January 29, 2025 • 17 mins
One of our listeners puts 2 little letters on her dating profile to let people know she’s into a VERY SPECIFIC type of thing… Find out what those letters ARE and what they MEAN coming up in your Second Date Update podcast!
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Second date, up Date.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
We talk a lot about do women have a specific type.
Speaker 3 (00:08):
Well, I mean every woman has a different type.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
But I think the answer is yes. Alexis only likes
to date pro athletes. Brooke prefers men who share her
same values and same last name, and she wants that
familial vibe family our listener today, though, Beth says she
has a very specific type of guy that she dates,
(00:33):
no exceptions, and it's clingy l Salvadorian comedians who are
afraid of heights.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
So, Jose, this could be it for you. Can we
run into each other's arms but not jump too hot.
Speaker 4 (00:46):
This year?
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Beth, Hey, welcome to the show.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Hi yah, And I was joking about the comedian stuff,
But tell us you have a very specific type.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
You said in your email, what's your type?
Speaker 5 (01:01):
Well, I only date guys who want to be financially dominated.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
What financially dominated? Independent?
Speaker 5 (01:10):
No, it's a niche thing. It's called sindom like financial
domination where there are Yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:17):
So wait, you will date poor guys? Is that what
you're saying?
Speaker 5 (01:21):
Yeah, well explain now it's actually the opposite. So there
are certain successful men who find it very thrilling to
give a woman complete access to their bank account.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Because you don't know, I thought this was like an
independent woman thing like you you were saying.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
That, I mean it is, this is it is?
Speaker 4 (01:45):
Okay, okay, wait you only date guy? How do you
find these guys people you actually like?
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Not really you're married?
Speaker 3 (01:53):
Come on, like, you don't know what like a tab
on Welsh.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
This is kind of blowing all of our minds. Can
you explain a little bit more about how this works?
Speaker 5 (02:04):
So there are specific sites and then specific ways that
guys indicated on the profile they'll put like fd and
then you know they're into findom and yeah, and I
actually like the people I'm dating, like I actually want
to date them, like we actually hopefully lead to a
relationship to wait.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Wait, wait, can I still need more information? Like how
do you get access to all of their finances? How
does that work?
Speaker 6 (02:32):
Well?
Speaker 5 (02:32):
It depends, right, you know, you might go on a
date and they could give you a password or pin
and then as a woman behind the scene, I would
take out as much money as I want.
Speaker 6 (02:43):
And I'm not screwing them over.
Speaker 5 (02:45):
We're consensually playing a game okay, regular just with like
regular domination, like they might like some pain.
Speaker 6 (02:56):
This is a form of pain, right, So you.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Don't want to deplete their entire bank account because otherwise
you can't continue to date them if they're totally broke
and they.
Speaker 4 (03:05):
Have exactly much money to do this.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
I'm sure they have multiple different accounts.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
So there's guys who actually are into this that want this.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
I stially forgot. Are we doing a second date update?
Are we doing awkward Tuesday?
Speaker 2 (03:20):
I don't know what I was like, it's come into
like a financial segment at this point, how to make
a buck?
Speaker 4 (03:25):
But are we calling a guy for you?
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Is there a specific guy that you are wanting us
to call today?
Speaker 7 (03:31):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (03:31):
So I did meet a specific guy and his name
is Charlie and he had the FD on his profile.
Speaker 6 (03:39):
So we matched and chatted and we.
Speaker 5 (03:41):
Had a first date and it was a nice group
toop lounge and he does he took out his wallet
and laid out all of his bank cards and says,
pick one.
Speaker 6 (03:52):
It's pretty hot.
Speaker 4 (03:54):
What did you have to put hands over and see
what you get the most reaction?
Speaker 2 (04:01):
You always picked the heaviest, By the way, heaviest one
is the biggest limits like credit card roulette, which which
he's nervous, like, oh god.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
He probably wants her to pick the big ones. Which
one did you choose?
Speaker 5 (04:15):
I picked the MX to so many places?
Speaker 4 (04:19):
Why would you choose on the first day? So, what
do you do with a credit card?
Speaker 5 (04:27):
Well, he immediately texted me his pin number, and kind
of over the next couple of days, I would take
out a little bit here, a little bit there, and
then you know, when he would notice that, he would
get excited.
Speaker 6 (04:38):
He would text me.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Oh, I can see that. Wow, I'm one hundred thousand
dollars in debt. Lucky me. I find you. I just
want to Tesla. This gives you anxiety.
Speaker 4 (04:52):
This is so cool.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
You would love to be fit dumbed over? Aga? Hold on,
what's going on?
Speaker 5 (05:01):
Now?
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Where are we now?
Speaker 4 (05:02):
What did he put the card on?
Speaker 7 (05:03):
Hold?
Speaker 1 (05:04):
What happened?
Speaker 5 (05:05):
Well, it was really nice for a while, and then
randomly the other day I went to do withdrawal and
it said that the card had been deactivated.
Speaker 4 (05:13):
What can we talk like?
Speaker 3 (05:16):
How much money did you take over the time period?
Are we talking thousands? Tens of thousands?
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Yeah, great question.
Speaker 6 (05:24):
I mean it was probably about nine thousands.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Oh wow, that's so much.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
Would you buy one date? Nine thousand dollars not calling
you back.
Speaker 6 (05:34):
I mean, I think for him, that's like a drop
in the bucket. But I texted him and he didn't respond,
So I'm just really confused.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
Why do you want to call him? Why do you
want to see him again?
Speaker 6 (05:43):
Because he was really nice and fun I had a
good time.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Answer there.
Speaker 5 (05:48):
Well, I also want to see if he's okay, Like
did I make a mistake that I misunderstand our agreement?
I just I just want to get some closure either way, Like, yeah,
I'd love to see him again.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
Gotcha.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
This is definitely and it's kind of a sensitive topic
because now we're going to be calling a guy, not
really even talking to him about the actual dates and
the romance.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
It's more about what he's into and what.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
Happened good date, the romance, Jeff, that's what we're going
to call him about.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
That's not what I want. I want to I want
to get into the gritty dirty details here.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
When we call him, answer, recognize the voice.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Maybe we can all findam him together.
Speaker 4 (06:26):
Hey, you guys know how to do this.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
That you're going to be our as we call him
a second date update findom edition right after this hold
on second date update.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Man, this is a really interesting second date update that
we're in the middle of.
Speaker 4 (06:44):
I died to do that.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
How long were those songs.
Speaker 4 (06:50):
Spent that time?
Speaker 2 (06:51):
We're all really interested because we've never heard of anything
like this before. But I guess we've been talking about
this trend or a niche I'm not sure what to
call it.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
That's what I described it as.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
It's called findom financial domination. And instead of explaining it
in general, I'll just tell you how Beth's date went.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
Maybe you'll understand it that way.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Because she met this guy, Charlie up at a rooftop lounge.
First thing he did was spread all of his credit
cards out on the table and told her to pick
one any one, and she got to use it and
take out however much money she wanted from his bank
account for the next week.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
Until suddenly he's not texting her back and the card
is declined.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Yeah, deactivated his card, ghosted her with no explanation for why.
And Beth doesn't understand because they both had agreed to this.
That's what findom is like.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
I think it's good to know that, Beth, I mean,
you're actually interested in him romantically.
Speaker 4 (07:52):
It's not just a money transaction.
Speaker 6 (07:54):
Yeah, I like him. Okay's money spent way more than
nine thousand week easily.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
Right now, Alec, you got to teach Brook how to
do this properly. But we're going to find out what
the reason is. Hopefully he picks up. Let's call Charlie
and see if he answers.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
Here we go.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
Are we okay talking to I mean, can we that's
a good point.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Let's try and be sensitive about it. I don't know
if he'll want to talk about it.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
I mean I don't think we should come in hot. No,
you give your credit cards to women?
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Okay, Well, we'll tread carefully with it. But let's see
if he even answers. Here we go. Hello, Hey, is
this Charlie?
Speaker 7 (08:38):
It is? Who's this?
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Hey Charlie. My name is.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Jeff I'm on a radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey
in the Morning. Hey, Charlie, good morning radio show that
you're on now too.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
So welcome.
Speaker 4 (08:50):
We have never been so excited.
Speaker 6 (08:51):
To talk to someone.
Speaker 7 (08:54):
Okay, what is this all about?
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Well, this is a segment that we do. It's called
Second Date Update.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
What we try to do is help out our listeners
who've gone out with somebody and they had a really
nice time with them. We try and help them reconnect afterwards.
If there hasn't been a second meetup. And recently you
went out with a woman named Beth.
Speaker 7 (09:15):
She did she call you? She contacts you guys.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Yeah, she reached out to our show.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
She is a little bit confused because after your date
there's been kind of a lack of communication, and I
hope I'm not over stepping my bounds here.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
But she did say that you.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
And her are both into well, a certain type of
thrill dating.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
You can't see your air quotes that you're using positively,
you know.
Speaker 4 (09:47):
She can you just say that she told us about
the credit card.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
Well, I don't look.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
If you don't want us to talk about it, that's
totally up to you, Charlie.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
But she mentioned that you're.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
Both into findom financial financial domination.
Speaker 7 (10:00):
She told you that.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
Yes, I'm gonna say, she came off so confident and
like it was just a very normal thing.
Speaker 4 (10:09):
Of course, we're all surprised in the room because we've
never heard of it.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Brooks jealous of her in the thing is, this is
how she found out that you weren't interested in her,
because she tried to make a withdrawal and the card
got canceled or declined. And I don't know how it
works in the findom world, but that seems like a
sign that things.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Are probably over.
Speaker 4 (10:30):
You could just contact.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Yes, Beth is confused because there was no follow up afterwards,
no explanation, and I don't know if there's a term
for Findom ghosting, but.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
She got Ebenezer or something. But that's it. I don't know,
but rich she is hoping to figure out what happened.
Speaker 7 (10:49):
Oh my god, this whole thing is funny.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
We're a funny show. I think that's that's what's happening.
Speaker 4 (10:59):
So you're cool the money part, right.
Speaker 7 (11:01):
Of course. I mean that's what I'm illustrating on my
dating profile. It's exactly what I'm trying to help.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Even Okay, well, but what happened.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
Yeah, what we're trying to help best figure out is
where things went south.
Speaker 7 (11:14):
Well, I guess, let me just put it this way.
After about a week, I guess I was just disappointed.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
In what disappointed.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
She did tell us that she spent around nine grand
is that the reason? It's the amount of money.
Speaker 7 (11:27):
I guess I was just hoping she would go bigger.
Speaker 4 (11:30):
What what did you say you wanted to spend more?
Speaker 1 (11:33):
Bigger with the spending?
Speaker 7 (11:34):
What? Yeah?
Speaker 6 (11:35):
What?
Speaker 7 (11:35):
She was too careful, she was too cautious. It felt
like findom light.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
I don't know, findom light. Wait wait wait, I didn't
even notice. You don't anything out.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
I'm sorry, But when you've gotten out with other women
who are into this, how much do they drop in
a week?
Speaker 7 (11:52):
I mean a lot more than that. I like I said,
I don't. I didn't think you would understand.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
I think we understood. You want a woman that that
is willing to be more risky.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
How many days are you a month?
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Don't Don't you think that she would be open to
the idea of spending more if you communicated that to.
Speaker 7 (12:10):
Her, she would No, I really don't think so. I mean,
I need a woman to go hard and really do some.
Speaker 4 (12:17):
Damage to your financial accounts.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
Finish the sentence form, and you don't. You don't see
Beth being able to do that.
Speaker 7 (12:25):
I mean that is nice, don't get me wrong, But
she's talking about budgets, trying to be careful.
Speaker 4 (12:34):
Even threw up in her mouth a little bit.
Speaker 7 (12:35):
If I wanted to talk about budgets, I would talk
to my wife, your wife. Yeah, that's what I said.
Speaker 4 (12:43):
Okay, budget.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
Saying I don't know if we want to do any deeper.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Let's not Yeah, let's not ask any of those questions
at this point. We need to be bringing on somebody
else into this conversation.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
Because you don't know this, Charlie. But Beth has been
listening on the other line.
Speaker 7 (13:06):
She's on the other line.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Yeah, she's been waiting to talk to you.
Speaker 5 (13:11):
So Beth there, Yeah, okay, So I just I just
want to understand. So you don't want to see me
because I did not spend enough of your money and
you're not willing to communicate that to me, So you
just ghosted me.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
He is married.
Speaker 4 (13:30):
I don't think she cares about that.
Speaker 7 (13:34):
Brought up?
Speaker 1 (13:36):
Did you know that he was married?
Speaker 6 (13:38):
I mean no, but like I could work around that,
but like.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
Man, the fandom world is complicated.
Speaker 5 (13:48):
All yeah, we had a good time. I'm sorry that
I'm such a considerate dumb.
Speaker 7 (13:59):
I'm not sure if you understand how this is all
supposed to work. It's just really not sexy at all
when you're trying to be careful and cautious, like that's
not the point of it.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
I know life to do that, so I had hurt.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
It's okay, Beth, talk to your sub here, Oh my god.
Speaker 5 (14:18):
First of all, in a dominant sub relationship, you're supposed
to build trust.
Speaker 7 (14:23):
Right, boring did There was a couple of days throughout
our short brief time together where I checked my account
and guess what, zero activity?
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Come on, that's irresponsible Starbucks Breakfast, Beth, you can you
can step up your game though, right?
Speaker 5 (14:47):
Yeah, I could absolutely step up my game. But maybe
I should check in with his wife first.
Speaker 4 (14:53):
Actually, can I say that? I think that's a good
idea because I've been very worried about this woman. Does
she no, Charlie, there's a lot of questions.
Speaker 7 (15:02):
Yeah, you guys are asking a lot of questions right now.
You called me. I'm gonna be a part of it.
You guys will take what you.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
Get, Okay, exactly. Yeah, Charlie's words boring. So let's move
on to the interesting stuff. Well, yeah, this is what
we do, Charlie.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
The whole purpose of this segment is to try and
reunite you and Beth together again by him being married
that she doesn't care, and clearly he doesn't care what
his wife can listen and text in and weigh however
she wants to. But the whole goal is to set
you up on another day, and we would pay for it.
Speaker 7 (15:36):
I mean, listen, it's not going to work for me.
I've found another woman already.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
I'm sure it's easy.
Speaker 7 (15:43):
Actually, and well, she's actually putting fear in my heart
and that's really all I'm in it for.
Speaker 4 (15:48):
It do Why do I want this woman to bankrupt you?
Speaker 7 (15:54):
That's what he wants to She can try. I'd love it.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
I actually this conversation is turning him on a little
bit very much. So you know what, Charli, were gonna
let you go. Thanks for your time, Beth. I'm sorry
that that didn't work.
Speaker 4 (16:06):
Oh new Beth, I thought you did serious damage.
Speaker 5 (16:09):
Yeah, I guess I gotta step my game up.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
J jose would you like to volunteer your bank accoup?
Oh my, got it? You got a budget A nine dollars.
Speaker 4 (16:21):
I got you wait already an overdrafting forgot freaking Jeffrey
in the morning.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
So many texts coming into seventy five nine two from
people saying they'd love to go out with Charlie. Yeah,
I had our producer check the numbers. Alexis, we really
need you to stop texting.
Speaker 5 (16:38):
But I have a wholess I could spend like fifty
K to day.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
Okay, I could do honestly, very easy.
Speaker 4 (16:43):
Just because you keep crashing your car.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
Charlie is already with somebody, and I highly doubt you
could do more damage than her.
Speaker 4 (16:49):
Charlie is with multiple people. He is also married. Why
does that keep slipping through the cracks.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
Because that's not what FM is about.
Speaker 4 (16:56):
Okay, again, he would not answer whether his wife knew
or not.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Can you imagine having so much money that people try
to bankrupt you when.
Speaker 4 (17:03):
They can't, Yeah, that's amazing.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
And if his wife doesn't know that, like random people
are taking out thousands and thousands and thousands of dollars
from his account and has no idea, then she doesn't
want to know.
Speaker 3 (17:14):
That is not true so far, That's the stance I'm taking.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
And if if you want to listen to any of
our second dates, you can find them on Spotify, Apple,
or wherever you get your content.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
Put in Brook and Jeffrey's second date update. You'll find
it there.
Speaker 4 (17:27):
Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning
Second date, up Date.
Speaker 2 (00:04):
We talk a lot about do women have a specific type.
Speaker 3 (00:08):
Well, I mean every woman has a different type.
Speaker 2 (00:10):
But I think the answer is yes. Alexis only likes
to date pro athletes. Brooke prefers men who share her
same values and same last name, and she wants that
familial vibe family our listener today, though, Beth says she
has a very specific type of guy that she dates,
(00:33):
no exceptions, and it's clingy l Salvadorian comedians who are
afraid of heights.
Speaker 1 (00:38):
So, Jose, this could be it for you. Can we
run into each other's arms but not jump too hot.
Speaker 4 (00:46):
This year?
Speaker 1 (00:49):
Beth, Hey, welcome to the show.
Speaker 2 (00:51):
Hi yah, And I was joking about the comedian stuff,
But tell us you have a very specific type.
Speaker 1 (00:59):
You said in your email, what's your type?
Speaker 5 (01:01):
Well, I only date guys who want to be financially dominated.
Speaker 1 (01:06):
What financially dominated? Independent?
Speaker 5 (01:10):
No, it's a niche thing. It's called sindom like financial
domination where there are Yeah.
Speaker 4 (01:17):
So wait, you will date poor guys? Is that what
you're saying?
Speaker 5 (01:21):
Yeah, well explain now it's actually the opposite. So there
are certain successful men who find it very thrilling to
give a woman complete access to their bank account.
Speaker 3 (01:37):
Because you don't know, I thought this was like an
independent woman thing like you you were saying.
Speaker 1 (01:42):
That, I mean it is, this is it is?
Speaker 4 (01:45):
Okay, okay, wait you only date guy? How do you
find these guys people you actually like?
Speaker 1 (01:52):
Not really you're married?
Speaker 3 (01:53):
Come on, like, you don't know what like a tab
on Welsh.
Speaker 2 (02:00):
This is kind of blowing all of our minds. Can
you explain a little bit more about how this works?
Speaker 5 (02:04):
So there are specific sites and then specific ways that
guys indicated on the profile they'll put like fd and
then you know they're into findom and yeah, and I
actually like the people I'm dating, like I actually want
to date them, like we actually hopefully lead to a
relationship to wait.
Speaker 2 (02:26):
Wait, wait, can I still need more information? Like how
do you get access to all of their finances? How
does that work?
Speaker 6 (02:32):
Well?
Speaker 5 (02:32):
It depends, right, you know, you might go on a
date and they could give you a password or pin
and then as a woman behind the scene, I would
take out as much money as I want.
Speaker 6 (02:43):
And I'm not screwing them over.
Speaker 5 (02:45):
We're consensually playing a game okay, regular just with like
regular domination, like they might like some pain.
Speaker 6 (02:56):
This is a form of pain, right, So you.
Speaker 2 (03:00):
Don't want to deplete their entire bank account because otherwise
you can't continue to date them if they're totally broke
and they.
Speaker 4 (03:05):
Have exactly much money to do this.
Speaker 3 (03:07):
I'm sure they have multiple different accounts.
Speaker 2 (03:12):
So there's guys who actually are into this that want this.
Speaker 4 (03:16):
I stially forgot. Are we doing a second date update?
Are we doing awkward Tuesday?
Speaker 2 (03:20):
I don't know what I was like, it's come into
like a financial segment at this point, how to make
a buck?
Speaker 4 (03:25):
But are we calling a guy for you?
Speaker 1 (03:26):
Yeah?
Speaker 2 (03:27):
Is there a specific guy that you are wanting us
to call today?
Speaker 7 (03:31):
Yeah?
Speaker 5 (03:31):
So I did meet a specific guy and his name
is Charlie and he had the FD on his profile.
Speaker 6 (03:39):
So we matched and chatted and we.
Speaker 5 (03:41):
Had a first date and it was a nice group
toop lounge and he does he took out his wallet
and laid out all of his bank cards and says,
pick one.
Speaker 6 (03:52):
It's pretty hot.
Speaker 4 (03:54):
What did you have to put hands over and see
what you get the most reaction?
Speaker 2 (04:01):
You always picked the heaviest, By the way, heaviest one
is the biggest limits like credit card roulette, which which
he's nervous, like, oh god.
Speaker 1 (04:12):
He probably wants her to pick the big ones. Which
one did you choose?
Speaker 5 (04:15):
I picked the MX to so many places?
Speaker 4 (04:19):
Why would you choose on the first day? So, what
do you do with a credit card?
Speaker 5 (04:27):
Well, he immediately texted me his pin number, and kind
of over the next couple of days, I would take
out a little bit here, a little bit there, and
then you know, when he would notice that, he would
get excited.
Speaker 6 (04:38):
He would text me.
Speaker 1 (04:39):
Oh, I can see that. Wow, I'm one hundred thousand
dollars in debt. Lucky me. I find you. I just
want to Tesla. This gives you anxiety.
Speaker 4 (04:52):
This is so cool.
Speaker 1 (04:56):
You would love to be fit dumbed over? Aga? Hold on,
what's going on?
Speaker 5 (05:01):
Now?
Speaker 1 (05:02):
Where are we now?
Speaker 4 (05:02):
What did he put the card on?
Speaker 7 (05:03):
Hold?
Speaker 1 (05:04):
What happened?
Speaker 5 (05:05):
Well, it was really nice for a while, and then
randomly the other day I went to do withdrawal and
it said that the card had been deactivated.
Speaker 4 (05:13):
What can we talk like?
Speaker 3 (05:16):
How much money did you take over the time period?
Are we talking thousands? Tens of thousands?
Speaker 1 (05:22):
Yeah, great question.
Speaker 6 (05:24):
I mean it was probably about nine thousands.
Speaker 1 (05:26):
Oh wow, that's so much.
Speaker 4 (05:28):
Would you buy one date? Nine thousand dollars not calling
you back.
Speaker 6 (05:34):
I mean, I think for him, that's like a drop
in the bucket. But I texted him and he didn't respond,
So I'm just really confused.
Speaker 4 (05:41):
Why do you want to call him? Why do you
want to see him again?
Speaker 6 (05:43):
Because he was really nice and fun I had a
good time.
Speaker 1 (05:47):
Answer there.
Speaker 5 (05:48):
Well, I also want to see if he's okay, Like
did I make a mistake that I misunderstand our agreement?
I just I just want to get some closure either way, Like, yeah,
I'd love to see him again.
Speaker 1 (05:58):
Gotcha.
Speaker 2 (05:59):
This is definitely and it's kind of a sensitive topic
because now we're going to be calling a guy, not
really even talking to him about the actual dates and
the romance.
Speaker 1 (06:09):
It's more about what he's into and what.
Speaker 3 (06:11):
Happened good date, the romance, Jeff, that's what we're going
to call him about.
Speaker 1 (06:16):
That's not what I want. I want to I want
to get into the gritty dirty details here.
Speaker 2 (06:21):
When we call him, answer, recognize the voice.
Speaker 1 (06:24):
Maybe we can all findam him together.
Speaker 4 (06:26):
Hey, you guys know how to do this.
Speaker 2 (06:29):
That you're going to be our as we call him
a second date update findom edition right after this hold
on second date update.
Speaker 1 (06:40):
Man, this is a really interesting second date update that
we're in the middle of.
Speaker 4 (06:44):
I died to do that.
Speaker 1 (06:47):
How long were those songs.
Speaker 4 (06:50):
Spent that time?
Speaker 2 (06:51):
We're all really interested because we've never heard of anything
like this before. But I guess we've been talking about
this trend or a niche I'm not sure what to
call it.
Speaker 1 (07:03):
That's what I described it as.
Speaker 2 (07:05):
It's called findom financial domination. And instead of explaining it
in general, I'll just tell you how Beth's date went.
Speaker 1 (07:13):
Maybe you'll understand it that way.
Speaker 2 (07:15):
Because she met this guy, Charlie up at a rooftop lounge.
First thing he did was spread all of his credit
cards out on the table and told her to pick
one any one, and she got to use it and
take out however much money she wanted from his bank
account for the next week.
Speaker 3 (07:32):
Until suddenly he's not texting her back and the card
is declined.
Speaker 2 (07:36):
Yeah, deactivated his card, ghosted her with no explanation for why.
And Beth doesn't understand because they both had agreed to this.
That's what findom is like.
Speaker 3 (07:48):
I think it's good to know that, Beth, I mean,
you're actually interested in him romantically.
Speaker 4 (07:52):
It's not just a money transaction.
Speaker 6 (07:54):
Yeah, I like him. Okay's money spent way more than
nine thousand week easily.
Speaker 2 (08:03):
Right now, Alec, you got to teach Brook how to
do this properly. But we're going to find out what
the reason is. Hopefully he picks up. Let's call Charlie
and see if he answers.
Speaker 1 (08:10):
Here we go.
Speaker 4 (08:11):
Are we okay talking to I mean, can we that's
a good point.
Speaker 2 (08:14):
Let's try and be sensitive about it. I don't know
if he'll want to talk about it.
Speaker 3 (08:18):
I mean I don't think we should come in hot. No,
you give your credit cards to women?
Speaker 1 (08:22):
Okay, Well, we'll tread carefully with it. But let's see
if he even answers. Here we go. Hello, Hey, is
this Charlie?
Speaker 7 (08:38):
It is? Who's this?
Speaker 1 (08:41):
Hey Charlie. My name is.
Speaker 2 (08:42):
Jeff I'm on a radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey
in the Morning. Hey, Charlie, good morning radio show that
you're on now too.
Speaker 1 (08:48):
So welcome.
Speaker 4 (08:50):
We have never been so excited.
Speaker 6 (08:51):
To talk to someone.
Speaker 7 (08:54):
Okay, what is this all about?
Speaker 1 (08:55):
Well, this is a segment that we do. It's called
Second Date Update.
Speaker 2 (09:00):
What we try to do is help out our listeners
who've gone out with somebody and they had a really
nice time with them. We try and help them reconnect afterwards.
If there hasn't been a second meetup. And recently you
went out with a woman named Beth.
Speaker 7 (09:15):
She did she call you? She contacts you guys.
Speaker 1 (09:18):
Yeah, she reached out to our show.
Speaker 2 (09:21):
She is a little bit confused because after your date
there's been kind of a lack of communication, and I
hope I'm not over stepping my bounds here.
Speaker 1 (09:31):
But she did say that you.
Speaker 2 (09:32):
And her are both into well, a certain type of
thrill dating.
Speaker 3 (09:41):
You can't see your air quotes that you're using positively,
you know.
Speaker 4 (09:47):
She can you just say that she told us about
the credit card.
Speaker 1 (09:50):
Well, I don't look.
Speaker 2 (09:51):
If you don't want us to talk about it, that's
totally up to you, Charlie.
Speaker 1 (09:54):
But she mentioned that you're.
Speaker 2 (09:55):
Both into findom financial financial domination.
Speaker 7 (10:00):
She told you that.
Speaker 3 (10:02):
Yes, I'm gonna say, she came off so confident and
like it was just a very normal thing.
Speaker 4 (10:09):
Of course, we're all surprised in the room because we've
never heard of it.
Speaker 2 (10:11):
Brooks jealous of her in the thing is, this is
how she found out that you weren't interested in her,
because she tried to make a withdrawal and the card
got canceled or declined. And I don't know how it
works in the findom world, but that seems like a
sign that things.
Speaker 1 (10:29):
Are probably over.
Speaker 4 (10:30):
You could just contact.
Speaker 2 (10:32):
Yes, Beth is confused because there was no follow up afterwards,
no explanation, and I don't know if there's a term
for Findom ghosting, but.
Speaker 1 (10:42):
She got Ebenezer or something. But that's it. I don't know,
but rich she is hoping to figure out what happened.
Speaker 7 (10:49):
Oh my god, this whole thing is funny.
Speaker 1 (10:55):
We're a funny show. I think that's that's what's happening.
Speaker 4 (10:59):
So you're cool the money part, right.
Speaker 7 (11:01):
Of course. I mean that's what I'm illustrating on my
dating profile. It's exactly what I'm trying to help.
Speaker 1 (11:06):
Even Okay, well, but what happened.
Speaker 2 (11:09):
Yeah, what we're trying to help best figure out is
where things went south.
Speaker 7 (11:14):
Well, I guess, let me just put it this way.
After about a week, I guess I was just disappointed.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
In what disappointed.
Speaker 2 (11:21):
She did tell us that she spent around nine grand
is that the reason? It's the amount of money.
Speaker 7 (11:27):
I guess I was just hoping she would go bigger.
Speaker 4 (11:30):
What what did you say you wanted to spend more?
Speaker 1 (11:33):
Bigger with the spending?
Speaker 7 (11:34):
What? Yeah?
Speaker 6 (11:35):
What?
Speaker 7 (11:35):
She was too careful, she was too cautious. It felt
like findom light.
Speaker 1 (11:42):
I don't know, findom light. Wait wait wait, I didn't
even notice. You don't anything out.
Speaker 3 (11:47):
I'm sorry, But when you've gotten out with other women
who are into this, how much do they drop in
a week?
Speaker 7 (11:52):
I mean a lot more than that. I like I said,
I don't. I didn't think you would understand.
Speaker 2 (11:57):
I think we understood. You want a woman that that
is willing to be more risky.
Speaker 4 (12:02):
How many days are you a month?
Speaker 2 (12:05):
Don't Don't you think that she would be open to
the idea of spending more if you communicated that to.
Speaker 7 (12:10):
Her, she would No, I really don't think so. I mean,
I need a woman to go hard and really do some.
Speaker 4 (12:17):
Damage to your financial accounts.
Speaker 1 (12:21):
Finish the sentence form, and you don't. You don't see
Beth being able to do that.
Speaker 7 (12:25):
I mean that is nice, don't get me wrong, But
she's talking about budgets, trying to be careful.
Speaker 4 (12:34):
Even threw up in her mouth a little bit.
Speaker 7 (12:35):
If I wanted to talk about budgets, I would talk
to my wife, your wife. Yeah, that's what I said.
Speaker 4 (12:43):
Okay, budget.
Speaker 1 (12:49):
Saying I don't know if we want to do any deeper.
Speaker 2 (12:55):
Let's not Yeah, let's not ask any of those questions
at this point. We need to be bringing on somebody
else into this conversation.
Speaker 1 (13:01):
Because you don't know this, Charlie. But Beth has been
listening on the other line.
Speaker 7 (13:06):
She's on the other line.
Speaker 1 (13:08):
Yeah, she's been waiting to talk to you.
Speaker 5 (13:11):
So Beth there, Yeah, okay, So I just I just
want to understand. So you don't want to see me
because I did not spend enough of your money and
you're not willing to communicate that to me, So you
just ghosted me.
Speaker 2 (13:29):
He is married.
Speaker 4 (13:30):
I don't think she cares about that.
Speaker 7 (13:34):
Brought up?
Speaker 1 (13:36):
Did you know that he was married?
Speaker 6 (13:38):
I mean no, but like I could work around that,
but like.
Speaker 2 (13:43):
Man, the fandom world is complicated.
Speaker 5 (13:48):
All yeah, we had a good time. I'm sorry that
I'm such a considerate dumb.
Speaker 7 (13:59):
I'm not sure if you understand how this is all
supposed to work. It's just really not sexy at all
when you're trying to be careful and cautious, like that's
not the point of it.
Speaker 1 (14:08):
I know life to do that, so I had hurt.
Speaker 2 (14:12):
It's okay, Beth, talk to your sub here, Oh my god.
Speaker 5 (14:18):
First of all, in a dominant sub relationship, you're supposed
to build trust.
Speaker 7 (14:23):
Right, boring did There was a couple of days throughout
our short brief time together where I checked my account
and guess what, zero activity?
Speaker 2 (14:40):
Come on, that's irresponsible Starbucks Breakfast, Beth, you can you
can step up your game though, right?
Speaker 5 (14:47):
Yeah, I could absolutely step up my game. But maybe
I should check in with his wife first.
Speaker 4 (14:53):
Actually, can I say that? I think that's a good
idea because I've been very worried about this woman. Does
she no, Charlie, there's a lot of questions.
Speaker 7 (15:02):
Yeah, you guys are asking a lot of questions right now.
You called me. I'm gonna be a part of it.
You guys will take what you.
Speaker 1 (15:09):
Get, Okay, exactly. Yeah, Charlie's words boring. So let's move
on to the interesting stuff. Well, yeah, this is what
we do, Charlie.
Speaker 2 (15:19):
The whole purpose of this segment is to try and
reunite you and Beth together again by him being married
that she doesn't care, and clearly he doesn't care what
his wife can listen and text in and weigh however
she wants to. But the whole goal is to set
you up on another day, and we would pay for it.
Speaker 7 (15:36):
I mean, listen, it's not going to work for me.
I've found another woman already.
Speaker 1 (15:42):
I'm sure it's easy.
Speaker 7 (15:43):
Actually, and well, she's actually putting fear in my heart
and that's really all I'm in it for.
Speaker 4 (15:48):
It do Why do I want this woman to bankrupt you?
Speaker 7 (15:54):
That's what he wants to She can try. I'd love it.
Speaker 2 (15:56):
I actually this conversation is turning him on a little
bit very much. So you know what, Charli, were gonna
let you go. Thanks for your time, Beth. I'm sorry
that that didn't work.
Speaker 4 (16:06):
Oh new Beth, I thought you did serious damage.
Speaker 5 (16:09):
Yeah, I guess I gotta step my game up.
Speaker 1 (16:13):
J jose would you like to volunteer your bank accoup?
Oh my, got it? You got a budget A nine dollars.
Speaker 4 (16:21):
I got you wait already an overdrafting forgot freaking Jeffrey
in the morning.
Speaker 2 (16:28):
So many texts coming into seventy five nine two from
people saying they'd love to go out with Charlie. Yeah,
I had our producer check the numbers. Alexis, we really
need you to stop texting.
Speaker 5 (16:38):
But I have a wholess I could spend like fifty
K to day.
Speaker 1 (16:40):
Okay, I could do honestly, very easy.
Speaker 4 (16:43):
Just because you keep crashing your car.
Speaker 2 (16:45):
Charlie is already with somebody, and I highly doubt you
could do more damage than her.
Speaker 4 (16:49):
Charlie is with multiple people. He is also married. Why
does that keep slipping through the cracks.
Speaker 1 (16:54):
Because that's not what FM is about.
Speaker 4 (16:56):
Okay, again, he would not answer whether his wife knew
or not.
Speaker 2 (17:00):
Can you imagine having so much money that people try
to bankrupt you when.
Speaker 4 (17:03):
They can't, Yeah, that's amazing.
Speaker 2 (17:05):
And if his wife doesn't know that, like random people
are taking out thousands and thousands and thousands of dollars
from his account and has no idea, then she doesn't
want to know.
Speaker 3 (17:14):
That is not true so far, That's the stance I'm taking.
Speaker 2 (17:18):
And if if you want to listen to any of
our second dates, you can find them on Spotify, Apple,
or wherever you get your content.
Speaker 1 (17:24):
Put in Brook and Jeffrey's second date update. You'll find
it there.
Speaker 4 (17:27):
Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning
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Jeffrey "Young Jeffrey" Dubow
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