. You
kissed her at the end of it, she's the one
saying I can't wait to hang out again.
Speaker 1 (06:04):
And how long has it been?
Speaker 6 (06:06):
It's been like ten days or so.
Speaker 11 (06:08):
Well, something must have happened in her life, Like I
already have a feeling this is not your fault.
Speaker 2 (06:13):
Oh, I could see that where I don't know, maybe
work got crazy or there's a family emergency.
Speaker 3 (06:17):
She kindled something and was just oh yeah, but what's
happened in those ten days? That's a long time. Have
you asked her like what have you done?
Speaker 9 (06:25):
Yeah?
Speaker 6 (06:25):
I mean there was one time where I thought one
date was gonna work, but then she asked about a
different date, So.
Speaker 4 (06:30):
I don't know, See, a hot bosball player came into.
Speaker 3 (06:33):
Her work, might be okay, Well, we can reach out
to Harper for you and see if she agrees to
going out with you one more time. If not, then
you might have a backup often because Brooke and her husband.
Speaker 6 (06:46):
You know, but.
Speaker 1 (06:48):
Jeffy is not online.
Speaker 3 (06:50):
Oh that's right.
Speaker 1 (06:51):
Yeah, we only like the online one.
Speaker 3 (06:54):
Able to keep some distance. Yeah, sorry, but you know what,
We'll work on Harper first and try and get you
your second date update. Right after this second date update,
we're in the middle of a second date update with
our listener, Jordie. And Jordie likes cute waitresses at German
baci ball bars. He likes to mispronounce Keish Lorraine just
(07:17):
to seem vulnerable and flawed.
Speaker 1 (07:19):
How did he say something?
Speaker 3 (07:21):
Yeah, he said, you said quickly? What did you say, Jordie?
Speaker 11 (07:25):
I said, And he really likes to receive texts saying
I can't wait to see you again, because that's exactly
what is dade, Harper said to him after they went out.
Speaker 3 (07:39):
So why is she not jumping at the chance to
hang out again?
Speaker 4 (07:44):
Yeah, she's the one that said she wanted to Jordy.
Speaker 3 (07:46):
You think there's another guy who mispronounces French words even
worse than you do. Maybe that's her thing?
Speaker 9 (07:52):
Yeah, maybe.
Speaker 3 (07:53):
Yeah, he tried to order me a quabarnet gone. Oh,
Oh yeah, that's hot.
Speaker 2 (07:58):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
I don't even know how you have mispronounced.
Speaker 3 (08:03):
So much pronounced.
Speaker 9 (08:06):
I mean, look, Harper is a really cute waitress.
Speaker 6 (08:09):
She probably has a lot of guys asking her out.
Speaker 2 (08:12):
Oh my god, I bet she's saying no fifty times
a day, every other table.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
It's so annoying.
Speaker 2 (08:17):
But that's why you're so special is that she said
yes to you and you guys had.
Speaker 4 (08:20):
A great day issue she said you yeah.
Speaker 6 (08:23):
But like, look, guys, if that's it, if that's the
thing where she has another guy, like, just convince her
that I'm a good guy.
Speaker 4 (08:32):
You know what, in the five minutes so we've spent
with you.
Speaker 1 (08:35):
Totally will vouch for you. Thank you, You're welcome like
a good guy.
Speaker 3 (08:39):
I honestly not even kidding. Yeah, a lot of good
guys insist how good they are. So we're just gonna
trust you on that, and we're gonna call Harper. Let's
see if she answers. Okay, all right, I don't know you.
I mean you seem nice from a little bit be spoken. Okay,
you just stay where you're at, though, buddy, we don't
know you that.
Speaker 1 (08:57):
Let's get her on the phone.
Speaker 3 (08:58):
Hello, Hey, is this Harper.
Speaker 8 (09:11):
Yeah, who's calling?
Speaker 3 (09:12):
We're a radio show calling called Brook and Jeffrey in
the morning. Good morning, Hi Harper. That half of the
room isn't very excited to talk to you, obviously, but
I don't think she talked to us.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
This half of the room, I just don't want to
come into jeff what are you calling for?
Speaker 7 (09:26):
See?
Speaker 3 (09:27):
Yeah, we're working. This is this is something we do
call the second Date Update. And one of our listeners
named Jordi, asked us to reach out to you.
Speaker 1 (09:36):
Were you going anything else?
Speaker 8 (09:37):
I said, what do you want me to say?
Speaker 1 (09:42):
You remember?
Speaker 3 (09:43):
Okay, We're just trying to help him out because according
to Jeordi, he says he's been putting in a lot
of effort trying to figure out a good time that
would work for you to meet up, just because he
felt like you guys bonded connected.
Speaker 1 (09:56):
Is it just something where the schedules aren't aligning.
Speaker 8 (09:59):
No, there was just like a lot of effort. That's
kind of a problem too much.
Speaker 3 (10:06):
What do you mean, Yeah, can you elaborate?
Speaker 12 (10:08):
I mean, like on the surface, when I met him,
like I was working and then we went and hung
out and like he.
Speaker 8 (10:16):
Was a good guy and well, that's not like what
I was looking for.
Speaker 4 (10:19):
Yeah, like he's what you were looking for.
Speaker 1 (10:21):
I mean, like I thought, so okay, so what changed?
Speaker 8 (10:26):
So we hung out and it It wasn't until after
that I realized something was off. What Like I had
every intention to go out again.
Speaker 3 (10:36):
Okay, okay, what's the problem. Is it something about him?
Speaker 8 (10:40):
Yeah?
Speaker 12 (10:41):
He gave me three options to hang out, all in
a row, like Friday, Saturday, Sunday.
Speaker 8 (10:47):
Like, why is he so available?
Speaker 3 (10:50):
Wait?
Speaker 9 (10:50):
What do you hold on?
Speaker 3 (10:51):
Did he want a three day date or he was
just like pick a day and we can do that one.
Speaker 8 (10:55):
No, he was like, these are all the days that
I'm available, And I have to believe me and my
friends do that. There's a guy between the age twenty
four and thirty two ish. If they have that much
time to hang out, it really means that he's a loser.
Speaker 5 (11:11):
Oh oh wait wait a loser ikes Wow, you're calling
him a loser because he gave you multiple options of
times where he wants to hang out because he likes you.
Speaker 12 (11:24):
Yeah, because like they're all in a row, and it's like, okay,
he should be grinding away planning for his future. Wait,
maybe not working or like working on a promotion or
getting somewhere.
Speaker 2 (11:37):
He may maybe he is like, in my mind, you're
a waitress, so he's probably just trying to give you
options because it's probably hard to align schedules, Like he
probably figures you work on the weekends.
Speaker 8 (11:49):
I mean that sounds like an excuse he'd use.
Speaker 7 (11:51):
I guess, well, it sounds like he's doing it for you,
because nowadays we hear from a lot of women who
tell us guys don't put in enough effort, they want
the easy thing, they don't really care.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
Jordy sounds like the total opposite, Like he's willing to
do whatever just to see you make.
Speaker 4 (12:07):
Plans the other days that you say you can't.
Speaker 8 (12:10):
Yeah, but he didn't say that. He was like, I'm
wide open, and I'm like, well, what else are you
doing with your life? Just pursuing me?
Speaker 6 (12:18):
Okay, Okay, Sadly this makes sense, but doesn't mean we
agree with it.
Speaker 4 (12:24):
I don't know that it does make sense to me.
He's not a loser.
Speaker 1 (12:28):
Like you liked him. You liked everything about him. You
said that he checked all your boxes basically.
Speaker 8 (12:35):
Yeah, I mean he did. He actually had decent hygiene, which.
Speaker 3 (12:38):
See Okay, but but he's too available for you.
Speaker 1 (12:43):
Maybe that's why it's hygiene is so good. He has
got time for it. I mean again, you don't whatt
a dcentone.
Speaker 2 (12:47):
Who wants to hang out every single day sometimes like
they need to have a life.
Speaker 3 (12:51):
Well sure, oh god.
Speaker 8 (12:53):
And especially in the beginning getting to know who they are,
and it just seems like he's just wide open to
do whatever. Okay, we're trying to build who we are
as people.
Speaker 2 (13:03):
What would you want his response to be when you say, hey,
I can't wait to see you again.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
What should he have written.
Speaker 6 (13:10):
Back to you.
Speaker 8 (13:10):
He shouldn't have. He should have just let me hang
for a bit.
Speaker 3 (13:14):
That was a red flag.
Speaker 1 (13:16):
Okay, well it was cutting like a game.
Speaker 3 (13:18):
I don't I don't want to tell you this because
it's not that he's like super available to talk to
you any That's not what this is.
Speaker 1 (13:26):
He was so busy. It's like we had to call
him so many times.
Speaker 3 (13:30):
Just in the middle of his extremely hectic day. He's
taken a little bit of time to jump on the
phone right now to talk to you because Jordie's there.
Speaker 8 (13:38):
Hey, Harper, Oh so you've been on the phone.
Speaker 11 (13:41):
Just a little bit like barely.
Speaker 6 (13:45):
I heard you call me a loser who has too
much time on his hands.
Speaker 8 (13:49):
Well, yeah, they asked me to be honest, and I
was honest.
Speaker 3 (13:53):
She didn't ask me what.
Speaker 1 (13:55):
I mean. That's what Jordie wanted.
Speaker 6 (13:58):
He wanted to know you think I'm a loser because
I want to go out a second time? Like that
part doesn't make any sense.
Speaker 8 (14:06):
It's just it's just a little red flaggy to be
able to hang out three nights in a row, and like,
my perfect guy would never do that. He shouldn't have
all the time in the world for me.
Speaker 2 (14:16):
You know, I'm sorry, my perfect guy shouldn't have all the.
Speaker 6 (14:22):
To be totally clear, I didn't want to hang out
with you three nights, and I gave you three options.
Speaker 8 (14:25):
Okay, you're just being a little way too chill at
this time in your life. You know. Now the time
is to work hard and we're going to chill later.
Speaker 3 (14:33):
Yeah.
Speaker 4 (14:33):
Well, well, your servant Stein's in a German bar like.
Speaker 5 (14:36):
That means she probably makes more than I do here.
Speaker 7 (14:42):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (14:44):
Well, it's just like, what are you doing to do
the same thing.
Speaker 8 (14:47):
Well, you don't even know me, so how about you
shut your mouth?
Speaker 3 (14:50):
Yeah, your mouth? Who are you complaining about the people
bringing you alcohol?
Speaker 1 (14:55):
I think being a server is a great job.
Speaker 2 (14:57):
But she's like expecting him to like do all these
big great things, like what are you doing to plan
for your future?
Speaker 3 (15:04):
You stay in your lane and keep not tipping people after.
Speaker 1 (15:11):
I just like, I hate when people do that.
Speaker 3 (15:13):
This is about Jordie. Jordie, she's concerned that you're too
free and you're too available. Prove to her that that's
not true. And how much you got going on?
Speaker 1 (15:22):
You don't want to date?
Speaker 6 (15:23):
Yeah, I mean it sounds like that would be more
attractive to you. I mean, I just don't erstand why
you want to play these games.
Speaker 9 (15:27):
Like we met in real life. I thought you were
a good person.
Speaker 3 (15:30):
Okay, that's actually a point. I mean, how busy are
you right now?
Speaker 9 (15:34):
I mean I'm kind of busy. I'm not totally busy.
I mean.
Speaker 3 (15:39):
He's super busy, right slam?
Speaker 9 (15:41):
Okay, Like, look, I'm looking to get busier.
Speaker 4 (15:46):
All right, God, sounds like a nice guy.
Speaker 3 (15:53):
That's what she wants. She doesn't want that, but you
did want it that night.
Speaker 9 (15:57):
Look, look, Harper, let's rewind. Pretend I didn't call you
for the week.
Speaker 6 (16:00):
Are you turned on now weeks.
Speaker 12 (16:03):
It's only been ten days imagining.
Speaker 8 (16:09):
I mean, the reality is you sent me a lot
of freaking texts with like a lot of freaking dates,
and now you have me on a radio show.
Speaker 3 (16:17):
It does look bad. It's pretty bad. You know what
the thing is, We made him do it. Yeah, we
got all the time in the world. He didn't even
want to be here, he didn't have time to know,
but he was kind enough to take a little bit
of time out to do this with us, just so
that I could ask you if you would like to
see Jordi one more time, and we would pay for
that date. I don't even know if he's free. Honestly, Jordy,
(16:39):
are you even free?
Speaker 9 (16:41):
Not anymore? I'm all booked up.
Speaker 3 (16:46):
I'm sorry. She's like, so, I'll see you next weekend.
Speaker 8 (16:50):
I mean, I'm not really into these games that he's
playing with me, and I'm not going to follow.
Speaker 9 (16:57):
Sweetie.
Speaker 3 (16:58):
Oh God, that was talking like brook Now, this is
not okay. This is going back looking Jeffrey in the morning,
got a text into seventy eight five nine to two
that says, with that outlook, I hope she's ready to
die alone.
Speaker 2 (17:20):
I mean, honestly, I think she just doesn't actually want
a boyfriend.
Speaker 3 (17:23):
Yeah, you know, like anybody's.
Speaker 2 (17:24):
Saying that she's like looking. She says she's looking for something,
but she found it because.
Speaker 3 (17:29):
What she just wants to be wanted. And the outlook
that I think they're referring to is the theory that
if a guy says he's available to hang out with
you multiple nights in a row, that means he's a
loser and must have absolutely nothing going on.
Speaker 6 (17:42):
Is not correct that because when girls try to hang
out with me and I tell him I'm sorry, I
got two jobs.
Speaker 3 (17:46):
I'm streaming video games every single night, it also deters. Yes,
it also matters what you're busy doing.
Speaker 2 (17:56):
Ye got my D and D club on Friday on
Saturday night, so I can't hang out. Sorry, but I.
Speaker 3 (18:02):
Make tons of money. Hello, Hello, Hello, you guys, just
give up. There's going to be easier to be just
quick because actually they're gonna feel more attracted to you
that you've given up on that.
Speaker 1 (18:15):
Based on her, I mean.
Speaker 3 (18:16):
Just too late. She speaks for all women.
Speaker 1 (18:22):
Hey, I just cancel on my two guys.
Speaker 3 (18:26):
Who saw that coming. But you know what, if you
need help with your dating life, go ahead, email the show.
We'll call that person who isn't calling you back, and
go check out all of our podcasts. We are the
home of the Second Date Update. Wherever you get yours
at Brooke and Jeffrey Brook
Speaker 8 (18:40):
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